The Narcissist's New Relationship | Stephanie Lyn Coaching
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Everyone who has been discarded by a narcissist send them a thank you card. They have saved your life.
Did tell mine thank you :)
@@victoriadorgu3207 i need help o2herwise someone migh2 die
Am in the same situation
Actually don’t.
@@victoriadorgu3207 IT IS A FELONY W/O A WARRANT SIGNED BY A JUDGE
I can't believe there are so many of us who have been abused by these evil people. We need to band together and comfort one another. Thank you for this video.
@@tweetybabyfreak69 hey tweety, let's make it happen. Same. Happened to me about 2 months ago now. He moved away thank God. And out of my life. I will be very careful next time.
Yes for sure
@@tweetybabyfreak69 How would you like to reach out? Heres my Gmail, jonesfredrick94@gmail.com
214-574-8342
Yeh we should . N share our stories. Mayb we can even help each other
MV M i understand.. I don’t know what to do now because that guy is still hoovering and doing such things that makes me angry
Just remember... the narcissist's new person is just the next ex.
Don't give it any more thought.
I never give this scenario anymore thought EVER, I already stated GOOD GOD DAMN RIDDEN'S to unhealthy DEMONIC CRIMINAL SCUM , I wish them all the luck in the world because trust me when I say this but unfortunately THEY BOTH are going to need it .
Nothing but liars, thieves and bullies, they don't know what love means or honesty .
👋👋👋 Bye Bye Bye
Hahaha 😂😂😂
I just hope she figures it out and leave him before he hurts her too
And remember….that spot she took over…leaves a spot open for the NEXT 😂
I literally can cry. He made me feel like I was trash..
Girl he is trash , that’s why they want us to feel that way. You are a beautiful soul and he knows that.. it’s his lost not yours. What he thinks of you doesn’t define who you are. You will get through this.❤️💋💕
Sorry he made u feel like trash aren't u glad the trash took his safe out let's someone else recycled him I took was going threw this with kids involved 2 little ones I cut the cookie off 6 months ago tried 2 co parent with this man but isn't possible because he has sex on the brain so for the new year I will be changing my # I can't do anything but leave him with what his already been doing stalking me telling me he no I am with someone which is true but u shouldn't be riding pass my house 4:00 N the morning periodt but always we have love ourselves more than we love them
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You ain't trash. He needed you to feel like trash which is what he is
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The narcissist is always looking for new person to give them a ego Boost.
UNLEASHING POTENTIAL - PSYCHOLOGY VIDEOS they’re weirdo rejects to a large degree. Scary kinda. So abnormal ya know.
💩💬...so true the narcissist is typically an attention whore...and a control freak....male and female....by the way..🐨
👍
She is incredible
@@jiggywititjiggywitit9247 absolutely.
"That new person is just another character in their show."
Spot on!
Same script different cast!
James Muthiani like when they suddenly switched Darrins.
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later...
andymath89 right on the money my brother
Kelli R. Morris How much did it cost
Your rejection, is God's protection! Thank You! ♡♡♡
That is a good one!!!! AMEN
Thank you God.
Indeed this what it is.. God protecting u wisdom saves lives
Indeed! And I thank God daily because I did so much healing from my past wounds as a result of things he did to me during our relationship. I grew stronger and I ended the relationship. What a true blessing in disguise!
Angela Hamlett 🙌🏽
Being married and discarded like I never existed and cheated on and physically abused...literally feels like, I am a piece of trash on the sidewalk, that everyone has walked past 100x. THE MOST PAINFUL FEELING IN MY 29 YEARS ON THIS EARTH!
RHSSB I feel the same way except I was married for 42 years. He abandoned me last year. I am 69 years old and not in the best of health. It is the most painful and cruelest thing I have ever gone through. The Bible says you reap what you sow. I wish no evil on him but this is a law that God has set in motion. God sees all the evil these monsters have done to us and eventually the dealings of God will begin in their lives. It is a fearful thing. We married as Christians. As their was no biblical reason to leave me unless he repents he will be living in adultery for the rest of his life. I was praying for him but after hearing a video from a Christian life coach I stopped because it made me dwell on him again. I pray for my son instead. God be with you. It is a nightmare that I never thought I would be going through.
@@troyannbladsacker1811 survived 37 years....
@@mmommo10 God bless you.
I know it's painful but you have to understand they never going to change ..it's difficult
You have described me .. the pain and humiliation is so unbelievable.. seriously no one would believe this. I believe you.. I know others in my situation believe ..
but anyone out of the path of one of these cruel humans won’t get how DEEP the abuse has gone 😓🥹😭
They will praise the person to everyone only to abuse them in private. So sad
Very true
Definitely
Yeah that's what my ex's rebound doesn't understand yet. Poor bastard.
Omg...constantly. My ex told me how he praised me to his coworkers etc...but yet somehow I was so horrible 🙄
Alot abuse
It isn't painful anymore. I am free. I am at peace. My narcissistic wife doesn't deserve me. I do not consider it a loss, as I gave her too many chances, chances that she squandered. She made her choice and chose her path. To abuse. To lie. To manipulate. I am happy. I will be happier. She will never, ever, find happiness. It is her curse, a curse of her disorder caused by her toxic upbringing. It is not my responsibility to fix an unfixable person. I cannot feel guilt, as it is not my guilt to bear. I did my best, tried my best. I tried too much frankly. I am now far stronger emotionally. Yes, I have PTSD. Yes, I was injured psychologically, emotionally, and physically by this person. However I know the cause. I know the solution. I am on a path to healing. Yes, it took time to reach this point. A lot of time. A lot of self reflection. A lot of education, time, and honesty with myself. My wife is fake. A false person who lives in a make believe world of her own. A toxic world. A world I am now free from.
Gary Weston -GOOD for you.My wife of 13 years moved in w/her son(who I build houses with)about 200 feet away.She discarded about 7 mo.ago but said she's trying to work on"us".Last night was another night her car naver made it to the driveway...she's addicted to the bar scene again.The most painful part is the Grandson😔
i understand all of this ...grateful you are healed
Gary Weston That's where I'm at. I turn the tables and she ran scared.
"PRAISE GOD WE ARE FREE AND CAN HEAL NOW" 100%100%100%
I relate to your situation very much! Thank you for sharing those strong words
Being discarded is actually a good thing, in hindsight!
Yana Fallon it took me years to realize that. Getting away from him was the best thing that ever happened to me
Yes!
am so happy I was discarded, I tried blocking on all social media and phone but it only triggered so much anger and threats and he would force me to friend him and unblock, finally one week he said he was going to block me and surprisingly he DID.
You were not really “discarded” - you actually did the “discarding” by not playing the game and taking the abuse anymore
In my case i 2as a spare. But in reality thete were 4 plays going on. 2 big er on and 3 smaller ones.
"A narcissist is an opportunist." Best, most simple description that says so much in not so many words! Thank you.
So bloody true
My God it just all made sense!!
Totally agree. Narcassist always take advantage of any opportunity when they don't have to pay anything.
Indeed. Entitled and machevalian
You know what I realized? Even thinking that your narc is an opportunist and they could end up with something better is a residue of their gaslighting. They aren't that great of a catch, don't worry
It’s really a death. Yes. We actually had a funeral for the person I thought my ex was. This allowed me to mourn the loss of that fantasy person I loved, while maintaining the truth that I do NOT want anything to do with the actual human. It was very healing.
i think i need to do that
@Claudia Vlahović thank you. It is something I offer participants in my workshops. But you can totally do this on your own. I have found it to be amazingly healing. Blessings to you.
Maya Massar waw. So true. All fantasy. Its fake
Love thé concept
So sadly very true
I’ve always felt the discard was the biggest favor he ever did me👍
I would venture to guess it is the ONLY favor he ever did for you. :) @Taylor Lynn Hansen
I have said that exact same thing it was the biggest favor he ever did to me!
Me too I was dreaming about it
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That’s great. It’s a compliment if a narcissist leaves you. Never thought of it like that. Also if you have to leave the narcissist. You are giving yourself some value.
It is painful either way.
Was recently discarded by my wife for a guy she met through a dating app. It was the most painful feeling I've ever experienced. I'm so proud to have walked out on her. Took control of my own situation. She wanted me to stay home while she dates. How incredibly disrespectful. I'm on the road to recovery, made new friends, working out, and doing limited contact with her(we have children. I made a vow to take care of myself and children first, no one else. Despite her abusive remarks that are very painful, telling me she's happy with him and that I'm irresponsible. I've created a boundary that she couldn't possibly break. It's not easy on my end. I cry everytime. At the end of the day, I gained enough strength to finally leave the abusive person I really loved very much.
May god bless you man. Or whatever you believe in.
Boy how I know your emotional pain and that deep hurt and believe me I have cried a many tears and even these days I still get emotional hurting and cry. I feel for you and want to let you know that you are not alone. Only thru a lot of prayer have I been able to get some sanity back. Believe me they love it and get off knowing the pain and hurt they caused us. These are cruel evil people and it’s sad to see who you loved like no tomorrow try to destroy you in anyway that they can. God bless you
I will keep you in my prayers bro 🙏🙏🙏
We've loved them sincerely, they don't deserve it, they let us down for somebody else, stranger else, thinking that's is for their own interests, but the reality of curse they work against their own interests by leaving us. That's the karma. We can find someone real and we can be happy and content. They never will. Trust me in that. We win exactly in the moment that we have been discarded. You are a good person, a loving one, me too. I was very very kind to her, i make her my world and she left me, she discarded my brother too, he was a good friend too her, she has no shame, she told him i have to unfriend you because i am with a new partner, i have to be serious in this relationshit hhhhhhhhhhhhh. When she was with me she had a 1000 friend on social media. They are sick people. I'm not angry, not hurt, they are not normal people, when you heal you gone have pity for her, we wish them peace, they are broken children, they are a victim of their mind (mechanisms defences). That's the reality. You have to take a step back and see the situation like this.
Same
After 8 years of a loving relationship with a narcissist, I left. I left loving him, like I never loved another man. He went to a trip, I took him to the airport, we kissed, we made plans for me to pick him up days latter and I drove alone to my house. In my way home, something inside of me, bigger than me, said, this is it, I'm done. I never answered his phone calls, never gave him an explanation. The pain was horrible. I gosh him forever. Why so drastic? Because I was addicted to him and I knew if I talked to him, he would win me again. So I quit him, like I quit my addiction to cigarets, because I knew, they both will destroyed me at the end. I throw them to the garbage. Never looked back.
I understand what you’re going through, I’m sending you so much love, you are so strong 🌸
Wish I could do this.. we have kids together and married
Very Nice, good for you. God Bless you.
Omg I feel your pain. I walked away from my marriage still in love. But I couldn't do it anymore!!! She never apologized for anything. So I just walked
Amen! 🙏🏾
We live in a narcissistic society. Social media allows narcissistic people to get endless supply. All they have to do is post a new selfie and watch the supply pour in.
Yep. Low on fuel
People will say "pretty lady" because if you say nothing and scroll right past after they post themselves you're clearly disturbed.
oh man, is that true... my ex is a covert narcissist, and Facebook is her primary mode of baiting in new supply... It's insane how the net creepers just crawl out and beg to be "chosen",,, The irony is she thinks she's an "empath" - Maladjusted INFJ more like it.
They use social media and other platforms differently than the rest of us; I had little clue mine was using chat rooms when she mentioned them as we were splitting for her probably simply being unable to be alone, which made little sense, she is attractive and smart and can get anyone she wants, the trail of bodies making Stalin self-conscious.
Narcissism isn’t all about selfies though and there’s a difference between posting the occasional one and for self confidence purposes than posting frequently with your top half off etc very different. Especially if your single and no one around to take photos for you. Besides this a lot of narcissism does not relate to taking selfies. Look up covert / invert narcissism, my ex didn’t even like being photographed.
They know exactly what they are doing, it's planned out the day they saw you, the new supply isn't new supply they were there all along
Agreed
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I believe this as well...
@@johnnycivello362 Same boat. My ex wife did the same thing and recently have been spending more time together.
@@roryrichards9340 same here, infact my ex wife confessed that she was seeing her new supply way before our was born in 2018
A Narc doesn't even have a healthy relationship with their self therefore it's impossible for them to have a healthy relationship with others. It starts with self. Thanks for helping to raise awareness 🙏
My heart goes out to his new partner .its sad to think she has no idea what’s coming . They end yoor joy in life .
Stop that thought train now! Stop thinking about him. Stop empathizing with her. Focus on building your own life.
@@malindaallen718
thank you
I agree 100% with you
@@malindaallen718 I agree with you but after 14 yrs of being divorced he still tries to enter my life always in a negative manner
Thank that Jezabel for taking your narcissist she will make him miserable n treat him like a puppet thank God I had a profetíc dream n I see him destroyed at the end miserable lonely n his eyes dried out and crusted from crying n the woman put to shame . God of vengeance n justice for all of you who been thru this pain God will Avenge you in his time he’s in control
Reading these comments it is incredible how many hurt individuals are floating in a boundless sea of pain, misery, and suffering.
I hope people find peace in their lives in 2019.
Maaaan I'm here in 2019...am the new kid on the block, hurt, broken and trying to pull myself back up!
It's painful... Then finding out after years of struggling with these demons
For me it is a great comfort to know so many others actually have gone through what im going through. At least im not going crazy as he often tells me. Thank You for speaking up.
I’m a latecomer to this channel, and currently going through you-know-what. I hope all of you here are finding peace and moving forward, and away from the pain. Yes, we all deserve better. All of us. Maybe this is a gift to help us recognize this about ourselves. ❤️
I'm new to this channel, I found it awesome, I went to hell and back after my ex dumped me after a 27 year relationship, you have no freaging idea what I've been thru, I wanted to die, however I have since found a partner who was meant for me and I didn't ever think I could say this but what that narcissist did to me was the best thing that ever happened to me, I wish anyone who is reading this would please believe me that things happen for a reason and you WILL find someone a million times better
8:14 “When a discard happens it is actually such a compliment to yourself…”
this was the boost i needed
That is genius!
John Paradise discard by a narc means that they know they will not be able to abuse you again after this. It means they acknowledge your intelligence and boundaries which are stronger than their initial tactics.
@@eshadhanju4798
Then I am one of the happily discarded! 🙂❤️
John Paradise- me too.. feel so much relief that the mask is off but I question myself how could I let it happen at first place.
If they jump in a quick relationship if u ask me they been cheating with the person they got in a relationship with 🤷🏿♂️
That is true! That's why the narcissist can move on so fast. They are the prime example of having a plan B before leaving you.
@@winstonbanks1800 thats so true
I've heard it put when she leaves the relationship if she isn't already riding a new pony, she's at least picked out the one shes going to cut out from the herd
I look back and she was running around behind my back. Working on 2 jobs and stayed focused on life. 24 years old and $30,00].00 in the bank. Almost told her, but didn't. I am happy in areas that she didn't know about. Thanks Jody !!!!!!!!
Thanks Jody, you are the greatest, after Jesus. Its a crying shame . I see these creature's out here and they are a dime a dozen. Stay focused and on your mission. If and when a good human comes along you will see their quality. Group outings are great ! Watch and study your desire. More group outings. Ask friends and associates is she or he worth the money, time and or effort.
I dated a narcissist on and off for 3 years. Lack of empathy they discard everyone . It was brutal They need a constant supply that's why they bounce from person to person.
Very true
Two years after ending a narcissistic marriage with a child and being mostly healed from it. This is so true. I’ve saw my ex husband with his new wife at our child’s birthday and had a blast from the past and realized that he hadn’t changed at all. I realized that his very pregnant new wife looked the way I used to feel. It’s incredible. While I was shunned from his family at the party, I felt as though I was the happiest one there (next to a four year old with cake) and everyone knew it. The best part of all, I didn’t care at all.
Jen Lahr,you don't deserve to be with a narc 😈 cause you are too beautiful! 🌹🌷🌷
You go girl 👍🏾
Did his family turn on you and go cold? I had a 10 year relationship with one and caught her cheating. Her family turned cold really fast on me . Wanted to see if you had the same experience
@@babyjdad I don’t know. I wasn’t close to his family and semi couldn’t stand them.
The friends we had shunned me too. Even though they knew he was cheating and abusive. But thank God I know who they really are now.
Being discarded has been life changing. It has been the most difficult experience of my life. 18 years, a dream wedding, a dream house and two beautiful children only to be thrown away was heart breaking. HOWEVER, this experience has also been the catalyst for the life changing realizations that I really needed to connect with my true self. For those going through a similar experience with a selfish narcissistic please please keep watching these videos and maybe read a few books. But always learn and keep moving forward. Learn to find yourself once again and to love yourself once again. Heal your wounds from within.
Thanks Noel, I'm guessing that much like myself that you also had to walk away from your dream house and to somehow find the strength to start again alone?
We are in same boat buddy. Stay strong and love yourself first.
22 yrs of the same
18 years , 5 children, 5 c-sections...discarded for a 24 year old vile woman.
Now he wants me back, because hey! He is changed!
Oh well,
I am now Mrs A. FOREVER!!!!
YES!!! You hit the nail on the head! It was me finally living myself and seeing myself clearly that helped me leave!
When you said being discarded is like your partner has died that is so true! When I was discarded by my ex gf I was a wreck and a family member told me, “It’s not the end of the world, it’s not like someone has died” but to me it really did feel like that. Especially as I had the whole love bombing/soulmate/future faking show.
honestly things happen for reasons. choices
.. Rest of us deal with the damage while they move on..
The worst part is when they don't even understand how much wound they could cause and would proclaim that we are just over sensitive.. After more than a year of him moving on.. He had the audacity to check out on me saying that he want the best for me.. And that he pray for me to have the best things in life.. While he gave me all worst abusive emotional and physical damage during thos years with him.. So manipulative don't you think so?.. I suffered.. It was PTSD purely.. A grief over someone dead.. Because tbh we are finally out of the relationship whether they dump us or we leave them.. It doesnt matter. What matter the most is that we don't want to be with them anymore, but cutting them out of our life and cleaning those messed up trauma bonds when we ourself are wounded is a whole different thing.. Being dumped by abusive narcissitic ex is painful than us dumping them because if you are the one leaving them, at least you have some strength/support left in you to leave them. But if you stayed till the end, the damage to the ego and self-esteem is there as well.
Future faking and Gaslighting did it for me. 5 years...I left..
yeah I got that shit too. Like it sucks. awful I did everything for her mayb eI wasn't the wrong dude? I don't know....I really don't know. I can just feel teh toxicity even coming within her reach. It just oozes out of her, but she's young and immature so maybe she doesn't even know what she's doing. (I'm just giving her the benefit of the doubt ) but it's just weird being dumped LOL like I didn't see this coming. Felt VERY blindsided for sure VERY blindsided.....
It's the worst. I was discarded by my ex who monkey branched & overlapped. She was seeing another dude while still seeing me. Finally, just a ghost after still pretending everything was normal. Complete blindside with no closure. The thing that makes it the worst is she fell for a facebook orbiter that we have known for decades. He claims to be an empath, but he didn't have any empathy for me. Good luck orbiter. Get ready for the big show.
My ex discarded me and went straight to his ex..The discard was a blessing.
Narc Alert my ex did the same thing
@@hotrodbuddies7379 We are better off. The trash took itself out...
Mine too
Narc Alert lol so did mine. I was his third wife..he discarded me to go back to his first wife. I'm sorry but I now understand and find it amusing and pathetic.
Ron Krofta so did mine !!!
“You loved yourself enough to say ‘no matter how much i love you, i love me first and im not putting up with this anymore’ and no matter how many times you went back and forth you at some point stood your ground and said ‘i deserve better and im gona get better’” this really hit home for me.
exactly what I did!
I think the thing that haunts me the most is that he claimed he loved me the most, we had known each other long time, families knew each other all sorts of entanglements in life. Yet I know that he gave others in past things I wanted...I got dirt and crumbs. I know he wont change.
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I dont love no o e
I can't let go of the fact I was so stupid to fall in love with such a heartless, soulless human being. I can't let go that he is this way... fml
Lindsey Fette, you deserve better
They pretended to be kind empathetic, in order to get you to love them, before they showed their true self....
I am so thankful for these videos. I had my first discard and serial narc, didn't know I have a pattern of attracting narcs! At least I'm not alone and it is making me stronger. 💪
@@dmarie11385 it was the hardest thing I've ever been through, loving a narcissist. They are pure evil...
I'm suffering for 6 years from my monster evil narc. He walked away from me many times but I still wanna be with him. I love him so deeply😭
Was discarded by a covert narc. Was so hooked by that shell of a human’s charade that I nearly hit rock bottom. But I soon realized my life did not fall apart, it actually fell in to place. I can’t believe how much energy I have, how much clearer thinking I am and most importantly every day I look in the mirror I see a more beautiful, and healthier man than the previous day. Their endless selfishness actually did save my life. What a crazy paradox 🙌🏼
This literally just hit my heart right where I needed it to, my narcissistic ex of 7 years just moved onto his new supply and is doing EVERYTHING YOU DESCRIBED.. flaunting her all over “she’s the one “ blah blah .. and my ego was hurt, but you are RIGHT, it never was love, or respect. It was all an act. And I am in this healing state where I’m really trying to be kind, and patient with myself, and KNOW I deserve so much more. Thank you again.
They are diseased, but will never be able to identify that they have ISSUES. .. he was always right. Lol.. just crazy how eye opening this has been. Ignoring ted flags, dismissing my intuition.. NEVER AGAIN. Keep your videos coming, knowledge is power. Thank you, you are a light l.
Same situation! Ghosted me after almost 7 years for someone he says he met in county jail?! In all actuality im much better off without him but I have to co-parent with this man which makes this so much harder!! I was never given an explanation an apology nothing! He is 150% a narcissist!
The new relationship won't last, it's a broken record or a never-ending story.
💩💬...the new partner...is just a new victim....
Courtney Blake I’m right where you are right now. I’ve been screamed at I’m figuring out it was because she made him feel all this great emotional awesomeness that I made him feel bad for who he was or did when all I’ve ever done is love him I was a mom and wife I took care of them. But when he wanted to start his own business I got a job once then another time I started school to have money to pay the bills so he could continue his business. If he worked a factory job he couldn’t deal with someone who was over him and told him what to do. So I did whatever I needed to make him happen. I’m tired of the hurt I’ve prayed and prayed for God to be in control.
Keep an eye on someone that doesn't clap when you win a battle for them.
sbcruiser2 Ong that's so true been there
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Thats the greatest piece of advice
really well said... bravo.
That part where you mentioned "Discard feels almost like a Death", I resonated with that a lot. I remember when it actually happened to me a year ago, I couldn't describe what I was feeling to a friend. But the word "death" felt so accurate and apt, so I just said "it feels like death". It was so painful. Something just snatched away from me.
Exactlyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!
The same here....8 months ago...still healing. The shock to my system was horrible...death indeed
Exactly the same here! Just made a comment about that actually
Yesss
In a way it is a death.
Not only the assassination of a relationship, it leaves you to re-build an empty (but peaceful) life from the bottom up. I have harboured my love for him for 50+ years.
But pointless!
They cant bare to be alone ever. Cause their lack of selfhood is unbearable. Your discarded cause another ( with low self worth) is ready. Poor in soul. Rejection is God's protection. Your blessed to be free.
THEY REPEAT THEIR CRAP TO THE NEXT VICTIM AND THE NEXT......NO Loyalty to ANYONE.
What a very good thing to be away from all of it!!
Their soulmate??... is with themselves... and the Mirror. Lol
Carol Loraine My ex always preached on how he wanted someone loyal like constantly and he couldn’t be further from it. When he had it in me he didn’t want it and took advantage of it.
Kelli R. Morris This is a COMPLETE SCAM, they will ask you to send money, DO NOT contact these fake people
@@victoriadorgu3207 get the fuck off the channels, y'all fake asses ain't nobody giving y'all no money
Apple don't fall straight from the tree
Carol Loraine why do they use that word- soulmate. That’s what he insisted the new person was and I was a nightmare.
This is so true!! My heart was shattered. Almost 2 years later and I’m just starting to heal!
4 years still haven't heal and he got married to someone else.
@@monah3477 just remember that won't last and good redden
I want to break away in my head We do not live in same city.Every day I get stronger!
It's been almost 9 years. And I'm still healing from that abuse.
@@thea9307 wow! I am so sorry. How long were you with the beast for? Sending you mighty strength
I’m not going to lie.. I know my pain is no different than anyone else who has been in this type of abusive relationship but this video has been the only thing that has helped me get through my darkest thoughts. The level of understanding she has helped me see is the closure I needed to really end the cycle I was in. I hope anyone reading this stays strong and I send you love.
Totally agree with you! 10 years 2 beautiful kids raised hers aswell. Still sees me as his dad ironic that and says he's moved out because he can't take her behaviour and I'm the bad one lol. Sleep deprivation. Anxiety depression loss etc etc. Stephanie's videos are soothing
Thank you. This was the advice I needed. I am starting to wake up to the real facts now.
Just got discarded after 9 years of up and downs in my narcissist relationship. I feel like I gave my all but in the end it still wasn’t enough. Thank you for these videos. ❤️
WOW! Mine was only a year & one half. From so many I have heard about, I was one of the luckier ones. I hope you are now doing well and don't fall back into their "trap". Watching these videos has helped me immensely!
It was enough for you and for the right person but for the narc never
omg girl SAME. tried literally everything. Wasn't enough.
Michelle, 15 years with my Toxic Ex Narc Girlfriend.The more I gave the Less I got. Guess what its there LOSS. Believe and Move on. They don't deserve Us.
Pray you find you! And stay smiling trooper!
Don’t open their social media. Don’t even see your blocked list. They will flaunt their new supply. Self control is the key. Don’t ever look back until you fully emotionally detached. Understand more about NPD abuse and healing co-dependency. November was the 4th time I got hoovered back. I’ve learned so much from the previous discards. Burn the bridge. No contact forever!!!
Same here Nov 3rd..
Sukhi Rai keep moving forward! 💪🏽💕
Beloved Royalty Yaz💪🏽💝
Even once you are emotionally healed, if you have zero reason to look at their social media (such as pictures of your child together, if that!) DON'T DO IT.
Why put yourself through any of that...
GiGi
You’re right😊
Just remember, the new person is very apt to be jealous of YOU. They hear all about how bad you were, but also how good you were. Just as you learned everything about those who came before you the next one will learn about you.( "Oh she used to get me a cake at work for my birthday", She liked the ear rings I got for her, why don't you?") Give them time, they will hear how wonderful you were just as how awful you were.
Sooo trueee
Honestly very true!
💯truth
Pat Manchester this is so true
Pat Manchester wow!! I didn’t know that. The new woman told me all the awful things he said about me. She also threatened me not to talk to him anymore too. Two crazies lol
Going through it right now and I have to say it’s the most saddest thing I’ve ever felt.
Victoria, how are you doing now? Yes, the sadness can be overwhelming. Healing comes with it's ups and downs. My ex showed his true colors and it was quite ugly. Despite this, my heart is deeply saddened for him. No matter how much I think that I hate him, I just can't. My eyes are fully open but I see a lost, pathetic, and doomed man. He is responsible for his actions. How did I expect him to treat me well, when he has no self respect. I wanted to shake him, wake him up from this negative reality that he is in. They bring themselves down and try to take you with them. As the saying goes, misery likes company.
@Robert Drake...The support of caring people helps with the healing process.
Are you okay sweetie it is tough!!! But you WILL get through it !
it heartsssssss
The most healing phrase was told to me by my ex's mother: "Baby, I know it hurts." Just acknowledging my feelings was more healing than people who would say "let me know if you need anything" but not actually do anything to help me.
Holy shit "no matter how weak you are they could never break you down." Mind blown
That’s what I said
🌼🌿God Gave Me The Strength To Walk Away 🙏
Me too, but I ran like HELL🏃♀️💨💨💨💨💨💨
Same x
Congratulations
Same here.
"Worship me or burn in pain forever" is the ultimate narcissist.
To anyone reading this, a narcissist does not need to stay in your life. Protect your self-confidence, self-worth and mental health. Thank you so much for this important video.
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I shutdown my narcissist before I even knew he was one. He almost broke me, had me confused and saying I need mental evaluation lol
Whatever he thought of me, that's what he was.
Thank God I'm a strong person. I'm not going to block him, I'm leaving him there for him to see how happy I am
Mine told me to get help too..and I actually thought I needed it and went!! How sad is that?
Exactly and they project themselves that way.
Yep.. So did mine. He said I need medication. And that I have problems. They really want to plant seeds to make you believe you've lost your marbles. Thank GOD! he discarded me!! It hurt because no one has ever done that to me before. But a huge weight was lifted and I have my life back again. NO MORE NARCISSISTIC SUPPLY.
Sammy Rhee Rhee good for you
Lol she said i needed a therapist and i was like - Really I need a therapist and i didnot say anything coz i knew if i told her that she is the crazy one as she had been told by others it would hurt her real bad. I stayed quiet . And then somehow i came over the subject of narcissism and i swear to god she matches almost all criterias , like 95% of all that i have read and heard.
Because I’m an empath and I’m always forgiving, I continuously watch these videos , so I do not forget the evil the CN Ex GF bestowed upon me. Thank you Stephanie for all that you do!!!
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I know it will get better, but at the moment, it is painful.
Same here, Logan! It is very painful. Getting no explanations or an "im sorry" or a sign that he is even hurting at all!! And i still have to see this man because we have a child together 💔
So very painful!! I'm currently 8 months pregnant by one and he recently got a new gf and he's flaunting her and looking so Happy and content. I'm second guessing myself so much. I hope things get better soon.
It hurts like nothing else. I've been cheated on, lied to, everything you've seen in romcom. nothing hurts like a covert female narc.
prayers prayers and more its not you it them ........ as soon as you accept this you be fine I got over my narc husband of 5 years in 2 mos..... I loved him and still have a some love for him but I love GOD and ME more .... you are pretty ... MOVE ON..... Narcs hate positive strong people .....
@@nursevee76 Thank you for the encouragement :)
Last night was a sleepless nightmare, imagining him with his new supply, living happily ever after. All the while convincing myself that I must have been the problem.
This video was a God-send, a reminder that I am concocting an unrealistic fantasy about how things are with him in his new life without me. Thank you, Stephanie. I feel so much more at peace after listening to what you had to say. ❤
@Robert Drake thank you
You are not the problem.
Pain is just weaknesses leaving the soul.
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You got this.
You are fearfully and wonderfully made.
Melanie G, you deserve better
I'm shattered and crushed. Somehow I will survive this.
Stay strong and keep your head up
Time is your best friend, you'll come out wiser and stronger. The worlds full of not so good people, your eyes are open now.
Nekoda Phillips you will just know ur worth u deserve the best and much more than them u deserve love .. bless up rebuild ur self you can do it I believe in you :)
You are sooo much better than that narc!!! They brainwashed you and now you have to clean your system out!!! Meditation and spoiling yourself are great things i used to get over my thoughts of inadequacy
Of course you will survive
It does take time
Take one day at a time and heal with these videos and knowing you are not alone !!!!!!!!!!!
Look forward
Be strong
Sounds about right.
He got with someone a few days literally after our "breakup" and my gut was telling me something was off.
Mine too
but they been there my ex had to gfs i didn’t know about lol now i know and i’m cool with it he says you acting different you gonna fight etc. i said nope i am different this is after he cheated on her with me before i knew he had a gf
Mine too 😭
Always always trust your intuition. My intuition radar is so freaky accurate...never wrong. When my gut says something is off...YEP!!!
Mine was 3 weeks later. I think he wanted to make me jealous. I showed no reaction.
Especially when they didnt take any time to heal in between they just immediately move on.
Yes! I felt like the women in his life just had different faces.
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I'm so glad that I found you on here! I was recently discarded from my narcissistic husband of almost 2 years. He is currently seeing someone. It happened as soon as he kicked me out. The past few months have been like a nightmare dealing with all the temper tantrums. Being discarded did hurt but it is a blessing in disguise. I am still struggling but I have supportive family and friends, and even his family that are helping me get through it. When I first started watching your videos I was so shocked to hear you. It was like you were living with me and knew my husband. It's sad and nice to know I'm not alone. Your words are very encouraging. 💜
We are not alone… We have all experienced the same thing.. or perhaps similar to what you have.
I was discarded after 31 years together (25 married, 2 kids), the supply was someone she met at work and knew a few weeks. He has he of 2 relationships with married women, but both eventually dumped him. It’s a very long story but the lies, the emotional, psychological and in the end physical attacks on my son and myself was enough. She stood in court and refused the judges orders to have shared custody of daughter. When she left the final time on her own ( I had kicked her out twice) she screamed that WE , the kids and I ruined her life. She filed for divorce, I countered and she paid me 2.5 yrs of child support. Anyway there is a lot more details but the point I want to make is I found a forum back in 2009 ( the nightmare started in 2008) run by a life coach that saved my sanity. I listen to many narc videos but especially like Stephanie. I am almost 10 yrs post discard, 8.5 yrs post divorce, remarried, dug out of the financial pot she left me with, my kids have graduated college and have great careers, and are on their own, and in hindsight her dumping me was the best thing for us. My son has not seen nor have any contact with his mother for 8.5 yrs. Her mental status is worsening and lives in a concocted fantasy land. She married the jerk 3 yrs ago, has moved 6x, lives in a rental house, works 2 jobs, he works for minimum wage, he is broke, lives off her, and she finances fantasy land with 17 credit cards. Her mother and younger sister are both similar but they are not financially abusive. I did a lot of counseling with therapists, but the best info was from the forum I found and videos from folks like Stephanie. I have been no contact for almost 6 yrs, but hear about her thru grapevine. There is hope and life after the nightmare
We're on the same situation. . It's really painful, until now I can't move on. ..
Steve Baxter story of my life too. My ex husband eventually took his own life last year. He was on wife #6 at the time. I was #2. We divorced in 1992 but the pain he inflicted, not only to me was monumental. Financially he owed me back child support, lost his parents home to a loan he received and never even tried paying back, hurt many people in different ways through out the years and blamed #6 for his death. Never apologized to his kids or said he loved them. Matter of fact, didn’t even mention them in his suicide letter. Anyway, best of luck to you. It’s not so bad being dumped by a narcissist. 😃
Im currently going through separation from my narc husband. He was having an affair with this woman for over 2 months and he only told me he was finished with me just over 2 weeks ago.
I had to find out for myself about this other woman and the truth of their relationship. the amount of lies were unbelievable! To my face! Repeatedly! After giving him chance after chance to just be honest!
He has since kicked me out of our home, I've got our 2yr old daughter with me at my dad's house and he has moved his new girlfriend and her daughter into our home straight away!
Now he is demanding that i give him our daughter. It's like he has worked it so he has everything he told me he wanted to leave but now has only replaced me... and left me out with nothing and blames me for being at fault
Im still struggling with how to cope. I haven't even seen a lawyer yet and I'm so scared of what lies he is going to come up with in court.
Right now, all i can think about is keeping my daughter safe. I could care less about the house right now but im still scared of what is yet to happen.
God please give me the strength to walk away & heal. This is so true and makes me so sick.
I discard my narcissistic almost a year ago, I hate him, when I see him it triggers me , the ptsd is so strong , us I have Bpd, he has a new gf I know her , she has a lot of problems, I feel heart broken all over again, why , I want to heal .
Me too
EXACTLY! We get to a place where we are no longer with them. It’s brutal to cut the cord because it’s almost like an addiction. Once I was done I was DONE.
It is a addiction. Look into this. The chemicals released in your brain during a abusive relationship are as potent as heroin and cocaine.
Exactly
Yesssss
Rejection then become a BLESSING....🙏
@@victoriadorgu3207 That's great! all these past 4 years..my ex narcs and accomplices kept hacking my docs WA etc and libel n blocked my ip.thnx
Being discarded hurts like crazy. I like that you shared a perspective that I had been feeling. That I was discarded because I'm NOT weak, but stood in my true self and couldn't be "broken". Thank you, Stephanie. Your channel has become a part of my gaining the wisdom I need to continue growing, loving, and filling myself with the love I deserve!
❤️
Christina Door, you deserve better
God Bless you and thank you for your life
God is using you very well
Praying for you
I haven't been able to move forward. I take 1 step forward and then take 2 back. It's the most painful experience of my life
Julia Vega, you deserve better
Julia Vega,you deserve better 🙏🙏🙏
its been 6 months since u posted this comment and im wondering how are u doing now?
Como vc esta agora ??
You are a beautiful soul and you deserve better, seek God and he will help you. ♥️
I just came out of a very abusive narcissistic relationship. When you said that they will move on and stay in a longer relationship to show the outside world it's not their fault something clicked: he always wanted to hide me/the relation from everyone, even mutual friends and he said it's because he has had many relationships and wanted to see where it goes before making it public. This never made sense to me but now I see that it's because he didn't want anyone to know for when he'd discard me, just as he did with his many previous relationships. Luckily, I started setting those boundaries really fast and let him go.
Exactly to the T of what my ex did and said to me. Always keeping me on a distance string. Well let’s see where it goes and every time I pushed for counseling she would pull away and before you knew it she was saying you want a divorce you want a divorce. It was the most hellish relationship I’ve ever experienced.
I was cruelly discarded by my ex narc for his ex wife ( they were married and divorced twice) whose name is Stephanie.
It is difficult to see your name however I continue to watch you because your information is more important than your name. This alone shows how far I have come in my healing process .
Same. Was discarded for his wife that he kept hidden from me for a while. She had the audacity to try to come at me tho 😒
Same. Was discarded for his wife that he kept hidden from me for a while. She had the audacity to try to come at me tho 😒
Love this comment
You are getting through this
Absaloutely understand
That probably is a trigger for you
But recognizing it is key and your already there
Isn’t that weird. I now detest the name Olivia because that’s who I was discarded for. No offence to any Olivia’s reading this, I’m sure you’re lovely. It’s just one of the many f’d up things that happens to us as a result of toxic people.
I’m sure my exes ex detests my name to.
I truly know that he had a new supply because of the way he talk to me and the demands that were way off the charts he was love bombing his new supply
prepping her while he was gaslighting hovering and discarding me! Listening to these videos help me daily 🙏🏾
"Kick me when I down" is his favorite. Well, hurting me in ANYWAY, and EVERY WAY, He has told me "He gets off on making me suffer."
You see to these people when someone suffering and they caused it it really makes him feel important. That sounds so sick and twisted but that really is the reality. Are you reacting in anyway with that anger or pain or suffering that feeds into the ego that they matter and they exist.
DUMP. HIM.
Mine used to come home and tell me the details of his cheating just to see me get upset, which he would then later say was proof I was too emotional and clingy.
Michelle Bourdon WOW.....AND U R DROP DEAD GORGEOUS!
Lose the Loser and never look back!!
The pain will be in the past....leave it behind and focus on YOU! 😉
I’ve left an emotional abuse relationship after 31 years. The narcissist spouse is with “the other one” and pretends he’s not. I was discarded, rejected and abandoned by him. Your RUclips channel has helped more than words can say. So grateful I found topics that I’m experiencing and have lived through. I will continue to learn so I can move on into healthier relationships and to NEVER repeat the same mistake of thinking I found my soulmate. Thanks Stephanie 🙏
You 100% described my exhusband. The more I learn about this, the more clarity and closure I have. Thanks for sharing!
SO ironic seeing this video, perfect timing..i'm currently going through this and kept questioning and blaming myself over and over! Your videos have honestly been a life saver for me and i'm not even exaggerating. Thank you!
You are the best ,the truth about us victims and why this happened to all of us so now we are angels with broken wings,although with the knowledge we get from you ,im sure wel all be flying again in time ❤thank you so much x and we are the champions😊
The truth is to some degree we was made to feel like vermin although its there fked up body and brains that make them forever sewer rats ,god love em👺
Play the queen song ,death on two legs its there song ,so listen to the lyrics and enjoy
Finally, after 5 years, figured out what I was up against!! Can't believe I didn't figure it out sooner!!! Thank you for the huge eye opener!!! She was the narcissist in our relationship and it was HORRIBLE
It took me a year after my toxic relationship shit with my ex which she left me tho, finding out that she recently started dating someone else kinda made me feel sad tho, but I'm at peace now, the thing about being empathic damn, I guess it's both a blessing an curse to see the best in people
It took me 23 years
The fact that I'm getting this brand new information now when I am in the middle of leaving a toxic person is so overwhelming for me. I didn't even know there is a name for this type of behavior even though i knew thus had to be some form of mental illness. Oh my God. I cannot express to you how much this new information kind of just makes sense and it's putting everything into perspective and you are helping me heal. God bless your channel.
3 yrs later she contacted me. Now with someone else, and he was the “perfect man” --but still wanted to connect. Narcissists don’t change.
Hurt people, hurt people! So true. Love your videos and would love a free session 😊
I dont know how to move on from the trauma. Its like half of me is dead. He destroyed my life. 💔😭
It will get better trust the process in time you will heal it may take a while but fully feel the pain so you can find the love you deserve
You are alive. He missed out on a beautiful person and you did not have children or waste your life with someone who would never appreciate you without deliverance.
Pray and ask for God’s help.
One day at a time.
Be thankful!
Been there, just keep living, in time your pain will be manageable.
@TV Eyes Salvy why for him its still my fault. He did this and that because of me.
@TV Eyes Salvy until n ow he keeps on coming back... how can I stop being kind to him
When the narcissist moves on to their new supply, thinking they've won the first place trophy, it's only to their own demise when they realize that their first place supply - turns out to be a "participation " medal.
I’m glad I married a narcissist, she showed me how much I should love her ❤️ JUST FROM A DISTANCE!!
You are to sweet. I love the wisdom you have. I find you to be one of my life's greatest blessing God has placed in my life. You have helped me personally more than you will EVER know. I have no support system, so I'm addicted to your channel. I'm so happy I found you!
My narc made sure I cut my best friends out of my life so I’m in a similar situation with nobody to talk to!
Michelle Bourdon how do you deal with no support system
Michelle Bourdon you are very beautiful ❤❤❤⚘⚘⚘⚘🌹
No support system either 🙋🏾♀️
43 yrs of abuse. last 7 years hell. I had no idea he was gas lighting narcissistic sociopath. He attacked me for last time and finally pressed charges. He has MY Family and children believing I attacked him. This would have been thrown out of court cuz of he said she said. BUT I AUDIO TAPED the attack. ur videos are amazing and have helped so much. I am a survivor
I wasnt that smart. Instead he would push me to da point untill i snaped than he would recourd me defending myself n going crazy. Fucking psycho. I do wish i can just disappear from him.
So your family still believes YOU attacked HIM, even after you audio recorded the attack?...
I was the new person at one point for her. When we met she was 2 months out of a "toxic and abusive" relationship. We lasted 8 years, engaged for less than 1, she discarded me. She'll keep the cycle going though, what Stephanie is saying is 100% true!
You have been a tremendous help to me. I just ended a 33 year marriage that seemed to be fine but then turned horribly bad the last 4 years. Hard thing is we work in the same office, it was supposed to be a temporary job for him.
Debbie Wright, so sorry to hear about your situation. You are a very strong woman obviously. God bless you. Remember your strength of character. I'm dealing with a narcissist as well, by distancing myself as much as possible (yet I also have to deal with this person in daily life).
Debbie, your comment caught my attention. I am so sorry you are going through this. I, too, have left a 37-year marriage. It is extremely painful at this stage in life, but with the Lord’s guidance, we will get through it. God be with you.
My parents ended their relationship same length as yours and honestly in hindsight it was the best thing for them
Should of told him to work somewhere else, you just saw too much of eachother
This video literally had me in tears. EXACTLY what I needed to hear.
Never forget when I first start dating the narc he kept asking me “what do you have to offer me ? “ lol I should have ran for my life 🤦🏻♀️
Haha same he asked me the Same 🤦🏻♀️
I was with a woman who kept asking me that. She kept saying I have nothing to offer. It hurt since I really liked her.
Mine kept asking if I was sure I liked him, so in not so many words, “please stroke my ego, I need constant validation, please coddle me.” I should’ve run too.
My ex narc female said the same thing to me. I made more money than her, I was more stable than her, but I was always less intelligent, had less knowledge or skills, it beat me down.
@@nikolasimag9947 I was RIGHT there with you. My ex narc said the exact same thing to me and I know how it hurts.
when you said " you loved yourself enough to say 'no matter how much I love you I love me first and I'm not putting up with this anymore"
That hit home. The day I finally called her out on her emotionally abusive tactics and told her something has to change because this can't continue that was the day I got discarded.
They're inconsiderate when it comes to your feeling...i had an ex that kept on keeping me in the grey area where nothing was clear...when I asked what was it that was going on, He either lied down and slept or started organising his room...and it followed by me crying and him coming up to say "you're mine, don't worry, give me some space".... I know what giving space feels like... This was the guy I had given my everything to and I needed assurance ... I never got any.... Been through all the verbal and emotional abuse when I tried to stand for myself.... He discarded me told me that I was the problem, I caused him trauma, that I was there with him for benefits, that I was the one harassing him ...He got into a new relationship, and yes not only he discarded me for standing for myself he kicked and spat my emotional spot... It took so much of time for me to come back for I had lost my connection with myself... I have cried for months day and night with blue and greens on my body.... Now with each day I feel like I am being saved by God as I've walked away, blocked him and moving on
It really made my heart smile to know I love myself enough to no longer endure such torture. You’re right his silent treatment and punishments show I’m not giving him what he wants. He hasn’t fully left yet but he also doesn’t know I already have. Thank you. ❤️🙏🏾💯
This video is spot on! Quickly moving into a new fantasy to show the world! Yes remember the person was not healthy and balanced enough to be in a relationship.
damn, OMG this was an eye opener....i stood my ground, and got discarded...blessing in disguise!
Yep, that happens when you set boundaries.
You really made my day confirming that narcissists can’t change. I dated a narcissistic sociopath- he even admitted the sociopath part. You are right these people are pure evil the one I dated was. No matter how it looks on the outside it’s inner turmoil on the inside and it won’t last
Its inner turmoil in us when they are around the deeper you get in
I was discarded by my ex and I was thinking I was in such a dark place. It didn't help that she found someone so quickly after and kept making me feel bad for being sad. Saying things like I wasn't there for her or that I didn't take her out enough. Thank you for all of your videos, they are helping me understand the situation I was in and I'm making sure I don't fall for this kind of stuff ever again. I just feel sorry for her new "toy" and I hope she never tries to come back to me. I won't and don't hold any grudges but she ain't gonna find the same person that she controlled for so long, so thanks again ^^
Your videos on this topic have been incredibly eye opening. The fact that I was blind to what was happening to me for so long is shocking. I was with someone that was exactly what you described. The beginning of the relationship was amazing. Slowly but deliberately that mask came off it was just slow enough that I was never fully aware of what was happening. When you speak about the inability to have emotions that was exactly the way she was. The emotional abuse was the worst part, and the fact that she could never admit that she did or said something wrong. My eyes were flown wide open shortly after she left when she told me she was treating me terribly so that I would either leave her or give her a good reason to leave me. That level of manipulation floored me. The day I finally called out what she was and what she did was the day I really started to heal.
I've learned so much! I love how you say " being discarded is a compliment" I see it as a blessing in disguise. the ex narc discarded me and cycled back to his first wife. in retrospect he so obviously uses the same pattern. I now understand why I was love bombed and why I was discarded. I am totally too smart, too strong, too everything for him. he's nothing but an insecure, miserable, jealous coward. yes, at first I was devastated but as I understood more about covert narcissists and at my own issues I need to work on it became clearer and I began to find peace. thanks for a great video. I'm now a new subscriber.
"AMEN& PRAISE GOD"
Thank you for your help in this difficult time. I'm getting there. I'm feeling stronger. She didn't discard me. She set me free. I need to keep believing this and taking forward. Good luck to you all.
validated and reaffirmed all that I endured in a toxic relationship, so nice to know that I am empowered and that I stood my ground and protected myself from a manipulative narcissist.. thanks Stephanie.. :)
Very good information. The discard is just the beginning of my freedom! So many things I will not miss about my ex.
This is exactly what I needed to hear after a terrible Christmas break with the ex throwing his gf in my face every single time we had to discuss the kids. Thank-you for posting. I need to remember how truly disgusting he is as a person. I hope the gf gets out before he ruins her life
Such a good point about narcs not being able to empathize even at movies. My ex narc is a celebrity comedian who gets teased by his friends bc he cried at a children’s movie but even he articulated that it wasn’t because of th movie, it was because he was watching it with his son when he had watched it as a kid with his abusive mother so it made him reflect on what a GREAT dad and person he is. All about him
I can't stop crying while watching these videos! I lost 8 years of my life and 4 years of battling over kids. Our kids have no clue what a "happy healthy family" should look like
Melissa Berman I don’t think my kids will ever see a happy healthy family as to he rush into a new relationship quick his words he loves her and it’s deep love loved that I never felt my God when I read them words and he talking about her makes me think, but I slowly start being positive.. I can’t believe how he’s so in love like he says with only knowing her a few months do you actually think this girl gonna take him seriously she too has kids and she looks young once he no longer has the money to take her out to dates because that’s what she is in for he certainly not taking her and her kids just her so once he gets tired paying all the concerts, dinner and hotel she gonna discard him..
Melissa Berman 6 years of my life!
I'm so sorry for your pain, I understand, I'm going through it right now and I have an 8 month old with him and just like that, a day after we broke up cause I said I'm done too, he's already with his new supply and I'm left her trying to pick up the pieces. He was so sick, after the love bombing, it all went down hill, he was verbally and emotionally abusive, so cruel to me for no reason at all but would blame it all on me! I fell prey and started to lose my self-esteem and self confidence, everything! But I went to counseling because he kept saying it was me, that's when I started to open my eyes, he was awful to my 4 year old daughter and I just couldn't do it anymore, he was nothing but misery and anger under that mask he wore! After him stonewalling me so many times, and him breaking up with me, but then not, so many times, I finally told him I was done! He physically hit me twice when I was pregnant, it was the most horrible experience! They do things to confuse u, one min it seems like they love u, the next min. They treat you like shit on a stick...it's better this way though, I don't need to raise my child with him having control over me, I can always be the one of strength and reason! Keep strong, keep learning about this, so u know what to do when he comes around cause u have kids together, get some outside help for yourself and your kids! Your not alone!
Melissa Berman 🙏🏼🙏🏼
I saved a lot of money and stress being discarded.. If you can get over the separation anxiety quickly you are definitely going to appreciate having your peace and sanity back.. I pray y’all are fortunate to get out before having kids or getting married like I did.. From the nightmare I experienced I can only imagine how much worse it could of gotten for me.. I dodged a huge bullet and I am more than thankful and blessed to have.. Let them go and allow them to find someone else to do it to.. Karma will find them but I will not be there to see it..
I think they'll get worse. We'll probably see them in a news report.
@@debimary6812 At this point if she ends up on the news I most likely won’t see it.. I don’t even watch TV.. The thought of her still come to mind everyday but I finds ways to shake it off because all it is now is just a day dream and all I would be doing is hurting myself by selling myself false hope..
What I’m
Intrigued about, is if (us) genuinely was a extremely nice person to them and gave them everything and said all the right things. Will they see it one day and go F*ck!! ? And by then it’ll be too late
@@Rodderz1 yeah I agree. I believe she’ll regret the loving I gave her. The shoulder to cry on. The money, the kids I have her. The stability. Future plans, the security. The genuine honesty. I just plan on having some satisfaction later down the line on her agreeing she regrets
@@Rodderz1 thank you so much for these replies! You didn’t need to spend your time messaging a stranger but you did! It means a lot.
Thank you for making this video. I’m 5 years free from the narc. He’s still with the “new supply” (recycle really), and still look happy. Am starting to question myself again and found this video. Needed to hear this. ❤️
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I can’t believe that a person can treat someone so horrible 😞 Thank you Stephanie you are so inspirational thank you so much 🙏🏾
I’m Finally getting away from my daughter’s extremely sociopathic ‘mother’. I ask for prayers for my little girl and I as we go through this.
TIA
So glad I saw this video. My ex is a narcissist. We were married 30 years. I allowed him to get by with things because he was abused as a child. I knew he had issues. So I gave in to much of his needs. After 30 years I said enough you will never get better. Main issue was keeping us covered in debt. My goals were to get the house paid off, save money for retirement. He would never stop buying. Around our 30th anniversary he said being out of debt has never been my life goal. I said what?? So he had been just going along with me through all those years pretending he was in agreement. So finally the light bulb moment happened for me. I planned leaving and while he was out of town I took my half of everything in the house and left. There is more to it. But I knew he would never let me go. When divorce had come up in the past he always told me I would never get anything out of the house. He would bust it all up first. So the only way was to sneak out like a thief in the night as he put it. Anyway, it took 2 years to get the divorce. He did not want a divorce yet he moved in with his girlfriend. So for me once he moved in with her that said it was completely over. Still would not sign. Finally the morning we were to he in court he signed. That was 6 years ago. This past June he married the girlfriend. They moved into our old house and remodeled it. But his getting married for some reason was very upsetting. Even though they lived together 7 years the actual marriage upset me. I am finally over it. Because as you said you wonder if they have changed?? Is she being treated better? Is he pulling the same tricks on her. He was always the victim. He was always jealous of my parents and my relationship with them. He was even jealous of our child. Anyway you video has been reassuring that he will never change. This poor woman is probably getting all the same victim stories plus how bad I was as a wife for 30 years. Thank you for helping me see that I was an addict. I took the flattery as truth like a fool. Perhaps that is some of my problem is knowing he made a fool of me. But that is ok, I am free to sleep as long as I like, go where I want to without reporting in. Ha ha It was worse than being a child and having to get permission from parents to go places.
11 Years....its been a full year since ive left and started to find my own peace.
Thank you.
I literally listen to this every single time I start to miss my ex. You always always always lift my spirits and bring me to my senses. Do you do one on one counseling ?