I'm sorry but you literally posted in multiple videos how u never wanted to charge people to get the information u provide how ur goal was to be different and keep everything 100% free, and now ur doing exactly what every single other "self help" coach does and charging an outrageous monthly fee(when you've already told everyone it'snot about the money and u make enough just from the views).....I just can't help but notice the millionaire trying to make 30 million a month by getting 1 million people to sign up, that's not quite manifestation. 🙄 I have been a dedicated follower and promoted you to everyone I know, and now I feel like I shouldn't if I'm being honest. It's demotivating to say the least. I'm not trying to be rude I'm just keeping it real, u said one thing and did the opposite and tho i will keep watching, i don't believe ur doing it for the people anymore. You could charge $1 a month and still make a million dollars a year which nobody needs that kind of money let's be honest. You've helped me a lot, but that doesn't make me want to give u money lol I'll take the genuine stuff you've put out thru this platform but I will not feed into the greed of a monthly membership I'm sorry. Morals over money 💯🖖
Conclusion: detachment is the key. Pull your energy back and focus on yourself. Just don't think about anything else but yourself. Stop giving them energy. Simple as it is.
@@0463paladin nothing is easy. But in order to stop the pain and not look out for validation outside, the best thing you can do is love yourself. My best friend did this last month where she disappeared from social media and basically went incognito for a whole month after her break up. Last week, her ex approached her back saying that he can't stand living without her. When I asked her what did you do for that entire month, she said "only focused on myself and tried my best to not stalk him or engage in any activity that would make me look needy" It was really tough but worth it. Maybe we make it complicated up in our head. I totally agree with what you're saying though as I'm trying to do the same but it's not so simple.
@@bhavyadikshit I hope she didn't take him back. Took him a whole month to understand his feelings or just tried the field and decided the grass wasn't so green. Either way she deserves better
@@0463paladin she did accept him back. They're happy together. Relationships do require forgiveness. Not all relationships end due to cheating or major life crisis. You need to adjust and forgive each other. Also, those are your assumptions. Keep those negative beliefs away from your head. Those belief systems have been made by society...if you don't believe me go ahead and read the book "the power of now" by Eckhart Tolle. Loa only teaches us that we need to speak positivity into our life because we have the power to change all the circumstances. Nevertheless I'm not telling you to put aside your self respect when it comes to relationships. If it's an issue that can be sorted, please do so. If not, go ahead and move on.
If someone gives you the silent treatment or suddenly disappears trust me you don’t want them back. Happened to me and I went into default panic mode and the sense of rejection was profound . He told me we should just be friends and he “ needed time to think” but He didn’t tell me that he was completely withdrawing from my life. And was going to be cruel and horrible if I tried to call him.If I had known then what I know now, I would have showed him absolutely no emotion and said “ I wish you well”. It was very painful to say the least. Edit: exactly, detachment is KEY. Be so happy in your spirit and being that no one can shake your inner peace.
It's a way to reject you and "let you down easy". It hurts. And hurts them too but helps their pride saying just be friends. Accept and move on and give time to someone else. Detachment is key which these videos talk a lot about. You can't change peoples' minds.
Similar story for me except I’m a man. 3 years hot and cold, led me on. When I proposed marriage, her answer was “I can’t say yes, but I can’t say no.” (That is a no.)
Some girl I was dating did that to me and she ended up coming back after a few months. Finally cut her loose after only 2 weeks. She had no intention in being a good person and attempted to manipulate me just like she had from the beginning. Detachment is necessary.
I think we were not talking about detachment so much in the past and we simply didn't know how to achieve that state of being. Also, I don't think I would be able to detach so easily without my past experience. So I am grateful for every single situation I went through in the past as now I have become a detachment master🤣🤪
Actions speak louder than words. How they treat you is a direct reflection on how they see themselves. Learn to become emotionally unshakable, then when life throws you a huge curve ball, you won't panic, you'll observe the situation and act in a way that is true to who you are, your core values and beliefs. Only Look back and remind yourself how far you've come, congratulate yourself too. Because you are amazing, I send you love, smiles and happy vibes 🙏🏻
If you realize they have pulled back and you have to 'fight' to get their attention, it's already over. If there is doubt, worry or waiting, it's over. You won't ever get an explanation, you won't ever get closure, you won't ever get the answers you wanted, you won't ever get them back no matter what you do. Their confusion is a sign that they don't trust themselves enough to make a choice, so why the hell should you? Even if confronted they will simply refuse to take any accountability and just put the blame on you for ever expecting anything out of them. Getting angry at them or reacting to them will only fuel their ego, so be the bigger person and simply walk away in silence. It is not the lion's fault for killing you, rather your own that you expected anything else to happen. Avoiding, sneaking, shifting blame, lying, giving false hope, wasting your time, does that sound like someone you want to be with? If these people are careless with stealing energy, you need to be careful by guarding yours. They will gladly take it if you give it to them, but as you did so out of love expecting some back, for them it was a calculated transaction focused on ripping as much energy out of you as possible while jealously guarding their own hoard. The reason for this behaviour is nothing more than these people being broken beyond repair, they are shadows sleepwalking through life and they cannot be saved. If you cannot 'get' with them or there is a gap between you, it's because you are drastically lowering yourself to their level. You are simply out of their league, the anguish and hardship you have to endure with these people is you suffering due to settling for less. In some strange kind of way, they have to come to you, not the other way around. It's like a scientific law because you already know what happens the other way around every single time, and there is no getting around it. During my observations, I have come to the unfortunate conclusion that some people are no better than animals. The same way that treating a child or an animal as an adult is wrong, so too is thinking that some people are actually on the same level you are. Therefore, if someone wants to be an animal, you have to treat them as such. You may mistake them as having feelings or thoughts, but their instinct will always win, so do not mistake to treat them as equals lest they tear out your throat. Putting it simply, if it doesn't take off immediately or happen naturally, you are better off without them. Rage, cry, grieve, bury the memories and simply move on. Someone approaching you wanting to chase is the only thing you can trust, because you already know the answers you need.
Omg i read this words by words and i can understand it well! Idk how to put it, i feel like all this time the thing that you talking about is also on my mind since back then but me and my heart still try to hide it. Now i “have” to read this i feel like I can’t runaway anymore. This is really enlightened me thank u so much!
@@ay_020_a2 Intuition and heart knows that which logic refuses to confront. It doesn't matter how far you have calculated if the foundation you base it on is flawed. Where logic fails, intuition is your best friend, and unfortunately it is always right. Logic whispers sweet nothings and false hopes where the heart already knows the true answers. Of course you can only get the best results by utilizing both, but that requires a wisdom which is tempered by experience, experience which is only gained through making mistakes. My advice is to therefore live life, but not to get hung up on the mistakes along the way. Every mistake is a lesson, the more painful the lesson the clearer the point of focus.
'No contact' is usually in reference to a narcissist and how to break the toxic dynamic with them. I understand what you're describing to be more 'Ghosting'
When someone goes no contact on you, you simpely treat them the same way, but you do it for ever. That way they will learn their lesson and respect you (more). Dont waste your time on people who arent worth your time.
@@Lvl22Cowboy Nope. They dont know your value. Trust me, when you go no contact on them they regret it and always return (eventualy). Thats when you teach them they messed up by ignoring that person for the rest of your life. By doing that you show that person he/she will never be worth your time and effort.
@Samir Dončić The girl you are talking to are the type of girls who like alot of attention from several guys at the same time. Quit talking to her, even if she comes back. She is wasting your time. Also stop following her on social media. I’d block and remove her if I would be you. By the way, for the next time. Whenever a girl tells you some bullsh*t story like “you did nothing wrong I just need time”. Thats a huge red flag. Run as fast as you can.
Loving someone else, taking care of someone else feels so much better. Sounds strange. Imagine taking care of yourself the way you cared for someone you loved. Love this!
If someone goes no contact on you that’s because they’re reflecting your thoughts and assumptions about them. Everyone is you pushed out and your life is a mirror that reflects your assumptions about everything back to you. If anyone wants to change something about their life, I highly suggest looking into the law of assumption and Sammy Ingram on RUclips. I used to be into the law of attraction until I found Sammy and then I never went back. If you want someone to contact you literally just affirm that they’re always contacting you, they can’t get enough of you, whatever it is that you want whenever you think about them and i promise you they will start to show up that way. I’ve done it time and time again. Swear to god it’s that simple.
If a person is detaching out of nowhere and is playing these games, it’s not even worth to keep trying because if someone really wants your energy, they will not risk pulling away and lose you and there should be the same good energy all the time. And by this I mean the kind of energy where people try and play with your emotions by making it a habit of ignoring you and being absent from time to time (not talking about perfect relationships thats a different topic). It’s actually a good thing when you see this happen because its a red flag that it won’t work and you can now stop wasting your time on someone that won’t give you the time back
500%!! I couldn't agree with you more! I had been feeling sad and mad that my "best friend" suddenly ghosted me when I became very ill and had no one. I didnt hear from her for almost 3 months and she then just appeared out of nowhere with a text asking how I was doing.😒🤦♀️
@@heatherhartman6474 They are lonely and want you to be the one they can fall back on, I think every human knows a person like this and you should avoid them ‘seasonal friend’ at all costs.
sometimes "no contact" is simply a narcissistic discard. especially with a family member or long term committed relationship. if you haven't been communicated any specific issue and you haven't done something absolutely heinous, there may be narcissism afoot
I was actually journaling while listening to this. And it felt like a love letter that I wrote for myself and I actually cried. The validation you're looking for already resides within in.
Here is a young guy who is speaking the 100% truth. My father left when I was 3 and my mother was emotionally absent my whole life. I spent my whole life trying to EARN LOVE AND ACCEPTANCE. There is no smount of pleasing that will bring back the loss of 'parent love' so take this advice. Look after your own mental health by filling your own tank with enough love and acceptance that there is a natural consequence to spill over into the lives of others. At 71 I am 100% happy but I threw a lot of love away on people who didn't deserve or want it. Great chanel. 👌🙏
Don't be fooled. Just because it has a name does not mean it is guaranteed. I had my hopes up for a while. But yeah.. no contact is just a fancy way of saying "break up and see other people and if it doesn't work out with them I'll come back to you". So just let them go. Don't hope for their return. Live your life. Don't go down the disappointing road of expectations that I went down. Please.
When you asked "did mom or dad ever go no contact on you?' it hit me and I have always known and been very aware that my issues with holding onto friendships stems from my mother walking out on the family and not seeing her for months. I'm very much aware of the huge issues I have with friends because of it even though it happened so long ago. Even now, I try to always be better but I'm still so insecure when it comes to how I relate to other people. I fear I will always pick apart everything I say and do to try and see if it was me.
I made a mistake of pushing for answers when they were pushing me away. Feeling like a complete idiot and desperate when they don’t even look at the messages ignoring calls. Finally detached and been working on my inner work.
Thank you so much for this. I really needed to hear this today. It resonates so much for me in my current situation. This allows me to take a step back, stop seeking outward validation and focus my energy inward.
Whether you realize it or not I'm already part of this movement. Everything I need comes to me at the perfect time. Case in point this video you suggest came to me yesterday and your videos come to me many times as I need them. I do not need to pay for some membership nor will I when the universe is in full alignment with my goals.
I'm at the point where I'm trying to move on. I'm ok, but I'm getting frustrated with myself that I want to let it go, move on.....but it's still occupying my mind all the time. Its not the situation that bothers me, as I've accepted it, but......I'm tired and frustrated and annoyed and angry with myself for just......thinking about it.
I've felt this all too well before, however you have to recognize that now its in the past. All these emotions you feel is just you being hard on yourself, understand that now you don't think about it, and you should be proud that you've learned how to move on from a situation like this
How do you know exactly what I’m going through right now? What’s helped me is to say ‘if I’m too much, go find less’. I think it’s coming to the point of realisation that no man has the capacity to hold space for my energy. I have to create ways to direct my energy as an affective outlet.
We are in the same boat Hannah, we literally have the world to offer but they’re just not capable of receiving it and contain our energy. I am going to do the same 🤝
A guy I met stopped texting me only to find out he actually had a girlfriend. If a guy pulls away all of the sudden without telling you how he feels, it’s usually something he’s hiding.
Wish I saw your videos earlier. Had saved me a lot of headaches. Currently going through a divorce after 18 years together. Likely made all the errors I could make when the ground beneath us started rocking. We have decided to move apart now. Your videos help me so much now that I'm getting through this process. I'm sure everything will be fine in the end
I've never thought about the energy i was projecting out. I used to have this happen followed up by them choosing someone else and being a great committed partner to them. It's a pattern I've seen about 4 times and like you said it has to do with childhood. My fam picked favorites and i was the scapegoat. It was horrible feeling like something was wrong inherently with me. I'm undoing it now but when it happened again recently it was so defeating to see myself fall back into it. Here's to keeping energy to ourselves.
Thanks for the Video. Very helpful Insights. My last relationship was exactly what you described. Lot of people pleasing, seeking for approval, being clingy af from my side. After she wanted space I pushed even harder, destroying the relationship at the end, not even realising it. I also felt like something was wrong with me and I apologised for things I did while together, in the hope she would come back. But like you said it did exactly the opposite. The last months I’m on a mission to get back to myself and realise I’m good enough and everything I need is already in me. Thanks 🙏🏼 the video really had a huge impact.
You wouldn’t be considered clingy or too much by a person who actually truly liked you. When I hear someone says they’re too much I always imagine if the person I truly liked did the same thing to me would it be a turn off? I don’t think so.. it’s only perceived too much ic they don’t like you enough
@@survey9728 Find a person who’s clinginess matches your understanding of how much of it is appropriate. What’s too much for one may be not enough for someone else
ABSOLUTELY!!!! I went from living with him, things were going great...to him being a total dick and quiet for a week, then he asked me to move out. Wtf? Ummm, we have been friends since college guy! So you love me? I don't think so!!! He hasn't said one word to me since I left. I don't even know wtf happened! I think he just wanted to have a sex partner for the summer, then when he was done with me out the door I went. So cruel!!! I can understand if he wanted to live on his own, that's totally cool. But he didn't even talk about that as an option, it was ok I'm over this seeya! Unbelievable!!! I can't believe how nasty people can be. Why even say I love you??? If you don't love me, then don't say it! Sorry, I've been watching myself. I haven't talked about this since the first week I went home. It's not healthy, the reasons will never be acceptable. Thanks for listening/reading this. It's just a smack in the face when someone does it out of nowhere...literally one week everything was totally normal, the next it was like I was purposely pissing him off, when obviously I wasn't, he just decided to show me his real self.. and he's a huge asshole! I feel stupid for buying into his charade. I've never had a relationship where I literally feel like I was just a prostitute. So disgusting. I'm happy it's over, I certainly don't need a friend or partner that is so vile! Seriously, thank you!!!!
Vulnerability and Authenticity. When I connect with women, in real life or dating sites, and I reveal that I'm trying to live a meditative and mindful lifestyle, I've read all of Eckhart Tolle's books, trying to live a minimalist lifestyle, I'm trying to be guided by my energy, etc., I get dumped like a hot potato. So much for vulnerability and authenticity.
@@Luminous.Dynamics no contact has everything to do with self healing. it's pushing the reset button. avoiding the toxic. cluster b uses the silent treatment or ghosting as an act of cruelty. they will never go no contact because it takes empathy to make that choice. something a person with high narcissistic traits is unable to do. ghosting and the silent treatment are passive aggressive tools. they are used to hurt people. weak people use the silent treatment and ghosting. strong people who are self-aware use no contact.
No contact is fine dropping off the earth is the most hurtful thing one can do and idc what yer relationship is if it’s not abusive you NEED to NOW(not to someone who only wanted to see ya smile) I’ve seen it kill people much stronger than myself- and I’ve already been to hell.. good luck trying to pull me back cuz I fight for who I LOVE and now it’s only me- got tons of love to give but I’m only fighting for my own love of me.
It’s so much better to just be alone with your pets!!!!! Relationships are not worth it, they drain your self-worth and energy! Love yourself and your pets and that is how to be truly happy!!! 🤔😊
Don't waste your time on people whom do not know what they want. Period. - No one in any kind of relationship, doesn't know whats going on. If they can't even speak to you, then broom'em.
Wow. You're videos are so good but this one really hit home. I was emotionally neglected by both parents at a young age. This continued throughout my childhood into adulthood. All this time I thought I was just a nice person maybe too intimidating but no, you're right. I push people away. I fear intimacy. I don't know what it looks like. So, I married an older man I could care for who loved me without question. Sadly, he passed 4 years ago. I can't afford your groups now. Keep making these please. They help me. Thank you.
After thinking for a while on a subject, I have found some contradiction. How can you force yourself to ignore people/hold your energy/whatever you name it, but at the same time stay true and vulnerable? If you're accepting being vulnerable, you'd also accept doing what you want and if that's showing interest towards a person who doesn't care, maybe that's the lesson. You cannot be careless of others and vulnerable at the same time. Cause if you're accepting to be hurt, you're accepting to care.
You’re the coolest dorky shoe salesman I ever had the privelege to learn from. This is a powerful message, as recovering codependents we can give to others without depleting ourselves as long as we give to ourselves in equal or greater manner. We don’t want to hear that we can give to ourselves what we seek in others because we refuse to grow up, cling to familiar wounds of neglected childhood desires. It is up to us to make sure our needs get met and the good news is we can learn how to do this.
Thank you so much for your message transfer. This video is just in time for me. The person who was saying that he wants relationship with me, just went to no contact way
Friends of 15 years from high school did that to me, gradually fewer contact over time to the point where a single short text message every two weeks was considered okay (by them appearantly). I reacted sharply and I told them since it has already reached this level of patheticness there is no need to continue pretending the relationship isn't dead. These were the people who've been texting me 25 times a day, calling me, always wanting to hang out for many hours etc. when we were 19-20 years old. By the time I was 28, it's been reduced to one text per month rofl. Never responding to my chats, never calling, never showing any interest etc. It was painful to just squash an old friend under 10 seconds like that with no chance for parole but it's a necessary evil.
It's called slow fade - one of the most painful forms of disappearing because it can last for years/decades. I had experienced being ghosted, being discarded, and being slow- faded. They all hurt a lot. But ghosting is the least painful of them all because it's abrupt and sudden and the pain heals in less than a year, unlike other forms of disappearing, which create emotional devastating pain lasting for years and even decades....
@@user-ee5om8wy7u Yeah and the worst part is, if you let them, slow fading "friend" will continue this behavior for years and they act so surprised when you ask them wtf or that you want to end the friendship. Well gee, at least don't pretend to be sad or surprised and write me long essays about how much you value our friendship at that point. I didn't even read it, deleted the long essay messages and them from my contacts. Really painful but it's up to you to end it. They would continue this for at least 10 more years rofl
Every video I watch from you I learn more. And become more enlightened. I feel better, and my eyes are constantly opened. Thank you for being you and helping others. I too will spread the love ❤
We human beings are social creatures, we need to be connected with the others in order to be happy, we need to be loved and accepted. Being self-sufficient is such a lonely state and needing someone is natural. But what we should actually do is reciprocate the love and attachment or the lack of them in the others, not waste our energy and time for people who don't love us back.
Dated this girl for 6 months and we had our first dispute. I felt she was taking me for granted, I told her this, and her reaction? Had a complete meltdown by blowing up my phone, says "I need time", and blocks me on everything 2 days later. We were in a committed relationship with future plans and no premature signs of lost feelings. She ran away at the first sign of conflict and dumped me by blocking me. Never even said we were done or that she wanted out. It's been 2 weeks now and I just recently blocked her back. No contact will be forever on my end now.
incredible, very nice. now i want a guide for when they go no contact on you. and then you go no contact on them. and then they realize it so they go double no contact on you.
A man that ghost we without no reason is the same I will never disturb, look, beg , call or try to get back. I am not here to follow or beg for nobody’s attention.
there is a huge difference between ghosting someone, and no contact. No contact tends to be a term that used when you were leaving an abusive relationship. Ghosting is, in my opinion, what you are referring to which is significantly different. Telling and giving advice to a narcissistic abuser on how to break a no contact is a dangerous thing to do
Hit me in the feels there aaron, abandoned by my dad early age. Abandoned myself for the last 25 and now been rejected and abandoned by someone I thought loved me... Time to use this experience to deal with the wounds
When someone pulls aways and you get rejection feeling you need to look at it. No one will do, only another needy person. When someone pulls back on me ok, maybe one day i will feel like reaching out or even need something. Maybe we become friends, maybe that is it, maybe who knows? Keep in the present not expecting anything from anyone. No one ows us a thing
Some things are just not meant to be! We can't live in the past! People get older and wiser! Some people grow apart. Life is too short to waste time on a fantasy! Be your best self in health and happiness! Trust the Universe! Avoid negative people! Be around people who are positive and make you feel happy! ✨️
Wow your good! The minute you said did one of your parents go no contact with you it clicked! Yes they did, especially my mom it’s this weird ancestral pattern in my family!
Woah I just discovered your channel and this one is hitting 100% with my situation! Unfortunately i already do something that shouldn’t happen which is i feel something different and i’m afraid there’s something wrong with me and i made new effort to them thinking they’ll come back just as before. Now i learn a lot from you, and agree totally with it. Thank you
This is epic, so well constructed and clear. I'm sure I've heard all this info before, but this video was life changing because now I see the pattern I've been in. OMFG Maybe I can escape this! 🥳
Multiple break ups too much damage, blocked everywhere, she's moving on, she has a timeline and has some goals to accomplish. It's taken ages to feel better than I once did. I still think of her.
OMG! You triggered me when said about expresing you interest in women sexually vs. playing safe. CAN WE TALK ABOU THIS MORE 😁 like a special video 😍 I was playing safe all along not realizing the reason behind it - you helped me a lot!Thanks Aaron❣️
ive always liked talking to older ppl than me, like my grandma , or any other adult, bc i felt like i was being heard and understood. of course there was ppl my age who was just as mature and even more so , but ppl with open mind and deep converstion, emotions and empathy, psychology . when talkinv to my parents about even a really tough problems involving their education about me and my brother or just in usual. ive always thought i have something to offer to the convirstion, and i did, i had manage to change so much for tge better , making my partents to see that we as a teenagers are also have prob, that each have diffrebnt divelopment, to see beyond anger and that sometimes we dont do thing bc of not respect but we are going through some stuff. ive learned sthat i have my own there is no black and white, but prespective,althiugh i can not alwats change ppl or other, i can go on my way till finding the people who will understand , i can influence . when you achive inner peace especially in a very early stage, in this society had made me believe in myself and have faith in my own abilities and straghs , awarness, the power that we have to be happy inside with no metirial or validetion from others. im glad to be who i am, not for show up, but to be able to see the good, without ignorence , to accept myself abd be my best friend , so that i could always be there for the ones in need of a help, that i could lead my way. as a 15 years old i have faith that age by no means have no influence , nor religous or sex or whatever.
This is something that I’m still learning myself. Like I understand it for others but I fundamentally have never felt into something/someone and ever felt the need to pull back if it’s going well. It’s built into me to get deeper. I understand not everyone is this way and that’s ok. This video has definitely helped me get a better grasp of it.
You have an anxious attachment style. You should do some research on attachmenet styles. They are really important if you are going through personal growth and focusing in yourself. It may really help you out to understand who you are and how to achieve the highest version of yourself.
@@os3688 oh yes. I read this book about attachment styles like 1.5 months ago and it’s really enlightening. I’ve, myself, been practice detachment altogether.
Thanks so much for your insight! Totally needed to hear this, especially the parent part. I “knew” my experiences stemmed from that, but didn’t realize it was “shame.” 😅 Btw..I lived in Sedona for 7 years and just left a few years ago. Beautiful place, but wow the energy was intense!! Well plus my Saturn energy runs straight through there from an astrological topa graphic standpoint. Dennis Harness is a Vedic astrologer there who does amazing work in that realm! Check him out if you get a chance and tell him I said hello! Thanks again!! 🤩🖖🏻🤓😎
I am going through a marital separation and my wife is doing the no contact, at first I was chasing but noticed she was pulling away more so I will do this and pull back.
I went no contact on her after she broke up with me.. it’s been 48 long days. I miss her. But I know I haven’t healed as much as I need to. I pray for reconciliation and recovery
Im on more than a year of the breakup now and waiting has gotten so old. Still you will miss them but you need to let go. I truly only think of her at night… every night sadly. I’m the dumpee i doubt she thinks of me as much anymore.
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Not on Instagram at the moment , how else can I get to you. Thanks
I'm sorry but you literally posted in multiple videos how u never wanted to charge people to get the information u provide how ur goal was to be different and keep everything 100% free, and now ur doing exactly what every single other "self help" coach does and charging an outrageous monthly fee(when you've already told everyone it'snot about the money and u make enough just from the views).....I just can't help but notice the millionaire trying to make 30 million a month by getting 1 million people to sign up, that's not quite manifestation. 🙄 I have been a dedicated follower and promoted you to everyone I know, and now I feel like I shouldn't if I'm being honest. It's demotivating to say the least. I'm not trying to be rude I'm just keeping it real, u said one thing and did the opposite and tho i will keep watching, i don't believe ur doing it for the people anymore.
You could charge $1 a month and still make a million dollars a year which nobody needs that kind of money let's be honest.
You've helped me a lot, but that doesn't make me want to give u money lol I'll take the genuine stuff you've put out thru this platform but I will not feed into the greed of a monthly membership I'm sorry. Morals over money 💯🖖
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@@treigardner389 mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm....
@judycurrie2977 I'm not sure what you mean by "mmmmmmm" is this you in agreement or disagreement?
Conclusion: detachment is the key. Pull your energy back and focus on yourself. Just don't think about anything else but yourself.
Stop giving them energy. Simple as it is.
So true its when you give up and focus on yourself things just come to you
Easier said than done tho...just takes time
@@0463paladin nothing is easy. But in order to stop the pain and not look out for validation outside, the best thing you can do is love yourself.
My best friend did this last month where she disappeared from social media and basically went incognito for a whole month after her break up. Last week, her ex approached her back saying that he can't stand living without her. When I asked her what did you do for that entire month, she said "only focused on myself and tried my best to not stalk him or engage in any activity that would make me look needy"
It was really tough but worth it.
Maybe we make it complicated up in our head.
I totally agree with what you're saying though as I'm trying to do the same but it's not so simple.
@@bhavyadikshit I hope she didn't take him back. Took him a whole month to understand his feelings or just tried the field and decided the grass wasn't so green. Either way she deserves better
@@0463paladin she did accept him back. They're happy together. Relationships do require forgiveness. Not all relationships end due to cheating or major life crisis. You need to adjust and forgive each other. Also, those are your assumptions. Keep those negative beliefs away from your head. Those belief systems have been made by society...if you don't believe me go ahead and read the book "the power of now" by Eckhart Tolle. Loa only teaches us that we need to speak positivity into our life because we have the power to change all the circumstances.
Nevertheless I'm not telling you to put aside your self respect when it comes to relationships. If it's an issue that can be sorted, please do so. If not, go ahead and move on.
If someone gives you the silent treatment or suddenly disappears trust me you don’t want them back. Happened to me and I went into default panic mode and the sense of rejection was profound . He told me we should just be friends and he “ needed time to think” but He didn’t tell me that he was completely withdrawing from my life. And was going to be cruel and horrible if I tried to call him.If I had known then what I know now, I would have showed him absolutely no emotion and said “ I wish you well”. It was very painful to say the least. Edit: exactly, detachment is KEY. Be so happy in your spirit and being that no one can shake your inner peace.
It's a way to reject you and "let you down easy". It hurts. And hurts them too but helps their pride saying just be friends. Accept and move on and give time to someone else. Detachment is key which these videos talk a lot about. You can't change peoples' minds.
Similar story for me except I’m a man. 3 years hot and cold, led me on. When I proposed marriage, her answer was “I can’t say yes, but I can’t say no.” (That is a no.)
Some girl I was dating did that to me and she ended up coming back after a few months. Finally cut her loose after only 2 weeks. She had no intention in being a good person and attempted to manipulate me just like she had from the beginning. Detachment is necessary.
Thanks for sharing that story. Similar happened to me.
I think we were not talking about detachment so much in the past and we simply didn't know how to achieve that state of being. Also, I don't think I would be able to detach so easily without my past experience. So I am grateful for every single situation I went through in the past as now I have become a detachment master🤣🤪
Actions speak louder than words. How they treat you is a direct reflection on how they see themselves. Learn to become emotionally unshakable, then when life throws you a huge curve ball, you won't panic, you'll observe the situation and act in a way that is true to who you are, your core values and beliefs. Only Look back and remind yourself how far you've come, congratulate yourself too. Because you are amazing, I send you love, smiles and happy vibes 🙏🏻
If you realize they have pulled back and you have to 'fight' to get their attention, it's already over. If there is doubt, worry or waiting, it's over. You won't ever get an explanation, you won't ever get closure, you won't ever get the answers you wanted, you won't ever get them back no matter what you do. Their confusion is a sign that they don't trust themselves enough to make a choice, so why the hell should you? Even if confronted they will simply refuse to take any accountability and just put the blame on you for ever expecting anything out of them. Getting angry at them or reacting to them will only fuel their ego, so be the bigger person and simply walk away in silence. It is not the lion's fault for killing you, rather your own that you expected anything else to happen.
Avoiding, sneaking, shifting blame, lying, giving false hope, wasting your time, does that sound like someone you want to be with? If these people are careless with stealing energy, you need to be careful by guarding yours. They will gladly take it if you give it to them, but as you did so out of love expecting some back, for them it was a calculated transaction focused on ripping as much energy out of you as possible while jealously guarding their own hoard. The reason for this behaviour is nothing more than these people being broken beyond repair, they are shadows sleepwalking through life and they cannot be saved. If you cannot 'get' with them or there is a gap between you, it's because you are drastically lowering yourself to their level. You are simply out of their league, the anguish and hardship you have to endure with these people is you suffering due to settling for less. In some strange kind of way, they have to come to you, not the other way around. It's like a scientific law because you already know what happens the other way around every single time, and there is no getting around it.
During my observations, I have come to the unfortunate conclusion that some people are no better than animals. The same way that treating a child or an animal as an adult is wrong, so too is thinking that some people are actually on the same level you are. Therefore, if someone wants to be an animal, you have to treat them as such. You may mistake them as having feelings or thoughts, but their instinct will always win, so do not mistake to treat them as equals lest they tear out your throat.
Putting it simply, if it doesn't take off immediately or happen naturally, you are better off without them. Rage, cry, grieve, bury the memories and simply move on. Someone approaching you wanting to chase is the only thing you can trust, because you already know the answers you need.
Omg i read this words by words and i can understand it well! Idk how to put it, i feel like all this time the thing that you talking about is also on my mind since back then but me and my heart still try to hide it. Now i “have” to read this i feel like I can’t runaway anymore. This is really enlightened me thank u so much!
@@ay_020_a2 Intuition and heart knows that which logic refuses to confront. It doesn't matter how far you have calculated if the foundation you base it on is flawed. Where logic fails, intuition is your best friend, and unfortunately it is always right. Logic whispers sweet nothings and false hopes where the heart already knows the true answers. Of course you can only get the best results by utilizing both, but that requires a wisdom which is tempered by experience, experience which is only gained through making mistakes.
My advice is to therefore live life, but not to get hung up on the mistakes along the way. Every mistake is a lesson, the more painful the lesson the clearer the point of focus.
Thank you. I needed to hear it today ♥️
Most definitely fact....
📢 truth!! Thanks for sharing with depth.
'No contact' is usually in reference to a narcissist and how to break the toxic dynamic with them. I understand what you're describing to be more 'Ghosting'
I agree with you. No contact has a much different context than this video. Ghosting is the right description…and it is an immature behavior.
There is no going back. I'm allowing myself to love myself more. I let go. Thank you universe. Thank you.
When someone goes no contact on you, you simpely treat them the same way, but you do it for ever. That way they will learn their lesson and respect you (more).
Dont waste your time on people who arent worth your time.
That's exactly why they went no contact! You aren't worth their time!
@@Lvl22Cowboy Nope. They dont know your value. Trust me, when you go no contact on them they regret it and always return (eventualy). Thats when you teach them they messed up by ignoring that person for the rest of your life. By doing that you show that person he/she will never be worth your time and effort.
@Samir Dončić The girl you are talking to are the type of girls who like alot of attention from several guys at the same time.
Quit talking to her, even if she comes back. She is wasting your time. Also stop following her on social media. I’d block and remove her if I would be you.
By the way, for the next time. Whenever a girl tells you some bullsh*t story like “you did nothing wrong I just need time”. Thats a huge red flag. Run as fast as you can.
@Samir Dončić What is your point? She is wasting your time. Block and delete her everywhere and move on with your life.
@Samir Dončić She doesn't like relating to you. Her pulling away is her not wanting to invest in you. Let her be. You deserve better.
“You can only lose something that you have, but you cannot lose something that you are.”
Eckhart Tolle
Move towards wholeness my friends ❤️
But you can people can steal corrupt you destroy you once damage is done you can go back
So good.
If Eckhart Tolle took drug's he would have know that there are many ways to lose yourself 😅
thank you Rubin,you are so wise,bless you for supporting others.I hope to attract great friends and safe neighbours and live in lovely home....
@@bnbonheur he repeated someone else's words and its not even true and you name him wise 🙄... This planet is doomed
Loving someone else, taking care of someone else feels so much better. Sounds strange. Imagine taking care of yourself the way you cared for someone you loved.
Love this!
If someone goes no contact on you that’s because they’re reflecting your thoughts and assumptions about them. Everyone is you pushed out and your life is a mirror that reflects your assumptions about everything back to you. If anyone wants to change something about their life, I highly suggest looking into the law of assumption and Sammy Ingram on RUclips. I used to be into the law of attraction until I found Sammy and then I never went back. If you want someone to contact you literally just affirm that they’re always contacting you, they can’t get enough of you, whatever it is that you want whenever you think about them and i promise you they will start to show up that way. I’ve done it time and time again. Swear to god it’s that simple.
Thank you so much for that 💖
♥️♥️♥️♥️ you’re a star for this
If a person is detaching out of nowhere and is playing these games, it’s not even worth to keep trying because if someone really wants your energy, they will not risk pulling away and lose you and there should be the same good energy all the time. And by this I mean the kind of energy where people try and play with your emotions by making it a habit of ignoring you and being absent from time to time (not talking about perfect relationships thats a different topic). It’s actually a good thing when you see this happen because its a red flag that it won’t work and you can now stop wasting your time on someone that won’t give you the time back
500%!! I couldn't agree with you more! I had been feeling sad and mad that my "best friend" suddenly ghosted me when I became very ill and had no one. I didnt hear from her for almost 3 months and she then just appeared out of nowhere with a text asking how I was doing.😒🤦♀️
@@heatherhartman6474 they are just acting "nice" when they ask u "how are u doing after months" right? That's what I told them and they got mad.
@@heatherhartman6474 They are lonely and want you to be the one they can fall back on, I think every human knows a person like this and you should avoid them ‘seasonal friend’ at all costs.
@@Earthiscreepy Definitely. I told my husband she was acting like a fair weathered friend.
@@monurajput5608 Yes! Icky people! UGH! Im so sorry you had to go through all of that.
sometimes "no contact" is simply a narcissistic discard. especially with a family member or long term committed relationship. if you haven't been communicated any specific issue and you haven't done something absolutely heinous, there may be narcissism afoot
What does narcissism afoot mean?
Go where you’re wanted, not tolerated. I have been on both sides of going no contact, and believe me, you are better off not begging for crumbs.
Ain't nobody got time for that. if they want to go then let them go. Make room for worthy ppl to come into your space. Release the bull shyt ✌🏼
Accept yourself, love yourself, and keep moving forward. If you want to fly, you have to give up what weighs you down.
Roy T. Bennett,
Simple guideline is. Don't allow tenants in your head they don't pay rent.
I was actually journaling while listening to this. And it felt like a love letter that I wrote for myself and I actually cried. The validation you're looking for already resides within in.
Here is a young guy who is speaking the 100% truth. My father left when I was 3 and my mother was emotionally absent my whole life. I spent my whole life trying to EARN LOVE AND ACCEPTANCE. There is no smount of pleasing that will bring back the loss of 'parent love' so take this advice. Look after your own mental health by filling your own tank with enough love and acceptance that there is a natural consequence to spill over into the lives of others. At 71 I am 100% happy but I threw a lot of love away on people who didn't deserve or want it.
Great chanel. 👌🙏
Don't be fooled. Just because it has a name does not mean it is guaranteed. I had my hopes up for a while. But yeah.. no contact is just a fancy way of saying "break up and see other people and if it doesn't work out with them I'll come back to you". So just let them go. Don't hope for their return. Live your life. Don't go down the disappointing road of expectations that I went down. Please.
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When you asked "did mom or dad ever go no contact on you?' it hit me and I have always known and been very aware that my issues with holding onto friendships stems from my mother walking out on the family and not seeing her for months. I'm very much aware of the huge issues I have with friends because of it even though it happened so long ago. Even now, I try to always be better but I'm still so insecure when it comes to how I relate to other people. I fear I will always pick apart everything I say and do to try and see if it was me.
Yes my mum and dad did the same to me like my ex. They are both dead now.
I made a mistake of pushing for answers when they were pushing me away. Feeling like a complete idiot and desperate when they don’t even look at the messages ignoring calls. Finally detached and been working on my inner work.
same here completely....so over him
Normal relationships both partners communicate to each other so no one is blindsided.
Wow. Even therapists couldn't explain it better than this. What a blessing and so insightful! SPOT ON!
Thank you so much for this. I really needed to hear this today. It resonates so much for me in my current situation. This allows me to take a step back, stop seeking outward validation and focus my energy inward.
Same
Same
Vro i am with you. I know how it feels
“maybe you were even abandoning yourself when you chose the person” wow. powerful powerful powerful
Whether you realize it or not I'm already part of this movement. Everything I need comes to me at the perfect time. Case in point this video you suggest came to me yesterday and your videos come to me many times as I need them. I do not need to pay for some membership nor will I when the universe is in full alignment with my goals.
I'm at the point where I'm trying to move on. I'm ok, but I'm getting frustrated with myself that I want to let it go, move on.....but it's still occupying my mind all the time. Its not the situation that bothers me, as I've accepted it, but......I'm tired and frustrated and annoyed and angry with myself for just......thinking about it.
I've felt this all too well before, however you have to recognize that now its in the past. All these emotions you feel is just you being hard on yourself, understand that now you don't think about it, and you should be proud that you've learned how to move on from a situation like this
Omg noon is that you??
I’m sorry this might be the weirdest and most awkward interaction you’ve had online, but does your name start with N and end with S or A?
Sooo True! What’s up with that? Peace & love 💕 on ya!
Paulette 🌷
@@spirituality5272 I'm sorry, no it does not
How do you know exactly what I’m going through right now?
What’s helped me is to say ‘if I’m too much, go find less’.
I think it’s coming to the point of realisation that no man has the capacity to hold space for my energy.
I have to create ways to direct my energy as an affective outlet.
We are in the same boat Hannah, we literally have the world to offer but they’re just not capable of receiving it and contain our energy. I am going to do the same 🤝
A guy I met stopped texting me only to find out he actually had a girlfriend. If a guy pulls away all of the sudden without telling you how he feels, it’s usually something he’s hiding.
Yeah, he might be on drugs or mentally ill, too.
That's exactly what they are doing. HIDING INFO!!! Trust & believe. The truth will ALWAYS make itself known either sooner or later.
Exactly
This is just our anxious attachment style talking.
Been going through a divorce after 8 years. Ghosted me and this man has saved my life. Thank you
Wish I saw your videos earlier. Had saved me a lot of headaches. Currently going through a divorce after 18 years together. Likely made all the errors I could make when the ground beneath us started rocking. We have decided to move apart now. Your videos help me so much now that I'm getting through this process. I'm sure everything will be fine in the end
I've never thought about the energy i was projecting out. I used to have this happen followed up by them choosing someone else and being a great committed partner to them. It's a pattern I've seen about 4 times and like you said it has to do with childhood. My fam picked favorites and i was the scapegoat. It was horrible feeling like something was wrong inherently with me. I'm undoing it now but when it happened again recently it was so defeating to see myself fall back into it. Here's to keeping energy to ourselves.
Hugs to u 🌈🌈🙏🏻
How are you doing now
Thanks for the Video. Very helpful Insights. My last relationship was exactly what you described. Lot of people pleasing, seeking for approval, being clingy af from my side. After she wanted space I pushed even harder, destroying the relationship at the end, not even realising it. I also felt like something was wrong with me and I apologised for things I did while together, in the hope she would come back. But like you said it did exactly the opposite. The last months I’m on a mission to get back to myself and realise I’m good enough and everything I need is already in me. Thanks 🙏🏼 the video really had a huge impact.
You wouldn’t be considered clingy or too much by a person who actually truly liked you. When I hear someone says they’re too much I always imagine if the person I truly liked did the same thing to me would it be a turn off? I don’t think so.. it’s only perceived too much ic they don’t like you enough
@@olessyasmarsa2422 There is such thing as being too clingy
@@survey9728 Find a person who’s clinginess matches your understanding of how much of it is appropriate. What’s too much for one may be not enough for someone else
People who dont say they want space or cut u off without telling u are ghosting u and are immature and mean
ABSOLUTELY!!!! I went from living with him, things were going great...to him being a total dick and quiet for a week, then he asked me to move out. Wtf? Ummm, we have been friends since college guy! So you love me? I don't think so!!! He hasn't said one word to me since I left. I don't even know wtf happened! I think he just wanted to have a sex partner for the summer, then when he was done with me out the door I went. So cruel!!! I can understand if he wanted to live on his own, that's totally cool. But he didn't even talk about that as an option, it was ok I'm over this seeya! Unbelievable!!! I can't believe how nasty people can be. Why even say I love you??? If you don't love me, then don't say it!
Sorry, I've been watching myself. I haven't talked about this since the first week I went home. It's not healthy, the reasons will never be acceptable. Thanks for listening/reading this. It's just a smack in the face when someone does it out of nowhere...literally one week everything was totally normal, the next it was like I was purposely pissing him off, when obviously I wasn't, he just decided to show me his real self.. and he's a huge asshole! I feel stupid for buying into his charade. I've never had a relationship where I literally feel like I was just a prostitute. So disgusting. I'm happy it's over, I certainly don't need a friend or partner that is so vile!
Seriously, thank you!!!!
Vulnerability and Authenticity. When I connect with women, in real life or dating sites, and I reveal that I'm trying to live a meditative and mindful lifestyle, I've read all of Eckhart Tolle's books, trying to live a minimalist lifestyle, I'm trying to be guided by my energy, etc., I get dumped like a hot potato. So much for vulnerability and authenticity.
Shallow women who aren't like-minded are dumping you, which is good. I want a man into that stuff.
Sage is a good color on you. Keep that shit up.
Going “No Contact” is what you should do with a Cluster B. The “Silent Treatment” or “Discard” is what a Cluster B does to you.
Came here for this. Thank you 🙏
Can you explain it in a different way
@@Luminous.Dynamics no contact has everything to do with self healing. it's pushing the reset button. avoiding the toxic. cluster b uses the silent treatment or ghosting as an act of cruelty. they will never go no contact because it takes empathy to make that choice. something a person with high narcissistic traits is unable to do. ghosting and the silent treatment are passive aggressive tools. they are used to hurt people. weak people use the silent treatment and ghosting. strong people who are self-aware use no contact.
No contact is fine dropping off the earth is the most hurtful thing one can do and idc what yer relationship is if it’s not abusive you NEED to NOW(not to someone who only wanted to see ya smile) I’ve seen it kill people much stronger than myself- and I’ve already been to hell.. good luck trying to pull me back cuz I fight for who I LOVE and now it’s only me- got tons of love to give but I’m only fighting for my own love of me.
Yes! I have had to sever contact with my mother due to emotional abuse. It’s not something people do lightly unless they have a personality disorder.
It’s so much better to just be alone with your pets!!!!! Relationships are not worth it, they drain your self-worth and energy! Love yourself and your pets and that is how to be truly happy!!! 🤔😊
Thank u I needed thid
Thank you for breaking down the people pleaser personality, as well as introducing me to the concept of “abandoning myself”
I used to get really upset but since working on myself and finding a new confidence and practicing detachment no fucks given 😅 totally their loss.
Don't waste your time on people whom do not know what they want. Period. - No one in any kind of relationship, doesn't know whats going on. If they can't even speak to you, then broom'em.
Wow. You're videos are so good but this one really hit home.
I was emotionally neglected by both parents at a young age. This continued throughout my childhood into adulthood.
All this time I thought I was just a nice person maybe too intimidating but no, you're right. I push people away. I fear intimacy. I don't know what it looks like.
So, I married an older man I could care for who loved me without question. Sadly, he passed 4 years ago.
I can't afford your groups now. Keep making these please. They help me. Thank you.
After thinking for a while on a subject, I have found some contradiction. How can you force yourself to ignore people/hold your energy/whatever you name it, but at the same time stay true and vulnerable? If you're accepting being vulnerable, you'd also accept doing what you want and if that's showing interest towards a person who doesn't care, maybe that's the lesson. You cannot be careless of others and vulnerable at the same time. Cause if you're accepting to be hurt, you're accepting to care.
The lesson is: You can ONLY be Vulnerable to people who Deserves you. And if you have this abandonment wound, fist you need to LEARN TO VALUE YOURSELF
I'm going to let go through.... I've gave all of me and now it's time to do me
5:24...immediately brought tears to my eyes....because now I truly understand
You’re the coolest dorky shoe salesman I ever had the privelege to learn from. This is a powerful message, as recovering codependents we can give to others without depleting ourselves as long as we give to ourselves in equal or greater manner. We don’t want to hear that we can give to ourselves what we seek in others because we refuse to grow up, cling to familiar wounds of neglected childhood desires. It is up to us to make sure our needs get met and the good news is we can learn how to do this.
Thank you so much for your message transfer. This video is just in time for me. The person who was saying that he wants relationship with me, just went to no contact way
This is exactly what I needed to hear and heal and understand and talk about. Thank you
This makes so much sense , I have spent years wondering what was wrong with me, why I wasn't good enough. Thank you! 🙏
Very rarely does someone blow my mind with their wisdom. You blew my mind.
You are spot on, as usual Aaron! I've experienced this, from both sides, and I found what you're saying to be true!
Your a sweetheart! Your absolutely right! We don't need anyone to validate oneself!
Friends of 15 years from high school did that to me, gradually fewer contact over time to the point where a single short text message every two weeks was considered okay (by them appearantly). I reacted sharply and I told them since it has already reached this level of patheticness there is no need to continue pretending the relationship isn't dead. These were the people who've been texting me 25 times a day, calling me, always wanting to hang out for many hours etc. when we were 19-20 years old. By the time I was 28, it's been reduced to one text per month rofl. Never responding to my chats, never calling, never showing any interest etc. It was painful to just squash an old friend under 10 seconds like that with no chance for parole but it's a necessary evil.
It's called slow fade - one of the most painful forms of disappearing because it can last for years/decades. I had experienced being ghosted, being discarded, and being slow- faded. They all hurt a lot. But ghosting is the least painful of them all because it's abrupt and sudden and the pain heals in less than a year, unlike other forms of disappearing, which create emotional devastating pain lasting for years and even decades....
@@user-ee5om8wy7u Yeah and the worst part is, if you let them, slow fading "friend" will continue this behavior for years and they act so surprised when you ask them wtf or that you want to end the friendship. Well gee, at least don't pretend to be sad or surprised and write me long essays about how much you value our friendship at that point. I didn't even read it, deleted the long essay messages and them from my contacts. Really painful but it's up to you to end it. They would continue this for at least 10 more years rofl
Aaron is on a roll right now! Just finished he’s 21 day challenge and he is trusting his gutt and wow amazing insight to us as human!
This is happening to me now....super difficult at first...
The conditional love thing stemming feom childhood is spot on. Amen.
Every video I watch from you I learn more. And become more enlightened. I feel better, and my eyes are constantly opened. Thank you for being you and helping others. I too will spread the love ❤
Stay no contact!!
It’s amazing how we act out our childhood without realizing it. It took me years to figure that one out.
This was really helpful, brother. Thank you. Especially about the de-polarizing from not being authentic self.
We human beings are social creatures, we need to be connected with the others in order to be happy, we need to be loved and accepted. Being self-sufficient is such a lonely state and needing someone is natural. But what we should actually do is reciprocate the love and attachment or the lack of them in the others, not waste our energy and time for people who don't love us back.
Dated this girl for 6 months and we had our first dispute. I felt she was taking me for granted, I told her this, and her reaction? Had a complete meltdown by blowing up my phone, says "I need time", and blocks me on everything 2 days later. We were in a committed relationship with future plans and no premature signs of lost feelings.
She ran away at the first sign of conflict and dumped me by blocking me. Never even said we were done or that she wanted out. It's been 2 weeks now and I just recently blocked her back.
No contact will be forever on my end now.
This message came in the perfect timing. Thank you 🙏
Same
Same. Just lost my best friend because I tried to go romantic with her.
incredible, very nice. now i want a guide for when they go no contact on you. and then you go no contact on them. and then they realize it so they go double no contact on you.
Very, very, very well done - thank you for this encouraging information!
A man that ghost we without no reason is the same I will never disturb, look, beg , call or try to get back. I am not here to follow or beg for nobody’s attention.
You are amazing! Direct, no fluff, makes sense from the first to last word!
Much needed in present situation. THANK YOU for opening my eyes.
Super useful video! Going through a break up. This was awesome
there is a huge difference between ghosting someone, and no contact. No contact tends to be a term that used when you were leaving an abusive relationship. Ghosting is, in my opinion, what you are referring to which is significantly different. Telling and giving advice to a narcissistic abuser on how to break a no contact is a dangerous thing to do
Creating familiar energy from childhood, even if it was negative... Eye opener! Thank you!
If someone does no contact to you, just leave them be. What else could you do?
I love listening to you! Every time I think there isn't anything new you could talk about, you prove me wrong. Thanks!
Hit me in the feels there aaron, abandoned by my dad early age. Abandoned myself for the last 25 and now been rejected and abandoned by someone I thought loved me... Time to use this experience to deal with the wounds
When someone pulls aways and you get rejection feeling you need to look at it. No one will do, only another needy person. When someone pulls back on me ok, maybe one day i will feel like reaching out or even need something. Maybe we become friends, maybe that is it, maybe who knows? Keep in the present not expecting anything from anyone. No one ows us a thing
Damn. You really got me with, “did mom or dad ever go no contact on you?” I actually gasped
I found your channel a few days ago.
This video has been the most significant from any I've watched. Thank you 😊
This blows my mind. 100 percent correct. Thank u
Some things are just not meant to be! We can't live in the past! People get older and wiser! Some people grow apart. Life is too short to waste time on a fantasy! Be your best self in health and happiness! Trust the Universe! Avoid negative people! Be around people who are positive and make you feel happy! ✨️
Wow your good! The minute you said did one of your parents go no contact with you it clicked! Yes they did, especially my mom it’s this weird ancestral pattern in my family!
Woah I just discovered your channel and this one is hitting 100% with my situation! Unfortunately i already do something that shouldn’t happen which is i feel something different and i’m afraid there’s something wrong with me and i made new effort to them thinking they’ll come back just as before. Now i learn a lot from you, and agree totally with it. Thank you
just felt they are seasonal relationship and I of course got over , more love to give to the ones that are active in my life!
This is epic, so well constructed and clear. I'm sure I've heard all this info before, but this video was life changing because now I see the pattern I've been in. OMFG Maybe I can escape this! 🥳
Multiple break ups too much damage, blocked everywhere, she's moving on, she has a timeline and has some goals to accomplish. It's taken ages to feel better than I once did. I still think of her.
God said a command. He said do not worry about anything. Let god take care of it.
Your videos truly make me feel heard. Thank you, Aaron.
OMG! You triggered me when said about expresing you interest in women sexually vs. playing safe.
CAN WE TALK ABOU THIS MORE 😁 like a special video 😍
I was playing safe all along not realizing the reason behind it - you helped me a lot!Thanks Aaron❣️
Literally happened yesterday after trying to still be the bigger person , definitely seen this at the right time..
You dont just teach loa you also know psychology.i am a psychologist and i am so excited by what you say
Powerful! Thank you 🙏🏻☀️🦋
ive always liked talking to older ppl than me, like my grandma , or any other adult, bc i felt like i was being heard and understood. of course there was ppl my age who was just as mature and even more so , but ppl with open mind and deep converstion, emotions and empathy, psychology . when talkinv to my parents about even a really tough problems involving their education about me and my brother or just in usual. ive always thought i have something to offer to the convirstion, and i did, i had manage to change so much for tge better , making my partents to see that we as a teenagers are also have prob, that each have diffrebnt divelopment, to see beyond anger and that sometimes we dont do thing bc of not respect but we are going through some stuff. ive learned sthat i have my own there is no black and white, but prespective,althiugh i can not alwats change ppl or other, i can go on my way till finding the people who will understand , i can influence . when you achive inner peace especially in a very early stage, in this society had made me believe in myself and have faith in my own abilities and straghs , awarness, the power that we have to be happy inside with no metirial or validetion from others. im glad to be who i am, not for show up, but to be able to see the good, without ignorence , to accept myself abd be my best friend , so that i could always be there for the ones in need of a help, that i could lead my way. as a 15 years old i have faith that age by no means have no influence , nor religous or sex or whatever.
This is something that I’m still learning myself. Like I understand it for others but I fundamentally have never felt into something/someone and ever felt the need to pull back if it’s going well. It’s built into me to get deeper. I understand not everyone is this way and that’s ok. This video has definitely helped me get a better grasp of it.
I once dated a narscissist. I had to go no contact because as much as I loved him, he was terrible for my mental health and self-esteem.
You have an anxious attachment style. You should do some research on attachmenet styles. They are really important if you are going through personal growth and focusing in yourself. It may really help you out to understand who you are and how to achieve the highest version of yourself.
@@os3688 oh yes. I read this book about attachment styles like 1.5 months ago and it’s really enlightening. I’ve, myself, been practice detachment altogether.
@@WesleyLindsey same. It’s hard to master. I’m on my way though
Smokers don’t feel the need to pull back from cigarettes as long as it’s going well. Doesn’t mean it’s healthy
I just discovered your work, and I can't stop listening to your vids - good, healthy stuff 🙏.
Perfect timing for this. Thank you.
Thanks so much for your insight! Totally needed to hear this, especially the parent part. I “knew” my experiences stemmed from that, but didn’t realize it was “shame.” 😅 Btw..I lived in Sedona for 7 years and just left a few years ago. Beautiful place, but wow the energy was intense!! Well plus my Saturn energy runs straight through there from an astrological topa graphic standpoint. Dennis Harness is a Vedic astrologer there who does amazing work in that realm! Check him out if you get a chance and tell him I said hello! Thanks again!! 🤩🖖🏻🤓😎
Thank you for making these videos. They have helped me realize what I need to work on.
I agree with the energy comment, Ive never gotten attention from the men i like until i embraced my feminine side
I am going through a marital separation and my wife is doing the no contact, at first I was chasing but noticed she was pulling away more so I will do this and pull back.
I went no contact on her after she broke up with me.. it’s been 48 long days. I miss her. But I know I haven’t healed as much as I need to. I pray for reconciliation and recovery
I feel you bro! Been almost a year for me, and still hurting. One day we will be free!
You don’t want someone that is able to abandon you, back. Trust me…….
Im on more than a year of the breakup now and waiting has gotten so old. Still you will miss them but you need to let go. I truly only think of her at night… every night sadly. I’m the dumpee i doubt she thinks of me as much anymore.
Look here good Sir!
If someone ghosts you, respect yourself and move on.
Let the Metaphysical Church say AMEN. When this man speaks, you better listen 🥰