I spent an entire week absolutely shredding my brain thinking about the decision I had to make and you have the nerve to swoop in here and give me, not the answer, but a way to decide, in only 2 minutes??? Wow. Thank you so so much. I know what to do now! :)
Great Clip, As someone with chronic anxiety, I often get decision paralysis, and in particular - any decisions that involve people pleasing or have an emotional component. When every option feels terrible, and it seems like a much, much bigger deal than it really is or that it does to anyone else it's debilitating and NOT making decisions like that causes a lot of problems. I'm looking for better tools for managing these situations ad this is helpful.
Check out Naval Ravikant and Tim Ferris. They have some good quick help on exactly this. Usually if you are truly unsure about a decision the answer is no and you are probably scared to not please the person involved and it will be best for you to flex that no muscle.
@@princepeterwolfsame here anxiety analysis paralysis, and ADHD: the inability to hold ideas in working memory long enough to analyze them, and compare them.
I feel that I am hitting rock bottom today coz I made a major life decision yesterday. I woke up doubting my decision and planning to retract it. I feel so low like the world ended, but this video, you, are a saviour. Thank you for people like you. I feel better about my decision now.
Ugh, this spoke to me.. For the past year and a half a family member has been asking me and my other family members to move out. I found a place and was super excited as this will be my first time out on my own - I was hoping they'd be happy for me but made they situation all about them when in reality they chose the outcome. I love this person with all my heart and have often sacrificed my happiness for theirs and it's still not enough. While this change may alter our relationship I think this will be the best for my well being and growth. Thank you for this!
I'm trying to quit weed, and I am struggling tonight to not give in the urges. This video really helped to put it into perspective, and decide not to do it. Thank you for that. It is hard but I know it'll help me in the long run
Thank you for this.. I seldom seek advice but am going through a really hard time in a relationship with children involved. I’ve been putting everyone else’s needs before my happiness for long time and I know I need a change. I’ve been making the mistake of looking outward and it’s made me focus on everyone else’s judgment rather that following my heart. My brain has convinced me the world is watching but it’s really not.. nobody cares. That false fear & self deception is enough to make the strongest person lock up in anxiety. So yes, thank you for your guidance. I refuse to look back in 30 years with regrets and sadness. It’s time to live!
I've gone through so much physical, verbal abuse my whole life which led to hatred of my own existence. But after 2 years of not deciding, I have put up the courage to pursue what I wanna do with my life. The decision is about my expansion and my life.
I so needed this video today. I just quit a job that was toxic and it made me realize that I don’t want to spend the rest of my working years putting up with bullshit for a paycheck. I’m trying to decide whether I should sell my house (which has significant equity) and downsize my life so I can work less and enjoy life more. I know it’s what my heart and soul wants, but my head keeps bringing up doubt about whether it’s a smart decision.
What decision did you end up making? I hope it all worked out, I agree about not working in jobs we hate, it's important to find a balance so we can support ourselves whilst feeling at peace with our work.
@@Mindyhartwick That's great about your new job, congrats and thanks for the update, it's always interesting to hear what people decided to do in the end.
I so needed this. Thanks, Mel. I will not silence me or my creativity despite the anxiety and fear trying to keep me small and safe. Courage to everyone here.❤
Mel! Thank you! I’m in the middle of that decision making moment and I was already trying to rationalize why NOT to do something I know in my Heart and Soul I MUST do. I love your way of comparing whether this will grow or shrink me and even though it might be uncomfortable in this moment I already know the rewards will last a lifetime. Thank you❤️
I’m in the middle of one myself. A job that is unfulfilling and being stressed every day. Being stressed to start my work day. Good pay but it is with me every day and waking hour.
I decided a few months ago to retire early from my job. Good pay etc, but “my life “ is more important. It will be financially tight for a couple of years but I’m so excited for whatever is ahead. I know it’s the best decision for me !
@@stylestory1000 Sometimes its not possible. I have already put out feelers with previous coworkers and may be able to go back to a previous position which was less pay but much less stressful. Meanwhile I brush up my design skills again and try to learn more on UX design and see if that is a career path. I am thankful to have a job where my housing is secured so only need to worry for money for expenses but my wife works so we will be tight but not in financial trouble. Who knows, maybe this is the turning point I need to make a different career path.
I was actually in a confusion for my current decision.. not only now but everytime I feel the same . But now I’ve got a clear idea 💡. Thanks for your words 👍😊
I don’t know how but this video showed up at just the right time. I’ve been on furlough since May 4 and have appreciated this time “off” because it’s the sabbatical I’ve been wanting for a long while. It’s allowed me the time to spend with mom and has relaxed the deeply entrenched attachment to my job that I’ve had for nearly 30 years. I love my job, but within the last two years, I’ve changed and it no longer reflects my views, plus our “new-ish” boss is taking us in a direction that I don’t agree with. An email exchange with a colleague today reminded me about my frustration at work, then I saw this video. Everything in my heart says to leave, but financial concerns are holding me back. I hope I can find the strength and confidence to make the cut. Thank you for this timely video! 🙏
Hi Sarah, if it's any help, I was in a very similar situation a year and a half ago. I loved my job and had a tight knit group of girls I worked with. However, I was so stressed that I finally made the decision to quit. It has been terrifying, especially financially. But I have seen the miracles (some small, some large) that keep happening for me and my family everyday. Just take it one step at a time, and remember the things you want are not always the things you need.
@@amandasoberano548 Hi Amanda, I truly appreciate your words and sharing your experience. Didn't mention it in my initial comment, but this break has allowed time for me to separate myself from my work and workplace such that I can objectively (instead of emotionally) think about things. I do believe the Universe hears people, and when we make the decision that's right for us, things fall in to place. But it's still scary to break the tie. Thank you for your support. Stay well.
I can't thank you enough Mel. I have been through some hard times and have come to point zero again. I am so confused to make any decision right now. Feel very helpless. This video is a great guidance for me.♡
The decision makes no difference! What you do after.... if you give everything you can, to make the decision turn out good, than everything is fine! In a Moment of joice, you only go through emotions. That has nothing to do with the decision ! And in the end, you make a snap decision! But the emotions must be! Nothing will go wrong, if you give everything in youre decision after you decide.... no mater what you decide, it will turn great!
Sure its important to do a 'gut' check and I agree with Mel in general, but for critical decisions your heart should check in with your brain on the risk management side of things. For me, I just turned down a job opportunity that represented a big risk if it did not work out because I am at a very vulnerable point in my life and career. I have no time to recover if I don't find an opportunity that represents a really good fit and lower risk. The brain tells the heart what to feel and the heart tells the brain what to think. So its a negotiation of sorts. Not quite as simple as Mel makes it sound unless you are young, single and living at home. Life coaches rarely send you groceries if their advice does not work out. Having said that, I watch these videos because I have enormous respect for Mel.
If im struggling with making a decision it is because i cant answer the question if it expands or shrink me... i cannot see the future, so if my feelings are dependend on knowing what will come i would not be in this situation...
I’ve been thinking about a huge decision the past few days and my mind was spiraling with possibilities and a huge list of pros and cons. But this single short video helped me clarify what decision was right for me immediately. This is such beautiful and amazing advice. Even if the “safe” way may seem more logical, if it ‘shrinks’ you then it’s not worth it. I may have to write down some notes on this and hang it up so I remember ❤ thank you so much!
@@the_boss2194 hmm I guess like when you’re in a big room of people and you feel alone, or when you feel like something is holding you back from your potential. That feeling of smallness and lack of control. Something that makes you feel not so great about yourself, and maybe kinda lonely. For me, the decision that would have “shrunk me” would be living with my parents. Because I know that being there would make me feel like my autonomy as an adult would be taken away and I would be “shrunk down” to feel like a child again. My potential for growth for be hindered, so even though that’s a safe choice, it’s not one that I want.
Fair well said!!! I am on that journey or expansion and it’s terrifying 😟 but the possibilities are endless! All I keep telling myself... I have to try!!!
I just watched a video using several, 6, steps in making a decision. Very confusing. I watched THIS short simple video by Mel Robbins and she is 100 % RIGHT ON, PERFECT!
Good decesion making and when it's going to affect your long term health and happiness your heart is the way to go. If you are not happy what you are doing it will not benefit you in the long haul. This is helpful Mel!
Thanks a million, for uploading this video at the right time. This is a God sent message at this time of depression for me, strengthening me more for my decesion taken in life. God bless you !!
A brandnew approach to decision-making! A new dimension! Instead of listing pros and cons, putting the best question: does it expand/improve me? I stumbled upon your video the very best time, just while hesitating. And you give the perfect answer! Thanks a lot for your great work!
Mel...I just made a decision yesterday. It was difficult to understand but now I feel much better. (I made it!..)..and so I can be my Better Version... Thank you soo much!...🙌💐
the first few seconds in the vid..and i already got my answer, not that i didn't know it..but there are always self doubts..but i am certain, thank you
I have been dreading this day for a whole year, because of the scope of the decision I have to make. I am so incredibly terrified, but your words make sense, thank you!
This was a tough decision and yeah I think you’re right. If it doesn’t open for more possibilities, I think it’s best for me to leave it. Thank you so much ❤. You helped my life so much recently.
I've watched this twice in one hour. And I don't know about using my heart but actually the questions you propose are very logical, big risk vs staying silenced and shrunken. The risk of big time fail and difficulty is always preferable to me than shrinking and ever be silenced again. I spent 27 years of my life being agreeable and understanding and shrinkin and despite it all one day a freaking psycho played a smear campaign on me and everybody turned against me. Ever since then, after I decided not to kill myself I also decided that no one would ever silence me or corner me if people were to hate me, it would for things I did and said and not for things I didn't do or say.Thanks Mel, thanks so much!
This video feels like a life saver for me 🙏🏻❤Everything that was said in this video was exactly what I needed to hear and I couldn’t be more thankful for it
This is a great video, the problem is... I'm struggling between choices. Choice 1 would expand me in the sense of giving me freedom, cutting toxic ties, being able to live my own life but might shrink my future career options. Choice 2 would be remaining in my current circumstances (therefore further shrinking my freedom and mental health) but might open up more career options in the future.
i currently have *two problems* at the same time and i can finally know the answer by only watch this video until duration 1:10..like WOWWWW..this helps me a lot!🤯🤯
You have posted this topic before mel. Still good topic to ask and I have used this to make a decision to leave the military and it was the absolute best decision I ever made. Thank you mel for posting
Thank you so much for this short video!🙏🏻 I’ve making my decision now according to my feeling. Even it is terrifying. It will open possibility!🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️❤️ Thank you one more time.
But I don’t know if it will expand my future or just cost me more money. I have had the drive to further education but ended up wasting time and money when I couldn’t stand it any longer. Now I want to try another. Thanks just don’t know if it will be beneficial. Thank you. ❤
Man is like the universe brought me here to hear this. Some decisions are scary especially when you have children but what she said is ultimately true. GL family. Stay safe. Stay strong in the dark moments. God is everywhere
Oh Mel cannot believe I've seen this video today, mine is a new home from a beautiful flat where I've been for over five years. The new flat is senior living because I'm over 65 and will be a lot cheaper per month to rent!! The flat I'm in now has a troublesome male elderly neighbour who is a problem to me, and non existent heating, but is in a lovely position, very quiet and lots of other things I'm happy with but due to my deteriorating eyesight and mental health problems this other flat is being shown to me on Friday this week, decision very very big for me. It's truly is my future!!!! What's your feeling please, I would appreciate it soooo much Paula in sussex
WE DON'T KNOW WHAT TOMORROW WILL BRING. SO DON'T STAY ANGRY FOR TOO LONG LEARN TO FORGIVE AND LOVE WITH ALL OF YOUR HEART.DON'T WORRY ABOUT THE PEOPLE WHO DONT LIKE YOU. ENJOY THE ONES WHO LOVE YOU. 💕❤🌻
I made a decision using my mind and man...it was the baddest idea I ever had. My decision was mostly because I wanted to go away from my narcissistic father. Unfortunately, the woman I am staying with (because my job isn't near my home town) is quiet a narcissistic too and my employer is a absolute mess and stresses me out. I just want to give up on life.
Giving up on life is never the solution.....please keep on living and fighting.....it's never too late to start over....I'm speaking from an experience
@@RealEstateInsider247 @sakuraotaku Thank you so much for your kind answers ❤️. I just feel like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong and I've waited so long to finally be able to distance myself from narcissistic people (mostly my father) but apparently I attract them. Hopefully life will get a bit easier. But your kind words are definitely a ray of sun on my day !
@@funwithsarah1586 It's interesting you say that apparently you attract them. What I learned is that Narcissist actually do prey on those who are willing to behave certain ways that feed their insecurities. I heard just one of the many ways to deal with a narcissist is to become a bore; that is don't let them get under their skin; as I remember it (not perfectly, I'm sure), for example when they are begging for attention, just respond in a ho-hum way ... and apparently they'll get tired of trying to push your buttons in that certain way. I also learned there is a difference between Narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder. That's an interesting discussion >> ruclips.net/video/IEfS-_a21kk/видео.html Hang in there. :) :) :) There are genuine, kind-hearted folks out there too. I'm thinking in my mind, when I ever run across my next narcissist, if there are certain things I can do to discourage that behavior. Surely they must be bitterly miserable and would like not to be.
@@RealEstateInsider247 Thank you so much for all of you message : it means so much ! 🙏🏻 I'll definitely have a look at the discussion you linked ! Yes, I need to get over my insecurities, it's definitely something I'm working on. You just showed me that kind people exist :)
👍Follow your intuition. Meditate and listen to your inner wisdom. Think about how your decision will make you feel - after the fact. Ask yourself two important questions. Avoid analysis paralysis. Recognize your body's reactions.
This helped so much I’m trying to make a decision on what school I’m gonna go two and have been losing my sanity over the decision. But now I know what to do and feel happy about my decision and excited for my future ❤❤❤
What if the decision we are making is for the betterment of someone we love but requires a sacrifice on our time or puts a restriction on us in some way? Shouldn’t you make the decision based on what your values are even if it isn’t directly beneficial to yourself?
Heyy so can u help me outt.. I'm actually the person who thinks for the betterment of me and my studies. I need to leave home.. And live in with my partner... And he strongly is opposing not to come as he wanna grow and make his things correct by being isolated from every1.... And my family conditions are forcing me to leave home but also at the same tym I need his presence I can't live aloneee..... It's really getting difficult
This was one of the best vdos i saw on decision making.msny of us think short term and not long term..but it did help me in making a decision wjich i was very confused about if i shud do it or not....thanks Mel
I made the decisions, have started the process, and now am feeling the fear. still going ahead though. A New Beginning.
How are you now - a year out?
Yes update us !!! ❤
I hope you did well, bro
Keep spirit
I spent an entire week absolutely shredding my brain thinking about the decision I had to make and you have the nerve to swoop in here and give me, not the answer, but a way to decide, in only 2 minutes??? Wow. Thank you so so much. I know what to do now! :)
How did it work out
I absolutely love this. "Live in what's true for you, not what's safe in the moment"
Great Clip, As someone with chronic anxiety, I often get decision paralysis, and in particular - any decisions that involve people pleasing or have an emotional component. When every option feels terrible, and it seems like a much, much bigger deal than it really is or that it does to anyone else it's debilitating and NOT making decisions like that causes a lot of problems. I'm looking for better tools for managing these situations ad this is helpful.
Your comment changed the perspective I have of myself, I have always felt that way but had no words to call it out - thank you!
Check out Naval Ravikant and Tim Ferris. They have some good quick help on exactly this. Usually if you are truly unsure about a decision the answer is no and you are probably scared to not please the person involved and it will be best for you to flex that no muscle.
@@princepeterwolfsame here anxiety analysis paralysis, and ADHD: the inability to hold ideas in working memory long enough to analyze them, and compare them.
I feel that I am hitting rock bottom today coz I made a major life decision yesterday. I woke up doubting my decision and planning to retract it. I feel so low like the world ended, but this video, you, are a saviour. Thank you for people like you. I feel better about my decision now.
Ugh, this spoke to me..
For the past year and a half a family member has been asking me and my other family members to move out. I found a place and was super excited as this will be my first time out on my own - I was hoping they'd be happy for me but made they situation all about them when in reality they chose the outcome. I love this person with all my heart and have often sacrificed my happiness for theirs and it's still not enough. While this change may alter our relationship I think this will be the best for my well being and growth. Thank you for this!
I'm trying to quit weed, and I am struggling tonight to not give in the urges. This video really helped to put it into perspective, and decide not to do it. Thank you for that. It is hard but I know it'll help me in the long run
Forget the 20minute Ted Talks on decision making. THIS is it! thank you
Thank you for this.. I seldom seek advice but am going through a really hard time in a relationship with children involved. I’ve been putting everyone else’s needs before my happiness for long time and I know I need a change. I’ve been making the mistake of looking outward and it’s made me focus on everyone else’s judgment rather that following my heart. My brain has convinced me the world is watching but it’s really not.. nobody cares. That false fear & self deception is enough to make the strongest person lock up in anxiety. So yes, thank you for your guidance. I refuse to look back in 30 years with regrets and sadness. It’s time to live!
I've gone through so much physical, verbal abuse my whole life which led to hatred of my own existence. But after 2 years of not deciding, I have put up the courage to pursue what I wanna do with my life. The decision is about my expansion and my life.
U can tell what decision u made
What does it mean by expansion?
Wish you the best in life ❤
My heart in both places and expanding in both , just different parts of expanding !!
I so needed this video today. I just quit a job that was toxic and it made me realize that I don’t want to spend the rest of my working years putting up with bullshit for a paycheck. I’m trying to decide whether I should sell my house (which has significant equity) and downsize my life so I can work less and enjoy life more. I know it’s what my heart and soul wants, but my head keeps bringing up doubt about whether it’s a smart decision.
What decision did you end up making? I hope it all worked out, I agree about not working in jobs we hate, it's important to find a balance so we can support ourselves whilst feeling at peace with our work.
@@katec9893 I found a new job that I like. My co-workers are great! I’m staying in my house for now because it’s just not the right time to sell.
@@Mindyhartwick That's great about your new job, congrats and thanks for the update, it's always interesting to hear what people decided to do in the end.
I so needed this. Thanks, Mel. I will not silence me or my creativity despite the anxiety and fear trying to keep me small and safe. Courage to everyone here.❤
Agree 100% thinking safe/small not good for growth, so true. Love it❤
It is like Mell reads my mind. Whenever i am struggling with something and she pops out with a solution! Thanka Mel!
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Mel! Thank you! I’m in the middle of that decision making moment and I was already trying to rationalize why NOT to do something I know in my Heart and Soul I MUST do. I love your way of comparing whether this will grow or shrink me and even though it might be uncomfortable in this moment I already know the rewards will last a lifetime. Thank you❤️
Rebekah Cox, you look stunning
Made my day ! Thank you :)
@@rebekah518 you are welcome my dear.I am Lioyd from the States.You?
I’m in the middle of one myself. A job that is unfulfilling and being stressed every day. Being stressed to start my work day. Good pay but it is with me every day and waking hour.
I decided a few months ago to retire early from my job. Good pay etc, but “my life “ is more important. It will be financially tight for a couple of years but I’m so excited for whatever is ahead. I know it’s the best decision for me !
Have a backup plan
@@stylestory1000 Sometimes its not possible. I have already put out feelers with previous coworkers and may be able to go back to a previous position which was less pay but much less stressful. Meanwhile I brush up my design skills again and try to learn more on UX design and see if that is a career path. I am thankful to have a job where my housing is secured so only need to worry for money for expenses but my wife works so we will be tight but not in financial trouble. Who knows, maybe this is the turning point I need to make a different career path.
@@brandondelgado7731 that is the plan. Wish you the very best.
Have had a few of those moments. I usually get clarity when I remove money from the equation.
Ok I'm blown away. Most important 2 minutes I've ever heard in my life!
I was actually in a confusion for my current decision.. not only now but everytime I feel the same . But now I’ve got a clear idea 💡. Thanks for your words 👍😊
The problem is when you don't have answers to those questions either.... but you still have to make a decision now
That is the same issue for me, Did you later make the best decisions?
@BamigbolaVictor hi, sorry it's been 2 years I don't even remember what the video was about 😅
@@homiekeen23 It was about making a decision that could have your life transformed or ruined
I guess that was a lot of years
I don’t know how but this video showed up at just the right time. I’ve been on furlough since May 4 and have appreciated this time “off” because it’s the sabbatical I’ve been wanting for a long while. It’s allowed me the time to spend with mom and has relaxed the deeply entrenched attachment to my job that I’ve had for nearly 30 years. I love my job, but within the last two years, I’ve changed and it no longer reflects my views, plus our “new-ish” boss is taking us in a direction that I don’t agree with. An email exchange with a colleague today reminded me about my frustration at work, then I saw this video. Everything in my heart says to leave, but financial concerns are holding me back. I hope I can find the strength and confidence to make the cut. Thank you for this timely video! 🙏
Hi Sarah, if it's any help, I was in a very similar situation a year and a half ago. I loved my job and had a tight knit group of girls I worked with. However, I was so stressed that I finally made the decision to quit. It has been terrifying, especially financially. But I have seen the miracles (some small, some large) that keep happening for me and my family everyday. Just take it one step at a time, and remember the things you want are not always the things you need.
@@amandasoberano548 Hi Amanda, I truly appreciate your words and sharing your experience. Didn't mention it in my initial comment, but this break has allowed time for me to separate myself from my work and workplace such that I can objectively (instead of emotionally) think about things. I do believe the Universe hears people, and when we make the decision that's right for us, things fall in to place. But it's still scary to break the tie. Thank you for your support. Stay well.
@@sarahy5540hey sarah did u quit the job,,plss replyyyy
I can't thank you enough Mel. I have been through some hard times and have come to point zero again. I am so confused to make any decision right now. Feel very helpless. This video is a great guidance for me.♡
The decision makes no difference! What you do after.... if you give everything you can, to make the decision turn out good, than everything is fine! In a Moment of joice, you only go through emotions. That has nothing to do with the decision ! And in the end, you make a snap decision! But the emotions must be! Nothing will go wrong, if you give everything in youre decision after you decide.... no mater what you decide, it will turn great!
Mel, you are giving me a sign in this video. I am already in a dilemma on making a big decision that could possibly change my career. Thank you.
The heart always. Silence the mind & our soul will speak to us. It’s knows before we do. Great video!! 😍
Sure its important to do a 'gut' check and I agree with Mel in general, but for critical decisions your heart should check in with your brain on the risk management side of things. For me, I just turned down a job opportunity that represented a big risk if it did not work out because I am at a very vulnerable point in my life and career. I have no time to recover if I don't find an opportunity that represents a really good fit and lower risk. The brain tells the heart what to feel and the heart tells the brain what to think. So its a negotiation of sorts. Not quite as simple as Mel makes it sound unless you are young, single and living at home. Life coaches rarely send you groceries if their advice does not work out. Having said that, I watch these videos because I have enormous respect for Mel.
先輩、ありがとうございます! This is genuinely just what I needed. I can’t express my gratitude enough.
If im struggling with making a decision it is because i cant answer the question if it expands or shrink me... i cannot see the future, so if my feelings are dependend on knowing what will come i would not be in this situation...
Maybe you can the brain-heart coherence meditation. You can look it up, Greg Braden. ❤
Use...I missed a word 😅
I’ve been thinking about a huge decision the past few days and my mind was spiraling with possibilities and a huge list of pros and cons. But this single short video helped me clarify what decision was right for me immediately. This is such beautiful and amazing advice. Even if the “safe” way may seem more logical, if it ‘shrinks’ you then it’s not worth it. I may have to write down some notes on this and hang it up so I remember ❤ thank you so much!
But what she mean by all of that? That it “shrinks” me or “silences” me? Give me some examples please?
@@the_boss2194 hmm I guess like when you’re in a big room of people and you feel alone, or when you feel like something is holding you back from your potential. That feeling of smallness and lack of control. Something that makes you feel not so great about yourself, and maybe kinda lonely. For me, the decision that would have “shrunk me” would be living with my parents. Because I know that being there would make me feel like my autonomy as an adult would be taken away and I would be “shrunk down” to feel like a child again. My potential for growth for be hindered, so even though that’s a safe choice, it’s not one that I want.
I absolutely love you Mel. You're such a beautiful and intelligent person.
I feel like crying! I have been struggling to make a super big decision! Your point is excellent! Does this decision expand you?
What does she mean by “expand you”?
@@the_boss2194make progress in your life,,,
Hey missrelaxed u can tell which decision your are stucked for,,
Fair well said!!! I am on that journey or expansion and it’s terrifying 😟 but the possibilities are endless! All I keep telling myself... I have to try!!!
I just watched a video using several, 6, steps in making a decision. Very confusing. I watched THIS short simple video by Mel Robbins and she is 100 % RIGHT ON, PERFECT!
Good decesion making and when it's going to affect your long term health and happiness your heart is the way to go. If you are not happy what you are doing it will not benefit you in the long haul. This is helpful Mel!
Follow your heart but take your brain with you 🙂 Thanks Mel!
Thanks,Mel.I really needed to hear this. Ive been contemplating a career change forever.It’s in my heart.I simply need to push forward with it.
Thanks a million, for uploading this video at the right time. This is a God sent message at this time of depression for me, strengthening me more for my decesion taken in life. God bless you !!
A brandnew approach to decision-making! A new dimension! Instead of listing pros and cons, putting the best question: does it expand/improve me? I stumbled upon your video the very best time, just while hesitating. And you give the perfect answer! Thanks a lot for your great work!
IIdiko T. Molnar,your pretty smile can make the news
OMG Mel, thanks for giving me permission to move forward instead of being stalled with indecision!!
Debra J,hope you are in a good relationship cause you are too beautiful!
Mel says things where they're simple but so profound compare to others that sound complicated. Thank you Mel. Thats why I love her to pieces.🥰
Wow, this is THE BEST decision-making process ever! Took me a minute to decide. Very grateful! Thank you!
Mel...I just made a decision yesterday. It was difficult to understand but now I feel much better. (I made it!..)..and so I can be my Better Version... Thank you soo much!...🙌💐
Mel Mel Mel! It's so so so complicated😢
the first few seconds in the vid..and i already got my answer, not that i didn't know it..but there are always self doubts..but i am certain, thank you
Thanks Mel Love Ya Hang in there we are Brave Sisters
More impactful insight in 2 minutes than some can manage from an hour
Just saying 🙏
Thank you ❤🙏
I have been dreading this day for a whole year, because of the scope of the decision I have to make. I am so incredibly terrified, but your words make sense, thank you!
This was a tough decision and yeah I think you’re right. If it doesn’t open for more possibilities, I think it’s best for me to leave it. Thank you so much ❤. You helped my life so much recently.
You always make difficult concepts feel manageable.
I've watched this twice in one hour. And I don't know about using my heart but actually the questions you propose are very logical, big risk vs staying silenced and shrunken. The risk of big time fail and difficulty is always preferable to me than shrinking and ever be silenced again. I spent 27 years of my life being agreeable and understanding and shrinkin and despite it all one day a freaking psycho played a smear campaign on me and everybody turned against me. Ever since then, after I decided not to kill myself I also decided that no one would ever silence me or corner me if people were to hate me, it would for things I did and said and not for things I didn't do or say.Thanks Mel, thanks so much!
I truely agree Mel.
Absolutely love this one.. i recently realize that theres literally ENDLESS choices to make everyday, and the best answer is the highest one.
Cheers.
All within 2 whole (hearted) minutes. A consultation with Mel is a good look.
This video feels like a life saver for me 🙏🏻❤Everything that was said in this video was exactly what I needed to hear and I couldn’t be more thankful for it
Mel: Trust your heart and soul💛
Brilliant! It's like training your brain to read what your heart wants!
This is a great video, the problem is... I'm struggling between choices.
Choice 1 would expand me in the sense of giving me freedom, cutting toxic ties, being able to live my own life but might shrink my future career options.
Choice 2 would be remaining in my current circumstances (therefore further shrinking my freedom and mental health) but might open up more career options in the future.
i currently have *two problems* at the same time and i can finally know the answer by only watch this video until duration 1:10..like WOWWWW..this helps me a lot!🤯🤯
The future is a fantasy.
The past is memory.
The present is now.
As I face leaving my spouse and moving away, thank you - I needed this.
Thank you soo much Mel. I need this badly😭😭😭
You have posted this topic before mel. Still good topic to ask and I have used this to make a decision to leave the military and it was the absolute best decision I ever made. Thank you mel for posting
definitely came at the RIGHT TIME!!! thank you for putting it in those words "expansion"
Wow you are like a ray of hope, thank you for the clarity, love what you do ❤️ love and light to you and your family as well😇🙏
Thank you so much for this short video!🙏🏻 I’ve making my decision now according to my feeling. Even it is terrifying.
It will open possibility!🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️❤️
Thank you one more time.
How can it possibly be so precisely perfect for my problem? Thank you so much
But I don’t know if it will expand my future or just cost me more money. I have had the drive to further education but ended up wasting time and money when I couldn’t stand it any longer. Now I want to try another. Thanks just don’t know if it will be beneficial. Thank you. ❤
Thank you for this. Gonna make the call now
How this notification showed up on my screen at the rightest time! Love you so much Mel
Thanks Mel, I needed that. I got some big decisions to make.
Man is like the universe brought me here to hear this.
Some decisions are scary especially when you have children but what she said is ultimately true.
GL family. Stay safe. Stay strong in the dark moments. God is everywhere
Wonderful and Helpful. Like an answered prayer for me. I will check in with this criteria to make my decision. : )
Amethyst TheScientist,Hope you are with a good man cause you are pretty!
Oh Mel cannot believe I've seen this video today, mine is a new home from a beautiful flat where I've been for over five years. The new flat is senior living because I'm over 65 and will be a lot cheaper per month to rent!! The flat I'm in now has a troublesome male elderly neighbour who is a problem to me, and non existent heating, but is in a lovely position, very quiet and lots of other things I'm happy with but due to my deteriorating eyesight and mental health problems this other flat is being shown to me on Friday this week, decision very very big for me. It's truly is my future!!!! What's your feeling please, I would appreciate it soooo much Paula in sussex
Thank you so much, I needed to here this today! 🙂The best 2 mins clip ever
WE DON'T KNOW WHAT TOMORROW WILL BRING. SO DON'T STAY ANGRY FOR TOO LONG LEARN TO FORGIVE AND LOVE WITH ALL OF YOUR HEART.DON'T WORRY ABOUT THE PEOPLE WHO DONT LIKE YOU. ENJOY THE ONES WHO LOVE YOU. 💕❤🌻
Yep. Decided to relocate today.
This is something which I was looking for. Thank you for guiding us!!
Wise words... thank you!
Thank you!! I hope you had a fantastic birthday 🎂
You’ve made a tough concept seem really simple, thank you!
I made a decision using my mind and man...it was the baddest idea I ever had. My decision was mostly because I wanted to go away from my narcissistic father. Unfortunately, the woman I am staying with (because my job isn't near my home town) is quiet a narcissistic too and my employer is a absolute mess and stresses me out. I just want to give up on life.
Giving up on life is never the solution.....please keep on living and fighting.....it's never too late to start over....I'm speaking from an experience
Sarah, please don't. I've just started researching narcissism because I've had to deal that type of person also.
@@RealEstateInsider247 @sakuraotaku Thank you so much for your kind answers ❤️. I just feel like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong and I've waited so long to finally be able to distance myself from narcissistic people (mostly my father) but apparently I attract them. Hopefully life will get a bit easier. But your kind words are definitely a ray of sun on my day !
@@funwithsarah1586 It's interesting you say that apparently you attract them. What I learned is that Narcissist actually do prey on those who are willing to behave certain ways that feed their insecurities. I heard just one of the many ways to deal with a narcissist is to become a bore; that is don't let them get under their skin; as I remember it (not perfectly, I'm sure), for example when they are begging for attention, just respond in a ho-hum way ... and apparently they'll get tired of trying to push your buttons in that certain way.
I also learned there is a difference between Narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder. That's an interesting discussion >> ruclips.net/video/IEfS-_a21kk/видео.html
Hang in there. :) :) :) There are genuine, kind-hearted folks out there too. I'm thinking in my mind, when I ever run across my next narcissist, if there are certain things I can do to discourage that behavior. Surely they must be bitterly miserable and would like not to be.
@@RealEstateInsider247 Thank you so much for all of you message : it means so much ! 🙏🏻 I'll definitely have a look at the discussion you linked ! Yes, I need to get over my insecurities, it's definitely something I'm working on. You just showed me that kind people exist :)
👍Follow your intuition.
Meditate and listen to your inner wisdom.
Think about how your decision will make you feel - after the fact.
Ask yourself two important questions.
Avoid analysis paralysis.
Recognize your body's reactions.
This helped so much I’m trying to make a decision on what school I’m gonna go two and have been losing my sanity over the decision. But now I know what to do and feel happy about my decision and excited for my future ❤❤❤
Girl! Now you got me watching your videos, I love it !
Thank you. This is exactly the video I needed to share with a friend
What if the decision we are making is for the betterment of someone we love but requires a sacrifice on our time or puts a restriction on us in some way? Shouldn’t you make the decision based on what your values are even if it isn’t directly beneficial to yourself?
Heyy so can u help me outt.. I'm actually the person who thinks for the betterment of me and my studies. I need to leave home.. And live in with my partner... And he strongly is opposing not to come as he wanna grow and make his things correct by being isolated from every1.... And my family conditions are forcing me to leave home but also at the same tym I need his presence I can't live aloneee..... It's really getting difficult
Perfect timing for this empowering message, thank you Mel 🧡🙏
This advice was surprisingly helpful. Thank you!
You can also always change course.
Thank you, Mel❤
You had me at "forcefields". Good stuff and exactly what I needed to hear. The path to this message is.......a fascinating one for sure.
I so needed to hear this message. Thank you
Thank you Mel, really enlightening
Thank you for such an insightful guidance 🙏
Thank you! You helped me to know for sure that I made the right decision. 🌸
Thank you so much i am facing a big decision, but you made it simple, i know what i want i am just scared, but you made me see clearly now ,
Thank you Mel 😊
Needed this!
Thank you
This was one of the best vdos i saw on decision making.msny of us think short term and not long term..but it did help me in making a decision wjich i was very confused about if i shud do it or not....thanks Mel
Struggling between accepting an offer for a COO role at a new company or staying put in my safe current position. Thank you for the perspective
Thanks for this video. It was really helpful.