6 Types of People You Should Avoid At All Costs
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- Опубликовано: 26 июл 2024
- Is someone in your life draining your energy? Perhaps you’re always leaving feeling exhausted or in a worse mood than before. How do we know whether someone is a lifelong friend or someone we need to avoid at all cost? Well to help you out, here are a few types of people you should avoid at all costs.
Disclaimer: This is not a substitute for professional advice, but general guidance. We advise you to always listen to your intuition and always do what is right for you. If you can relate to any of these signs, please do not take this feedback as an attack on your character. This video is meant to be a self-improvement guide for those of you who have been feeling a little stuck.
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Writer: Ananya Sawarkar
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References:
Travis Bradberry (November 10, 2015). 10 Toxic People You Should Avoid At All Costs. Retrieved from;
www.forbes.com/sites/travisbradberry/2015/11/10/10-toxic-people-you-should-avoid-at-all-costs/?sh=44437a4c61db
Dr. Tracy Cooper (OCTOBER 1, 2016 ). 10 TOXIC PEOPLE YOU SHOULD AVOID AT ALL COSTS. Retrieved from; 10 Toxic People You Should Avoid At All Costs
How do you feel about this video? Was it too harsh?
Well I think I apply to all of them so idk
Early
i think it was good !
I think murderers are people you should stay away from too imo
No it's on point because my energy is always drained by toxic people
7th type to avoid: "Forever-the-victim" complainer. You know, who loves to complain of everything, everyone done wrong to them, for the sake of attention, but actually do nothing about their complains.
Like LITERALLY. I'm or I've been dealing with a person like that. We used to be kind of bestfriends like. So I always had to clarify her of everything and always assure of stuff etc. Then it started draining me. Like a lot. And there wasn't any space for me in the friendship anymore. It was just her. All bout it. Now we don't really talk anymore
I know a few people like that. I try to limit my exposure.
Ohhhh, yes. My mother always plays the martyr mentality the first second she sees my face.
@@sitaranoor913 omg literally going through that rn!! I also left because she always ghosts me unless she wants to rant or doesn't have a man to talk to, but always comes back and blames it on mental🙄 health
Rebecca, totally agree with you. Been there and it drained all my energy! So I choose positive people to be around who make me laugh a lot, humor is the best remedy for a healthy life.🙂
not a problem for me because i like avoiding people in general
me too
Ayy a fellow believer in living alone is a good way to live.Im not sarcastic btw.I really think that living isolated is a viable way of living if you prefer it that way.
yeahh
@@jami.j2044 lmaoo no i'm just kinda shy i don't wanna live alone in the future
Right😂
A lot of the time some of these types of people aren't bad people, they don't have bad intentions, they just lack self-awareness or the tools they need to grow out of these negative behaviors. I think it's good to distance yourself but also have a certain level of empathy/understanding so you don't hold negative emotions towards people because that can have a worse effect on you than them.
If they are 50-60 yrs old they don’t grow out of these behaviors, they perfect them.
It's like...don't hate them for being the way they are, if they don't realise what they're doing. But also, don't stay close to them and let them hurt you.
Maintain a distance.
I love how each category reminded me of a person who's not in my life anymore. Atleast not close. And I'm proud of myself for setting up that boundary
Same! 😁
Same man
sadly ones my dad,he is so self absorbed. he doesn’t understand and never will understand after 3 (ones my half “brother” cause he ran off with someone but my mum said that she would let him see us if she got the house and she also wouldn’t go after his company haha) children he would’ve realised that to be a parent you have to make sacrifices for them,he thinks he can buy our love but it doesn’t work. i know that he probably does love us but he just doesn’t show it
Same I told this person to back off an give me some space an they acted like my personal right to a boundary was THE SINGLE most insulting thing I could do. Me? I have a friend whos often asking me to give them space. Not because Im a monster like the person I knew but because they get overwhelmed sometimes an just need space to calm from it all. Guess what I do. I give them their space an get on with my day. The person I asked space from went insane an treats me like I spat in their face. Huffs an whines every time that see me.
Me too. A relative who did everything they could to sabotage and destroy me but gaslit me into thinking I deserved it until I finally broke free. Whether we're related or not there's no putting up with that. I may never speak to them again but it's worth it to be free.
for the people who find it hard to stay away from these people because they believe there's a reason why they act like that or why they turned out like that, yes, i also believe that most of the time there is a reason behind all of that, but it only explains their actions, it doesn't excuse them. they may have a reason, but they should know that what they're doing to other people is wrong and hurtful.
Exactly! Understanding this about them means you can be kind and not just hate them for it. While still keeping them away and not effecting your life. Like a balance.
"it only explains their actions, it doesn't excuse them" this hit hard
It doesn't excuse their actions but simply avoiding them might keep them away from a chance to learn and grow.
@@emmazee8282 that is also true. well, this is my opinion only, so it's alright if you don't fully agree with it. i think one way to go about it is by telling them about it while also keeping your boundaries and distancing yourself from them when they are threatening your peace or it becomes uncomfortable to be around them. i think that some people aren't aware that they are going too far and what they're doing is wrong and hurtful, or they don't see why it's wrong. although this doesn't guarantee anything, you did and tried what you could without the expense of giving up your peace. i think it's important to understand that no matter how much you care about someone or how big your heart is, it sadly wouldn't change them or help them grow if they themselves don't seek to change. and that's alright; it's not your fault. it's not your duty or responsibility to change them.
**Cough** Toxic people **Cough**
This video is describing why I'm very careful who I let into my life. I've been hurt by way too many it's just easier to hide in my shell.
Agreed
@@ITIsFunnyDamnIT I had a class full of gossipers and manipulators one year back when I was in school. It hurt like hell. But I’m over it now
Yeah, but it does eventually get really lonely when you shut yourself off so much to shield yourself from harm. But I can relate. I found that guarding myself off and keeping everyone at ab arm's length is the best way to protect myself, but I've missed out on opportunities to form friendships with people who are accepting and genuinely nice.
I wish you the best. It's good to be discreet, but don't forget to make room for people you can build healthy relationships with. I'm sorry that you've been hurt, too.
@@nelmae6026 Yes it does get lonely but I been hurt too many times. I do feel broken but eventually the pain will fade and I'll just have to get happy being lonely, that's how it always is.
Same here :'( I guess we only come to know the real attitude of these kinda people when we grow up.
Manipulators are the worst. The one I knew wasn't exactly malicious, she was just terrified of being alone and therefore would do anything to ensure she kept her friends. Ironically this drove them away. But now she's doing much better!
@Jorja-Rae Marsden yep! It's pretty common in manipulators but there are plenty of malicious ones too
i used to have a friend just like that
@Jorja-Rae Marsden even my friends also like that. Now I think every one friends like that or may be everyone 🤔
That's a trait of borderline personality disorder. Poor girl. Glad to hear she's doing better now.
I resonate with this poor girl :'( omg. I think I have this sign as well. I do contribute and talk about myself with friends but I always thought that if I talk too much I'll come off as cocky and selfish. So I often devote all my energy and time into getting to know my friends and ensuring that I don't upset them, and plus my worrying attitude, I think I'm a person who others may feel they're walking around eggshells. But tbh I don't mind a single bit about them upsetting me. It's always me who is constantly worrying that I might lose friends and be alone again, like in high school. 😢 College is soooooo much better now, but I don't want to overworry and drive my friends away :'(
Here's the timestamps!
1- The Self-Absorbed (0:26)
2- The Manipulator (0:54)
3- The Judgemental (1:23)
4- The Gossipers (1:55)
5- The Envious (2:26)
6- The Hypocrites (3:02)
Thank you!
@@user-tr3jw1df6q np
Thanks
Should I say thank or just say beans? I’ll just do both. Thanks for this bro 👍. BEANS
Ya nice this finally got published
I feel like when I watch these videos, half of the reason is to know how to spot these people and the other half is to make sure I’m not these people
I used to have friends who were very narrow-minded, unreasonable, and petty. They would always complain about stupid things and even have invalid complaints and if you weren’t like them, even if you were friends with them, they treat you like you don’t exist. They also would shun people from their life and never move on. I ended up being in that threshold and about a week before leaving them, and I realized about a week later that I made the right call. Be careful who you meet… they may be Prince Hans from Frozen.
Great comparison! Loved that!
Most people have a little of these throughout a relationship. There should be a balance between what we can accept and what crosses our boundaries.
True
yes, the messages in this video are a little too black and white
@@angelinemariegosselin414 gotta keep it basic to fit the format
which means every so often they make a video that introduces nuance neglected in a prior video.. those damn hypocrites! /jk
That is very true!
Exactly this, when you simplified a person by categorize them into a "personality blacklist," you will eventually realize everyone you know belong to this list, and even yourself, and that no one is perfect. Sure you can try to avoid everyone, but a life of pure solitary can't be healthy all the time even when you are an introvert.
Just avoid people who manifest these traits extremely to the point it could drain you daily, and those who have ill intent toward you. Other than that, accept people for who they are and you can find many beauty in relationship.
I don't think there's anything harsh from this video. It's good to distance yourself from people who may be draining and toxic towards you and the people you know. The best anyone can do when they feel called out by this video is to work on improving themselves.
I'm not gonna lie, I clicked on this video just to see if I fit any of the categories. I think I have bit of traits from some of these so I'm going to work on myself in order to build healthy relationships with people I want in my life:)
This was such a wholesome comment! Let's upgrade our shit bestie
literally same ;-; we got this !!
This, most often, is the reason I watch their videos. I mostly be trying to work on my habits rather than focus on noticing if someone else has these.
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Same but i dont think i have any of these i’m not sure though
I got a judgemental “friend” at work. Always try’s to make himself look better then me but he’s done worse things then me and everyone sees that lol 💛
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I have such a frnd too..i told her a secret but she told it to someone else and then the whole entire class knew ..it sucks
I’m sort of the envious person, but I always try to cheer others up with their accomplishments. It’s just hard with myself because my whole life I’ve been set up for high expectations so if I’m not the best at something I feel like I didn’t try; Which is terrible because I’m never the best at things, so I’m constantly putting myself down.
Samee :( I rlly hope I can treat myself like a friend. From what I heard, u need to be friends with urself before being friends with others
Yeah please try to be gentle with us envious people
That does not mean that you're envy
I feel you. I have this subconscious habit of comparing myself to people all the time, and feeling bad about myself when someone else does something that I can't. With time and therapy, I have realized this is a habit I picked up from my parents. They are very mean to themselves, and my siblings and me learned to do the same. It helps a little to know that you're not alone, but it's a habit that's quite difficult to break. All we can do is be kind with ourselves and be confident we are doing the best we can. Also, sucking at stuff is a very human thing to do. We all suck at something, and we all have that one thing we are always going to be terrible at. And that's no reason to hate ourselves, as it's a part of being an imperfect human. Best of luck to you in your journey to self-compassion
I was friends, maybe even best friends, with a dark empath. She had almost all the traits listed here, and I’m lucky I got out of that “friendship”. Thank you for making this video, and for helping to strengthen me against those dark, guilting voices sometimes still playing in my head ❤️
I’m sure she’s happy too!
@@lovingme974 Tbh I don’t care whether she’s sad or happy. She hurt me too much for me to care or hope that she’s happy.
Thanks for the comment, though ❤️
What's dark empath?
I was in the exact same situation just remember that there are other people who genuinely do Love you
THIS IS THE REASON WHY I LOVE BEING ALONE .❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I had one friend with all those characteristics, i felt so much better then I decided to end our friendship. Dont be afraid to let go toxic people. You will always meet someone better, someone that can love and appreciate you
Content nowadays is so focused on vilifying a party, that many people aren’t being accountable to themselves. We expect so much from other people, yet we don’t say anything to the other person about what we want or what our boundaries are. Then when the connection ends, we watch stuff like this to make us feel better and ensure we’re not checking off those same boxes we feel they did. And put the onus on them.
Our truth is not the only truth. Keep that in mind when you’re in connection with other people.
But this types of people disrespect basic human boundaries
I've been crushing hard on a girl who is also a pretty close friend of mine. I've recently come to terms with the fact that she is super judgmental. I hate to say it but the description in this video fits her perfectly. She always makes me feel kinda small when I express things that I'm interested in. It's gotten to the point where I don't really share important details about myself anymore, and our friendship is pretty one-sided, with me knowing way more about her than she does about me. I'm not like a manipulator where I plan to use this info to get something. I just feel insecure about showing her who I really am because she's judgmental. Hopefully, knowing that fact will make it easier for me to move on.
She clearly don't deserve you . You will find someone who will make you feel special .
@@senorita.151 Thanks. I really hope so
Crush hard on someone who deserves you
Yeah I have a friend like that. Who I know more about them than they know about me and she is a bit judgemental on many things that I sometimes do as well. But idk if they are doing it on purpose. They talk about even some personal stuff to others aside form me. Also sometimes they act and do things that I think are stupid so, maybe they are just VERY inexperienced with many things in life.
I tried to become friends with a girl who turned out to be a very judgemental person and she outright said that my interest in my little pony was "inappropriate" for my age and if I wanted to be friends with her she'd "find something more fitting"
It was horrible and this phrase still feels super disgusting 🤢
We just had really different interests and hers were the more "popular" ones (making slime and hand-made shiny aesthetic stuff)
She didn't even try to get to know me she just told me that if I want to be her friend I have to dress better and just...become a different person ;-;
How do people even become like this
Well, after I was checking if I should avoid my friends, I actually found the person who I really should avoid at all cost, it's me
Now we have to find a way for you to avoid being with yourself, it must be easy
if only we could escape ourselves..
Yup. Most are out of my life-- There are some I actively avoid.
My brother is incredibly judgemental, but I used to be incredibly self absorbed, and am still working on changing that. I care too much about being liked and not enough about being likeable.
My favorite is seeing how many people like this get better. I knew a few in high school who were very hurtful but were also being hurt at home. Thankfully they grew to recognize that and changed
Contrary to what some of the complainers whining about your content. I am thankful that your channel is finally focusing on narcissist abuse because all sadness and depression start from either being related or forced to work with one of them. Awareness is prevention from enduring abuses, it's not villainizing any body. These are CHARACTERIST TRAITS, not specific to age, race , or gender. I love you channel. My life , happiness, wealth, financially, and HEALTH improved dramatically AFTER removing toxic people. It saves money from having to paying for therapy after dealing with BAD CHARACTERS.
Girl yes!!! Sounds like most of the people I associated with before. I believe I've ran into just about every type mentioned.
Me too. But not girls , guys instead
Thinking about meeting someone that seems like would be a good friend
I’ve been all of these at some point in my 37 years. I’m aware of these bad behaviors and am working moment by moment to do/be better.
Out of all these, I'd say I'm definitely judgmental. I find it appalling that some people I work with don't know how to touch-type, know basic MO office and think it's acceptable to talk rudely to foreigners in call centres trying to sell them stuff. I see over-weight degenerates stuffing their faces at work all day, stinking the place out, I see people leering most of the time, and people spending 90% of their time on their sodding smart-phones. I see institutionalized dishonesty in so many spheres. I'm so incorrigible, I'm actually glad I'm judgemental, because I honestly don't know what the alternative state of mind would be in the face of such moral decay.
POV: You're just checking if you're one of them, before avoiding them
I had an online friend who was nice to me but kept asking for things the moment he didn't get what he wanted he bullied me till I was crying loudly and left I've blocked him on everything now
That's definitely not a friend clearly only interested in 1 thing be careful on-line
Good thing you blocked him.
@@keiron.4612 I am now. But when I met him I had like 15 subs and he was a fan but that was 1 year ago
@@bandagewaster.8421 yes. Especially since after he left I started streaming then he was spamming my chat so I had to block him on youtube too
@@CheeseBurgersAde I hope your ok now glad you blocked him I can't stand people like that I subbed you btw
What about when the judgemental is your parent? It's so heartbreaking sometimes. "They make you feel worthless" indeed. Feels like I'm not even allowed to breath, because I'll be judged for it.
It's like you're a prisoner of their likes and dislikes and never free to be happy about your decisions.
Uhh, it is what it is. Try to find sunshine anyway and learn to love them insead of judging them back. That's what I've learnt so far.
All these traits are about one person: Narcissist!
Stay clear away from them even if you have to eat dirt to. Trust me, I divorced one.
Hi im a 15 year old narcissist but I only have 3 of the traits(also im not as bad as other narcissists,according to media narcissists are demons,wich I think is little exagerated)
Also,divorcing a narc can be a big mistake if not done correctly
Well I grew up with one soooo...😬
Broke up with my narcissistic ex girlfriend about six years ago and I’m still dealing with the emotional trauma that she put me through I would much rather forget That she never existed also she was physically abusive not just emotionally or mentally
I noticed that too. They fit all those descriptions.
I have learned, Finally, others do not cause my feelings, I do. My thoughts and feelings, after people say whatever they choose, are my choice. They don't Make me feel anything. I attribute their behavior to their agenda. My agenda is to keep a clear conscience.
I've been manipulated because of how "too nice" I was. And I'm still having trouble on saying "no".
Because I don't like it when people feel rejected. And I often say to myself "if you don't do it, they will hate you and so will everyone else".
And I find myself doing the most uncomfortable things I could ever imagine.
*Help.*
Holy Bagumba. I've got a group of friends at school, and they have all these qualities you mentioned in the video. That's why i felt depressed, stupid and worthless all the time, all because of them. Thank you Psych2go, i will try my best to wipe them out of my life.
I think the idea of avoiding specific “types” of people “at all costs” is a really terrible thing. The only reason you should give up on a person is if they refuse to even try to improve. If I felt like someone I knew had a character flaw, I would confront them about it. I try to be understanding and give people chances (maybe even too many). You can argue that “they’re just a strain on your mental health”, but they’re a person. I find that argument really selfish and hedonistic: if you don’t confront them and at least ask them to change, they will continue being a drain on others (leading to a net negative, even if you are spared). On top of that, I personally see giving someone the opportunity to improve well worth whatever mental strain it puts on you. I’m not going to impose and say it’s your “duty” or anything, but I think that helping others become better people is probably one of the best things you can do (both for others and yourself) and it can make for really strong relationships. I just personally don’t want to use “mental well-being” as an excuse to stop doing things that are hard, but ultimately good.
Feel free to disagree with me vvv
I agree 👍
Agree as well. Most people have at least one of the 8 characteristics. We are all flawed. If you avoided all of these people, there would be very few left and they would come off as so holier than thou, you'd give them a miss as well!
This!!
maybe i should try to change myself because today i have realized how heavily flawed i am. i have constant 1 sided "conversations" and randomly vent random stuff basically almost all day, every single day, to my best friend, and they actually READ everything i type too. i should find a way to get my emotions back so i can feel what guilt and fear is, maybe that will help stop me. its gonna be a challenging thing to achieve, but if i do not see any progress in myself, ill just seperate myself from everyone so they dont have to listen to the whole "ok im insane anyways ima talk about a stupid game for 24 hours straight heeeheeee all bout meeee" thing. sorry if its kinda long or it doesnt make sense, and if any of yall read this, thanks and congrats on surviving. ok bye
U r right.. But having experienced this, and giving them too many chances, I realized it's not worth it anymore.. I confronted them, told them how it hurts me, tried to have an open conversation about how we feel about each other, but I realized they actually don't want to be close with me cuz they don't care enough anymore.. They've moved on mentally, or r more focused on themselves, to work on carrying our relationship, and it hurts knowing how it once used to be. Now I feel like maybe I never even knew them completely in the start. And when they said that it's just their words or attitude, and I'm the one putting value to it that makes me feel bad, it was the last straw now to not care too much about them. In the end, it wasn't worth it for me, cuz all it gave me was mental exhaustion and feeling of unworthiness.
I think I can be judgemental sometimes. But, I've just realized someone close to me has all of those traits!! I've tried to stay away because I felt uncomfortable around her, but after watching this, now I know why I felt that way.
Haha yeah..... that's why I don't have real friends.....
What about your mother ?
@@ruthdenova7832 no, not event her.....mby my father but I can't open up to him bcz he don't understand me that well, but he love me
This is kinda deep... Not really, but somehow
Same lol
Oof
Hello I am from the Future and I just wanna say I hope next week Treats you well because you random person on the internet deserves the entire GODAMM universe. Remember to Take care of yourselves and that I love you so much
Same
It's been 12 days since this is out
But I understand it
Thank goodness the majority of bad people I used to deal with were in high school. Graduation allowed me to stay away from them forever. I didn't bother meeting new people when I went to college. I took longer to graduate after switching majors, but the COVID-19 quarantine ironically did me a favor because it felt great not to return to campus.
I tend to stay the hell away from people who use excuses a lot. I have realized that a lot my friends (old or new) make excuses just to ditch me. The most classic one is "Sorry I have to charge my phone" and I just look at my phone in hand as I'm charging and talking to them. Another one is "Sorry, my mom's calling for me" as I legit tell my mom that I'll do this and that later after I finish talling to them.
This hurts a little.
The worst part for me is that my older brother who is also the eldest of us siblings, happened to be both a gossiper and a self-absorbed person, like whenever something happens, whether it be me or one of my younger sibling being scolded or not, he will always interfere and say negative things instead of being constructive.
On a personal note: I still respect him as a person, but I do want him to repent from his self-absorbed and untrustworthy attitude when it comes to things that are personal.
Four months ago I ended my 2.5 year relationship, because he was exactly the envious type. Took me some time to realize, especially when there were a lot of aspects which weren't so bad. But after telling him multiple times, that I wanted to be seen and cheered on for the things i have accomplished instead of getting compared to him anf without any change, I had ro go. I never felt that I could be my true self when I was with him. Still sad about the breakup, but it was the right thing to do and I wouldn't take it back
I had a friend who was self absorbed, manipulator, gossiper and envious. By dealing with her for more than two years I’ve learned that I was being too kind.
Do be too kind folks, stand for yourselves.
Self absorbed: my brother
The manipulator: my friends crush
Judgmental: my ex friend
Gossipers: another ex friend and the popular girls at school
Envious: my brother
Hypocrites: a “friend” (not close)
Technically you're gossiping right now though...
@@zacharyyoungblood7013 true lol
@@harpercook3986 lol
@@zacharyyoungblood7013 idk why I did it just felt fun
I've definitely run into all six of these types in my life. I've had a few girlfriends who were manipulators, not all of whom were necessarily malicious but they did it anyway, lying about being pregnant out of fear I might leave for instance. The irony is I did end up leaving.
The last one is a bit tricky. It could be a hypocrite or a person with serious emotional problems who is not aware of sudden changes in their moods and preferences. I used to be like that myself when I struggled with untreated Borderline Personality Disorder. Not that it would excuse the behaviour, it´s still damaging to others regardless. But I just wanted to point out that it doesn´t have to mean hypocricy in every person.
im actually the envious type myself, but not when it comes to other people. congrats to them if they make accomplishments, but if i do, it won’t matter because the happiness of something good happening always goes away instantly. im just empty a lot of the time anyway, and I’ll go back to being that way after being happy for a moment.
I just ended a relationship with someone who had ALL of these traits. Eerie that this video was made so soon after. Anyway, I appreciate all of your helpful and informational videos. Thank you.
I was just thinking about that, I know someone who has all of these traits all in one, he's impossible to deal with and is energy draining also
Did the same, they're like leeches, they like to benefit from you leaving you with nothing.
These characteristics exist in many of my friends, but my survival skills have help me to maintain the relationship’s longevity! \🕶/
Wow 👏😮 u are great person 🙋♀️
Now I understand my mom,dad and whole family are included in this video...Hell😤😤..I have to leave to leave and ignore at any cost....I am suffering depression and other mental health problem bcoz of them😭😭
Having experienced all of these types of people i can say this is true and AVOID THEM AT ALL COSTS
I dropped someone that I used to hang around a lot due to how judgmental he was. He did everything you described to the letter. He would always make me feel bad about the things I care about, or the things or the people I entertain. I did notice this behavior before it got to the point of cutting him lose, but I chose to ignore it.
That moment when you watch this video to make sure that you’re not being a toxic friend
Omg right…
I've attracted every single one of those types, I was never aware of their toxicity - because the 'primary' one was my mother! she was all of those types, she was evil and toxic, trashed everything I did and blamed me for everything. After many years of counselling I now know I'm suffering from Developmental Trauma/Complex PTSD. Because of her I suffer with an inability to recognise toxic people, sleepless nights, flashbacks, intrusive memories, confusion, memory loss, learning impairment and forgetfulness, and a whole lot of other debilitating conditions! And a complete inability to socialise - so no friends - All thanks to that Bitch of a woman that was supposed to be my mother!
I am 63 years old now, so a whole life lost!
I am 56 y/o, and I understand your assertion. I am trying to change the direction of my life, even if only for a short time. Let's enjoy what is left!
1- Avoid people who talk about themselves
2- Avoid people who talk about you
4- Avoid people who talk about others
I think we should just avoid people who talk
Then we can be besties
Balance is key
I think we should just avoid people.
Introverts are best...!!
avoid extraverts lol
Everyone has these problems, it depends on perspective and if your the main character in your own mind lol
Nope, some people just simply don't have these problems
@@yay29823 I don't think so. They might not show it but everyone must have associated with one of those. There is no person who has the 100% kind and nice personality.
@@certainnoodlesinapasta.5265 Doing something bad because you are flawed is a thing, now, being diagnosted with a personality disorder is something completly different. There isn't any space for comparison
I feel like everyone has at least been a hypocrite in their life maybe one or two times
True
@@kavyatripathi4450 dude, I have never gotten so many like on one comment before 😐
@@Charly0000 hehehe congrats!!
@@kavyatripathi4450 I'ma cool kid now 😎
But it's different, being a hypocrite once and always being a hypocrite
One of my best friends is a gossiper and it gets tiresome hearing him talk negatively about everyone (and I'm sure he does this about me when I'm not around). I got to a point where i basically said i didn't care about a friend's personal business, and i don't want to hear about gossip. He was surprised and i think he got upset by what i said. So now he doesn't really talk to me, from what I've noticed. I just got tired of hearing him talk about our friends behind their backs, and i have reason to believe he talks about me when I'm not around. He talks about everyone unprompted and finds a way to make them as relevant part of our conversations......it gets to be draining and I even feel uncomfortable. I'm glad i set up this boundary because i don't want to talk about my friends behind their backs. They're my friends and I love them and I feel awful when this friend tells me something private and personal that my friends did not tell me and entrusted the information on him. Secrets aren't safe in his hands and because of him having loose lips, there's been drama in my friend group several times already. I wish he could realize him gossiping about everyone is not healthy and not friendly.
Be a friend and tell him that then. How else can he change?
Most of those others I've learned to stay away from by now.
But I always seem to end up with some envious ones left over in my life.
They're just always miserable no matter what I do to try and help them. Whether it's with favors or words of encouragement, or even compliments.
Sometimes those same people are the ones giving unwarranted input that might interfere with my life or work. And it's really just because they're always unhappy with their own.
It's pretty difficult to avoid them when there's so many of them out there and so many of the other types too.
And the worst part is that none of the types mentioned are generally aware of how toxic they are to be around.
I had a self absorbed gossiper in my life, and they bothered me SO MUCH but since they were in my friend group, I couldn’t rlly avoid them, and I didn’t want to be a hypocrite by gossiping about them, and I didn’t wanna lose my friends bc of one person. They ended up using my own personal struggles to socially isolate me, so I ended up losing the whole friend group anyways. It was a losing battle for me regardless.
It's horrible that person did that to you, but why did you allow them to? If you had said to them kindly 'hey I'm worried about you, you don't seem happy. Do you want to talk about it?' and had a chat about their behaviour in a non judgemental way, things might have turned out differently. There's always a reason behind people's behaviour and it's usually because they are hurting or angry from something that happened to them and their self esteem is rock bottom because of it and they feel like sh1t so they treat people badly to make themselves feel better. They only treat certain people this way- those that won't stand up for themselves and also have self esteem issues. Those people appear weak to them, and are the ones who get used and abused. Everyone needs to be able to be strong, to create clear boundaries, and have compassion for others. We are all struggling with something and we all need to help each other out more.
@@helenayamez I take issue with you blaming the victim and making the original commenter feel worse about themselves. What happened is not their fault!
There are some people you can’t reason with, and who will erode boundaries if you try to set them. “Healthy communication” is one of the most damaging recommendations you can make in this case, as it leads people like the commenter to feel like a failure at a battle that is impossible to win.
@@80islandia there are different ways of looking at a problem and finding solutions. No one ever 'makes' anyone feel any way about themselves. We all have a choice in how we respond to another person and how they have treated us. Feeling that you are a victim and acting like one gets no one anywhere and it's what makes someone feel bad about themselves, not what the other person has done to them. I take issue with you too for supporting the victim mindset. I am most certainly not into the blame game and my post in no way suggested I was. I'm into empowerment and was hoping that's how my post came across. There will always be some people who won't get it though. I accept that.
These types of behaviors are ones that let you see and realize who your real friends are, now or later on in life. They see you for you and not what people gossip about. Just be yourself and it'll all plan out 😉. After all, sometimes you can be your own best friend because you know you best. Find people that get you 💕
I’m so happy I found this channel! The videos are super calming and also informative
Keep on making the great content 👍
I have met such people. It's the reason that I became a loner. I stopped giving people the opportunity to throw anything back in my face. I could write about about the kinds of people whom I have met so far There are the nosey ones, the chronic gossiping, and the ones who spreads false information. Watch out for the friendly faces. Always look to see what is coming at you. Yes some people will try to get information about another person but you know nothing about them . Only one person is motivating such people . Everyone has heard of him.
You perfectly described someone who I am not friends with anymore. She was all of these things
I've known that my parents are very judgemental for a while, and I think this video really confirmed that. They always tell me that I shouldn't be interested in horror or a few other things (don't really want to name them rn, it's mainly the horror genre anyway) because they don't like it. I believe my mother had childhood trauma because of it. I feel very bad for her, it was probably horrible, but she's still so insistent on me having nothing to do with it even though it's fine and fun for me. My father is a bit less justified, he doesn't really have a reason (that I know of) except he thinks it's just a lazy way to make a game or tell a story. Personally, this is ridiculous, as many horror games, books, movies, tv, and everything in-between often uses horror as a tool for telling the story instead of there being no story. They're both getting better, especially my mom, about accepting my interest with it though.
I'm getting a bit too detailed, so TLDR; my parents are too judgemental about what makes me happy, though they're getting better about it.
EDIT: I don't believe that what I was trying to say came across correctly, I was not saying that my mother is terrified of horror, I was mainly trying to say that she disliked it, and I am not saying that disliking it is wrong either. I was simply saying that you shouldn't smother others interests because you personally hate it. I am sorry for any confusion or misinterpretation.
They are terrified, not judgemental, and they are right, i don't find people who are way much interested in horror healthy, it's kinda creepy.
Disagreement is deffrent than judgement
If your mother is terrified of the hobby you have, then...
My parents are the ones that think that their view on the world is the only right one, they are like that to everyone.
My ex girlfriend was the first one and the one that compares the whole world to herself.
...kinda sad.
Met a way narcissist after being married to one. Recently built up the courage to break it off. Went back to recover at my mother's home. I tried speaking to all those who told me to not bottle things up and speak to them. Guess what? I took the leap 6 times and realised I end up speaking about 10% of the time but listen to them speak 90% of the time. From my own mother, to my aunts, cousins and even brothers. While they're talking, I sit there thinking I feel like im having a heart attack and wish uou could see in my eyes that I'm In distress. But it never happens. My heart keeps pounding. My chest pains so badly and yet... There I am... Just listening and listening anx listening until i have to lie to make an excuse for me to leave and I end up feeling more drained and despondent than ever. I wish i had help
I've found a lot of hypocrites and narcissists on my way. I find hard to find someone who can just be sincere and honest. Being away from them I can really start to like my own company and work on my defects
My younger brother just got done being an a-hole, and i got the notification for this video, funny timing lol
Two of'em matched my sister, the Judgemental and the done who makes you feel bad about your intrests and hobbies....
That's sad, I wish that wasn't true ◡̈
Thank you for the helpful videos, it always makes my life way more easier!! 💜💜💜
I had a classmate like that ;-;
Tried to become friends with her but she turned out to be super judgemental
Told me my interest in mlp was inappropriate and I had to change it to be friends with her
@@snowicorn That's just a toxic person, you're beautiful the way you are!
People should like you for you, otherwise they don't deserve to have you!! :)
@@tro1774 Yeah, later I just changed schools and now I have an online friend (we've been friends for 2 years now)
@@snowicorn That's good to hear!!
A problem for anyone who has been labeled as one of these archetypes is that everybody avoids him.
Even if they improve themselves and/or have been unfairly judged and labeled, that label won't be removed from the minds of his friend, therefore he is banned for the life.
I avoid people who complain a lot and use you as a bin for their negative emotions. After this you suddenly notice that you are not lucky any more, all your plans, intentions, dreams do not implement, you get in trouble and become pessimistic. Avoid those who is always nagging and complaining, leave them alone, they are сontagious!
Good luck to all who is reading my comment!
Thanks for touching base on this subject. It’s really in-depth and it definitely gives more clarity about the warning signs. I feel a bit more at peace about situations that I’ve distanced myself from.
If it hasn’t been done yet and you’re up for it, I’d love to see a video about the kinds of people to keep in your life. Personally it’s something that I’ve been wondering about often over the past few months.
Love you all’s videos 😃
From my experience with my best friend, I find that
1. They show genuine interest in you
2. You can openly communicate. Although this person is my best friend, we aren't best friends if you understand. We've communicated things and are alright with it. She's also implied that I could be her best friend given more time to get to know me.
3. Both initiate contact, whether through a text or otherwise
4. You can make each other laugh
5. You don't judge each other and instead encourage and lift
Anyone can add to this if they like
This Is Most People In This World 🤔
I think this upload was spot on. Honestly it sucks but the only way to learn to block people like this from your life is to experience them firsthand. It's not even the fact they behave so shitty. Often times when I meet individuals like this is that I have to yell at or snap on them because they won't stop unless I make it clear I never wanna see them again. As a pacifist that really sucks because I'd like to believe everyone has a loving heart. But the truth is there are just some people that are nasty parasites.
Be aware of these things when you have opportunities to make more friends, like transitioning to college or a new job. Change can be really good if you know who to look for as new friends, obviously someone who is not one of these 6 things.
Come for the animation. Stay for the advice. Leave with the wisdom
Aww thanks :) Glad this video helped you!! What topics would you like us to cover next?
@@Psych2go ways that introverts show love to extroverts.
don’t you think we have a purpose in this life? The fact that our eyebrows are above our eyes shows that we have a purpose in this life as our eyebrows protect our eyes from sweat which contains salt, if it keeps getting into our eyes it will damage it. This shows that the creator, whoever created this universe and us, is the most wise. Similarly, the fact that our eyes are in front of our faces not behind them shows the wisdom of the creator. Imagine if our eyes were behind us, how would we walk? Our nose being above our mouth again, shows the wisdom of the creator as it inables us to smell our food before eating it. So ask yourself this question. “Does it make sense for the one who created this world, who is the most wise, to make us for no reason? With no purpose?” The answer is of course “no”. When we look at the sky and the earth, the alteration between night and day, we will come to realise that all of this did not come about for no reason.
.I can explain to you the purpose of your life if you want if this makes sense to you and you want me to explain then reply I will explain it all if you want. With complete logic. I can explain completely.
Thanks for reading
Have a good day
Btw just so you know, I’m a Muslim and what I shared with you was the Muslim point of view, if you’d like to know more let me know.
Well, considering my life situation, I'm completely immune to running into the 5th one. 😕
I think that our eyebrows are above our eyes, simply because of the fact that we went through an evolution from furry monkeys to us humans. It's just that evolution determined that it will be useful for us to keep that thin line of "fur" to protect our eyes from sweat. So in my opinion, there's no purpose to human existence. Take snails for example - nothing eats them and they are only there to eat our vegetables. We humans are similar to them. We only destroy, we don't help any other species or plant in any significant way. So if there is a purpose to human existence then it's simply to destroy the Earth.
@@anonym6013 the Darwinian theory of evolution doesn’t claim that we evolved from monkeys⁉️⁉️ where did you get that from?
As excellent as these indicators are, keep in mind that it's not going to run black or white here, of either they are that type of person or aren't. More often then not, they will have a combination of these traits, but still have some good qualities about themselves. And even the best of people can fall into these categories from time to time. So, in my opinion, one should indeed tread carefully with these people, but they should also, if given the opportunity, help them through it, be ready to forgive, and know that EVERYONE is like that on occasion. Kindness will go a long way.
I know one person whom at one point as expressed each one of these at one point or another... It's been draining for me to keep dealing with this person because I'm afraid of losing the friendship. It makes me feel like a failure but I know for a fact once I'm able to finally let go... my emotions... my well-being and my way life will finally improve... yet here I am watching video's like this on RUclips because I'm living this at the moment.
OKAY Psych2Go, but
*How am I supposed to avoid myself*
Thanks for all these efforts.💖
Good work!
As someone who is passionate about animal rights I loved that you included “the hypocrites” type as well, but I have to say, it’s almost impossible for me to avoid those people because pretty much everyone around me claims they love and respect animals yet pay for their abuse and slaughter every day. Cognitive dissonance is real.
1. I can't even be with those people for long... liking yourself isn't the same as praising yourself over others so much.
2. Too much experience with them, and i've become VERY careful when i see something that may show such red flag from them.
I'm an introvert who's not busy with smaller things in his own life, so if others do, i become suspicious about them... and i mean SMALL things, not regular stuff.
People who have a crush on you, like details, too, but not details they couldn't do anything with, like "what schools and work have you gone to?" or such.
But me not thinking about small details that no one could use for anything good, makes it way easier to skip over.
3. Oh boy, when i had no brain damage yet, i had an IQ of 120, and was thinking everything through, and people who didn't do that, were always confused about me, and i was just a "boy who asks too much, and thinks about unnecessary details", but after i got brain damaged, people thought i as "just a dumb kid".
And well, many things i didn't understand, cuz they always had an ide about me, which was very inaccurate, so i ignored them.
4. Those people i always disliked, and, as nerdy me always did with anything, i thought about why they'd do that, but never understood it... until i learned about psychology(didn't study, just learned over years from others), and that answered a LOT of questions i had about people's weird habits.
5. They drop you when they found someone else to envy over, or when you are no fun to them anymore.
I ignored when people anvied me, as i never understood it, due to me just being me... which they couldn't be, and apparently that was something to be jealous about.
Improve yourselves, don't become someone else, as in copy another's personality, as that's never gonna work.
6. Can turn against you, and can turn others against you, avoid as much and as soon as you possibly can.
I dislike when people either forget/ignore important details in a conversation/discussion, and those who always wanna outdo you and everyone and everything else.
Low self esteem is bad enough, don't try to make yourself look better than you are.
Train your self esteem by being good at something, or finding something you are good at doing.
... Sorry for being so nerdy that i typed all of this XD
Sometimes i let myself go even more, so be happy this comment has no own pages (yet), haha!
Stay away from people you don't like, and don't ever become one such person yourself.
Take care!
i avoid everyone :D
You can’t say everyone’s the same, we all have our good and bad sides. You wouldn’t want to be judged only by your bad sides would you?
Yes you can avoid toxic people, but you have to give people your own true chance and look at their good traits.
No one is perfect and if you can’t accept it then that proves the point that no one is perfect and if you can’t accept it then that proves the point that no one is perfect and if you can’t accept it then that proves the point that no one is perfect and if you can’t accept it then that proves the point.
Ok but it's still good to avoid all of these types of people
I don't have any real friends. I have dealt with people like the above all my life. They don't like how I choose to live. They act like how I feel is unimportant, their way is the only way. It gets on my nerves. When I stop them, I am blamed for being judgemental.
I am a magnet to these types of people. Knowing that doesn't stop it just makes me more aware.
It's as if my feelings don't matter, like I am not really there. I am just a means to an end. Their happiness is dependent on me. I am the butt of many jokes, alway have been. I am tired and exhausted.
With the society we live in, it's almost impossible not to avoid to these types of people!
This video feels oddly judgmental and personal, unlike the usual sciencey videos we normally see in this channel. I suppose some (or perhaps the combination) of these traits can be actually dangerous in the sense that they're often associated with personality disorders like narcissism or psychopathy, but in isolation and without exaggeration they could just be character flaws that could well come bundled with positive traits. Just judging some as selfish (which everyone is to some extent) and to be avoided at all costs seems kinda harsh
Agree
Could not agree more.
Ding ding ding you’re nailing it again ! Thank you
i'm trying to avoid people who JUST talk about themselves. these days i realized some people i consider my friend, don't know anything about me and never tried to even ask about my day or something, it's always about how they are feeling. idk if i'm being selfish, but it sometimes made me feel like i was just there to listen, but never being listened to
The judgemental can have bad judgements, but sometimes they are doing what they feel is best for u, but ig its REALLY RUDE tell them
I stay away from all people in general, because I have been hurt too many times to even trust anyone else mow ....
I have met some very toxic people who were nasty and spiteful and one of the interesting things is that, in a bid to seem moral and authoritative, they were always accusing other people of being hypocrites. One of these people was someone I knew at university who was very nice and civilized and intellectual on campus but in his hall of residence was the head of a gang of bullies that had great fun humiliating other people. The other one claimed to be a christian but tried to enter into unhealthy sexually abusive relationships with people younger than himself. He would also sit in the lounge of the place where I lived glowering over his bible. When everyone else had gone to bed he would then watch porn movies with his pals. I think accusing people of being hypocrites left right and centre is not only in both their cases a form of projection but it is also the ultimate hypocracy. All of us humans have at least a few hypocritical bones in our moral skeleton. And if you go around accusing people of being hypocrites left right and centre you are saying you are somehow above all that and on some other moral plane of existence.
i have a friend that i hate when she needs to make everything about her, always about her
and then she goes like "you never talk about you, i feel kinda bad that it is always about me"
i wonder WHY i never talk about me
maybe it is because everytime i try to talk about something that happened to me, or something that i like
she goes "hmm, yeah, cool, anyway..."
but when i respond the same way she does with me
she gets angry
or maybe it is because everytime that we hangout together i NEED to say to her to STOP using her phone and really talk me
because i hate when im talking, and she's on her phone
and then she says "go on, im listening"
when she clearly IS NOT
or maybe because everytime i talk about my other friends she goes like "it seems that you have more fun when you are with them than with me"
"with them you do this, but with me you do that"
its just
tiring sometimes...
I worked with some absolutely horrible people in my career: ultra-narcissists, manipulators, hyper-political, back stabbers, petty, bold-faced liars, complete frauds, loud-mouths, major bullies, mooches, taking credit for others, childish, unprofessional, two-faced, .... It's impossible to imagine these people have a conscience or even a mother. I bent over backward to retire at 56 just to get away from them. I'll never go back to work.
Not a friend or coworker, a cousin which is worse because there's no escape. I can't live with my mom and he's here, in this household expressing my sad feelings is being called overdramatic and having attitude and its hard to hold in the reactions I get to him because this has been happening my whole life. So starting soon even if it goes against what some say I will hold back standing up for myself as everyone finds me persistent and annoying and dramatic, aswell as to act like I'm not affected and to try to stop crying and stay in my room more. Why am I venting in a comment section? So an internet stranger can say how stupid the idea is and can give me a better one
i feel like i’m a bit like the envious one, but i try not to get jealous of others to the point where i want to bring them misery
Same ❤ glad to see I’m not alone
If you work on your self-esteem and grounding techniques you don't need to avoid these people. It may sound strange, but they do what they're doing in a (less than fortunate) attempt to be seen, heard and loved as they are. Note: if you need to avoid someone because you still struggle yourself, or just because you're having a rough day, that is okay. But please don't turn your back on someone whose ways already make them lonely just because it's more convenient for you that way. Be kinder. Be wiser. Be stronger.
I don't put a label on them for any of these characteristics.
Not now or ever or even then also.
Instead I would take all the charges on me.
So it's the best way to blame yourself rather than blaming 'em even though when you that you are. " INNOCENT "