I would like to just correct you on one thing. They don't discard and move on, they have already moved on then they discard. They are cowards and can't be alone
Realistically, they weren't the person we really wanted either. If we' re being honest, we were hanging on to the future version of who we wanted them to become ☯
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A relationship with a narcissist is the worst thing I’ve gone through. Not only do you have to deal with the abuse during the relationship but the aftermath including abusing by proxy and showing off their new supply is beyond anything.
I never understood all the arguing initially. Was just confusing and irrational in my logical brain. Every time I tried to talk to her about what's wrong I just got this blank stare looking at me. Not sure if anyone can relate?
I feel like narcs are always and will always be miserable. They just find someone else to drag into their misery. Any narc I’ve ever dated was extremely unhappy and angry deep inside due to things that happened in their life (usually childhood)
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I was taken to the lowest place in my life with a Narc. Her level was rock bottom. I got a glimpse of her personal hell and lucky for me she dumped me in a cowardly manner 10 months after. 4 days after she had a new guy. Let him get to know how low she can go.
Any one reading this. It's ganna take some time...months!!! But I promise you'll get to the point where you are so so so happy they left. If you take that time to heal and work on yourself. You'll be happier than you ever thought you could be..I know this coz I'm there...doesn't mean there aren't bad days...you just know how to handle it now!
Narcissistic person is the most coward individuals you can ever encountered they are insatiable. The quest for endless supply goes on and on doesn't matter if you were married to them for many years doesn't matter if they're 80years old they are in need of endless emotional supply. If you think you are with one now run and never look back.
His last ex-wife contacted me and we spoke in length. He wrecked that poor woman and her life beyond recognition. And he thinks she's the bad person in it all. Delusion at its finest
Thank you. I was fortunate enough to get a phone call once a month from his current girl confirming he has not changed and it gave me the validation i needed.
Hi Heather,,I assume you well,,I'm 29 ,,from uk,, I hear you well,, but also value your own self inside feelings,,meaning you might not always get that validation from someone,,for something,,if your inside feeling is saying,, somethings not right,,then something is not right,,and don't doubt your self,,don't count on getting validation from anyone for anything,,,your own feelings are worthy,,they are valuable.,,hope I was of some positivity value to you 💐
@@DanyalMM5 yes you are correct. It takes time to get to that point when you have been chronically invalidated your whole life- i was conditioned to not trust myself or second guess myself -so while I understand what you are saying, its not as easy for people who have been manipulated or chronically invalidated. In my case I literally prayed to God to expose him to his current girlfriend and within one week she reached out to me so I took that as a sign that God wanted me to see this or hear this.
Oh the universe brought him and things around to show me, I wasn’t crazy and it wasn’t me. I could see the patterns and it made me feel a lot better. Cause they can truly take you to your lowest.
@@Dogcatlover2432 lol. Aren’t you a judgmental person -especially since you’re watching a video like this you must’ve experienced some type of narcissistic abuse yourself- therefore, you shouldn’t judge. You also don’t know all the facts of the situation. I do not talk to his girlfriend anymore. In fact, I never reached out to her at all - she was the one who kept reaching out to me and I simply wanted to validate her and she validated me -so there was a purpose for our communication at the time but it did not continue because I told her that it was not healthy for us to be communicating anymore and she agreed. He also triangulated us and told her things that caused her to reach out to me initially. He actually caused all of this because he was communicating with her while he was with me and I did not know it at the time. I am set free of him but sometimes it helps to know that it wasn’t you because of the brainwashing that is so common with narcissistic abuse. I have no regrets in communicating with her because it served a purpose at that time and helped validate each of us. Now go get yourself some counseling For being so judgmental Easy for you to cowardly judge me on a public forum when you’re not showing your face -
Number 1: go no contact completely Do not go to look at the new supply who was there all along When I look it takes me a giant step back and just the visual has to be worked through - that giant step back is very painful Number 2: it doesn’t matter if they are happy it’s fake - I was just replaced for a shiny new toy and all their trips with her are like my trips - miserable Number 3: the smear campaign does work just know it and learn the reason why I chose to be with someone so harmful Number 4: my soulmate is me take care of me love me
16 months since being discarded.. I just feel like a permanent cloud hangs over me.. the wonderful person I believed her to be, and how she changed to someone I did not recognise. Trying my hardest not to allow it to taint my trust in future - but its so hard. Wish i could unsee that side of human nature.
I am 9 months post break up and I feel the same. I feel hopeless that love really exists anymore. But don't give up... take your time... time heals everything. We will be ok❤
We are all in this journey together. I am 4 months out no contact. I think it’s easier for some victims to demonize them and I can understand but the reality is they have a serious personality disorder. It is the disorder that is acting out. There is no excuse for their hurtful maladaptive behaviors. You can still love the person and hate the disorder. Know that you are strong for surviving it and the only thing left to do is accept your pain, heal, acknowledge what they had and move on with your like. Praying 🙏for everyone on this journey.
Please , no looking, no energy given . You must make yourself shift away from their being. You have the power to stop ruminating over them. You actually create chemicals that make you feel good for a moment when you stay mentally trapped. U must stop!!
There is light at the end of the tunnel. I recommend Sam Vaknin videos to really understand exactly how this disorder works and how it was never real in the first place. This is the same for friends and family.
I needed to hear this. I was sitting on my bed crying and your video popped up! You nailed it regarding how a narcissist is. I started feeling better and my migraine lessened. I can see the “light” now and it’s good to truly understand what I’ve been going through. Thanks
@Mubarak Garba , we’re all happy for you. There’s no need to tell us. Go live that wonderful life with you “love of your life” before he reverts back to his old self!
Wow. After 16 months of grieving over my narcissist and how he discarded me, this was probably the best video I've watched. My feelings and thoughts and grief felt so validated. It's as if you know exactly how I feel and what I endured. Thank you. Linda
It’s the best thing ever for your future to be discarded by Narcissists anyway your gonna have bad feelings for awhile and need therapy but you’re better off than most people are because most Narcissists never want to let go of their victims and suck us dry like some vampire they can’t get enough 🩸 blood and they usually eventually will end up killing their victims slowly if you stay with them for they’ll not change and they’ll destroy you and health and life they won’t care incapable of it! Get away from your bad insane Narcissistic boyfriend or man or woman or social friend whoever it is immediately and don’t look back don’t go back no matter if they are begging for you 😂 they will never change!!! They will always be the same creeps that did all that crap don’t forget don’t ever forgive them! Take care of yourself put your needs desires first you don’t need fools losers and scumbags around worthless idiots imbeciles who won’t work for example they are useless people Narcissists are always liars and losers and they’re easy to spot because just listen it’s really obvious they’re liars after awhile you know they don’t look you in the eye cannot show respect and can’t use formal speech or address with respect saying like they aren’t gonna say Sir to anybody indicates they don’t respect anything or anyone they only fake it if they do it at all, don’t be friends with anyone who has this problem either they will be extremely jealous of your accomplishments and they will hatred towards you and they destroy your dreams and your life ruin your happiness and other people friends are about to be destroyed by your Narcissistic Personality disorder friend, spreading lies story gossip about you have been so bad they should not trust you and you not a good person kind of thing is what they do but they get worse and they call you at work or your boss and they lie about you might get fired for that lie to and then what’s next whatever that’s all they do plan plot petty pathetic personal attacks on everybody and they masturbate get off on that weirdness it turns them on I think it’s just because their some deeply disgusting disturbing mentality Illness creep anti-social disorder like criminal minds show that’s them they are all sick and twisted worthless scum and as soon as you start thinking that you’re dealing with this type get out of there& run!
@@KingTheJim I'm much better now. It took about 18 months, but now I dont even think about him, nor do I wish he will come back. I was so miserable with him, but now I'm much happier and at peace. It takes time, but it will get better.
I am 2 years single after being left abruptly after a 34 year relationship. Literally left after breakfast, moved in with someone else at tea time - never said bye to me or his kids. Apparently this was his last chance of happiness and he had to put himself first "for once". Everything you say resonates with me and has truly helped me make sense of what happened and why. Everyone has their own way to deal with lifes curve balls and I believe you should find what works for you and go with it - so I'm glad I found your channel. I love your videos and also the comments, as they also affirm that, as so many others can relate, I am more sure of the relationship I really had, rather than the one I thought I had - and I have worked thru cognitive dissonance, but it has been a lot easier as you have kept me focused and on track. I am ever evolving and getting "me" back - which is the most important thing. Anyone just starting this process - you will go thru all sorts of phases and battle from every angle, but stick with it - don't give up cos looking in from the other side is empowering. Thank you.
In my case 33 years of marriage and he dumped while walking the dog. No conflict, no warning....He said out of the blue " We have been together for 30 years and I don't see myself spending the next 30 years together" this was not the first time but definitely the last. Still dealing with the effects of such discard. Still resentful but I have my soul he doesn't.
@@MF-se1zl honestly, hes done you a favour. I spent a year in limbo - like a caged animal released into the wild - I wanted the familiarity of my old life, but while it may have been a slightly bigger cage, i would have still been trapped, metaphorically. 2 years on, and I've worked through the cognitive dissonance and I'm getting me back. Stay positive, this isn't a quick fix, but once your emotions equilibrate you will realise you're better off without him xxx
@@sallyarnold-young4835 i feel you :( 37 years together from 19-57 years old raised to adult children --had an affair -divorced me 6 weeks after he met & just married her and moved her into the house where i raised my kids. it was viscous. i was discarded and had to go no contact. just started to heal after 3 years of intensive trauma work /therapy & emdr. you have to show up every day and do the work. one day at a time. starting to reframe my future for building my best life ! Support yourself with those that can support you.
Amen!! I’m on week 3 of husband walking out with his new complete lover Pregnant now at 24 weeks. The pain comes and goes. But accepting it and sitting with it like a friend makes it easier to deal with.
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Here's the thing, I feel sorry for my ex. He has no capacity for true love and any woman who becomes involved with him will end up being destroyed. So very sad all the way around.
Nice video! For me, years after being in a narcissistic relationship and STRONGLY working on myself, I've stopped being jealous of anyone in a relationship. I'm still going through a transformative phase, and currently, I'm not looking for a relationship. I like to think that I've reached a new level!
You have reached a new level & good for you! I reached that level in 2012. Since then, I made a conscious decision to be single & celibate. Life has become better in so many ways since then. I volunteer my time, helping others. I work more hours than I have worked in my entire life doing what I love. I work out at the gym, making me feel so alive & fitting into cute clothes that I wear for myself because it makes me feel happy.
My narc discarded me after getting me pregnant and I really had no where to go. The heartbeat wasn't detected in the foetus and I got it removed with the surgery. It was a nightmare, I cried days and nights handling the emotional pain of his abuse and my abortion simultaneously. But now I am healed and more emotionally stronger!
Hi omg THIS IS LITERALLY MY STORY NOW!!! This is making me tear up and is so scary,random! And IT HAS TO BE THAT MAN UPSTAIRS how this exactly what I’m in! And out off allll these comments GOD SHOWED YOURS TO ME!!! WOW!!!!!!!! omg THIS IS LITERALLY MY STORY NOW!!! This is making me tear up and is scary how this exactly what I’m in!!!! O fucking my gosh!!! My son had no heartbeat! Turned out I had Covid and streap which became and infection! That got into his sac, which made him pass! this was January 6th 2023!!!!! Wow!!!! O my god I can’t believe !!!! He said hurtful words and bounced! Not hearing from him until two weeks later ! If you don’t mind! Would you exchange numbers with me and please share your experience!! I am hurt! Broken from losing my FIRST CHILD!! Smfh….my baby was 25.5 weeks! And Due in April 2023. MY GOD if this isn’t GOD!!! Right now idk what else! And I just HAD a break Through earlier emotionally and THEN I see your post! Wow! AMEN!!!! Thank you father GOD!! And Thank you for sharing!
Knowing it was all a facade was the realization that got me to start healing. That coupled with dating(or honestly just spending time with)people that weren’t narcissistic after the relationship ended. It was obvious how unhealthy that relationship was.
This video has helped me so much!! I keep playing it over and over to remind myself that although he has moved on, and is posting it all over social media, he’s still the same and it’s all a facade. He will never be truly happy!
I won’t admit how many times I’ve watched this video 😅 thank you 🙏 it’s helpful to remember my ex didn’t change and although he advertises how happy he is and how perfect the girl he cheated on me with is, he won’t truly be happy because he lacks empathy and the ability to be vulnerable. During low moments, I need to remember how abusive he was and how unhappy I was with him. Leaving was and still is the best decision 😊
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@@melissahunter824 OH, I'm so glad you're back! Call your sweetheart now and when Sara answers, she will get him for you. You will be so surprised to find out where he is. Yes, SARA will answer.
It took me nearly a year to recover from my relationship with a narcissist. But now I have a dozen new friends and a solid relationship with someone who shares my sense of humor and loves me for who I am. Never again will I endure the walking on egg shells and hopeless efforts to please someone that is never satisfied. For those who just ended their relationship with the narc: hang in there. I know it is hard to realize you've wasted time and energy on someone that never reciprocated your love. But it was not a waste. You will come out stronger and happier. And they won't. Don't let feelings of regret, revenge or hatred take over. Focus on yourself. That might mean you will have to totally reinvent yourself. Know that you will be happy again and they never will. If you are in need of revenge, that should be more than enough.
I needed this. It's been only three months after being blocked ghosted discarded and thrown out by my narc ex of 7 yrs I had a son with and am dying inside and depressed but I needed that. Thank you.
It doesn’t feel great right now, but I do recognize that this will pass and I have been given an opportunity to move on and into a relationship that is TRULY healthy, caring, deep, compassionate…. All of the things I was chasing but not getting. One day at a time❤️❤️
Yes. But a healthy relationship comes from healing the trauma and the past issues why you even allowed this. It isn’t an automatic that great relationships come to those who are throwing darts in the dark. What usually happens is you will get into a similar relationship unless you go through the painful process with a therapist to uncover the wounding why you’d even be in a toxic relationship. Knowing someone is toxic doesn’t change anything on its own
It WAS NEVER ENOUGH! No matter how good I was to to him, how I loved him, how we were together, engaged, all the great times, I was FUTURE FAKED and Gaslighted like you wouldn't imagine. I wore his engagement 💍 ring, but I had to leave him. When I left him, he told me he was "over me,," months ago. I just went home. This was 11.5 years ago. Hope he's happy 😃
On point! I didn’t care at all about him for three months until I seen on social media that he had a new supply! He is acting so fake because I know he hasn’t changed!
I would suggest deleting blocking them. That's one thing I knew I never needed to do was check up on their SM accounts. It's been a year and I havnt looked once and I intend on it staying that way! Lol
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Thank you for this video. You described my life to a tee. I was 36 years together, 34 married. Things started to change after a few months after the wedding. I couldn't understand how the love of my life could treat me so badly. These video have helped me heal and understand it was not my fault
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The last year we were together, I started standing up for myself, and I started to become as toxic as he was, and boy it became a nightmare from that point on. He actually ended up, throwing me out, calling me crazy and toxic.
This, by far, has to be the BEST video on narcissists. It’s almost like you were telling my story, Stephanie. I remember my ex-husband said to me, “I can never be the man you want me to be.” I replied, “faithful, loving, honest and a good role model for our boys?” He replied, “can’t do it!” Wow! If I only knew then what I know now. At least I had the smarts to get out. He even said to me, “ I don’t know what happy is anymore” when I told him I hope his new girlfriend makes him happy. All makes sense now. Thank you so much, Stephanie. A huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. ❤️
At least you had rlationship with an „honest” narcist 😉 most of them is not capable of saying that kind of things…they go around with bragging on how excellent and fabulous they are, and how bad and unworthy are all the other people 😎
@@WakeupAmerica777 I can imagine what kind of hell you had to go through 🥺🥺 no one understands that kind of things, unless one has an experience of having relationship with a Narc 😢 so good that we have space like this, to share and support each other 🤗 This is fantastic that you are free of Him now!! 🙌 Please do not stop learning about this topic. This is very important in healing process. I keep my ✊✊ for your happiness! Keep the faith. The healthy and normal men are out there! 💚
Yes and my husband of 15 years told me that I will never be the woman and partner he needs in his life. He always had put me down but this said to me was the worst thing he could've ever said. He's with his new supply. We were fine I thought then suddenly he changed, got ice cold and distant and said he needed a few days break from me. The next day I was out and the new girlfriend moved in. I couldn't understand why or how. How he could go from love bombing and super loving and affectionate to a new life with a new woman. And treating me like a stranger. Leaving me homeless, carless, jobless with nothing and not even caring about me at all. It hurts so much. She can have him. I would never go back to him.
He always found excuses for not posting pictures of us on social media during our 2 years relationship and now he’s constantly posting photos of him with random girls… The pain is so deep
You are spot on. I love your content. My biggest difficulty is co-parenting with my ex-wife. I still love her very much, but I know she won't change. I have to admit for a long time I thought I was the narcissist. I'm not because I was able to rise above myself and put our children first. Their happiness brings me peace. I never talk bad about their mother. I live in the moment with my son and daughter. 15, and 17. Her need to be right is paramount. Nobody will stand up to her. I did! Now I know why she discarded me. I stood up for myself and ask the hard questions, that she couldn't explain.
Yeah, I also thought I was the the narc for a long time. In fact, I'm pretty sure I used to be when I was younger but I'm very self-aware by now and really try hard to work on things that my closest ones admit to me in good faith. Can't say the same about the ex who would word salad, gaslight, project her actions unto me constantly. Mind you, she is not evil, has had a rough childhood (narc mother and avoidant father) and does admit that she has a lot of issues herself, plus she's working on them. The only thing is that every book she reads and every advise she hears from her therapist must fit into her worldview or else it's discarded - especially anything I conclude, lol.
This made so much sense. After explaining my story with my ex to an old college friend he said, I think she sounds like a Narcissist. She sounds like she craves attention from males because she didn’t get any from her father as a child. That resonated so clear as did this video. 😊 I am better off out of their life and control now and you’re right they blessed me by ending it
Better off.. if you’ve got therapy to heal that codependency and childhood wounding Or we will sadly delay the inevitable of getting into another toxic relationship Leaving a toxic person doesn’t mean you’ve actually changed your life. It means you left a toxic person is all open to the wounding again unless you want to seal toxic people out of your life with a long process of therapy. Self reflection. Actual change through action. And working on it daily. It doesn’t automatically come where now “I’m going to attract the healthy person into my life”. Life isn’t that simple Not trying to degrade or put anyone down. I’m just telling people healthy relationships after toxic ones are work and a painful process.
Soo accurate! As soon as I stopped serving her constant needs and set some boundaries she went ice cold and gave me the silent treatment. Had I know about this stuff then I would have paid attention to that red flag. You learn about people when they don't get what they want.
@@Em-im1yzMe too! Hell, he told me he was going fishing out of state and unbeknownst to me the SOB was moving into the new /supply house, because he had sold his house! 7 yrs and that’s what I got too. We truly are the lucky ones. It’s taken me 2 years to be alright after the abuse he inflicted. He’s pathetic and a miserable subhuman ! Good riddance!
Exactly my story. Moved her in within a couple of months. We were together 20+ years. It’s been 13 months and I’m still trying to get right side up. #*$&@+*
You are right on with what you are saying - I agree with you on do not check up on them don’t worry about what they are up to - they will never change - they have no real personality how they act depends on who they are around and what they won’t from that person
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100% true.. I delt with it for 18 years and these RUclips videos are real and tell the truth because I've gone through it and have paid a councilor to say the say the same thing.. I now can see every red flag and walk away in a new relationship being a friend or partner or just a random person. Red flags can avoid a ton of things in communication right from the beginning.
I’ve watched this video 3 times in a row now. Thank you so much for these videos. I needed to hear this video/message. Thank you 🙏 you have helped me so much in the beginning stages of my journey. I feel as if I can actually have a future now. I’m 31 and was engaged for 6 years. I’ve felt so lost for so long, I knew what I was doing and I knew who she actually was for years. But I just let myself go.. and now I’m here. Again, thank you so much for your videos. Understanding that I let her do what she did to me was actually my fault because of my old/childhood traumas I never worked through. Hers as well, she obviously has her own demons. I have a long road ahead of me. But with amazing people like you making these videos!! You are changing lives and I appreciate it so much!
Just saw this video now and it is SPOT ON. Thanks for this Stephanie. I have an AMAZING therapist but it is so helpful to hear this perspective from someone else as well. It is so much more difficult and disgusting when they start using the kids as "reasons" to hurt and continue to take supply. So hurtful when you have to deal with them while you felt true love and now have to protect your kiddos against the Narc's smears and BS. Then add alcoholism to her narcissistic disorder and you end up watching this video months after it was posted and looking for any semblance of peace.
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I've been in a terrible cycle for almost 3 years. Apart from a narc for almost 18 months, but recently I have felt sad again.. I needed to hear this.. the whole " front row " analogy really was a light bulb moment.. all I'm seeing now is the show he put on that people were seeing when it was my turn .. thankyou... truly, thankyou xx
As someone well into the healing journey I am Proud to say I was gifted by a discard flip ( most narcissist have someone long before they leave) as he made it to the point that I was the one to evict his squatter.. ( which in turn added a sweet smell to his eternal victim role). They love that reactive abuse...don't do it, listen to Stephanie!
You know as well as we do what's going on behind those closed doors. I actually pray for the new prey. I'm finally back to 95% and actually got rid of other bad habits in the process. A win for me!
Thank you for these videos! My ex was BPD and I find a lot of similarities with NPD. Listening to your videos gives me validation and peace. I’m in therapy now (EMDR) and it’s the best thing I’ve ever done. Healing is such a wonderful thing. :)
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One thing I noticed. I like to keep my car clean on the inside & as clean as possible on the outside. It makes me happy to not have clutter in my car & when people ride with me they don’t have to worry about dirtiness in the floorboards or seats. As soon as the narc left my life, her car was like a wreck. I view it as a reflection of her life. It looks normal on the outside & fun on the outside, but the inside is just a wreck they’re unwilling to deal with.
The X told me he is happier after we ended, and I believe that to be true in some aspects...he struggled to be a better person but always returned to baseline against his best efforts. I truly want the best for him and I know he struggles to be genuinely happy. They say every pot has a lid and we were not a good "fit" so I hope he finds his lid ~ Peace & Blessings
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Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together......
The one where they met their soulmate and I didn’t meet mine hit home! The front row seat they are liars! All their connections are surface including with their children! So grateful
I am so thankful I found your channel. I’ve been feeling so hurt and bitter about what my ex did to me without remorse. Now he’s in a new relationship & it’s a super blow to my ego bc I don’t think he deserves to be happy with her. Thank you for shedding light on my feelings & on how to heal myself 🧿
I've spent a lot of time on RUclips over the past two months in my exploration of NPD, and this is one of the most brilliant, spot-on discussions I've ever experienced on the subject. Thank you so much, Stephanie. Really.
Although I ended the relationship with the Narc years ago, I watch these videos to keep me aware. Truth! When we first started dating we gave and got, as time went on he changed and I changed as well. No more moon eyed, I let it be known I wasn’t going to put up with his crap. The supply was drying up and he morphed. When he told me he had met someone else, I wished him love and light and good luck. It freaked him out LOL
Thank you for this video. I really needed to hear this. I've been reeling from the discard and subsequent hoovering from my ex, followed by the vindictiveness when I said I'd had enough and left for good, then realising they are a narcissist, while also seeing they have been dating/seeing other girls so soon after our breakup. It cut me to my core to see someone who supposedly 'loved" me move on so quickly, and treat me so badly at the same time. I'm currently working so hard on myself and addressing the core wounds that led me to accept their behaviour in the relationship. While the work is difficult, I know that I am becoming a better, healthier, happier version of myself with an incredible future ahead of me. Yeah, my ex is already moving on. But the reason they can move on so quickly, without a care, is because they lack an ability to truly connect with people, and that's just truly sad.
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I like your twist. And you are right. Now I can admit this to myself. I did come to the realization, eventually, that God had freed me and certainly has given me a much better life.
I love your content and how you explain this topic. It’s been 5 months since I left my ex narc. I’m definitely a lot better than I was when we broke up. My ex immediately got into a new relationship and they appear to be happier than ever. It’s very difficult to accept but I have too.
Shannon, my husband of 14 years and I just split...out of nowhere...I have a feeling he has someone else though...he was grasping at straws to validate the why it was over...what a horrible feeling
@@alsuarez9932 I know how you are feeling. We must believe that we are much better off without them. We deserve peace, and to feel safe in a relationship. Please know you are not alone. 🙏
Such wise words. the narc will always be broken because they don't see it in themselves.. they blame everyone else and are the victim. My ex thought he was this amazing Dad (not my kids) but he left his wife with 2 toddlers! Of course it was all her fault.. when I met her I realised she was lovely and hard working and a lot like me! These videos are so helpful - my heart goes out to those still suffering from the dealing with a narc x
Love this it’s spot on… so sad that these type of people exist.. and I’m glad there are these videos out there because I have learnt so much and it’s helping me heal
I really appreciate your ability to clearly explain the narcissist's behavior. I struggle grasping the foreign concepts because I believed he thought like me and had the same ability to have empathy as me, After 35 years, the mask is off. In six months, we went from planning our retirement to him moving in with a woman he just met. She claims he is her soulmate. I always thought our relationship was very Superficial and he rarely shared his thoughts with me. I just thought that was the way it was, he never wanted to hear how my day went, good or bad. One of the last things he said to me when he walked out the door was " People don't stay long in relationships where you can't share basic feelings" It still confuses me.
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hi :) this was a great video with a lot of concrete positive points. the two very appreciated ones i take away are: that significant change and or reprogramming (even for those without npd) takes time (thus, patience to heal and or allow for focused and concentrated changes of oneself is fair. although i also believe in genuine rapid change if its truly desired, focused, and well / thoroughly implemented with honest and true habitual behavioral change (which can take as little as mere months for lasting neural and neural plastic conditions in the best case scenarios) and your last statement that the narcissist 'did a favor by opening up space or opportunity for something else (and hopefully more befitting and / or healthy)' (and in my opinion, at the very least, absent or free of unnecessary stress, trauma, difficulty if and when they actually go away or move on). personally for the most part, im just happy if the narcissist is out of my life, focused elsewhere, consumed with everything and anything other than me, and i could not care less if they are happy or not, and or who their subsequent victims or 'cherished' loved ones are, especially as i believe in the concept of genuine karma and i believe that eventually, truth, fact, and consequence or in practical sense, cause and effect, eventually (even if it takes several years) for better or worse, eventually transpires :) this is especially comforting to know that suffering, is inevitable, for everyone, and for the toxic, is more probable and likely more severe, so 'revenge' is not even a concern :) people really do generally reap what they sow, especially if their intention and actions are aligned, so while toxic people seemingly 'get away with' manipulation, lies, facts distortion, destructive campaigns, etc, it usually eventually surfaces in personal health or conditions where the toxicity has a profoundly inescapable effect. at least that is my observation in general :)
This video spoke to me! I spent 3 years with a narc and Stephanie literally hit the nail on the head with respect to the narc and with respect to me! This video helped me and was perfect!
Honestly, just be glad that it's not you and it's their turn to suffer not yours anymore. I don't even feel sorry for the new person. They know what they're getting themselves into.
Moving in! As soon as I moved in and gave up my peace she changed. This is nuts bc she’s doing this same script with her new person. It’s so scary to witness.
What was your experience living with the narc? How long did it last, what did you notice was happening that wasn't right? Need to figure out if my ex was a narc or if I'm going crazy :/
perfect video and it has given me more insight on why they do show off their new toy on social media.. I got reeled back in and was for a short time a backup plan in case new toy didn't meet her needs - but have gone no contact and I'm slowly getting there, enjoying things I once did. I have learned a great deal about this condition, and know the red flags from a mile off, I will love myself again and will be a better person for the experience.
My ex narc new bf has a profile photo of them together on social media. She has zero photos of them together. She doesn't flaunt her relationship at all. I thought all narcs did this? What were some early signs you notice? Did you live together and if YES - what was that experience like? Need someone to confirm I've dealt with a narc or if I'm delusional :S Thank you!
@@MrIlleism - they don't always flaunt - mine hasn't - they just make out it's all happiness but you got to block all media, don't be looking over the fence as it will make you crazy. Yes we did live together, had the love bombing at the beginning (you're my soulmate etc) but then slowly but surely the controlling and demands began, I was beginning to tread on eggshells, didn't want to upset or say what was on my mind, began to feel isolated and trapped, so I had to get out. I so much better now with the education, got my life back and just about to go on a new journey. I wish you all the luck, it isn't easy as you have feelings and what them to have happiness but you will always fall short and will be only a stepping stone.
@@paulbarrick5001 Thank you brother! All the best on your new journey also. May I ask how long before you started noticing this 'sudden' change when living together/moving in?
I really needed to hear this. Sometimes it’s so hard to put my thoughts into words and being the only person in my friend group that’s been through something like this it’s hard to explain. You really put things into perspective. I have moments where I think he found his soulmate and the sad part is that throughout his entire new relationship he would call me and try to lure me back in until I just stop answering. He is having a baby now and when I heard the news it broke my heart because he always tried to get me pregnant but I was knew I didn’t want one from him…and seeing him now happy with his baby idk sometimes I think he has really changed.
Id like to add the importance of family and friends. A lot of his behavior and mentalities he learned from them and they all think he’s the poor gold boy and i’m the big bad villain. Sometimes it’s also the environment around who is narcissistic. I find this funny though because they acted as if i wasnt good enough for him but just because i dont look shiny and perfect doesnt mean im worthless. I’ll let them have him, where he truly belongs 😂
I really hope she *is* as happy as she appears. I hope she found a partner that was able to reach her best self better than I could. Is there a part of me that has petty/sad/jealous feelings? Yes. But I'm choosing not to listen to it. We all deserve another chance.
Thank you so much ❤️❤️ this was exactly what i needed ❤️ I left my narc since he escaletad the psychological abuse on a HIGH level when i realised what i was a victim of and a relaitve to him told me he was a whole new person and is really happy and kind right now and she said ”he wasnt good for you and you werent good for him” and i felt like my world came crashing down, what in the world did i do wrong - but i wasnt good for him because what HE needed when i left and since he cant control me he uses his charm and manipulation for making them see only the good and once again forget the monster that lives inside who are not honest to those who can give him what he needs
Thank god I got away from mine in the first 2 months. Even then it's been really hard and initially extremely painful but I couldn't fathom the pain of going thru years of it. So unbelievably confusing trying to date a narc. You want to rationalize what's happening and there behavior and question if it's you and it's poss to fix or change what's happening. Knowing it's not you and nothing will effect the ultimate destiny of the relationship that it's going to end makes it so much easier to move on and be happy for it.
This video is excellent how l lived. Once I got a career, he didn't like it except the money. I finally left over 4 1/2 years ago. He was in a relationship before I ever left, and I did think l was the problem. His first supply was so beneath me that I felt what does she have that I didn't have. Yes, I am alone right now but I am happy with myself. He has gone from one supply to another. I don't care if he is happy or not but since I know him so well, he will never be happy.
them not having such contentment made me think that they cannot be happy. so strange and i was so confused no matter how i tried to bring back the good times we've been since i found her seems so hard and impossible, it was so tiring, draining and exhausting. but that was then yesterday cause i left that toxic relationship for a year now and never i had this feeling of freedom since i was still with her, the narc. now i understand, now i'm getting better each day.
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I just left the relationship a little over a year ago, haven't seen or heard from her since. I pretty much doubt that I will EVER be going back to that nonsense. After 20 years putting up with her BS and her discards and FALSE accusations.... IT IS COMPLETELY OVER!!! She can have whomever she wants, I dont need the AGGRAVATION in my life. I'll be the better person and wish her well and lots of HAPPINESS!!!
The narcissist harassed, spied upon me, invaded my privacy, smeared my reputation, interfered in my relationships, nit-picked, tried to make my life miserable and was generally a big, fat KAREN. Therefore I hope they are so happy that they forget all about me and leave me alone. My life is peaceful and happy without them. I have no curiosity nor concern about them other than they stay away.
Thank you Stephanie My ex has 6 children to 3 different men. Had two taken by child safety Cheated on me whilst pregnant with twins and left me homeless on a dirt road. Has moved to a new area (don't know exactly) with a whole new group of "friends" and has my two kids. But she is in for a big shock because I'm about to put her infront of a judge and go for full custody I can't wait
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Another really excellent video, thank you! It really drove home for me that it doesn’t matter who he ends up with, he will not find happiness because it is all based on external circumstances. He’s back with his FEB that he broke up with to be with me - she’s been his doormat for over two decades. He told me how she was such “high maintenance’ and an ‘emotional vampire;’ and they could never be in the same page about anything - they’d even gone to counseling at one point when they were considering getting married. He told me more than a few times how unhappy he was with her - he’s been back with her since the breakup, which is not surprising. At first it hurt, but now I am just thinking, wow, sad. Really, he is not well and thank God I have an opportunity to get better without him.
I can't believe i'm going through this like i really can't, i can't believe i've been fooled like this. You're literally telling my story. I'm so angry. I don't know what to do with all the anger i have inside.
He was "DAMAGED GOODS" before I came along. I will overcome this BULLSHIT. Have a great life with your new supply, you're only gonna try to destroy that. one. I'm so thankful to my LORD & SAVIOR!! You
Thank you Stephanie. You affirmed everything that I knew in my heart. He supposedly healing in 2 weeks at the end of 2020. Oh, okay. LoL He healed miraculously because he had found new pliable supply.
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Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together......
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I would like to just correct you on one thing. They don't discard and move on, they have already moved on then they discard. They are cowards and can't be alone
Right and exact. My ex was the worst coward I ever met. But 100 per cent killer Narcissist
Or they come and go
So very true
That is so true they find some one while you still with them and they live once they see that they can now live u
So right
Realistically, they weren't the person we really wanted either. If we' re being honest, we were hanging on to the future version of who we wanted them to become ☯
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This is so real. The hardest part is letting go of what I thought it would have been
@Casper Insight.. You are so correct!!!
Exactly. I always said to myself I'll finally be happy if she drinks/parties less, cares about my feelings...but that never happened.
@@jdrumz321ify .Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together......
You know you are healed when you see this topic and think, "Who cares."
I can't wait to be there....
takes years to get over narc abuse. you've got this.
@@niyuki87 You'll get there. Just keep taking care of you.
I can’t wait to be here.
@@SalmaAdam-ic6rf Stay strong and keep focusing on you. You'll get there.
A relationship with a narcissist is the worst thing I’ve gone through. Not only do you have to deal with the abuse during the relationship but the aftermath including abusing by proxy and showing off their new supply is beyond anything.
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I can relate to you Barbara. After 5 years with him, I left him. He married a rebound 2 WEEKS later. We're better off!
All the lies. I’m still being lied on and we broke up two years ago
I never understood all the arguing initially. Was just confusing and irrational in my logical brain. Every time I tried to talk to her about what's wrong I just got this blank stare looking at me. Not sure if anyone can relate?
@@MrIlleism stop talking! Leave the relationship. It time to take action
I feel like narcs are always and will always be miserable. They just find someone else to drag into their misery. Any narc I’ve ever dated was extremely unhappy and angry deep inside due to things that happened in their life (usually childhood)
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WhatsApp him for help............
Spot on
I was taken to the lowest place in my life with a Narc. Her level was rock bottom. I got a glimpse of her personal hell and lucky for me she dumped me in a cowardly manner 10 months after. 4 days after she had a new guy. Let him get to know how low she can go.
Sounds like my soon to be ex wife.
Any one reading this. It's ganna take some time...months!!! But I promise you'll get to the point where you are so so so happy they left. If you take that time to heal and work on yourself. You'll be happier than you ever thought you could be..I know this coz I'm there...doesn't mean there aren't bad days...you just know how to handle it now!
Thank you for your words 🌷
Yes!
I know how you feel. I'm 10.5 years out, and I feel really good about myself. I left him after 5 years and he got married 2 weeks later.
I need a man's help to understand if my ex was a narc. What were some traits/signs you noticed in your relationship?
I needed this! Thank you Kirk!
Narcissistic person is the most coward individuals you can ever encountered they are insatiable. The quest for endless supply goes on and on doesn't matter if you were married to them for many years doesn't matter if they're 80years old they are in need of endless emotional supply. If you think you are with one now run and never look back.
Having kids with a narcissist have been the worst mistake of my life so far😓
Omg i know!
Same
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Man that’s hectic
Same😢
Thank you. By her leaving me, she was paying me a compliment because the door has been opened up for me to get the partner I deserve. Awesome!
Agreed
Same here. The narc husband's discard was a blessing in disguise.
What did you do to get over your ex narcissist ?
And for me, it has opened the door for me to strengthen the most important relationships in my life- God, myself, and family.
Nice way you of seeing it
His last ex-wife contacted me and we spoke in length. He wrecked that poor woman and her life beyond recognition. And he thinks she's the bad person in it all. Delusion at its finest
Wow! The Narcissist leaving you was a GIFT!!
Thank you!!
Thank you. I was fortunate enough to get a phone call once a month from his current girl confirming he has not changed and it gave me the validation i needed.
Hi Heather,,I assume you well,,I'm 29 ,,from uk,,
I hear you well,, but also value your own self inside feelings,,meaning you might not always get that validation from someone,,for something,,if your inside feeling is saying,, somethings not right,,then something is not right,,and don't doubt your self,,don't count on getting validation from anyone for anything,,,your own feelings are worthy,,they are valuable.,,hope I was of some positivity value to you 💐
@@DanyalMM5 yes you are correct. It takes time to get to that point when you have been chronically invalidated your whole life- i was conditioned to not trust myself or second guess myself -so while I understand what you are saying, its not as easy for people who have been manipulated or chronically invalidated. In my case I literally prayed to God to expose him to his current girlfriend and within one week she reached out to me so I took that as a sign that God wanted me to see this or hear this.
Oh the universe brought him and things around to show me, I wasn’t crazy and it wasn’t me. I could see the patterns and it made me feel a lot better. Cause they can truly take you to your lowest.
You are obviously still attached to him if you are talking to his gf. You need serious counseling.
@@Dogcatlover2432 lol. Aren’t you a judgmental person -especially since you’re watching a video like this you must’ve experienced some type of narcissistic abuse yourself- therefore, you shouldn’t judge. You also don’t know all the facts of the situation. I do not talk to his girlfriend anymore. In fact, I never reached out to her at all - she was the one who kept reaching out to me and I simply wanted to validate her and she validated me -so there was a purpose for our communication at the time but it did not continue because I told her that it was not healthy for us to be communicating anymore and she agreed. He also triangulated us and told her things that caused her to reach out to me initially. He actually caused all of this because he was communicating with her while he was with me and I did not know it at the time. I am set free of him but sometimes it helps to know that it wasn’t you because of the brainwashing that is so common with narcissistic abuse. I have no regrets in communicating with her because it served a purpose at that time and helped validate each of us. Now go get yourself some counseling For being so judgmental
Easy for you to cowardly judge me on a public forum when you’re not showing your face -
Number 1: go no contact completely
Do not go to look at the new supply who was there all along
When I look it takes me a giant step back and just the visual has to be worked through - that giant step back is very painful
Number 2: it doesn’t matter if they are happy it’s fake - I was just replaced for a shiny new toy and all their trips with her are like my trips - miserable
Number 3: the smear campaign does work just know it and learn the reason why I chose to be with someone so harmful
Number 4: my soulmate is me take care of me love me
Number four!!!
16 months since being discarded.. I just feel like a permanent cloud hangs over me.. the wonderful person I believed her to be, and how she changed to someone I did not recognise. Trying my hardest not to allow it to taint my trust in future - but its so hard. Wish i could unsee that side of human nature.
I am 9 months post break up and I feel the same. I feel hopeless that love really exists anymore. But don't give up... take your time... time heals everything. We will be ok❤
We are all in this journey together. I am 4 months out no contact. I think it’s easier for some victims to demonize them and I can understand but the reality is they have a serious personality disorder. It is the disorder that is acting out. There is no excuse for their hurtful maladaptive behaviors. You can still love the person and hate the disorder. Know that you are strong for surviving it and the only thing left to do is accept your pain, heal, acknowledge what they had and move on with your like. Praying 🙏for everyone on this journey.
Please , no looking, no energy given . You must make yourself shift away from their being. You have the power to stop ruminating over them. You actually create chemicals that make you feel good for a moment when you stay mentally trapped. U must stop!!
There is light at the end of the tunnel. I recommend Sam Vaknin videos to really understand exactly how this disorder works and how it was never real in the first place. This is the same for friends and family.
I needed to hear this. I was sitting on my bed crying and your video popped up! You nailed it regarding how a narcissist is. I started feeling better and my migraine lessened. I can see the “light” now and it’s good to truly understand what I’ve been going through. Thanks
Glad it was helpful!
When I finally broke up my head stopped hurting too - what a huge relief - even though our hearts are still sad and healing.❤️💕
If u hear my story u will cry
Its the worst when peoe that havent been with someone like that just think its the easiest thing to do is to forget
@Mubarak Garba , we’re all happy for you. There’s no need to tell us. Go live that wonderful life with you “love of your life” before he reverts back to his old self!
Wow. After 16 months of grieving over my narcissist and how he discarded me, this was probably the best video I've watched. My feelings and thoughts and grief felt so validated. It's as if you know exactly how I feel and what I endured. Thank you. Linda
It’s the best thing ever for your future to be discarded by Narcissists anyway your gonna have bad feelings for awhile and need therapy but you’re better off than most people are because most Narcissists never want to let go of their victims and suck us dry like some vampire they can’t get enough 🩸 blood and they usually eventually will end up killing their victims slowly if you stay with them for they’ll not change and they’ll destroy you and health and life they won’t care incapable of it! Get away from your bad insane Narcissistic boyfriend or man or woman or social friend whoever it is immediately and don’t look back don’t go back no matter if they are begging for you 😂 they will never change!!! They will always be the same creeps that did all that crap don’t forget don’t ever forgive them! Take care of yourself put your needs desires first you don’t need fools losers and scumbags around worthless idiots imbeciles who won’t work for example they are useless people Narcissists are always liars and losers and they’re easy to spot because just listen it’s really obvious they’re liars after awhile you know they don’t look you in the eye cannot show respect and can’t use formal speech or address with respect saying like they aren’t gonna say Sir to anybody indicates they don’t respect anything or anyone they only fake it if they do it at all, don’t be friends with anyone who has this problem either they will be extremely jealous of your accomplishments and they will hatred towards you and they destroy your dreams and your life ruin your happiness and other people friends are about to be destroyed by your Narcissistic Personality disorder friend, spreading lies story gossip about you have been so bad they should not trust you and you not a good person kind of thing is what they do but they get worse and they call you at work or your boss and they lie about you might get fired for that lie to and then what’s next whatever that’s all they do plan plot petty pathetic personal attacks on everybody and they masturbate get off on that weirdness it turns them on I think it’s just because their some deeply disgusting disturbing mentality Illness creep anti-social disorder like criminal minds show that’s them they are all sick and twisted worthless scum and as soon as you start thinking that you’re dealing with this type get out of there& run!
How you getting on??
The change is horrible. But they say they haven't changed.
I remember the love bombing.
@@KingTheJim I'm much better now. It took about 18 months, but now I dont even think about him, nor do I wish he will come back. I was so miserable with him, but now I'm much happier and at peace. It takes time, but it will get better.
I am 2 years single after being left abruptly after a 34 year relationship. Literally left after breakfast, moved in with someone else at tea time - never said bye to me or his kids. Apparently this was his last chance of happiness and he had to put himself first "for once". Everything you say resonates with me and has truly helped me make sense of what happened and why. Everyone has their own way to deal with lifes curve balls and I believe you should find what works for you and go with it - so I'm glad I found your channel. I love your videos and also the comments, as they also affirm that, as so many others can relate, I am more sure of the relationship I really had, rather than the one I thought I had - and I have worked thru cognitive dissonance, but it has been a lot easier as you have kept me focused and on track. I am ever evolving and getting "me" back - which is the most important thing. Anyone just starting this process - you will go thru all sorts of phases and battle from every angle, but stick with it - don't give up cos looking in from the other side is empowering. Thank you.
In my case 33 years of marriage and he dumped while walking the dog. No conflict, no warning....He said out of the blue " We have been together for 30 years and I don't see myself spending the next 30 years together" this was not the first time but definitely the last. Still dealing with the effects of such discard. Still resentful but I have my soul he doesn't.
@@MF-se1zl honestly, hes done you a favour. I spent a year in limbo - like a caged animal released into the wild - I wanted the familiarity of my old life, but while it may have been a slightly bigger cage, i would have still been trapped, metaphorically. 2 years on, and I've worked through the cognitive dissonance and I'm getting me back.
Stay positive, this isn't a quick fix, but once your emotions equilibrate you will realise you're better off without him xxx
@@sallyarnold-young4835 i feel you :(
37 years together from 19-57 years old raised to adult children --had an affair -divorced me 6 weeks after he met & just married her and moved her into the house where i raised my kids. it was viscous. i was discarded and had to go no contact. just started to heal after 3 years of intensive trauma work /therapy & emdr. you have to show up every day and do the work. one day at a time. starting to reframe my future for building my best life !
Support yourself with those that can support you.
But 34 years is a long time.
Damn i thought my ex did an evil trick on me .... she still did tho
Loved the ending! For sure it's a blessing we are out of the toxic relationships with the narcs in our lives.
Amen!! I’m on week 3 of husband walking out with his new complete lover
Pregnant now at 24 weeks. The pain comes and goes.
But accepting it and sitting with it like a friend makes it easier to deal with.
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A narcissist is never happy they live in a world of paranoia and hate. They lead pointless lives. Make sure you are happy and lead a meaningful life.
Here's the thing, I feel sorry for my ex. He has no capacity for true love and any woman who becomes involved with him will end up being destroyed. So very sad all the way around.
Nice video! For me, years after being in a narcissistic relationship and STRONGLY working on myself, I've stopped being jealous of anyone in a relationship. I'm still going through a transformative phase, and currently, I'm not looking for a relationship. I like to think that I've reached a new level!
You have reached a new level & good for you! I reached that level in 2012. Since then, I made a conscious decision to be single & celibate. Life has become better in so many ways since then. I volunteer my time, helping others. I work more hours than I have worked in my entire life doing what I love. I work out at the gym, making me feel so alive & fitting into cute clothes that I wear for myself because it makes me feel happy.
@@FreeSpirit47 Awesome to read, I wish you the best!
@@FreeSpirit47 I am new to celibacy (only one month!!!) and I think I am going to like it. But don’t you ever miss a little romance?
@@MarilyEfremidi Romance can be created by a person for themselves.
@@MarilyEfremidi Benefits of remaining single & celibate outweigh the risk of being hurt over and over.
My narc discarded me after getting me pregnant and I really had no where to go. The heartbeat wasn't detected in the foetus and I got it removed with the surgery. It was a nightmare, I cried days and nights handling the emotional pain of his abuse and my abortion simultaneously. But now I am healed and more emotionally stronger!
Hi omg THIS IS LITERALLY MY STORY NOW!!! This is making me tear up and is so scary,random! And IT HAS TO BE THAT MAN UPSTAIRS
how this exactly what I’m in! And out off allll these comments GOD SHOWED YOURS TO ME!!! WOW!!!!!!!!
omg THIS IS LITERALLY MY STORY NOW!!! This is making me tear up and is scary how this exactly what I’m in!!!!
O fucking my gosh!!!
My son had no heartbeat! Turned out I had Covid and streap which became and infection! That got into his sac, which made him pass! this was January 6th 2023!!!!! Wow!!!! O my god I can’t believe !!!! He said hurtful words and bounced! Not hearing from him until two weeks later ! If you don’t mind! Would you exchange numbers with me and please share your experience!! I am hurt! Broken from losing my FIRST CHILD!! Smfh….my baby was 25.5 weeks! And Due in April 2023.
MY GOD if this isn’t GOD!!! Right now idk what else!
And I just HAD a break Through earlier emotionally and THEN I see your post! Wow! AMEN!!!! Thank you father GOD!! And Thank you for sharing!
Wow. I never thought of that “ Thank you for discarding me ❤” best gift ever!
I help him accountable for his crappy behaviour and he went and found someone weaker. Well said 👏
Knowing it was all a facade was the realization that got me to start healing. That coupled with dating(or honestly just spending time with)people that weren’t narcissistic after the relationship ended. It was obvious how unhealthy that relationship was.
This video has helped me so much!! I keep playing it over and over to remind myself that although he has moved on, and is posting it all over social media, he’s still the same and it’s all a facade. He will never be truly happy!
I won’t admit how many times I’ve watched this video 😅 thank you 🙏 it’s helpful to remember my ex didn’t change and although he advertises how happy he is and how perfect the girl he cheated on me with is, he won’t truly be happy because he lacks empathy and the ability to be vulnerable. During low moments, I need to remember how abusive he was and how unhappy I was with him. Leaving was and still is the best decision 😊
Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together......
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@@melissahunter824 OH, I'm so glad you're back! Call your sweetheart now and when Sara answers, she will get him for you. You will be so surprised to find out where he is. Yes, SARA will answer.
Exactly, but my ex husband cheated for years with a black male millionaire empath who he now married and takes advantage of. 😂🎉
It took me nearly a year to recover from my relationship with a narcissist. But now I have a dozen new friends and a solid relationship with someone who shares my sense of humor and loves me for who I am. Never again will I endure the walking on egg shells and hopeless efforts to please someone that is never satisfied.
For those who just ended their relationship with the narc: hang in there. I know it is hard to realize you've wasted time and energy on someone that never reciprocated your love. But it was not a waste. You will come out stronger and happier. And they won't.
Don't let feelings of regret, revenge or hatred take over. Focus on yourself. That might mean you will have to totally reinvent yourself. Know that you will be happy again and they never will. If you are in need of revenge, that should be more than enough.
I needed this. It's been only three months after being blocked ghosted discarded and thrown out by my narc ex of 7 yrs I had a son with and am dying inside and depressed but I needed that. Thank you.
Thank your for these words. The reinvention of yourself really caught me.
Thankyou so much for this comment. It gave me sm hope. Sending love to everyone out there dealing with these toxic people
Thank you so much brother. I really needed this.
.. its been 8 months of healing i hope i find someone who shares my sense of humour after complete healing
It doesn’t feel great right now, but I do recognize that this will pass and I have been given an opportunity to move on and into a relationship that is TRULY healthy, caring, deep, compassionate…. All of the things I was chasing but not getting. One day at a time❤️❤️
Yes. But a healthy relationship comes from healing the trauma and the past issues why you even allowed this.
It isn’t an automatic that great relationships come to those who are throwing darts in the dark. What usually happens is you will get into a similar relationship unless you go through the painful process with a therapist to uncover the wounding why you’d even be in a toxic relationship. Knowing someone is toxic doesn’t change anything on its own
It WAS NEVER ENOUGH! No matter how good I was to to him, how I loved him, how we were together, engaged, all the great times, I was FUTURE FAKED and Gaslighted like you wouldn't imagine. I wore his engagement 💍 ring, but I had to leave him. When I left him, he told me he was "over me,," months ago. I just went home. This was 11.5 years ago. Hope he's happy 😃
On point! I didn’t care at all about him for three months until I seen on social media that he had a new supply! He is acting so fake because I know he hasn’t changed!
They always have a back up to fall back on they will never be happy with anyone they get with
I would suggest deleting blocking them. That's one thing I knew I never needed to do was check up on their SM accounts. It's been a year and I havnt looked once and I intend on it staying that way! Lol
@@melissamaples1656 yup never!
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Don't look them up on their fb it hurts trust me ignore it
The answer they will never be happy . They can’t and won’t change
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Thank you for this video. You described my life to a tee. I was 36 years together, 34 married. Things started to change after a few months after the wedding. I couldn't understand how the love of my life could treat me so badly. These video have helped me heal and understand it was not my fault
How are you now
The shining new toy just doesn't know any better, but time it will reveal that's a fact.💯
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The last year we were together, I started standing up for myself, and I started to become as toxic as he was, and boy it became a nightmare from that point on. He actually ended up, throwing me out, calling me crazy and toxic.
This, by far, has to be the BEST video on narcissists. It’s almost like you were telling my story, Stephanie. I remember my ex-husband said to me, “I can never be the man you want me to be.” I replied, “faithful, loving, honest and a good role model for our boys?” He replied, “can’t do it!” Wow! If I only knew then what I know now. At least I had the smarts to get out. He even said to me, “ I don’t know what happy is anymore” when I told him I hope his new girlfriend makes him happy. All makes sense now. Thank you so much, Stephanie. A huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. ❤️
I lost 400lbs. 200lbs my ex-husband and 200lbs my evil mother-in-law! I am liberated! Thank you God! ✝️
At least you had rlationship with an „honest” narcist 😉 most of them is not capable of saying that kind of things…they go around with bragging on how excellent and fabulous they are, and how bad and unworthy are all the other people 😎
@@happygoluckystar8069 My ex has never admitted to being one. 30+ years. I stopped counting 5 years ago.
@@WakeupAmerica777 I can imagine what kind of hell you had to go through 🥺🥺 no one understands that kind of things, unless one has an experience of having relationship with a Narc 😢 so good that we have space like this, to share and support each other 🤗
This is fantastic that you are free of Him now!! 🙌 Please do not stop learning about this topic. This is very important in healing process. I keep my ✊✊ for your happiness! Keep the faith. The healthy and normal men are out there! 💚
Yes and my husband of 15 years told me that I will never be the woman and partner he needs in his life. He always had put me down but this said to me was the worst thing he could've ever said. He's with his new supply. We were fine I thought then suddenly he changed, got ice cold and distant and said he needed a few days break from me. The next day I was out and the new girlfriend moved in. I couldn't understand why or how. How he could go from love bombing and super loving and affectionate to a new life with a new woman. And treating me like a stranger. Leaving me homeless, carless, jobless with nothing and not even caring about me at all. It hurts so much. She can have him. I would never go back to him.
He always found excuses for not posting pictures of us on social media during our 2 years relationship and now he’s constantly posting photos of him with random girls… The pain is so deep
You are spot on. I love your content. My biggest difficulty is co-parenting with my ex-wife. I still love her very much, but I know she won't change. I have to admit for a long time I thought I was the narcissist. I'm not because I was able to rise above myself and put our children first. Their happiness brings me peace. I never talk bad about their mother. I live in the moment with my son and daughter. 15, and 17. Her need to be right is paramount. Nobody will stand up to her. I did! Now I know why she discarded me. I stood up for myself and ask the hard questions, that she couldn't explain.
Yeah, I also thought I was the the narc for a long time. In fact, I'm pretty sure I used to be when I was younger but I'm very self-aware by now and really try hard to work on things that my closest ones admit to me in good faith. Can't say the same about the ex who would word salad, gaslight, project her actions unto me constantly. Mind you, she is not evil, has had a rough childhood (narc mother and avoidant father) and does admit that she has a lot of issues herself, plus she's working on them. The only thing is that every book she reads and every advise she hears from her therapist must fit into her worldview or else it's discarded - especially anything I conclude, lol.
@@whatsupbudbud dear
This made so much sense. After explaining my story with my ex to an old college friend he said, I think she sounds like a Narcissist. She sounds like she craves attention from males because she didn’t get any from her father as a child. That resonated so clear as did this video. 😊
I am better off out of their life and control now and you’re right they blessed me by ending it
Better off.. if you’ve got therapy to heal that codependency and childhood wounding
Or we will sadly delay the inevitable of getting into another toxic relationship
Leaving a toxic person doesn’t mean you’ve actually changed your life. It means you left a toxic person is all open to the wounding again unless you want to seal toxic people out of your life with a long process of therapy. Self reflection. Actual change through action. And working on it daily. It doesn’t automatically come where now “I’m going to attract the healthy person into my life”. Life isn’t that simple
Not trying to degrade or put anyone down. I’m just telling people healthy relationships after toxic ones are work and a painful process.
You literally just described my last relationship! So glad videos like this exist. It really does help people to heal
Mine too.
We actually fell in love with ourselves. Mirroring. They aren't who the appear to be. Treat them as you would a 5 year old.
@Esther Hicks f that
Soo accurate! As soon as I stopped serving her constant needs and set some boundaries she went ice cold and gave me the silent treatment. Had I know about this stuff then I would have paid attention to that red flag. You learn about people when they don't get what they want.
Heal, recover and shine bright , never let someone dim your light
He moved very fast after he broke up with me, within a month. And now within 3 months the rebound already moved in with him.
Shit thats what happened to me
@@Em-im1yzMe too! Hell, he told me he was going fishing out of state and unbeknownst to me the SOB was moving into the new /supply house, because he had sold his house! 7 yrs and that’s what I got too. We truly are the lucky ones. It’s taken me 2 years to be alright after the abuse he inflicted. He’s pathetic and a miserable subhuman ! Good riddance!
Exactly my story. Moved her in within a couple of months. We were together 20+ years. It’s been 13 months and I’m still trying to get right side up. #*$&@+*
You are right on with what you are saying - I agree with you on do not check up on them don’t worry about what they are up to - they will never change - they have no real personality how they act depends on who they are around and what they won’t from that person
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100% true.. I delt with it for 18 years and these RUclips videos are real and tell the truth because I've gone through it and have paid a councilor to say the say the same thing.. I now can see every red flag and walk away in a new relationship being a friend or partner or just a random person. Red flags can avoid a ton of things in communication right from the beginning.
I’ve watched this video 3 times in a row now. Thank you so much for these videos. I needed to hear this video/message. Thank you 🙏 you have helped me so much in the beginning stages of my journey. I feel as if I can actually have a future now. I’m 31 and was engaged for 6 years. I’ve felt so lost for so long, I knew what I was doing and I knew who she actually was for years. But I just let myself go.. and now I’m here. Again, thank you so much for your videos. Understanding that I let her do what she did to me was actually my fault because of my old/childhood traumas I never worked through. Hers as well, she obviously has her own demons. I have a long road ahead of me. But with amazing people like you making these videos!! You are changing lives and I appreciate it so much!
Hi Randy.. I am so glad the videos are helping! Wishing you all the best!
I appreciate your message same journey you are on, and yes we will fix ourselves and find a way back to ❤ love. Our futures are bright
Just saw this video now and it is SPOT ON. Thanks for this Stephanie. I have an AMAZING therapist but it is so helpful to hear this perspective from someone else as well. It is so much more difficult and disgusting when they start using the kids as "reasons" to hurt and continue to take supply. So hurtful when you have to deal with them while you felt true love and now have to protect your kiddos against the Narc's smears and BS. Then add alcoholism to her narcissistic disorder and you end up watching this video months after it was posted and looking for any semblance of peace.
You are a Godsend, I needed this so much, thank you for being here. What a blessing you are to combat the cruelty of the narcissist in this world.
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the whole trick to understanding a nark is education. the more your educated, the more you understand.
I've been in a terrible cycle for almost 3 years. Apart from a narc for almost 18 months, but recently I have felt sad again.. I needed to hear this.. the whole " front row " analogy really was a light bulb moment.. all I'm seeing now is the show he put on that people were seeing when it was my turn .. thankyou... truly, thankyou xx
As someone well into the healing journey I am Proud to say I was gifted by a discard flip ( most narcissist have someone long before they leave) as he made it to the point that I was the one to evict his squatter.. ( which in turn added a sweet smell to his eternal victim role).
They love that reactive abuse...don't do it, listen to Stephanie!
You know as well as we do what's going on behind those closed doors. I actually pray for the new prey. I'm finally back to 95% and actually got rid of other bad habits in the process. A win for me!
Thank you for these videos!
My ex was BPD and I find a lot of similarities with NPD. Listening to your videos gives me validation and peace. I’m in therapy now (EMDR) and it’s the best thing I’ve ever done. Healing is such a wonderful thing. :)
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Same situation with me !
EMDR is a game changer ! rewiring my brain for 3 years now !
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Yes it is. It’s really quite amazing!
Wish I would have done this years ago …but better late than never!
You always hit the nail on the head. It’s so hard when you have a child with them so you can’t really move on with your life and escape 😢
“Grow a pair” couldn’t have said it better! Love you!!!! Thank you forever and ever you get me through some tough days!
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One thing I noticed. I like to keep my car clean on the inside & as clean as possible on the outside. It makes me happy to not have clutter in my car & when people ride with me they don’t have to worry about dirtiness in the floorboards or seats. As soon as the narc left my life, her car was like a wreck. I view it as a reflection of her life. It looks normal on the outside & fun on the outside, but the inside is just a wreck they’re unwilling to deal with.
The X told me he is happier after we ended, and I believe that to be true in some aspects...he struggled to be a better person but always returned to baseline against his best efforts. I truly want the best for him and I know he struggles to be genuinely happy. They say every pot has a lid and we were not a good "fit" so I hope he finds his lid ~ Peace & Blessings
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"Grow A Pair"... LOL! That was great Stephanie! That's exactly what happened to me. I had just had enough.
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Same!! Got discarded because of my boundaries.
Everyone has got a breaking point
Narcisstics aren't capable of loving feelings like happiness. Period.
The one where they met their soulmate and I didn’t meet mine hit home! The front row seat they are liars! All their connections are surface including with their children! So grateful
Every time I am dealing with my ex , you have a video explaining my situation exactly, and I am able to cope. You are a blessing.
Don't ever want someone to change into the person you want them to be.... That's selfish, let your person be authentic in every way.
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I am so thankful I found your channel. I’ve been feeling so hurt and bitter about what my ex did to me without remorse. Now he’s in a new relationship & it’s a super blow to my ego bc I don’t think he deserves to be happy with her. Thank you for shedding light on my feelings & on how to heal myself 🧿
I've spent a lot of time on RUclips over the past two months in my exploration of NPD, and this is one of the most brilliant, spot-on discussions I've ever experienced on the subject. Thank you so much, Stephanie. Really.
Although I ended the relationship with the Narc years ago, I watch these videos to keep me aware. Truth! When we first started dating we gave and got, as time went on he changed and I changed as well. No more moon eyed, I let it be known I wasn’t going to put up with his crap. The supply was drying up and he morphed. When he told me he had met someone else, I wished him love and light and good luck. It freaked him out LOL
Thank you for this video. I really needed to hear this. I've been reeling from the discard and subsequent hoovering from my ex, followed by the vindictiveness when I said I'd had enough and left for good, then realising they are a narcissist, while also seeing they have been dating/seeing other girls so soon after our breakup. It cut me to my core to see someone who supposedly 'loved" me move on so quickly, and treat me so badly at the same time.
I'm currently working so hard on myself and addressing the core wounds that led me to accept their behaviour in the relationship. While the work is difficult, I know that I am becoming a better, healthier, happier version of myself with an incredible future ahead of me. Yeah, my ex is already moving on. But the reason they can move on so quickly, without a care, is because they lack an ability to truly connect with people, and that's just truly sad.
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I like your twist. And you are right. Now I can admit this to myself. I did come to the realization, eventually, that God had freed me and certainly has given me a much better life.
I love your content and how you explain this topic. It’s been 5 months since I left my ex narc. I’m definitely a lot better than I was when we broke up. My ex immediately got into a new relationship and they appear to be happier than ever. It’s very difficult to accept but I have too.
Shannon, my husband of 14 years and I just split...out of nowhere...I have a feeling he has someone else though...he was grasping at straws to validate the why it was over...what a horrible feeling
@@alsuarez9932 I know how you are feeling. We must believe that we are much better off without them. We deserve peace, and to feel safe in a relationship. Please know you are not alone. 🙏
Such wise words. the narc will always be broken because they don't see it in themselves.. they blame everyone else and are the victim.
My ex thought he was this amazing Dad (not my kids) but he left his wife with 2 toddlers! Of course it was all her fault.. when I met her I realised she was lovely and hard working and a lot like me!
These videos are so helpful - my heart goes out to those still suffering from the dealing with a narc x
Narcissists do exist and are like an existential mistake to mankind. They must be left alone by themselves forever from now on ✌🏼❤
Love this it’s spot on… so sad that these type of people exist.. and I’m glad there are these videos out there because I have learnt so much and it’s helping me heal
I really appreciate your ability to clearly explain the narcissist's behavior. I struggle grasping the foreign concepts because I believed he thought like me and had the same ability to have empathy as me, After 35 years, the mask is off. In six months, we went from planning our retirement to him moving in with a woman he just met. She claims he is her soulmate. I always thought our relationship was very Superficial and he rarely shared his thoughts with me. I just thought that was the way it was, he never wanted to hear how my day went, good or bad. One of the last things he said to me when he walked out the door was " People don't stay long in relationships where you can't share basic feelings" It still confuses me.
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Nobody is ever just happy. It’s a roller coaster for everyone.
I needed to understand my ex narcissist. He was a legend in his own mind. Lol I'm not going to settle. New year 2022, is my year to love me.💗🙏💗🙏🤗
hi :) this was a great video with a lot of concrete positive points. the two very appreciated ones i take away are: that significant change and or reprogramming (even for those without npd) takes time (thus, patience to heal and or allow for focused and concentrated changes of oneself is fair. although i also believe in genuine rapid change if its truly desired, focused, and well / thoroughly implemented with honest and true habitual behavioral change (which can take as little as mere months for lasting neural and neural plastic conditions in the best case scenarios) and your last statement that the narcissist 'did a favor by opening up space or opportunity for something else (and hopefully more befitting and / or healthy)' (and in my opinion, at the very least, absent or free of unnecessary stress, trauma, difficulty if and when they actually go away or move on). personally for the most part, im just happy if the narcissist is out of my life, focused elsewhere, consumed with everything and anything other than me, and i could not care less if they are happy or not, and or who their subsequent victims or 'cherished' loved ones are, especially as i believe in the concept of genuine karma and i believe that eventually, truth, fact, and consequence or in practical sense, cause and effect, eventually (even if it takes several years) for better or worse, eventually transpires :) this is especially comforting to know that suffering, is inevitable, for everyone, and for the toxic, is more probable and likely more severe, so 'revenge' is not even a concern :) people really do generally reap what they sow, especially if their intention and actions are aligned, so while toxic people seemingly 'get away with' manipulation, lies, facts distortion, destructive campaigns, etc, it usually eventually surfaces in personal health or conditions where the toxicity has a profoundly inescapable effect. at least that is my observation in general :)
This video spoke to me! I spent 3 years with a narc and Stephanie literally hit the nail on the head with respect to the narc and with respect to me! This video helped me and was perfect!
Honestly, just be glad that it's not you and it's their turn to suffer not yours anymore. I don't even feel sorry for the new person. They know what they're getting themselves into.
Moving in! As soon as I moved in and gave up my peace she changed. This is nuts bc she’s doing this same script with her new person. It’s so scary to witness.
What was your experience living with the narc? How long did it last, what did you notice was happening that wasn't right? Need to figure out if my ex was a narc or if I'm going crazy :/
This is 100% percent!! “ why are they showing their love , their good self , their love to someone else and not me now ?? “ ….. ugh.
perfect video and it has given me more insight on why they do show off their new toy on social media.. I got reeled back in and was for a short time a backup plan in case new toy didn't meet her needs - but have gone no contact and I'm slowly getting there, enjoying things I once did. I have learned a great deal about this condition, and know the red flags from a mile off, I will love myself again and will be a better person for the experience.
My ex narc new bf has a profile photo of them together on social media. She has zero photos of them together. She doesn't flaunt her relationship at all. I thought all narcs did this?
What were some early signs you notice? Did you live together and if YES - what was that experience like? Need someone to confirm I've dealt with a narc or if I'm delusional :S
Thank you!
@@MrIlleism - they don't always flaunt - mine hasn't - they just make out it's all happiness but you got to block all media, don't be looking over the fence as it will make you crazy. Yes we did live together, had the love bombing at the beginning (you're my soulmate etc) but then slowly but surely the controlling and demands began, I was beginning to tread on eggshells, didn't want to upset or say what was on my mind, began to feel isolated and trapped, so I had to get out. I so much better now with the education, got my life back and just about to go on a new journey. I wish you all the luck, it isn't easy as you have feelings and what them to have happiness but you will always fall short and will be only a stepping stone.
@@paulbarrick5001 Thank you brother! All the best on your new journey also.
May I ask how long before you started noticing this 'sudden' change when living together/moving in?
@@MrIlleism 3 to 4 months .. then things changed ...
Wow the same happened to me…
I really needed to hear this. Sometimes it’s so hard to put my thoughts into words and being the only person in my friend group that’s been through something like this it’s hard to explain. You really put things into perspective. I have moments where I think he found his soulmate and the sad part is that throughout his entire new relationship he would call me and try to lure me back in until I just stop answering. He is having a baby now and when I heard the news it broke my heart because he always tried to get me pregnant but I was knew I didn’t want one from him…and seeing him now happy with his baby idk sometimes I think he has really changed.
Id like to add the importance of family and friends. A lot of his behavior and mentalities he learned from them and they all think he’s the poor gold boy and i’m the big bad villain. Sometimes it’s also the environment around who is narcissistic. I find this funny though because they acted as if i wasnt good enough for him but just because i dont look shiny and perfect doesnt mean im worthless. I’ll let them have him, where he truly belongs 😂
I really hope she *is* as happy as she appears. I hope she found a partner that was able to reach her best self better than I could. Is there a part of me that has petty/sad/jealous feelings? Yes. But I'm choosing not to listen to it. We all deserve another chance.
Thank you so much ❤️❤️ this was exactly what i needed ❤️
I left my narc since he escaletad the psychological abuse on a HIGH level when i realised what i was a victim of and a relaitve to him told me he was a whole new person and is really happy and kind right now and she said ”he wasnt good for you and you werent good for him” and i felt like my world came crashing down, what in the world did i do wrong - but i wasnt good for him because what HE needed when i left and since he cant control me he uses his charm and manipulation for making them see only the good and once again forget the monster that lives inside who are not honest to those who can give him what he needs
Thank god I got away from mine in the first 2 months. Even then it's been really hard and initially extremely painful but I couldn't fathom the pain of going thru years of it.
So unbelievably confusing trying to date a narc. You want to rationalize what's happening and there behavior and question if it's you and it's poss to fix or change what's happening. Knowing it's not you and nothing will effect the ultimate destiny of the relationship that it's going to end makes it so much easier to move on and be happy for it.
This video was EVERYTHING I needed today. Thank you
LOVE THAT!
This video is excellent how l lived. Once I got a career, he didn't like it except the money. I finally left over 4 1/2 years ago. He was in a relationship before I ever left, and I did think l was the problem. His first supply was so beneath me that I felt what does she have that I didn't have. Yes, I am alone right now but I am happy with myself. He has gone from one supply to another. I don't care if he is happy or not but since I know him so well, he will never be happy.
them not having such contentment made me think that they cannot be happy. so strange and i was so confused no matter how i tried to bring back the good times we've been since i found her seems so hard and impossible, it was so tiring, draining and exhausting. but that was then yesterday cause i left that toxic relationship for a year now and never i had this feeling of freedom since i was still with her, the narc. now i understand, now i'm getting better each day.
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I just left the relationship a little over a year ago, haven't seen or heard from her since. I pretty much doubt that I will EVER be going back to that nonsense. After 20 years putting up with her BS and her discards and FALSE accusations.... IT IS COMPLETELY OVER!!! She can have whomever she wants, I dont need the AGGRAVATION in my life. I'll be the better person and wish her well and lots of HAPPINESS!!!
If they tell you upfront they're a bad person or will break your heart. Believe them and move on right away!!!!!
The narcissist harassed, spied upon me, invaded my privacy, smeared my reputation, interfered in my relationships, nit-picked, tried to make my life miserable and was generally a big, fat KAREN. Therefore I hope they are so happy that they forget all about me and leave me alone. My life is peaceful and happy without them. I have no curiosity nor concern about them other than they stay away.
Thank you Stephanie
My ex has 6 children to 3 different men.
Had two taken by child safety
Cheated on me whilst pregnant with twins and left me homeless on a dirt road.
Has moved to a new area (don't know exactly) with a whole new group of "friends" and has my two kids.
But she is in for a big shock because I'm about to put her infront of a judge and go for full custody
I can't wait
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What the heck! I'm sorry you had to go through that
I’m glad you’re going to get your children and keep them safe. What a wholesome and wonderful father you are 😊
What trash .. I hope you are ok
Another really excellent video, thank you! It really drove home for me that it doesn’t matter who he ends up with, he will not find happiness because it is all based on external circumstances. He’s back with his FEB that he broke up with to be with me - she’s been his doormat for over two decades. He told me how she was such “high maintenance’ and an ‘emotional vampire;’ and they could never be in the same page about anything - they’d even gone to counseling at one point when they were considering getting married. He told me more than a few times how unhappy he was with her - he’s been back with her since the breakup, which is not surprising. At first it hurt, but now I am just thinking, wow, sad. Really, he is not well and thank God I have an opportunity to get better without him.
I can't believe i'm going through this like i really can't, i can't believe i've been fooled like this. You're literally telling my story. I'm so angry. I don't know what to do with all the anger i have inside.
Use it to better yourself.
Those last few sentences are so powerful. Thank you.
This is exactly the advice I needed to hear today. Thank you.
He was "DAMAGED GOODS" before I came along. I will overcome this BULLSHIT. Have a great life with your new supply, you're only gonna try to destroy that. one. I'm so thankful to my LORD & SAVIOR!! You
Thank you Stephanie. You affirmed everything that I knew in my heart. He supposedly healing in 2 weeks at the end of 2020. Oh, okay. LoL
He healed miraculously because he had found new pliable supply.
Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together......
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This was a fantastic explanation. I've watched a lot of videos and your explanation helped it all make sense. Now I understand better. Thank you 🙏🏾
Your video has help me understand my relationship with a narcissist, that I just broke up wirh
Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together......
Wh atsA p p👆