Being obsessed with someone means that you are trying to get something out of them that you could actually give to yourself first which is acceptance, love and appreciation. But the stories we tell our selves from the experiences of our past that are written into our unconscious programming makes it very hard to come to that point of being able to do that. Cause we are acting outside of our conscious awareness which means we are not in control. Old repeating patterns that we picked up. To break the pattern, become aware of what you are feeling that first preceeds the behaviour of obsession, (maybe inadequecy, loneliness, shame, etc) and heal it at it's root. And you'll be ready to let go.
Glad you explained it so well ❤️❤️ I get attached to people very easily and end up getting hurt! But currently working on my self concept because i have lived my entire life trying to make others happy and living up to for their validations....it's so addictive and I am aware of it! I have tried loving myself but somehow miserably failed....still don't understand why! Maybe the urge to have that one person who would love me the way i have loved and cared and always understood everyone.....or that craving for the companionship has made me loose everytime! I still don't know how to say NO.....it's a big challange! I am trying and i know i can do it! These videos and comments like yours helps me a lot! Thank you once again! God bless you! Love from India ❤️🤗
You have to let go completely, with your heart and soul, and be ok with probably never seeing them or hearing from them ever again. Wish them all the best, because they and the quantum field know that you care for/love them - even if you accept you can’t be with them. That’s what love is.
Ur good! I was emotionally attached to this guy, then not, now he's around again, & I'm attached again. Except this time, he's doing Meth. Got thrown out of where he lives. But (I think) I'm an Empath, so this is my glorious new pet project. He REALLY did have a shitty childhood. Went to get drugs for his mom at 13, got caught, so he went to Reform School from 13 to 18. His dear Dad surprised him w Heroin on his 12th birthday. (That's not in the pic. But Meth is.) Really liking him + his helping me + his needing female nurturing? This is the dream situation for an abused Empath herself. TELL ME WHAT TO DO!!!
So spot on! Letting go is also knowing you have to be aware that this person may not chase you. But also knowing your worth, that this person is probably not right for you. That the right person you would never have to fight for their attention or seek validation. Biggest lessons I’ve had to go through. Realising that the people I was obsessing, chasing, felt a “strong connection” to were really just showing me that I had abandonment issues, childhood wounds, and self love that I need to work on and heal. And it was a pattern. A lesson that would not go away until I was honest with myself and done the work and trust me, the attraction you feel for those you feel so connected to but don’t choose you, does fade the more you heal, and you will attract less of those people who don’t choose you or show up for you. But these people are also wonderful teachers if you allow them to be. Love your content, thank you for this! ❤
@@gracestead5908 I am glad it came to you at a time you needed it and were ready for it, believe me I used to convince myself otherwise and keep myself stuck in these painful, addictive cycles. It gets so much better once you are honest and true to yourself ❤️
The only way to really manifest your SP is you let go completely. You love them, yes, but love them unconditionally. And that means to let go. And then the chance that they come to you, get so much higher. Like 10x. 💖
@jporter8684 I can tell you this is the only way to go. Energy is real I can approve this. I can tell you they ALWAYS came back after letting go .. just stay strong and be patient
This shot runs deep. There was a time when I thought I was free of my parents little did I know my sense of safety was still on that foundation created when I was young, stepping into one’s frame can be a crazy shift on an energetic level I also I have comedy skits about all the infantile devious I’d made in avoiding these facts of responsibility and carful planning in balance with spiritual knowledge that you might like too 😈💪🏋️♀️💥🔥
Thanks same to you Loving Almighty Dear Sweet Loving HEAVENLY FATHER GOD through Loving Awesome Wonderful JESUS CHRIST forever bless.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾😇😇😇😇😇❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾😇😇😇🙏🏾😇😇😇😇😇❤️❤️❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾😇😇😇😇❤️❤️🙏🏾
"Any day now...any day now...I shall be released." Sometimes it's hard to let go...scary... abnormal...but it's good for you. Whoever you are... it's time for you to grow. You've got this.
This shot runs deep. There was a time when I thought I was free of my parents little did I know my sense of safety was still on that foundation created when I was young, stepping into one’s frame can be a crazy shift on an energetic level I also I have comedy skits about all the infantile devious I’d made in avoiding these facts of responsibility and carful planning in balance with spiritual knowledge that you might like too 😈💪🏋️♀️💥🔥
Finding your passion isn't just about careers and money. it's about finding your authentic self. The one you've buried beneath other people's needs.🙏🏽🖤💫
I got chills when you were talking about nice vs. kind, because I always say this! Kindness if from the heart. It’s pure. Niceness is behaving, doing, saying what is expected of us and is inauthentic. A person can be nice but completely inconsiderate. Total pet peeve of mine..
To the *incredible person* seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Just allow grace to let it in.
It doesn‘t make sense to stay at a place where there is no curiosity, interest and love. You have to let it go. Observing beforehand, whether they give it or not. If not, then let go. That‘s the only job to do. And frankly, I don‘t care anymore if that certain person comes back or not. It just that we are trained to act like saviors and forcing things. But We don‘t have to suffer like that.
I really needed this I’m so glad I came accords this video like right now lol. I’ve been obsess with him without noticing and it drained me so much I was constantly seeking for help because I literally put him on the pedestal and he made me an option lol. Thank you so much and I hope whoever is going through this as well gets their closure and be their own king and queen again because everyone is a king and queen in their own way 👑
This is mind blowing for me to. Listening to this is like counciling. And yes going through obsession too for years now. Different ones over the years. I can relate. I'm greatful now though that the lord has healed me from all these things already 😆
I have been seeking validation from outside of me my whole life that it has become a personality which I'm trying to break. Everything you've said in this video has accurately described me, it's scary. Like I find myself agreeing with someone who I don't necessarily agree with just so that I don't upset them, even if they are a total stranger. Why I clicked on this video is because I have been obsessing over my ex who clearly is content without me, the fact that she doesn't choose me has gotten my self worth taking a nose dive. Which goes to show my self worth and happiness is tied to this person, I have become a slave to her, a cameo in her movie. All because I have convinced myself that she is the one and without her I am unhappy. I have wanted to be in a loving, satisfying and happy relationship for so long, I have obsessed about it and identified her as the one who would see this come through. You have helped me to confront my own vulnerability, which I've been too afraid to heal. I am scared shitless of facing myself but it's the only way I can heal.
I have to do that now, I'm currently so obsessed with my ex, I lied to myself and said I moved on, but today I realised I lied to myself I didn't move on.
I really needed this video! I am letting go and realized there was some toxicity. I need to put that energy back into me. If he comes back, that’s fine, if he doesn’t that’s fine, too. But, by focusing on me, I will be a better more confident person for the next relationship. Awesome video.
3 months since the break up. I don’t know if I’m obsessing or just grieving the loss. He’s always on my mind. The break up was for the best but I miss him terribly. I want to cut the cord so I can heal and move on.
Then, if you let them go, you lose interest and if they come back you are not interested in them anymore, which is annoying to think how much you were suffering back then because you wanted them badly but you could not have them, and now that you don't want them anymore, they reappear, and sometimes for the wrong reasons, not because they all of the sudden became the person that you always wanted. There should be a Twin Flame for each person, someone who you can be yourself and love each other freely without getting hurt, no games. This topic about trying to get back with an ex and trying to manifest a challenging SP should be substituted for becoming the best person that you can and on that path meet that Twin Flame who is supposed to be with you. If an ex and SP wants to come back to you effortlessly and kindly, then you could give them a chance, but don't wait for it, and if so, deal with them cautiously until they show you that they have changed to better. There is no point to keep on obsessing. I wish that there could be a painkiller pill that could eliminate heartbreaks instantly, then, life would be much easier for everyone with a path free to manifest the right person.
"You are that which you have been searching for" Homie you fuckin broke me with this, one. Thank you for being you. For opening up and having the hard talks about our true selves. I didn't know how much I needed this. 😌
i’ve craved attention from people who weren’t available to give it to me in order to gain approval and i’ve pushed away people who want to give me love because i don’t want someone to be anxiously attached to me. even if the person i used to obsess over did come back, there is no guarantee that i would even be truly attracted to them because my attraction stemmed from validation seeking tendencies. i love all of your insights so much! thanks for helping me think about things in new ways!
This video resonates with me. This is exactly what I have been going through for months now and I am so thankful for the enlightenment. Now, it’s time to end this obsession and people pleasing for trying to be chosen and liked because this toxic behaviour of mine is not good for my mental health. Thank you for speaking directly to me Aaron. Stay blessed and keep up the great work.
This resonates deep. I was with my ex for 9 years, made a bunch of mistakes. Have reached out several times to heal, but not being overly obnoxious about it because, since I’ve been single for the last 2 and half years, I’ve had a new woman in my life put that energy on me in a really needy way. So I get both sides. I understand what it’s like to want someone soooo bad, and to also be chased when I’m not really feeling it, and dealing with the obsession with the ex of course. It’s like being in a bizarre stalker sandwich situation. Lol. And there really is a difference being vulnerable and being needy. Vulnerability is a way better and more authentic way of expression:)
I'm so glad that I came across this video. I finally decided that I need to let it go, not for him to come back but I want to see him free and let myself be free. Thank you Aaron.
Detaching from outcome also means detaching from your comfort zone…… once I realized that it became much easier to let go now I am can say I am experiencing and enjoying my true self and enjoy being inward. Peace and love
Its cracy after 11 years of being single that I could say that I could possibly be enjoying toxic energy I cant go back to that toxic energy though because I deserve better ♥️
Thank you 🙏🏽! I love your stories - actually like how you bring it up and connected to your message. I know all about step patents - I had one crazy step dad whom did not allowed us to play outside and had us work for him - was a nightmare and def an experience some people will not understand.
Meaning... my wife We're going through a rough patch . Im letting go because because i love her and we'll see what happens ... i had to become comfortable with whatever goes down
When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.” ― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist ~Much Love from a Law of Attraction RUclipsr💜
Pure gold! Your mind is pure gold, your soul is pure gold. I felt like you speak about my soul and my life. Thank you so much my brother Aaaron. Thank you so much!!! I have decided to make the change.
Thanks for making these videos. As a person with anxious attachment I think I have plied people with love and adoration that they perhaps didn’t deserve. I always put myself last. I’ve been seeking information out a lot to help myself grow. Very helpful videos 🎉
Same. It isn't a life long prison sentence though, we can break free from it and live happy and love ourselves. Once we do it will unlock so many opportunities for healthy relationships in our lives going forward😊
Thank you Aaron- I keep getting the message to “let go” and I have done a lot of processing and healing, so I wasn’t understanding why I kept getting the message…your video has brought it to light! I’m getting the message- now, to more processing…here’s another key- thank you!
I like your point about reassessing your values and setting boundaries. That allows you to feel differently about the person as they clearly view you differently & feelings are important at this point.
Aaron, I've been watching about one videos of yours everyday, and it's been helping me become aware of a lot of my previously unconscious self habits that were no longer serving me. Thank you!
I followed you for many years, this video is one of those that resonates with me so much. A different perspective, the one that shift my mindset and see the things differently
I have this issue big time, I know I need to let go so I can Grow. And that's true the more we have a connection with something the more it's hard to let go,could be someone you love,something you own or even someone who has been giving you attention that you like. You are so bang on tho with all your videos you share, that's why I like you.
Oh my goodness this is so me yes to the 'abandoning self to make others happy' and then thinking of the flow on as manipulation wow what a mind blowing moment. Yes to not being chosen... The Worthy meditation brought back a key moment of this in school just the other day. You are amazing... the massive growth and realisation you are helping with is unbelievable. I will be spending my spare time watching your vids instead of stalking my latest obsession... 🙏
Aaron. Thank you for your amazing wisdom and insight. Especially about familiarity with being not to be chosen, reinforcement of my feelings of unworthiness. How these relational patterns of abuse and negativity triggered me and controlled my entire life upo
Wow man! The last 5 minutes of this video changed the way I look at this obsessive dynamic. I will begin to look at it from the stand point of my values and my vulnerability.
Recently came across your videos and they have been hitting home for me. These have been eye opening, the truth in these have made me want to cry and release what I’ve been holding in.
This was very powerful. So much truth told in this. I've had issues my whole life because of poor parenting. I've never really learned who I am only how to survive. Thank you for opening my eyes.
Your videos are amazing. You're so inspiring and give great wisdom. I can relate so much to this video. I feel like I'm going this at this current time in my life.
Hey sweetie I'm one of your older fans I've been in therapy for months now trying to put into words abandoned myself that's profound words I couldn't come up with oh 17 years marriage going up in flames because I never developed self interest that's what brought me here thank you you're good at this.
Thank you so much for this! I had a knot in my stomach from being anxious about someone and now I feel more free from it and will make myself the star of the movie! I will take a break and be more honest with myself.
Sometimes I obsess over jobs and careers too and it adds to my indecision as well as decisions re dating or with problematic friends. I used to try to fix people too or difficult situations instead of just moving on and working more on myself. now I work on myself
This resonated on whole another level.. can’t begin to describe.. you made it over a year ago but only came across it today.. have obsessed over someone for 18 months and each and every single word you have said called me out entirely.. I am guilty however innocently (That’s an oxymoron right there) but I am guilty of each and every single one of these thought patterns.. Very appreciated-Thanks X
Hey sir, your information is really very precious. I was an ignorant people pleaser, not knowing why people used to avoid me despite what i sacrificed for them. It was your video that set a spark in me, that evolved into a rebellion fire that made me the person who doesn't care about anybody to be happy(the person i am now). Your videos are the positive side of the internet which should be viewed by all needy out there who are unaware of their toxic self and social behaviour. It's really a dream to see the information you give is available to anyone for free. Keep it up.💎
This video was so spot on, I guess I have abandonment issues from childhood. I hear you but I still feel stuck, I change for a while and then I keep going back to my old ways.
Bro! Thank you. You opened my mind so much with this vid. Made me realize about some things that happened in my childhood why I obsessed over some people. It really all adds up. Letting go and looking within is key.
When we attach to things it is our obsession to better who we are but are blinded to what it means to do so. We are revolved around others always looking at our relationships and having a hard time moving on is us realizing we could have been a better person overall for ourselves that would have allowed us to not fail in our relationships. We are aware we are simply also blind.
So many truths in this video. It's hard to retract our energy. It's where we are now as a society , we forget that the other person is not an object that we can consume and possess, expecially with this new social reality where many of us find relationships in dating sites. Those sites can be very toxic. Wished there were more clips about it.
October 11th, 2023 .... well done, Aaron - PERFECT TIMING for me - was sent to me by a female friend on Facebook, who knows that i JUST went through a "separation". I like how you address the "Energetics" aspect ... and how the other person "knows" telepathically that you have not let go (yet) .... and then this AGGRAVATES the situation. Fortunately, I have RESISTED making ANY phone calls / text message(s) .... or whatever. Complete silence from both parties. Now my Heart and Emotions towards her will STOP, (I really Loved her) .... because you enlightened me to aspects I had not considered!
Being obsessed with someone means that you are trying to get something out of them that you could actually give to yourself first which is acceptance, love and appreciation. But the stories we tell our selves from the experiences of our past that are written into our unconscious programming makes it very hard to come to that point of being able to do that. Cause we are acting outside of our conscious awareness which means we are not in control. Old repeating patterns that we picked up. To break the pattern, become aware of what you are feeling that first preceeds the behaviour of obsession, (maybe inadequecy, loneliness, shame, etc) and heal it at it's root. And you'll be ready to let go.
Glad you explained it so well ❤️❤️ I get attached to people very easily and end up getting hurt! But currently working on my self concept because i have lived my entire life trying to make others happy and living up to for their validations....it's so addictive and I am aware of it! I have tried loving myself but somehow miserably failed....still don't understand why! Maybe the urge to have that one person who would love me the way i have loved and cared and always understood everyone.....or that craving for the companionship has made me loose everytime! I still don't know how to say NO.....it's a big challange! I am trying and i know i can do it! These videos and comments like yours helps me a lot! Thank you once again! God bless you! Love from India ❤️🤗
Rejection breeds obsession.
well said! 👍🏻😊
Thank you!
@@spiritual-sanctuary_sharoni Everything you have said describes me perfectly.
You have to let go completely, with your heart and soul, and be ok with probably never seeing them or hearing from them ever again. Wish them all the best, because they and the quantum field know that you care for/love them - even if you accept you can’t be with them. That’s what love is.
It's actually the emotional attachment that creates all the ruckus. Once you learn to control emotions, half of your life gets fully sorted.
Ur good! I was emotionally attached to this guy, then not, now he's around again, & I'm attached again. Except this time, he's doing Meth. Got thrown out of where he lives. But (I think) I'm an Empath, so this is my glorious new pet project.
He REALLY did have a shitty childhood. Went to get drugs for his mom at 13, got caught, so he went to Reform School from 13 to 18. His dear Dad surprised him w Heroin on his 12th birthday. (That's not in the pic. But Meth is.) Really liking him + his helping me + his needing female nurturing? This is the dream situation for an abused Empath herself. TELL ME WHAT TO DO!!!
@@valeriebrown9947 read "women who love too much"
and how do you control them. ive tryed recongize them etc still think of the girl fucking another guy and getting butthurt sad and angry
Facts. I went to therapy to work on these things and it's made such a difference in progressing my life.
Emotional is given. That’s part of the embodiment of what he’s explaining.
So spot on! Letting go is also knowing you have to be aware that this person may not chase you. But also knowing your worth, that this person is probably not right for you. That the right person you would never have to fight for their attention or seek validation. Biggest lessons I’ve had to go through. Realising that the people I was obsessing, chasing, felt a “strong connection” to were really just showing me that I had abandonment issues, childhood wounds, and self love that I need to work on and heal. And it was a pattern. A lesson that would not go away until I was honest with myself and done the work and trust me, the attraction you feel for those you feel so connected to but don’t choose you, does fade the more you heal, and you will attract less of those people who don’t choose you or show up for you. But these people are also wonderful teachers if you allow them to be. Love your content, thank you for this! ❤
Thank you for this comment, I really needed to read that today ❤
@@gracestead5908 I am glad it came to you at a time you needed it and were ready for it, believe me I used to convince myself otherwise and keep myself stuck in these painful, addictive cycles. It gets so much better once you are honest and true to yourself ❤️
Makes sense completely. Me too I passed this some years ago
Screen shot this comment for when I need reassurance thank you so much ❤
This comment is entirely me as well. Glad I'm not the only one with the same struggles. Hope your doing better now!
The only way to really manifest your SP is you let go completely. You love them, yes, but love them unconditionally. And that means to let go. And then the chance that they come to you, get so much higher. Like 10x. 💖
Yes agree with you totally. Letting go is the key.
do you really believe that... (in a good attitude , an honest question) have you experienced this?
@@jporter8684i think he may or not but letting go is the only way because people cannot handle being ignored
@jporter8684 I can tell you this is the only way to go. Energy is real I can approve this. I can tell you they ALWAYS came back after letting go .. just stay strong and be patient
@@HugoR022 really? Every one of them?
The basis of being "needy" I believe is fear of abandonment. We need to realize WE ARE ENOUGH. Love yourself first!! 🤗🤗🤗❤❤❤
Fear of abandonment. 💯% is at the heart of the matter
Ah, yes.. that god damn devil feeling.. i think it's this life karma something..
This shot runs deep. There was a time when I thought I was free of my parents little did I know my sense of safety was still on that foundation created when I was young, stepping into one’s frame can be a crazy shift on an energetic level
I also I have comedy skits about all the infantile devious I’d made in avoiding these facts of responsibility and carful planning in balance with spiritual knowledge that you might like too
😈💪🏋️♀️💥🔥
If you're reading this I pray you receive the highest form of love. You deserve the best.💗🙏🏼
I wish the same for you ❤
I need this
Thanks same to you Loving Almighty Dear Sweet Loving HEAVENLY FATHER GOD through Loving Awesome Wonderful JESUS CHRIST forever bless.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾😇😇😇😇😇❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾😇😇😇🙏🏾😇😇😇😇😇❤️❤️❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾😇😇😇😇❤️❤️🙏🏾
You too 💖💞💞
Thank you ❤ and likewise 🙏🏽
If you’re not ready to lose her, you’re not ready to have her
"Any day now...any day now...I shall be released."
Sometimes it's hard to let go...scary... abnormal...but it's good for you.
Whoever you are... it's time for you to grow.
You've got this.
You’re right, I do. Thank you 🙏 ❤
Good song
This shot runs deep. There was a time when I thought I was free of my parents little did I know my sense of safety was still on that foundation created when I was young, stepping into one’s frame can be a crazy shift on an energetic level
I also I have comedy skits about all the infantile devious I’d made in avoiding these facts of responsibility and carful planning in balance with spiritual knowledge that you might like too
😈💪🏋️♀️💥🔥
Finding your passion isn't just about careers and money. it's about finding your authentic self. The one you've buried beneath other people's needs.🙏🏽🖤💫
So spot on. Buried beneath other people's needs.
So very true. Find your one self and be happy. Most of people want to see you miserable
I really needed this, my anxiety makes me obsess over people sometimes
I saved your video and keep playing on repeat until my pain goes away.
Loving yourself is not being a narcissist. I think people need to realize that. Narcissists DONT love themselves. They actually hate themselves.
I got chills when you were talking about nice vs. kind, because I always say this! Kindness if from the heart. It’s pure. Niceness is behaving, doing, saying what is expected of us and is inauthentic. A person can be nice but completely inconsiderate. Total pet peeve of mine..
To the *incredible person* seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Just allow grace to let it in.
It doesn‘t make sense to stay at a place where there is no curiosity, interest and love. You have to let it go. Observing beforehand, whether they give it or not. If not, then let go. That‘s the only job to do. And frankly, I don‘t care anymore if that certain person comes back or not. It just that we are trained to act like saviors and forcing things. But We don‘t have to suffer like that.
I really needed this I’m so glad I came accords this video like right now lol. I’ve been obsess with him without noticing and it drained me so much I was constantly seeking for help because I literally put him on the pedestal and he made me an option lol. Thank you so much and I hope whoever is going through this as well gets their closure and be their own king and queen again because everyone is a king and queen in their own way 👑
Yes totally agree with - All of us are king and queen in our own . The star of our movie.
I’m going through the samething!
you got this! you are a queen ❤
This is mind blowing for me to. Listening to this is like counciling. And yes going through obsession too for years now. Different ones over the years. I can relate. I'm greatful now though that the lord has healed me from all these things already 😆
I have been seeking validation from outside of me my whole life that it has become a personality which I'm trying to break. Everything you've said in this video has accurately described me, it's scary. Like I find myself agreeing with someone who I don't necessarily agree with just so that I don't upset them, even if they are a total stranger. Why I clicked on this video is because I have been obsessing over my ex who clearly is content without me, the fact that she doesn't choose me has gotten my self worth taking a nose dive. Which goes to show my self worth and happiness is tied to this person, I have become a slave to her, a cameo in her movie. All because I have convinced myself that she is the one and without her I am unhappy. I have wanted to be in a loving, satisfying and happy relationship for so long, I have obsessed about it and identified her as the one who would see this come through. You have helped me to confront my own vulnerability, which I've been too afraid to heal. I am scared shitless of facing myself but it's the only way I can heal.
I have to do that now, I'm currently so obsessed with my ex, I lied to myself and said I moved on, but today I realised I lied to myself I didn't move on.
I really needed this video! I am letting go and realized there was some toxicity. I need to put that energy back into me. If he comes back, that’s fine, if he doesn’t that’s fine, too. But, by focusing on me, I will be a better more confident person for the next relationship. Awesome video.
"because we don't feel like we can be loved for just being us" :( I can relate.
Thanks for this insight and for your channel. God bless.
Yes had to change myself to feel loved ugh
The whole “twin flame” journey keeps a lot of people stuck in this energy. When it could be deeply rooted in trauma.
3 months since the break up. I don’t know if I’m obsessing or just grieving the loss. He’s always on my mind. The break up was for the best but I miss him terribly. I want to cut the cord so I can heal and move on.
Bring your energy back and let go
Then, if you let them go, you lose interest and if they come back you are not interested in them anymore, which is annoying to think how much you were suffering back then because you wanted them badly but you could not have them, and now that you don't want them anymore, they reappear, and sometimes for the wrong reasons, not because they all of the sudden became the person that you always wanted. There should be a Twin Flame for each person, someone who you can be yourself and love each other freely without getting hurt, no games. This topic about trying to get back with an ex and trying to manifest a challenging SP should be substituted for becoming the best person that you can and on that path meet that Twin Flame who is supposed to be with you. If an ex and SP wants to come back to you effortlessly and kindly, then you could give them a chance, but don't wait for it, and if so, deal with them cautiously until they show you that they have changed to better. There is no point to keep on obsessing. I wish that there could be a painkiller pill that could eliminate heartbreaks instantly, then, life would be much easier for everyone with a path free to manifest the right person.
"You are that which you have been searching for"
Homie you fuckin broke me with this, one. Thank you for being you. For opening up and having the hard talks about our true selves. I didn't know how much I needed this. 😌
The fact that listening to you can just make me not care all of a sudden
i’ve craved attention from people who weren’t available to give it to me in order to gain approval and i’ve pushed away people who want to give me love because i don’t want someone to be anxiously attached to me. even if the person i used to obsess over did come back, there is no guarantee that i would even be truly attracted to them because my attraction stemmed from validation seeking tendencies.
i love all of your insights so much! thanks for helping me think about things in new ways!
Send me hugs- I find it hard not to be obsessed
This video resonates with me. This is exactly what I have been going through for months now and I am so thankful for the enlightenment. Now, it’s time to end this obsession and people pleasing for trying to be chosen and liked because this toxic behaviour of mine is not good for my mental health. Thank you for speaking directly to me Aaron. Stay blessed and keep up the great work.
Me too 😢 I tell myself to step back and let go but it’s so difficult. He gives me attention and it sends me back to the beginning
This resonates deep. I was with my ex for 9 years, made a bunch of mistakes. Have reached out several times to heal, but not being overly obnoxious about it because, since I’ve been single for the last 2 and half years, I’ve had a new woman in my life put that energy on me in a really needy way. So I get both sides. I understand what it’s like to want someone soooo bad, and to also be chased when I’m not really feeling it, and dealing with the obsession with the ex of course. It’s like being in a bizarre stalker sandwich situation. Lol. And there really is a difference being vulnerable and being needy. Vulnerability is a way better and more authentic way of expression:)
YES IM THINKING ABOUT HIM NOW, AND YES THATS WHY IM LISTENING TO THIS VIDEO NOW
I'm so glad that I came across this video. I finally decided that I need to let it go, not for him to come back but I want to see him free and let myself be free. Thank you Aaron.
Detaching from outcome also means detaching from your comfort zone…… once I realized that it became much easier to let go now I am can say I am experiencing and enjoying my true self and enjoy being inward.
Peace and love
Your timing is always on. Thank you Aaron.
Its cracy after 11 years of being single that I could say that I could possibly be enjoying toxic energy
I cant go back to that toxic energy though because I deserve better ♥️
Great insights, Aaron. Thank you! What you shared about our ego, and how it relates to "me, my, and mine" is very important. 🙏
I actually love how much you relate to your story! With a fun vibe! With awareness not distraction!!
I find it so easy to understand when you share your stories and it helps a lot.
I relate to this 100%. I’m writing about my life and experiences. By doing so, I have dug up a lot that I had hidden away. Love your videos
Thank you 🙏🏽! I love your stories - actually like how you bring it up and connected to your message. I know all about step patents - I had one crazy step dad whom did not allowed us to play outside and had us work for him - was a nightmare and def an experience some people will not understand.
Thank you brother. This message is so valuable and you are sharing it with others.
Meaning... my wife
We're going through a rough patch .
Im letting go because because i love her and we'll see what happens ... i had to become comfortable with whatever goes down
When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.”
― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
~Much Love from a Law of Attraction RUclipsr💜
Pure gold! Your mind is pure gold, your soul is pure gold. I felt like you speak about my soul and my life. Thank you so much my brother Aaaron. Thank you so much!!! I have decided to make the change.
Thanks for making these videos. As a person with anxious attachment I think I have plied people with love and adoration that they perhaps didn’t deserve. I always put myself last. I’ve been seeking information out a lot to help myself grow. Very helpful videos 🎉
Same. It isn't a life long prison sentence though, we can break free from it and live happy and love ourselves. Once we do it will unlock so many opportunities for healthy relationships in our lives going forward😊
Same
Thank you, Aaron! Reading the book "Letting go " and watching this video today, finally made it click.
Thank you Aaron- I keep getting the message to “let go” and I have done a lot of processing and healing, so I wasn’t understanding why I kept getting the message…your video has brought it to light! I’m getting the message- now, to more processing…here’s another key- thank you!
I like your point about reassessing your values and setting boundaries. That allows you to feel differently about the person as they clearly view you differently & feelings are important at this point.
Aaron, I've been watching about one videos of yours everyday, and it's been helping me become aware of a lot of my previously unconscious self habits that were no longer serving me. Thank you!
I followed you for many years, this video is one of those that resonates with me so much. A different perspective, the one that shift my mindset and see the things differently
This is free therapy right here 😫
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS WONDERFUL MESSAGE.
Can’t tell you how much I needed to hear this. Thankh you 🔥
I have this issue big time, I know I need to let go so I can Grow. And that's true the more we have a connection with something the more it's hard to let go,could be someone you love,something you own or even someone who has been giving you attention that you like. You are so bang on tho with all your videos you share, that's why I like you.
Just found this here now. you are sooo right. THANK YOU for sharing these WISE words.
Wow, your 💯 right on. Needed to hear this. Trying to break generation curses. Thanks for sharing ❣
Oh my goodness this is so me yes to the 'abandoning self to make others happy' and then thinking of the flow on as manipulation wow what a mind blowing moment. Yes to not being chosen... The Worthy meditation brought back a key moment of this in school just the other day. You are amazing... the massive growth and realisation you are helping with is unbelievable. I will be spending my spare time watching your vids instead of stalking my latest obsession... 🙏
Aaron. Thank you for your amazing wisdom and insight. Especially about familiarity with being not to be chosen, reinforcement of my feelings of unworthiness. How these relational patterns of abuse and negativity triggered me and controlled my entire life upo
Wow man! The last 5 minutes of this video changed the way I look at this obsessive dynamic. I will begin to look at it from the stand point of my values and my vulnerability.
Recently came across your videos and they have been hitting home for me. These have been eye opening, the truth in these have made me want to cry and release what I’ve been holding in.
This was very powerful. So much truth told in this. I've had issues my whole life because of poor parenting. I've never really learned who I am only how to survive. Thank you for opening my eyes.
This is one of the most helpful videos for me that Ive seen in a while. Thank you
I love your honesty and sincerity... your enthusiasm and humor.
Thank you!
Your videos are amazing. You're so inspiring and give great wisdom. I can relate so much to this video. I feel like I'm going this at this current time in my life.
This is one of the most powerful video from you about letting go I have ever watched. Thanks man!
Im convinced You felt my energy to make this video....i very much needed to hear this!!! 💜💜💜💜💜💜
Thank you for sharing this .. I see now my abandonment issues stem from the loss of my father at age four … I needed to hear this today .. 💛💛💛
aww, thank you for making this video sir Aaron!!!
Crying like a baby after this video. Letting go 🙌 Thank u!!!
Thank you very much for these videos. I watch them in my moments of obsessive weakness. It’s a challenge to let go, but I’m committing to it.
Hey sweetie I'm one of your older fans I've been in therapy for months now trying to put into words abandoned myself that's profound words I couldn't come up with oh 17 years marriage going up in flames because I never developed self interest that's what brought me here thank you you're good at this.
Thank you so much for this! I had a knot in my stomach from being anxious about someone and now I feel more free from it and will make myself the star of the movie! I will take a break and be more honest with myself.
Thank you Aaron, you gave new perspective dimension to my life 🙏🙏🙏
Wow you hit the nail on the head for me! I’m absolutely amazed at what I’ve realized about myself listening to this! Thank you
Wow, this blew my mind 🙏🏼 glad I’m hearing this before my aya retreat next week. Thanks so much.
Sometimes I obsess over jobs and careers too and it adds to my indecision as well as decisions re dating or with problematic friends. I used to try to fix people too or difficult situations instead of just moving on and working more on myself. now I work on myself
So good….ty for sharing your struggles….I can relate sooo much
This resonated on whole another level.. can’t begin to describe.. you made it over a year ago but only came across it today.. have obsessed over someone for 18 months and each and every single word you have said called me out entirely.. I am guilty however innocently (That’s an oxymoron right there) but I am guilty of each and every single one of these thought patterns.. Very appreciated-Thanks X
Hey sir, your information is really very precious. I was an ignorant people pleaser, not knowing why people used to avoid me despite what i sacrificed for them. It was your video that set a spark in me, that evolved into a rebellion fire that made me the person who doesn't care about anybody to be happy(the person i am now). Your videos are the positive side of the internet which should be viewed by all needy out there who are unaware of their toxic self and social behaviour. It's really a dream to see the information you give is available to anyone for free. Keep it up.💎
This video was so spot on, I guess I have abandonment issues from childhood. I hear you but I still feel stuck, I change for a while and then I keep going back to my old ways.
Thanks for being vulnerable 🙏🍀
I was thinking of them right now lol 😆 thanks for being so vulnerable am speaking your truth and being relatable I appreciate you!
You are so great! 😊 This is becoming my favorite RUclips channel 🙏🙏🙏
THIS. Wow. Even therapists cant' get this real and candid. Excellent points.
I love watching your content🥰 You will soon find your true love.
You are an amazing person you are worthy❣
it is very theraputic to share ❣
Cannot believe this popped up for me today 🙏🏽 thank you for this. I felt like this was for me within this moment
I needed this so much right now. Thank you!
This video was amazing! Thank you for this advice.
Bro! Thank you. You opened my mind so much with this vid. Made me realize about some things that happened in my childhood why I obsessed over some people. It really all adds up. Letting go and looking within is key.
When we attach to things it is our obsession to better who we are but are blinded to what it means to do so. We are revolved around others always looking at our relationships and having a hard time moving on is us realizing we could have been a better person overall for ourselves that would have allowed us to not fail in our relationships. We are aware we are simply also blind.
Thank you
So true
hard to wake up
to take action
your story helps
love and light to you❤
JESUSSSSSSSSS I am still watching and you are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT. SUCH WISDOM WORDS. THANK YOU
So many truths in this video.
It's hard to retract our energy.
It's where we are now as a society , we forget that the other person is not an object that we can consume and possess, expecially with this new social reality where many of us find relationships in dating sites. Those sites can be very toxic. Wished there were more clips about it.
Dear universe I let go today for my best . thank you for showing me the way . thank you thank you .
October 11th, 2023 .... well done, Aaron - PERFECT TIMING for me - was sent to me by a female friend on Facebook, who knows that i JUST went through a "separation". I like how you address the "Energetics" aspect ... and how the other person "knows" telepathically that you have not let go (yet) .... and then this AGGRAVATES the situation. Fortunately, I have RESISTED making ANY phone calls / text message(s) .... or whatever. Complete silence from both parties. Now my Heart and Emotions towards her will STOP, (I really Loved her) .... because you enlightened me to aspects I had not considered!
You're so emotionally vulnerable and open in your videos, it really sets you apart. 👌💝
Ohhh... you describe exactly how I feel at this time. Unbelievable. Thank you so much.
You are so freaking authentic.
Thanks for this video, Aaron, and sharing your journey and evolution 🖤🖤🖤
Wow! Powerful stuff. Fought this tendency often, never understood why I did it. Thanks.