(S1E1) Submission, Sex, & Sandwiches | TradWife, Homemaker, & Marriage
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- Опубликовано: 20 июл 2024
- 0:00 Teaser
0:20 Book Review | "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" by Dr. Laura Schlessinger
0:55 Negative Amazon Reviews
2:25 Mini-Series Introduction
2:50 Disclaimers
3:27 Men Speak about what men want
4:17 A Good Man is hard to find, but not hard to keep.
4:42 Commitment to the ineligible, contempt and disrespect for the real men.
6:55 Men yearn for their wives' acceptance and approval.
8:44 Criticism and complaining reads to the man as disapproval and not being accepted.
9:37 "Women need men like fish need bicycles."
11:30 When their own mothers tell them they don't need men it crippled the role of women in the context of marriage.
12:20 Double standards due to self-centeredness resulting from the Woman's movement.
14:29 The solution to your marital problems is not divorce.
16:29 "Married women at home with the children are not fully developed women. Men make no real contribution to women, children, or families."
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"Women are perfected when they have obligations to family." I agree with this 100%. I'm only a teenager but just thinking about my future husband and kids makes me want to be a better woman. Family makes the world go round. It makes society a better place. ❤
the last few weeks without my husband home I became my worst. When he was coming home, the house became clean. My niece and nephew came over and now the house is a mess? I'm so happy to clean it now. My husband told me that when I had a family to do for, I wouldn't mind dishes as much. True. Love him so much. ❤️
Facts I'm only 15 but this is something that interest me
@@alyssamurphy2002 Good that you are listening to this content, making a home. Even WITH a good husband, it ISN'T for Wimps! Telling yourself (and others!) that managing a home and preparing for Motherhood is a CAREER, and the most Important thing a Woman can do!! It WILL be the thing you are Remembered Most so may as well make it the Primary Goal in your Life. I say this as a 48-year-old, Mother of 7.
What???😂😂😂
This is so encouraging to see your post! Just want to encourage you that you aren't JUST a teenager... You are a young woman and the time you have left at home can be a blessing to you if you choose to see it that way. Learning to cook, clean, and bless your parents and siblings (even when others have disagreeable attitudes or are just being mean) can strengthen your relationship with the Lord (as you seek to lay your life down for others as Jesus did for you) and those basic skills would be a valuable asset when you are ready to marry and have children.
(I was not wise with my time when I was a teen, so if I can encourage you to not make the same mistakes I did, maybe your learning curve will be shortened ❤️)
I read this book long time ago before I got married and at that time I was engaged to someone else. I also listened to her talk show. One thing I took from her advice was, pick a man who would swim through shark filled water to bring you a glass of lemonade and as a wife you have so much power and control to influence the environment of your home.
I've taken many great nuggets from my years of listening to her show as well. 😊💗
I look forward to these videos. I'm a sahm Christian mother as well, this type of content is very comforting to me...especially coming from another black woman. And your hair..... 😩 It's so pretty I can't handle it!!
Thank you sis 👸
@@misstownes Stay at home mom
@@brittneyr.5114 Feminism stole this option from me- programmed and shamed it away!
I was a little girl in the 1970s watching the once-happy neighborhood moms getting divorced so they could be "actualized" and "free"... they became lonely and they hung out in bares, what a waste o thought .
Sixteen years ago when my husband and I returned home from our honeymoon, this book was waiting in the mailbox for me, it was sent as a gift from my aunt. She stated that we came from a very strong family of women and that this book would help me settle into marriage smoothly, at the time she had just read it (she was married for 27 years at that point) and realized he could improve in certain areas and saw changes. I was newly married and eager to learn and so within the next 2 days I read the book. From that point on to this day! It’s my no 1 recommended book for newly married Christian couples. I believe that the gift of nurture (every woman has it), respect and true care can turn a normal husband a true superhero.
Amen! I know it too!
Thank you! I too come from a family of very strong women so I'm battling with submission although I'm very open to it. I've been enjoying the content from this book and wanted to read it. Now I will 📖🙂
Listen to pastor Paul Rika here on RUclips.... you will learn more about truth, Holiness and righteousnes
Such an amazing family member
I think the foundation of submission is choosing a man who is respectful towards us as women. I have been submissive to abusive men in the past and that was wrong on my part. I didn’t do my due diligence in choosing a man of honour. Those men led me to terrible places emotionally, physically, and financially.
The man must first show his respect for femininity and that he values us. Then submission is a natural byproduct of being taken care of by a man who is competent and caring.
Husbands are also strongly cautioned in the Bible to be good to their wives "lest your prayers be hindered"
Do you really believe that good men (and good people in general) exist?
If you're submissive to someone, he/she will definitely abuse you.
I became a sahm shortly after being born again two years ago. It was hard. But prior to that I had that mentality that my kids can be in daycare. I made more money than my husband so at times I said I didn’t need him with any small thing he did to get me upset. Separated about 3 times because of this. Always said I wasn’t going to be a maid to cook and clean for him when he can do it himself because we both work. Thankfully, The Lord changed my thinking and humbled me enough to change my mindset. It is a struggle sometimes not to snap back with attitude when I think I’m right but The Lord is changing me daily. Is a work in progress. I also have no problem with the biblical mandates. Honestly, the whole feminist movement that the devil birthed out is what has made it so confusing for a lot of women. I was there as well like I said but the lord opened my eyes.
Girl if he making less than you and yall both working, it's not a priority to take care of a bum, it's a priority to take care of the breadwinner and the person paying all the bills and leading the household
Honestly I feel like you should do it when your heart is in it.
@@icomeinpeace3756 he’s not a bum. He made less than me because I have a nurse profession and he doesn’t have a profession. He still an always has been the one to pay everything around the house. It was just my mentality that as I made $15k more than him that I was worth more. And I should keep working. But that completely stopped. I decided to be a sahm.
@@GigiR247 i don't get the men yall be choosing. By a certain age, they should have masses a tangible amount of wealth dispersed through saving accounts, 401ks, investments and actual cash. Your average man at 30 will have those things, but the problem is you all are so focused on getting with average BLACK men and that's the problem. Stop trying to build a brother up and meet your man that has a profession like most men do past 22 and is your +15k equal. Don't be afraid to date out.
@@icomeinpeace3756 Hi sister, I think you are confusing things. My husband is t a low life, even though he didn’t have an education because he came to the country when he was older and had to prioritize work instead of school, he still mad over 70k a year. After COVID, he wanted me to be a sahm because it was biblical. We sold our cars, our home and moves over seas into one of our apartments. He built me a house in the country that looks like it belongs in a high end city. It’s full with everything I want that people around there dont even own 1/8 of what we have because we have been blessed. Plus coming from America we have the income not like the locals in the Caribbean. We don’t have to work anymore because we live out of our real estate that we own because he planned and purchased them all although I didn’t agree at the time. So you see, we live very comfortable. But as I at times get bored at home I fly back to America and work for a couple of months at a time. Not cause I have to, but because I want to as I get bored. The reason I need to stop completely because I know no one will take care of my kids the way I do and I want to educate them and take care of my house as the Bible calls. Blessings.
There is a large portion of the other side and issues, I don’t think women were just programmed to hate men I think there is a lot of reasons some women have gotten to the point they are in. A mother telling her daughter to make sure she can provide for herself isn’t just because she’s overly independent and hates men, it’s due to a lot of women walking this road and learning things the hard way.
I enjoy the teaching on how to be submissive, how to be a good housewife, how to juggle home kids and self care, it’s when we get into this “women have been programmed by evil feminism “ that annoys me, we didn’t get here alone and trample over good men just to be there equal. & it’s always “u choose a bad man” that’s not always the case men change how about a bad man is a BAD man, women aren’t just creating single parent homes, men are leaving, men are choosing to not marry and live single lives with many women it’s unfair to say choose better men, we need more saying BE BETTER MEN so women have better options.
And I am married, carrying our first child, and will be transitioning to a stay at home lifestyle, my husband is a great man, but just because I have been blessed with a great Christian black man doesn’t mean I don’t know what I found is something very hard to find.
I think a lot of women have a hard time with books like that isn’t because it’s teaching them to be better it’s the portions of “you bad women, mean to good husband” …. A false balance is an abomination.
Thank you so very much for your words of wisdom! There are occasional words of wisdom in this book, but they are drowned out by the tendancy of the author to gaslight women and pretend that real problems women have faced don't exist, or that marital problems are somehow all due to the woman. You hit the nail on the head when you said that a false balance is an abomination. That is such an excellent way to describe why this book, which could have been good, is truly problematic and not something I could recommend to anyone who wants to know how to be a godly wife.
In today's economy, most men, even if they wanted to, aren't earning enough for a woman to be a SAHM. This is a reality that the author seems to have a hard time admitting, and she also has a hard time admitting that a woman who is willing to follow biblical teachings on submission could be in a vulnerable position if the man she thought would be a good leader turns out to be a tyrant a few years into the marriage. She also showes a complete disregard for the fact that the feminist movement would not have had a reason to come into being if more men in the 1700s and 1800s had been loving and caring for their wives instead of abusing them, financially mistreating them, and regarding them as property instead of people. There elements of feminism today that are offensive to Christians, but to paint the entire movement with a broad brush and describe the whole movement as demonic is to tell women that they should have no right to a bank account without a man's permission, they should have no right to vote, they should have no right to prosecute a spouse who physically abuses them, they should have no right to an education (and therefore should be happy to end up in poverty should their husband die before they do, assuming they did not marry a rich man).
The author, who has earned hundreds of thousands of dollars (or more) from her career as a syndicated program host, speaks from a position of great financial privilege, acting like those women who work from financial necessity are somehow evil Jezebels, while she herself rakes in all kinds of dough that makes her life much easier.
As a Christian woman, I accept the scriptural teachings of allowing the man to be head of the house. I will follow true leadership. I will not follow foolishness. The challenge for many of us women is that many men are not raised to have godly wisdom and they do not have an understanding of what it is to submit themselves to Christ. Too many men choke on that concept. They're men; they don't have to submit to anybody. And therein lies the rub. A godly woman wants to have the man be the leader, but a godly woman will not follow after a man who is only halfheartedly (at best, if at all) submitted to Christ. I have known a few men who really do follow Christ and openly state they are submitted to him, and their actions show it, so I know they exist, but I have known many, many more who don't.
I'm 21 and single, but I've read this book literally 2 times already and my cousin is reading now. SUUUCH an amazing book, so full of worthwhile guidance. Highly recommend anyone to read this.
I ordered this book because of you. I found you a week ago and I cannot stop watching your videos. I am a Christian and a college educated stay-at-home mom and wife. Society looks down on us and I find myself telling others “I am a stay-at-home wife, but before children I was XYZ.” As if birthing and raising children isn’t enough, or keeping a house tidy isn’t enough, or keeping your humans alive isn’t enough. Society sucks sometimes. Thank you for making these videos so I have a reference for my life.
You might also like the book "Eve in Exile" by Rebecca Merckle. 😊📚📖
Today it isn't enough.
A strong, valuable, respectable woman, mother and wife should work hard in and outside the home to provide for her family, unless her husband is super rich, of course, but a few women have this fortune.
Marriage is a woman's responsibility.
They should give a good example of hard work to their children (also because children spend most of the time with them), not portraying themselves as beautiful and delicate flowers who are only able to clean the floor and cook cakes, while their husbands work all day like slaves.
@@der_tod_und_das_madchen4727 someone’s bitter
@@der_tod_und_das_madchen4727lol you just devalued woman's work at home. Raising children and keeping a home is a hard job on its own
I disagree with the statement that "normal, healthy women yearn to be in love, married and raising children with the man of their dreams...". (I know these are not your words by the way). To me, that is such a narrow, close-minded point of view. Being a wife and mother is the traditional thing to do. That doesn't make other life choices women make abnormal. Some people want to be a wife and mother. Others don't. There is nothing wrong with those that don't.
Though you may prefer a different word, abnormal is the correct word as it is the opposite of normal which is synonymous with traditional. Just the dictionary. 🤷🏿♂️
Hi Taty! I never wanted kids and wanted a cool career. (I did that). I didn't want kids or to be a sahw...until I met the man that inspired me to do that. Made me gag. He's so strong and admirable. Life has a harmony this way (I still work outside the home part time). As a musician, it really does feel that way. I do think God calls a few women to be single, but that means they have an unusual MISSION that is ab(away) normal(default).
I think health for women means learning what makes a woman healthy...what promotes the creation of good levels of estrogen? I would recommend John Gray who discusses activities that promote our sex hormones. :) Also...Jordan Peterson to contemplate what makes life meaningful to human beings. The ultimate adventure and challenge is to shape ourselves to become like Jesus. Absolutely savage level of daily difficulty.
I agree with @hardheelgal7313. Most dictionaries define the word abnormal by indicating that the word means that something worrying or undesirable is present. Those same dictionaries define the word normal as conforming to what is expected or usual and customary.
God does not give every women identical gifts. Some are gifted to be nuturing and make excellent moms. And some of them do not have gifting in that area and are not cut out for motherhood. Each woman needs to walk the road that God has designed for her, and not be bothered trying to fit an image created by an author who never even met her. Trying to meet expectations of people aroiund you of what you as a woman should do is a great way to miss whatever life God has planned for you. A woman who does what God expecs of her, whether or not it is expected by society and customary in the eyes of other humans, is a woman who will hear, "Well done, my good and faithful servant" at the end of her life. A woman who simply does what people around her decide is expected of her will probably not end up doing what God has called her to do, because she is following people and popular opinion instead of seeking the Lord's will for her life. God's will for her life will frequently NOT conform to what others around her expect her to do.
I’m not even finished the video, and I’m already buying the book! 😂🙌🏽❤️
What do you say now to the books? Was it worth it?
lol, just bought the book my self halfway through.
@@lucamackenzie9229 it's worth it!
@@Getrudebyela thanks 🙋🏼♀️
@@lucamackenzie9229❤️❤️
I’ve followed you for a while (for the locs lol) but I’m engaged and getting married October 15th. I loved the premises touched in the overview of this book I will be buying and following along. I can say from firsthand experience my cousin is also a Christian SAHW/M and she’s been married 15 years. She too submits and respects her husband and has received a lot of backlash from our family.
I was definitely indoctrinated to fear/hate men for the atrocities *some* of them have committed. However it’s not beneficial for men or women to say “I don’t need the other gender”. We definitely need each other and more we can have candid conversations and actively listen and respect one another the more healing can be done. I appreciate you for bringing this type of topic to the YT space.
Whew. Yeah, it's definitely a chore to take a look at some of the unconscious attitudes we have and stack them against the Bible. Its hard but so necessary. Thank you for watching 💚
Thank you for sharing this! Growing in self-accountability is the place I am at and I’m grateful to hear someone calling out the need for this.
I just found your channel, enjoyed several vids and subscribed! And how wonderful to hear such a lovely young lady promote this book! I enjoyed listening to Dr. Laura many years ago and agreed with so much of what she said. I really learned a lot.
As a working mother and happy wife of 10 plus years I whole heartedly agree!! I was fortunate enough to stay home with my two young children during COVID for 9 months and it was such a wonderful experience for me, my husband and my children. I desire and will become a SAHM again because after returning to the workforce I’ve realized how much of a toll working takes on my family and myself. It’s baffling to me that in our society it is the social norm to bring children into this world only to have them be raised by strangers. There is power in mothers staying at home and tending to not only her needs, but the needs of her husband and children. We have been so brainwashed as a culture to believe that operating in divine order is unorthodox.
I completely agree with what you have to say. Not long ago, I was a full time working mother (from home) that made more money than my husband and constantly put my job before my family.. My marriage was on the back burner and I felt burned out. To the world I was "successful" but my family was being neglected and I was internally torn. I knew something had to change, my life, my mindset and possibly more. I turned to God and my husband for guidance. From starting a business, I learned there is an order that is necessary for any system to run smoothly. When this order is not in proper alignment than there is chaos. I needed God and my husband to be in that proper order in my life to have a family that grew in a healthy and balanced environment.It's simple, we need men and men need us. We all have our roles in this world. This is not about who is smarter, stronger or more powerful. This is about helping each other grow together. A smart man once told me, "woman have the power to make a man a better man or less of a man. Woman don't even realize the power they have over men." I realized that my job was to let my husband lead our family and my job was to help guide it. We are working together at serving each other, our family and ultimately God.
Hey Bindi marc. Thank you so much for all that you share. Home making is so much fun when you have a Godly perspective. I have been learning so much from all you share and its already making my marriage thrive. Don't why i didn't find this channel earlier, but I'm loving it.
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I have this book and have read it multiple times, referencing back to it many times and as needed!! I am so excited to hear your take on it! The naysayers really let their inner "Jezebel" show!! New subbie and....LOVE your channel!! Shalom!
While I was growing up in the 90s my mom listened to the author’s radio program. I just purchased a copy while listening to your video, can’t wait for the book to be delivered so I can start reading it!
This is my first time watching this channel!!!! Woah! This book, so far, is awesome. I'm going to buy it. I hope this book opens women's eyes and helps them take the necessary steps to having a fulfilling life.
My issue here is that…. The Lord does not call everyone to marriage. He doesn’t call every woman into marriage… so… I think it’s fine to desire it absolutely. But- to say that marriage is how women are perfected… singleness isn’t a flaw- marriage isn’t the gold standard. And it’s a disservice to the single men and women in our churches and communities to walk around acting like that.
Exactly 💯! Infact Paul said "it's best to stay single like I am". And marriage somewhat reduces us being an open vessel to God because we have to please our spouses. Something like that don't quote me
The only thing that perfects any human is Jesus and our search of him. And doing what He calls us to do,not everyone desires marriage or has a libido. Paul explained it perfectly.
A wonderful friend gave me that book before she died. It was so thought provoking and confronting. There were definitely times I wanted to throw it across the room, but then I examined my own thinking and allowed myself to consider her idea. What I found is that I really had to read the whole thing to get the big picture. Dr. Laura has no doctorate of any kind, and she cares deeply for women and families being functional in society. But she can be super abrasive with her language, too. I hope she isn’t as harsh with her husband, but her language isn’t making her any friends with a lot of women who need this book.
Excited to order this book! I'm sure you get some push back for the content you post being so countercultural these days, but I'm very thankful I found your channel!
I haven't even watch this video yet & just from reading the comments, I'm excited!! You are changing the GAME my sista!! Thank you for your content. This is what Godly women need to hear & know! Society will try & shame you even when you KNOW what you are doing is pleasing to the Lord! That quote I just read in the comments from GK Chesterton is spot on!! And absolutely the truth!! Keep up the good work sista!! Love this!! 💕💕🙌🏾👏🏾
Love, serve, obey… sounds like qualities of a Christian lifestyle. That’s what Jesus did. And for stay at home moms, housewives, or homemakers - G. K. Chesterton has a great quote: “It [feminism] is mixed up with a muddled idea that women are free when they serve their employers but slaves when they help their husbands.” Every once in awhile I’ll ask my husband if there is anything he needs me to do while he’s at work. And every once in a while he will let me know some things that I can do to help him out... Taking the car to be serviced, calling around for different quotes (because we are building a house), getting him some things from the store… it is like blooming where you’re planted; we serve whom God has blessed us with. There are ways that my husband serves me and helps me too! It’s not a one-sided relationship.
I just found your videos and this is great encouragement!! 🙌🏼👏🏼💕
I have seen this quote before and it is very powerful. I tried to find the dare of this quote, but no luck. He passed away in 1936
Wow, amazing insight from that qoute.
This actually appears to be a misquote. I looked it up and it appears he is actually referring to birth control, not feminism.
Thanks a lot for the quote! It is the wisest quote I have read today.
Your words ring so true to me, but it took me so many years to understand them. I applaud you for realizing these things now. As the mother of 3 sons who are all grown now I came to see how unfair these things can be.
Bought the book because I saw you reviewing, just finished the intro and chapter one and now here to listen to your review. Thanks for this Bindi it’s a blessing.
I REALLY appreciated your review of this book!! Since listening to your series on this book I have listened to it once through and am now listening to it a second time through with my husband. It was really eye opening for me that despite years of biblical marriage views, how blinded I still was to feminist mindsets toward my husband. I'm now also listening to this series of yours on the book a second time as well. 😍
Thank you ever so much Bindi for your humble but blunt encouragements to be better Christian wives and mothers. ❤️❤️
Been following you since before the locs, and I just wanted to say that I appreciate the development of your channel and where it is now. I want to say it's been almost a decade since I've been here and this video was a topic that I afraid to hear you speak about (I don't know why 🥴), but I'm glad I summed up the courage to click. I'm going to read this book because I have been courting for a considerable amount of time and there are things that the you an the book mentions that NO ONE in this society want to truly consider or even explain to young people looking to be married under the context being a Christian. I don't look to society of course, I go by the Bible but I feel like it's hard to find Christian believers that discuss the real side of it all. I don't feel offended by what you said with any topic and some of the text you read actually convicted some of the habits and general idea I have toward men but I'll cop a copy on Amazon and read in my spare time. I want to be best for my future family, and seeing you on YT has definitely made a great impression on me. I hope you understood my comment and Thanks for sharing!
Thank you for doing the scary thing and watching a video that appeared like it might be an uncomfortable watch. Let's learn together!
As a housewife and stay-at-home mom for the last 9+ years, there is so much of this I can totally see. I will definitely have to look into this book with a open mind as you did.
The parallel for this for husbands is: give her Love, Emotional Intimacy, and clean up after she makes you Sandwiches.
Interesting you would think men have no responsibility in a relationship
@@norfantify they act like it lol
Your book review reminds me of being in college in a room with all women of different ages. When things came up where I knew it was going to be a cat fight I did not say a word. The reviews you shared reflect some of the women that I was in college with. It is awful how the roles of men and women especially husbands and wives and marriage and family have been destroy by deception. Thank you for sharing. God bless you sister.
I can't believe I have never thought of this! Thank you so much for this thought!
I am a WFH Christian mother and I believe God led me to your channel to help fine tune me as a Godly wife and mother. I’ve been able to think differently and look at things differently because of your channel. Thank you for everything.
Same!!!
I listened to this like a podcast as I cleaned the kitchen. I am with you 100% on this. Thank you for being brave and discussing these topics online. I know how aggressive culture can be regarding these topics. You’re so right - our world is so broken and in need of repair. Looking forward to leaning into your channel. ☺️
Same. I just got done cleaning the kitchen
@@shevannaellis6917 Yes!! Great info to listen to as we clean the kitchens! Have a blessed day! ❤️
Just bought this book a few days ago and love it so far, and I’m binge watching your videos and just realized your reviewed it 🙏🏽✨🤍
These series' are like a virtual book club! I greatly appreciate these, so fun to watch and ponder
I was so happy to see you reviewed this book! I read it recently myself. I'm an "older" lady; our 30th anniversary is next week! Before our three sons were born and I was a teacher, I listened to Dr. Laura's radio show a lot. And it was marvelous. I'm also an evangelical Christian, so nothing she said shocked me, except maybe some of her occasional bluntness. So readers who aren't familiar should understand HER perspective and why she says some things like she does...
-years of counseling women and couples who were full of their own excuses for bad behavior--she's seen it all
-similar cases on a radio show where you then have the added challenge of a time limit. She had to be brief and to the point...And cut through the baloney.
-her personality is straightforward as well. She sees problems clearly and, especially from all her experience above, can see through to root causes and solutions before many of us might.
I thought those nuggets might help for any readers who are uninitiated in Dr. Laura. She's written MANY good books. I pretty much recommend them all. God bless. 🙏💗📖📚
I used to try to listen to the Laura Schlessinger show, hoping there might be some words of wisdom. That woman looked to find faults in whatever woman called. If there weren't faults, she made them up or made assumptions so that she could somehow blame the caller for whatever was happening. It was like listening to a battered woman have somebody say to her, "Well, what did you say or do to him to make him hit you?" The only reasonable answer to that kind of a question is , "I cannot make him hit me. He is an adult with free will and he chose to use it badly. He alone is responsible for his choices, just as I alone am responsible for my choices." I found her to be an example of finger-pointing, being critical instead of being objective, jumping to conclusions, and rudeness. If you want to show how NOT to talk to people, she was an excellent example. If you want to learn how to berate people, she was an excellent example. If you want to learn how a woman can show love to a husband, and what kind of person to be in order to be pleasing to a man, and how to lovingly set boundaries with a man, look elsewhere. Even a stopped clock is right twice a day, so occassionally she would say something useful, but to me, if the ratio of trash and garbage and beratement to useful pearls of wisdom is that low, my time is better spent elsewhere.
I found that books by Liberty Savard, which taught how to identify and tear down internal strongholds within one's self, and Stormie Omartian, which taught about praying as a wife and a as mom, and Tony Evans, which also taught about marriage and being a Christian wife, and the Chapman book about love languages were helpful. There was a book about marriage roles by Robert Lewis and William Hendricks that was greatly helpful, also.
I read this book a few years ago and totally loved it. I was so excited about this gem I found and naturally started to share with my friends. Much to my surprise, not everyone shared the same sentiment.
It never crossed my mind that someone would find it offensive.
The truth is the truth.
Love that! The truth is the truth!
I agree with you, I didn’t find offense to what you spoke about the book. I do have to mention though that this dynamic has worked very well for my husband and I for ten years now. No we aren’t perfect but the love and mutual respect is there for each of our roles in raising our family and showing our children how we love one another through the ups and downs. I love that I’ve found your channel recently btw! You’re amazing and I love to hear your take on these topics. It’s always refreshing hearing that there are other like minded women out there ❤️
I joined this channel yesterday. My life changed in oneday. Praise to God. God is able. Even my selfish desires have changed.
I feel this will be a wonderfully triggering video for me 🤣 I am not a Christian, but there is no other niche of the internet that speaks to the homemakers role etc. I am loving your channel.
I'm new to this channel. All I have to say is I strongly agree with a lot of the points made. I'm also guilty of a lot of them too. I'm learning as I go.
I watched this video, and then immediately went and downloaded the book and began to read. I’ve been married for 15 years and this convicted me. It was like a gut punch. Thank you.
I haven't read this book in so, so long. About 6 years. It is time to dig it back out! ❤️
This reminds me of another book I've read by Debi Pearl called Created to be his Help meet. Good stuff
This is going to be interesting! Looking forward to the upcoming videos. If you decide to do a virtual book discussion on this I would be happy to participate!
Same! That's a great idea if she decides to do a virtual/live discussion.
I love how you said "with such scathing reviews.... I had to read the book" lol that is sooo me!
Wowwww my fiance currently brought that up to me about me being selfish and self centered and because I'm so aware and recently started therapy I was understanding what he communicated to me and it's soo truee omg this have me so emotional rn but I'm happy I'm hearing it from a woman we've definitely been programmed as women🥺🥺
I used to get defensive to the word 'submission', until my mom told me, no, you first have to get a good, godly man, and that's the one that will be a pleasure to submit to. Submission comes naturally as a response to a man we can look up to, respect and admire.
Thank you! I grew up having to be strong and independent it has not helped my marriage as I move forward in my walk with Jesus. My biggest prayer is to have Jim show me what to do to raise my family right since I didn't have it. I'm feeling the urge to quite everything and focus on my family and husband but my husband says we will be fine keeping doing what we are doing so I am obeying my husband and praying. It is a struggle but God will lead our ways and give us direction.
I didn't have the opportunity to read this kind of book when I got married 19 years ago and as I grew up in Christian single mom family ( my father abandoned us) I didn't trust men in general. I didn't like the idea to be submissive to my husband and after so many problems between us, he changed and I changed. He read "No more Mr. Nice Guy" he learnt that women need strong men....and after his change of attitude towards me, I started to trust him more and more. It worked wonderfully in our case. We have two daughters and I'm still learning how to be a feminine, loving and strong mom and wife. May God help 🙏 us as women.
Hello Bindi! I stumbled onto your page a few days ago and have been binge watching your videos since lol. Thank you for this type of content that fully aligns with biblical principles. My morals lie here and I often have no one to talk to about it. Now, like you, I agreed with the first chapter hole heartedly. But I will say that you, and the way that the Holy Spirit uses you to pour into families, have an effective way of getting these points across. I have listened to Dr. Laura’s radio show, and she is MEAN! She completely degrades callers whose questions fall outside of biblical principle, and that is no way to win souls. Her brand of Christianity is rude and arrogant, and because of that I would not spend my money on her book. I am, however, glad that the message is able to be spread through you.
I read this book years ago and admire Dr Laura very much because of it. I'm not married, never have been, but because of this a a few other books, including the Bible, I believe one day I will be a good wife, and I will marry a good Christian man.
Another book to read is "The Men We Never Knew", by Daphne Kingma, and "Liberated Through Submission", by P.B. Wilson. Both great books for women/wive to read.
Having grown up with the women's liberation movement, and militant feminism, I now see those movements as lies of Satan. Just more forbidden fruit offered to destroy our peace, love, and joy as women. Walking God's path is the only path to fulfilment, with or without a man at our side. Be blessed sisters!
Thank you for this video. And for introducing this book. 😊💐
Coming from a military hime where initially my mother was a SAHM then moving to a single parent home due to divorce and seeing and being the byproduct has pushed me to want to want to understand and build my house as a woman and to heal . A lot of these things hit me on the head and showed me how inadequate i am in understanding or interacting with men and how it has and is impacting me individually, as a wife and now mother. I wish i came to this realization prior to courting and marriage , but im glad YAH has put it in me now so that the cycle doesn't continue. Some days it can be crippling to come to terms with the damage i hold , but it also lights a fire to heal and overcome in obedience to TMH . Im excited to start my journey and grow and heal and become the Daughter of Zion i know i am and play the role of a titus 2 woman though i lacked a goid example myself.
Just bought this book and I'm LOVING IT. I needed to hear all this. I'm guilty of so much of it, and I ADORE my husband. I want to give him the respect and love he deserves. I have horrible models in my family for how a wife should treat a husband, so this book has been very helpful to undo bad habits.
I've purchased the book. I can't wait to dive in!!
I agree 100% with Bibical principles of marriage. Many marriages are broken because, they are lost and caught up in the worldly systems. When, I bring my opinions to my current circle of married "Christian" friends - they disagree with my mindset. After, God - family is the priority (Husband and Children). Many married people live as if family is not a priority and secondary or something they can carve out an hour or two a week for. Your marriage will crumble and your children will not appreciate you. As a business owner, my work hours are planned around my son's school schedule. And, God has blessed me to continue to bring in great income with shorter hours even through the pandemic. * I am a single Mom. Even, when I was with my child's Father. We agreed that I would stay home. We broke up, because he was abusive in all area of life. That was not someone, I could marry. Yes, I made the life mistake to have a child with him - this decision was before, I was a Christian. But, I will not change my viewpoint. My current, boyfriend praises me for my viewpoint and constantly says, only 0-5% of women think like this and our society is doomed. 🤷🏿♀️🙏🏿 Let continue, to keep this world lifted in prayer. 🙏🏿
I agree with you wholeheartedly. Thank you for your boldness.
You are definitely not the only one. I want this book now 🤣
Tradwifes are simply the best. It's nice to see this getting wider recognition and acceptance.
Trad wives rock!
Although, I've never read this book before but it sounds like one I've read recently called : "For Women Only" by Shaunti Feldhahn. It convicted by quite a few times. It will be one year since I got married and I sometimes feel overwhelmed by how to be a good wife, or feminine. I'm glad there are these kinds of channels
Hi Bindi,
You are influencing my to get this book! …I am for the strong words the author is saying. But wow is it truth on paper. I’m actually coming from a household where my dad played a large role in raising my sisters and I, in the sense of - lots of sports, taught to be aggressive and all things high achieving. Of course our parents were raising us for “success” but I really just had culture telling me how to be a woman… and that meant be a high achiever, but ultimately ended at pursue a career and be great in it… but it may be the way for a man, but a woman I believe needs some of this feminine “training” and knowing that a large part of our happiness is in the home- being a mom, raising our kids, being a great wife… it is without a doubt a need in us.
I’m a professional soccer player currently. And I’m married. But I have more and more convos now around family and future of raising my kids… I am just trying to find the right time in my career to do so… or may be the story will write itself haha
Bindi I find your videos so encouraging. God bless you.
Thank you so much for your courageous sharing!
I'm hearing you Bindi, I have been a sahm for about 3 years now and I love it. I have become a better wife, mother, and daughter knowing my role as it relates to scriptures,however everyday I'm still learning. This is the expectations of The Most High God for us women. I agree with the biblical mandate submit, respect, and obey our husband as Yahusha (Jesus).
I need to get this. Thank you for the review.
I love your contents I'm learning alot from your videos🙏🏽God bless you for this
I just got this book 2 days ago from eBay for $4 ❤ as a Bible believer follower of Christ and new wed, im so excited for this book , love your reviews on this book & I just subscribed to your channel! We are in alignment sister we need more female Christian’s like you
I love this video and agree with all that you said and that the books said. All are biblically sound and make sense when you put pride aside and think about them. Men really are simple and I've seen it in my marriage when I do what you were talking about in the beginning my husband will do anything for me, it's a very sweet thing when done how God designs it ♥️
I'm not the least bit offended by this and I was a teen in the '70's, but I was raised in a loving home where my father respected, honored and loved my mother and her work as a homemaker and she respected, honored and loved him as the breadwinner BUT the overwhelming message is/was to me that marriage isn't "me/him" it's "us/we"!! My husband and I knew/decided before we were married, and no we didn't live together, that we wanted a family and that I would be a SAHM, that would be my career; that was 42 years ago, three children and two grandchildren (their mother/my daughter is also a SAHM) and I haven't regretted that for a minute!! Though I could go on too long, as this is a passion of mine, but it warms my heart so much that you and other younger women are seeing the value of being a homemaker...it's not for every woman, but it IS a career!
Daily dying to the flesh is so needed in marriage...so hard to do, but oh so rewarding when you do.
This is eye opening! Having the wrong mind set toward men has definitely made me struggle with submitting and respecting my husband. Now I want to be very mindful to establish a proper view of men for my daughters... and be a better example to them.😳
Thank you for sharing this.
That thumbnail sums it up perfectly! Ladies, take good notes!
I gotta get that book....Bravo Mademoiselle! Love this.
People divorce because they think marriage is for happiness. I myself just learnt that it's a commitment that you work to keep everyday. That can only happen when you choose to love someone flaws and all.
My dear you have just spent the last 20 minutes of my life teaching me values/things I wished I had been raised with. I would have been a much better wife. Now that I know, I will do better.
While I don't condone or endorse the personal life choices Dr. Schlessinger has made over the course of her life, this book does (thus far) appear to offer a practical view of marriage.
Don't condone or endorse her life choices...that's an understatement. She's a bigot!
I read this book a long while ago, but I grew up listening to Dr. Laura's radio show so it did not throw me for a loop at all. I knew her straight up salty style well and always really appreciated her very direct approach. I think that for women who are maybe making a lot of common mistakes in their marriages, this book is a tough pill to swallow. Even for women who are Christian and consider themselves to be traditional can find themselves angry at her message. But we are all having to recover from the disastrous affects of feminism. Most have us have grown up in a world where this ideology has been in full affect for at least one full generation. It's the air we breath and the water that we swim in. It's not possible to be a person living in this world and not have been affected by these attitudes. And when we read such a blunt book bringing it all back to the way it used to be and used to work really well, because we have gotten so far away from it, it's incredibly off putting and anger producing for many many women.
I really appreciate your comment, I sense a lot of compassion in it when you stated: “its not possible to be a person living in this world and not have been affected by these attitudes.”
I haven’t read the book nor do I know the author, but I think we can lend a little compassion to ourselves & eachother when we realized we’ve been lied to.
I like the content of the book, am in total agreement. I am not a wife yet but it doesn't hurt to learn what not to do.
I pray your husband finds you soon. Learn about warfare. Ephesians 6 because the devil will try and mess up your Godly marriage. Your walk..period.
@@danilaroche1156 this is a beautiful message thank you and you are correct
I don’t know who I would have become raised as most of society , I was raised in generations of that belief , a women’s place is in the home as a keeper of the home .we also believe marriage is for better or for worse and for life . Not trying to brag here , just extremely grateful. It was a gift .
The book surely talks to our culture. Life starts with mother . very healing viewpoints if read with open mind and since of team building vs competition with . Doesn't mean bow down but appreciation of the good in order to strengthen , simply support . why is that hard if you didn't marry for selfish reason .. I think the book should be renamed and applied to all relationships. How to care for one another
Definitely this book is polarizing. Because it’s dealing with spiritual warfare.
I was raised i didn't need a man also it caused problems in my marriages #singlenow i carried this attitude in my marriages for me its the delivery of orders a man must know how to lead properly and lead like God would have him to lead it produces a willing submission from the women me working two and three jobs didnt help ultimately we were unevenly yoked everything was out of order!! I worked two and three jobs and cooked cleaned and raised kids everyone was effected i often felt overwhelmed im now on journey to unlearn these behaviors as well as allowing my new husband to be the sole provider prayers please knowledge is power
Huge Dr. Laura fan. Huge. I bought and read this book as soon as it hit the book store. I was so sad when her call-in radio show was taken off the air. Left a hole in my self-growth and maturity. I would caution you to read anything of hers with discernment as she is not of a Christian background and a few of her thoughts and opinions are not Biblically-based. Especially her stand on forgiveness. I am so sorry that there's a whole generation who would have benefited from her sometimes tough-to-listen-to wisdom and maturity and will never have their "foolishness" challenged.
She is still on the air. Sirius XM channel 111
@@enriquemata8558 Oh, my gosh, thank you!
Absolutely love this content! I 100% agree with everything you said and applaud you for making a video like this in this very feminist climate. Thanks so much!
The tea is s p i c y in this video and I 100 percent am getting this book🤣
I totally agree with you and the author.❤️
I just want to say thank you for sharing this with the wives and SAHM’s of the world.
Update: Okay so I went and listened to the audio version of her book. Started making some very truthful points. I actually agree with most of what she said. But after the first half of chapter 1 I did start to get exhausted with how extreme she was. I skipped to chapter 2 to see if she was going to add some contrast. Or comparisons or even maybe enlighten men on some things. But nope, it seems like she’s bashing women throughout the entire book. And I’m a Christian woman with a biblically traditional mindset toward my marriage and myself as a woman. But still, she was really insensitive, critical and judgmental. She’s attacking all women, generalizing them and calling it teaching.
My husband and I have a happy, loving marriage. We love and nurture our children. And I’ve had to learn much about being a good wife and mother. Still she was very extreme. I’ll try to finish it. Fingers crossed lol.
I definitely hear you on the author. I touch on her tone of writing in the video I just posted last night. Thank you for watching and commenting. 🙂
@wearemoalofthestory I've read the book. The best way for me to get through it was to remember that even a stopped clock is right twice a day. A lot of what the author says is finger-pointing, gaslighting, and garbage. There is willful, deliberate ignorance of the fact that some women are with men who have become apostate and who are no longer safe to submit to or follow. There are repeated attempts to blame women for things that grown, adult men choose to do when the fact of the matter is that the only person responsible for what a grown, free-thinking man does is that man. (The same is true for adult women). There are a few truths here and there in this book. It's worth buying from a dollar store or Goodwill but I wouldn't pay $10 for it. There are better books out there on how to be a godly, submissive wife, and how to prayerfully change one's self from the inside.
I am an older Christian woman. I would have loved to have the option of staying home to look after my family. It’s not available to everyone.
I definitely have stuff to learn from this book, HOWEVER! I am a part time work at home / stay at home mom / wife... My kids go to school / daycare 4 days a week from 9-4, and I NEED that time to work / spend time with myself. I also don't have the luxury not to work, because bills are high. I am lucky I can work from home, but I still need to work. I don't think of daycare like she describes "oh, I can just have daycare take care of my kids"... I feel much guilt about it, but I need time to myself as well and I also like how it socializes my kids as well. I don't like how she "talks down" to women who put their kids into daycare, as if we do it without any care or consideration for the children. Also most women understand that work isn't the most important thing, but if we want to live a normal life a dual income is usually needed. I found that to be a bit ridiculous for her to talk about that, like that. I also don't understand why it is so wrong for a wife to talk to her husband about what bothers her... I understand it can be nagging and annoying for the man to hear often, but we need to express ourselves as well. I won't rant about it for an hour or scream at him or anything, but I will mention that I don't appreciate when he makes a mess and doesn't clean after himself after I spent hours cleaning the house... It makes me feel like a maid... Or stuff like that. Ideally nothing would ever bother me and I would just live a monk like existence in peace and harmony... But for now I am still human and I do mention when things bother me... I don't think that this should be the reason my husband stops loving me, or stops being affectionate to me, or stops having fun with me. I just don't understand how anyone who hears this can't see how this book / society / husbands are asking A BIT TOO MUCH of women. You people think that women are asking too much of men, but I think the other side is asking too much of us as well... The TRUE answer is somewhere in the middle I think... So I take this woman's advice with a LARGE grain of salt.
Had a selfish wife like you. We got divorced after 15 years. We started to go to church about 6 years in where I focused on my roles as a man. This helped but like you she refused to budge on her roles. Said the same thing as you “I need time to myself.” That’s a sign of unhappiness with your husband with him not doing his role and you being self centered and not doing yours. Remove the I and focus on the “we” and find why your husband is unhappy not doing his part. If you need more money he needs to work harder. If he doesn’t clean up after himself he doesn’t respect you, maybe you don’t respect him either. You should read the book together and focus on what both your roles need to be. Men and women are not equal, but neither better than the other. They are two pieces to a puzzle both bringing value and strengths the other lack. Wish you the best at happiness.
@@lbarker8 I don’t think she’s selfish cause she realizes she needs time to herself. Maybe your ex wife used it as an excuse but that doesn’t mean everyone does. A woman and man need time alone to rejuvenate themselves, renew their brains, and get the cobwebs out. I put my son in church daycare for a few hours four days a week so I could get myself together and come back fresh. Everybody needs that. I’ve seen mothers break down because they were with their kids day in and day out without a break. They almost broke. One was crying and one was going bananas because she was making up voices for stuffed animals and realized she was feeling looney tunes! Every person needs to do what’s best for them.
@@OmatimestwoExactly 💯. That's why I'm opposed to the author. The author is very unbalanced and disregards the well being of women. The day we are individuals as well and we also have dreams outside the home. Some women like me have calling outside the home and would like to make their mark in society and would not be fulfilled merely in the home.
@@lbarker8Dude I think you are the one that's selfish.
Exactly and everybody on here acting like this book is cool! It may have some points but it's toxic and disregards the role that men play their own demise when it comes to the feminism paradigm and how they behave in marriage such as disregarding our needs. I'm glad there's someone on here with good sense.
Interestingly enough I have read that frequent evacuation yields to a healthy prostate.
Thank you for sharing 👍
Dr Laura is wonderful.....
Praise the Lord, So far, based on what you've read and commented on, to me has not been offensive. Although, I would say, as an older Christain, I learned not to lump all men together 😉.
If the women are Christian or pursuing a Christian walk as guided by the word of God, I feel they really should not be easily offended by what has been said so far.
At my home church, I witness young black women marry, have children and are stay at home mothers while their husband works. Is it hard, at times, but the children a well kept, loved and SPOILED! Sometimes it amazes me how they do it!! I'm so proud of them and I try to let them know.
Our God is truly AWESOME and reaffirms his love and approval when we believe, trust and honor his word!! proves his
I have no problem with the book (the message, not necessarily the delivery), but the Heavenly Father doesn't tell His daughters to "obey" their husbands. Submission and obedience aren't the same. Submission is for your husband. Your obedience is to God.
Titus 2 KJV
3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, knot given to much wine, teachers of good things; 4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, *obedient* to their own husbands, that othe word of God be not blasphemed.
1 Peter 3
3Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair or gold jewelry or fine clothes, 4but from the inner disposition of your heart, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in God’s sight. 5For this is how the holy women of the past adorned themselves. They put their hope in God and were submissive to their husbands, 6just as Sarah *obeyed* Abraham and called him lord.
@@Bindi_Marc While we should study the words of the Prophets and try to adhere to them as best we can, the problem with reading instead of studying the Word is that many times the interpreters take liberties with the meanings of these words. When you study these words of the passages you listed, all of them are different and for one of them, everywhere except the one that speaks of wives means "subject to". The Bible also gives you distinct examples of the difference between submit and "obey". For instance, in the stories of Ananias and his wife, Sapphira (obedient) vs. the story of Abigail (submissive) and Nabal.
To "obey" means just that. No say so. No individual discernment. If he says it, you do it. We have to be careful with these messages because women have souls that will go somewhere at the end of this life. Being "obedient" to a husband won't save you on judgement day because we will give an account of everything we do including those things we do in subjection or obedience of a husband or even a parent. The Bible tells us to obey our parents but there are also verses that tell us that if our parents are doing something wrong and we follow in this then we will be judged as well but if we do what is right then we won't. In this verse (Ezekiel 20:18-19), the Father warns the children not to follow their parent's laws or their idols. But everything you hear from the Church is obey your parents and honor your father and mother. This gives the impression that no matter what your parents are doing, obey them, even though that is not necessarily what the Bible says.
When you read the Word, you will see that the men during those times made laws pertaining to women or divorce that the Father or our Messiah overturned or explained that this was not the Will of the Father. This is where discernment and having a relationship with the Holy Spirit will come into play
Every person will stand for themselves on judgement day and there will be Christians in hell. Women must be careful that they place NO ONE above.The Father.
Your original comment (which has since been edited) alleged that “no where in the Bible are wives told to obey their husbands.” I just wanted to demonstrate using the Bible that your statement was false so that others would not be misled. Thanks for watching 💛
@HardTimes LifeLessons you are very spot on. We women have been led to believe that we are supposed to obey and do whatever our husband says and that’s not true biblically speaking. That has only led to the oppression of women. Many people don’t understand that all people were created for Yahwehs glory not the glory of each other. The meaning of the words used in English don’t mean the same in Greek or Hebrew and it’s important to dig deeper.
Think about when Sara “obeyed” Abraham and lied and said she was his sister. That about got them killed.
The Creator made man, in His image, male and female. Neither is less or more than another. The word helpmate is ezer in Hebrew which is warrior. Not someone to just wait on a man and “serve” him like he is God because at that point the husband becomes an idol. And neither is a woman to be used as a husbands slave or maidservant to gain more in the material world. This is a misconception of many. We are, as male and female, husband and wife, supposed to work together in our journey together for His kingdom. Is it important for the wife to be home taking care of the family yes as it is important for the man to go out into the world to provide.
Unless one does a deep dive in Scripture asking for understanding and wisdom, it’s easy for meanings to be twisted.
I agree with you and this book one hundred percent
I have this book but haven’t read it! I put in in a yard sale for 50cents but no one wanted it. Women would pick it up and laugh out loud 😊
good reason to read it...
So can you ship it to me? 😊
I’ve been loving your videos! I am a third grade teacher, married, and a mother of 2 littles. Although I lead a very different lifestyle than you do, I appreciate your position 💯 and respect your consistency with regards to citing Bible. You come across as very level-headed and genuine.
I would like to ask an honest question, as you appear to be someone who is convicted enough to be presented with such.
Do you feel fulfilled in a different way here on RUclips and in your business than you do in your role at home? I am NOT asking this with judgement or malice, or even asking what the Bible says. Woman to woman, mother to mother, wife to wife, does it light up a different part of you?