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I'd rather reject girls than fall in love bc I hate loving girls 😝. I already have a dream of living without a lover 😏. Not even my old classmate that fell in love with me would change that
Would work in the working world. But u should never feel entitled to peoples feelings,u liking someone and them not having a crush back is totally ok and normal.they didnt miss out ,they just aren’t compatible when it comes to feelings.They weren’t attracted to you and Its fine,someone Else will get attracted to you. Just like you arent obligated to like everyone that has a crush on you,you shouldnt expect it from others.only causes more harm,Its nature and no need to think too much about it.you’ll be fine
Rejection = knowing where you stand with someone. It's a great thing. Better than vagueness and uncertainty. It gives more time to find those who accept you
also often means you loose maybe one of your closest friends. that dosnt always have to do with accepting. its more like your just not the one. and by telling them what you feel it can be unconfteble for others to be around you knowing that your interested in more. if your crush is not in a close position yes rejection is just it. but if you have to see or even work all day with that person its a different game. my problem for my self is more that i dont even know what someone means to me. Maybe it sounds strange, but yea...
Romantic relationships are not a beautiful thing. Romance causes a lot of problems in this world. Life is a lot better without romance than it is with it. Romantic love is not special at all, and I think that the romantic type of love isn't real. More than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, And most couples who are still together are usually not happy being together. Also, there are a lot of toxic romantic relationships. Like an example is that abuse happens a lot in romantic relationships.
1. they're nervous around you 0:44 2. they do dorky things in an attempt to impress you 1:26 3. they want to spend time with you but they suddenly disappear 1:57 4. they've talked about you to the important people in their life 2:34 5. they go out of their way to do things for you, but don't like to talk about their feelings 2:53 6. they listen and remember what you say 3:33 I hope I could help!
Someone liking you but being afraid of rejection at the same time must be one of the worst feelings ever. Love is beautiful, but so dangerous at the same time.
YES!! if someone SUDDENLY DISAPPEARS when things seem to be going well, then it might be the other person's general issues with commitment and not something you did or said. it's easy to feel hurt but reasons are often more complicated than they might seem at first 💔
this just happened to me with a girl i was with. We were texting each other all and everyday for two weeks and we’ve hung out a couple of times. Everything went smooth and great but then all of a sudden, she told me that she’s not ready for new ppl in her life and that she’d stay in her bubble for now and come back when she’s ready. She apologized and everything and all i said was no worries, come back whenever you feel ready since i didn’t wanna pressure her or interfere in her space. Its been two weeks and nothing from her yet. I don’t know if I should keep waiting or just move on. Everything was really going amazing between us both and it kinda sucks how it just ended just like that ): she was even the one to initiate everything between us. so idk
@@immortalattack4821 live your life, trust me - gives you room to be a fulfilled person, and if she comes back? Either you'll be open to it, content with what you have and keep a friendship alive, or have the best of both worlds. Just process if this is something you're willing to put the effort into, and if you can see she's willing to do the same.
@@immortalattack4821 what is it about that 2-week Mark because the guy I was talking to and I texted for hours every day for two weeks. The same night we finally met in person his baby mama X decided to come back into his life and pressure him for marriage. When I asked about the change in his behavior he said he didn't have time for high-maintenance friends. Funny he somehow found hours to talk to me before so I think he was transferring his frustration about his ex to me because he feels obligated to her even though the relationship was toxic.
1. Theyare nervous around you 2. They do dorky things in order to impress you. 3. They try to come close to you but suddenly disappear 4. They talked about you to the person they like 5. They go out of their way to do things but never talk about their feelings
@@cleverclovercreates3249With all these signs, i can guarantee that he likes you but he never tell you haha..maybe you can confess to him if you're brave enough lol, i wish you luck. btw i'm 14 too LOL but doesn't have any love relationship😂
Does throwing a bowling ball at pins in a crazy out of the blue way count as showing off and doing dorky things to impress during bowling? And yeah i noticed it too. He ended up introducing me to his family (immediate family) and number 3
I'm not afraid of rejection. More or less I'm afraid of the awkwardness afterwards. Worried that it will hurt the relationship that person and I might have already had.
Same. Like, i'm fine with rejection ; i don't expect the person to like me back n i don't need the person to feel the same. I'm just afraid of things not being the same.
I wasn't really sad when she rejected me in Jan 2021, since we remained best friends at the time. But I was really sad when she said she didn't want to talk to me anymore in Dec 2021.
Reasons why I hate rejection: • there will be an awkward stage between u too • they will start saying things to their friends • you’ll pretty much be hurt for quite a while • (if u were friends) theres a possibility they might not want to be friends anymore EDIT: I am so proud to say that I’ve decided to shove my fear aside and tell my crush I like her. She ended up liking me too and now were a thing! Just wanted to tell everyone that was in the same bubble as me, just pop it. It’s a one time opportunity and worth shooting too. Even if she / he says no, it’s always good to think that you found courage to say your feelings! Hope you guys find your partners. It took 8 months for me!
Holy crap this is how I feel also, I'm just shy, not really much of a social teenager since I'm rarely on social media & mostly play video games. Back in 2019 someone liked me I'm not sure if they were faking it or not but it was on the first week of school I sensed a sign they liked me, around early November on a Tuesday they sended a note during class which I was surprised. This was a long time ago when that person & me had a crush on each other. She doesn't go to the same school which I'm sad :(. But oh well forget the shy relationship & move on, besides we were both shy
As someone with a fear of rejection and who has a crush on someone with a fear of rejection, it's so confusing. You understand them but still don't get it. They're vulnerable and comfortable with you, are clingy and show affection, talk about feelings sometimes and are honest to just disappear for long days. Then something happens and you have a moment where it's clear that there is something between you just for them to pull away again. It's tiring, I can't lie. But sometimes it's worth it. Be persistent but know your limits folks.
I’m introverted as well and completely understand what you went through. I experienced the same exact thing… Man my emotions were going like a rollercoaster: it was exciting and it made us happy, but hurt at the same time, because we both couldn’t get it. We had this strong connection but something just didn’t sit right. Neither of us admitted our feelings and that was the most heartbreaking part. Regret. If anyone is reading this and is in the same position, go admit your feelings to the one you love!
@@mari4nne i'd rather tell her in person. Besides, if I tell her later, I get more time to be sure if she likes me or not. She's most likely gonna leave BC after she graduates (in a half year) so when I tell her in June, I won't have to see her again. But if I tell her sooner, I get to bond with her a wee bit more (though she literally has no dating experience).
I think once you get rejected a few times, it hurts less and less. I've never been rejected until I got older. Yes, it stung, but it made me reflect on myself. I realized that there was nothing wrong with me and that the person just simply wasn't for me. I've made changes so that I can be happy on my own and I've learned to not rely on others for happiness. That gave me confidence, and I attracted more people because of it. If you feel this way about yourself, maybe it is time to make some changes in your life. You shouldn't feel like you are not worthy.
Same I had gotten rejected in October this year and now one of my closest friends who I like has disappeared from me he has not been responding to me I don’t know why I hope he is ok 😭
My wife Yes, a woman I married Still has trouble expressing her feelings to me. Because she has grown up feeling like a burden to most people. But she is getting better because I have not let up on reassuring her that she is not a burden to me and I love her.
I suffer from this too. Especially growing up and experience tons of trauma, it makes it hard. My current partner doesn’t really give me reassurance. So I’m glad you give her tons !
@@jackiel.1780 Whatever she needs emotionally to show that I love her, I’m prepared to do. I’ve forgotten the psychological term for it. But apparently I’m natural at replacing her former responses to situations with more positive ones. I hope you’re able to have your needs met someday soon.
I had a situation where a girl I liked gave me all the signs. Even talked to my sister asking about me a lot and specifically stating she wanted to get to know me more in a one on one setting. I hung out more over the next few months and we even went on an outing to the beach together one on one. She played romantic country music the whole time and the signs all seemed to be there. As soon as we got back, though, she became distant. Stopped texting back. Then I found out she was with another guy months later. I was just her way to feel wanted while this guy decided if he wanted her. Apparently I reminded her somewhat of him. She even asked why he and I aren't good friends since we're so much alike. Well gee, I don't know, maybe we would be if it weren't for both of us wanting the same girl? I felt completely lied to and used and then tossed aside like an old toy as soon as she got what she really wanted. Fear of rejection exists because of things like this.
Ohhhhh shtttttttttt thts me rn like if its 10 11 pm she justs says gn but in reality i see her location on snapchat and says was on 2 hrs(basically at 2 am she feel asleep basically means she didnt want to text me (im assuming)anymore and talked to other ppl maybe some other guy)like this just started 3 wks ago we holded hands hugged a bit often and during school we dont even do it its probably me or her bc we just dont do it at school its very different(also i just get so nervous around her and if her friends r around its even worse)and my mom and her mom know we both like each other but were still friends idk wht to do man
@@isaelvertiz5384 I don´t know, do one of these 3 foot related phrases: 1. Do the first step 2. Put your foot down 3. Put your foot in the door 2 and 3 basically mean the same so do number one and finally put your foot in your mouth, unrelated phrase and doesn´t make sense in this context.
My crush sent this to me and said “You do quite similar things. Seems like you fell for me” 💀 Update : I confessed to him and he said “I was just kidding but oh well, i'll think about it” Update 2 : I called him and after stuttering like an idiot, I could ask for a date. And he said “Woah, you really are my biggest fan. But, yeah, we could.” Then he said we should meet at a restaurant Thursday at 7:30 PM- I'm gonna have a heart attack but yeah here's the update for y'all, I tried to ask him asap so that you won't wait. ❤️ Update 3 : So yeah I just remembered tomorrow is Valentine's day. Life definitely wanted this to happen at THIS right moment. Anyway, i'm gonna give him a box of chocolates, because yeah idk what else to give. 👏 Update 4 : I gave him the box of chocolate. He smiled, hugged and thanked me. Then he gave me a plushie (it was a bunny) I was so happy I almost cried so yeah. Update 5 : Thanks for the likes my god- And the date is tomorrow izvzizsjsvzuzbzibzzjjzidjdkd. Update 6 : So... I went to the date. It went well, I made myself look as pretty as possible just for him lol. I remember he said “You're so beautiful.” SKZKEJKSJDZKZLSKS. Also, a girl gave us our meal and like she said “Are you guys together?” I was about to say yes but it would've been kind of embarrassing for him- And he just said “not yet” I think that's all, for the rest it was eating, talking and stuff lol. Update 7 : Well um first of all tysm for the support and all, I appreciate it ! And yeah he asked me to come to his house when i'll be free. I said that if my parents would somehow let me, I'd come. I asked them and they literally asked his name, age, how he looks, if he's kind, if he's in my highschool etc- After I answered, they said I could, so ima come over saturday, I think? The update 8 is for soon boys. 💀🕶️🤏 Update 8 : Well he isn't at home saturday so I'll just come tomorrow lol Update 9 : I'm omw to his house lmfao. The 4G is so bad I can't type correctly but yeah. I'll tell you what happened. Update 10 : OKAY SO I HAD TO PRETEND GOING TO THE TOILET TO UPDATE Y'ALL BE GRATEFUL PLEASE. So I came and literally his mom is so sweet to me like? Then he told me to enter so I did. We talked a little and THEN he said “Yeah so uh remember when you said you liked me?” I said yeah and- “Well.. I like you too.” I LITERALLY JUMPED and then I said I needed to go to the bathroom help 😭 Update 11 : PLEASE LITERALLY HIS MOM ENTERED THE ROOM WHILE WE WERE PLAYING ON HIS PS5 AND SHE JUST WHEEZED THEN WAS GOING AWAY IhBSBSJSKSK For the rest, I like ate at his place, and the afternoon we watched a movie. Nothing really happened tbh Update 12 : I'M SORRY I ABANDONED Y'ALL BUT UM- HE TOLD ME HE ACTUALLY THOUGHT I WAS CUTE FOR SOME TIME AND YEAH LOL WE'RE BASICALLY DATING Update 13 : Guys I left you for, like, 4 months?! So yeah, we're dating and uh that's it- I'm so happy because like, he's so sweet to me, he cares sm about me, he never talks about what he knows makes me uncomfortable even though he likes them omg I love him smmmmm 😭✌️
Guys, if you think you like someone and you know they like you back just confess to them yourself pls. I'm saying this cause of an incident. So I was in grade 8, there was a girl I saw in that class and I fell in love with her. She didn't loved me at first but slowly she started to love me as well. We both used to sit at different seats in class but we never felt like that. I'm sure she loved me because we used to stare at each other like half of the time. I know it might sound creepy for some people but it really isn't. It was like when she first looked at me I looked away. 2nd time when I try to look at her right after 2-3 seconds she looked at me back and I looked away again. It happened a few times but at the end I decided to not look away when she looks at me and I did. She didn't moved her sight away. The funny part is that she was so insterested in me when I asked 'What?' by raising my eyebrows she just copied me and looked away. I was sure she loved me and I still don't know why I didn't confess.So, it was the last day of school and a bit snow was there on road. Our bus driver drove the bus really carefully as the road wasn't in good condition. When I reached school I decided I'll confess to her. I couldn't say it in front of her so I wrote it in paper. I remember the exact lines. I said "Hi, I love you a lot. I know you love me too I think it's time I confess my feelings. Do you love me?". I gave it to her in last period and told her to read it in her bus not here. She looked extremely happy and just said 'Thanks I was waiting for it for so long'. It was like she knew what was written. When she went into that bus and she read it in her bus only when the bus was still parked in school and was about to leave. She asked the driver that she forgot to refill her water bottle so she'll go and she came to my bus saying "I do feel the same way, I love you too" to me from outside my bus window. I asked her to talk to me on phone and I was really happy. It was the happiest day of my life or that's what I thought. I hope she never went in that bus. Before that bus could drop her at her house it got into an accident due to snow. It's been almost 3 years since then and I still miss her. I just wish I could've reversed time and asked her to read it earlier and not in that bus. I still am not in any relationship since then. I was really depressed when I heard about her bus. I felt like giving up my life but then I thought of my parents and just cried for almost an year. I hope she loves me too and wherever she is I just wanted to say her in person that I love her and not through letter cause I never said I love you too to her in person, just sent a letter. So, guys it's my humble request to pls confess to someone if you really love them and you think they love you back. My parents changed my school after that cause they didn't want to see me depressed. I literally had to go to doctor for 6 months to cure my depression. Sorry if I wrote it wayy too long.
I’m so so sorry for you.., reading this just broke my heart 😢. When you said that you told her ‘What?’ and raised your eyebrows while you were both staring at each other felt like an exact situation I lived…my crush did the exact same thing…..I’m not sure if he likes me but he seems nervous around me, (even my friend said so) and we make a lot, A LOT, of eye contacts…I don’t know what to think about..oh and we go home by taking the same bus that’s why your story was like a déjà-vu to me (fortunately no accidents happened). Again I’m really sorry for you and hope you feel better and happy..I’m sure she’s looking at you from wherever she is ☺️😢
yo this guy just done anime plot. but seriously sorry for that and my heart broke when i read this. but still, this isnt gonna make me confess cuz i know she didnt like me back. but maybe ill reconsider. i was planing to do it when it was the last time i see her rl
Thanks guys for these likes and nice comments. I could've replied earlier but I don't use this account often as this reminds me of my past. Well, I'm a lot better now. Well, I always tried to run away from the past. My parents told me to not think about the past and focus on the future. I tried to do the same. That's why I shifted to a different account and disbanded this account. But, that didn't help. I couldn't run away from my past, it was like, everytime I tried forgetting about the past, the same lines started ringing in my ears which I heard from my mom when she said that one of the school buses met an accident almost 4 years ago. So, finally I've decided to not run away from it. I shifted back to this account, I think about her a lot often and wonder how my life would've been if she was still with me. I went to my previous school a few days back and met my old friends whom I left 4 years ago. I was glad they still rememeber me. I even met her parents to see if they were okay and they were mostly fine, even tho I couldn't talk to them in person, I had a little conversation with them on phone as they were not at home at that moment. I have decided, I'll now make tons of great memories in my life and when I die, I'll share all the memories with her. Hope she'll listen lol. One last note, I really really really pray that what happened to me never happens to anyone else in this world. I want everyone to be happy always and whoever's reading this, enjoy your life, I promise everything will go your way. Whichever god you worship always has better plans for you.
I confessed to my bestfriend but she never liked me...❤ Its alright though because after I confessed she said she never had feelings yet she will always be by my side as my bestfriend! Some say friend zoned, I say the other best possible responce!
that’s sweet that you guys didn’t let it ruin your relationship and that means you two really do value each other even if it isn’t going to be romantic, but you’ll always have them with you and they were honest:)
Story time! So I have been talking to this one girl who I really like. She inevitably told me she liked me too. Funny thing is she did it and she showed all these signs. Just because someone is afraid of rejection (she later told me she was afraid to tell me) doesn't mean that you have to change anything about the way you talk or do things. I just talked to her like I usually did. I was going to tell her at school but she told me first. I really love her... Anyways moral is: don't think that you have to be different to impress anyone. Also being awkward isn't a bad thing... (We're both really awkward people) thank you and good night!
My story is similar except this person ended up going back to her abusive ex without me even knowing it. She just stopped talking to me out of nowhere and I couldn’t figure out why until two weeks later , it turned out she had already got with that guy. It really broke me but It helped me grow so much as a person ❤️
Exactly. I had a guy I REALLY liked give me mixed signals. He would show interest one day, next day he pretended he hadn't even noticed me. I would sometimes bump into him in the subway and he would always hide behind his newspaper. I ended up thinking that he didn't like me and that all the signs that pointed towards the opposite were my interpretation only because I liked him so much. In the end, I concluded that even if he DID like me, if he were so insanely unapproachable and afraid of me, I couldn't spend any more time, as at that point, I had been trying to approach him for almost a year. Years later, being more experienced and being able to read cues better, I realized HE DID like me, probably as much as I liked him. But well, what's the point if he can't even acknowledge my presence half the times???
@@xrc7445 I had a really similar experience a couple of years ago and it took me so long to realize this. But at the end of the day, I can only do so much and I can't push someone out of their comfort zone more than they're willing to go. And after a while it's a dilemma between trying to understand them and your own well being and you gotta pick yourself
It may not always be the fear of rejection. For me it was depression, always feeling inadequate, and straight up hating myself. It finally took her blatantly saying how she felt about me for me to realize how senseless my insecurities were. She makes me want to be a better me for her, to be someone that she deserves. Whatever the future brings, that woman was able to pull me from a pit, I thought I'd never get out of.
Same exact circumstances, but the fact that I expressed that she "made me" want to be better, and not having been self-motivated to be bette regardless of her involvement, was a huge red flag and turn off for her. Too much pressure to take while she was also struggling with her own mental health. I'm grateful to her for ultimately rejecting me while I was living within that mindset. Although it did- and still does- hurt, it's given me insight and a perspective that I can take and apply to myself before I try to offer myself to another, again. It was a lesson on how to be a better partner.
@@mickeyconnor830 I'm gonna say something: she probably felt absolutely terrible afterwards. Give her a "thank you" sometime, that might ease her worries!
@@r3xlovesyou lmao idk im in the ‘jealousy phase’ but I can’t say a word bc we are not dating- And ok ofc I want him to have friends but the girl LITERALLY grabbed his hand when they were walking IN FRONT OF MEEE!! And I cant tell to my friends how I feel bc they dont know abt my crush. 😀🔫
number 3 is exactly what happened. we were good friends, until they began avoiding me. once i started doing the same, they began speaking to me again. we actually got even closer and my feelings grew more 😭
Bro/Sis Same here!!! I mean, my friend she has done the same after we see esch other and she givea to me an hug, and she noe try to write little, but noe she is restarting writing a bit more :3
Very true! I used to like this guy but he did not really reject me. He just distanced himself from me and I got the message. Plus, my liking of him faded fast so yes, it was a blessing in disguise since he would have been the biggest mistake of my life.... I regret liking someone like that dick. I learned though...
I'm a woman who is 32 and I'm not afraid of rejection. It may be hurt at first but I can move on from it. My biggest fear is being used and abused emotionally since I have toxic parents and my past relationships were toxic with narcs. I've have been single for almost 3 years and right now, I really like a guy at work but I'm telling myself to not chase after him.
I totally agree, it’s not the rejection that hurts a lot but it’s the after effect of being used and abused. It’s not worth wasting time with such person. And some people are so good at being manipulative that they can put all the blame on you and act like they are the real victims.
You may want to read about Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It may be a eye opener. I hate rejection so I just don’t go there. Men are just not as gentlemanly as I would prefer. Maybe it’s me. Idk
You should spend some general time with that guy at work, you don't have to be in a relationship all of a sudden, try to be a friend first , if you already are then don't rush keep it slow, and if he takes alot of time to propose (maybe he had similar past like you) then you should do it instead of regretting it
i have a problem, that's not how it works with me. for some reason i've realized and been told to that my feelings towards the girl i like are not evident at all. what should i do?
The pulling away and letting them come to you thing works. I have been seeing someone who pulled away every time I was too interested, so I stopped contacting her altogether, and now she contacts me several times a day. If someone really likes you and has fear of abandonment, then sometimes it's a good idea to let them like you on their own terms. When they feel safe with you, they will open up more and want to see you. I used to get anxious when she didn't write back right away, but now I just do something else and the hours fly by, and we're both closer for it.
I'm glad it's worked for you, but I've tried this before and it has literally never once worked. The people move on, never to return, in my personal experience, as if I never existed.
Yeah, you're better off just focusing your attention on yourself, your goals, and your interests. A message here or there to check in on them is probably okay. And if they get back to you, great! If they don't, then you didn't lose any energy worrying about a person who didn't care about you.
This is exactly what I do every time I like someone, not just because I'm afraid of being rejected, but mostly because I'm afraid of the judgment of the people surrounding me and the person I like. Sometimes I also don't want to ruin the frendship I built so I just stay silent and wait until my crush disappears
yup. I likde being around them, but not too close. The moment it seems the interest is returned I panic and start distancing myself. Can't ruin anything if there's nothing to ruin, right???
Ya, that seems samiliar to my situation. I have social anxiety disorder and due to that im afraid what'll happen if I confess to my crush. I'm not really afraid of rejection, I'm just afraid he will tell someone and people everywhere will judge me and make fun of me, something like that
This is literally me. I'm a shy guy whose ever only been in one relationship, which unfortunately ended and I know deep down it was mainly my fault that her feelings faltered. I was always scared to make any moves because I was afraid if I did anything wrong (like make advancements at the wrong time or the wrong place) that it would be game over for me, which couldn't have been more wrong. We are just good friends now because of this, but I still have this fear of making any advancement, which is a super big issue because of stereotypes (guys gotta be the confident ones and make the moves to be successful and all that jazz)
@@globalheartwarming thank you for the encouragement, but it is unfortunately not that simple. I have an extremely hard time talking to girls I like due to past bullying, so pushing past that is extremely difficult
Very insensitive of me not to read the comment first, i disagree with the stereotype i understand where you are coming from i too have a fear of rejection but don’t be disheartened if you show a slight interest even as friends first an understanding girl will lead the way
Those with a fear of rejection often have difficulty expressing their own needs and standing their ground. they might also develop feelings of jealousy or distrust in your partner as their fear of rejection turns into a fear of being abandoned.😔😔😔
Thank you a lot. I was afraid of rejection from my crush and hesitated for asking out. After watching this video, I decided to make things change and asked her if she would date me. She rejected me with harsh sentences and humiliated me in front of my friends. But no problem bc I don't have a fear of rejection anymore.
Is it just me or do Pysche2Go Videos seem to hover around a specific social sphere of mental health that seems to be interested in individuals who fall into the weird limbo of aspergers that separate average populations and the socially/emotionally underdeveloped.
@@userm180 I guess I will be ok, thanks for asking. It’s just that she’s “out of my league” professionally. She’s an attorney and I’m studying to be a paralegal.
@@userm180 nah bruh paralegals avg like 50k a year, attorneys can make in the 6 figures, I wouldn't wanna be little boyed like that either lol. No offense to Bob do your thing dawg
Honestly, I think you can feel when someone likes you and you like them. When you can sense this, it may just be a matter of going for it. Talk with em about it. Even if you do a clumsy job of it, they'll be really happy that you reached out to them. These precious points shouldn't be squandered.
i took charge of the situation with my shy crush since he was doing all these things in the video, i slipped him a note under his plate of my birthday cake that i shared at work last week & he never responded, now i feel exactly how he was afraid of feeling, like an ASS!!!!
@@Salty_Taco9357 oh :/ i've had many crushes in my younger days mostly & i knew they didn't like me coz well i had so many crushes at college & they were all secret with no real intention of making them a reality, especially since i wasn't allowed to have bfs anyway. but this dude at work definitely was crushing on me first,he did come to my house on his break in the summer, but since then he got cold feet,i dunno if it's coz he got the indirect idea by now that i like him too & he's scared of getting closer, falling harder & possibly not meeting his assumptions of my expectations, or that 1 day i'll leave him.coz dude still be watching me at work & on the rare occasion he comes close i just FEEL the magnetism! but at this point i dont wanna persist out of fear of annoying him or looking too dominant, coz in actual fact im still a shy gal at heart, just not as shy as him
@@Salty_Taco9357 you aren't being manipulative, girls prefer you to be dominant in these situations. Shes probably waiting for you to tell her straight up...trust me kiddo I have 23 more years of experience with this. Good luck 😉
To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, your dream is not dead. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️. Happy holidays 🎄🎄.
Yes true...letting the other person know that you really like or love them solves many doubts or questions of rejection.Many don’t express their feelings and suffer later.
After being rejected several times, I no longer let the other person know I like them. It's a burden! They always use the same 2 word combo, I'm too nice and sweet then proceed to the rejectio. It takes me quite some time to overcome the rejection. So I stopped letting them know I have feeling for them. Being alone doesn't look that lonely anymore. This way, I won't need to deal with any more rejections.
Fear of rejection is caused by many things, Being too nervous or being unsure about yourself, growing up alone or being in a toxic relationship. Just being scared or being body shamed, not having friends in the past or a friend that never cared for you.
This video reminds me of one person in my life that I know he was afraid of rejection but I also was afraid of rejection at the time. So we both liked each other so much, but we were both scared to express our feelings. We were both scared and I always wonder what would happen to us I grew the courage to tell him first.
Ye like 2 years ago there was someone in my year and I knew she was afraid of rejection and I was as well and 1 year passed and the year after that we got to senior school and we are in different classes and I only have her for 1 lesson now and sometimes I wonder what would’ve happened if I went and told her and if this same situation happened now it would be different thankfully cuz I’ve matured a bit now.
I feel like I’m in this situation right now…I’m about to graduate college and the girl I like is a junior so time is about to run out. She’s so hard to read though. Sometimes I feel like there is a chance she likes me and other days it feels like we’re just friends.. I don’t want to risk making things awkward but I might just have to make the leap
@@rolandorobles6375 Honestly I truly regret not taking that leap. So my advice is, find the right moment, (it can’t just be randomly okay), you have to be in the moment and when you feel like this is a good time to express your feelings DO IT. Of course we went to avoid all awkward situations but in the end is gonna be two results: Yes or no. And honestly, even if she were to reject you, at least you won’t have any regrets later on. You can look back and say ‘well that didn’t work out but not because I didn’t try.” Take the leap and be confident in yourself. Because one thing I also learned is that there’s World out there full of people. (PS if you are going to do it, let me know how it goes)
The funny thing for me is that I liked someone and had a fear of rejection, and only confessed a few hours ago by email by accident. Well, I’m just hoping things will turn out well for me
I too am afraid of rejection, but I'm already used to it! I've realized that there's absolutely nothing wrong with me. I do feel very lonely at times, but it is what it is! At least I have friends and family by my side. They help me to move forward in life! Right now, I'm just focusing on improving myself. It makes me feel good about myself and I feel that I'm at ease.
It sucks when you've had instances of past rejections that make it even harder to try and initiate a relationship with someone in future, platonic or romantic. I've always had trouble connecting with others or not being open enough, but when I try to, I get called annoying or that I am "too much" for the other party. It really makes it that much harder to even wanna straight up say "I like you" to someone because even if they're showing reciprocating feelings, there is still that sense of doubt in the back of your mind. It really makes it hard to want to even commit to any form of a relationship when there's that constant anxiety that they're just gonna end up leaving or pushing you away :(c
I'm sorry people called you annoying and that you are "too much". Please don't ever change who you are because of that! You are good enough and thr right person will definitely like you for that side of you and the people who told you that you are too much didn't deserve you! ❤️
Let's not forget how little positive attention males get, at least in my experience. So sometimes honestly a girl just being nice to me is just an instant crush. Which ultimately leads to more rejections
@@paradiseracer2437 That hasn't been my experience. The more positive attention I give the more guys start disliking me and avoiding me. Nowadays, I only talk to guys unless I have to or I need a favor. Maybe if a woman is pretty she can get a guy to like her by being nice and friendly. Otherwise it doesn't work.
@@MWtheMonke beauty is subjective. No one is beautiful to everyone and no one is ugly to everyone. Just because some people seem to be prettier doesn't mean anything. And to be truthful, I'm usually very nice to every girl. But I don't get very much positivity my way. Obviously I don't mean for everyone but men typically don't receive as much positive attention.
I am afraid of rejection, but it's more due to the fact that I feel like it may just be too soon for either of us to get into such things yet, and I feel like I need to sort out my emotions about the whole thing a bit first. That's the short of it.
I’m someone who fears rejection due to childhood trauma. These 6 signs aren’t just relevant to romantic relationships, but any relationship. I have these behaviors toward my adopted family. I never ask for help, but I’ll eagerly do stuff to help them. I like helping them, because then I know they like and need me. I don’t ask for help because I can’t face the possibility of being refused.
1. they're nervous around you 0:44 2. they do dorky things in an attempt to impress you 1:26 3. they want to spend time with you but they suddenly disappear 1:57 4. they've talked about you to the important people in their life 2:34 5. they go out of their way to do things for you, but don't like to talk about their feelings 2:53 6. they listen and remember what you say 3:33 THANK YOU
the comment he talks about is made by "dat boi" and it was posted 1 day ago. Ofcourse, you could've looked for these time stamps by yourself but it seems like you didn't since there's already 2 comments thanking "dat boi" and basically copying what he said. But it doesn't really matter, it's just a comment so i mean, who cares. Also, Merry Christmas to whoever is reading this!
This is so totally true. A boy had a crush on me during our high school year. But never had the courage to tell me...he seemed to have walked away or shied away if I looked at him back then....only about 26 years later when I have divorced my husband several years earlier then I knew his true feeling and he finally had the courage to tell me he love me 😁 so we are dating now in our forties...better late than never....
Heck no I would’ve died holding in my feelings for that long. I usually wait about 1 year max and if the relationship doesn’t already naturally happen, I ask them out to get the final answer so I can move on and focus on other things.
This video is for people who struggle with honest, straightforward communication. After you’ve spent time together & feel like you’d like to explore a future together, BE BOLD! Ask, “How do you feel about me?” Sometimes they will say, “I like you as a friend.” That may be disappointing if you’re looking for a love relationship, but at least you’ll KNOW where you stand. Attraction involves chemistry that one experiences, but can not typically control. Have you ever met someone in a particular setting, and thought, “This person is AMAZING!” But after you spent time with them in a different setting, you felt no attraction whatsoever? One-night stands are based on this type of initial excitement. Do we embrace the fantasy for fun, or live in reality, where genuine connection is the foundation of a relationship?
In some cases, i think that *missed opportunities can hurt more than rejection.* If you're thinking about asking someone out, take the shot and see where it goes. And if you do end up being rejected...it's okay to be sad, but just be glad you decided to try :)
This was always me the first few years of high school, I didn’t ask my crush out for 3 years because I thought there was no way she would possibly wanna go out with me. We were friends but that’s it. One day drunk at a party, I don’t even remember this but she told me what happened, I told her how I felt, and the next day she told me what I’d said and that she thought it was sweet but she couldn’t figure out why I didn’t just tell her. I told her I felt like she was too far out of my league, and she told me that’s a stupid concept, and that she liked me for me, not what I looked like. We agreed we would try it out, and we’re still together 3 years later. I don’t drink anymore, but I’ll always be thankful for alcohol because of that moment, cause I would’ve probably never asked without being drunk, and I’m in a way better place now
I attract narcs very easily. I get this all the time with new "friends" blabbing about themselves no end. Then they gas light me. I don't care who or what issues someone has, but please and thank you are two vices that sort the crappy people out for me. Yes actions mean a lot. 👍
Yeah, been there done that lol. I've resigned myself to being a lifelong bachelor. I'm horrible with rejection, I'm just an emotional person. It hits hard, man. Especially when you like a girl. Never again, my emotions and feelings are in permanent quarantine, I'm just the laidback friend from now on lmao.
I wish you could see what i see. If a girl rejects you, she doesn’t remember it for more than a day so why should you hold on to that? You deserve better don’t let it get you down
*TIME STAMPS* In case you hate scrolling 1. They're nervous around you 0:44 2. They do dorky things in an attempt to impress you 1:26 3. They want to spend time with you but they suddenly disappear 1:57 4. They've talked about you to the important people in their life 2:34 5. They go out of their way to do things for you, but don't like to talk about their feelings 2:53 6. They listen and remember what you say 3:33 Thanks to Dat Boi
I recently got rejected again. I can definitely say these things are not always true. Keep getting rejected, bois! One day... One day, someone will say yes.
as a person who is scared of rejection and has Had A lot of bad past relationships this is very relatable to me, For a while now I’ve always wanted to ask people out but I’m always scared it would end up bad again or I will get rejected and then made fun up
Sometimes the pulling away isnt because theyre not interested-quite the opposite-they need some time out from the emotional rollercoaster. They need to go into a safe place where they can think about you without all the spikey emotions that come with interacting with you. Its like they love being around you but are scared of something going wrong and getting hurt, so they run away for some time out. Best thing is to just let them do their thing, let them know youre still thinking of them so they know youre still interested but dont be too needy/clingy or desperate!
I always think it best to keep one’s mouth shut if the feels start to enter the picture. Especially if that person in question is unquestionably married….😢
I am INFJ too, happened to me too, I totally understand you. I don’t know if we hurt each other, we have to contact each other to talk about it. We both done the weird signs/things XD. I think he is INTJ, Ni dominant for sure, so maybe INFJ. Flirting ? Never done that, It’s not me. Soul connection ok, but real/concrete connection it’s a little more difficult for us. For us it’s just try talking I think.
@@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes yes, it always comes down to failure of communication. Being afraid/vulnerable is the final boss you always have to battle to get your feelings across. It's awfully complicated but we've had NC for over 1.8 years now and the balls in her court for whatever the future holds. So if you can talk it through go for it, but be honest with each other even if you're both unsure.
@@AitchC INFJ, we never give up ^^. I have the chance we are both very honest. I will send him message during the week, I really want to know what's happen/happened.
To me, I’m not afraid of rejection but the bad things that could happen in a relationship. I might get cheated on, they might get bored of me, etc. Those fears gnaw at my heart.
I just constantly notice that they like me through their body language and also the way they express themselves in front of me through verbal communication . These are few signs that somebody may like you a lot but they afraid of rejection and afraid confirm their feelings : 1.They care about what you said and also remember the information you said 2.They care about your personal life and realize when you have a bad time 3.They try to make you comfortable when they're talking to you 4.They do a lot of skinship with you 5.They speak their really personal opinions about the conversation's topic with you and waiting your reaction 6.They also tell you about little things in their life 7.They show interest at your story 8.They always cheer you up and comfort you when you need 9.They want to be in touch with you 10. They get nervous around you and try to distract themselves all the time 11.They can act like they don't need you and show you that for them you're just a friend I hope this help and I'm sorry for my broken English :(
Watched a few of these videos and I realized she might actually like me, she specifically touches only me when we have fun and when I rolled around in grass she only offered to clean off my back her touch is very gentle and non malicious unlike some people can be we're both kinda dorky I think but at times they've been bold
I did that once. We were friends for 4 years. Bonds like that are not meant to be played with and broken thats why i promised myself to never get too attached with close friends ever again. And if you end such a relationship you will be living with the worse guilt, self hatred and regret of your life.
Not even scared of rejection necessarily. I’m more scared that they’ll suddenly stop liking me and will just stop doing anything. Things are always more complicated then it seems I guess
I watched this video a month ago as the person fearing rejection, and now I am watching this video again to understand why this person who is interested in me is pulling away. Thank you Psych2Go!
No point in being afraid of what's guaranteed to happen. So I just tell them. I know I'll be rejected, but at least there's no hard feelings either way, and I didn't lose a close friend.
That isn't the case for everyone. When I had a crush at school I told a supposed best friend of mine who I liked and everyone found out cuz she told the entire class and she lead me up to the boy who I liked and I was mercilessly humiliated by him and everyone since they all laughed and pointed at me. When I had a different crush in high school it happened the same way and I don't consider my self ugly. There was very hard feelings between me and them and I did nothing wrong to them so.... 🤷🏾♀️
Interesting, because as far as unluckily I was concerned, when somebody loosened the connection, for me it looked like a decrease of interest, not fear of rejection. I am usually feared of rejection, but never treat people I am interested in, or have feelings (friendly or romantic) like that.
“If it’s rejection, here’s to hoping their fears will melt away when you tell them you like them, like, really like them.” I did, but I still feel like he’s afraid of rejection 😅 (I would say we have an interesting relationship, possibly a bit one sided on my end)
Tell him that! Communication is soooo important, but I feel like we sometimes think we’re expressed something clearly to someone else, but we really haven’t. Try telling him exactly what you said in your comment. See what happens!
I am a little dry I I hope you accept my apology busy around the holiday and you haven't been here if you want to be a part of my life again I'm very bubbly upbeat and full of life I don't want to play no games don't have time to if you want to spend time with me only to the side and let's make it happen I am single disengage unmarried with no drama I don't have drama in my life
There’s a girl in my class that I really like, and I don’t fully know if she feels the same way. I can see her looking at me and turning away when she sees me just like I do. She also VERY rarely talks to me and even when we do talk, it’s like just a few words and that’s it. She might be nervous talking to me just like I am talking to her, or most likely because she has other friends and I’m not one of them. I really want to tell myself that she really does like me, but in reality, I’m 90% sure that she doesn’t.
omg this also happened to me like 3 years ago LOOL we didn't talk that much but we always stared at each other in class and stuff but i never got to know her feelings for me because im scared of rejection and plus i transferred to another school so till now im still curious about her feelings that time but unfortunately we lost contact LOOL thank god ive moved on tho i think it was just a silly crush 💀💀 damn saying all this makes me remember all the things that i did to impress her so she could notice me.. im embarrassed lol
I’ve been friends with someone for nearly three years now, and my interest has been slowly growing. I’ve long suspected they’re interested, but I have a crippling fear of rejection, and I suspect that have nearly the same. My cat went missing a few months ago, and I messaged them for support, only for them to drop everything to come out, keep me company, and get me just a little tipsy. We’re adults, and they full on sleep on my couch a few days a week, every week, despite having a house and roommates to go back to. They’re with someone, though I suspect it’s more of a FWB than a romantic relationship, I’m pretty sure they have feelings for the person. Still, they sing to me, and I catch them staring at me all the time.
I had a girl in my life that was pretty much word for word of it She was super popular but the only times she talked to me, was very out of her way. For ex: Me asking for someone to help me cut out stuff with scissors and she had nothing to help me with, but still wanted to help me and told me "But I don't have scissors or anything". She sounded really sweet when she said it and even stood with one leg kind of bending upwards, and her hands crossed together around he lap area, as she peered up at me and had her eyes more squinted. She seemed really happy. I didn't know what to say, I tried to nod casually in a Jim Halpert type of way, while still showing I wasn't feeling awkward in any way. The other guys who wanted her too and were more popular then me, question her on it, seemingly questioning her in a "Well why would you say that, if you don't have scissors! WTF!?", in my own mindset, I saw their jealousy and what was going on. She got very shy once when I sat at the same table as her in a group of 4. She'd look at me in the hallways, in means of making a connection. She seemed like a soul partner to me, felt like I was looking at my own reflection, in which I loved. I loved so much about her. Her walk, her faces she made when she'd think about things, her voice, her eyes, her booty, her face, her hairline, her mind, her history (Didn't have a dad which seemed oddly more destiny to me, to not have to meet her dad), her shyness, her softeness, niceness, all of the above with this girl. I thought she thought the same about me. She once made a gesture at a grocery store to me, where she had to fix her grocery cart infront of my while bending fully over, but knowing me and my analytical mind, I knew her cart was completely fine. She peared over at me in college to. She just ended up dating some Italian with a perfect hairline, face, and he had a superficial fakeness to him, in the sociopathic girl slayer (at bars) type of way. A complete stud if you will, but fake af to me. The rest is history I loved her so so much, but never really even spoke a single word to her. We were both to scared, and I was the scaredest.
@@josefina8216 I will if she's ever not with the newer newer guy she's dating, no longer the Italian, he became a dedicated video game streamer after the broke up, which to me was his first glimpses of his realness. New boyfriend is some guy that does MMA. I wouldn't trust anyone who does MMA unprofessionally to be calm if some guy came around to say he liked his girlfriend, I've heard too many stories about people who do MMA unprofessionally and just want to jump people. A particular thing about this girl, is I've never really seen her alone alone, she's either with her boyfriend, or with a group of girl friends, which to me to walk up as the unpopular kid they all remembered from highschool, it's like a job interview infront a board of directors for me to go and do that. The only time I've seen her alone was at the grocery store, but her sister was with her, so I suppose I'll just have to be super bold someday because idk if I'll ever have it just me and her, there might always be that facilitator person. As long as its not the MMA guy, I will have to tell her someday.
@@josefina8216 So I wrote another detailed reply but then I tried to edit the word "maybe" out of it, then RUclips gave me the "returned error" so I was like Wtf I click cancel so I could just leave the comment as is, but then RUclips decided that hitting cancel after pressing the "edit" button, means delete the comment entirely. Way to go RUclips. I'll have to make it less detailed now. But anyways, I once wished her a happy birthday out of the blue on facebook, which hopefully established to her I was into her. I remember when I was in group situations with her, I was a really shy guy, but I'd actually go out of my way to express details about myself, not in an obvious way to the other people in the group that I was just doing that for her. It was my way of opening up to her basically whenever I could. The consistent eye contact in the hallways and partially throughout college was hopefully another big indicator to her. It definately was to me. I remember also that I saw her eye to eye unexpectedly at the Crazy Horse once and I practically jumped, which to her, I hope she noticed that. I'm thinking that she must of known I was interested in her, but maybe she thought it was my move to make, and I would never make it. One thing though, is I feel like I have everything to lose if I tell her that in person. Because in my mind, there is still hope on this. I suppose that I hope she doesn't get married to her current MMA boyfriend, and I can tell her that I like her after they partways. I can't deny that I want them to break up eventually. If I tell her while she's still dating someone, I know it's an instant no just out of the fact that she's with another person. A key detail I left out earlier was that, she blocked me on facebook after she started dating the Italian a while back. I have mixed messages about that. She was either trying to get her old crushes out of her head as she headed into a relationship after highschool, or her blocking me was something more negative. If she never actually liked me (Which i practically have proof she liked me) , then her blocking me is a measure of getting some old highschool "creep" off her back. That strange kid from highschool that was always looking at her, but I personally doubt that is the case. I'll also be devestated if I do tell her someday that I like her, and she says something like "WTF! OK? I didn't like you back then, I blocked you because you seem creepy to me. GO AWAY". Because if she said that, my last 6 years of life would basically be a shame. So while she's still with this other dude, I can still have hope within my imagination that me and her could happen someday. And if she ever breaks up with the guy, and shes single, I know I'll have my own true shot to go tell her and establish a connection. And whenever I try, if I get rejected, I will probably go home and laugh, and I'll most likely chase my dreams after that, because my final links all the way back to highschool and my childhood would be cut at that point. I hope she will like me back though, she's like the only girl whos v****a I'd be interested in seeing (no offense to v*****s), I honestly can't imagine myself liking anyone else.
I’m in love with this girl but heard that she doesn’t want anything to do with me. That broke my heart and breaks my heart even more when I see her every single day.
What does rejection mean to you? Not all rejection is a bad thing. I also made a video on "Is someone hiding their feelings from you?" Watch this video next as it may help you decipher: ruclips.net/video/9HabyEoLBGs/видео.html
Hi psych2go I love ur vids!
Rejection means loss, feeling as if i made a mistake, wasn't good enough, they know all my dark sides...
Love ur video 😊
I'd rather reject girls than fall in love bc I hate loving girls 😝. I already have a dream of living without a lover 😏. Not even my old classmate that fell in love with me would change that
What rejection mean to me they are not will to give you a chance
"Rejection doesn't mean you aren't good enough; it means the other person failed to notice what you have to offer" - Johnny Bravo
Indeed!🤩🤩🤩🤩
Hahaha Johnny Bravo huh?
@@melaniemartin4319 no no no it just means they don't think your good enough be honest with yourself.
Would work in the working world.
But u should never feel entitled to peoples feelings,u liking someone and them not having a crush back is totally ok and normal.they didnt miss out ,they just aren’t compatible when it comes to feelings.They weren’t attracted to you and Its fine,someone Else will get attracted to you.
Just like you arent obligated to like everyone that has a crush on you,you shouldnt expect it from others.only causes more harm,Its nature and no need to think too much about it.you’ll be fine
@@Ihavemadeit999 well said
Someone potentially liking me or having hidden feelings for me is the funniest joke I've heard all week
You never know
fr lmao
Facts
I relate XD
Hey at least this way you're not delusional and stalking people
A quick reminder: no matter who you are there's at least one person who thinks you deserve the world.
Thank you ❤️
Hitler?
I would really like to find this person
@@mycousinsimpsforv1nce123 he had children and a wife
Where? Lol Probably not in my case lol
Rejection = knowing where you stand with someone. It's a great thing. Better than vagueness and uncertainty. It gives more time to find those who accept you
Excellent
also often means you loose maybe one of your closest friends. that dosnt always have to do with accepting. its more like your just not the one. and by telling them what you feel it can be unconfteble for others to be around you knowing that your interested in more.
if your crush is not in a close position yes rejection is just it. but if you have to see or even work all day with that person its a different game.
my problem for my self is more that i dont even know what someone means to me. Maybe it sounds strange, but yea...
I disagree, i like the vagueness
Yes 🙌
Romantic relationships are not a beautiful thing. Romance causes a lot of problems in this world. Life is a lot better without romance than it is with it. Romantic love is not special at all, and I think that the romantic type of love isn't real. More than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, And most couples who are still together are usually not happy being together.
Also, there are a lot of toxic romantic relationships. Like an example is that abuse happens a lot in romantic relationships.
1. they're nervous around you 0:44
2. they do dorky things in an attempt to impress you 1:26
3. they want to spend time with you but they suddenly disappear 1:57
4. they've talked about you to the important people in their life 2:34
5. they go out of their way to do things for you, but don't like to talk about their feelings 2:53
6. they listen and remember what you say 3:33
I hope I could help!
Thanks fellow hacker
God's work
exactly what i was looking for. thank you 🙏🏻
How was this comment a day ago? I might be sounding dumb im sorry-
Thanks
Someone liking you but being afraid of rejection at the same time must be one of the worst feelings ever. Love is beautiful, but so dangerous at the same time.
Even losing friendship is a fear🥺
It does feels horrible. I'm exactly in this situation and these days with christmas its even worse.
It is an because this guy has said he doesn't have time for high maintenance friendships there's no way he would make time for a relationship
Yeah :(
Especially if you fall for straight people. It honestly hurts when you know you can’t be with them from the start.
YES!! if someone SUDDENLY DISAPPEARS when things seem to be going well, then it might be the other person's general issues with commitment and not something you did or said. it's easy to feel hurt but reasons are often more complicated than they might seem at first 💔
Or simply this person doesn't like you anymore🙂
this just happened to me with a girl i was with. We were texting each other all and everyday for two weeks and we’ve hung out a couple of times. Everything went smooth and great but then all of a sudden, she told me that she’s not ready for new ppl in her life and that she’d stay in her bubble for now and come back when she’s ready. She apologized and everything and all i said was no worries, come back whenever you feel ready since i didn’t wanna pressure her or interfere in her space. Its been two weeks and nothing from her yet. I don’t know if I should keep waiting or just move on. Everything was really going amazing between us both and it kinda sucks how it just ended just like that ): she was even the one to initiate everything between us. so idk
@@immortalattack4821 live your life, trust me - gives you room to be a fulfilled person, and if she comes back? Either you'll be open to it, content with what you have and keep a friendship alive, or have the best of both worlds. Just process if this is something you're willing to put the effort into, and if you can see she's willing to do the same.
@@immortalattack4821 what is it about that 2-week Mark because the guy I was talking to and I texted for hours every day for two weeks. The same night we finally met in person his baby mama X decided to come back into his life and pressure him for marriage. When I asked about the change in his behavior he said he didn't have time for high-maintenance friends. Funny he somehow found hours to talk to me before so I think he was transferring his frustration about his ex to me because he feels obligated to her even though the relationship was toxic.
@@hayatetiktik9949 if it change that quick, it is just a useless feeling
1. Theyare nervous around you
2. They do dorky things in order to impress you.
3. They try to come close to you but suddenly disappear
4. They talked about you to the person they like
5. They go out of their way to do things but never talk about their feelings
@@cleverclovercreates3249 I think yes.... He likes you
@@cleverclovercreates3249 As a guy myself, yes he most definitely likes you.
@@cleverclovercreates3249With all these signs, i can guarantee that he likes you but he never tell you haha..maybe you can confess to him if you're brave enough lol, i wish you luck.
btw i'm 14 too LOL but doesn't have any love relationship😂
Does throwing a bowling ball at pins in a crazy out of the blue way count as showing off and doing dorky things to impress during bowling? And yeah i noticed it too. He ended up introducing me to his family (immediate family) and number 3
@@OceanicPearlz1 Yes!! I think it does
I'm not afraid of rejection. More or less I'm afraid of the awkwardness afterwards. Worried that it will hurt the relationship that person and I might have already had.
Same. Like, i'm fine with rejection ; i don't expect the person to like me back n i don't need the person to feel the same. I'm just afraid of things not being the same.
Yup
Same
*COUGH COUGH*
Same but done
*COUGH COUGH*
I wasn't really sad when she rejected me in Jan 2021, since we remained best friends at the time. But I was really sad when she said she didn't want to talk to me anymore in Dec 2021.
Reasons why I hate rejection:
• there will be an awkward stage between u too
• they will start saying things to their friends
• you’ll pretty much be hurt for quite a while
• (if u were friends) theres a possibility they might not want to be friends anymore
EDIT: I am so proud to say that I’ve decided to shove my fear aside and tell my crush I like her. She ended up liking me too and now were a thing! Just wanted to tell everyone that was in the same bubble as me, just pop it. It’s a one time opportunity and worth shooting too. Even if she / he says no, it’s always good to think that you found courage to say your feelings! Hope you guys find your partners. It took 8 months for me!
Same these things I fear
Holy crap this is how I feel also, I'm just shy, not really much of a social teenager since I'm rarely on social media & mostly play video games. Back in 2019 someone liked me I'm not sure if they were faking it or not but it was on the first week of school I sensed a sign they liked me, around early November on a Tuesday they sended a note during class which I was surprised. This was a long time ago when that person & me had a crush on each other. She doesn't go to the same school which I'm sad :(. But oh well forget the shy relationship & move on, besides we were both shy
This is so unbelievably true. In all the times I've been rejected it's been exactly this
@@StrikerSoulWR same bro and what games do you play
@@paradiseracer2437 like i said same
As someone with a fear of rejection and who has a crush on someone with a fear of rejection, it's so confusing. You understand them but still don't get it. They're vulnerable and comfortable with you, are clingy and show affection, talk about feelings sometimes and are honest to just disappear for long days. Then something happens and you have a moment where it's clear that there is something between you just for them to pull away again. It's tiring, I can't lie. But sometimes it's worth it. Be persistent but know your limits folks.
Idk if that's me, but I put in the effort, though me and her do some things mentioned. Hopefully it's not a one way street 😢
You got this mate, sometimes it's hard, and I get it coming from an introvert
I’m introverted as well and completely understand what you went through. I experienced the same exact thing… Man my emotions were going like a rollercoaster: it was exciting and it made us happy, but hurt at the same time, because we both couldn’t get it. We had this strong connection but something just didn’t sit right. Neither of us admitted our feelings and that was the most heartbreaking part. Regret. If anyone is reading this and is in the same position, go admit your feelings to the one you love!
@@brandiiiiine go tell her. Right now. You got this bro!
@@mari4nne i'd rather tell her in person. Besides, if I tell her later, I get more time to be sure if she likes me or not. She's most likely gonna leave BC after she graduates (in a half year) so when I tell her in June, I won't have to see her again. But if I tell her sooner, I get to bond with her a wee bit more (though she literally has no dating experience).
I think once you get rejected a few times, it hurts less and less. I've never been rejected until I got older. Yes, it stung, but it made me reflect on myself. I realized that there was nothing wrong with me and that the person just simply wasn't for me. I've made changes so that I can be happy on my own and I've learned to not rely on others for happiness. That gave me confidence, and I attracted more people because of it. If you feel this way about yourself, maybe it is time to make some changes in your life. You shouldn't feel like you are not worthy.
thankyou for this ;-;
❤️
Holy shit dude
Same I had gotten rejected in October this year and now one of my closest friends who I like has disappeared from me he has not been responding to me I don’t know why I hope he is ok 😭
You alluding that finding a partner is like finding a job?🤔🧐
My wife
Yes, a woman I married
Still has trouble expressing her feelings to me. Because she has grown up feeling like a burden to most people.
But she is getting better because I have not let up on reassuring her that she is not a burden to me and I love her.
I suffer from this too. Especially growing up and experience tons of trauma, it makes it hard. My current partner doesn’t really give me reassurance. So I’m glad you give her tons !
@@jackiel.1780
Whatever she needs emotionally to show that I love her, I’m prepared to do. I’ve forgotten the psychological term for it. But apparently I’m natural at replacing her former responses to situations with more positive ones.
I hope you’re able to have your needs met someday soon.
I love your wife too
That's so sweet
THIS IS SO SWEET I CANT- OMFG 😭💖💖💖
Yes , I can proudly say now that "I'm afraid of rejection" .
Edit : Y'all got to be kidding me 866 likes
i am afraid too
yup ikr
I knew I was before watching the video, but it sure helped
Same 🤣
me to
I'm not afraid of rejection, I'm afraid that his friend will ruin my reputation if I take the first step 💀
Relatable 😂
I had a situation where a girl I liked gave me all the signs. Even talked to my sister asking about me a lot and specifically stating she wanted to get to know me more in a one on one setting. I hung out more over the next few months and we even went on an outing to the beach together one on one. She played romantic country music the whole time and the signs all seemed to be there. As soon as we got back, though, she became distant. Stopped texting back. Then I found out she was with another guy months later. I was just her way to feel wanted while this guy decided if he wanted her. Apparently I reminded her somewhat of him. She even asked why he and I aren't good friends since we're so much alike. Well gee, I don't know, maybe we would be if it weren't for both of us wanting the same girl? I felt completely lied to and used and then tossed aside like an old toy as soon as she got what she really wanted. Fear of rejection exists because of things like this.
Ohhhhh shtttttttttt thts me rn like if its 10 11 pm she justs says gn but in reality i see her location on snapchat and says was on 2 hrs(basically at 2 am she feel asleep basically means she didnt want to text me (im assuming)anymore and talked to other ppl maybe some other guy)like this just started 3 wks ago we holded hands hugged a bit often and during school we dont even do it its probably me or her bc we just dont do it at school its very different(also i just get so nervous around her and if her friends r around its even worse)and my mom and her mom know we both like each other but were still friends idk wht to do man
Too slow
You probably didn't make a move soon enough...
Wow that girls a rat.
@@isaelvertiz5384 I don´t know, do one of these 3 foot related phrases:
1. Do the first step
2. Put your foot down
3. Put your foot in the door
2 and 3 basically mean the same so do number one and finally put your foot in your mouth, unrelated phrase and doesn´t make sense in this context.
I feel like this channel tells people exactly what they want to hear
Yea
Not exactly
yeah she even based this whole video on the assumption that the one that is secretly in love with some person is also liked by that person :I
I love your Profile picture I am a fan of inside job to 😩✋
Exactly what I was thinking!!!
My crush sent this to me and said “You do quite similar things. Seems like you fell for me” 💀
Update : I confessed to him and he said “I was just kidding but oh well, i'll think about it”
Update 2 : I called him and after stuttering like an idiot, I could ask for a date. And he said “Woah, you really are my biggest fan. But, yeah, we could.” Then he said we should meet at a restaurant Thursday at 7:30 PM- I'm gonna have a heart attack but yeah here's the update for y'all, I tried to ask him asap so that you won't wait. ❤️
Update 3 : So yeah I just remembered tomorrow is Valentine's day. Life definitely wanted this to happen at THIS right moment. Anyway, i'm gonna give him a box of chocolates, because yeah idk what else to give. 👏
Update 4 : I gave him the box of chocolate. He smiled, hugged and thanked me. Then he gave me a plushie (it was a bunny) I was so happy I almost cried so yeah.
Update 5 : Thanks for the likes my god- And the date is tomorrow izvzizsjsvzuzbzibzzjjzidjdkd.
Update 6 : So... I went to the date. It went well, I made myself look as pretty as possible just for him lol. I remember he said “You're so beautiful.” SKZKEJKSJDZKZLSKS.
Also, a girl gave us our meal and like she said “Are you guys together?” I was about to say yes but it would've been kind of embarrassing for him- And he just said “not yet”
I think that's all, for the rest it was eating, talking and stuff lol.
Update 7 : Well um first of all tysm for the support and all, I appreciate it ! And yeah he asked me to come to his house when i'll be free. I said that if my parents would somehow let me, I'd come. I asked them and they literally asked his name, age, how he looks, if he's kind, if he's in my highschool etc- After I answered, they said I could, so ima come over saturday, I think?
The update 8 is for soon boys. 💀🕶️🤏
Update 8 : Well he isn't at home saturday so I'll just come tomorrow lol
Update 9 : I'm omw to his house lmfao. The 4G is so bad I can't type correctly but yeah. I'll tell you what happened.
Update 10 : OKAY SO I HAD TO PRETEND GOING TO THE TOILET TO UPDATE Y'ALL BE GRATEFUL PLEASE. So I came and literally his mom is so sweet to me like? Then he told me to enter so I did. We talked a little and THEN he said “Yeah so uh remember when you said you liked me?”
I said yeah and- “Well.. I like you too.” I LITERALLY JUMPED and then I said I needed to go to the bathroom help 😭
Update 11 : PLEASE LITERALLY HIS MOM ENTERED THE ROOM WHILE WE WERE PLAYING ON HIS PS5 AND SHE JUST WHEEZED THEN WAS GOING AWAY IhBSBSJSKSK
For the rest, I like ate at his place, and the afternoon we watched a movie. Nothing really happened tbh
Update 12 : I'M SORRY I ABANDONED Y'ALL BUT UM- HE TOLD ME HE ACTUALLY THOUGHT I WAS CUTE FOR SOME TIME AND YEAH LOL WE'RE BASICALLY DATING
Update 13 : Guys I left you for, like, 4 months?! So yeah, we're dating and uh that's it- I'm so happy because like, he's so sweet to me, he cares sm about me, he never talks about what he knows makes me uncomfortable even though he likes them omg I love him smmmmm 😭✌️
Its a green light yo
Well, we were told to like and share this video with our crush if we found it helpful near the end, so nice
Confess to her or him
Go get em tiger
Oof!
Guys, if you think you like someone and you know they like you back just confess to them yourself pls. I'm saying this cause of an incident. So I was in grade 8, there was a girl I saw in that class and I fell in love with her. She didn't loved me at first but slowly she started to love me as well. We both used to sit at different seats in class but we never felt like that. I'm sure she loved me because we used to stare at each other like half of the time. I know it might sound creepy for some people but it really isn't. It was like when she first looked at me I looked away. 2nd time when I try to look at her right after 2-3 seconds she looked at me back and I looked away again. It happened a few times but at the end I decided to not look away when she looks at me and I did. She didn't moved her sight away. The funny part is that she was so insterested in me when I asked 'What?' by raising my eyebrows she just copied me and looked away. I was sure she loved me and I still don't know why I didn't confess.So, it was the last day of school and a bit snow was there on road. Our bus driver drove the bus really carefully as the road wasn't in good condition. When I reached school I decided I'll confess to her. I couldn't say it in front of her so I wrote it in paper. I remember the exact lines. I said "Hi, I love you a lot. I know you love me too I think it's time I confess my feelings. Do you love me?". I gave it to her in last period and told her to read it in her bus not here. She looked extremely happy and just said 'Thanks I was waiting for it for so long'. It was like she knew what was written. When she went into that bus and she read it in her bus only when the bus was still parked in school and was about to leave. She asked the driver that she forgot to refill her water bottle so she'll go and she came to my bus saying "I do feel the same way, I love you too" to me from outside my bus window. I asked her to talk to me on phone and I was really happy. It was the happiest day of my life or that's what I thought. I hope she never went in that bus. Before that bus could drop her at her house it got into an accident due to snow. It's been almost 3 years since then and I still miss her. I just wish I could've reversed time and asked her to read it earlier and not in that bus. I still am not in any relationship since then. I was really depressed when I heard about her bus. I felt like giving up my life but then I thought of my parents and just cried for almost an year. I hope she loves me too and wherever she is I just wanted to say her in person that I love her and not through letter cause I never said I love you too to her in person, just sent a letter. So, guys it's my humble request to pls confess to someone if you really love them and you think they love you back. My parents changed my school after that cause they didn't want to see me depressed. I literally had to go to doctor for 6 months to cure my depression. Sorry if I wrote it wayy too long.
Man this broke my heart reading, I think my crush is interested but I think she’s hesitate to tell me she likes me
I’m so so sorry for you.., reading this just broke my heart 😢. When you said that you told her ‘What?’ and raised your eyebrows while you were both staring at each other felt like an exact situation I lived…my crush did the exact same thing…..I’m not sure if he likes me but he seems nervous around me, (even my friend said so) and we make a lot, A LOT, of eye contacts…I don’t know what to think about..oh and we go home by taking the same bus that’s why your story was like a déjà-vu to me (fortunately no accidents happened). Again I’m really sorry for you and hope you feel better and happy..I’m sure she’s looking at you from wherever she is ☺️😢
yo this guy just done anime plot.
but seriously sorry for that and my heart broke when i read this. but still, this isnt gonna make me confess cuz i know she didnt like me back. but maybe ill reconsider. i was planing to do it when it was the last time i see her rl
❤️ You were so brave..for writing her that letter 💌. 😌
Thanks guys for these likes and nice comments. I could've replied earlier but I don't use this account often as this reminds me of my past. Well, I'm a lot better now. Well, I always tried to run away from the past. My parents told me to not think about the past and focus on the future. I tried to do the same. That's why I shifted to a different account and disbanded this account. But, that didn't help. I couldn't run away from my past, it was like, everytime I tried forgetting about the past, the same lines started ringing in my ears which I heard from my mom when she said that one of the school buses met an accident almost 4 years ago. So, finally I've decided to not run away from it. I shifted back to this account, I think about her a lot often and wonder how my life would've been if she was still with me. I went to my previous school a few days back and met my old friends whom I left 4 years ago. I was glad they still rememeber me. I even met her parents to see if they were okay and they were mostly fine, even tho I couldn't talk to them in person, I had a little conversation with them on phone as they were not at home at that moment. I have decided, I'll now make tons of great memories in my life and when I die, I'll share all the memories with her. Hope she'll listen lol. One last note, I really really really pray that what happened to me never happens to anyone else in this world. I want everyone to be happy always and whoever's reading this, enjoy your life, I promise everything will go your way. Whichever god you worship always has better plans for you.
I confessed to my bestfriend but she never liked me...❤
Its alright though because after I confessed she said she never had feelings yet she will always be by my side as my bestfriend! Some say friend zoned, I say the other best possible responce!
At least you didn't get humiliated. Some people go through a lot worse...
that’s sweet that you guys didn’t let it ruin your relationship and that means you two really do value each other even if it isn’t going to be romantic, but you’ll always have them with you and they were honest:)
Thats true
Though a rejection, certainly a best-case scenario rejection. Glad it didn't go down in flames on ya! 😁
Hey! That's exactly what happened to me! I'm so glad though :)
Story time! So I have been talking to this one girl who I really like. She inevitably told me she liked me too. Funny thing is she did it and she showed all these signs. Just because someone is afraid of rejection (she later told me she was afraid to tell me) doesn't mean that you have to change anything about the way you talk or do things. I just talked to her like I usually did. I was going to tell her at school but she told me first. I really love her... Anyways moral is: don't think that you have to be different to impress anyone. Also being awkward isn't a bad thing... (We're both really awkward people) thank you and good night!
My story is similar except this person ended up going back to her abusive ex without me even knowing it. She just stopped talking to me out of nowhere and I couldn’t figure out why until two weeks later , it turned out she had already got with that guy. It really broke me but It helped me grow so much as a person ❤️
best of luck to you both!
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You thought you ate that
@@bardockojama3423 what
... and there's also this: if someone sends you mixed signals, do yourself a favour and read them as NO
(Saves a lot of time)
Exactly. I had a guy I REALLY liked give me mixed signals. He would show interest one day, next day he pretended he hadn't even noticed me. I would sometimes bump into him in the subway and he would always hide behind his newspaper. I ended up thinking that he didn't like me and that all the signs that pointed towards the opposite were my interpretation only because I liked him so much. In the end, I concluded that even if he DID like me, if he were so insanely unapproachable and afraid of me, I couldn't spend any more time, as at that point, I had been trying to approach him for almost a year.
Years later, being more experienced and being able to read cues better, I realized HE DID like me, probably as much as I liked him. But well, what's the point if he can't even acknowledge my presence half the times???
THIS. I learned it hard way.
@@xrc7445 yes yes. Enigma is a bit overrated, we're adults ffs, say what you want
Major fact
@@xrc7445 I had a really similar experience a couple of years ago and it took me so long to realize this. But at the end of the day, I can only do so much and I can't push someone out of their comfort zone more than they're willing to go. And after a while it's a dilemma between trying to understand them and your own well being and you gotta pick yourself
It may not always be the fear of rejection. For me it was depression, always feeling inadequate, and straight up hating myself. It finally took her blatantly saying how she felt about me for me to realize how senseless my insecurities were. She makes me want to be a better me for her, to be someone that she deserves. Whatever the future brings, that woman was able to pull me from a pit, I thought I'd never get out of.
Same exact circumstances, but the fact that I expressed that she "made me" want to be better, and not having been self-motivated to be bette regardless of her involvement, was a huge red flag and turn off for her. Too much pressure to take while she was also struggling with her own mental health.
I'm grateful to her for ultimately rejecting me while I was living within that mindset. Although it did- and still does- hurt, it's given me insight and a perspective that I can take and apply to myself before I try to offer myself to another, again. It was a lesson on how to be a better partner.
Amen my friend.
Honestly that is what we kids call “w girl”
@@mickeyconnor830 I'm gonna say something: she probably felt absolutely terrible afterwards.
Give her a "thank you" sometime, that might ease her worries!
*when you realize this is exactly how you act around your crush, but nobody thinks of you two like that so nobody suspects it*
Is that a good thing, or nah?
i just realized my feelings with the help of this video, WHAT DO I DO
Then she is scared of what she really wants truest FACTS EVER SAID
@@r3xlovesyou lmao idk im in the ‘jealousy phase’ but I can’t say a word bc we are not dating-
And ok ofc I want him to have friends but the girl LITERALLY grabbed his hand when they were walking IN FRONT OF MEEE!!
And I cant tell to my friends how I feel bc they dont know abt my crush. 😀🔫
My crush gives me heart shaped leaves, yet nobody suspects it 😈
i always watch these videos even tho they don’t apply to me lmao
Same😀
My user
😂😂 why not, right? lol
Just in case u need it later😌
Yeah same, I also like reading the comments where people share their own experiences
I love how she used "love is war" as an example, it's so perfect
Yeah Kaguya Sama slaps
And nagatoro
Love is not war. rather Love is At War. 😭🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
they have equivilant tactics so yeah
number 3 is exactly what happened. we were good friends, until they began avoiding me. once i started doing the same, they began speaking to me again. we actually got even closer and my feelings grew more 😭
Yes exactly with my best friend I really don’t get it??🤦🏾♀️
Bro/Sis
Same here!!!
I mean, my friend she has done the same after we see esch other and she givea to me an hug, and she noe try to write little, but noe she is restarting writing a bit more :3
@@luma4682 Wow a hug so sweet and wholesome
Rejection is not a curse but rather a blessing.It is saving you from the wrong person
I've never heard something more true
damn that's deep
Very true! I used to like this guy but he did not really reject me. He just distanced himself from me and I got the message. Plus, my liking of him faded fast so yes, it was a blessing in disguise since he would have been the biggest mistake of my life.... I regret liking someone like that dick. I learned though...
@@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj he just didnt saw your worth.It's his loss not yours
But it's also preventing you from meeting good people
I'm a woman who is 32 and I'm not afraid of rejection. It may be hurt at first but I can move on from it. My biggest fear is being used and abused emotionally since I have toxic parents and my past relationships were toxic with narcs. I've have been single for almost 3 years and right now, I really like a guy at work but I'm telling myself to not chase after him.
Good for you‼️💯
I totally agree, it’s not the rejection that hurts a lot but it’s the after effect of being used and abused. It’s not worth wasting time with such person. And some people are so good at being manipulative that they can put all the blame on you and act like they are the real victims.
You may want to read about Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It may be a eye opener. I hate rejection so I just don’t go there. Men are just not as gentlemanly as I would prefer. Maybe it’s me. Idk
You should spend some general time with that guy at work, you don't have to be in a relationship all of a sudden, try to be a friend first , if you already are then don't rush keep it slow, and if he takes alot of time to propose (maybe he had similar past like you) then you should do it instead of regretting it
Single for just 3 years ? I am 36 and still single . I have a crush for 20 years but never said .
*"When someone's genuinely interested in you, they consistently demonstrate their interest and leave you in no doubt about it".*
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i have a problem, that's not how it works with me. for some reason i've realized and been told to that my feelings towards the girl i like are not evident at all. what should i do?
I hope he’s watching this and knows i like him but I’m just scared.
The pulling away and letting them come to you thing works. I have been seeing someone who pulled away every time I was too interested, so I stopped contacting her altogether, and now she contacts me several times a day. If someone really likes you and has fear of abandonment, then sometimes it's a good idea to let them like you on their own terms. When they feel safe with you, they will open up more and want to see you.
I used to get anxious when she didn't write back right away, but now I just do something else and the hours fly by, and we're both closer for it.
I'm glad it's worked for you, but I've tried this before and it has literally never once worked. The people move on, never to return, in my personal experience, as if I never existed.
Pulling away doesn't work. Unless it only works for skinny people.
Yeah, you're better off just focusing your attention on yourself, your goals, and your interests. A message here or there to check in on them is probably okay. And if they get back to you, great! If they don't, then you didn't lose any energy worrying about a person who didn't care about you.
@@McJorneil even the check-ins are too much. it shows you're still on the hook imo. they won't reciprocate, time to move on and develop
@@gaymerkitty6240 what does being skinny have to do with it?
This is exactly what I do every time I like someone, not just because I'm afraid of being rejected, but mostly because I'm afraid of the judgment of the people surrounding me and the person I like. Sometimes I also don't want to ruin the frendship I built so I just stay silent and wait until my crush disappears
This! Exactly this!
yup. I likde being around them, but not too close. The moment it seems the interest is returned I panic and start distancing myself. Can't ruin anything if there's nothing to ruin, right???
@@Lokiofaasgaard yep it is😕
Ya, that seems samiliar to my situation. I have social anxiety disorder and due to that im afraid what'll happen if I confess to my crush. I'm not really afraid of rejection, I'm just afraid he will tell someone and people everywhere will judge me and make fun of me, something like that
you guys, living life in fear of people judging you isnt ok. plus, how can they judge you because you like someone? that doesnt rlly make sense
This is literally me. I'm a shy guy whose ever only been in one relationship, which unfortunately ended and I know deep down it was mainly my fault that her feelings faltered. I was always scared to make any moves because I was afraid if I did anything wrong (like make advancements at the wrong time or the wrong place) that it would be game over for me, which couldn't have been more wrong. We are just good friends now because of this, but I still have this fear of making any advancement, which is a super big issue because of stereotypes (guys gotta be the confident ones and make the moves to be successful and all that jazz)
Raiden my heart good to see you
Blow them stereotypes away and be you!
@@globalheartwarming thank you for the encouragement, but it is unfortunately not that simple. I have an extremely hard time talking to girls I like due to past bullying, so pushing past that is extremely difficult
Very insensitive of me not to read the comment first, i disagree with the stereotype i understand where you are coming from i too have a fear of rejection but don’t be disheartened if you show a slight interest even as friends first an understanding girl will lead the way
@@icedcoffeeobsessed3764 yeah that is what I realized with the one relationship I had. But thank you anyways
"attraction can make us a bit dumb sometimes" 😂 so close to home
I love that they used characters from Kaguya-sama: Love is War because it suits the topic perfectly.
Not only that, but also Don't Toy With Me, Miss Nagatoro and Fruits Basket!
@@ellayu5229 also Kimi No Na Wa.
Those with a fear of rejection often have difficulty expressing their own needs and standing their ground. they might also develop feelings of jealousy or distrust in your partner as their fear of rejection turns into a fear of being abandoned.😔😔😔
Stop this, Don't give me hope.
This chick has the most smoothest voice like freaking butter she can tell me bad news and I wont even feel as bad shout out to the voice over!
Thank you a lot. I was afraid of rejection from my crush and hesitated for asking out. After watching this video, I decided to make things change and asked her if she would date me. She rejected me with harsh sentences and humiliated me in front of my friends. But no problem bc I don't have a fear of rejection anymore.
Im so proud, but so sorry
I feel you my boy
Out here completing what I couldn't do, good job
Me too mate... me too
that’s rude :/ but you’re doing great i’m glad you don’t have a fear anymore
This has me written all over it, unfortunately. Having an attraction for someone is one of the best, and one of the worst things I’ve experienced.
Is it just me or do Pysche2Go Videos seem to hover around a specific social sphere of mental health that seems to be interested in individuals who fall into the weird limbo of aspergers that separate average populations and the socially/emotionally underdeveloped.
u ok?
@@userm180 I guess I will be ok, thanks for asking. It’s just that she’s “out of my league” professionally. She’s an attorney and I’m studying to be a paralegal.
@@cardinalbob1 so what?
@@userm180 nah bruh paralegals avg like 50k a year, attorneys can make in the 6 figures, I wouldn't wanna be little boyed like that either lol. No offense to Bob do your thing dawg
Honestly, I think you can feel when someone likes you and you like them. When you can sense this, it may just be a matter of going for it. Talk with em about it. Even if you do a clumsy job of it, they'll be really happy that you reached out to them. These precious points shouldn't be squandered.
i took charge of the situation with my shy crush since he was doing all these things in the video, i slipped him a note under his plate of my birthday cake that i shared at work last week & he never responded, now i feel exactly how he was afraid of feeling, like an ASS!!!!
I've never had a crush that's seemed to like my back :( they never really reject me but just either didn't like me in the way or only as a friend
@@Salty_Taco9357 oh :/ i've had many crushes in my younger days mostly & i knew they didn't like me coz well i had so many crushes at college & they were all secret with no real intention of making them a reality, especially since i wasn't allowed to have bfs anyway. but this dude at work definitely was crushing on me first,he did come to my house on his break in the summer, but since then he got cold feet,i dunno if it's coz he got the indirect idea by now that i like him too & he's scared of getting closer, falling harder & possibly not meeting his assumptions of my expectations, or that 1 day i'll leave him.coz dude still be watching me at work & on the rare occasion he comes close i just FEEL the magnetism! but at this point i dont wanna persist out of fear of annoying him or looking too dominant, coz in actual fact im still a shy gal at heart, just not as shy as him
I agree with this. Sexual vibes are especially easy to pick up on
@@Salty_Taco9357 you aren't being manipulative, girls prefer you to be dominant in these situations. Shes probably waiting for you to tell her straight up...trust me kiddo I have 23 more years of experience with this. Good luck 😉
The irony of that is...The afraid of rejection, will make you more likely to get rejected.
To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, your dream is not dead. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️. Happy holidays 🎄🎄.
Aww 🥰 thank you you too beautiful person...
Especially if you have God to guide you through.
Heavenly Father I pray that you keep the person reading this alive, safe, healthy and financially blessed Amen 💜
Thanks
Amen 🧡🧡
I receive this-Amen! ❤️
Amen
oh is that the hit youtuber dream from youtube
Yes true...letting the other person know that you really like or love them solves many doubts or questions of rejection.Many don’t express their feelings and suffer later.
After being rejected several times, I no longer let the other person know I like them. It's a burden! They always use the same 2 word combo, I'm too nice and sweet then proceed to the rejectio. It takes me quite some time to overcome the rejection. So I stopped letting them know I have feeling for them. Being alone doesn't look that lonely anymore. This way, I won't need to deal with any more rejections.
They’re giving you advice. Stop being so nice and sweet.
Fear of rejection is caused by many things,
Being too nervous or being unsure about yourself, growing up alone or being in a toxic relationship.
Just being scared or being body shamed, not having friends in the past or a friend that never cared for you.
I can say...this is true.
This video reminds me of one person in my life that I know he was afraid of rejection but I also was afraid of rejection at the time. So we both liked each other so much, but we were both scared to express our feelings. We were both scared and I always wonder what would happen to us I grew the courage to tell him first.
Great job! Taking the first step is always the most daunting. Good luck on your relationship!
Ye like 2 years ago there was someone in my year and I knew she was afraid of rejection and I was as well and 1 year passed and the year after that we got to senior school and we are in different classes and I only have her for 1 lesson now and sometimes I wonder what would’ve happened if I went and told her and if this same situation happened now it would be different thankfully cuz I’ve matured a bit now.
@@hoglog4802 it s not too late!! :)
I feel like I’m in this situation right now…I’m about to graduate college and the girl I like is a junior so time is about to run out. She’s so hard to read though. Sometimes I feel like there is a chance she likes me and other days it feels like we’re just friends.. I don’t want to risk making things awkward but I might just have to make the leap
@@rolandorobles6375 Honestly I truly regret not taking that leap. So my advice is, find the right moment, (it can’t just be randomly okay), you have to be in the moment and when you feel like this is a good time to express your feelings DO IT.
Of course we went to avoid all awkward situations but in the end is gonna be two results: Yes or no.
And honestly, even if she were to reject you, at least you won’t have any regrets later on. You can look back and say ‘well that didn’t work out but not because I didn’t try.”
Take the leap and be confident in yourself.
Because one thing I also learned is that there’s World out there full of people.
(PS if you are going to do it, let me know how it goes)
I "like" being rejected (I mean I Rather be rejected than ignored or ghosted) because i can just move on- and accept it as it is
The funny thing for me is that I liked someone and had a fear of rejection, and only confessed a few hours ago by email by accident. Well, I’m just hoping things will turn out well for me
Please update us on what happens next. I hope it all works out for you 🥳❤️
I hope things will go good for you.
Update ussssssssss
we need updates broooooo!!!!!!
Do give us an update!!
I too am afraid of rejection, but I'm already used to it! I've realized that there's absolutely nothing wrong with me. I do feel very lonely at times, but it is what it is! At least I have friends and family by my side. They help me to move forward in life! Right now, I'm just focusing on improving myself. It makes me feel good about myself and I feel that I'm at ease.
This is exactly how I feel
It sucks when you've had instances of past rejections that make it even harder to try and initiate a relationship with someone in future, platonic or romantic. I've always had trouble connecting with others or not being open enough, but when I try to, I get called annoying or that I am "too much" for the other party.
It really makes it that much harder to even wanna straight up say "I like you" to someone because even if they're showing reciprocating feelings, there is still that sense of doubt in the back of your mind. It really makes it hard to want to even commit to any form of a relationship when there's that constant anxiety that they're just gonna end up leaving or pushing you away :(c
I'm sorry people called you annoying and that you are "too much". Please don't ever change who you are because of that! You are good enough and thr right person will definitely like you for that side of you and the people who told you that you are too much didn't deserve you! ❤️
Let's not forget how little positive attention males get, at least in my experience. So sometimes honestly a girl just being nice to me is just an instant crush. Which ultimately leads to more rejections
@@paradiseracer2437 That hasn't been my experience. The more positive attention I give the more guys start disliking me and avoiding me. Nowadays, I only talk to guys unless I have to or I need a favor. Maybe if a woman is pretty she can get a guy to like her by being nice and friendly. Otherwise it doesn't work.
@@MWtheMonke beauty is subjective. No one is beautiful to everyone and no one is ugly to everyone. Just because some people seem to be prettier doesn't mean anything. And to be truthful, I'm usually very nice to every girl. But I don't get very much positivity my way. Obviously I don't mean for everyone but men typically don't receive as much positive attention.
This is constantly tru to me most of the time
I'm not afraid of rejection. I'm actually used to it. I've gotten it my whole life, so it's one of the only things I ever expect.
I am afraid of rejection, but it's more due to the fact that I feel like it may just be too soon for either of us to get into such things yet, and I feel like I need to sort out my emotions about the whole thing a bit first. That's the short of it.
Yes, that's how I feel too! Very well-written!
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I’m someone who fears rejection due to childhood trauma. These 6 signs aren’t just relevant to romantic relationships, but any relationship. I have these behaviors toward my adopted family.
I never ask for help, but I’ll eagerly do stuff to help them. I like helping them, because then I know they like and need me. I don’t ask for help because I can’t face the possibility of being refused.
I'm sorry. I hope you can learn about and try and overcome your trauma.
1. they're nervous around you 0:44
2. they do dorky things in an attempt to impress you 1:26
3. they want to spend time with you but they suddenly disappear 1:57
4. they've talked about you to the important people in their life 2:34
5. they go out of their way to do things for you, but don't like to talk about their feelings 2:53
6. they listen and remember what you say 3:33
THANK YOU
Dont steal comments please
the comment he talks about is made by "dat boi" and it was posted 1 day ago.
Ofcourse, you could've looked for these time stamps by yourself but it seems like you didn't since there's already 2 comments thanking "dat boi" and basically copying what he said.
But it doesn't really matter, it's just a comment so i mean, who cares.
Also, Merry Christmas to whoever is reading this!
Well done 👏 ✔ 👍
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This is so totally true. A boy had a crush on me during our high school year. But never had the courage to tell me...he seemed to have walked away or shied away if I looked at him back then....only about 26 years later when I have divorced my husband several years earlier then I knew his true feeling and he finally had the courage to tell me he love me 😁 so we are dating now in our forties...better late than never....
Patience does pays off!
yo he was holding that feeling for 26 years
Heck no I would’ve died holding in my feelings for that long. I usually wait about 1 year max and if the relationship doesn’t already naturally happen, I ask them out to get the final answer so I can move on and focus on other things.
i hope things are working out and getting better for you! good luck!
Don't tell me I'm gonna be stuck on her for next 26 years NOOOOO
This video is for people who struggle with honest, straightforward communication. After you’ve spent time together & feel like you’d like to explore a future together, BE BOLD! Ask, “How do you feel about me?” Sometimes they will say, “I like you as a friend.” That may be disappointing if you’re looking for a love relationship, but at least you’ll KNOW where you stand.
Attraction involves chemistry that one experiences, but can not typically control. Have you ever met someone in a particular setting, and thought, “This person is AMAZING!” But after you spent time with them in a different setting, you felt no attraction whatsoever? One-night stands are based on this type of initial excitement. Do we embrace the fantasy for fun, or live in reality, where genuine connection is the foundation of a relationship?
Beautifully said
I just realized that the person who's afraid is me :")
Oh man. But how do I build up the courage and stop fearing to get rejected?
Just do it. It is just abt courage
It's like, "you won't know if you don't try".
But my crush is my best friend, I don’t wanna ruin that bond
@@charadreemurr874 I had ruined it 😃 now I won't be able to talk him the same thing again
Just know that regret later is more annoying to live in our mind than fear
In some cases, i think that *missed opportunities can hurt more than rejection.*
If you're thinking about asking someone out, take the shot and see where it goes. And if you do end up being rejected...it's okay to be sad, but just be glad you decided to try :)
That is so true I have done both and I still regret not asking someone more than asking 1
i literally rejected my best friend a year ago and now i have a reaaaally big crush on him 💀💀💀
@@yayyp oh shit uh I would say shoot your shot
very true..
its also better to ask or at least talk about it sooner rather then later
This was always me the first few years of high school, I didn’t ask my crush out for 3 years because I thought there was no way she would possibly wanna go out with me. We were friends but that’s it. One day drunk at a party, I don’t even remember this but she told me what happened, I told her how I felt, and the next day she told me what I’d said and that she thought it was sweet but she couldn’t figure out why I didn’t just tell her. I told her I felt like she was too far out of my league, and she told me that’s a stupid concept, and that she liked me for me, not what I looked like. We agreed we would try it out, and we’re still together 3 years later. I don’t drink anymore, but I’ll always be thankful for alcohol because of that moment, cause I would’ve probably never asked without being drunk, and I’m in a way better place now
get drunked got it 💪
@@letate3productions324 yup glad someone got it
Don't do drugs lol
moral of the story: get hammered and your nervousness will disappear
@@Fenix-wg2dp exactly. Also I’m at 69 likes, it’s a good day
the turns have tabled: your crush has watched this and now knows you like them
I attract narcs very easily. I get this all the time with new "friends" blabbing about themselves no end. Then they gas light me. I don't care who or what issues someone has, but please and thank you are two vices that sort the crappy people out for me. Yes actions mean a lot. 👍
Yeah, been there done that lol. I've resigned myself to being a lifelong bachelor. I'm horrible with rejection, I'm just an emotional person. It hits hard, man. Especially when you like a girl. Never again, my emotions and feelings are in permanent quarantine, I'm just the laidback friend from now on lmao.
Be you, do what you gotta do.
Waiting a lifetime is better than settling too soon. ✊
I wish you could see what i see. If a girl rejects you, she doesn’t remember it for more than a day so why should you hold on to that? You deserve better don’t let it get you down
Same here, dude. I mean that’s lonely but at least we’ll be safe from heartbreak.
The right person will feel easy and natural that's what they tell me. I hope so.
Heavenly Father I pray that you keep the person reading this alive, safe, healthy and financially blessed Amen
In the beginning, we used to talk daily & share daily things for a couple of weeks but suddenly she never comeback to library.......💔
*TIME STAMPS* In case you hate scrolling
1. They're nervous around you 0:44
2. They do dorky things in an attempt to impress you 1:26
3. They want to spend time with you but they suddenly disappear 1:57
4. They've talked about you to the important people in their life 2:34
5. They go out of their way to do things for you, but don't like to talk about their feelings 2:53
6. They listen and remember what you say 3:33
Thanks to Dat Boi
I recently got rejected again. I can definitely say these things are not always true. Keep getting rejected, bois! One day... One day, someone will say yes.
god listen to you
Stay strong comrade
Awww, I hope your okay
No don’t settle for a yes, someone someday will be thrilled to be with you!
@Claumsy it will, I promise!
I just realized if my crush ever found this channel, I'm screwed..
😂😂... Same lol🙂
Me too mate… me too
Simple way to solve these issues ask the truth and tell the truth and your relationship will happen or not happen it’s simple
as a person who is scared of rejection and has Had A lot of bad past relationships this is very relatable to me, For a while now I’ve always wanted to ask people out but I’m always scared it would end up bad again or I will get rejected and then made fun up
I get you, I’ve never approached women because, I don’t accept to be disrespected.
Sometimes the pulling away isnt because theyre not interested-quite the opposite-they need some time out from the emotional rollercoaster. They need to go into a safe place where they can think about you without all the spikey emotions that come with interacting with you. Its like they love being around you but are scared of something going wrong and getting hurt, so they run away for some time out. Best thing is to just let them do their thing, let them know youre still thinking of them so they know youre still interested but dont be too needy/clingy or desperate!
I didn’t expect to see a love is war reference! I love it! To see Kaguya and Miyuki in this art style was so cool!
I always think it best to keep one’s mouth shut if the feels start to enter the picture. Especially if that person in question is unquestionably married….😢
"They're nervous around you"
Girls when they're around me: *runs for president*
This helped me realize that nobody loves me! Thanks, I needed the confirmation.
Not even your parents?
Very much relatable as an INFJ, except we were both too inexperienced to work on things/give me time to fully open up and we hurt each other.
I am INFJ too, happened to me too, I totally understand you. I don’t know if we hurt each other, we have to contact each other to talk about it. We both done the weird signs/things XD.
I think he is INTJ, Ni dominant for sure, so maybe INFJ. Flirting ? Never done that, It’s not me. Soul connection ok, but real/concrete connection it’s a little more difficult for us. For us it’s just try talking I think.
@@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes yes, it always comes down to failure of communication. Being afraid/vulnerable is the final boss you always have to battle to get your feelings across. It's awfully complicated but we've had NC for over 1.8 years now and the balls in her court for whatever the future holds.
So if you can talk it through go for it, but be honest with each other even if you're both unsure.
@@AitchC INFJ, we never give up ^^. I have the chance we are both very honest. I will send him message during the week, I really want to know what's happen/happened.
It's not rejection that gets to me. It's when people become so afraid that they ghost. :(
I use to be afraid of rejection until I realized that my feelings towards another person is my business and they don’t have to know
💯💯
To me, I’m not afraid of rejection but the bad things that could happen in a relationship. I might get cheated on, they might get bored of me, etc. Those fears gnaw at my heart.
I just constantly notice that they like me through their body language and also the way they express themselves in front of me through verbal communication .
These are few signs that somebody may like you a lot but they afraid of rejection and afraid confirm their feelings :
1.They care about what you said and also remember the information you said
2.They care about your personal life and realize when you have a bad time
3.They try to make you comfortable when they're talking to you
4.They do a lot of skinship with you
5.They speak their really personal opinions about the conversation's topic with you and waiting your reaction
6.They also tell you about little things in their life
7.They show interest at your story
8.They always cheer you up and comfort you when you need
9.They want to be in touch with you
10. They get nervous around you and try to distract themselves all the time
11.They can act like they don't need you and show you that for them you're just a friend
I hope this help and I'm sorry for my broken English :(
Watched a few of these videos and I realized she might actually like me, she specifically touches only me when we have fun and when I rolled around in grass she only offered to clean off my back her touch is very gentle and non malicious unlike some people can be we're both kinda dorky I think but at times they've been bold
Honestly I’m more like the “they go out of their way to do things for you but don’t like to talk about their feelings”
I'm not scared of rejection, I'm scared of ruining the friendship we've had for 7 years.
(edit: 500+ likes! tysm)
I did that once. We were friends for 4 years. Bonds like that are not meant to be played with and broken thats why i promised myself to never get too attached with close friends ever again. And if you end such a relationship you will be living with the worse guilt, self hatred and regret of your life.
Same but 4-5 years
You're the real Y/N 💀
Bro for me it's 11 years
i feel you…
Not even scared of rejection necessarily. I’m more scared that they’ll suddenly stop liking me and will just stop doing anything. Things are always more complicated then it seems I guess
i love keeping feelings to myself!!! i love getting sad when im the problem!!
I watched this video a month ago as the person fearing rejection, and now I am watching this video again to understand why this person who is interested in me is pulling away. Thank you Psych2Go!
did you find out?
My crush is my best friend, I don’t wanna ruin that bond by being rejected
Same here
Aha same
If you are best friends then the its better to be open and honest with one another real friends are always there no matter what
No point in being afraid of what's guaranteed to happen. So I just tell them. I know I'll be rejected, but at least there's no hard feelings either way, and I didn't lose a close friend.
And it can be ended up a big question in your mind with just a simple response and no regrets for not asking
That isn't the case for everyone. When I had a crush at school I told a supposed best friend of mine who I liked and everyone found out cuz she told the entire class and she lead me up to the boy who I liked and I was mercilessly humiliated by him and everyone since they all laughed and pointed at me. When I had a different crush in high school it happened the same way and I don't consider my self ugly. There was very hard feelings between me and them and I did nothing wrong to them so.... 🤷🏾♀️
@@moniopia9551 Damn wtf……. Reminder to be careful of who you tell your secrets to.
Interesting, because as far as unluckily I was concerned, when somebody loosened the connection, for me it looked like a decrease of interest, not fear of rejection. I am usually feared of rejection, but never treat people I am interested in, or have feelings (friendly or romantic) like that.
“If it’s rejection, here’s to hoping their fears will melt away when you tell them you like them, like, really like them.”
I did, but I still feel like he’s afraid of rejection 😅 (I would say we have an interesting relationship, possibly a bit one sided on my end)
Tell him that! Communication is soooo important, but I feel like we sometimes think we’re expressed something clearly to someone else, but we really haven’t. Try telling him exactly what you said in your comment. See what happens!
@@Katie-dx8bx ok
Psych2Go just makes everyone's day better
Not just day. They make everyones lifes better. Literally.
I am a little dry I I hope you accept my apology busy around the holiday and you haven't been here if you want to be a part of my life again I'm very bubbly upbeat and full of life I don't want to play no games don't have time to if you want to spend time with me only to the side and let's make it happen I am single disengage unmarried with no drama I don't have drama in my life
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There’s a girl in my class that I really like, and I don’t fully know if she feels the same way. I can see her looking at me and turning away when she sees me just like I do. She also VERY rarely talks to me and even when we do talk, it’s like just a few words and that’s it. She might be nervous talking to me just like I am talking to her, or most likely because she has other friends and I’m not one of them. I really want to tell myself that she really does like me, but in reality, I’m 90% sure that she doesn’t.
This... This is exactly me. I mean exactly. This is like literally me
@@poojiith2361 fr
@@poojiith2361 this is also me
omg this also happened to me like 3 years ago LOOL we didn't talk that much but we always stared at each other in class and stuff but i never got to know her feelings for me because im scared of rejection and plus i transferred to another school so till now im still curious about her feelings that time but unfortunately we lost contact LOOL thank god ive moved on tho i think it was just a silly crush 💀💀 damn saying all this makes me remember all the things that i did to impress her so she could notice me.. im embarrassed lol
Buddy, take this from an introvert who is crushing really hard on a guy, but is also scared of what my crush thinks:
She's so into you.
I’m the person that’s afraid of rejection 💀
same bro 💀
same 💀💀
I’ve been friends with someone for nearly three years now, and my interest has been slowly growing. I’ve long suspected they’re interested, but I have a crippling fear of rejection, and I suspect that have nearly the same. My cat went missing a few months ago, and I messaged them for support, only for them to drop everything to come out, keep me company, and get me just a little tipsy. We’re adults, and they full on sleep on my couch a few days a week, every week, despite having a house and roommates to go back to. They’re with someone, though I suspect it’s more of a FWB than a romantic relationship, I’m pretty sure they have feelings for the person. Still, they sing to me, and I catch them staring at me all the time.
I had a girl in my life that was pretty much word for word of it
She was super popular but the only times she talked to me, was very out of her way. For ex: Me asking for someone to help me cut out stuff with scissors and she had nothing to help me with, but still wanted to help me and told me "But I don't have scissors or anything". She sounded really sweet when she said it and even stood with one leg kind of bending upwards, and her hands crossed together around he lap area, as she peered up at me and had her eyes more squinted. She seemed really happy. I didn't know what to say, I tried to nod casually in a Jim Halpert type of way, while still showing I wasn't feeling awkward in any way. The other guys who wanted her too and were more popular then me, question her on it, seemingly questioning her in a "Well why would you say that, if you don't have scissors! WTF!?", in my own mindset, I saw their jealousy and what was going on.
She got very shy once when I sat at the same table as her in a group of 4. She'd look at me in the hallways, in means of making a connection. She seemed like a soul partner to me, felt like I was looking at my own reflection, in which I loved.
I loved so much about her. Her walk, her faces she made when she'd think about things, her voice, her eyes, her booty, her face, her hairline, her mind, her history (Didn't have a dad which seemed oddly more destiny to me, to not have to meet her dad), her shyness, her softeness, niceness, all of the above with this girl.
I thought she thought the same about me. She once made a gesture at a grocery store to me, where she had to fix her grocery cart infront of my while bending fully over, but knowing me and my analytical mind, I knew her cart was completely fine.
She peared over at me in college to.
She just ended up dating some Italian with a perfect hairline, face, and he had a superficial fakeness to him, in the sociopathic girl slayer (at bars) type of way. A complete stud if you will, but fake af to me.
The rest is history
I loved her so so much, but never really even spoke a single word to her. We were both to scared, and I was the scaredest.
@@josefina8216 I will if she's ever not with the newer newer guy she's dating, no longer the Italian, he became a dedicated video game streamer after the broke up, which to me was his first glimpses of his realness. New boyfriend is some guy that does MMA. I wouldn't trust anyone who does MMA unprofessionally to be calm if some guy came around to say he liked his girlfriend, I've heard too many stories about people who do MMA unprofessionally and just want to jump people. A particular thing about this girl, is I've never really seen her alone alone, she's either with her boyfriend, or with a group of girl friends, which to me to walk up as the unpopular kid they all remembered from highschool, it's like a job interview infront a board of directors for me to go and do that. The only time I've seen her alone was at the grocery store, but her sister was with her, so I suppose I'll just have to be super bold someday because idk if I'll ever have it just me and her, there might always be that facilitator person. As long as its not the MMA guy, I will have to tell her someday.
@@josefina8216 So I wrote another detailed reply but then I tried to edit the word "maybe" out of it, then RUclips gave me the "returned error" so I was like Wtf I click cancel so I could just leave the comment as is, but then RUclips decided that hitting cancel after pressing the "edit" button, means delete the comment entirely. Way to go RUclips. I'll have to make it less detailed now. But anyways, I once wished her a happy birthday out of the blue on facebook, which hopefully established to her I was into her. I remember when I was in group situations with her, I was a really shy guy, but I'd actually go out of my way to express details about myself, not in an obvious way to the other people in the group that I was just doing that for her. It was my way of opening up to her basically whenever I could. The consistent eye contact in the hallways and partially throughout college was hopefully another big indicator to her. It definately was to me. I remember also that I saw her eye to eye unexpectedly at the Crazy Horse once and I practically jumped, which to her, I hope she noticed that. I'm thinking that she must of known I was interested in her, but maybe she thought it was my move to make, and I would never make it. One thing though, is I feel like I have everything to lose if I tell her that in person. Because in my mind, there is still hope on this. I suppose that I hope she doesn't get married to her current MMA boyfriend, and I can tell her that I like her after they partways. I can't deny that I want them to break up eventually. If I tell her while she's still dating someone, I know it's an instant no just out of the fact that she's with another person. A key detail I left out earlier was that, she blocked me on facebook after she started dating the Italian a while back. I have mixed messages about that. She was either trying to get her old crushes out of her head as she headed into a relationship after highschool, or her blocking me was something more negative. If she never actually liked me (Which i practically have proof she liked me) , then her blocking me is a measure of getting some old highschool "creep" off her back. That strange kid from highschool that was always looking at her, but I personally doubt that is the case. I'll also be devestated if I do tell her someday that I like her, and she says something like "WTF! OK? I didn't like you back then, I blocked you because you seem creepy to me. GO AWAY". Because if she said that, my last 6 years of life would basically be a shame. So while she's still with this other dude, I can still have hope within my imagination that me and her could happen someday. And if she ever breaks up with the guy, and shes single, I know I'll have my own true shot to go tell her and establish a connection. And whenever I try, if I get rejected, I will probably go home and laugh, and I'll most likely chase my dreams after that, because my final links all the way back to highschool and my childhood would be cut at that point. I hope she will like me back though, she's like the only girl whos v****a I'd be interested in seeing (no offense to v*****s), I honestly can't imagine myself liking anyone else.
Story of my life. Too many heartbreaks and trauma to not be paranoid about opening up to someone new.
I’m in love with this girl but heard that she doesn’t want anything to do with me. That broke my heart and breaks my heart even more when I see her every single day.
Same here, friend.