Dude your content actually works! There's this girl in the office where I work, and she's a real b to not just guys but people in general. This what happened: GIRL: Covers her nose with her arm she was wearing a grey jacket. And says to me, "Did you just smoke? You smell awful" ME: "Yeah I did (while looking at her in the eyes and shifted my gaze to her arm grey jacket)"Where'd you bought that jacket?" GIRL: "In a thrift store, why you gonna buy me a new one?" ME: That's a nice idea I'll buy myself first if we can go there together. GIRL: Nah, I borrowed this from (our co worker) "Ei, uhm do you think I look good in a Grey jacket?" ME: I noticed she was wearing a white hoodie underneath said Jacket. "Nah grey is cool, but you look better and comfortable in your white hoodie" GIRL: "Yeah gee thanks" makes a thumbs up gesture smiles and bows her head still smiling. Sorry this is long but goddamn if denmo doesn't work, I'm amazed and just puzzled to get this attitude woman to suddenly behave like a lady! Wow amazing man.
One thing that can help introverts at home. Every morning, set a timer for 5, 10, 15 minutes and talk nonstop for that time. For example, pick an object nearby and talk about it and let that flow into something else. This will help with the conversation part after greeting
This video really opened my eyes about a few things i’ve been doing wrong. I also started reading the book Celestial Soulmate by Lentlish, and it’s full of great advice on mindset, cold approaches, and building confidence. With the stuff i’ve learned from you and the book, i’m finally ready to take action and meet new people.
38m but in great shape. Recent breakup and naturally introverted. Been actively working on this for the last month. I've started by greeting all strangers in public giving the chance. Old, young, male, female. Most of it is just in passing with good eye contact. But greeting 10+ people while getting groceries really makes a difference. I leave the store feeling great. Still working on being more confident with women I find attractive but making progress. 2 months ago I just stayed in my head and barely spoke to anyone. Now it's not uncommon to have a small chat with whoever. Really makes life better. Ultimate goal is to cold approach very attractive women with confidence. The result doesn't matter to me as long as I can approach. That's what's most important as a man.
This is exactly what I do. I try to talk to everyone. Besides being practice for more critical engagements, it makes outings more enjoyable. We all need to just get back to organic social interactions again. These people that talk to no one then think they’ll watch videos and rizz up some baddie are like the people that buy a gun, never shoot it and then think they’ll save the day in an emergency situation. It won’t happen. Practice makes perfect.
18 never approached a girl until today it didn’t go well but I’m glad I watched this video it gave me the confidence to go approach. I’m a keep trying tomorrow
Wars have been fought for love, and love has caused many wars. I think love and war might be two sides of the same coin. It could be lighting up the same areas in our brains, lol.
I'm 27. I asked a girl for her number for the first time last week. She was working at a place I was doing a short course. She said she had a boyfriend. I kind of blurted out that I thought I would ask just because I found her beautiful before stumbling backwards while trying to appropriately say goodbye. I turned away and exited and I caught a quick glance at her stunned smile as I walked out the building. Felt kind of weightless the rest of the day.
Happened to me before but she said we could still meet for coffee so long as I didnt have any expectations, we met and she blurted out she didnt really have a bf she was just stunned/panicked. Have since incorporated it during approach, if you get the bf line again try a smile and "in case you dont really and just feel a bit put on the spot here's my details".
If a girl looks you in the eye you say Hi simple as that. Most say Hi back & the tone of her voice & whether she keeps looking at you tells you if she is interested or not. There is no harm no foul in saying hi to a girl who is already looking at you. I do it daily because they look my way & look in to my eyes. That's a good enough Go signal to say Hi. If she rejects your Hi, it was just a greeting, it's not painful. Don't be afraid to say Hi to any girl looking your way. Lots of girls are shy, so they are reticent in showing positive body language but the eyes don't lie.
I'm 23, and I've been in relationships for 6 years, and after a painful breakup I suddenly realized that I cannot approach and talk to people, that I don't have any friends left. Thank you, your videos are helpful. Tomorrow I have a day off, and I'm going to try this out. Wish me luck!
Im 23, married at 21 to the girl ive been with since 17(also my first), and about to be divorced. Safe to say i win the idiot award, and here i am getting ready to enter the market again. Luckily im still young
@@AmisCorolla no, she was extremely insecure anxious and depressed. I realized I'm not the one who can fix her or make her happy. I lost the belief that I'm the type of partner she needs
*Breaking the ice with just a simple greeting makes everything feel more relaxed. It’s nice to see a video that focuses on making connections without overcomplicating things!*
Social skills are just that, a skill. It's something that can be worked on and developed. I used to think either you got it or you don't. But just recently realized that not true. Even an extreme introvert can develop cold approach skills. Like any other skill, you do it, learn from it, then try again. This equals development & growth.
Right now, I'm 29, and I'm just taking the time to watch this video. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us and teaching us to be better than we were. You a real one, and mad respect.
The first time I asked someone out my face had to be a poem because she (my friend) thought I had a medical problem. I remember my heart thumping so hard against my chest. When I asked out my later to be girlfriend I did it over an audio message minutes after meeting with her and some other people, and it took me 20 minutes to do the audio. This sht is crazy. Back when I struggled doing presentations I had the same heart thumping, almost incapacitating issue, but it went away with practice. Normalizing asking people out is the biggest tip. Nobody should feel like they're about to die, you are just asking to meet with another human, someone who is riddled with flaws and issues, probably more than yourself.
@milansmit10 It's slightly different. Rehearse a lot and practice with someone but focus on the presentations not asking people out. I am telling you though, I was so sht at them. Never stop believing in yourself
@@milansmit10 I don't think so. Presentations and girls are different. For example, i have no problem with presentations even in front of hundreds of people but the idea of talking to a girl freaks me out. The main difference is that in the First case i'm prepared, i know what i have to say and i know that my audience is there because they want to. Talking with a girl to the street instead feels even a bit rude to me and i can't do it naturally, i also get super akward when it happens.
look i'm gonna be honest at first i felt cringe for having to watch this but then i heard the good tips and was like "damn how didn't i think of this" like this is very simple and really mostly about the self awareness and body language and environment awareness, this was really helpful the way it's done and how natural and non cringe it seems
@@marvin2678 hi there, actually it's been ups and downs, because once you know how to do it, the hard part becomes how to refrain from doing it with every interesting person you see, but i'm recently finding a middle ground and knowing how to and who to interact with, i feel better because i feel like i got this skill under control and i can use it for the right purposes and not just randomly talking to girls for fun
The older I get, the more I feel that the best advice is do whatever the fck you want. That won't get you the best results, but it will get you the best match, eventually.
The problem with a lot of guys these days is that they hide behind the "whatever the fck you want" being them avoiding the dating scene altogether. They claim it isn't worth the effort but deep down, they suffer from aiming for results instead of just naturally developing social skills to live in the moments well enough to find the person they truly connect with
This is all great advice! Generally i just make small talk with people wherever i go and half the time it's with girls. I rarely ask for numbers or anything. I just like talking to people. Something I've noticed as I've gotten older (24 now) is that a lot of girls won't even make eye contact with me. I don't know if I've gotten creepy looking in the last couple years or what, but the percentage of girls that will straight up ignore me is much higher. It sucks bc I'm not even trying to hit on them. I may just be on a walk and give them a brief smile and nod and maybe say hi. I just want to be treated like a person not a predator.
Man... I´m 16 and i wish i could have meet you before. I´m really into a girl in my class and i didn´t know how to act in front of her until i found this vídeo. Congratulations for your content, i hope you continue teaching other people how to improve their comunication skills! :)
23 and have been struggling with the crap dating pool since May 2022. This information isn't useful just for finding potential mates, but friendships/acquaintances in general. Thanks!
This insight has value even beyond the context it's being delivered in. Respecting people's boundaries and the effect of intimidation when not being conscientious and considerate enough can also be applied as a general courtesy.
I'm in my 30s and grew up learning how to interact with women from 'The Game' and using PUA tricks. It's wholesome to see the current generation understands that being geniune and authentic is a far better way to find the right girl for you. Great content
I am 19 and actually just talked to a girl who lives in the same building as I am and now we have a nice conversation evertime we see each other. I probably ask her out soon or something like that.
I'm 26. I don't know how to talk to women I like. They always put me in the friend zone and I understand it. I have things to improve. I need to know how to talk to a woman and let her know that I like her without scaring her away. Thank you Denmo!
It's about picking up cues and knowing how to approach it. It's different by person. You have to start somewhere though and get to know them first. Eventually, you'll slip in things to say that would indicate if she's interested in you. Body language is also very important too. If she is inching towards you, it's a good sign. If it's all digital though, I find the best thing is to show interest in meeting up in person as that will give you a much better shot at connecting and going the next step. Find somewhere to eat, food is always a good place to bond over for a date! You can tell a lot about the vibe from there.
55 years old, and in some shape or.form ive been doing almost exactly what Denmo is showing you. In short, its.timeless information / knowledge....Of course, you must have and/or acquire some sort of speaking skills, a little humour, a non-forced smile, and for me anyways, always look nice (put together). I am 5 foot nothing, and to this very day females are a non-issue in my life, nor have they ever, since I was 14 years old.....This basic video is straight LEGIT...!!!
I'm 19. I think I'm pretty good at approaching ladies, I have a really good social life but I just want to refresh my basics, because in everything you want to get good at, you need to master the basics first. That's how I practice guitar too
Haven’t watched a video from you in a while, needed this as i turned 28 today. This will be my age where i start approaching. Thank you for the advice!
As someone who grew up in Miami and who’s entire life has been the party scene. I forced myself to always approach woman in different ways. I’ve learned just saying a genuine “hi how are you” is all you need. But I’ll still come to videos like these because you always learn something new. Or realize something you never did before. I know guys who would be considered super chads and they too would have no problem checking out “beginner level” videos like these. So to all the men out there, don’t worry. Dont feel bad. Even the pros go back to the basics every now and then. It’s honestly the best way to improve in anything in life! Stay strong kings! 💪🏽🙏🏼
Solid advice 👍 I'm 41 but I could have really used this advice back in the day! In my youth I was the guy who could occasionally make small talk with a cute girl, within context (co-workers, friend of a friend). My faltering point was I could rarely take it to the next level and ask her out. I don't have any intention of seeking a gf these days (in short I prefer my solitude and living drama-free too much), but man, if I could turn back time...
Man, I'm not horrible with women, not amazing, and your tips are helpful/a reminder of what I should be doing, but, gotta say, you are one of the best youtube content creators/marketers I've seen, speaking wise, idea-set up wise; you combine all the impactful methods of effective communication. Just wanted to give skill respect
Total introvert and my algo has been showing me a lot of these types of vids. Made goal to say hi to one girl at the salsa club I frequent (I'm beginner salsa dancer). Ended up talking to two nice ladies and hand pleasant convos. Small sample but it's start.
47 always far too anxious to approach and talk to people, except the first time I truly did. At 24 I approached my future wife and mother of my 2 amazing children. Would've been the biggest miss of all time. Start doing this, Start young, never stop.
As a single woman this was great content I was really interested to see how men perceive this. My only comment or change in advice would be to get her number versus giving your number. I almost never want to text a guy first. I know total old school but there you have it.
Biggest thing he didnt mention is you are going to fail. Dont take it personally there are tons of reasons someone may turn you down beyond not liking you and sometimes you just aren’t that persons type. So again dont take it personally move on and try someone else. Even a blind squirrel finds a nut sometimes
This. You're gonna fail. Heck famous, rich, and well looking guys will sometimes get rejected. Why? Because the girl was too nervous and felt the guy was out of their league lol.
This seems so easy when you lay it out like this, but the first time you put it into practice, you forget how you ever had a conversation with a human before. Makes me think of my first week of sales haha
15 years old, after 1 year in the gym and maxing out my stats I forgot to socialize and actually talk to girls so now I’m behind everyone, I got this using this on my crush tomorrow wish me luck boys
Being in a good mood when you approach them is very helpful. People are smart and sense that. Question or comment about something relevant, read the response, if it’s positive then talk further. If not I move on and fast too.
Great Video man. Appreciate how you break the interaction down. I am 29 and been approaching girls for a few months regularly. Recently I felt I had a setback so your video just came as perfect inspiration. Thank you man 🙏
I am 28. The experiences I see in the comments are very relatable. I was really terrified of talking to women so I never told any girl I liked her until I was 25. I started approaching girls about a year ago. Got a few numbers and few "maybe" here and there, went on one date. It has been a slow process and I am still going through the struggles. I always have this feeling that I am not wanted when I am talking to women so I would back out of a conversation very quickly. I really appreciate you talking about you having awkward moments when you start approaching random girls. I feel like the spirit of "just talk to her" is necessary but without some understandings of why I am scared I just cant convince myself with that belief. Seeing some common experiences helps.
The stopping first idea is good. ( i already find it better if i am in a static position to begin with, and attract their attention.) But, yes, when you are still moving and they are moving it doesn't feel right, as if you're not wanting a proper interaction. If you stop, it's like a 'signal', something for them to notice. Also, it shows that they stopped to talk with you and that they are free to continue if they want.
Step one: eye contact and body language - pivot towards her and nod to her -Never jump in front of her - if walking just stand where u are = Eyes Body Distance Step two: Hi, compliment on sth she chose/ observational comment Conversation Step three Shared topics/ Claim you’re busy/ get the number Live example 10:03
I moved to Ireland from Russia, and the girls here are very nice and friendly. I usually just say something like, 'Hey, how's it going?' and that’s usually enough to start a conversation. I don’t fully understand all the cultural nuances yet, so I try to be more polite. In Russia, I was bolder and would approach girls in more complex situations, like when they were with their moms or in a group of friends. But I think I'll adapt to the local culture soon and get back to my A-game.
@@timofey1506 You should make a youtube page. Theres a Russian guy named Sanctioned Ivan he also studied in Ireland now he makes videos on Moscow and his caddilac
Well done. This explains how ive managed to attract some women because i didnt care about them so i never did the pull away or stuttered. I def cant cold approach but this has given me ideas.
My introverted ass is like “she is kinda cute, but don’t want to socialize right now.”. I am good at socializing but only when I have that switch on. Gotta do a better job keeping that switch on during the week. Not just weekends. There was a cute girl at the gym too that I’ve been talking to and was vibing with, but recently I just don’t feel like talking to anyone. Work, gym and sports are taking its toll on my joints and energy. Gonna have to take a deload week. BUT when I do have the energy, I usually have headphones on, so when I see a girl I also smile, nod, and move a bit towards her, but I also take a headphone out of my ear (I wear wired headphones, so its obvious I have them on). That is a good way to let them know I wanna say hi. Even works for me at the gym even if the other person has theirs on
27, living with my girlfriend. Wanted to gain confidence in work and with her, so spent months on the town talking to random girls and I went from totally failing to having a dude I'd just met for the first time genuinely believe that I was a professional pick up artist. Now I've learned my lessons and gained all this confidence I have a much better relationship with my girlfriend and a much better career and life.
My worst approach happened after I got off my bus and saw this gorgeous girl that also got off. I had the craziest anxiety I'd ever had but I just forced my body to turn around (she got off in the back while I got off in the front) and started talking before I had even made the full turn and looked her in the eyes. It took a second or so before she knew I talked to her and we started talking. We were both kinda in a rush to our schools and that made the whole thing feel very forced, and when she started walking away from me towards her school while still talking to me, I knew it was a miss, but I just thought "F it" and followed her like a creepy idiot and tried to close and her answer perfectly described how that whole interaction went. When I said it would be cool getting together sometime, she just said "No" and kept walking away. Better luck next time I guess
Hey. I am 26 years old and I just recently decided to forget about the dating world (never been on a date), "let go and focus on myself". I saw your video & out of curiosity, decided to watch it. It helped a lot & I'm actually considering talking to the opposite sex again. Thank you, man. Pray your channel grows.
Hey denmo im 19. I got a girlfriend thanks to your content. Really helped me understand what I was doing wrong. Especially the first date video. You’re a godsend daddy denmo
This is def the best break down of Approach I’ve seen on YT. This falls apart for me with where I live. I’m well past the days of being on a college campus where there is a high volume of ppl. Im also suspicious that when you’re younger, your eyes are attracted to more ppl. Probably some Natural Selection DNA propagation BS happen there as we age 🤬 I know I can do this, bc I’m extroverted w Approach in work settings. I won’t have any motivation to do this bc I can go MONTHS wo seeing an attractive woman where I live. I was in Nashville recently and noticed I saw 5-10 attractive women DAILY compared to other American cities I’ve lived in. Noticing this has made me joke w myself that I need to take Approach vacations to other places.
Amazing video. I'm 34. I haven't had any issues generally with women, bodycount into the triple digits and I do not complain. However, the majority of the women I've been with I met in a context which was a comfort zone for them, like in class, at some workplace, or better yet in hobby-related contexts like choirs in my case (by the way, imo important advice, start there if you have any such environments at hand). I realized that recently when I started work in a new city, where I am now older and all the woman colleagues are in a couple with/without kids: if I need to meet women there, I'm gonna need to do the kind of cold approaches Jack is talking about. While I can instinctively relate to most of Jack's tips already, it's still very nice to have a listen to get into the groove again. And it's very well presented and explained. Huge kudos, videos like this do the Lord's work (I'm an atheist but it has a nice ring to it). Maybe just an addition, as a step 0 before doing interactions - I'm sure Jack has a video on that as well - build your confidence and appearance. Most of us will not have the looks that in and of itself attracts a woman, you know the greek god shit. I sure as hell don't, I'm reasonably tall but a skinny runner and with a nerdy face. But we can all get into some fundamental shape and dress decently (tricky part for some of us - no investment banker suit, just something that is put together and you think is fun or nice to wear - ask for an outside perspective preferably from a sister or female friend if you have one). Maybe a bit obvious, but just thought I'd note it for the record.
Wow. I’m ten years older than you and I’ve never met 100 girls in my entire life that I trust well enough to sleep with. There’s just way too many crazy women out there.
There is no success without sacrifice. That's what the book called 'Casanova: The Path To Success' taught me. Since I read that book I only think about money, fame and success. And you know what, every girl like those things. And the best thing is that writer gives key tips about every aspect of man's life: relationships, dating life, fashion, grooming, modern masculinity, success... It was like mind-opening experience for me and the best thing is that is a very short read.
18. Man the point with the compliment hit hard for me. I was always thinking about what you mentioned. If someone has a nice face or eyes they didn't do anything to get that. They were born that way. But if you go for their Hair (styled up) or their outfit or maybe even asking them if they work out, that is the type of approach I was looking for. Thanks a lot for this video. Saved and will check out your other content as well even though I am not your client Avatar. IYKYK
I watched your content an Year ago, I was a massive Introvert. Now I can approach people, Talk or negotiate well with a stranger and massive more things. Its one of the massive skills I would recommend a man!
Piano. Jack, I've been doing the, hey I had to come say hi because I think you're cute approach. Thanks for this new approach style that is way more chill and casual. I'm definitely going to watch this multiple times until I start using it. By the way, I made an approach spreadsheet because you said so. My goal is 2 approaches a week to start. Perfect timing for this video to drop. Thanks Jack. I appreciate you.
The “cute” opener is bad. It lowers your value instantly and put you in the “seller” position as if you’re trying to sell her something. Situational and indirect is best. Doesn’t make the approach tense and she’s not thinking “I hope he doesn’t ask for my number, since I don’t know him yet or know if he’s even a normal dude”.
@@sfrealestatedealmaker6001instead of saying "you are cute" make it a compliment about her hair style, makeup, outfit, or something. Something she actively did to make herself stand out. Cute approach can definitely work too but she has to naturally find you a bit attractive already to get her engaged. Or else girls may find it "creepy"
27, I know how to talk to strangers but I watch these videos to get new ideas and yours are solid, no cringe I used to be alright with girls in hs and college, life got really ugly when I was 22-23, didn't know if I'd make it here alive. Doing better now and getting back in the game
I get to the compliment with either a very nice smiling/positive vibe back and then ruin by running away before I can start the conversation as I didn't think I get that far
They are at all ages… the sooner you start to loose fear the better… or you’ll be scared forever. I’m 35 and I’m still like that unfortunately 🥲🥲 good luck my guy.
Thank you algorithm for showing me this and thank YOU Denmo for making wholesome content like this! Not gonna buy your stuff but I love your energy and your approach on this subject. Nice to share this energy when so much of these so called "pick-up artists" are out there treating women like trash. Keep up the good content
Start socializing bro. You got this www.socializer.school
Dude your content actually works! There's this girl in the office where I work, and she's a real b to not just guys but people in general. This what happened: GIRL: Covers her nose with her arm she was wearing a grey jacket. And says to me, "Did you just smoke? You smell awful"
ME: "Yeah I did (while looking at her in the eyes and shifted my gaze to her arm grey jacket)"Where'd you bought that jacket?"
GIRL: "In a thrift store, why you gonna buy me a new one?"
ME: That's a nice idea I'll buy myself first if we can go there together.
GIRL: Nah, I borrowed this from (our co worker) "Ei, uhm do you think I look good in a Grey jacket?"
ME: I noticed she was wearing a white hoodie underneath said Jacket. "Nah grey is cool, but you look better and comfortable in your white hoodie"
GIRL: "Yeah gee thanks" makes a thumbs up gesture smiles and bows her head still smiling.
Sorry this is long but goddamn if denmo doesn't work, I'm amazed and just puzzled to get this attitude woman to suddenly behave like a lady! Wow amazing man.
1 focus that has literally gotten me threeways . It works with every girl
Woman are the choosers, not men.
@gregorykelly8000 why do you think they choose me over you?
@joshcraddock6109 they reward Liars that tell them white lies. They are taught to believe and not taught to seek truth.
The older brother we didn’t ask for nor deserved but was given to us. Solid advice fr.
glad it helped G
more like daddy denmo but yeah
I have two older brothers. They never had girlfriends and never talked about girls, so i couldn't learn anything from them !
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@@mariozerrini1408 what u say
Every encounter with a women is a series of skill checks, and you just gave me an astral knowledge buff
cheers man
what the fuck its not that deep, we are not fucking aliens just be a decent human being with self-worth
whole ass quick time event lol
But if she vax
25 and learning how to return to the world of dating, 14 months sober and no clue how to talk to women without being a drunk. This is great.
Proud of u, my guy.
I'm 25 too haha
Same here. I feel like Ive wasted half of my 20s. Peaked in high school and fell of a cliff during the ideal time to date/socialize. Time to comeback.
Congrats brother. 15 months here, 32 days off the green grass
Glad to hear you recovered. Stay clean.
One thing that can help introverts at home. Every morning, set a timer for 5, 10, 15 minutes and talk nonstop for that time. For example, pick an object nearby and talk about it and let that flow into something else. This will help with the conversation part after greeting
Bro turned this into a science class. It was valuable, you did not waste my time. Solid advice bro.
hope it helped you G
@@Denmosocial looks great. Do u also do this for older women, not just college students who havnt refined their guards yet.
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Hey I'm 29 and I just realized I need help. Thank you for talking to me like a person and not victim
Just do it, most women are trash. If she rejects you, without missing a beat turn your head and talk to the next one.
thanks for saying that- I agree, most men are treated like victims on YT lol
heck I'm 40 and need help.
@@Denmosocialred pill has its toxic side for sure
Rooting for you bro
This video really opened my eyes about a few things i’ve been doing wrong.
I also started reading the book Celestial Soulmate by Lentlish, and it’s full of great advice on mindset, cold approaches, and building confidence.
With the stuff i’ve learned from you and the book, i’m finally ready to take action and meet new people.
I've got the book now, and I really like what I've read so far. Thanks for recommending it!
38m but in great shape. Recent breakup and naturally introverted. Been actively working on this for the last month. I've started by greeting all strangers in public giving the chance. Old, young, male, female. Most of it is just in passing with good eye contact. But greeting 10+ people while getting groceries really makes a difference. I leave the store feeling great. Still working on being more confident with women I find attractive but making progress. 2 months ago I just stayed in my head and barely spoke to anyone. Now it's not uncommon to have a small chat with whoever. Really makes life better. Ultimate goal is to cold approach very attractive women with confidence. The result doesn't matter to me as long as I can approach. That's what's most important as a man.
This is the way. 👍
This is exactly what I do. I try to talk to everyone. Besides being practice for more critical engagements, it makes outings more enjoyable. We all need to just get back to organic social interactions again. These people that talk to no one then think they’ll watch videos and rizz up some baddie are like the people that buy a gun, never shoot it and then think they’ll save the day in an emergency situation. It won’t happen. Practice makes perfect.
18 never approached a girl until today it didn’t go well but I’m glad I watched this video it gave me the confidence to go approach. I’m a keep trying tomorrow
Great job lil bro, just go at it again and you'll master it in 10 years or something with occasional success along the way
@skyking6989 you're right hehe, in most cases it won't bear fruit. But it's great practice
58 and never did it
Im not trying to be like you
@@DavidG2P I'm might sound like I'm joking but no cap that just gave me a reason why I need to approach girls
Thousands of years ago we strategize to win battles, today we strategize to win a heart
real asf
Wars have been fought for love, and love has caused many wars. I think love and war might be two sides of the same coin. It could be lighting up the same areas in our brains, lol.
Well said@@gokulhemanthkumar4556
Exactly why the phrase is "all's fair in love and war" - to men these are to be taken equally seriously
I don't know, isn't the heart just another battle at the end of the day?
"Guys gotta De Vinci this shit on a whiteboard" had me laughing so hard 😂
its true man dudes need this extra help haha
hell yeah
@@Denmosocialwere arguably just underdeveloped monkeys
Way too true, hahaha
I'm 27. I asked a girl for her number for the first time last week. She was working at a place I was doing a short course. She said she had a boyfriend. I kind of blurted out that I thought I would ask just because I found her beautiful before stumbling backwards while trying to appropriately say goodbye. I turned away and exited and I caught a quick glance at her stunned smile as I walked out the building. Felt kind of weightless the rest of the day.
good man keep it up
Happened to me before but she said we could still meet for coffee so long as I didnt have any expectations, we met and she blurted out she didnt really have a bf she was just stunned/panicked.
Have since incorporated it during approach, if you get the bf line again try a smile and "in case you dont really and just feel a bit put on the spot here's my details".
Yes!! Well done. I also asked a girl out and was denied, very gently and felt great for a couple of days ago - Just because I took the chance.
Good Job buddy
😂being white and clean looking is 99% of that battle.
The fact that nobody talks about the forbidden book Flirtosphere Seduction on Vexoner speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance
If a girl looks you in the eye you say Hi simple as that. Most say Hi back & the tone of her voice & whether she keeps looking at you tells you if she is interested or not. There is no harm no foul in saying hi to a girl who is already looking at you. I do it daily because they look my way & look in to my eyes. That's a good enough Go signal to say Hi. If she rejects your Hi, it was just a greeting, it's not painful. Don't be afraid to say Hi to any girl looking your way. Lots of girls are shy, so they are reticent in showing positive body language but the eyes don't lie.
Issue is many girls are too shy to even make eye contact
What also helps is making small talk with strangers. Helps ease out the tension at least for me IMO
true, talking with the most strangers you can when you go out helps, no matter their age or gender.
absolutely
I used to chat up homeless ppl on the way to the bar/cub when I was younger to ease me into the vibe of talking to strangers lmao
I got a job as a server with absolutely zero experience it’s been a week and I’m already so much better at talking to people it’s crazy
@@samuel9294 I do that and yet I'm horrible/can't even engage in a conversation with a random woman..
"Purple hair. I don't know you. BUT. I want to." Perfect 👌
I'm 23, and I've been in relationships for 6 years, and after a painful breakup I suddenly realized that I cannot approach and talk to people, that I don't have any friends left. Thank you, your videos are helpful. Tomorrow I have a day off, and I'm going to try this out. Wish me luck!
We need an update bro!
Im 23, married at 21 to the girl ive been with since 17(also my first), and about to be divorced. Safe to say i win the idiot award, and here i am getting ready to enter the market again. Luckily im still young
How much alomony and child support you have to pay every month? Your life could very well be over
@@retributionbyrevenue3703 1500 a month, my life ain't over bro relax🤣
Chill brother@@retributionbyrevenue3703
Did she get bored? Did she say "I want to live my youth"
@@AmisCorolla no, she was extremely insecure anxious and depressed. I realized I'm not the one who can fix her or make her happy. I lost the belief that I'm the type of partner she needs
Not even a little in need of this info but I appreciate that you are able to get out and show this in a world of hurting men.
*Breaking the ice with just a simple greeting makes everything feel more relaxed. It’s nice to see a video that focuses on making connections without overcomplicating things!*
I'm 47 & still learning the art of picking up woman... it's a constant battle!!!
Keep up the good work!
Good work bro, you look way younger
@@ΜάρκοςΣουχλακης thx bro, massive amounts of testosterone 😉 j.k(lol)
You shouldn't either be "picking up" woman, nor is it a battle. Your mindset makes your dating life unnecessary difficult.
You look too great to be 47
Social skills are just that, a skill. It's something that can be worked on and developed. I used to think either you got it or you don't. But just recently realized that not true. Even an extreme introvert can develop cold approach skills. Like any other skill, you do it, learn from it, then try again. This equals development & growth.
jack has broken this shit down to science
Right now, I'm 29, and I'm just taking the time to watch this video. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us and teaching us to be better than we were.
You a real one, and mad respect.
I am 49 years old and totally agree with his advice.
The first time I asked someone out my face had to be a poem because she (my friend) thought I had a medical problem. I remember my heart thumping so hard against my chest. When I asked out my later to be girlfriend I did it over an audio message minutes after meeting with her and some other people, and it took me 20 minutes to do the audio.
This sht is crazy. Back when I struggled doing presentations I had the same heart thumping, almost incapacitating issue, but it went away with practice. Normalizing asking people out is the biggest tip. Nobody should feel like they're about to die, you are just asking to meet with another human, someone who is riddled with flaws and issues, probably more than yourself.
I have Anxiety for presentations, do you think that approaching women would help me overcoming my presentation anxiety?
@milansmit10 It's slightly different. Rehearse a lot and practice with someone but focus on the presentations not asking people out. I am telling you though, I was so sht at them. Never stop believing in yourself
@@milansmit10it 100% won't make it worse 😂
@@milansmit10 I don't think so. Presentations and girls are different. For example, i have no problem with presentations even in front of hundreds of people but the idea of talking to a girl freaks me out.
The main difference is that in the First case i'm prepared, i know what i have to say and i know that my audience is there because they want to.
Talking with a girl to the street instead feels even a bit rude to me and i can't do it naturally, i also get super akward when it happens.
This video should have 2 million views. Quality advice, detailed breakdown, live examples.
look i'm gonna be honest at first i felt cringe for having to watch this but then i heard the good tips and was like "damn how didn't i think of this" like this is very simple and really mostly about the self awareness and body language and environment awareness, this was really helpful the way it's done and how natural and non cringe it seems
Hows it going ?
@@marvin2678 hi there, actually it's been ups and downs, because once you know how to do it, the hard part becomes how to refrain from doing it with every interesting person you see, but i'm recently finding a middle ground and knowing how to and who to interact with, i feel better because i feel like i got this skill under control and i can use it for the right purposes and not just randomly talking to girls for fun
I appreciate the 29-min explanation of how to say hi
The older I get, the more I feel that the best advice is do whatever the fck you want. That won't get you the best results, but it will get you the best match, eventually.
The problem with a lot of guys these days is that they hide behind the "whatever the fck you want" being them avoiding the dating scene altogether. They claim it isn't worth the effort but deep down, they suffer from aiming for results instead of just naturally developing social skills to live in the moments well enough to find the person they truly connect with
"I don't know you but I want to" lol the silver bullet line I think I needed. Also the most obvious. Which makes this comedic to me haha.
These vids provide so much more value than your prank vids and the fact that these get much less views on average says a lot about people
How amazing is it that this information needs to be laid out to guys like it’s unobtainium
This is all great advice! Generally i just make small talk with people wherever i go and half the time it's with girls. I rarely ask for numbers or anything. I just like talking to people.
Something I've noticed as I've gotten older (24 now) is that a lot of girls won't even make eye contact with me. I don't know if I've gotten creepy looking in the last couple years or what, but the percentage of girls that will straight up ignore me is much higher. It sucks bc I'm not even trying to hit on them. I may just be on a walk and give them a brief smile and nod and maybe say hi.
I just want to be treated like a person not a predator.
Man... I´m 16 and i wish i could have meet you before. I´m really into a girl in my class and i didn´t know how to act in front of her until i found this vídeo. Congratulations for your content, i hope you continue teaching other people how to improve their comunication skills! :)
Did it work?
23 and have been struggling with the crap dating pool since May 2022. This information isn't useful just for finding potential mates, but friendships/acquaintances in general. Thanks!
This insight has value even beyond the context it's being delivered in. Respecting people's boundaries and the effect of intimidation when not being conscientious and considerate enough can also be applied as a general courtesy.
I'm in my 30s and grew up learning how to interact with women from 'The Game' and using PUA tricks. It's wholesome to see the current generation understands that being geniune and authentic is a far better way to find the right girl for you. Great content
I am 19 and actually just talked to a girl who lives in the same building as I am and now we have a nice conversation evertime we see each other. I probably ask her out soon or something like that.
How did it go bro 😎? Did you asked her out ?
I'm 26. I don't know how to talk to women I like. They always put me in the friend zone and I understand it. I have things to improve. I need to know how to talk to a woman and let her know that I like her without scaring her away. Thank you Denmo!
1. Focus on improving those things you acknowledge
2. Get used to starting up conversation with people in general
It's about picking up cues and knowing how to approach it. It's different by person. You have to start somewhere though and get to know them first. Eventually, you'll slip in things to say that would indicate if she's interested in you. Body language is also very important too. If she is inching towards you, it's a good sign. If it's all digital though, I find the best thing is to show interest in meeting up in person as that will give you a much better shot at connecting and going the next step. Find somewhere to eat, food is always a good place to bond over for a date! You can tell a lot about the vibe from there.
55 years old, and in some shape or.form ive been doing almost exactly what Denmo is showing you. In short, its.timeless information / knowledge....Of course, you must have and/or acquire some sort of speaking skills, a little humour, a non-forced smile, and for me anyways, always look nice (put together). I am 5 foot nothing, and to this very day females are a non-issue in my life, nor have they ever, since I was 14 years old.....This basic video is straight LEGIT...!!!
This is actually some of the best advice I’ve come across on this
25 years. Funny asf. Adding more clips in new videos please😂. Very practical
I'm 19. I think I'm pretty good at approaching ladies, I have a really good social life but I just want to refresh my basics, because in everything you want to get good at, you need to master the basics first. That's how I practice guitar too
Haven’t watched a video from you in a while, needed this as i turned 28 today. This will be my age where i start approaching. Thank you for the advice!
happy birthday my man
did you make any progress fellow 28y person?
Dude that is the single most best video. It is simple easy to follow and effective. It just points out what you should normally do.
Glad it helped!
7min into this video and i already wish i saw this 7 years ago, you explain things very well
As someone who grew up in Miami and who’s entire life has been the party scene. I forced myself to always approach woman in different ways. I’ve learned just saying a genuine “hi how are you” is all you need. But I’ll still come to videos like these because you always learn something new. Or realize something you never did before. I know guys who would be considered super chads and they too would have no problem checking out “beginner level” videos like these. So to all the men out there, don’t worry. Dont feel bad. Even the pros go back to the basics every now and then. It’s honestly the best way to improve in anything in life! Stay strong kings! 💪🏽🙏🏼
That's it! We all just need to picture ourselves as kings...then all the awkward social anxiety melts away 💪👑
Solid advice 👍 I'm 41 but I could have really used this advice back in the day!
In my youth I was the guy who could occasionally make small talk with a cute girl, within context (co-workers, friend of a friend). My faltering point was I could rarely take it to the next level and ask her out.
I don't have any intention of seeking a gf these days (in short I prefer my solitude and living drama-free too much), but man, if I could turn back time...
Man, I'm not horrible with women, not amazing, and your tips are helpful/a reminder of what I should be doing, but, gotta say, you are one of the best youtube content creators/marketers I've seen, speaking wise, idea-set up wise; you combine all the impactful methods of effective communication.
Just wanted to give skill respect
Total introvert and my algo has been showing me a lot of these types of vids. Made goal to say hi to one girl at the salsa club I frequent (I'm beginner salsa dancer). Ended up talking to two nice ladies and hand pleasant convos. Small sample but it's start.
good man, keep it up
47 always far too anxious to approach and talk to people, except the first time I truly did.
At 24 I approached my future wife and mother of my 2 amazing children.
Would've been the biggest miss of all time.
Start doing this, Start young, never stop.
Low-key you look and talk like Mr. Beast. Appreciate you bruh
glad i wasn’t the only one thinking that 😂
As a single woman this was great content I was really interested to see how men perceive this. My only comment or change in advice would be to get her number versus giving your number. I almost never want to text a guy first. I know total old school but there you have it.
Biggest thing he didnt mention is you are going to fail. Dont take it personally there are tons of reasons someone may turn you down beyond not liking you and sometimes you just aren’t that persons type. So again dont take it personally move on and try someone else. Even a blind squirrel finds a nut sometimes
This. You're gonna fail. Heck famous, rich, and well looking guys will sometimes get rejected. Why? Because the girl was too nervous and felt the guy was out of their league lol.
This seems so easy when you lay it out like this, but the first time you put it into practice, you forget how you ever had a conversation with a human before. Makes me think of my first week of sales haha
15 years old, after 1 year in the gym and maxing out my stats I forgot to socialize and actually talk to girls so now I’m behind everyone, I got this using this on my crush tomorrow wish me luck boys
How did it go??
@@dragonz7733soft rejected
You can't leave us hanging now dude how did it go?
@@dragonz7733 she gave me her insta but didn’t follow me back
@@doctor_alfa gave me her insta but didn’t follow me back
Being in a good mood when you approach them is very helpful. People are smart and sense that. Question or comment about something relevant, read the response, if it’s positive then talk further. If not I move on and fast too.
To me personally the "hey we don't know each other, but I want to know you" would totally get me.
when the guy is not ugly as a car accident most things works.
@@samuel9294 LMAO that got me( pause)
@@samuel9294brother, I see it like this.
Think of the interaction like a mirror.
Long as you are courteous, they will do the same.
@@samuel9294 😂😂😂😂
@@samuel9294LMAO no chance for me then ig
Great Video man. Appreciate how you break the interaction down. I am 29 and been approaching girls for a few months regularly. Recently I felt I had a setback so your video just came as perfect inspiration.
Thank you man 🙏
I am 28. The experiences I see in the comments are very relatable. I was really terrified of talking to women so I never told any girl I liked her until I was 25. I started approaching girls about a year ago. Got a few numbers and few "maybe" here and there, went on one date. It has been a slow process and I am still going through the struggles. I always have this feeling that I am not wanted when I am talking to women so I would back out of a conversation very quickly. I really appreciate you talking about you having awkward moments when you start approaching random girls. I feel like the spirit of "just talk to her" is necessary but without some understandings of why I am scared I just cant convince myself with that belief. Seeing some common experiences helps.
The stopping first idea is good. ( i already find it better if i am in a static position to begin with, and attract their attention.) But, yes, when you are still moving and they are moving it doesn't feel right, as if you're not wanting a proper interaction. If you stop, it's like a 'signal', something for them to notice. Also, it shows that they stopped to talk with you and that they are free to continue if they want.
Step one: eye contact and body language
- pivot towards her and nod to her
-Never jump in front of her
- if walking just stand where u are
= Eyes Body Distance
Step two:
Hi, compliment on sth she chose/ observational comment
Conversation
Step three
Shared topics/ Claim you’re busy/ get the number
Live example
10:03
I need another full video about conversation during the hangout, how to connect with people, etc
I did it yesterday and now I get recommended this video
I moved to Ireland from Russia, and the girls here are very nice and friendly. I usually just say something like, 'Hey, how's it going?' and that’s usually enough to start a conversation. I don’t fully understand all the cultural nuances yet, so I try to be more polite. In Russia, I was bolder and would approach girls in more complex situations, like when they were with their moms or in a group of friends. But I think I'll adapt to the local culture soon and get back to my A-game.
How did you move to Ireland? was it to study?
@@harryofbc9942 yes
@@timofey1506 You should make a youtube page. Theres a Russian guy named Sanctioned Ivan he also studied in Ireland now he makes videos on Moscow and his caddilac
Well done. This explains how ive managed to attract some women because i didnt care about them so i never did the pull away or stuttered. I def cant cold approach but this has given me ideas.
My introverted ass is like “she is kinda cute, but don’t want to socialize right now.”. I am good at socializing but only when I have that switch on. Gotta do a better job keeping that switch on during the week. Not just weekends. There was a cute girl at the gym too that I’ve been talking to and was vibing with, but recently I just don’t feel like talking to anyone. Work, gym and sports are taking its toll on my joints and energy. Gonna have to take a deload week. BUT when I do have the energy, I usually have headphones on, so when I see a girl I also smile, nod, and move a bit towards her, but I also take a headphone out of my ear (I wear wired headphones, so its obvious I have them on). That is a good way to let them know I wanna say hi. Even works for me at the gym even if the other person has theirs on
I'm 32 and feel like an alien trying to understand approaching humans I don't know. But this is great.
My issue in general is keeping the flow of a conversation going, I can go up to anyone it's just keeping the convo going that's hard
There’s a lot of good yt vids on those
I have many videos on this. You can join my program if you need more direct help
Same here, I have enough confidence to ask a girl's phone number but I can't continue the conversation
@@helloworld2054 Joe Rogan is good at it on his podcast, look up videos on his techniques
@@helloworld2054Stalling out is the worst 😂😂 gawdddd
27, living with my girlfriend.
Wanted to gain confidence in work and with her, so spent months on the town talking to random girls and I went from totally failing to having a dude I'd just met for the first time genuinely believe that I was a professional pick up artist.
Now I've learned my lessons and gained all this confidence I have a much better relationship with my girlfriend and a much better career and life.
My worst approach happened after I got off my bus and saw this gorgeous girl that also got off. I had the craziest anxiety I'd ever had but I just forced my body to turn around (she got off in the back while I got off in the front) and started talking before I had even made the full turn and looked her in the eyes. It took a second or so before she knew I talked to her and we started talking. We were both kinda in a rush to our schools and that made the whole thing feel very forced, and when she started walking away from me towards her school while still talking to me, I knew it was a miss, but I just thought "F it" and followed her like a creepy idiot and tried to close and her answer perfectly described how that whole interaction went. When I said it would be cool getting together sometime, she just said "No" and kept walking away.
Better luck next time I guess
kudos to you for doing it anyways, it takes a lot bro.
What matters is that you tried and probably learnt something from this experience. Keep it going!
Needed this man, thank you! About to go to university wish me luck 🙏🏽
Bro plays woman like a piano, no fr man you helped me alot thank you. I'm 21 and still learn many new things from your content
Hey. I am 26 years old and I just recently decided to forget about the dating world (never been on a date), "let go and focus on myself". I saw your video & out of curiosity, decided to watch it. It helped a lot & I'm actually considering talking to the opposite sex again. Thank you, man. Pray your channel grows.
Hey denmo im 19. I got a girlfriend thanks to your content. Really helped me understand what I was doing wrong. Especially the first date video. You’re a godsend daddy denmo
Bro he's so right. 90% of my day game is his first 8 minutes
8 days short of 23. Definitely need to start approaching girls now that I've got my life a bit more together.
This is def the best break down of Approach I’ve seen on YT. This falls apart for me with where I live. I’m well past the days of being on a college campus where there is a high volume of ppl. Im also suspicious that when you’re younger, your eyes are attracted to more ppl. Probably some Natural Selection DNA propagation BS happen there as we age 🤬 I know I can do this, bc I’m extroverted w Approach in work settings. I won’t have any motivation to do this bc I can go MONTHS wo seeing an attractive woman where I live. I was in Nashville recently and noticed I saw 5-10 attractive women DAILY compared to other American cities I’ve lived in. Noticing this has made me joke w myself that I need to take Approach vacations to other places.
25 and if I saw this video yesterday that would've made my day to encourage me to take action lmao. Literally saw the most gorgeous girl in ages
Amazing video. I'm 34. I haven't had any issues generally with women, bodycount into the triple digits and I do not complain. However, the majority of the women I've been with I met in a context which was a comfort zone for them, like in class, at some workplace, or better yet in hobby-related contexts like choirs in my case (by the way, imo important advice, start there if you have any such environments at hand). I realized that recently when I started work in a new city, where I am now older and all the woman colleagues are in a couple with/without kids: if I need to meet women there, I'm gonna need to do the kind of cold approaches Jack is talking about. While I can instinctively relate to most of Jack's tips already, it's still very nice to have a listen to get into the groove again. And it's very well presented and explained. Huge kudos, videos like this do the Lord's work (I'm an atheist but it has a nice ring to it).
Maybe just an addition, as a step 0 before doing interactions - I'm sure Jack has a video on that as well - build your confidence and appearance. Most of us will not have the looks that in and of itself attracts a woman, you know the greek god shit. I sure as hell don't, I'm reasonably tall but a skinny runner and with a nerdy face. But we can all get into some fundamental shape and dress decently (tricky part for some of us - no investment banker suit, just something that is put together and you think is fun or nice to wear - ask for an outside perspective preferably from a sister or female friend if you have one). Maybe a bit obvious, but just thought I'd note it for the record.
Wow. I’m ten years older than you and I’ve never met 100 girls in my entire life that I trust well enough to sleep with. There’s just way too many crazy women out there.
Please do share more tips with us dawg
Luv how Jack talks from experience
There is no success without sacrifice. That's what the book called 'Casanova: The Path To Success' taught me. Since I read that book I only think about money, fame and success. And you know what, every girl like those things. And the best thing is that writer gives key tips about every aspect of man's life: relationships, dating life, fashion, grooming, modern masculinity, success... It was like mind-opening experience for me and the best thing is that is a very short read.
😂🤓
sure buddy
Seens an Interesting book
What is with these Casanova spammers?
don't forget about family and spiritual life
18. Man the point with the compliment hit hard for me. I was always thinking about what you mentioned. If someone has a nice face or eyes they didn't do anything to get that. They were born that way. But if you go for their Hair (styled up) or their outfit or maybe even asking them if they work out, that is the type of approach I was looking for.
Thanks a lot for this video. Saved and will check out your other content as well even though I am not your client Avatar. IYKYK
Mrbeast giving the best advice
finally someone talking in such detail how to approach . great video!
I watched your content an Year ago, I was a massive Introvert. Now I can approach people, Talk or negotiate well with a stranger and massive more things. Its one of the massive skills I would recommend a man!
awesome man! Send me an email giving me more details of your story
I saved this video because I know how incredibly helpful it is. Thank you so much, big brother!
Piano. Jack, I've been doing the, hey I had to come say hi because I think you're cute approach. Thanks for this new approach style that is way more chill and casual. I'm definitely going to watch this multiple times until I start using it. By the way, I made an approach spreadsheet because you said so. My goal is 2 approaches a week to start. Perfect timing for this video to drop. Thanks Jack. I appreciate you.
The “cute” opener is bad. It lowers your value instantly and put you in the “seller” position as if you’re trying to sell her something.
Situational and indirect is best. Doesn’t make the approach tense and she’s not thinking “I hope he doesn’t ask for my number, since I don’t know him yet or know if he’s even a normal dude”.
@@sfrealestatedealmaker6001instead of saying "you are cute" make it a compliment about her hair style, makeup, outfit, or something. Something she actively did to make herself stand out. Cute approach can definitely work too but she has to naturally find you a bit attractive already to get her engaged. Or else girls may find it "creepy"
im 25, girl sober for 3 years after getting my soul torn out, for anyone reading this i believe in you
27, I know how to talk to strangers but I watch these videos to get new ideas and yours are solid, no cringe
I used to be alright with girls in hs and college, life got really ugly when I was 22-23, didn't know if I'd make it here alive. Doing better now and getting back in the game
same bro, with 25 went into prison for almost 3 years and was addicted to opioid. but now I am on the way to change my life
I get to the compliment with either a very nice smiling/positive vibe back and then ruin by running away before I can start the conversation as I didn't think I get that far
im 15, nearly 16 and im fucking terrified. I deadass do NOT know what to do. I feel like girls at this age are a fucking scary nightmare
They are at all ages… the sooner you start to loose fear the better… or you’ll be scared forever. I’m 35 and I’m still like that unfortunately 🥲🥲 good luck my guy.
They only get worse when they’re older. 😂
@@MrTchupam thanks man.
@@scoobydoo5447 oh boy 😂😂
18 and man the girls my age are something indeed@@scoobydoo5447
26:05 in russia it's apparently seen as harassment/a form of intimacy to smile at people they dont know, thats why they have rbf's
Thank you algorithm for showing me this and thank YOU Denmo for making wholesome content like this! Not gonna buy your stuff but I love your energy and your approach on this subject. Nice to share this energy when so much of these so called "pick-up artists" are out there treating women like trash. Keep up the good content
Good stuff, specially for guys in 20s 30s…I’m 64. btw NEVER EVER do online dating!!!!
The punch line "The guys need Da Vinci code..." got me so hard I had to repeat next 5 minutes few times. 😂
11:01 I just start by asking if they know Thomas and I tell them I don't know him either, but what's your name😂
1:30 ‘I did it enough times and became good at it’. End of the video 🤗 That’s the real tip.