The way the daughter is looking at her while she’s talking, you see she’s been hurt by the words but now she’s numb. Her daughter is gorgeous. I love this episode!
@@idowueniola17that is the point though? So let's just ignore how the daughter feels and let's pity the parents who have forced their children into this predicament?
@@idowueniola17 a child is not more wrong than this immature grown woman. How do you expect a child to understand what an adult can barely even? The mother is immature emotionally, she putting those emotions on that gurl in ways not meant for a child from a mother. Just bcuz so many blk mothers are like this don't mean it's rite. We have to break the cycle of screaming to our kids the same things our parents screamed to us. We have to stop having kids as kids, and then blaming the kids for our faults. Alota yal parents dead wrong.
If the mom acts like that in public on tv, I can only imagine how she speaks to her and treats her behind closed doors. Sad. I hope they can find healing.
Girl please. You obviously have 0 understanding. You can take your whites only pie some where else cause we ain't eating that crap over here. You don't KNOW or can even comprehend what this woman life is like. So quit trying to judge a situation you can't even read the Blueprint to.
That is a overwhelmed mother. Stretched beyond her means. Poverty and stress and limited options does that. She has a good daughter and with the help he is providing for them. They will be alright.
This is a prime example of why it is important to be financially and emotionally stable before having children. Your burdens should never be your child’s burdens.
Very true. Money has been tight for me most of my life and I was one of those kids paying bills at home from summer jobs. My single Mom always struggled financially and was emotionally detached due to childhood trauma. Even at age 46 and child free, I couldn't imagine bringing a child into this world today. Everything is too darn expensive. Being financially strapped is very stressful. Really wears you down.
Y’all can’t blame the mom if the child ain’t making it better also go to school n ya mom wouldn’t had to move if y’all had a good home regardless if ya like the state u was in she had a home n lost it going to jail because the daughter didn’t go to school over some hair she could of did a natural style n call it a day no excuses to miss that many days of school for hair knowing it out ya mom n jail n ya lose everything again over ya attitude
Problem is most of the country is living check to check. You can be financially stable one moment and loose everything the next. Honestly, money is so unpredictable. The pandemic was a prime example of this.
This is why abortions should be an option everywhere and free. She didn’t even have the money for $100 sum rent so clearly she couldn’t afford to have an abortion and she had no one to help her so she had no choice. Ppl think that even if a parent isn’t financially or mentally stable they should still have a child which i cant wrap my head around bc how are they supposed to provide and nurture the child
Respect goes both ways. The way the mom talked to her daughter is teaching her how to communicate with others. It's a generational curse that needs to be broken. Your children will be a reflection of what they see.
Respect was given by the mother from infancy period. This girl wasn't in system. In and out of foster homes and shit. Yall will make a million excuses.
exactly and ima say this, there’s a difference between respect and doing that bare minimum. a lot of parents give the BARE MINIMUM. the bare minimum is never enough for nothing, you would never want the bare minimum for anything especially caring for your children, you’re supposed to care for them, make sure they have a roof over their head and make sure the stay out of the system…ok. but what else? give them respect, hear their emotions and make sure that they are actually heard, that’s above the bare minimum, something a lot people fail to realize or do so then that kid will begin to…LASH OUT, hurt people hurt people.
@@panafricanismstrikesbacki so agree. my mom was disrespectful as hell. i decided that that i wouldn’t be like that with my children. i wasn’t and they are very respectful
I see what she meant. The risk of what can go wrong for a girl out in the streets are on a whole other level. She even mentioned that a boy isn't as high risk when he leaves the house at random but a girl is in a constant state of vulnerability because so much could go wrong.
@@cela9852 Okay but she’s acting like boys can’t be endangered when going out alone either, theres high chances for things to go wrong and a boy goes out alone especially at night aswell and she’s saying as if she wouldn’t worry when she should worry no matter what gender.
Her true character fully showed up as SOON as her daughter came out. How do parents expect anything more from their children than what they GIVE them smh sad
No fr and I saw like one of two comments agreeing with the mother.. I truly feel bad for the teenager because she basically doing teenager stuff you know I don’t even think the mother should’ve went on the show if she knew that she was in the wrong 👎🏿👎🏿
She is acting out because her life is hard right now. This baby just needs stability and a home. Being homeless and in a shelter as a teenager 😢. I pray God graces her with peace and opportunities 🙏🏾.
@@ZionDoesMakeup raised 7 and 6 graduated HS 1 graduated with his associate degree! Because I said no child of mine would buck up to me, because I demand my respect as their parent? Wow! That’s why kids act the way they do! Y’all trying to be their friends and not their parent!
The mom just has so much anger inside her because of the situations she and her daughter are going through and I get that, but as a parent, you NEVER should take your anger out on your OWN kid, because THAT is exactly how your child becomes TRAUMATIZED for life
I don't support how the mother handles things, that goes without saying but I also understand that the "should have" language comes from people who don't know what it truly feels like to drown everyday...every single day. Not a hard period in your life, a decades long battle starting from birth. Not an excuse for the mother just an acknowledgement that telling her what she should be doing while she is quite literally fighting for their lives is unproductive. She needs support FIRST and then conversations about how she can be a more empathetic and emotionally regulated mother. Survive and then thrive.
she really needs to work on herself and do better. the way she goes about life in general is damaging. her communication skills aren’t built to mindfully raise a child with wisdom and patience. i can guarantee you ppl when you raise a child mindfully every step of the way they will have respect and dignity and peace.
Ya its not easy for both of them and they need to give each other a break..The kid don't look like a bad kid, mom also looks tired and emotional drained bad combination hope mom gets help so that she can help her daughter be the kid 😉 she wants to be.
When the mom admitted to calling her daughter a bitch my jaw dropped, that is HORRIBLE. That explains why the daughter talks the way she does, shes hurt from a young age and shes a child, she doesnt know how to communicate properly yet. The mom doesnt even let her speak her perspective which is awful, she doesnt have a chance to vent and explain her pain. Poor little girl man, this breaks my heart sooo much.
@langa.888 actually not. I could never fathom calling my daughter a "b" constantly and consistently. The one person in life that you're supposed to be able to depend on to build you up is the very same person that's tearing you down over and over again. I do not condone disrespect by a child to any adults but this so-called mother is an embarrassment and a shame to motherhood. My question is where is her father especially if he sees her being treated like this he needs to man up and come get his daughter my heart breaks for this child. She can't win with this lady. Damned if she do damned if she don't. So I don't see this as a white response. I pray mother gets some help too.
I have three daughters 26, 21 and 15. I vowed to myself that no matter how much they pissed me off that I would never call either of them out of their names...and I never have.
I told my mom I can vividly remember the first time she called me a bitch and she said I must be making it up. For them it’s just another day but for us children it’s a core foundational memory.
I loved how she said, “I want it to be back how it was” tells me she knows her mom has been there and trying hard for them. Sometime children feels like it’s there fault when parents are in a struggle and that can cause them to lash out.
The little girl is so sweet, so soft spoken I don't think she really means to be disrespectful to the mother, the mother is the one who pulls it out of her because she is having it hard and the girl is the closest person to her. I truly hope they can both rebuild their relationship and heal. I wish them nothing but the best. I know you don't know me, but I hope you see this, you are a beautiful girl Kailey, please rise up and break the cycle of poverty go to school and become great. LOVE.t
I have been a hot head teenager before so I know all the tricks .....it's definitely more layers to her🤣🤣 but that doesn't negate the fact that the mother still should talk to her better and she does need to break the cycle....
@@misspr33tyf33t you could be right cause I also thought the same thing, but then again she had the same composure even when she was back stage, hence my conclusion.
There’s a word for that. It’s called “Reactive Abuse”. I learned about it in psychology when I was trying to understand narcissistic abuse from the hands of my mother
Yea she was completely valid. Like Karamo said they both are. I’m glad they came on cuz it really is just a communication issue mixed with and unstable environment.
My father used to call me a bitch and it was and is still so hurtful today. To hear such hateful, sexist words from your own parent is a different type of pain. Not everyone should be parents. If you can’t respond to your child with love and kindness and respect, don’t become a parent.
Exactly!!!! In her mind, she's doing the best she can, but she doesn't understand how she deals with stuff is toxic and negatively impacting her daughter.
@awadiaby1673 stop trying so hard to tell someone off!!! Speaking a fact or making an observation is not judging her! No one said anything bad about the mother or daughter! The fact is mom is very damaged! You just want to tell someone off! You're giving miserable vibes with your comment
Mom is the problem. The daughter is mirroring the treatment she received by her mother. The mom probably had the same upbringing and mirrored that same parenting style she endured. The young girl needs stability and security. Her parents failed this young girl. The father not helping his daughter is wrong, but the mother's lack of stability, aggressive behavior, and overall chaotic nature is responsible for the behavior. They both need therapy. No parent should speak to their child like that in private nor in public. The daughter is reacting to her chaotic environment.
@@sandramartez6472 girl yes she is the problem stop being in denial the mom need to listen to her daughter instead of keep talking over her, she has trauma she need to heal instead keep being mad at the daughter for messing up in life when she is just a fuckin kid
Mother is unstable. Evictions, jail, shelter, calling her daughter names etc... She is the one who decided to have a child with no stability what so ever. She's asking a lot from her daughter.
Never have I switched up empathising for anyone as fast as I did with the mom. I don’t wonder where she gets it from at all. She didn’t even let her finish a sentence.
If you and your child fell into a pit, would you expect for your child to sit there and do nothing as you struggled to get you guys out? Or would you expect for them to help in getting you guys out of the pit? And how would you react if your child kept pulling you down every time you got a foot up? *It's easy* when you're not in this situation *to judge someone who is.* No one perfectly executes when they are this stressed. There are some things that the both of them can do better, but they are obviously in a pit. When you are this desperate, you don't have the time to worry about niceties, when you don't know if you will survive the situation you are in. There's a cycle here where you see a woman who was, more than likely, raised by a single mom *(with no support),* who's now trying to raise her own child as a single mom with no support. There are some emotional and communicative tools that she probably was never given. We take for granted that our parents instilled those in us, and we judge others who don't have them as if those were things that came naturally from us. But one thing you can't deny, is that *this woman absolutely loves her child.* And she is desperately trying to save her life.
@@janepatton8100 We found the child abuser her. You really think you own kid who you put in the world, who never asked to be born, has to deal with YOUR shit? Then you traumatize the child who starts to act badly due to it and what you do? Beat the child, scream at her with swearings, etc. Wow great mom! People like you say "aw don't judge the mom" but go with all force to judge the child who has to pay for the parents mistakes. Loving has nothing to do with abuse ffs
Mom knows at any time they could be without anything. Daughter has not had enough experience and responsibilities to understand the extent of what could happen. She could have made them lose their spot at the shelter and her mom had to go to jail behind her. And probably still expects hair done and new clothes. Mom is afraid of losing everything including her kid and in the process was about to lose her mind.
The mother is obviously stressed which is okay, but not only she can’t get a hold of herself, she’s taking it out on her daughter in a very abusive way. Yelling and cursing won’t pay the bills or set that child straight. Child who is sadly so calm because she’s emotionally checked out from her mother freaking out about responsibilities she obviously struggles with
Nowhere in my reply to your comment did I say that she calling her daughter the best word was ok. If I did please point it out to me. What I said is that your comment is nonsensical because you are making a contrast between the two and their demeanor, where one is the sole provider (the mother) of the household and knows she is drowning, while the other one is taken care of (the child) and has no worries in the world meaning she doesn't have to wonder or figure out how to put meals on the table, pay the rent, pay gas, pay light, buy supplies etc. Ofcourse the one who is of the knowledge of all this will be on edge. Why would the damn child be on edge?
I really wish he touched on how she talks to her daughter. I feel as though I resonated with this girl on such a deeper level. I was her. Same demeanor, same speech, same pain. As someone who’s been in the other side of an emotionally immature mother and is finally getting the relationship I’ve always wanted with my mom I can tell you now that stuff leaves lasting scars on a child.. respect goes both ways. You can’t expect your child to respect you if you don’t do the same. It’s not “what I say goes” because your child has a spirit and opinions just like you
She's underage who else gon look out for her dumb@ss? If she already wasn't in a good situation how acting by herself would make it better? Y'all complaining cause she doing her mom role but what she supposed to do?
They’re going through a rough time. Stability is so important for kids. Especially at that age. I hope they push through this rough patch and grow together.
@@gemz2894She’s a problem bcuz of the environment that she’s living in. And her mother is the one who created that environment. So, therefor the mother is the source of the problems.
I feel so sorry for that little girl. You can tell she’s not really a bad child. The mother is horrible. She’s taking her failures and frustration out on that child.
That moms is literally at her breaking point. She is going through it and she feels like her daughter is against her too. That’s why she is acting that way. Unless you are a single mom with ZERO support and have went through it you will never understands it ABSOLUTELY doesn’t condone how she is treating her daughter, but attacking her is NOT gonna fix this
Imagine raising 5 or more kids though, I feel like she should never burden her daughter and I also feel the daughter most definitely should reap her Mom always. The Mom calling her day a bitch is so low. But I do hope they’re move past this and get back in the relationship that they were in.
I agree. They both are struggling and don’t see each others point of view. But karamo sees the love, and I’m so happy he helped them. The mother needs healing and deserves sympathy bc she likely did not know better putting herself in this situation, and the man is who is at fault for leaving them as well. It’s a very unfortunate situation and I hope this money lightened their burdens
This is a case of a mom who is mad because she can’t take care of her daughter. She feels so much shame that she can’t provide but has to much to pride. I wish she could realize that if it’s hard for her as an adult in the situation then it’s gotta be hard for her daughter going through it as well.
I don’t think she has too much pride at all, I mean, she’s literally breaking down on the air, explaining that she needs help, and that she doesn’t have it, and she’s financially strapped, she is wrong for the way she goes about her actions, but all I see is a young mother, who is financially strapped and trying to get her daughter to understand the situation she’s in. She’s going about it the wrong way.
@@melissabrower7722 she has to much pride when it comes to her daughter because she can’t breakdown or be vulnerable to her daughter and apologize to her for the situation and that it may be tuff/hard for to go through it. Instead she expects her daughter to suck it all up and just recognize and appreciate that she is doing the best she can…she needs to admit to her daughter that they are in a bad situation that is not fair to her and be more understanding on how it affects her daughter and then in return her daughter will also show empathy for how the situation is taking a toll on her mom and they can learn to get through it together. By making her daughter feel like she doesn’t have a reason to be upset is just pushing her away. She can admit to the whole world that everything is wrong but that means nothing if you cant admit it to your own daughter and apologize to her for it. She wants sympathy from everyone else but won’t give none to her daughter.
The daughter didn't ask to be born. Kids needs stability moving here and there is tough on children too. Poverty is the main issue, but the mom has to not take it out on her daughter.
@@misspr33tyf33tI’m sorry but she is a child. Her actions and behavior are a product of how her mom raised her. Clearly mom is in over her head and taking it out on her young daughter. The cycle continues..
That mother needs therapy. I’m a single mom of two and I’m barely managing but I can’t deflect my own pain and endurance on my children. That’s cowardly, weak and manipulative.
This mom needs help. I'm seeing way too many comments judging this woman. The fact is if the mom wasn't there, no one would be there to even entertain this child's behavior.
I like that both of them were honest and transparent with Karamo and the audience. The daughter was clueless on what her Mom was dealing with and why she was frustrated "yelling" as she puts it. Effective communication was missing which could help both of them work together cohesively. Now, that they are able to understand each other perspective and receive Karamo assistance, hoping they can move forward and progress along their life journey together. Thankful they came on the show. May God heal all wounds and give them peace, financial resources including debt removal and sound mind.
None of it is excusable, though. She knows she's hurting her child emotionally and mentally. She wants her to behave, but she's not modeling that behavior. This kind of behavior is all the child's been exposed to.
I don't agree that the daughter does not understand what her mother goes through. She has lived the same life as her for years. What I think she does not understand is why her mother speeks to her with such disrespect when she does nothing wild. She does not understand why her mother would treat her like that. And she would be right to not understand because it is not acceptable behavior.
As someone with CPS experience I actually believe the child!! The mom has shown the world that she lacks accountability, emotionally mentally, and financially! She is abusive to her child, who is no where near what I’ve experienced in what is considered a problematic child! This child has been exposed to a very poor quality of life, meaning food, water, and shelter to include the lack of sustainable parenting! She has a right to be angry! She doesn’t need a dentition center, she needs stable parents with the emotional intelligence to help her thrive in life! Parents have to realize that provision does not equate to parenting!! It is your responsibility as a parent to provide an emotionally and physically safe space for your children. It is not their burden to carry or to consider what it cost YOU, and how hard it is for YOU as their parent! While it’s nice to have children who are considerate, parents must understand that it is still their responsibility! Stop placing the burdens of life on the shoulders of your children expecting them to carry what you can’t even carry yourself! Your child is not your partner or your helpmate! Out of the heart the mouth speaks… that mother does not love her child she sees her as a burden not a blessing. People’s view of you is based on where they have place you in their heart! We must teach our youth the importance of guarding their hearts as well!
I think it's just hard sometimes when your struggling to be gentle with your children not saying it's right but that's how my mom was and tho I hated I understand where it comes from. You gotta be tough when you're a single mom. Sometimes you end up being a little too tough. And it gets turned on you kids
@@KingofUnpopularOpinion I grew up with a single mom as well, and in my own healing journey I had to address what she failed to! What parents fail to address today their children will deal with tomorrow. People/parents need to be intentional with their healing so that they won’t continue to wound the next generation, and perpetuate at the cycle of abuse and brokenness!
My heart hurts for the daughter 💔 i can see the hurt in her eyes from the things her mother says to her & about her & by the way she acts. I hope they can both overcome this & become closer & have a loving relationship.
Me & my mom are in a very similar situation right now. As i'm typing this, we're sharing a bed, renting a room in her own boss's home. She's on the other side of the bed while tears are running down my face. I understand both of their perspectives, and I feel for them.
My heart goes out to you, I pray you heal and let go of all trauma you may be going through right now. Blessings to both you and you mother, I wish you the best in life. 💕
Karamo is a real one for helping that lady out !!! That was so sweet. I can see the stress lifting up off of her. I hope her and her daughter develop a better relationship !
The cycle of poverty 😣 Mama is going THROUGH IT … but she has the luxury of understanding the situation, the daughter does not. Her daughter is a child. Praying for their well-being, and healing.
The mom is the issue, screaming for no reason, interrupting her daughter when she’s trying to tell her part of the story, calling her daughter a bitch, telling she’d be better as a boy.. like wtf? In her mind she’s doing the best but she’s mentally unstable, she doesn’t realise how she deals with stuff is toxic and negatively impacting her daughter.
I feel so bad for the daughter , like I know her mom might not have a lot of money but at the end of the day she’s still a teenager so it’s only natural that she’s going to want to fit in & want clothes, shoes , hair , etc. at that age. I’m 15 years old coming from a less wealthy household & I don’t think our parents don’t realize how badly we want to be heard even if we can lash out because we want to make the most of our teenage years. I can see how it might be confusing that we can act that way but at the same time we need to feel loved and supported.
This episode is so mentally draining. I can’t imagine how the daughter must feel. Again like everyone had said, this is why it’s important to not only have financial stability but also mental stability. Both does go hand in hand but does the mom realize how she is? Her daughter is a reflection of her. I genuinely feel bad for the daughter.
watching him makes me want to be a counselor cuz what the actual problem is that parents don’t realize that their children are people with real emotions & deal with real life things & they are also children so they depend on their parents for that emotional support & when they don’t receive it that’s when they act bad & lash out then they are the bad ones .
I worked in healthcare for a loooong time. We really need more black therapist. People feel so much more comfortable with someone who looks like them. If you have the passion and the ability, we need you.
True I'm learning. As a single parent, I emphasize with the mother but I also emphasize with the daughter. Yes it is tough being a single mother but we have to also realize that our kids are real human beings as you said and they do have feelings. I'm learning that kids will lash out and we have to learn to understand them too
I have a mom similar or worse than this and trust me it isn’t easy. I need a lot of healing, it affects my life so much and I still live with this woman..
I see why this little girl is acting out. Look at how the mother is acting. If somebody spoke to me like that everyday, I would be angry too. She is ranting about her own financial issues. That is not your child’s problem. And to not be able to answer whether she regrets having a daughter was so sad to hear. I feel for her daughter.
I mean... if you are purposefully doing things to make life harder for your mother, KNOWING she has financial issues. I.E: Getting her arrested because YOU decided "I don't want to go to school for 20+ days"... Then it is definitely the child's problem as well.
@@ProphetMisfit09how do you expect a child to act if her only example is a mother like that. Take accountability for being a shitty parent. Children are sponges
@ProphetMisfit09 she doesn't want to be teased and picked on..her mom got friends someone should have been able to help her daughter with her hair ..she created the issues
This generation of parents love the saying “Do as I say and not as I do” but as children we watch and we repeat what we see. I have no idea how parents can act a certain way and expect for their offspring to be the opposite. If mama wants to see some change she needs to start with herself. Other than that, that girl will continue to spiral or completely cut her mom out her life forever. And even if they do make up, there will be resentment there forever.
@@chillwithme9727 I don't deny the fact that her behavior is largely because of the mother, yes. However, when she reached the age that she is at that very moment, she should be at least aware "hey, we're really only holding on by a string right now. I can try to lessen that weight by just going to school." That's really only it, going to school to keep things afloat and avoid them going back to having to live in a shelter. I get it, kids are cruel, no one wants to go to school with undid hair. And this generation has most kids going with wig installs and 200+ dollar braids, so it is embarrassing. But having undone hair that doesn't meet the standards of others is not a reason to skip 20/30+ days of school, like... come on now.
I went through this exact thing with my mom a while back, every-time i’d leave the room i’d get yelled at and when I stayed I would get yelled at. Her mother is putting out her frustration on her child, and the child is mirroring her behaviour. Its a horrible loop.
I cried. As a mother of 5 and father not paying child support I been there. My kids are all grown and still hold some resent me towards me because we were poor. All are doing well but poverty left a deep hurt on them. This family will make it through. They may have scars but they will come through.
Speak the truth 👏. Black people have too many kids and the kids have to suffer in poverty. If you can't support kids on your own don't bring them into the world to struggle. Kids need more than food and shelter. They need a strong family base. Too many have a bunch of kids to stay on welfare. If you have 1 kid and go on welfare then you should lose those benefits if you decide to have more kids. You need Financial stability before you start a family.
That young lady is frustrated because life has been difficult and mama is tired. I’ve been on both sides of the aisle and does get better. Mama please don’t give up on your baby girl because it will get better. Y’all are all you guys have.
This hit home 🥹🤧 my mom and her brother, whom she admittedly does not like and who abused me held me down on a dinning room chair at 16 and cut my hair because I was acting out. Another time she hunted me down to my great grandmother's house and beat me with a sock full of rocks in front of the whole neighborhood, she'd call the police on me and have me put in a detention center. As a young child my twin and myself were taken away and placed with family for a while due to her abuse. It did not stop after being returned to her. I am 36 now and I've gone completely no contact with her. My siblings and I's relationship exception of my twin is none existant. There is no accountability for her actions no remorse only blame. I pray they heal this NOW.
This episode was so sad and good at the same time. It’s obvious that the mother is feeling stressed on multiple sides. I love Keramo’s solution because it directly targets the underlying source of the friction in their relationship: poverty and the ensuing lack of stability in their lives. 😐
A typical parent who thinks it’s their child’s responsibility to help them when it’s not. Saddest part about this is that mom does not even realize that she is the problem. I really just wanted Karamo to tell her, because their relationship is not going to get better until she realizes that she is not a good parent. All of your issues are rooted in you being irresponsible, and instead of doing better you expect your child to swoop in and save the day. That’s delusional. She needs therapy and life skills. That’s only thing that will help them.
If you and your child fell into a pit, would you expect for your child to sit there and do nothing as you struggled to get you guys out? Or would you expect for them to help in getting you guys out of the pit? And how would you react if your child kept pulling you down every time you got a foot up? *It's easy* when you're not in this situation *to judge someone who is.* No one perfectly executes when they are this stressed. There are some things that the both of them can do better, but they are obviously in a pit. When you are this desperate, you don't have the time to worry about niceties, when you don't know if you will survive the situation you are in. There's a cycle here where you see a woman who was, more than likely, raised by a single mom *(with no support),* who's now trying to raise her own child as a single mom with no support. There are some emotional and communicative tools that she probably was never given. We take for granted that our parents instilled those in us, and we judge others who don't have them as if those were things that came naturally from us. But one thing you can't deny, is that *this woman absolutely loves her child.* And she is desperately trying to save her life.
@@janepatton8100 if I fell into a pit with my child it would 100% be my responsibility to keep my composure, stay calm and do everything in my power to get us out of the pit. I have more experience and life skills than my child. So yes I would consider it my responsibility as the adult and parent to assess the situation and come up with a solution. I would expect for my child to depend on me and my ability to remain calm under duress and stress. I would expect for my child to depend on my survival skills. My statement wasn’t judgement it’s just true. She lacks some necessary life skills. She needs to seek professional help to learn and develop those skills. Her child cannot help her be a better parent and adult, and that’s what she’s asking her to do. The child doesn’t have the knowledge or the skills. She is literally asking her child to accomplish the impossible, and due to the stress that she is putting on her child the child is doing what she does know how to do and that is not going to save her child. If she wants to save her child she needs to make herself a more dependable parent and create a less stressful environment for her child.
So its the childs responsibility to fix the problems created by the parent? Thats the most assbackwarda explanation ive ever read. If you think this way and you uave children they must hate you. No child should suffer through a parent like this ever. And parents like this should be imprisoned for ruining their childs life and guaranteeing them a life of hardship. If you dont think this girls ideals and morals arent directly connected to her mothers idiocy then your a fool.@janepatton8100
Lordt 😭. As a mom of two teen daughters I completely understand some of what the mom is going through. The problem i see here is poverty and I’m happy Karamo is doing something beneficial for them. Hopefully this will give them the chance to be able to relax a bit and grow closer.
Black moms raise they daughters and love their sons. That’s the difference. Y’all are hard and millitant with the girls but will allow the boys to run the streets free then cry when your son get 🔫 by the police
@@ShawnteAmoureshe has nothing and no support system, it’s her doing everything on her own, all she has is her daughter and that can be frustrating when the only one you have has a strained relationship with you. The comments attacking the mom for calling her a “bitch” which she was wrong for but I see through it. That’s anger and frustration and I wish that wasn’t the main focus and take away from all this.
This episode brought tears to my eyes! 😭 The mother's really struggling, panicking about how to cope with her situation, which had made her act irrationality. Her daughter is also going through her own changes. The combination is explosive! I pray that they work it out. They seem to genuinely love each other. Their circumstances makes it hard to express 😢
The way this mom talks I ask myself if the daughter is really guilty or try to fight the worst leaving situation because she's very calm and melting my heart
Children ruin your life while also giving a lost person direction. Be homeless selling your body or have a kid get a 18 year government provided safety net that while holding you up also holds you back. So many females in my life had kids at 16-18 to find someone to love them either the child or child's father.
I can relate to this story personally. I use to give my mom hell. This brought me to literal tears , because it was at one point my mom didn’t know what to do with me, and you could tell she was losing hope , but what I am thankful for is that she didn’t give up on me. She kept fighting for me to become the best version of myself. Frustrated and feeling defeated. my mom was a single mother of 4 kids. When I say I am so damn thankful that she hadn’t given up on me, because lord knows wheee I’d be. Nd I was a HOT mess. Thank you karamo for this episode. This one hit home
Thank you for sharing the other side of this. So many ppl on this thread are mom-shaming, but sometimes kids are bad, or at least act out. I'm glad yall found yall way. ❤❤
@@deshawnbrown986 yes , absolutely. I acted out of emotion. My mom had another child and at first I was excited for it , but then I became jealous. Of course babies need more attention , and my mom did the best she could do with 4 of us all together ; however I acted out in anger and disobedience rather than just telling her I wanted to spend more time with her. I wanted to put this perspective out there more , because parents are humans too. They feel just like we do. Frustration is 100% going to happen it almost cannot be avoided ; the fact she took accountability and even stated she just wants the best for her child really stood out to me. In my bad behavioral days I didn’t understand why my mom wanted to give me that discipline in respect , and having goals , morals or values but I do today. Now I work for the state. I have my own family , and I am the better version of myself that she wants for me! Praying for this mother and daughter because sometimes all it takes is communication
It’s sad that people really think boys don’t require the same security/attention, & are so much more “low maintenance.” Didn’t care for that statement too much amongst other things
Hard times are real but mom needs to get it together saying she wishes she was a boy and calling her bitches getting evicted living in shelters will damage any child regardless of gender
Gtfohwtbs. There literally are books, manuels and classes ran by psychologists and experts with decades of knowledge. Some stuff is everyday common sense. This mother's behavior is unacceptable.
karamo helping financially is going to change their lives. you can so easily become a product of your environment and i understand being a single mother especially a struggling one like this is beyond tiring stressful and depressing and they need help! with this step they can then work on their communication skills especially the mother.
I'm in tears ...for so very long I've been drowning struggling and this moment was so beautiful thank you Karamo ! I honestly was giving up but this spark of kindness and love is what the world needs
My heart breaks for the stuff that baby had to hear her mother say…maybe it’s cause I was taken from my birth mom, dealt with poverty as a kid. She’s a child at the end of the day she deserves an apology and I’m upset the mom wasn’t made aware that a lot of what she said and did was wrong.
That's the excuse a lot of these kids use to justify what they doing. Child this child that. They out there carjacking, robbing, killing, commiting adult crimes, etc. Then it's oh I'm a child. I'm a minor. Blahhhhh
Karamo you’re above any of them other shows you actually help them people that needs it, you spiritually break their generational karmas and help them find way to solve problems in which to help heal their relationships! May you keep uplifting the one who does wrong but wants to do better, you a healer 🙌🏽🔥🔥🔥
As soon as the mom said that they were living in a shelter and no father, I instantly understood why the daughter acts the way she does. She’s angry and I would be too… it doesn’t help that the mother treats her like a burden and talks to her like she’s trash off the street either.
It's so touching , poverty is like a demon thank God for this man with a father's heart helping them out to save this poor girl, you can see she's not really a bad child she just hates the situation
This makes me cry, your mom struggling but she still by your side, she don’t get it all right as she her self may not have not have strong support and know how to express the love she wants to but you have a good mom, I pray you guys will be financially stable one day and you young lady be one successful.
I definitely feel for the mom and daughter in this situation. I've had this same exact thing happen to me as a child. My mom having me as a child herself, her feeling frustrated with me because as the eldest she always placed adult responsibilities on me as a child raising me as a single mom, absentee father, us facing abuse from my ex-stepfather and going through the trauma of my parents fight as well as the tragic aftermath of their divorce, having gone homeless with my mom and siblings after the divorce and becoming depressed, growing up in poverty, homeless shelters and living with other people. I am 19 now in present day and my mom is still struggling to keep our housing situation stable with the bills, while I am trying to save and move out, even though I help her with bills but because of her past mistakes it still affects us now and my money is not enough. The daughter's misbehavior is definitely making the mom frustrated especially with the fact she had to go to jail and spend the little money she had to get out. I think the daughter wasn't going to school because she was depressed and coping with a lot of unaddressed trauma. This whole episode just shows why it is so important to make sure you're financially stable and have a backup plan before you have kids.
the daughter has been shut down by the mothers and her behavior & her words.. that was very noticeable .. she doesn’t think to talk about it cs she’s thinking “why should i” and the mother has had a hard life, tryna make it work but had took things out on her daughter and made her act out, she doesn’t wanna be where she’s at .. both deserve apologies
This one broke me....I can totally relate to the struggle she has being a single parent trying to keep her head above water... just to hearing her cry with everything she is dealing with ,she is literally drowning and I'm glad you gave her a platform to express herself...but I'm not ignoring the way they both come at each other that definitely could have been handled differently... Karamo you have no idea how much of a weight you just took off her shoulders!!!!.... I wish them all the best with their relationship because all they have is each other.
Same. All I saw was me and my daughter. And me and mother. My mother is a lost cause . But my daughter idc how mad she ever get at me , I will never leave her side. Same goes for my son.
This mum is so genuine first of all❤ and if she ever goes through the comments i hope she sees this, i dont think the daughter is the issue either. I just think her been loud and fast with words is her character and that many may mistaken it for been ridiculously crazy, first of all i saw the love she has on her daughter , through struggling with her in a shelter and together, and the fact that she even acknowledged where the daughter is telling the truth and when she started cursing she didn't pretend, she told the whole truth for how it is between them, her crying too shows that she carries her daughter in heart despite the hardships they are going through. I hope she can see this comment, because as a single mum we all have to realize that moments as such with our kids have happened and the only difference is that we maybe overcame on time or had someone to hold us through it. Also i think she's really genuine otherwise she would have started acting up immediately on set as if she never treats her daughter that way. May she find healing and together reunite as a family. That's what God wants for all of us, she also has a beautiful daughter❤ and the enemy comes to create division in all ways , i really liked this show of this two cause they brought the world on set. And in truth the mum looks as if she wants help that's why she came on show. If you read this , May you have so much healing and peace❤ and may you someday realise you were caught in a situation where you seemed had bad parenting and also bad and you are not, let's not forget they are women who don't curse and yell but have left their daughters out and sold them to men or had them raped by the men they took in their lives. Go lady❤ get all the help needed and bounce back someday , it's all good..
Yes ! This is her only child and you can tell the mother loves her daughter so much that’s why she keeps a tight leash on her . But she has to get over that anger . Maybe that’s how her mother talked to her . I always said I wouldn’t be like my mother and I literally find myself saying and acting just like my mother did 😂😂😂
Because of you and your generousity, these two will hopefully be able to heal their relationship. The mother won’t stress anymore and hopefully will treat her daughter better and in turn, the daughter will respect her mother. God bless you Karamo.
I agree with the host 1000%, and my heart is aching for the mother and the daughter, because I’ve been there with my daughter. I can honestly say just like this young lady, my daughter isn’t a terrible daughter. She’s actually the best thing that happened to me, but it’s her mouth. It’s just hard trying to maintain life and making sure she doesn’t make the biggest mistake that she’ll regret for the rest of her life during her rebellion years.
The problem with mothers like you, is yalls mouths. You wanna say every h8'ful, damaging, painful, degrading thing you can think of, then have the nerve to be shocked when you start getting that same mouth back. You can dish it but you can't take it. No child deserves to be the punching bag to an out of control parent.
i wish we could see how they’re doing with all these changes to their life… finally feeling some relief has gotta have made a positive impact on their relationship. i wish them the very best.
Man, the amount of people downing this woman is crazy. She sounds like she is doing the best she can with what she has and knows. It seems like this family needs a hand. Some people aren't as bless as others to have a hand. But trauma breeds more trauma. They both need help financially and psychologically.
Nobody is downing her. It's the fact that she is trying to blame this baby for acting just like her towards her. She say. Because the lil gurl calm and collect. This woman is literally putting generational curses on her baby girl. Passing her trauma. We all watched our parents struggle and scream at us their frustrations, why keep it goin???? She was not fit to have a baby and shld not have as most young blk mothers are not fit mentally and emotionally for it.
Look how she's acting on the show. You can clearly see she is the problem. She doesn't realize her own trauma and she's installing the same trauma on her child.
well she did call her daughter a bch and admitted to regretting having a child then made it worse by saying she was better off being a guy then made It worse by interrupting her and pretty much laying all of her business out there.
The mom needs to chill out! With that attitude I won’t feel comfortable even talk to her as a daughter ! The mother needs to heal ! I feel bad for her daughter to struggle with a mom like that
There are so many damaged people out here trying to raise a person who is not damaged. This hurt my heart....mom is so angry but she's taking it out on her child. I can imagine they are not that far apart in age...this reminds me of the girls I work with (and have for the past 27 years) in foster care. I really pray for understanding and peace for both of them!
We are in a generation where children's are strong mentally n emotionally that parents,children are mature than parents,childrens are going through alot in hands of their parents.
The way the daughter is looking at her while she’s talking, you see she’s been hurt by the words but now she’s numb. Her daughter is gorgeous. I love this episode!
Very beautiful girl
That’s not the point 😢the mother is really hurting 😢beautiful or not she is wrong
@@idowueniola17that is the point though? So let's just ignore how the daughter feels and let's pity the parents who have forced their children into this predicament?
@@idowueniola17 a child is not more wrong than this immature grown woman. How do you expect a child to understand what an adult can barely even? The mother is immature emotionally, she putting those emotions on that gurl in ways not meant for a child from a mother. Just bcuz so many blk mothers are like this don't mean it's rite. We have to break the cycle of screaming to our kids the same things our parents screamed to us. We have to stop having kids as kids, and then blaming the kids for our faults. Alota yal parents dead wrong.
They both hurt 💀
If the mom acts like that in public on tv, I can only imagine how she speaks to her and treats her behind closed doors. Sad. I hope they can find healing.
Girl please. You obviously have 0 understanding. You can take your whites only pie some where else cause we ain't eating that crap over here. You don't KNOW or can even comprehend what this woman life is like. So quit trying to judge a situation you can't even read the Blueprint to.
Frrrr so sad
Give her some grace damn
Chile forgive me!!! I just watched it through nahhhhh
@@Moimen._ Nah is my exact reaction! 😂
The way the mom keeps cutting the daughter off getting mad when she talks lets you know how the mother really acts.
This mother is basically showing us she is the problem here not the child 😢😢😢😢tho this is sooo abuse
That is a overwhelmed mother. Stretched beyond her means. Poverty and stress and limited options does that. She has a good daughter and with the help he is providing for them. They will be alright.
How ? 💀💀
Romans 10:9 If you declare with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
@@Kimora-tg5fqlack of emotional intelligence, self awareness, and self control
This is a prime example of why it is important to be financially and emotionally stable before having children. Your burdens should never be your child’s burdens.
Fax this mother is stressed and it becomes her child's problem having to live around it. This life is hard
Very true. Money has been tight for me most of my life and I was one of those kids paying bills at home from summer jobs. My single Mom always struggled financially and was emotionally detached due to childhood trauma. Even at age 46 and child free, I couldn't imagine bringing a child into this world today. Everything is too darn expensive. Being financially strapped is very stressful. Really wears you down.
Y’all can’t blame the mom if the child ain’t making it better also go to school n ya mom wouldn’t had to move if y’all had a good home regardless if ya like the state u was in she had a home n lost it going to jail because the daughter didn’t go to school over some hair she could of did a natural style n call it a day no excuses to miss that many days of school for hair knowing it out ya mom n jail n ya lose everything again over ya attitude
Problem is most of the country is living check to check. You can be financially stable one moment and loose everything the next. Honestly, money is so unpredictable. The pandemic was a prime example of this.
This is why abortions should be an option everywhere and free. She didn’t even have the money for $100 sum rent so clearly she couldn’t afford to have an abortion and she had no one to help her so she had no choice. Ppl think that even if a parent isn’t financially or mentally stable they should still have a child which i cant wrap my head around bc how are they supposed to provide and nurture the child
Respect goes both ways. The way the mom talked to her daughter is teaching her how to communicate with others. It's a generational curse that needs to be broken. Your children will be a reflection of what they see.
Definitely does. You have to respect your children in order for them to respect you, it’s alot of parents who don’t realize it until it’s late
Respect was given by the mother from infancy period. This girl wasn't in system. In and out of foster homes and shit. Yall will make a million excuses.
exactly and ima say this, there’s a difference between respect and doing that bare minimum. a lot of parents give the BARE MINIMUM. the bare minimum is never enough for nothing, you would never want the bare minimum for anything especially caring for your children, you’re supposed to care for them, make sure they have a roof over their head and make sure the stay out of the system…ok. but what else? give them respect, hear their emotions and make sure that they are actually heard, that’s above the bare minimum, something a lot people fail to realize or do so then that kid will begin to…LASH OUT, hurt people hurt people.
@@panafricanismstrikesback This is not a debate. I said what I said. 🤷🏽♀️
@@panafricanismstrikesbacki so agree. my mom was disrespectful as hell. i decided that that i wouldn’t be like that with my children. i wasn’t and they are very respectful
what wrenched my stomach was when she had to think to answer if she regretted having her daughter and having a son would’ve been better is crazy.
Idk why she think a son would be better
I see what she meant. The risk of what can go wrong for a girl out in the streets are on a whole other level. She even mentioned that a boy isn't as high risk when he leaves the house at random but a girl is in a constant state of vulnerability because so much could go wrong.
@@cela9852 💯
@@cela9852 Okay but she’s acting like boys can’t be endangered when going out alone either, theres high chances for things to go wrong and a boy goes out alone especially at night aswell and she’s saying as if she wouldn’t worry when she should worry no matter what gender.
@@amiretsiit does go both ways, but statistically speaking, females do have a higher rate of being murdered.
Her true character fully showed up as SOON as her daughter came out. How do parents expect anything more from their children than what they GIVE them smh sad
Yep Yep 💯
No fr and I saw like one of two comments agreeing with the mother.. I truly feel bad for the teenager because she basically doing teenager stuff you know I don’t even think the mother should’ve went on the show if she knew that she was in the wrong 👎🏿👎🏿
Y’all need help. Y’all did forget why they were on the show. The mother is hurt stop trynna blame the damn mom
@@Kimora-tg5fqshe’s using that hurt as a way to justify the treatment to her daughter though. It doesn’t make that acceptable
She is acting out because her life is hard right now. This baby just needs stability and a home. Being homeless and in a shelter as a teenager 😢. I pray God graces her with peace and opportunities 🙏🏾.
I don’t GAF how hard life is! You don’t buck up to your parent! Nope! No ma’am!
@@rickiericktv3320I hope you don't ever have kids if that's the mindset you have
@@ZionDoesMakeup!
@@ZionDoesMakeup raised 7 and 6 graduated HS 1 graduated with his associate degree! Because I said no child of mine would buck up to me, because I demand my respect as their parent? Wow! That’s why kids act the way they do! Y’all trying to be their friends and not their parent!
@@rickiericktv3320💯💯💯💯
The mom is RIDICULOUSLY TRAUMATIZED and taking it out on her daughter
The mom just has so much anger inside her because of the situations she and her daughter are going through and I get that, but as a parent, you NEVER should take your anger out on your OWN kid, because THAT is exactly how your child becomes TRAUMATIZED for life
I don't support how the mother handles things, that goes without saying but I also understand that the "should have" language comes from people who don't know what it truly feels like to drown everyday...every single day. Not a hard period in your life, a decades long battle starting from birth. Not an excuse for the mother just an acknowledgement that telling her what she should be doing while she is quite literally fighting for their lives is unproductive. She needs support FIRST and then conversations about how she can be a more empathetic and emotionally regulated mother. Survive and then thrive.
She was dancing ready to hit her and was screaming
she really needs to work on herself and do better. the way she goes about life in general is damaging. her communication skills aren’t built to mindfully raise a child with wisdom and patience. i can guarantee you ppl when you raise a child mindfully every step of the way they will have respect and dignity and peace.
Yes but now they can both heal together
Ya its not easy for both of them and they need to give each other a break..The kid don't look like a bad kid, mom also looks tired and emotional drained bad combination hope mom gets help so that she can help her daughter be the kid 😉 she wants to be.
When the mom admitted to calling her daughter a bitch my jaw dropped, that is HORRIBLE. That explains why the daughter talks the way she does, shes hurt from a young age and shes a child, she doesnt know how to communicate properly yet. The mom doesnt even let her speak her perspective which is awful, she doesnt have a chance to vent and explain her pain. Poor little girl man, this breaks my heart sooo much.
So white
@langa.888 actually not. I could never fathom calling my daughter a "b" constantly and consistently. The one person in life that you're supposed to be able to depend on to build you up is the very same person that's tearing you down over and over again. I do not condone disrespect by a child to any adults but this so-called mother is an embarrassment and a shame to motherhood. My question is where is her father especially if he sees her being treated like this he needs to man up and come get his daughter my heart breaks for this child. She can't win with this lady. Damned if she do damned if she don't. So I don't see this as a white response. I pray mother gets some help too.
@@langa.888🙄
I have three daughters 26, 21 and 15. I vowed to myself that no matter how much they pissed me off that I would never call either of them out of their names...and I never have.
I told my mom I can vividly remember the first time she called me a bitch and she said I must be making it up. For them it’s just another day but for us children it’s a core foundational memory.
I loved how she said, “I want it to be back how it was” tells me she knows her mom has been there and trying hard for them. Sometime children feels like it’s there fault when parents are in a struggle and that can cause them to lash out.
The little girl is so sweet, so soft spoken I don't think she really means to be disrespectful to the mother, the mother is the one who pulls it out of her because she is having it hard and the girl is the closest person to her. I truly hope they can both rebuild their relationship and heal. I wish them nothing but the best. I know you don't know me, but I hope you see this, you are a beautiful girl Kailey, please rise up and break the cycle of poverty go to school and become great. LOVE.t
Exactly
I have been a hot head teenager before so I know all the tricks .....it's definitely more layers to her🤣🤣 but that doesn't negate the fact that the mother still should talk to her better and she does need to break the cycle....
@@misspr33tyf33t you could be right cause I also thought the same thing, but then again she had the same composure even when she was back stage, hence my conclusion.
@@misspr33tyf33tyou and her child isn't the same.. two completely different people going thru two completely different things
There’s a word for that. It’s called “Reactive Abuse”. I learned about it in psychology when I was trying to understand narcissistic abuse from the hands of my mother
The things she says to her daughter shouldn’t have went unnoticed
Thats what i thought
I agree totally.
Yea she was completely valid. Like Karamo said they both are. I’m glad they came on cuz it really is just a communication issue mixed with and unstable environment.
Facts
Mom mentioned CPS got on her case. Isn't that why they moved to another state?
I GET IT MA, you stress but you cannot take it out on this beautiful, respectful daughter!!😢❤
My father used to call me a bitch and it was and is still so hurtful today. To hear such hateful, sexist words from your own parent is a different type of pain. Not everyone should be parents. If you can’t respond to your child with love and kindness and respect, don’t become a parent.
I’m sorry, you’re not a dog. Your father can’t hold that in you
I never thought that an White Parent would do anything like that, But I'm sorry that this happened to you.
@@knightclassic1this is a stupid comment sorry . Abuse happens in black white brown and Asian communities 🙄
Did you act like one??
@@nisinisi4627 I was a child, so no. But this comment was pretty bitchy.
The mom is so damaged and doesn't even realize it.
Exactly!!!! In her mind, she's doing the best she can, but she doesn't understand how she deals with stuff is toxic and negatively impacting her daughter.
At least she is trying to save her daughter she is dealing with the hand she was dealt so stop judging her and offer some prayers
Yep, she’s riddled with trauma
Yes but the daughter isn’t the reason. There is addiction going on with the mom.
@awadiaby1673 stop trying so hard to tell someone off!!! Speaking a fact or making an observation is not judging her! No one said anything bad about the mother or daughter! The fact is mom is very damaged! You just want to tell someone off! You're giving miserable vibes with your comment
People with kind hearts like Karamo can really change the world
Mom is the problem. The daughter is mirroring the treatment she received by her mother. The mom probably had the same upbringing and mirrored that same parenting style she endured. The young girl needs stability and security. Her parents failed this young girl. The father not helping his daughter is wrong, but the mother's lack of stability, aggressive behavior, and overall chaotic nature is responsible for the behavior. They both need therapy. No parent should speak to their child like that in private nor in public. The daughter is reacting to her chaotic environment.
no she is not
@@sandramartez6472 how so?
@@sandramartez6472yes she is
@@sandramartez6472she legit is. If you’ve never had a parent like that, then shush.
@@sandramartez6472 girl yes she is the problem stop being in denial the mom need to listen to her daughter instead of keep talking over her, she has trauma she need to heal instead keep being mad at the daughter for messing up in life when she is just a fuckin kid
Mother is unstable. Evictions, jail, shelter, calling her daughter names etc... She is the one who decided to have a child with no stability what so ever. She's asking a lot from her daughter.
Right instead of getting her stuff together for both of them.
She going to jail because of her daughter missing school though right?
@@goeadexactly
Exactly !
@@goeadnah she didn’t actually
Never have I switched up empathising for anyone as fast as I did with the mom. I don’t wonder where she gets it from at all. She didn’t even let her finish a sentence.
If you and your child fell into a pit, would you expect for your child to sit there and do nothing as you struggled to get you guys out? Or would you expect for them to help in getting you guys out of the pit? And how would you react if your child kept pulling you down every time you got a foot up?
*It's easy* when you're not in this situation *to judge someone who is.* No one perfectly executes when they are this stressed. There are some things that the both of them can do better, but they are obviously in a pit.
When you are this desperate, you don't have the time to worry about niceties, when you don't know if you will survive the situation you are in.
There's a cycle here where you see a woman who was, more than likely, raised by a single mom *(with no support),* who's now trying to raise her own child as a single mom with no support.
There are some emotional and communicative tools that she probably was never given. We take for granted that our parents instilled those in us, and we judge others who don't have them as if those were things that came naturally from us. But one thing you can't deny, is that *this woman absolutely loves her child.* And she is desperately trying to save her life.
@@janepatton8100 We found the child abuser her. You really think you own kid who you put in the world, who never asked to be born, has to deal with YOUR shit? Then you traumatize the child who starts to act badly due to it and what you do? Beat the child, scream at her with swearings, etc. Wow great mom! People like you say "aw don't judge the mom" but go with all force to judge the child who has to pay for the parents mistakes. Loving has nothing to do with abuse ffs
@@janepatton8100 you think just like her and that’s the problem
@@itsomarsopinion
Most people in our community think like you... And that's really the problem.
@@janepatton8100 I think if most people think like me it would make sense your the problem
the mother is on edge, while the daughter is so calm
Mom knows at any time they could be without anything. Daughter has not had enough experience and responsibilities to understand the extent of what could happen. She could have made them lose their spot at the shelter and her mom had to go to jail behind her. And probably still expects hair done and new clothes. Mom is afraid of losing everything including her kid and in the process was about to lose her mind.
This comment makes no sense. Why would the daughter be in edge? Does she know how the bills are paid???
Still not a reason to call her the b word. That’s verbal abuse
The mother is obviously stressed which is okay, but not only she can’t get a hold of herself, she’s taking it out on her daughter in a very abusive way. Yelling and cursing won’t pay the bills or set that child straight. Child who is sadly so calm because she’s emotionally checked out from her mother freaking out about responsibilities she obviously struggles with
Nowhere in my reply to your comment did I say that she calling her daughter the best word was ok. If I did please point it out to me. What I said is that your comment is nonsensical because you are making a contrast between the two and their demeanor, where one is the sole provider (the mother) of the household and knows she is drowning, while the other one is taken care of (the child) and has no worries in the world meaning she doesn't have to wonder or figure out how to put meals on the table, pay the rent, pay gas, pay light, buy supplies etc. Ofcourse the one who is of the knowledge of all this will be on edge. Why would the damn child be on edge?
I really wish he touched on how she talks to her daughter. I feel as though I resonated with this girl on such a deeper level. I was her. Same demeanor, same speech, same pain. As someone who’s been in the other side of an emotionally immature mother and is finally getting the relationship I’ve always wanted with my mom I can tell you now that stuff leaves lasting scars on a child.. respect goes both ways. You can’t expect your child to respect you if you don’t do the same. It’s not “what I say goes” because your child has a spirit and opinions just like you
She's underage who else gon look out for her dumb@ss? If she already wasn't in a good situation how acting by herself would make it better? Y'all complaining cause she doing her mom role but what she supposed to do?
Demanding respect from someone you refuse to respect is crazy .....
@@nevaehkalise9921 true
They’re going through a rough time. Stability is so important for kids. Especially at that age. I hope they push through this rough patch and grow together.
Nah the girl is a problem
@@gemz2894She’s a problem bcuz of the environment that she’s living in. And her mother is the one who created that environment. So, therefor the mother is the source of the problems.
I feel so sorry for that little girl. You can tell she’s not really a bad child. The mother is horrible. She’s taking her failures and frustration out on that child.
Yes
Exactly
I believe the mom & child. And they better fix it fast !
That moms is literally at her breaking point. She is going through it and she feels like her daughter is against her too. That’s why she is acting that way. Unless you are a single mom with ZERO support and have went through it you will never understands it ABSOLUTELY doesn’t condone how she is treating her daughter, but attacking her is NOT gonna fix this
Imagine raising 5 or more kids though, I feel like she should never burden her daughter and I also feel the daughter most definitely should reap her Mom always. The Mom calling her day a bitch is so low. But I do hope they’re move past this and get back in the relationship that they were in.
Seeing her breakdown was so sad, you can tell she’s been waiting, and filling up with those feelings .. bless her
So true this lady is completely open and genuine❤ may they find all the help they need ,
I agree. They both are struggling and don’t see each others point of view. But karamo sees the love, and I’m so happy he helped them. The mother needs healing and deserves sympathy bc she likely did not know better putting herself in this situation, and the man is who is at fault for leaving them as well. It’s a very unfortunate situation and I hope this money lightened their burdens
This is a case of a mom who is mad because she can’t take care of her daughter. She feels so much shame that she can’t provide but has to much to pride. I wish she could realize that if it’s hard for her as an adult in the situation then it’s gotta be hard for her daughter going through it as well.
you worded this perfectly!
I don’t think she has too much pride at all, I mean, she’s literally breaking down on the air, explaining that she needs help, and that she doesn’t have it, and she’s financially strapped, she is wrong for the way she goes about her actions, but all I see is a young mother, who is financially strapped and trying to get her daughter to understand the situation she’s in. She’s going about it the wrong way.
@@melissabrower7722 she has to much pride when it comes to her daughter because she can’t breakdown or be vulnerable to her daughter and apologize to her for the situation and that it may be tuff/hard for to go through it. Instead she expects her daughter to suck it all up and just recognize and appreciate that she is doing the best she can…she needs to admit to her daughter that they are in a bad situation that is not fair to her and be more understanding on how it affects her daughter and then in return her daughter will also show empathy for how the situation is taking a toll on her mom and they can learn to get through it together. By making her daughter feel like she doesn’t have a reason to be upset is just pushing her away. She can admit to the whole world that everything is wrong but that means nothing if you cant admit it to your own daughter and apologize to her for it.
She wants sympathy from everyone else but won’t give none to her daughter.
Yup … so angry .. cutting her off.. all on edge … terrible angry mom that needs to know accountability
The daughter didn't ask to be born. Kids needs stability moving here and there is tough on children too. Poverty is the main issue, but the mom has to not take it out on her daughter.
I believe it's both of them
@@misspr33tyf33tI’m sorry but she is a child. Her actions and behavior are a product of how her mom raised her. Clearly mom is in over her head and taking it out on her young daughter. The cycle continues..
That mother needs therapy. I’m a single mom of two and I’m barely managing but I can’t deflect my own pain and endurance on my children. That’s cowardly, weak and manipulative.
Yes, she does and baby girl needs some act right because if she were mine......ok I'll stop there
@@sonnasmith8253 she got it all from her mother
At a certain age kids need to be held accountable for their actions as well
If you don't say it louder for the people in the back!!! 💯 Children do not ask to be here.
This was a great episode. I completely understand both perspectives and Karamo offering them the money was absolutely amazing
This mom needs help. I'm seeing way too many comments judging this woman. The fact is if the mom wasn't there, no one would be there to even entertain this child's behavior.
I like that both of them were honest and transparent with Karamo and the audience. The daughter was clueless on what her Mom was dealing with and why she was frustrated "yelling" as she puts it. Effective communication was missing which could help both of them work together cohesively. Now, that they are able to understand each other perspective and receive Karamo assistance, hoping they can move forward and progress along their life journey together. Thankful they came on the show. May God heal all wounds and give them peace, financial resources including debt removal and sound mind.
Out of all these messages this one makes the sense the most!
None of it is excusable, though. She knows she's hurting her child emotionally and mentally. She wants her to behave, but she's not modeling that behavior. This kind of behavior is all the child's been exposed to.
This is it! This is the comment I agree 1000%
I don't agree that the daughter does not understand what her mother goes through. She has lived the same life as her for years. What I think she does not understand is why her mother speeks to her with such disrespect when she does nothing wild. She does not understand why her mother would treat her like that. And she would be right to not understand because it is not acceptable behavior.
You made the most sensible comment among all
As someone with CPS experience I actually believe the child!! The mom has shown the world that she lacks accountability, emotionally mentally, and financially! She is abusive to her child, who is no where near what I’ve experienced in what is considered a problematic child! This child has been exposed to a very poor quality of life, meaning food, water, and shelter to include the lack of sustainable parenting! She has a right to be angry! She doesn’t need a dentition center, she needs stable parents with the emotional intelligence to help her thrive in life! Parents have to realize that provision does not equate to parenting!! It is your responsibility as a parent to provide an emotionally and physically safe space for your children. It is not their burden to carry or to consider what it cost YOU, and how hard it is for YOU as their parent! While it’s nice to have children who are considerate, parents must understand that it is still their responsibility! Stop placing the burdens of life on the shoulders of your children expecting them to carry what you can’t even carry yourself! Your child is not your partner or your helpmate! Out of the heart the mouth speaks… that mother does not love her child she sees her as a burden not a blessing. People’s view of you is based on where they have place you in their heart! We must teach our youth the importance of guarding their hearts as well!
I think it's just hard sometimes when your struggling to be gentle with your children not saying it's right but that's how my mom was and tho I hated I understand where it comes from. You gotta be tough when you're a single mom. Sometimes you end up being a little too tough. And it gets turned on you kids
@@KingofUnpopularOpinion I grew up with a single mom as well, and in my own healing journey I had to address what she failed to! What parents fail to address today their children will deal with tomorrow. People/parents need to be intentional with their healing so that they won’t continue to wound the next generation, and perpetuate at the cycle of abuse and brokenness!
I completely agree with everything you said !!!
I love everything you said
I like your explanation
My heart hurts for the daughter 💔 i can see the hurt in her eyes from the things her mother says to her & about her & by the way she acts. I hope they can both overcome this & become closer & have a loving relationship.
Me & my mom are in a very similar situation right now. As i'm typing this, we're sharing a bed, renting a room in her own boss's home. She's on the other side of the bed while tears are running down my face. I understand both of their perspectives, and I feel for them.
My heart goes out to you, I pray you heal and let go of all trauma you may be going through right now. Blessings to both you and you mother, I wish you the best in life. 💕
I’ve been in a situation similar to yours, things get better eventually. Keep your head up sending much positivity and love your way💕💕
You will get through this,, don't let your circumstances dictate how your life will turn out. You gonna make it ❤ sending so much love you're way
Karamo is a real one for helping that lady out !!! That was so sweet. I can see the stress lifting up off of her. I hope her and her daughter develop a better relationship !
The cycle of poverty 😣 Mama is going THROUGH IT … but she has the luxury of understanding the situation, the daughter does not. Her daughter is a child. Praying for their well-being, and healing.
The mom is the issue, screaming for no reason, interrupting her daughter when she’s trying to tell her part of the story, calling her daughter a bitch, telling she’d be better as a boy.. like wtf? In her mind she’s doing the best but she’s mentally unstable, she doesn’t realise how she deals with stuff is toxic and negatively impacting her daughter.
I feel so bad for the daughter , like I know her mom might not have a lot of money but at the end of the day she’s still a teenager so it’s only natural that she’s going to want to fit in & want clothes, shoes , hair , etc. at that age. I’m 15 years old coming from a less wealthy household & I don’t think our parents don’t realize how badly we want to be heard even if we can lash out because we want to make the most of our teenage years. I can see how it might be confusing that we can act that way but at the same time we need to feel loved and supported.
This is why kids need a mother and father in the home with stability.
A man to stress her mama out even more for what?????
@@llandynit’s not about the mum it’s about the kids 😭are you even serious
And a child can still go a stray so what point do you have
you can have both parents and still have no stability
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾Thank you
This episode is so mentally draining. I can’t imagine how the daughter must feel. Again like everyone had said, this is why it’s important to not only have financial stability but also mental stability. Both does go hand in hand but does the mom realize how she is? Her daughter is a reflection of her. I genuinely feel bad for the daughter.
watching him makes me want to be a counselor cuz what the actual problem is that parents don’t realize that their children are people with real emotions & deal with real life things & they are also children so they depend on their parents for that emotional support & when they don’t receive it that’s when they act bad & lash out then they are the bad ones .
I worked in healthcare for a loooong time. We really need more black therapist. People feel so much more comfortable with someone who looks like them. If you have the passion and the ability, we need you.
But parents also needs grace... The mother needs help too.. the mother is frustrated and burned out.
True I'm learning. As a single parent, I emphasize with the mother but I also emphasize with the daughter. Yes it is tough being a single mother but we have to also realize that our kids are real human beings as you said and they do have feelings. I'm learning that kids will lash out and we have to learn to understand them too
I have a mom similar or worse than this and trust me it isn’t easy. I need a lot of healing, it affects my life so much and I still live with this woman..
I see why this little girl is acting out. Look at how the mother is acting. If somebody spoke to me like that everyday, I would be angry too.
She is ranting about her own financial issues. That is not your child’s problem. And to not be able to answer whether she regrets having a daughter was so sad to hear. I feel for her daughter.
I mean... if you are purposefully doing things to make life harder for your mother, KNOWING she has financial issues. I.E: Getting her arrested because YOU decided "I don't want to go to school for 20+ days"... Then it is definitely the child's problem as well.
@@ProphetMisfit09how do you expect a child to act if her only example is a mother like that. Take accountability for being a shitty parent. Children are sponges
@ProphetMisfit09 she doesn't want to be teased and picked on..her mom got friends someone should have been able to help her daughter with her hair ..she created the issues
This generation of parents love the saying “Do as I say and not as I do” but as children we watch and we repeat what we see. I have no idea how parents can act a certain way and expect for their offspring to be the opposite. If mama wants to see some change she needs to start with herself. Other than that, that girl will continue to spiral or completely cut her mom out her life forever. And even if they do make up, there will be resentment there forever.
@@chillwithme9727 I don't deny the fact that her behavior is largely because of the mother, yes. However, when she reached the age that she is at that very moment, she should be at least aware "hey, we're really only holding on by a string right now. I can try to lessen that weight by just going to school." That's really only it, going to school to keep things afloat and avoid them going back to having to live in a shelter.
I get it, kids are cruel, no one wants to go to school with undid hair. And this generation has most kids going with wig installs and 200+ dollar braids, so it is embarrassing. But having undone hair that doesn't meet the standards of others is not a reason to skip 20/30+ days of school, like... come on now.
I went through this exact thing with my mom a while back, every-time i’d leave the room i’d get yelled at and when I stayed I would get yelled at. Her mother is putting out her frustration on her child, and the child is mirroring her behaviour. Its a horrible loop.
I cried. As a mother of 5 and father not paying child support I been there. My kids are all grown and still hold some resent me towards me because we were poor. All are doing well but poverty left a deep hurt on them. This family will make it through. They may have scars but they will come through.
I can relate to you Pam. Sending love❤
God bless you
Speak the truth 👏. Black people have too many kids and the kids have to suffer in poverty. If you can't support kids on your own don't bring them into the world to struggle. Kids need more than food and shelter. They need a strong family base. Too many have a bunch of kids to stay on welfare. If you have 1 kid and go on welfare then you should lose those benefits if you decide to have more kids. You need Financial stability before you start a family.
That young lady is frustrated because life has been difficult and mama is tired. I’ve been on both sides of the aisle and does get better. Mama please don’t give up on your baby girl because it will get better. Y’all are all you guys have.
This hit home 🥹🤧 my mom and her brother, whom she admittedly does not like and who abused me held me down on a dinning room chair at 16 and cut my hair because I was acting out. Another time she hunted me down to my great grandmother's house and beat me with a sock full of rocks in front of the whole neighborhood, she'd call the police on me and have me put in a detention center. As a young child my twin and myself were taken away and placed with family for a while due to her abuse. It did not stop after being returned to her. I am 36 now and I've gone completely no contact with her. My siblings and I's relationship exception of my twin is none existant. There is no accountability for her actions no remorse only blame. I pray they heal this NOW.
I feel like this shows that black men and women both playa role in the dysfunction in the black community and the black family.
This episode was so sad and good at the same time. It’s obvious that the mother is feeling stressed on multiple sides. I love Keramo’s solution because it directly targets the underlying source of the friction in their relationship: poverty and the ensuing lack of stability in their lives. 😐
She definitely gets her behavior from her mama! Period
The daughter is NOT the issue. The mother is broken and feels no matter what she does she can't get a break.
This made me cry, I pray these two make it through. The mama is clearly stressed out and taking it out on the daughter.
A typical parent who thinks it’s their child’s responsibility to help them when it’s not. Saddest part about this is that mom does not even realize that she is the problem. I really just wanted Karamo to tell her, because their relationship is not going to get better until she realizes that she is not a good parent. All of your issues are rooted in you being irresponsible, and instead of doing better you expect your child to swoop in and save the day. That’s delusional. She needs therapy and life skills. That’s only thing that will help them.
Yes!
100% agree, I didn’t like how Karamo literally didn’t call the mother out a single time despite how very clearly abusive she is
If you and your child fell into a pit, would you expect for your child to sit there and do nothing as you struggled to get you guys out? Or would you expect for them to help in getting you guys out of the pit? And how would you react if your child kept pulling you down every time you got a foot up?
*It's easy* when you're not in this situation *to judge someone who is.* No one perfectly executes when they are this stressed. There are some things that the both of them can do better, but they are obviously in a pit.
When you are this desperate, you don't have the time to worry about niceties, when you don't know if you will survive the situation you are in.
There's a cycle here where you see a woman who was, more than likely, raised by a single mom *(with no support),* who's now trying to raise her own child as a single mom with no support.
There are some emotional and communicative tools that she probably was never given. We take for granted that our parents instilled those in us, and we judge others who don't have them as if those were things that came naturally from us. But one thing you can't deny, is that *this woman absolutely loves her child.* And she is desperately trying to save her life.
@@janepatton8100 if I fell into a pit with my child it would 100% be my responsibility to keep my composure, stay calm and do everything in my power to get us out of the pit. I have more experience and life skills than my child. So yes I would consider it my responsibility as the adult and parent to assess the situation and come up with a solution. I would expect for my child to depend on me and my ability to remain calm under duress and stress. I would expect for my child to depend on my survival skills.
My statement wasn’t judgement it’s just true. She lacks some necessary life skills. She needs to seek professional help to learn and develop those skills. Her child cannot help her be a better parent and adult, and that’s what she’s asking her to do. The child doesn’t have the knowledge or the skills. She is literally asking her child to accomplish the impossible, and due to the stress that she is putting on her child the child is doing what she does know how to do and that is not going to save her child. If she wants to save her child she needs to make herself a more dependable parent and create a less stressful environment for her child.
So its the childs responsibility to fix the problems created by the parent? Thats the most assbackwarda explanation ive ever read. If you think this way and you uave children they must hate you. No child should suffer through a parent like this ever. And parents like this should be imprisoned for ruining their childs life and guaranteeing them a life of hardship. If you dont think this girls ideals and morals arent directly connected to her mothers idiocy then your a fool.@janepatton8100
Lordt 😭. As a mom of two teen daughters I completely understand some of what the mom is going through. The problem i see here is poverty and I’m happy Karamo is doing something beneficial for them. Hopefully this will give them the chance to be able to relax a bit and grow closer.
Exactly! Mom is overwhelmed because she is financially strapped.
Black moms raise they daughters and love their sons. That’s the difference. Y’all are hard and millitant with the girls but will allow the boys to run the streets free then cry when your son get 🔫 by the police
@@ShawnteAmoureshe has nothing and no support system, it’s her doing everything on her own, all she has is her daughter and that can be frustrating when the only one you have has a strained relationship with you. The comments attacking the mom for calling her a “bitch” which she was wrong for but I see through it. That’s anger and frustration and I wish that wasn’t the main focus and take away from all this.
@@biggerthanlyfe9853it’s disgusting how you’re going to justify this mothers behavior
Children deserves respect too ! Period
This episode brought tears to my eyes! 😭
The mother's really struggling, panicking about how to cope with her situation, which had made her act irrationality. Her daughter is also going through her own changes. The combination is explosive!
I pray that they work it out. They seem to genuinely love each other. Their circumstances makes it hard to express 😢
Yess!
The way this mom talks I ask myself if the daughter is really guilty or try to fight the worst leaving situation because she's very calm and melting my heart
Mom is in a mental breakdown but hanging in there, alone with a daughter who is also stressed!
Oh wow it’s so sad to see a mother place so much blame on her baby. So sad for this little girl. Nothing hurts worse than mommy issues
Children ruin your life while also giving a lost person direction.
Be homeless selling your body or have a kid get a 18 year government provided safety net that while holding you up also holds you back.
So many females in my life had kids at 16-18 to find someone to love them either the child or child's father.
😇 THAT WAS SO NICE THAT YOU ARE DOING THAT FOR THEM GOD BLESS YOU ALL
I can relate to this story personally. I use to give my mom hell. This brought me to literal tears , because it was at one point my mom didn’t know what to do with me, and you could tell she was losing hope , but what I am thankful for is that she didn’t give up on me. She kept fighting for me to become the best version of myself. Frustrated and feeling defeated. my mom was a single mother of 4 kids. When I say I am so damn thankful that she hadn’t given up on me, because lord knows wheee I’d be. Nd I was a HOT mess. Thank you karamo for this episode. This one hit home
Same 🥺
Thank you for sharing the other side of this. So many ppl on this thread are mom-shaming, but sometimes kids are bad, or at least act out. I'm glad yall found yall way. ❤❤
@@deshawnbrown986 yes , absolutely. I acted out of emotion. My mom had another child and at first I was excited for it , but then I became jealous. Of course babies need more attention , and my mom did the best she could do with 4 of us all together ; however I acted out in anger and disobedience rather than just telling her I wanted to spend more time with her. I wanted to put this perspective out there more , because parents are humans too. They feel just like we do. Frustration is 100% going to happen it almost cannot be avoided ; the fact she took accountability and even stated she just wants the best for her child really stood out to me. In my bad behavioral days I didn’t understand why my mom wanted to give me that discipline in respect , and having goals , morals or values but I do today. Now I work for the state. I have my own family , and I am the better version of myself that she wants for me! Praying for this mother and daughter because sometimes all it takes is communication
@@marquelewing183 we are truly blessed. We live and we learn!
@@LiyyYasminee you paid it forward! ❤️❤️
It’s sad that people really think boys don’t require the same security/attention, & are so much more “low maintenance.” Didn’t care for that statement too much amongst other things
Thank you for saying this!!!
Thats why so many men are less mature than women, because their parents think raising them is optional
It's a lie for sure. I have three sons, and I look 109, not 29. lol
I hope they can heal and grow stronger as mother and daughter 💕
When the mom said you act like a b I call you a b. Was crazy to me. That’s why she acts out! The mother has no respect
This makes me understand my mom so much more. I wish she was here to tell her I understand now. ❤
Hard times are real but mom needs to get it together saying she wishes she was a boy and calling her bitches getting evicted living in shelters will damage any child regardless of gender
I feel for them both! It’s hard being a parent. There is no amount of books manuals to read to learn how to raise a child.
Gtfohwtbs. There literally are books, manuels and classes ran by psychologists and experts with decades of knowledge. Some stuff is everyday common sense. This mother's behavior is unacceptable.
That's why it takes a village.
karamo helping financially is going to change their lives. you can so easily become a product of your environment and i understand being a single mother especially a struggling one like this is beyond tiring stressful and depressing and they need help! with this step they can then work on their communication skills especially the mother.
I'm in tears ...for so very long I've been drowning struggling and this moment was so beautiful thank you Karamo ! I honestly was giving up but this spark of kindness and love is what the world needs
You were made for this. I see you helping and understanding so many families. Resolving there issues. God bless you.
Man! This got me so emotional 😭😭😭 thank you for what you’ve done for this family.
My heart breaks for the stuff that baby had to hear her mother say…maybe it’s cause I was taken from my birth mom, dealt with poverty as a kid. She’s a child at the end of the day she deserves an apology and I’m upset the mom wasn’t made aware that a lot of what she said and did was wrong.
I agree with you. Karamo needed to address the mother’s behavior towards her daughter.
That's the excuse a lot of these kids use to justify what they doing. Child this child that. They out there carjacking, robbing, killing, commiting adult crimes, etc. Then it's oh I'm a child. I'm a minor. Blahhhhh
I love how you came through for her.. this is so sweet . I wish nothing but the best for them both . 🇯🇲
The mom is crazy. The girl looks sweet and i am sorry for her dealing with this situation that she did not create 😢
Exactly
Looks can be deceiving…
The communication gotta get better and the mother have hidden anger that really don't have nothing to do with the child.
Karamo you’re above any of them other shows you actually help them people that needs it, you spiritually break their generational karmas and help them find way to solve problems in which to help heal their relationships! May you keep uplifting the one who does wrong but wants to do better, you a healer 🙌🏽🔥🔥🔥
THIS!!!!!!
This generation need PRAYER ❤
As soon as the mom said that they were living in a shelter and no father, I instantly understood why the daughter acts the way she does. She’s angry and I would be too… it doesn’t help that the mother treats her like a burden and talks to her like she’s trash off the street either.
In this situation mom isn't right, but mom is hurting too! It's just sad.
As a mother I understand both sides 100% breaks my heart… I pray for better days for them 💖
It's so touching , poverty is like a demon thank God for this man with a father's heart helping them out to save this poor girl, you can see she's not really a bad child she just hates the situation
The tears that came down my face ❤Karomo u made it happen we as a people appreciate u from our deepest ❤
This makes me cry, your mom struggling but she still by your side, she don’t get it all right as she her self may not have not have strong support and know how to express the love she wants to but you have a good mom, I pray you guys will be financially stable one day and you young lady be one successful.
I definitely feel for the mom and daughter in this situation. I've had this same exact thing happen to me as a child. My mom having me as a child herself, her feeling frustrated with me because as the eldest she always placed adult responsibilities on me as a child raising me as a single mom, absentee father, us facing abuse from my ex-stepfather and going through the trauma of my parents fight as well as the tragic aftermath of their divorce, having gone homeless with my mom and siblings after the divorce and becoming depressed, growing up in poverty, homeless shelters and living with other people. I am 19 now in present day and my mom is still struggling to keep our housing situation stable with the bills, while I am trying to save and move out, even though I help her with bills but because of her past mistakes it still affects us now and my money is not enough. The daughter's misbehavior is definitely making the mom frustrated especially with the fact she had to go to jail and spend the little money she had to get out. I think the daughter wasn't going to school because she was depressed and coping with a lot of unaddressed trauma. This whole episode just shows why it is so important to make sure you're financially stable and have a backup plan before you have kids.
Ok Karamo I love that you help people and try to get them on the right path ❤
the daughter has been shut down by the mothers and her behavior & her words.. that was very noticeable .. she doesn’t think to talk about it cs she’s thinking “why should i” and the mother has had a hard life, tryna make it work but had took things out on her daughter and made her act out, she doesn’t wanna be where she’s at .. both deserve apologies
The mom is so self absorbed that she doesn’t even realize that she keeps interrupting her daughter 😕
This one broke me....I can totally relate to the struggle she has being a single parent trying to keep her head above water... just to hearing her cry with everything she is dealing with ,she is literally drowning and I'm glad you gave her a platform to express herself...but I'm not ignoring the way they both come at each other that definitely could have been handled differently... Karamo you have no idea how much of a weight you just took off her shoulders!!!!.... I wish them all the best with their relationship because all they have is each other.
They were both just very stressed and misunderstood. I’m glad they finally got to see each others perspective
The daughter seem humble asf
I cried because I can relate with the mother and daughter. I’ve been both. God bless their situation
Same. All I saw was me and my daughter. And me and mother. My mother is a lost cause . But my daughter idc how mad she ever get at me , I will never leave her side. Same goes for my son.
I started off completely disliking this mother but now I understand her. Being a mother is SO HARD. Being a unprepared mother is even harder 🥺
That’s an excuse to be a shitty Mother. She is abusive! The audacity of Her Daughter to return the behavior. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
If you're unprepared don't have children. No excuse for verbal abuse.
@@fegaroskonhmusicwell she did. Now what do you want her to do?
@@nomejest5919act like a mother ?😭
bein unprepared is nobodies fault but hers.
This mum is so genuine first of all❤ and if she ever goes through the comments i hope she sees this, i dont think the daughter is the issue either. I just think her been loud and fast with words is her character and that many may mistaken it for been ridiculously crazy, first of all i saw the love she has on her daughter , through struggling with her in a shelter and together, and the fact that she even acknowledged where the daughter is telling the truth and when she started cursing she didn't pretend, she told the whole truth for how it is between them, her crying too shows that she carries her daughter in heart despite the hardships they are going through. I hope she can see this comment, because as a single mum we all have to realize that moments as such with our kids have happened and the only difference is that we maybe overcame on time or had someone to hold us through it. Also i think she's really genuine otherwise she would have started acting up immediately on set as if she never treats her daughter that way. May she find healing and together reunite as a family. That's what God wants for all of us, she also has a beautiful daughter❤ and the enemy comes to create division in all ways , i really liked this show of this two cause they brought the world on set. And in truth the mum looks as if she wants help that's why she came on show. If you read this , May you have so much healing and peace❤ and may you someday realise you were caught in a situation where you seemed had bad parenting and also bad and you are not, let's not forget they are women who don't curse and yell but have left their daughters out and sold them to men or had them raped by the men they took in their lives. Go lady❤ get all the help needed and bounce back someday , it's all good..
Yes ! This is her only child and you can tell the mother loves her daughter so much that’s why she keeps a tight leash on her . But she has to get over that anger . Maybe that’s how her mother talked to her . I always said I wouldn’t be like my mother and I literally find myself saying and acting just like my mother did 😂😂😂
You're delulu. That mother h8's her daughter. I pray the daughter gets healing and resources so she can get away.
Great comment. And very fair assessment.
Because of you and your generousity, these two will hopefully be able to heal their relationship. The mother won’t stress anymore and hopefully will treat her daughter better and in turn, the daughter will respect her mother. God bless you Karamo.
I agree with the host 1000%, and my heart is aching for the mother and the daughter, because I’ve been there with my daughter. I can honestly say just like this young lady, my daughter isn’t a terrible daughter. She’s actually the best thing that happened to me, but it’s her mouth. It’s just hard trying to maintain life and making sure she doesn’t make the biggest mistake that she’ll regret for the rest of her life during her rebellion years.
The problem with mothers like you, is yalls mouths. You wanna say every h8'ful, damaging, painful, degrading thing you can think of, then have the nerve to be shocked when you start getting that same mouth back. You can dish it but you can't take it. No child deserves to be the punching bag to an out of control parent.
i wish we could see how they’re doing with all these changes to their life… finally feeling some relief has gotta have made a positive impact on their relationship. i wish them the very best.
Man, the amount of people downing this woman is crazy. She sounds like she is doing the best she can with what she has and knows. It seems like this family needs a hand. Some people aren't as bless as others to have a hand. But trauma breeds more trauma. They both need help financially and psychologically.
Nobody is downing her. It's the fact that she is trying to blame this baby for acting just like her towards her. She say. Because the lil gurl calm and collect. This woman is literally putting generational curses on her baby girl. Passing her trauma.
We all watched our parents struggle and scream at us their frustrations, why keep it goin???? She was not fit to have a baby and shld not have as most young blk mothers are not fit mentally and emotionally for it.
Look how she's acting on the show. You can clearly see she is the problem. She doesn't realize her own trauma and she's installing the same trauma on her child.
well she did call her daughter a bch and admitted to regretting having a child then made it worse by saying she was better off being a guy then made It worse by interrupting her and pretty much laying all of her business out there.
Gtfohwtbs. Doing what she's doing to her child is NOT the best she can. That girl is going to be traumatized for life.
The mom needs to chill out! With that attitude I won’t feel comfortable even talk to her as a daughter ! The mother needs to heal ! I feel bad for her daughter to struggle with a mom like that
Heartbreaking. So many parents need a life line. So glad Karamo offered help to take some of the stress off the mom.
There are so many damaged people out here trying to raise a person who is not damaged. This hurt my heart....mom is so angry but she's taking it out on her child. I can imagine they are not that far apart in age...this reminds me of the girls I work with (and have for the past 27 years) in foster care. I really pray for understanding and peace for both of them!
We are in a generation where children's are strong mentally n emotionally that parents,children are mature than parents,childrens are going through alot in hands of their parents.