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This gave me clarity on some things though still so hard to comprehend how someone can seem so happy with you, constantly wanting to see you, bringing you around their family planning things with you telling you how much he loves you and then wake up one day out of no where tell you he doesn’t love you anymore and hasn’t for a while and doesn’t think you’re good enough. Yes feelings change but it doesn’t happen overnight how do you fake that
It's all part of the dangerous phenomenon called love....it's not to say that it was fake....who knows what it actually was?? Point is, these types of things can happen....everyone we meet is meant to teach us something
honestly this has happened to me overnight (I'm not a man though), and to be honest now that i look back it wasn't actually "overnight" or as spontaneous as he made it out to be, there are some things that you just sweep under the rug that your partner does which makes you lose feelings for them more and more everyday. this happened to me because i also settled for him, he wasn't the one i truly wanted at all when i consider his appearance and personality, it was also my first relationship so i just fell in love over the fact of starting something new because it was exciting and i was young, not because of the person i was with. and so one day i just woke up and lost all attraction and love I've ever felt towards him and ended it. although we've talked about our future etc., i never really wanted it to be him :/
Thank you so much for this video! My bf and I broke up last week after 2 years together from 17 to now 19 years old. We had a great, healthy relationship but as of last month he really changed. He told me that he wanted to have the college experience and I do understand that feelings can change especially with how young we are. We ended things on good terms but I’ve still been in so much pain and sadness while he seems perfectly fine. I just couldn’t understand how someone who loved me 2 weeks ago was fine losing me after 2 years. UPDATE: shortly after I commented this I found out he had actually cheated on me. It makes a lot more sense as to how he was seemingly fine, he already had someone else. I was in shock for a few days but I cut off all contact and I’m doing a little better now. I’m glad someone who was willing to cause me so much pain is out of my life now.
I am sorry you are in pain....sometimes people just idk they change and they feel differently after a while. He may seem fine but its hard to say if he actually is or not....if he is then you know that he was just ready for a change and that his feelings began to change. He still very likely has great respect and admiration for you though....
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He broke up with me by text…I never replied. And now he’s asking to get back together and that he loves me. Why end it then? My heart was in pieces. I can never look at him the same way. We’re done 😓
If you choose not to get back with him then that is your choice and tbh I can't blame you. First of all to break up shows that there was something deeply wrong to begin with but he also didnt have the courage to speak to you and make things right or if he totally wanted to break it off he didnt have the decency to do it in person....you know what is best for you.
Wow. This gave me as the dumpor alot of clarity. I'm in the grieving/questioning stage right now after a month. And the thing you said about feeling relief is spot on.
Lol I just got dumped by a hot farmer who dumped me because it’s springtime and he’s got crops to work on and he doesn’t have time for me anymore! A part of me sees humor in being dumped for chickens and vegetables, but I’m also heartbroken at the same time 😂
@@therealtalkvlogs He claims he “lost feelings” for me and that he’s “so confused” because I’m the “whole package” for him. I miss him a lot. We were really happy and never fought until he went into quarantine for Covid where he had this sudden realization. The breakup was impulsive and out of the blue. He asked to be friends and I told him no and now we are in no contact. It’s been brutal going from such a high to such a low.
@@therealtalkvlogs We had some talks before about how he was stressed about all the work he had to do in the spring and summer on the farm and how he was worried about maintaining our relationship. I had met him after only a month of being broken up with my other ex and I never got a chance to really heal or gain confidence from that and he met me only 5 months after a really intense long term relationship. It might just be bad timing honestly 😢
@@nylonbird Ahhhhhhhhhh....ok that explains it all right there. The both of you were rebounds to each other....in my opinion rarely do rebounds work out in the long run. You yourself said you hadn't healed and he himself likely hadn't either....I could be wrong but to him the relationship probably just wasn't totally right in his mind given the fact that he was going through a breakup....
I’m the dumper, I’m a man, and I’m struggling greatly. I loved her with all my heart and soul, and I still do. But as you said, some things just got me really tired, I couldn’t push through with some stuff any longer it just became too much of a weight and I started to resent myself and feel bad with me. It hurts, things don’t always work the way we would have liked them to. Thank you for your video. It really helped me to put some things into perspective and in its place.
Omg sounds like him…he got tired of me bringing up things he’s done that have hurt me even tho he was actively trying to change for me…I was just so hurt
I teared up watching this, man. I walked away from my girl of 16 months just a month ago. Everything you said is exactly what I'm going through. I had to watch this video twice.
If this brought you some type of peace or helped you in some way shape or form I am happy it did....we both know exactly what it's like....it's never easy or fun. I am sorry you had to end things with her....I had to do the same thing a few times....everyone thinks suffering is only for the one who is broken up with....they're wrong
we were together for 3 years and were living together he dumped me in January and he hasn’t talked to me ever since he left it’s been so hard not understanding what he must be feeling like right now and this video made me cry and gave me some comfort thank you for uploading this
I am so sorry to hear about your loss....I am happy this video gave you some clarity....I know it's hard....I am going through a breakup myself right now, I had to end things with the love of my life and it sucks beyond belief. Pain....a lot of pain....that's how it feels. I guess what I am trying to say is....it's ok to feel the way you feel....and whether you work things out with him or not you have all the tools to be your best self and you will become your best self....day by day, one step at a time, you will succeed my friend.
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@@kannot1 divorces happen a lot too so it depends personal preference. There is litterally no guarantee you will always be with the person you love. Marriage or not.
Just imagine this. You will divorce one day anyway if you two ever get married. Just be happy that you ended things early on instead of ending things with children on the way.. this way, I feel a sense of relief during my breakup and grieving stage.
I’m so sad. We had a five year relationship. Lived together for two. I really thought we were best friends, soulmates. He dumped me one day over text while I was at work. He packed everything, left, blocked me immediately. It’s just horrible. Like he is a different person. I feel like I didn’t matter. I’d love to believe that he misses me but I feel like sometimes I didn’t matter if he could leave that way & just cut me out
Thank you for this. I got dumped a few days ago and it was a complete shock. Were together for 5 months but was serious - met my mum with me two weeks before. Only reason he gave was that he couldn’t see a future with me, but that I’ve been “the perfect girlfriend” and couldn’t explain anything I’d done wrong or any issues we had. Never had an argument. Just find it so hard to understand, especially when he said he still loves me.
I had something similar happen to me 2 months ago, I found that there was not much point in trying to persuade him to stay as he was already set in his mind to break up so I kept my dignity and went into NC. I feel much better these days so my advice is go into NC and one day he may realise the mistake you made, and either way it is a matter of time until you find someone better suited
@@Lol1337forever it did not with this particular ex.. but don’t lose hope, it has worked with many of my other exes, and in fact now several months have gone by I realise we weren’t very well suited to each other xx
Just went through a breakup the other day. Probably the worst i ever felt. Im currently having a hard time accepting it and im shocked it happened. But this video helped me so much. Thank you
He broke up with me 3 days ago. We were together for a year and a half. He told me that he had alot going on and that he "couldnt give me what i deserve" in the state that he is in. We arent speaking currently, im giving him space, but sometimes i wonder whats going on in his mind and this really gave me a bit of peace.. Thank you so much.
We tried to be friends but every time he sees me, he gets emotional! I’m just better at hiding it than he is 😆 makes no sense how we can feel this way for each other but can’t be together.
Helpful video to understand the mental process of the guy after a breakup. I broke up with my boyfriend and felt instantly better, because there was so much disrespect, smothering and lying from him and I couldn’t bear it any longer. But there is also the other part of it that I have to deal with. We had some good times, either real or imagined, in the midst of it all. There are things we did that were special. I did learn some valuable things from him. but he needs to do a lot of work on himself, there are a lot of issues there. I feel like it took me this entire week to finally get sad about it. He had a lot of secretive and other odd behaviors. Whether he was seeing another woman or just odd I don’t know. But it was too much for me. I also need to just be single and work on myself for awhile.
Wow....everything you just said is how I felt at one point and/or how I still feel I guess....it is normal to feel what you are feeling trust me I know. U gotta take the good with the bad, there is always an up and a down to any avenue taken. But what u did was for the better, that too I do know
In my case, we dated 5 months, he was very serious, very good partner was trying a lot every day I felted very loved; his family and friends loved me, we was very into spending time together. Had only 1 fight and after he said we need to break up as we aren’t working and things got hard. He is 25, me 26. He said he still loves me but doesn’t see future and thought about it for the last month. Which I still can’t get as that month was a very happy time for us, idk how could he fake all the “I wanna see u so much let’s at least video call” and two days after he broke up. We didn’t have fights or anything, I thought finally a perfect match…
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Girlll you explained my situation! I was upset because he said I love you and then 2 weeks over like 1 fight he said me need to break up and I need to heal. We We’re together for 4 Months but it was really serious. I want to know how you’re doing?
I recently just got dumped. We dated for 5 years . He went for military training for 6months , i waited for him and a week after he came back he broke up with me and said i deserve a better person. We never faught or had lots of bad days . It was all fine. I still dont understand how he could break my heart just like that.
@Maria Malaya In my unprofessional opinion, I think he was thinking about ending things much before he left for his training. I ended up leaving my GF of 4 years because towards the end I didn’t think we were compatible. The thing is that I knew I wanted to leave her a year before, but was afraid of how I would feel after breaking her heart…so I stalled.
Been almost 6 months after being dumped, the pain has subsided a lot, but the constant living in the past is on the loop and it hurts so much to not being able to talk to him cause he cut me off outta his life. But yeah, I guess, that's his way of handling. It just feels unfair that I'm the only one suffering probably and he might be doing better. It's tough moving on man! Idk if he even thinks about me ever.
I am sorry to hear this....I will say though that what he did in my opinion is typical for a good number of men as far as cutting the ex off. Thats what I had to do with my ex. Just cause he cut u off and doesnt reach out does not mean that you are the only one suffering....he may be doing better but I would be willing to bet that he does think about you.
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Thank you for sharing real feelings. My ex is high functioning ASD and I don’t think he grieves me or the relationship. He’s really ok with relationships having a “shelf life.” It was probably me with the magical thinking I could be the one to change his mind.
To all the people who are hurting and feeling lost and thinking that the pain will never end. Just imagine this. You will divorce one day anyway if you two ever get married. There is no FOREVER here on earth. Marriage is A LOT OF HARDWORK. Its not just happiness and butterflies. People change, emotions change. The only permanent thing on earth is Change. Just be happy that you ended things early on instead of ending things with children on the way and going through a divorce. This way, I feel a sense of relief during my breakup and grieving stage..
I’m confused! My guy broke up with me because i wasn’t willing to change. However I just recently reached out to him, telling him how much I missed him. And he quickly responded and told me he missed me a lot! And he poured his feelings out to me and even expressed that he loved me! But it’s been a day and we haven’t talked. Do I have a chance? I want him back…
We broke up a month ago now. We have broken up twice before for a 1-2 days, and I always begged him to reconsider. This time we ended and i went to see him one last time and he was the one that cried multiple times saying how much he loves me and can never imagine being intimate with anyone else. I was his first love, and prior to me, he had been with 70 girls sexually (he gets girls like no other), but he fell in love with me and it was really amazing. After we said our byes he did say he needs to heal now from the pain I caused but wants to see how things are with me in a few weeks. A few days later he called me drunk telling me how much he loves and misses me but he just doesn’t wanna put himself back in the relationship right now just to get hurt again. After that we talked one more time I told him To get his stuff and he cried saying it was too soon and he didn’t want to. I’m confused how he acted since he was the one who broke up with me, but seemed so emotional about it. After that we didn’t talk anymore, two weeks later called me on Canada day but I was super drunk and just said “ what do you want” and don’t actually remember the conversation. Since then we haven’t spoken, I saw him at a concert just a week ago holding a girls hand and he freaked out when he saw me, dropped this girl immediately and followed me to the bathroom, I didn’t say anything to him and he didn’t say anything to me, and that was all. We’ve been in no contact since the 1st of July but I guess had I not answered his call on Canada it would’ve been since the 21st of June. Do you think I should just leave it and wait for him to reach out? I wonder if he’s too scared to reach out because he feels I’ve moved on because I haven’t given him any indication of me caring anymore. I also know his friends and him are big advocates for sleep with other people to get over someone, so I know he’s off doing his thing. He said we’d talk again around this time, but he’s telling our mutual friend he’s doing fine and moving on, but he still watches my insta stories every once and a while though he doesn’t follow me. What do you think he’s thinking? Is he really moving on or just saying that because he knows it’ll get back to me? Help
Wow....well to put it simply he is in great turmoil. He cant make sense of everything in his head and his heart and his mind and his heart are at war. He wants you but then again he either does not want it enough or he just cant make total sense of being with you in his mind given the issues you guys had but he can't stand not being with you let alone the thought of you being with another man especially sexually. Believe it or not that kills a man super hard inside. I think you should let it be and wait to see what he does. If he has a total meltdown which he probably will and he comes running back on his knees holding your hands practically begging you to tell him you still love him and still care then you can decide what you want to do from there.
this is me rn ngl. i came into this one giving everything bc I thought she was different than the last one, but the day after we broke up she got with another guy and hid if for me for a month while we were still “friends” and talking. and you’re exactly right. i was in that sadness place right before i found out and i honestly was going to go back. but i can’t now.
I am really sorry to hear this bro....if it makes you feel any better this has happened to every guy I know including myself. It happens, use this time to build yourself up and increase your value as a man.
Okay so my boyfriend dumped me (around two months ago) because „I’m too good to/for him. Because he couldn’t make the time for me that I deserve and because he isn’t the boyfriend that I want” -> his words not mine. I think it’s just a lazy way of pushing me out of the way instead of working on himself and putting effort into the relationship. He didn’t plan on breaking up with me (we had been fighting over time together again) and even still told me that he loved me when he ended it….The thing is that I did want to see him a lot and he does have his projects and stuff but he put less and less effort into me and I didn’t even feel like a third priority. So after the break up he started avoiding everything by working and filling all his time with work and friends. So we met up after the break up and slept together were he told me that he missed me and that it feels good to be around me and all that stuff. A week later he called me up and told me that he lost feelings and would rather flirt with other girls etc. I’m devastated and feel like I’ve meant nothing to him
@@therealtalkvlogs I’ve actually been thinking that too…he does show a lot of signs of narcissism but then again a few don’t match at all. He also shows quite a few signs of adhd… it’s really hard. Bc I know that narcissistic people don’t miss their ex partners etc. and I just wanna know that he misses me too oof
@@julias.567 So thats not entirely true in my opinion....narcisists often need someone to feed their egos....they inevitably will miss you and may come back around. I would say he does
@@therealtalkvlogs I sure hope you’re right…wether I’d want him back or not, I just need to know that this relationship wasn’t entirely wasted or meaningless after all
@@therealtalkvlogs he was so into thinking I cheated on him when I didn’t he holds a grudge over me for living with another man when we were single he had a gf at the time and still wanted me to move in with him but I wasn’t going to do that now he thinks that I’m cheating on him with the guy I lived with.
We just broke up 3 days ago and he's reason is he can't handle the ldr stress but he decided to separated and think about it in just one whole day . Isn't weird? Like I was shock since there's is no signal and he didn't even changes just that day.
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This video came out the perfect time. I’m gay, and my ex bf and I definitely had a whirlwind romance. We just could never see eye to eye on things. I ended up ending things. Seeing him hurt was one of the worst pains I’ve ever experienced. But every day, I am reassured that I made the right decision. All I hope for him is happiness and closure. Now I’m trying to find myself. I’m reintroducing hobbies I missed doing. I’m focusing on my fitness and career. I do feel relief, but it’s so easy to be sad knowing that the person that I love is hurting. I miss him everyday, but I know we were not right for each other.
Jon, I am literally going through the same thing! I had to break up with my girlfriend. I lost the woman I love. Literally what u just described is what I am going through right now too....and yes while it is a relief it also brings me great pain because I know she is suffering or was at least....I never truly wanted to not be with her I just knew I couldn't be with her and that if I continued with her I was going to go to a dark and dangerous place in my life. Anyways, question for you....do you think you deserve someone great?? And to be happy?? Might seem like a weird question but I'll explain why I ask later.
@@therealtalkvlogs I’m glad we are able to relate to each other! I’m sorry you are going through a breakup too. I’m about a month out from the breakup and it hurts (we have been together for 2years at least). I do believe I deserve someone great. But people aren’t checklists-I’m trying to be open once I’m ready to date again. I know there are certain things I cannot compromise on-friends, goals/dreams, my health, my job. But I do believe that happiness starts from within. And the right person will just enhance that. Instead of changing you into someone else, they will just bring out the best in yourself :)
Very well said, you should not have to compromise your beliefs, your wants, and who you are for someone. It should just be natural for the most part. I am sure u will find that person.
I got dumped 2 months ago after almost 3 years. He said he wanted to focus on his business. However during the whole i supported him and actually make him to become independent and earn by his own. I gave him time and space when he needed to focus and to be honest i sacrificed my own improvement for him which i didn't realized on that time. However he dumped me when i was trying to focus on myself and dealing with some issues. I'm still hurt and can't justify this and justify what i did and what i got at the end. Now after 2 months eventhough i didn't contact him or anything all of sudden he blocked me from everywhere. He blocked once and unblocked me but this time he did from everywhere. So i really can't understand what is happening.
First I am sorry for the later reply. Second, I will say that what u did for him was a very admirable thing and most men would love to have that quality in a woman. He is clearly a really selfish man with his own ego issues and he obviously couldnt see that this relationship is and or needed to be a 2 way street and that is his own fault. As far as the blocking and unblocking he is being petty and he is hoping you will notice and may be at some point reach out. My advice don't do it.
@@therealtalkvlogs he kept saying it was my fault then he apologized then said i cant do this yet next day said i love you. Its hard really hard. Cause i want him back but the reason we broke up was cause his opinions weren't just hear me out they were u better not go to that place and stuff....very controlling
I was deeply depressed and a functional alcoholic when I broke up with a girlfriend of almost four years. It was probably one of the most painful things I have ever had to do. I worked third shift and long hours but she wouldn't give me a break. She was still in college at the time and expected me to get up after being in bed for maybe an hour to go do something until I had to go back to work in the evenings. I finally broke and ended the relationship. After I ended it I was still depressed but my drinking slowed down in the amounts. I also told my job that I wasn't interested in all the overtime I was being given because I couldn't get caught up on sleep to come back to work that evening. I didn't realize at the time how much my ex girlfriend had me torn down. I was paying my bills along with her books and helping with tuition. Once I got normal sleep then my drinking basically stopped and I came out of the depression.
It's been around 2 months since my ex broke up with me, we had been dating since past 7 years. Around 1 and half year back out of nowhere he started acting so weird, I was living in another city at that time. There were days when I would wait for his text or call till 3-4 am, I was also preparing for an important exam at that time, my mind was in such a distress. After 1-2 weeks of such behavior I asked him to tell clearly what is going on, he said we have no future together. He was in a pretty bad place in his life at that time so I thought he might be feeling low because of all that. He was not breaking up also (I asked him so many times if he wanted to end things, he always told he doesn't) and I was not ready to let go of him. 3-4 months were gone like that and his behavior was not changing and I was trying everything I can from my side. After 3-4 months, when things started falling into place in his life, I asked him what does he think of us now....again same answer. I decided to end things at that moment, I told him if you really want us to be apart theres no point in staying together. Just next day he called me and said he can't do this, he loves me too much to let go of me then we were together again. I started trusting him. He switched his job and moved to another city. After some time he again said we have no future together and started seeing some another girl after 15-20 days post breakup. I feel so heartbroken now and I don't know what to think of him anymore. This video got recommended in my feed today and I feel a bit relieved.
If this video brought you some clarity then I am happy it did....I know the pain and what it feels like....it will all pass in time. And thank you, it means a lot to me.
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My best guy friend was inlove with me. But I was with someone else... I was gonna leave this asshole that Im with. He hung around a while... then he started ignoring me and showing me he hangs with other girls.Then I did the same. Ignored him. He realized it backfired and he left town had a party and I wasn't invited. Found out after he left. Now Im not so sure I have feelings for him anymore. But I loved him. He waited a longtime. But he played mindgames instead of actually telling me how he felt. He never said it. I was waiting for him to say it. And realize he cant take me for granted. And he can't replace me. 😍
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Thank you so much for this video. it helped me tremendously. the last few weeks have been very rough. my ex boyfriend and i broke up 2 months ago and we were dating two years. we were each other’s first loves but we broke up due to some of the toxic things that were going on in the relationship. a few weeks after we broke up, he just grew cold. no more texting, no more talking on the phone , he basically can’t even look at me now. i don’t know why. it came out of nowhere. when we broke up we were doing okay, we were actually friends for a few weeks and we were happy just being friends. i don’t understand what went wrong….
Naiya I am sorry for the late reply.....I myself have been going through a breakup and it is tough to say the least. I could be wrong but from a guys perspective it seems to me that he is holding some resentment towards you for the breakup but not just that. He is resentful that you seem to be ok with being friends....I would freak the fuck out if that was me haha. I could be wrong though. You or anyone else can message me on instagram and I would be happy to talk and to help provide clarity if I can. @Raystangsation_92
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Just found your video❤ recently separate from each other had 1 month serious together all of the sudden family issues, he started to pulled away and 2 weeks of hold on to pull away situation I decided to ask him about our relationship problems is that i was grumpy or not but he said it wasnt grumpy reason it is family issue and he couldn’t give himself to anyone. So sad that we couldn’t go on longer. Love your video this give me comfort
My ex broke up with me because I let myself go in our 4 year relationship. I didn't focus on working out and looking good. And I wasn't goal oriented. He wanted to be with someone who's already beautiful and have their life together. I'm not upset with him for thinking that and for leaving me to be with someone like that. Now that I'm single I'm finally starting to feel happy about mvself but I still have a lot of work to do on myself.
@@meliciakristianaboyd0520 he actually reached out to me but I realized I shouldn’t be with him again. I was tired of everything and being with toxic person was draining. I am grateful to have a relationship with him. To learn and grow from it. I wish you all the best
Long story short, i felt like she was playing too many silly games(nothing serious) but it felt like she was not respecting my boundaries considering i told her to stop doing that and so i decided to break things off, didn't even elaborate to her on why all i said was "you play too much", wished her a good life and left..i did feel relieved that night and maybe the next day but shorty after that i started feeling sad about it, did exactly what u did by asking friends whether it was the right thing to do, they all said it was but as you said it only gives a little comfort..spoke to a mutual friend the other day and he said she keeps talking about me saying she misses me and even went as far as sending me a screenshot of her saying shes " so hung up on me", to be honest i still like her and would like for things to work but idk what to do lol i feel like if i reach out she will take it for granted and will keep playing the same silly games now that she knows theres no consequences..but i also miss her lol. Nonetheless thanks for making this video, i somehow feel less alone now!
Honestly i dont know how I stumbled to this video, but my boyfriend broke up with me about 2 months ago. the breakup was rather bittersweet because he was very emotional and very tender with me , reassured me that he loves me, but so much going on happening for him and it seemed to me he was overwhelmed and confused.. of course i didn’t want it to be over and as much as it pained me I respected his wishes ..we did no contact, till just a little before hitting 2 months I reached out to him and call him and he felt so detached and cold even when we spent about a hour.. and I just don’t know what to think, I did the stupid thing and told him that I have miss him and still love him, is all very confusing and thinking did I screw it up? I can’t shake this feeling ):
Did you screw up by reaching out?? No, it takes courage to do what you did and you are in tune and not afraid of what you feel. Thats a good thing. What I also want to say to you is, this had nothing to do with you....it was all totally a him thing. Him, his issues, and for him to figure out.
@@therealtalkvlogs thank you 🥲 Yeah… I know he’s dealing with a lot right now, I mean, I also asked him if we could meet again he told me he’ll think about it - what I don’t know what comes next? will I have to reach out again or he’ll be letting me know? Idk 😓
@@mblaqminoz I would let him be for now....he really needs to get himself together. And if he is serious about u he will make it known and he will reach out.
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He broke up with me 2 months ago. It was a 3 years long relationship We planned on getting married soon and he just told me few days after my bday that he cannot do it (he was waiting for my bday to be done). He said that he cannot marry me because he is not financially stable at this point. The saddest part of it is that he recently bought a new car and a new phone and he is financially stable enough, it felt like he was just giving reasons to breakup with me. The relationship was really good and it shocks me to know that he just ruined it. But I'm doing better than a month ago
when he left me three months ago after seven years together, I've always wondered what was going on inside his head before he decided to break-up with me... he seems okay and I haven't noticed him grieve, it's probably because he doesn't love me anymore and can easily move on with his life.. I've had faults but he didn't communicate anything to me and didn't even say sorry for not communicating anything meanwhile, I'm here dead inside and crying everyday
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There is a lot more to this than you think. There is no way after 7 years he just suddenly does that. It may seem that way but I can almost guarantee u its not.
@@therealtalkvlogs Hello. Thanks for responding. It feels like my ex has checked out long before he ended things. He seems like a different person these days and I can’t find the person I was with for seven years. It’s just hard to accept. It’s only been three-four months and the change is drastic for him. I sometimes wonder if he ever grieved the loss of me.
my boyfriend just broke up with me yesterday. we talked for about a month and a half and then he asked to make it official with me, everything was going amazing we literally were talking on the phone the night before him saying how much he misses me (bc i went home for winter break) and how he was gonna come visit me next wknd and meet my parents. then i wake up in the morning to a text of him breaking up with me after a month of being exclusive, i was so blind sided and baffled. he literally gave me no signs and then told me he was gonna do it earlier but didn’t want to ruin my christmas…. he literally texted me on christmas “im so happy i met you this year i wish you were with me celebrating christmas with me” if he rly was thinking of breaking up with me during that time and saying that shit to me like that’s so messed up. the situation makes me sick to my stomach. im just waiting for him to realize how much he fucked up and come running back.
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The thing about the guy I’m Inlove with is if we argue he will say things like “ I don’t know if I want this “ . once I try take some time out to get my shit together emotionally literally for maybe a hour or for the night he starts to say things like he’s going out , he’s going to talk to someone else since I’m not talking to him . I used to be very jealous when it came to him going with other females at parties because he would make up stories saying a girl touched him and things like that . When I would post confident pictures of myself to boost my self love he would say why am I posting things like that . Stupid me i love way too hard but I just wanna know why he always says he wants to leave and comes back the next night . I try to be as supportive as I can through everything especially when he needs me I never judge him for what he goes through but man I love him so much to the point where I try and understand things from his point of view as to why he would want to leave .
Wow....well first of all he sounds like a guy that cannot handle conflict at all. It needs to be either his way or the highway and he is spiteful. To sit there and tell your girl that you are gonna go talk to other girls is wrong and fucked up beyond belief! He says that to be a dickhead because he cant have his way when arguing with you or he feels like you are doing something wrong when u 2 argue so he has to be a dick and get back at you....thats toxic....you may want to rethink him. He doesnt actually want to leave but he is not an emotionally healthy human being....
@@therealtalkvlogs this is honestly the first time I’ve ever spoken the truth about my relationship , so what you have said means a lot thankyou . I thought I was the problem because over a period of time everything he said about other females made me very insecure about myself . I’m very unhappy yet the love that I have for him is something that is so hard to let go off . I know I’m in the wrong for staying and probably stupid at that .. but thankyou for what you said !
My boyfriend has been with for a year and 5 months, he just told me yesterday that he wants to go back home to South Carolina, saying he's got personal issues that he needs to figure out, that he needs to figure out himself, so we're basically separating for that reason
@@TheGothKitten666 I think deep down a large part of him means it, I have been in a somewhat similar situation and have said similar things to a girl. I did winde up getting back with her too.
My ex is an alcoholic, he have this breakup makeup cycle, usually I'm the one who reach out to him but last time i left him he begged me to stay and told he would change, he even reached out to my family and friends and put all his effort to get me back and im the only one he wants in his life so he would stop drinking but later he blamed me that i started dominating him and started treating me like shit again and as well je started his alcoholic behavior again, and he often tried to breakup and block me when ever we had any arguments. Recently i accused him of cheating which was something he did long back and i wasn't aware of he told me i didnt trust him amd believed someone else and than brokeup again and blocked me from everywhere since than.
Help. Met a guy 3 months ago on app. We video called in every scenario daily. Multi dimensional connection. He would call Al the time. We told our families about each other as we were from a religious background looking to eventually marry. He has been wanting to come down and eve me from neighboring state. I asked hi to wait until Dec as I moved to a new city, lost my job, my fathers health suffered, I have college exams etc. he said it was important to see me before he sees his family. Got frustrated about that. Also about my not calling him on time. Gradually I found myself defensive often. His attachment styles are generally dismissive avoidant with everyone including other girls but with me on this occasion he felt anxious preoccupied. So much so that once when I didn’t call he imagined I was betray in him. He gets upset if I mention other guys to him as in exs etc or guys showing interest in me. I only did so because we agreed to have open communication. He felt I was being manipulative. He has never been in love only had casual flings partied etc. His past two marriages marriages didn’t work, communication issues in first on his part and the second he was picky about girl. He said he never felt what he did with me with anyone. Of course i believed it. Then one day when I didn’t return his call on time (after an arguement about something similar a few days ago), he just blocked me everywhere out of the blue and wrote some weird message to me I didn’t get. I sent him a calm and hen an angry email telling him he’s a prick and never to contact me either given his disrespect. Then I calmed down and got in touch panicking and he was angry: said I always want things my way; am manipulative; and we are already not working out now it will get worse later; that we are like oil and water, , he is tired of it being one sided, that he has feelings for me but doesn’t want this, that he has deleted all my pics and can’t see my face or hear my voice, that he isn’t sure about coming to see me because he feels weak and has been having his seizure symptoms triggered due to the stress of our situation. I said I lost myself in the situation and he said the same. He was angry, I was crying. I asked him if he would still come to see me, he said he doesn’t know, and that he needs time, he can’t have this relationship what’s the point of it it will only get worse. I asked if he would agree to at least talk to me once a week (we used to speak several times a day and he would usually initiate), and then he said fine in a way that he didn’t sound bothered. Even though he has blocked me everywhere he said “reach out”. He said he needs to take care of his health and protect his heart. He said this repeatedly. Also said I only care about myself. Also that we both need to heal. Most of his accusations are untrue by the way but there is nothing I’m not willing to change if only he COMMUNICATED clearly. He admittedly held a lot in. He also said every conflict with me is a debate… I just didn’t see any of what he was saying it hit me in the face - I’ve been so heartbroken. I later mediated and centered myself and sent him an email saying as much , saying I support his decision to have me in his life or not as long as he is happy and healthy - and I meant it. But that I still believe in us. That I had lost myself since moving to a new city. And I hope he can forgive my ugly reaction to his blocking. And that I wish him well. I meant this and it came from an good and strong spirit. He responded saying he was sorry for being too hard on me and that he will never forgive himself for the way he spoke to me. That I should focus and success at my studies he wants me to do well and to focus on my health. I didn’t respond. Then a day or two late the messaged my friend saying to her not to tell me that he messaged her - but that he is wants to make sure I’m doing ok. Remember when I called him I was nearly having a panic attack and crying my eyes out practically begging him not to behave like this. Then suddenly I sent an email that was strong and calm. My friend said I’m on but hurt. He said he is sad too but it’s better to end it now then to risk it and have more problems even though he does love me This man is 41. What the hell. Helllp. I’m sure he has some ptsd too because he survived a war as a child and said sexual abuse. He does have rage issues. I don’t know if he’s valuing then devaluing me or what his thing is. He did say his health is more important to him than anything or anyone. I didn’t realize how small things were causing him seizure issues it’s crazy. But they were obviously big for him :( I didn’t catch on to how big and he said he was dropping hints the whole time as if I am a kind reader How do I get him to forgive me and try to make this work - we were really doing well and into each other Help please!
Wow....first of all thank you for sharing this. It means a lot and I am flattered you chose to shares this. So here's the thing....I read everything and I can tell that him being 41 and acting this way just shows that he is honestly not very good with women....a lot of men are not. Thing is that he obviously had a couple of big relationships in the past and they didnt go his way for whatever reason and he experienced trauma like most men do but he did not recover from it or use that trauma to make himself better....its hard but when a man is traumatized from his love life it affects so many things especially his future relationships if he allows it. I am not saying that there aren't things that you could have done better but honestly I can tell you right now as a guy he has a ton of issues that he needs to overcome and even if you do get back with him this behavior will continue. It is going to take a long time for him to get his act together and to heal and to be a man worthy of dating....I am sorry but that is just the truth. He is stubborn and he is hard headed....I dont recommend this but if you really want him back you need to start off with being really nice and maybe try to be his rock for a bit and then slowly sweet talk him into meeting with you and then use your womanly/feminine powers to wrap him around your finger. I am not saying it is a guarantee that it will work but I have seen it happen before. Like I said I dont necessarily recommend doing this because the relationship will relapse into what it was before until he works on himself and recovering from his past trauma but that is a way to get a man to come back into the fold. I have had women do it to me and it works and I have seen many men get sucked back in this way. Like I said do it at your own risk, be very careful.
we dated for 4 years and when we brokeup he started dating after one month, he said it's not a rebound because she knows that he still loves me and that she will be there for him to heal him and help him move on, and he did tell me that he still love me and he stalks me while he's with her, i asked if he didnt think it was a rebound and he said no because they had a deal that they will take care of each other. is it possible they will continue being together ?
I'm absolutely broken.. it is now Monday.. 9 days ago he told him he's done. I moved all the way to Holland for him, I left everything behind for him, I packed my things, my dog and I lived there for a year and a half. We were so good together, so much in love, yes we had our moments, our fights, yes we were different but we had unconditional love for one another. When he asked me to move in with him to a different country, I was hesitant at first but then I didn't care, all I wanted was to be with him.. I knew he had a 2year old son, now 4. I knew he was dealing with mental health issues just like I was, but I didn't mind. Saturday December 3rd while his son was with us for the weekend he said what he said, I thought I was gonna pass out, I tried so hard to keep it together so his son didn't see me cry.. I told him you can't just do that you can't just throw away 2 years of love out the window.. he said he wants to focus on himself and raising his son. When his son went to sleep, we were talking and crying and I begged him to not let anything ruin what we have. He had already booked me a ticket earlier that day for Monday morning December 5th.. he told me that he needs to find himself and I need to find mine, and i told him I'm truly myself when I'm with him, and he still wasn't changing his mind.. Sunday after he dropped off his son to his mother, he came back, I had already packed my stuff. Earlier that day his son being only 4 and not even speaking any English asked me to stay and my dog.. and he still wouldn't change his mind. I know I wasn't always perfect, I know I made mistakes, but I loved him with all my heart, every little piece of me. How could he just throw me out in a matter of 2 days, forcing me to switch countries again, start from zero? I can't cope, I'm lost, numb, I love him so much, and everyone is telling me that I deserve better and that no person has the right to just treat someone like that..yet all I am thinking about is him.. he was my first love, my first real relationship.. I don't think he's ever coming back.. how do I live without him?
Hey, first of all I am sorry for this late reply. I want to say that I am truly sorry to be reading this....my heart was breaking as I read more and more....wow. First, I want to say that as you mentioned a person who has mental health issues is in my opinion almost never ready or fit to truly be in a healthy relationship....I know this from experience. It almost always involves co dependency which often results in toxicity....I will say that while what he did was harsh, he is doing what is best for him. He came to the realization that he has some real problems and he knows he has to fix them....to fix himself. This reminds me of my ex....towards the end of my relationship with her she broke things off with me for a tiny period of time and when she did she called me in the middle of the night just crying. She told me that she feels so lost and so depressed and she doesn't think she could ever be right for me or for anyone until she works on herself....and she was right....we got back together a short while later but it didnt change the fact that she had to do the things she said. Was your man wrong to just totally drop it on you the way he did and throw you out? Yes, anyone reasonable person should have allowed time for you to get yourself situated so you can figure out your living situation....he most def. was harsh about that. How do you live without him? By working on yourself and finding out who you truly are....rely and realize that all you need is the woman in the mirror....it sounds cliche but it really isnt.
@TheRealTalk Vlogs thank you so much for taking the time to respond. It's been a little over a month now, I'm really taking this one day at a time, some days are good, some days are bad. But I still cry and think of him on a daily basis. I am trying to understand him, and how he must be feeling. Maybe I'm showing compassion even, because I truly love him and I want him to be happy. I know I truly gave my all and I loved him unconditionally, I always will. He will always have a part of me and my heart. I don't know if he will ever come back to me, or how I'm going to react if he does, if there's ever gonna be a second chance.. but right now I know I need to focus on me, try to move on, be the best version of myself. But it truly hurts me, and that's ok. I am healing, I am allowing myself to feel all this, so that one day I am stronger and better. I read this quote recently saying "I'm gonna have to miss you longer than I've known you", and that just broke me.. but it is reality..
@@CB-ph3kn Wow....that quote got me just now too. And it's good you are doing all of those things. There may or may not be a second time around with him....but if he does for whatever reason come around you need to be extremely careful and very vigilant....never forget what he did when he suddenly didnt want you anymore. I hope you continue to heal and you will most def. with time. Use this trauma for positivity and self development.
My boyfriend just recently broke up with me 3 days ago. He said he couldnt handle a relationship in the mental state he is in. He blamed his mental health issues on his parents, his future and him having personal issues with himself mentally and physically. He said he needed time for himself if he was going to be in a stable relationship with me. Me being overwhelmed asked him if he would ever see himself coming back to me when he is mentally and physically okay. He said "I think so, I really hope so." Now I am here watching videos like this, just wondering if he is going to regret leaving me or at some point start to miss me. If I am being honest I feel like if he ever does come back to me (whenever that might be) I will have already moved on.
So....this is tough, I think he is being honest with you. I have done this before in some ways and it was really tough for me and the girl....i couldnt stay away and I def. got back with her....will he regret it?? Possibly....if u do move on then u move on and that is good for you....if you are still in love with him and want to give it another shot then that is fine too.
@@therealtalkvlogs Well now I realized that I am fine with just being friends with him because he told me the day we broke up "I want to be friends still, I dont want to stop talking to you too or anything". Its just that he cant handle a relationship for a while. I finally have realized now that I rather be friends with him. Now I am just debating on how to text him since the last time we have spoke was on the day we broke up. I am not sure If I should say " Hey hows it going, I just want to catch up" or if I should just tell him straight up that I am now fine with being friends with him now that I have had time to realized I liked him as a person and dont want to lose our friendship. I just dont know how to text him randomly after a week of being broken up. I just want us to be friends at this point.
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Hey I was wondering if your able to make a video about when the guy breaks up a long term relationship (3 years) because he was not ready to keep moving forward if he has lost the sense who he is anymore, he doesn't feel like he's at the stage he wants to be in life, and won't be able to give his all in the relationship like their parent is. Do you think it was the right choice if he made the decision to break it off or should the relationship kept going while he was working on himself and get the support of their partner?
Hey there! I can def. make a video on this. I can only speak from my perspective as well as my experiences in that matter though. I can also include what I have seen before in others as well as what I think most men probably do. But yes I can and will make a video on this one soon. To answer your question real quick if it was the right thing for him to break it off or not while he is working on himself....only time will tell. It is one of those things where it is really dependent upon the person. If it works out for him then yeah I would say it was the right choice, if not the no, but was it the right choice for you 2 overall?? There are many shades of grey with this. Perhaps yes because he obviously was not all in. Perhaps no because he could have fixed himself with you etc.
I have the feeling that my boyfriend wanted to break up with me. He told me that he and I have different priorities and since we're long distance, we're also in a different time zones. I do understand how he felt but basing on the different love language we both have we still manage to have a misunderstanding at times. He's also older than me which made him maturer than me. I don't know how I would feel if he actually decides to break up with me. The thing is that we still love each other so I don't know how it will go :(
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I am sorry to hear this....maybe you should approach him and address the issue and how you are feeling to him?? I know what it's like to be long distance and so on....if it doesn't work out then you know it wasn't truly meant to be....or at least not right now. Let me know if I can help
@@therealtalkvlogs thankyou for this sadly, we had broken up 3 days ago, he said that he needs time to focus jn building his dreams the past 4 days also made me realize that I haven't actually acknowledging his feelings and don't see how hurt he is, and some times I even throw tantrums at him and just couldn't see that he's tired both physically and mentally because he couldn't or is afraid to open up to be because he's worried that he might hurt my feelings, I wasn't good at consoling him those moments he needs me which led him to keep his emotions for himself, I wish I had realized it sooner, its hard for me but 2 days after I broke down and messaged him telling him I don't have anyone, we talked for hours and it made me understand his needs more, we didn't got back together but I still love him but at that time we last talked he made me realize what he needs which is time to self improve, and find his purpose in life again, it's hard but that talk with him that night made me feel relief that he's trying to heal and I will do the same as if ever we got back together or if ever I were to be in a relationship with other people I would make sure that I'm ready and that I can build a great foundation and is fully healed so that I'll be ready to be there and give my future partner the best, I wasn't crying anymore, the memories just makes me smile and knowing that my ex is out there healing and funding his purpose makes me happy, I'll be doing the same but id really appreciate ro get some advice as a part of me still hopes that we can get back together but at the same time I want to focus on my healing as well, I miss him tho, a lot, specially I don't have friends to be there for me in this hard time, my family is also busy, I'm basically just relying on my own company atm, I'm not sure, do you have any idea how to cope with it? As he's really the one that made me feel like I have someone, just hard losing him but I know its for our best so that we can both be the best version of ourselves😊
I like the way u think, I think it's completely normal to miss him and such, all the best in your future. I say focus on improving yourself and maybe talk to him from time to time if he's comfortable with it
@@jongjocelannpenetrado1123 keep healing and relatives? Lol how embarrassing for them-karma for him! Don't check his social media anymore. Delete the apps for a month or two and just enjoy life you will feel better!
Got dump just last week, he attempt that he still loves me but he can't continue cause he feels empty and I still love him too. Thou we've been communicating before he got serious about the break up stuff, and now he doesn't respond to my calls , chats and messages. I miss him thou and it hurt.And I wouldn't block me
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I just start crying we broke up two months ago and he was the one who broke up because he lost interest in me and because he was moving to another country because of work and everthing its been just 2 months and i miss him so so much he was literally love of my life and i realy hope we'll be together again this video and your words are so beautiful its just make me realize and see those things more clearly especially this part he is sad too and look at your photos together have a nice weekend and thank you so much for this 🥰❤
I am sorry for the late reply....I have been dealing with my own issues regarding stuff as you can imagine. I am happy this brought you clarity and I am sorry you are hurting....I know the feeling. I am currently experiencing it as well. We will all get through it........
@@therealtalkvlogs I'm so sorry well its been four weeks i wrote this and i saw my ex we hope to get back together soon because he knows what he lost and he still love me i know that just be strong and patient maybe things would go in right direction again send you lots of prayers and hugs x
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I recently broke up with my girlfriend and was sure it was what I wanted and the right thing to do. Now I'm doubting it and in absolute hell. It's just like as if she had broken up with me, probably even worse.
Me and my ex agreed to be as a friends. But he doesn't initiate to chat me coz he is a kind of introvert guy. So I chatted him forst asking some random questions and he still responds but not initianting maybe also because he is guilty or what? Since he is the one who broke up with me. I'm still hoping for him to come back someday. I still love him and I know he still have feelings for me. How can I make him fell in love with me again?
If he broke up with you this is a clear sign he definitely wants distance. His not reaching out first is to be expected. The best way to get him to come back is to leave him be and to work on yourself. Its the best thing for you and if he sees you doing well he may come back around. But you shouldnt take him back if thats the case. If he cant accept you and want you now then he shouldnt have you just because you are doing better.
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Damn, I was able to relate a lot to the video. But when the person cheats on you, it is not okay! I have evry right tto be upset and break up with the person and feel no regret. Neither do I want to keep any part of me with them or any part of them with me!!
Uhhhhhh yeah!!! The first girl I ever loved I still had feelings for her a year and a half after we broke up....I still missed her and thought about her.....my ex from way back at the start of college I broke up with her but it took me roughly a year to get over her....it didnt help that she and I had a ton of mutual friends and we worked together for months after the breakup. A lot but not all men are this way
My ex dumped me yesterday , it's been 2 days he keep ignoring my messages and call , and he blocked me from everywhere and the last message he said is that" I have to move on, I changing city for work and I cannot give u enough time " it's hurts me so bad 😢
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But mine has distractions Like work:- he does manual labour like welding, grinding etC ALL DAY He also has video games and anime. He has plenty of distractions Will he still miss me??
Oh yes....he will. I could be wrong but I am pretty sure he will. I had all kinds of distractions and things that kept me busy plus I never felt like a lost myself in my last relationship and I still missed my ex a lot.
@@therealtalkvlogs But the breakup was partly my fault My anxiety I was extremely anxious which led me to doubt his love for me I needed constant reassurance from him and he did give it to me but it came to a point that caused him to be anxious and depressed So when he picked me up he was like “we need to talk” So we broke up On his part:- He wasn’t the best communicator there were days he was extremely flat out and didn’t text me like he used It led me to believe in worst case scenario I mean I wasn’t toxic or possessive or anything like that but yeah I was definitely insecure and just as bad while communicating. That caused me to doubt his love for me So he broke up
@@asmisamaze1234 Well....its good you realize these things. I know what it's like to be in his position, my ex drove me crazy with those types of things. She just could never get over it....it does really hinder the relationship....
@@therealtalkvlogs It’s been 3 months since the breakup now. While yes I’m focusing on myself but I miss my ex (the dumper) I haven’t even heard from him yet. It seems like he doesn’t even care. I’m not gonna be the one to reach out as I’m still in no contact Yes I got stuff wrong in a relationship but at times I do get curious. It hurts 😢
Bro....I know exactly how this feels. I have had girls who totally screwed things up and I broke up with them and months and months later it was nothing but harassing text messages about how everything was my fault....
@@therealtalkvlogs when she had to get her stuff to move out she was dragging her feet she asked me to keep texting her and looked like maybe we would rekindle. Last I saw her she was crying in my arms and a month later I saw a photo of her with some guys arm around her from a few days before she was crying. Lol insanity
@@Eyeinthesky7 My ex did the same thing pretty much....she also hit me and did a lot of other really fucked up things I wont say on this comment chain. And haha I know exactly what you mean when you see her with other men but then she crys....I hate to say it bro but women like that are often confused and fundamentally broken....
@@therealtalkvlogs on top of it the guy looks like me. I will say though at the break up her biggest complaint was that I always iced her out and didn't show emotion. However I resented her prob for something I could've just shared with my boys. The latter is also something I'm working on while being single, social circle. She kind of shitted on me for not having as many friends although all her friends were enabling drunks, she was a drunk which is another reason I had to let her go. I'm venting right now, thanks lol
@@Eyeinthesky7 Yeahhhhh....its a crazy world we live in now a days man. But dude thats good you broke up with her. As a man its important to do those things when its truly bad for you. It shows them that you are no simp plus it trains you to accept no BS in the future. You will truly be better off for it.
I was in a toxic relationship on and off for 4 years. It didn't start of toxic, but after he cheated 2 times, I became that toxic partner. I became paranoid and controlling. Eventually, he got tired of it and broke up with me last year. Since our breakup, we have still seen each other, and he tries to move on, but I still keep going back because I miss him. This year, I'm trying to stay away. It's hard. I keep wondering if he misses me or still has feelings for me? Does he even care anymore? I was his first real relationship, so I'm curious if he's healed and tries to play it off like he did? Because he's very stubborn and doesn't like to show his emotions.
Well first of all I cant blame u because of the things he did....I personally would have just broken it off after the first time he cheated. But, in this particular case he may....he may not. It depends on the time and how long....
He is my first love and i of his, i love his like crazy with my family friends and in the end one day he block me in call without saying anything and when i text him he say he has lot to do and he don't know he even love me or not and then he block me from all the social media, i beg him for one call i say please let me hear ur voice for the last time , it's a 2 years of relationship plz, but he say he don't want to talk, it's begin one month and i m trying my best to move on
My boyfriend broke up with me last month and it still hurts. It has been one month but I still loved him and I want him to come back. But I guess he does not love me anymore. He did not contact me or anything. He just want me out of his life. And it hurts so much because I love him more than anything else. Gosh.. I want him back and I would do everything to have him back but what will I do if he does not want me anymore :(
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depends on the circumstance of the breakup....it could be because he was so upset and was trying to fill a void and sought out other girls to distract him from his pain and also to help out his ego
Me and my boyfriend for long distance way more long-distance I live in California he lives in Ireland, everything was great between us and the beginning the first four months was long distance and everything was great, he took a flight out here to America and stayed out here with me for 3 months and everything was perfect like I truly saw love between me and him, but then he had to go back home and then things changed me and him were fighting a lot and just at each other's throats all the time and 5 days ago he broke it off with me he didn't even give me a reason, two people who I thought were my friends who are also my friends they decided to personally attack me and blame the whole thing on me saying it was my fault and said that I am immature and a bunch of other things and it's like I don't know why he would do that to me because we were so in love in the beginning and when we had to be long distance again things got tough and it's like he didn't want to try to work through the hardest part of our relationshipand I'm extremely heartbroken at this point because I was actually engaged to this man and we were together for almost a year 7 months of it were perfect the other three were like terrible and I guess the question I'm willing to ask is when a guy breaks up with you is he only thinking about the bad in your relationship will he ever remember all the good that you had😭
My ex and I went our separate ways over a month ago! We was together for 5 1/2 yrs we had alot of good times together but we also had our bad times it was toxic but we was getting better and got through some things that had broke us up in the relationship! We had a bad fight and I ended up in jail after that he didn't want to have anything to do with me it was both our faults for the fight. Even tho I went to jail for 2 days I was still wanting to stay together cause I love him but he didn't want to be together anymore and he ended up blocking me on everything and I still can't reach out to him and he hasn't tried to reach out to me at all. A friend ask him about me and he cut her off and told her he didn't want to talk or hear anything about our relationship!! I was able to ask him if he hated me and he told me no he just didn't want to be in a relationship with me anymore . But I feel that he does Hate me he turned so cold towards me he makes me feel like I meant nothing to him at all! I'd do anything to work on our relationship cause I love him so much. He told me to move on caues he has move on from me so I don't know if he's already seeing or talking to someone else or if he just has completely removed me from his heart?!I dont know what to think anymore im so hurt over this I have a hard time functioning every day. I just want to be back together but I know it will probably never happen I lost him for ever!! He goes on day to day like nothing it's like this doesn't bother him at all!!
Wow....so first of all I can tell you I don't think he has fully moved on per se. I would say that he is def. in his own way traumatized over what happened and is probably still in disbelief over what happened and what you did to end up in jail. I don't know all the details and Idk what u did to end up in jail but I will say based on what u have told me it does seem like he is done....no disrespect but you must have done something really horrible out of spite to him that ended u up in jail for 2 days....I can tell you I have personally been through toxic relationships and have been on the receiving end of many horrible things by my exes and lets just say I lost all attraction to them and never looked at them the same....I was done....I am just surmising based on what u have told me....but it does seem that way to me.
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It can mean a few things but the one below by far is usually the biggest reason -he feels like a failure from the breakup and needs women to help validate himself
Somehow I don’t believe the guy who is the dumper will miss the girl. Because they always seem to do far better after the breakup compared to the girl. And us women, tend to invest in the relationship so much more and the breakup just hurts us even more.
I know it seems that way but its often not the case....sometimes it is but a lot of times its not. And I can say with almost complete certainty between the 2 sexes men feel more. And breakups are generally harder for men
Hey! Thanks for the question. The short answer is: NO. I have no regrets about breaking up with any of them. There was 1 however that I have certain regrets about how I conducted myself at times and I ultimately thought it was a shame that things didn't work out just because it didn't have to be the way that it was. But none the less it was what it was and tbh things did turn out for the better. I can wish all I want that it wasn't what it was, but it still was. We both likely would have been worse off if things had continued so thank the LORD it didn't. Keep in mind though none of what I just said negates how I would feel or how many men would feel as I described in these vids.
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This gave me clarity on some things though still so hard to comprehend how someone can seem so happy with you, constantly wanting to see you, bringing you around their family planning things with you telling you how much he loves you and then wake up one day out of no where tell you he doesn’t love you anymore and hasn’t for a while and doesn’t think you’re good enough. Yes feelings change but it doesn’t happen overnight how do you fake that
It's all part of the dangerous phenomenon called love....it's not to say that it was fake....who knows what it actually was?? Point is, these types of things can happen....everyone we meet is meant to teach us something
same.
honestly this has happened to me overnight (I'm not a man though), and to be honest now that i look back it wasn't actually "overnight" or as spontaneous as he made it out to be, there are some things that you just sweep under the rug that your partner does which makes you lose feelings for them more and more everyday. this happened to me because i also settled for him, he wasn't the one i truly wanted at all when i consider his appearance and personality, it was also my first relationship so i just fell in love over the fact of starting something new because it was exciting and i was young, not because of the person i was with. and so one day i just woke up and lost all attraction and love I've ever felt towards him and ended it. although we've talked about our future etc., i never really wanted it to be him :/
@@bih5616 they don’t know how to communicate hence why they fake it for soo long
This is so fucked up......he was even talking about kids...cheated and when I found out he broke up with me
Thank you so much for this video! My bf and I broke up last week after 2 years together from 17 to now 19 years old. We had a great, healthy relationship but as of last month he really changed. He told me that he wanted to have the college experience and I do understand that feelings can change especially with how young we are. We ended things on good terms but I’ve still been in so much pain and sadness while he seems perfectly fine. I just couldn’t understand how someone who loved me 2 weeks ago was fine losing me after 2 years.
UPDATE: shortly after I commented this I found out he had actually cheated on me. It makes a lot more sense as to how he was seemingly fine, he already had someone else. I was in shock for a few days but I cut off all contact and I’m doing a little better now. I’m glad someone who was willing to cause me so much pain is out of my life now.
I am sorry you are in pain....sometimes people just idk they change and they feel differently after a while. He may seem fine but its hard to say if he actually is or not....if he is then you know that he was just ready for a change and that his feelings began to change. He still very likely has great respect and admiration for you though....
Same thing happened to me last week. It’s been 10 days now and I’m feeling a little better x
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He broke up with me by text…I never replied. And now he’s asking to get back together and that he loves me. Why end it then? My heart was in pieces. I can never look at him the same way. We’re done 😓
If you choose not to get back with him then that is your choice and tbh I can't blame you. First of all to break up shows that there was something deeply wrong to begin with but he also didnt have the courage to speak to you and make things right or if he totally wanted to break it off he didnt have the decency to do it in person....you know what is best for you.
Wow. This gave me as the dumpor alot of clarity. I'm in the grieving/questioning stage right now after a month. And the thing you said about feeling relief is spot on.
I am glad this could be of help to you, and yupp! U know how it is! We go through it....it's tough
How long did it take you to fully get over it?
I always come back to this video when I get sad and it always makes me feel better and gives me a little bit of clarity I need 😩 thank you!
I am happy it does....let me know if I can ever help
Me too
Lol I just got dumped by a hot farmer who dumped me because it’s springtime and he’s got crops to work on and he doesn’t have time for me anymore! A part of me sees humor in being dumped for chickens and vegetables, but I’m also heartbroken at the same time 😂
I'm really sorry to hear this....are you sure thats the real reason why he is doing this??
@@therealtalkvlogs He claims he “lost feelings” for me and that he’s “so confused” because I’m the “whole package” for him. I miss him a lot. We were really happy and never fought until he went into quarantine for Covid where he had this sudden realization. The breakup was impulsive and out of the blue. He asked to be friends and I told him no and now we are in no contact. It’s been brutal going from such a high to such a low.
@@nylonbird And he gave you no further explanation than that?? Did you 2 have a really deep conversation about it??
@@therealtalkvlogs We had some talks before about how he was stressed about all the work he had to do in the spring and summer on the farm and how he was worried about maintaining our relationship. I had met him after only a month of being broken up with my other ex and I never got a chance to really heal or gain confidence from that and he met me only 5 months after a really intense long term relationship. It might just be bad timing honestly 😢
@@nylonbird Ahhhhhhhhhh....ok that explains it all right there. The both of you were rebounds to each other....in my opinion rarely do rebounds work out in the long run. You yourself said you hadn't healed and he himself likely hadn't either....I could be wrong but to him the relationship probably just wasn't totally right in his mind given the fact that he was going through a breakup....
I’m the dumper, I’m a man, and I’m struggling greatly. I loved her with all my heart and soul, and I still do. But as you said, some things just got me really tired, I couldn’t push through with some stuff any longer it just became too much of a weight and I started to resent myself and feel bad with me. It hurts, things don’t always work the way we would have liked them to.
Thank you for your video. It really helped me to put some things into perspective and in its place.
Omg sounds like him…he got tired of me bringing up things he’s done that have hurt me even tho he was actively trying to change for me…I was just so hurt
I teared up watching this, man. I walked away from my girl of 16 months just a month ago. Everything you said is exactly what I'm going through. I had to watch this video twice.
If this brought you some type of peace or helped you in some way shape or form I am happy it did....we both know exactly what it's like....it's never easy or fun. I am sorry you had to end things with her....I had to do the same thing a few times....everyone thinks suffering is only for the one who is broken up with....they're wrong
How long did it take you to heal? I broke up with my ex 2 months ago and I feel a sense of relief but also a lot of regret
we were together for 3 years and were living together he dumped me in January and he hasn’t talked to me ever since he left it’s been so hard not understanding what he must be feeling like right now and this video made me cry and gave me some comfort thank you for uploading this
I am so sorry to hear about your loss....I am happy this video gave you some clarity....I know it's hard....I am going through a breakup myself right now, I had to end things with the love of my life and it sucks beyond belief. Pain....a lot of pain....that's how it feels. I guess what I am trying to say is....it's ok to feel the way you feel....and whether you work things out with him or not you have all the tools to be your best self and you will become your best self....day by day, one step at a time, you will succeed my friend.
girl don't live with a man or give just anyone your womb without real commitment💔💔 this is why I'm waiting until marriage, soul ties are real and it's never too late to turn a new leaf :) God loves you
@@kannot1 hey, lets not assume people's situations! everyone has different lives and not everyone is waiting til marriage
@@kannot1 divorces happen a lot too so it depends personal preference. There is litterally no guarantee you will always be with the person you love. Marriage or not.
Just imagine this. You will divorce one day anyway if you two ever get married. Just be happy that you ended things early on instead of ending things with children on the way.. this way, I feel a sense of relief during my breakup and grieving stage.
I’m so sad. We had a five year relationship. Lived together for two. I really thought we were best friends, soulmates. He dumped me one day over text while I was at work. He packed everything, left, blocked me immediately. It’s just horrible. Like he is a different person. I feel like I didn’t matter. I’d love to believe that he misses me but I feel like sometimes I didn’t matter if he could leave that way & just cut me out
Same!
Wow....I am really sorry to hear that....you guys must have been fighting a lot leading up to that??
Each time I miss him I look this up. It always hurts but I'd be living farther in past if I couldn't come back to hear this.
I am happy this has been helpful to you. Healing takes time....
Thank you for this. I got dumped a few days ago and it was a complete shock. Were together for 5 months but was serious - met my mum with me two weeks before. Only reason he gave was that he couldn’t see a future with me, but that I’ve been “the perfect girlfriend” and couldn’t explain anything I’d done wrong or any issues we had. Never had an argument. Just find it so hard to understand, especially when he said he still loves me.
Bottom line he is unsure of himself. He needs to figure it out
@@therealtalkvlogs all my friends have told me this. You’re right on the money! Thanks for replying x
I had something similar happen to me 2 months ago, I found that there was not much point in trying to persuade him to stay as he was already set in his mind to break up so I kept my dignity and went into NC. I feel much better these days so my advice is go into NC and one day he may realise the mistake you made, and either way it is a matter of time until you find someone better suited
@@Summer_chestnutdid no contact work?
@@Lol1337forever it did not with this particular ex.. but don’t lose hope, it has worked with many of my other exes, and in fact now several months have gone by I realise we weren’t very well suited to each other xx
Just went through a breakup the other day. Probably the worst i ever felt. Im currently having a hard time accepting it and im shocked it happened. But this video helped me so much. Thank you
I am happy it could be of some help....stay strong my friend.
He broke up with me 3 days ago. We were together for a year and a half. He told me that he had alot going on and that he "couldnt give me what i deserve" in the state that he is in. We arent speaking currently, im giving him space, but sometimes i wonder whats going on in his mind and this really gave me a bit of peace.. Thank you so much.
I’m in a similar situation as u rn
We tried to be friends but every time he sees me, he gets emotional! I’m just better at hiding it than he is 😆 makes no sense how we can feel this way for each other but can’t be together.
My apologies for the late reply. I have been dealing with so much lately. Landriah....why dont you be with him??
Helpful video to understand the mental process of the guy after a breakup. I broke up with my boyfriend and felt instantly better, because there was so much disrespect, smothering and lying from him and I couldn’t bear it any longer. But there is also the other part of it that I have to deal with. We had some good times, either real or imagined, in the midst of it all. There are things we did that were special. I did learn some valuable things from him. but he needs to do a lot of work on himself, there are a lot of issues there. I feel like it took me this entire week to finally get sad about it. He had a lot of secretive and other odd behaviors. Whether he was seeing another woman or just odd I don’t know. But it was too much for me. I also need to just be single and work on myself for awhile.
Wow....everything you just said is how I felt at one point and/or how I still feel I guess....it is normal to feel what you are feeling trust me I know. U gotta take the good with the bad, there is always an up and a down to any avenue taken. But what u did was for the better, that too I do know
I have to say, you did a great and amazing job with this topic. You are on point with everything that you said.
Pain is real
Thank you
In my case, we dated 5 months, he was very serious, very good partner was trying a lot every day I felted very loved; his family and friends loved me, we was very into spending time together. Had only 1 fight and after he said we need to break up as we aren’t working and things got hard. He is 25, me 26. He said he still loves me but doesn’t see future and thought about it for the last month. Which I still can’t get as that month was a very happy time for us, idk how could he fake all the “I wanna see u so much let’s at least video call” and two days after he broke up. We didn’t have fights or anything, I thought finally a perfect match…
I am really sorry to hear this....so in 5 months you guys had 1 fight that led to the breakup??
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Girlll you explained my situation! I was upset because he said I love you and then 2 weeks over like 1 fight he said me need to break up and I need to heal. We
We’re together for 4
Months but it was really serious. I want to know how you’re doing?
The exact same thing happened to me and now Im left devastated and heartbroken.
I recently just got dumped. We dated for 5 years . He went for military training for 6months , i waited for him and a week after he came back he broke up with me and said i deserve a better person. We never faught or had lots of bad days . It was all fine. I still dont understand how he could break my heart just like that.
I am really sorry to hear this....what happened leading up to it??
@@therealtalkvlogs he just said i deserve better thats it
@@mariamalaya6091 I am really not sure what to say....people change sometimes, he should have parted ways more amicably though
@@therealtalkvlogs its true and i guess people do change. Thank you so much for the replies.
@Maria Malaya In my unprofessional opinion, I think he was thinking about ending things much before he left for his training. I ended up leaving my GF of 4 years because towards the end I didn’t think we were compatible. The thing is that I knew I wanted to leave her a year before, but was afraid of how I would feel after breaking her heart…so I stalled.
Been almost 6 months after being dumped, the pain has subsided a lot, but the constant living in the past is on the loop and it hurts so much to not being able to talk to him cause he cut me off outta his life. But yeah, I guess, that's his way of handling. It just feels unfair that I'm the only one suffering probably and he might be doing better. It's tough moving on man! Idk if he even thinks about me ever.
I am sorry to hear this....I will say though that what he did in my opinion is typical for a good number of men as far as cutting the ex off. Thats what I had to do with my ex. Just cause he cut u off and doesnt reach out does not mean that you are the only one suffering....he may be doing better but I would be willing to bet that he does think about you.
@@therealtalkvlogs thank you for your kind words. Means a lot.
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I hope this all works out for you....
i broke up with my ex and with no context you explained it so well
Thank you, I am glad I could be of help
Sometimes men just dump you coz they are jerks. They want something new.
Thank you for sharing real feelings. My ex is high functioning ASD and I don’t think he grieves me or the relationship. He’s really ok with relationships having a “shelf life.” It was probably me with the magical thinking I could be the one to change his mind.
I am really sorry to hear this....
To all the people who are hurting and feeling lost and thinking that the pain will never end. Just imagine this. You will divorce one day anyway if you two ever get married. There is no FOREVER here on earth. Marriage is A LOT OF HARDWORK. Its not just happiness and butterflies. People change, emotions change. The only permanent thing on earth is Change. Just be happy that you ended things early on instead of ending things with children on the way and going through a divorce. This way, I feel a sense of relief during my breakup and grieving stage..
I’m confused! My guy broke up with me because i wasn’t willing to change. However I just recently reached out to him, telling him how much I missed him. And he quickly responded and told me he missed me a lot! And he poured his feelings out to me and even expressed that he loved me! But it’s been a day and we haven’t talked. Do I have a chance? I want him back…
Move on
We broke up a month ago now. We have broken up twice before for a 1-2 days, and I always begged him to reconsider. This time we ended and i went to see him one last time and he was the one that cried multiple times saying how much he loves me and can never imagine being intimate with anyone else. I was his first love, and prior to me, he had been with 70 girls sexually (he gets girls like no other), but he fell in love with me and it was really amazing. After we said our byes he did say he needs to heal now from the pain I caused but wants to see how things are with me in a few weeks. A few days later he called me drunk telling me how much he loves and misses me but he just doesn’t wanna put himself back in the relationship right now just to get hurt again. After that we talked one more time I told him
To get his stuff and he cried saying it was too soon and he didn’t want to. I’m confused how he acted since he was the one who broke up with me, but seemed so emotional about it. After that we didn’t talk anymore, two weeks later called me on Canada day but I was super drunk and just said “ what do you want” and don’t actually remember the conversation. Since then we haven’t spoken, I saw him at a concert just a week ago holding a girls hand and he freaked out when he saw me, dropped this girl immediately and followed me to the bathroom, I didn’t say anything to him and he didn’t say anything to me, and that was all. We’ve been in no contact since the 1st of July but I guess had I not answered his call on Canada it would’ve been since the 21st of June. Do you think I should just leave it and wait for him to reach out? I wonder if he’s too scared to reach out because he feels I’ve moved on because I haven’t given him any indication of me caring anymore. I also know his friends and him are big advocates for sleep with other people to get over someone, so I know he’s off doing his thing. He said we’d talk again around this time, but he’s telling our mutual friend he’s doing fine and moving on, but he still watches my insta stories every once and a while though he doesn’t follow me. What do you think he’s thinking? Is he really moving on or just saying that because he knows it’ll get back to me? Help
Dont go back to him. He's toxic for you. He'll just take your happiness away. Love should be peaceful.
Wow....well to put it simply he is in great turmoil. He cant make sense of everything in his head and his heart and his mind and his heart are at war. He wants you but then again he either does not want it enough or he just cant make total sense of being with you in his mind given the issues you guys had but he can't stand not being with you let alone the thought of you being with another man especially sexually. Believe it or not that kills a man super hard inside. I think you should let it be and wait to see what he does. If he has a total meltdown which he probably will and he comes running back on his knees holding your hands practically begging you to tell him you still love him and still care then you can decide what you want to do from there.
this is me rn ngl. i came into this one giving everything bc I thought she was different than the last one, but the day after we broke up she got with another guy and hid if for me for a month while we were still “friends” and talking. and you’re exactly right. i was in that sadness place right before i found out and i honestly was going to go back. but i can’t now.
I am really sorry to hear this bro....if it makes you feel any better this has happened to every guy I know including myself. It happens, use this time to build yourself up and increase your value as a man.
Okay so my boyfriend dumped me (around two months ago) because „I’m too good to/for him. Because he couldn’t make the time for me that I deserve and because he isn’t the boyfriend that I want” -> his words not mine. I think it’s just a lazy way of pushing me out of the way instead of working on himself and putting effort into the relationship. He didn’t plan on breaking up with me (we had been fighting over time together again) and even still told me that he loved me when he ended it….The thing is that I did want to see him a lot and he does have his projects and stuff but he put less and less effort into me and I didn’t even feel like a third priority. So after the break up he started avoiding everything by working and filling all his time with work and friends.
So we met up after the break up and slept together were he told me that he missed me and that it feels good to be around me and all that stuff. A week later he called me up and told me that he lost feelings and would rather flirt with other girls etc.
I’m devastated and feel like I’ve meant nothing to him
Wow....uhhhhh I will say that seems like a guy who is just floating around and doesn't know what he wants. Becareful, he seems a bit narcissitist.
@@therealtalkvlogs I’ve actually been thinking that too…he does show a lot of signs of narcissism but then again a few don’t match at all. He also shows quite a few signs of adhd… it’s really hard. Bc I know that narcissistic people don’t miss their ex partners etc. and I just wanna know that he misses me too oof
@@julias.567 So thats not entirely true in my opinion....narcisists often need someone to feed their egos....they inevitably will miss you and may come back around. I would say he does
@@therealtalkvlogs I sure hope you’re right…wether I’d want him back or not, I just need to know that this relationship wasn’t entirely wasted or meaningless after all
@@julias.567 I don't think it was
This is helpful especially when I’m 6 months pregnant he broke up with me. It’s hard it’s been almost a month but I’m hoping things will settle.
I am beyond sorry to see this....perhaps he will come around....what happened??
@@therealtalkvlogs he was so into thinking I cheated on him when I didn’t he holds a grudge over me for living with another man when we were single he had a gf at the time and still wanted me to move in with him but I wasn’t going to do that now he thinks that I’m cheating on him with the guy I lived with.
We just broke up 3 days ago and he's reason is he can't handle the ldr stress but he decided to separated and think about it in just one whole day . Isn't weird? Like I was shock since there's is no signal and he didn't even changes just that day.
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This video came out the perfect time. I’m gay, and my ex bf and I definitely had a whirlwind romance. We just could never see eye to eye on things. I ended up ending things. Seeing him hurt was one of the worst pains I’ve ever experienced. But every day, I am reassured that I made the right decision. All I hope for him is happiness and closure. Now I’m trying to find myself. I’m reintroducing hobbies I missed doing. I’m focusing on my fitness and career. I do feel relief, but it’s so easy to be sad knowing that the person that I love is hurting. I miss him everyday, but I know we were not right for each other.
Jon, I am literally going through the same thing! I had to break up with my girlfriend. I lost the woman I love. Literally what u just described is what I am going through right now too....and yes while it is a relief it also brings me great pain because I know she is suffering or was at least....I never truly wanted to not be with her I just knew I couldn't be with her and that if I continued with her I was going to go to a dark and dangerous place in my life. Anyways, question for you....do you think you deserve someone great?? And to be happy?? Might seem like a weird question but I'll explain why I ask later.
@@therealtalkvlogs I’m glad we are able to relate to each other! I’m sorry you are going through a breakup too. I’m about a month out from the breakup and it hurts (we have been together for 2years at least). I do believe I deserve someone great. But people aren’t checklists-I’m trying to be open once I’m ready to date again. I know there are certain things I cannot compromise on-friends, goals/dreams, my health, my job. But I do believe that happiness starts from within. And the right person will just enhance that. Instead of changing you into someone else, they will just bring out the best in yourself :)
Very well said, you should not have to compromise your beliefs, your wants, and who you are for someone. It should just be natural for the most part. I am sure u will find that person.
I got dumped 2 months ago after almost 3 years. He said he wanted to focus on his business. However during the whole i supported him and actually make him to become independent and earn by his own. I gave him time and space when he needed to focus and to be honest i sacrificed my own improvement for him which i didn't realized on that time. However he dumped me when i was trying to focus on myself and dealing with some issues. I'm still hurt and can't justify this and justify what i did and what i got at the end. Now after 2 months eventhough i didn't contact him or anything all of sudden he blocked me from everywhere. He blocked once and unblocked me but this time he did from everywhere. So i really can't understand what is happening.
First I am sorry for the later reply. Second, I will say that what u did for him was a very admirable thing and most men would love to have that quality in a woman. He is clearly a really selfish man with his own ego issues and he obviously couldnt see that this relationship is and or needed to be a 2 way street and that is his own fault. As far as the blocking and unblocking he is being petty and he is hoping you will notice and may be at some point reach out. My advice don't do it.
I got dumped and still love him...we dated for almost 2 years and he won't stop texting me idk what 2 do😭
What is stopping you from hearing him out??
@@therealtalkvlogs he kept saying it was my fault then he apologized then said i cant do this yet next day said i love you. Its hard really hard. Cause i want him back but the reason we broke up was cause his opinions weren't just hear me out they were u better not go to that place and stuff....very controlling
@@therealtalkvlogs if that makes sense....idk what to do though cause my uncle now has cancer and we might put my dog down...just a lot rn
Block him for the sake of your healing and peace of mind.He is probably a narcissist who wants to play around with your emotions
@@blessedsoul949 😂jump to conclutions
He told me he didn’t feel like he was good enough. He went cold.
Hmmm..
I was deeply depressed and a functional alcoholic when I broke up with a girlfriend of almost four years. It was probably one of the most painful things I have ever had to do. I worked third shift and long hours but she wouldn't give me a break. She was still in college at the time and expected me to get up after being in bed for maybe an hour to go do something until I had to go back to work in the evenings. I finally broke and ended the relationship. After I ended it I was still depressed but my drinking slowed down in the amounts. I also told my job that I wasn't interested in all the overtime I was being given because I couldn't get caught up on sleep to come back to work that evening. I didn't realize at the time how much my ex girlfriend had me torn down. I was paying my bills along with her books and helping with tuition. Once I got normal sleep then my drinking basically stopped and I came out of the depression.
It's been around 2 months since my ex broke up with me, we had been dating since past 7 years. Around 1 and half year back out of nowhere he started acting so weird, I was living in another city at that time. There were days when I would wait for his text or call till 3-4 am, I was also preparing for an important exam at that time, my mind was in such a distress. After 1-2 weeks of such behavior I asked him to tell clearly what is going on, he said we have no future together. He was in a pretty bad place in his life at that time so I thought he might be feeling low because of all that. He was not breaking up also (I asked him so many times if he wanted to end things, he always told he doesn't) and I was not ready to let go of him. 3-4 months were gone like that and his behavior was not changing and I was trying everything I can from my side. After 3-4 months, when things started falling into place in his life, I asked him what does he think of us now....again same answer. I decided to end things at that moment, I told him if you really want us to be apart theres no point in staying together. Just next day he called me and said he can't do this, he loves me too much to let go of me then we were together again. I started trusting him. He switched his job and moved to another city. After some time he again said we have no future together and started seeing some another girl after 15-20 days post breakup. I feel so heartbroken now and I don't know what to think of him anymore. This video got recommended in my feed today and I feel a bit relieved.
Wow....thats quite a story. I am sorry u went through that. I am happy this video helped and gave u some peace.
This made me cry even tho the breakup is one year ago😭still not over it..💔
You have a really nice and calm voice!
If this video brought you some clarity then I am happy it did....I know the pain and what it feels like....it will all pass in time. And thank you, it means a lot to me.
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My best guy friend was inlove with me. But I was with someone else... I was gonna leave this asshole that Im with. He hung around a while... then he started ignoring me and showing me he hangs with other girls.Then I did the same. Ignored him. He realized it backfired and he left town had a party and I wasn't invited. Found out after he left. Now Im not so sure I have feelings for him anymore. But I loved him. He waited a longtime. But he played mindgames instead of actually telling me how he felt. He never said it. I was waiting for him to say it. And realize he cant take me for granted. And he can't replace me. 😍
Most beautiful insight. Brings so much clarity and comfort.
I am happy this did for you (:
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Thank you so much for this video. it helped me tremendously. the last few weeks have been very rough. my ex boyfriend and i broke up 2 months ago and we were dating two years. we were each other’s first loves but we broke up due to some of the toxic things that were going on in the relationship. a few weeks after we broke up, he just grew cold. no more texting, no more talking on the phone , he basically can’t even look at me now. i don’t know why. it came out of nowhere. when we broke up we were doing okay, we were actually friends for a few weeks and we were happy just being friends. i don’t understand what went wrong….
Naiya I am sorry for the late reply.....I myself have been going through a breakup and it is tough to say the least. I could be wrong but from a guys perspective it seems to me that he is holding some resentment towards you for the breakup but not just that. He is resentful that you seem to be ok with being friends....I would freak the fuck out if that was me haha. I could be wrong though. You or anyone else can message me on instagram and I would be happy to talk and to help provide clarity if I can. @Raystangsation_92
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@@therealtalkvlogswhat happens when a ex finds it impossible to be friends? at all
Just found your video❤ recently separate from each other had 1 month serious together all of the sudden family issues, he started to pulled away and 2 weeks of hold on to pull away situation I decided to ask him about our relationship problems is that i was grumpy or not but he said it wasnt grumpy reason it is family issue and he couldn’t give himself to anyone. So sad that we couldn’t go on longer. Love your video this give me comfort
I am very sorry to hear that....I am glad I was able to help and give you some clarity though....
My ex broke up with me because I let myself go in our 4 year relationship. I didn't focus on working out and looking good. And I wasn't goal oriented. He wanted to be with someone who's already beautiful and have their life together. I'm not upset with him for thinking that and for leaving me to be with someone like that. Now that I'm single I'm finally starting to feel happy about mvself but I still have a lot of work to do on myself.
did he come back?
@@meliciakristianaboyd0520 he actually reached out to me but I realized I shouldn’t be with him again. I was tired of everything and being with toxic person was draining. I am grateful to have a relationship with him. To learn and grow from it. I wish you all the best
Long story short, i felt like she was playing too many silly games(nothing serious) but it felt like she was not respecting my boundaries considering i told her to stop doing that and so i decided to break things off, didn't even elaborate to her on why all i said was "you play too much", wished her a good life and left..i did feel relieved that night and maybe the next day but shorty after that i started feeling sad about it, did exactly what u did by asking friends whether it was the right thing to do, they all said it was but as you said it only gives a little comfort..spoke to a mutual friend the other day and he said she keeps talking about me saying she misses me and even went as far as sending me a screenshot of her saying shes " so hung up on me", to be honest i still like her and would like for things to work but idk what to do lol i feel like if i reach out she will take it for granted and will keep playing the same silly games now that she knows theres no consequences..but i also miss her lol. Nonetheless thanks for making this video, i somehow feel less alone now!
Honestly i dont know how I stumbled to this video, but my boyfriend broke up with me about 2 months ago. the breakup was rather bittersweet because he was very emotional and very tender with me , reassured me that he loves me, but so much going on happening for him and it seemed to me he was overwhelmed and confused.. of course i didn’t want it to be over and as much as it pained me I respected his wishes ..we did no contact, till just a little before hitting 2 months I reached out to him and call him and he felt so detached and cold even when we spent about a hour.. and I just don’t know what to think, I did the stupid thing and told him that I have miss him and still love him, is all very confusing and thinking did I screw it up? I can’t shake this feeling ):
Did you screw up by reaching out?? No, it takes courage to do what you did and you are in tune and not afraid of what you feel. Thats a good thing. What I also want to say to you is, this had nothing to do with you....it was all totally a him thing. Him, his issues, and for him to figure out.
@@therealtalkvlogs thank you 🥲 Yeah… I know he’s dealing with a lot right now, I mean, I also asked him if we could meet again he told me he’ll think about it - what I don’t know what comes next? will I have to reach out again or he’ll be letting me know? Idk 😓
@@mblaqminoz I would let him be for now....he really needs to get himself together. And if he is serious about u he will make it known and he will reach out.
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He broke up with me 2 months ago. It was a 3 years long relationship We planned on getting married soon and he just told me few days after my bday that he cannot do it (he was waiting for my bday to be done). He said that he cannot marry me because he is not financially stable at this point. The saddest part of it is that he recently bought a new car and a new phone and he is financially stable enough, it felt like he was just giving reasons to breakup with me. The relationship was really good and it shocks me to know that he just ruined it. But I'm doing better than a month ago
when he left me three months ago after seven years together, I've always wondered what was going on inside his head before he decided to break-up with me... he seems okay and I haven't noticed him grieve, it's probably because he doesn't love me anymore and can easily move on with his life.. I've had faults but he didn't communicate anything to me and didn't even say sorry for not communicating anything
meanwhile, I'm here dead inside and crying everyday
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There is a lot more to this than you think. There is no way after 7 years he just suddenly does that. It may seem that way but I can almost guarantee u its not.
@@therealtalkvlogs Hello. Thanks for responding. It feels like my ex has checked out long before he ended things. He seems like a different person these days and I can’t find the person I was with for seven years. It’s just hard to accept. It’s only been three-four months and the change is drastic for him. I sometimes wonder if he ever grieved the loss of me.
I enjoyed the Video so much. Thank you for uploading. Feeling much better now. :)
I am happy you did! Stay tuned, I got more coming.
I needed this 3 months ago...iwas the dumper, and made myself look weak.
Hmmm....please elaborate
@@therealtalkvlogs I said I made a mistake and wanted her back. Begged in a way. She didn't come back
my boyfriend just broke up with me yesterday. we talked for about a month and a half and then he asked to make it official with me, everything was going amazing we literally were talking on the phone the night before him saying how much he misses me (bc i went home for winter break) and how he was gonna come visit me next wknd and meet my parents. then i wake up in the morning to a text of him breaking up with me after a month of being exclusive, i was so blind sided and baffled. he literally gave me no signs and then told me he was gonna do it earlier but didn’t want to ruin my christmas…. he literally texted me on christmas “im so happy i met you this year i wish you were with me celebrating christmas with me” if he rly was thinking of breaking up with me during that time and saying that shit to me like that’s so messed up. the situation makes me sick to my stomach. im just waiting for him to realize how much he fucked up and come running back.
Thanks for the positive encouragement every girlfriend that I've had has moved on immediately -I mean immediately!
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The thing about the guy I’m Inlove with is if we argue he will say things like “ I don’t know if I want this “ . once I try take some time out to get my shit together emotionally literally for maybe a hour or for the night he starts to say things like he’s going out , he’s going to talk to someone else since I’m not talking to him . I used to be very jealous when it came to him going with other females at parties because he would make up stories saying a girl touched him and things like that . When I would post confident pictures of myself to boost my self love he would say why am I posting things like that . Stupid me i love way too hard but I just wanna know why he always says he wants to leave and comes back the next night . I try to be as supportive as I can through everything especially when he needs me I never judge him for what he goes through but man I love him so much to the point where I try and understand things from his point of view as to why he would want to leave .
Wow....well first of all he sounds like a guy that cannot handle conflict at all. It needs to be either his way or the highway and he is spiteful. To sit there and tell your girl that you are gonna go talk to other girls is wrong and fucked up beyond belief! He says that to be a dickhead because he cant have his way when arguing with you or he feels like you are doing something wrong when u 2 argue so he has to be a dick and get back at you....thats toxic....you may want to rethink him. He doesnt actually want to leave but he is not an emotionally healthy human being....
@@therealtalkvlogs this is honestly the first time I’ve ever spoken the truth about my relationship , so what you have said means a lot thankyou . I thought I was the problem because over a period of time everything he said about other females made me very insecure about myself . I’m very unhappy yet the love that I have for him is something that is so hard to let go off . I know I’m in the wrong for staying and probably stupid at that .. but thankyou for what you said !
@@laurettataare4417 What you are experiencing is something I experienced in my last relationship to a degree....we all live and learn.
My boyfriend has been with for a year and 5 months, he just told me yesterday that he wants to go back home to South Carolina, saying he's got personal issues that he needs to figure out, that he needs to figure out himself, so we're basically separating for that reason
I am very sorry to hear that....I will say he does realize he has issues going on and is taking the right steps to fix himself.
@@therealtalkvlogs he says he still loves me and all that but I'm just sad he's leaving, he keeps saying that this ain't the end of me and him
@@TheGothKitten666 I think deep down a large part of him means it, I have been in a somewhat similar situation and have said similar things to a girl. I did winde up getting back with her too.
My ex is an alcoholic, he have this breakup makeup cycle, usually I'm the one who reach out to him but last time i left him he begged me to stay and told he would change, he even reached out to my family and friends and put all his effort to get me back and im the only one he wants in his life so he would stop drinking but later he blamed me that i started dominating him and started treating me like shit again and as well je started his alcoholic behavior again, and he often tried to breakup and block me when ever we had any arguments. Recently i accused him of cheating which was something he did long back and i wasn't aware of he told me i didnt trust him amd believed someone else and than brokeup again and blocked me from everywhere since than.
Help.
Met a guy 3 months ago on app. We video called in every scenario daily. Multi dimensional connection. He would call Al the time. We told our families about each other as we were from a religious background looking to eventually marry. He has been wanting to come down and eve me from neighboring state. I asked hi to wait until Dec as I moved to a new city, lost my job, my fathers health suffered, I have college exams etc. he said it was important to see me before he sees his family. Got frustrated about that. Also about my not calling him on time. Gradually I found myself defensive often.
His attachment styles are generally dismissive avoidant with everyone including other girls but with me on this occasion he felt anxious preoccupied. So much so that once when I didn’t call he imagined I was betray in him. He gets upset if I mention other guys to him as in exs etc or guys showing interest in me. I only did so because we agreed to have open communication. He felt I was being manipulative.
He has never been in love only had casual flings partied etc. His past two marriages marriages didn’t work, communication issues in first on his part and the second he was picky about girl.
He said he never felt what he did with me with anyone. Of course i believed it.
Then one day when I didn’t return his call on time (after an arguement about something similar a few days ago), he just blocked me everywhere out of the blue and wrote some weird message to me I didn’t get.
I sent him a calm and hen an angry email telling him he’s a prick and never to contact me either given his disrespect.
Then I calmed down and got in touch panicking and he was angry: said I always want things my way; am manipulative; and we are already not working out now it will get worse later; that we are like oil and water, , he is tired of it being one sided, that he has feelings for me but doesn’t want this, that he has deleted all my pics and can’t see my face or hear my voice, that he isn’t sure about coming to see me because he feels weak and has been having his seizure symptoms triggered due to the stress of our situation.
I said I lost myself in the situation and he said the same.
He was angry, I was crying.
I asked him if he would still come to see me, he said he doesn’t know, and that he needs time, he can’t have this relationship what’s the point of it it will only get worse.
I asked if he would agree to at least talk to me once a week (we used to speak several times a day and he would usually initiate), and then he said fine in a way that he didn’t sound bothered. Even though he has blocked me everywhere he said “reach out”.
He said he needs to take care of his health and protect his heart. He said this repeatedly.
Also said I only care about myself. Also that we both need to heal.
Most of his accusations are untrue by the way but there is nothing I’m not willing to change if only he COMMUNICATED clearly. He admittedly held a lot in. He also said every conflict with me is a debate…
I just didn’t see any of what he was saying it hit me in the face - I’ve been so heartbroken.
I later mediated and centered myself and sent him an email saying as much , saying I support his decision to have me in his life or not as long as he is happy and healthy - and I meant it. But that I still believe in us. That I had lost myself since moving to a new city. And I hope he can forgive my ugly reaction to his blocking. And that I wish him well. I meant this and it came from an good and strong spirit.
He responded saying he was sorry for being too hard on me and that he will never forgive himself for the way he spoke to me. That I should focus and success at my studies he wants me to do well and to focus on my health.
I didn’t respond.
Then a day or two late the messaged my friend saying to her not to tell me that he messaged her - but that he is wants to make sure I’m doing ok. Remember when I called him I was nearly having a panic attack and crying my eyes out practically begging him not to behave like this. Then suddenly I sent an email that was strong and calm.
My friend said I’m on but hurt.
He said he is sad too but it’s better to end it now then to risk it and have more problems even though he does love me
This man is 41. What the hell.
Helllp. I’m sure he has some ptsd too because he survived a war as a child and said sexual abuse. He does have rage issues.
I don’t know if he’s valuing then devaluing me or what his thing is. He did say his health is more important to him than anything or anyone.
I didn’t realize how small things were causing him seizure issues it’s crazy. But they were obviously big for him :( I didn’t catch on to how big and he said he was dropping hints the whole time as if I am a kind reader
How do I get him to forgive me and try to make this work - we were really doing well and into each other
Help please!
Wow....first of all thank you for sharing this. It means a lot and I am flattered you chose to shares this. So here's the thing....I read everything and I can tell that him being 41 and acting this way just shows that he is honestly not very good with women....a lot of men are not. Thing is that he obviously had a couple of big relationships in the past and they didnt go his way for whatever reason and he experienced trauma like most men do but he did not recover from it or use that trauma to make himself better....its hard but when a man is traumatized from his love life it affects so many things especially his future relationships if he allows it.
I am not saying that there aren't things that you could have done better but honestly I can tell you right now as a guy he has a ton of issues that he needs to overcome and even if you do get back with him this behavior will continue. It is going to take a long time for him to get his act together and to heal and to be a man worthy of dating....I am sorry but that is just the truth.
He is stubborn and he is hard headed....I dont recommend this but if you really want him back you need to start off with being really nice and maybe try to be his rock for a bit and then slowly sweet talk him into meeting with you and then use your womanly/feminine powers to wrap him around your finger. I am not saying it is a guarantee that it will work but I have seen it happen before. Like I said I dont necessarily recommend doing this because the relationship will relapse into what it was before until he works on himself and recovering from his past trauma but that is a way to get a man to come back into the fold. I have had women do it to me and it works and I have seen many men get sucked back in this way. Like I said do it at your own risk, be very careful.
we dated for 4 years and when we brokeup he started dating after one month, he said it's not a rebound because she knows that he still loves me and that she will be there for him to heal him and help him move on, and he did tell me that he still love me and he stalks me while he's with her, i asked if he didnt think it was a rebound and he said no because they had a deal that they will take care of each other.
is it possible they will continue being together ?
I'm absolutely broken.. it is now Monday.. 9 days ago he told him he's done. I moved all the way to Holland for him, I left everything behind for him, I packed my things, my dog and I lived there for a year and a half. We were so good together, so much in love, yes we had our moments, our fights, yes we were different but we had unconditional love for one another. When he asked me to move in with him to a different country, I was hesitant at first but then I didn't care, all I wanted was to be with him.. I knew he had a 2year old son, now 4. I knew he was dealing with mental health issues just like I was, but I didn't mind. Saturday December 3rd while his son was with us for the weekend he said what he said, I thought I was gonna pass out, I tried so hard to keep it together so his son didn't see me cry.. I told him you can't just do that you can't just throw away 2 years of love out the window.. he said he wants to focus on himself and raising his son. When his son went to sleep, we were talking and crying and I begged him to not let anything ruin what we have. He had already booked me a ticket earlier that day for Monday morning December 5th.. he told me that he needs to find himself and I need to find mine, and i told him I'm truly myself when I'm with him, and he still wasn't changing his mind.. Sunday after he dropped off his son to his mother, he came back, I had already packed my stuff. Earlier that day his son being only 4 and not even speaking any English asked me to stay and my dog.. and he still wouldn't change his mind. I know I wasn't always perfect, I know I made mistakes, but I loved him with all my heart, every little piece of me. How could he just throw me out in a matter of 2 days, forcing me to switch countries again, start from zero? I can't cope, I'm lost, numb, I love him so much, and everyone is telling me that I deserve better and that no person has the right to just treat someone like that..yet all I am thinking about is him.. he was my first love, my first real relationship.. I don't think he's ever coming back.. how do I live without him?
Hey, first of all I am sorry for this late reply. I want to say that I am truly sorry to be reading this....my heart was breaking as I read more and more....wow. First, I want to say that as you mentioned a person who has mental health issues is in my opinion almost never ready or fit to truly be in a healthy relationship....I know this from experience. It almost always involves co dependency which often results in toxicity....I will say that while what he did was harsh, he is doing what is best for him. He came to the realization that he has some real problems and he knows he has to fix them....to fix himself. This reminds me of my ex....towards the end of my relationship with her she broke things off with me for a tiny period of time and when she did she called me in the middle of the night just crying. She told me that she feels so lost and so depressed and she doesn't think she could ever be right for me or for anyone until she works on herself....and she was right....we got back together a short while later but it didnt change the fact that she had to do the things she said. Was your man wrong to just totally drop it on you the way he did and throw you out? Yes, anyone reasonable person should have allowed time for you to get yourself situated so you can figure out your living situation....he most def. was harsh about that. How do you live without him? By working on yourself and finding out who you truly are....rely and realize that all you need is the woman in the mirror....it sounds cliche but it really isnt.
@TheRealTalk Vlogs thank you so much for taking the time to respond. It's been a little over a month now, I'm really taking this one day at a time, some days are good, some days are bad. But I still cry and think of him on a daily basis. I am trying to understand him, and how he must be feeling. Maybe I'm showing compassion even, because I truly love him and I want him to be happy. I know I truly gave my all and I loved him unconditionally, I always will. He will always have a part of me and my heart. I don't know if he will ever come back to me, or how I'm going to react if he does, if there's ever gonna be a second chance.. but right now I know I need to focus on me, try to move on, be the best version of myself. But it truly hurts me, and that's ok. I am healing, I am allowing myself to feel all this, so that one day I am stronger and better. I read this quote recently saying "I'm gonna have to miss you longer than I've known you", and that just broke me.. but it is reality..
@@CB-ph3kn Wow....that quote got me just now too. And it's good you are doing all of those things. There may or may not be a second time around with him....but if he does for whatever reason come around you need to be extremely careful and very vigilant....never forget what he did when he suddenly didnt want you anymore. I hope you continue to heal and you will most def. with time. Use this trauma for positivity and self development.
This video was totally made about your break up
I recently broke up with my girlfriend for exactly these reasons.
My boyfriend just recently broke up with me 3 days ago. He said he couldnt handle a relationship in the mental state he is in. He blamed his mental health issues on his parents, his future and him having personal issues with himself mentally and physically. He said he needed time for himself if he was going to be in a stable relationship with me. Me being overwhelmed asked him if he would ever see himself coming back to me when he is mentally and physically okay. He said "I think so, I really hope so." Now I am here watching videos like this, just wondering if he is going to regret leaving me or at some point start to miss me. If I am being honest I feel like if he ever does come back to me (whenever that might be) I will have already moved on.
So....this is tough, I think he is being honest with you. I have done this before in some ways and it was really tough for me and the girl....i couldnt stay away and I def. got back with her....will he regret it?? Possibly....if u do move on then u move on and that is good for you....if you are still in love with him and want to give it another shot then that is fine too.
@@therealtalkvlogs Well now I realized that I am fine with just being friends with him because he told me the day we broke up "I want to be friends still, I dont want to stop talking to you too or anything". Its just that he cant handle a relationship for a while. I finally have realized now that I rather be friends with him. Now I am just debating on how to text him since the last time we have spoke was on the day we broke up. I am not sure If I should say " Hey hows it going, I just want to catch up" or if I should just tell him straight up that I am now fine with being friends with him now that I have had time to realized I liked him as a person and dont want to lose our friendship. I just dont know how to text him randomly after a week of being broken up. I just want us to be friends at this point.
@@madwrld8769 I see....just text him normally I guess. Like just say hey and see what he says
My ex and I broke up. He was instantly wanting to be friends and seemed totally fine…
Hmmmm....I am assuming he broke up with you??
Same.
It made my cry, thanks.
I hope they were tears caused by some clarity that this content brought you....
@@therealtalkvlogs yes and no. Very long sad story.
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Thank you for sharing and your graciousness.
My pleasure!
I’m a notorious dumper. Especially when avoiding people. No less than 30 minutes.
Ive dumped 2 of 3 serious gf's ive had..
Hey I was wondering if your able to make a video about when the guy breaks up a long term relationship (3 years) because he was not ready to keep moving forward if he has lost the sense who he is anymore, he doesn't feel like he's at the stage he wants to be in life, and won't be able to give his all in the relationship like their parent is. Do you think it was the right choice if he made the decision to break it off or should the relationship kept going while he was working on himself and get the support of their partner?
Hey there! I can def. make a video on this. I can only speak from my perspective as well as my experiences in that matter though. I can also include what I have seen before in others as well as what I think most men probably do. But yes I can and will make a video on this one soon.
To answer your question real quick if it was the right thing for him to break it off or not while he is working on himself....only time will tell. It is one of those things where it is really dependent upon the person. If it works out for him then yeah I would say it was the right choice, if not the no, but was it the right choice for you 2 overall?? There are many shades of grey with this. Perhaps yes because he obviously was not all in. Perhaps no because he could have fixed himself with you etc.
I have the feeling that my boyfriend wanted to break up with me. He told me that he and I have different priorities and since we're long distance, we're also in a different time zones. I do understand how he felt but basing on the different love language we both have we still manage to have a misunderstanding at times. He's also older than me which made him maturer than me. I don't know how I would feel if he actually decides to break up with me. The thing is that we still love each other so I don't know how it will go :(
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I am sorry to hear this....maybe you should approach him and address the issue and how you are feeling to him?? I know what it's like to be long distance and so on....if it doesn't work out then you know it wasn't truly meant to be....or at least not right now. Let me know if I can help
@@therealtalkvlogs thankyou for this sadly, we had broken up 3 days ago, he said that he needs time to focus jn building his dreams the past 4 days also made me realize that I haven't actually acknowledging his feelings and don't see how hurt he is, and some times I even throw tantrums at him and just couldn't see that he's tired both physically and mentally because he couldn't or is afraid to open up to be because he's worried that he might hurt my feelings, I wasn't good at consoling him those moments he needs me which led him to keep his emotions for himself, I wish I had realized it sooner, its hard for me but 2 days after I broke down and messaged him telling him I don't have anyone, we talked for hours and it made me understand his needs more, we didn't got back together but I still love him but at that time we last talked he made me realize what he needs which is time to self improve, and find his purpose in life again, it's hard but that talk with him that night made me feel relief that he's trying to heal and I will do the same as if ever we got back together or if ever I were to be in a relationship with other people I would make sure that I'm ready and that I can build a great foundation and is fully healed so that I'll be ready to be there and give my future partner the best, I wasn't crying anymore, the memories just makes me smile and knowing that my ex is out there healing and funding his purpose makes me happy, I'll be doing the same but id really appreciate ro get some advice as a part of me still hopes that we can get back together but at the same time I want to focus on my healing as well, I miss him tho, a lot, specially I don't have friends to be there for me in this hard time, my family is also busy, I'm basically just relying on my own company atm, I'm not sure, do you have any idea how to cope with it? As he's really the one that made me feel like I have someone, just hard losing him but I know its for our best so that we can both be the best version of ourselves😊
I like the way u think, I think it's completely normal to miss him and such, all the best in your future. I say focus on improving yourself and maybe talk to him from time to time if he's comfortable with it
What if he replaced me and started posting his new girl just weeks after the break up?
You deserve better
update: nvm guys they broke up after 3 months and im not fully okay but it gets better with time and they realized they were relatives so...
@@jongjocelannpenetrado1123 keep healing and relatives? Lol how embarrassing for them-karma for him! Don't check his social media anymore. Delete the apps for a month or two and just enjoy life you will feel better!
He replaced me within hours not weeks 😣
@@beeshdos5410 update: they only lasted a month and he apologized to me but I don't want him back no more, I know my worth.
what about if this is the case, and he starts following girls after the breakup and just "not caring"?
Got dump just last week, he attempt that he still loves me but he can't continue cause he feels empty and I still love him too. Thou we've been communicating before he got serious about the break up stuff, and now he doesn't respond to my calls , chats and messages. I miss him thou and it hurt.And I wouldn't block me
Some people dont love themselves therefore they cant love others....some people do need to work on themselves first....
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Hey... can we talk please I am now in the same situation :( and I don't know what to do
He dumped me because I asked why he is so close with my friend
Did he??!! Did you ask your friend the same question??
I just start crying we broke up two months ago and he was the one who broke up because he lost interest in me and because he was moving to another country because of work and everthing its been just 2 months and i miss him so so much he was literally love of my life and i realy hope we'll be together again this video and your words are so beautiful its just make me realize and see those things more clearly especially this part he is sad too and look at your photos together have a nice weekend and thank you so much for this 🥰❤
I am sorry for the late reply....I have been dealing with my own issues regarding stuff as you can imagine. I am happy this brought you clarity and I am sorry you are hurting....I know the feeling. I am currently experiencing it as well. We will all get through it........
@@therealtalkvlogs I'm so sorry well its been four weeks i wrote this and i saw my ex we hope to get back together soon because he knows what he lost and he still love me i know that just be strong and patient maybe things would go in right direction again send you lots of prayers and hugs x
@@InaHorse333 I will do the same for you! Please do your thing and I hope u 2 are happy!
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I recently broke up with my girlfriend and was sure it was what I wanted and the right thing to do. Now I'm doubting it and in absolute hell. It's just like as if she had broken up with me, probably even worse.
Me and my ex agreed to be as a friends. But he doesn't initiate to chat me coz he is a kind of introvert guy. So I chatted him forst asking some random questions and he still responds but not initianting maybe also because he is guilty or what? Since he is the one who broke up with me. I'm still hoping for him to come back someday. I still love him and I know he still have feelings for me. How can I make him fell in love with me again?
If he broke up with you this is a clear sign he definitely wants distance. His not reaching out first is to be expected. The best way to get him to come back is to leave him be and to work on yourself. Its the best thing for you and if he sees you doing well he may come back around. But you shouldnt take him back if thats the case. If he cant accept you and want you now then he shouldnt have you just because you are doing better.
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Damn, I was able to relate a lot to the video. But when the person cheats on you, it is not okay! I have evry right tto be upset and break up with the person and feel no regret. Neither do I want to keep any part of me with them or any part of them with me!!
Understandable....Ive had crazy situations too
What if it’s been 2 months since we last spoke? Can he still miss me or has it been to long? I was the one who messed up
Uhhhhhh yeah!!! The first girl I ever loved I still had feelings for her a year and a half after we broke up....I still missed her and thought about her.....my ex from way back at the start of college I broke up with her but it took me roughly a year to get over her....it didnt help that she and I had a ton of mutual friends and we worked together for months after the breakup. A lot but not all men are this way
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My ex dumped me yesterday , it's been 2 days he keep ignoring my messages and call , and he blocked me from everywhere and the last message he said is that" I have to move on, I changing city for work and I cannot give u enough time " it's hurts me so bad 😢
I am sorry to see this....he just did this out of no where??
Yessss , but life must go on ...
@@Rio-vc8qn You're right....there is probably a big reason why he did. If you want to talk more just let me know. my instagram is @Raystangsation_92
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But mine has distractions
Like work:- he does manual labour like welding, grinding etC ALL DAY
He also has video games and anime.
He has plenty of distractions
Will he still miss me??
Oh yes....he will. I could be wrong but I am pretty sure he will. I had all kinds of distractions and things that kept me busy plus I never felt like a lost myself in my last relationship and I still missed my ex a lot.
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But the breakup was partly my fault
My anxiety
I was extremely anxious which led me to doubt his love for me
I needed constant reassurance from him and he did give it to me but it came to a point that caused him to be anxious and depressed
So when he picked me up he was like “we need to talk”
So we broke up
On his part:-
He wasn’t the best communicator there were days he was extremely flat out and didn’t text me like he used
It led me to believe in worst case scenario
I mean I wasn’t toxic or possessive or anything like that but yeah I was definitely insecure and just as bad while communicating. That caused me to doubt his love for me
So he broke up
@@asmisamaze1234 Well....its good you realize these things. I know what it's like to be in his position, my ex drove me crazy with those types of things. She just could never get over it....it does really hinder the relationship....
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It’s been 3 months since the breakup now.
While yes I’m focusing on myself but I miss my ex (the dumper) I haven’t even heard from him yet. It seems like he doesn’t even care.
I’m not gonna be the one to reach out as I’m still in no contact
Yes I got stuff wrong in a relationship but at times I do get curious.
It hurts 😢
😢😭😭😭 he broke my heart , idk what to do i cant 🥲 move on but i am trying my best
Ive noticed men are like that.. u wait even after montbs or yrs they mostly come back to u but na too late
This is def. true
Omg!!!! I needed to hear this!
ExCtly what happened to me at the moment.
I am happy this was able to help!
I didn't want to break up with her I had to. I just wish she would've changed. Even in the break up she blamed me
Bro....I know exactly how this feels. I have had girls who totally screwed things up and I broke up with them and months and months later it was nothing but harassing text messages about how everything was my fault....
@@therealtalkvlogs when she had to get her stuff to move out she was dragging her feet she asked me to keep texting her and looked like maybe we would rekindle. Last I saw her she was crying in my arms and a month later I saw a photo of her with some guys arm around her from a few days before she was crying. Lol insanity
@@Eyeinthesky7 My ex did the same thing pretty much....she also hit me and did a lot of other really fucked up things I wont say on this comment chain. And haha I know exactly what you mean when you see her with other men but then she crys....I hate to say it bro but women like that are often confused and fundamentally broken....
@@therealtalkvlogs on top of it the guy looks like me. I will say though at the break up her biggest complaint was that I always iced her out and didn't show emotion. However I resented her prob for something I could've just shared with my boys. The latter is also something I'm working on while being single, social circle. She kind of shitted on me for not having as many friends although all her friends were enabling drunks, she was a drunk which is another reason I had to let her go.
I'm venting right now, thanks lol
@@Eyeinthesky7 Yeahhhhh....its a crazy world we live in now a days man. But dude thats good you broke up with her. As a man its important to do those things when its truly bad for you. It shows them that you are no simp plus it trains you to accept no BS in the future. You will truly be better off for it.
He will miss meeeee.....but I have had enough.
I was in a toxic relationship on and off for 4 years. It didn't start of toxic, but after he cheated 2 times, I became that toxic partner. I became paranoid and controlling. Eventually, he got tired of it and broke up with me last year. Since our breakup, we have still seen each other, and he tries to move on, but I still keep going back because I miss him. This year, I'm trying to stay away. It's hard. I keep wondering if he misses me or still has feelings for me? Does he even care anymore? I was his first real relationship, so I'm curious if he's healed and tries to play it off like he did? Because he's very stubborn and doesn't like to show his emotions.
Well first of all I cant blame u because of the things he did....I personally would have just broken it off after the first time he cheated. But, in this particular case he may....he may not. It depends on the time and how long....
This helped me so much right now...
Thank you❤🌺
I am so happy this helped
He is my first love and i of his, i love his like crazy with my family friends and in the end one day he block me in call without saying anything and when i text him he say he has lot to do and he don't know he even love me or not and then he block me from all the social media, i beg him for one call i say please let me hear ur voice for the last time , it's a 2 years of relationship plz, but he say he don't want to talk, it's begin one month and i m trying my best to move on
Wow he just did this randomly??
My boyfriend broke up with me last month and it still hurts. It has been one month but I still loved him and I want him to come back. But I guess he does not love me anymore. He did not contact me or anything. He just want me out of his life. And it hurts so much because I love him more than anything else. Gosh.. I want him back and I would do everything to have him back but what will I do if he does not want me anymore :(
Why did he end it?? And have u tried reaching out to him at all??
@@therealtalkvlogs Yes I did, but to no avail. He did not reply to me 🥹 I still love him though 🥲
How can we listen with background music . Very bad idea
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What if he immediately started fooling around w girls after our breakup
Yeah that happening with me rn we broke up like 2 weeks ago and he’s already messing around it’s like our year relationship meant nothing 😭
depends on the circumstance of the breakup....it could be because he was so upset and was trying to fill a void and sought out other girls to distract him from his pain and also to help out his ego
Thank you for this .... I needed to hear it 😔
You are so welcome
Me and my boyfriend for long distance way more long-distance I live in California he lives in Ireland, everything was great between us and the beginning the first four months was long distance and everything was great, he took a flight out here to America and stayed out here with me for 3 months and everything was perfect like I truly saw love between me and him, but then he had to go back home and then things changed me and him were fighting a lot and just at each other's throats all the time and 5 days ago he broke it off with me he didn't even give me a reason, two people who I thought were my friends who are also my friends they decided to personally attack me and blame the whole thing on me saying it was my fault and said that I am immature and a bunch of other things and it's like I don't know why he would do that to me because we were so in love in the beginning and when we had to be long distance again things got tough and it's like he didn't want to try to work through the hardest part of our relationshipand I'm extremely heartbroken at this point because I was actually engaged to this man and we were together for almost a year 7 months of it were perfect the other three were like terrible and I guess the question I'm willing to ask is when a guy breaks up with you is he only thinking about the bad in your relationship will he ever remember all the good that you had😭
My ex and I went our separate ways over a month ago! We was together for 5 1/2 yrs we had alot of good times together but we also had our bad times it was toxic but we was getting better and got through some things that had broke us up in the relationship! We had a bad fight and I ended up in jail after that he didn't want to have anything to do with me it was both our faults for the fight. Even tho I went to jail for 2 days I was still wanting to stay together cause I love him but he didn't want to be together anymore and he ended up blocking me on everything and I still can't reach out to him and he hasn't tried to reach out to me at all. A friend ask him about me and he cut her off and told her he didn't want to talk or hear anything about our relationship!! I was able to ask him if he hated me and he told me no he just didn't want to be in a relationship with me anymore . But I feel that he does Hate me he turned so cold towards me he makes me feel like I meant nothing to him at all! I'd do anything to work on our relationship cause I love him so much. He told me to move on caues he has move on from me so I don't know if he's already seeing or talking to someone else or if he just has completely removed me from his heart?!I dont know what to think anymore im so hurt over this I have a hard time functioning every day. I just want to be back together but I know it will probably never happen I lost him for ever!! He goes on day to day like nothing it's like this doesn't bother him at all!!
Wow....so first of all I can tell you I don't think he has fully moved on per se. I would say that he is def. in his own way traumatized over what happened and is probably still in disbelief over what happened and what you did to end up in jail. I don't know all the details and Idk what u did to end up in jail but I will say based on what u have told me it does seem like he is done....no disrespect but you must have done something really horrible out of spite to him that ended u up in jail for 2 days....I can tell you I have personally been through toxic relationships and have been on the receiving end of many horrible things by my exes and lets just say I lost all attraction to them and never looked at them the same....I was done....I am just surmising based on what u have told me....but it does seem that way to me.
Hello, it supports me to onow the things im thinking and going throigh are normal. Thanks for the video
Of course..I am glad this could be of some help to you.
What if he is on tinder after three days of breaking up with me?!
Girl, I have seen him flirting with other girls in front of him ,at the end started dating one of my friends
This is very comforting. Thank you ❤
I am glad! Thank you so much!
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What if he sees other females at that time?
It can mean a few things but the one below by far is usually the biggest reason
-he feels like a failure from the breakup and needs women to help validate himself
Well does a cheater will ever be sad of feel dorry for what He did?
Hahahaha....not all but there are a good number that do. I have met plenty of them trust me
That was heartfelt. Thank you 🥰
My pleasure, I always do my best. Thank you for watching
Somehow I don’t believe the guy who is the dumper will miss the girl. Because they always seem to do far better after the breakup compared to the girl. And us women, tend to invest in the relationship so much more and the breakup just hurts us even more.
I know it seems that way but its often not the case....sometimes it is but a lot of times its not. And I can say with almost complete certainty between the 2 sexes men feel more. And breakups are generally harder for men
Do u regret breaking up w ur ex?
Hey! Thanks for the question. The short answer is: NO. I have no regrets about breaking up with any of them. There was 1 however that I have certain regrets about how I conducted myself at times and I ultimately thought it was a shame that things didn't work out just because it didn't have to be the way that it was. But none the less it was what it was and tbh things did turn out for the better. I can wish all I want that it wasn't what it was, but it still was. We both likely would have been worse off if things had continued so thank the LORD it didn't. Keep in mind though none of what I just said negates how I would feel or how many men would feel as I described in these vids.