Actually I recently did. My ex best friend was pretty toxic, and what I did to get away from them was, I blocked them, sort of ghosted them and I let their sister tell them I was done.
It's actually not a lack of boundaries. It's a lack of respect for other people's boundaries. Many toxic people are very clear and obsessive about their own boundaries, but when it comes to the boundaries of others they walk all over them.
@@FireRams_arisinglion not once in my comment did I say anything about myself being a saint. I'm very well aware of my faults and I'm willing to admit to them, including my past experiences of choosing toxic partners. Which is where I got my knowledge of how they act when it comes to their boundaries vs others.
All hearkens back to the Golden rule: “Whatever is disagreeable to yourself, do not do unto others” -Buddha (well before jesus) Now people be like "my actions are justified because ______" some excuse, doesn't matter, won't stop it from happening again
Also sometimes even if the target of the manipulation normally has reasonably good boundaries, the manipulator will figure out a way to weasel him/herself through a loophole within the target's boundaries. My family does this a lot.
1. 0:38 They exhibit manipulative behavior 2. 1:22 You feel emotionally drained after talking with them 3. 1:57 They are always the victim 4. 2:38 Lack of apologies 5. 3:01 They don't care about boundaries Have a good day :> Summary: Manipulative behavior, they drain you, playing victim, lack of apologies and lack of boundaries.
this explains someone who asked me if i wanted to go to therapy, and when i said i’m sorry i’m not ready, they told me “oh i already scheduled an appointment for today” and they act like they will always give me time to make a choice, but never do i always end up doing what they want me to do and not what makes me comfortable. they always pressure me to do things anyways cause i’m scared to say no to them. when i say no to them they get mad and act like i’m being selfish but in reality they are the ones who don’t care about me when they make decision for me without caring if it’s okay with me first. they also guilt trip me into coming places too that literally make u feel like if u don’t go ur a bad family member or sibling or u don’t love them which isn’t true it just means i have social anxiety and depression and it’s hard to talk to people
@@ghostingwo i feel in the same place. Every fight I have Is because so many toxic people Spread lies about me to my “friends” then Its me who is labled the “toxic person” . and im going to go off at my “friend” at the end of the year because so many people feel the same. She will Grab something or do something you hate just for her to get you to do something for her. She is really toxic and i realise now. but im waiting till the end of the year. So then i dont have to worry about her getting in my face.
Y'all know, the saddest thing is that Toxicity seeps in; even affecting the person dealing with said Toxicity. Maybe it's kind of a survival mechanism or something I am not exactly sure, but it does. Even worse is being aware of the fact and not doing/ being able to do something.
You're right. Once manipulation gets into the picture, it becomes a pattern of behaviour. I think it's best to just start from scratch with someone new unless you really plan to work things out with the parties.
My best friend of 5 years shared almost all of these traits. She would ALWAYS play victim and invade my boundaries. And when I confronted her about them she would always play the victim. I felt so trapped. I’m out now, but I still hate her.
I'm glad you're out now, I had a friend like that online, If I was playing with another friend they will always say they're not important and Want me to join them, If they saw me chatting with another person they would say "So you aren't paying attention? I guess I'm not important" even if they weren't doing nothing to pay attention to, And If they were online they would always want my time only for them, and if I didn't see any message or something they would say "Yesterday you were nicer :(" Sadly I have a very soft heart and It's kinda bad beacuse even if I know someone's bad I still feel bad for them even if I didn't do nothing wrong and sometimes I tried to make them happy, even if I felt forced to, I'm still trying to work with that and I got away from that person :D
Definitely Emphasis on TWO sides to every story, for sure. We are all just humans. Hurt people hurt people. Its very easy to make yourself out to be the victim, as well. If you notice you are always the victim, maybe you're actually the problem. Then you might need to stop and check yourself. Just as easy as it is to fall into the trap of toxic people, its just as easy to never admit fault and become toxic yourself. People will always rationalize their behaviour
A hard part is when the people/person is stuck to you 24/7 and there's absolutely nothing you can do about it because you are underage and your parents are hella strict (so basically even going out to stay away is impossible). It's hard thinking someone you love can be toxic and even if you want to distance yourself, you can't because they'll do something about it. By the way, amazing video!
Yep, my old toxic friend actually kinda had a crush on me, even though we were both girls and I was strong with the idea of nature and wasn't interested in girls, but she tried to push the idea of supporting lgbt and becoming a lesbian to be her "waifu" onto me, AND EVEN IN RPS when we were boths girls in wcue rp game she kept trying to force me to be her mate, EVEN THOUGH SHE WAS A KIT AND I WAS A GROWN WARRIOR IN THE RP. Also she wouldn't stop joining me in roblox games and shouting at me to play with her in meep city
@@moonlink727 Ugh I'm so sorry you went through that. That's so uncomfortable. I also had a situation with an ex-bff who was really toxic and she was manipulative. Hard life huh
Know your worth and don't settle for someone who doesn't treat you the way you wouldn't be treated! I'm so glad to see this channel booming from what it was a few years back.
Even if one has no worth to others, such as myself, there is no need to allow any mistreatment I have left in the middle of conversations, mid sentence, because the other person is not achieving the purpose of the information exchange that the other person, or myself, needed. As soon as the other person strays from the subject for the needed interaction, attempt to return the other person to the purpose of the exchange. If the other person continues to stray from the purpose of the interaction, simply leave the vicinity of the person and interact with that person no more. In the modern age, interpersonal interactions should be kept in a manner that a client would interact with a service provider or merchant. Simply, exchange information, conclude the exchange, and leave. Whether one has worth to others or not, one should disallow any form of nonessential interpersonal, interaction, with others. Being social will always result in emotional pain, conflict, and disharmony.
I had a such friend before , talking to her was tiring cuz she would use her “trauma” as an excuse , even tho I always encouraged her and supported her she called me a narcissistic liar before talking to my friends I was thinking “am I the bad one??” “Maybe it’s my fault” but after talking to friends it makes sense I always feel exhausted after talking to her
Sounds like you had a friend who might be using the victim card a lot.. and not taking responsibilities for anything that happens to her. I'm glad that you were able to listen to yourself and get out of an unhealthy situation. Maybe if you want to help her, you can also link videos to her that might help.
Your story is exactly like mine but I lost some of the mutual friends we shared. Now that we broke up she's just making me the one who causes problems.
Like it or not I can relate to her I’ve been in some similar situation and I feel bad but I don’t blame myself and I asked myself if I ever got help during the times which I hadn’t. And calling someone those things sounds horrible, maybe she just experienced those tendencies from you and had went through that trauma before. I hope you told her this exactly this you’re commenting, it would help her and you I promise.
Toxic behavior? Yes I have experienced someone that was toxic towards me. They always called me and my ex toxic to make us think that we weren't for each other. It was really tiring. She made really terrible comments and even came up with lies. And the worst part was that my ex stayed friends with them! That crossed the line especially when they said they weren't toxic at all
Sadly I know of such a person: the first red flag was the fact they would make a private discord group and immediately kick out anyone that they thought made them look bad, the next red flag was the fact someone unfriended them because they were in a relationship, the next red flag was they would always be quick to get angry about things happening at work - events in their lives and would quickly blame the people around them for their problems, the final red flag was that they refused to accept criticism about how they treated others around them: we drifted apart since that day and ever since then I found I have been happier and carefree. Anyone that has an Ego Trip by controlling their friends like this: is someone you should avoid. If you see a friend of yours displaying these qualities, immediately unfriend them - you deserve respect, not judgement. Do not allow yourself to get pulled into a toxic environment which involves how much time you spend with a person, constant validation from friends and comparisons of how you don't match how their other friends act - this is an echo chamber and sucks away any individual idea and thoughts you bring into a relationship. If they continuously pile drama onto you and expect you to act like their therapist: you are not their friend and they don't deserve your time. Practice self-love, associate yourself with those that like you for your qualities and don't feel pressured to be a part of something that seems more like a cult than a circle of friends.
@CJ Bow Who says I was talking about a girl? The last girl I knew needed encouragement not a guy full of problems. If she kicked me out (of her life not her discord group) it's because I wasn't the man she was looking for. But no, I was talking about a friend that had real issues and I would prefer not to talk about them out of respect for their privacy. Please keep in mind I don't overshare for a reason, also that sometimes a guy can experience a million problems but chooses only to share one. I don't like to surround myself with misery else I'd never be able to encourage myself. Take things a step at a time don't ever let yourself be your own worst enemy. Also, sometimes girls don't need some guy validating them 24/7 why would I chase after a girl who would distance themselves from me? That's one way to end up on their creep list, not a way to start a conversation. If a girl has a question about how they can improve they can ask, I don't cramp their space for the sake of making myself feel better... the shy girls I know are the ones that are struggling the most why should I add to their problems.
The most toxic people are family in my experience no matter how you feel especially when it comes to depression they just don't get it and that gets to me even more
@@Psych2go do u know why they wanna control us? as a person who feels like i been invalidated and controlled by some ppl in my family this sucks being controlled by ppl who don’t care about ur feelings
@@the3danimationdude770 tbh a toxic girlfriend (like in my case, she's my ex now) or a toxic boyfriend are probably even worse. They affect you horribly because you open up to these people in a special way and they are probably the most important person in your life after yourself. I am healing and getting stronger, but she impacted me in such a bad way back then.
1. They talk behind your back 2. They attack you behind your back to get their points across. 3. They are not self reflecting at all but instead project all onto you
this sucks cause i heard someone i thought was nice to me since they are always kind to me to my face criticize me behind my back but since i am too scared to ever call them out on how they do me wrong they get to act like they never did anything wrong to me and act like the nice one to everyone else and convince everyone that i’m a problem based on just what they tell them. but they always accuse me of things that aren’t true and they invalidate my feelings by accusing me of probably how they feel about me. i just think they seek flaws in people, ignore their boundaries, act controlling, provoke people on purpose into speaking up for themselves so they can flip the script on u even when they drove u there. it’s crazy cause i never talk about their bad nor toxic qualities to other people they’re close with to try to get them to turn on them but they always seem to be trying to seek flaws in me to get people against me so i have no one to support me. it’s crazy how anyone can believe anyone who is deadset on making sure they tell everyone what’s wrong with someone without letting the person they talk about defend themselves. like i just can’t imagine believing someone who tries their hardest to make someone on everyone’s bad side
My soon to be ex husband did this. 9 years I spent hating myself for being this obviously awful person. When in fact it wasn't all my fault the whole time. Now trying to unlearn my responses and set boundaries. I suck at it.
It's really sad because my best friend started claiming I was doing all of these things or making her feel this way, but also I know deep down that was not true. I did some regretable things but those came after months of trying healthy options and being shot down by her bullshit.
I was the toxic one, after a long path to change I found that the people I surround my self with, was also toxic, so I manipulated, toxicated my self before anyone else. Still I always apologize, and I still have severe panic attacks for just tge idea of me being toxic, but I think society is so harsh, we all toxic to some degree that's why we always should ask ourselfs "am I toxic?" this way we can stop being toxic and stop the next generation from being toxic too.
I just got out of a friendship of around 5 years. This is him to a T. I felt bad (he ended the friendship and tried to blame me), but this makes me realize I’m not a bad person, and not my fault
▪︎TIMESTAMPS▪︎ 1. 0:38 - They exhibit manipulative behaviours 2. 1:19 - You feel emotionally drained after talking with them 3. 1:55 - They are always the victim 4. 2:37 - Lack of apologies 5. 3:00 - They dont care about boundaries Hope this helps! Xx💖
good to know that i'm right about my "best friends" being toxic. they kept using me for food and money and when i asked nicely for them to stop, one said "but you've never done this before, so why now?" while the other would use the excuse of "well i didn't eat breakfast today and i have a match this afternoon, so if you don't give me food, i'll starve". they also did things like plan to go to universal studios together without me and i had to find out by hearing their plans during one of our lessons together. they then talked about it every time we three were allowed to sit together and overall just kept reminding me that i couldn't go because of time and money issues. now that i've stopped being friends with them, they talk trash about me to my other friend (who hates them as well) with no reason. let's name this good friend of mine J. J dislikes both of them for all of the shit they did to her. they had talked badly about her to me about an argument they all had while knowing that they were the ones to blame. by the way, when i first stopped being friends with the two of them, they told J their side of the story and made it so that i was in the wrong. but when J finally heard my side, she realised i've done absolutely nothing wrong and started disliking them even more than she already did. their side of the story was that i was over-sensitive and only stopped being friends with them because they called my new haircut a karen cut even though it was the complete opposite of a karen cut. (karen cuts are short in the back, long and the front. mine is short at the front, long at the back. also i've wanted this haircut since the beginning of this year and was really happy upon getting it.) apparently they just don't understand how toxic they truly are. they've lost three ex-friends because of their toxic traits yet still wonder why their friends leave them. it's incredible! very sorry to anyone who actually took time out of their day to read all of this ❤
After watching this video, I’ve realized my mom has most of these traits and doesn’t treat me or my sisters like we matter at all. Ever since I was younger, if Me or my sisters did something to upset her she would always say “I did everything for you isn’t that enough!?” Or “do you know the looks people give me when we are out in public” but the one she used often was “I’m such a bad parent” yet would talk about how I’m such a bad kid and how I should be more like my sister
Ngl, this video made me kinda question if I am actually the toxic person sometimes... Some points hit close to home when i think about it and it's scaring me. While i am not manipulating someone or trying to guilt trip them, i do sometimes break boundaries or kinda feel like I am draining others when I am just with them. But as always, very good and informative content, got me thinking real deep 😅!
I understand what you mean, but I think to be considered manipulative you have to be manipulative and know that what you're doing is bad. You are questioning whether you are manipulative or not, clearly having no bad intentions. If you just sometimes break boundaries of others and drain their energy, then that's unintentional and you don't mean to harm those people. In this situation, I recommend working on those traits and potentially apologizing to those people. What I'm trying to say is, you have no bad intentions and I'm sure if you try you can improve your behavior around others, and thinking about this is the first step to doing so! So no need to worry!
@@HyperNovva thank you for your response, you have no idea how much this helps :) I think you're right, atleast i hope so.. I'll try doing that, let's see if it helps 😅 Thank you :)
I broke away from a friendship because after talking/ hanging I always got a headache.I knew getting sick after being around them wasn't normal so I distanced myself
My mom is exactly like that, I always feel drained of energy when she’s around. It’s like holding hands or hugging someone that’s made of posin and you can’t escape it cuz they manipulate you and tell you that without them you’d be homeless and on the streets. Even my dad is the same way. They even tell me to do so much labor much more than the rest of the household. I can’t even work yet due to my fractured ankle. The environment I live in is completely toxic. And I don’t feel happy at all.
this traits remind me of a person really close to me but i don't know what i'm supposed to do about it, she's going through tough times and i don't want to leave her alone but it's becoming really stressful and negative for me, i'm lost
I needed this... I'm about to have a sit down with a close friend because I think they've been showing some toxic behaviors but I don't think they mean to. So I'll try my best to lovingly show my concern lol
It's like my prayers have been answered. I've been having a tough time with my friends lately (specifically one friend) and I keep thinking I'm breaking up our group bc of the things they say and how they say it. If it weren't for this video, I don't think I would've realized that I wasnt to blame and I don't know what I would've done. Now I can ignore what they try to make me believe. Thank you so much for making this video when you did, it means the world to me ❤❤
This was a very descriptive video I always knew there were toxic people around me throughout my life like my parents, siblings, friends even me at times & this video is just more confirmation 👏🏾 glad I've been working on healing tho 😇
Coming from somebody who grew up abused, I fully believe in this. This was really the only way I didn't destroy myself after getting out of the situation
Amazing video, it definitely confirmed to me that I had encountered a toxic person . It took me time to realise it , but there isn't any doubt anymore. To end the " friendship " was one of the best decisions I have ever taken. I'm happier than I ever have been. Thank you so much for this much needed video, I enjoyed the animation very much. Keep up the good work :)
( Any advice ) I have an older sister who has those traits but she never takes it as far and a law suit ( since we are both kids ) We used to be close, I would say yes to almost everything but then I grew a little bit more lazy and I don’t know if that was the reason or some other but she just started to get meaner and more like she is using me, at first I don’t think she meant to me mean but now she even admits “yeah maybe I took advantage of you.” She says sorry but she never truly means it it’s often like “fine I’m SOrRy, you happy now?” And sometimes she only says it when our mother forces her. The problem is I never truly do anything about it and mostly just think “we aren’t fighting now, so I just won’t bring it up and possibly upset her.” She says “it’s my room you have to do what I say and get out when I say” which makes sense but when she is in my room, she doesn’t care, when I say get out she will only get out if she wants to, when I say, close the door after you leave/come she doesn’t do it, when she is on MY bed, she will even tell me to get off because I’m in her personal space! But the problem is sometimes our problems are so bad our parents get involved, and most of the time it doesn’t do anything but make things worse and gets us both in trouble, but I’m so scared of my parents yelling at us that I try my best not to douse fights or talk about how I feel because we always end up fighting, even when I ask “what did do wrong” she doesn’t tell me she just ignores me and when I say “I’m sorry how can I make it up to you” ( even tho it was her fault ) she will just ignore me and I don’t know what to do! When I try to get mad at her I end up feeling guilty and when I do nothing I feel like I should have done something, and when I go tell my parents I’m so scared we will get in trouble I end up not doing it, We don’t fight all the time and sometimes we don’t fight for a very long time but it never lasts that long! Maybe if the fights are short they last at least a hour of no talking to her! And whenever we get in trouble she will blame it on me. Sometimes when she hurts me physically ( never so bad I need to go to the hospital, not even close ) When it’s on purpose she doesn’t feel regret later on and when it’s on accident she will just often say “oops” or “your fine” not even a sorry! I don’t know what to do because I’m still going through this, any advice? ( if it sounds too dramatic it’s because I’m typing this during the aftermath of one of our fights 😅 )
I knew a person like this for four years, and I just cut ties with them this year. They would get mad at me for not being online to talk to them all the time and when I tried to explain they'd always say that I was avoiding them. I used to get so drained talking to them because they'd keep talking about their own issues and compare it to mine whenever I tried to bring up the problems I was having myself-and whenever I'd try to help they'd refuse and not do anything about it. There were even times they'd say they would deactivate because I said something that made them upset and then their FRIENDS would all gang up on me too about it-I started to think I was the bad guy, and sometimes I still feel like I was just overexaggerating and I'm scared I blocked them without truly giving them a chance..
I’ve been told I have displayed these traits yet everyone else says I’m blind and it’s my significant other but at this point idk anymore and I seem to get lost in my head and questioning everything… your videos help me so much I’m so proud to say I watch Psych2Go! ❤
This helps…a little bit. My ex best friend used to be my best friend, but when she was, she acted like I wasn’t her best friend. It used to be just me and her until she got other friends. All of her friends turned out to be horrible. One of her friends I liked but they betrayed me. Every time when my best friend said I was being rude she’d always tell me I was like her ex-friend. She made more friends too. They rhymed names with us and I started to dislike them but I played along. She made videos with them and played but stopped talking to me. I was already starting to get jealous. But one of those friends when i met them were mean to me for no reason. Her name was Mabel. I started to understand how she acted like me when I was rude and she was better but my ex best friend and her friends yelled at her to stop, she finally did. Then I met addie and evie. Not knowing that one of them would ruin my life completely and nearly give me depression. Evie ruined it all soon and blamed me, I don’t really blame my ex bestie for this, evie and addie just manipulated her into saying that I wasn’t her best friend. Now when I look at my besties yt acc (Abadoottle) after when we started talking again I was glad but then we were enemies. And then in her yt acc she put a ghost on my face before that it said “Abbie what have u learned?” Then the song sang “People can go from people u know to people u don’t.” Luckily I made a new friend she played with her and said “ I was with a famous ytber!” I told her “she’s bad” then the next vid I saw months later said Bestie: (me) Enemy: Abadoottle After I saw that I smiled a big grin.
Bro , I feel so happy to had seen this Video because it all makes sense. Sure , I was not always right but realising that my ex-bestfriend broke up the relashionship with me ,is the best thing that ever happend to me. Every Single Sign described her exept the last one ,but bro ... I finally realise that it was not me who was toxic , but her ! She realy broke me down , I always wanted to make her happy but she just was straight toxic and I only thought that it was in my head but no , she was endeed toxic. I hope she one day realises that that , what she is doing is wrong and change for the better but I dont believe so. And thank you Psych2go for taking time to help us , you dont know , how long i was seiing you and ,you helped me so much ! ❤❤❤❤
These videos is helping me what is going on with me because recently I am having a divorce and I admitted I did many mistakes than I thought. Giving these signs is very helpful to remember what I did wrong and I am happy I am learning on the way to go. Thankfully my ex partner and I are great friends, and hopefully our friendship will stay intact. Thank you for your help!
I had a friend, I really thought I was the one making things wrong, but now I can look back and see that maybe its their fault, not mine, I surely did wrong things but, it wasn't all my entire fault like they were telling me (and that I believed at the time) You know when you ask why they respond "shut up" without even explaining anything. Thank you so much for this video and all your amazing content, makes me understand me and others better, keep up all the amazing you make !
I struggle with boundaries. I'm not trying to be toxic. My problem is that I can't always tell where a specific person's boundaries are. One friend could be totally okay with me rushing over to their home when they are feeling down while another friend can be overwhelmed by it. I guess you learn as the relationship grows, but I always feel badly about crossing a boundary that was not clear, especially when I thought I was being helpful. I apologize repeatedly and usually start crying because I hate hurting people I love. Plus, I don't want people to view my caring without understanding as toxic. I'm not good with reading all social cues, so I need clarity. I need people to clearly let me know their boundaries and if they shift during our friendship/relationship.
Toxicity doesn't have to be one persons fault alone. It's always a toxic relationship - and each part of that can have other relationships that are not toxic. However, a person can tend to use toxic behaviour.
yep, I've had experience of a toxic friend before. 1: Manipulative Behavior Yes, at times she forced me to get into Miraculous Ladybug (even though it's ultimately cringe to me) and whenever a game we played had even a slight mention of LGBTQ, she would say "Oh yes, I support them and a lesbian, you should support too and become my waifu." I'm a bit (not a bit, EXTREMELY) sensitive when she comes to these kind of topics and I kind of just want to stay in the idea of nature and not made feelings (also I don't support lgbt but I respect it), but she tried to push the idea into me as much as she could. She kept on wearing lesbian flag-designed clothes in rp games, and that was also a part into trying to push it into me. 2: They Drain You Of course, every toxic friend does this. Whenever my best friend (who is NOT toxic in any way) had to get off, I was tired, not because my best friend was draining me, but because we had played together for so long, having so much fun doing things we loved, then my fake friend would try to drain the rest of the energy I had playing games on roblox SHE wanted, and wanted me to do rps on Meep City, which has been ruined by toxic slenders. Also, whenever we did an rp/played a game I wanted, she said after 5 MINUTES, "ugh, this is getting boring now." But she NEVER said that when we played/did rps SHE wanted, and when I was honestly bored out by it, she did suggest playing a different game but annoyed like, "ugh.. ok, fine.. what do you want to play.." 3: Playing The Victim Once, me and my toxic friend were playing a rap battle competition game on roblox SHE wanted to play, and I suggested her, "Your abs are just bread, they get crushed like I said." Well, I never said I was a professional. But all she did was spam, "YOUR ABS ARE BREAD." And when she lost, she put the blame on me. WHAT KIND OF CRAP DOES SHE THINK SHE'S DOING WHAT THE HELL- 4: Lack of Apologies Whenever we got into fights, all she would do was just push all her woes into me and saying, "aLL I evER hEAr In mY LIfe iS MY MoM sCREamING aT mY bRoThEr, I liVE iN sUCH MiSERy" and also stuff about her having anxiety every day, and when I said, "Why are you telling me this stuff? It's not like you're gonna die.." she said "Oh me and my friends love death, we say 'When someone gets stabbed it's sooooo satifying like omg xd lol' and once me and my friend were getting bullied, and I stood up by saying the f word. So don't mess with me. ;)" and when she would apologize, she would just say "oh, I'm like, so sorry, your content on youtube also is funny like haha" 5: Lack of boundaries So whenever I play bloxburg in roblox, I just build and work on my house and don't rp much. But every time my friend saw me online (I was usually playing bloxburg), she joined and made sure to spawn on THE NEAREST HOUSE TO MINE, and kept screaming and spamming in the chat, "CRISSY (I never told you she learned how to spell "Chrissy") WAKE UP! GET OUT OF BUILD MODE CHRISSY XD LOL OMG!!!!! I DON'T LIKE THIS!!" And she didn't just do that, she MADE HER TWO FRIENDS JOIN THE GAME TO WATCH ME "IGNORING" HER. So basically, whenever I was playing a game in Roblox, she would join me and keep shouting at me to talk and play with her. So when I unfriended her, the last thing I said to her was "bye lel," acting like her so she would realize. But instead of saying bye or apologizing NICELY, as I deleted all my contacts with her and unfriended her, she just last said to me "LEL WHAT IS LEL HAHA LOL" And later, she literally had the urge to TO SEND ME A FRIEND REQUEST TO START THE SUFFERING AGAIN
My friend had ex bsf, she always get mad at her for little things like not saving her in game or being late do something. She also never give out a good apologize. She will say “i cant be mad at u forever” like no pages or at least say “im sorry for hurting your feelings, now hearing how u feel I understand i will do better now” . My friend always had to apologize when it was not her fault.
This reminds me of several people who upped and ditched me... wow/damn :(. I made some mistakes with them myself as well here and there, but I'm still stuck in a state of denial. I'm still trying to falsely justify getting literally backstabbed pretty much, being told I'm a lot of things and that it's all my fault, and I'm trying to get over the fact that a threat one of them left me last-minute still bugs me. I literally see most if not all of these traits in several of those former 'friends', and... yeah. Least to say, I'm glad I'm with better people now that treat me much better. Thanks for giving me a little push in a more awake direction!! Been loving these videos and the perspectives and intellect they offer.
Toxic people I know used to be my best friend. I never knew until my other friend said to me and they proved me that if I have another conflict with their again don't surrender. And that is the last time we quarreled.
I usually do comments but i can't do them now idk why I'm afraid... What if ur own family is toxic, manipulating, yub have nowhere to go you're a introvert ..you are exhausted.?? ... A golden Angel from sky will come to save you? Nah .... Save ur energy, be positive trust yourself always be confident ... Stay focused on you're goals even tho you feel like not getting there.... There's always something happens Mistrys .... if today's a night tomorrow will be morning...🗿✌🏻🙂tho the struggle and pain is real ... thanks a lot for reading my comment ... I hope you'll have the better day n life 💜
I feel this way with people just over email conversations at work. Like they're never on the wrong, they try to shift stuff and if something is their fault they just try to solve it quickly or just ignore it outright, even if proof is there. Is there a video about job or work environment being toxic? Also maybe one on remote works pros and cons?
We always notice these behaviors in others, but we could also be unknowingly copying those behaviors, stays away from toxic ppl n try not to be toxic towards others
I have an extremely toxic, manipulative, and gaslighting ex-bestie. She does everything on this list and more, and she's literally ruining my life. She's turned everyone against me and just the thought of her makes me want to break a window. Then people say that I'm 'exaggerating' or 'changing the story'. Once I wrote what was going on down in my vent notebook that I bring everywhere and I accidentally left it out and she and her toxic friends READ THROUGH IT, then got mad at me and said that I was writing sh*t about her and showing it to people even though I never share my vent notebook with anyone. Plus, even if I was showing it to other people, they have no proof at all. I try to avoid her but she always comes up to me and starts being rude out of nowhere. She made fun of my mental disorder, threatened to k!ll herself because of me (but never did), and so much more, and now she's got all my friends thinking she's this angel who came straight from Heaven to make the world a paradise. Also, when I'm being 'annoying', they give me the silent treatment and until I apologize. It might not sound so bad from this short description of just a few of the things she's done, but the full story would take all day to write. This has been going on for almost 2 school years now, and I'm sick of it. My mental health has been going downhill ever since. It's getting so bad that now I'm considering suicide. Please, help me. I need some advice. And I'll be praying for anyone else who is going through the same thing as me.
I have a neighbour who is just like you described. A toxic person. She make loud noises all the time, even in the middle of the night. The landlord contacted her about that, and she went mad. Banging on doors and walking heavily. She claims that she doesn't do loud noises, even though neighbour attest that she do. She claims that nothing is her fault, that she's the saint and everybody else is idiots. She even told the landlord that she's gona prove that she's not desturbing the other neighbour. Then she went home and did the opposite, Banging on doors, throwing heavy stuff on the floor, heavy fotsteps for 19 hours straight. Then paused for three hours, and started again the next morning 4 am.
I cut off a toxic friend recently she had all but one of these traits, and I'm so glad I did especially because of how she acted after I cut her off, she basically talked to our mutuals about the situation (which I didn't want to do because I thought it was a thing between us) and I lost my best friend of 6 years in the process, I could have cut her off better probably to not lead to that but like its been so nice and so much better without her in my life. Note to anyone out there, if you need a full day to recover from hanging out with a person because they give you headaches or panic attacks the day after then they aren't good for you
If you felt uncomfortable even once with anybody you know don't let it slide like nothing happened talk to the person first then immediately talk to your therapist or a trusted family member/friend toxic people can literally destroy your physical/mental health and your spiritually
I met a guy and his brother many years ago. They claimed on Facebook that I have a relationship with him when actually we didn't. They also make fun of me. Then, I realized that they are toxic people. I stay away from them. I unfriended them. I also blocked all the people who want to be my friend. They like my comments and they unlike it all. I made this comment right here because I know they read all my comments on RUclips so I know they will read this.
wow..my best friend and crush for 2 years perfectly fits to these points..I don't know what to do because if i tell him i feel bad with him, he will say that he is the one who feels hurt, and keep saying "it's nothing, it's okay, let's move on" when i say that i am hurt too. i can't let him go after everything he told me, and i still am so attached to him... i am afraid to lose him...because of how i will feel and of his reaction .. anyways, i support every one who is on a toxic any kind of relationship, you are never alone
My oldest child checks all these boxes. She is manipulative to the point that I cannot continue a relationship with her at all anymore. It's a shame to have to say this about my own child but that's how it has to be. She refuses to accept any blame for her actions and will not apologize for anything as she feels that she does no wrong, she accuses me of telling lies about her to others when I have done no such thing. I later discover she is telling her siblings all manner of total lies about me to pit them to her side and against me. She has gone as far as to turn her children-my grandchildren against me. If I wanted to get down to her level and treated her the way she treats me she would lose custody of her children and possibly her freedom. I know what she's capable of and the actual crimes she is guilty of. I knew she was bad but really didn't realize how bad until this year. This really concerns me where her children are concerned. Maybe it would be best if I did report her to Child Protective Services. I don't want to do it out of anger towards her, but I have become really concerned for their mental health.
I used to have a friend like that before. She was so sincere at first, our conversations were funny we used to laugh a lot when we were together. I have loved her so much (ofc as a friend) my respect and love to her was beyond a normal friendship. but she was more shyer than me and she wasn't showing her love as much as i do. then we started to high school and she started to act weirdly. she was never being kind to me and she despised me in front of her new friends. i felt so insecure. i have always been next to her whenever she needs me, i was caring, kind, helpful but she didn't do any of that to me. i decided to leave her. and she literally sticked onto me, like she's not the one who broke my heart and shattered my feelings. that was the FIRST time she ever apologied to me. but i didn't give her a second chance. we haven't talked since then and i am happier, my self esteem has been increased, i feel mentally better. she was a huge blackhole exploiting everyone next to her. i hope she's ok now. don't let them use you guys.
It’s because of how bad they are affecting me which is exactly what is causing me to affect others, yk? Like I just always seem to bring the mood down and can never relate to others because of that feeling of being trapped that I just can’t make friends or keep friends. I don’t know how to talk to others and I’m scared I may hurt them.
This helped me a lot bc I have a friend who is always making lies to put the blame on me even though I did nothing wrong. And she does not respect my feelings or boundaries. This helped I know what to do now.
I was friends with my bestie for 4 years just to realize now she's toxic, all of these sings really relate to her, everytime I was done speaking with her I always felt drained, when I said I'll think about hanging out with her she always said *come on, let's go now* but when I said no she made me feel bad bc I didn't hang out with her after school, and now 1 month ago she said she doesn't care abt my feelings and now she acts like nothing happened, but she's friends with a manipulative person, so I think it's bc of that manipulative person, or she's just toxic Sorry if I made any mistakes, English is my third language
This is my ex boyfriend with me. I broke up with him last month and it’s been a month since he has blocked me and overall I don’t care at all because now I’m going on dates with this cool guy. Nothing against these people but he was one of those Christians that gave Christians a bad name. His church also gave me red flags. And after months of planning a trip he cancelled it on me almost straight after he bought the ticket. I told him it was unforgivable what he did and he called me “selfish” when I had a 100 percent right to be absolutely livid. I told him if he didn’t feel like doing the trip he should’ve told me and I wouldn’t have been as mad. After that incident I became so distant and he wouldn’t shut up about me being distant that I had enough and ended it last month. Ever since then I’ve felt so free and more positive.
I have a friend who always makes me practically beg for them to tell me anything. They’re e like “OMG SOMETHING GREAT HAPPENED!” and I’ll say, “ Oh what happened?” And they’ll always say, “Noo I can’t tell you!” I say, “please?” They say no. It goes over a few times and by the end they have this huge smirk thing on their face and tell me half of it. Then they pause and I’ll ask if there’s more and they’ll say yes. Then I have to beg all over again. This happens with almost everything. If I want to borrow something, this happens. And depending on the thing I only get it for a minute to half an hour. (Tbh I have no idea what I would get to keep for half an hour but I’m sure something). Another thing is she is trying to turn everyone against my other friend bc my other friend accidentally told another person that she didn’t know was the toxic persons secret. (It was what was in a bag). Do yea that’s my toxic person striy
I've been married 23 years. Marriage is hard work. My wife and I each exhibit 1 or more of these traits at different times. I feel that this video is not accurate because it describes things in black/white terms, but most couples aren't a clear victim/perpetrator dynamic, but both partners have attributes they need to work on and improve.
They do care about boundaries but only their own boundaries. They will abuse & punish you if they feel you are not respecting THEIR boundaries. They are never wrong - they can not be reasoned with. They create problems where none exist and they need control. IMO the best thing to do is to ignore them.
@@FireRams_arisinglion @Psych2go this person has been blocked and yet continues to comment/harass me. I've deleted and reposted my comment and this person is so desperate for attention. I have no idea who this person is.
@@FireRams_arisinglion Stop stalking me/my comment. YOU chose to reply / REACT to my comment in an accussatory tone. I'm not responsible for how you "reacted" because something in my comment resonated with you.
These people act cutesy to your face and when they don't get the answer they want, they will shame you and manipulate you. Becareful of the ones that seem overly polite
I'm definitely a toxic individual. I can't be around other people because I find them dangerous; they are self-aware, intelligent and autonomous. If they threaten me or hurt me I can not command them to stop. Most of these people hurt me without any cruel intentions, and that just makes it worse. People who "love" me -- however -- are even worst, as they are compelled to interact with me. It's all my fault of course, because I am my own being and my feelings are my own; therefore I must command those feelings beyond my instinctual, emotional, physiological and psychological reactions. But honestly, if it is this hard to fight against my repulsion of humans, why should I be forced to live. I have given up and live in exile. I have requested euthanasia but have not been granted that request. I have explained my hardships and made it clear that I have no drive to live. it is just simply impractical for myself to live a happy, fruitful life when all humans -- kind or not -- feel cruel in my presence. They exhibit manipulative behavior... You feel emotionally drained after talking with them... They are always the victim... Lack of apologies... They don't care about boundaries... What happens when all human beings I make contact with eventually exhibit these traits? Well, it isn't practically feasible to treat all humans as toxic otherwise how would they have relationships outside of my interactions with them. It just makes sense that I must be the toxic individual, because I'm the only one who is sharing these "relationships" with all these human beings; it has never made sense to me: how could I be the toxic individual when I never had to do anything to anyone and yet still suffer by their words and interactions. Unfortunately, there is no other answer. I have to be the toxic individual regardless of what I think, because holistically it just doesn't make sense otherwise. But, being born toxic? Thinking and comprehending, naturally, toxic? Even if that could make sense, is that even fair? Well... honestly, I don't really care anymore. Fairness, regarding my life or birth doesn't matter to me anymore. If society were able to incorporate me in a way where I'm not constantly suffering, I may be drive to live; but honestly I've lost faith in their capacity to comprehend what I am and the consequences of my continued existence. I just want out.
I guarantee I am toxic to myself and likely to others. I am always on such high guard against being victimised by a social predator again that I treat everyone in a manner that a client would address a merchant or service provider. I show no emotion, no reactions to what others say, nor I allow anything more than an exchange of necessary information only. I push everyone away from me. I am on such high guard to protect myself that I must appear robotic to others. I am the one that sabotages all my relationships before they even take place, whether amicable or amorous, to the point that I likely leave others in disgust or feeling empty. If this is not social toxicity, it has to be very close to it.
Wow. Amazing timing. My crush who lives with me just yesterday displayed her first (noticable) red flag, in my opinion. I shared some Instagram vid about how men specialize raising boys into men. This is one of the first times she got so mad that she took it out on me, just enough to notice she may herself have abusive traits. I told her it seems logical that men are better suited to raise a boy into a man. Just like women would be better suited to raise a girl into a woman. Depending on what a man or woman is. And that I wanted to get her perspective on the topic. I never attacked, but she seemed to heavily back off. And insinuated that her abusive ex used to "mansplain" about this too. I don't like "mansplain", all the same I wouldn't like the word "womansplain". Because of this, I'm beginning to think her ex wasn't as abusive as she claims. My crush on her faded a little. Am I in the wrong? Was I being a bit too callused or jumping to conclusions? Should this event doubt my trust in her when she talks about her ex? Or am I making mountains out of molehills?
Honestly if someone starts acting like that I would strongly suggest to keep an eye on it, if that was a once thing then makes sense or maybe she wasn’t alresdy in a good mood, but do keep an eye out, we should be able to have our own opinions without taking it out on somebody :,)
@@FireRams_arisinglion I completely agree that it takes both mother and father to raise a child for healthy development. As for learning to communicate, this is a large reason why I comment on these videos so often. I was raised in an extremely sheltered house. So I ask questions to learn things you may consider common sense.
well idk how she reacted or how angrily she reacted but i agree that some kids would need like 2 parents and some kids need a mom and a dad to help them feel not alone in their struggles. why did u want her perspective on the vid, did she say she’d think she’d be ok raising boys or something so u showed her that? and i do think having a dad and having a mom would make a son and daughter feel more understood btw. but also ur crush may have took the vid as saying that women couldn’t handle raising a boy into a good man? dont know what she thought by it. i cant tell if it’s a red flag or it’s a sign of an abusive trait or not cause i wasn’t there and idk how she reacted
I'm starting to realise that most of my friends are toxic, but do am I. I have depression and It may be the cause of me being toxic. I am willing to accept its my fault half the time, and the other half constantly believe its their fault.
i think i discovered one of my friends (and kinda my crush) is toxic, 3 out of the 5 signs are true so i think ill might take off relations with them. thank you sm for this video
Have you ever encountered toxic people before? If so, what are some ways you deal with them?
A lot of them
Not sure
Щи ты оур лет шоу мэыоу фллгкфе тех ему
Yes I have but it does hurt my feelings but I get back to conference
Actually I recently did. My ex best friend was pretty toxic, and what I did to get away from them was, I blocked them, sort of ghosted them and I let their sister tell them I was done.
It's actually not a lack of boundaries. It's a lack of respect for other people's boundaries. Many toxic people are very clear and obsessive about their own boundaries, but when it comes to the boundaries of others they walk all over them.
@@FireRams_arisinglion not once in my comment did I say anything about myself being a saint. I'm very well aware of my faults and I'm willing to admit to them, including my past experiences of choosing toxic partners. Which is where I got my knowledge of how they act when it comes to their boundaries vs others.
All hearkens back to the Golden rule:
“Whatever is disagreeable to yourself, do not do unto others” -Buddha (well before jesus)
Now people be like "my actions are justified because ______" some excuse, doesn't matter, won't stop it from happening again
Too true
Also sometimes even if the target of the manipulation normally has reasonably good boundaries, the manipulator will figure out a way to weasel him/herself through a loophole within the target's boundaries. My family does this a lot.
@@jmwoods190 yes you're right.
1. 0:38 They exhibit manipulative behavior
2. 1:22 You feel emotionally drained after talking with them
3. 1:57 They are always the victim
4. 2:38 Lack of apologies
5. 3:01 They don't care about boundaries
Have a good day :>
Summary:
Manipulative behavior, they drain you, playing victim, lack of apologies and lack of boundaries.
Ty
@@XxOfrixX ye
this explains someone who asked me if i wanted to go to therapy, and when i said i’m sorry i’m not ready, they told me “oh i already scheduled an appointment for today” and they act like they will always give me time to make a choice, but never do i always end up doing what they want me to do and not what makes me comfortable. they always pressure me to do things anyways cause i’m scared to say no to them. when i say no to them they get mad and act like i’m being selfish but in reality they are the ones who don’t care about me when they make decision for me without caring if it’s okay with me first. they also guilt trip me into coming places too that literally make u feel like if u don’t go ur a bad family member or sibling or u don’t love them which isn’t true it just means i have social anxiety and depression and it’s hard to talk to people
@@ghostingwo i go through that too. Sorry about that
@@ghostingwo i feel in the same place. Every fight I have Is because so many toxic people Spread lies about me to my “friends” then Its me who is labled the “toxic person” . and im going to go off at my “friend” at the end of the year because so many people feel the same. She will Grab something or do something you hate just for her to get you to do something for her. She is really toxic and i realise now. but im waiting till the end of the year. So then i dont have to worry about her getting in my face.
1- Toxic people are sussy bakas.
2- They vent to guilt trip, gaslight and manipulate you.
3- They're the simposter.
Y'all know, the saddest thing is that Toxicity seeps in; even affecting the person dealing with said Toxicity. Maybe it's kind of a survival mechanism or something I am not exactly sure, but it does. Even worse is being aware of the fact and not doing/ being able to do something.
You're right. Once manipulation gets into the picture, it becomes a pattern of behaviour. I think it's best to just start from scratch with someone new unless you really plan to work things out with the parties.
Hey just say that shit worser than my friends that lived in chernobyl you just cant get over it.
they also have low self-esteem usually people with these kind of personality traits are themselves very fragile i have dealt with many
My best friend of 5 years shared almost all of these traits. She would ALWAYS play victim and invade my boundaries. And when I confronted her about them she would always play the victim. I felt so trapped. I’m out now, but I still hate her.
Good riddance. I hate people like her.
Idk what to say, but same
I'm glad you're out now, I had a friend like that online, If I was playing with another friend they will always say they're not important and Want me to join them, If they saw me chatting with another person they would say "So you aren't paying attention? I guess I'm not important" even if they weren't doing nothing to pay attention to, And If they were online they would always want my time only for them, and if I didn't see any message or something they would say "Yesterday you were nicer :(" Sadly I have a very soft heart and It's kinda bad beacuse even if I know someone's bad I still feel bad for them even if I didn't do nothing wrong and sometimes I tried to make them happy, even if I felt forced to, I'm still trying to work with that and I got away from that person :D
Forgive them and forget about them try to delete them in your life you will be happier instead of hating them
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I love watching videos that haven't even been posted yet
Dam
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That's impossible to do how can you watch a video that hasn't been posted yet🤔🤔🤔🤫🤫🤫
How did u watch it 2weeks ago? Did u pay or something?
Time machine?
This video came at the right time for me. When someone blames you for being toxic just remember there are always two sides to every story.
Definitely Emphasis on TWO sides to every story, for sure. We are all just humans. Hurt people hurt people. Its very easy to make yourself out to be the victim, as well. If you notice you are always the victim, maybe you're actually the problem. Then you might need to stop and check yourself. Just as easy as it is to fall into the trap of toxic people, its just as easy to never admit fault and become toxic yourself. People will always rationalize their behaviour
Exactly
I have no toxic people in my life. How? I let them go. That includes my parents, sisters, and many friends. Life is good without them.
A hard part is when the people/person is stuck to you 24/7 and there's absolutely nothing you can do about it because you are underage and your parents are hella strict (so basically even going out to stay away is impossible). It's hard thinking someone you love can be toxic and even if you want to distance yourself, you can't because they'll do something about it.
By the way, amazing video!
Yep, my old toxic friend actually kinda had a crush on me, even though we were both girls and I was strong with the idea of nature and wasn't interested in girls, but she tried to push the idea of supporting lgbt and becoming a lesbian to be her "waifu" onto me, AND EVEN IN RPS when we were boths girls in wcue rp game she kept trying to force me to be her mate, EVEN THOUGH SHE WAS A KIT AND I WAS A GROWN WARRIOR IN THE RP.
Also she wouldn't stop joining me in roblox games and shouting at me to play with her in meep city
@@moonlink727 Ugh I'm so sorry you went through that. That's so uncomfortable. I also had a situation with an ex-bff who was really toxic and she was manipulative. Hard life huh
Know your worth and don't settle for someone who doesn't treat you the way you wouldn't be treated! I'm so glad to see this channel booming from what it was a few years back.
Even if one has no worth to others, such as myself, there is no need to allow any mistreatment I have left in the middle of conversations, mid sentence, because the other person is not achieving the purpose of the information exchange that the other person, or myself, needed. As soon as the other person strays from the subject for the needed interaction, attempt to return the other person to the purpose of the exchange. If the other person continues to stray from the purpose of the interaction, simply leave the vicinity of the person and interact with that person no more. In the modern age, interpersonal interactions should be kept in a manner that a client would interact with a service provider or merchant. Simply, exchange information, conclude the exchange, and leave. Whether one has worth to others or not, one should disallow any form of nonessential interpersonal, interaction, with others. Being social will always result in emotional pain, conflict, and disharmony.
I had a such friend before , talking to her was tiring cuz she would use her “trauma” as an excuse , even tho I always encouraged her and supported her she called me a narcissistic liar before talking to my friends I was thinking “am I the bad one??” “Maybe it’s my fault” but after talking to friends it makes sense I always feel exhausted after talking to her
Sounds like you had a friend who might be using the victim card a lot.. and not taking responsibilities for anything that happens to her. I'm glad that you were able to listen to yourself and get out of an unhealthy situation. Maybe if you want to help her, you can also link videos to her that might help.
Your story is exactly like mine but I lost some of the mutual friends we shared. Now that we broke up she's just making me the one who causes problems.
Like it or not I can relate to her I’ve been in some similar situation and I feel bad but I don’t blame myself and I asked myself if I ever got help during the times which I hadn’t. And calling someone those things sounds horrible, maybe she just experienced those tendencies from you and had went through that trauma before. I hope you told her this exactly this you’re commenting, it would help her and you I promise.
@@xxxtsukuyomi1191 well doesn’t seem fair to put the blame on her? be completely honest with yourself and her if you are not already
I have a friend with manic depression and she always plays the victim. I feel the same after hanging out with her.
The best thing to do when dealing with toxic people is just to let go and give them as much distance as you can.
Toxic behavior? Yes I have experienced someone that was toxic towards me. They always called me and my ex toxic to make us think that we weren't for each other. It was really tiring. She made really terrible comments and even came up with lies. And the worst part was that my ex stayed friends with them! That crossed the line especially when they said they weren't toxic at all
It sounded really like a mess. I hope you’re in a better place now, surrounded by great people.
@@Psych2go Not to be rude, but the thumbnail is kinda gross...
Life is rough be safe y’all 💯
Thanks for watching! :)
This is the worst pain ever. 💀☠️☹️💔 This makes me really upset thinking about it.
Is everything ok? I hope you get the chance to talk to someone about it
@@Psych2go thanks but I don't want to talk about it. I will try my best to stay calm and positive not thinking about it.
Sadly I know of such a person: the first red flag was the fact they would make a private discord group and immediately kick out anyone that they thought made them look bad, the next red flag was the fact someone unfriended them because they were in a relationship, the next red flag was they would always be quick to get angry about things happening at work - events in their lives and would quickly blame the people around them for their problems, the final red flag was that they refused to accept criticism about how they treated others around them: we drifted apart since that day and ever since then I found I have been happier and carefree. Anyone that has an Ego Trip by controlling their friends like this: is someone you should avoid.
If you see a friend of yours displaying these qualities, immediately unfriend them - you deserve respect, not judgement. Do not allow yourself to get pulled into a toxic environment which involves how much time you spend with a person, constant validation from friends and comparisons of how you don't match how their other friends act - this is an echo chamber and sucks away any individual idea and thoughts you bring into a relationship. If they continuously pile drama onto you and expect you to act like their therapist: you are not their friend and they don't deserve your time.
Practice self-love, associate yourself with those that like you for your qualities and don't feel pressured to be a part of something that seems more like a cult than a circle of friends.
Thank you for sharing this! It sounds like you really thought this through.
@CJ Bow Who says I was talking about a girl? The last girl I knew needed encouragement not a guy full of problems. If she kicked me out (of her life not her discord group) it's because I wasn't the man she was looking for. But no, I was talking about a friend that had real issues and I would prefer not to talk about them out of respect for their privacy.
Please keep in mind I don't overshare for a reason, also that sometimes a guy can experience a million problems but chooses only to share one. I don't like to surround myself with misery else I'd never be able to encourage myself. Take things a step at a time don't ever let yourself be your own worst enemy.
Also, sometimes girls don't need some guy validating them 24/7 why would I chase after a girl who would distance themselves from me? That's one way to end up on their creep list, not a way to start a conversation. If a girl has a question about how they can improve they can ask, I don't cramp their space for the sake of making myself feel better... the shy girls I know are the ones that are struggling the most why should I add to their problems.
The most toxic people are family in my experience no matter how you feel especially when it comes to depression they just don't get it and that gets to me even more
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Sometimes because they are closest to you it's easier for them to want to control you.
@@Psych2go do u know why they wanna control us? as a person who feels like i been invalidated and controlled by some ppl in my family this sucks being controlled by ppl who don’t care about ur feelings
The most toxic in my opinion can be toxic friends or toxic relatives so you to cut off all those typy of relationships
Have you ever encountered toxic friends or relatives?
@@Psych2go toxic friends because one time they was being fake friends with me
@@the3danimationdude770 tbh a toxic girlfriend (like in my case, she's my ex now) or a toxic boyfriend are probably even worse. They affect you horribly because you open up to these people in a special way and they are probably the most important person in your life after yourself. I am healing and getting stronger, but she impacted me in such a bad way back then.
1. They talk behind your back 2. They attack you behind your back to get their points across. 3. They are not self reflecting at all but instead project all onto you
this sucks cause i heard someone i thought was nice to me since they are always kind to me to my face criticize me behind my back but since i am too scared to ever call them out on how they do me wrong they get to act like they never did anything wrong to me and act like the nice one to everyone else and convince everyone that i’m a problem based on just what they tell them. but they always accuse me of things that aren’t true and they invalidate my feelings by accusing me of probably how they feel about me. i just think they seek flaws in people, ignore their boundaries, act controlling, provoke people on purpose into speaking up for themselves so they can flip the script on u even when they drove u there. it’s crazy cause i never talk about their bad nor toxic qualities to other people they’re close with to try to get them to turn on them but they always seem to be trying to seek flaws in me to get people against me so i have no one to support me. it’s crazy how anyone can believe anyone who is deadset on making sure they tell everyone what’s wrong with someone without letting the person they talk about defend themselves. like i just can’t imagine believing someone who tries their hardest to make someone on everyone’s bad side
@@ghostingwo i left a group of that people. Its a choice
People either inspire you or drain you,choose wisely....🎇
My soon to be ex husband did this. 9 years I spent hating myself for being this obviously awful person. When in fact it wasn't all my fault the whole time. Now trying to unlearn my responses and set boundaries. I suck at it.
Sounds like Narcissist as well...🎯
this video actually made me realize that my sister is the one whose been making me feel questionable guilt over all the years, oh my god
It's really sad because my best friend started claiming I was doing all of these things or making her feel this way, but also I know deep down that was not true. I did some regretable things but those came after months of trying healthy options and being shot down by her bullshit.
oh yeah, i just got out of a toxic friendship yesterday. he had all of these points you brought up. i feel so much better!
I was the toxic one, after a long path to change I found that the people I surround my self with, was also toxic, so I manipulated, toxicated my self before anyone else.
Still I always apologize, and I still have severe panic attacks for just tge idea of me being toxic, but I think society is so harsh, we all toxic to some degree that's why we always should ask ourselfs "am I toxic?" this way we can stop being toxic and stop the next generation from being toxic too.
I just got out of a friendship of around 5 years. This is him to a T. I felt bad (he ended the friendship and tried to blame me), but this makes me realize I’m not a bad person, and not my fault
▪︎TIMESTAMPS▪︎
1. 0:38 - They exhibit manipulative behaviours
2. 1:19 - You feel emotionally drained after talking with them
3. 1:55 - They are always the victim
4. 2:37 - Lack of apologies
5. 3:00 - They dont care about boundaries
Hope this helps! Xx💖
good to know that i'm right about my "best friends" being toxic.
they kept using me for food and money and when i asked nicely for them to stop, one said "but you've never done this before, so why now?" while the other would use the excuse of "well i didn't eat breakfast today and i have a match this afternoon, so if you don't give me food, i'll starve".
they also did things like plan to go to universal studios together without me and i had to find out by hearing their plans during one of our lessons together. they then talked about it every time we three were allowed to sit together and overall just kept reminding me that i couldn't go because of time and money issues.
now that i've stopped being friends with them, they talk trash about me to my other friend (who hates them as well) with no reason. let's name this good friend of mine J. J dislikes both of them for all of the shit they did to her. they had talked badly about her to me about an argument they all had while knowing that they were the ones to blame. by the way, when i first stopped being friends with the two of them, they told J their side of the story and made it so that i was in the wrong. but when J finally heard my side, she realised i've done absolutely nothing wrong and started disliking them even more than she already did.
their side of the story was that i was over-sensitive and only stopped being friends with them because they called my new haircut a karen cut even though it was the complete opposite of a karen cut. (karen cuts are short in the back, long and the front. mine is short at the front, long at the back. also i've wanted this haircut since the beginning of this year and was really happy upon getting it.)
apparently they just don't understand how toxic they truly are.
they've lost three ex-friends because of their toxic traits yet still wonder why their friends leave them. it's incredible!
very sorry to anyone who actually took time out of their day to read all of this ❤
Nah i appreciate it I hope you're doing better 😏
After watching this video, I’ve realized my mom has most of these traits and doesn’t treat me or my sisters like we matter at all. Ever since I was younger, if Me or my sisters did something to upset her she would always say “I did everything for you isn’t that enough!?” Or “do you know the looks people give me when we are out in public” but the one she used often was “I’m such a bad parent” yet would talk about how I’m such a bad kid and how I should be more like my sister
Ngl, this video made me kinda question if I am actually the toxic person sometimes... Some points hit close to home when i think about it and it's scaring me.
While i am not manipulating someone or trying to guilt trip them, i do sometimes break boundaries or kinda feel like I am draining others when I am just with them.
But as always, very good and informative content, got me thinking real deep 😅!
I understand what you mean, but I think to be considered manipulative you have to be manipulative and know that what you're doing is bad. You are questioning whether you are manipulative or not, clearly having no bad intentions. If you just sometimes break boundaries of others and drain their energy, then that's unintentional and you don't mean to harm those people. In this situation, I recommend working on those traits and potentially apologizing to those people. What I'm trying to say is, you have no bad intentions and I'm sure if you try you can improve your behavior around others, and thinking about this is the first step to doing so! So no need to worry!
@@HyperNovva thank you for your response, you have no idea how much this helps :)
I think you're right, atleast i hope so.. I'll try doing that, let's see if it helps 😅
Thank you :)
@@tund_101_hd9 you're welcome, glad I could help!
I broke away from a friendship because after talking/ hanging I always got a headache.I knew getting sick after being around them wasn't normal so I distanced myself
Love the recap section at the end, as someone who has a low attention span it helps a lot
My mom is exactly like that, I always feel drained of energy when she’s around. It’s like holding hands or hugging someone that’s made of posin and you can’t escape it cuz they manipulate you and tell you that without them you’d be homeless and on the streets. Even my dad is the same way. They even tell me to do so much labor much more than the rest of the household. I can’t even work yet due to my fractured ankle. The environment I live in is completely toxic. And I don’t feel happy at all.
Hope u get better 🫶🏻
Same I can’t do the homework I might fail my education and stay forever with my parents after all
this traits remind me of a person really close to me but i don't know what i'm supposed to do about it, she's going through tough times and i don't want to leave her alone but it's becoming really stressful and negative for me, i'm lost
Let her go. You come first
I needed this... I'm about to have a sit down with a close friend because I think they've been showing some toxic behaviors but I don't think they mean to. So I'll try my best to lovingly show my concern lol
It's like my prayers have been answered. I've been having a tough time with my friends lately (specifically one friend) and I keep thinking I'm breaking up our group bc of the things they say and how they say it. If it weren't for this video, I don't think I would've realized that I wasnt to blame and I don't know what I would've done. Now I can ignore what they try to make me believe. Thank you so much for making this video when you did, it means the world to me ❤❤
Me: Well, guess I'm toxic-
Psych2Go: *Grabs me* No.
Me: *Scared*
Psych2Go: *Hugs* You're not toxic. I just want you to see that.
Me: 😐
Me: 🥺 😭
I liked the fact that there was a summary of all the points given at the end of the video
I stay away from toxic people, i can sense them a mile away, im very empathic
What is your advice for others?
Keep them in check, just answer lightly and step away, in the end toxic people win
This was a very descriptive video I always knew there were toxic people around me throughout my life like my parents, siblings, friends even me at times & this video is just more confirmation 👏🏾 glad I've been working on healing tho 😇
So glad to hear that! Do you recall which video you watched? I'm curious which video you're referring to
@@Psych2go This video lol
You have any tips on how to heal from toxicity?
@@KyleUltima9189 practicing self-love, self-forgiveness and self-acceptance ❤
Coming from somebody who grew up abused, I fully believe in this. This was really the only way I didn't destroy myself after getting out of the situation
Amazing video, it definitely confirmed to me that I had encountered a toxic person . It took me time to realise it , but there isn't any doubt anymore. To end the " friendship " was one of the best decisions I have ever taken. I'm happier than I ever have been.
Thank you so much for this much needed video, I enjoyed the animation very much. Keep up the good work :)
( Any advice ) I have an older sister who has those traits but she never takes it as far and a law suit ( since we are both kids ) We used to be close, I would say yes to almost everything but then I grew a little bit more lazy and I don’t know if that was the reason or some other but she just started to get meaner and more like she is using me, at first I don’t think she meant to me mean but now she even admits “yeah maybe I took advantage of you.” She says sorry but she never truly means it it’s often like “fine I’m SOrRy, you happy now?” And sometimes she only says it when our mother forces her. The problem is I never truly do anything about it and mostly just think “we aren’t fighting now, so I just won’t bring it up and possibly upset her.” She says “it’s my room you have to do what I say and get out when I say” which makes sense but when she is in my room, she doesn’t care, when I say get out she will only get out if she wants to, when I say, close the door after you leave/come she doesn’t do it, when she is on MY bed, she will even tell me to get off because I’m in her personal space! But the problem is sometimes our problems are so bad our parents get involved, and most of the time it doesn’t do anything but make things worse and gets us both in trouble, but I’m so scared of my parents yelling at us that I try my best not to douse fights or talk about how I feel because we always end up fighting, even when I ask “what did do wrong” she doesn’t tell me she just ignores me and when I say “I’m sorry how can I make it up to you” ( even tho it was her fault ) she will just ignore me and I don’t know what to do! When I try to get mad at her I end up feeling guilty and when I do nothing I feel like I should have done something, and when I go tell my parents I’m so scared we will get in trouble I end up not doing it, We don’t fight all the time and sometimes we don’t fight for a very long time but it never lasts that long! Maybe if the fights are short they last at least a hour of no talking to her! And whenever we get in trouble she will blame it on me. Sometimes when she hurts me physically ( never so bad I need to go to the hospital, not even close ) When it’s on purpose she doesn’t feel regret later on and when it’s on accident she will just often say “oops” or “your fine” not even a sorry! I don’t know what to do because I’m still going through this, any advice? ( if it sounds too dramatic it’s because I’m typing this during the aftermath of one of our fights 😅 )
I knew a person like this for four years, and I just cut ties with them this year. They would get mad at me for not being online to talk to them all the time and when I tried to explain they'd always say that I was avoiding them. I used to get so drained talking to them because they'd keep talking about their own issues and compare it to mine whenever I tried to bring up the problems I was having myself-and whenever I'd try to help they'd refuse and not do anything about it. There were even times they'd say they would deactivate because I said something that made them upset and then their FRIENDS would all gang up on me too about it-I started to think I was the bad guy, and sometimes I still feel like I was just overexaggerating and I'm scared I blocked them without truly giving them a chance..
I really needed this. My “friend” almost perfectly fits these definitions
I’ve been told I have displayed these traits yet everyone else says I’m blind and it’s my significant other but at this point idk anymore and I seem to get lost in my head and questioning everything… your videos help me so much I’m so proud to say I watch Psych2Go! ❤
This helps…a little bit. My ex best friend used to be my best friend, but when she was, she acted like I wasn’t her best friend.
It used to be just me and her until she got other friends. All of her friends turned out to be horrible. One of her friends I liked but they betrayed me.
Every time when my best friend said I was being rude she’d always tell me I was like her ex-friend. She made more friends too. They rhymed names with us and I started to dislike them but I played along. She made videos with them and played but stopped talking to me. I was already starting to get jealous. But one of those friends when i met them were mean to me for no reason. Her name was Mabel. I started to understand how she acted like me when I was rude and she was better but my ex best friend and her friends yelled at her to stop, she finally did. Then I met addie and evie.
Not knowing that one of them would ruin my life completely and nearly give me depression. Evie ruined it all soon and blamed me, I don’t really blame my ex bestie for this, evie and addie just manipulated her into saying that I wasn’t her best friend. Now when I look at my besties yt acc (Abadoottle) after when we started talking again I was glad but then we were enemies. And then in her yt acc she put a ghost on my face before that it said “Abbie what have u learned?” Then the song sang “People can go from people u know to people u don’t.” Luckily I made a new friend she played with her and said “ I was with a famous ytber!” I told her “she’s bad” then the next vid I saw months later said
Bestie: (me)
Enemy: Abadoottle
After I saw that I smiled a big grin.
That's my teacher :(
She made me feel so bad about myself and made me cry for hours, humiliate me in front of everyone and make me wrong everytime
U did an osm job with the thumbnail 🙌🏻
It's creative, so well drawn and amazing
I loved it!
This is very helpful and I love how it among us at the start
Hope this video helps you!
Bro , I feel so happy to had seen this Video because it all makes sense. Sure , I was not always right but realising that my ex-bestfriend broke up the relashionship with me ,is the best thing that ever happend to me. Every Single Sign described her exept the last one ,but bro ... I finally realise that it was not me who was toxic , but her ! She realy broke me down , I always wanted to make her happy but she just was straight toxic and I only thought that it was in my head but no , she was endeed toxic. I hope she one day realises that that , what she is doing is wrong and change for the better but I dont believe so.
And thank you Psych2go for taking time to help us , you dont know , how long i was seiing you and ,you helped me so much ! ❤❤❤❤
These videos is helping me what is going on with me because recently I am having a divorce and I admitted I did many mistakes than I thought. Giving these signs is very helpful to remember what I did wrong and I am happy I am learning on the way to go. Thankfully my ex partner and I are great friends, and hopefully our friendship will stay intact. Thank you for your help!
Happy to hear that the video is as helpful to you. And hope all is well!
Wow I never noticed that the relationship I’ve had with my ex friend was this toxic until I saw this video. Thanks a lot, I appreciate it!
I love watching your videos. They’re so intriguing 😊
Thank you so much for your support! We hope to educate others through creating awareness around toxic behaviors
Heyyyyive been watching your channel for years and I’m still here you have grown so much!
Hiii! Thanks for supporting us! So glad to see you've been watching for years. Which topic is your favorite? :)
@@Psych2go probably the ones teaching you how to deal with hard times it’s really helped me grow in my life and I owe a lot to you guys!
I had a friend, I really thought I was the one making things wrong, but now I can look back and see that maybe its their fault, not mine, I surely did wrong things but, it wasn't all my entire fault like they were telling me (and that I believed at the time) You know when you ask why they respond "shut up" without even explaining anything. Thank you so much for this video and all your amazing content, makes me understand me and others better, keep up all the amazing you make !
I struggle with boundaries. I'm not trying to be toxic. My problem is that I can't always tell where a specific person's boundaries are. One friend could be totally okay with me rushing over to their home when they are feeling down while another friend can be overwhelmed by it. I guess you learn as the relationship grows, but I always feel badly about crossing a boundary that was not clear, especially when I thought I was being helpful. I apologize repeatedly and usually start crying because I hate hurting people I love. Plus, I don't want people to view my caring without understanding as toxic. I'm not good with reading all social cues, so I need clarity. I need people to clearly let me know their boundaries and if they shift during our friendship/relationship.
Toxicity doesn't have to be one persons fault alone. It's always a toxic relationship - and each part of that can have other relationships that are not toxic. However, a person can tend to use toxic behaviour.
I was her therapist and when I opened up to her she simply told me “try to meditate” and tried to make me quickly shut up
Who is “her”?
yep, I've had experience of a toxic friend before.
1: Manipulative Behavior
Yes, at times she forced me to get into Miraculous Ladybug (even though it's ultimately cringe to me) and whenever a game we played had even a slight mention of LGBTQ, she would say "Oh yes, I support them and a lesbian, you should support too and become my waifu." I'm a bit (not a bit, EXTREMELY) sensitive when she comes to these kind of topics and I kind of just want to stay in the idea of nature and not made feelings (also I don't support lgbt but I respect it), but she tried to push the idea into me as much as she could. She kept on wearing lesbian flag-designed clothes in rp games, and that was also a part into trying to push it into me.
2: They Drain You
Of course, every toxic friend does this. Whenever my best friend (who is NOT toxic in any way) had to get off, I was tired, not because my best friend was draining me, but because we had played together for so long, having so much fun doing things we loved, then my fake friend would try to drain the rest of the energy I had playing games on roblox SHE wanted, and wanted me to do rps on Meep City, which has been ruined by toxic slenders. Also, whenever we did an rp/played a game I wanted, she said after 5 MINUTES, "ugh, this is getting boring now." But she NEVER said that when we played/did rps SHE wanted, and when I was honestly bored out by it, she did suggest playing a different game but annoyed like, "ugh.. ok, fine.. what do you want to play.."
3: Playing The Victim
Once, me and my toxic friend were playing a rap battle competition game on roblox SHE wanted to play, and I suggested her, "Your abs are just bread, they get crushed like I said." Well, I never said I was a professional. But all she did was spam, "YOUR ABS ARE BREAD." And when she lost, she put the blame on me. WHAT KIND OF CRAP DOES SHE THINK SHE'S DOING WHAT THE HELL-
4: Lack of Apologies
Whenever we got into fights, all she would do was just push all her woes into me and saying, "aLL I evER hEAr In mY LIfe iS MY MoM sCREamING aT mY bRoThEr, I liVE iN sUCH MiSERy" and also stuff about her having anxiety every day, and when I said, "Why are you telling me this stuff? It's not like you're gonna die.." she said "Oh me and my friends love death, we say 'When someone gets stabbed it's sooooo satifying like omg xd lol' and once me and my friend were getting bullied, and I stood up by saying the f word. So don't mess with me. ;)" and when she would apologize, she would just say "oh, I'm like, so sorry, your content on youtube also is funny like haha"
5: Lack of boundaries
So whenever I play bloxburg in roblox, I just build and work on my house and don't rp much. But every time my friend saw me online (I was usually playing bloxburg), she joined and made sure to spawn on THE NEAREST HOUSE TO MINE, and kept screaming and spamming in the chat, "CRISSY (I never told you she learned how to spell "Chrissy") WAKE UP! GET OUT OF BUILD MODE CHRISSY XD LOL OMG!!!!! I DON'T LIKE THIS!!" And she didn't just do that, she MADE HER TWO FRIENDS JOIN THE GAME TO WATCH ME "IGNORING" HER. So basically, whenever I was playing a game in Roblox, she would join me and keep shouting at me to talk and play with her.
So when I unfriended her, the last thing I said to her was "bye lel," acting like her so she would realize. But instead of saying bye or apologizing NICELY, as I deleted all my contacts with her and unfriended her, she just last said to me "LEL WHAT IS LEL HAHA LOL"
And later, she literally had the urge to TO SEND ME A FRIEND REQUEST TO START THE SUFFERING AGAIN
My friend had ex bsf, she always get mad at her for little things like not saving her in game or being late do something. She also never give out a good apologize. She will say “i cant be mad at u forever” like no pages or at least say “im sorry for hurting your feelings, now hearing how u feel I understand i will do better now” . My friend always had to apologize when it was not her fault.
This reminds me of several people who upped and ditched me... wow/damn :(. I made some mistakes with them myself as well here and there, but I'm still stuck in a state of denial. I'm still trying to falsely justify getting literally backstabbed pretty much, being told I'm a lot of things and that it's all my fault, and I'm trying to get over the fact that a threat one of them left me last-minute still bugs me. I literally see most if not all of these traits in several of those former 'friends', and... yeah. Least to say, I'm glad I'm with better people now that treat me much better. Thanks for giving me a little push in a more awake direction!! Been loving these videos and the perspectives and intellect they offer.
I have been experiencing all of these with my fam for over 2 years it’s emotionally draining. I have to save up enough to get my own place.
Question: How to get rid of all sorts of toxic peoples from the society?
My answer: The Rumbling and other sorts of indiscriminate mass killing.
I'm going through this right now, thanks, this really helps me
Toxic people I know used to be my best friend. I never knew until my other friend said to me and they proved me that if I have another conflict with their again don't surrender. And that is the last time we quarreled.
I usually do comments but i can't do them now idk why I'm afraid... What if ur own family is toxic, manipulating, yub have nowhere to go you're a introvert ..you are exhausted.?? ... A golden Angel from sky will come to save you? Nah .... Save ur energy, be positive trust yourself always be confident ... Stay focused on you're goals even tho you feel like not getting there.... There's always something happens Mistrys .... if today's a night tomorrow will be morning...🗿✌🏻🙂tho the struggle and pain is real ... thanks a lot for reading my comment ... I hope you'll have the better day n life 💜
I feel this way with people just over email conversations at work.
Like they're never on the wrong, they try to shift stuff and if something is their fault they just try to solve it quickly or just ignore it outright, even if proof is there.
Is there a video about job or work environment being toxic? Also maybe one on remote works pros and cons?
We always notice these behaviors in others, but we could also be unknowingly copying those behaviors,
stays away from toxic ppl n try not to be toxic towards others
I have an extremely toxic, manipulative, and gaslighting ex-bestie. She does everything on this list and more, and she's literally ruining my life. She's turned everyone against me and just the thought of her makes me want to break a window. Then people say that I'm 'exaggerating' or 'changing the story'.
Once I wrote what was going on down in my vent notebook that I bring everywhere and I accidentally left it out and she and her toxic friends READ THROUGH IT, then got mad at me and said that I was writing sh*t about her and showing it to people even though I never share my vent notebook with anyone. Plus, even if I was showing it to other people, they have no proof at all.
I try to avoid her but she always comes up to me and starts being rude out of nowhere. She made fun of my mental disorder, threatened to k!ll herself because of me (but never did), and so much more, and now she's got all my friends thinking she's this angel who came straight from Heaven to make the world a paradise.
Also, when I'm being 'annoying', they give me the silent treatment and until I apologize. It might not sound so bad from this short description of just a few of the things she's done, but the full story would take all day to write. This has been going on for almost 2 school years now, and I'm sick of it. My mental health has been going downhill ever since. It's getting so bad that now I'm considering suicide. Please, help me. I need some advice. And I'll be praying for anyone else who is going through the same thing as me.
I have a neighbour who is just like you described. A toxic person. She make loud noises all the time, even in the middle of the night. The landlord contacted her about that, and she went mad. Banging on doors and walking heavily. She claims that she doesn't do loud noises, even though neighbour attest that she do. She claims that nothing is her fault, that she's the saint and everybody else is idiots. She even told the landlord that she's gona prove that she's not desturbing the other neighbour. Then she went home and did the opposite, Banging on doors, throwing heavy stuff on the floor, heavy fotsteps for 19 hours straight. Then paused for three hours, and started again the next morning 4 am.
I cut off a toxic friend recently she had all but one of these traits, and I'm so glad I did especially because of how she acted after I cut her off, she basically talked to our mutuals about the situation (which I didn't want to do because I thought it was a thing between us) and I lost my best friend of 6 years in the process, I could have cut her off better probably to not lead to that but like its been so nice and so much better without her in my life. Note to anyone out there, if you need a full day to recover from hanging out with a person because they give you headaches or panic attacks the day after then they aren't good for you
If you felt uncomfortable even once with anybody you know don't let it slide like nothing happened talk to the person first then immediately talk to your therapist or a trusted family member/friend toxic people can literally destroy your physical/mental health and your spiritually
I met a guy and his brother many years ago. They claimed on Facebook that I have a relationship with him when actually we didn't. They also make fun of me. Then, I realized that they are toxic people. I stay away from them. I unfriended them. I also blocked all the people who want to be my friend. They like my comments and they unlike it all. I made this comment right here because I know they read all my comments on RUclips so I know they will read this.
wow..my best friend and crush for 2 years perfectly fits to these points..I don't know what to do because if i tell him i feel bad with him, he will say that he is the one who feels hurt, and keep saying "it's nothing, it's okay, let's move on" when i say that i am hurt too.
i can't let him go after everything he told me, and i still am so attached to him...
i am afraid to lose him...because of how i will feel and of his reaction ..
anyways, i support every one who is on a toxic any kind of relationship, you are never alone
My mum, my sister, her boyfriend, my stepdad and a group I once belonged to; I am free, physically, of them all.
My oldest child checks all these boxes. She is manipulative to the point that I cannot continue a relationship with her at all anymore. It's a shame to have to say this about my own child but that's how it has to be. She refuses to accept any blame for her actions and will not apologize for anything as she feels that she does no wrong, she accuses me of telling lies about her to others when I have done no such thing. I later discover she is telling her siblings all manner of total lies about me to pit them to her side and against me. She has gone as far as to turn her children-my grandchildren against me.
If I wanted to get down to her level and treated her the way she treats me she would lose custody of her children and possibly her freedom. I know what she's capable of and the actual crimes she is guilty of.
I knew she was bad but really didn't realize how bad until this year. This really concerns me where her children are concerned. Maybe it would be best if I did report her to Child Protective Services. I don't want to do it out of anger towards her, but I have become really concerned for their mental health.
I used to have a friend like that before. She was so sincere at first, our conversations were funny we used to laugh a lot when we were together. I have loved her so much (ofc as a friend) my respect and love to her was beyond a normal friendship. but she was more shyer than me and she wasn't showing her love as much as i do.
then we started to high school and she started to act weirdly. she was never being kind to me and she despised me in front of her new friends. i felt so insecure. i have always been next to her whenever she needs me, i was caring, kind, helpful but she didn't do any of that to me. i decided to leave her. and she literally sticked onto me, like she's not the one who broke my heart and shattered my feelings. that was the FIRST time she ever apologied to me. but i didn't give her a second chance. we haven't talked since then and i am happier, my self esteem has been increased, i feel mentally better. she was a huge blackhole exploiting everyone next to her. i hope she's ok now. don't let them use you guys.
It’s because of how bad they are affecting me which is exactly what is causing me to affect others, yk? Like I just always seem to bring the mood down and can never relate to others because of that feeling of being trapped that I just can’t make friends or keep friends. I don’t know how to talk to others and I’m scared I may hurt them.
This helped me a lot bc I have a friend who is always making lies to put the blame on me even though I did nothing wrong. And she does not respect my feelings or boundaries. This helped I know what to do now.
Thanks for posting ✨
Hope you guys have a nice day🌷☁️
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@@Psych2go
I was friends with my bestie for 4 years just to realize now she's toxic, all of these sings really relate to her, everytime I was done speaking with her I always felt drained, when I said I'll think about hanging out with her she always said *come on, let's go now* but when I said no she made me feel bad bc I didn't hang out with her after school, and now 1 month ago she said she doesn't care abt my feelings and now she acts like nothing happened, but she's friends with a manipulative person, so I think it's bc of that manipulative person, or she's just toxic
Sorry if I made any mistakes, English is my third language
Hmm, sounds like someone I knew for 5 years. And what's so bad the red flags were banging and I was blind. I'm glad it's over.
This is my ex boyfriend with me. I broke up with him last month and it’s been a month since he has blocked me and overall I don’t care at all because now I’m going on dates with this cool guy. Nothing against these people but he was one of those Christians that gave Christians a bad name. His church also gave me red flags. And after months of planning a trip he cancelled it on me almost straight after he bought the ticket. I told him it was unforgivable what he did and he called me “selfish” when I had a 100 percent right to be absolutely livid. I told him if he didn’t feel like doing the trip he should’ve told me and I wouldn’t have been as mad. After that incident I became so distant and he wouldn’t shut up about me being distant that I had enough and ended it last month. Ever since then I’ve felt so free and more positive.
I have a friend who always makes me practically beg for them to tell me anything. They’re e like “OMG SOMETHING GREAT HAPPENED!” and I’ll say, “ Oh what happened?” And they’ll always say, “Noo I can’t tell you!” I say, “please?” They say no. It goes over a few times and by the end they have this huge smirk thing on their face and tell me half of it. Then they pause and I’ll ask if there’s more and they’ll say yes. Then I have to beg all over again. This happens with almost everything. If I want to borrow something, this happens. And depending on the thing I only get it for a minute to half an hour. (Tbh I have no idea what I would get to keep for half an hour but I’m sure something). Another thing is she is trying to turn everyone against my other friend bc my other friend accidentally told another person that she didn’t know was the toxic persons secret. (It was what was in a bag). Do yea that’s my toxic person striy
Mines favorite was "I already apologized" when she never apologized in the first place
I've been married 23 years. Marriage is hard work. My wife and I each exhibit 1 or more of these traits at different times. I feel that this video is not accurate because it describes things in black/white terms, but most couples aren't a clear victim/perpetrator dynamic, but both partners have attributes they need to work on and improve.
They do care about boundaries but only their own boundaries. They will abuse & punish you if they feel you are not respecting THEIR boundaries. They are never wrong - they can not be reasoned with. They create problems where none exist and they need control. IMO the best thing to do is to ignore them.
@@FireRams_arisinglion @Psych2go this person has been blocked and yet continues to comment/harass me. I've deleted and reposted my comment and this person is so desperate for attention. I have no idea who this person is.
@@FireRams_arisinglion Stop stalking me/my comment. YOU chose to reply / REACT to my comment in an accussatory tone. I'm not responsible for how you "reacted" because something in my comment resonated with you.
I think more signs are needed to identify such people
Which ones did you have in mind?
These people act cutesy to your face and when they don't get the answer they want, they will shame you and manipulate you. Becareful of the ones that seem overly polite
I know that I'm a toxic person, but I didn't know that people could be that toxic...
The fact that I know people with most of this signs, it really frustrate me.
Majorly every of my family members are toxic and now I am too 😏😒
Have been watching your videos for about 2 Years now love them and I just started studying Psychology at Uni
I'm definitely a toxic individual. I can't be around other people because I find them dangerous; they are self-aware, intelligent and autonomous. If they threaten me or hurt me I can not command them to stop. Most of these people hurt me without any cruel intentions, and that just makes it worse. People who "love" me -- however -- are even worst, as they are compelled to interact with me. It's all my fault of course, because I am my own being and my feelings are my own; therefore I must command those feelings beyond my instinctual, emotional, physiological and psychological reactions. But honestly, if it is this hard to fight against my repulsion of humans, why should I be forced to live. I have given up and live in exile. I have requested euthanasia but have not been granted that request. I have explained my hardships and made it clear that I have no drive to live. it is just simply impractical for myself to live a happy, fruitful life when all humans -- kind or not -- feel cruel in my presence.
They exhibit manipulative behavior...
You feel emotionally drained after talking with them...
They are always the victim...
Lack of apologies...
They don't care about boundaries...
What happens when all human beings I make contact with eventually exhibit these traits?
Well, it isn't practically feasible to treat all humans as toxic otherwise how would they have relationships outside of my interactions with them.
It just makes sense that I must be the toxic individual, because I'm the only one who is sharing these "relationships" with all these human beings; it has never made sense to me: how could I be the toxic individual when I never had to do anything to anyone and yet still suffer by their words and interactions. Unfortunately, there is no other answer. I have to be the toxic individual regardless of what I think, because holistically it just doesn't make sense otherwise. But, being born toxic? Thinking and comprehending, naturally, toxic? Even if that could make sense, is that even fair?
Well... honestly, I don't really care anymore. Fairness, regarding my life or birth doesn't matter to me anymore. If society were able to incorporate me in a way where I'm not constantly suffering, I may be drive to live; but honestly I've lost faith in their capacity to comprehend what I am and the consequences of my continued existence.
I just want out.
I guarantee I am toxic to myself and likely to others. I am always on such high guard against being victimised by a social predator again that I treat everyone in a manner that a client would address a merchant or service provider. I show no emotion, no reactions to what others say, nor I allow anything more than an exchange of necessary information only. I push everyone away from me. I am on such high guard to protect myself that I must appear robotic to others. I am the one that sabotages all my relationships before they even take place, whether amicable or amorous, to the point that I likely leave others in disgust or feeling empty. If this is not social toxicity, it has to be very close to it.
Wow. Amazing timing. My crush who lives with me just yesterday displayed her first (noticable) red flag, in my opinion.
I shared some Instagram vid about how men specialize raising boys into men. This is one of the first times she got so mad that she took it out on me, just enough to notice she may herself have abusive traits. I told her it seems logical that men are better suited to raise a boy into a man. Just like women would be better suited to raise a girl into a woman. Depending on what a man or woman is. And that I wanted to get her perspective on the topic. I never attacked, but she seemed to heavily back off. And insinuated that her abusive ex used to "mansplain" about this too. I don't like "mansplain", all the same I wouldn't like the word "womansplain".
Because of this, I'm beginning to think her ex wasn't as abusive as she claims.
My crush on her faded a little.
Am I in the wrong? Was I being a bit too callused or jumping to conclusions? Should this event doubt my trust in her when she talks about her ex?
Or am I making mountains out of molehills?
Honestly if someone starts acting like that I would strongly suggest to keep an eye on it, if that was a once thing then makes sense or maybe she wasn’t alresdy in a good mood, but do keep an eye out, we should be able to have our own opinions without taking it out on somebody :,)
@@FireRams_arisinglion I completely agree that it takes both mother and father to raise a child for healthy development. As for learning to communicate, this is a large reason why I comment on these videos so often. I was raised in an extremely sheltered house. So I ask questions to learn things you may consider common sense.
@@thecakedoesntlie I totally agree. I wouldn't want to live in a world if everyone had the same opinions as me.
well idk how she reacted or how angrily she reacted but i agree that some kids would need like 2 parents and some kids need a mom and a dad to help them feel not alone in their struggles. why did u want her perspective on the vid, did she say she’d think she’d be ok raising boys or something so u showed her that? and i do think having a dad and having a mom would make a son and daughter feel more understood btw. but also ur crush may have took the vid as saying that women couldn’t handle raising a boy into a good man? dont know what she thought by it. i cant tell if it’s a red flag or it’s a sign of an abusive trait or not cause i wasn’t there and idk how she reacted
I'm starting to realise that most of my friends are toxic, but do am I. I have depression and It may be the cause of me being toxic. I am willing to accept its my fault half the time, and the other half constantly believe its their fault.
i think i discovered one of my friends (and kinda my crush) is toxic, 3 out of the 5 signs are true so i think ill might take off relations with them. thank you sm for this video
People never learn, do they 😞