I’ve known since the tapes came to public knowledge. Listen to them when you can. Any DV survivor recognizes the mind fuckery and intimidation from AH. She says nobody would believe him.
Ya, no matter the outcome of the verdict, it's great that people can see that women can be horrible too. This woman is unfortunately a psycho. She should seek help.
His courage is phenomenal. I have even more respect for this man than I did before. This will help men who are suffering in silence at the hands of such aggressive and violent women.
@@MauiMauiMe Crappy Moms make dating and marriage hell. When I finally learned what BPD was it explained my exs to a T and why i kept "screwing up" in who I chose.
that was straight up elder abuse the whole relationship. i can tell he is fed up with it all i am wondering if they are going to call Hiddleson , the loki guy to the stand because he spread a bit of gossip and at the last trial someone spilled his tea.
Amber's violence, deceit and bullying are staggering. FACT: ALL of these events took place in 2014-2016 -- it has taken this man 6 years to be able to speak up and defend himself. 6 years. Bravo. Johnny. Speak your truth.
And people always ask, why did it take so long for the abuser to speak up. Should have said something right off and it would have all been resolved. Well, in a perfect world maybe.
@@barbarastrayhorn4667 Johnny Depp spoke out at exactly the right time, using precisely the perfect words, grammar, punctuation to perfectly state his case which is "I'm the innocent Victim never did anything wrong, as my fans can verify"
He was raised by a narcissistic and abusive mother, and because of that he couldn't run away from another narcissistic and abusive woman later in his life, this is a tragedy that seems to be common among children raised by narcissistic parent(s)
She is unstable, but what about the jokes about killing her and having sex with her dead body? Or burning her? I think he’s far from innocent in this. He’s the one trying to blame his financial problems on his manager while spending on the level of Michael Jackson.
well he separated from Vanessa( not abusive and nice woman) and he though he got the "better" adventure, fun, with this one haha nope she was just not revealing herself in deep colors like later...
Maladapted brain patterns formed in childhood & young adulthood (brain not fully developed until 25) are EXTREMELY hard to rewire once grown. It takes work, concerted effort & a deep desire from within
@@mrazik131 It's actually quite a shock that he never went for anyone abusive before considering what his mother was like. It's so sad though how he kinda smiles when he says "Vanessa." Just like his friend said in the Discovery Plus documentary he lost the most wonderful thing.
On that stand, we saw John Christopher Depp II, not Johnny Depp, the actor. In his own words at an interview with Tim Burton, he said that he is not a "talker", he is shy, and he doesn't like to watch himself on the screen. He was articulate when he finally gathered his thoughts. John was on that stand divulging his heart out to everyone. Regardless of his eloquence of speech or not, I found him to be truthful and believable. He was up on that stand to clear his name, and to try to prove that he is not a wife beater. I hope to God he wins!
I think he’s proved he’s not an abuser of women. It’s probably best to now walk away and heal. He can get the best therapist and finally heal he deserves this
Let's be honest. ALL actors are narcissistic. It's not a crime. Amber appears to display a borderline personality disorder. But he probably has traits too.
@@KatJ3st Amber admitting to hitting Johnny on a audio & said she "cannot promise she wont get physical again saying I get so mad". Amber is guilty of aggravated assualt.
Correction Dr Grande… his first big break was not Pirates. I believe “ Edward scissor hands” or “what’s eating Gilbert grape” would be more plausible. But love your content.
Dr Grande was probably retelling how Johnny Depp told in his testimony that PotC was his big break, to emphasize that losing that role because of the op-ed Amber had put out was a big hit to his career.
I don't doubt there was mutual relationship toxicity but based on what's publicly available, Amber seems more aggressive, prone to physical & verbal outbursts, & to be genuinely vindictive in her behaviors. She seems to have a very hard time emotionally regulating & should have sought help for that long ago.
Depp threatened to assault an Australian government agent if they arrested Amber over her illegally importing animals into Australia, he doesnt seem like a gentle kind person, that's just people being biased because he's the more famous celebrity.
She severed his finger, cigarette to the face and pooped on his bed. I'd say she long past toxic, vindictive or aggressive- she's straight up dangerous ☠
Agree with your observations, I think he came across as genuinely needing to clear his name, not only for himself but his family & children. It is important to see a man can also be a victim of domestic violence including emotional, psychological & physical abuse.
Absolutely. I grew up with an abusive mother. It’s crazy how some women can get away with abuse. The smart ones even know how to turn it around any make themselves look like the victims.
Amber and Depp had a Zoom meeting with a therapist. Depp didn't deny the fact that he hit Amber Heard; that is very telling to me. I don't like Amber Heard and I believe she has lied so it is confusing trying to figure out the truth. Depp is likeable but alcohol and drugs can fuel anger.
And a man of his fame and wealth no less. In a way it reminds me of Britney Spears, probably the most famous pop star in the world, yet her family and handlers managed to defame and imprison her, basically keeping her as a trafficked human slave. 😓
Yes. It's time for the public and for "Dr Todd" to admit that childhood abuse does NOT produce criminals - it produces victims of further abuse. I've been telling it for a very long time. Murderers and criminals and abusers might have suffered childhood abuse, but they would have murdered and abused others anyway. Time to scrap childhood abuse as a mitigating factor in courts, wash the name of abuse victims clean!
I believe even a healthy mind tends to 'forget' or push away bad experiences in order to go on. It's generally not a nice thing to do in a relationship to keep bringing up past fights etc, right? Except, is tendency is very detrimental if someone continuously abuses you (mentally or otherwise), because the effect does linger, you just don't really know why... my feeling on the matter, anyway (because I wondered how come it was so hard for me to bring up examples when asked "what did I ever do to you" quite a few times....)
@@joeking433 She herself is an alcohol and drug abuser alongside with her sister. Instead of helping him with his addiction, she encouraged him to drink and do drugs. "my sister taught him how to use cocaine sniffer" - Amber Heard "we (Johnny and Whitney) drank and did lot of cocaine and I ended up passing out" - Whitney Heard "rare occasion I'm sober" - Whitney Heard
@@verabolton What does that have to do with the case? Johnny is claiming that her article was responsible for his losing acting jobs. I don't see that as true, I see Johnny as a train wreck who lost work because he was so irresponsible.
Here’s a nuance the good doctor missed: Johnny allowing Amber’s friends to inhabit penthouses in the same building where he and Amber lived also is a great indicator: it shows that he never tried to isolate her from her friends, which often happens in abuse situations. He welcomed the friends into their lives and also shared his friends with Amber. It’s a shame Amber is twisted in her thinking there was some benefit to setting Johnny up this way. Oh well, I hear they’re taking applications at the Chick-Fil- A.
This is a good point, one that I missed. Abusers usually try to isolate you. Also if he was abusive, he wouldn’t want to risk her friends hearing or witnessing the abuse.
Damn! This is such an insightful comment. Why would an abuser welcome all her friends to live next to them where they can hear the abuse? I wish they made this point in court.
Very good point. Isolation is a hallmark of abusive tactics. She seems to be the only one guilty of that, getting upset when he socialized with anyone but her, even his own kids. One more tick of a box on a list of her abusive behaviors.
My mother was narcissistic . She once spent the whole afternoon trying to convince me that I was a loser. When she finally broke me I was profusely crying and peered through my fingers to see if she regretted it but to my dismay I saw her smirking almost giggling . Proud of what she accomplished. Hearing Johnny say it's like I married my mother I felt the same way. I did the same as him as a father , the complete opposite of what my mother would do. My ex-wife and 3 girlfriends were narcissistic I believe I was groomed by my mother. My brother and sister were also terrified of our mother. She threw knives at me beat me with a stick broke my hockey stick on my back , kicked my sister in the head as she untied her boots like it was a soccer ball. She would fight like a man or exactly like a hockey fight. I'm glad she's dead and I'll never have to see her again and as for girlfriends I'm very comfortable alone and a hell of a lot richer.
I understand how you feel about your mother being deceased now. Only abused adult children can fully relate to what you posted of how you feel. Mine is not dead but I do feel similar to you. Sending you light, warmth and peace. You are not alone.
@@Barnee1897 I completely feel you. People like us with similar pain and trauma due to our mother's treatment of us typically spiral around " Mother's Day. Its the most dreaded time for many because of the commercialization of the day to be a joyful loving event with their mom's when everyone did not have that kind of experience. Sometimes it can feel so cruel. Its a day, I've learned to turn of the tv and radio. Though I send my mother a card and gift through her grandchildren ( my adult kids),mother's day belong to me now. Its my day and my celebration. Not hers even though we acknowledge her ( at a distance).
I empathise, but your last sentence "I'm very comfortable alone and a hell of a lot richer", makes me feel that there is denial and bitterness there regarding relationships. There are good women out there, don't feel that you have to give up (although there's nothing wrong with being single either.)
I had a horrible father, grandfather and a godfather who all sexually molested me until around 4, when my previous communication skills were good enough to have told our secrets and my own sense of a public self about to attend school saved me from further covert sexual abuse to physical and psychological manipulations of a life long imprint in my now life of 71 years. Beatings and Berating was my narcissistic father's sublimations to pull back on the sexual abuse. He had two other daughters to take care of and straighten out as was his personal justification to rape the youngest into her early adulthood. I get how preposterous Heard in behaving but her deepest sickness has just oozed out beyond her uncontrolled behaviors in all the court issues between her and JD. They have both been very sick puppies but her Alpha Narcissism is a hot mess as she just has had to create so much drama around such a short term marriage. Thankfully truth telling, steadied by a huge outpouring of support worldwide far eclipses her fantasy and foolish viciousness is a comedy of continuing errors. She has allowed her actions to speak volumes of the ugliness of her spirit and duel to the death of whomever she has decided has done her wrong. She needs serious psychiatric care. Hopefully JD's healing will continue and for him to come to personal peace. AH is too invested in the mindlessness of how she has been living the high drama of great delusion. I feel badly for her young daughter.
@@5p674 She's a private nurse to celebrities. Her business would be ruined if her clients thought she was going to blab about them later. She is covering her butt. Legally all she can really talk about is what she documented in her notes. Nurses are expected to maintain confidentiality of their patients, for the rest of their lives. Even after the patient has died, nurses aren't supposed to talk about them. I'm a retired nurse and if I want to share a story about one of my patients I have to give them a fake name and withhold details that could identify them. So I don't say which facility I was working when something happened.
@@5p674 she took a shit on his side of the bed.She isn’t mentally all there.Its clear she has some issues and that’s what caused the marriage breakdown She’s also cheating on him with Elon & James franco.Add in the physical violence why would he want to stay with any of that
Johnny's speech pattern reminded me a bit of my son, who is dyslexic. So I looked it up and found out that he is, indeed, dyslexic. So that explains a lot to me about how he was talking.
I watched most of his testimony that I actually feel very sad towards him. Anyone can easily tell that he is a tormented man trying his best within his own perspective to take care of things...his parents, siblings, children, friends, working crews, ..., just about everything surrounding him...he deserves a lot of credits of being who he is within his ability. No one is perfect.
I've only been able to watch bits and pieces of it. It's really hard for me to watch. I really hope that this does vindicate him on some level. He deserves to have his career back. He doesn't deserve the shit show that's been handed to him
@@orbitalchild Yes I agree, he comes across as gentle and considerate. Early on in the case I thought they were a pair of self obsessed celebrities but after listening to his full testimony so far, I see he is a nice person.
AND HE PAID FOR ALL OF AMBER'S NEEDS AND DESIRES, AS WELL AS MANY OF HER FRIENDS AND ASSOCIATES. HE PAID FOR *EVERYTHING*, TO HIS OWN DETRIMENT. BUT NONE OF THIS HAS ANYTHING TO DO WITH DEFAMATION. BASED ON TODAY'S QUESTIONS BY DEFENSE AND JOHNNY'S ANSWERS, I BELIEVE, EVEN MORE STRONGLY THAT THE JUDGE WILL DISMISS THIS CASE FOR LACK OF EVIDENCE PROVING DEFAMATION TO DEPP'S CAREER/ACTING ROLES AND MONEY HE *COULD* HAVE EARNED. HOLLYWOOD PRODUCERS HAVE 100 YEAR HISTORY DEALING WITH AND INTERACTING WITH CREATIVE PERFORMERS - THEY'VE DEALT WITH AND SEEN FIRST HAND, BEHAVIORS LIKE DEPP'S. i'D PREFER CUTTING TO THE CHASE HERE; BOTH LEGAL TEAMS SHOULD SECURE AND QUESTION DEPP'S EMPLOYERS AND SUBPOENA ALL CONTRACTS AND DOCUMENTS RELATED TO DEPP'S JOBS AS AN ACTOR. THE VOLATILITY OF HEARD/DEPP'S RELATIONSHIP IS NOT THE PURPOSE OF THIS TRIAL. WORKING *BACKWARD* WOULD BE MORE PRODUCTIVE AND INTERESTING IN MY OPINION. FINALLY, DEPP WILL GO ON TO PERFORM FURTHER ROLES; HE'S GONNA BE OK. I DON'T BELIEVE HEARD, ON THE OTHER HAND, WILL EVER BE A SUPERSTAR, AND HER CURRENT ROLE IN AM WILL END UP BEING THE PEAK OF HER CAREER. SHE'S JUST NOT THAT TALENTED AND PRETTY FACES ARE IN ABUNDANCE IN HOLLYWOOD - SHE'S EASILY REPLACEABLE. DEPP'S CHARACTERS ARE *BRANDS*, AND ALL OF THEM CONTINUE TO PROVIDE REVENUE FOR PRODUCERS AND INVESTORS, YEARS AFTER THEIR DEBUTS.
I am rooting for him. I don't find his slow speech odd. He is a deep thinker who uses his words perfectly to describe his exact emotion. He's very well spoken and he doesn't use useless filler words.
That comes from being around narcissists. You cannot speak any other way if you want to express any thought to them. They listen to about 3 words and then either interrupt or zone out and don't care in least about what you are saying. That's why people think they play but you did this or that games. They don't care what they did no matter how egregious, they care a lot about the minor thing you did though so let's change the subject.
On talk show, he spoke like this too. Which also admires me that in the movie, he’s such a good actor that he could speak out the script so smoothly and fast.
Being a celebrity has advantages and some real bad disadvantages. Johnny seems like a real good guy, I hope the future is less stressful for him and his children. Thanks Dr. Grande.
He will be okay, Robert Downing Jr was more of a bad boy and he got a second chance. Depp looks like a very nice man with a addiction hard to kick it, but he is a good man.
@@PHlophe you got a point, it's not uncommon for borderlines to end up with older partner since they often are looking for a parental hybrid in a partner, borderline is daddy issues/the oedipus complex on crack.
@@PHlophe The hell are you talking about bitty? This isn't about him looking bad for having a relationship with a younger woman it is about him having been abused.
I cannot express enough gratitude to Johnny Depp for his fearless truth in this case. The parallel he draws between his childhood and his marriage are priceless. I have NEVER found a Councillor, psychotherapist, psychiatrist etc etc that has show any understanding towards that, and the numbing that we (us survivors) seek from substances. Yay for the courage to deny 'partying' in favour of numbing after such decades of gruelling. The fact that he hardly got over his childhood, immersed in the next childish, power hungry relationship, once again stripping him of his right to be his true self, and the perfect and patient way in which he describes the situations, is FABULOUS. Thank you, Johnny for standing up for millions of us, while standing up for yourself. I have never hade one, but you are my HERO ❤️
I totally agree. I survived a very very hostile and dangerous childhood, only to end up with a narcissistic abuser. It took all of me and more... It took so much to get away and the best part of 11yrs to even be able to entertain the idea that I might trust again. The mental torment never ever leaves. When I heard Amber wanted Johnny to go to bed at the same time, made me feel ill... I remember those awful times. Sending you Love and strength Johnny Depp and also to all of the victims/survivors of abuse 💫💫💫 Jane ❤🙏🇦🇺
I'm a psychodynamic therapist and I totally understand this. I know pretty much all my colleagues who work with addiction do too. I'm really sorry to hear you haven't found a therapist who understands this but wanted to reassure people we are out here. Psychodynamic techniques look at how the past impacts your feelings and behaviours in the here and now so it might be worth seeking a therapist trained in that modality.
Ouch, I'm sorry to hear you see so much of yourself in Johnny's story. The turbulence and trauma in my own life also has parallels. Wishing healing for all of us~😌🌹💐
His breakthrough role was “What’s Eating Gilbert Grape? Or, arguably, “Edward Scissor Hands”. Johnny Depp was already very famous by “ Pirates of the Caribbean”. Dr. Grande, I’m surprised by your pop- cultural lapse. You are usually spot-on.
In his own testimony JD said POC was when he became famous to the point of needing security for his home kids etc. Doc is literally paraphrasing JDs testimony
He was certainly well known within his own right. But pirates of the Caribbean launched him into the stratosphere. Also Edward scissorhands is a great movie but it's more of a cult classic.
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His childhood is so similar to mine. My mom was so mean and never proud of me, never said she loved me, told me I wouldn’t get a scholarship and everything I wanted to do in life would make me poor and a failure. I was also a pretty talented musician, had a full scholarship offer but pursued something else, probably because my mom told me I’d be poor. I also dated a narcissist like Amber Heard and that relationship destroyed my mental health for over a year after it ended. I too accepted emotional abuse, almost like it was normal and she made sense to me. It’s crazy how your childhood programs you like that.
Same here my friend. Maladapted brain patterns formed in childhood & young adulthood (brain not fully developed until 25) are extremely difficult to rewire once grown. Need resources, knowledge, concerted effort & a deep desire from within to change. It's understandable why folks end up with the same kind of abuse in thier partners. Generational trauma👎🏼
And same here. I'm sorry for you and for anyone who grew up with such a mother. Thankfully, we are now free to mother ourselves and it's good to know we're not alone. Forgive the past, love yourself and move on. Don't ever let anyone hold you back one more day.
I am in a much better place! That relationship was almost like a blessing in disguise, it forced me into getting therapy and becoming self aware of my irrational thinking and feelings.
I feel bad for thinking he was in the wrong. I'm so happy this is happening to show us all what can happen. It's sickening how much hatred AH has for him..
Johnny gaining the love of his fans back are his winnings. The public had no idea of her horrific behavior. Even if he doesn't win this trial, he gets to speak his truth and show the real Amber.
A narcissist is the most dangerous when being broke up with/ divorced. She sees things as wins and losses. Her goal is to destroy him. I wonder how different the laws are in the U.K. vs the U.S. ? I have heard that the U.S. worship celebrities much more than 🇬🇧 U.K., I could very easily be wrong about that, though. I hope more men come forward to tell their stories. Abuse knows no gender.
That's why I hope he wins. She needs to face consequences, because her defamation was and still is believed, she destroyed his opportunities. She betrayed public trust and made a mockery out of the justice system.
Oof, I was thinking he may win especially after his friend Isaac's testimony. However, watching his cross examination this morning, I'm scared for him because of the text messages...they certainly didn't do him any favors too bad the defense has that ammunition.
@@CJ-ft9yo I'm not so sure. Of course WE believe him. The problem is Hollywood not believing, or using a double standard. It's obvious she's worse, be if she wins the case, in their eyes, she's the victim.
It's interesting to note that his past partners are standing up for him, and, to me, that speaks volumes. Why did he attach to him and why did he let her in? As he said, she seemed "perfect" and, as a middle aged man he was smitten by her love bombing until she slowly took control. He's an artist in every sense and was soon overwhelmed. Throw in the drugs and her immature and selfish need for control and you have a match made in hell. This trial has been painful to watch, but win or lose, I think Johnny has done a great service to male survivor's.
Don't even try to understand men... The fact is: Johnny Depp did not marry his long-term girlfriend and the mother of his children who was only 9,5 years younger, but married Amber Heard. Because she was very beautiful, very young and the way she behaved. Many men love such bad girls who excite them. Because good girls are just boring to them... I do not feel sorry for him at all.
@@sweetvictory5643 so, in essence, you have decided, that he deserves to be abused? Because he didn't marry the mother of his children? No one deserves abuse. I feel sorry for you.
@@sweetvictory5643 you think Vanessa Paradis had no say whether they got married or not? You lump all men into one group as well, very strange take to me
@@tearose9938 Obviously you are not smart. I have not decided, I have read a lot about men and some men told me. But YOU know nothing about men... There are many men who want to be abused intentionally. Such men pay a lot of money to a dominatrix, a woman who doesn't have to be attractive or young, all she has to do is physically and psychologically dominate her clients in a sadomasochistic encounter.
I was neglected, abused and tortured by bio and step mothers. And have dealt with people targeting me for abuse in adulthood. His story rings true. Her phrasing in the audio strongly suggests she was guilting him into staying with her. The demeaning is done to keep his self esteem low and less likely to leave her.
Depp's self esteem should be rock solid FFS! Blessed with leading man/rock star looks and talent,a 30+ year career as an A-list mega star who's earned hundreds of millions of dollars while working and hanging with the best of the best that the acting and music worlds have to offer as well as being adored by millions of fans. We all have our issues,most all do not have the above mentioned advantages to steady them when tough times inevitably arrive. Money and fame doesn't mean happiness,but it sure does take care of a sht ton of the pitfalls in life.
The impression I have of him is he wanted to just be “chill” and relax when drunk or high whereas Amber wanted war. I have found his testimony to be both heartbreaking and illuminating and hopefully his traumas can bring much needed attention and help to DV against men
And I hope his story will make the public see that childhood abuse will not produce criminals and abusers and murderers. Victims of childhood abuse will suffer further abuse in their life because that's what they used to and they have a high level of tolerance towards mistreatment. Scrap the childhood abuse as a mitigating factor in court!
Mr. Depp’s courage is phenomenal. His mother’s abuse during childhood prepared him to attract abusive women like Amber. I have even more respect for this man than I did before. This will help men who are suffering in silence at the hands of such aggressive and violent women.
It's strange isn't it. I was brought up by an abusive father as my mother died when I was 9. I can't remember my dad calling me by my name, just 'It'. I didn't think anything of it, until I red a book years later called A Child Called It. I left home as early as I could, but eventually ended up in a violent relationship who used everything I had confided in him against me. That relationship wasn't the last violent relationship, I seem to attract abusive men. It's weird, because I don't want violence, I hate it. I'm now in a loving relationship, but it's taken me years to find a good man. I asked my doctor once why it is, and he said people who have suffered violence throughout their lives tend to repeat what's familiar to them. It still didn't make sense, it's not as though I'm some kind of masochist. But, like Johnny, and many other survivors of abuse, we often repeat it. It's like a dog running back to it's abusive owner and just accepting that person and the life they give it. I hope Johnny wins. It will allow other men to come forward and report abuse from their partners, male or female.
@@sebastiaanvanwater right, because it prepared him to attract them, which was already stated in the original comment that you must have read before commenting the opposite. So what’s your point?
I spent 20 years married to someone who was somebody exactly like Amber Heard. One of my favorite stories was a time when I was trying to leave her. I was staying with my mother and my mother drove me to my ex's house to pick up some things. My ex of course didn't take it well even though she put together the box of stuff I was taking and I didn't have to stay there long so it didn't turn into an escalated fight or anything. I just grabbed the box and went to leave. As I was walking down the driveway my started grabbing at me and clawing at me ripping my clothes and grabbing my hair and hitting me. The whole time she was doing that she was screaming for help. I had a box in my hands I didn't even have available hands to defend myself I'm just dragging myself to the car while she pulling at me screaming towards the neighbors like I'm hitting her and hurting her. That was one of the most eye-opening and terrifying moments in my life cuz I realized what she is capable of. That was year three in our twenty years. Everything I hear about Amber Heard reminds me of her. Starting the situations, escalating the situations, and when she finally gets Johnny Depp as furious as she can make him she calls him an abuser. I would spend hours every day being called a loser and being hammered with how I was the reason why everything that was wrong in our lives was wrong and it be minute after minute of her just in the background complaining about me and putting me down and telling me I was stupid and shutting down all the things I had to say. I finally snap and we'd get into an argument and start yelling at each other and she would pull out her phone and start recording me so she could show people how crazy I was. She never recorded hours of her calling me a loser while I'm doing dishes and folding laundry while she's watching TV. No she just shows people the moment that I finally snapped. I started to figure out when she was recording me when all the sudden she'd change her tone and start acting sweet and submissive and I realize oh she's recording me now
Cameron Robinson, my daughter has the same thing happening to her being recorded after he starts a fight then he pushes the record button. He's a demonic monster 👹 because there's more going on than just that. My heart is broken 💔 over the abuse and neglect perpetrated toward her.
Sounds like she has lit the hell out of you. My was downstairs one afternoon, banging her head against the wall, screaming, "help..stop [my name]..you're hurting me!" Luckily the neighbors saw where it started. She got caught trying to project violence on me, but it was her. She also tried to get me busted for dui, after she sent me to the store(I was drinking & watching sports). I passed a road side sobriety test, went back home to see a very scared rat! She was diagnosed a few years later, BPD with narc behavior. She lives alone. But I still talk to her after all these years. Borderlines due possess empathy, but it's sporadic. I'll always try to be a friend for her. She doesnt keep them.
I cried and cried listening to JD testimony. I suffered 15 years in abusive marriage with a borderline personality narcissist. Every word he said hit home for me. Your frozen and numb to the abuse and every time you walk out the door they reel you back in for more. Thankyou Johnny for speaking up on behalf of the real victims and exposing your deep raw vulnerabilities
My father was verbally abusive... nothing was ever good enough; if I got 99 on a test, it was why the hell didn't you get 100?!!! Harped on my weight (I weighed 120 as a high school student), always found some way to make me feel like a failure. When my son was born, I swore he would never hear anything like that from me, and would always know that I loved him and believed in him. One day when he was in grade school, he said he thought he was funny looking, and I said, no, he was a smart and handsome fella. He said, "You're my mom, you have to think that!" And I just smiled.
I enjoyed this analysis. Fair and balanced, full of fair insights. Can you imagine, going to your own island to try to detox from a substance addiction, neural pathways on fire, with an immature and controlling partner “helping”? That shows a great amount of self control. Thank you for this extra treat today, Doc. Always a pleasure to see you. ❤️
@@thebowelmovement3028 your misogyny is showing, I believe you need to reel that in a bit. Don't accuse ALL woman like you have, you have not every female human on earth, so don't speak for them all.
@@thebowelmovement3028 not all women, but just by your comment it’s easy to see that’s what you’ve been drawn too. Perhaps recovery ❤️🩹 may help u find a better path
Ya saw a lot of the same stuff also know what's it like to try to use thing's to escape from the abuse even if u can't get out for what ever reason u can get out mentality
Same here friend. Unfortunately its my soon to be ex wife they is a mirror image of AH.. not in looks but in mentality and actions. It can be quite scary especially since I'm in California.
@@awright119021 Yep... im going thru it right now with my soon to be ex wife. Its just awful. When I try and pointout what she is doing and how she is behaving she thinks I'm projecting and calls ME the narcissist. Id rather pound my head against a wall than talk to her any more.
I appreciate Johnny’s speaking style. He was literally thinking before he spoke. As far as his substance abuse I hope his lawyers stress that addiction is a disease and being an addict doesn’t mean a person is abusive and the defensive is wrong to make that suggestion
I believe him because of the tons of public evidence, specifically the recordings! I don't know how anyone can think he's guilty after Amber said point blank that he was cowardly because he would leave when she became violent.
I am also on Jhonny’s side but I am sure Amber will use his drug abuse history against him..he hit her and he doesn’t remember because he was not in his senses.. Audios proved that she was also abusive.. I think Jury will make both villains..
@@hemantsinghrawat19 But Amber also took drugs and was drinking, what’s your point. Every witness said they've never seen Amber with any signs of abuse and have never seen Johnny being violent, that includes Ambers doctor. On the other hand, there are plenty of evidence of Amber abusing Johnny and she has a history of being a fcking satan towards others people, also abusing or beating them. Her own mother is terrified of her ffs. Amber is one of the most vile trash I have ever seen. She has no way of getting out of this and Johnny is only gaining supporters and positive attention now. He will most definitely win this case.
Even if he doesn’t win the defamation case he won because he got his side of the story out there. I never believed AH’s claim that he abused her. He has no history of DV with the myriad of partners he’s had over the years.
Yes, it is no secret he has used drugs and alcohol for years and never became violent while intoxicated. Her lawyers are hell bent on painting him as a violent drug addict, which simply doesn’t add up. She is the violent, aggressive, belligerent one.
People are still trying to claim it was mutually abusive lol… That’s so stupid. Like regardless of what he may have also done on paper, in the context of the situation that’s not abuse from his end. Responding to abuse is not abuse. Doing those things unprovoked is what’s abusive.
What stands out in my mind is that she had no respect for any boundaries and would follow him as he retreated from heated confrontations. He said the last fight was for her 30th birthday party. 30 years old certainly seems old enough for an average adult to understand boundaries. I think the behavior Amber exhibited was far more abnormal than lack of maturity.
@@becky-hx1ge exactly. You follow someone when they're making you anxious with their avoidance, refusing to resolve problems. He stonewalled. Its frustrating as fk when its ongoing over time
I think you missed that Johnny was saying that AMBER was painting HIM “as some maniac”. It’s hard to believe that Johnny would even unintentionally be unkind about substance use in others. Amber used a lot of drugs herself.
Exactly that Amber was using both drugs and alcohol excessively. I believe while Amber is on the stand is when her drug use will be asked of her and she will have to answer yes or she will once more lie.
I worked as a quasi slave for a lawyer woman who was high ranking in our state govt. She ran a nonprofit her boss slid money to her grants only she was eligible for or knew about. I finally could not take the emotional abuse anymore. She owed me thousands. She set out to destroy my reputation in the industry and my reputation in town. So normal people don't put this much energy into destroying others who finally decide to leave the relationship whether work or personal. I saw one of her minions in post office I was polite enough as I needed to be to in line and then got away from her. My last memory of the friend was unpleasant. To protect myself I can have nothing to do with any of her friends or acquaintances. Her handwriting analysis showed her to be the most vindictive the analyst had ever seen. I avoid them it's been 14 years and she would call people still to harass me and demand I not be invited to a party she was going to attend. I have had plates thrown at my head. But I am the crazy one. The first thing attys do is destroy reputation of the opposition.
Depp’s testimony enlightens people as to the abuse men suffer in relationships, but without losing face. He has expressed it and still maintained his dignity and malehood. His story will make it essier for men to be more open about their own experiences with angry, abusive women.
@@jmedakwon It's pretty obvious why they 'choose' to be silent. Their silence is heavily enforced to prevent damage to a certain popular, powerful and profitable sexual dynamic narrative. The price is men's lives.
I highly doubt men'll start speaking up more, not really who they are. Men are the stoic caretakers of society and must adapt accordingly, and when most men start feeling underappreciated they simply walk away or go find someone else who's worth their money, energy, attention and time. Another factor is the legal system isn't anywhere near 'fair' and sides with women roughly between 90 to 99% of the time. Why play a game you'll lose?
@@sijul6483 These statistics have absolutely no basis in reality. But if you want change.... It starts with men supporting men. They're the ones running the systems, not women. That IS backed by actual stats.
My sibling was a junkie for many years (as mr Depp says "He was bitten by the snake" many times). Not once in all those agonizing years was he violent. Even when he was in withdrawl and might raise his voice, he'd automatically stop and fall to his knees and apologise for being an @sshole. So, there are people that do abuse substances but are not violent. Actually, seeing this side of mr Depp and listening to his testimony, I had many flashbacks of my family situation. Not pleasant but not violent.
My dad was the same way abused substance but never violent and when he did get to the point of anger he always walked away and would leave until he came back to himself. It was heartbreaking watching my fight his demons and even though we all tried to help & support him he couldn’t come out of it. And we lost him before he turned 60.
Yeah, it's not that addiction makes you violent but it brings out the violent traits and personality that you might already have genetically inherited.
Agree with all of this. I think he did a great job of humanizing himself to make himself relatable and I found his odd communication style to be both poetic and compelling, he really painted a picture of what this relationship was like and by the time he got to the finger incident and talked about having a nervous breakdown type of experience I could completely understand how he’d gotten there. Listening to those clips was brutal, the gaslighting was just unreal.
Every degree of trauma I have experienced is reflected very well in Johnny's testimony - I believe him entirely. I can see too how he would be drawn into this situation and respond the way he has. We're not just witnessing a messy divorce, we're seeing the aftermath of psychological and physical abuse and we need to think deeply about our understanding of that. He may be famous, but that's the perfect position to show that no amount of fame and wealth can protect you from the insidious and damaging nature of these relationships.
When his sister talked about their mother calling her by the mother in laws name and how to most people it wouldnt seem like much but her mother hated her mother in law so there was a bad meaning behind it, i felt it and she explained psychological abuse in a way i wish i had known how to explain all these years.
@@anonymoususer4866 It's dehumanizing, and when it's your own family, no-one truly understands how devastating that is because they cannot fathom it. It's incomprehensible to feel that way, no-one gets it or sees it and you don't believe it. That's a lifetime of torture.
I'M SICK OF HEARING THIS MUTUAL TOXICITY, SHE PLANNED THIS FROM THE BEGINGING AND AFTER THEY GOT MARRIED, SHE DELIBERATELY BROKE HIM DOWN AND ABUSED HIM PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY AND MENTALLY!
GS...I was thinking the same thing. Even to send her profile into the producer/director of the Rum Diary. It was like he was her next target or victim.
I would not be surprised in the least if I found out she "researched" him before they started dating: found out what music/films/books/artists he liked and used that to charm him.
@@empirex334 She definitely researched him. His taste in music, especially old blues, is obscure. And he said that when he met her she loved all the blues music that he was into.
Because he isn't a grown man and was forced to marry her and then stay in that marriage because he has absolutely no agency in his own life and over his own actions whatsoever, right? No matter what you think, a marriage/relationship takes two people. And it doesn't matter what kind of mother he had or how much of a pussy his father was. Millions of people have had terrible upbringing, and millions have had it much, much worse than poor JD. And guess what? Millions have had no problems leaving toxic relationships. To think that he himself played no role in the toxicity of their marriage is simply ignorant of the real world and what real couples go through, or just out right dishonest. They both brought their own unique forms of toxicity to their relationship and neither of them can be considered totally guilty or totally innocent. What's happening here is most likely one of three things: 1.Either those who side completely with JD are starstruck fanboys/girls, 2. they have never been in an actual marriage/relationship/partnership, etc. 3. have been indoctrinated into the men's rights cult of sexism, misogyny, and outright hatred of women. On a final note, of course everyone found JD's testimony convincing; he's a freaking actor for fucks sake. And not a goddamn one of you knows either one of them, so stop with all the he's a decent guy he wouldn't do that bs. He's not your friend and you have no idea what you don't know about him. Special thanks to the late war criminal Donald Rumsfeld for that last modification of his asinine early 2000s doublespeak. Peace bitch.
Well *a HUGE issue* is that the agreement in the divorce, Amber signed in 2015, was that Amber NOT talk about the "issues" of their marriage or divorce..Amber broke that agreement, subsequently costing Johnny roles and ALOT of money..seems he has a great reason to take her to Court 🤷
Do you know why they are only referring to the op-ed then? Why can't they point to the divorce agreement or other testimonies of her saying he was abusive? She literally turned around a situation in her favor when he was the one trying to escape. Instead, she claims she was the one that was attempting to "escape" towards him, which doesn't make sense and contradicts her admissions in the recordings. I noticed that her stories change up and have too much detail, whereas his has remained surprisingly consistent almost word for word. I expect her story to change again because she is on the defense now, it would be weird for her to continue the abuse allegations as strongly. I just find it weird that they are only hanging on this one article when it's obviously so much more than that. I wonder if it's just not possible, or did he have to choose to focus on one thing?
@@Emidoki If he were to sue her for breaking the non-disclosure agreement, highly likely he'd win that in court since there have been many examples of her implying she was a victim in her marriage. However people could say he didn't want her to disclose anything bc he "must be hiding something". This way, his story and the truth get out.
If that were the case then he would be suing her for breaking the non-disclosure not defamation for an op-ed. Your argument makes literally zero sense. Also do better research next time. Because one she never actually signed the non-disclosure to the non-disclosure was in relation to his finances. Not their marriage.
@@orbitalchild They are just desperate to now have the woman be the one at fault in such a highly publicized case of abuse. It would undermine their attempt to make the focus of such abuse be solely on women as the victims.
@@Emidoki I don't know, I'm baffled by the EXACT specific terms they're going by..I mean I realize Johnny's defense is painting a broad picture of her actions BUT wouldn't it GREATLY hinge on their divorce agreement? During my divorce I got everything, but as weird as it sounds, certain things weren't enforced..my ex was to pay a certain amount of money to me, along with covering ALL my medical bills..this never happened, even though it was court ordered (and with no repercussions against my ex for not doing it)..my divorce attorney told me the chances I had of it being enforced was a snowball's chance in Hell..my reaction was "so the Court won't uphold what IT decides?"..his answer was "yes and no" 🙄 so I'm just baffled by the rules, and most certainly how they're handling this in THAT aspect..to me it's pretty cut and dry..she should follow what she agreed to, but didn't, caused collateral damage to JD and his career, has continuesly lied/lies, even during the Court proceedings caught on camera (LIVE Tweeting, etc)..I guess this falls into the "yes and no" theory from my lawyer..interestingly enough, I've recently helped my nephew with his divorce and the County Judge proceeding over it REFUSED to enforce a Federal Judge's ruling 🤷 I'm like, *how is that legal???* Isn't Federal > County?? 🤦 AND later on, that County Judge *DIDN'T EVEN ENFORCE HIS OWN RULINGS!!* I'm not even sure if there's a different set of rules for this case pertaining to what country, where "what" specifically happened with them..Soooooooo your guess is as good as mine 😂
Johnny has formed so many genuine and close relationships with various people over long periods of time and everyone except Heard speaks incredibly well of him. Heard on the hand has the narc mask and narc smile. I recognise it, I've lived with it. Thousands of abused people are saying that she triggers them and I agree with Johnny, the psychological abuse is worse. The scars never fully heal.
Johnny's exes said he was always gentle and loving with them, even his ex wife he left Amber for. Amber has a previous domestic violence police record with her ex. I think that tells us a lot.
@@twincherry4958 yeah, that is what he testified. He started having feelings while filming rum diary with amber. Amber one day on set showed up at his trailer and they kissed. He felt bad because he was with Vanessa (who is the mother of his children) & Amber was married Tasya. He testified Amber was married to Tasya, however wikipedia states that it is an ex-girlfriend.
He didn't leave Vanessa Paradis for Amber Heard. Both Johnny depp and Amber Turd had already left their significant other's before getting together. Vanessa Paradis missed living in Paris, were she worked and lived. She wanted to move back. So they went their separate ways. But it was mutual
I think he was completely believable. I was glad he had a chance to have his voice heard. His story of not being allowed to go to bed when he wanted to go to sleep, but rather when she wanted to go to bed was very telling. It’s exactly what a narcissistic person does.
Watching Depp tell his story brought back a lot of bad memories for me. I wasn't a Depp fan before, but now have a better understanding of what makes him tick. There's a reason there are more psychiatrists per capita in LA, and it's not the weather.
I never knew about his horribly sad and painful childhood, and in spite of that- he chose to be an incredibly kind human being, something I greatly admire! I think the only person he really hurts, is himself! Extremely well done and intelligent video, Dr. Grande! Loved your "slapping" comment! 😅
After watching some of Johnny's court testimony, and Amber Herd Birds facial expressions, half smile and raised eyebrows, looking down like it was funny when JD talked about her evening 2 bottle of wine and an Ambien daily habit, I'm of the feeling that Amber was very abusive and Johnny just tried to survive, hide, and when cornered verbally fought back. Someone throwing a bottle of vodka at you, it shattering and partially cutting off your finger would make me sleep in a locked room.
I totally agree with you especially regarding DA. I have also been in an abusive relationship and I had my newborn in the house. I stayed in the house for additional six-seven months after the last physical confrontation. My child and I stayed at one end of the house while I made my spouse stay at the other. There ended up being one last situation and I knew it was time to leave. There was not only physical abuse. There was emotional and psychological abuse.
I never doubted Johnny. Amber even looks like she has bad intentions edit: for those of you confused, someone can appear that they have bad intentions from their behavior and body language. I think that was implied, guess not.
I agree with you she's nuts. It just sucks how hot she looks specially in court lol I'm all behind Johnny though. I've been with women just like her. Utter bullies
Nobody can deny JD is exceptionally Generous to humans! This alone says that the last thing on his mind would even think of physically striking a human being!!
I don’t know how you draw this conclusion. The two are not mutually exclusive. I do believe JD was in a toxic abusive relationship and was not only abused but constantly gaslit by AH. But to say someone who is generous could not be violent is absurd
@@wordsleuth992 well i speak from my own 60 years of life experiences. I have encountered a few very generous people in my life and noticed a common denomination amongst them. Generally all of them are quite peaceful and express the demeanour of a pacifist!! You could easily see the way they behave! One of them is my late dad. Another is my uncle, the third is my good old college friend, etc. My advice to you take time and witness it your self to understand where I am coming from!
@@victorgojocco1716 I myself have 50 years of life experience and can think of three examples right off the top of generous people who went on to physically abuse and in one case murder their spouse. I guess it just depends on the people you have experienced. I think it is possible to be generous in one aspect of your life but then still express other extremes of human emotion like jealousy or rage in different situations. Then when you add in drug and alcohol use that can change the personality drastically. Then you add in mental health issues and there is no end to possibilities. I think if you look at recent news you can find plenty of examples. I don’t want to name names here.
@@wordsleuth992 probably what you saw in those people who showed generosity where not really authentic in their acts!! But then again I am just coming from my own life experiences!! So to me it aint the least absurd!!
I've witnessed a similar situation where a friend's partner was the aggressor behind closed doors. As friends we knew something was up. She would abuse him, belittle, hit, cheat, gaslight..U name it. But she was a savvy manipulator. She went public with accusations first. Got on the front foot... purely because she knew it was the ultimate way to hurt him. She would create an argument, then ring his friends or family, claiming he was becoming out of control and violent. She tried to manipulate those closest to him. But in reality, behind closed doors, she was the aggressor and forced the confrontation. It broke my friend. He had no history of being abusive. She did. But he couldn't walk away. My laboured point is this; there truly are nasty, manipulative people out there. It's not common to see it reach this level..but it happens and it's complicated. No doubt we're more accustomed and conditioned to hearing about men abusing their partners...but being toxic doesn't discriminate on the basis of sex. If Depp is telling the truth..I really feel for him.
I'm familiar with an almost exact situation with a friend of mine. It broke him unfortunately because he just wanted peace for the children and didn't fight fire with fire.
AH did receive 7 million divorce settlement but in her arrogance, she became the poster girl for me too movement and donated it all to charity. That's on her if she cant take care of herself. The 100 million is she wins heaven forbid, is unjust enrichment.
His accent is very interesting a Mid-Atlantic accent almost ,consciously learned obviously and fashionably used by the early 20th-century American upper class
I was abused by someone with BPD and would scrutinize his decision. I made the same decision, but it was an irrational and self destructive horrible decision.
@@DingDongDaddyFromDumas I’m sorry for you. People like Amber Heard can be incredibly charming, loving and mesmerizing. It’s like “I HATE YOU!” But then, crying and lovingly “please don’t leave me!” It’s confusing!!! Hopefully Johnny never looks back at her. She’s terrifying and might off him as revenge.
I didn’t see the word “maniac” as Johnny separating himself from other drug users. He was differentiating his true reasons for using from the reasons he is being accused of.
And I wonder how many people out there are using drugs from the same family of Roxicodone (which was prescribed by a doctor to Johnny) and don't call themselves drug addicts.
I believe he is a occasional user, I know people that smokes pot every day, many times a day. Pot does not alter people behavior that much. And to some, not even cocaine. But he is addicted to pill killer medication, that’s the problem and he is minimizing his addiction. That’s someone very far from winning the battle against that. But he will win this case, and probably will get a second chance, he looks like a good man. But he need a woman by his side, not a teenager.
@@laurenmay2098 I’m rooting for him but defamation cases are so hard to win. It’s probable that Amber will win. But at least Johnny has won with the court of public opinion.
It was very interesting to hear how he got into acting and had never intended to be an actor. A former boyfriend of mine worked on the set of 21 Jump Street and told how Johnny would retreat to his trailer at meals rather than socialize with the others. He thought Johnny was stuck-up but I wonder now if it was just that he needed time alone because he is an introvert. I had an abusive mother myself and it really does a number on you, partly because it's not socially acceptable to say your mother was abusive. Everyone will sympathize if you had an abusive father but if it was your mother, people just act like you must be lying. My mother actually said my father abused her, and I believed her for years until I actually thought about things I had witnessed as a young child and how she treated me and my little brother.
To fans, whatever ticks or habits their pop stars have is always explained away as a cute lil magical quirk, or stress caused by infidel non-believers. Their pop god always innocent
Same here. But that is your "Mom". You only get one mother. No my mom was mommy dearest and prided herself on that movie. She is and always will be toxic. Prayers for your healing. Mine has been 5 years when I stumbled across Todd Grande that opened my eyes to Covert Sociopath
OMG, "Amber was slapping before the Academy Awards". Dr. Grande., I never know where the zingers are going to occur and that's what makes them so enjoyable! 😂😂😂
I just wish and hope JD wins this court battle. I just feel his pain within his heart having a rough family backgound growing up and having to put up with AH who I believe is a complete narcissist. I am truly thankful to you Dr. Grande for that excellent assessment of JD. You really make sense. I am a fan of yours. Keep it up Dr. Grande.
What way you talked about drug use not being a moral thing made me cry out of nowhere. I wasn’t expecting it, I’m what they call a recovering addict and hearing that was something I really needed I think. Thank you.
It is a moral, or rather a spiritual, failing, don't listen to Grande. What you have to do is understand better what exactly is the weight and importance of failing spiritually.
Shut up. It’s people like you that make addiction something to be hidden and lied about and end up getting people killed. You have no clue what you’re talking about. But of course it’s people like you who claim that only “god” can judge but are ALWAYS the first to judge people. You are failing, socially, spiritually, morally, and intellectually.
I agree and enjoyed your analysis. Based on the totality of circumstances… Amber is the one with a background of abuse, while Johnny is not. Neither are angels, but Amber seems particularly cruel, and Johnny, just troubled and eccentric.
@@marissalw8445 AH ticks ALL the boxes for Borderline Personality Disorder. JD is the real victim. Borderline is a Cluster B Personality disorder, and those folks are the bullies and abusers of the world.
When she's up, she'll forget to keep her story straight. When she can't answer, she'll cry. When she feels confronted or contradicted, she'll seeth, the cracks will widen and she'll lash out. It will be quite a dramatic performance. The jury will see the difference. Johnny is authentic and genuine. AH lacks a sense of identity and has to guess what's "normal" and how reasonable people behave.
@@marissalw8445 I thought that at first, but after listening to his whole testimony so far and some of the tapes, am firmly on his side. Plus in the opening statement her lawyer came off as inauthentic.
His audio recordings of Amber admitting to hitting him then calling him a cry baby for complaining about it helped. She’s been exposed. Ms. Heard is likely a raging Borderline PD or at least has several traits.
Oddly, Johnny Depp reminds me of my Dad, deceased 20+ years now. He has many of the same mannerisms and gentleness and often uses the same words my Dad used. It makes it hard to be objective. My mother wasn't as bad as his mother but she runs a close second. It sounds like they had the same childhood. I've never thought of him, or many stars, as real people, but watching him has been enlightening. I find myself being empathetic which surprises me.
I like your dry wit, where you refer to a slap being in fashion because of the award ceremony, without missing a beat. 😂 You do this often and I’m scratching my head as it’s incongruent - and I realise that you’ve slipped this in to a very factual narrative - in an otherwise straight, factual manner at odds with the rest of your explanation. I love it!
Having been abused myself by my partner, when I first heard that Depp had abused his wife, I quickly wrote him off. But after hearing his testimony and seeing his sincerity, I believe that he was mostly the one being abused. But I do find it hard to believe that he was never backed into a corner far enough that he would someday snap and slap her back. It took me 5 years to get to that point myself and only did it once towards the end of our relationship. You realize that someone is about to turn you into a violent human being yourself and you know that the relationship must end before you change into something you abhor. I think he is very brave to bring everything into the public court and expose his vulnerabilities. But his career was ruined by Amber and I think it's about time he exposed her and reclaim his life back.
RE: "something you abhor." Nailed it. I was in a relationship with a cluster b, diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. When I was hit the first time, time slowed and I thought to myself this is the fork in the road. I looked at my ex, looked at the door, looked back at my ex again then walked out the door without a word. Succumbing to physical violence, there's a moment you say to yourself you won't go there. A few months later a few fights later and being hit again, I was done. I cut that ex out of my life and it's been over 10 years now.
He's a gentleman I don't think he ever physically hurt her plus or plus his mother used to hit her and I don't see a violent bone in his body I'm a counselor some people do not fight back with violets they just walk away and being a man he walked away every time yes his texts are awful and his cursing and drug and alcohol addiction isn't good but that does not make you a violent person
Police came when I called. I had a black eye and two small children in Metairie, LA. My husband acted like a meek little lamb. Police told me I could pack some things and they would escort me to a motel. They said they couldn't make him leave. This was 1978. At least now I think men are arrested for abuse but not sure about all states. I divorced him a year later.
zero evidence SHE is the one admitting on audio that SHE provoked physical fights then mocks him for leaving the room, she severed his finger, she put out a cigarette on his face, she lied regarding being a dv victim..she is a sociopathic narc abuser..he never assaulted her, zero evidence even with all her recording and etc he showed remarkable calm and restraint being physically hit, etc by this sociopath after his mother died and he lost 650M on top of her abuse you're confusing criminal dv assault with grief and addiction issues, he was never violent abuser which she claimed to ruin his life people don't go to prison for slamming cabinetry
I don’t think Jonny was denigrating other drug users, he was referring to how he himself has been described. I personally have been in DV situations and I empathise with him deeply.
I actually think the difference is, and I know because I have personal experience is distinguishing between addiction and dependence. He wasn't denigrating anybody for being a user. That's how I understood it.
I have a problem with the "or" as if borderline excludes psychopathy. We are talking about CLUSTER B psychopathology here, that basically means psychopathy and narcissism, just various forms of it. Thing with BPD - especially those impulsive types - is, hell is reserved to close people and most will never see that cruel side of them... it's the Family, partner, close friends, favorite persons who see it, especially in the impulsive/vulnerable BPD types are like that. You gotta understand, when a borderline discards and smear-campaigns, that IS their secondary psychopathy at play. This is what real borderline looks like and the only reason we got a glimpse of it is, Amber took it too far.
@@no-good-productions as someone that is a friend with a women with bpd and that often helps her trough crisis i have to disagree. borderline and psychopathy are not related. I don't know if this is what you mean but you message reads like you are saying psychopathy is a secondary characteristic of BPD which it is not. Cluster B personality disorders and not "CLUSTER B phychopathology" are similar but they do have different symptoms, diagnoses and causes (according to wiki , Cluster B personality disorders, on the 20/04/22 ). Amber's behavior according to the recorded voice tapes suggest Narcissism or anti social personality but to reiterate my main point is that psychopathy is not sub element of BPD. P.S. as a programer I know the difference between exclusive or and or and I used or in my opinion of amber's problem
@@no-good-productionsI can see why you think so, but a borderline brain and a psychopathic brain looks and behaves quite different. I am very aware that a borderline might act similar to a psychopath in some situations, but that doesn't make them the same think. I have BPD. My first FP, and still a dear friend, has ASPD.
@@peter4210 where to start... psychopathy isn't meant to describe a mental illness, it was kind of created as pattern used in profiling. If we go by mental illness, you will have a hard time even finding a psychopath who does not have obvious Cluster B traits, at least if we go with the DSM, psychopathy basically is part of Cluster B. In case of borderline, the similarities are so noticeable, they were summed up in the vulnerable dark triad, this kind of known at this point. Keep in mind, secondary psychopathy is not what people think of when they hear psychopathy and even then, when we let's say speak about serial killer, those are the extreme of the spectrum and mostly factor 1 psychopaths and often have a lot of comorbidities and sadistic/shizophrenic and other elements along their psychopathy, though there are even famous serial killer with a BPD diagnosis.
It seems like his “drug fueled maniac” is not his personal opinion of drug users, but rather his attempt to respond to the later allegations made by her, relating the domestic abuse to alcohol and drug use.
My heart aches for Johnny but I salute his bravery for elevating the conversation. The narcissism epidemic in this country must be addressed, thank you Johnny for bringing it to the forefront! ✊🙏💞🥰
Thank you - I was never a fan of Johnny, and now I am listening to all information about this trial and his biography , I found him such a sweet soul, truly amazing MAN so much creativity in him - I think, I hope this trial will show, that MEN needs to be looked at as a gentle souls, who need love, not only as a tough and strong that can be abused because he can handle all. Dr. Todd I always value your opinion, and often count on your intelligent videos, with try dry humour - I adore - Thank you 👍🏻
I think when Johnny Depp refers to “maniac” drug users we should keep in mind that he was good friends with Hunter S Thompson, so his frame of reference for normal amounts of drug use may be different than the average person. Like JD might think, “sure I take oxy, but I’m not a maniac getting in gunfights with my neighbor like Hunter!”
I think that , and the fact he had been around many musicians, and actors that use made him feel his problems weren't as bad. He thought "I'm just numbing my pain" . The problem is that's all any addict Is doing . Some just get completely out of control for very long periods. I'm so glad he found a way to stop , and a way to pull himself away from Amber.
Johnnie’s open and frank discussion of taking his moms nerve pills starting at 11 was touching. He explained that his Mother was so cruel and he got into a pattern of drug use that was centered around numbing himself from all of his mothers negative traits that produced bad energy in their home. It made me realize that Johnnie is no different than any of us and that killing pain was the reason he used. It was very convincing. I don’t think amber heard got hit. If you watch that testimony, his openness made you sympathetic. And suddenly I realized Amber was not telling the truth.
"A refined yet troubled individual who was exploited by a violent and possessive young woman--a young woman man who activated his own memories against him." Well-stated Dr. Todd Grande.
I am so glad you are covering this Dr. Grande! I have been watching this trial nonstop and I am so looking forward to hear your thoughts on this. Thank you so much!❤️
Having a similar relationship (Johnny’s)with my mother I could relate to the crazy you go through in relationships and trying to deaden the pain. It’s like a pattern where you fall in with people who berate you & mistreat you like that parent. Basically the trial is to stop her from lying about him and trying to ruin his career. I hope the judge, etc see that although both their lives are troubled she should not LIE and try to destroy him. She’s done that enough.
Of course he helped himself. He was so eloquent and raw and honest and Amber just sat there with a cold unfeeling stare. The audio played in court today was so damning of her. If this case does not justly swing in Johnny's favor then I have no faith left in the world.
Wait until she gets on the stand I suspect she will lie ..the judge does not seem to stop her attorneys for hear say like She does JD attorneys ..we shall see..
It sounds like Johnny married his metaphorical mother. Very sad story. It never ceases to amaze me how the individuals in abusive couples become magnets and repellents for each other and themselves. I liked your perspectives
First: I think it’s clear from what I’ve heard from JD and his actual past reputation, that AH was immature, bullying and aggressive. I think she’s guilty.
JD even has ex-girlfriends sticking up for him. He's never been violent or hot tempered before. Its not impossible for a guy to start being violent in his 50s, but that would be weird.
Also why would a 50 something year old man suddenly late in life become an abusive partner when he was never accused of this in the past by any of his partners?
@@BothSidesareCorrupt ~Johnny Depp is 58 and I totally agree with your comment!! He's been acting for four decades and not one person has ever said that he's been violent except for her. In all honesty, I can't stand that psycho biatch.
He’s just so sweet. His story is so relatable. He has so clearly been abused. He so clearly used drugs for the same reason all of us addicts do, Pain. He’s almost shy. He’s so damn humble he doesn’t realize he’s freakin Johnny Depp. He looks so sad, so beaten up. And she looks so vindictive and manipulative. She’s living a borderlines dream 🙄
Johnny Depp sweet....what planet are you living on? I see a man who has serious drug and alcohol problems (but won’t do anything about it) and uses excuses like I’m damaged for domestic abuse. And yes Amber Heard is also toxic but they are both as bad as each other.
@@donna25871 Johnny Depp is a very generous and kind man. People have always spoken very highly of Johnny. AMBER IS A GOLD DIGGER AND PSYCHOPATH WHO IS VIOLENT AND ABUSIVE. SHE WAS ALWAYS HITTING JOHNNY AND WE HAVE A TAPE OF AMBER ADMITTING TO HITTING JOHNNY DEPP.
Human condition has shown us that they’re humans like the rest of us, with extra resources on their side. It’s quiet sad to hear that Johnny was abused by his mom and abandoned by his own father. Unconscious childhood programming that’s traumatic, unhealthy, unresolved, and unprocessed emotions can still affect adults especially if we’re not self-aware or willing to get professional help to correct the wrongs of the past. I hope Johnny Depp wins. And hope they both heal from their pain and suffering. Another great analysis Dr. Grande.
I believe it is more likely she will go on to have trouble relationships, and he will do what Mel Gibson did, work like crazy and forget about having a wife, girlfriends here and there will suit him better.
No way did pirates “make” Jonny depp. He has already been in a lot of amazing movies. I think they just put more focus on pirates because it’s the movie he directly lost because of her. Yes he’s gonna play like it was his world.
My first Jonny Depp’s film was “Arizona’s dream” 1993, pirates was a “stepping down” or selling out of Jonny, not the “making” of Jonny Depp, but he did it with style. I enjoy his acting, and she really is a very screwed up individual, I can’t see how this is going to end well for her.
I keep thinking of how Amber Heard had the capacity to injure JD's hand, and while the blood is flowing--and the pain probably increasing--this woman puts out a cigarette in his face. If that isn't evil, what on earth is? I do appreciate this analysis. It's inspiring to witness a person fighting for the truth to be known. A complicated truth, for sure.
@@adamp108 she threw large liquor bottles at him. His hands were resting on the arm rests of the chair . One bottle she hurled at him hit his hand. Makes it pretty easy for a broken bottle to cause a significant laceration when the hand is essentially resting against a cutting board.
@@adamp108 As much as i think amber was the instigator, i thought almost exactly what you wrote out above. |......the cig burn, i kinda think was her, but it's impossible to know for sure.
@@adamp108 Amber is the ONLY one who's admitted to physical assault in a recording. She told JD that she couldn't promise she wouldn't resort to violence in the future because she just snaps sometimes. I'm paraphrasing. She also has a documented history of intimate partner domestic violence. Remember the makeup kit that her attorneys said she used to cover up her "bruises"? That makeup company released a statement saying that the makeup kit didn't exist yet when AH claimed to have used it. As for JD, his exes have all come out with statements of overwhelming support for him. Also, it isn't difficult to understand how hurling a whiskey bottle at someone could cause an injury like that. I've been a psych nurse for a long time. I've also been a victim of domestic violence. My abuser fractured my clavicle and I still have problems related to that injury. However, the injury to my psyche was much worse. I treat patients with everything from borderline personality disorder to narcissistic personality disorder. AH needs a good psych eval.
Listening to the tapes today, Johnny sounds just like he does on the stand. His behavior after her assault, is consistent with victims. Not telling the emergency room doctor who did this when he had a team helping him after her assault. Men can be abused too and this will have an impact on other victims and them getting help.
@@adahmc yes! When AH's lawyer gave the opening statement, I had to replay it....more than once. I could not believe that she actually said "She's half his size.....so there isn't even the ability on her part to **be** the abuser." I thought there was no way she just said that. Did she forget that Jodi Arias exists? Coincidentally, Little Miss 1st Degree Arias also tried to say the same thing at trial, in regards to size. Didn't work for her either.
@@girlygal098 As you have recognized my Einsteinian intellect without insult, and asked with such grace, it will be my pleasure to assist with your query. You don't need to Einstein's feild equations to find the answer to your question. You must first possess a reading comprehension that surpasses that of an elementary student. If you practice and work hard, maybe one day you will be able to understand the statements by using the cognitive process of syllogistic reasoning. Until then, exercise that little mind of yours! Best of luck.
I am deeply hoping that this High Profile case brings us Justice: for all the hidden behind closed doors; Emotional & Psychological Narcissistic abuse; being just as necessary of defence as physical & sexual abuse. 🙏 I'm such an adult child of a malignant npd parent- now in No Contact from all family to heal finally @ 61.
I find the televised trial to be depressing and sad, and am unable to watch it without flashbacks of my own troubled childhood. Both Johnny and Amber look stricken with the memories of what transpired. Thank you for your excellent synopsis!
Big fan, Dr Grande! 1) physical violence should never be justified by a person’s youthful age. I’ve never touched someone while angry at any age. 2) while youth can justify some level of immaturity it doesn’t justify all levels of immaturity. 27 year olds can be incredibly amazing and grounded people. I’m personally interested in this case because I was married to a much older man who was physically assaulted by his previous girlfriend . Then, I got remarried to a person who I knew was an addict and raised two children with him. Everything about Heard screams danger for someone who is dealing with addiction and suffers from physical assault, especially as a child. Jonny is lucky she didn’t destroy him completely. I noticed some people are calling her a narcissist but I feel like she’s a sociopath, which are keen grifters. I wonder what other people think.
I got a death threat from a spouse that she excused 2 yrs later with the the fact that she was only 22at the time. I said "well your 24 now so i hope you wont tbreaten me now when i tell you i never want to see you again",. Got a bunch of threats on my way out and imediatley blocked her on evrything.
There seems to be a break between hemispheres. Read up on split-brain experiments and you’ll see what happens when communication between hemispheres occurs. Each hemisphere is a distinct personality, but the high rate of community through the corpus callosum creates a gestalt/amalgam personality that most people are familiar with. However, each hemisphere is completely capable of experiencing reality differently from the the other. This causes an inside when the the dominant personality is the not the conscious personality. The subconscious personality can present an imagined reality to the conscious personality fooling the conscious personality into believing something other than reality. Another way to look at it is believing you imagined making one decision even though you actually made that decision. If one hemisphere is in the “backseat,” it will seem like what is really happening only happened in the imagination. Exacerbating ALL of this is the fact that the anterior temporal lobe plays a key role in memory creation AND aggression regulation. This means, the more agitated one becomes, the harder it is to remember the incident. This what causes those “blind rages” or blackouts during an enraged state. I do not think Amber is a complete narcissist. I think HALF of her consciousness is a narcissist while the other half is the personality Johnny fell in love with. When all is good, the good Amber is in control. When things become stressful, the good Amber becomes surpassed leading the narcissist to surface.
If Johnny had never gone through this court case, we would have never known his side of it. I’m glad he is doing it.
I’ve known since the tapes came to public knowledge. Listen to them when you can. Any DV survivor recognizes the mind fuckery and intimidation from AH. She says nobody would believe him.
Ya, no matter the outcome of the verdict, it's great that people can see that women can be horrible too. This woman is unfortunately a psycho. She should seek help.
Well, all that info including audio and video was all over the internet for years.
no.. ignorant people didn't know this info... people that actually cared to know the truth know all of this already
His courage is phenomenal. I have even more respect for this man than I did before. This will help men who are suffering in silence at the hands of such aggressive and violent women.
Anyone who has lived with a narcissist feels his words.
it was like listening to a slow motion camera so what did i miss?
@@MauiMauiMe Crappy Moms make dating and marriage hell. When I finally learned what BPD was it explained my exs to a T and why i kept "screwing up" in who I chose.
Spot on.
She is also a sociopath.
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Johnny has scored a lot of points with me. His testimony moved me to tears many times. He is obviously a victim of severe abuse.
that was straight up elder abuse the whole relationship. i can tell he is fed up with it all i am wondering if they are going to call Hiddleson , the loki guy to the stand because he spread a bit of gossip and at the last trial someone spilled his tea.
well all she needs to do is cry and jury will vote in her favor.
@@PHlophe from this one ☝️☝️ and the guy up A
@@PHlophe Elder abuse? He's not yet 60.
@@ubuntuber1619 No they won't. That tape ruined her.
Amber's violence, deceit and bullying are staggering. FACT: ALL of these events took place in 2014-2016 -- it has taken this man 6 years to be able to speak up and defend himself. 6 years. Bravo. Johnny. Speak your truth.
He's beyond a tough cookie. 🍪✊
"why do womyn take six years to come out against bill Clinton and Louis CK it's racist"
I saw his testimony. My heart goes out to him.
And people always ask, why did it take so long for the abuser to speak up. Should have said something right off and it would have all been resolved. Well, in a perfect world maybe.
@@barbarastrayhorn4667 Johnny Depp spoke out at exactly the right time, using precisely the perfect words, grammar, punctuation to perfectly state his case which is "I'm the innocent Victim never did anything wrong, as my fans can verify"
He was raised by a narcissistic and abusive mother, and because of that he couldn't run away from another narcissistic and abusive woman later in his life, this is a tragedy that seems to be common among children raised by narcissistic parent(s)
She is unstable, but what about the jokes about killing her and having sex with her dead body? Or burning her? I think he’s far from innocent in this. He’s the one trying to blame his financial problems on his manager while spending on the level of Michael Jackson.
well he separated from Vanessa( not abusive and nice woman) and he though he got the "better" adventure, fun, with this one haha nope she was just not revealing herself in deep colors like later...
Maladapted brain patterns formed in childhood & young adulthood (brain not fully developed until 25) are EXTREMELY hard to rewire once grown.
It takes work, concerted effort & a deep desire from within
@@mrazik131 It's actually quite a shock that he never went for anyone abusive before considering what his mother was like. It's so sad though how he kinda smiles when he says "Vanessa." Just like his friend said in the Discovery Plus documentary he lost the most wonderful thing.
He wasn't in jail. He absolutely could have left and had the money to easily do so.
On that stand, we saw John Christopher Depp II, not Johnny Depp, the actor. In his own words at an interview with Tim Burton, he said that he is not a "talker", he is shy, and he doesn't like to watch himself on the screen. He was articulate when he finally gathered his thoughts. John was on that stand divulging his heart out to everyone. Regardless of his eloquence of speech or not, I found him to be truthful and believable. He was up on that stand to clear his name, and to try to prove that he is not a wife beater. I hope to God he wins!
Beautifully written.. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
He will. ✨💯✨
So do I ❤️💐🙏
I think he’s proved he’s not an abuser of women. It’s probably best to now walk away and heal. He can get the best therapist and finally heal he deserves this
I agree he loves with all his heart
I feel his pain and embarrassment over this. I believe him. She's a narcissist.
Let's be honest. ALL actors are narcissistic. It's not a crime. Amber appears to display a borderline personality disorder. But he probably has traits too.
@@KatJ3st Amber admitting to hitting Johnny on a audio & said she "cannot promise she wont get physical again saying I get so mad". Amber is guilty of aggravated assualt.
@@KatJ3st I thought BPD too.
@@pauladuncanadams1750 just textbook
@@KatJ3st Indeed. Welcome to my childhood.
Correction Dr Grande… his first big break was not Pirates. I believe “ Edward scissor hands” or “what’s eating Gilbert grape” would be more plausible. But love your content.
Yes I agree I remember when he did Edward scissor hand it was a big success 👍🏻
Yeah. It does feel like those of us who were alive before Pirates still remember him in other roles.
I believe both 21 Jumpstreet and Crybaby preceeded both Edward Scissorhands and What's Eating Gilbert Grape?
Dr Grande was probably retelling how Johnny Depp told in his testimony that PotC was his big break, to emphasize that losing that role because of the op-ed Amber had put out was a big hit to his career.
Definitely What’s eating Gilbert Grape
I don't doubt there was mutual relationship toxicity but based on what's publicly available, Amber seems more aggressive, prone to physical & verbal outbursts, & to be genuinely vindictive in her behaviors. She seems to have a very hard time emotionally regulating & should have sought help for that long ago.
Depp threatened to assault an Australian government agent if they arrested Amber over her illegally importing animals into Australia, he doesnt seem like a gentle kind person, that's just people being biased because he's the more famous celebrity.
That's what happens when you leave your loving wife for a crazy younger girl.
@@donotreply8979 his ex partner Vanessa confirmed he didn't leave her for Amber, they had been split for 2 years before he met Amber 😏
AND she took an intentional POOP in his bed. I mean .....
She severed his finger, cigarette to the face and pooped on his bed. I'd say she long past toxic, vindictive or aggressive- she's straight up dangerous ☠
Agree with your observations, I think he came across as genuinely needing to clear his name, not only for himself but his family & children. It is important to see a man can also be a victim of domestic violence including emotional, psychological & physical abuse.
Cara Therese Hodge, yes ma'am- exactly 💯
Absolutely. I grew up with an abusive mother. It’s crazy how some women can get away with abuse. The smart ones even know how to turn it around any make themselves look like the victims.
Amber and Depp had a Zoom meeting with a therapist. Depp didn't deny the fact that he hit Amber Heard; that is very telling to me. I don't like Amber Heard and I believe she has lied so it is confusing trying to figure out the truth. Depp is likeable but alcohol and drugs can fuel anger.
The percentage of women that abuse their men is slightly higher than men abusing women.
And a man of his fame and wealth no less. In a way it reminds me of Britney Spears, probably the most famous pop star in the world, yet her family and handlers managed to defame and imprison her, basically keeping her as a trafficked human slave. 😓
If Amber would have just let him quietly divorce her no one would have known what a complete lunatic she is… 🤦♀️
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Couldn’t agree more She shot herself in the foot 🦶
me too
She’s bat shit crazy 😝
she couldnt because vindictive is her second name, being beatuiful she got away with a lot....until now!
When someone gets abused like this for awhile, it can be difficult to communicate the hell that you have gone through. I believe him.
Yes. It's time for the public and for "Dr Todd" to admit that childhood abuse does NOT produce criminals - it produces victims of further abuse. I've been telling it for a very long time.
Murderers and criminals and abusers might have suffered childhood abuse, but they would have murdered and abused others anyway. Time to scrap childhood abuse as a mitigating factor in courts, wash the name of abuse victims clean!
I believe even a healthy mind tends to 'forget' or push away bad experiences in order to go on. It's generally not a nice thing to do in a relationship to keep bringing up past fights etc, right? Except, is tendency is very detrimental if someone continuously abuses you (mentally or otherwise), because the effect does linger, you just don't really know why... my feeling on the matter, anyway (because I wondered how come it was so hard for me to bring up examples when asked "what did I ever do to you" quite a few times....)
Amber should have never had anything to do with a pathetic drunk, either.
@@joeking433 She herself is an alcohol and drug abuser alongside with her sister. Instead of helping him with his addiction, she encouraged him to drink and do drugs.
"my sister taught him how to use cocaine sniffer" - Amber Heard
"we (Johnny and Whitney) drank and did lot of cocaine and I ended up passing out" - Whitney Heard
"rare occasion I'm sober" - Whitney Heard
@@verabolton What does that have to do with the case? Johnny is claiming that her article was responsible for his losing acting jobs. I don't see that as true, I see Johnny as a train wreck who lost work because he was so irresponsible.
Here’s a nuance the good doctor missed: Johnny allowing Amber’s friends to inhabit penthouses in the same building where he and Amber lived also is a great indicator: it shows that he never tried to isolate her from her friends, which often happens in abuse situations. He welcomed the friends into their lives and also shared his friends with Amber. It’s a shame Amber is twisted in her thinking there was some benefit to setting Johnny up this way. Oh well, I hear they’re taking applications at the Chick-Fil- A.
This is a good point, one that I missed. Abusers usually try to isolate you. Also if he was abusive, he wouldn’t want to risk her friends hearing or witnessing the abuse.
Good one!! Pamela
Damn! This is such an insightful comment. Why would an abuser welcome all her friends to live next to them where they can hear the abuse? I wish they made this point in court.
Very good point. Isolation is a hallmark of abusive tactics. She seems to be the only one guilty of that, getting upset when he socialized with anyone but her, even his own kids. One more tick of a box on a list of her abusive behaviors.
Excellent point!
My mother was narcissistic . She once spent the whole afternoon trying to convince me that I was a loser. When she finally broke me I was profusely crying and peered through my fingers to see if she regretted it but to my dismay I saw her smirking almost giggling . Proud of what she accomplished. Hearing Johnny say it's like I married my mother I felt the same way. I did the same as him as a father , the complete opposite of what my mother would do. My ex-wife and 3 girlfriends were narcissistic I believe I was groomed by my mother. My brother and sister were also terrified of our mother. She threw knives at me beat me with a stick broke my hockey stick on my back , kicked my sister in the head as she untied her boots like it was a soccer ball. She would fight like a man or exactly like a hockey fight. I'm glad she's dead and I'll never have to see her again and as for girlfriends I'm very comfortable alone and a hell of a lot richer.
❤❤❤I want to hug you. So sorry you had to go through this.
I understand how you feel about your mother being deceased now. Only abused adult children can fully relate to what you posted of how you feel. Mine is not dead but I do feel similar to you. Sending you light, warmth and peace. You are not alone.
@@Barnee1897 I completely feel you. People like us with similar pain and trauma due to our mother's treatment of us typically spiral around " Mother's Day. Its the most dreaded time for many because of the commercialization of the day to be a joyful loving event with their mom's when everyone did not have that kind of experience. Sometimes it can feel so cruel. Its a day, I've learned to turn of the tv and radio. Though I send my mother a card and gift through her grandchildren ( my adult kids),mother's day belong to me now. Its my day and my celebration. Not hers even though we acknowledge her ( at a distance).
I empathise, but your last sentence "I'm very comfortable alone and a hell of a lot richer", makes me feel that there is denial and bitterness there regarding relationships. There are good women out there, don't feel that you have to give up (although there's nothing wrong with being single either.)
I had a horrible father, grandfather and a godfather who all sexually molested me until around 4, when my previous communication skills were good enough to have told our secrets and my own sense of a public self about to attend school saved me from further covert sexual abuse to physical and psychological manipulations of a life long imprint in my now life of 71 years. Beatings and Berating was my narcissistic father's sublimations to pull back on the sexual abuse. He had two other daughters to take care of and straighten out as was his personal justification to rape the youngest into her early adulthood. I get how preposterous Heard in behaving but her deepest sickness has just oozed out beyond her uncontrolled behaviors in all the court issues between her and JD. They have both been very sick puppies but her Alpha Narcissism is a hot mess as she just has had to create so much drama around such a short term marriage. Thankfully truth telling, steadied by a huge outpouring of support worldwide far eclipses her fantasy and foolish viciousness is a comedy of continuing errors. She has allowed her actions to speak volumes of the ugliness of her spirit and duel to the death of whomever she has decided has done her wrong. She needs serious psychiatric care. Hopefully JD's healing will continue and for him to come to personal peace. AH is too invested in the mindlessness of how she has been living the high drama of great delusion. I feel badly for her young daughter.
I believe him. There’s a lot of sincerity to his testimony. And as the therapist has said, he’s very articulate when he has a chance to speak
Yes but that therapist sure "doesn't recall" a lot of stuff.
@@5p674 That was an RN (nurse), not he therapist.
@@5p674 She's a private nurse to celebrities. Her business would be ruined if her clients thought she was going to blab about them later. She is covering her butt. Legally all she can really talk about is what she documented in her notes. Nurses are expected to maintain confidentiality of their patients, for the rest of their lives. Even after the patient has died, nurses aren't supposed to talk about them. I'm a retired nurse and if I want to share a story about one of my patients I have to give them a fake name and withhold details that could identify them. So I don't say which facility I was working when something happened.
@@5p674 she took a shit on his side of the bed.She isn’t mentally all there.Its clear she has some issues and that’s what caused the marriage breakdown
She’s also cheating on him with Elon & James franco.Add in the physical violence why would he want to stay with any of that
Actor is gonna act. I need actual evidence, not an actor's practiced performance.
Johnny's speech pattern reminded me a bit of my son, who is dyslexic. So I looked it up and found out that he is, indeed, dyslexic. So that explains a lot to me about how he was talking.
I watched most of his testimony that I actually feel very sad towards him. Anyone can easily tell that he is a tormented man trying his best within his own perspective to take care of things...his parents, siblings, children, friends, working crews, ..., just about everything surrounding him...he deserves a lot of credits of being who he is within his ability. No one is perfect.
I've only been able to watch bits and pieces of it. It's really hard for me to watch. I really hope that this does vindicate him on some level. He deserves to have his career back. He doesn't deserve the shit show that's been handed to him
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Yes I agree, he comes across as gentle and considerate.
Early on in the case I thought they were a pair of self obsessed celebrities but after listening to his full testimony so far, I see he is a nice person.
AND HE PAID FOR ALL OF AMBER'S NEEDS AND DESIRES, AS WELL AS MANY OF HER FRIENDS AND ASSOCIATES. HE PAID FOR *EVERYTHING*, TO HIS OWN DETRIMENT. BUT NONE OF THIS HAS ANYTHING TO DO WITH DEFAMATION. BASED ON TODAY'S QUESTIONS BY DEFENSE AND JOHNNY'S ANSWERS, I BELIEVE, EVEN MORE STRONGLY THAT THE JUDGE WILL DISMISS THIS CASE FOR LACK OF EVIDENCE PROVING DEFAMATION TO DEPP'S CAREER/ACTING ROLES AND MONEY HE *COULD* HAVE EARNED. HOLLYWOOD PRODUCERS HAVE 100 YEAR HISTORY DEALING WITH AND INTERACTING WITH CREATIVE PERFORMERS - THEY'VE DEALT WITH AND SEEN FIRST HAND, BEHAVIORS LIKE DEPP'S. i'D PREFER CUTTING TO THE CHASE HERE; BOTH LEGAL TEAMS SHOULD SECURE AND QUESTION DEPP'S EMPLOYERS AND SUBPOENA ALL CONTRACTS AND DOCUMENTS RELATED TO DEPP'S JOBS AS AN ACTOR. THE VOLATILITY OF HEARD/DEPP'S RELATIONSHIP IS NOT THE PURPOSE OF THIS TRIAL. WORKING *BACKWARD* WOULD BE MORE PRODUCTIVE AND INTERESTING IN MY OPINION. FINALLY, DEPP WILL GO ON TO PERFORM FURTHER ROLES; HE'S GONNA BE OK. I DON'T BELIEVE HEARD, ON THE OTHER HAND, WILL EVER BE A SUPERSTAR, AND HER CURRENT ROLE IN AM WILL END UP BEING THE PEAK OF HER CAREER. SHE'S JUST NOT THAT TALENTED AND PRETTY FACES ARE IN ABUNDANCE IN HOLLYWOOD - SHE'S EASILY REPLACEABLE. DEPP'S CHARACTERS ARE *BRANDS*, AND ALL OF THEM CONTINUE TO PROVIDE REVENUE FOR PRODUCERS AND INVESTORS, YEARS AFTER THEIR DEBUTS.
Mission accomplished! Especially if the jury agrees that a sad childhood is grounds for taking his side.
I am rooting for him. I don't find his slow speech odd. He is a deep thinker who uses his words perfectly to describe his exact emotion. He's very well spoken and he doesn't use useless filler words.
That comes from being around narcissists. You cannot speak any other way if you want to express any thought to them.
They listen to about 3 words and then either interrupt or zone out and don't care in least about what you are saying. That's why people think they play but you did this or that games. They don't care what they did no matter how egregious, they care a lot about the minor thing you did though so let's change the subject.
On talk show, he spoke like this too. Which also admires me that in the movie, he’s such a good actor that he could speak out the script so smoothly and fast.
Well said
I am rooting for him too but his speech is too slow
He also has ADHD which also feeds into his presentation
Being a celebrity has advantages and some real bad disadvantages. Johnny seems like a real good guy, I hope the future is less stressful for him and his children. Thanks Dr. Grande.
i think he needs a wife that 50 years old . and generally most dudes need to learn to leave those young tails the hell alone . it don't look good
He will be okay, Robert Downing Jr was more of a bad boy and he got a second chance. Depp looks like a very nice man with a addiction hard to kick it, but he is a good man.
@@PHlophe you got a point, it's not uncommon for borderlines to end up with older partner since they often are looking for a parental hybrid in a partner, borderline is daddy issues/the oedipus complex on crack.
@@PHlophe The hell are you talking about bitty? This isn't about him looking bad for having a relationship with a younger woman it is about him having been abused.
@@PHlophe 50? are you insane? you know what does not look good? woman in their 50s! have you seen jada smith?
I cannot express enough gratitude to Johnny Depp for his fearless truth in this case. The parallel he draws between his childhood and his marriage are priceless. I have NEVER found a Councillor, psychotherapist, psychiatrist etc etc that has show any understanding towards that, and the numbing that we (us survivors) seek from substances. Yay for the courage to deny 'partying' in favour of numbing after such decades of gruelling. The fact that he hardly got over his childhood, immersed in the next childish, power hungry relationship, once again stripping him of his right to be his true self, and the perfect and patient way in which he describes the situations, is FABULOUS. Thank you, Johnny for standing up for millions of us, while standing up for yourself.
I have never hade one, but you are my HERO ❤️
I totally agree. I survived a very very hostile and dangerous childhood, only to end up with a narcissistic abuser. It took all of me and more... It took so much to get away and the best part of 11yrs to even be able to entertain the idea that I might trust again. The mental torment never ever leaves. When I heard Amber wanted Johnny to go to bed at the same time, made me feel ill... I remember those awful times.
Sending you Love and strength Johnny Depp and also to all of the victims/survivors of abuse 💫💫💫
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I'm a psychodynamic therapist and I totally understand this. I know pretty much all my colleagues who work with addiction do too. I'm really sorry to hear you haven't found a therapist who understands this but wanted to reassure people we are out here. Psychodynamic techniques look at how the past impacts your feelings and behaviours in the here and now so it might be worth seeking a therapist trained in that modality.
Kiss that boot! LOL!
Ouch, I'm sorry to hear you see so much of yourself in Johnny's story.
The turbulence and trauma in my own life also has parallels.
Wishing healing for all of us~😌🌹💐
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I'm sorry for your suffering~😔~❤
His breakthrough role was “What’s Eating Gilbert Grape? Or, arguably, “Edward Scissor Hands”. Johnny Depp was already very famous by “ Pirates of the Caribbean”. Dr. Grande, I’m surprised by your pop- cultural lapse. You are usually spot-on.
Yep. JD was already a superstar before POC. ☠️
Exactly. Already a top star throughout the 1990s.
In his own testimony JD said POC was when he became famous to the point of needing security for his home kids etc. Doc is literally paraphrasing JDs testimony
He was certainly well known within his own right. But pirates of the Caribbean launched him into the stratosphere. Also Edward scissorhands is a great movie but it's more of a cult classic.
Agreed. And don't forget 21 Jump Street. He was a teens idol in those days.
Johnny's a good dude. he has his flaws, but don't we all. the videos of him doing tours of children's hospitals as jack sparrow are incredible.
Yes! Those are so precious!
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Johnny is a great soul, a troubled soul and a soul that just wants peace and a simple life. Good job Mr. depp
His childhood is so similar to mine. My mom was so mean and never proud of me, never said she loved me, told me I wouldn’t get a scholarship and everything I wanted to do in life would make me poor and a failure. I was also a pretty talented musician, had a full scholarship offer but pursued something else, probably because my mom told me I’d be poor.
I also dated a narcissist like Amber Heard and that relationship destroyed my mental health for over a year after it ended. I too accepted emotional abuse, almost like it was normal and she made sense to me. It’s crazy how your childhood programs you like that.
Same here my friend.
Maladapted brain patterns formed in childhood & young adulthood (brain not fully developed until 25) are extremely difficult to rewire once grown. Need resources, knowledge, concerted effort & a deep desire from within to change.
It's understandable why folks end up with the same kind of abuse in thier partners.
Generational trauma👎🏼
And same here. I'm sorry for you and for anyone who grew up with such a mother. Thankfully, we are now free to mother ourselves and it's good to know we're not alone. Forgive the past, love yourself and move on. Don't ever let anyone hold you back one more day.
That's terribly sad!!
I am in a much better place! That relationship was almost like a blessing in disguise, it forced me into getting therapy and becoming self aware of my irrational thinking and feelings.
I feel bad for thinking he was in the wrong. I'm so happy this is happening to show us all what can happen. It's sickening how much hatred AH has for him..
Tessa, the narcissist typical contempt for the other person who is the narc perceives as vulnerable, weak, and "manipulatlate-able"
Johnny gaining the love of his fans back are his winnings. The public had no idea of her horrific behavior. Even if he doesn't win this trial, he gets to speak his truth and show the real Amber.
A narcissist is the most dangerous when being broke up with/ divorced. She sees things as wins and losses. Her goal is to destroy him. I wonder how different the laws are in the U.K. vs the U.S. ? I have heard that the U.S. worship celebrities much more than 🇬🇧 U.K., I could very easily be wrong about that, though. I hope more men come forward to tell their stories. Abuse knows no gender.
That's why I hope he wins. She needs to face consequences, because her defamation was and still is believed, she destroyed his opportunities. She betrayed public trust and made a mockery out of the justice system.
I don't think it's hatred she has for him, it's JEALOUS Y and POSSESSIVENESS! which leads to RESENTMENT! she still loves him ONLY A BIT TOO MUCH,
Even if he loses, at least he got to tell his side. Many people will believe him….
I’m praying for a win I think the jury will have compassion
Yes at the very least I think he’s clearing his reputation, even if it’s not a win
Everyone loves Johnny Depp. But he's suing everyone he knows...and this lovers-quarrel should have been over with years ago.
Oof, I was thinking he may win especially after his friend Isaac's testimony. However, watching his cross examination this morning, I'm scared for him because of the text messages...they certainly didn't do him any favors too bad the defense has that ammunition.
@@CJ-ft9yo I'm not so sure. Of course WE believe him. The problem is Hollywood not believing, or using a double standard. It's obvious she's worse, be if she wins the case, in their eyes, she's the victim.
It's interesting to note that his past partners are standing up for him, and, to me, that speaks volumes. Why did he attach to him and why did he let her in? As he said, she seemed "perfect" and, as a middle aged man he was smitten by her love bombing until she slowly took control. He's an artist in every sense and was soon overwhelmed. Throw in the drugs and her immature and selfish need for control and you have a match made in hell. This trial has been painful to watch, but win or lose, I think Johnny has done a great service to male survivor's.
Don't even try to understand men... The fact is: Johnny Depp did not marry his long-term girlfriend and the mother of his children who was only 9,5 years younger, but married Amber Heard. Because she was very beautiful, very young and the way she behaved. Many men love such bad girls who excite them. Because good girls are just boring to them... I do not feel sorry for him at all.
@@sweetvictory5643 so him chosing a beautiful your women means he deserves being abused? Wtf is wrong with you?
@@sweetvictory5643 so, in essence, you have decided, that he deserves to be abused? Because he didn't marry the mother of his children? No one deserves abuse. I feel sorry for you.
@@sweetvictory5643 you think Vanessa Paradis had no say whether they got married or not? You lump all men into one group as well, very strange take to me
@@tearose9938 Obviously you are not smart. I have not decided, I have read a lot about men and some men told me. But YOU know nothing about men... There are many men who want to be abused intentionally. Such men pay a lot of money to a dominatrix, a woman who doesn't have to be attractive or young, all she has to do is physically and psychologically dominate her clients in a sadomasochistic encounter.
I was neglected, abused and tortured by bio and step mothers. And have dealt with people targeting me for abuse in adulthood. His story rings true. Her phrasing in the audio strongly suggests she was guilting him into staying with her. The demeaning is done to keep his self esteem low and less likely to leave her.
Exactly right. She seems very controlling, she really demeaned him. It is very sad to listen to.
she is gaslighting, and that is the language of an abuser
Agree
Totally agree
Depp's self esteem should be rock solid FFS! Blessed with leading man/rock star looks and talent,a 30+ year career as an A-list mega star who's earned hundreds of millions of dollars while working and hanging with the best of the best that the acting and music worlds have to offer as well as being adored by millions of fans.
We all have our issues,most all do not have the above mentioned advantages to steady them when tough times inevitably arrive. Money and fame doesn't mean happiness,but it sure does take care of a sht ton of the pitfalls in life.
The impression I have of him is he wanted to just be “chill” and relax when drunk or high whereas Amber wanted war. I have found his testimony to be both heartbreaking and illuminating and hopefully his traumas can bring much needed attention and help to DV against men
And I hope his story will make the public see that childhood abuse will not produce criminals and abusers and murderers.
Victims of childhood abuse will suffer further abuse in their life because that's what they used to and they have a high level of tolerance towards mistreatment.
Scrap the childhood abuse as a mitigating factor in court!
Johnny is the typical pathetic drunk.
I agree🖤
The subtle digs like “amber was slapping before it was in style” are the cherry on top for this channel.
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Mr. Depp’s courage is phenomenal. His mother’s abuse during childhood prepared him to attract abusive women like Amber.
I have even more respect for this man than I did before. This will help men who are suffering in silence at the hands of such aggressive and violent women.
It's strange isn't it. I was brought up by an abusive father as my mother died when I was 9. I can't remember my dad calling me by my name, just 'It'. I didn't think anything of it, until I red a book years later called A Child Called It.
I left home as early as I could, but eventually ended up in a violent relationship who used everything I had confided in him against me. That relationship wasn't the last violent relationship, I seem to attract abusive men. It's weird, because I don't want violence, I hate it.
I'm now in a loving relationship, but it's taken me years to find a good man.
I asked my doctor once why it is, and he said people who have suffered violence throughout their lives tend to repeat what's familiar to them. It still didn't make sense, it's not as though I'm some kind of masochist. But, like Johnny, and many other survivors of abuse, we often repeat it.
It's like a dog running back to it's abusive owner and just accepting that person and the life they give it.
I hope Johnny wins. It will allow other men to come forward and report abuse from their partners, male or female.
It didn't help him avoid abusive women though.
@@sebastiaanvanwater right, because it prepared him to attract them, which was already stated in the original comment that you must have read before commenting the opposite. So what’s your point?
No, people without money get divorced and THAT takes more courage.
I’m terrified that as a child of an abusive father, that I will be doomed to it. Please tell me that I’m not.
I spent 20 years married to someone who was somebody exactly like Amber Heard. One of my favorite stories was a time when I was trying to leave her. I was staying with my mother and my mother drove me to my ex's house to pick up some things. My ex of course didn't take it well even though she put together the box of stuff I was taking and I didn't have to stay there long so it didn't turn into an escalated fight or anything. I just grabbed the box and went to leave. As I was walking down the driveway my started grabbing at me and clawing at me ripping my clothes and grabbing my hair and hitting me. The whole time she was doing that she was screaming for help. I had a box in my hands I didn't even have available hands to defend myself I'm just dragging myself to the car while she pulling at me screaming towards the neighbors like I'm hitting her and hurting her. That was one of the most eye-opening and terrifying moments in my life cuz I realized what she is capable of. That was year three in our twenty years. Everything I hear about Amber Heard reminds me of her. Starting the situations, escalating the situations, and when she finally gets Johnny Depp as furious as she can make him she calls him an abuser. I would spend hours every day being called a loser and being hammered with how I was the reason why everything that was wrong in our lives was wrong and it be minute after minute of her just in the background complaining about me and putting me down and telling me I was stupid and shutting down all the things I had to say. I finally snap and we'd get into an argument and start yelling at each other and she would pull out her phone and start recording me so she could show people how crazy I was. She never recorded hours of her calling me a loser while I'm doing dishes and folding laundry while she's watching TV. No she just shows people the moment that I finally snapped. I started to figure out when she was recording me when all the sudden she'd change her tone and start acting sweet and submissive and I realize oh she's recording me now
Cameron Robinson, my daughter has the same thing happening to her being recorded after he starts a fight then he pushes the record button. He's a demonic monster 👹 because there's more going on than just that. My heart is broken 💔 over the abuse and neglect perpetrated toward her.
Living with a Narcissist is hell Run and never look back I am sorry for your pain
Yes! This is what abusers do. They take you to the edge of sanity and then they say, Look, how crazy she/he is!!
I'm so sorry you went through this.
Thank you for having courage to share your story
Sounds like she has lit the hell out of you. My was downstairs one afternoon, banging her head against the wall, screaming, "help..stop [my name]..you're hurting me!"
Luckily the neighbors saw where it started. She got caught trying to project violence on me, but it was her. She also tried to get me busted for dui, after she sent me to the store(I was drinking & watching sports). I passed a road side sobriety test, went back home to see a very scared rat! She was diagnosed a few years later, BPD with narc behavior. She lives alone. But I still talk to her after all these years. Borderlines due possess empathy, but it's sporadic. I'll always try to be a friend for her. She doesnt keep them.
I cried and cried listening to JD testimony. I suffered 15 years in abusive marriage with a borderline personality narcissist. Every word he said hit home for me. Your frozen and numb to the abuse and every time you walk out the door they reel you back in for more. Thankyou Johnny for speaking up on behalf of the real victims and exposing your deep raw vulnerabilities
“Johnny learned how to raise his children from his mother. He knew he had to do the opposite of what she did.” I FEEL SEEN. 💫cycle breakers 💪🏼
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Totally on the same page!
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My father was verbally abusive... nothing was ever good enough; if I got 99 on a test, it was why the hell didn't you get 100?!!! Harped on my weight (I weighed 120 as a high school student), always found some way to make me feel like a failure. When my son was born, I swore he would never hear anything like that from me, and would always know that I loved him and believed in him. One day when he was in grade school, he said he thought he was funny looking, and I said, no, he was a smart and handsome fella. He said, "You're my mom, you have to think that!" And I just smiled.
It cd go either way. My mum knew to raise me the opposite to how her mum got her but beat but it didn't block outbursts of rage from childhood trauma.
I enjoyed this analysis. Fair and balanced, full of fair insights. Can you imagine, going to your own island to try to detox from a substance addiction, neural pathways on fire, with an immature and controlling partner “helping”? That shows a great amount of self control. Thank you for this extra treat today, Doc. Always a pleasure to see you. ❤️
@@thebowelmovement3028 All women do it?..
@@thebowelmovement3028 your misogyny is showing, I believe you need to reel that in a bit. Don't accuse ALL woman like you have, you have not every female human on earth, so don't speak for them all.
@@thebowelmovement3028 not all women, but just by your comment it’s easy to see that’s what you’ve been drawn too. Perhaps recovery ❤️🩹 may help u find a better path
As someone that experienced domestic violence for 15 years, to me , she displays some of my ex partners traits and behaviours .
Ya saw a lot of the same stuff also know what's it like to try to use thing's to escape from the abuse even if u can't get out for what ever reason u can get out mentality
Same here friend. Unfortunately its my soon to be ex wife they is a mirror image of AH.. not in looks but in mentality and actions. It can be quite scary especially since I'm in California.
kind of refreshing and healing for me to see gender not come into this much at all.
@@awright119021 Yep... im going thru it right now with my soon to be ex wife. Its just awful. When I try and pointout what she is doing and how she is behaving she thinks I'm projecting and calls ME the narcissist. Id rather pound my head against a wall than talk to her any more.
@@tonyrandall3146 Trials not over.. give it time.
I appreciate Johnny’s speaking style. He was literally thinking before he spoke. As far as his substance abuse I hope his lawyers stress that addiction is a disease and being an addict doesn’t mean a person is abusive and the defensive is wrong to make that suggestion
But it's a choice, and if you choose to live your life intoxicated there are consequences.
I believe him because of the tons of public evidence, specifically the recordings! I don't know how anyone can think he's guilty after Amber said point blank that he was cowardly because he would leave when she became violent.
I am also on Jhonny’s side but I am sure Amber will use his drug abuse history against him..he hit her and he doesn’t remember because he was not in his senses..
Audios proved that she was also abusive.. I think Jury will make both villains..
@@hemantsinghrawat19 But Amber also took drugs and was drinking, what’s your point. Every witness said they've never seen Amber with any signs of abuse and have never seen Johnny being violent, that includes Ambers doctor. On the other hand, there are plenty of evidence of Amber abusing Johnny and she has a history of being a fcking satan towards others people, also abusing or beating them. Her own mother is terrified of her ffs. Amber is one of the most vile trash I have ever seen. She has no way of getting out of this and Johnny is only gaining supporters and positive attention now. He will most definitely win this case.
@@adamp108 exactly ! These stupid Depp stans are going to hide in their holes after he loses this one like his humiliating defeat in the Sun trial 😂😂
Even if he doesn’t win the defamation case he won because he got his side of the story out there. I never believed AH’s claim that he abused her. He has no history of DV with the myriad of partners he’s had over the years.
Oh yes, I love the fact he can tell the story with details, and he is very believable!!!
Yes, it is no secret he has used drugs and alcohol for years and never became violent while intoxicated. Her lawyers are hell bent on painting him as a violent drug addict, which simply doesn’t add up. She is the violent, aggressive, belligerent one.
the text and timeline was proven to be false, society needs to drop the all women are victim bullshit
The audio recordings are especially damning.
People are still trying to claim it was mutually abusive lol… That’s so stupid. Like regardless of what he may have also done on paper, in the context of the situation that’s not abuse from his end. Responding to abuse is not abuse. Doing those things unprovoked is what’s abusive.
What stands out in my mind is that she had no respect for any boundaries and would follow him as he retreated from heated confrontations. He said the last fight was for her 30th birthday party. 30 years old certainly seems old enough for an average adult to understand boundaries. I think the behavior Amber exhibited was far more abnormal than lack of maturity.
You would think that, but I am 44 and the few women I know in their 30s still handle conflict resolutions like they are in high school.
That doesn't make it normal 30-year old behavior.
Not abnormal. She’s a narcissist.
@@becky-hx1ge this ^^
100 %
@@becky-hx1ge exactly. You follow someone when they're making you anxious with their avoidance, refusing to resolve problems. He stonewalled. Its frustrating as fk when its ongoing over time
I think you missed that Johnny was saying that AMBER was painting HIM “as some maniac”. It’s hard to believe that Johnny would even unintentionally be unkind about substance use in others. Amber used a lot of drugs herself.
That's what flabbergasted me. She was blaming him for "recreational" drug use while being on Ambien herself. She obviously has no self awareness.
Yeah she has aged like crazy too
Exactly that Amber was using both drugs and alcohol excessively. I believe while Amber is on the stand is when her drug use will be asked of her and she will have to answer yes or she will once more lie.
And she still is. It is Obvious she snorted cocaine while on the stand,
Anyone that has ever lived with an abusive person can relate to his experiences.
So true.
I worked as a quasi slave for a lawyer woman who was high ranking in our state govt. She ran a nonprofit her boss slid money to her grants only she was eligible for or knew about. I finally could not take the emotional abuse anymore. She owed me thousands. She set out to destroy my reputation in the industry and my reputation in town. So normal people don't put this much energy into destroying others who finally decide to leave the relationship whether work or personal. I saw one of her minions in post office I was polite enough as I needed to be to in line and then got away from her. My last memory of the friend was unpleasant. To protect myself I can have nothing to do with any of her friends or acquaintances. Her handwriting analysis showed her to be the most vindictive the analyst had ever seen. I avoid them it's been 14 years and she would call people still to harass me and demand I not be invited to a party she was going to attend. I have had plates thrown at my head. But I am the crazy one. The first thing attys do is destroy reputation of the opposition.
I can relate 1000%
Depp’s testimony enlightens people as to the abuse men suffer in relationships, but without losing face. He has expressed it and still maintained his dignity and malehood. His story will make it essier for men to be more open about their own experiences with angry, abusive women.
@@jmedakwon It's pretty obvious why they 'choose' to be silent. Their silence is heavily enforced to prevent damage to a certain popular, powerful and profitable sexual dynamic narrative. The price is men's lives.
I highly doubt men'll start speaking up more, not really who they are. Men are the stoic caretakers of society and must adapt accordingly, and when most men start feeling underappreciated they simply walk away or go find someone else who's worth their money, energy, attention and time. Another factor is the legal system isn't anywhere near 'fair' and sides with women roughly between 90 to 99% of the time. Why play a game you'll lose?
Women like such should be neutered. Suchlike men also.
@@sijul6483 These statistics have absolutely no basis in reality. But if you want change.... It starts with men supporting men. They're the ones running the systems, not women. That IS backed by actual stats.
@@tonyrae86 That will never happen, because men are competitive, not cooperative.
My sibling was a junkie for many years (as mr Depp says "He was bitten by the snake" many times). Not once in all those agonizing years was he violent. Even when he was in withdrawl and might raise his voice, he'd automatically stop and fall to his knees and apologise for being an @sshole. So, there are people that do abuse substances but are not violent. Actually, seeing this side of mr Depp and listening to his testimony, I had many flashbacks of my family situation. Not pleasant but not violent.
My dad was the same way abused substance but never violent and when he did get to the point of anger he always walked away and would leave until he came back to himself. It was heartbreaking watching my fight his demons and even though we all tried to help & support him he couldn’t come out of it. And we lost him before he turned 60.
Yeah, it's not that addiction makes you violent but it brings out the violent traits and personality that you might already have genetically inherited.
I hope your brother’s doing ok now.
@The Amber Heard Playlist!! She wasn't terrorized. Too cold hearted to feel terror.
@The Amber Heard Playlist!! He followed her to a room where he broke the door with an axe, saying: "Here's Johnny".
Agree with all of this. I think he did a great job of humanizing himself to make himself relatable and I found his odd communication style to be both poetic and compelling, he really painted a picture of what this relationship was like and by the time he got to the finger incident and talked about having a nervous breakdown type of experience I could completely understand how he’d gotten there. Listening to those clips was brutal, the gaslighting was just unreal.
Every degree of trauma I have experienced is reflected very well in Johnny's testimony - I believe him entirely. I can see too how he would be drawn into this situation and respond the way he has. We're not just witnessing a messy divorce, we're seeing the aftermath of psychological and physical abuse and we need to think deeply about our understanding of that. He may be famous, but that's the perfect position to show that no amount of fame and wealth can protect you from the insidious and damaging nature of these relationships.
When his sister talked about their mother calling her by the mother in laws name and how to most people it wouldnt seem like much but her mother hated her mother in law so there was a bad meaning behind it, i felt it and she explained psychological abuse in a way i wish i had known how to explain all these years.
@@anonymoususer4866 It's dehumanizing, and when it's your own family, no-one truly understands how devastating that is because they cannot fathom it. It's incomprehensible to feel that way, no-one gets it or sees it and you don't believe it. That's a lifetime of torture.
When you think he had a security team around him yet he wasn't safe in his own home.
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Would he have been able to say anything if his mother was alive and well ?
I don't think so.
Ditto.
I'M SICK OF HEARING THIS MUTUAL TOXICITY, SHE PLANNED THIS FROM THE BEGINGING AND AFTER THEY GOT MARRIED, SHE DELIBERATELY BROKE HIM DOWN AND ABUSED HIM PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY AND MENTALLY!
GS...I was thinking the same thing. Even to send her profile into the producer/director of the Rum Diary. It was like he was her next target or victim.
I would not be surprised in the least if I found out she "researched" him before they started dating: found out what music/films/books/artists he liked and used that to charm him.
@@empirex334 She definitely researched him. His taste in music, especially old blues, is obscure. And he said that when he met her she loved all the blues music that he was into.
I see thd same thing, GS 15! She is pure evil! Her arse needs to be punished for it!
Because he isn't a grown man and was forced to marry her and then stay in that marriage because he has absolutely no agency in his own life and over his own actions whatsoever, right? No matter what you think, a marriage/relationship takes two people. And it doesn't matter what kind of mother he had or how much of a pussy his father was. Millions of people have had terrible upbringing, and millions have had it much, much worse than poor JD. And guess what? Millions have had no problems leaving toxic relationships. To think that he himself played no role in the toxicity of their marriage is simply ignorant of the real world and what real couples go through, or just out right dishonest. They both brought their own unique forms of toxicity to their relationship and neither of them can be considered totally guilty or totally innocent. What's happening here is most likely one of three things:
1.Either those who side completely with JD are starstruck fanboys/girls, 2. they have never been in an actual marriage/relationship/partnership, etc. 3. have been indoctrinated into the men's rights cult of sexism, misogyny, and outright hatred of women. On a final note, of course everyone found JD's testimony convincing; he's a freaking actor for fucks sake. And not a goddamn one of you knows either one of them, so stop with all the he's a decent guy he wouldn't do that bs. He's not your friend and you have no idea what you don't know about him. Special thanks to the late war criminal Donald Rumsfeld for that last modification of his asinine early 2000s doublespeak. Peace bitch.
Well *a HUGE issue* is that the agreement in the divorce, Amber signed in 2015, was that Amber NOT talk about the "issues" of their marriage or divorce..Amber broke that agreement, subsequently costing Johnny roles and ALOT of money..seems he has a great reason to take her to Court 🤷
Do you know why they are only referring to the op-ed then? Why can't they point to the divorce agreement or other testimonies of her saying he was abusive? She literally turned around a situation in her favor when he was the one trying to escape. Instead, she claims she was the one that was attempting to "escape" towards him, which doesn't make sense and contradicts her admissions in the recordings. I noticed that her stories change up and have too much detail, whereas his has remained surprisingly consistent almost word for word. I expect her story to change again because she is on the defense now, it would be weird for her to continue the abuse allegations as strongly. I just find it weird that they are only hanging on this one article when it's obviously so much more than that. I wonder if it's just not possible, or did he have to choose to focus on one thing?
@@Emidoki If he were to sue her for breaking the non-disclosure agreement, highly likely he'd win that in court since there have been many examples of her implying she was a victim in her marriage. However people could say he didn't want her to disclose anything bc he "must be hiding something". This way, his story and the truth get out.
If that were the case then he would be suing her for breaking the non-disclosure not defamation for an op-ed. Your argument makes literally zero sense.
Also do better research next time. Because one she never actually signed the non-disclosure to the non-disclosure was in relation to his finances. Not their marriage.
@@orbitalchild They are just desperate to now have the woman be the one at fault in such a highly publicized case of abuse. It would undermine their attempt to make the focus of such abuse be solely on women as the victims.
@@Emidoki I don't know, I'm baffled by the EXACT specific terms they're going by..I mean I realize Johnny's defense is painting a broad picture of her actions BUT wouldn't it GREATLY hinge on their divorce agreement? During my divorce I got everything, but as weird as it sounds, certain things weren't enforced..my ex was to pay a certain amount of money to me, along with covering ALL my medical bills..this never happened, even though it was court ordered (and with no repercussions against my ex for not doing it)..my divorce attorney told me the chances I had of it being enforced was a snowball's chance in Hell..my reaction was "so the Court won't uphold what IT decides?"..his answer was "yes and no" 🙄 so I'm just baffled by the rules, and most certainly how they're handling this in THAT aspect..to me it's pretty cut and dry..she should follow what she agreed to, but didn't, caused collateral damage to JD and his career, has continuesly lied/lies, even during the Court proceedings caught on camera (LIVE Tweeting, etc)..I guess this falls into the "yes and no" theory from my lawyer..interestingly enough, I've recently helped my nephew with his divorce and the County Judge proceeding over it REFUSED to enforce a Federal Judge's ruling 🤷 I'm like, *how is that legal???* Isn't Federal > County?? 🤦 AND later on, that County Judge *DIDN'T EVEN ENFORCE HIS OWN RULINGS!!* I'm not even sure if there's a different set of rules for this case pertaining to what country, where "what" specifically happened with them..Soooooooo your guess is as good as mine 😂
Johnny has formed so many genuine and close relationships with various people over long periods of time and everyone except Heard speaks incredibly well of him. Heard on the hand has the narc mask and narc smile. I recognise it, I've lived with it. Thousands of abused people are saying that she triggers them and I agree with Johnny, the psychological abuse is worse. The scars never fully heal.
His agent didn't speak well of him. His shrink didn't speak well of him. His old flame Ellen Barkin didn't speak well of him.
Johnny's exes said he was always gentle and loving with them, even his ex wife he left Amber for. Amber has a previous domestic violence police record with her ex. I think that tells us a lot.
He left his ex for Amber...
@@twincherry4958 yeah, that is what he testified. He started having feelings while filming rum diary with amber. Amber one day on set showed up at his trailer and they kissed. He felt bad because he was with Vanessa (who is the mother of his children) & Amber was married Tasya. He testified Amber was married to Tasya, however wikipedia states that it is an ex-girlfriend.
@@kallymcdonnell 😶
@@twincherry4958 the fact Vanessa wrote a letter defending Johnny after his divorce from Amber makes me so sad for her
He didn't leave Vanessa Paradis for Amber Heard. Both Johnny depp and Amber Turd had already left their significant other's before getting together. Vanessa Paradis missed living in Paris, were she worked and lived. She wanted to move back. So they went their separate ways. But it was mutual
I think he was completely believable. I was glad he had a chance to have his voice heard. His story of not being allowed to go to bed when he wanted to go to sleep, but rather when she wanted to go to bed was very telling. It’s exactly what a narcissistic person does.
My ex did that all the time, loading on the guilt. I never knew what a narcissist was before he left.
Edward Scissorhands was his "big break", not Pirates of the Caribbean.
What Eating Gilbert Grape?
Platoon?
@TooDee Moon maybe, but I think only teenage girls knew of him at that time. Once he made ES, everybody knew him.
@@veetour nah, that was a "blink and you'll miss it" role.
@@4everu984 nah, GG came out 3 yrs after ES
Watching Depp tell his story brought back a lot of bad memories for me. I wasn't a Depp fan before, but now have a better understanding of what makes him tick. There's a reason there are more psychiatrists per capita in LA, and it's not the weather.
He was always my favorite actor but his life is garbage and now I see him as a pathetic drunk. So rich yet so miserable!
I never knew about his horribly sad and painful childhood, and in spite of that- he chose to be an incredibly kind human being, something I greatly admire! I think the only person he really hurts, is himself!
Extremely well done and intelligent video, Dr. Grande! Loved your "slapping" comment! 😅
Very true
After watching some of Johnny's court testimony, and Amber Herd Birds facial expressions, half smile and raised eyebrows, looking down like it was funny when JD talked about her evening 2 bottle of wine and an Ambien daily habit, I'm of the feeling that Amber was very abusive and Johnny just tried to survive, hide, and when cornered verbally fought back. Someone throwing a bottle of vodka at you, it shattering and partially cutting off your finger would make me sleep in a locked room.
I totally agree with you especially regarding DA. I have also been in an abusive relationship and I had my newborn in the house. I stayed in the house for additional six-seven months after the last physical confrontation. My child and I stayed at one end of the house while I made my spouse stay at the other. There ended up being one last situation and I knew it was time to leave. There was not only physical abuse. There was emotional and psychological abuse.
I never doubted Johnny. Amber even looks like she has bad intentions edit: for those of you confused, someone can appear that they have bad intentions from their behavior and body language. I think that was implied, guess not.
Your Johnny Boy is an admitted Hollywood Luciferian drinking the KoolAid.
Yikes
How does one look like that? I don't think it would matter how she looked, people would criticise her no matter how she appeared.
I agree with you she's nuts. It just sucks how hot she looks specially in court lol I'm all behind Johnny though. I've been with women just like her. Utter bullies
@@sarastewart2633 you're right about that. Doesn't matter how she looks, she gives us all plenty to work with, with her behavior.
Nobody can deny JD is exceptionally Generous to humans! This alone says that the last thing on his mind would even think of physically striking a human being!!
I don’t know how you draw this conclusion. The two are not mutually exclusive. I do believe JD was in a toxic abusive relationship and was not only abused but constantly gaslit by AH. But to say someone who is generous could not be violent is absurd
@@wordsleuth992 well i speak from my own 60 years of life experiences. I have encountered a few very generous people in my life and noticed a common denomination amongst them. Generally all of them are quite peaceful and express the demeanour of a pacifist!! You could easily see the way they behave! One of them is my late dad. Another is my uncle, the third is my good old college friend, etc. My advice to you take time and witness it your self to understand where I am coming from!
@@wordsleuth992 I hope I clarified your confusion!! Now you know it ain’t absurd after all !!😀 Bless you sister!
@@victorgojocco1716 I myself have 50 years of life experience and can think of three examples right off the top of generous people who went on to physically abuse and in one case murder their spouse. I guess it just depends on the people you have experienced. I think it is possible to be generous in one aspect of your life but then still express other extremes of human emotion like jealousy or rage in different situations. Then when you add in drug and alcohol use that can change the personality drastically. Then you add in mental health issues and there is no end to possibilities. I think if you look at recent news you can find plenty of examples. I don’t want to name names here.
@@wordsleuth992 probably what you saw in those people who showed generosity where not really authentic in their acts!! But then again I am just coming from my own life experiences!! So to me it aint the least absurd!!
I've witnessed a similar situation where a friend's partner was the aggressor behind closed doors. As friends we knew something was up. She would abuse him, belittle, hit, cheat, gaslight..U name it. But she was a savvy manipulator. She went public with accusations first. Got on the front foot... purely because she knew it was the ultimate way to hurt him.
She would create an argument, then ring his friends or family, claiming he was becoming out of control and violent. She tried to manipulate those closest to him. But in reality, behind closed doors, she was the aggressor and forced the confrontation. It broke my friend. He had no history of being abusive. She did. But he couldn't walk away.
My laboured point is this; there truly are nasty, manipulative people out there. It's not common to see it reach this level..but it happens and it's complicated. No doubt we're more accustomed and conditioned to hearing about men abusing their partners...but being toxic doesn't discriminate on the basis of sex. If Depp is telling the truth..I really feel for him.
I'm familiar with an almost exact situation with a friend of mine. It broke him unfortunately because he just wanted peace for the children and didn't fight fire with fire.
WAT???
@@emilylee9894 are U referring to Depp?
AH did receive 7 million divorce settlement but in her arrogance, she became the poster girl for me too movement and donated it all to charity. That's on her if she cant take care of herself. The 100 million is she wins heaven forbid, is unjust enrichment.
Thank you. Unfortunately, the Me Too movement has a lot of female bullies hiding in its ranks. Me Too needs a men's chapter. Prayers for Johnny.
Everyone scrutinizing Johnny for putting up with Amber was never abused by a person with borderline personality disorder.
His accent is very interesting a Mid-Atlantic accent almost ,consciously learned obviously and fashionably used by the early 20th-century American upper class
@@litgamer6205
Yes, at times I hear a French influence others a British.
I was abused by someone with BPD and would scrutinize his decision.
I made the same decision, but it was an irrational and self destructive horrible decision.
Is she diagnosed BPD?
@@DingDongDaddyFromDumas I’m sorry for you. People like Amber Heard can be incredibly charming, loving and mesmerizing. It’s like “I HATE YOU!” But then, crying and lovingly “please don’t leave me!”
It’s confusing!!! Hopefully Johnny never looks back at her. She’s terrifying and might off him as revenge.
I didn’t see the word “maniac” as Johnny separating himself from other drug users. He was differentiating his true reasons for using from the reasons he is being accused of.
i absolutely agree
I agree. I feel that manic describes Amber when she says in the recording that she was on ambient when she hit him.
And I wonder how many people out there are using drugs from the same family of Roxicodone (which was prescribed by a doctor to Johnny) and don't call themselves drug addicts.
I believe he is a occasional user, I know people that smokes pot every day, many times a day. Pot does not alter people behavior that much. And to some, not even cocaine. But he is addicted to pill killer medication, that’s the problem and he is minimizing his addiction. That’s someone very far from winning the battle against that. But he will win this case, and probably will get a second chance, he looks like a good man. But he need a woman by his side, not a teenager.
@@laurenmay2098 I’m rooting for him but defamation cases are so hard to win. It’s probable that Amber will win. But at least Johnny has won with the court of public opinion.
It was very interesting to hear how he got into acting and had never intended to be an actor. A former boyfriend of mine worked on the set of 21 Jump Street and told how Johnny would retreat to his trailer at meals rather than socialize with the others. He thought Johnny was stuck-up but I wonder now if it was just that he needed time alone because he is an introvert.
I had an abusive mother myself and it really does a number on you, partly because it's not socially acceptable to say your mother was abusive. Everyone will sympathize if you had an abusive father but if it was your mother, people just act like you must be lying. My mother actually said my father abused her, and I believed her for years until I actually thought about things I had witnessed as a young child and how she treated me and my little brother.
I’m so sorry. Abusers are often alienators. They lie to keep you away from the people who know the truth about them.
To fans, whatever ticks or habits their pop stars have is always explained away as a cute lil magical quirk, or stress caused by infidel non-believers. Their pop god always innocent
Same here. But that is your "Mom". You only get one mother. No my mom was mommy dearest and prided herself on that movie.
She is and always will be toxic.
Prayers for your healing. Mine has been 5 years when I stumbled across Todd Grande that opened my eyes to Covert Sociopath
OMG, "Amber was slapping before the Academy Awards". Dr. Grande., I never know where the zingers are going to occur and that's what makes them so enjoyable! 😂😂😂
I just wish and hope JD wins this court battle. I just feel his pain within his heart having a rough family backgound growing up and having to put up with AH who I believe is a complete narcissist. I am truly thankful to you Dr. Grande for that excellent assessment of JD. You really make sense. I am a fan of yours. Keep it up Dr. Grande.
What way you talked about drug use not being a moral thing made me cry out of nowhere. I wasn’t expecting it, I’m what they call a recovering addict and hearing that was something I really needed I think. Thank you.
It is a moral, or rather a spiritual, failing, don't listen to Grande. What you have to do is understand better what exactly is the weight and importance of failing spiritually.
Shut up. It’s people like you that make addiction something to be hidden and lied about and end up getting people killed. You have no clue what you’re talking about. But of course it’s people like you who claim that only “god” can judge but are ALWAYS the first to judge people. You are failing, socially, spiritually, morally, and intellectually.
I agree and enjoyed your analysis. Based on the totality of circumstances… Amber is the one with a background of abuse, while Johnny is not. Neither are angels, but Amber seems particularly cruel, and Johnny, just troubled and eccentric.
Amber will suffer by comparison to Johnny's calm, thoughtful demeanor. As soon as AH is confronted, her mask will drop. I believe she abused JD.
@@marissalw8445
AH ticks ALL the boxes for Borderline Personality Disorder. JD is the real victim.
Borderline is a Cluster B Personality disorder, and those folks are the bullies and abusers of the world.
When she's up, she'll forget to keep her story straight. When she can't answer, she'll cry. When she feels confronted or contradicted, she'll seeth, the cracks will widen and she'll lash out. It will be quite a dramatic performance.
The jury will see the difference. Johnny is authentic and genuine. AH lacks a sense of identity and has to guess what's "normal" and how reasonable people behave.
@@marissalw8445
I thought that at first, but after listening to his whole testimony so far and some of the tapes, am firmly on his side.
Plus in the opening statement her lawyer came off as inauthentic.
She will fall apart 😂
His audio recordings of Amber admitting to hitting him then calling him a cry baby for complaining about it helped. She’s been exposed. Ms. Heard is likely a raging Borderline PD or at least has several traits.
Yep she is busted!
@A N southern CA. Masters degree. No more details other than that for you
@A N Hey buddy. Psychologist, Dr. Curry who treated Heard just testified she diagnosed her with Borderline PD and Histrionic. So. There. 😎
Oddly, Johnny Depp reminds me of my Dad, deceased 20+ years now. He has many of the same mannerisms and gentleness and often uses the same words my Dad used. It makes it hard to be objective. My mother wasn't as bad as his mother but she runs a close second. It sounds like they had the same childhood. I've never thought of him, or many stars, as real people, but watching him has been enlightening. I find myself being empathetic which surprises me.
I like your dry wit, where you refer to a slap being in fashion because of the award ceremony, without missing a beat. 😂 You do this often and I’m scratching my head as it’s incongruent - and I realise that you’ve slipped this in to a very factual narrative - in an otherwise straight, factual manner at odds with the rest of your explanation. I love it!
Having been abused myself by my partner, when I first heard that Depp had abused his wife, I quickly wrote him off. But after hearing his testimony and seeing his sincerity, I believe that he was mostly the one being abused. But I do find it hard to believe that he was never backed into a corner far enough that he would someday snap and slap her back. It took me 5 years to get to that point myself and only did it once towards the end of our relationship. You realize that someone is about to turn you into a violent human being yourself and you know that the relationship must end before you change into something you abhor. I think he is very brave to bring everything into the public court and expose his vulnerabilities. But his career was ruined by Amber and I think it's about time he exposed her and reclaim his life back.
the relationship may have ended before he got to that point
RE: "something you abhor." Nailed it. I was in a relationship with a cluster b, diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. When I was hit the first time, time slowed and I thought to myself this is the fork in the road. I looked at my ex, looked at the door, looked back at my ex again then walked out the door without a word. Succumbing to physical violence, there's a moment you say to yourself you won't go there. A few months later a few fights later and being hit again, I was done. I cut that ex out of my life and it's been over 10 years now.
He's a gentleman I don't think he ever physically hurt her plus or plus his mother used to hit her and I don't see a violent bone in his body I'm a counselor some people do not fight back with violets they just walk away and being a man he walked away every time yes his texts are awful and his cursing and drug and alcohol addiction isn't good but that does not make you a violent person
Police came when I called. I had a black eye and two small children in Metairie, LA. My husband acted like a meek little lamb. Police told me I could pack some things and they would escort me to a motel. They said they couldn't make him leave. This was 1978. At least now I think men are arrested for abuse but not sure about all states. I divorced him a year later.
zero evidence
SHE is the one admitting on audio that SHE provoked physical fights then mocks him for leaving the room, she severed his finger, she put out a cigarette on his face, she lied regarding being a dv victim..she is a sociopathic narc abuser..he never assaulted her, zero evidence even with all her recording and etc
he showed remarkable calm and restraint being physically hit, etc by this sociopath after his mother died and he lost 650M on top of her abuse
you're confusing criminal dv assault with grief and addiction issues, he was never violent abuser which she claimed to ruin his life
people don't go to prison for slamming cabinetry
I don’t think Jonny was denigrating other drug users, he was referring to how he himself has been described. I personally have been in DV situations and I empathise with him deeply.
I actually think the difference is, and I know because I have personal experience is distinguishing between addiction and dependence. He wasn't denigrating anybody for being a user. That's how I understood it.
Yeah I think he was saying he was a user but not a maniac that people would assume him to be just because he's addicted
Justice for Johnny
Anyone who has gone through a divorce can relate to venting about the ex, and even wanting to see them dead. The pain is immense.
AH seems to me like either borderline or psychopathic. I have so much compassion for JD, anyone listening to him can tell he's a victim of DA.
I have a problem with the "or" as if borderline excludes psychopathy. We are talking about CLUSTER B psychopathology here, that basically means psychopathy and narcissism, just various forms of it. Thing with BPD - especially those impulsive types - is, hell is reserved to close people and most will never see that cruel side of them... it's the Family, partner, close friends, favorite persons who see it, especially in the impulsive/vulnerable BPD types are like that. You gotta understand, when a borderline discards and smear-campaigns, that IS their secondary psychopathy at play. This is what real borderline looks like and the only reason we got a glimpse of it is, Amber took it too far.
@@no-good-productions as someone that is a friend with a women with bpd and that often helps her trough crisis i have to disagree. borderline and psychopathy are not related. I don't know if this is what you mean but you message reads like you are saying psychopathy is a secondary characteristic of BPD which it is not. Cluster B personality disorders and not "CLUSTER B phychopathology" are similar but they do have different symptoms, diagnoses and causes (according to wiki , Cluster B personality disorders, on the 20/04/22 ).
Amber's behavior according to the recorded voice tapes suggest Narcissism or anti social personality but to reiterate my main point is that psychopathy is not sub element of BPD.
P.S. as a programer I know the difference between exclusive or and or and I used or in my opinion of amber's problem
@@no-good-productionsI can see why you think so, but a borderline brain and a psychopathic brain looks and behaves quite different. I am very aware that a borderline might act similar to a psychopath in some situations, but that doesn't make them the same think.
I have BPD. My first FP, and still a dear friend, has ASPD.
@@peter4210 where to start... psychopathy isn't meant to describe a mental illness, it was kind of created as pattern used in profiling.
If we go by mental illness, you will have a hard time even finding a psychopath who does not have obvious Cluster B traits, at least if we go with the DSM, psychopathy basically is part of Cluster B.
In case of borderline, the similarities are so noticeable, they were summed up in the vulnerable dark triad, this kind of known at this point.
Keep in mind, secondary psychopathy is not what people think of when they hear psychopathy and even then, when we let's say speak about serial killer, those are the extreme of the spectrum and mostly factor 1 psychopaths and often have a lot of comorbidities and sadistic/shizophrenic and other elements along their psychopathy, though there are even famous serial killer with a BPD diagnosis.
It seems like his “drug fueled maniac” is not his personal opinion of drug users, but rather his attempt to respond to the later allegations made by her, relating the domestic abuse to alcohol and drug use.
That's exactly how I interpreted it!
Yes, exactly. He’s rightly defensive and trying to relate the ridiculousness of her depiction of him.
My heart aches for Johnny but I salute his bravery for elevating the conversation. The narcissism epidemic in this country must be addressed, thank you Johnny for bringing it to the forefront! ✊🙏💞🥰
Well said. The narcissistic epidemic is everywhere now, at work, at homes, schools, hospitals, we are drowning in it!
Thank you - I was never a fan of Johnny, and now I am listening to all information about this trial and his biography , I found him such a sweet soul, truly amazing MAN so much creativity in him - I think, I hope this trial will show, that MEN needs to be looked at as a gentle souls, who need love, not only as a tough and strong that can be abused because he can handle all. Dr. Todd I always value your opinion, and often count on your intelligent videos, with try dry humour - I adore - Thank you 👍🏻
I think when Johnny Depp refers to “maniac” drug users we should keep in mind that he was good friends with Hunter S Thompson, so his frame of reference for normal amounts of drug use may be different than the average person. Like JD might think, “sure I take oxy, but I’m not a maniac getting in gunfights with my neighbor like Hunter!”
I think that , and the fact he had been around many musicians, and actors that use made him feel his problems weren't as bad. He thought "I'm just numbing my pain" . The problem is that's all any addict Is doing . Some just get completely out of control for very long periods. I'm so glad he found a way to stop , and a way to pull himself away from Amber.
If anybody has read into what goes on backstage & on tour busses, especially during the 80s & 90s, what he is describing is mild in comparison.
Johnnie’s open and frank discussion of taking his moms nerve pills starting at 11 was touching. He explained that his Mother was so cruel and he got into a pattern of drug use that was centered around numbing himself from all of his mothers negative traits that produced bad energy in their home. It made me realize that Johnnie is no different than any of us and that killing pain was the reason he used. It was very convincing. I don’t think amber heard got hit. If you watch that testimony, his openness made you sympathetic. And suddenly I realized Amber was not telling the truth.
Anyone who has observed a family member or been affected themselves by an abusive narcissist can clearly feel his pain.
"A refined yet troubled individual who was exploited by a violent and possessive young woman--a young woman man who activated his own memories against him." Well-stated Dr. Todd Grande.
Johnny's lawyers should use this..
They were made for each other.
I am so glad you are covering this Dr. Grande! I have been watching this trial nonstop and I am so looking forward to hear your thoughts on this. Thank you so much!❤️
Having a similar relationship (Johnny’s)with my mother I could relate to the crazy you go through in relationships and trying to deaden the pain. It’s like a pattern where you fall in with people who berate you & mistreat you like that parent. Basically the trial is to stop her from lying about him and trying to ruin his career. I hope the judge, etc see that although both their lives are troubled she should not LIE and try to destroy him. She’s done that enough.
Of course he helped himself. He was so eloquent and raw and honest and Amber just sat there with a cold unfeeling stare. The audio played in court today was so damning of her. If this case does not justly swing in Johnny's favor then I have no faith left in the world.
Wait until she gets on the stand I suspect she will lie ..the judge does not seem to stop her attorneys for hear say like
She does JD attorneys ..we shall see..
@@uptick888 I know it feels a bit biased for sure literally one of her lawyers is named Rottenborn...
It sounds like Johnny married his metaphorical mother. Very sad story. It never ceases to amaze me how the individuals in abusive couples become magnets and repellents for each other and themselves. I liked your perspectives
He chose Amber! The similarities between her and his mother cannot be ignored. Subconsciously we seek out our parental relationships.
And he left his family, the one good thing in his life, to be seduced by this demon. The devil's temptations are strong!
Excellent analysis, I completely agree with your assessment.
I found Johnny’s testimony to be quite convincing.
Wonderful job Dr. Grande.❤️
First: I think it’s clear from what I’ve heard from JD and his actual past reputation, that AH was immature, bullying and aggressive. I think she’s guilty.
SHE'S GUILTY AF
JD even has ex-girlfriends sticking up for him. He's never been violent or hot tempered before. Its not impossible for a guy to start being violent in his 50s, but that would be weird.
Also why would a 50 something year old man suddenly late in life become an abusive partner when he was never accused of this in the past by any of his partners?
@@BothSidesareCorrupt ~Johnny Depp is 58 and I totally agree with your comment!! He's been acting for four decades and not one person has ever said that he's been violent except for her. In all honesty, I can't stand that psycho biatch.
nope.. Amber is innocent!!!!
He’s just so sweet. His story is so relatable. He has so clearly been abused. He so clearly used drugs for the same reason all of us addicts do, Pain. He’s almost shy. He’s so damn humble he doesn’t realize he’s freakin Johnny Depp. He looks so sad, so beaten up. And she looks so vindictive and manipulative. She’s living a borderlines dream 🙄
Wow 💯
Johnny Depp sweet....what planet are you living on? I see a man who has serious drug and alcohol problems (but won’t do anything about it) and uses excuses like I’m damaged for domestic abuse. And yes Amber Heard is also toxic but they are both as bad as each other.
@@donna25871 2 wrongs don't make a right, But they make me feel a whole lot better.
M. Muir.
Johnny looks so sad and broken. I feel so bad for him.
@@donna25871 Johnny Depp is a very generous and kind man. People have always spoken very highly of Johnny. AMBER IS A GOLD DIGGER AND PSYCHOPATH WHO IS VIOLENT AND ABUSIVE. SHE WAS ALWAYS HITTING JOHNNY AND WE HAVE A TAPE OF AMBER ADMITTING TO HITTING JOHNNY DEPP.
This is the best commentary I’ve heard without listening to the entire trial. Thank you for your thoughts and insights.
So helpful.
Human condition has shown us that they’re humans like the rest of us, with extra resources on their side.
It’s quiet sad to hear that Johnny was abused by his mom and abandoned by his own father.
Unconscious childhood programming that’s traumatic, unhealthy, unresolved, and unprocessed emotions can still affect adults especially if we’re not self-aware or willing to get professional help to correct the wrongs of the past.
I hope Johnny Depp wins. And hope they both heal from their pain and suffering.
Another great analysis Dr. Grande.
Heard was raised by her mommy to be this way
Woman are taught NESTING not men
Is why it's so easy to be devoid of empathy
Well, they're not really like the rest of us. I don't think most of us poop in our beds as a form of retaliation.
I believe it is more likely she will go on to have trouble relationships, and he will do what Mel Gibson did, work like crazy and forget about having a wife, girlfriends here and there will suit him better.
No way did pirates “make” Jonny depp. He has already been in a lot of amazing movies.
I think they just put more focus on pirates because it’s the movie he directly lost because of her. Yes he’s gonna play like it was his world.
It absolutely put him on a new level of stardom, and made him more money than anything else he did. It was the most important job of his career
My first Jonny Depp’s film was “Arizona’s dream” 1993, pirates was a “stepping down” or selling out of Jonny, not the “making” of Jonny Depp, but he did it with style.
I enjoy his acting, and she really is a very screwed up individual, I can’t see how this is going to end well for her.
I think he came to the attention of millions After Edward Scissorhands. A very touching film, by the way.
Pirates is what made him a world star. So yes it was pirates
I keep thinking of how Amber Heard had the capacity to injure JD's hand, and while the blood is flowing--and the pain probably increasing--this woman puts out a cigarette in his face. If that isn't evil, what on earth is? I do appreciate this analysis. It's inspiring to witness a person fighting for the truth to be known. A complicated truth, for sure.
Evil is written all over her face!
Omg AH is beyond crazy.
@@adamp108 she threw large liquor bottles at him. His hands were resting on the arm rests of the chair . One bottle she hurled at him hit his hand. Makes it pretty easy for a broken bottle to cause a significant laceration when the hand is essentially resting against a cutting board.
@@adamp108 As much as i think amber was the instigator, i thought almost exactly what you wrote out above.
|......the cig burn, i kinda think was her, but it's impossible to know for sure.
@@adamp108 Amber is the ONLY one who's admitted to physical assault in a recording. She told JD that she couldn't promise she wouldn't resort to violence in the future because she just snaps sometimes. I'm paraphrasing. She also has a documented history of intimate partner domestic violence. Remember the makeup kit that her attorneys said she used to cover up her "bruises"? That makeup company released a statement saying that the makeup kit didn't exist yet when AH claimed to have used it.
As for JD, his exes have all come out with statements of overwhelming support for him.
Also, it isn't difficult to understand how hurling a whiskey bottle at someone could cause an injury like that.
I've been a psych nurse for a long time. I've also been a victim of domestic violence. My abuser fractured my clavicle and I still have problems related to that injury. However, the injury to my psyche was much worse. I treat patients with everything from borderline personality disorder to narcissistic personality disorder. AH needs a good psych eval.
Thanks!
Listening to the tapes today, Johnny sounds just like he does on the stand. His behavior after her assault, is consistent with victims. Not telling the emergency room doctor who did this when he had a team helping him after her assault. Men can be abused too and this will have an impact on other victims and them getting help.
@@adahmc yes! When AH's lawyer gave the opening statement, I had to replay it....more than once.
I could not believe that she actually said "She's half his size.....so there isn't even the ability on her part to **be** the abuser."
I thought there was no way she just said that. Did she forget that Jodi Arias exists? Coincidentally, Little Miss 1st Degree Arias also tried to say the same thing at trial, in regards to size. Didn't work for her either.
This is a civil case, Einstein. Why are comparing this case to a murder trial?
@@girlygal098 As you have recognized my Einsteinian intellect without insult, and asked with such grace, it will be my pleasure to assist with your query.
You don't need to Einstein's feild equations to find the answer to your question. You must first possess a reading comprehension that surpasses that of an elementary student. If you practice and work hard, maybe one day you will be able to understand the statements by using the cognitive process of syllogistic reasoning.
Until then, exercise that little mind of yours!
Best of luck.
I am deeply hoping that this High Profile case brings us Justice: for all the hidden behind closed doors; Emotional & Psychological Narcissistic abuse; being just as necessary of defence as physical & sexual abuse. 🙏 I'm such an adult child of a malignant npd parent- now in No Contact from all family to heal finally @ 61.
+1, 80.
I love this guy’s deadpan humor, in this case with regard to the slap. I think he’s spot on.
I love watching your perspective as a professional in the field. I admire your dry sense of humor, which you make an art form.
Turns out, she was too good to be true. I believe she is toxic.
I find the televised trial to be depressing and sad, and am unable to watch it without flashbacks of my own troubled childhood. Both Johnny and Amber look stricken with the memories of what transpired. Thank you for your excellent synopsis!
Big fan, Dr Grande!
1) physical violence should never be justified by a person’s youthful age. I’ve never touched someone while angry at any age.
2) while youth can justify some level of immaturity it doesn’t justify all levels of immaturity. 27 year olds can be incredibly amazing and grounded people.
I’m personally interested in this case because I was married to a much older man who was physically assaulted by his previous girlfriend . Then, I got remarried to a person who I knew was an addict and raised two children with him.
Everything about Heard screams danger for someone who is dealing with addiction and suffers from physical assault, especially as a child. Jonny is lucky she didn’t destroy him completely.
I noticed some people are calling her a narcissist but I feel like she’s a sociopath, which are keen grifters. I wonder what other people think.
V interesting thought! Why would you characterize AH as sociopath?
Yeah sociopathic or bipolar 1 would fit pretty well with obsessive compulsive disorder in my opinion.
I got a death threat from a spouse that she excused 2 yrs later with the the fact that she was only 22at the time. I said "well your 24 now so i hope you wont tbreaten me now when i tell you i never want to see you again",. Got a bunch of threats on my way out and imediatley blocked her on evrything.
There seems to be a break between hemispheres. Read up on split-brain experiments and you’ll see what happens when communication between hemispheres occurs. Each hemisphere is a distinct personality, but the high rate of community through the corpus callosum creates a gestalt/amalgam personality that most people are familiar with.
However, each hemisphere is completely capable of experiencing reality differently from the the other. This causes an inside when the the dominant personality is the not the conscious personality. The subconscious personality can present an imagined reality to the conscious personality fooling the conscious personality into believing something other than reality.
Another way to look at it is believing you imagined making one decision even though you actually made that decision. If one hemisphere is in the “backseat,” it will seem like what is really happening only happened in the imagination.
Exacerbating ALL of this is the fact that the anterior temporal lobe plays a key role in memory creation AND aggression regulation. This means, the more agitated one becomes, the harder it is to remember the incident. This what causes those “blind rages” or blackouts during an enraged state.
I do not think Amber is a complete narcissist. I think HALF of her consciousness is a narcissist while the other half is the personality Johnny fell in love with. When all is good, the good Amber is in control. When things become stressful, the good Amber becomes surpassed leading the narcissist to surface.
@@josephcoon5809 are you basing this on the rail way case in the early 1900s?
Very perceptive and excellent summation and articulation of the trial so far, Dr. Grande...