What this man says is true. Walking away doesnt mean you dont like that person but you giving a chance for a genuine connection to be formed, through space and sense of value
If someone doesn't try to communicate through problems, it just makes me think they will walk away so they are not safe to trust. . . I find it manipulative and it makes me feel unsafe and lose attraction. This only works if the person doesn't have fears of people walking out on them, because for me if you walk out I may try to talk it through, but then I will lock the door behind you if you go.
I though people continuelly message me i thought they needed me. But i guess i have put them more and myself on a hold to create a message for them. Hm. Me first, time for them when i have time
I go through the trauma bonding stuff. I don't think it's cool to ghost a woman just because as lovers, I didn't have sex w him on our second date..So he's been quiet. He lives 500 miles away too though, so the distance is an issue. I like him but had performance anxiety and now he says "it wasn't meant to be." That's hurtful. I am trying to put the attention back to myself.
That's solid information but don't forget... When you walk away, you have to MEAN it! You're okay if that person never comes back. You will completely (physically and spiritually) stop chasing! This is not about getting the other person to act in a certain way you want them to act. Keep that in mind. Stay true to yourself and stick to your boundaries. Love y'all ❤
I did this.. I knew she would be having sex with others that quick but u guess they ain't worth it if it's like that but it still gets to me big time that thought
I was needy stupidly even tho I was having a good time I shud of pulled back I didn’t read it I Haven’t really dated. Since forever I felt I cudnt love or didn’t know or Wud get it . It came I was trying to see an I knew I liked him something about him touched me inside we made out embraced and enjoyed togther his words stayed with me 😢 now it’s all gone so quick I wana turn the clock and see as friends to then see how it could go . I’m so stupid in love I can’t be in love it’s so sad
Girl I was dating told me I was too being needy because I was getting emotional and anxious about their actions. She said we shouldn't talk for a while and I'm really upset about it. I know I should probably walk away but I really want to make things work with her.
This is so true. I walk away and really mean it. I don’t put up with foolishness. They either change their behavior and act like they have some sense or they leave me alone which is a blessing because I do not tolerate disrespect.
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No, the other person isnt with low value, we are equally valued, we are all equal in the eyes of God, janitor, CEO, celebrtity - all have the equal value.
Stop abandoning Yourself for others If they walk away, then no worries.... Trust me the universe will send you your kind of person So stop chasing them give them the space... ❤️
When dumped and walked away from an ex suitor - I didn’t do it for mind games or to get him back, since he was already committed. God helped me to realize that I didn’t want or have to settle for any less. I’m glad I walked away because God gave me the freedom to choose and I don’t regret it. I took the time to heal from the love and enjoyed focusing on God and my career. A decade later, I met another man that I found to be a worthier man of my time and we, my husband Frank and I, are now married. :)
I walked away and chose myself! I deserve to be a man's priority giving me respect and consideration. He treated me badly and has not apologized. I'm working on my "self-worth" and removing the energy I've been giving him thru the universe. Thank you for this powerful message!
That is the exact part I started crying, too. I cried though because I’m like if I’m so amazing and awesome then how come they never put in effort to keep me. I’ve dated hundreds of men and only 1 actual relationship. And he was just using me for a place to live.
I started to cry as well. I feel like a loser, alone. I don't want to be alone anymore. So much time spent by myself. I deserve to have someone by my side, but someone who will treat me well and respect me. I'm not feeling awesome, I'm not feeling amazing haha But anyways, it's way more complicated than anything.
At this point I’m not walking away from someone to be concerned about the other person, or to gain some sort of power. I’m doing this because I deserve to pour into myself, mind my own essence and enjoy my own world…. To show up for myself because that’s my responsibility. That’s my job. I’ve spent a lot of my life doing things for the world…. I just want to choose me without extra being attatched to it. whoever wants to be in my life, will simply be there because they love me, because they want to be. I don’t owe anyone a damn thing. And no one owes me anything. So anyone who wants to leave can surely go. As long as I don’t abandon myself to gain the world, I am fine.
“Bring your energy back to yourself and stop trying to fix the situation.” Basically take those bricks out of your pockets and instead of trying to fix that broken situation use them as pavers back to you! ❤ There is no guarantee they’ll come back once they broke up with you and you walked away but it’s a guarantee you’ll find yourself along the way. ❤
It's tough to move away, it hurts, but if you do, YOU WIN! Either they will see your worth & contact you (how you proceed is your perogative) or you never see them again, but you will know it wasn't meant to be 👍😊
I just walked away from a friends with benefits scenario, she rejected me wanting to go further but she still wanted to keep me around while she dates other guys. No way! It’s been nearly 2 months but we didn’t really end on a truly sour note. I still have a hunch that she will reach out to me at some point but I think I’ll politely decline.
@@Demonico-j7x. I do NOT want to get naked with a woman who's sleeping with other guys! I want that thang completely free of any scentilla of essence of any other man for long enough. A fresh clean start with her.
For anyone going through this... You are not alone! I just dealt with everything here. It was devastating. Please remember it wasn't your fault. You cannot change these people, they use and abuse and manipulate. They are masters of deception and do not care about you or others. So please, watch these videos and get some understanding but listen to this brilliant human and STOP researching when you get to that point. Move on, be the best version of you because we all deserve that. Don't let this haunt you. Thank you so much Lisa for your help and videos. These are brilliant and so relatable to so many of us. Remember, you got this everyone!
This is legit. I stop calling, texting and I started going to the gym. She ends up calling me later. The miss factor plays a huge role, even with family. When I lived with my family we fought more, had less space and there was too many voices. You don't have clearity in your mind anymore that you start to miss them less. When I moved out and visit them. There was so much love and things reconfigure. Space is key, we only take so much.
Its not walking away. Its not choosing yourself. Its choosing to enjoy life and putting energy in something you enjoy to do. To put the energy back in your body, to enjoy it and to enjoy your life
I've been pondering this for a month. As you say, its not enough to go non contact. If you are thinking about them you will just keep pushing them away. But more importantly, you are blocking the opportunity to meet someone, who you wont actually need to walk away from in the first place. So I'm not only practicing non contact, I'm actually purging them from my mind. From my very system. Because if we're thinking about someone who doesn't reciprocate, this is very unhealthy. The mind can rebel against this new discipline, as it has needy patterns it thinks it needs to survive. Dreams of them may be very strong. This is not love, its obsession. Tell your mind no, they have to go. You have to meet someone out of the billions of people on the planet, who may just serve your growth and purpose more effectively. So what I've learnt here is walk away, and work on yourself. Not just no contact but as you rightly say, REALLY walk away. As in you aren't even going to be thinking about them. Yes, they may then come back. But in my experience they'll need someone emotionally unavailable, to keep them in their chosen state of misery. Such people don't make the best partners.
I believe this works. But something important to add, you have to have something to turn your energy to, when you walk away. You have to be on your own mission, if you want others to join in. This is some of the most unattractive traits that people can have, not being driven in any area of their lives.
I believe that it isn't even about the goals themselves. What I have realized recently is that I have my career and skills I want to learn, but I lack some higher goal. My fiance left me at some point. I was a romantic soul, drawing a lot, illustrating and having some dreams that heavily involved her I also was a bit pragmatic learning how to program (love programming). Unfortunately, I was doing poorly with money. So I got a great job. I have my career now doing good money working with Silicon Valley-based big players. And what? I lost her, I lost myself. I feel that I am boring and emotionally lazy. What attracts people is sparkle. Don't lose it for money or other material things. I think this concept applies to both - males and females. Some women think that having a goal and being a career focus is sexy. It's not. Its the road to being lonely. Same for men. There is a need for balance
I normally don’t comment on RUclips videos but I have to say that a few weeks ago a guy I was seeing ended our situationship, for a valid reason I will say, but I was pretty sad about it. I watched Aaron’s RUclips channel , I totally moved forward with my hobbies, work, exercise, going out with friends etc. we hadn’t spoken in weeks, he messages me to get a coffee, I meet him, he tells me he cannot stop thinking about me and he kept feeling like I was completely doing fine and he was struggling not to reach out to me. So the point of this comment is, THIS REALLY WORKS!!!!!!
The universe allowed me to watch this. Divine and Perfect timing. I just recently blocked an ex. I walked away with the pure intention of getting myself back and getting the peace of mind I so deserve.
This is so helpful, thank you. I'm in a relationship where the other person has way too much control over my emotions, and I'm experiencing a lot of breadcrumbing which is very painful. I really want to take back my own power and be happy with or without them.
I walked away yesterday. With my head up held high it was hard because I was extremely emotionally invested. I decided to walk away to look out for myself. After walking away I was so relieved. Finally took a deep breath and released bad energy and now I’m free. He’s is not worth thinking about anymore.
I did this last night. He asked me to be his gf a few weeks ago. Then yesterday he randomly removed our relationship status on social media. I asked him why and he said nothing, just blocked me. It’s his loss. I tried but now I’m focusing on myself. He’s not worth it
I think, of all your videos, this one resonates with me the most. I have taken him off of the pedestal and put myself back on it. I know he needs to win me over, so I am giving him space to think and miss me. I have taken my energy and focused it on myself by doing things that make me feel happy, healthy, peaceful, and productive. In my heart I know he’s planning how to win me back but if I never hear from him again I will be just fine. Thank you for validating my choice to walk away from his avoidance.
I’m so happy to see you are on your on mission to honour yourself by focusing all of your energy on you! Did you notice any positive effects yet? It’s another example for me to actively work towards my own path and passions as well. I believe with all my heart that you are a gem and he should be proud to have you on his side. If he hasn’t reached out yet I think he is contemplating the pros and cons of reaching out. I believe most of men are afraid of rejection at this point. You made yourself clear as to what you tolerate and the same applies for me. I was with an avoidant and inconsiderate man that was weak and dependent on me to have fun until I couldn take it any more and snapped. I walked away and trying to make a statement that he eventually must level up.
@Jada Turner he said, “Seeing you find your happiness is what will make me happy. I am broken in many ways on the personal side of life. I get my biggest joys in seeing people I care about find their happiness regardless of mine.” He stopped initiating contact and I haven’t reached out to him since February 25th.
Perfect timing, literally did this less than an hour ago, this girl I was hanging out with started acting up out of nowhere, so I verbally checked her and told her if she didn't listen to me I was going to leave, she didn't comply so I left. Less than an hour later she called my phone trying to get back into my good graces. This works really well, I think one major key is to leave without thinking or projecting feelings of negativity towards the other person and walk in your power with abundance on your mind.
My ex broke up with me 9 months ago without a warning. I wouldn't think that he would be the person to come back. I decided to come back to myself and focus on my own happiness and future. The moment I closed our chapter he texted me again to meet up. It's strange but it really works like that
Glad it worked for you! Sure didn't work for me 20 yrs ago. I did no contact when I didn't know it was a thing. I wanted this woman to call me again so bad. I didn't stop focusing on her though and had achy feelings when I thought of her. Maybe that's why? (No I don't want her now, im just curious).
Walked away from a three year relationship a few days ago. I really need these words and have been doing the opposite of what has been said. I'm going to stop abandoning myself from now. Need to choose me. Be in my own energy!
Was intimate with someone else after a bad breakup with someone abusive, i ended up getting attached and wanted more, now I'm realizing that he didn't want anything more, and now I'm happily letting it go, seeing that it's not worth my energy, no chasing, no sadness. Just walking away ❤ i know I'm powerful and i got what i wanted for the time. But time to move the heck on! I can already tell how much I've grown spiritually, in the past id be devastated. Not anymore 😊
Yes, sometimes people just literally need space and it's nothing personal. Or it really is just not energetically compatible, now or in the future,which is okay, and there is no choice but to walk away in order to save yourself. Aaron, I read burning a candle in a small enclosed space will give you monoxide poisoning! Please meditate with the candle in a bigger room. I love you, and don't want anything bad to happen to you! Xxx
This is absolutely spot on , I’ve stepped right back from a relationship that was becoming increasingly one sided , in the end I spoke to her and sensed she was getting fed up with my attentions which in truth was all about making me feel better . I said to her that I’m going to leave her completely alone and I have, instead focusing on myself. I absolutely will not contact her first now , I realise that would be a big mistake. I’ve no idea if she’ll come back but if she doesn’t then the answer is right there……… she came back 😁
There is power in loving! Don’t be afraid to give love to someone you love just because of fear of abandonment. Just give it! Love will be given to you back no matter which way, from same person or another one! But of course walk away if there is no exchange of the energy what you give. You will get empty if it is only from your side. To love is beautiful, we grow in that, going through that. If you keep yourself closed and don’t allow yourself to love, it will damage a lot.
If someone doesn’t want me then I don’t want them. The problem is when they don’t make it clear what they want. When that happens the clock is ticking before I leave
I saw many videos related to same topics until I experienced myself and understood myself.. me and my ex were on no contact for like 2 months physically but mentally I was missing him every day 😅 ! Every second . I always thought about him reaching out to me one day and apologise and fix everything but then I got tired and decided that it's done totally that moment I stopped giving my energy to him .. next day he called me !!! But I became desperate again and started thinking about him all day again but again after that call he never reached out to me ... I was devastated I decided that now I'm totally tired and after few hours he called me after 15 days without no contact!! I soon realised that This thing about energy exist !! Just because you don't show your desperation doesn't mean you're not desperate it's all about energy to send !! Now whenever I'll catch myself think about him I'll redirect my focus on something else ... No matter what if he exist in my life or not ... I won't put him on pedestal ever again ... I'll make new friends.. I'll live my life to fullest
This is so hard to do, especially being codependent and diagnosed with a terrible case of MS. But I want to change my life so I walked away dispite the fear of not being able to take care of myself because of my disability. I'm learning life isnt much different without them, less stressful and a bit lonely. Scary mostly. But I will NOT give up on myself.
Zoe - I’m really proud of you. You go girl. You are first best and don’t ever forget that well. Also … see yourself as well and not shoving MS. Visualize it all day every day and ignore what is in your face and watch yourself heal. It’s just DIS EASE in your body from your past - and you can heal it!!!! Best of luck.
I can feel what you’re going through, I’m facing the same thing but i didn’t tell him about MS fearing he would reject me .. at the end i choose to walk away because he’s not worthy and definitely won’t be by my side through thick and thin 💔 i honestly don’t know when and how i share such information while dating without them running away so for now i keep it to myself and focus on my health . Stress and heartbreak triggers relapses , so we have to take care of ourselves until we meet the one 🤍
The dog comparison is really fun, actually, when I was a young teenager I had a dog that was pretty wild, I used to walk him without a leash and I found that the best way to get the dog to come to me if he was running and not listening was not just to walk away but to HIDE away! I went hiding behind trees or bushes lol - and the dog ran to find me. I suppose the analogy would be to walk away and be out of sight, no contact
YES! I always say this! Our dog used to take off running so, when we chased him, he ran faster. But if we turned around and ran away from him, he started to chase us.
Stay Strong Guys I Have Myself Been Through The Same Situation No Matter What Never Go Back To Them Stay Firm To Your Decision.Self Respect Is Most Valuable Thing One Can Have🙌💯
Needed to hear this. My girlfriend essentially told me I was smothering her emotionally yesterday. I’ve realized that I’d been neglecting myself and pushing her away by overcompensating. I like what you say about letting go of the outcome. I do love her, it’s only been a few months but there’s definitely a spark there. I’m in the process of pulling away and remembering how I spent my free time instead of fixating on the relationship completely. Thanks Aaron.
You are so worthy Aaron. It's just time. People sometimes don't have enough time. They have their own stuff going on. Don't take it personally. But you're right, in a romantic relationship, the one who is less invested wins.
I used to feel empathy for people with toxic traits, even when they were crossing boundaries and bringing me down and endangering my well-being. I heard their sob stories too, so I would sympathize with them sometimes. They were drinking “buddies.” I sobered up over three years ago and blocked them all. I wish them well, but they are not my responsibility and they didn’t care about me at all. My life is lonely, but I don’t have chaos, which I’m too damn old for.
This is so important. I realised that I couldn't save my family and no matter how burnt out and depressed I was trying to help them and make them happy it was never going to fix them. I put myself lat every time and got depressed myself but I'm putting all my energy into healing and helping myself. I wish it for everyone here
I remenber once this girl was chasing after me and it put me off her. I couldn't understand why she was chasing me. I thought if she is so desperate about being with me, she must be hiding some sort of problem. She was good looking, smart and the thing is I did fancy her. But because she was too keen about me, I kept away from her. Thanks to your video I understand this dynamic now.
Imagine getting emotionally blackmailed & stonewalled just because you’re not willing to send pix/vids that go against your boundaries 😒 I rather lose that individual then lose my boundaries 🥰💯 This is amazing advice 💯
Hey Aaron,The most powerful statement in this video for me was " Choosing Yourself sometimes means saying No to an energy dynamic that is Not a representation of my self respect!!!!!!!!!!" that is absolutely amazing statement such great insight! Thank you for this. I will meditate on this word! Great vid keep up the good work.
I love how when you genuinely love and care for someone and are there for them but never act controlling that will actually push people away. People who push away people who genuinely care have problems. Cause so many in the world do not care. And it is everywhere.
This is sooo true. Gonna keep watching over and over til this sinks in. This childhood need to get approval from others, just insane how it effects your whole life.
When/if you decide to do this, go all in. Don't call, text, email and especially don't get on social media and look them up or post stupid ass quotes that you think relate to them hoping they will see it. Walk away and don't look back. If you're doing it to get someone back, you are defeating the entire purpose and you are chasing the wrong person.
Only walk away if the other person has put you in a unfavourable position. If you do it out purely to gain some sort of control other someone. It will back fire. Walking away is about respecting one's self, not gaining the upper hand over someone which is just narcissistic. For example if you were looking to date someone and they choose not too but still want to remain InTouch as friends. Then it's a good idea to walk away and give your time and energy to someone else. If you have a argument with someone with no attempt to resolve things before walking away in the hopes they will come crawling back. Then forget it. That only shows immaturity and will most likely not work on a mental strong person. However if you have made reasonable attempts to resolve a issue within a relationship with can't be resolved. Then yes the best option is too walk away fully without caring if they come back or not
I abandoned myself for a long time but it’s been 7 months of soul searching and reconnecting with myself. Everything changed, never let yourself go, never forget about yourself, everything starts from within, love yourself first always.
This is so the truth. I chased and chased after one woman. When I finally started walking away from the thought of being with her again she started reaching out.
I've been with the same girl for 5 years and a half, everything was fine (for me) but in the last year I didn't give her much attention, I was focused with work and earn money for a better life together like get married and have kids. I admit my faults in the last year, was miss communication from me but she said that needed time and space and then she broke up with me. We had a last face to face talk, she was emotional, begging to keep talk with her, that she worries about me but I said that wasn't healthy for both of us and I will not talk with her anymore, she was crying. We gave some big hugs and I said the last goodbye. I know that I should focus on myself, my body, everything, but always hurt when I think the she's gone and never will comeback. So many great memories... It hurts but I will heal.
I desperately needed to see this today. I'm at the beginning stage of a divorce I don't want and I have tried everything in my power to get him to change his mind. We have had a beautiful, drama free relationship for 7+ years and the first conflict we have, he runs instead of working through it. (He has high functioning autism, so it makes it even more complicated than a typical relationship). I know now that I have to just let go. I'm letting go, focusing and working on me, and while I do hope he'll come to terms with things on his own, I know I can't keep punishing myself over things I can't control. I have binged your videos all day today and it truly has helped. Thank you ❤️
Know Your Worth And Never Settle For Less Than What You Deserve As I Say “You Will Never Be Good Enough For The Wrong Person”They Are Not special It’s Your Energy That Makes Them Feel That Way! They Are Just Toxic And Negative.Forgive Them And Be The Mature Person In The Relationship.
It’s so true with friendship too. I tried this and it worked magic. I came to a party without any expectation. I didn’t try to make people like me. But… the crazy thing was people started to warm up to me. The most important thing is even if they don’t wanna be friends I still feel immense love for myself.
Well, noone would choose someone who would abandon himself. This guys just speaks the Truth. Work on yourself, the rest will come and the best is yet to come
Watching this, was just the most absolute perfect timing for me. This was EXACTLY what i was needing to hear in order to move forward. Thank you so much.
Aaron is the GOAT. I needed to hear this today. Was talking to a girl for a couple months. We hung out 3 times and every time was amazing. Out of nowhere, she went ice cold on me for no apparent reason. I thought I did something wrong even though I know I didn’t. I’m learning to walk away and let the universe sort it out
Well… This behavior is common when you shift attention from another person to yourself, causing that person to come back to you. It's not just the law of attraction at play; rather, the person is not genuinely attracted to you. They notice you pulling away and, in response, give you attention, prompting you to return. Once you do, they pull away again. This is not genuine attraction but a game, a cycle people often engage in.
This video couldn’t have come at a more perfect time for me personally Aaron. Big fan of your channel, your videos have helped me grow, learn more about myself and work through a lot. You’re also helping me maintain a relationship with my soulmate that I nearly ruined by smothering her too soon. Very powerful lessons that you teach, great work mate, you’re a legend!
I love this so much. I was dating someone for 2 months, everything was great until one day she told me she didn’t have the emotional capacity to see me. I started to get anxious and think about reaching out/ trying to be that person that can heal her until I realized I was just chasing a feeling. That I was thinking of her more than I was thinking of myself. When I started to realize this I started to disconnect and walk away. It was hard, but never abandoning myself again.
I am going through this process now. New year new changes. Oh, I just subscribed to your RUclips channel and signed up for the free affirmation. Great content. I’ll be following. Thanks 🙏
What this man says is true. Walking away doesnt mean you dont like that person but you giving a chance for a genuine connection to be formed, through space and sense of value
Aaron you are amazing I needed to hear this. I have this problem my parner is always emotionally unavailable he treats me like i dont exist .He is very temperamental.He doesn't choose me... I have childhood trauma my father abandoned me and I have alot of work to do within... its these traumas that get me involved with the wrong people.... then I get attached. I feel worthless and unlovable his brought my confidence down... and think of walking away but fear being lonely...like all alone and I'm so scared... I loved this man bur he just used me
This is so true. I had to fail before I learned. Had the biggest crush on a dime piece for years. I never looked at her because I was shy. And then she came up to me and asked me why I never look at her. The rest is history.
You should do a video on how to not send the other person energy. Especially when that person is always on your mind. Even when you aren't necessarily thinking about them, you know they are always there in your mind. Help to explain how to escape that dynamic.
You have to have an awareness and not follow your thoughts when the person enters your mind. Immediately change your focus. One thing I've done to get rid of unwanted thought is to say to myself, "Stop!" It's weird because when I say it's like I snap out of it. After you do that for a little while you'll notice that the thoughts don't come anymore or not as much. That's one way of removing your energy from a person or a thing. It works for me. Maybe you can try it and see if it works
@ErikisOfficial Reading Power of Now helped quite a bit. I got into that the habit of doing what you describe, and that's helped quite a bit. Still random pop-up thoughts every now and then, especially when you see things that remind you of them. It's no big deal to me now. I just think about my goals and where I am today.
@Steven Poffenberger that's a great book. I got 2 for you that you might like. Try "Attached" and "How Emotions Are Made." Both imo are great and necessary tools for self and relationships
This is pretty spot on. Can totally relate with the whole thing when somebody pulls away you feel like there's something wrong with you, even though there's not. You end up trying to please them or stay in contact with them randomly and just cordial etc. etc.. I think that energy gets amplified also with smart phones and technology nowadays. If you have their number, you can easily get a hold of them in text/ calls, etc. which amplifies everything. It sucks also because the only way to prevent yourself from getting a hold of them is by blocking but then they can't get a hold of you. lol
I like my ex still and knowing the fact he dosent want me back ...it's emotionally draining , I just want to get out of this feeling ...value myself nd my life over him
Omg! Same situation girl. My ex also doesn't want to commit to me. I already communicated him about what I felt and possible actions that I'll take if this continue. Coz he kinda wanna meet me first. But to me it's kinda confusing and really hard to understand coz wer in a relationship before even if wer far. But y now no? That makes me really feel unsecured coz what if we will meet after a year. So, I have to overthink for a year? 😂 then, I decided to walk away 2 days ago. Stating that reason to him. And today, he message and call me but I neither take the call nor read the message. Because deep in me, I have to work on myself. And they said, we have to listen to ourself, our intuition. So, I did. Perhaps, in the future if we both healed, both ready and both are free. We could try again. But now, I know, I have to change me first.
Your videos have been helping through this winter. I’ve been wanting to let go and accept for a while. The best solution was for me to walk away. I am a Capricorn and this season was waiting for me. I hope you continue in your brilliant path this new year! Stay shining 💎✨
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Can you make a video on how to be yourself.
What this man says is true. Walking away doesnt mean you dont like that person but you giving a chance for a genuine connection to be formed, through space and sense of value
Hi Aaron, how to walk away? Psychologically and emotionally, I mean.
If someone doesn't try to communicate through problems, it just makes me think they will walk away so they are not safe to trust. . . I find it manipulative and it makes me feel unsafe and lose attraction.
This only works if the person doesn't have fears of people walking out on them, because for me if you walk out I may try to talk it through, but then I will lock the door behind you if you go.
“Anytime you choose somebody else that is not choosing you: you abandoning yourself!” NEEDED THIS!!
One of the best quotes that I've never heard said till this video.
I needed this too today. Fkn fantastic analogy
also, no to them is essentially a big yes to You!@@coudgeb
I don't get it😂
I though people continuelly message me i thought they needed me. But i guess i have put them more and myself on a hold to create a message for them. Hm. Me first, time for them when i have time
Note to self: STOP abandoning yourself 💕
It’s good advice but it’s not a simple choice for those of us with deep trauma and abandonment wounds unfortunately😭
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@@markkarma7392So true, it's hard for me but I'm trying...I'm tired of being/feeling hurt and abandoned
I go through the trauma bonding stuff. I don't think it's cool to ghost a woman just because as lovers, I didn't have sex w him on our second date..So he's been quiet. He lives 500 miles away too though, so the distance is an issue. I like him but had performance anxiety and now he says "it wasn't meant to be." That's hurtful. I am trying to put the attention back to myself.
Walking away drew her back to me but when she came back I decided I was done for good. Stay strong partners.
I'm exactly in the same spot. I feel like the space of walking away also makes you realize if that person is worth it or not.
Love this
You never like her to begin with she should not taken you back!
Me too it's been over a decade still she can't get over me it's crazy. 😂
Frank, you're so handsome. ❤
That's solid information but don't forget...
When you walk away, you have to MEAN it! You're okay if that person never comes back. You will completely (physically and spiritually) stop chasing! This is not about getting the other person to act in a certain way you want them to act. Keep that in mind.
Stay true to yourself and stick to your boundaries. Love y'all ❤
Wonderful comment thank you ❤
Excellent and very important point. Thank you 🙏
I did this.. I knew she would be having sex with others that quick but u guess they ain't worth it if it's like that but it still gets to me big time that thought
Very good directing words
True words! ❤
I always have long-term relationships because:
1. I give Space
2. I'm Not needy
3. I can walk away anytime
secure attachment
I was needy stupidly even tho I was having a good time I shud of pulled back I didn’t read it I Haven’t really dated. Since forever I felt I cudnt love or didn’t know or Wud get it . It came I was trying to see an I knew I liked him something about him touched me inside we made out embraced and enjoyed togther his words stayed with me 😢 now it’s all gone so quick I wana turn the clock and see as friends to then see how it could go . I’m so stupid in love I can’t be in love it’s so sad
Girl I was dating told me I was too being needy because I was getting emotional and anxious about their actions. She said we shouldn't talk for a while and I'm really upset about it. I know I should probably walk away but I really want to make things work with her.
@@sschwartz1488if she is doing shit that makes you doubt (eg partying talking about other men etc) then ur being manipulated
@@bigtreecombatacademy2927 none of those. Just telling me she can't deal with me being emotionally needy.
This is so true. I walk away and really mean it. I don’t put up with foolishness. They either change their behavior and act like they have some sense or they leave me alone which is a blessing because I do not tolerate disrespect.
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Totally a win-win situation!
THIS!!!
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Happiness is an inside job.....I like that miss
If you ever listen to anything while reading comments, let it be this - go to borlest and read the book whispers of manifestation, then come back and thank me
Walk away. And never ever abandon yourself, again.
It’s a power move. ❤
Walking away is one of the most powerful moves when we aren’t being valued and especially when the other person is actually the one w the low value‼️
Precisely this. ❤
No, the other person isnt with low value, we are equally valued, we are all equal in the eyes of God, janitor, CEO, celebrtity - all have the equal value.
Absolutely false.
@@dazza8551
I wasn’t talking about job position. I meant morals and values. We are not all on the same level.
So true
Stop abandoning Yourself for others
If they walk away, then no worries....
Trust me the universe will send you your kind of person
So stop chasing them give them the space... ❤️
Universe always sucks
@@kalaikarthi4118why do you say this? Truly asking?
@@robturner7024 because it doesn't always give wat we want
@@kalaikarthi4118 it gives us what we are
@@robturner7024no it does not. Abused kids are not abusers so it does not give us what we are.
The best analogy I’ve ever heard, “When you chase a dog it runs, but when you walk away, it chases you” 😍😍😍😍😍
When dumped and walked away from an ex suitor - I didn’t do it for mind games or to get him back, since he was already committed. God helped me to realize that I didn’t want or have to settle for any less. I’m glad I walked away because God gave me the freedom to choose and I don’t regret it. I took the time to heal from the love and enjoyed focusing on God and my career. A decade later, I met another man that I found to be a worthier man of my time and we, my husband Frank and I, are now married. :)
thats so beautiful.
I walked away last night. I hope he wakes up, but I'm fully prepared to never talk to him ever again.
atta girl - here's to wishing you'll find someone that'll appreciate you fully!!
@@torduc22 I just saw this! Thank you so much. I hope I do, too! Lots of love to you from Georgia 🍑!
Did he come back ??
@@XX-bm4eo Glad to say he didn't. I see now that he gave me tons of red flags that I chose to ignore. 😅
@@TheGringa86 ughh we’ve all been there. love is hard
That's why I love my Lord Jesus, he always walked away from toxicity without even arguing.
Tf
Sir , this is a Wendy’s.
@@litedawg a Wendy’s….as in a Wendy’s? 🍔
@@youssefmikhael3044 I was thinking the same shit
Eh??
I walked away and chose myself! I deserve to be a man's priority giving me respect and consideration. He treated me badly and has not apologized. I'm working on my "self-worth" and removing the energy I've been giving him thru the universe. Thank you for this powerful message!
I got tears in my eyes when you said "You're awesome! You're amazing!" Says at lot about my self-esteem.
Same here🥺🥺
That is the exact part I started crying, too. I cried though because I’m like if I’m so amazing and awesome then how come they never put in effort to keep me. I’ve dated hundreds of men and only 1 actual relationship. And he was just using me for a place to live.
I started to cry as well. I feel like a loser, alone. I don't want to be alone anymore. So much time spent by myself. I deserve to have someone by my side, but someone who will treat me well and respect me. I'm not feeling awesome, I'm not feeling amazing haha But anyways, it's way more complicated than anything.
Broken people need other broken people.. we should date 😂
@@ingrid5944I think you are amazing and awesome Ingrid. Stay true to yourself.
At this point I’m not walking away from someone to be concerned about the other person, or to gain some sort of power. I’m doing this because I deserve to pour into myself, mind my own essence and enjoy my own world…. To show up for myself because that’s my responsibility. That’s my job. I’ve spent a lot of my life doing things for the world…. I just want to choose me without extra being attatched to it. whoever wants to be in my life, will simply be there because they love me, because they want to be. I don’t owe anyone a damn thing. And no one owes me anything. So anyone who wants to leave can surely go. As long as I don’t abandon myself to gain the world, I am fine.
Well said.
Inspiring
Amazing.. Thank you for you inspiring words❤
“Bring your energy back to yourself and stop trying to fix the situation.” Basically take those bricks out of your pockets and instead of trying to fix that broken situation use them as pavers back to you! ❤
There is no guarantee they’ll come back once they broke up with you and you walked away but it’s a guarantee you’ll find yourself along the way. ❤
It's tough to move away, it hurts, but if you do, YOU WIN! Either they will see your worth & contact you (how you proceed is your perogative) or you never see them again, but you will know it wasn't meant to be 👍😊
I just walked away from a friends with benefits scenario, she rejected me wanting to go further but she still wanted to keep me around while she dates other guys. No way!
It’s been nearly 2 months but we didn’t really end on a truly sour note.
I still have a hunch that she will reach out to me at some point but I think I’ll politely decline.
@@Demonico-j7x. I do NOT want to get naked with a woman who's sleeping with other guys! I want that thang completely free of any scentilla of essence of any other man for long enough. A fresh clean start with her.
Stop abandoning yourself and choose yourself instead ❤
For anyone going through this... You are not alone! I just dealt with everything here. It was devastating. Please remember it wasn't your fault. You cannot change these people, they use and abuse and manipulate. They are masters of deception and do not care about you or others. So please, watch these videos and get some understanding but listen to this brilliant human and STOP researching when you get to that point. Move on, be the best version of you because we all deserve that. Don't let this haunt you. Thank you so much Lisa for your help and videos. These are brilliant and so relatable to so many of us. Remember, you got this everyone!
thank you! This helped me to stop searching for answers and just keep living my life.
This is legit. I stop calling, texting and I started going to the gym. She ends up calling me later. The miss factor plays a huge role, even with family. When I lived with my family we fought more, had less space and there was too many voices. You don't have clearity in your mind anymore that you start to miss them less. When I moved out and visit them. There was so much love and things reconfigure. Space is key, we only take so much.
Its not walking away. Its not choosing yourself. Its choosing to enjoy life and putting energy in something you enjoy to do. To put the energy back in your body, to enjoy it and to enjoy your life
I've been pondering this for a month. As you say, its not enough to go non contact. If you are thinking about them you will just keep pushing them away. But more importantly, you are blocking the opportunity to meet someone, who you wont actually need to walk away from in the first place.
So I'm not only practicing non contact, I'm actually purging them from my mind. From my very system. Because if we're thinking about someone who doesn't reciprocate, this is very unhealthy. The mind can rebel against this new discipline, as it has needy patterns it thinks it needs to survive. Dreams of them may be very strong. This is not love, its obsession. Tell your mind no, they have to go. You have to meet someone out of the billions of people on the planet, who may just serve your growth and purpose more effectively.
So what I've learnt here is walk away, and work on yourself. Not just no contact but as you rightly say, REALLY walk away. As in you aren't even going to be thinking about them.
Yes, they may then come back. But in my experience they'll need someone emotionally unavailable, to keep them in their chosen state of misery. Such people don't make the best partners.
How do you purge them from your mind? Do you focus on something else when the thought about them pops up? Thank you
I believe this works. But something important to add, you have to have something to turn your energy to, when you walk away.
You have to be on your own mission, if you want others to join in.
This is some of the most unattractive traits that people can have, not being driven in any area of their lives.
I believe that it isn't even about the goals themselves. What I have realized recently is that I have my career and skills I want to learn, but I lack some higher goal.
My fiance left me at some point. I was a romantic soul, drawing a lot, illustrating and having some dreams that heavily involved her I also was a bit pragmatic learning how to program (love programming). Unfortunately, I was doing poorly with money. So I got a great job. I have my career now doing good money working with Silicon Valley-based big players. And what? I lost her, I lost myself. I feel that I am boring and emotionally lazy. What attracts people is sparkle. Don't lose it for money or other material things. I think this concept applies to both - males and females. Some women think that having a goal and being a career focus is sexy. It's not. Its the road to being lonely. Same for men. There is a need for balance
@@HCforLife1 this was an interesting point of view
I normally don’t comment on RUclips videos but I have to say that a few weeks ago a guy I was seeing ended our situationship, for a valid reason I will say, but I was pretty sad about it. I watched Aaron’s RUclips channel , I totally moved forward with my hobbies, work, exercise, going out with friends etc. we hadn’t spoken in weeks, he messages me to get a coffee, I meet him, he tells me he cannot stop thinking about me and he kept feeling like I was completely doing fine and he was struggling not to reach out to me.
So the point of this comment is, THIS REALLY WORKS!!!!!!
The universe allowed me to watch this. Divine and Perfect timing. I just recently blocked an ex. I walked away with the pure intention of getting myself back and getting the peace of mind I so deserve.
This is so helpful, thank you. I'm in a relationship where the other person has way too much control over my emotions, and I'm experiencing a lot of breadcrumbing which is very painful. I really want to take back my own power and be happy with or without them.
Run, Girl!
Must be a damn narcissist. I just ran away from one. You run too. Remember, you haven’t met all the people that will love you. Chose yourself. Run
Stop following their breadcrumb trail. Don’t do it. You deserve the whole loaf.
Unbelievably painful, I know!
Run run run! It’s not easy, and downright painful at times, but you WILL get through.
Yesterday I had break up.. And today I opened RUclips and your video was in my front page.. Is it like universe is trying to help me.. 🙂.. Thank you.
I walked away yesterday. With my head up held high it was hard because I was extremely emotionally invested. I decided to walk away to look out for myself. After walking away I was so relieved. Finally took a deep breath and released bad energy and now I’m free. He’s is not worth thinking about anymore.
I did this last night. He asked me to be his gf a few weeks ago. Then yesterday he randomly removed our relationship status on social media. I asked him why and he said nothing, just blocked me. It’s his loss. I tried but now I’m focusing on myself. He’s not worth it
I think, of all your videos, this one resonates with me the most.
I have taken him off of the pedestal and put myself back on it. I know he needs to win me over, so I am giving him space to think and miss me.
I have taken my energy and focused it on myself by doing things that make me feel happy, healthy, peaceful, and productive.
In my heart I know he’s planning how to win me back but if I never hear from him again I will be just fine.
Thank you for validating my choice to walk away from his avoidance.
I’m so happy to see you are on your on mission to honour yourself by focusing all of your energy on you! Did you notice any positive effects yet? It’s another example for me to actively work towards my own path and passions as well. I believe with all my heart that you are a gem and he should be proud to have you on his side. If he hasn’t reached out yet I think he is contemplating the pros and cons of reaching out. I believe most of men are afraid of rejection at this point. You made yourself clear as to what you tolerate and the same applies for me. I was with an avoidant and inconsiderate man that was weak and dependent on me to have fun until I couldn take it any more and snapped. I walked away and trying to make a statement that he eventually must level up.
well said.. that’s how i feel about it..
I did exactly the same. Gave him a piece of my mind and doubt he will be back and that’s better for me. God is only protecting me.
Same girl! Sending you love because holy crap this is tough ❤
@Jada Turner he said, “Seeing you find your happiness is what will make me happy. I am broken in many ways on the personal side of life. I get my biggest joys in seeing people I care about find their happiness regardless of mine.”
He stopped initiating contact and I haven’t reached out to him since February 25th.
Perfect timing, literally did this less than an hour ago, this girl I was hanging out with started acting up out of nowhere, so I verbally checked her and told her if she didn't listen to me I was going to leave, she didn't comply so I left. Less than an hour later she called my phone trying to get back into my good graces. This works really well, I think one major key is to leave without thinking or projecting feelings of negativity towards the other person and walk in your power with abundance on your mind.
My ex broke up with me 9 months ago without a warning. I wouldn't think that he would be the person to come back. I decided to come back to myself and focus on my own happiness and future. The moment I closed our chapter he texted me again to meet up. It's strange but it really works like that
Did you take him back in ?
Glad it worked for you! Sure didn't work for me 20 yrs ago. I did no contact when I didn't know it was a thing. I wanted this woman to call me again so bad. I didn't stop focusing on her though and had achy feelings when I thought of her. Maybe that's why? (No I don't want her now, im just curious).
Walked away from a three year relationship a few days ago. I really need these words and have been doing the opposite of what has been said. I'm going to stop abandoning myself from now. Need to choose me. Be in my own energy!
I really needed this as I do have "abandonment issues."
Was intimate with someone else after a bad breakup with someone abusive, i ended up getting attached and wanted more, now I'm realizing that he didn't want anything more, and now I'm happily letting it go, seeing that it's not worth my energy, no chasing, no sadness. Just walking away ❤ i know I'm powerful and i got what i wanted for the time. But time to move the heck on! I can already tell how much I've grown spiritually, in the past id be devastated. Not anymore 😊
so true. I left my gf of 6 years after a 1 year push/pull cycle.. Its been a month and I havent been this happy in a very long time.
Yes, sometimes people just literally need space and it's nothing personal. Or it really is just not energetically compatible, now or in the future,which is okay, and there is no choice but to walk away in order to save yourself. Aaron, I read burning a candle in a small enclosed space will give you monoxide poisoning! Please meditate with the candle in a bigger room. I love you, and don't want anything bad to happen to you! Xxx
This is absolutely spot on , I’ve stepped right back from a relationship that was becoming increasingly one sided , in the end I spoke to her and sensed she was getting fed up with my attentions which in truth was all about making me feel better . I said to her that I’m going to leave her completely alone and I have, instead focusing on myself. I absolutely will not contact her first now , I realise that would be a big mistake. I’ve no idea if she’ll come back but if she doesn’t then the answer is right there……… she came back 😁
Great but be careful you don't repeat needy behavior.
@@GUITARTIME2024that’s down to your own self concept how strong you are within yourself
There is power in loving! Don’t be afraid to give love to someone you love just because of fear of abandonment. Just give it! Love will be given to you back no matter which way, from same person or another one! But of course walk away if there is no exchange of the energy what you give. You will get empty if it is only from your side. To love is beautiful, we grow in that, going through that. If you keep yourself closed and don’t allow yourself to love, it will damage a lot.
If someone doesn’t want me then I don’t want them. The problem is when they don’t make it clear what they want. When that happens the clock is ticking before I leave
@text9439how can I directly message you
I saw many videos related to same topics until I experienced myself and understood myself.. me and my ex were on no contact for like 2 months physically but mentally I was missing him every day 😅 ! Every second . I always thought about him reaching out to me one day and apologise and fix everything but then I got tired and decided that it's done totally that moment I stopped giving my energy to him .. next day he called me !!! But I became desperate again and started thinking about him all day again but again after that call he never reached out to me ... I was devastated I decided that now I'm totally tired and after few hours he called me after 15 days without no contact!!
I soon realised that This thing about energy exist !! Just because you don't show your desperation doesn't mean you're not desperate it's all about energy to send !!
Now whenever I'll catch myself think about him I'll redirect my focus on something else ... No matter what if he exist in my life or not ... I won't put him on pedestal ever again ... I'll make new friends.. I'll live my life to fullest
walking away gives you space in your life to magnetize what is more aligned instead...
Walking away from. All toxic people is amazing.
This is so hard to do, especially being codependent and diagnosed with a terrible case of MS. But I want to change my life so I walked away dispite the fear of not being able to take care of myself because of my disability. I'm learning life isnt much different without them, less stressful and a bit lonely. Scary mostly. But I will NOT give up on myself.
❤️❤️
Zoe - I’m really proud of you. You go girl. You are first best and don’t ever forget that well. Also … see yourself as well and not shoving MS. Visualize it all day every day and ignore what is in your face and watch yourself heal. It’s just DIS EASE in your body from your past - and you can heal it!!!! Best of luck.
I can feel what you’re going through, I’m facing the same thing but i didn’t tell him about MS fearing he would reject me .. at the end i choose to walk away because he’s not worthy and definitely won’t be by my side through thick and thin 💔 i honestly don’t know when and how i share such information while dating without them running away so for now i keep it to myself and focus on my health . Stress and heartbreak triggers relapses , so we have to take care of ourselves until we meet the one 🤍
Get well soon🤲❤
I have mild disability cognitive delay i more issue with myself mentally I have blocks and deleted all social media platforms and starting new slowly
Man trust me, I have never seen anybody on the whole you tube giving this much of knowledge.
The dog comparison is really fun, actually, when I was a young teenager I had a dog that was pretty wild, I used to walk him without a leash and I found that the best way to get the dog to come to me if he was running and not listening was not just to walk away but to HIDE away! I went hiding behind trees or bushes lol - and the dog ran to find me. I suppose the analogy would be to walk away and be out of sight, no contact
YES! I always say this! Our dog used to take off running so, when we chased him, he ran faster. But if we turned around and ran away from him, he started to chase us.
That's also known as playing cat and mouse. That's all that is tho. Games. I don't see how that sets the ground for healthy grown up relationship.
@@sunbeam9222neither do I, but I guess if people show this avoidance behaviour, it’s best for us to let them be
Stay Strong Guys I Have Myself Been Through The Same Situation No Matter What Never Go Back To Them Stay Firm To Your Decision.Self Respect Is Most Valuable Thing One Can Have🙌💯
Needed to hear this. My girlfriend essentially told me I was smothering her emotionally yesterday.
I’ve realized that I’d been neglecting myself and pushing her away by overcompensating.
I like what you say about letting go of the outcome. I do love her, it’s only been a few months but there’s definitely a spark there.
I’m in the process of pulling away and remembering how I spent my free time instead of fixating on the relationship completely.
Thanks Aaron.
This is so true. I used to be too nice, and help supports others, but then forget to support myself.
You are so worthy Aaron.
It's just time. People sometimes don't have enough time. They have their own stuff going on. Don't take it personally.
But you're right, in a romantic relationship, the one who is less invested wins.
I used to feel empathy for people with toxic traits, even when they were crossing boundaries and bringing me down and endangering my well-being. I heard their sob stories too, so I would sympathize with them sometimes. They were drinking “buddies.” I sobered up over three years ago and blocked them all. I wish them well, but they are not my responsibility and they didn’t care about me at all. My life is lonely, but I don’t have chaos, which I’m too damn old for.
This is so important. I realised that I couldn't save my family and no matter how burnt out and depressed I was trying to help them and make them happy it was never going to fix them. I put myself lat every time and got depressed myself but I'm putting all my energy into healing and helping myself. I wish it for everyone here
I started crying when you said "choose you, you are AWSOME, you are AMAZING"
I remenber once this girl was chasing after me and it put me off her. I couldn't understand why she was chasing me. I thought if she is so desperate about being with me, she must be hiding some sort of problem. She was good looking, smart and the thing is I did fancy her. But because she was too keen about me, I kept away from her. Thanks to your video I understand this dynamic now.
Lies.
You're projecting hard bro
Imagine getting emotionally blackmailed & stonewalled just because you’re not willing to send pix/vids that go against your boundaries 😒 I rather lose that individual then lose my boundaries 🥰💯
This is amazing advice 💯
Hey Aaron,The most powerful statement in this video for me was " Choosing Yourself sometimes means saying No to an energy dynamic that is Not a representation of my self respect!!!!!!!!!!" that is absolutely amazing statement such great insight! Thank you for this. I will meditate on this word! Great vid keep up the good work.
I love how when you genuinely love and care for someone and are there for them but never act controlling that will actually push people away. People who push away people who genuinely care have problems. Cause so many in the world do not care. And it is everywhere.
Okay Sir, you actually saved my marriage 😭
God bless you soooo much ❤️🙏🏼
This is sooo true. Gonna keep watching over and over til this sinks in. This childhood need to get approval from others, just insane how it effects your whole life.
When/if you decide to do this, go all in. Don't call, text, email and especially don't get on social media and look them up or post stupid ass quotes that you think relate to them hoping they will see it. Walk away and don't look back. If you're doing it to get someone back, you are defeating the entire purpose and you are chasing the wrong person.
I love this comment
It's excruciating...did that 10 days ago...never cried so much in my life
Only walk away if the other person has put you in a unfavourable position. If you do it out purely to gain some sort of control other someone. It will back fire. Walking away is about respecting one's self, not gaining the upper hand over someone which is just narcissistic. For example if you were looking to date someone and they choose not too but still want to remain InTouch as friends. Then it's a good idea to walk away and give your time and energy to someone else. If you have a argument with someone with no attempt to resolve things before walking away in the hopes they will come crawling back. Then forget it. That only shows immaturity and will most likely not work on a mental strong person. However if you have made reasonable attempts to resolve a issue within a relationship with can't be resolved. Then yes the best option is too walk away fully without caring if they come back or not
This
I abandoned myself for a long time but it’s been 7 months of soul searching and reconnecting with myself. Everything changed, never let yourself go, never forget about yourself, everything starts from within, love yourself first always.
Just went through a breakup which was tough. I swear this post was for me.
This is so the truth. I chased and chased after one woman. When I finally started walking away from the thought of being with her again she started reaching out.
.. this video is SO ME that I'm overwhelmed.
It's a life changer.
I've been with the same girl for 5 years and a half, everything was fine (for me) but in the last year I didn't give her much attention, I was focused with work and earn money for a better life together like get married and have kids.
I admit my faults in the last year, was miss communication from me but she said that needed time and space and then she broke up with me. We had a last face to face talk, she was emotional, begging to keep talk with her, that she worries about me but I said that wasn't healthy for both of us and I will not talk with her anymore, she was crying. We gave some big hugs and I said the last goodbye.
I know that I should focus on myself, my body, everything, but always hurt when I think the she's gone and never will comeback. So many great memories... It hurts but I will heal.
You got the best from her, I bet. Don't feel bad. 5 yrs is a decent time.
This is why I walk my boy Leo off Leash!
Stop abandoning yourself
Thank you!!!!
I desperately needed to see this today. I'm at the beginning stage of a divorce I don't want and I have tried everything in my power to get him to change his mind. We have had a beautiful, drama free relationship for 7+ years and the first conflict we have, he runs instead of working through it. (He has high functioning autism, so it makes it even more complicated than a typical relationship). I know now that I have to just let go. I'm letting go, focusing and working on me, and while I do hope he'll come to terms with things on his own, I know I can't keep punishing myself over things I can't control. I have binged your videos all day today and it truly has helped. Thank you ❤️
Know Your Worth And Never Settle For Less Than What You Deserve As I Say “You Will Never Be Good Enough For The Wrong Person”They Are Not special It’s Your Energy That Makes Them Feel That Way! They Are Just Toxic And Negative.Forgive Them And Be The Mature Person In The Relationship.
It’s so true with friendship too. I tried this and it worked magic. I came to a party without any expectation. I didn’t try to make people like me. But… the crazy thing was people started to warm up to me. The most important thing is even if they don’t wanna be friends I still feel immense love for myself.
I needed this. I have been abandoning myself. I need to just focus on myself.
Well, noone would choose someone who would abandon himself. This guys just speaks the Truth. Work on yourself, the rest will come and the best is yet to come
Watching this, was just the most absolute perfect timing for me. This was EXACTLY what i was needing to hear in order to move forward. Thank you so much.
Good for you
Same 😊Thank you !!
“I Gilda Given, I choose myself.” Thanks for this Aaron. 100% I needed this today. ❤
Choose yourself every time!💗
Aaron is the GOAT. I needed to hear this today. Was talking to a girl for a couple months. We hung out 3 times and every time was amazing. Out of nowhere, she went ice cold on me for no apparent reason. I thought I did something wrong even though I know I didn’t. I’m learning to walk away and let the universe sort it out
Well… This behavior is common when you shift attention from another person to yourself, causing that person to come back to you. It's not just the law of attraction at play; rather, the person is not genuinely attracted to you. They notice you pulling away and, in response, give you attention, prompting you to return. Once you do, they pull away again. This is not genuine attraction but a game, a cycle people often engage in.
Right..narcissistic behavior
Thank you i needed this. The guy that i liked picked someone else. I was sad but everything happens for a reason
This video is A+ I was obsessed over a girl I met on vacation and now realise how I chose her over myself! 👏🏽
3/4ths of the way through the video and im crying. This struck a cord in a big way, thank you so much for making it
This video couldn’t have come at a more perfect time for me personally Aaron. Big fan of your channel, your videos have helped me grow, learn more about myself and work through a lot. You’re also helping me maintain a relationship with my soulmate that I nearly ruined by smothering her too soon. Very powerful lessons that you teach, great work mate, you’re a legend!
I love this so much. I was dating someone for 2 months, everything was great until one day she told me she didn’t have the emotional capacity to see me. I started to get anxious and think about reaching out/ trying to be that person that can heal her until I realized I was just chasing a feeling. That I was thinking of her more than I was thinking of myself. When I started to realize this I started to disconnect and walk away. It was hard, but never abandoning myself again.
I'm here to wish Aaron and everyone on here a great and amazing, happy, healthy and successful new year! 💖
I've been listening to this since last week. Now i've finally let go and chose myself.
I literally just went through this process. So crazy…
I am going through this process now. New year new changes. Oh, I just subscribed to your RUclips channel and signed up for the free affirmation. Great content. I’ll be following. Thanks 🙏
@@Ry77x thanks so much. Let me know how you like it. 💜
@@Cristinashubin I will! And thanks!
What this man says is true. Walking away doesnt mean you dont like that person but you giving a chance for a genuine connection to be formed, through space and sense of value
Aaron you are amazing I needed to hear this. I have this problem my parner is always emotionally unavailable he treats me like i dont exist .He is very temperamental.He doesn't choose me... I have childhood trauma my father abandoned me and I have alot of work to do within... its these traumas that get me involved with the wrong people.... then I get attached. I feel worthless and unlovable his brought my confidence down... and think of walking away but fear being lonely...like all alone and I'm so scared... I loved this man bur he just used me
Very wise words, Aaron. We are all worth the high value we should place upon ourselves and not let anyone make us low value...especially us!
This is so true. I had to fail before I learned. Had the biggest crush on a dime piece for years. I never looked at her because I was shy. And then she came up to me and asked me why I never look at her. The rest is history.
You should do a video on how to not send the other person energy. Especially when that person is always on your mind. Even when you aren't necessarily thinking about them, you know they are always there in your mind. Help to explain how to escape that dynamic.
That the tricky part right?
You have to have an awareness and not follow your thoughts when the person enters your mind. Immediately change your focus. One thing I've done to get rid of unwanted thought is to say to myself, "Stop!" It's weird because when I say it's like I snap out of it. After you do that for a little while you'll notice that the thoughts don't come anymore or not as much. That's one way of removing your energy from a person or a thing. It works for me. Maybe you can try it and see if it works
@ErikisOfficial Reading Power of Now helped quite a bit. I got into that the habit of doing what you describe, and that's helped quite a bit. Still random pop-up thoughts every now and then, especially when you see things that remind you of them. It's no big deal to me now. I just think about my goals and where I am today.
@Steven Poffenberger that's a great book. I got 2 for you that you might like. Try "Attached" and "How Emotions Are Made." Both imo are great and necessary tools for self and relationships
This is pretty spot on. Can totally relate with the whole thing when somebody pulls away you feel like there's something wrong with you, even though there's not. You end up trying to please them or stay in contact with them randomly and just cordial etc. etc.. I think that energy gets amplified also with smart phones and technology nowadays. If you have their number, you can easily get a hold of them in text/ calls, etc. which amplifies everything. It sucks also because the only way to prevent yourself from getting a hold of them is by blocking but then they can't get a hold of you. lol
This is pure gold ❤ when you love you and choose others will surely follow suit!
I like my ex still and knowing the fact he dosent want me back ...it's emotionally draining , I just want to get out of this feeling ...value myself nd my life over him
Omg! Same situation girl. My ex also doesn't want to commit to me. I already communicated him about what I felt and possible actions that I'll take if this continue. Coz he kinda wanna meet me first. But to me it's kinda confusing and really hard to understand coz wer in a relationship before even if wer far. But y now no? That makes me really feel unsecured coz what if we will meet after a year. So, I have to overthink for a year? 😂 then, I decided to walk away 2 days ago. Stating that reason to him. And today, he message and call me but I neither take the call nor read the message. Because deep in me, I have to work on myself. And they said, we have to listen to ourself, our intuition. So, I did. Perhaps, in the future if we both healed, both ready and both are free. We could try again. But now, I know, I have to change me first.
THIS IS ABSOLUTELY HELPFUL !! I WAS DEPRESSED BECAUSE ME EX DID NOT CHOOSE ME. IM PRETTY MUCH GOOD NOW!!
Your videos have been helping through this winter. I’ve been wanting to let go and accept for a while. The best solution was for me to walk away. I am a Capricorn and this season was waiting for me. I hope you continue in your brilliant path this new year! Stay shining 💎✨
What you say in minute 5:39 is very smart. Once one is centered then the other person can be centered, too. I had never seen it that way.
I definitely needed to hear this, thank you so much!
Extremely Powerful and something very few people can do all the way to the very end.💔