Honestly, if I've learned anything after my last relationship, it's that it's always good to be friends first if you can help it. This just helps you to build a better foundation for a relationship if you two decide to be more than friends. It also just helps you to see all the different complexities of that person and decide if that's someone you'd wanna be with
@@hailtropius I was on the other side of that. She didn't gave me any signals of interest in that way. One day i decided to confess to her my feelings and she was surprised that i had them (Looking back at it, not the best idea). At least she was nice to me, and still is. It's not the fault of anyone if you don't like them. If that happens to you preper something to be gentle and respectfull of them. It's pretty hard to pass on those things on their own, especially if you are not confident in yourself. Those are probably the best things you can do, ask if you have questions, bye!
Remember, fellas, just because a girl or boy doesn't like you in a romantic way, that doesn't mean this person doesn't like you, even if it's just as a friend. And if you can accept that fact, then the best friendships can result. Don't be desperate for love. Or for a special person. I'd say, if you don't need a relationship to be happy, you're ready to be in one.
Ain't that the truth. Don't seek love people it'll find you and if it doesn't oh well. Just try to make healthly and realistic goals within yourself instead having a long list of requirements for others. We can only help ourselves but, we can be kind to others back no matter what.
I’ve found I usually develop crushes on people I’m already friends with and the desire to be more than friends just grows from there. Would you say that’s the same sort of thing as wanting a special someone? It’s not that I want any relationship just for the sake of being in one, it’s that I want to be in a relationship with that one specific person. Also my crushes tend to last for a while, my last one went for 2 years
One thing I think is worth noting, if someone doesn’t return your feelings, you don’t have to be their friend. If you feel the friendship isn’t worth it or too hard without it becoming more, you have every right to move on. I remember when I was in college this girl I was pursuing romantically didn’t return my feelings. I felt I wasn’t getting anything out of the friendship and I always wanted more, so I eventually decided to distance myself and move on. I was happier that way and it made me feel a sense of relief. She was a bit upset I wasn’t hanging out with her anymore but she eventually got over it. Just like a girl doesn’t owe you romantic feelings for being nice to them, you don’t owe someone time and effort when you want something more but they don’t.
If you feel it’s best to distance yourself for awhile, that’s fine but if you’re only friends with someone just because you wanna date them, that’s just manipulation… Edit: if you feel like they OWE you something, that’s ✨selfish✨
@@_hihi_0.0 or just being human? Like, sometimes these feelings are completely unintentional? lol. Anyway, the guy literally said he stopped being friends with a girl he liked too much so what manipulation are you talking about.
You should never be dependant on anything or anyone. That's a recipe for pain. You should be happy by yourself first and foremost and a lot of people struggle with that.
0:20 They don’t reciprocate your advances. 0:48 They get confused by the things you’re doing. 1:20 They talk about the people they’re seeing. 1:44 They treat you like how they treat their friends. 2:15 When you hangout, they bring other people. 2:42 They say things that make you second guess their feelings. 3:12 When you get teased together they laugh it off. 3:38 They ship you with other people. 4:10 They ask you for favours. 4:30 They ask you to set them up.. with other people.
Yeah but sadly it isn't easy. Cant help feeling sad sometimes. It's also a bit difficult to move on when you are close friends with them. Guess just gotta let time help us move on
I think it's ok to feel sad..You're only human,, the trick is not letting you derail your daily routine and taking that out on the person who declined your interest.. Bitch about vent about it to your friends (who ideally don't know her) or perhaps a person of the opposite sex that you're platonic with. Keep going onward and upward. From a guy's POV: it's a 1 in 10... Romantically show interest in 10 girls,,only 1 will reciprocate..2 to 3 if you're really lucky.
The first sentence is emotionally invalidating as it's based on the belief that it's bad to feel sad. (It's okay, not your fault, it's something we learned from people around us and unfortunately they're wrong) It's okay and valid to feel sad. The reason why it feels so bad to be not liked back is because we have been taught and conditioned by people (mostly friends) to feel bad or sad when we don't get liked back. It's something we learned from people and it never has been our fault. If we haven't taught or conditioned that way, then we won't feel bad for not being liked back, unfortunately it happened, fortunately we're now aware about it! Everyone should never be called or call each other bad or weak for feeling sad. It's the equivalent of saying it's bad to be human, because feeling sad is a part of being a human. Take care everyone^_^
I've learned years ago that friendliness isn't the same as flirting. As a result, very rarely do I tell anyone I have feelings for them. Recently, I told someone how I felt about her, but she didn't feel the same way. Now it's awkward, and she avoids me. I respect her choice and her space, so I don't interact with her anymore. While certain people may be fine just being friends, I think it's not worth maintaining if you still have feelings for them. I don't expect to be in a romantic relationship, simply because it's typically expected of men to approach, confess, or even ask out on a date. Again, very rarely do I express how I feel about someone. Waiting for a woman to reveal her feelings for me or ask me out is very improbable.
Yeah I really wish I could just forget about the feelings I have for this girl in my friend group. We were super close a couple months back like I’m talking hanging out every single day. She didn’t feel the same way about me and we fell off. It sucks because I still care about her and I want to be her friend but I know she’ll never like me back the same way I like her. At this point I’m just trying anything to make myself not like her anymore.
A college story of mine: I enjoyed being alone as an adult, but hate feeling the pain of being lonely. Like last year I was contented of being a loner in my college life. Later, as my school life progressed I'm still the same old me but with a feel of being helpful and kind to everyone especially my close friends. Until one day, I met a girl whom I was kind to since she felt a bit lonely. So I did all my best to be friends with her talk to her, listen to her problems, life, and so on. Discovered that she had a troubled past. I remembered last year she talked to me about a certain problem and she didn't want to talk to anyone about it except for me and while we we're talking she suddenly cried... We were like best friends. Months later- I told here there was this one girl (now an ex of mine) who confessed to me first. I didn't want to say no because I was curious of where our relationship take us. Unaware of what might happen at the starting of March she was being distant at me in purpose even though I had no clue what was going on... She was being passive aggresive, and pretend I'm not even there anymore, etc. I wanted to apologize if there was something I've done but she said there's nothing I've done that would start her to hate me but still she's being distant at me. Also I discovered that she now have a boyfriend and I'm happy for her (His personality reminds me of him). But still couldn't know why she is being distant at me. I told my friends that I've developed a crush on her a year ago and to that extent that I've said it to my friends I've also discovered that she had a crush on me last year... But now I've felt devastated that I was too late to realize it and the thoughts of regrets coming. Even imagined what our alternate timeline would be if it was the two of us. Some of these parts are pretty much my fault but, damn I blame my dense personality and for being slow. I love being alone but scared and hated the feeling of loneliness. P.S. This vid made me more aware now. Thanks 🙏
A similar experience happened to me with me being the girl.A guy was kind to me and flirted with me.I really liked that.I later developed feelings.Then I was told that he actually has a girlfriend who studies in another college.It broke me and I started to ignore him.He always met me in the hallways and said hi but I would just nod and leave, because I was kinda obsessive and couldn't accept the fact he didn't like me and just like this we grew apart.I still like him,He was a really nice person.
I disagree with a couple of these points, because I did them towards people I had a crush on. I’d ask my crush for help on homework all the time, primarily because they were good at math and it was an easy way to spend time with them. I was also quick to shut down my friends if they joked about us dating because idk it was embarrassing or something.
I feel like asking for help with homework is different than asking for a favor. One is asking to spend some time together to do something, the other is "can you do this thing for me real quick?".
I think there’s a difference, though if the person is asking for a favor that happens to mean that you’ll need to spend more time with them. Your scenario is the classic let’s go “study” ie. make out excuse.
Funny thing when someone teases me with other person I say, "yeah we're married" and then they just look at us weird. I don't mean anything by it tho, mostly if it's a guy.
Haven’t watched it yet, but I have a feeling this is my crush. I used to think they liked me, till I saw them with their other friends, and they acted the exact same way. They’re just nice, not into me. Sad 😔
@@astalavista5328 Idk. Just because they don’t like me at this point in time, doesn’t mean they aren’t worth it. I still like them, I’ve just stopped trying as hard to get them to like me back
@@mahdude4275 Don't try too hard though. Just be open. Honestly, it's a little bit deceitful to be friends with someone just so you can eventually one day get with them. And it's best to let them know what you want from the start, so that they know and can reciprocate. Think about it like this. Say you have a friend that probably likes you as much as you like this person, and you know nothing about it. Are you just gonna turn away from your crush to try and get with someone you don't even know likes you? No, there's no chance of that happening because there's no motivation behind it. That time where their attention is suddenly shifted to you may never come. If you're open, it also allows you to see if they're looking for a relationship too, that way the interest isn't just one sided. It could be that they aren't looking for any relationship in particular and are just enjoying making friends instead. Think about it, you wouldn't be interested if it was obvious that you didn't have a chance, you would have moved on, had you learned that from the start.
Sometimes I think “why would anyone like me, what do I contribute to this world that’s so worth being with?” or “what’s actually appealing about being with a person like me?”, and dwell in self doubt. Honestly sometimes I don’t feel like I’m actually worth loving nor loved at all.
Oh no don't say that! God has always loved you and always will! So in order for you to be reconciled with him, he gave his life up for you, so that we all could live through him. Just know that you don't have to fight for love, when there's someone who already fought for you to know that you are loved. iHs name is Jesus❤️🤗
I had a group of friends in college. I liked one of them, and one of them liked me. It’s weird because if I would’ve known about the girl who liked me, I may have given her a chance. She actually helped me out a lot when the girl I liked rejected me and the group started to fall apart. It’s a shame none of us are friends anymore, but I'm happy they’re both seemingly doing great.
I feel like this channel can read my mind. I was literally asking myself this question this morning, and now here's a video about exactly what I was wondering. These videos are super helpful and useful!
@@jpundarikakshakavipurapu212 I think he was just being ironic...cos being friends and being put in the friend zone are two vastly different things, as similar as they may sound...
If you find yourself in this situation but don't feel ready to actually confess your feelings, my biggest piece of advice is to set boundaries for that friendship!! Sometimes when we really like someone, we compromise on our boundaries or make ourselves super available to them in hopes that giving them more time, support, etc. will make them like you or view you in a different way. But love isn't about what you can do for someone!! It's about truly knowing and admiring someone for who they are
Thank you! I’ve never been in a relationship, as I am a mere middle school student, but I made friends with a girl who genuinely like and want to be around. I’m just scared that I’ll ruin a perfectly good friendship and end up ruining my chances with her. We share a lot of common interests, (anime, art, j-pop, etc) and I love talking with her. I just don’t know how I can get closer to her as friends for the time being.
Never get interpersonally involved with someone that's not willing to meet you half-way there. Just don't. The emotional stress and anguish just is not worth it. Get involved with someone that would gladly meet you half-way there!
I have a crush before,we compliments each other and tell stories about ourselves.She is very kind to me and I am very kind to her also and that's how I developed my feelings to her then I planned to confess my feelings to her but I back out in the last minute due to my Anxiety.A week later I found out that she is already in a relationship and the date that they become in a relationship is the day that I planned to confess to her.Sad but I have to move on.
Thank you. I really needed to send this to a guy who had feelings for me. He wouldn’t hear me out the first few times so just because I’m nice to you doesn’t mean I have a crush on you or anything like that.
Crushed em. Now he'll have have a bigger crush. If you sent this with no context that would be really mean/ harsh. But apologizing and explaining with a video is actually really nice.
The reason he has feelings for you is specifically because you're nice to him... Do you realize how rare that is for a woman to be nice to us and regularly talk to us? Let me guess. He's not attractive enough to you? He's not as tall, masculine or athletic as you'd like? Doesn't have enough "ambition"?
@@RextheRebel or you know ... maybe they're just not into that guy that way? People don't have to be attracted to everyone who's attracted to them :/ and not being attracted to someone who doesn't have the qualities you like is called having standards I do agree with the first part you said though, there are very few healthy platonic girl/boy interactions so when anyone shows human decency it's always "I have feelings for you" "I have feeling for you too" "the feeling was friendship"
2:17 I really loved the way you drew Madoka, Sayaka, Mami, Kyoko and Homura according to their personalities:) thanks for including them in your video!
I found this really helpful. I always thought my past crushes were into me, in reality they were just being friendly. And looking at these signs, it’s very clear. I overthink things all the time.
3:25 I feel that the brushing of teasing that places the two of you together isn't a very good indicator. Whilst it could be that they don't like you, it could *also* be that they *do* like you but are unsure if you like them so they play off the teasing in order to not get found out themselves (like I myself have done before). I think, if you are feeling a little brave and want to test the waters yourself a little, *don't* just laugh at the teasing and instead maybe hint that you agree or say something along the lines of 'so what if we are?' and see how they react.
I had a massive crush on my classmate in junior high because he was so friendly and texted me very often, even to talk about petty things. I never could make out whether he considered me as a friend or something more. I never dared to ask, because one time a girl confessed to him and he avoided her since. However, at one point I found out that he was friendly not just to me, but to EVERY girl. Several times I saw him have a good laugh with the prettiest girl in the class and that broke my heart. I still replied to his texts though while trying to repress the feelings I had for him & thinking I was just a friend to him. Fast forward, we went to the same college. There were some sweet gestures from him; we went out quite often, had lunch together, went home together. Yet he still never told me anything about his feelings. He never defined our relationship. Until I found out, again, that he was close with one of his college classmates. They appeared in pictures together on social media, they stood close to each other. It happened again, and I decided to give up. Not long after, I became close with another guy. We had only been talking for a few weeks but we clicked instantly. He never hesitates to tell me how he feels, or where he would want to take our relationship. He gives me certainties and I know he always takes care of me well. He made my forget my past crush, which now only became an anger when I looked back lol. Now we've been dating for years and he always makes me the happiest.
I had a crush on my friend, but just listening to this video pretty much seemed how she acted near me. But now I moved on. I’m loving the videos you post💕
I really have to say most of the signs didn’t apply to my gf. She and I did most things but still fell in love with eachother. Gotta say, to every rule there is an exception
Hahaha I got notified from one of these responses. Update for anyone: We aren’t together anymore but my point is still valid: “To every rule there is an exception”. Even for my first relationship of 2 months I learned a lot of lessons that changed my worldview.
shiiiiiii, then every person I've ever spoken to must not be attracted to me. two situations have proven this statement false, though. but that's anecdotal evidence.
This video made me realize and helped that my crush might not be interested in me, but I'm still gonna confess my feelings to her soon. If you guys do find yourself in that situation it's still better letting that out of your chest and be prepared for the outcome, it's never too late 💙
@@elioteq1 don't settle for being her friend either...after I confess my feelings to my interest if it's unrequited I remove them from my life completely. It's better for everyone that way..I don't pretend to play cordial..it's just better if we don't talk at all anymore
literally my situation rn with my crush. he’s hot and cold with me, i watched some videos on how to tell if someone likes u and he shows some signs on those list but after watching this he shows some of these signs as well 😭 however, i’d still try to confront him about my feelings bc we’ll never know if we never try
yooo anyone reading this rn, it is like the best happiness drug to be into someone that is friendly to you too, i swear, my life has been like 10X better than say, a month ago before i met the person i like, 100% recommend
i remember watching this exact video a year ago because i had liked the same guy for 3 years (at the time) and wasnt sure if he liked me back. he did most of the things this video said and when i told him how i felt he ghosted me. i’ve moved on and i came back to this video just to see it and i feel so happy and free knowing that i no longer feel crestfallen at watching it and having to face the hard truth bc i let him go.
I will say I take number 1 to heart. Advice to lovers, only give more than you're receiving for a short period of time, and then examine how much you're getting back. You'll get burnt out if you try too hard to win your lover over only to see that they're not even bothering themselves to do something in return. This was the reason my last crush went from me being in love for a few days to having decided she's not the one. I just deal too much with people that only drain me instead of fulfilling me to deal with half hearted relationships
The thing is I know from myself that I will excitingly listen to my crushes romances and act all happy about it even though that's not at all how i feel. I think it's very common to see every sign (that a person sees you as just a friend) fits the person but it still turns out they are romantically interested in you but are just good at concealing their feelings bc they're unsure how you feel about them
This is me. I know I'm doing a very good job at concealing my feelings but I dont want to conceal it to the point where he thinks I have 0 romantic interest in him.
Thank you so much for this video. It helped me a lot to understand the situation. She is beautiful, sometimes nice to me. When she is nice it is fantastic to be with her! But she always wants to find somebody else to be with me, or somebody else to join when we go for a dinner. I was blind. It is so sad. I know, I have to let it go.
I definitely needed to watch this video. I had made a new friend a few months back and I really liked them for their personality and I felt like we had a lot in common. Even other people thought we’d make a nice couple. I have no idea if he caught wind of this or not but he’s been quiet ever since the show we were in together closed. He stopped liking my posts too. I maybe was too nice by baking things he could eat or smiling too much or saying something so stupid-but if he did like me then he would’ve said something. I’m going to try and put distance between us and not talk to him for a good long while. I never intended to say anything unless he liked me too, but now I really don’t want to talk to him at all. It really hurts but I will eventually find someone who will like me back.
this is my thought on number 7: when you get teased together they laugh it off or quickly deny it with quickly denying or laughing it off they could also do that to hide their feelings for the person because their afraid of rejection please correct me if i am wrong about this
@@img7567 Right? I can completely agree with all other points but this is just, hm.. I don't think someone who has a crush on you would immediately then admit to that just because someone was teasing them.
The best, most foolproof method to avoid all this nonsense is to always assume that they just being nice and that there's no romantic interest whatsoever. Doing this allows you to not overthink anything and just stay relaxed which helps your mental health in the long run. And honestly after a while of doing this you'll just stop caring about relationships altogether, especially when you realize just how exhausting they actually are compared to what you see in fiction.
Both Love and relationship takes a long time to develop. Don't rush things and respect their boundaries, Let time to develop it naturally. You need great patience, deep understanding and much effort to know them. We can't control them to love us back, At least we tried and made a difference. Sometimes things will not work for us, but we will never truly know, if they love us, if we give up or move on too easily. Love isn't a race who wins first, It is a journey of connecting and understanding each other better.
That’s exactly how I feel with a friend, rn. They definitely have feelings for me and I know that, but while they know I’m not interested, they still have romantic feelings for me and they still make advances and ask questions like “how’s your family doing?” or “are you doing ok?” in the middle of a conversation. While they mean no ill will by it, they make their affection known even to me during conversations, games, or just hanging out while I’m comfortable with us just being friends.
keep in mind that your friend can't control their feelings. if they like you, they're gonna like you regardless of your feelings. i know my crush doesn't like me, but i told her about my feelings anyway because i thought i'd be able to control it. but i can't control it. in fact i like her more now that i told her. there's no way to control those feelings, so make sure to give your friend some space and try not to make them feel bad. not that you would try to do that, it's just easy to unintentionally hurt people, i've done it before.
Make sure you’re being upfront, set boundaries, and give them lots of space to deal with their feelings. Don’t be afraid of coming off as “cold” or distant. I had a guy I was interested in that told me he didn’t like me back, but would constantly message/text/call and expect my constant attention and support without labeling us as friends. He gave me no time or space to really get over him and that’s when I had to cut off contact
I had made a friend a few months ago, I was in love with her and because of that she didn't want to talk to me anymore, and I found out that she was already in a relationship. Watching this video just made me think that the signs were so obvious, I always started the conversations, she always talked about her crush and, even though she was very affectionate with me, she treated me like any other friend. Thanks for the advice, for now I'm not ready to get into a relationship, for those who are in a similar situation to me, focus more on yourself.
That's why I don't get into relationships like this too early. It's just too complicated and if you mess up you get your heart broken or ruin a relationship you had with your friend.
Ikr. It is a pain. Compromise from both sides, but people are really greedy in that they want YOU to do the work. I'm not that sort of person, so it falls on them to meet me halfway. 😜🤗
Besides number 9 (RARELY asking me to help with homework), my crush does NONE of these things! In fact, she shows more signs that she does have feelings for me (according to other Psych2go videos). Let's goooooo! I am still a bit worried about asking my crush out, but this video puts me at ease. I noticed that my crush treats me very differently from the other boys. She treats them all more like "bros," but with me, she's more chill and speaks more softly. I'm certain she started dressing more nicely a few days after we first met (then again, I did the same XD). She also randomly helps me with my homework (I don't have to ask, she just helps. I assume she secretly takes peaks at me because otherwise she wouldn't know I had a problem that was difficult for me). I find her so adorable!
Having a crush is dangerous, since you can easily lie to yourself for you fear the possible truth that the other person doesn't really love you as you do. I had many crushes in my life, and I got trapped in my own fear that my love would be rejected, and it always ended very bad for me. After several heartbreaks I learned to just accept the fact that the person I'm attracted to will probably never feel the same for me. It may be possible, but I prefer to stay away from that idea so it doesn't blur my mind as it did before. If something has to happen between us then I'm down for it, but I've already accepted that I may've been mistaken and that possibly nothing romantic will ever happen with this person. I fact, faith in God helped me a lot to evercome this fear/envy that was harming me and the people I was around. Now I see clearly that the people I've been attracted to before weren't very good people or weren't for me, and I know that my own sight can be mistaken, it's also very easy to fall under the charms of a manipulative person who's playing with your feelings to abuse you. Same thing if I wanted to be with someone that didn't want to be with me, it would lead to a toxic relation. But I know that if I have faith, God knows better than me who I need to be with, and he won't let me go in a toxic relation with a person that wasn't for me
I'm trying to get over a crush and I've been feeling quite down because they got a partner recently. So this video and reading all the comments was quite helpful. I just want to feel happy for them but it's too hard.
I have been in the same situation... Last school year I have this friend, she is friendly and good looking. After some time I got to confess to this girl, well she has nothing to say, but overtime, it seems like we get separated time by time. Now I realized ive been pushing her boundaries. I still talk to her this year like nothing have ever happend. Thank you for this video.
Always been pushed to the friend zone so many times that I can't tell if someone is ever into me. And most of the time it's some one I don't see myself getting romantically involved with. But then I feel bad telling them because I've been where they were so many times and I don't want to hurt there feelings anymore. So I just decided to isolate myself and try not to make any new friends with anyone
Me: I think it should be better to confirm first if he/she feels something for you before you make actions. Moral: "Think before you Act" Other Me: It's not bad to take action because you might regret the thing that you could have done in the first place. Moral: "It's Now or Never" Conclusion: Both are goood as long as no one is hurt in the process. It depends on how you handle such situation. 💛💛💛💛💛💛
EVERY SINGLE FANDOM REFERENCE IN THE VIDEO 0:10 Genshin impact 0:14 (not sure), minecraft, sailor moon 0:21 not sure 0:50 naruto 1:00 jujutsu kaisen 1:44 genshin impact 1:48 the owl house 2:15 madoka magica 2:18 doki doki literature club 2:43 jojo’s bizarre adventure 3:39 homestuck (IN 2023??? WHAT???)
Timestamps: 0:22 They don't reciprocate your advantages 0:50 They get confused by the things you are doing 1:18 They talk about people they're seeing 1:45 They treat you like they treat your friends 2:16 When you hang out, they bring other people 2:44 They say things that make you second-guess their feelings 3:12 When you get teased together they laugh it off 3:39 They ship you with other people 4:10 They ask you for favors 4:30 They ask you to set them up with other people Hope this helped!
Really liked this video's animations, definitely hit my anime soft spot lol That being said at this point in life, anything that's not a very direct sign/action I just don't take as a sign at all. Have done that way too many times and it always just ends in me putting in a ton of effort for someone who isn't as interested or at all interested in me. I believe that if I'm going to try something that I'm going to put my best foot forward.
Aww, thank you!! Glad you enjoyed it! Is this your favorite animation so far? :) Thank you for sharing your experiences on this as well. What do you plan to do differently after these experiences?
@@Psych2go actually yes! I’m a big anime fan in general so seeing anything that’s explained with references of anime makes me smile or be like “I know that character/reference!” In terms of what to do I feel like the best option is to just keep doing my best to improve myself. If I can be the best version of myself then I feel like in any future interactions I should be alright. That being said I don’t always have a chance to interact with others and I don’t consider myself the best at reading what a person is feeling which is why I run into the problem of not picking up signs. I’ve thought about the direct approach but I do wonder when is the best time for something like that, surely if I just went at the beginning and said “I want to get to know you more” it could come off as strange right? So to be honest, I’m not 100% sure. 🥲
my crush is maybe into me. Flirt with me often, get jealous or irritated when I get to close to someone, try to avoid me but remember everything I say/said, always looks at me but when I notice he looks away.
This video came to me in the exact same moment I noticed that the girl I like was just putting me in the friedzone. Hope I use these advices to help me overcome it...
I know the feeling I've actually just been freindzoned by a guy it sucks but I'm getting over it. But listen I am sure you are a nice person and I'm sure you will find someone ok💛 If you are patient good things will come dont give up you're special 😊❤
Yea u Will honestly feel kinda confused if that person is ‘LIKE YOU’ or ‘NOT EVEN INTO YOU’ these two are the most confusing things ever.Thx for the patient that you make this video for us to understand and learn more,subscribe ❤❤❤❤
3:17 bahahaa story time! Basically, a few weeks ago, someone started spreading humors saying that my best guy friend was “going after me”, and told everyone that he liked me. Of course he denied it, but the teasing didn’t stop. When I found out abt these rumors, I started getting all nervous and thought that he would be uncomfortable talking to me. So we talked it out and agreed to not let the teasing ruin our friendship or anything. Whenever someone teases us together, we both just laugh it off, since we know it’s not true. Howeverrrr, I kinda have feelings for him… and since we’re both kinda shy, we just try denying it fast to not make the other one uncomfortable. But after watching this video, I realized that maybe I’m giving him a bad sign, since I try being just nice to make him not know that I have feelings for him. Arghh it’s too complicated 😂 but thanks for the video anyways
I'm the one who have always initiated the conversation with my crush and he never did on the first place, but we were speaking really well but suddenly one random night he said that he feel guilty that he never starts the conversation and said enjoy with your friends that you have, I'm not worthy for you and you deserve better.🙂
Your videos always helps me ... Today I know that so many people does this to me and just don't give me time and love 💕 ... And just i am getting crazy and mad about to talk with them and just wanted to spend time with them ... Who is with me comment and if you agree so like ,so that I can understand that i am not alone 😌🌼
1:33 This resembles my frustration...always in the signal chain's end, it really sucks and pisses me off...when i find myself there i just take distance...i end up hurting but good thing is i get rid of all the mediator and intruders in between and ask the importan question just straight to the point...i think is better than waiting to see how things develop, nobody waste their time and everyone can move on after it. tho i guess thats why i dont have female friends at all, maybe 1 or 2.
I had a crush on this girl that lived upstairs. We went to the same clubs and hung out. I thought she was into me, so I asked her out. We had a fun time, but I must have missed some queues. We'd meet up with friends for a game night and hung out often. Then came Valentine's day. I wanted to show her some attention so I bought flowers and offered them to her... Well, she accepted them and gave me a hug, but everything felt awkward. That's when I finally picked up on the fact I'd been friend-zoned along time ago. And we're still good friends, she's married to a great guy and we all hang out. Being friend-zoned isn't the end of the other world, it still means you have a great support group with people that really care for you. Don't give up! I'm not!
There’s a person I know who wasn’t into me, but I was very into her. At first, we had a falling out that hurt both of us. We’ve since then talked with each other and worked out our feelings. She and I are on good terms, but I still feel attached to her. She’s very obviously not interested, and is already in a relationship she values a lot. I don’t wanna cause anymore damage, but I can’t make these feelings go away. I’ll often tell myself she might secretly feel the same way, or that something will happen to bring us together. This won’t happen. I’m just a crazy and obsessive freak.
this is similar to my situation. I just keep hoping that she secretly feels the same way even though she already rejected me. I know it's impossible, but I just can't give her up for whatever reason. Just know that you're not alone and there are other people in your situation. I really hope that you find closure and that you meet someone else who makes you feel special :)
You're not an obsessive freak. It's quite normal to keep the feelings especially if you're around her a lot. She probably appreciates your friendship. But there is usually a wonderful person out there who turns out to be a better fit for you. Been in a similar situation and it's good to expand your connections
I hope you two keep searching. It's not wise to allow yourself to dwell in unrequited love with no way out. You deserve much more than that. You set yourself up for awful things that way, including resentment, desperation, and hypervigilance. The other party probably feels a little unsteady in the face of that attachment imbalance, too. Don't give yourself no out. Don't dwell on what you cannot have, because if you do, you'll begin to think you're inadequate.
Reminds me of how annoyed I sometimes feel when someone triggers a person's love language just to tease them or mean it in a platonic way without disclaiming the action as such or assuming that their intentions are clear to others
Honestly, if I've learned anything after my last relationship, it's that it's always good to be friends first if you can help it. This just helps you to build a better foundation for a relationship if you two decide to be more than friends. It also just helps you to see all the different complexities of that person and decide if that's someone you'd wanna be with
Thats why at work is such a good place to meet your love :)
@ Anisha- That is so Very True !!
So many people just go
‘jump in the sack’ right away. Those kind of relationships almost always fail.
@@hailtropius I was on the other side of that. She didn't gave me any signals of interest in that way. One day i decided to confess to her my feelings and she was surprised that i had them (Looking back at it, not the best idea). At least she was nice to me, and still is. It's not the fault of anyone if you don't like them. If that happens to you preper something to be gentle and respectfull of them. It's pretty hard to pass on those things on their own, especially if you are not confident in yourself. Those are probably the best things you can do, ask if you have questions, bye!
Yes also you have a better chance of it not being as awkward or terrible if you break up and decide to be friends
Same. Didn’t have a strong enough foundation and bombed for reasons I would rather not get into
NEVER be friends with someone and do things for them in hopes that they will like you romantically.
Indeed, they don't owe you that!
oh crap 💀
This is not my intention.
But my motto is "if I can't be friends with someone, there is no chance I could spend the rest of my life with them."
Little change, never be friends with someone with the explicit and only intention is the hope that they will like you romantically.
@@A2forty Minor change: Never be friends with anyone at all for any reason.
Remember, fellas, just because a girl or boy doesn't like you in a romantic way, that doesn't mean this person doesn't like you, even if it's just as a friend. And if you can accept that fact, then the best friendships can result.
Don't be desperate for love. Or for a special person. I'd say, if you don't need a relationship to be happy, you're ready to be in one.
Ain't that the truth. Don't seek love people it'll find you and if it doesn't oh well. Just try to make healthly and realistic goals within yourself instead having a long list of requirements for others. We can only help ourselves but, we can be kind to others back no matter what.
And in case everything fails you can rely on Stockholm syndrome
Exactly
friendzone
I’ve found I usually develop crushes on people I’m already friends with and the desire to be more than friends just grows from there. Would you say that’s the same sort of thing as wanting a special someone? It’s not that I want any relationship just for the sake of being in one, it’s that I want to be in a relationship with that one specific person. Also my crushes tend to last for a while, my last one went for 2 years
liking someone you know could never like you back is so painful. especially when they send sort of mixed signals.
my situation rn:
Meéee
So true, just happened to me only to find that she was going out with another friend for 1 month already
Me for almost 1 and half years
Same
One thing I think is worth noting, if someone doesn’t return your feelings, you don’t have to be their friend. If you feel the friendship isn’t worth it or too hard without it becoming more, you have every right to move on. I remember when I was in college this girl I was pursuing romantically didn’t return my feelings. I felt I wasn’t getting anything out of the friendship and I always wanted more, so I eventually decided to distance myself and move on. I was happier that way and it made me feel a sense of relief. She was a bit upset I wasn’t hanging out with her anymore but she eventually got over it. Just like a girl doesn’t owe you romantic feelings for being nice to them, you don’t owe someone time and effort when you want something more but they don’t.
Fax what if you just don’t want friends or only want friends that are a certain way
If you feel it’s best to distance yourself for awhile, that’s fine but if you’re only friends with someone just because you wanna date them, that’s just manipulation…
Edit: if you feel like they OWE you something, that’s ✨selfish✨
@@_hihi_0.0 Meanwhile the most voted comment here literally says that it's best to become friends with your crush before revealing your feelings.
@@Genesys1040 Which is their opinion...
@@_hihi_0.0 or just being human? Like, sometimes these feelings are completely unintentional? lol. Anyway, the guy literally said he stopped being friends with a girl he liked too much so what manipulation are you talking about.
Liking someone is so stressful, but it makes me feel so happy.
just don't make them the only thing that makes you happy, that's how you get hurt. i had to learn that the hard way.
@@coenhall5713 so have I so at this point any person i develop feelings for just hurts so much.
Same. I don't like to fall in love, but I'll allow it this time. It's been ages since I've felt something
It's worth it :)
You should never be dependant on anything or anyone. That's a recipe for pain. You should be happy by yourself first and foremost and a lot of people struggle with that.
0:20 They don’t reciprocate your advances.
0:48 They get confused by the things you’re doing.
1:20 They talk about the people they’re seeing.
1:44 They treat you like how they treat their friends.
2:15 When you hangout, they bring other people.
2:42 They say things that make you second guess their feelings.
3:12 When you get teased together they laugh it off.
3:38 They ship you with other people.
4:10 They ask you for favours.
4:30 They ask you to set them up.. with other people.
@sityy Bot
Thank you! :D
This was fast. Thanks.
Fastest time stamper of the west
Why don't they?💔💔🖤🖤
Pro tip: don't get sad if they don't reciprocate your feelings. Move on, focus on yourself and make you never come back to the very same feelings.
Yeah but sadly it isn't easy. Cant help feeling sad sometimes. It's also a bit difficult to move on when you are close friends with them. Guess just gotta let time help us move on
I think it's ok to feel sad..You're only human,, the trick is not letting you derail your daily routine and taking that out on the person who declined your interest.. Bitch about vent about it to your friends (who ideally don't know her) or perhaps a person of the opposite sex that you're platonic with. Keep going onward and upward. From a guy's POV: it's a 1 in 10... Romantically show interest in 10 girls,,only 1 will reciprocate..2 to 3 if you're really lucky.
@@Tgogators HAHAHA where did you get that info/statistics, can't help laugh about it
@@abbiejoyguabna5320 am I supposed to care that you laughed at it?
The first sentence is emotionally invalidating as it's based on the belief that it's bad to feel sad. (It's okay, not your fault, it's something we learned from people around us and unfortunately they're wrong)
It's okay and valid to feel sad.
The reason why it feels so bad to be not liked back is because we have been taught and conditioned by people (mostly friends) to feel bad or sad when we don't get liked back. It's something we learned from people and it never has been our fault.
If we haven't taught or conditioned that way, then we won't feel bad for not being liked back, unfortunately it happened, fortunately we're now aware about it!
Everyone should never be called or call each other bad or weak for feeling sad. It's the equivalent of saying it's bad to be human, because feeling sad is a part of being a human.
Take care everyone^_^
I've learned years ago that friendliness isn't the same as flirting. As a result, very rarely do I tell anyone I have feelings for them. Recently, I told someone how I felt about her, but she didn't feel the same way.
Now it's awkward, and she avoids me. I respect her choice and her space, so I don't interact with her anymore. While certain people may be fine just being friends, I think it's not worth maintaining if you still have feelings for them.
I don't expect to be in a romantic relationship, simply because it's typically expected of men to approach, confess, or even ask out on a date. Again, very rarely do I express how I feel about someone. Waiting for a woman to reveal her feelings for me or ask me out is very improbable.
Yeah I really wish I could just forget about the feelings I have for this girl in my friend group. We were super close a couple months back like I’m talking hanging out every single day. She didn’t feel the same way about me and we fell off. It sucks because I still care about her and I want to be her friend but I know she’ll never like me back the same way I like her. At this point I’m just trying anything to make myself not like her anymore.
A college story of mine: I enjoyed being alone as an adult, but hate feeling the pain of being lonely. Like last year I was contented of being a loner in my college life. Later, as my school life progressed I'm still the same old me but with a feel of being helpful and kind to everyone especially my close friends. Until one day, I met a girl whom I was kind to since she felt a bit lonely. So I did all my best to be friends with her talk to her, listen to her problems, life, and so on. Discovered that she had a troubled past. I remembered last year she talked to me about a certain problem and she didn't want to talk to anyone about it except for me and while we we're talking she suddenly cried... We were like best friends.
Months later- I told here there was this one girl (now an ex of mine) who confessed to me first. I didn't want to say no because I was curious of where our relationship take us. Unaware of what might happen at the starting of March she was being distant at me in purpose even though I had no clue what was going on... She was being passive aggresive, and pretend I'm not even there anymore, etc. I wanted to apologize if there was something I've done but she said there's nothing I've done that would start her to hate me but still she's being distant at me. Also I discovered that she now have a boyfriend and I'm happy for her (His personality reminds me of him). But still couldn't know why she is being distant at me. I told my friends that I've developed a crush on her a year ago and to that extent that I've said it to my friends I've also discovered that she had a crush on me last year... But now I've felt devastated that I was too late to realize it and the thoughts of regrets coming. Even imagined what our alternate timeline would be if it was the two of us. Some of these parts are pretty much my fault but, damn I blame my dense personality and for being slow.
I love being alone but scared and hated the feeling of loneliness.
P.S. This vid made me more aware now. Thanks 🙏
A similar experience happened to me with me being the girl.A guy was kind to me and flirted with me.I really liked that.I later developed feelings.Then I was told that he actually has a girlfriend who studies in another college.It broke me and I started to ignore him.He always met me in the hallways and said hi but I would just nod and leave, because I was kinda obsessive and couldn't accept the fact he didn't like me and just like this we grew apart.I still like him,He was a really nice person.
I feel like I always connect the dots that they don’t like me AFTER I make a fool out of myself 😭. Wish I could have seen it then
Me too! 😢
I legit just saw you comment on Jayus poll about love. Coincidences can be freaky.
Yup
SAME!
SAME😭😭 we aren’t friends anymore bc of that
I disagree with a couple of these points, because I did them towards people I had a crush on. I’d ask my crush for help on homework all the time, primarily because they were good at math and it was an easy way to spend time with them. I was also quick to shut down my friends if they joked about us dating because idk it was embarrassing or something.
I feel like asking for help with homework is different than asking for a favor. One is asking to spend some time together to do something, the other is "can you do this thing for me real quick?".
I think there’s a difference, though if the person is asking for a favor that happens to mean that you’ll need to spend more time with them. Your scenario is the classic let’s go “study” ie. make out excuse.
That’s true, i treat them like i would treat my other friends
And i’m a little to good at it
Funny thing when someone teases me with other person I say, "yeah we're married" and then they just look at us weird.
I don't mean anything by it tho, mostly if it's a guy.
Ikr like why will I not shut my friends if the are teasing us IN FRONT OF HIM that will tell him bout my feelings and then it’s awkward afffff
Haven’t watched it yet, but I have a feeling this is my crush. I used to think they liked me, till I saw them with their other friends, and they acted the exact same way. They’re just nice, not into me. Sad 😔
Well he's not worth it and your lovely
@@astalavista5328 Idk. Just because they don’t like me at this point in time, doesn’t mean they aren’t worth it. I still like them, I’ve just stopped trying as hard to get them to like me back
@@mahdude4275 awe you don't need people like that there's so many people in the world and you'll find someone who likes you for you
@@mahdude4275 Don't try too hard though. Just be open. Honestly, it's a little bit deceitful to be friends with someone just so you can eventually one day get with them. And it's best to let them know what you want from the start, so that they know and can reciprocate.
Think about it like this. Say you have a friend that probably likes you as much as you like this person, and you know nothing about it. Are you just gonna turn away from your crush to try and get with someone you don't even know likes you? No, there's no chance of that happening because there's no motivation behind it. That time where their attention is suddenly shifted to you may never come.
If you're open, it also allows you to see if they're looking for a relationship too, that way the interest isn't just one sided. It could be that they aren't looking for any relationship in particular and are just enjoying making friends instead. Think about it, you wouldn't be interested if it was obvious that you didn't have a chance, you would have moved on, had you learned that from the start.
Very sad...period!😭😭😭😭
Sometimes I think “why would anyone like me, what do I contribute to this world that’s so worth being with?” or “what’s actually appealing about being with a person like me?”, and dwell in self doubt. Honestly sometimes I don’t feel like I’m actually worth loving nor loved at all.
Oh no don't say that! God has always loved you and always will! So in order for you to be reconciled with him, he gave his life up for you, so that we all could live through him. Just know that you don't have to fight for love, when there's someone who already fought for you to know that you are loved. iHs name is Jesus❤️🤗
Fr what can i offer that the other 8 billion can't
I had a group of friends in college. I liked one of them, and one of them liked me. It’s weird because if I would’ve known about the girl who liked me, I may have given her a chance. She actually helped me out a lot when the girl I liked rejected me and the group started to fall apart. It’s a shame none of us are friends anymore, but I'm happy they’re both seemingly doing great.
Fck that lol, imagine being happy for them when your down in shit like tf ? Could never be me
The JJK trio drawing was very cute! Love how in character they all were, and how it tied to what you were talking about.
Thanks!
I feel like this channel can read my mind. I was literally asking myself this question this morning, and now here's a video about exactly what I was wondering. These videos are super helpful and useful!
me too.
for real!! me too
Same here
It Also happened to me a year ago😅
same here!!
Me after getting stuck in the friend zone: “I got a friend, Woo!!!”
yeah woo...
That's the spirit!! Friendships are not secondary to romantic relationships, they're just as fulfilling.
Yeah no shit. Then they ask the timeless question "what's wrong with you?"
@@jpundarikakshakavipurapu212 I think he was just being ironic...cos being friends and being put in the friend zone are two vastly different things, as similar as they may sound...
😁
Using these videos to make the good signs and not make them feel like you just consider them as a friend>>
Stop thinking of what you want and start giving them some room.
If you find yourself in this situation but don't feel ready to actually confess your feelings, my biggest piece of advice is to set boundaries for that friendship!! Sometimes when we really like someone, we compromise on our boundaries or make ourselves super available to them in hopes that giving them more time, support, etc. will make them like you or view you in a different way. But love isn't about what you can do for someone!! It's about truly knowing and admiring someone for who they are
Really needed that , may God bles u
Yeah, boundaries. Something I struggle to keep with
Thank you. That's what I should do. Maybe I should really try to meet people other who could fit. I'm an outgoing person but it's still difficult
Thank you! I’ve never been in a relationship, as I am a mere middle school student, but I made friends with a girl who genuinely like and want to be around. I’m just scared that I’ll ruin a perfectly good friendship and end up ruining my chances with her. We share a lot of common interests, (anime, art, j-pop, etc) and I love talking with her. I just don’t know how I can get closer to her as friends for the time being.
@@zenith613 same situation but im in high school
Never get interpersonally involved with someone that's not willing to meet you half-way there. Just don't. The emotional stress and anguish just is not worth it. Get involved with someone that would gladly meet you half-way there!
Exactly! Both sides need to compromise the same :)
I have a crush before,we compliments each other and tell stories about ourselves.She is very kind to me and I am very kind to her also and that's how I developed my feelings to her then I planned to confess my feelings to her but I back out in the last minute due to my Anxiety.A week later I found out that she is already in a relationship and the date that they become in a relationship is the day that I planned to confess to her.Sad but I have to move on.
Brakes my heart. Hope it makes you feel better to know that you are not alone into this❤️
@@cimbrito Or maybe he/she is lol
That sounds very familiar! Right there with you...
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im very sorry. i hope u're ok
I’ve been with this channel for five years, and it’s still super fun to pick out the references throughout the video.
1:02 i dont see many jjk references, this really made me happy, also keep up the great work, youre amazing.
Thank you. I really needed to send this to a guy who had feelings for me. He wouldn’t hear me out the first few times so just because I’m nice to you doesn’t mean I have a crush on you or anything like that.
idk why that sounded mean
@@student-.. yeah it hurts bro I'm in this guy's situation i hope my crush doesn't think about me like this or I'll die🙁🙁
Crushed em. Now he'll have have a bigger crush. If you sent this with no context that would be really mean/ harsh. But apologizing and explaining with a video is actually really nice.
The reason he has feelings for you is specifically because you're nice to him... Do you realize how rare that is for a woman to be nice to us and regularly talk to us?
Let me guess. He's not attractive enough to you? He's not as tall, masculine or athletic as you'd like? Doesn't have enough "ambition"?
@@RextheRebel or you know ... maybe they're just not into that guy that way? People don't have to be attracted to everyone who's attracted to them :/ and not being attracted to someone who doesn't have the qualities you like is called having standards
I do agree with the first part you said though, there are very few healthy platonic girl/boy interactions so when anyone shows human decency it's always "I have feelings for you" "I have feeling for you too" "the feeling was friendship"
2:17 I really loved the way you drew Madoka, Sayaka, Mami, Kyoko and Homura according to their personalities:) thanks for including them in your video!
psych to go likes all of my favorite anime’s/games apparently
@@myla4444 so do mine:)
they also included luz and amity
@@ihop2001 I see:)
Why tf does she look like Monika 💀
I found this really helpful. I always thought my past crushes were into me, in reality they were just being friendly. And looking at these signs, it’s very clear. I overthink things all the time.
These videos rlly help to clear things up, made a huge difference to my awareness
Glad this helped!
I hate having a crush on someone, I wish I didn't. No I haven't been rejected yet but I'd rather not have these feelings in the first place...
3:25 I feel that the brushing of teasing that places the two of you together isn't a very good indicator. Whilst it could be that they don't like you, it could *also* be that they *do* like you but are unsure if you like them so they play off the teasing in order to not get found out themselves (like I myself have done before). I think, if you are feeling a little brave and want to test the waters yourself a little, *don't* just laugh at the teasing and instead maybe hint that you agree or say something along the lines of 'so what if we are?' and see how they react.
I had a massive crush on my classmate in junior high because he was so friendly and texted me very often, even to talk about petty things. I never could make out whether he considered me as a friend or something more. I never dared to ask, because one time a girl confessed to him and he avoided her since. However, at one point I found out that he was friendly not just to me, but to EVERY girl. Several times I saw him have a good laugh with the prettiest girl in the class and that broke my heart. I still replied to his texts though while trying to repress the feelings I had for him & thinking I was just a friend to him.
Fast forward, we went to the same college. There were some sweet gestures from him; we went out quite often, had lunch together, went home together. Yet he still never told me anything about his feelings. He never defined our relationship. Until I found out, again, that he was close with one of his college classmates. They appeared in pictures together on social media, they stood close to each other. It happened again, and I decided to give up.
Not long after, I became close with another guy. We had only been talking for a few weeks but we clicked instantly. He never hesitates to tell me how he feels, or where he would want to take our relationship. He gives me certainties and I know he always takes care of me well. He made my forget my past crush, which now only became an anger when I looked back lol. Now we've been dating for years and he always makes me the happiest.
what if there is no one who is certain with me?
Tbh u never asked ,so what do u expect?
Not everyone likes to make the first move.
Cant make assumptions.
Sounds like the guy you're with is more suited to you, personality wise
Guys I have a solution... don't talk to anyone you find attractive and you'll never be disappointed!
hahaha 🥲
But then you lose out on so much...
LOL
Ah yes, break your heart without breaking your heart
@@Psych2goAt least we stop getting hurt… and sometimes worse in certain situations
I had a crush on my friend, but just listening to this video pretty much seemed how she acted near me. But now I moved on.
I’m loving the videos you post💕
I really have to say most of the signs didn’t apply to my gf. She and I did most things but still fell in love with eachother.
Gotta say, to every rule there is an exception
Thats sweet
Awww sweet
Hahaha I got notified from one of these responses. Update for anyone: We aren’t together anymore but my point is still valid: “To every rule there is an exception”. Even for my first relationship of 2 months I learned a lot of lessons that changed my worldview.
@@potatomanlp4812 lol
i always thought AND STILL THINK everyone’s being friendly so im always shook when the confession comes💀
Same 💀
forreal like😭😭😭
not only is this is so helpful and calming to watch... but the ANIME REFERENCES ARE JUST AMAZING TOO!!!!!!
I learned a long time ago that if you have to wonder about if they like you, then they don’t like you. Just the way it is.
This is good advice
Not true in my opinion. Because sometimes they like you but try to make it seem like they dont like you, to avoid getting rejected
shiiiiiii, then every person I've ever spoken to must not be attracted to me. two situations have proven this statement false, though. but that's anecdotal evidence.
Is this always true?
@@Psych2go Probably not.
This video made me realize and helped that my crush might not be interested in me, but I'm still gonna confess my feelings to her soon. If you guys do find yourself in that situation it's still better letting that out of your chest and be prepared for the outcome, it's never too late 💙
Keep us updated!
@@Psych2go unfortunately she wasn't interested in a relationship, upsetting, but I respected it and just go on with our days at school 👍
@@elioteq1 don't settle for being her friend either...after I confess my feelings to my interest if it's unrequited I remove them from my life completely. It's better for everyone that way..I don't pretend to play cordial..it's just better if we don't talk at all anymore
literally my situation rn with my crush. he’s hot and cold with me, i watched some videos on how to tell if someone likes u and he shows some signs on those list but after watching this he shows some of these signs as well 😭 however, i’d still try to confront him about my feelings bc we’ll never know if we never try
@@hikari5805 man, wish i had your courage, good luck, stay strong.
yooo anyone reading this rn, it is like the best happiness drug to be into someone that is friendly to you too, i swear, my life has been like 10X better than say, a month ago before i met the person i like, 100% recommend
i remember watching this exact video a year ago because i had liked the same guy for 3 years (at the time) and wasnt sure if he liked me back. he did most of the things this video said and when i told him how i felt he ghosted me. i’ve moved on and i came back to this video just to see it and i feel so happy and free knowing that i no longer feel crestfallen at watching it and having to face the hard truth bc i let him go.
Lucky you, mine literally lead me on and ghosted me the second she found someone better
@@captdeadpool3449 thats sad im sorry
I will say I take number 1 to heart. Advice to lovers, only give more than you're receiving for a short period of time, and then examine how much you're getting back. You'll get burnt out if you try too hard to win your lover over only to see that they're not even bothering themselves to do something in return.
This was the reason my last crush went from me being in love for a few days to having decided she's not the one. I just deal too much with people that only drain me instead of fulfilling me to deal with half hearted relationships
I'm so deep into this. Same situation.
The thing is I know from myself that I will excitingly listen to my crushes romances and act all happy about it even though that's not at all how i feel. I think it's very common to see every sign (that a person sees you as just a friend) fits the person but it still turns out they are romantically interested in you but are just good at concealing their feelings bc they're unsure how you feel about them
This is me. I know I'm doing a very good job at concealing my feelings but I dont want to conceal it to the point where he thinks I have 0 romantic interest in him.
i hope it'll get better for u guys. continue being good friends.. maybe with time they'll see you as smtg else
True! There's definitely a tender period where one should be aware of how they communicate!
@@ThatKafkaMain yes! exactly
@@Psych2go what do you mean by that?
1:47 Is that Luz and Amity?!
I was thinking the same thing
Thank you so much for this video. It helped me a lot to understand the situation. She is beautiful, sometimes nice to me. When she is nice it is fantastic to be with her! But she always wants to find somebody else to be with me, or somebody else to join when we go for a dinner. I was blind. It is so sad. I know, I have to let it go.
I definitely needed to watch this video. I had made a new friend a few months back and I really liked them for their personality and I felt like we had a lot in common. Even other people thought we’d make a nice couple. I have no idea if he caught wind of this or not but he’s been quiet ever since the show we were in together closed. He stopped liking my posts too. I maybe was too nice by baking things he could eat or smiling too much or saying something so stupid-but if he did like me then he would’ve said something. I’m going to try and put distance between us and not talk to him for a good long while. I never intended to say anything unless he liked me too, but now I really don’t want to talk to him at all. It really hurts but I will eventually find someone who will like me back.
this is my thought on number 7: when you get teased together they laugh it off or quickly deny it
with quickly denying or laughing it off they could also do that to hide their feelings for the person because their afraid of rejection
please correct me if i am wrong about this
Exactly
Honestly when I'm teased I will just laugh it off bc I'm embarrassed x) nothing else that doesn't mean I love that prsn
@@img7567 ye that can also be a reason to laugh it off or quickly deny it
@@img7567 same,
@@img7567 Right? I can completely agree with all other points but this is just, hm.. I don't think someone who has a crush on you would immediately then admit to that just because someone was teasing them.
Great video as always!
And here's a video suggestion: Difference between Introvert and person with social anxiety
thats a good one
That one is good!
they already made it
@@stannwjnstxt link pls
Thanks for the suggestion!
The best, most foolproof method to avoid all this nonsense is to always assume that they just being nice and that there's no romantic interest whatsoever. Doing this allows you to not overthink anything and just stay relaxed which helps your mental health in the long run. And honestly after a while of doing this you'll just stop caring about relationships altogether, especially when you realize just how exhausting they actually are compared to what you see in fiction.
uk this is what i try to do. am i perfect at it yet no but hey it’s a work in progress.
tbh
4:10 I find it really hard to start conversations, so I normally ask for favors just as an excuse to talk with someone
Both Love and relationship takes a long time to develop. Don't rush things and respect their boundaries, Let time to develop it naturally. You need great patience, deep understanding and much effort to know them.
We can't control them to love us back, At least we tried and made a difference. Sometimes things will not work for us, but we will never truly know, if they love us, if we give up or move on too easily.
Love isn't a race who wins first, It is a journey of connecting and understanding each other better.
when you're being genuine to them 'too', yet doubting their way of interacting.
Man i'm scared of getting a crush on someone and this video illustrates all the reasons why
having a crush is fine, just make sure you don't get obsessed with them. i made that mistake and now i can't get out of it.
It's okay! Having a crush can be fun if you know your own boundaries
That’s exactly how I feel with a friend, rn. They definitely have feelings for me and I know that, but while they know I’m not interested, they still have romantic feelings for me and they still make advances and ask questions like “how’s your family doing?” or “are you doing ok?” in the middle of a conversation. While they mean no ill will by it, they make their affection known even to me during conversations, games, or just hanging out while I’m comfortable with us just being friends.
keep in mind that your friend can't control their feelings. if they like you, they're gonna like you regardless of your feelings. i know my crush doesn't like me, but i told her about my feelings anyway because i thought i'd be able to control it. but i can't control it. in fact i like her more now that i told her. there's no way to control those feelings, so make sure to give your friend some space and try not to make them feel bad. not that you would try to do that, it's just easy to unintentionally hurt people, i've done it before.
Make sure you’re being upfront, set boundaries, and give them lots of space to deal with their feelings. Don’t be afraid of coming off as “cold” or distant. I had a guy I was interested in that told me he didn’t like me back, but would constantly message/text/call and expect my constant attention and support without labeling us as friends. He gave me no time or space to really get over him and that’s when I had to cut off contact
Thanks for sharing this
I had made a friend a few months ago, I was in love with her and because of that she didn't want to talk to me anymore, and I found out that she was already in a relationship. Watching this video just made me think that the signs were so obvious, I always started the conversations, she always talked about her crush and, even though she was very affectionate with me, she treated me like any other friend. Thanks for the advice, for now I'm not ready to get into a relationship, for those who are in a similar situation to me, focus more on yourself.
That's why I don't get into relationships like this too early. It's just too complicated and if you mess up you get your heart broken or ruin a relationship you had with your friend.
Omg! Love the new animators artstyle! Love seeing the diversity in each video
Tragically even in some friendships it can feel like you often make the first move.
Ikr. It is a pain. Compromise from both sides, but people are really greedy in that they want YOU to do the work. I'm not that sort of person, so it falls on them to meet me halfway. 😜🤗
Besides number 9 (RARELY asking me to help with homework), my crush does NONE of these things! In fact, she shows more signs that she does have feelings for me (according to other Psych2go videos). Let's goooooo! I am still a bit worried about asking my crush out, but this video puts me at ease.
I noticed that my crush treats me very differently from the other boys. She treats them all more like "bros," but with me, she's more chill and speaks more softly. I'm certain she started dressing more nicely a few days after we first met (then again, I did the same XD). She also randomly helps me with my homework (I don't have to ask, she just helps. I assume she secretly takes peaks at me because otherwise she wouldn't know I had a problem that was difficult for me). I find her so adorable!
Comments like this always make me so happy. Congrats dude.
Interesting...
Congratulations! It seems like your crush likes you back 😍.
1:50 LUZ AND AMITY!!! this is so genius I love whoever drew and animated them!!
Having a crush is dangerous, since you can easily lie to yourself for you fear the possible truth that the other person doesn't really love you as you do. I had many crushes in my life, and I got trapped in my own fear that my love would be rejected, and it always ended very bad for me. After several heartbreaks I learned to just accept the fact that the person I'm attracted to will probably never feel the same for me. It may be possible, but I prefer to stay away from that idea so it doesn't blur my mind as it did before. If something has to happen between us then I'm down for it, but I've already accepted that I may've been mistaken and that possibly nothing romantic will ever happen with this person.
I fact, faith in God helped me a lot to evercome this fear/envy that was harming me and the people I was around. Now I see clearly that the people I've been attracted to before weren't very good people or weren't for me, and I know that my own sight can be mistaken, it's also very easy to fall under the charms of a manipulative person who's playing with your feelings to abuse you. Same thing if I wanted to be with someone that didn't want to be with me, it would lead to a toxic relation. But I know that if I have faith, God knows better than me who I need to be with, and he won't let me go in a toxic relation with a person that wasn't for me
The animation has drastically improved 😌🔥🔥
Glad to hear that :) Is this your favorite animation so far?
OMG THE CHONGYUN AND XINGXIU ART
I'm trying to get over a crush and I've been feeling quite down because they got a partner recently. So this video and reading all the comments was quite helpful.
I just want to feel happy for them but it's too hard.
"what today lacks might be what tomorrow will bring"
i like that, im taking it lmao.
I have been in the same situation...
Last school year I have this friend, she is friendly and good looking. After some time I got to confess to this girl, well she has nothing to say, but overtime, it seems like we get separated time by time.
Now I realized ive been pushing her boundaries. I still talk to her this year like nothing have ever happend. Thank you for this video.
Always been pushed to the friend zone so many times that I can't tell if someone is ever into me. And most of the time it's some one I don't see myself getting romantically involved with. But then I feel bad telling them because I've been where they were so many times and I don't want to hurt there feelings anymore. So I just decided to isolate myself and try not to make any new friends with anyone
Me: I think it should be better to confirm first if he/she feels something for you before you make actions.
Moral: "Think before you Act"
Other Me: It's not bad to take action because you might regret the thing that you could have done in the first place.
Moral: "It's Now or Never"
Conclusion: Both are goood as long as no one is hurt in the process. It depends on how you handle such situation. 💛💛💛💛💛💛
2:22 is this a Doki Doki reference?!?! 😱😯😱😱😱😮😱😮😮😱😮😱😮😱😮😱😱😯😱😮😱😯😱😮😱😯😱😮😱😯😱😯😱😮🥺😮
Thank you for further indulging me into the pit of endless, agonizing, and dark pit of sadness
EVERY SINGLE FANDOM REFERENCE IN THE VIDEO
0:10 Genshin impact
0:14 (not sure), minecraft, sailor moon
0:21 not sure
0:50 naruto
1:00 jujutsu kaisen
1:44 genshin impact
1:48 the owl house
2:15 madoka magica
2:18 doki doki literature club
2:43 jojo’s bizarre adventure
3:39 homestuck (IN 2023??? WHAT???)
I love the art style in this video so much. And the references it's just beautiful
Thank you so much!!
I'm just waiting for someone to time stamp every part of the vid.
Shoutout to the animator who put the creeper on the shelf 💕
no way, was that Xingqiu and Chongyun??? 0:09
Love isn't how much you talk to someone, it's how much you wish to talk to them. ❤
Timestamps:
0:22 They don't reciprocate your advantages
0:50 They get confused by the things you are doing
1:18 They talk about people they're seeing
1:45 They treat you like they treat your friends
2:16 When you hang out, they bring other people
2:44 They say things that make you second-guess their feelings
3:12 When you get teased together they laugh it off
3:39 They ship you with other people
4:10 They ask you for favors
4:30 They ask you to set them up with other people
Hope this helped!
Thank you
Sailor '
Thank you!
Really liked this video's animations, definitely hit my anime soft spot lol
That being said at this point in life, anything that's not a very direct sign/action I just don't take as a sign at all. Have done that way too many times and it always just ends in me putting in a ton of effort for someone who isn't as interested or at all interested in me. I believe that if I'm going to try something that I'm going to put my best foot forward.
Aww, thank you!! Glad you enjoyed it! Is this your favorite animation so far? :)
Thank you for sharing your experiences on this as well. What do you plan to do differently after these experiences?
@@Psych2go actually yes! I’m a big anime fan in general so seeing anything that’s explained with references of anime makes me smile or be like “I know that character/reference!”
In terms of what to do I feel like the best option is to just keep doing my best to improve myself. If I can be the best version of myself then I feel like in any future interactions I should be alright. That being said I don’t always have a chance to interact with others and I don’t consider myself the best at reading what a person is feeling which is why I run into the problem of not picking up signs. I’ve thought about the direct approach but I do wonder when is the best time for something like that, surely if I just went at the beginning and said “I want to get to know you more” it could come off as strange right? So to be honest, I’m not 100% sure. 🥲
my crush is maybe into me. Flirt with me often, get jealous or irritated when I get to close to someone, try to avoid me but remember everything I say/said, always looks at me but when I notice he looks away.
go for it! Good luck!
80% sure he likes you
@@gektoast4968 I am not sure but thanks
@@noahokojie1096 Thanks
Hmmm... We say you go for it!
this is so frustrating!! its like he shows signs that he might like me but also shows signs that he sees me as just a friend!
I love all the characters appearing in the video, it’s so cute!
1:45 AMITY AND LUZ!
This video came to me in the exact same moment I noticed that the girl I like was just putting me in the friedzone. Hope I use these advices to help me overcome it...
I know the feeling I've actually just been freindzoned by a guy it sucks but I'm getting over it. But listen I am sure you are a nice person and I'm sure you will find someone ok💛 If you are patient good things will come dont give up you're special 😊❤
@@Josephinasava2457 thank you! I hope you find someone special too Josephine. Hugs from Brazil!
@@renatolazaroti of course🥰 and thank you best wishes stay safe 🙏🥰❤
1:53 Amity and Luz :)
Yo thank God this came up just what i needed
Yea u Will honestly feel kinda confused if that person is ‘LIKE YOU’ or ‘NOT EVEN INTO YOU’ these two are the most confusing things ever.Thx for the patient that you make this video for us to understand and learn more,subscribe ❤❤❤❤
1 (0:24) they don't reciprocate your advances
2 (0:49) they get confused by things you are doing
Edit: nvm people beat me to it
Lololol people are fast!
3:17 bahahaa story time! Basically, a few weeks ago, someone started spreading humors saying that my best guy friend was “going after me”, and told everyone that he liked me. Of course he denied it, but the teasing didn’t stop. When I found out abt these rumors, I started getting all nervous and thought that he would be uncomfortable talking to me. So we talked it out and agreed to not let the teasing ruin our friendship or anything. Whenever someone teases us together, we both just laugh it off, since we know it’s not true. Howeverrrr, I kinda have feelings for him… and since we’re both kinda shy, we just try denying it fast to not make the other one uncomfortable. But after watching this video, I realized that maybe I’m giving him a bad sign, since I try being just nice to make him not know that I have feelings for him. Arghh it’s too complicated 😂 but thanks for the video anyways
1:00 was that a Jujutsu Kaisen Reference!?
It was indeed!!
I'm the one who have always initiated the conversation with my crush and he never did on the first place, but we were speaking really well but suddenly one random night he said that he feel guilty that he never starts the conversation and said enjoy with your friends that you have, I'm not worthy for you and you deserve better.🙂
Somebody already made the best video about this
Your videos always helps me ... Today I know that so many people does this to me and just don't give me time and love 💕 ... And just i am getting crazy and mad about to talk with them and just wanted to spend time with them ... Who is with me comment and if you agree so like ,so that I can understand that i am not alone 😌🌼
Yay!
1:33 This resembles my frustration...always in the signal chain's end, it really sucks and pisses me off...when i find myself there i just take distance...i end up hurting but good thing is i get rid of all the mediator and intruders in between and ask the importan question just straight to the point...i think is better than waiting to see how things develop, nobody waste their time and everyone can move on after it. tho i guess thats why i dont have female friends at all, maybe 1 or 2.
They are always just nice they never like me 😕
i love the lil jjk references its sooo cute and thanks this actually just helped me out
I had a crush on this girl that lived upstairs. We went to the same clubs and hung out. I thought she was into me, so I asked her out. We had a fun time, but I must have missed some queues. We'd meet up with friends for a game night and hung out often. Then came Valentine's day. I wanted to show her some attention so I bought flowers and offered them to her... Well, she accepted them and gave me a hug, but everything felt awkward. That's when I finally picked up on the fact I'd been friend-zoned along time ago.
And we're still good friends, she's married to a great guy and we all hang out. Being friend-zoned isn't the end of the other world, it still means you have a great support group with people that really care for you. Don't give up! I'm not!
There’s a person I know who wasn’t into me, but I was very into her. At first, we had a falling out that hurt both of us. We’ve since then talked with each other and worked out our feelings.
She and I are on good terms, but I still feel attached to her. She’s very obviously not interested, and is already in a relationship she values a lot. I don’t wanna cause anymore damage, but I can’t make these feelings go away.
I’ll often tell myself she might secretly feel the same way, or that something will happen to bring us together. This won’t happen. I’m just a crazy and obsessive freak.
this is similar to my situation. I just keep hoping that she secretly feels the same way even though she already rejected me. I know it's impossible, but I just can't give her up for whatever reason. Just know that you're not alone and there are other people in your situation. I really hope that you find closure and that you meet someone else who makes you feel special :)
You're not an obsessive freak. It's quite normal to keep the feelings especially if you're around her a lot. She probably appreciates your friendship. But there is usually a wonderful person out there who turns out to be a better fit for you. Been in a similar situation and it's good to expand your connections
I hope you two keep searching. It's not wise to allow yourself to dwell in unrequited love with no way out. You deserve much more than that. You set yourself up for awful things that way, including resentment, desperation, and hypervigilance. The other party probably feels a little unsteady in the face of that attachment imbalance, too.
Don't give yourself no out. Don't dwell on what you cannot have, because if you do, you'll begin to think you're inadequate.
its so cute how you use xingqiu and chongyun in this
I use the "accept you have no chance" strategy where it's just
If they do anything nice they're just being nice no matter what
I used to do that but I think this person really likes me back
@@claragib8402 Oh that's good for you I wish you good luck!
Reminds me of how annoyed I sometimes feel when someone triggers a person's love language just to tease them or mean it in a platonic way without disclaiming the action as such or assuming that their intentions are clear to others
WAIIT I JUST NOTICED THE DDLC REFERENCE THANK YOUUU