"They measure your love by how much disrespect you'll take from them" That was painfully accurate and was really hard to hear. It seems like every other day I discover another insidious piece of trauma from my previous relationship
Well people are flawed. We can't go about waiting for a perfect individual to land on us. The question should be, can we build a healthy safe and loving relationship together, if not, learning to walk away with least damage
What's wrong with staying single all together??? I don't get people who want to be in relationships with people KNOWING the people they're with possess 1 or more or EVERYTHING this video mentioned! Makes ZERO sense to me! Either come correct or DON'T come AT ALL! Miss all that "build together"! B.S.! That's called a ‘project’ and I'm NOT looking to "build" NO ‘project’ or build WITH a ‘project’!
I'm clingy as hell, and so is my boyfriend, & I'm constantly going on about my problems. Even though based off this video, we shouldn't be dating each other, we...are doing just fine, 8 years later. We're able to work through our problems together. Remember, even if someone is struggling with an issue, it doesn't mean they aren't fixable. Work through it together, not alone, and you'll persevere.
You can never meet a person who isn't any of these. It's okay to have flaws...but when in a relationship both sides will need to communicate and compromise.
This is so important to share! The media has a tendency to show emotional dumpers as “they just trust you the most” and clingy as “you’re they’re soulmate, other half. Of course they always want to be around” and it’s nice that you guys show what real healthy love is supposed to look like. Thanks Psych2go!
Nice, my last 2 serious girlfriends were both emotional dumpers, it was exhausting. I’m a very positive and supportive person so I guess they thought I just had unlimited positivity to counteract their never ending cycle of misery, but I left because I couldn’t even take them out on dates without them ruining them by dumping all their emotional baggage and damage from the past on my plate along with the nice dinner I thought we were supposed to be enjoying. Some emotional dumping can be ok, but every day is just unattractive, exhausting to put up with and you come off as a buzzkill because you ruin everyone else’s good spirits, if you’re gonna complain then listen to the advice people give you, because if you don’t work on it yourself there’s no way I’m working on it for you.
My two exes who lived with my family and I were very much like like that. It's exhausting putting up with those kinds of people. I know from my own experience that those kinds of people are hard for me to deal with. There's nothing wrong with sharing personal things with someone, but when you're with someone just to do that, that's not right either.
This is a good reminder. Once, I wasn't on an official dating relationship, but I did experienced a close relationship with someone that had the first 3 types, and I agree, it's suffocating, confusing, and tiring. I unfortunately have the tendency for the 5th type when I'm on a nasty mood, I led myself to believe that everything I do is right while in reality it's totally not. I still hit the brakes everytime I realized it and apologize everytime I did it, and still figuring out how to control myself.
It’s good to realise the bad things about yourself to fix them and become a better person! I was creating arguments from thin air a lot until a close friend called me out on that. It takes a while to get the bad habits out but it’s necessary to improve yourself!.. anyways hope you’re doing good! :)
Similar experience recently. They had signs of all 5...though since she played with my heart strings in a way that I developped feelings I looked past them but had a weird gut feeling for the most part. She rethought at some point and friendzoned me without telling me even when I basically asked her directly (she acted different than what she's been telling me). She dodged the topic for a while. I tried telling her how I felt bad because of it and wanted to talk with a phrasing that wasn't all that good since I felt like I would get no response once again (I realized and apologized to her a few hrs later cuz I realized what I did in the heat of the moment was wrong and I could have done better). She acted like nothing is going on until 2 days later she lashed out on me telling me how I ruined everything and how toxic of a person I am and how bad the last 2 days were for her completely ignoring everything on her side of things that did lead up to this. Needless to say this didn't just break my heart but left a deep scar on myself as I questioned what I did wrong so to not repeat in the future. My friends reassured that it wasn't my fault or at least for the very most part. I did decide to try and save at least the friendship cuz I genuinely enjoyed her company (I'm an introvert so yea that means something :) ). But since then I start seeing all of the bad parts about her (it's basically everything in that video) and am not even sure now if I want to be friends the way she's acting now (not just towards me but towards others). It hurts and I just need time now (we never talked about it after anymore since she doesn't want to). Eventually will be over her but it's still a sad sight to see...just that I won't let pity of her win the better of me. Edit: I decided to distance myself and when I told her she reacted as expected. Blamed everything on me and she did everything right and it was all just "friendship" level. So many contradicting things she's been throwing towards me. I'm glad she's out of my life now. Life is too short for things like this and I'mma heal and live my best life now :)
I dated a guy who was like 3 of these, but the red flags started showing later in the relationship. I struggled a lot to leave him, but after eight months, I did it. These two weeks have been the worst. He’s been posting in instagram a lot of stories about khs, with the intention that I say something to him. At first I responded those, expressing my support, but ended up with panic attacks from talking to him, so I don’t respond anymore, but now I feel guilty af for not responding.
You do right to not answer him. Mostly people who have real struggle keep them for themselves. Also im sure he needs time for himself and you need time for yourself without having him in your thoughts Stay brave !
The feeling of guilt doesn't belong to you. You need to put yourself first. Always. If talking to him gives you panic attacks then you know it's not right. Only he is responsible for his problems and only he can change them. I know it's hard but we are not here to save them. Only they can do it. Wish you good luck! Can relate to your situation so you're not alone in this.
I was, or am, guilty of two of these. Its been some time since i last was in a relationship, and im a bit worrysome of dating in the future, because how do i know im better now? But at the same time, i want to believe i deserve to be loved. I think the key is to own up to your mistakes, but not completely disown your needs out of guilt if that makes sense. Because that is my struggle right now. For anyone else struggling with this, sending you lots of good thoughts and i hope you can work through whatever it is 💖
I feel like I struggle with one of them too! I talk a lot about my past and stuff and then get self-conscious where I ask myself if I was being too open. I’m trying my best to find a middle ground and be better! You can do it too!
You think about your own shortcomings, therefore you have taken the first step towards self-improvement. Of course you deserve to be loved. You also have a right to love, which is also positive for you. It's okay to take some time on your own if you need it. No love is a time-out, and you can always go back to it when you feel ready. See ya around.
I think it's great that you're noticing your mistakes! Some people don't even look back or think they did anything wrong. Keep going, you'll get better!
Number four type is very tricky and easy to fall to. Both of my sisters have been in relationships with those kind of guys. Please, if your loved ones are in under narcissistic abuse, don't give up on them. They need your love and support so much right now. And I hope you'll find a way to help them out of that relationship asap💜 If you yourself are under narcissistic abuse, remember that they have been better days and you can still get out of this relationship and live a healthy life✨ You're stronger than it may seem to you right now💚
I've been clingy and an emotional dumper in the past. But I've been "de-toxifying" myself and it's going a lot better (these videos have been a huge help)
Not dating wise, but I feel like a lot of the friends I made growing up were emotional dumpsters. I always felt like I had to play therapist and deal with my own problems on my own. I don't make friends like that anymore and steer clear of the ones now, but it feels like the majority I do befriend end up this way. Maybe it's just me?
Watching this, I realize in my previous relationship (this is my 2nd relationship), I basically acted like #1, #2 and #3, while my partner slowly became #4. It took the relationship to end just for me to realise how toxic I was being towards my partner, and I hate that that’s the case, because there was many moments I would ask (out of insecurity) if I was being toxic or not, to which the reply would usually be no, until the very end. The whole time, they’ve been nothing but supportive to me. Even when I vented my thoughts, (At first, he would give me words of affirmation to cheer me up) and they tell me I shouldn’t dwell on them because it was unhealthy (or unattractive..), I kept telling them they won’t go away so easily, and even if I could get help, I can’t right now. I told myself constantly not to do it often but I never realized how much I overdid it (this was often through text) Along with that, they’ve told me I was an obsessive asshole, and although they never defined how I was obsessive, I thank that this video exists, because clearly, I never realized how clingy I was, along with how it can be obsessive. When it came to clingyness, it was more physical rather than through texts and calls (because I would cling onto their arm and ask for hugs a lot) and heck, we didn’t text often, however, the part of expecting romantic gestures and not having it be met….. yeah….(I had way too high of expectations for the relationship…like smelling fresh for when I come over) I will say, due to a past relationship before the one I had recently, it has caused me to cling onto them, along with trying to see them as the perfect partner for me (due to the first one being… super toxic). I kept pointing out flaws I felt they needed to fix (because there were times he was a genuine asshole to people, and I didn’t like it), but clearly…. That made things worse. And the funny thing is… this was something I was trying to prevent myself from being; a toxic partner, but in the end…. That’s exactly what happened, and I feel shame for it, because these were flaws I knew I had, but I was never able to notice them because it was never told to me that I did something wrong until we had our first fight, first break, and then… end. That was it.
I have the same thing but they never told me that....I worry about that everyday so I don't talk often cuz I'm afraid of throw my emotions on her so I'm trying to just say hi or ask about her
Yes and they don' t know how or feel they don' t have to reciprocate and can' t communicate , avoidants are tough, I will never deal with one again if I don' t have to.
The thing is, people don't want togetherness anymore. They want 50/50 with their independence. Sure, independence is important in a relationship but if it's getting in the way of a relationship growing and progressing, why are they even in a relationship? Also, there are a lot of men who just don't want to communicate. People who shut things down and don't have emotional intelligence are the worst. It's like trying to teach a rebellious teenager how to talk about their feelings and resolve obstacles together. There are always obstacles in relationships and life, it's how you work through them together that counts. But when one person doesn't ever want to put the work in and then it all falls on the other person, it's just exhausting.
5 Types of People You Shouldn't Date: 1. Emotional dumpers 0:23 2. Overly clingy people 0:56 3. The extreme perfectionist 1:31 4. The narcissist 2:00 5. The toxic communicator 2:30 Thanks Psych2Go for another awesome video!
There's nothing "toxic" about being assertive and standing your ground. No point in just acceding and stifling your beliefs to placate someone else. They need to learn to get over it. You do you
There is a difference between being straightforward, being assertive, and being toxic; sometimes those lines that differentiate them aren't always so clear. There is a difference between: - telling them directly how you feel about a certain situation; - telling them exactly what you believe in, where you stand, and how things come off when they speak or interact; - and releasing a barrage of accusations, insults, and poorly chosen/ill-intentioned sets of comments. While I do agree that you should stand your ground and express your sentiments, beliefs, and standings; there is a way to do it in which doesn't cross-over into borderline or straight up toxicity.
@@akatsukifan500ify Anything Gen Z doesn't like is "toxic". Armchair psychotherapy is all the rage amongst the youth. There is no objective definition of 'toxicity". Also, if someone does something suspicious and worthy of an accusation, it is only logical they get accused. The problem with psychotherapy is that it tries to reduce any and all sets of human behaviors, throw labels on them, and weasel out rationales for why that's 'wrong' and needs intervention for 'correct' thoughts and acts.
The toxic communicator and the narcissist are actually the same thing- the COVERT narcissist hides who they are (lovebombing phase ) and the mask slips off once you’re in a relationship with the narcissist as an empath target - that’s when the narcissist becomes the toxic communicator (the de valuing phase ) So it should be 4 types of people not to date
I'm guilty of this. Thank you for telling this, I'm aware of it now. I am doing this with my friend and I think maybe I could lessen it since you said it is not healthy to be like this in a relationship.
Also be sure to talk to the person and communicate to them if youre concerned they're one of these, some people are pretty flexible and dont mind venting less or texting less or whatever, ive been abandoned by friends before who just didn't communicate to me that there was issues in the relationship that i'd have been fine with compromising on and sorting out but just never got the chance to cuz they didn't talk to me and just let their emotions blow up to the point talking about it wasn't an option to them
Yeah I totally been there in terms of dealing with a emotional dumper. I'm glad you actually brought that up psych to go because I definitely needed to hear this because I just got out of a 11 month almost a year relationship with my now ex-girlfriend back in late March of this year. I had to constantly deal with her mood swings and hear all of her problems expecting me to heal her aka be her savior. This is why I rather remain single at least for a while until I am ready to date again.
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I was looking at this video to see if I am making any mistakes with my relationship at the moment. I don’t know if I’m an emotional dumper, we both talk about each other’s problems and support each other about it. She even calms me down during my panic attack and break downs, I can’t control it. I don’t know if I’m too clingy, I can want to hug a lot or hold hands but I don’t spam and call 24/7.
0:22 i mean of course it's amazing if *both* people on the relationship can work to support each other emotionally, they literally need to do that to keep it working, but there's a point where the people's emotional problems require actual therapy instead
I'm the overly clingy one in mine... Although I still avoid invading my partner's personal space and after this video, I'll be more careful of my actions
--Early more or less and working on timestamps cuz as of popping in I see none-- 0:22 emotional dumpers 0:57 overly clingy people 1:31 the extreme perfectionist 2:00 the narcissist 2:29 the toxic communicator I need to be working on a drawing cuz I literally just have to color it rn but like y'know
I feel like I reach out too much. I don't not listen to solutions and I always appreciate others but this video makes me think I should just keep quiet
My ex had all of these to some degree. Refused to give me any kind of space right off the bat, disrespected every boundary I set, lied, gaslit, manipulated, controlled. Then threatened and stalked me after I broke up with him, and still calls me even though he got a new girlfriend who has kids his age.
My ex left me a week ago, it was really hard because her father passed away 3weeks ago and I was here for her, I was supportive and attentive, if she needed to talk, I was here. I don't blame her for being lost in her feelings, but she started to disrespect me, she said that I wasn't enough for her anymore and she left me saying "if I broke up with you it's because I love you and I don't want to be toxic with you" but she was mean, disrespectful towards me (she also said I could be more empathic about her father, because I lost 2 important ppl, so she felt disappointed somehow) I don't know if she was an emotional dumper, but it was a really hard time for both of us. Take care everyone please.
Someone once gave me a couple of pieces of advice regarding picking a partner. 1- While you're dating, don't compare them to previous relationships you've had. They are not the same person. They are bound to have different character traits and their own set of personal problems and demons that they are fighting. So treat every relationship like a brand new experience and try to see the person in front of you. 2- Don't forget your boundaries. At some point, after the initial rush of a new relationship dies down a bit, sit down and assess. By this point you probably learned a few things about your partner. Things you like and things you dislike. One thing my boyfriend's mother advised me on was: if you can find 5 things that you do not like in your partner, things you can not accept, things that you don't objectively see yourself being able to live with...then it's best for both of you to just stop to avoid heartache and senseless fighting. A conversation is obviously necessary.
I was an emotional dumper. I can't stress enough how important it is to set boundaries with people like that. I didn't need a partner then, I needed a therapist. I'm okay now, because I got the help I really needed. Even if the person you like is really cool, maybe try again when they've really worked through stuff for your own sake :')
Good reminder of things to look out for. Hopefully if I ever date anyone (super unlikely) I can give them all the love and care they deserve. Despite my sad I always feel inside.
I am the first two, and perhaps the last one. She was the second two. I’m ashamed of myself for the ways I treated her, but I also loved her deeply for many years. Honestly, I’m not convinced she ever loved me. Love doesn’t leave.
trust your instincts is well and all, would love a video about the times you should NOT trust your instincts, or what parts of common insticts we all have that are wrong or vestigial
"emotional dumpers" no that's literally just confiding in your partner. you're SUPPOSED to support your partner and yes that includes listening to their problems. keeping things to yourself is super bad for a relationship. people are so selfish.
I had a practically dating relationship we just didn’t make it official and she was the emotional dumper. I was very caring and I took in what she said free of any negative responses and when I did give her advice, she never took it. And it just got to the point where she would tell me about it all the time and never did anything about it. It was exhausting. And on top of it all when I told her I loved her she just revoked it was like I don’t love you. And I’m just like why do you all of a sudden not love me. After telling me how many times you did love me. Everything had to be about her and when I would occasionally wanted to emotional dump, she would interrupt me and tell me how to do things and I’m just like no this is just occasional emotional dumping, I’m not looking for a solution I’m just telling you how I’m feeling about something. She would tell me how I should look at things and fix things and she always brought it up like asked me if I did what she told me to do like she expected me to follow every little thing that she said I should do.
Wow, i might have an emotional dumper as a very close friend. We're both young, and they have disregarded disorders; so, everytime we get into deep conversations, they only talk about themselves. I know they need help, but i'm a child, and I have my own issues like sexual and incestuous abuse, mental and physical health problems; which are disregarded as well. I'll try to tell them again that, even if I do offer help and try my best to be cheerful, i'm a human being, and I too need help and space. Hopefully, i'll keep them, since they're pretty kind, fun, and honest most of the time... But listening every single time, while never getting the favour returned, is exhausting. I hope i successfully avoid dumping my issues onto others. Thanks for those videos, they're always welcome and useful. The visuals are great, the topics common, the answers needed. It's great to have reminders of what might be okay, and what might be dangerous. Take care everyone !
I'm definitely the emotional dumper and the overly clingy one, I've lost countless friendships and relationships because of this and I've been trying to learn from my experiences. It was because I was so afraid to lose people and I wanted someone to just listen to me because I've also been through betrayal, but I never realized that doing it often would ruin that overtime. I have gotten into therapy and helping myself for the better and for future relationships with people and my family.
#6 Manipulative Partner - they want you to do all they say without giving the importance to be heard & helped when needed - they want to control everything you do, where you at, & with whom. Explaining reasons for every questions they have, and if you counterattack to defend yourself by asking the same questions, they do not respond at all - please, notice the little actions or words they repetitive do I was able to break up with them after 2 months in the relationship because I love myself, and now I know when someone hurts me that way
my past relationship was with an emotional dumper but i genuinely tried to be there for them- it didn’t really work out and we broke up because they wanted to focus on themselves and i support that 100% but i sometimes wonder if it was because it seem like i didn’t care because i never knew what to say- and they also called and texted me so often it got overwhelming and i didn’t know what to do and i could never be myself around them- i had to mask and pretend to not be drained- i’m glad we’re still friends but idk
I was an emotional dumper. I honestly didn't realize it until my ex brought it up in an argument. It hurt to hear but it helped me to seek help and improve. I wish that I had gotten therapy before that relationship dissolved. It is sad that the relationship made them feel drained.
+Psych2go *Thanks for the list of dangers in potential significances:* 0:22 (1) Emodump 0:56 (2) Excessive clinging (symptom of codependency) 1:31 (3) Exceptional perfectionism 1:59 (4) Narkissos Complex 2:29 (5) Toxic communication
I think I was number 5 towards my sister I'm not dating her but It caused fights and at times made me lose her I'm glad I still have her now I appreciate her and everything she does for me
My first boyfriend was an emotional dumper and a toxic communicator, and I tried to be supportive and help him, but in the end all I got was a "You don't get me at all how would you know?" I was going through a hard time too, because I had to spend almost 24/7 with him and couldn't catch up with my social life with my friends. My work and dating balance was absolutely ruined and I seemed to be doing unwell mentally at the time. He said that he loved me and that's why he's saying all these things, and also why it's MY JOB to help him. So I was there to support him. But later on it got harder and harder for me to keep up with him for 2 years straight, and at that point I gave up and broke up with him.
I am two of these types, the clingy person and the perfectionist. I recognize that I have to be better, hence why I’ve been working on bettering myself.
I’ve dated the Toxic communicator and the emotional dumper…and dealt with narcissistic siblings and friends….needless to say not dating or befriending anyone until I thoroughly analyze them first for months.
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for more than a year now and she has 4 out of 5 of these signs mentioned in this video. She expects a lot from me and sometimes I feel like I'm restricted to do some things comfortably because of how she reacts to things she doesn't like. She also speaks harshly whenever she's angry or if things didn't go her way. I communicated to her that maybe she can take it easy with her words because I am easily affected by it, and she just told me that people are like that when they're angry and she won't change who she is. It's undeniable that we have our good days, but often times I just feel tired because of how she is. I'm conflicted because I love her, but sometimes she makes me feel like I'm wrong most of the time.
Love the Kazuha pfp btw, yeah mine is the same and it is incredibly hard to keep this up, she has been slightly getting better over time and I’ve been trying to accept that she is trying to do better. I’m trying to find the good in her without having all of these things become a big problem because I love her a lot and she’s really nice when she is, and I’ve been with her for almost 5 years. I’m an INFJ who is dating another “almost” INFJ if that helps with anything, and I’m literally the most nicest person you’d probably ever meet, not trying to brag or anything 😅 but I never try to make anything a problem and always want to be chill with everyone and have no conflict with anyone whatsoever, but I do hope that she will prevent herself more from going overboard with time on all of these things. But yeah it’s hard to figure out if it’s worth staying in this relationship because she is both really nice with the bad part of being emotionally draining and ruining a lot of fun on certain days, hopefully me and you will be fine in the future tho cause maybe one day something will set us both off and will have to figure a better situation if the time comes (I could tell that you are also a chill person😅)
@@Inferno_Blazeheart Thank you! Really hope I can get Kazuha on his next banner feature! I'm saving up for Nahida currently. Anyway, I'm glad to know that we're somehow in a similar situation (and similar personalities). I do hope things will work out for both our relationships. I can see that you love your girlfriend very much and based on what you said, it shows that you love her. But sometimes it's just hard to cope with the emotions they lash out. I think we should just keep on communicating with them because sometimes people forget.
@@ayaken5972 Exactly it’s just better communication, also yeah I’m collecting every Archon so she is probably gonna be mad broken buffing my future Cyno and I can’t wait, good luck tho getting Kazuha cause he’s also a little broken 😂
I am the emotional dumper and overly clingy person... I even got someone who'd accept me for who I am... But it was draining him emotionally, so bad that I had to break up because he won't (we were both overly clingy but I was the only one emotional dumping) I ain't going to relationship without fixing these but I dunno how to and I also wouldn't know if I've improved T-T
People with a multitude of mental health disorders. I’m not saying we should discriminate against people with mental health problems, but there’s only so much someone can take before it causes them to develop their own mental health problems as a result of dealing with their partners problems, especially if they’re partner refused to seek help, even if it’s because they’re partners have a valid reason to refuse help. even if they’re partners are getting the help they need, sometimes it just becomes too much. I’m sorry if this sounds shallow or ableist to anyone but this is from personal experience and from seeing the experiences of others I know.
I was in a relationshio with an emotional dumper, they showered all their problems on me, i tried helping them, one time i didnt talk to them because i was busy helping my grandparents, and a couple of weeks later they broke up with me because of that. Before i didnt talk to them, i let them know i was busy, and there was a chance i wouldn't be able to talk, but all they did everyday, was make me feel bad for them, and get me to stay because they did stuff that made me happy, or so i thought. I found out they were manipularive after the relationship. I still miss them, but i know i dont deserve to be treated like that, and have others play with my emotions.
Whatever personality they have, If you dont love, please leave early. Because they might really be in love with you, deeply. And they might have learnt only this way of showing love. If you have strength, and you thing they worth it, fight for them. Teach them. Theach them how to express love. Communicate. Tell everything early. If you love, dont wait until issues grow to an ivy and ruin everything.
I want to tell my story similar to this video . More than 1 year . I meet a girl named Isa , she used to be the person that actually does good things for herself and myself . Most of us are all on games because Me and Isa are not in the same country and we always miss each other . She has said countless nice things to me and always knows when to text me at the perfect time . She always sends emojis full of happiness . but after one mistake from myself , she has left me :( . I will never try and date this type of person again , it had broken my heart very harshly . I couldn't even forgive what she said back a few days ago . I was soo disappointed from her . Every sadness and depression was all from her . After thinking for quite some time , I have finally let her go and become the real me but one part of my mind and heart still thinks about her .
Are you guilty of some of these?
no
Idk I never watched
Never been in a romantic relationship.
I think I’m not, or at least I hope I’m not, but I’m not exactly the best at reading my own behaviour
I believe most people have issues with some of these 🤔😔
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0:22 emotional dumpers
0:58 over clingy people
1:32 the extreme perfectionist
2:00 the narcissist
2:31 the toxic communicator
ty for this lol!-
Thank you! 🙏🏽❤️
Also serial killer lol jk
My ex wife is clingy and a narcissist. Not good.
Thank you🌹
"They measure your love by how much disrespect you'll take from them"
That was painfully accurate and was really hard to hear. It seems like every other day I discover another insidious piece of trauma from my previous relationship
same 😥
Same…
I'm glad you're discovering them though so you can heal! Best wishes for your healing.
same
I think these kind of people have been pampered and spoilt all their lives.
Well people are flawed. We can't go about waiting for a perfect individual to land on us. The question should be, can we build a healthy safe and loving relationship together, if not, learning to walk away with least damage
so true
What's wrong with staying single all together???
I don't get people who want to be in relationships with people KNOWING the people they're with possess 1 or more or EVERYTHING this video mentioned! Makes ZERO sense to me!
Either come correct or DON'T come AT ALL! Miss all that "build together"! B.S.! That's called a ‘project’ and I'm NOT looking to "build" NO ‘project’ or build WITH a ‘project’!
I'm clingy as hell, and so is my boyfriend, & I'm constantly going on about my problems. Even though based off this video, we shouldn't be dating each other, we...are doing just fine, 8 years later. We're able to work through our problems together.
Remember, even if someone is struggling with an issue, it doesn't mean they aren't fixable. Work through it together, not alone, and you'll persevere.
Largely depends. Probably see therapist just to be safe as well.
You can never meet a person who isn't any of these. It's okay to have flaws...but when in a relationship both sides will need to communicate and compromise.
This is so important to share! The media has a tendency to show emotional dumpers as “they just trust you the most” and clingy as “you’re they’re soulmate, other half. Of course they always want to be around” and it’s nice that you guys show what real healthy love is supposed to look like. Thanks Psych2go!
I feel offended...
they mentioned those in a few other videos … i want to know how this channel can make so many videos and come up with different reasons
Nice, my last 2 serious girlfriends were both emotional dumpers, it was exhausting. I’m a very positive and supportive person so I guess they thought I just had unlimited positivity to counteract their never ending cycle of misery, but I left because I couldn’t even take them out on dates without them ruining them by dumping all their emotional baggage and damage from the past on my plate along with the nice dinner I thought we were supposed to be enjoying. Some emotional dumping can be ok, but every day is just unattractive, exhausting to put up with and you come off as a buzzkill because you ruin everyone else’s good spirits, if you’re gonna complain then listen to the advice people give you, because if you don’t work on it yourself there’s no way I’m working on it for you.
This species is called Energy Vampires 🦇
@@yohaizilber they suck all your blood until they feel better about themselves
I’m sorry you had to deal with that 😕
Simping is unhealthy.
My two exes who lived with my family and I were very much like like that. It's exhausting putting up with those kinds of people. I know from my own experience that those kinds of people are hard for me to deal with. There's nothing wrong with sharing personal things with someone, but when you're with someone just to do that, that's not right either.
This is a good reminder.
Once, I wasn't on an official dating relationship, but I did experienced a close relationship with someone that had the first 3 types, and I agree, it's suffocating, confusing, and tiring.
I unfortunately have the tendency for the 5th type when I'm on a nasty mood, I led myself to believe that everything I do is right while in reality it's totally not.
I still hit the brakes everytime I realized it and apologize everytime I did it, and still figuring out how to control myself.
It’s good to realise the bad things about yourself to fix them and become a better person!
I was creating arguments from thin air a lot until a close friend called me out on that.
It takes a while to get the bad habits out but it’s necessary to improve yourself!.. anyways hope you’re doing good! :)
best of luck on your journey fren. Always a great sign when someone can think critically of themselves and weight their faults and virtues
Similar experience recently. They had signs of all 5...though since she played with my heart strings in a way that I developped feelings I looked past them but had a weird gut feeling for the most part. She rethought at some point and friendzoned me without telling me even when I basically asked her directly (she acted different than what she's been telling me).
She dodged the topic for a while.
I tried telling her how I felt bad because of it and wanted to talk with a phrasing that wasn't all that good since I felt like I would get no response once again (I realized and apologized to her a few hrs later cuz I realized what I did in the heat of the moment was wrong and I could have done better).
She acted like nothing is going on until 2 days later she lashed out on me telling me how I ruined everything and how toxic of a person I am and how bad the last 2 days were for her completely ignoring everything on her side of things that did lead up to this.
Needless to say this didn't just break my heart but left a deep scar on myself as I questioned what I did wrong so to not repeat in the future. My friends reassured that it wasn't my fault or at least for the very most part. I did decide to try and save at least the friendship cuz I genuinely enjoyed her company (I'm an introvert so yea that means something :) ). But since then I start seeing all of the bad parts about her (it's basically everything in that video) and am not even sure now if I want to be friends the way she's acting now (not just towards me but towards others).
It hurts and I just need time now (we never talked about it after anymore since she doesn't want to). Eventually will be over her but it's still a sad sight to see...just that I won't let pity of her win the better of me.
Edit: I decided to distance myself and when I told her she reacted as expected. Blamed everything on me and she did everything right and it was all just "friendship" level. So many contradicting things she's been throwing towards me. I'm glad she's out of my life now.
Life is too short for things like this and I'mma heal and live my best life now :)
Still good that you recognize it though
i feel like the first two could potentially be fixed with just communication and expressing you dont like their behaviour and how to fix it
I also think the first two will just validate men who think they don't need to communicate or meet emotional needs
@@thatrunningirl im sorry do you mind explaining? /gen
Yeah I agree
@@thatrunningirl Not only men do it, women dump their problems and are more likely to be clingy a lot more than men do.
True. Or maybe there is some hidden trauma. A compassionate and perceptive listener could help these people.
I dated a guy who was like 3 of these, but the red flags started showing later in the relationship. I struggled a lot to leave him, but after eight months, I did it. These two weeks have been the worst. He’s been posting in instagram a lot of stories about khs, with the intention that I say something to him. At first I responded those, expressing my support, but ended up with panic attacks from talking to him, so I don’t respond anymore, but now I feel guilty af for not responding.
You do right to not answer him.
Mostly people who have real struggle keep them for themselves. Also im sure he needs time for himself and you need time for yourself without having him in your thoughts
Stay brave !
I'll tell you something that may be hard to process, but, he is *not* your responsibility.
The feeling of guilt doesn't belong to you. You need to put yourself first. Always. If talking to him gives you panic attacks then you know it's not right. Only he is responsible for his problems and only he can change them. I know it's hard but we are not here to save them. Only they can do it. Wish you good luck! Can relate to your situation so you're not alone in this.
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Khs?
I was, or am, guilty of two of these. Its been some time since i last was in a relationship, and im a bit worrysome of dating in the future, because how do i know im better now? But at the same time, i want to believe i deserve to be loved. I think the key is to own up to your mistakes, but not completely disown your needs out of guilt if that makes sense. Because that is my struggle right now. For anyone else struggling with this, sending you lots of good thoughts and i hope you can work through whatever it is 💖
I feel like I struggle with one of them too! I talk a lot about my past and stuff and then get self-conscious where I ask myself if I was being too open. I’m trying my best to find a middle ground and be better! You can do it too!
You think about your own shortcomings, therefore you have taken the first step towards self-improvement. Of course you deserve to be loved. You also have a right to love, which is also positive for you. It's okay to take some time on your own if you need it. No love is a time-out, and you can always go back to it when you feel ready. See ya around.
I think it's great that you're noticing your mistakes! Some people don't even look back or think they did anything wrong. Keep going, you'll get better!
A confirmation that I am not so mature and ready for a relationship yet. Thank you, it was an eye opener, saw myself somehow in each type.
I consider myself clingy and overly dependent on others. I also find it difficult to communicate with others in general
That causes a lot of problem for both sides :/ it sucks
Don't take offence to this, but please go see a professional and work through these issues so you can stop wasting other people's time.
yea same
@@yaboihuck6145 that's just rude
Well, i'm single and not ready to mingle :'(
bruh same
Single too
Once an Omega Virgin. Forever an Omega Virgin.
Same here Im livin the single life
Well if you enjoy being single you don't need to find someone asap
Number four type is very tricky and easy to fall to. Both of my sisters have been in relationships with those kind of guys. Please, if your loved ones are in under narcissistic abuse, don't give up on them. They need your love and support so much right now. And I hope you'll find a way to help them out of that relationship asap💜 If you yourself are under narcissistic abuse, remember that they have been better days and you can still get out of this relationship and live a healthy life✨ You're stronger than it may seem to you right now💚
I've been clingy and an emotional dumper in the past. But I've been "de-toxifying" myself and it's going a lot better (these videos have been a huge help)
Me too. Once I realized it, I worked on it in therapy and got a lot better.
How u did that? Because I have the same problem
@@laeebcitycenter I want to know too
Same. Teach us your ways
Not dating wise, but I feel like a lot of the friends I made growing up were emotional dumpsters. I always felt like I had to play therapist and deal with my own problems on my own. I don't make friends like that anymore and steer clear of the ones now, but it feels like the majority I do befriend end up this way. Maybe it's just me?
Nice video! It’s a very useful thing to not fall into toxic relationships
Watching this, I realize in my previous relationship (this is my 2nd relationship), I basically acted like #1, #2 and #3, while my partner slowly became #4. It took the relationship to end just for me to realise how toxic I was being towards my partner, and I hate that that’s the case, because there was many moments I would ask (out of insecurity) if I was being toxic or not, to which the reply would usually be no, until the very end. The whole time, they’ve been nothing but supportive to me. Even when I vented my thoughts, (At first, he would give me words of affirmation to cheer me up) and they tell me I shouldn’t dwell on them because it was unhealthy (or unattractive..), I kept telling them they won’t go away so easily, and even if I could get help, I can’t right now. I told myself constantly not to do it often but I never realized how much I overdid it (this was often through text) Along with that, they’ve told me I was an obsessive asshole, and although they never defined how I was obsessive, I thank that this video exists, because clearly, I never realized how clingy I was, along with how it can be obsessive. When it came to clingyness, it was more physical rather than through texts and calls (because I would cling onto their arm and ask for hugs a lot) and heck, we didn’t text often, however, the part of expecting romantic gestures and not having it be met….. yeah….(I had way too high of expectations for the relationship…like smelling fresh for when I come over) I will say, due to a past relationship before the one I had recently, it has caused me to cling onto them, along with trying to see them as the perfect partner for me (due to the first one being… super toxic). I kept pointing out flaws I felt they needed to fix (because there were times he was a genuine asshole to people, and I didn’t like it), but clearly…. That made things worse. And the funny thing is… this was something I was trying to prevent myself from being; a toxic partner, but in the end…. That’s exactly what happened, and I feel shame for it, because these were flaws I knew I had, but I was never able to notice them because it was never told to me that I did something wrong until we had our first fight, first break, and then… end. That was it.
I have the same thing but they never told me that....I worry about that everyday so I don't talk often cuz I'm afraid of throw my emotions on her so I'm trying to just say hi or ask about her
clingy is SUCH a subjective thing. Avoidants would think texting is suffocation. They would think consistent communication is clingy….
Yes and they don' t know how or feel they don' t have to reciprocate and can' t communicate , avoidants are tough, I will never deal with one again if I don' t have to.
The thing is, people don't want togetherness anymore. They want 50/50 with their independence. Sure, independence is important in a relationship but if it's getting in the way of a relationship growing and progressing, why are they even in a relationship? Also, there are a lot of men who just don't want to communicate. People who shut things down and don't have emotional intelligence are the worst. It's like trying to teach a rebellious teenager how to talk about their feelings and resolve obstacles together. There are always obstacles in relationships and life, it's how you work through them together that counts. But when one person doesn't ever want to put the work in and then it all falls on the other person, it's just exhausting.
The clingy type. I'm guilty of that. I definitely want to work on it.
There are no loyal people left who are compatible. Just live as single.
To be fair. The emotional baggage one is something most people do. :/ Not everyone can help it
you´re voice is so calming.❤
People who don't take responsibility for themselves & their actions. Growth in a relationship should never be completely one sided.
5 Types of People You Shouldn't Date:
1. Emotional dumpers 0:23
2. Overly clingy people 0:56
3. The extreme perfectionist 1:31
4. The narcissist 2:00
5. The toxic communicator 2:30
Thanks Psych2Go for another awesome video!
There's nothing "toxic" about being assertive and standing your ground. No point in just acceding and stifling your beliefs to placate someone else. They need to learn to get over it. You do you
There is a difference between being straightforward, being assertive, and being toxic; sometimes those lines that differentiate them aren't always so clear.
There is a difference between:
- telling them directly how you feel about a certain situation;
- telling them exactly what you believe in, where you stand, and how things come off when they speak or interact;
- and releasing a barrage of accusations, insults, and poorly chosen/ill-intentioned sets of comments.
While I do agree that you should stand your ground and express your sentiments, beliefs, and standings; there is a way to do it in which doesn't cross-over into borderline or straight up toxicity.
@@akatsukifan500ify Anything Gen Z doesn't like is "toxic". Armchair psychotherapy is all the rage amongst the youth. There is no objective definition of 'toxicity". Also, if someone does something suspicious and worthy of an accusation, it is only logical they get accused. The problem with psychotherapy is that it tries to reduce any and all sets of human behaviors, throw labels on them, and weasel out rationales for why that's 'wrong' and needs intervention for 'correct' thoughts and acts.
i find all of these in myself. thank you for the reminder, and allowing me to have awareness in my actions
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The toxic communicator and the narcissist are actually the same thing-
the COVERT narcissist hides who they are (lovebombing phase ) and the mask slips off once you’re in a relationship with the narcissist as an empath target - that’s when the narcissist becomes the toxic communicator (the de valuing phase )
So it should be 4 types of people not to date
TBH, your voice is really good and relaxing. I can listen to your voice whole day😄
I'm guilty of this. Thank you for telling this, I'm aware of it now. I am doing this with my friend and I think maybe I could lessen it since you said it is not healthy to be like this in a relationship.
I’ve been in a emotionally abusive relationship before, but luckily we aren’t together anymore!
I luv how u are so sweet and post often you’re voice soothes me ☺️
This is good advice not only for romantic relationships but also friendship.
Also be sure to talk to the person and communicate to them if youre concerned they're one of these, some people are pretty flexible and dont mind venting less or texting less or whatever, ive been abandoned by friends before who just didn't communicate to me that there was issues in the relationship that i'd have been fine with compromising on and sorting out but just never got the chance to cuz they didn't talk to me and just let their emotions blow up to the point talking about it wasn't an option to them
Yeah I totally been there in terms of dealing with a emotional dumper. I'm glad you actually brought that up psych to go because I definitely needed to hear this because I just got out of a 11 month almost a year relationship with my now ex-girlfriend back in late March of this year. I had to constantly deal with her mood swings and hear all of her problems expecting me to heal her aka be her savior. This is why I rather remain single at least for a while until I am ready to date again.
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Narcissist was my nightmare.
Some points brings back memories. Would love more topics about trust and hope. Great video. ❤
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I was looking at this video to see if I am making any mistakes with my relationship at the moment. I don’t know if I’m an emotional dumper, we both talk about each other’s problems and support each other about it. She even calms me down during my panic attack and break downs, I can’t control it. I don’t know if I’m too clingy, I can want to hug a lot or hold hands but I don’t spam and call 24/7.
0:22 i mean of course it's amazing if *both* people on the relationship can work to support each other emotionally, they literally need to do that to keep it working, but there's a point where the people's emotional problems require actual therapy instead
I'm the overly clingy one in mine... Although I still avoid invading my partner's personal space and after this video, I'll be more careful of my actions
I love that this is the first notification I got after a bad breakup. Lol 😔
--Early more or less and working on timestamps cuz as of popping in I see none--
0:22 emotional dumpers
0:57 overly clingy people
1:31 the extreme perfectionist
2:00 the narcissist
2:29 the toxic communicator
I need to be working on a drawing cuz I literally just have to color it rn but like y'know
I wanted to see somebody’s comment about the timestamps but turns out I’m quite early 💀
Frrr I was just looking for that one person lollol
I'm glad not to be a part of the dating cesspool. No person is worth giving up my freedom and happiness.
I feel like I reach out too much. I don't not listen to solutions and I always appreciate others but this video makes me think I should just keep quiet
My ex had all of these to some degree. Refused to give me any kind of space right off the bat, disrespected every boundary I set, lied, gaslit, manipulated, controlled. Then threatened and stalked me after I broke up with him, and still calls me even though he got a new girlfriend who has kids his age.
My ex left me a week ago, it was really hard because her father passed away 3weeks ago and I was here for her, I was supportive and attentive, if she needed to talk, I was here. I don't blame her for being lost in her feelings, but she started to disrespect me, she said that I wasn't enough for her anymore and she left me saying "if I broke up with you it's because I love you and I don't want to be toxic with you" but she was mean, disrespectful towards me (she also said I could be more empathic about her father, because I lost 2 important ppl, so she felt disappointed somehow)
I don't know if she was an emotional dumper, but it was a really hard time for both of us.
Take care everyone please.
Someone once gave me a couple of pieces of advice regarding picking a partner.
1- While you're dating, don't compare them to previous relationships you've had. They are not the same person. They are bound to have different character traits and their own set of personal problems and demons that they are fighting. So treat every relationship like a brand new experience and try to see the person in front of you.
2- Don't forget your boundaries. At some point, after the initial rush of a new relationship dies down a bit, sit down and assess. By this point you probably learned a few things about your partner. Things you like and things you dislike. One thing my boyfriend's mother advised me on was: if you can find 5 things that you do not like in your partner, things you can not accept, things that you don't objectively see yourself being able to live with...then it's best for both of you to just stop to avoid heartache and senseless fighting. A conversation is obviously necessary.
I was an emotional dumper. I can't stress enough how important it is to set boundaries with people like that. I didn't need a partner then, I needed a therapist. I'm okay now, because I got the help I really needed. Even if the person you like is really cool, maybe try again when they've really worked through stuff for your own sake :')
Good reminder of things to look out for. Hopefully if I ever date anyone (super unlikely) I can give them all the love and care they deserve. Despite my sad I always feel inside.
#1... I should have walked away sooner. The emotional dumping lead to me developing a drinking problem. 😬
I am the first two, and perhaps the last one. She was the second two. I’m ashamed of myself for the ways I treated her, but I also loved her deeply for many years. Honestly, I’m not convinced she ever loved me. Love doesn’t leave.
I’m guilty of the second one, the overly clingy one. However, my boyfriend has told me he loves how clingy I am.
There’s someone for everyone 🤩
trust your instincts is well and all, would love a video about the times you should NOT trust your instincts, or what parts of common insticts we all have that are wrong or vestigial
"emotional dumpers" no that's literally just confiding in your partner. you're SUPPOSED to support your partner and yes that includes listening to their problems. keeping things to yourself is super bad for a relationship. people are so selfish.
Thanks for these tips!
I had a practically dating relationship we just didn’t make it official and she was the emotional dumper. I was very caring and I took in what she said free of any negative responses and when I did give her advice, she never took it. And it just got to the point where she would tell me about it all the time and never did anything about it. It was exhausting. And on top of it all when I told her I loved her she just revoked it was like I don’t love you. And I’m just like why do you all of a sudden not love me. After telling me how many times you did love me. Everything had to be about her and when I would occasionally wanted to emotional dump, she would interrupt me and tell me how to do things and I’m just like no this is just occasional emotional dumping, I’m not looking for a solution I’m just telling you how I’m feeling about something. She would tell me how I should look at things and fix things and she always brought it up like asked me if I did what she told me to do like she expected me to follow every little thing that she said I should do.
Wow, i might have an emotional dumper as a very close friend. We're both young, and they have disregarded disorders; so, everytime we get into deep conversations, they only talk about themselves.
I know they need help, but i'm a child, and I have my own issues like sexual and incestuous abuse, mental and physical health problems; which are disregarded as well.
I'll try to tell them again that, even if I do offer help and try my best to be cheerful, i'm a human being, and I too need help and space. Hopefully, i'll keep them, since they're pretty kind, fun, and honest most of the time... But listening every single time, while never getting the favour returned, is exhausting. I hope i successfully avoid dumping my issues onto others.
Thanks for those videos, they're always welcome and useful. The visuals are great, the topics common, the answers needed. It's great to have reminders of what might be okay, and what might be dangerous.
Take care everyone !
I'm definitely the emotional dumper and the overly clingy one, I've lost countless friendships and relationships because of this and I've been trying to learn from my experiences. It was because I was so afraid to lose people and I wanted someone to just listen to me because I've also been through betrayal, but I never realized that doing it often would ruin that overtime. I have gotten into therapy and helping myself for the better and for future relationships with people and my family.
The first one actually applies to my parents, so it's not to easy to get out of.
#6
Manipulative Partner
- they want you to do all they say without giving the importance to be heard & helped when needed
- they want to control everything you do, where you at, & with whom. Explaining reasons for every questions they have, and if you counterattack to defend yourself by asking the same questions, they do not respond at all
- please, notice the little actions or words they repetitive do
I was able to break up with them after 2 months in the relationship because I love myself, and now I know when someone hurts me that way
my past relationship was with an emotional dumper but i genuinely tried to be there for them- it didn’t really work out and we broke up because they wanted to focus on themselves and i support that 100% but i sometimes wonder if it was because it seem like i didn’t care because i never knew what to say- and they also called and texted me so often it got overwhelming and i didn’t know what to do and i could never be myself around them- i had to mask and pretend to not be drained- i’m glad we’re still friends but idk
I was an emotional dumper. I honestly didn't realize it until my ex brought it up in an argument. It hurt to hear but it helped me to seek help and improve. I wish that I had gotten therapy before that relationship dissolved. It is sad that the relationship made them feel drained.
I just wanna be loved.
Clingy because of anxiety.
Well good for dating and selecting friends too..
I used to date 2 people who are emotional dumper and narcissist respectively. I felt like they kept sucking my energy everytime we talked.
I am already an emotional dumper to my friends 😭 I hate that trait of mine
+Psych2go *Thanks for the list of dangers in potential significances:*
0:22 (1) Emodump
0:56 (2) Excessive clinging (symptom of codependency)
1:31 (3) Exceptional perfectionism
1:59 (4) Narkissos Complex
2:29 (5) Toxic communication
This video destroys relationships rather than heals them... It harms certain people...
I think I was number 5 towards my sister I'm not dating her but It caused fights and at times made me lose her I'm glad I still have her now I appreciate her and everything she does for me
damn this comment was a rollercoaster
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My first boyfriend was an emotional dumper and a toxic communicator, and I tried to be supportive and help him, but in the end all I got was a "You don't get me at all how would you know?" I was going through a hard time too, because I had to spend almost 24/7 with him and couldn't catch up with my social life with my friends. My work and dating balance was absolutely ruined and I seemed to be doing unwell mentally at the time. He said that he loved me and that's why he's saying all these things, and also why it's MY JOB to help him. So I was there to support him. But later on it got harder and harder for me to keep up with him for 2 years straight, and at that point I gave up and broke up with him.
Better just to focus on yourself permanently.
"Have you ever been in a relationship...
Me: No
I am two of these types, the clingy person and the perfectionist. I recognize that I have to be better, hence why I’ve been working on bettering myself.
I’ve dated the Toxic communicator and the emotional dumper…and dealt with narcissistic siblings and friends….needless to say not dating or befriending anyone until I thoroughly analyze them first for months.
Love your videos!
I THINK I'VE FACED ALL OF THESE 5🙂🥺
I'm clingy, but not toxic clingy. I understand how to respect boundaries and the importance of personal time and space.
I'll make sure to take this advice in♡
Emotional dumpers are soooo annoying.. especially if they're exaggerating it
The last one sounds exactly like how my dad is with me and my sister
Great video👏Please, next time 5 types of people we should date.✋
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for more than a year now and she has 4 out of 5 of these signs mentioned in this video. She expects a lot from me and sometimes I feel like I'm restricted to do some things comfortably because of how she reacts to things she doesn't like. She also speaks harshly whenever she's angry or if things didn't go her way. I communicated to her that maybe she can take it easy with her words because I am easily affected by it, and she just told me that people are like that when they're angry and she won't change who she is. It's undeniable that we have our good days, but often times I just feel tired because of how she is. I'm conflicted because I love her, but sometimes she makes me feel like I'm wrong most of the time.
Love the Kazuha pfp btw, yeah mine is the same and it is incredibly hard to keep this up, she has been slightly getting better over time and I’ve been trying to accept that she is trying to do better. I’m trying to find the good in her without having all of these things become a big problem because I love her a lot and she’s really nice when she is, and I’ve been with her for almost 5 years. I’m an INFJ who is dating another “almost” INFJ if that helps with anything, and I’m literally the most nicest person you’d probably ever meet, not trying to brag or anything 😅 but I never try to make anything a problem and always want to be chill with everyone and have no conflict with anyone whatsoever, but I do hope that she will prevent herself more from going overboard with time on all of these things. But yeah it’s hard to figure out if it’s worth staying in this relationship because she is both really nice with the bad part of being emotionally draining and ruining a lot of fun on certain days, hopefully me and you will be fine in the future tho cause maybe one day something will set us both off and will have to figure a better situation if the time comes (I could tell that you are also a chill person😅)
@@Inferno_Blazeheart Thank you! Really hope I can get Kazuha on his next banner feature! I'm saving up for Nahida currently. Anyway, I'm glad to know that we're somehow in a similar situation (and similar personalities). I do hope things will work out for both our relationships. I can see that you love your girlfriend very much and based on what you said, it shows that you love her. But sometimes it's just hard to cope with the emotions they lash out. I think we should just keep on communicating with them because sometimes people forget.
@@ayaken5972 Exactly it’s just better communication, also yeah I’m collecting every Archon so she is probably gonna be mad broken buffing my future Cyno and I can’t wait, good luck tho getting Kazuha cause he’s also a little broken 😂
@@Inferno_Blazeheart I hope it goes well for the both of us! (both in relationship and genshin pulls 😂)
@@ayaken5972 sorry I’m late, but yeah I agree (got C2 Ganyu on accident lol)
The fact that my parents match up with the toxic communicator aspects...
I am the emotional dumper and overly clingy person... I even got someone who'd accept me for who I am... But it was draining him emotionally, so bad that I had to break up because he won't (we were both overly clingy but I was the only one emotional dumping)
I ain't going to relationship without fixing these but I dunno how to and I also wouldn't know if I've improved T-T
But hey, at least you're not a narcissist
@@TheMCzorro The problem is... Even if I am one, most likely I wouldn't admit it, that scares me more.... But thank you !
My ex was the textbook example of a toxic communicator. Glad I don’t have anything to do with her anymore
This comes out the same day I dreamt of hooking up with a nice boy at the library. Now I'm thinking about it again...
People with a multitude of mental health disorders. I’m not saying we should discriminate against people with mental health problems, but there’s only so much someone can take before it causes them to develop their own mental health problems as a result of dealing with their partners problems, especially if they’re partner refused to seek help, even if it’s because they’re partners have a valid reason to refuse help. even if they’re partners are getting the help they need, sometimes it just becomes too much. I’m sorry if this sounds shallow or ableist to anyone but this is from personal experience and from seeing the experiences of others I know.
I was in a relationshio with an emotional dumper, they showered all their problems on me, i tried helping them, one time i didnt talk to them because i was busy helping my grandparents, and a couple of weeks later they broke up with me because of that. Before i didnt talk to them, i let them know i was busy, and there was a chance i wouldn't be able to talk, but all they did everyday, was make me feel bad for them, and get me to stay because they did stuff that made me happy, or so i thought. I found out they were manipularive after the relationship. I still miss them, but i know i dont deserve to be treated like that, and have others play with my emotions.
Whatever personality they have, If you dont love, please leave early. Because they might really be in love with you, deeply. And they might have learnt only this way of showing love. If you have strength, and you thing they worth it, fight for them. Teach them. Theach them how to express love. Communicate. Tell everything early. If you love, dont wait until issues grow to an ivy and ruin everything.
I wish I had found this video before my last relationship this was helpful thank you
I want to tell my story similar to this video . More than 1 year . I meet a girl named Isa , she used to be the person that actually does good things for herself and myself . Most of us are all on games because Me and Isa are not in the same country and we always miss each other . She has said countless nice things to me and always knows when to text me at the perfect time . She always sends emojis full of happiness . but after one mistake from myself , she has left me :( . I will never try and date this type of person again , it had broken my heart very harshly . I couldn't even forgive what she said back a few days ago . I was soo disappointed from her . Every sadness and depression was all from her . After thinking for quite some time , I have finally let her go and become the real me but one part of my mind and heart still thinks about her .
I love this channel
Nice video!!
I've learned the hard way.