The Illusion of Narc Relationships | Stephanie Lyn Coaching
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"You can't have a deep relationship with a person who can't go deep within themself"! I felt that !!!!
Being with him was a war but being without him is a constant battle with myself even though I know I did the right thing.
Move forward. Find your life. Fill it without them.
I'm here today. I can't work
Battle of the mind is the hardest one of all- But YOU will get there one day at a time sis x
@@alleng9755 I’m trying but so depressed. I’m looking for one crumb of validation from him
@@Celeste.Cooper understand where you are at right now. I am also having stages where I feel myself doing the same thing. It’s okay if you feel that way. I hope we can both move forward into healing and self acceptance.
"You stopped giving this person what they wanted, and that is the best compliment you are going to get in your entire life." - Good medicine there, Stephanie.
I was the “second” wife. To the outside world and to his first wife, I am sure it appeared that we were charmed- the Brady bunch- a big blended family. A $2 m new home, cars etc.
Five years into marriage, I woke up one and am waited for him to leave for court, I pack four suitcases and a box of toys for my twins and left. Left it all. This was 8 years ago- at the time I didn’t have a clue about narcissistic abuse, I just knew my twins were not thriving and we were living in a pressure cooker and something was very very off with this man.
He asked me one day if I thought he was a monster- I was taken a back- why would someone describe themselves as a monster? Because he knew what he was.
The illusion that they love the new person more or that their life with this new person is “different” is just smoke and mirrors. They hone their “craft” with each relationship. They become better manipulators with each relationship experience.
I actually felt sorry for the one after me. She was a judge and I knew he was using her - she was a family court judge and he was using her as a sounding board. He dumped her as soon as our divorce was over.
Take care of yourself and your children. Put these monsters in the rear view mirror. They NEVER change.
Oh gosh!! Your story is so similar to mine!
2 million dollar home!
He has businesses that thrived in the golf community.
I knew nothing of his hidden money.
Cheater I found out.
When I decided I had to leave I was so broken down that I figured if I made him hate me then it would be easier to leave. I knew if I didn't leave my son would be brought up to think that it's OK to treat woman as objects. I thought if I could show him another side he would learn that life isn't just easy and woman weren't beneath a man. Hes brainwashed right now by his father!
I didn't have the power nor the money to fight this man. My husband! Yah right! He threatened me more than once with taking my son away. Made himself the Disneyland dad! Has made me out to be the BAD mom. It's heartbreaking! My therapist (which I have because of this marriage) has told me to let my son know I love him and wait til he's ready to talk.
SO I WAIT. Only a narcissist on a monumental level could do what this man has done!
Hi no n
1mil home here. 7 years of all kinds of fake promises.
During discard he said that I had called him a monster. I never did. Way to project you self-image.
OH MY GOD. "He asked me one day if I thought he was a monster- I was taken a back- why would someone describe themselves as a monster? Because he knew what he was."
Mine also asked me a few times if I thought he was a monster like other girls. I'd be paralyzed not understanding, if he was so sweet with me. Then I understood.
Had goosebumps because he also used to say similar lines to the "I'm a monster" / "Okay I'm the bad person" etc etc
This really resonates with me. 5 years out I sometimes still look back and wonder if I was imagining things. Maybe it was me? Maybe it wasn't so bad? She's been with a new guy for 5 years so maybe it was just me? But no... I hear bits an pieces... she still lies to our kids to create a narrative that suits her. She still manipulates to feed her own needs. She still uses people. And I'm still free :)
Stay free brother
Yes! The continued narrative from them is just incredible! I'm still trying to get things straight with my son. I did hear that my ex has gone to therapy to fix his current marriage. She's horrid! Very mean! But I think she listens to what he tells her alot. Good luck to her! She not nice anyway. She used to be his secretary. Lol he cheated on me with one of his retail buyers years ago...I dont think he will change! He will always need to feed his fragile ego.
My narc is still with her supply after 5years .i often feel like I was wrong ..but when I look at the list of horrible things she did and said to me I know the truth !! The new person is just low on self esteem and as probably been told they can’t get any better than them , so they just stay and put up with the abuse .we know how that goes ..they are on their own journey 🙏
No it wasn't you!!!!
“ It chips away our soul” that’s the point why healing and mowing on is so hard. I lost myself. I didn’t know who am I? My intuition said from the beginning, that something is wrong… ( the person I met was my first love, and he told me I was always someone special in his life and so on…, a lot of little things he remembered from this teenage time I didn’t, and I trusted and believed him. ) I was a fool hungry for attention and love. The first I have to give attention and love is me.
They do not change. They only change the mask they wear for their next victim. Go, live your life in peace. You have earned it. Never look back. Peace and love!
I walked away 6 weeks ago. Covert narcissist constantly lying, on dating websites, pretending to be single. After a few months I saw the real person and the abuse started. Still hurts like hell but so glad I had the balls to walk away.
The moment I told him that he must end his relationship with a newly discovered woman to save our marriage and he responded , "what is there to save?", the mask was off. He was a completely different person. I struggle to understand had he actually changed or was it that I been in denial of an unhealthy relationship, how I had been treated and who he was? We were actively planning our retirement and I was in total shock. He stonewalled me for six months. After forty five years together and 35 years married, I'm realizing that I didn't really know him at all. I'm two years out from the divorce and still healing while he moved on quickly to another woman.
Love your breakthroughs in how the narcissistic “animal” behaves. What their world is.
❤
The truly toxic people part is so true. People that screw with your sense of reality and damage your judgment. I hate them.
All masons Illuminati church narc filth fake plants who target the gifted healers and empaths for abuse projecting and scapegoat covert after they abuse our lives
Stephanie...my 22 yr old precious daughter has been in a 3 yr relationship with a complete wack-job narcissist. She’s now 12 weeks pregnant and he left her in such a cruel way emotionally and physically. I’m here to pick up the pieces because I love her and I know through this time, she will heal and grow stronger. She has a loving faith-filled family who will support her. She’s with me at this very moment and we’re going to listen to this timely video from you. Thank you!♥️
Good for you girls!
@@kirkhullinger1934 Yes...thank you!
She’s free to heal and pursue real loving relationships. God bless!
Healing does take time. Wish you and your daughter the best 🙏🏼.
Strongly consider refraining from listing this guy as the father on the baby's birth certificate. He will use the baby as a shoehorn to hoover your daughter back in, and be a toxic curse. But, it will also mean legally forfeiting child support - ensurng 100% of the financial load onto your family.
I read a lot but don't often remember specific quotes from book except for this one "I saw the red flags but did not understand the consequences of ignoring them". when you look back you can often see those flags but they were always "tolerable", or "fixable"....until the inevitable happens. Either you are so tolerant that you stay and they eventually leave you or you find enough strength to move on.
Wow. Revalation. "Consequences of ignoring them". That's what anyone who got abused had to learn the hard way.
Which book please ?
I've been thinking of what you say a couple of days. That quote is so so relevant. I wish also to read that book. It hit the nail straight on the head.
Some RUclips comments really give a whole new outlook. I want to thank you for sharing that. Reality hit.
@@RippleDrop. what is the name of the Book ?
@@suir1828 I don't know. I didn't leave the comment. I was asking it myself.
So accurate and describes the NPD ex I divorced.
All relationships including with his children are transactional and conditional.
In his malevolent delusional world humans are replaceable objects to be used to benefit him and only get what he wants as his servants and do his bidding to fight his fights as he also backstabs and blames them when his enemies come for him.
He grooms , corrupts , manipulates , abuses, and coercively controls his victims creating his trauma bonds and cognitive dissonance.
He robs them of their autonomy to become soulless shells of the authentic beautiful humans they once were .
He takes on the imposter role of victim
And rescuer
As he proudly slithers away preying on his next victims.
I just started watching your narcissist videos two days ago and it’s painful to realize the literal abuse that I put up with for three years. I can’t believe I tolerated it as long as I did. The red flags were always there but it wasn’t until we moved in together six months ago that I couldn’t look past the red flags anymore
Thanks so much for all of the wisdom and truth you share around narcissists! My experience is that from the very beginning of the relationship, the narcissist is abusing, even before it becomes obvious, because they know it's all a lie, whether or not they delude themselves into believing their feelings and/or mask is real. The con is on from day 1 in my experience.
Narcissists love is lots of imagination and illusion! Most of it is about themselves! And/or getting supply..... it's calculating and fake! Thanks Stephanie! You help so many of us to understand these creatures....💞
I grieved i what I thought she was, what I was offering that was rejected- love, what could have been. Now I'm over it.
This is my situation to the T. I grieved who I thought he was and what we could have been-well said! Praying I get through and over the grief. It’s been 8 months and I still have my moments!
@@teresadockery8043 I am sorry, but that person never exists. I am going also over it. You have to understand that all that pain is coming from hope. Hope to be with someone who was playing a role for getting what they need and it was not you. No hope = No fear.
@Patrick Gibson, THANK YOU!!!! Yes, I think you’re exactly right. It’s that HOPE that has me in all this pain. I’m slowly getting better as I learn more and more about these soulless monsters. I can feel myself starting to accept it for what it truly was, forgive myself, continue to stay no contact and move towards healing. Thanks again fellow empath, may the force be with you💕
@@teresadockery8043 wish you all the best. Stay strong.
Story of my life, he’s married for 6 years now and forget our story and everything I did for him like a sociopath. It’s a big trauma to deal with even after years.
I’m sorry to hear that. It must’ve been difficult for you.
You don't understand how much I needed this
So true! It is IMPOSSIBLE for a narcissist to go deep. All of the conversations with my narcissist ex were superficial and more often than not about HIM. In the [almost] one year that we were together, he may have asked me once or twice how my day was. He rarely asked questions to get to know me on a deeper level. Whenever I said, "Don't you have any questions about me?" his response was that he was just "observing". What in the world is that garbage response?! I don't think he had a clue what a typical work day was even like for me. Any issues we had were NEVER resolved because we couldn't have a deep, honest discussion. Everything was perceived by him as an attack, when that was not the case. Even though we have now been broken up for over one year, I still experience sadness. I am still grieving the "illusion" I created in my head about this man. The reality is that this person does not exist and never will. Eventually, I know I will heal and get over him by keeping no contact and continuing to put one foot in front of the other. Healing takes time and all I can do is live my best life during this process, however long it may take.
You sound just like me…. I just ended my 14 mo relationship with him as I uncovered who and what a POS he really is. I thought I was so in love… I ignored red flag and let my guard down because of our long history of friendship together. It’s been 16 days of no contact but still grieving for the person I thought he was, for the beautiful love story I thought we would be… knowing that it was all an illusion from the very beginning when we met and became ‘friends’ 10 yrs ago. Knowing he never cared or the sweet moments/memories shared were all an act.. beyond crushing!💔
Always important to ask oursleves questions about the red flags we have, or even those observation others point out to us. Visit ourselves, ask and try to speak honestly with ourselves.
But not everyone knows what a true narcissist is. In my marriage I didn't. We dated for 6 years before we married. My therapist had to explain this to me. I learned! I took on the blame of the divorce etc for almost 11yrs. Now my 22yr old son has been told how rotten I am! Now I'm trying to get my relationship w him fixed. He's been brainwashed. He's 22. I have to pretty much wait til he's ready to talk about it. Very hard!!
@@staceyboreta875 I think many of us have not been taught, trained to know what to look for! Because we are a nice, conscientious person we can often assume others are too
BE LOVING AND GENTLE with yourself!! ❤️
If you believe in God, HE knows all the pain you went through. HE will surely vindicate you! Also, pray that your son sees truth. God sees, He hears and He knows!
Keep protecting yourself
"Visit ourselves" is a great reminder
Yeah good luck getting there because the whole outside world is a gaslighting Darvo illusion rape farm lol
Love your videos, they mean a lot to me because it's like somebody understands and reminds me that abuse is not easy to just "get over"
Such an insightful video- Even though I have been out of a narc relationship for almost 3 years I still watch your videos because knowledge is power. It was not until I left that I realised just how emotionally abusive and toxic my ex wasp The gaslighing and the silent treatment. The walking out of resturants the walking away from me the cursing the belittling me walking on egg shells- I thought he broke me but in fact he made me realise I am so much more than his abuse and I am glad i left. Thank you Stephanie x
The one thing I learned too is, we knew in our hearts we love them that's why we are here validating ourselves to know if our decision is right when we choose to leave and to stop them from what they doing bad on us! It feels miserable guilt conscience and blames our selves! But only we can answer the question and pushing our self to move on because they aren't going to do that for us! The pain that we feel and the grief I pray that God helps us to heal our broken heart and lead us to the right path that he wanted for us! I just cry I think 3 times a day and think what happens I want to feel all the pain! And accept that he is gone! That he is only the part of my life.
This video is my husband to the t. Currently going through the discard phase; but unlike other times, i have reach my breaking point. I have reached my limit. In the spiritual sense, these past two weeks have been hell. Your videos are helping me soo much though. Also TD jakes preaching titled, "the courage to change" has been a help. Thank you.
Check out RC Blakes content on narcissistic relationships... and the tea on NPD... and dr.
Ramani all really good content as well as this channel to understanding and healing from this!!! Hope this helps!!
How are you doing now? Im going through the discard phase with my wife right now, and she left me and our two kids, and its killing me. Its only been two weeks but i kept asking her to come back home.. and its just rough
I just want to let you know a little bit about what you have done for me as far as helping me! I was in a very toxic, narcissistic relationship with a family member, and for years I didn’t realize what was going on. I just thought I was a bad person and could never do enough, and everyone always told me how sweet I was but this person‘s opinion I cared a lot about because I felt like this person knew me better than anyone. Your videos made me feel like I wasn’t alone I felt like you were the person that I didn’t have in my life that would help me. I grew up in foster care, so I’m out here alone I’m 26 but anyway, thank you so much for making these videos. Sending prayers of love and joy to you and your family. Bless her Lord in everything that she does. Satisfy her and her family with long life and joy.
Yes, it's true, they confuse infatuation with love.
But anyway, for them, the idea of love means that they have finally found the person, " the one" ( every other week, month or year, depends on your past trauma) who will fill the void in their heart, who will bring them happiness and save them from themselves.
Basically, for them we are the savior mother they didn't have, that's what they're looking for, mothers.
That's why they start behaving badly once they've caught you in their net, they can start demanding from you whatever they need and I think you're obliged to give it to them, because they deserve it and it's your responsibility to take care of them. You are now a full time mother, just do your job...
That's why they take from you and don't give, just like children do. The children do not console their mother, do not deal with her feelings, but just wait to be taken care of, while they attend to school, extracurricular activities etc. Do whatever they wanna do.
So does the narcissist, he thinks he deserves all the benefits from you, with zero responsibilities, that explains why they are always looking for other people, living you thinking that you are not enough, nothing and no one is enough for them... children look for romantic interactions outside the home, not with their parents, once the love bombing wears off, you will never be seen the same again... it's terrible.
But that's what they are, some captive children in the body of adults, who want to do activities specific to adults... but without discernment.
For them, we are just the mother who did not take care of them properly, but who now has to correct her mistakes, rewriting history. But time cannot be turned back and neither can we offer them what their own parents rejected in the past, we cannot save them in any way.
It is a difficult and untreatable disorder, even if they learn new behavioral methods... they will always have the same impulses and thoughts.
It doesn't make me happy that he doesn't cheat on me anymore and brings me flowers every day, if he still doesn't have empathy for me and can't love me. " Loving you is a losing game" for us. Because they can't love anyone, keep that in mind, trust me.
I have narcissistic parents and I wonder how I'm still alive until this day, if you have them too, you' ll understand for sure. Because of that I became a psychiatrist, so I can do for others what no one did for me.
Thanks!
Thank you!
My narcissist (ex) boyfriend began devaluing me after the 1st year of living together. That's when the abuse began. Fights, fake jealousy, fabricating stories to call me all names, etc and when he was nice to me...he bullied me for fun...One month he was happy the next month, out of nowhere, he was angry all the time. It's sad. He was actually a nice and cool person under that damaged persona, but he had horrible parents. I cried when I met his mother and when I confirmed his childhood stories. I loved him more after that. But I had enough. After 4 more years of being a placeholder, not being sure if he did or didn't love me, I did the math and broke up. I still miss him from time to time, but only the good side. He never spoke to me again. It's kind of unsettling, but...that's a narcissist. They can't deal with emotions, they don't feel love like we do.
Sounds exactly like mine !!! Maybe we can chat a bit.
@leila we do Not know. Do you want to email me ?
@leila "They're here" 😁
Wow. I watch you speak from experience no? Youre literally unstoppable. Its gonna be hard for someone to catch you off guard
Thank you for this - my wedding anniversary with my narc ex-husband was on August 7th. This video has impeccable timing and helps a lot in my healing process.
Stephanie, I must say out of everyone I have ever watched on RUclips and have read so many books etc etc YOU are the only one that explains all of this on a simple and altruistic level. It’s plain and clear and so spot on. Easy to understand without all the fluff and technical stuff per say. Even though I understand all the others I guess I’m trying to say you have made it so plain and given the specific clarity of EXACTLY what I just went through. I mis-read some of those red flags but ended the relationship early on even though we are married. Before me he was in a 20 yr marriage so in this video you explaining the shortness and longevity explains a lot! Thank you so very much for all your videos and advice.
Growing up in a toxic family its no wonder it seemed right to gravitate to a toxic broken person. it became even worse as time went on. Never good enough, my needs were irrelevant. Same as my core family. Videos like these are helpful. Ive had to do a lot of soul searching and realize my choices were my choices and i have to change in order to be happy with myself. Not an easy task. but we can get through this , i believe or tell my self that. Fake it till i make it
A narcissist said that he believes the beginning IS real love for them and then a switch goes off within them.
It's true.
You are amazing. Thank you ❤
A 110 days of no contact and I've never felt so much better. I could not see the manipulation and lies before my eyes.
It completely changed when I gave up my apt..I waited 3 years to do so . Then got new car...he purchased for me ..it was a whole new ball game ...You mentioned the little undermining statements being the abuse . I remember being so ready to cry in a public scenario so many times from this are being completely ignored at an event with him standing with another guy in a group..I would walk up he would turn away quickly speak to me and turn back around. I didn't know any of them I was hurt humiliated and 6,000 miles from home..he had my passport and ticket.
The other thing he did was walk 15-20 feet behind me to get attention and cruise...male couple here...We are apart for 16 months...he has moved a good friend of mine in with him ...when does the backstabbing and pain end
I'm kind of looking at his new guy as the one that will actually validate what I've told my friends
15 years I gave
The true NPD also gets a hit when the give to take away any or everything, to get a rush and a reaction. The emotional blackmail is so damaging. NOTHING is worth whatever you get/got. He started a new relationship behind my back, she has no idea he was cheating on her with me!
You just descibed my relationsship with my ex.!!
Its been 2,5 months since I went “no contact” with him. He tried to hoover me back a month ago but I ignored him completely.
Its SO tough realizing the truth about the relationship and his abuse of me.
He was very toxic looking back and I’m glad hes gone, but I’m devastated having gone through an abortion - he wanted me to have - and when I said goodbye because he wasn’t good to me he asked another girl out 5 min later (I know because I had made a fake profile).
Thank you so much Stephanie for your videos - they help a lot! ❤
Yes, the subtle chipping away, brings confusion!!
The most difficult part for me, the victim, was coming to grips with the fact that it was all illusion. She was manipulating me for what I owned, my money etc. Again it was so hard to accept and that's because those of us who are normal don't process like they do. They are whacked, have used you and you must accept this fact. In quiet times just sit back and really focus on their behavior; past and present. It will become obvious that no normal person could do what these monsters do.
"I`m good/I have you"!!!
It's nice to see other men on here, she's got good material and she's not too bad to look at lol. .but I'm not trying to be my best women 😅
@@kirkhullinger1934 She's pretty.
Ohhh this makes so much sense, the discard doesn't always have to be them ending rhe relationship , it could mean that they are still WITH YOU, but they just don't care anymore and are just doing the bad things and don't care about hurting you.. this makes so much sence... my ex, he lied and lied and cheated and I wondered if he was so unhappy why didn't HE leave me, because I NEEDED him, I was so co dependant, I couldn't leave him, but I needed HIM to ealk away, but he never did, he just kept abusing me, and stayed, until finally I left.
You really know your stuff. I was in a relationship with a narcissist and I can't emphasize enough how right you are, especially about how the narcissist will idealize a person, devalue them, and then potentially discard them. I saw it happen after me with her first hand. She even especially posted about it on Facebook. I was embarrassed for her. After me she met a guy, moved in with him, got engaged to him in one week, left him a month later, then two week after that she posted she found Mr. Perfect. I was with this narcissist for 2 years.
Sounds like you were with my ex.. 🤣🤣
Thanks for all the helpful videos. I was going through a separation years ago and whenever things felt overwhelming I would put on one of your videos. Really helped me get through a rough patch in my life.
🙌👍
Me too
Awesome video! Lived with this for 30 years.
Spot on video 👊💪
Thank you!!
Thanks
Listening to you gives me so much clarity! 🙌🏼
That describes it perfectly,soul wounded,and they do it on PURPOSE,pretty disturbed
I love your videos you explain them so well. That’s where my boyfriend always gets me confused because any little idea that we can talk about he immediately disagrees with me or he tells me I can’t do that and I used to be such a confident and glowing person and now I don’t even wanna go to the grocery store because I think everyone is thinking bad things about me
Thank you so much for the information in this video. My wife said she wanted a divorce in 2017 and I feel like I am just getting to an even keel now. What you said about about the narcissist that chips away at your self image covertly. Where you think "Was that comment inappropriate or am I being oversensitive" perfectly describes what happened to me.
She then went and married a good friend of mine. I do wonder what will happen with them. I honestly don't want him to be hurt but that's what I really think will happen.
Loved the comment that when they divorce you it's the biggest compliment they can pay you. A good way to look at it.
I think what's scary Stephanie is that I have full access to your videos that are here to guide me, but the real courage comes when I actually have to step up to the narc and speak my mind and communicate my boundaries. Although it is not excessive behaviour, but the devaluing truly stings!
Earlier I was asked what I was up to, and I said I am working on myself. Then I asked why? The response I got was please make me tea. Although it was tea, my body and mind said "NO" but I couldn't get to say that. So I asked, what they are busy with that they cannot make it themselves, and the answer I got was "I'm working." Honestly, I felt that i stood in the way of myself by putting them first before my own needs and I felt internally blocked and my energy shifting to a lower vibration. It knew what I needed but I lacked the courage.
@@maggiemaggie2624 I have to agree with you. The road continues.
It takes practice 🙌
Now I understand why I always felt something wrong on how they treated but never could explain to myself what is it called as and constantly being manipulated and not sure how to face them
Thank you SO much for your channel. You are making a huge difference
I love that you make it make sense 💙..
I try!
I used to feel crazy and ask myself like was that hurtful? Was that should I take offense to that? Or am I being overly sensitive. The little digs that are subtle it explains so much! I am not with that person anymore and did not get closure from that person either so listening to your videos really just confirms everything I felt was real and that I was with a text book narcissist. 🤦🏻♀️ I appreciate you Stephanie
Can relate to this so much😅
Thank you so much Stephanie. You are helping so many people understand what’s going on in their lives. You are so generous.
This is so spot on!amazing Thank you 🙏
This is a great video. It explained the Narcissist down to the smallest detail. Thanks for sharing! 👍
Hello Mr ( Wilson ) he is the best when it comes to recovery relationship. He was the one that helped me
M e s s a g e h I m n o w .
Your always on point! Glad to have you teaching us about narcissist. Exactly what you said today has happened to me and continue to go through. It's almost over for me soon. Thank you.
Said it best Steph!!!! Im learning lots from you, Happy Tuesday!!!
I couldn’t tolerate more his disrespect, now I’m the abuser and he is the victim- lashing me out w his family and friends. It’s embarrassing and so sad 😞 to know my husband wants to destroy me 😔💔💔
This knowledge is priceless. You are doing a great job. Thank You :-)
You are in point with this video her last words before discarding me was that she loves me and her and her daughter will always be my family and that they both love me but I realize it was just an illusion because she had a new supply already that's not love .
Thank you for a great description of the narcisistic abuse cycle. These are not relationships but transactions.
such a good video ! thank you Steph
You have helped bring so much that ( I overlooked ) too the light! Thank you!
Thank you 🙏
I feel like this was meant for me to see you today! Wow. Thank you for being amazing and putting things into perspective.
Thank you, Stephanie. You have provided me with an inner piece and relief that I’m not the crazy one. Prior to accepting that my partner is a textbook narcissist, I agonized over every little action and word and tried to figure out how to change her. I am past that. Now, I understand that she is who she is and that is unchangeable.. The challenge now is, how to get out of it?
Excellent video!!You are fantastic Stephanie:)
Thanks for your kindness,
oly having experience with narc, now I can recognise other narcs from past... as:1grandma,1auntie,2uncles,1boy cousin, 2friends....narcs are everywhere & they train us to serve other narcs when we not aware of narcissism... they train us to accept abuse...
So glad to see you 😊 I’m going through separation now I’m struggling trying to hang on for dear life 😓
you are not alone
Spot on video. Thank you🙏
Thank you so much, one of the best videos i ever listen to!!!!
Another fantastic video Stephanie, I'm so grateful for your amazing work, you changed my life, thank you so much.
Thanks for watching 👍
A hollow shell is a hollow sell no matter what form they try to morph themselves into!
Good video. Thank you. I’m very early in the discard phase. Me discarding her. I am going to get through this.
What were talking about in another video on ruminating and obsessing that’s what I’ve been doing for almost 2 years now and I feel like an actual different person and I blame myself a lot like “ why can’t I be the person I used to be or if I just tried harder I could get there” but he’s always there to pull me down and if I take one step forward he makes sure I get pulled 2 steps back
If the two people that are in a relationship both have narcissistic tendencies then who is the supply??
Amazing! Always. Thank you Stephanie
If they are not aware of themselves they won’t change. Thanks Stephanie.
I m so happy you are back again!
You have really opened my eyes 👀 to my relationship with my aunt thank you
Thank you for this. I’ve been watching your channel and you’ve really helped me understand what I experienced with my ex narc BF. I broke up with him only a few weeks ago after realizing what kind of relationship I was in for 6 years. This video especially has really validated what I’ve been feeling and wondering about it all. Trying to work through my recovery now with help from a therapist and your words of wisdom. Thank you!!
... great video again ... defining illusion is important ...
if only i knew these things before. wow this is sooo relatable. It helped me a lot when I decided to leave for good. I have peace of mind now
I just started watching your channel and you have taught me so much. Thank you.
THIS VIDEO OMG just what I needed 🙏🏽 so accurate. Thank you ❤️
Thank you for your work 🙏
THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!!!!
Hi Stephanie!! I absolutely love your videos! They’ve been super helpful! I was wondering if you are able to make a video of when you know your not ready to make a change and are choosing to be stuck on habitual thoughts/ behaviors.
Stephanie, how you explained it was so amazing. Thank you for doing what you do ❤️
You are definitely right, it takes a lot of effort and time to change the personality flaws. I am changing my personality a lot since I have started the huge progress have been made and I am a much more loveable person than before but it took me a lot of time and effort.
Thank you! I so needed to hear this.
I always like ur videos before they even start bc I know they're always so helpful
Thank you.
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Thanks Steoahnie, we are posting your video on Projection at our bog selfhelpchampion under Understanding Anger🙏🙏