NO CONTACT Only Works When You Do THIS!
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Going no contact is perhaps one of the most powerful things you can do. If someone else is losing interest or retracting energy, or if you've just moved through a relationship, one of the most powerful things you can do to really move on and to also at the same time stop tuning to somebody else is to go no contact, meaning you have no contact.
You do not reach out. You do not find out how they're doing. You do not creep on their Instagram. These are things that you do in order to go no contact, which has so many benefits, I'm gonna explain in a minute, but it only really works when you do what I share
with you in this video.
A lot of people do this the wrong way and because they do it the wrong way they don't actually reap the benefits of it.
So, when talking about no contact, I've made videos about this before. Some of my most popular videos talks about what happens when you energetically go no contact.
But basically in a nutshell, what happens is when you're with somebody else, your energy fields are very intertwined, energy fields are very connected. And what happens is when you are even thinking of somebody else and you are around them a lot, you end up sharing fields in a way, energy fields.
And what ends up happening as well is when you're thinking of somebody, even if you're not physically around them, you'll find that you thinking about them, wanting them to come around, wanting their approval, wanting their validation, when you think of them you are literally energetically sending them energy.
I know this sounds esoteric and kind of weird, but just I've seen this happen so many times in my own life and other people's lives when I share this concepts and these ideas.
And what happens is when you go no contact, what you begin to do is you begin to clear the communication, clear the energy fields between you and somebody else.
Now, when you clear the energy and you stop sending that person energy you allow the other person to regroup. If it is meant to come back together you actually give space for it to do so. Now, one of the main reasons people pull away and retract their energy energetically is because they want space.
They want space. Maybe there's a little bit too much intimacy there. Maybe they have intimacy blocks. Maybe they want space because there's some type of needy energy there.
Sometimes that happens, where the way somebody tries to control the dynamic is they're like, "Okay, I'm gonna get this person to come around. "I'm gonna talk to them a lot. "I'm gonna send them a whole bunch of messages."
And the more you do that the more it actually blocks it from working, the more you actually push that person away.
And when you retract your energy and you bring your energy back and you stop trying to control everything, everything ends up working out and you allow and you give space and you give space for somebody to realize how much they appreciate you.
Or you give them space and then you in your own energy realize that maybe it wasn't actually conducive for you, maybe it actually wasn't the healthiest thing for you.
But in general, the reason letting go and the reason going no contact is so powerful is because you stop projecting energy at somebody else.
Now, imagine this, imagine you're saying, "This person is not doing what I want them to do. "They're not texting me back. "I feel like they're in resistance. "They don't understand the dynamic that we have. "I don't get it. "What's going on here."
You're feeling resistance. And when you feel resistance and then you think of that person, you're literally sending resistant energy to them. And when they think of you they're feeling the energy you're projecting at them.
So it's like the resistance is being projected at them. They feel that. And then it repels them even more. And they say, "I want more space. "I want more space."
And going no contact is what you do is you stop sending them energy. You stop sending them resistance. You stop even energetically thinking about them. You start focusing more on yourself.
You start focusing more on your own, being in your own body, doing your own things in life, being around your own friends, living according to your own integrity, following your own purpose.
You are being called to right now, I believe to bring the energy back to yourself. Pull your energy back, bring it back to yourself. When you do that, you then start to feel more safe in your own body.
I've seen this happen so many times with people that are having trouble letting go of their ex and they're thinking about them and they're trying to make it work and they're texting them a lot.
And then I say, "Yo, pull your energy back. "Put the energy within yourself. "Put the energy within your own life. "Live by according to your own values. "Follow your own purpose." 
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Changed my whole day ☺️ was sending energetic resistance to *him* since i woke up. So far 9 days no contact. I wanted a committed relationship, he didn’t want the same thing. I couldn’t force him to want the same thing so I said goodbye and so did he. He was 1000% a soulmate, but I know Im worthy of a committed relationship with someone im extremely attracted too on a spiritual and physical level at the same time 🥰 I know what I want and I wont settle for less. Wish everyone the best xo
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@Dylan G exactly what im doing. His cut off is today to explain himself n actions towards me ..n why hes coming to me whilst still with the 3rd party. Im gunna tell him just after MN tonight that im doing me.. whatever comes along i will take a look at. Taking it slow as iv lots on atm.
Thank u for ur advice deal1 🤗💕 xxx
You deserve absolutely the best, Valeria Sofia. You're a a sparkle of God. If he can't respond to your feelings the way you deserve and want, you can only love him for whom he is and move on. There's thousands of soul mates-to-be in this vast world. I know the right person is coming.
Same to you. I'm glad you know your worth & you let him go by pushing him away. We all deserve better! Glad your in a better plsce! Wishing you all the best!!
Sofia,can I get ur comtact
My ex really hurt me. I thought everything was good and I felt secure. She out of nowhere broke up with me right after I moved 200 miles to be close to her after driving there every weeekend for about 5 months, through snow storms, covid lockdown restrictions, I was crushed. She always kept in contact though, I finally got her to admit she liked this other guy more but he was married and he left his wife to be with her. Well, her always contacting me and checking on me always kept me in a broken hearted state. I finally blocked her on everything and I started feeling 100 times better. When I'd talk to her I would get so happy and feel on top of the world, then I'd feel so depressed and sad. Forget about your ex, she's stealing your energy.
I was fool enough to contact an ex. She was in an already crappy relationship, and we slept a couple times. The guy broke up with her, she went depressed BUT kept contact with him in some sports teams almost daily. Nevertheless she was texting me all day long, called me a couple times a day (at least), but I was clear in my non-platonic intentions. She went from reluctantly accepting to outright rejecting me, so I quit. She went MAD about it.
I now can feel the energy she was sucking out of me. Don’t make my same mistake, guys.
I feel this. Just had the same happen; we were talking about me moving there and she expressed she was all in. Then did an about face about 10 days later and completely curb stomped me. This message is what I needed today, I've been expending too much of my energy trying to stay in contact and I just need to go no contact and focus on myself. It's been draining me.
W-H-A-T T-H-E F-U-C-K. Get a sex doll. Never go out of your way for her.
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I can relate to all of this. I know for a fact that I have an anxious attachment style and the person that interests me often takes over my mind completely.
I am going no-contact, but I still occasionally have dreams with this person where I'm attempting to seek their validation. It's hard to fall asleep in the first place because of the conversations I keep imagining. It sucks.
Yeah this advice doesn't work for us, it's OK to try to look after yourself and try new hobbies but your in your own head for 24nhours a day no way to escape
any update on your no contact?
Thanks for this reminder, I won't be abandoning myself again. ❤
What a good message. Self-abandon is the core issue, indeed. It takes courage and work to accept oneself and grow. So worth it in the end. Thank you, Aaron.
Very worldly but informational…things take time, don’t destroy your morals & values & be true to Christ & the good that is inside of you when the devil tries to tear you apart! This is why it’s important to know Gods word as well as the woman you choose to intertwine your soul with as we are connected in our mind, body, & souls. Choose the hard right & do good because simply it is good to be good! Forgive one another & stop holding onto the past to live present in the future or the devil will keep dragging you back down reminding you to keep you at a current state. Stop blaming your trauma & take accountability for your actions…do unto others as you would have done unto yourself!
This is exactly what I teach my clients in a domestic violence program. So glad to hear someone speak the same language on the same topic. Great video!
Thank you so much this. It resonated with me 100%. I now know what I am going to do. I could never understand why I kept making the same wrong decision again and again. I did meditation and the voice spoke to me telling me how I was abandoned at the age of 11. I had buried this 44 year's ago. It was a EurekAlert moment. This person is still very much in my life but I now have to let him go. I thank him for being my teacher. Lesson learnt. I now must start to unpack the abandonment from my childhood. Figured out why I kept going in the same circles over and over and over. Thank you ❤❤❤
So true about the energy fields happens to me with many ppl I’m connected to - so on point! Thank you ✌🏻
This is so beautiful- you are worthy because you are you! Thanks Aaron - timeless advice for all ages
I personally don't like the no contact scenario for me, because it = the silent treatment= crazy making rollercoaster ride of resentment.
I truly understand the energy dynamics.
Sometimes you have to walk away and it's soul crushing especially when it involves family. I just lower my expectations and send that person healing energy.
Great video!
Very true. It just becomes a back and forth game. Very draining. Better to just walk away sometimes.
That’s because you actually have to block their access to you and not just keep ignoring texts-I don’t know why he didn’t say this, but you actually block the person so you can’t get those crazy texts or calls from them breeding resentment. Just block them for awhile after explaining why. You can always unblock them later.
Mulhouse, no contact to me means walking away forever, no matter the pain!!! If you get them back they’ll still break away from you later on. Leave the relationship with dignity and self respect. Plenty of fish in the ocean. Blessings
@@carmenkamberos1156you'll be a lone forever with that attitude I get why someone would dump you if you think they can be replaced
I was using no-contact as a cope thinking I'd get them back. Now I know I'm doing it for myself.
I'm definitely going to do this. Starting .... 3 2 1..---NOW!!!
I Never know, all my chasing, all my choices, all my relationships all based on childhood trauma, and scapegoat of narcissists family members... most sadness things, Nobody worthy of my chase, It's childhood wounds, deepest wounds...
Mark Twain are you seeing a therapist? This might help you in your relationships in the future. Blessings
Agree completely but lord this life has been hard. My standards are on the floor because I was badly abused by my family so that's all I've felt like I deserved in life. I have CPTSD and it's hard enough to regulate myself on a daily basis, let alone try to make a living. I'll stay single for the rest of my life if that protects me because my precious heart and soul deserves to be treated well, loved and cherished.
When they abandon you and ghost they are showing you disrespect, and when/if you try and contact them you are showing yourself that same lack of respect. In a way we are Ghosting ourselves.
Finding it so hard to be vulnerable. Just want to clear my head but can't bring myself up to this difficult task so staying in no contact with patience and in silence.
you’ve said a couple of things here that i related to, that have not come about in nearly 3 years of therapy. the fact i go inward sometimes expecting people to know and react to how i’m feeling. powerful stuff. great video
thank you for all these I hope everybody finds their healing path
No contact is bullshit. It means it is game over.
If someone wants to have a relationship of any kind, contact is needed!. Without contact, effort and willingness, there is no relationship.
In MBTI introverted thinking (Ti) and extroverted feeling (Fe) work on an axis. So Ti automatically produces Fe. And Fe produces Ti.
So Aaron is correct that thinking about someone is coupled with releasing energy to them.
Interestingly Aaron is an ENFP who prefers introverted feeling (Fi) which is coupled with extroverted thinking (Te) which executes external actions. So the best thing he could do is use Fi by bringing back his energy to him which gives more power to him to execute external changes in his life. Which he does.
That makes sense why he teaches the way he does.
She fixed me so that I no longer give a S&&&. Online narcissist. No contact. No goodbye messages. No explaining why. I just disappear. It happens tomorrow and I cannot wait !
Eh?? 😂 you sound like the narc. Be careful
Why could I not have learned these things 30 years ago? My life could have turned out so much differently. Well, better late than never, I guess.
Most of the time you go no contact is because the other person is toxic or more likely a narcissist
Perfect timing
i’ve been working on this, my bf of a year n a half broke up w me a couple of months ago, i think he was cheating bc he had another option after we broke up he told me he started dating one of my best friends. now recently he’s been spam calling me daily and gets mad when i don’t respond n is like so no text nor call? it’s like kinda an obsession he has w me n im like why do i need to text you, didn’t you have a gf? and he’s like you hurt me, you don’t even talk to me nor call me, are you trying to get away from me? you don’t care about me, and i’m like trying to ignore him as much as i can, i still care but from a distance but him spam calling me and saying i hurt him pissed me off, idk if he’s just doing that to annoy me or what but i used to b attached to him after our breakup i’d text him all the time but i became distant and he’s like oh you’ve changed you don’t seem to care abt me anymore, im thinking abt him rn but if he really wanted me then he would still b with me i think i’ve accepted it been trying to move on but he keeps texting me
I needed this today more than ever. Thanks, brother.
I left my ex ,in two weeks I still kept on going the places that he goes to...just to see him secretly,then say hi to him...
But I released,I just waiting my time by doing that so even I'd like to see him ,I started saying to my self no don't that so I followed ,I feel much much more better now .🙏😊🇵🇭🔯
Yes brother AARON, IT HAPPENS!
You should Go for no contacto when you know the person is notnl worrh your time and love, never Wishing to Go back again
Very perspective shifting video
SPACE is awesome 👏
Thank you for your words. They hit me so hard. I really want to chose me .
No contact is hard when you have kids together
Thank you very much, it helps me stop breaking down.
Thank Aaron... this really helps!!!
Thank you so much 💚❤
I have dignity and i know my value and worth thats why i have gone no contact. Im on day 41 x
Ego or dignity
Your videos Have helped me a lot ❤❤❤. Tkanks a lot.
thank u for this explanation
i was wondering about this
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Glory morning 🌞 Aaron..very pleasant..
Thank you 😊 so much of your care
Thanksss..may god 🙏 bless you
Heyyy..wonder you did that way..cool...so great..AAA
I needed to hear this. Thank you !
Thank you😭 beyond helpful
Thanks for your tips
nice house man
Forget her. I changed my phone number
Morning walk nice there beautiful 😍 location!!
This is why when you go no contact and 40 days in you all of a sudden realize you aren't thinking of them much anymore and POOF they call u.
Happens every time 🤣🤣🤣
When they reach out again after 40 days, it means, there was noone better than you to be found! You should say them "have a nice life" and delete the number. Because if they went nk contact with you for 40 dats it means, you are NOT IMPORTANT. THEY WILL DO IT AGAIN SOON.
1 week in. Mine just texted me drunk and then deleted it before I could see it
Might be weird cause i ve never thought i would comeback here to comment but here i AM: Well, after 10 months of no contact with my bf (cause i ve never seen him as an ex even we broke up and we went thourh no contact situation) but i was aulways feeling and believe that this aint over even if EVERYONE in my life were saying yeah u r fuking dreaming you r getting old you should settle down, time is going fast .. I choosed to stay faithful to him never dated any guy and boom out of no where in a random friday day he traveled from his contry to mine to ask me for reconciliation with a heart crying and really loving, after 6 month then we got engaged , life is beautiful and most of all god is real , i pray for all of you to get wht you want and feel the fulfulliment you're looking for, keep in mind, ANAYTHING IS POSSIBLE and dont believe anyone saying to you it's not , lovee❤
I would like to know the full story. ❤
that’s amazing, I wish you both the best life together ❤️❤️❤️🥰
congratulations
No contact no reaction no snooping on social media no drive bys best thing I ever learned in therapy 🙏🏻 actually saved my life from a toxic marriage 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
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“You’re not doing no contact to get them back” love that.
No contact helps you love yourself even more 💯
Exactly 👌💯 Detach move on. We meet people in life for a reason. Never regret relationships it was what we wanted at that time. Good Memories and sometimes lessons . Self love always ❤✌️🌎
No contact isn't to "get the other person back," no contact is for YOU. If you do no contact correctly, you get the time and perspective to see that relationship for what it was and realize someone better is on their way. It's easy to think, when you're wrapped up in someone, that just because they're the best you've had so far it means they're the best you'll ever get. Most of the time, if you really committed to no contact and invested all that energy back into yourself, by the time your ex shows back up you've taken reconciliation off the table.
Sounds boring bruh
Revolution 2020, how true! No contact, means forever! Leave with dignity and self respect. No reconciliation! If they come back sooner or later they’ll leave just the same. 8 billion people iin the planet, the “one” is out there for you!!! Blessings
Exactly especially when you are dealing with a female narcassist
Yeah 8 billion people in the world but not where you live, so you have to travel the world to find the one lol so stupid when people use that logic
Dumb isn't it!?
Out of that maybe a handful of possible options for a variety of reasons. So narrow-minded advice.
I've traveled the World for many years, lived many different Countries, had been on over thirty different dating apps and sites and still didn't encountered a fraction of a percentage they are talking about lol Not to mention quality of those options!
I love this and what Aaron says about “stop abandoning yourself.” I think he is describing the ideal state for no contact, but I also think it’s okay to just practice the behavior of no contact even if you can’t get a person out of your head. Fake it til you make it. If you have an anxious attachment style, it will be very hard to stop focusing thoughts on a person, but Aaron’s advice of stopping the social media stalking and all forms of contact will be a great place to start. Eventually you will get there energetically too.
Betsy Truberg, no contact means to let go for ever. Leave graciously and with dignity. Where there’s mutual love there’s grace and peace. Love is not stressful at all. No begging, no bread crumbs… you deserve better. Blessings
I think he ìs out to lunch no psychology degree... psychotic amnesia some answers of their life some serious counseling whether they are even capable of being in one...again ? did you actually surgically break up or just walk out of each other's lives? Energy man .. energy... space and your own energy.. feeling energy mandatory you don't want them in your life, they know that, but they ended up being your best friend anyway they can't even tell about your energy man... this person choosed me and is trying to be non criminal about it.
Yessss❤
I would like to add one small bit for those who have divorced but still co-parent, you can have no contact on everything he just said BUT, when you do need to communicate for the children's sake, keep it 100% like a business conversation. Texts are short and direct and usually involve scheduling of schooling, doctor appointments, and anything related to the well-being of the kiddos.
Some people need to realise that everyone we meet actually teaches us something about ourselves to ,
I’ve gone no contact because I’m doing me
yeah god send those people to ur life to check ur abundance for urself n he keep letting send until u come out of it
I love how you supported having a conversation before you go no contact and displaying vulnerability. Often times going no contact may seem like ghosting someone,but what sets them apart is having just that one conversation before you decide to step away.
I wanted to have a last conversation, but he didn’t give me the chance so I sent a goodbye message saying that I understand and I will honor his decision and wish him the best. I started my no contact after that. No drama.
Yeah I didn’t I just did no contact so it looks like o ghosted. I feel bad but I know no had to do it.
My partner lied to be for months, looked into my eyes and lied..over and over again. Made me question my sanity. Made up stories. Swore on his kids life. I went no contact. He didn't deserve any kind of message from me.
No I’m going no contact because I’m done! I was giving love, compassion and wanted to be there for this man. I was faithful, I shared everything I had. I was a woman. I was there when he was drunk. I was there when he felt like alone. I was there when he needed encouragement. Im done! He lost a friend as well. Im not chasing him no more. I never want to see him ever again in life. I forgive him. Just don’t want to ever see him again. He loved to see me hurting.
Hes just saying focus on you but dont always feel hurt. He will realise in his own time. Yes do new things. Look after you.
I can so relate !
I was there for my man too through all the drunken nights all the hours on the phone supporting him just hurting myself over and over. Then when I try to move on, he comes back.
💔😢 I broke up with him and four days later he was at my door. Not to make up and say I’m sorry but just for sex and not doing the boyfriend girlfriend thing anymore 😢💔 hurts so bad
I’m in NO CONTACT MODE now
I hope he stays away
Happy for you
Its great to focus on yourself but ive found that it has to come naturally and doesnt until you reach that point from within. You can try to force yourself to forget them all day long but it wont happen until the moment when it naturally happens inside.
I agree . It’s very hard but it definitely has to come naturally
No contact is to get energy back not to be spiteful. Brilliant advice ❤️
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This makes perfect sense. It’s as if you’re in my head right now. Amazing.
~. It's crazy how many screwed over people there are. I too have a complicated AF situation and doing the work of self improvement an no contact for the sake of my mental health.
Thank you for your assistance and guidance through out this mission my guy. 🙏🏻🙌🏼
Hope everyone here finds the strength within to get through whatever it is your struggling with. Im taking it as a "new start, clean slate" mentality so hope that helps.
Have a great day and remember...
No contact isn't to get a significant other back but to get YOU back. 💥
One day at a time. 👊🏼😏
Mario R , no contact for me was to cut off forever, no matter the pain. Our dignity and self respect comes first . They will value you more then, and search for you, but yet again, now it’s “too late”….made of my mind and letting go was recovering my own self, lots of energy and new things, new friends and a great husband!!! It hurts and takes time but you eventually recover, thanks God! Blessings
@@carmenkamberos1156 true real talk
@@carmenkamberos1156it's completely different for each relationship you just think you are special
No contact helps you in so many different levels. It’s helped me loving myself and knowing my self worth. I have been in no contact for 3 months now and I still have my days not gonna lie but at the end of the day I got me ❤
Same here...i love me...he hqd grabbed my peace
How do you stop thinking of them? I'm trying to get him out of my head, but struggling. He's in my head like Every second of the day.
I’ve been no contact for 2 years . Best thing I ever did!
Yes I highly believe in no contact too. One of my ex bfs send me a letter recently. I didn’t read the letter I didn’t want to know how he was doing I threw it right into the trash. Of course a part of me found it really tempting but I didn’t want to exchange any of my energy with his and give the universe wrong signs. I don’t want any contact. I think that is the best thing to do in a lot of situations.
I just got out of a 4 1/2 year relationship and we were engaged to get married. 1 month before our wedding, she walked out of my life. I’m 36 years old, I felt like she was the one. I spent the last 4 years investing into her school and career , our relationship and it’s abrupt end has been really tough. I’m starting to see though that we probably both had some sort of abandonment issues…. She kept wanting to come back , just to have sex with me, and I emotionally couldn’t handle it bc I’m in love with her and that’s not what I want. I’ve went full no contact to work on myself, but it’s still a brutal reality to face.
@mattcanflyhigh, yes, that was very inconsiderate of your g/f to leave you just like that. For whatever reasons, she left, the pain, hurt and disappointment are really brutal, so cold!!! Only God can help you overcome this mortal blow! Turn to Jesus, and ask for His guidance and love. Go to a full gospel church where you can find support and counseling, healthy friends too. Nowadays people have no problem hurting other people’s feelings, no shame, no heart! No wonder society is so rotten, drugs, crime etc. No feelings, so much materialism!!! Incredible !!! Stay strong and don’t go back to her for nothing. You deserve better. Plenty of fish in the ocean… Blessings
My boyfriend broke up with me three weeks ago, I reached out a couple of times, but he never responded. So I went no contact, and I am working on self care now.
This advice is really helpful for me. I’m in a situation like this and I’ve accepted that I need to let go and start showing up for myself.
Oh I needed this today…. I’m going through it right now in a complicated situation. Thanks!
I feel ya girl....i once had a narrcist ex
Perfect timing! Thank you SO much for your service ❤️🌍✨💯🌈🦁🧘🏽♀️🙏🏽💃🏽📚
That is what I did consciously ….. took my time off without that person To come back to my own energy … with no expectation of coming back …. ❤🎉
When I'm present and I feel it when someone thinks about me, sometimes their image pops in my mind so I see a lot of truth in this information in this video. Sometimes a client I haven't seen for even a year or more just pops in my head and I know virtually 100% of the time they will reach out within days to book and appointment. Out thoughts really are that powerful. Aloha
Lol bunch of bs
Very interesting to read. I also think about a person very often and then suddenly the person appears in the physis. Do u think, when you think about a person, the other Person also thinks about you? I try to figure out if we do telepathy or does it comes from a place of wanting the person around me…
@@LuanaKoch very common that when you’re thinking about somebody, they are thinking about you. Not all the time, of course, but common.
This happens to me all the time!! It freaked me out so I decided to do an experiment. I started thinking very hard about my sister. I was thinking for her to message me. A few hours later she did. We would talk every couple of weeks. This is for sure real. You are on the same frequency.
I would love to see a video of you talking about the energy of “stringing people along” or “bread crumbing” and the energy and childhood dynamic going between both parties in that situation.
That also still comes down to one having an anxious attachment style (the one who lets themselves get breadcrumbed) and the avoidant attachment style (the one who does the breadcrumbing)
this is the most helpful no contact video I’ve ever watched. I nodded the whole time, you said everything that needed to be said. Thank you Aaron for reminding us that the only thing that matters when it comes to no contact, is ourselves.
This popped up in my feed and I really needed to hear it. I didn’t realize I was abandoning myself in reaching for connection and proving my worth. I got closure yesterday by saying “I am not continuing this connection. Your actions do not match your words and I’m sick of being ghosted constantly. Good luck.”
It’s hard not to check socials and you grieve memories with the person as well but it does get better. 💕 I’m going to block socials to keep from checking and I’m combining EFT on limiting beliefs of worthiness and not being enough as well as abandonment issues.
Thank you for your content!
Nah. Not pulling back with no contact because I want outcome with being with him. I just don't NEED to be in this relationship. I don't chase, never did, never will. I'm comfortable and confidant within. If he comes back, I'll see what I'll decide to do. It's all good.
Thank you. I must have maniested this video 😁 this is exactly what I needed to hear, thank you for explaining it all so well
There is a time that what you think the other person makes you feel it is in you and in reality you are the creator of that energy not the other person...💯💯💯💯
Mirrors ..thats so true of twinflames. But also all soulmates, iv found 💕 xxx
So true. I used to miss her so much and the fun and excitement I thought she brought into my life. But then I looked back and thought deeply remembering clearly that I was the one who put that fun and excitement into our interactions.
This! 💞💞💞
My gf started to be behave colder, saying to me " I don't have time for you" and so on, so I decided to not contact her for 1 week, and I decided it tonight. I want see her reaction, how long she will resist without me :| I love her a lot, we have 1 year and 6 months together, non stop contact, but I think is time to do a pause, to be recharged, but she changed after started work
Ok, she was sleeping with her teammate, she told me it tonight, after started work in bank, she started to cheat on me, is so terrible feeling
@@michaelshollaj6428much power to you 👍 . Going through the same thing , my bf cheated on me , it’s really hard.
I needed this... I've been needing this for months, maybe even years. Thank you so much ❤ I'm beginning to heal
Why would you want someone, who dumped you, back in your life? I feel like, once that person ends relationship with you, you need to just move on with your life. Unless you did something bad and made them leave you, they don't deserve 2nd chance. If the reason they left you is because you cared too much, then f'em.
Smashed this Aaron. 100% agree, totally works, focusing on you and your energies, forgetting them, and out the blue, they are trying to get back into your life with a random text.
No contact is like fasting and tithing. It works.
Both reasons, I'm doing it for me because I want respect and I can only get that by respecting myself but if it helps this person to realise how much they appreciate what I bring to the table then I would like that too. We were so close and now I don't understand why she is pulling away she told me we are soul mates.
Woman aren't as nice as they let on, men grow more attached usually and build a life around this person but women will walk when it suits them as they have more options, men have to chase women it's be taught so as soon as there's a breakup women have options men have to work for options
Seems toxic to me. Like a form of self savatoge. No relationship is ever 100% healthy or good for you 100% if the time. That would take perfect people in a perfect world.
Love is having authenticity and value your partner
6 years in a relationship and we both just left each other mutual separation. It’s been about 60 days and I can say I’m completely have moved forward and don’t even think of my ex at all. Yesterday I got a call from her during the day and at night but I didn’t answer. Just feel if I answer than I’m going backwards again when I’m so motivated to move forward and start my life fresh and new. Thankful I don’t know how but everyday that goes by I feel stronger and better with myself and I’m even getting to the point of meeting somebody soon. So if anybody is feeling down no contact is the best way to go and not to get your ex back but for you to move forward with your life. Remember they are your ex for a reason always keep that in mind. Good luck everybody!
Or you never truly loved each other, especially if it took you 8 weeks to move on, get used to it you'll not likely be in a life long relationship with this mindset
Aaron on are you from California? Just curious you remind me of someone I went to school with. I hope you are doing well. Thanks for this message, I was always wanting others approval to the point where I became depressed and self reliant on the other person.
"Stop abandoning yourself".... that hits hard
I do "No contact" because I'm elevating to a 5d reality. Their energy holds me back and I'm ok with old relationships wanting to stay in a 3d reality. 😎
I don't understand on one side they say manifest and imagine yourself with that person to make it happen to attract what you want. On other side the my say don't keep thinking about them you are sending them energy to push them back. Stop thinking about them. I am confused about it. Anyone explain me please?
Likes the content but man you walking in weird chaotic circles was so off putting
I'm 7 days into no contact, I'm truly struggling, but I will stay strong. But my fear is this time away helps her move on.
any update man? currently in the same boat
@@ProdBySinister Hey mate, I couldn't do it, I wasn't strong enough. I lasted 2 weeks and had to reach out. She was happy to hear from me. Then we got stuck in the friends zone. I know she was chatting to others and wanted her options open. We went back and forth for many weeks. But the videos are correct in they need to see you in a different light and feel they can lose you. It was only till I said I can't do this any more I need to cut you out of my life all together she seemed to notice and make an effort. We are now back together and I'm learning not to be so needy and give her space. So far it's working.
That’s great to hear! I’m glad you were able to recover your relationship. I’m facing the same issue right now and it’s tough…. I feel like my ex is confused.. we been together for 3 years.. and she completely just started ignoring me out of the blue… I became really needy at that point. Trying everything to show her that I am promoting and accepting change in our lives. But she would continue to not talk to me.. I feel our relationship has been one sided.. but it’s just really hard to come to terms.. and accept.. I view my self with more value now that I have been these last few days.. but at the same time I miss her terribly..
@@michaelg4044 mate that's really hard. Especially when the communication is only one sided and only one person is making all the effort. The advantage I had that even when we were broken up and she couldn't see a future there was communication so I decided to play and take a chance on the friend thing. It finally worked out. But it was also hit and miss.
@@droflivelife I’ll stay strong for now and see what happens!
I've done this in the past. But I never talk to them again. They try but I just give them the cold shoulder. So my question is how do I not get to that point? I mean i don't want to go through that cycle again. It would be nice for things to continue rather than stop talking than them trying to come back to my life to talk to me again. Because by then I lost all interest. Such a vicious cycle I'm tired of repeating
So I was thinking more about this, and I wanted to add this. A lot of times they come back, and they tell me they miss me. But when they tell me this I don't believe them because they are just words. I prefer actions but ultimately I really don't let them back in, because I know my value. I don't want to be someone's option, seasonal option or whatever. If you want me around then I don't see the need to stop talking to me the first time around.
@@Hellodude899 time and distance away from eachother makes the heart grow funder most of the time. However this only happens if the 2 people can't deal with being all over eachother 24/7. So truly a balance is what you need to find.
@@TheDivineShiver makes so much sense..In my situation, the person is sending mixed signals (I think so) and I don't know if it's b.s. or not. Because the person truly loves me. Hot and cold behavior, I truly think its on a subconscious level though ..The person needs space, so do I , but the person needs a lot of mental and psychological help..Sometimes, when I go no contact, I learn a little about myself, but then again, you don't want to have to learn about yourself because that makes me feel like I'm being manipulated. I know I have problems but I've always been 100% real with the person..I look at it this way...I know my worth and I've done the right things, if it doesn't workout, it's their loss, not mine
@@Cajunland5150 If you are sure you have done and said all the right things and the person still keeps being hot and cold, then no contact is the ideal thing to do. If they care about you enough they will come back to you either sooner or later. If they don't, they never really cared that much to begin with. But even then, that persons feelings might over time change when they realize they took you for granted and then they could change their minds completely and still decide to come back as well. It's truly a win-win situation either way!
@@TheDivineShiver I agree...Its happened before..I think alot of it is a combination of the person being scared and the person's sign...It is a win win..You live and learn..Its teaching me to understand myself even more also..thanks for your reply 😀
You encouraged me to talk to her, truly talk to her, tell her everything, it's going to be one of the hardest conversations I'll have.
Good for you being brave. I hope it went well.
I’ll be replaying this video once in a blue. I’ll be needing this reminder. I thank you. 🤜
Really enjoy your channel, your vibes, your advice, humility, and grace. Been a blessing at this point in my life.