TCAV TV: You're not Tough - Story 21
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- Опубликовано: 4 окт 2024
- The path from jail, to United States Navy SEAL, back to jail, kicked out of the United States Military, to joining the French Foreign Legion.
The wise learn from the mistakes of others. Listen and understand so you don't have to learn the hard way.
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The only tough guy I've ever known was my grandfather. He spent 47 years underground mining gold under horrifying working conditions to support his family.
I served in the Marine Corps, Army, Federal Bureau of Prisons, and State Department of Corrections. I learned early on in life that I’m not tough. I just survived every challenge put in front of me. Nothing special or remarkable. Another fantastic and real talk. Respect Brother!
What did you do in the Marines and Army? I always like hearing about Marines transitioning to the Army
Lifelong Marine here, combat retired (IED) nice to see another guy fighting that ego. Nice to be a lucky SOB, harder to realize it. Be safe brother
Edit- were it not for my brothers, I would be nothing. Nothing is more important then the team. I tried joining a couple departments, local sheriffs ect, never stayed more than a year. Too many fat lazy people who don’t even know if they are boys or girls…
I was a Deputy Sheriff in Florida for ten years, and I so feel you. Most of my co-workers had little pee-pee syndrome. They always used to beat on the vets during FTO to prove how tough they were. Wannabees! @@WilliamRepsher
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I worked in Corrections - the tough guys / the real killers were quiet 🤫
The toughest guy I ever met was a pulmonary patient in a Chicago hospital in the early nineties. He was almost 80 years old, 76 If I recall. He had was German, had fought at the Eastern front was at Stalingrad and was flown out on one of the last planes out. He had walked 10miles to the airfields with a bullet that had penetrated his cheek and came out the other side. He was in hospital in Germany and recovered and sent to the West to fight the Allies ending up at Normandy. He was actually a paratrooper but said he had only one combat jump in the war in Greece, but by the end of the war the Luftwaffe didn't have any planes left or very little. He was captured by American troops at D-Day number 7. We developed a great friendship. The guy spoke perfect English and ended up moving to Detroit after the war working in the Engineering field for the car industry. This dude was a complete badass and emitted a glowing personality. His wife said he liked me because I was well mannered and quiet and carried myself like a soldier. The stories this guy would tell were really extraordinary. His wife was actually tearing up during one of his accounts of hand to hand combat on the Eastern front with a young Russian soldier he said was probably no more than 16 years old of which he felt guilty the rest of his life. His wife told me he had told me things he had never spoken about. Wow, sorry for the long story.
Thanks for sharing, this was great to read.
Awesome you were there for him
My father was a Vietnam vet of 82nd airborne. Never told any stories until came back after Desert Storm. And then only at the VFW while we were drinking.
He seemed genuinely proud that id gone thru the same manly stuff. Men were supposed to be tough, work hard, support their families. He appreciated that. And when I went to college the first time he was happy. As he was 18, fresh out of high school, getting drafted. And never got that chance.
Former Ranger and Legionair here, your are spot on, brother. It's those men, big or small, who can always find that ability to get up and keep going, one more time.....over and over and over.
Tough is actually grit.
Yo, TCAV you are tough. Completing SEAL Team training and doing 5 freak'n years in the Legion is beyond amazing. When you're 80 years old your grandkids are going to live visiting Pop-Pop for all tgat wisdom and the stories you got on how this universe showed you what toughness is.
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There was a great story about Miyamoto Musashi. When he was at the height of his prowess as a swordsman he began to think of himself as nearly invulnerable. Then he stepped on a rusty nail on a dock and got an infection that almost took his life. He realized that Japan’s greatest swordsman was nearly taken out by an almost insignificant, inanimate object. He never allowed himself to think too much of himself again.
Right man! That's something the great and late Sasaki Kojiro did NOT have the time to meditate or the heart to masticate. (When he threw away the scabbard of his "Drying Pole"...)
If you ever have a chance to go on Audible by the book Musashi by Eiji Yoshikawa. It’s a whole historical fiction based on his actual life. I’ve recommended it to four friends and each one has said it is in the top five books they’ve ever heard in their life. I myself have listened to it probably four times through.
@@danisfotos781 Sparrow Tail..............
Humble doesnt mean having a low opinion of yourself, it means having a realistic opinion of yourself.
Untrue. Literally the definition is low opinion.
Its one definition I guess. But in my experience, humble people don't have a low self esteem, its more that they're very honest with themselves about who they are.
Just my personal observation.
Thanks for the reply, btw.
I don't know how many guys I met who thought they were tough, but had no endurance. Good video as usual. RUclips needs more guys like you influencing the young. There are so many bad examples online these days. Respect.
Humility is not a low opinion of one self. It is a true understanding of oneself. The ability to do something great and give it the credit it is due the same way you would if it were done by a total stranger.
And the ability not to give more credit than is due either
I understand your point. But I said the "exact definition of."
Definition: Humility: A modest or low view if one's own importance
All the “tough” guy’s I used to look up to are either dead or in prison for life. I was called a coward for doing everything I could to get my kids and myself out of the big city ,away from the gangs and gun play. And now I have a beautiful family and a good job that provides a decent living, and most of all a safe environment for my children to grow up in. If that makes me a coward…I’m cool with it. At least I can watch my children grow and I’m not in a box or a cell. The only thing that got me to start thinking right was a strong male to mentor me and guide me properly. So if you have the opportunity…try to mentor those that seem hopeless…you would be surprised at the difference one strong man can do just by being a lighthouse for someone living in the dark. 🤙🏴🦍
Everything right with raising a family correctly brother.
As a kid a “tough” guy was someone who could fight. As a man I realized “toughness” means endurance, resilience, discipline and grinding every MF day!! 🤙🏻
That part
Yep, I regard a man that can hold a strong family together, is a good father to his kids and helps them get places in life... is 'tough'. Because that takes serious commitment, effort and discipline.
Amen TCAV ❤💯✝️🇺🇸
2 Corinthians 12:9-11
New International Version
9 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 10 That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong
Love that
I served four years in the The Marine Corp The most well round best prepared guys that I met in my opinion were guys raised on farms they could shoot well do all the physical work they seem to adapt much easier to difficult situation . They were a lot more prepared from day one than I was and I learned more than a few things from them over the years .....
Being tough defines a persons refusal to quit in any situation regardless of the known or unknown outcome
Resolute
A real “tough guy “ is one who stands up for the lesser among us and treats everyone with respect and dignity. He is also one who does not take the path of least resistance. A tough guy is not afraid to make hard decisions, and then stand by those decisions. You are on point as always! Much respect!
TCAV you are an old soul. You are redefining what it means to be a man. I hope young men are watching and listening and taking these lessons to heart. Thank you for all you do and being the example. Stay the course!
The only connection I have to the French foreign legion is doing security for Jean Claude several years at world music awards in the late 90s in Monaco lmao
Tcav in the house
U know it
Thanks Taylor, it seems to me that a truly cool person does not need to prove or show this to anyone, he simply overcomes difficulties.
Being transparent about failures is how we learn from each other as social creatures.
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Toughest man I ever met gave me the best advice regarding being a “tough guy”….he pretty much said you can’t be 98% bad,..2%good…either your bad ,.or you are good,..no room for good on the street,.. glad I never went down that route
Very strong, powerful message! I think a lot of people need to hear this!
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I realized the truth about what you're saying on our 1st deployment to Afghanistan, and on our 3 night in country we were on a dismounted patrol about 20km SE of Kandahar and we were on a "cave clearing" Intel gathering op when we made contact with a platoon size force of taliban fighters. What I remember most about them was the ones that survived, ran in the side of the mountain BAREFOOT faster than you and I could run on flat ground. And I'm talking jagged, sharp rocks with loose peebles and stones. There ability to quickly melt back into the environment used to remind me of old Vietnam vet combat stories. I have a deep respect for the endurance of those people, and showed me how spoiled we are as a whole in the states.
The Afghans stopped Alexander the Great waaay and tiiime before the Russians and the Americans. Because - as you first-hand experienced - they fight without food for a month and water for a week. And they belong to their environment, to the same degree as it belongs to them.
I have struggled with anxiety and know I need to do something to push myself, I leave for uscg bootcamp on Tuesday and it’s one step of pushing myself and improving myself, I’d like to get into federal law enforcement afterwards… listening to people who have pushed themselves beyond what 99% of the population would be comfortable with is certainly a motivator!
Get it bro
I love how you put “HUMBLE” in its place wow never thought of it like that ‘! Brother keep pushing!!
Always!
If you say “You think you are tough; you are not tough” VERY Very True.
Being aware of the environment n self-aware of themself is very true.
when i did my service a guy that looked like a nerd. He was the badest mofo out of all of us. Didnt hesitate one sec. just did it. i learned a lesson. love that guy, to this day, hard as they come
I was a standout wrestler as a young guy. Leaving junior high school I had high school coaches, trying to recruit me to their school (those within my boundaries). When I finally chose one, I didn’t make the varsity team the first year. I was walking around Kickin rocks for a few days, and finally my coach pulled me aside and said “True toughness doesn't need a spotlight; it quietly manifests in the face of adversity.” I lnever forgot it.
Thanks for this video .
When we are young men it is expected that we “Will!” Fuck Up!” It’s just that simple. As young hard chargers we gonna Fuck up! Listen up hard chargers, TCAV is explaining the price he paid for being a Fuck Up?! In my honest opinion TCAV has paid a high price for being a Shit Bird! He’s much more mature and have learned from his mistakes. This should not be held against him. America write your congressman or senators and ask to reinstate this American Fighting Man back into his teams ASAP! Bring TCAV home! #secondchanxes Semper Fi
Tough is choosing to remain humble in a fake world of superficial people who despite their carefully curated public profiles, social media videos, and instant gratification remain true to their values, convictions, loyalties and honor.
Truly tough people keep their integrity intact refusing to allow materialistic temptations to control their thoughts and actions. Tough is remaining true and loyal to the people in your life who have loved and supported your growth and struggle. Not abandoning them when it was no longer convenient, despite being tempted by others to leave. It starts from the inside out. A tough spirit and mind lives forever, unlike a tough body, which has an expiration date.
Well said, brother.
I have a whole new view of the word tough compared to what I used to think it meant 20 yrs ago.
Being tough to me now means being the MAN my family needs me to be.
Mind, Body, Soul...One step at a time
Respect to all the men tuning in around the globe👊🏼
Thank you, TCAV
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🫵🏻 See you bro puttin in that WORK. Be the f*ckin MAN your family NEEDS. That's the REAL sh*t👊🏼
Great content. I signed up to the legion in 1990 at 19 years old. It tought me respect for myself and others and a lot more. Hello from Ireland 🇮🇪 mon ami.
The legion was the only place where I felt I truly belonged. Congratulations on what you have achieved. Viva la legion!!!
5 years USCG Taclet, 23 year LEO, UC dope, Swat and all the pins and accolades... I also am an alcoholic 8 years sober, pulled myself out of gutter a few times.. I aint tough.. and if you are walking around telling people you are tough. You probably aren't.
If you tell people you are a good man or good dad or a natural leader.. You probably are none of the above😊
The quietest dudes are usually the toughest. Take note.
Tough for me was losing everything I worked 25 years for, my business, my house, my money and family then rising from the depths of despair to start all over again and kicking ass. Beating depression, wanting to end my life so many times but staying strong and building something better than I had before
I served in the Marines, Army, DOS, OGA and spent 8 years as a bouncer. Harder than all that was growing up in an orphanage. I considered myself pretty tough until I met a guy with similar background who grew up in a Mexican orphanage. I learned there is always someone tougher than you. Love the message you’re putting out there.
Respect to you Shipmate/Legionnaire and I hope you check out my forthcoming book.
War Junkie-A Cautionary Tale
I needed to see this today TCAV
Resolve is an emotion.
Become a truck driver. Cdl. Thats how i got my stuff together. Im a formal vet. And at 45. Thats what helped me
I needed to see this video I’m former U.S Army Infantry
On point. I worked all over the world in offshore drilling as a Subsea Engineer. A lot in West Africa ( many times in Côte d'Ivoire), I've experienced many things, and met many men who claimed to be tough. I've also met people who were "tough". They were the most quiet. One was my French Foreign legion body guard from Liverpool. His leg was heavily scared from grenade attack. We had some great chats. Quiet guy, but you can sense another side to him if it were needed. Other guys you can see straight through it.
Great stuff! I always grew up thinking I was tough, fighting at the drop of a hat. Maturity (that came with age and a bunch of self created hardship) showed me the truths you speak of in this video. ❤
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The lips of wisdom are sealed, except to the ears of understanding.
Dude is so Yoked he can't roll his sleeves past his elbows without getting his uniform tailored yet he's one of the most wise people I've ever heard speak... yet doesn't think of himself as a tough guy.
Unbelievably robust.
Thank you for everything.
Straight up bro sleeves stuck at the elbow nook🤙🏼
TC, you sure have got the conversation going here in the UK and have touched many people's lives. Thank you for your service sir. Love the content as always. Utter respect 🙏
I'll be in London on Wednesday brother doin James English's Anything Goes podcast👌🏼
Thanks for letting us know. Hope it goes well for you. You so deserve it.
Looking inside is the hardest challenge of a real Man. Making that Man better is harder.
Love the way you pause between your words (you're thinking). This is why one day you will be a successful multimillionaire motivational speaker. Can't wait. Tony Robbins who? 😮😮😮😮😮
THATS whats up bro👊🏼
Toughness is when you have been tested and attained the best ability-dependability.
“ Know Thyself.” Always, as the Magis and Mystics quote. Can take lives and lifetimes to do this.
Sometimes violence is necessary., doesnt mean someone is tough..just capable.
Hate is poison to the soul...always
Sometimes..expressing compassion and empathy is a tough thing to do if emotions are not aligned ..but it might come with less soul consequence in the end.
Embracing a image of toughness doesnt come without certain challenges and is often a veil for a tired soul trying to escape the hordes of walking spiritually wounded...
Sometimes it takes awhile to figure it all out
That’s kinda what happened to me, I realized I was not tough. I’ll be honest, after I made that realization, I had a hard time doing the things that used to make me happy because I just figured…what’s the point. Then some other stuff happened like injuries and loss of loved ones. If it wasn’t already hard enough to find motivation, it got worse. I pray everyday for god to put the fire back in me and I thank god for men like you helping guys like me. I definitely need to start hitting it hard and being my best self again because that is what’s missing in my life. It’s daunting to think about the big picture so I’m going to take it day by day. Sorry for the long comment. It helps me to talk to this group
Email me let's get this correct: tcavofficial@gmail.com
Great post and great wisdom.
Spot on about humble.
Stoic -tough. Loud -weak
*i'll tell you what broke me more than anything else, man. when i was laying there, detoxing from fentanyl & heroin, throwing up, shitting on myself, asking to die & would of done _anything_ just to be well again. that broke me like no other. _fuck that shit!_
This video brought back memories of Ranger School a million years ago. I was in the US Army and I had a couple of classmates from the Marine Corps. Both were NCOs, Force Recon, and USMC. One guy was a stereotypical manly type guy: physique, square jaw, deep manly voice, you name it. The other Marine was a baby-faced pipsqueak with a voice like a kid. Now guess which one quit.
I am lucky enough to know the last USS Indianapolis survivor, and understand what you are saying, but this guy is one Tuff! Bastard.
love it, looking forward to your book TCAV
Your humility is honorable sir. We need more men like you in the world.
thanks preacherman for the brainstorming _ i sh*t in my pants everyday because life is challenging but now i feel like it's ok .
Preach brother man
Amen brother
I'm kinda speechless man. Long time listener, fist time caller haha. But seriously..the words and message you just put together in that video are something more special than you may realize my friend. Cause I've never heard anything quite like it. I hope you realize the significance of these videos. Seriously. Please continue.
Tapped in bro i'm just a vessel.
Napoleon when asked what is the perfect soldier. He replied it is one that who can endure pain, suffering, and hardship over long periods of time, and then to show up and be ready to fight....Respect TCAV
They are humbling experiences.
Outstanding💯
Thanks for the true life words
Always
TCAV, your straight talking approach is a breath of fresh air. These stories provide exactly the kind of lessons folks need these days!
As a Combat Medic in the Army, it took me about a week of working Sick Call to to fully understand what you are talking about. Everyone is tough in ideal circumstances.
Thanks Taylor, many need you.
I have been on both sides of the spectrum when it comes to self worth an ego
Couldn’t be more true bro! As a previous tier 1 operator I have been broken mentally and physically more times than I can count especially during selection!
concured.
I remember being a younger cat trying to intimidate and be "tough". I started to realize that I wasn't tough at all and I was actually weak inside. Great speech bro, really sends a message to guys not just trying to be in the military but guys trying to be better at life in general.
All that and a bag of chips, Long time since I've heard that. Thought It was a Yorkshire saying, where did you pick that one up. You might not like it, but you are inspirational. Thank you
Great insight into what *true* wisdom and maturity looks like; not the "EVERYBODY (please, please) LOOK AT ME," BS that many other people are spouting on social media and RUclips.
I am not military. I love your ideology . I am dealing with the suicide of my 13 year old daughter, the death of my mother, and the death of my father all in a 1 1/2 year span. My wife has severe mental health problems and is an alcoholic. I am raising my son... The best that I can. I'm . Holding down a job. And everything I am not tough. I am resilient ,hardcore . This video is pure me.
Brother let's get you on the program you'll benefit: tcavofficial@gmail.com
Real life, tough story... Thank's 💪
Everybody wants to be a tough guy but nobody wants to do the dirty work.
Resolute, resilient purposeful,determined.showing a lot humumilli
I'll start again sorry,showing a lot of humility in your vogs and gaining much respect sir.i messed that up 🤦♂️🤣
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Another great video! Thank you Bro!
You bet
Everyone projects the image they want others to see. And it's easier to project an image of who you want to be than for a lot of people to be that person. Great discussion again!
Thank you!
Welcome!
Men who claim to be tough guys don't realize or more importantly accept their flaws.
Huge Respect.
Tough is not bailing on your marriage or your kids. That's hard work.
I know I am not “tough”. But I am strong, it takes strength to reach out and tell someone you’re hurting, you need help, to tell someone you’ve been dealing with suicidal thoughts for 16 years. In that act you gain strength.
Great wisdom.....like they say...beware of the quiet guy....
Hardships build endurance.
Would love to hear why a US citizen would join the Legion. Good luck in your journey.
This is one impressive individual. Listening to him is so refreshing. He knows what he’s talking about.
Great message for the day my man !!! God bless
A patriot knows his enemy.
Cav you may not be a tough guy,but you are strong mind,body,and in you're heart,i to respect that more than anything.
Thanks brotha🤙🏼
Great vidoes thank you!!!!
Very well said brother. Semper Fidelis 👍 ✊️
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Thank you for this message
Another brilliant bit of content
Toughest guy I’ve ever served with was 150 lbs ringing wet ,wore Harry Potter glasses and had a Bonsai garden.
But if you were fighting him you were going to have to kill him to stop him.
A few wannabes found that out the hard way
Keep making the videos they are “Life lessons”
TC, when you’re finished with the FFL, please come back to the US and become the Secretary of Education. I know how weird that sounds, but with you at the helm you would be incredibly impactful. 🙏🏻 🤙
I can do more with these platforms
I’ve heard that about special forces operators: that the most deadly ones are not the ones who act tough.
They are the “sleepers:” people like the soldiers-heroes-who came back from WWII, Korea, Vietnam, etc., who fought in unspeakable conditions and quietly went about their lives thereafter as regular citizens.
And, secondly:
People don’t like bullies, and they don’t like show-offs. People, instead, respect others who can get things done, who do what is right, act for the better good, and do it all quietly without drawing attention.
Now that’s power.
Really interesting. Thanks
For me the toughest people are the ones that go through the most and continue to persevere through it, some of the toughest people you will ever meet will be those that were able to put themselves back together again after being broken by the world and everything in it .