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How guys (men) handle break ups AFTER a PERIOD of TIME when they are the dumper

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  • Опубликовано: 19 май 2023
  • Hello everyone, today I decide to give you guys a video that is the continuation of a subject that I touched on a couple of times before. So here I am again for a third time at the request of a subscriber with a specific story and a specific request. Which is to make a video about how men handle breakups when they are the dumper and how they feel and what they think after a period of time. And what it may or may not mean if they do or don't reach out. So in this video I talk about all of those things, when your man breaks up with you and how he feels and maybe what he thinks after a period of time post breakup. I hope you guys enjoy. Please SUBSCRIBE and leave a LIKE and COMMENT and let me know what you guy's think.
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  • @lesterven1847
    @lesterven1847 7 месяцев назад +1

    Yo, thank you so much for your words of wisdom.
    In my heart I know why things didn't work out, and I spent so long trying to find more reasons. In the end what is done is done. I'm still in the stage of finding acceptance that it's over. Every day I think about what I could of done better and why I was like the way I was in some moments. I wish he told me how he was hurting but at the same time maybe I should of already known how I could be sometimes. I gave him such hell over the breakup too, I'm just unstable right now and now I really am trying to go no contact for however long it must go for. And maybe after a while I'll have moved on anyways.
    Not a lot of breakup videos help me (I've been surfing through so many), but yours really do open my eyes more. I really thank you for it.

  • @darrianbreedlove6833
    @darrianbreedlove6833 Год назад +3

    A week ago, my bf of almost 3 years broke up with me because of the continuous stress he's experienced from a spat my parents and his got into when we first moved in together. I moved from my home state to be with him in NY where he's going to med school, and left all my friends and family behind to be with him. His parents were being judgmental and cruel to me during the process, sparking my parents to defend me, ending in a spat between our parents that basically made my bf's parents never want to speak to my parents again. Otherwise, me and my bf are each other's first love and are best friends and have a very loving relationship. The only issue is he's been immature about things, but otherwise our relationship was loving. But last week, he told me the stress over the situation with our parents has been eating away at him the past few years and he doesn't think we have a future together due to that, so he doesn't want to waste my time and lead me on....
    It's so hurtful and heartbreaking...I know family is important to him, it is to me too, but I wanted to be with him despite it all because I love him so much. It hurts so much to feel like he gave up on us. He thinks the parent situation is hopeless, despite my parents and myself having moved on. He tells me he still loves me and how we'd still be together if that hadn't happened years ago...and it hurts so so bad to feel like the person you love most has given up on you....

    • @therealtalkvlogs
      @therealtalkvlogs  10 месяцев назад

      I am really sorry to hear this....some people are not built to handle stessful situations and their only recourse is to totally separate themselves from a painful situation rather than face it....

  • @tatendamare
    @tatendamare Год назад +2

    I was dumped two months ago. The reason being that he felt that our values were different him being athesit and me being christian.He felt like he was going to be forcing me to do things I wouldnt want to do.The relationship was only two weeks old and I felt like things were going to fast. I then said of we could still be friends and he said it was cool. We are doin the same program in school so Id see him often. Then i tried to get him to talk and discuss things over but he felt like there was nothing to talk about and nothing was going to be resolved with talking.He felt like I wasnt being consistent and that I needed to wor k on that. The times id see him it felt like he had moved on so quick. I eventually came to peace with this and was ready to move on. Then after a week he engaged me again. Then we began hooking up and then i would ask him where we would go from here and he said he was confused and didnt want to make promises he couldnt keep.The day i decided to try to talk to him to make our positions clear he told me he wasnt around . Then I texted him about a month ago and he said he was going to respond.Ill admit I did act a bit needy but I felt like we had left things hanging.He then gave me a response later on and told me that he hooked up with me because he wanted to and that he felt like i liked it too. He did apologize for being selfish and engaging me when he knew I was emotionally attached. He said he wasnt responding to my messages because he wanted to give me space to move on. I felt like he could have told me this the day i asked for a response. In short he told me to move on and stop hangin on to the past . He told me that during that time he wasnt going to change his mind and didnt have any intentions to change his mind. Now im so confused because what hes saying now is different from what he told me back then and his actions. We were together for two weeks but we were hanging out with each other all the time . Is it normal for me to be feeling this strongly about it ? My question is why would he dump me and then come back again only to ghost me.

  • @s.aura.h8084
    @s.aura.h8084 4 месяца назад

    My ex is emotionally unavailable, avoidantly attached, fly's off the handle at the slightest thing. He's depressed and has a lot to deal with but as a result he didn't give me any peace, he broke up with me 3 times and still expected me to be the woman he first met...
    I stayed because I had empathy, patience and understanding. There's a sweet man underneath it all and I had too much hope that things would change.
    My ex blew up and left suddenly. At first he expressed regret but after 6 weeks he became cruel and angry and threatened to block me if I ever called him again...
    I was nothing but good to him, I only ever snapped when he pushed me to my absolute limit.
    He may have made the right decision but he didn't put the effort required into the relationship. He needs counselling but I don't think he'll ever go.

  • @ragingphoinix9144
    @ragingphoinix9144 7 месяцев назад

    I went through kinda the first email's situation. We live in different states. The anxiety I had overwhelmed me. I made baseless accusations, doubted he cared, took simple things put of context, made him feel like he wasn't doing enough. I made my fear of abandonment a reality. I was going to move in April. He was awful at communicating and I knew this but I really just needed a little more from him. But ultimately, if it's that easy for them to walk away, it wasn't going to work anyway.

  • @nhs9956
    @nhs9956 Год назад +1

    Watching this made me cry. He just broke up with me after 8 years of relationship. We start dating when we are 16/17 yrs old. Four days ago he texted me and broke up with me. It hurt me so much. I try to call him many times but he doesn't wanna talk that day. I ask him if anything I could do. But he looks so tired of me. It hurts me so much. I feel like dying. Im already depressed before he broke up with me due to I'm jobless and still thinking what is my first step of my career. He thinks that we are going far from each other and I just accept that day he wants to end this. After that, we say our goodbyes.
    I feel more worthless and useless. I feel it's all my fault but he told me it's not my fault. He was the most amazing thing happen to me. He also say that I will always be in his heart. I feel like I lost someone that care for me so much and watch this video makes me even more sad.
    I don't know what to do now. I feel like I will never able to move on. It hurts to think that one day he will find happiness but its not me.
    I hope one day I able to smile when looking at his pics and say that is my best friend. I also hope that I will be happy for him finding his happiness with someone else in future 😢.

    • @napqueenie
      @napqueenie Год назад +1

      I wish I could hug you. It must be so difficult. I've been there, and trust me It'll get better. Hang in there.

    • @nhs9956
      @nhs9956 Год назад +1

      @@napqueenie thank you. I'm still feeling scared and lost in my life. How do you get through your hard times?

    • @realestaterelief
      @realestaterelief Год назад +1

      @@nhs9956self improvement. New hobbies and books eventually build us in a new person who attracts new love that fits us better

    • @therealtalkvlogs
      @therealtalkvlogs  Год назад

      I am very sorry to hear this....I have felt pain like this before as well. And I still to this day look at some pics of my ex with some admiration and my heart fills with some good energy and I am always wishing her the best....there is no easy way to deal with this. My advice of course is to focus on yourself....make yourself better a a person, and be close to your family and friends....

    • @nhs9956
      @nhs9956 Год назад +1

      @@therealtalkvlogs I will try to make myself a better person. I'm trying to really love myself but it is not easy. I'm close to my family as I live with them but only few family members know about my break-up. None of my friends know because I'm scared on how they react cos they been rooting for us to get married.

  • @stykboy
    @stykboy 9 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you man. What you say in this video captures the exact reason why I ended my relationship and how much I care for my the woman I was in a relationship for 16 years.
    I made the decision based on both of us and I 100% wish her all the best in every way.

    • @therealtalkvlogs
      @therealtalkvlogs  9 месяцев назад +1

      I am glad this video gave you some clarity..and you know exactly what its like my friend. I can tell. You do what needs to be done..

  • @judithdavina
    @judithdavina 9 месяцев назад

    If he ended it would it make sense then for him to initiate rekindling? If I was the woman in the situation I feel it makes sense to respect his decision and let him be

  • @ivanruiz5676
    @ivanruiz5676 9 месяцев назад +1

    I will like to tell you my story

  • @BishakaDas527
    @BishakaDas527 3 месяца назад

    But how a person can go and had sex with someone else just after 10 days of breakup and make his relationship official with that 3rd person

  • @duhamurshdy6957
    @duhamurshdy6957 10 месяцев назад +3

    Ladies don’t listen to this
    This is delusional
    If a man loves you he wouldn’t be able to imagine you with someone else
    If a man loves you he would fight for you till the end
    If a man decides to leave with ease and is happy and dating and not reaching out believe him he is just fine
    And that’s because he probably liked you but he didn’t love you
    Stop the delusional thinking , he gave up on you
    He falls asleep every night peacefully knowing that you’re crying because he left
    It’s not the emotional intelligence and that he wishes you happiness, it’s that he simply didn’t love you the way you loved him
    And if a female did the same , it’s for the same reason
    Love is about having 100 reasons to leave , but choosing to hold onto that one reason to stay and fight for it
    Move on and forget about his existence he was never worth it

    • @therealtalkvlogs
      @therealtalkvlogs  10 месяцев назад +1

      Men and women are very different....take it with a grain of salt if you want but I meant what I said.

  • @no1zzle3
    @no1zzle3 Год назад +7

    Men want peace just like women want to feel safe.