I do, and Ive been sucsessful at it. To see my man get revenge is very satisfactory for me, even if it wasnt me who did it. I just want the good guys to win, even it means them going bad.
As a girl this is pretty accurate! Im glad you mentioned that most women are nice, cause many guys think I like them just from being myself. I am a naturally curious and happy person, I am also somewhat bold and will talk to most people but when I like someone I get very nervous and the best I can do is look in their direction/smile or place myself in a their space
It’s simple, if she is REALLY into you, she would be the one to initiate a conversation, stand very close to you, and will be generally smiling no matter what you say to her. That’s basically as close to green light as you can get, speaking from experience. Otherwise, keep the convo short and keep it pushing. 🙂
@@charlestaffe5819Not if she is already attracted to you to begin with. The more attractive the guy is, the more girls are “forgiving” of his shortcomings.
Its worth noting not all girls will do this. Its very much dependent on their personality. If they do initiate conversation, it is a huge green flag. But if they dont, it doesnt necessarily mean they dont like you.
@@charlestaffe5819Being introverted isnt an objective turnoff. Some girls like them. Its a personal preference thing. I personally love introverted girls but I know damn well that isnt true for a lot of people.
99% of girls don't do this unless your a jacked Chad. You have to be extroverted, talk with everyone *including* the girls you like. Learn how to banter with everyone, guys, girls, ugly girls, old women, old men, but close on the girls you like by setting up activities you want to do with them for a date. (Only ask for socials if the girl is actually receptive though - use common sense a little bit you can tell if a chick is interested in talking unless it's her job to be nice to you, don't waste your time on front desk girls that every dude in the world is also hitting on)
As a woman I approach a guy and told him i was interested, and was promptly shot down. All the green flags were there, we had talked and hung out a bit. Im just a fairly average looking 5'7 woman who doesnt wear makeup. Double checked for advice online and was told to just tell him, so I did. Absolutely ruined my courage to be straightforward again. Mad respect to you guys who keep at it.
Don't worry some people are just not interested. Not worth to kick yourself for it. And honestly average looking girl with good personality is more than enough for most guys. For me it is important she is trustworthy and has some hobbies so we can talk about something interesting😀
I remember my niece saying that she wouldn't put her hair in a bun because one person said she looked like a chav..... the key word being one... bad experiences are also 100x times more powerful than good ones... they influence us way more and we tend to reflect on them way more when compared to good ones.... personally I love a girl without make up... for me a face full of make up shows me that she probably isn't my type.....
I know exactly how you feel as a guy. Nothing we can do about it but move on if you meet another guy and are interested in him it’s okay to ask him for a date. You will get used to that feeling of no like I did.
he said most guys assume the girl is attracted to them, but Im the opposite. I always assume they're just being nice. Probably missed some opportunities.
The only thing I disagree is that it’s not laziness that makes us want the girls we meet regularly through work or class. It’s because you can gather more information about person even without directly talking to them, you can already know if you two might be compatible, if she is single, how she acts with different people, etc. Then you can filter if the effort is worth it. It’s not lazy, it’s smart.
It’s more possible because as far as I know, most of us are not model looking dudes. So the warm approach (don’t know if I use the right term) will be more likely to work: more time and occasions to display our personality, humor, skills, etc.
For me I don’t assume they’re attracted to me, but rather I assume they’re trying to manipulate or play around with me. Maybe I just had too many encounters with fake kindness as a kid.
It is hard when it is the opposite, they like you, you start to like them, no mention of boyfriend EVER, and you have to realise the bad way. And you end un feel like shit, because you are into her, she is into you, but not possible. Happened me like, lost count. Shit.
Listened to it end to end, and I must say you're amazing, man. It's your kindness and compassion for both men and women that make you stand out and do it much better than the average speaker out there. Thank you so much.
This question is the easiest to answer: she's just being nice. But if you want to know for sure, ask her out anyway, or whatever you kids do these days. Not all risks can be, or even should be, mitigated. Get used to rejection and accept it when it comes, because it will come more often than not. Or just be you and let her approach. But then again, that's another risk, isn't it? 😂😂😂 Good luck boys.
I met a girl at a hike. Went out with her every day for a week, had me over for dinner with her mum. We planned a 4 day road trip together for the next week. Had an awesome time, ups and downs you know. Last day we were talking about love and stuff, I told her I love you, she told me she loved me. We called each other “my love”. Went our separate ways for some weeks, she went to a different country and I had to travel to a different country. Kept in touch through messages and FaceTimes of 2hrs. Then she decided to ghost me, I kept on messaging her and she told me she appreciated our friendship. Like, okay girls…😂
Denmo, your commitment to giving quality information to the public in a witty manner inspires me to find ways to teach the world self help that people need like you do.
I love how positive you are that men who have never had luck with women can change their situation. So many men are living a sexless, dateless, mediocre life and it is a modern tragedy.
Had a girl that was attracted to me, but I blew it cuz I had no idea what to do. It was my first time chatting up a girl. Learnt a lot from those interactions though
@@JeanClaud3 I took 5 days to ask her out which might be fine for some girls, but in hindsight, I should've done it the first day to not waste time and decrease my success.
56:42 hits me HARD, this perfectly described myself. I pretty much had that sort of tunnel vision for years until that one girl got married to someone else last month. Here I am now slowly realizing that's one of the best things to happen to me and it's not the end of the world, all without any hard feelings nor regret for having fallen for her to begin with. I'm more open to the options available to me now all the while I'm doing so much more to focus on myself
Soaking in the information! Literally taking my whole day off to clean house and catch up listening to every Denmo vid released last week! Thanks Jack, I'm gradually developing the courage to put myself out there and make the first move!
This is a lovely video, and you're a cool dude tbh, your way of explaining us men is so accurate and funny, this is the first 1hr+ RUclips video that I actually finished, cheers mate, keep at it👏
The longer the better Denmo. (that’s what she said). Even if I don’t need these as much anymore, your channel is like my safe space lol. Every 1hr+ video is an instant click from me and makes my day.
Thank you for making this video. I'm afraid to talk to men as someone trying to be social. I also avoid being friends with them to get rid of any "friendzone" accusations as well. I try to sympathize at least maybe coming to the conclusion that most women don't talk to them. A lot of them put on a deucebag or defensive persona in the event a girl does talk to them. That's where my sympathy stops. I feel bad, but I don't think it's ultimately my burden to apologize because their personal feelings are conflicted and I got caught in the crossfire. As someone who's very shy, the last kind of guy I'd approach trying to be social is a guy I'm attracted to. I wouldn't even know where to start. I'm only usually social with people I have neutral feelings about. I'd also like to add that a lot of this is a result of poor communication skills, and setting proper boundaries. A lot of women have poor communication skills, though at the very least know how to be "nice." A lot of these men who are unsuccessful have poor social skills and poor interpersonal skills overall. Chances are, she's only being nice. This is just more nuance as to why.
dayum Denmo with daily uploads 😍 By the way thank you bro for the free content. I approached 20 women last week and i already set three dates this week. If everything goes right, I will become a womanizer by the end of the year. Like Bro, I literally made in this two months more progress to my goals with women than in my 26 years of existence. It's f*cking crazy. I did not expect that most of the women are really chill af😂 Don't listen to most Redpill gurus who say: "You need to be 6 feet tall, make 6-figures per year, have 6-pack abs and have a six inch dragon under your pants". I had none of the these and still managed to pull some baddies. I wish I could have found your channel sooner, but nvm I'll catch up on everything.
@shyam9853 they all help pretty good. I watched 100+ of his videos in 3 months before signing up for socializer. I have 9 girls' numbers now, in only 3 months, and I'm hanging with 3 or 4 girls this week.
I am oblivious the other way around lol I assume she isnt attracted to me and is just being friendly. But then a friend will slap me in the back of my head for not asking her for her number. He told me that ever since I got fit, and got my conversation skills better, I am more attractive than I think.
I’m a woman not sure how I got here lol but I have to say that it’s not always WHAT we do, it’s HOW we do it. First: *pay attention to her eyes* , if you get out of your own head and really pay attention when you’re talking to a girl, the look in our eyes when we like you is very telling- eyes say what the mouth can’t oftentimes. There will be a kind of “sparkle” or glint in the eyes, and you’ll just *feel* a certain energy. I notice when I like a guy I usually tilt my head to the side when talking to him and kinda peer UPward at him. I also widen my eyes a bit like doe eyes-none of this is purposeful it’s just biology (Most of us do these things btw not just me) I also tend to slightly raise the pitch and soften my voice. I might not give you crazy intense eye contact bc I can get nervous, but if i look down after meeting your eyes and look a bit flushed or even embarrassed, I prob like you.. If I want to know a lot about you (even the things you think are boring) I like you. Basically: If you see a girl kinda “posing” (or her body looks kinda rigid/on alert), widening her eyes, head tilting, giving “sweet/shy” smiles, looking down and peering up at you from under her lashes, looking a bit flustered/nervous during eye contact , laughing a lot more than is appropriate, talking too loud/excited or talking too soft- these are all very positive signs.
That’s why I just wait for them to make a move atleast I know its legit that way, I’m not about to be some damn dancing monkey giving away free attention, the f*ck do I look like lol
Something that’s always bugged me: why there a 100s of videos out there trying to dissect how women think. Why aren’t they more straightforward. It’s too complicated 😂
Bro I've given up already. Being played with too much. I'm learning to love and appreciate myself more and take care of my own needs first and trust the universe things will work out in their own time 💯🙏🏿. Great advice
Thanks brother. Will get back into it. Need more self confidence and need to get my body in shape. I think because I'm the nice guy they treat me as a friend. Thanks brother for the encouragement will put it into practice
@jimbofisher8904 Your comment makes literally no sense at all. do you even read the comments fully before you answer? or is this some kind of bot account?
That is the best class of my entire life ! Thank you Denmo for this video ! I like this format, very simple, without extreme montage. Just a guy, talking about relationships between men/woman. AMAZING !
I dont know about everyone ese but THIS is the type of content Id like to see more of from you bro. Your other shit is good but very surface level self improvement stuff IMO. This is what I will binge all day long. 11/10
I do cold approaches because I scared to get in awkward situation with girls I know and will contact in future (work, university, gym). Strangers on the street will just disappear from your life if you will fail approach.
Generally if you are having good time with the colleagues, you can better pick up on what is meant as rejection - and to the outsider it might not seem like a rejection, that how cool it would be.
Another sign is if you’re with a friend and she approaches him while EYEING you. She’s probably a bit nervous and wants to get you into the conversation without directly approaching you.
Even if a women kisses you sits on your lap and lays on your chest. This doesn't mean she is attracted to you even if she does it several times. The evidence of her attraction is giving out her number and dating you and speaking to you out in public. Spending time with you. If she does not do that she is playing games nothing more
It's hard to realize this, I didn't even notice it's when happen to me. I was talking to this girl, her uni was near to my house so I went to pick her up a couple of times and take her to her Home Last time I saw her we had sex in the car. A The next day I asked her if She wanted to go diner, and she dumped me 😂. She was okay with kissing and sex in private but not okay with been seeing togehter out there
11:28 I feel that. In our classroom we often sat girls on one side and boys on the other (not because it was forced, but because that's how we chose to do it). And one teacher would always pair us up one from each side to "mix the groups well". I'm not sure how aware he was of what he was actually doing...
I will admit, I sometimes still feel like an incel despite having a girlfriend, well ex girlfriend now, mainly due to not ha ing had one until late in life, probably because I feel that my 20s were a waste, didn't have a serious relationship until the beginning of my 30s. It causes me to envy and resent couples out there younger than me, people who got to experience having a serious long-term relationship before I did and yes I know people will always say comparison is the thief of joy or don't compare yourself to others. But I believe it's always has been and always will be part of the human psyche, been that way since the beginning of time to feel upset and depressed when you feel you are not part of the norm. Because of that I feel like a forever permanent incel for all time, even when I did manage to get a girlfriend. So yeah even while I did have a girlfriend, I still felt like an incel. I don't see myself ever getting over this, it will be a pain and wound for the rest of my life. And I'm not afraid to admit that there have been times over the years I have hated being born male, because I know I'm not the only guy in the world that has this mindset, that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction. Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not? Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't. I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long. Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction. One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard. So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game. I get annoyed when people say go see a therapist because it's not like a therapist can reset my life or have me start my life all over again. I spoke in a few other guys who feel the same way in regards to being forever angry and upset, sad, over never having had a girlfriend until later than normal, until late in life. Probably because guys and men to learn and know all of these skills, all of these social behaviors, talk and behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk a certain way or have a certain lifestyle, have a certain body, certain income, and more than that which I either don't know or forgot. Women are pretty much basically all set for just being born and just existing. Because being pretty and beautiful is not a skill and it doesn't require any learning, it's not a behavior that takes training. It just really feels me with anger and rage whenever people and Society have the mindset or still think men have it better than women do in dating or just human mating in general. I'll never forget what one guy said and this only added fuel to fire in regards to my anger and rage about the cards on dealt with for being born male. "Boo fucking hoo. We also don't have to go through child birth and we're strong as fuck. Testosterone gives us ambition + mental and physical strength that MANY (not all) women are lacking. Being a man has many benefits and with great power comes great responsibility. Stop crying about it and get your fucking shit together" Let's just say that pissed me off even further, got me so mad, that its no appropriate for me to say what was going through my mind when i read that comment that pissed me off even further. Yes I know there's no such thing as fairness but I'm not afraid to admit that over the years in my life I've hated being born a guy or I just feel that it is unfair being born a man. Yes I'm aware there's no such thing as fairness, I just get very angry and enraged whenever people and Society still think men have it better than women do. I know I'm not alone in thinking this way in which I have the mindset in which I feel that if I was born a woman I would not have been alone or single that long. I like to think this way and I know that a lot of people agree with this and that is being born a woman basically guarantees you will always have options because you are on the receiving end of sexual attention just for being born a woman because it's often said that women are in abundance by default but men are in scarcity by default because for all time women are the ones that get pursued and hit on or sought after or get advances made on them and when you are in that position, it means you are simply by default attractive to the other sex. I highly doubt I'll get over this I know I will be bitter and resentful about this for the rest of my life and I will always feel like an incel despite managing to achieve some success with some girls. I will never get over this but yeah the way it looks like is that men are the only gender that are meant to go through adversity and struggle or pain
Bro, if you really sit down to think about it, that struggle you went through kind of gave you essential life skills that helps you later. Charisma, resilience, persuasiveness, confidence etc.
@georgepanicker61916 well that's what makes me mad and angry because the way I see it or the way it looks like is that men are the only gender that have to go through struggles or adversity or hardship when it comes to getting better at interacting with or just attracting the other sex, it's like women are the reward but men have to work or do the work in order to get the reward. Another way to put it is like, women are simply by default good with men or just good with attracting men for just being boring or just existing but men basically have to go through training or trial and error or just a learning process or go through a learning curve in order to get better with the other sex. Yep I'm completely aware that it's just the way it is but that doesn't mean I have to like it or enjoy it, I assume you're like many men in the world who still thinks that men still have it better than women do when it comes to dating.
@@nobodysperfect06 absolutely not lol, women are playing candy crush while men are playing dark souls. It's just these skills do pay off in many many other ways that work out for men in the long run. Even I'm angry, but the way I see it, when I reach the top, no one can shame me or cuss me out for holding any standard regardless of how hypocritical it is.
I don't really know if a girl is into me because of my traumas from the past. I got to know a nice girl, she is pretty, cute, clever and she even gave me her number. We talked really much about our hobbies and what's fantastic we like the same things. I want to go on a date with her and I'm gonna do this:) Btw this video can't help me because I think every girl is so different but thanks for trying help us anyway ❤
She’s a human being first and foremost. One you’re attracted to, yes, and that relationship is different than an acquaintance or friend, but at the end of the day she’s an individual. This experience is not a repudiation or confirmation of any beliefs or past experiences. It is what it is. To quote something Stephen King said to Neil Gaiman when he was suffering from success: “This is good; enjoy it”
A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldn't just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring her back
I personally really like these long informative videos Mr.Denmo!. Also Mr.Denmo may you make a video about how your occupation, calling/purpose can make your prospects view you differently I.e. the blue collar guy, the techy, the military guy etc.
When they continually break the touch barrier for me it does help me too differentiate if they may be slightly interested as they went wont do that unless they are at least comfortable with you. Also when they bring up Their private lives as well etc
I did cold approaches, I did warm approaches. Nothing led to anything. Getting ghosted and getting left on read is today's normal case. Every girl has so many options from her work, her social media and friends group...you can be doing your dumb approaches all day long, it won't even help you. Peace out!
Honestly, I always found that when it comes to meeting new people and forging new relationships, there are a few things that are fundamental to the process. For one, you need to be confident, not in the interaction, but in yourself and what you have to say. You also need to read the room, and roll with whatever happens. When things change direction, you move with it. And most importantly, don’t just acknowledge everything they say with a “yeah” or an “uh huh”, actually add to the conversation and present questions that encourage equal effort from both sides. Always have a good understanding of what you’re actually doing.
I can't tell the difference of when they don't want to talk and when I just need to lead the conversation more. Could you elaborate on this at some point?
Not Denmo, but just wanted to offer some advice: - If they don't want to talk: usually signs with body language like she's looking away or over your shoulder half the time, pretending to be interested, feet pointed in another direction, etc. - When you need to lead the conversation more: She's more attentive but still slightly disinterested, ask her questions about her background, her goals in life, etc. Hope that helps in a small way!
It’s interesting to watch this as a woman who tries really hard to be kind and nice to everyone. Men get the wrong idea all the time because my parents raised me to stop, take a moment, and be human with others. I think a good approach when you aren’t sure is just to try to spend time with someone as a friend with a group. It makes us feel a lot more comfortable to get to know someone a little bit without the pressure of a date. Also a good way to find out if someone is crazy without having to be alone with them. For example, you could invite someone to an evening out with your other friends. If you don’t have friends that’s step one. Honestly having friends can make more of a positive impact on your life than a girlfriend.
@@Josh-fp2qn i believe that she either likes you based on your looks, or she doesnt. its that simple. But your comment comes off as mocking to the original poster
@@fattyjaybird7505 I was referring to physical attraction. So you believe what he said? Men need to be more than just physically attractive. In order for women to want them. That checks out with more men being single. But the men that are just physically attractive. Don't impact the data because those men are rare.
Ok, humor me this: What if we are coworkers? What if she's expressed all the telltale signs of interest? Standing close to me, initiating conversation a few times, smiles and holds a gaze anytime we talk, laughs at basically everything i say and do, open body language, etc. What if we just hit it off all the time we see each other?
She’s bored at work. First observe if she is constantly getting attention from other male co-workers and if she is then she’s just wanting to add you too her lift of orbiters.
I love the subtle joke deliveries, I had to pause the video for a good while cause I was laughing at the line: "She fixes her hair once and you're like 'ah dude she wants it up the ass from me'. Right now."😂😂
Any woman who works in service fellas im sorry to say but there's a good chance she's probably just doing her job, now. MAYBE if you catch her on a day off or something like that then you could gauge better. I've had people clown me cause I tell them situations like this and then they proceed to flame me so just keep that in mind
That's not far from the truth. Buddy of mine always thought bartenders were into him but its their literal job to be nice to customers to get tips. Although at the end of the day, sometimes you may not know?
I think you succeeded in laying out the differences between men and women. I think the biggest problem that men are facing in the dating scene, is the desire for financial security. Nesting instinct. It has become a characiture of what it used to be. The desire for wealth and status has been nurtured to a fine point these days, and that narrow focus makes someone's world a lot smaller. Whether that be the dating world, the public space, whatever. If she _really_ likes you, she'll make the first move, you'll be in her crosshairs and there won't be any wondering about it. If the thought crosses your mind that causes doubt, you're wasting your time. If you decide to be aggressively pursuing her, she's gonna use you, get what she wants and then move on. The takeaway is don't be a shut-in. Just a nice body alone will put you in a high tier. Work on your sense of humor, even higher tier. Stop taking things that people say so seriously, even higher tier. It's been my experience (and yes I have some) that when women see something they want, they come and get it. If she's playing games, she doesn't want you, she wants something else. Probably your money. Dude here is pretty smart, but still has a lot to learn.
Jfc the lawn mower metaphor killed me. That's one thing I learned early in life, just figure out the path of least resistance with the fewest questions and then they're off!
Honestly, getting into a hobby that creates these convenient situations makes this easy. I got into skating cause I love doing it. Turns out, plenty of cute women like rollerskating too and I get multiple days per week to potentially meet cool girls. If you become a regular, even better because hopefully you’ve gotten to know other regulars so you’re used to talking to people in that environment.
Ironically its the girls I thought that DIDNT like me were the ones that actually liked me. I asked out some girls that gave common signs like smiling, talking close to me, leaning, etc and got friendzoned. I asked out girls that gave me cold stares and didn’t speak much and got their numbers. Its all about eye contact. Some can be shy and look away but the key is how they react. Are they blushing or are they looking away in disgust or neutral. They won’t wanna keep looking at someone thats unattractive to them.
dating someone who makes less money, less social status, and lower social class so I dont fully agree with the dating up at least for me but have seen it growing up.
You’re an angel. As a man, I don’t understand why women in general seem to want a man that other women want. If he is a good person and you think he is attractive then why not go for it no matter what anyone else thinks?
Great, detailed video. But i just dont understand how having a lot of friends makes you more attractive? if you hang out and its just you and her and you mention a lot of your friends and how great your friendships are how does it make you attractive?
My stepdad who is 43 told me that in Mexico when he was growing up, you see a young woman you like as a young man, you tell her you're interested, and she considers you. Basically, then if you are agreed, you move into a house together. You're essentially married. There is no dating. (I'm sure there is now dating in Mexico, and also that the upper classes had longer courtship processes.)
Every girl is just so nice at me, staring, looking, smiling at me, laughing at my jokes, yet never asking me any questions, fml. Another weird thing is that ESPECIALLY attractive ones are most friendly and smiley to me.
then how come less than 13% of men are over 6 ft tall? Less than 44% of men have hair by age 35? How are these other dudes reproducing? This logics dumb
@@Denmosocial the fact that a woman lets someone hit when hes 35, balding and broke, doesn't mean thats her first choice. Dont make me bring up stats regarding men who are raising kids that arent theirs (without knowing too)
again you are missing the point entirely you could argue women based their primal attraction on ability to provide resources & protect (little guy with lots of stuff or big ugly guy with big stick) and this is one of those cope comments
@@Denmosocial okay, so all the poor fellas who get limb lengthening surgery just do it for fun. Also you are missing the genetics thing altogheter. Theres kids born with down syndrome and autism. That doesnt mean women fuck men with downs syndrome and autism.
I just assume they all are being just nice. I remember hooking up with an employee who worked at a small place I frequent so it CAN happen and I’ve made some bros from it but it’s rare, it was an unconviental place etc. But yeah I love this, this is helpful. I have a habit of falling for nice but at the same time I just assume they’re being just nice so it’s nice to know IF they’re interested. It’s rare though which sucks most numbers I get or instas go nowhere :(
Why do players try to make nice guys into womanizers 😢
Socializers*
God forbid someone try to fix the dating scene
@@Denmosocial dude why don't you do a collab with FNF?..it would be great
I do, and Ive been sucsessful at it. To see my man get revenge is very satisfactory for me, even if it wasnt me who did it. I just want the good guys to win, even it means them going bad.
@@DarkEagle99🐺👹🐺
As a girl this is pretty accurate! Im glad you mentioned that most women are nice, cause many guys think I like them just from being myself. I am a naturally curious and happy person, I am also somewhat bold and will talk to most people but when I like someone I get very nervous and the best I can do is look in their direction/smile or place myself in a their space
talk to girls that seem scared of me ✅ 📜 ✍️
@@meeese6_ LOLOLOL 😭😭 WELLLL THIS MIGHT NOT APPLY TO ALL
must be nice to not have had your soul crushed by real life
Save the curiosity for females. Men will definitely make assumptions (I'm one).
Will keep this in mind
It’s simple, if she is REALLY into you, she would be the one to initiate a conversation, stand very close to you, and will be generally smiling no matter what you say to her.
That’s basically as close to green light as you can get, speaking from experience. Otherwise, keep the convo short and keep it pushing. 🙂
Yes, but if you’re not an extrovert she will lose interest quickly.
@@charlestaffe5819Not if she is already attracted to you to begin with. The more attractive the guy is, the more girls are “forgiving” of his shortcomings.
Its worth noting not all girls will do this. Its very much dependent on their personality. If they do initiate conversation, it is a huge green flag. But if they dont, it doesnt necessarily mean they dont like you.
@@charlestaffe5819Being introverted isnt an objective turnoff. Some girls like them. Its a personal preference thing. I personally love introverted girls but I know damn well that isnt true for a lot of people.
99% of girls don't do this unless your a jacked Chad. You have to be extroverted, talk with everyone *including* the girls you like. Learn how to banter with everyone, guys, girls, ugly girls, old women, old men, but close on the girls you like by setting up activities you want to do with them for a date. (Only ask for socials if the girl is actually receptive though - use common sense a little bit you can tell if a chick is interested in talking unless it's her job to be nice to you, don't waste your time on front desk girls that every dude in the world is also hitting on)
I hate when I have flash backs of a chick and realized months later that a girl liked me 😂😂😂
The worst feeling ever lmfao
All the worse when you get around to 40 or so, and the number of those missed opportunities rises into the dozens!😳😔
You should try three years...
Spending too much time in your head can lead to madness.
@@ilovebutterstuff really? That’s my safe space 😂😂
As a woman I approach a guy and told him i was interested, and was promptly shot down. All the green flags were there, we had talked and hung out a bit. Im just a fairly average looking 5'7 woman who doesnt wear makeup. Double checked for advice online and was told to just tell him, so I did. Absolutely ruined my courage to be straightforward again. Mad respect to you guys who keep at it.
Don't worry some people are just not interested. Not worth to kick yourself for it.
And honestly average looking girl with good personality is more than enough for most guys. For me it is important she is trustworthy and has some hobbies so we can talk about something interesting😀
I remember my niece saying that she wouldn't put her hair in a bun because one person said she looked like a chav..... the key word being one... bad experiences are also 100x times more powerful than good ones... they influence us way more and we tend to reflect on them way more when compared to good ones.... personally I love a girl without make up... for me a face full of make up shows me that she probably isn't my type.....
You sound wonderful 👑 Keep improving on yourself 👌🏼
honey...honey... another one
I know exactly how you feel as a guy. Nothing we can do about it but move on if you meet another guy and are interested in him it’s okay to ask him for a date. You will get used to that feeling of no like I did.
he said most guys assume the girl is attracted to them, but Im the opposite. I always assume they're just being nice. Probably missed some opportunities.
Same
I see you like to 3 bet sir hahaha
all good bro now you know
Statistically, you probably didn't miss anything, and no girl was ever attracted to you 🥲
@@ClintonMcCutchin mainly OOP haha
The only thing I disagree is that it’s not laziness that makes us want the girls we meet regularly through work or class. It’s because you can gather more information about person even without directly talking to them, you can already know if you two might be compatible, if she is single, how she acts with different people, etc. Then you can filter if the effort is worth it. It’s not lazy, it’s smart.
there is also a familiarity bias that can play into that as well
Sure! I agree with you! It does make a lot of sense.
Efficiency is clever laziness - Echo
Familiarity supposedly makes your attractiveness go up in women, except if you're in the friendzone ofc
It’s more possible because as far as I know, most of us are not model looking dudes. So the warm approach (don’t know if I use the right term) will be more likely to work: more time and occasions to display our personality, humor, skills, etc.
video starts st 36:32
Thanks, Denmo loves to hear himself speak, all the power to him but I ain't got time for that
@@hugoeriksson983facts lmao
Lmao I watched the whole video but this comment made me laugh
yeah he loves wasting peoples time, hour-long vids proves he sucks at summarizing
Thx man
If you ever doubt that being a man is hard, know this: we get kindness so rarely that we mistake someone being nice to us for being attracted to us!
For me I don’t assume they’re attracted to me, but rather I assume they’re trying to manipulate or play around with me. Maybe I just had too many encounters with fake kindness as a kid.
@Kuruno_Stasis yo same. I also feel bad that I think this way because it's not fair on the other person.
If she mentions a "boyfriend" she is not into you.
or she is into cheating fantacies
@@Ozdyy Women who mention the boyfriend rarely have a boyfriend. That was facts in 1986 and same in 2024.
It is hard when it is the opposite, they like you, you start to like them, no mention of boyfriend EVER, and you have to realise the bad way. And you end un feel like shit, because you are into her, she is into you, but not possible. Happened me like, lost count. Shit.
nahhh who would’ve thought
if she mentions she has a bf, reply "he's a lucky guy" n get her number as friends (more likely she'll give it to you). can play the long game
Listened to it end to end, and I must say you're amazing, man. It's your kindness and compassion for both men and women that make you stand out and do it much better than the average speaker out there. Thank you so much.
Let me know if you enjoy the whiteboard videos I love doing them haha
yes do more daddy denmo
@@64x83 will do son
Love it bro keep them coming 💪
yes more please, not only is it useful but very entertaining
@Denmosocial collab with Hoe_Math! He does this type of shit all the time and it’s incredible.
Now this is finally a class I'll enjoy listening to, not falling asleep, this is the way Denmo.
lmao about time eh
TLDR of the vid: Use common sense and basic social skills, they probably don’t like you most of the time and being nice, keep your options open
where do we learn common sense and social skills?
@@mrosskneby going outside and interacting with people
🤣👌 I came to the video and the comments for this
This question is the easiest to answer: she's just being nice.
But if you want to know for sure, ask her out anyway, or whatever you kids do these days.
Not all risks can be, or even should be, mitigated. Get used to rejection and accept it when it comes, because it will come more often than not.
Or just be you and let her approach. But then again, that's another risk, isn't it?
😂😂😂 Good luck boys.
I always asked women out I like anyways lol
women don't have to do anything, of course. because they're human and we're not.
I met a girl at a hike. Went out with her every day for a week, had me over for dinner with her mum. We planned a 4 day road trip together for the next week. Had an awesome time, ups and downs you know. Last day we were talking about love and stuff, I told her I love you, she told me she loved me. We called each other “my love”. Went our separate ways for some weeks, she went to a different country and I had to travel to a different country. Kept in touch through messages and FaceTimes of 2hrs. Then she decided to ghost me, I kept on messaging her and she told me she appreciated our friendship. Like, okay girls…😂
thanks for sharing brother. This happens sometimes but it proves you can meet women and have adventures. Keep going
Denmo, your commitment to giving quality information to the public in a witty manner inspires me to find ways to teach the world self help that people need like you do.
i do it for guys like you
I love how positive you are that men who have never had luck with women can change their situation. So many men are living a sexless, dateless, mediocre life and it is a modern tragedy.
I love this new type of video. No editing, just Denmo in front of a whiteboard dropping nothing but value
OHHH BABY more like this to come
Had a girl that was attracted to me, but I blew it cuz I had no idea what to do. It was my first time chatting up a girl. Learnt a lot from those interactions though
That's the thing if you take too long to make a move she will lose interest and move on. Good for you tho at least you learned the process.
@@JeanClaud3 I took 5 days to ask her out which might be fine for some girls, but in hindsight, I should've done it the first day to not waste time and decrease my success.
Happens to everyone. Unless your lucky you’ll inevitably botch one or two attempts before you land a good one.
@@orange_turtle3412 Thanks, needed some motivation =)
Mission failed, but we'll get them next time! Nice man, just use those interactions and keep the lessons in mind!
56:42 hits me HARD, this perfectly described myself. I pretty much had that sort of tunnel vision for years until that one girl got married to someone else last month. Here I am now slowly realizing that's one of the best things to happen to me and it's not the end of the world, all without any hard feelings nor regret for having fallen for her to begin with. I'm more open to the options available to me now all the while I'm doing so much more to focus on myself
all good brother, now you know :)
I love these long, raw, fresh, videos. Thank you for everything you do, because of you I've made so much progress with girls.
gotchu brother, cant wait to see your success story
Holy shit DENMO! 4 to 5 back to back bangers? You're spoiling us, but please don't stop
everyday this month buddy
@@Denmosocial LETS FUDGING GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
Soaking in the information!
Literally taking my whole day off to clean house and catch up listening to every Denmo vid released last week!
Thanks Jack, I'm gradually developing the courage to put myself out there and make the first move!
Honestly, this could have been a 10 min video, but I like to listen to you to relax so thanks.
This is a lovely video, and you're a cool dude tbh, your way of explaining us men is so accurate and funny, this is the first 1hr+ RUclips video that I actually finished, cheers mate, keep at it👏
Listen to this man! He is SUPER accurate! His tips are spot on!
i love this! No one else talks like its a class or a sport! Thx bro!
The longer the better Denmo. (that’s what she said). Even if I don’t need these as much anymore, your channel is like my safe space lol. Every 1hr+ video is an instant click from me and makes my day.
gotchu homie I'm gonna do videos on other topics besides dating
Thank you for making this video. I'm afraid to talk to men as someone trying to be social. I also avoid being friends with them to get rid of any "friendzone" accusations as well.
I try to sympathize at least maybe coming to the conclusion that most women don't talk to them. A lot of them put on a deucebag or defensive persona in the event a girl does talk to them. That's where my sympathy stops. I feel bad, but I don't think it's ultimately my burden to apologize because their personal feelings are conflicted and I got caught in the crossfire.
As someone who's very shy, the last kind of guy I'd approach trying to be social is a guy I'm attracted to. I wouldn't even know where to start. I'm only usually social with people I have neutral feelings about.
I'd also like to add that a lot of this is a result of poor communication skills, and setting proper boundaries. A lot of women have poor communication skills, though at the very least know how to be "nice." A lot of these men who are unsuccessful have poor social skills and poor interpersonal skills overall.
Chances are, she's only being nice. This is just more nuance as to why.
dayum Denmo with daily uploads 😍
By the way thank you bro for the free content. I approached 20 women last week and i already set three dates this week. If everything goes right, I will become a womanizer by the end of the year. Like Bro, I literally made in this two months more progress to my goals with women than in my 26 years of existence. It's f*cking crazy. I did not expect that most of the women are really chill af😂
Don't listen to most Redpill gurus who say: "You need to be 6 feet tall, make 6-figures per year, have 6-pack abs and have a six inch dragon under your pants". I had none of the these and still managed to pull some baddies. I wish I could have found your channel sooner, but nvm I'll catch up on everything.
my man, send me an email sharing your story. absolute W
Of course, what's your email adress?
all of them!
@@shyam9853
@shyam9853 they all help pretty good. I watched 100+ of his videos in 3 months before signing up for socializer. I have 9 girls' numbers now, in only 3 months, and I'm hanging with 3 or 4 girls this week.
Fucking W@@Fenuxx911
I am oblivious the other way around lol
I assume she isnt attracted to me and is just being friendly. But then a friend will slap me in the back of my head for not asking her for her number. He told me that ever since I got fit, and got my conversation skills better, I am more attractive than I think.
Great video, wish i knew all this 40 years ago, and had passed it onto my son, better to learn late than never
I’m a woman not sure how I got here lol but I have to say that it’s not always WHAT we do, it’s HOW we do it. First: *pay attention to her eyes* , if you get out of your own head and really pay attention when you’re talking to a girl, the look in our eyes when we like you is very telling- eyes say what the mouth can’t oftentimes. There will be a kind of “sparkle” or glint in the eyes, and you’ll just *feel* a certain energy. I notice when I like a guy I usually tilt my head to the side when talking to him and kinda peer UPward at him. I also widen my eyes a bit like doe eyes-none of this is purposeful it’s just biology (Most of us do these things btw not just me) I also tend to slightly raise the pitch and soften my voice. I might not give you crazy intense eye contact bc I can get nervous, but if i look down after meeting your eyes and look a bit flushed or even embarrassed, I prob like you.. If I want to know a lot about you (even the things you think are boring) I like you. Basically: If you see a girl kinda “posing” (or her body looks kinda rigid/on alert), widening her eyes, head tilting, giving “sweet/shy” smiles, looking down and peering up at you from under her lashes, looking a bit flustered/nervous during eye contact , laughing a lot more than is appropriate, talking too loud/excited or talking too soft- these are all very positive signs.
*Knowing how to differentiate between the two can save a lot of heartache, and this video is a great guide!*
I love your videos man. No BS, straight to the point and really relatable. You are helping me out so much man, thank you!
Thoughts on the women that give indicators or interest but still reject you for some validation or ego boost? Shit is fucked up
if that happens just move on
That’s why I just wait for them to make a move atleast I know its legit that way, I’m not about to be some damn dancing monkey giving away free attention, the f*ck do I look like lol
It's called wanting attention. Move on to the next one.
It's her loss
@johnfoley4023there have been studies proving that women sometimes give out fake signals when it helps in social situations
Something that’s always bugged me: why there a 100s of videos out there trying to dissect how women think. Why aren’t they more straightforward. It’s too complicated 😂
They’re as complicated as their anatomy
Most of them play games for attention and to impress other women.
Dude you're hilarious and a great teacher. Thanks for these informative long videos.
You're hilarious man. Passing on valuable wisdom too. Great job.
Bro I've given up already. Being played with too much. I'm learning to love and appreciate myself more and take care of my own needs first and trust the universe things will work out in their own time 💯🙏🏿. Great advice
giving up is for quitters homie I hope you get back into it in the future
Thanks brother. Will get back into it. Need more self confidence and need to get my body in shape. I think because I'm the nice guy they treat me as a friend. Thanks brother for the encouragement will put it into practice
@@isaacyasiputaptake a beta blocker and approach a bad 🐩
@@Denmosocialif the universe isn’t letting him it just ain’t meant to be dude and that’s okay lol doesn’t mean he’s a quitter
@jimbofisher8904 Your comment makes literally no sense at all. do you even read the comments fully before you answer? or is this some kind of bot account?
That is the best class of my entire life ! Thank you Denmo for this video ! I like this format, very simple, without extreme montage. Just a guy, talking about relationships between men/woman. AMAZING !
glad you like this, more on the way :)
I dont know about everyone ese but THIS is the type of content Id like to see more of from you bro. Your other shit is good but very surface level self improvement stuff IMO. This is what I will binge all day long. 11/10
I enjoy this the most, definitely gonna do more
As a girl, this is actually helpful too 😂.
Absolute Gold Mine content mate!
I do cold approaches because I scared to get in awkward situation with girls I know and will contact in future (work, university, gym). Strangers on the street will just disappear from your life if you will fail approach.
not a bad idea
Generally if you are having good time with the colleagues, you can better pick up on what is meant as rejection - and to the outsider it might not seem like a rejection, that how cool it would be.
Another sign is if you’re with a friend and she approaches him while EYEING you. She’s probably a bit nervous and wants to get you into the conversation without directly approaching you.
Even if a women kisses you sits on your lap and lays on your chest. This doesn't mean she is attracted to you even if she does it several times. The evidence of her attraction is giving out her number and dating you and speaking to you out in public. Spending time with you. If she does not do that she is playing games nothing more
Let's avoid the LSE-girls.
@@adventure09 avoiding women in general is necessary if it is possible. I would rather talk to a BOT Droid then women.
now what kind of girls are you entertaining for them to do all of that without liking you?... that might be your issue💀
What about a girl at work who only talks to you when nobody else is around?
It's hard to realize this, I didn't even notice it's when happen to me. I was talking to this girl, her uni was near to my house so I went to pick her up a couple of times and take her to her Home Last time I saw her we had sex in the car. A The next day I asked her if She wanted to go diner, and she dumped me 😂. She was okay with kissing and sex in private but not okay with been seeing togehter out there
For real. I needed to hear this shit from a bro. The internet makes it seem like we all hate each other. Fuck.
Bro the boxing analogy is AGAIN fire and on point🔥🔥 you must be good at striking and grappling to make this analogies like that👍👍
haha I'm definitely better at analogies than mma 😂 but I'll keep doing em
@@Denmosocial I’m something of a martial artist myself and I think you definitely got decent form!
11:28 I feel that. In our classroom we often sat girls on one side and boys on the other (not because it was forced, but because that's how we chose to do it). And one teacher would always pair us up one from each side to "mix the groups well". I'm not sure how aware he was of what he was actually doing...
Nice work bro, thanks for the gems you dropped. Took valuable notes
- Eric the socializer
0:24 "That's what you look like", with a completely straight face. Thanks bro, preciate it, now I know why girls don't talk to me. lmao
I will admit, I sometimes still feel like an incel despite having a girlfriend, well ex girlfriend now, mainly due to not ha ing had one until late in life, probably because I feel that my 20s were a waste, didn't have a serious relationship until the beginning of my 30s.
It causes me to envy and resent couples out there younger than me, people who got to experience having a serious long-term relationship before I did and yes I know people will always say comparison is the thief of joy or don't compare yourself to others.
But I believe it's always has been and always will be part of the human psyche, been that way since the beginning of time to feel upset and depressed when you feel you are not part of the norm.
Because of that I feel like a forever permanent incel for all time, even when I did manage to get a girlfriend.
So yeah even while I did have a girlfriend, I still felt like an incel.
I don't see myself ever getting over this, it will be a pain and wound for the rest of my life.
And I'm not afraid to admit that there have been times over the years I have hated being born male, because I know I'm not the only guy in the world that has this mindset, that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction.
Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not?
Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't.
I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long.
Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction.
One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard.
So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game.
I get annoyed when people say go see a therapist because it's not like a therapist can reset my life or have me start my life all over again.
I spoke in a few other guys who feel the same way in regards to being forever angry and upset, sad, over never having had a girlfriend until later than normal, until late in life.
Probably because guys and men to learn and know all of these skills, all of these social behaviors, talk and behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk a certain way or have a certain lifestyle, have a certain body, certain income, and more than that which I either don't know or forgot.
Women are pretty much basically all set for just being born and just existing.
Because being pretty and beautiful is not a skill and it doesn't require any learning, it's not a behavior that takes training.
It just really feels me with anger and rage whenever people and Society have the mindset or still think men have it better than women do in dating or just human mating in general.
I'll never forget what one guy said and this only added fuel to fire in regards to my anger and rage about the cards on dealt with for being born male.
"Boo fucking hoo. We also don't have to go through child birth and we're strong as fuck. Testosterone gives us ambition + mental and physical strength that MANY (not all) women are lacking. Being a man has many benefits and with great power comes great responsibility. Stop crying about it and get your fucking shit together"
Let's just say that pissed me off even further, got me so mad, that its no appropriate for me to say what was going through my mind when i read that comment that pissed me off even further.
Yes I know there's no such thing as fairness but I'm not afraid to admit that over the years in my life I've hated being born a guy or I just feel that it is unfair being born a man. Yes I'm aware there's no such thing as fairness, I just get very angry and enraged whenever people and Society still think men have it better than women do.
I know I'm not alone in thinking this way in which I have the mindset in which I feel that if I was born a woman I would not have been alone or single that long.
I like to think this way and I know that a lot of people agree with this and that is being born a woman basically guarantees you will always have options because you are on the receiving end of sexual attention just for being born a woman because it's often said that women are in abundance by default but men are in scarcity by default because for all time women are the ones that get pursued and hit on or sought after or get advances made on them and when you are in that position, it means you are simply by default attractive to the other sex.
I highly doubt I'll get over this I know I will be bitter and resentful about this for the rest of my life and I will always feel like an incel despite managing to achieve some success with some girls.
I will never get over this but yeah the way it looks like is that men are the only gender that are meant to go through adversity and struggle or pain
Bro, if you really sit down to think about it, that struggle you went through kind of gave you essential life skills that helps you later. Charisma, resilience, persuasiveness, confidence etc.
@georgepanicker61916 well that's what makes me mad and angry because the way I see it or the way it looks like is that men are the only gender that have to go through struggles or adversity or hardship when it comes to getting better at interacting with or just attracting the other sex, it's like women are the reward but men have to work or do the work in order to get the reward.
Another way to put it is like, women are simply by default good with men or just good with attracting men for just being boring or just existing but men basically have to go through training or trial and error or just a learning process or go through a learning curve in order to get better with the other sex.
Yep I'm completely aware that it's just the way it is but that doesn't mean I have to like it or enjoy it, I assume you're like many men in the world who still thinks that men still have it better than women do when it comes to dating.
@@georgepanicker61916 nevertheless it still makes me angry and pissed off that I had to go through that
You might have autism or something dude 🤷♂️
@@nobodysperfect06 absolutely not lol, women are playing candy crush while men are playing dark souls. It's just these skills do pay off in many many other ways that work out for men in the long run. Even I'm angry, but the way I see it, when I reach the top, no one can shame me or cuss me out for holding any standard regardless of how hypocritical it is.
A genuine question, is the ball shaving mandatory?
Trim it, don't shave it
Nah, no-one will ever see it but you, so I wouldn't worry too much about it.
I don't really know if a girl is into me because of my traumas from the past. I got to know a nice girl, she is pretty, cute, clever and she even gave me her number. We talked really much about our hobbies and what's fantastic we like the same things. I want to go on a date with her and I'm gonna do this:)
Btw this video can't help me because I think every girl is so different but thanks for trying help us anyway ❤
She’s a human being first and foremost. One you’re attracted to, yes, and that relationship is different than an acquaintance or friend, but at the end of the day she’s an individual.
This experience is not a repudiation or confirmation of any beliefs or past experiences. It is what it is.
To quote something Stephen King said to Neil Gaiman when he was suffering from success: “This is good; enjoy it”
i think this kind of stuff is exactly what you viewers need ! :D be blessed
An hour long video on if a girl likes you or if she was just being nice. That sounds about right, I bet it still heavily relies on “it depends”
Didn't watch the video, point invalid
@@dogyourmom8531 yup what a knucle dragger lol
Man, That's some real value you're providing here. Subscribed.
A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldn't just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counsellor, and how do I reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white, and she is a great spiritual counsellor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
Your venting frustration
Very educational video for beginners & veterans. High value information in this. Love that there arent any edits
even if they're just nice to you it makes it easier to interact with women
Best comedy I've seen in a long time, I'm only 5 minutes in and I'm already tearing up laughing😂
I personally really like these long informative videos Mr.Denmo!. Also Mr.Denmo may you make a video about how your occupation, calling/purpose can make your prospects view you differently I.e. the blue collar guy, the techy, the military guy etc.
You remind me of myself in my early twenties, I pray you don't change.
Bro, just found your stuff and i think your ideas are very holistic, and wholesome. Reminds me a lot of Mark Manson’s work
nice compliment thankyou g
When they continually break the touch barrier for me it does help me too differentiate if they may be slightly interested as they went wont do that unless they are at least comfortable with you. Also when they bring up
Their private lives as well etc
Perfect timing xd, I was thinking about it 😂 thx Denmo
gotchu brother
Bro so right, confidence will get you 9s n 10n.
These days I get a girl in 3 days🎉I dnt struggle with girls
Asking “Does she like me” is like asking “Am I sober enough to drive.” If you have to ask the question, the answer is almost certainly no.
I did cold approaches, I did warm approaches. Nothing led to anything. Getting ghosted and getting left on read is today's normal case. Every girl has so many options from her work, her social media and friends group...you can be doing your dumb approaches all day long, it won't even help you. Peace out!
Understanding women is like learning Algebra. Thanks for the math lesson Jack!
Honestly, I always found that when it comes to meeting new people and forging new relationships, there are a few things that are fundamental to the process. For one, you need to be confident, not in the interaction, but in yourself and what you have to say. You also need to read the room, and roll with whatever happens. When things change direction, you move with it. And most importantly, don’t just acknowledge everything they say with a “yeah” or an “uh huh”, actually add to the conversation and present questions that encourage equal effort from both sides. Always have a good understanding of what you’re actually doing.
I can't tell the difference of when they don't want to talk and when I just need to lead the conversation more.
Could you elaborate on this at some point?
Not Denmo, but just wanted to offer some advice:
- If they don't want to talk: usually signs with body language like she's looking away or over your shoulder half the time, pretending to be interested, feet pointed in another direction, etc.
- When you need to lead the conversation more: She's more attentive but still slightly disinterested, ask her questions about her background, her goals in life, etc.
Hope that helps in a small way!
It’s interesting to watch this as a woman who tries really hard to be kind and nice to everyone. Men get the wrong idea all the time because my parents raised me to stop, take a moment, and be human with others. I think a good approach when you aren’t sure is just to try to spend time with someone as a friend with a group. It makes us feel a lot more comfortable to get to know someone a little bit without the pressure of a date. Also a good way to find out if someone is crazy without having to be alone with them. For example, you could invite someone to an evening out with your other friends. If you don’t have friends that’s step one. Honestly having friends can make more of a positive impact on your life than a girlfriend.
are you under 6'2? she's being nice.
If you have one long nose hair protruding from your nostril then she is just being nice.
stfu bro, and work on stuff you can change, no one is perfect.
@@Josh-fp2qn cope more
You believe in oofy doofy theory?
@@Josh-fp2qn i believe that she either likes you based on your looks, or she doesnt. its that simple. But your comment comes off as mocking to the original poster
Mate, I just gotta say I love your content and you’re hilarious. Good job. 👍
If a dude is attractive enough. Most women will only care about that. The same thing goes for men.
I dont know how you measure attraction... but check how many girls are single, and for how long, compared to men.
@@fattyjaybird7505 I was referring to physical attraction. So you believe what he said? Men need to be more than just physically attractive. In order for women to want them. That checks out with more men being single. But the men that are just physically attractive. Don't impact the data because those men are rare.
@roykalager2360 oh, i understand now👍i misinterpreted
@@fattyjaybird7505 Thank you for making me write it better. 😊😐😫💀
TBH this is the content I didn't know I needed right now. Thanks!
Ok, humor me this:
What if we are coworkers?
What if she's expressed all the telltale signs of interest?
Standing close to me, initiating conversation a few times, smiles and holds a gaze anytime we talk, laughs at basically everything i say and do, open body language, etc.
What if we just hit it off all the time we see each other?
She’s bored at work. First observe if she is constantly getting attention from other male co-workers and if she is then she’s just wanting to add you too her lift of orbiters.
i love the honesty you just got another subscriber
This video convinced me not to ask her out
I love the subtle joke deliveries, I had to pause the video for a good while cause I was laughing at the line: "She fixes her hair once and you're like 'ah dude she wants it up the ass from me'. Right now."😂😂
Any woman who works in service fellas im sorry to say but there's a good chance she's probably just doing her job, now. MAYBE if you catch her on a day off or something like that then you could gauge better. I've had people clown me cause I tell them situations like this and then they proceed to flame me so just keep that in mind
That's not far from the truth. Buddy of mine always thought bartenders were into him but its their literal job to be nice to customers to get tips. Although at the end of the day, sometimes you may not know?
I literally said they're doing their job... @@thelifewithnate
I think you succeeded in laying out the differences between men and women. I think the biggest problem that men are facing in the dating scene, is the desire for financial security. Nesting instinct. It has become a characiture of what it used to be. The desire for wealth and status has been nurtured to a fine point these days, and that narrow focus makes someone's world a lot smaller. Whether that be the dating world, the public space, whatever. If she _really_ likes you, she'll make the first move, you'll be in her crosshairs and there won't be any wondering about it. If the thought crosses your mind that causes doubt, you're wasting your time. If you decide to be aggressively pursuing her, she's gonna use you, get what she wants and then move on. The takeaway is don't be a shut-in. Just a nice body alone will put you in a high tier. Work on your sense of humor, even higher tier. Stop taking things that people say so seriously, even higher tier. It's been my experience (and yes I have some) that when women see something they want, they come and get it. If she's playing games, she doesn't want you, she wants something else. Probably your money. Dude here is pretty smart, but still has a lot to learn.
With the one I like I can hardly maintain eye contact xD
Jfc the lawn mower metaphor killed me. That's one thing I learned early in life, just figure out the path of least resistance with the fewest questions and then they're off!
Note to myself: Design my schedule to have a lot of "convenient" situations
I like this. saving for later
Honestly, getting into a hobby that creates these convenient situations makes this easy. I got into skating cause I love doing it. Turns out, plenty of cute women like rollerskating too and I get multiple days per week to potentially meet cool girls. If you become a regular, even better because hopefully you’ve gotten to know other regulars so you’re used to talking to people in that environment.
It is so funny when you randomly just start meme-ing doing an impression of the dude before they know better
why am i even watching this lol she clearly likes me
(she's just being nice)
Real
lol wtf is that pfp
Ironically its the girls I thought that DIDNT like me were the ones that actually liked me. I asked out some girls that gave common signs like smiling, talking close to me, leaning, etc and got friendzoned. I asked out girls that gave me cold stares and didn’t speak much and got their numbers. Its all about eye contact. Some can be shy and look away but the key is how they react. Are they blushing or are they looking away in disgust or neutral. They won’t wanna keep looking at someone thats unattractive to them.
dating someone who makes less money, less social status, and lower social class so I dont fully agree with the dating up at least for me but have seen it growing up.
You’re an angel. As a man, I don’t understand why women in general seem to want a man that other women want. If he is a good person and you think he is attractive then why not go for it no matter what anyone else thinks?
Great, detailed video. But i just dont understand how having a lot of friends makes you more attractive? if you hang out and its just you and her and you mention a lot of your friends and how great your friendships are how does it make you attractive?
It's social proof of you not being some left alone weirdo
I think that women also date up in terms of looks. Seen that happening all the time
You would too if you could.
My stepdad who is 43 told me that in Mexico when he was growing up, you see a young woman you like as a young man, you tell her you're interested, and she considers you. Basically, then if you are agreed, you move into a house together. You're essentially married. There is no dating. (I'm sure there is now dating in Mexico, and also that the upper classes had longer courtship processes.)
The biggest joke is that the video is an hour long
Every girl is just so nice at me, staring, looking, smiling at me, laughing at my jokes, yet never asking me any questions, fml. Another weird thing is that ESPECIALLY attractive ones are most friendly and smiley to me.
women base their primal attraction based on looks and height just as much as men, if not even more harshly.
then how come less than 13% of men are over 6 ft tall? Less than 44% of men have hair by age 35? How are these other dudes reproducing? This logics dumb
@@Denmosocial the fact that a woman lets someone hit when hes 35, balding and broke, doesn't mean thats her first choice. Dont make me bring up stats regarding men who are raising kids that arent theirs (without knowing too)
again you are missing the point entirely you could argue women based their primal attraction on ability to provide resources & protect (little guy with lots of stuff or big ugly guy with big stick) and this is one of those cope comments
@@Denmosocial okay, so all the poor fellas who get limb lengthening surgery just do it for fun.
Also you are missing the genetics thing altogheter. Theres kids born with down syndrome and autism. That doesnt mean women fuck men with downs syndrome and autism.
@pisk64 Oh boy you be surprised that there are women like that.
45:02 nah but the chick drama does be interesting, I really be listening like “nuh uh Becky did NOT do that” 🤣
Lol! Yess I’m a girl but usually stay to myself so when my friends tell me about the drama in their life I get so invested.
Bro made a movie on this topic
But a good movie
I just assume they all are being just nice. I remember hooking up with an employee who worked at a small place I frequent so it CAN happen and I’ve made some bros from it but it’s rare, it was an unconviental place etc.
But yeah I love this, this is helpful. I have a habit of falling for nice but at the same time I just assume they’re being just nice so it’s nice to know IF they’re interested.
It’s rare though which sucks most numbers I get or instas go nowhere :(