Do They Like You? Or Are They Just Being Nice/Polite?

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  • Опубликовано: 1 ноя 2024

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  • @belle7591
    @belle7591 2 года назад +3306

    It's easy to mistake a friendly introvert for 'I think they may possibly a crush on me.' If they treat you the same as everyone else, they may be just a super friendly person.

  • @Bob_Greasy_The_3rd
    @Bob_Greasy_The_3rd Год назад +1294

    I'm so love deprived, that whenever a person treats me nicely, I immediatly fall in love with them and it sucks.

    • @arnavkmr3895
      @arnavkmr3895 Год назад +76

      I do fall in love easily as well, but I've never thought it could be because I'm love deprived... food for thought ig, thnx op!

    • @guts4436
      @guts4436 Год назад +27

      That's not uncommon you'll probably get over them the next day

    • @Yoimiya_Lover29
      @Yoimiya_Lover29 Год назад +13

      Same man 😭

    • @chonko4252
      @chonko4252 Год назад +51

      When someone gives the vibes of flirting to me i would easily overthink and then end up liking them.
      Most of them did like me but didnt have confidence to say anything. Just like me

    • @spicycurry7238
      @spicycurry7238 Год назад +14

      i feel this on a deep level bro. it just happened to me a couple weeks ago and then she said shes not in a good space mentally to date

  • @fina.rjb7
    @fina.rjb7 Год назад +145

    If they don't ask you out, don't read too much into it. Some people are just overly friendly while others are incredibly touched by the smallest gestures…

    • @icysnow57cold64
      @icysnow57cold64 7 месяцев назад +1

      I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Men and women think very differently from each other. It seems like it's impossible for men and women to emotionally connect with each other. Men and women's brains are wired too differently from each other. Women are more hardwired to be social than men are.
      Women are so good at making deep lifelong friendships. Women don't have the loneliness problem like how men do. It's much easier for women to make friends. Women are a lot better at making connections than men are. Men don't connect with each other on a deeper level like how women do.
      Unlike men, women have very little trouble finding emotional support and fulfillment through friendships with other women, and we don't necessarily need a husband and kids to feel emotionally complete.

    • @millievanillie0
      @millievanillie0 6 месяцев назад

      Some people are too shy or introverted to ask someone out tho

    • @icysnow57cold64
      @icysnow57cold64 6 месяцев назад

      derekgriffin8151 I heard that gay and lesbian couples are happier than straight couples are, and I heard that gay and lesbian relationships are healthier than straight relationships are. The more similar you are to someone, the more easier it is to bond and connect with them.
      People of the same sex/gender understand each other more easily, and there are no inbuilt societal power imbalances as there are between opposite-sex couples. Gay and lesbian couples understand each other better than straight couples do (due to them being the same gender as each other).
      I heard that most straight couples are not happy being together, and I heard that people who are straight are much happier and much better off being single than they are being in a romantic relationship.

    • @icysnow57cold64
      @icysnow57cold64 6 месяцев назад

      derekgriffin8151 I heard the divorce and domestic violence rates are lower in same-sex relationships than they are in straight relationships.

    • @icysnow57cold64
      @icysnow57cold64 6 месяцев назад

      @derekgriffin8151 The way domestic labor is dismissed and devalued in American society is genuinely a serious problem, especially since there's still a cultural expectation that women take care of homemaking and child rearing, even in hetero couples where both partners work.
      Or in hetero couples where only the man works so the woman can do domestic labor full-time, but then the man insists on making financial decisions unilaterally because "he's the one that works for the money", ignoring the fact that he's able to do that because she's handling all the unpaid home duties. It's not like that in homosexual relationships.

  • @user40ココ
    @user40ココ 2 года назад +2112

    0:00 Jumpscare (Viewer Discretion is Advised)
    0:30 They Invite Only You Out vs They Only Invite You Out with Friends
    1:13 They Talk to Their Friends About You vs None of Their Friends or Family Know About You
    1:44 They Flirt with You vs They Keep it Polite & Simple
    2:31 They Try to Get to Know You vs They Keep it Casual & Friendly
    3:14 They Keep Their Focus on You vs They Often Check Their Phone & Look Around
    3:55 They Try to Impress You & Look Their Best vs They Don't Seem to Care
    .. .----. -- / -. --- - / .- / -.-. .... .- -. -. . .-.. / -- . -- -... . .-.

  • @ClawsAndTeeth
    @ClawsAndTeeth 2 года назад +534

    I'm absolutely positive that no one likes me romantically now. Just as well though, I don't think I come off as more than clingy and/or self-centered at times. Besides, I don't want to hurt anybody if I did get into a relationship.

    • @Kuku._.025
      @Kuku._.025 2 года назад +10

      Yea ikr.. although i have a crush on someone but I think he doesn't like me😂

    • @damiaumairah2754
      @damiaumairah2754 2 года назад +4

      @@Kuku._.025 yeah me too , hahaha 😂

    • @ClawsAndTeeth
      @ClawsAndTeeth Год назад +5

      @wintercat1285 Liking one's self comes way too close to narcissism for me to like that idea. And the last thing I want to be (even if I possibly already am) is a narcissist.

    • @ClawsAndTeeth
      @ClawsAndTeeth Год назад +2

      @wintercat1285 Yeah, that's just it. In my eyes, flaws are not a good thing. They set you back and keep you from being a decent person. Which is another reason I haven't attempted to find romance: if I'm flawed, I'll mess it up, and if I mess it up, she gets hurt. For that reason, it's better for me to stay away.

    • @ClawsAndTeeth
      @ClawsAndTeeth Год назад +2

      @wintercat1285 I suppose so. Thank you for your words of wisdom.

  • @weonadomicilio398
    @weonadomicilio398 Год назад +70

    there's a bunch of people that are scared to just show their interest. And when they feel things are getting to intimate, they make a step backward (not literally, like avoiding a question, changing the subject or calling a friend)

  • @zerohandlesforme
    @zerohandlesforme Год назад +302

    I'm 30, was always rejected and never asked out (and I'm from Italy, which means even extremely introverted guys do end up asking the girl out first). The worst part is that they're afraid I might be interested in them if they're nice and tell me CONSTANTLY how they don't mean anything and hope I won't misunderstand their politeness for interest. Thanks a lot! What am I supposed to say? I didn't even have the time to START developing feelings for you, calm down!

    • @mangopuddingdancetime5980
      @mangopuddingdancetime5980 Год назад +20

      FYI, this may mean you've been attracting player types (serial flirts). They're used to people taking their flirtatious personality for romantic interest and are basically letting you know the truth right off the bat (and yes, TBH, they may not know it, but they're kinda leading you on- or, to rephrase in a more empowering way, you are allowing yourself to be led on). They're drawn to you because you're probably emotionally/sexually unavailable and you feel "safe" to them. The archetypical pattern going on here is "vampire"- look it up.
      Just accept it and make a conscious decision to move away from people who aren't interested and towards people who *are* romantically interested. Make a conscious decision to open your heart up to actual, reciprocated flirtation, romance, and sexual interest. Allow yourself to feel worthy of it.
      The right people will start coming along as soon as you re-adjust your focus and open yourself up to it energetically!

    • @npc6817
      @npc6817 Год назад +6

      Italian boy here. We just scared

    • @freconsbo
      @freconsbo Год назад

      That last line is good for you, I think. I mean, it's indeed better that you don't even start developing a deeper feeling for the other person. That's a win for you.
      Because if you somehow do, and the other party isn't even interested in you the same way, the struggle is real. Seriously real. Even worse if they are still kind and nice to you, not changing their behaviors to build some space or distance so you can adjust your feelings accordingly. You'll end up constantly second-guessing yourself... 🤷🏻‍♂️

    • @YaneliRomero-w9u
      @YaneliRomero-w9u 9 месяцев назад

      ​@@npc6817it feels like a forever tickle zone 😂🤣😂

  • @cedricjaestephencastillo3784
    @cedricjaestephencastillo3784 Год назад +117

    After watching this I discovered I have a superpower: invisibility.

    • @LouX453
      @LouX453 Год назад +4

      You sure your parents didn't give you an invisibility potion when you were young ?

    • @Paavocado
      @Paavocado Год назад +4

      And jokes! Don't forget jokes 😂

    • @ffcdgf
      @ffcdgf Год назад

      I wanted that but when i tried to do it there will be 2000 creature looking at me while sucking my soul out

    • @hope4fur130
      @hope4fur130 5 месяцев назад +1

      Didn’t take the video for me💀 I’m literally the shadow in every conversation.

  • @sihembouaoud1813
    @sihembouaoud1813 2 года назад +268

    I have been married for 9 years and I still like when my husband teases me when we are with his family.😄

    • @AlexSpy3DS
      @AlexSpy3DS 2 года назад +13

      God Bless U :)

    • @Je11keng
      @Je11keng 2 года назад +25

      My blessing is getting married to my crush. Praying that one day it happens 🙏

    • @onilink4286
      @onilink4286 2 года назад

      ruclips.net/video/eVsokduw330/видео.html please no yees

    • @SAGE_EDITS_1
      @SAGE_EDITS_1 2 года назад +5

      @@Je11keng give up lmao

    • @SAGE_EDITS_1
      @SAGE_EDITS_1 2 года назад

      @@Je11keng take the blackpill you’ll do it sooner or later

  • @ItzZomboyMC
    @ItzZomboyMC 2 года назад +263

    FINALLY!!! KOMI AND TADANO!!! LESGOOOOOOO!!! THANKYOU FOR THIS REFERENCE PSYCH2GO!!! KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!!!

  • @gerarddasilva2030
    @gerarddasilva2030 2 года назад +95

    So I don't tell people about my crush because I am afraid of being judged and I have always been raised in a family where we are not allowed to make mistakes. In a way in her eyes I am only nice. I wish I could talk about her but the I'm afraid too.

    • @Cassidy440
      @Cassidy440 2 года назад +20

      What a stupid dim witted rule everyone in this world makes mistakes and it’s apart of learning.Don’t listen to your family and don’t be afraid to be judged for dating your crush go out there and be yourself

    • @savibanana
      @savibanana 2 года назад +8

      My advice here is to not rush. If you're afraid, it means that the world has impacted you in a way that you're not comfortable speaking about yet, to which I can relate. The most I open up is in comment sections.
      I understand the other comments opinion about being yourself, but fear isn't something we can cast away so easily. Rather than try to fight it, try to work with it! Gradually dispel your fear and start building up a bond of active communication with your crush or whoever you want to confide in. Unless of course you are a strong willed person who can act purely on supportive encouragement!
      I couldn't imagine opening up all my deepest emotions because deep down, I don't feel like anybody cares, so what I think might be easier is if you think about your interest or hobbies or thinks you care about and focus on those instead. Try sharing things that mean a lot to you, even if others might not get it (like dreams) and see if they respond in interest. If you can find somebody who will actively engage in conversations with you about things you like, maybe asking questions or offering feedback that doesn't outright offend you, then that person is somebody that truly cares about your best interests and is somebody who you can feel more assured taking that emotional step with. (A bit of self-referencing there, might not be applicable to you).
      Test the waters, see how they respond to certain matters and then you can judge for yourself whether or not you're fine with them extending that response to your deeper feelings. If you are, great! You now have reason to reassure yourself that you will be fine handling whatever reaction you receive, if not, it's alright to take it easy and take as much time as you need to collect your thoughts and reach the decision that you are most fine with the consequences of.
      You know the consequence of talking could either be bad or positive, always try to think positive and have faith, but also prepare yourself for the bad because the world can disappoint us and sugarcoating it won't save us, but sometimes the bad isn't as bad as we think, especially if we have prepared ourselves. Think of the absolute WORST response you could receive and then imagine how you would handle it. Chances are, the outcome might be bad, but NEVER as bad as the worst scenario you imagined.
      Also, mistakes can be forgiven, mistakes can be repaid and made up for. You don't have to fear mistakes as much as long as you keep in mind that for every problem, there is a solution. If that solution doesn't exist yet, it just has yet to be found!
      Some of this advice might not be worth much since I am no professional, this is just my personal take in hopes that it helps you feel better....
      I have 4 minutes of wifi left so I must end it here, good luck!

    • @creativeflame_
      @creativeflame_ 2 года назад +2

      Felttt the first part

  • @yuyu7929
    @yuyu7929 2 года назад +71

    Just realized nobody likes me and I'm in the friendzone. THANK YOU🙏

  • @VapourWav3
    @VapourWav3 2 года назад +266

    As someone whose feelings are always beyond physical attraction the first thing I do whenever meeting anyone is to just find out as much as I can about them... So, does that mean I have a crush on everyone or no one?
    Edit: thank you for all the support because this really means a lot to me =3

    • @thembaekezie9085
      @thembaekezie9085 2 года назад +13

      And that's also me maybe its part of being a Pisces

    • @pineberry212
      @pineberry212 2 года назад +19

      It could be your default is platonic love.
      Took my till recently in my mid 20s to realize what that feeling was, and just how important it is in my life.

    • @someone-by5tq
      @someone-by5tq 2 года назад +2

      @@thembaekezie9085 lol

    • @keiron.4612
      @keiron.4612 2 года назад +2

      @@thembaekezie9085 I'm a Capricorn where does that leave me alone Lol

    • @VapourWav3
      @VapourWav3 2 года назад +4

      @@thembaekezie9085 I'm Sagittarius so don't think it has something to do with the sign...

  • @pheeble29
    @pheeble29 2 года назад +75

    3:40 It's important to remember that some people are bad at talking tot heir crush. I often talk to my crushes while on my phone and glance up occasionally, and try to look busy so I don't freak out lol

    • @Dragoninja26
      @Dragoninja26 2 года назад +12

      Yeah by this video my crush might easily end up thinking I'm just a little friendly: I don't have anyone I really trust enough to openly discuss love, I'm too shy/unconfident to be flirty (though my confidence has improved a bit in last few years, in no small part thanks to this great channel), and so on, I definitely am more curious about her than about most, but it might seem like a pretty normal amount because I'm not too social so my extra isn't that much

    • @Pinkio
      @Pinkio Год назад

      is that kel

    • @pheeble29
      @pheeble29 Год назад

      @@Pinkio lol yup!

    • @Pinkio
      @Pinkio Год назад

      @@pheeble29 lmao are these Hero and Mari on the miniature of this video? i played Omori recently (May 2023) so i know about the characters and their -unfortunately harsh- lore

    • @newospam
      @newospam 6 месяцев назад

      I usually pull out my phone and scroll until I find a topic to talk about if things get dry

  • @iamgoddessoflove
    @iamgoddessoflove 2 года назад +50

    If someone truly wants you, they will show it through actions, how effective their communication is, their vibe, body language and how they treat you. If you have to constantly ask yourself if someone is into you or not, they act hot and cold towards you, then most likely, they're not!
    💙RUclipsr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships

    • @onilink4286
      @onilink4286 2 года назад

      ruclips.net/video/eVsokduw330/видео.html dm

  • @safouraaghighi7749
    @safouraaghighi7749 2 года назад +29

    I was waiting for a Komi Cant Communicate Reference so thanks for that and the informative video!

  • @MadFretsy24
    @MadFretsy24 2 года назад +176

    Me and my male best friend (or, at least, I consider him to be) share a funny story... We began as university mates - I'm a 36 y/o woman and he's 25 - and crossed paths in a totally accidental way. As the uni days went by, we became closer and closer, he sometimes seemed like he was flirting, but all of a sudden he would pull off talking about a new crush of his, then he would "return" once his crush was over. Due to a particularly emotional period we both went through, we shared a couple of intimate moments (we kissed twice, veeeeery passionately. I initiated it, to be honest, and he didn't reject me at all) and "confessed" to each other that we were "the best thing that happened to me in the last year". We kept it a secret from all the people in our friend group. We're not in love, we're "just" best friends on a deep deep level.
    I don't want to push further pressure, he's like gold and I don't want to lose his friendship.
    EDIT: thanks for all the comments!
    EDIT N.2: he made clear that I'm a really good friend and he doesn't want anything to change this beautiful friendship we have. I'm not that ok with it, but since I still don't know my feelings towards him, I'll let things go with the flow. Sheesh.

    • @muriloamorim2731
      @muriloamorim2731 2 года назад +27

      Thanks for sharing!
      This seems like a gray area between friendship and romance. It can be difficult to understand. Have you ever tried therapy? I'm not saying you need to, but it might help you understand these feelings more thoroughly.
      Have a nice day!

    • @MadFretsy24
      @MadFretsy24 2 года назад +12

      @@muriloamorim2731 I already talked profusely about it to my therapist (anxiety issues, yuck) and he's trying to help me figure out what my feelings are towards him, because *drums rolling* I think I'm oddly in love with him, because he was at my side through so many hardships I had to face, but I also am in love with one of his best friends, who is closer to me in age but has a lot of issues of his own going on, not mentioning his date who is allegedly isolating him from his friends and surroundings. Lots of shit going on!

    • @AA_04
      @AA_04 2 года назад +28

      @@muriloamorim2731 I don't think therapy is required to understand what's going on lol. They are in love but are not willing to risk it as they were the ‘ best thing that happened last year .’Someone will have to make the move tho🙃

    • @daninumbers
      @daninumbers 2 года назад +3

      Thing is, due to him being one of his best friends, chances are if you were to get together with the other guy, your friendship will suffer regardless. You surely couldn't be as close without raising suspicions about being faithful, especially if you've already had intimate moments, and also if he actually loved you it could be not as comfortable to spend time together. Not the same if those crushes of him were unknown to you, they are friends.
      Another thing is, your partner is meant to be your best friend. Do you connect with the other one as deeply? Like... do you really think you would be best with him instead with these problems you talk about? I've had a crush on more than one person at the same time, so it could be for you too. Deciding who could be best is on your feelings, can't really force it. What would feel bad is using the other person as plan B if you were rejected so gotta be careful. Best of luck~

    • @MadFretsy24
      @MadFretsy24 2 года назад +1

      @@daninumbers the matter is waaaay more complicated than that, unfortunately... I had an affair with Older Guy at the beginning of the year, which my Bestie found out just about a month and a half ago, because he had some suspicions but wasn't sure. I told him everything, and he was so supportive and kind I couldn't help but feeling overwhelmed with relief and gratitude, and that's when we kissed the first time. He was also having a tough time due to massive family problems... So I listened to him and he listened to me, two-way relief.
      The second time was after my bday party, I was once again overwhelmed with gratitude because he helped me a lot with the party and stuff, and also overwhelmed with a LOT of other feelings... Second set of passionate kisses. He then told me what I've written earlier, but also said that that was the base of a good friendship.
      I don't think he's in love with me, he made it clear that love has no space in this relationship, in my opinion, except "friendship love".

  • @khodabakhshi1
    @khodabakhshi1 2 года назад +89

    The cuteness of this animation was on another level 😍 and also really helpful, not only to know if my crush likes me or not, but I also know how to act better near them. Also your voice is so calm and peaceful 😊

  • @tj_puma
    @tj_puma 2 года назад +25

    This one needs to go viral. Would have saved my whole childhood

  • @mr.badwolf7356
    @mr.badwolf7356 Год назад +118

    I have a friend who's sending way too many signs both ways. She's very comfortable around me and physical contact was established early by her. We've hung out one on one a few times, had a few fairly satisfying conversations about one of our common interests.... And then it went to pot. Granted it is finals season and she may be one of those people who takes their studies so seriously that she refuses to do anything else until school is over but I don't know that for sure and so it's really hard to say if that's the case or if she lost interest really quickly or I did or said something to have her put a wall up. It's been a rough few weeks. 😅

    • @anaelizabeth2256
      @anaelizabeth2256 Год назад +22

      If she really likes you, she'll be back. Don't put so much effort thinking about it. When someone likes someone else, it's usually not a simple wrong spoken word that makes them pull away without signaling what bothered them. Maybe you could just ask her if she's okay, if anything happened. But I guarantee you probably didn't do anything wrong

    • @mr.badwolf7356
      @mr.badwolf7356 Год назад +2

      @@anaelizabeth2256 I appreciate this

    • @CesarSaladBowl
      @CesarSaladBowl Год назад

      Hope it all works out in the end!

    • @mr.badwolf7356
      @mr.badwolf7356 Год назад +11

      @@CesarSaladBowl unfortunately it didn't end very happily. She and I actually did get back in contact and all seemed like it was back on course. Then she ghosted me. Out of no where. We had plans to meet, as usual and had met a few times prior to this. And then she was gone again. No response, no explanation, no contact.
      With all due respect to her, I think it's for the best. If she's unable to maintain even a platonic relationship then I was really avoiding something that could've been a lot worse.

    • @CesarSaladBowl
      @CesarSaladBowl Год назад +5

      @@mr.badwolf7356
      Well I’m sorry to hear that.
      But i guess you may consider yourself lucky in a way.

  • @Russian_R1flem4n
    @Russian_R1flem4n 2 года назад +178

    I'm so shy that texting my crush is a challenge for me. Tomorrow I will text her. Wish me luck

    • @elizabethwalsh3279
      @elizabethwalsh3279 2 года назад +12

      Good luck!

    • @theoneandonly590
      @theoneandonly590 2 года назад +8

      All the best

    • @keiron.4612
      @keiron.4612 2 года назад +8

      If your so shy you could be texting all your life that won't get you anywhere in the long run take the next step and ask her out

    • @ultomato7127
      @ultomato7127 2 года назад +4

      You can do it!

    • @fresh.prince7472
      @fresh.prince7472 2 года назад

      @@ultomato7127 by texting everyday

  • @lauravogt1022
    @lauravogt1022 2 года назад +20

    I just have to say :
    I was un a relationship for 11 years and nothing changed over the time except the feelings...
    A nice (friend) guy of mine caught my eye. He was always very distant and it didn't seem that he is even interested in a relationship.
    But he did one thing that my ex didn't- he was interested to spend some time with me. He played games with me, walked with me, talked with me. Something my ex wasn't interested in anymore...
    After some time I wanted to know if he likes me. I found this channel and I tried to read his actions. It was pretty difficult because he is kinda special 😅
    In the end these videos here were right. He stole my heart and so did I with his. He saved me from a relationship with nothing but emptiness, sorrow and the feeling of not being worth to be loved.
    So thank you very much for all of your videos that gave me the strength to jump and risk something. ❤️
    Me and my new partner are together for 9 months now and I couldn't be happier. We have our arguments. Me, who was never alone and him, never been in a relationship.
    But we are Noth grateful for everything that happend.
    Bonus: if you wanna know how we confessed our feelings.
    I am bad with talking about that. So I wrote a letter with the things I wanted to say. I gave it to him after a movie we watched at his home. I went in the bathroom and had to pee because I was so nervous 😅 after I came back he hugged me, cried and told me that he wanted to tell me the things i wrote in that letter.

    • @lauravogt1022
      @lauravogt1022 2 года назад +1

      before my ex and I, we talked a lot. He told me that he wanted to start a family with me, building a home for us.
      I was in a relationship for 11 years and engaged for 7 years. But it was all just words but nothing else...

    • @sthefanochavarria4474
      @sthefanochavarria4474 2 года назад +2

      This story is so cute and wholesome! May I ask how old is your guy? You said this is his first relationship, and I've never been in on one so... It might be useful for me to know when I can start losing hope

    • @lauravogt1022
      @lauravogt1022 2 года назад +1

      @@sthefanochavarria4474 he is 35 now. I'm 29.
      He wanted a relationship, for years he tried to find a partner. But all the women weren't interested in him or wanted him to change.
      He is not easy to handle, there is a reason that not a single woman stayed for more than two weeks or so... but he is a really nice guy. Not all this romantic stuff but he is honest with his feelings and he knows when to be a little softer.

    • @lauravogt1022
      @lauravogt1022 2 года назад +2

      @@sthefanochavarria4474 please don't lose hope... I know that it's hard... my partner told me he accepted that he would stay alone for the rest of his life... and that with only 35...
      But sometimes you just need a little bit more time to find your soul mate. 💕

  • @sebastianlindon8992
    @sebastianlindon8992 Год назад +12

    A lot of these "just being friendly" signs are the exact things I do when I *am* interested but I'm too nervous to give them any little sign of it. Like I'd probably accidentally start playing on my phone if I'm around a girl I like because I'm nervous and I don't want my nervousness to come through in conversation

  • @BCSchmerker
    @BCSchmerker 2 года назад +183

    +Psych2go *Thanks for the list of decision points for romantic potential:*
    0:26 (1) Inviting one out: As couple vs. With friends
    *Side note:* Friends can be a sounding board for attraction analysis.
    1:10 (2) Knowledge of relations: Self's and/or other's friends vs. Nobody significant
    1:42 (3) Actions: Flirtatious vs. Codified (e.g. Étiquette)
    *Side note:* I don't envision the lead pair of a neurodivergent romance set around a future General Assembly of the OMS Holiness Church of North America being flirtatious prior to first mating, as the multigenerational trauma sustained by the 大日本人 Ōyamato diaspóra in North America contraindicates it.
    2:29 (4) Degree of inquisitiveness
    *Side note:* In the neurodivergent romance referred to herebefore, I envision the "get to know each other" scenario as essential to the match follow-up.
    3:12 (5) Majority focus
    3:52 (6) Presentation: Elevated vs. Casual

    • @AmtrakCitiesSprinter64
      @AmtrakCitiesSprinter64 2 года назад +1

      ok

    • @cristianmartinez9091
      @cristianmartinez9091 Год назад +4

      What's up with the random David Foster Wallace/ Postmodern writing lmao.

    • @dzm7443
      @dzm7443 Год назад +3

      What are these side notes

    • @oceanicmage
      @oceanicmage Год назад +1

      bro became a proffessional anime scriptwriter with those sidenotes 💀💀

  • @radxan3295
    @radxan3295 2 года назад +18

    Your videos are always so relatable! Even when I’m not watching for a specific reason, I still really enjoy them.

  • @sgaf7001
    @sgaf7001 2 года назад +11

    I'm the same when I'm being nice and when I actually like the person.

  • @weonadomicilio398
    @weonadomicilio398 Год назад +8

    For the fifth point (they keep their focus on you), lots of people (me included) always keep their focus on the people they're talking to (and no, it doesn't mean that they want something with everybody)

  • @dssgoat
    @dssgoat Год назад +1

    The timing for this video to pop up on my fyp right when I need it is actually insane

  • @AmmarEQ
    @AmmarEQ Год назад +5

    I love how different videos sometimes have different characters or animation style and i love your video! Your video always makes me calmer and understand other point of views!

  • @Railstar_YT
    @Railstar_YT Год назад +14

    (1:54) "Some people may be too shy to flirt at first, or simply don't flirt much." Or they are still learning to flirt well. This third point is 100% me :')

  • @sbynz
    @sbynz 2 года назад +17

    The crush thing sometimes get so complicated like you know they like you too but then again its like no they don't 🥴😀

  • @randomek8953
    @randomek8953 2 года назад +239

    yooooooo secret video lessss go

  • @Yashuop
    @Yashuop 2 года назад +35

    Only people who didn't come from Tiktok are worthy of liking this 🏆

    • @himikotoga9063
      @himikotoga9063 2 года назад

      Shut up

    • @kutakachicky
      @kutakachicky 2 года назад

      Why would they upload this kind of conversation on Tiktok? And do they even have a TikTok in the first place?

    • @AA_04
      @AA_04 2 года назад

      @@kutakachicky It is a bot account that spams same comments on every video..

    • @baonguyenphanminh1769
      @baonguyenphanminh1769 2 года назад

      This is a fake youtuber

  • @elirchi9214
    @elirchi9214 Год назад +35

    3:30 I can testify against this sign because whenever me and my crush talk to each other, I don't know WHAT would happen to me if I stared into his eyes longer than 5 seconds, so I glance to my phone sometimes and pretend to swipe something mindlessly

    • @chrln.23
      @chrln.23 Год назад +2

      Lol we have the same case. And I regreted doing it coz I realized that they might feel unlistened.

    • @felix_6547
      @felix_6547 Год назад +1

      YES

    • @tasos646
      @tasos646 Год назад

      yup..

  • @cinemaximum5654
    @cinemaximum5654 2 года назад +30

    My ex gf showed none of those signs to me and showed all of them to some coworker. Feeling horrible right now but it was a precious lesson!

  • @kingwitherasher4628
    @kingwitherasher4628 2 года назад +6

    I have given up about that kind of topic.
    I had a crush on someone but no matter how much we talk, she will never feel the same way. We talk from time to time but it's hopeless.

  • @capybara3540
    @capybara3540 Год назад +8

    To be honest i didnt really try engage in a conversation with my crush when I had one, instead I would just stay near and talk to friends, but not really interact with her. so I could easily be mistaken for being kind when its not the case

  • @corrinakrivakova3360
    @corrinakrivakova3360 Год назад +14

    If they have friendzoned me Ima cry and then find a video like this on how to fix it 😂😭

  • @Marcaronipasta
    @Marcaronipasta Год назад +6

    I'm a very friendly extrovert who treats everyone the same, even my crush. Inside, I want to do these things but I feel shy. They probably don't like me. It seems they're interested in someone else. That's ok but.. I won't give up!

  • @didjaseemyjams1582
    @didjaseemyjams1582 Год назад +1

    Love falling for people thinking they like me despite them not showing many signs and being turned down. The unbroken cycle

  • @ericamonite3112
    @ericamonite3112 2 года назад +3

    For me I stick to routines and activities to help keep the depression and negative thoughts away

  • @urgirl_kaii
    @urgirl_kaii 2 года назад +40

    YOOO... the other- other day, my boy best friend crush classmate XD said he was starting to grow back his feelings for one girl in our class (which was his ex crush and was his classmate since the 1st grade).. now he said it was a lie and fake story, and he has no feelings for her, and he said he won't tell me who his real crush is..
    GOSH I IDEK IF IT'S MEEE... Like, honestly since we met I had a feeling he liked me. LMAOO

    • @itzshemmss9218
      @itzshemmss9218 2 года назад +1

      I hope it’s you too! 😁

    • @OfficialDuhreel
      @OfficialDuhreel 2 года назад +6

      Tell him or you’re leaving it to happen without taking affirmative

    • @urgirl_kaii
      @urgirl_kaii 2 года назад +2

      @@OfficialDuhreel Nahh, I guess we're better off as best friends (hiding feelings from each other LOLL) OwO I guess I don't to ruin our friendship and dont wanna end up as strangers again TwT Hahah

    • @AA_04
      @AA_04 2 года назад +5

      @@urgirl_kaii Then what's the point of your comment. Why do you hope he likes you if you just want to be friends lmao

    • @urgirl_kaii
      @urgirl_kaii 2 года назад +2

      @@AA_04 Ikrr HAHAH.. ya that's what happens when you're insanely in love. You can't understand your feelings LOLL Mine's messed up as far as I know...

  • @yahyaharoon4517
    @yahyaharoon4517 Год назад +10

    What's really interesting, is I do all five of what is considered the polite thing, over the liking you as a crush thing, even while it has to do with my crush lmao, probably because I just have the mindset that I should just act to them as I always act to anyone else, makes it so that if they end up liking me back, they liked the version of me that doesn't treat them specially, I may treat them specially afterwards, but I don't want to treat them like they are special prior to that to make sure they end up liking the genuine version of myself.

    • @hillry6345
      @hillry6345 Год назад +1

      I have the opposite problem where I do what is considered the “flirty” thing to people I don really have romantic interests in just because I happen to just show alot of affection to my platonic friends and it does make things confusing for both other people and me myself😅

  • @CutePanda-bx6ew
    @CutePanda-bx6ew Год назад +3

    Thanks for all of the videos you do, I really like to watch them in my free time🌱

  • @trinsit
    @trinsit 2 года назад +4

    I don't know if I can ever feel this way with someone again.

    • @arnavkmr3895
      @arnavkmr3895 Год назад

      That made me feel all fuzzy inside lol

  • @kdranaline
    @kdranaline Год назад +1

    so I am head over heels fallen on the ground floor for him but because of my $hitty nerves I always end up ignoring him 😭
    he's the one in most engagement of convo and keeping the flow 😩 [AND I AM STILL CONFUSED ABOUT HIM BCS I LIKE HIM SM]

  • @osirisianplays8089
    @osirisianplays8089 2 года назад +3

    thank you for the beautiful video and animation 🙂

  • @strawberriphoenix
    @strawberriphoenix Год назад +1

    I thought I was the only one that is obsessed with komi can't communicate! I love the references!

  • @SWORDSLINGEROMIO
    @SWORDSLINGEROMIO 2 года назад +7

    2:23 most scariest part of the video

  • @LetsStartHere9
    @LetsStartHere9 2 года назад +5

    Everyone are being loved ❤️🫂

  • @aqua3890
    @aqua3890 Год назад +3

    I thought my crush liked me, but she just were polite. She just casually started a relationship with someone. I hope they're happy :').
    Actually we are good friends all ^^

  • @jaydenvera1319
    @jaydenvera1319 Год назад

    According what you said, someone is following you. It's because of you being resilient or being quiet what you do.

  • @rochester3
    @rochester3 2 года назад +6

    Simply ask them out, if they say no then their you go

    • @user-um1np8fx3j
      @user-um1np8fx3j 2 года назад +1

      Some people act hard to get (idiots), some people may be questioning it and say an incomplete answer, and asking wuestions like that can make relationships awkward. Not that straightforward.

    • @rochester3
      @rochester3 2 года назад

      @@user-um1np8fx3j people who play hard to get are not into you, if they were into you they wouldn't make you jump through hoops to get to them, at this point you are chasing which makes you look desperate, if they only text you when they want something then don't waste your time

  • @asleepawake3645
    @asleepawake3645 2 года назад +4

    I feel guilty when only inviting o e friend over another. I try to make sure nobody is left behind. Gets kind of taxing though when there is a big group.

  • @ejakaegypt
    @ejakaegypt 2 года назад +1

    This art style is incredible

  • @Irumimiru
    @Irumimiru 2 года назад +3

    When in doubt, just ask em out
    The worst they can say is no...

    • @therealgayray7588
      @therealgayray7588 2 года назад +5

      "ew what are you doing in my bedroom"

    • @mc116
      @mc116 2 года назад

      Then u go back to being friends if you're both not awkward about it

    • @uncledeadlythefirst
      @uncledeadlythefirst 2 года назад +1

      Or call the police

  • @astroturfisadude
    @astroturfisadude 2 года назад +1

    Things aside, i like how every vid changes animation!

  • @idkwong
    @idkwong Год назад +3

    She seem to do all those things, i also met her closest friends and her sister and without asking them directly they already knew who i was, we also got out 2 times alone by ourselves, talked a lot, a lot of eye contact.. the problem is that she is the most similar person to me i got to know since ages amd probably im the same for her so as 2 introverts i think this could just be deep friendship, the problem here is that whenever i text her she seems to be always doing something else and she wasnt the first to ask me out but every time i get to see her irl i get to think she likes me for the way she treats me and our conversation and also for the way she looks at me
    Now.. writing this down i realised that what i described seems like love from both sides but i still have my insecurities and i dont want to risk the friendship we developed so i dont know if i should just wait and see what happens going on dates with her or should i push this so we dont end up begin so much friend that we cant go back to be a copule

  • @polnareff_______
    @polnareff_______ Год назад +1

    Watch out for the ones trying to trick you

  • @CoreyANeal2000
    @CoreyANeal2000 2 года назад +12

    0:44 How interact with anyone 1:03 how I interact with someone I have a crush on 2:36 how I interact with everyone 4:22 how I am when I go anywhere.

  • @Heartsfromlu
    @Heartsfromlu Год назад +1

    I love the komi and tadano reference at the beginning!

  • @vessaliusjack2360
    @vessaliusjack2360 2 года назад +3

    1:46 that Tom and Jerry reference is just perfect

  • @biodevv
    @biodevv 2 года назад

    YOOO THE THUMBNAIL FROM KOMI ACTUALLY EXPLAINS THE SHOW SO WELL WTFF

  • @Rovoke
    @Rovoke 2 года назад +5

    I’m not sure if I agree with many of these tips what I’m basically getting is it depends on the person cause you do either of the vs depending on your personality. Like isn’t it normal also to try to get to know the other person if you wanna be friends for a long time? Or like try to impress a stranger or new friend in general. Or trying to be a better person? You do all of these things with a new bestie too or trying to make a new friend?

  • @certified_asain6940
    @certified_asain6940 2 года назад +2

    I love the Komi Can't communicate Thumbnail

  • @woofmeow3722
    @woofmeow3722 2 года назад +3

    The more i watch these videos, the more i feel like my crush only sees me as their friend. :(

    • @goodmimosa8040
      @goodmimosa8040 2 года назад +2

      Same here... time to start clearing her out of my mind

  • @aloveaffairwithself
    @aloveaffairwithself 2 года назад +1

    Realizing I’m like totally in love with him, and he probably doesn’t even think about me. He’s just kind. 😭

  • @Yash29156
    @Yash29156 2 года назад +3

    Those animations + your voice keep me busy till end

  • @johnrainsman6650
    @johnrainsman6650 Месяц назад

    This has nothing to do with romance, but yes, the concept of _just_ being nice/polite. The subject is my half-sister's dad. I felt like he didn't really give me a lot of attention when picking up or dropping off my sister (though I was very little, so what would I remember anyway). Then I stayed over at his and his family's house with my sister for a week or two, when I was eight. Once in the summer, the other in November. I don't know if I asked if I could join my sister, but there's a pretty good chance I did, to invite myself into her family. I even wrote them a letter in 2013 because I missed them so much. Well, when I reunited the dad in 2015 for my sister's college graduation and her wedding in 2019, I felt like he was a little too interactive with me. All peppy and "I'm-a-big-fan-of-John" attitude. It was actually kind of annoying. At my sister's wedding, he commented how good the food looked in line, compared our heights when the conversation about mine came up, and fist-bumped me about some funny joke I must've made (my memory is vague). I don't know, I wonder if he was just embellishing his admiration of me. I tried to be close to him and his family and maybe he was giving me too much "fatherly" affection in response. But maybe because he felt like he had to? If that's the case, I don't want it. It's kind of like going on a pity date with someone. You just don't do that.

  • @starkxzz.
    @starkxzz. 2 года назад +3

    I’m scared to even watch, cause I don’t want no other possibility then marriage 😟

  • @Melon-ALL-Free
    @Melon-ALL-Free 2 года назад +2

    I see, this is really good advices for building believeable fictional relationship in my story. Thanks!!

  • @alejandrosamano1576
    @alejandrosamano1576 2 года назад +10

    Yeah, but all the points mentioned on the video change radically when the relationship is one of: BEST FRIENDS. Believe me, all the points are present when this is the case, I never knew that could happen until I spent 5 years with my best friend. It is cool, love you if you are seeing this comment kiki :).

    • @edupietrafessafilho7845
      @edupietrafessafilho7845 2 года назад +5

      That's absolutely true.
      My best tip about it: If you already have a deep relationship with someone, feel confident and comfortable when talking about serious stuff, and truly trust them, don't be afraid to tell you like them. There's a high chance it's reciprocal!

  • @Vexinghalo23977
    @Vexinghalo23977 2 года назад

    I hope that everyone has a blessed day today

  • @rajb1480
    @rajb1480 2 года назад +4

    Thank you so much , I wanted to know about it ! 😅☺️

  • @luv_tia1134
    @luv_tia1134 2 года назад

    i love the amount of references

  • @superalonzo102
    @superalonzo102 2 года назад +3

    Why is Psych2go doing the "No Maidens?" meme at 2:17. 🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭

  • @Luuuuuuufr
    @Luuuuuuufr 2 года назад +1

    I'm loving the thumbnail! Komi × Tadano hehee😁😂

  • @sleeplessnights6
    @sleeplessnights6 2 года назад +6

    So I finished school last year
    And in 11th grade I started talking to this girl everyone liked I'll just call her Kaylee
    Anyway I made a joke and said we should go to the movies she said sure.
    12th grade we were in the same classes again and we frequently greeted each other and walked with each other to the next class
    One day she asked about going to the movies and she said " I only go to movies with handsome boys" and she laughed I got shy and said whenever she's ready, and when we left that class I stuck my arm out and we linked arms she went with it.
    We went to the movies eventually this year like in may, when we were together there wasn't any small talk it was so sincere, we don't talk online because she's hardly online and so am I.
    I asked if she'd like to go out again in July and she was down for it but never got back to me, she messaged me in the last week of August saying she didn't forget about me and asked if we could do something with our friends end of September
    So I said sure.
    Do I tell her I'm interested in her even though I'm leaving to study abroad in January? Or do I just ignore my feelings?

    • @KiWi_707
      @KiWi_707 2 года назад +2

      well it depends on you whether you want to confess before going or not. but its good not to have any regrets right?
      if i were in your place i would at least give her a hint like just before going to abroad i would say to her that i really liked the time i had spent with you or i would cherish the time i had with you in this way its like umm indirectly saying that i liked you and also it umm might sound cool before leaving to a different country hehe
      after hearing this they probably will say something positive but if they really liked me back too and get my hint then they might say something special to me too hehe *w*
      anyways i just said my perspective. i wish you good luck with your studies in abroad ^^

    • @sulffojus1227
      @sulffojus1227 2 года назад +1

      If I were you I would tell her so both of you could sort something out

    • @sleeplessnights6
      @sleeplessnights6 2 года назад

      @@sulffojus1227 bettt

  • @killerhyper7388
    @killerhyper7388 2 года назад +4

    Her "I love u" him no thank you" I laughed so hard😂😂😂

  • @lauracelac6290
    @lauracelac6290 2 года назад

    This is the question of the century

  • @WoofFur
    @WoofFur 2 года назад +7

    POV: you’re here because you have a crush and you want to know if they like you.

  • @ayonara8
    @ayonara8 2 года назад

    i see the thumbnail. i click the video.

  • @sondelverruckt7174
    @sondelverruckt7174 2 года назад +6

    Uuhhhm… I think im not supposed to be here😅

  • @honeyimtrash51
    @honeyimtrash51 2 года назад +1

    omg "komi can't communicate" reference 🥺💗

  • @ElleeSea
    @ElleeSea 2 года назад +3

    Aww Anya and Damien ❤️

  • @arthurscheibe8745
    @arthurscheibe8745 Год назад +1

    I’ve had a friend I care about ask if they could lean on me so they can rest after watching a movie, and I do not know if they were “flirting” or just tired

  • @notyetfound_exe3420
    @notyetfound_exe3420 Год назад +4

    What if we’re both introverted 💀

  • @noname-ji3lr
    @noname-ji3lr 2 года назад

    Why is your voice over so good 😊❤️ I'm fangirling over your voice🤭😍

  • @remyhavoc4463
    @remyhavoc4463 2 года назад +6

    Is Shikimori the anime they're referencing?
    The thumbnail had Komi and Tadano but I'm not sure who these other characters are 😂

  • @szymonszymon7871
    @szymonszymon7871 2 года назад +1

    Great Video as always, fascinating voice, really love your channel, keep up the good job!

  • @_Abdul_417
    @_Abdul_417 2 года назад +4

    I can't believe she really likes someone as timid and shy as me.I am still in doubt :(

    • @QuickPlaysHD
      @QuickPlaysHD 2 года назад +2

      I only like people who are timid and shy…. Its a thing

    • @_Abdul_417
      @_Abdul_417 2 года назад +1

      @@QuickPlaysHD thanks.If only more people were like you!😅

    • @Windermed
      @Windermed Год назад

      eyyyy here we go!

  • @amandaoldal2278
    @amandaoldal2278 2 года назад

    I'll watch the whole video but first let me say that I loove the thumbnail. Komi and Tadano are so cute! 😍

  • @e11evenn49
    @e11evenn49 2 года назад +8

    I've been following these videos about relationships for about a month or two, because an old friend of mine has been acting more and more interested in me. We keep hanging out one on one, cuddling, teasing, flirting, so I finally asked her if she wanted to date, and she said she has to think about it, because it's a shock to her. I'll give her time to think things through, of course, but why all of those signs before I confessed, if she can't tell me if she actually likes me back?

    • @uriel-ianosei3677
      @uriel-ianosei3677 2 года назад +1

      It was the same thing for me.I didn’t confess but I wasn’t sure I had a crush.

  • @ScarBrosBlackSmokeScarBrosBlac
    @ScarBrosBlackSmokeScarBrosBlac 2 года назад +1

    Best way to avoid any misunderstanding, this goes to guys mostly. Keep in your mind that they are polite, that's it...

  • @CroftSurvives4Ever
    @CroftSurvives4Ever 2 года назад +15

    Komi can't communicate is an adorable anime btw. Love the thumbnail.

  • @shibrai3575
    @shibrai3575 2 года назад

    Just being a nice friend

  • @baguettefish
    @baguettefish 2 года назад +3

    So now please tell me why I do the opposite of almost all of this when talking to my crush? I'm just way too shy, can't even look at her while talking to her, I can only look around...

  • @toyspower9783
    @toyspower9783 Год назад +2

    There’s this guy, he gives me mixed signals… We make eye contact A LOT. And he holds me the door sometimes even tho he’s with his friends. He’s shy and he gives me butterflies💙 I asked him to prom last year and he accepted but ended up going with his friend(actually he was already with his friend, he told me he woul’ve accepted if his friend had someone, but he didn’t of course) A girl told him and everyone that I like him… Now he’s avoiding me and being shy. He’s still holding the door for me. We have been talking together before but then his friend took his phone and blocked me. Since then we didn’t talk together. But I’m glad he wasn’t the one blocking me 😅 Now we follow each other on Instagram and I just figured out that we have the same taste. I wanna talk to him about what we like. But how am I going to start the conversation?

  • @kingwitherasher4628
    @kingwitherasher4628 2 года назад +5

    Can you make a video for to "know if someone had a crush on you, but lost hope"?
    I watch your videos alot, so i'm hoping you might be able to make a video on that topic. Thanks

    • @FFRrox
      @FFRrox 2 года назад +1

      I've crushed on people but easily lost hope because of past rejection and before them and my blatant inability to pick up on any form of cues. After my last rejection, I basically gave up on having crushes on people and on my hopes of ever getting into a relationship, let alone a date, especially since I've never been on a date or had a relationship, well into my early 30s. It doesn't help (not to use my disability as an excuse or anything) that I'm autistic, shy, introverted and socially awkward, rely on people to take me places, still live with my parents and am unemployed/have trouble finding/holding work

    • @kingwitherasher4628
      @kingwitherasher4628 2 года назад +1

      @@FFRrox sad to hear, but i hope you might find the one.

  • @joaquinhenquin2717
    @joaquinhenquin2717 2 года назад +2

    Thank you for telling me always what I need to know!