Narcissist Rebound Relationships
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- I never understood how a person can bounce into another relationship so quickly after ending one. Even worse, how someone could still be in a relationship and start a new one.
It wasn’t until was the victim of this that I started to understand. When someone betrayals you and tosses your relationship aside like it meant nothing it crushes you. It hurts in a way that you will never understand unless you’ve been through it.
I had a client recently come to me and want help understanding why her ex would do this. Seeing how I had so much experience I wanted to give her the insight I learned from my experience.
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I am not sold on the idea that narcissists rebound. Narcissists are generally grooming new supplies while at the same time possibly cheating with old supplies while in a relationship with you. So, by the time of the discard, the narcissist had already been preparing themselves since the devaluation stage for your eventual discard. It wasn't an instant rebound. It was someone who they were already seeing and grooming behind your back.
Agree. They usually have several people on the hook. It's easy these days with electronic communication.
@@transitionsncagreed. The narcissist will usually discard after a slow and increasingly toxic devaluation stage. The devaluation stage is the narcissist way of mentally preparing themselves to discard. This new supply who the narcissist discards you for is usually someone who the narcissist has already been seeing for a lengthy period of time. Lengthy, by narcissistic standards.
So by the discard, the narcissist is already mentally leaps and bounds ahead of the person who they are discarding. At this point the narcissists have already had plenty of time to become indifferent, and to simply move on to a new source or sources of supply. Co-dependents rebound, narcissists already have someone waiting to take your place.
@@nO_3Xcuses Yes. I completely agree. Excellent way of describing the situation. For a narcissist, it's more like a seamless transition. All the best to you.
They will if they fall out of the abuse cycle with the new supply.
As soon as their plan falls apart(new supply breaks up) they will almost certainly text their exes
Exactly.
I married a psycho and stayed way too long. It was either leave her or die, so I left. The sooner you leave a narc the better and less you will lose. LEAVE!
Don't be hard on yourself there's so much to think about when you're trying to leave. You have to fix your mind before you can do it. There's never a wrong time to leave. Just stay gone
Yup. Totally relate. I rmemeber the day I felt it in my gut that I knew he could lose it and harm me. I found a new place the next day moved out 3 days later and he still didn't want me to leave and called the police to try to prevent me from getting my things. He was soooooooo mentally ill. I watch these videos to remind me that I am still healing and moving I'm the right direction no matter what because I left and saved my own life.
Fine with a nine-month sentence
Didn’t know what it was when I was in it I instinct said no contact and run for the exit . Now I’ve learned all about narcissism and it’s devastating effects
My mind is so messed up. I’m afraid of a feather these days
@@allans7281so you saw the red flags early on? What happen when the switch went off and you said this woman is not who she is pretending to be?
If there's no trust, there's no relationship...
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
I’m in same situation, i feel ya pain
You’re Not Alone! This stuff happens to the best of us. 👍🏻
Narcissist are serial cheaters!
I experienced being the placeholder for a man for two years. He had someone else on the back burner while she was overseas--I had no clue about this until the day of the "sudden reveal".
I believed all that time that he was in love with me, and that I had, for once, been chosen.
It just darned near broke me in half when I found out that he and this secret woman had gotten married.
As soon as he figured out that I knew the truth, I was discarded.
It is incredibly painful and cruel to play with someone and their feelings while carrying on another relationship behind their back just because you need your ego stroked.
Four years later, I'm still recovering. I have hope for true love.
But, I'm improving myself to avoid just blindly falling for someone like this guy.
I left my cheating ex wife a year ago and she told me she regrets everything and is begging me to come back but I refuse. Steph helped me stay strong and opened my eyes to who she really is.
You’ll never trust her again
You did the right thing. You will find the right woman to respect and honor and value you.
Persona non grata
Good for you. Those cheating wives are the worst I hear. Don't give up there's lots of faithful wives that ended up with cheating husbands too.
Her brain will subconsciously think you're weak for taking her back after her infidelity. Stay strong and do not go backwards. It will NOT get better.
I was the rebound to a narcissist. I did not come out unscathed. I know people don't think highly of rebounds. I get it. But let me tell you something. If I had known he was on the rebound, I would have walked away. I had no idea at the time. I suffered just as much. If not, more.
Exactly In unfortunately we have a daughter together
If they marry its money assets and status..
That is so true. They definitely can't handle money and are looking for a lifestyle improvement that they can't achieve on their own.
Just dont do it.Stay single. Its so empowering. I shall never trust another man ever again. Its absolutely fine to be single. Live life your way.
We are not meant to be done. I’m sorry it was so painful. You let them win if u stay single.
@@OneWhoKnowz Oh god no.I didn't add im 61.I was married to a monster for 38 years. Im free 6 years and happy to be.Its different if you are young. I have my children, grandchildren and beautiful friends. My dog and until yesterday my rabbit. If he had been here i could not have grieved for my precious Bonnie. I can and did cry all day.I shall never be in a relationship again. My life,my way.
I’m single too and absolutely loving it. At first it was because I didn’t trust myself to know a good person. Now I 💯 trust myself and know how to be discerning about others. But I still love being single! I’m doing something that no narcissist can do- loving living alone. I can have friends but don’t need to compromise myself anymore.
@@detayl13 Exactly my thoughts. At first (after a covert narcissist - my diagnose after many videos on YT) I had it in me to look to fill the void. Now I realised that it never felt better. I'm not going back. I can date, but only with someone who has similar situation to mine. Im not going to be maid, cook, nurse, mummy etc. to someone who doesn;t aprieciate it anymore.
Because you stayed with a monster for 38 years doesn’t mean you should trust any man ever again. You’re just hurting yourself and you’re allowing your ex to stop you from moving on
They despise your inner light - although it attracted you to them in the first place
That's a great point.
Did you mean to say although it attracted them to you in the first place?
I took it away when I left and divorcing my cheating narc abusive husband for DV and him discarding me over money. Controlling and deception. Removed my light, energy, healing, spiritual protection....EVERYTHING!! He lives with bad karma, juju..I have witnessed it and he knows it now. Fumbled me and paid the price. I've been separated for 6 months now and waiting for freedom. Learning about this from this video is eye-opening. The comments help me because I am a 1 st time bride in my late 40s and he was divorced but his history didn't line up. We met at work and he was attracted to my aura from a distance or was infatuated. Everyone that meets me are intrigued by my aura.
Is it possible that they broke up with you because they were scared you might break up with them? They were projecting onto you and got together with someone new to prove that you couldn't hurt them? A way to show their ex that they couldn't be hurt by them is to move on? I think it ties in to what you said about gradually realizing you have put them on a pedestal and starting to challenge them. They realize the game is up.
Once your eyes are opened up and you see them the way they are you never see them the same again. I don't really care if they are in another relationship. I'm free from them and that is all I am concerned about. Free at last thank God I'm free from them. I am not demonized anymore.
They are just cruel. Mine discarded me about a year and a half ago. For her birthday, she was in awe, her words were that she is speechless, that no one ever did something like that for her. Not even a month later it was like everything flipped. The devaluation and stonewalling began. I gave her distance to cool off. However few weeks later we had an xmas get together with a common social circle when she brought together "her new boyfriend" without saying a word.
I left the gathering and confronted her about it a few days later. To which all I got was accusations how I made the drama at the gathering (I kept my emotions in check, simply said goodbye to others, said that it is too much for me and left), how it is all my fault without any explanation whatsoever, how I could possibly think I had a chance with her etc. It was one of the most shocking and hurtful experiences ever. Not even losing my bestfriend few years ago in car accident left such an impact on me. I felt used, taken advantage off, discarded.
That was second narcissistic relationship, but the first one was quite toxic from the start, so by the time I left, I already got to radical acceptance. This time it was sudden and I was discarded.
I still have trust issues and can't fully relax in other peoples presence.
It’s a reason why you keep attracting these types of people. Something I recently realized about myself. So far it’s the lack of boundaries or sticking to them. Also being a people pleaser. Hopefully you won’t ever end up in another relationship with someone like them.
@@jaea7262 I know. I have been in therapy for about a year and a half now working on inner child healing and resolving what was hidden within that resulted in me attracting toxic people. I was raised in narcissistic and alcoholic family as a fixer and rescuer child. Naturally I developed people pleasing tendencies.
Thank you though. I sincerely hope neither of uf has to go through such experience again.
@@jaea7262 Yeah I know. I have been to therapy for a bit less than year and a half now, doing inner child healing and working on my own wounds in order to change the pattern of attracting toxic people. Being raised in narcissistic and alcoholic home as a fixer and rescuer child definitely left consequences. That's why I grew up into people pleaser. I made quite a lot of progress already though.
@@jaea7262 I know. It is true that we need to dive deep within us to discover the reason. I have been to therapy ever since, working on myself, healing my past wounds, my people pleasing tendencies, working on setting healthy boundaries etc. Growing up in narcissistic and alcoholic home as a fixer and rescuer child, no wonder I grew up like that.
@nickus51 I am almost 42 years old. I've had relationships my entire life that have ended very respectfully. I had been single for 2 years when I met my narcissistic abuser. I ignored ALL the red flags. He had just "got out" of a relationship 2 weeks prior. I found out a month later he had still been seeing her. Overall, after an entire 7 months of off and on with him, he started pulling away. I didn't know why at the time. I went to hang out with friends one night and they hugged me so tight and said they were sorry. I didn't under why my friends were sorry... then they showed me the guy I was with changed his Facebook status to "in a relationship" with another person. I was.. am.. traumatized from the entire experience. Still working through my feelings and healing. The best advice I can give: do not ignore the red flags, and do not ignore your gut/intuition. I knew something wasn't right from day 1, and I made my choices over and over to ignore it. I accept my lesson. Don't be like me. Always honor yourself. ALWAYS.
Yes, you explained everything and you should make a video explaining going from a relationship to a roommate with a narcissist
Do they really rebound? Cause usually they have one set up and ready to go, they overlap not rebound.
She was explaining that they can overlap as well, so it's kind of like a rebound. When you think about it, no matter how you slice it, these types of people are going to "do them". They're going to have a new person to replace you 5 minutes after the break-up or 5 minutes before because they it's like they HAVE to have someone all the time to feed that enormous ego of theirs. I remember someone I dated once telling me that about all of his exes and how much LOVED them. ALL of them. I was thinking everyone?! I've never loved every single person I've ever dated, that sounded a bit dramatic, but whatever, lol. Then he said that one girl lived with him for a little while & the morning that they broke up, while she was packing up her things and crying, he was texting another ex and asking if she could come over later that night. I was so disgusted and told him so. He was shocked by my reaction and honestly didn't see why that would be an issue. He said he kept in contact with all of his exes for that very reason - to have someone to fill in the time until he found someone else. Smh... Rebound or not, narcissists seem to be incapable of understanding what a real relationship is and how it works. I've noticed that most of them tend to have "friends" as backups - not regular friends that you or I would have.
They are monsters
@@Sljdmartinezhe sounds really unhealthy and codependent, unable to cope on his own. Definitely needs to do the work but unfortunately he won’t he will keep rotating Women trying to fill his void . Sad really
@kaoshi_kutie Yeah, it is. In the process of him doing this, he's hurting so many people and he seems to be completely oblivious or unbothered by it.
Yes kept catching him online until all hours before I was discarded. They are sick
Thank you for this video. It's really sad that people like this really do exist. They will never comprehend the damage they do to a person when they betray the individual that's committed to them. I think the hurt will never fully go away, but after the experience i learned so much about myself and i actually am a stronger person and better off in life now. Turn that pain into purpose friends.
It goes away when you realize they can't think like you. They couldn't and wouldn't commit anymore than a pig can.
Well they discard once that new “relationship” is established. He lied about the nature and timing the relationship, and also said “I don’t know if I want to be married anymore (27 yrs) and “I need to get you out of my head.” He was sleeping with her at my home (we were in a “trial separation” (narcissist term), not legally) she was also married still and within a few months he was complaining to others about her. 😂😂
You describe it well. I challenged him thinking I was helping him grow bc as you said he pointed out my flaws and I worked to correct them. I assumed we were a team, we had each others back (now realize he never did), we were just in a rough patch. It was all control and yet I still believed that my raising myself would improve our relationship but that’s when it began to deteriorate. And every time I said I was done, we can’t do this (we couldn’t parent together), etc he said “I’m
Not going ti throw this all away”. Then he promptly threw it all away when he had new supply and he was no longer in need of all I provided since our youngest was graduating HS.
It took me a long time to realize how I was being manipulated and cheated and I finally put my foot down and didn't back down from setting boundaries but that only brought out the extreme anger from the narcissist who pretty much wanted me to shove everything under the rug and within weeks went from love bombing to extreme abuse that I have never experienced during the course of our marriage and all this while grooming the new supply in the background and eventually I went through with the divorced and within weeks the narcissist married someone who is already married to someone and has children. He was more of a convenient target who is unaware of the narcissist's toxic nature. I'm sure the mask will be coming off pretty soon as this person tends to have expiration date on relationships and friendships when things don't go in their favor.
Karma is a BITCH. Karna is first name isabitch is the last name . God don't like ugly
True, but also anxious attachment styles do this not only narcissist. People who suddenly feel abandoned, will jump into the first relationship that they can find in order to not deal with their feelings and be alone.
Yes, that was my last girlfriend. Jumped from relationship to relationship, and always seemed to monkey branch to the next guy. Got very jealous and insecure with me at times, even through I never gave her a reason to
I have an anxious attachment style, and I don't do this. I spent nearly four years single. Anxious attachment style doesn't mean we can't handle feeling our feelings. That's a separate thing that ppl who don't have coping skills or emotional maturity do.
Self awareness within a relationship is a very valuable trait to have. If they already had it prior to the breakup, they probably would still be in the relationship. If they somehow acquire it after the breakup through therapy or self analysis, you'd at least expect them to take ownership for their part, but don't hold your breath.
I really don’t like that phrase “Hurt people, hurt other people”
“Hurt people, should go to therapy “
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Thank you👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@@Gigi0408You Are Welcome 😂
What's great about having the internet now, and social media, is that you can expose and broadcast the TRUTH about someone GLOBALLY.
13:03 that’s exactly what it is and they are super insecure and I realize how insecure 😟 I was as well. Relationships are difficult. I’ve been single for a year and have been focused on myself and healing the things that have kept me in these unhealthy connections my entire life from 14-44 years old. 31 years of a bad marriage with many people I refuse to be unhappy again although I would like to have a healthy relationship one day! ❤
I did hold her accountable, but knowing she moved on so quickly still hurts. In fact she moved on so quickly she was already having an affair the second she said "I do" to me. I just want to feel like enough to someone, but need to realize no one is enough for her, she will suck everyone dry for the attention and admiration she desires and no one else really matters.
This was my ex. Had him lined up. One of her best friends told me she always had someone lined up when she left the relationship. I was a rebound but didn't know. But she told me I was her most healthy relationship yet she left me for a guy below me on EVERY level in life. So hurtful.
Thank you so much. I'm getting over a relationship with a narcissistic and I'm really struggling. This really helped put things into perspective for me.
The Narcissist is just greedy!! They see something they like and want it before someone else gets it. They don't care about anyone but themselves point period!!!!!😮😮😮😮‼️‼️‼️
This was helpful. It really explains why we need to normalize just leaving these people.
It's more... Hurt people with unhealed trauma hurt people...
Had situation where was with a woman who I saw somewhat frequently. Not regular sex but enough. She gambles, does drugs and lies constantly. She was seeing a drug dealer on the side of which I was not aware. Then devalue began but had not gotten to extreme. Caught her and then she started smear campaign. Cut off all contact three months ago and no reconnect. Hear she is still with him and all she does is gamble and take drugs.
A million percent true! My heart too, goes out to the next victims. Truly heartbreaking.
Hi Susan, how's your day going with you?
Just remember if they actually ever really changed they would take accountability for things they did to us. So no they won’t change , even if parade on social media or to flying monkeys that the new relationship is so great , it will rot , sometimes fast sometimes slow , who cares , let em be miserable and continue the pattern without you there.
Yep
My gosh, this is so true. Everything she’s saying is spot on accurate
Every word is spot on....I was discarded last yr...i left before and went bk a yr after so its the 2nd time around. Time to learn the lessons...its very hard to come to terms.
Crazy… yes, I was with one for 12 yrs. I let him get away without taking accountability, and that’s my fault for not even realizing that. When it all ends he said “it’s so easy to trick you” and this came from a man I trusted 100%.
Essentially, the narcissist admires your innate qualities but then faces you through hardship and understands how truly weak and insecure they are, then you become the thing they hate cause you saw them for this weak pathetic baby. If you start noticing someone become unable to move on from a serious argument and givr you love, congrats you've been in it with a narcissist and it's all downhill from that point on. Their love bombing stops right when they get exposed, cause they are scared after that point that you think they're pathetic and now they must prove to themselves they don't need you...
I had a dream about my ex's rebound. Asking me advice after a breakup. It's so weird this video drops after that
She may have thought about asking your advice. I wanted my ex narcissist ex to help me I often thought about it
Great video! So many of us can relate to this! Unfortunately. Very difficult but necessary to leave.
I left my 5 year long relationship with a narcissist... He tried to baby trap me... 😅 So I left him... I had like that epiphany truth moment and left him... Even if I love him... That was the drop.... I recently learned he's in a new relationship... After 3 months...That hurts me...😶🌫️ If you ever see signs of narcissism in a guy: GURL, just RUN 😂😂😂
11:30 - 11:45 This is spiritual. An aspect that modern society believes doesn't exist because they can't explain it. I know the bible isn't popular and even less so today but what she is describing here and why most people can't get a bead on it is because both parties are being influenced by spiritual forces.
The narcissist by demonic forces to get you(most likely being guided by the holy spirit because you try to be a righteous person even when being tormented by an evil presence) to extinguish your own light and join the darkness like them.
Keep fighting and for Christ's sake let them go! 2 Timothy 3:1-5
My ex got herself another dusty toxic narcissist like her so there perfect for each other 😊
@9:17 why would anyone
That is a great question! "Why would someone want to hurt me when I actually didn't do anything wrong? And most people who have been treated extremely poorly" You have great thoughts and insight. I love how well spoken you are.
Mine was always working 2 jobs never home , so when she was was home I would try and cuddle with her even though it was extremely late at night and give her what she wanted for her supply which was SEX SHE SAID I tired and blamed it on me REALLY,and I took care of her 27 years old disability daughter . Mine did she just up and left.
I think alotta these coaches fail to state the fact that YOU DESERVE BETTER stop trying to go after a narassist do you really want that for your love life?? Really truly is that what you dreamt of as a child?? There are plenty of healthy individuals and it's worth waiting for. Set boundaries remember self love and f*** the narassist they will never be worth it
AMEN, EXACTLY ❤!!!!!👏🏽👏🏽💪🏽
So this is pretty much like triangulation. No thanks.
I did watch this video when you first posted it. I’ve come back today to watch again. Yes 15 years and 4 children. Things aren’t perfect just yet but I’m feeling amazing and without a doubt couldn’t be in the place I am today without your information and support.
You truly are an amazing woman and a gift sent from god.
You are literally saving peoples lives!
For me this is the best content you’ve produced and just made me feel complete. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Yes it hurts but BE HAPPY they moved on
You too were a rebound relationship you may just have turned out to be more of a sucker than the last person and believe there victim story. At the start you probably thought you had found someone special yes you did a very "special" person.
Truth. Went through this and almost free. Divorcing for DV and infidelity. He discarded me over lack of money supply. He is controlling and covert.
What if the new victim is also transactional like my soon to be ex-covert narcissist husband because she gets free lodging and funded lifestyle in return for slathering him with adoration and feeding his sex addiction without holding him accountable? Will such relationship last and be "happy" in that each gets what he/she wants?
I realized i don't want kids and marriage now, so what's the point of dating? Just defiled myself and trashed the temple. Now I'm rebuilding it
I was once in a relationship with a narcissist that was horrible. He tried to separate me from everyone close to me and get me to move to another state with him, but I didn’t want to. He had a friend that told me had a crush on him but he wasn’t attracted to. He broke up with me the day before my birthday and the next day they were already Facebook official and he was displaying their relationship. She moved to the other state with him. Bullet dodged.
Great content, i feel like you were in the room in my relationship , I should send this video to my ex smh , truly helped with clarity now , glad I came across this video, thank you
You are amazing. I was struggling so much today. Sometimes I need a break from researching the Narcissist. But today I was starting to have that dueling mindset where I was trying to convince myself why I should miss the person and I’ve been miserable all day. I came home and stacked Wood and listed to, a bunch of your videos. Thank you so much.💗 thank you for reminding me.
Really interesting you said a new narcissistic supply because she won’t hold them accountable because he immediately came back and told me a story about him making a scene in a grocery store and she didn’t get upset or not want to be with him or around him because of his outrageous behavior.. it was as if he was trying to tell me that look she doesn’t think my behavior needs corrected or that I need to change and be a better person. She likes me as I am..
Yup this happened to me in the past.I call the narcissist the walking dead.
Me too....same.
You explained exactly what I’m going through accept we not together but he has a new supply a female co worker that he likes to spend time with but there not in a relationship, but she is like him
What you said around the 8 minute mark regarding narcs having something lined up first before leaving doesn't apply at all to female narcs. Female narcs know they won't have an issue replacing you because they can just download dating apps and get a new boyfriend within a couple weeks.
She also has the orbitors she can always fall back on i.e coworkers, classmates, friends she told you not to worry about etc.
I like this info an video
Helpful an going to marinate on it!
I feel my Best relationship is in front of me…
It really isn't fair to the new person in the new relationship, their just a substitute and are being used and that's something a narcissist would do.
Great video I saw the mask drop you're a very short period of time but not knowing exactly what a narcissist was and what to expect I just thought okay it's a new relationship all I have to give it time and see where it goes well that wasn't the best decision
It lasted on and off for 2 years and the torment was bipolar and I actually thought that was the problem
Until she left me and discarded me there was a buildup up devaluation disrespect and disappearing Acts which I would not tolerate
I constantly made her accountable which she hated of course
I told her it was over around Christmas and I haven't spoke to her since no contact works highly recommended
No one needs to live with a person or be treated from a person like this
They deserve to be alone and lonely
The rest of the the world will be a better place
Peace
If mine thinks i cheated on him is this over? Cause im still traumatized. And i still miss him. Its all 🤢!!!
She’s spot on 100% with regard to me and my ex, even currently. I couldn’t figure out why he’s coming back and wants a friendship so bad. Now I understand. He’s not getting something from her that he gets from me. Not sure what that is yet. I think she’s too agreeable and she won’t argue with him and I will argue points on certain topics.. but she just lets him roll her over like a steamroller.
It took me 10 months to finally sever ties with my narcissistic girlfriend. And Stephanie is so right. It will leave you feeling empty, confused, and mentally and emotionally drained. I had to walk away for my own mental and emotional health. It's sad because I really loved and cared about her.
same here brothaa
I'm watching the narc do this exact thing,she's suddenly brought yet another sucker to use and abuse all it is is to make me jealous and triangulation,Im moving because the narc is so abusive,so as usual the narc is taking it personal as abandonment rejection,but I seriously want fk all to do with her she is the worst person I've ever met all she is is a neighbour nothing more she's completely irrelevant in my she's nothing a nobody
I watch Dr Ramani a lot, and she helped me realize my ex was a narc. But with you, you’re saying the things that are helping it make logical sense so I can move on. God bless you girl! This is amazing. I just went NC yesterday and I’m struggling hard with the desire to reach out and I’m so glad I can just binge your videos!
You will hopefully reach a stage when you realise that its ginished and unhealthy to stay attached then you can move on, keep watching these videos and educating yourself, my wife of 20 years (who I adored) asked me to sleep apart, no argument, nothing, she then unbeknown to me befriended another guy online, then a 2nd guy who is hee new supply, oncw she asked to duvirce meva year ago ibwss devastated, but after the initial pain, some help from hwr own family who she discarded,cand a good friend, some counselling, after a few weeks I just moved on, even though we live together wity my two daughters, i will never go back, i cant wait unril the day i never see her again, im working on it but tue judge just denied our divorce so i have to just play the gane and stick it out to tye bitter end, my.main concernnare my daughter's who she has poisoned against me, i just have to accept it, for now, and hope they come round to me eventually, but ik not holding out too much hope
What are the signs that I could be a rebound? My ex partner ghosted me recently after being together for a year.. he seemed like he wasn't over his ex wife, he vented to me about her a lot while we were together. I'm wondering now if he was just using me as a painkiller.
Complete new supply to get over you both. My ex same situation. I think they feel ambushed by consequences and reality. Now gotta start again with a stranger, fresh supply. They spend their life running from themselves
@@TammBiancspeaking truth!
Just finished the video. This is an amazing piece of advice and really speaks to exactly my situation. Wow. So glad to hear others have gone through this but you’ve articulated exactly everything I’ve been living through for 2 years now. Amazing. Been reading, listening, trying to figure out some answers and you’ve hit the nail on the head. If you happen to do any online consultation, (I’m based in South Africa) I would gladly take you up on 30 mins to bring closure, Stephanie.
Not say anything or hold them accountable.. Yup
My 14 marriage in a nutshell.
Think she was sexually abused as a child too. Bounced between 4 relationships with 18 months.
😂 laughing bc my ex started dating his exs -friends😂😂😂and wanted to keep me around. He was so lost i even tried to remain frienda to help him but he never stopped to do any shadow work. I TOTALLY LOVE THIS SMART TALK❤ Stephani🎉🎉 you are an awesome lady life coach🎉
Thank you, Stephanie, for all your help! I truly appreciate your insights and knowledge on this subject. 😊💕
To also know that it's really not me and I know what's really going on, with their little controlling tricks.
I feel so much more in my own power!💪🏻😀😻💖✨️
Sorry but it is you. Healthy ppl don't stay in toxic relationships. "Rather than getting mad at the elephant poop ask yourself why you keep going to the circus."
All very interesting. I found another video on narcissists helpful, too. As an empath it's so hurtful to be treated so badly.
You are so correct on this topic I feel like this topic was just for me stay prayed up sister ❤
❤🎉 You are worth your weight in GOLD ❤️🥇🎉
So true thank you❤❤❤
We love you too baby girl Memphis TN loving your energy ❤
When she told me she’s seeing someone after weeks of breaking up, (likely sooner or even during being with me) I told her you were never into it. She paused. I hope I didn’t help her cope by her knowingly taking that false statement (evidently from im hearing this from this video) and really help her forget about me and she ofcourse didn’t correct me and wanted me to believe that. But then again, who ever does a narcissist actually ever be in to..
She got married to the guy before the lease was even up to the apartment that I had gotten for us
This video was so empowering. Im going to watch it 20 times. Lol
Find your work
Very Valuable !!!
Thank you for this video! The narcissist is living a lie it’s so sad & you’ve got to pray for them.
Omg this is what I’m experiencing.
I think other disorders do this too, such as complex ptsd, for one. It may have to do with lack of security or childhood neglect.
Your video’s is right on the money I went through a full cycle narcissist relationship for nine months, not knowing what it was. She became desperate and triangulated me as I was exiting
Now that I’m educated on narcissism I know with the signs and traits are
Enjoyed your video you’re super cute :)
Wow u are right in. My ex is just like what u describe. He was sooo bad. He gaslight, manipulated, lies so toxic I’m glad Ieft. Thank you.
Look, as we like or love people not for that good that they do for us, but for that good that we do for them, exactly same way we don't like people for the bad thing that we do for them. That why when anyone, even actually loving you, starting do you any harm, quite soon he (or she in most cases) will try to break all relationships completely, will blame you for that, will hate you and hurt you as hard as possible
I feel she switched from Anxious Preoccupied in the relationship to Fearful/Anxious Avoidant post breakup.
my ex (of 11 years together)did the same thing to her ex before that .. monkey branched to me .. I should’ve seen the red flag 🚩..
I do remember hearing of her ex’s hurt and actually felt sorry for him ..
he moved on, re married and even had a kid ..
now it’s my turn .. I’m not wanting any more kids; after 2 years of trying to heal from the hurt aka “suffering in silence” (common for many of us men) ~ training hard ~ getting into nature ~ contemplation has of course helped but those feelings do surface and I can’t move on easily ..
monkey branching is for monkeys ..
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Thanks, Stephanie.
My ex after 4 years, I wanted to fix things with her but heard nothing for 16+ days now despite giving them AUD $1k gifts and food. Probably both ADHD.
My situation was extra weird. While still married to me, he attempted to groom a single girl in the friend group. Even told her we were in an open marriage, a bunch of lies. Then, I found out what happened, she confronted him and that ended. I watched him cry like a baby over not being able to have her. Then, weeks later, he manipulated me again for the last time, before literally going to a coffee shop and starting a new relationship with the only girl that reciprocated. They have been together two years. So I guess he’s playing the victim like he did with me right? It’s so weird. Looking back now, he preyed on me for my interests, abilities, drive, and work ethic only to exploit and steal my identity. It’s just bizarre!!!!
Had like 150 microbreakups and now 3x2week+ breakups fml 4 years.
Mine woo die before this happens or realize she made a mistake
Will
I love you❤ thanks for all ur vids!💜
My girlfriend of 3-years has been seriously gaslighting me. This woman is 54-years old. I have caught her in a few lies. Everything is my fault. She projects onto me exactly what she does. This is the most perplexing situation I have ever experienced. She wants to get married but I refuse at this point. She calls me cheap after I paid for nice vacations and she lives at my house without paying for anything except for groceries. She has no soul.
Thank you so much ❤ well said Stephanie❤
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 Thank you going through divorce with my narcissistic soon to be ex-wife
Great to see your face 😍🤍