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If you find you're constantly being a "chameleon" to everyone around you, that is a sign that you are most likely in a chasing state. When you are okay with being your true self whether or not someone else agrees with it, you go into an attractive state. True confidence is not needing approval, validation or belief from anyone else but you. Please know this: you are loveable JUST THE WAY YOU ARE. You don't need to do anything in order to receive love. You are love, therefore you can attract love naturally just be being your YOU-nique self.❤️
Yeah I’ve found when I get more general and just do what I want to do right now for it’s own sake, that’s when the magic starts to happen and I realise there’s actually way better versions of what I thought my goals were 🎯🏋️♂️💪☯️🌍
@@azdoglover7 3 simple things, 1. exercise and get in good shape in a healthy way… not just to get ripped… 2. have something you are working towards 3. Love yourself fully and completely
Schools should teach this stuff, awakening, shadow work, it’s life skills. I’m in my 60’s and could’ve saved myself from much pain and been a better parent. ❤️🌈😊
50's, 60's or beyond. Its never too late to learn, I believe. True, we cannot change the past but we can work towards a better tomorrow. I am learning to let go of my guilt and my regrets, gradually, not easy. But, tomorrow... I can do better for myself and for others. And that's what i want to do. I want to be happy.
It wouldn't be right to teach this stuff at school. It's human nature that doesn't have the right or wrong answers. You have to figure it out yourself.
So true. Also, it’s crucial to mention we do still need to put forth effort, be vulnerable, honest, and consistent. Communicate, don’t play games or test them, don’t do the silent treatment. Basically don’t be, or act like a narcissist.. If you miss someone, talk to them.sometimes we can’t tell so we give space, then they can even perceive it as not putting in effort when really it’s just the vibe they’re putting off that we’re responding to. Acting emotionally unavailable will not signal anyone to open up unless they are being needy. People lose great potential partners that are into them, just because they aren’t willing to open up or at least communicate properly. Raw vulnerability is so attractive when you’re into that person, and are that person in return. That’s when synergy happens.
I had to stop in the middle of this video to cry and allow mysel to feel the pain of my inner wounded child for years. Damn, Aaron.. you were super raw and real in this video 1,000 more times compared to many other ones in the past. I too was that people-pleaser and wasted so much time looking on the outside looking for approval and validation...while ignoring myself, my frame and the work I needed to do to become stronger and better. It's been a few weeks now I've grown by leaps and bounds since I've really started focusing on myself. There really is true, indomable power in vulnerability then building up. Thank you, brother Aaron
Yeah I’ve found when I get more general and just do what I want to do right now for it’s own sake, that’s when the magic starts to happen and I realise there’s actually way better versions of what I thought my goals were 🎯🏋️♂️💪☯️🌍
I've recently learned to stop chasing the dangling carrot. I finally realized this is a gaslighting tactic and not signs of interest. Humiliating. It took a lot to get me to see how deep this particular red flag avoidance was but I see it now. I didn't realize the energy this was robbing me of, whoa. Thank you, Aaron, this was very helpful 🙏
I chose myself recently and I haven’t felt so complete in my life. It was the VERY first time I was able to lay down boundaries with a girl I realllly liked too.
UGH😭 I am a complete mess. Only when I get into relationship is when my anxious attachment kicks in, then it falls apart. I'm strong when it comes to my friend relationships but definitely lose it once I meet a guy, especially when I really like him😳
Same here tbh, I’m a guy and have the same issue. I have to think about every action to try and control it, otherwise it scares them away. Dunno why TF I care so much for. Drives me insane !, it’s like some kind of self destructive bs.
Let go and have patience because by doing so you’re creating the energy of belief. And that is when the universe can give you what you want. Much Love from a Law Of Attraction RUclipsr 💜
Put simply, límerence can be defined as using someone as a distraction from your real desires. I’m not looking outside of myself and chasing unavailable people. The ambition, the acceptance, the love, I have and give to myself now and forever.
You are pointing out a trap that so many of us guys fall into. When we see a woman we want we feel the need to impress her; win her over, try to convince her to want us, love us. And the more "high value", i.e. the "hotter" we think she is the more we put her on a pedestal. And as you've pointed out, that ends up working the opposite. That's really true. I know; I learned it the hard way.
I was chasing my ex for 6-7 months after we split. I just couldn’t seem to accept it. I wasn’t used to being alone. Plus my mum and gran died & two dogs whilst I was with her so literally going into a whole new life. I resisted a new life for ages and nothing was working when meeting new girls. Recently I got drunk and called and text her again as she unblocked me and straight back to block. This time it’s very different. There’s a great shift in me that’s ready for a new future. I’m ready to move on now. I can let her go and will let her go because holding on was too just painful. I’m ready to have fun & maybe meet someone new soon.
Wow Aaron… I am still healing from my dad abandoning me emotionally when I was little and I so often catch myself having this needy energy towards my man. I often wonder how that comes and why I feel him being distant and not GiVinG mE wHAt I wAnT and then I come back to your videos and I’m like “Huh…well…imma get back into my own energy and my own frame, because I even like my authentic self better and I’m this wonderful light creature who is not letting herself get into that low vibe energy anymore!!” So thank you AGAIN for a very helpful reminder!
Same situation. I am so codependent and needy, when a breakup happens, I literally get destroyed and it is related to my childhood traumas cause by my dad. I always needed to make him satisfied so that I could feel safe and he was kind of emotionally unavailable just like his father. It was projected on me. I hope I can change this!
You are so exactly on point! I unknowingly married into everything I wanted to escape from my childhood. I even remember a situation when dating him that was a red flag that I completely ignored because I really didn't see it as such, at the time. That familiar "comfortable, yet uncomfortable" feeling of dealing with his insecurity and knowing how to smooth it over like I always had to do with my mom. And yes, it was a chasing tactic to keep him from breaking up with me. Unless we finally realize these patterns, yes, we fall right back into the familiarity trap of what we have always known. Thank you for your insight, personal story and this video, it rings so very true!
I relate to this almost identically. I am still in my marriage, but we are really struggling and I don’t know how to get out of the hold I dug, by not standing up for myself.
I wish this video had been made a year ago. Ive listened to it 5x now.. and will continue. I am codependent and in therapy and im stunned at how much sense and truth is resonating within and speaking to me.. i think this video may be what i need.. thanks Aaron
Left myself a long time ago.This is the key. Feel your feelings and take them serious, take action to take care of yourself.Your body keeps the score (Bessel van Kolk)
I have to admit that I needed to see this video. It made me realise so many things and why I am like this. Chasing somebody is something I am partially doing and yes, whenever I withdraw my energy from them, they just come back. it is so real! This video is a life changer and probably the best video on RUclips! I am so grateful for this! Love you Aaron!
Truly Authentic Aaron. Thank you for speaking from your heart. The notification came over just a moment before I was going to reach out to someone. The title told me to let it be. I decided to watch knowing that there was a message in there for me. It was the reminder that I needed at the moment to just do me and rest will fall into place as it is supposed to. Thank you once again. So happy that you are also doing you :)
so many years of suffering thinkning and attaching not only to partners i desired, but to friendships that brought me down instead of support me ❤️ thanks for sharing A Dawg!!
8:04 OMG This is so true. I always try to help someone come out of their problem just so they will get closer to me and remember me and won't leave me because I helped them
Whenever I try to do affirmations such as 'I am worthy or enough' I couldn't feel it but now I realized it comes from my own approval.. thank you for enlightening me
don't know how i came across your video but it is setting my soul on fire. Our childhoods sound similar... relatability times 1111. Hey thanks for making these videos. they are triggering AF, therefore.. i know they are meaningful. appreciate you my dude. and being cute makes it even better to watch.
Yeah I’ve found when I get more general and just do what I want to do right now for it’s own sake, that’s when the magic starts to happen and I realise there’s actually way better versions of what I thought my goals were 🎯🏋️♂️💪☯️🌍🕺🏻🔥
Aaron this video came to me at the right time. I am living exactly this. I finally realize that I can let go my co dependency tendendy. ( sorry of my english and thank you) I am very happy.
Exactly my story 🙈 but I am out of this shit now, I chose myself 🥳😄 I have shown my vulnerability and if people can’t take that I am out…it is a sign than that they are emotional unavailable and that’s no longer my cup of tea!
This is so true and actually sad😭💔 I’ve gone through this all my life and truly it is something I didn’t receive as a child!! People always end up running away from me and I then feel bad about myself🥺
Same here…my dad left, my mum is a narcisst…me always ending up in relations that light a fire…and than they disappear or tell me that it was just attraction not love…
Watching you work through your own moments of constant discovery is relatable and beautiful. Thank you for sharing your story as well. This information,discussion is potent and powerful. No magic pill for this knowledge.
OMG,SPEECHLESS,SPEECHLESS,SPEECHLESS i am with this particular video of yours. 13 mins into it n i have to pause to write this comment!! You just nailed it! Some really big insight here,ofc for the ones awake enough to hear it. THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart.
Man, was so pleasant watch this vídeo. Cos I doing everything you said. No need validation anymore. Just left a toxic relationship and I am feeling free. I heard só many bad things, forgave and stood there. Now I dont wanna be that place anymore, and dont wanna heal no one anymore. I just wanna heal myself. And I am só happy! Thanks for sharing your life.
Dude this really made alot of sense to me, I had to stop and take notes. Im really glad I heard this tonight, it's the start of some self work I want to do for myself, the part about chasing the energy and validation we wanted as a child really hit close to home, wow. These things are really helping me make sense of the frame I had been putting myself into for way too long. Thank you for sharing this.
I appreciate that 12 step recovery (as well as Tibetan buddhism) suggests a one year hiatus from relationships to heal oneself first. (Easier said than done) - but the result is we no longer pass along our traumas🙏🏻
2 years already.. no sex nor situationships.. haven't been in a normal relationship for over a decade and to be honest I never experienced love. The partners I had were addicted to alcohol, sex, substances or work. I am creating a balanced life and hope to meet a balanced man too if that even exist. Would not know where to look for it and I hope it comes organicly without any online influence.
Tapped into my vulnerability.. felt gorgeous.. visited my inner work.. stuff come up I thought I’d dealt with from a previous abusive relationship.. seeing it completely differently. Tough day but grateful for the awareness and change of perspective xx
Yeah I’ve found when I get more general and just do what I want to do right now for it’s own sake, that’s when the magic starts to happen and I realise there’s actually way better versions of what I thought my goals were 🎯🏋️♂️💪☯️🌍
Oh wow. You’ve totally nailed what I seem to be doing right now and what I need to stop doing. And yup, I let go of the shame and am indeed putting my energies elsewhere. This is good stuff. Thank you
Your dad chose your ex stepmother because he didn't have a father in his life and was looking for that masculine frame he lacked in childhood. So he attracted a woman with a strong masculine frame. I can relate to this. This was my pattern. I wasn't taught to create a frame so I looked for a woman to create it and would attract women in their masculine.
My dad is 73 and has always been super nice and passive. Don’t be too hard on your dad, our fathers grew up in a time where propensity for violence was much higher from simply being disrespectful- our generations have the luxury to dissect shortcomings of our parents. I know my dad lost his father young. He’s always just been the silent type but when you grow up with a father they do instill a baseline of respect and that kinda carries over to us walking on an even keel - you can be polite and respectful without being nice. Just avoid words like “ very much, so much “
Dude I came across you totally by accident but now I am a subscriber with notifications on because I wanna see everything that you come out with. You are dead on straight about everything! Honestly, if somebody had told me to listen to you and said, "Oh this guy can help you change your life "I would've laughed because I don't believe in this stuff. But what you're doing here is opening peoples eyes to the things that really drive them. At least that's what you did for me. So, I wish you every success and I am very thankful that we have this means to see you and learn from you.
so true been chasing my ex for 4 months now and i was the one who left him, he ignores me and treats me terrible but i can't stop... it is ruining my life.
Yes! I got so attached to a person in such a short amount of time. I couldn't figure out why. I got so friggin desperate to be with him. Now I know why. He gave me attention that I never gotten in my life by anyone. My parents abandoned me, my husband ignores me, is emotionally unavailable. He left 4 weeks ago. But I'm still longing for him. I'm crushed 😢
Very interesting... I'm dealing with healing from codependency and the message you're sharing here is very in alignment with the failure of a relationship I just left. Thanks for this video, Aaron! 🙏😊
What a deep talk. It hit home. And it is scary for me. Anxious attachment style has been my way all my life. I really want to change it. Never led me anywhere good.
So much more than a dating video, sat crying in the feeling like I’ve let myself down to make other people happy soo much. Although the treating someone like a celebrity and I’m the fan offf I felt that ha
To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, Love ❤️ is the greatest. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️.
Absolutely great video such insight Aaron you are such an amazing soul. love this the narcissists are attracted to the empaths... Its amazing to work out our family patterns etc and to see who we are. Wow you had such a tough childhood with al the chores. Love your authenticity Aaron . Huge respect to you..
David Hawkins once reminded us that allowing our children to be abused is not spiritual. We need to stand up for ourselves and what’s right even if it’s ucomfortable.
Wow my god, my mind is blown by this video. A lot hit home. I see it echoed in all my relationships and family dynamics. Thank you Aaron! I have some work to do!
attention, significance and recognition is what I didnt receive as a child. And I've always wanted these things from every relationship I've been in and didnt get it. But a few of my exs then years after we were broken up would tell me they wished they had given me attention, etc without me even bringing this up. So interesting! Thank you! I needed to see this today.
Hi Aaron! My name is Greg Bradin from Detroit Michigan. I can’t even tell you how much I relate to every single word in your video. I’ve been following your videos for a few weeks now and doing the meditations. I’m in a relationship as you described and I’m about to go have a real talk with her tonight. I have felt a big release today of letting go of the approval seeking. I even called my mom and straightened things out from childhood and we had a great talk. I’m not sure if you can reply but it would be great to hear from you and just get some guidance. I would love to follow anything from you that I can. Thanks and God bless you you are amazing!
I went through the same thing recently two months ago I left an abusive toxic relationship with a girl i was in for 4 years because it was familiar. Still thought she was the one being walked all over on every day . Now after listening to your videos I'm beginning to feel free . Changing my frame to secure attachment style no more codependency.
Thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing about that... i can tell that you don't want to bring disrespect or shame to your dad and that's why your hesitated. Thank God for Grandma
I find myself chasing validation and I'm always trying to make other people happy. But at the same time I feel lonely and sad even tho I have a partner. I'm always feeling like I have to change just to get approval from her. She says she loves me and I do love her! But I wish that we could get on the same level of love. My heart hurts from all the tension. I recently started watching your meditations 🧘♂️. I felt the warmth and love run through my body . I laughed and cried 😭 . But they were tears of joy. I'm trying to get her into meditation so we can raise our consciousness together ❤️ 🙏.
This is one of his most valuable, insightful, and impressive videos giving me a huhe ah-ha moment. Ive listened to a lot of these but this one really spoke to me with EVERYTHING he said. Thank you so much Aaron for being there for people like me struggling with these continual patterns of relationship issues time and tome again.
I'm sure this is just pure coincidence, but its like these videos are perfectly shown to me at times where I relate to the topic in my own real life. Kudos
Yeah I’ve found when I get more general and just do what I want to do right now for it’s own sake, that’s when the magic starts to happen and I realise there’s actually way better versions of what I thought my goals were 🎯🏋️♂️💪☯️🌍🕺🏻
I stopped chasing my ex from a couple years ago. Had to (just recently) tell him to move on because my “letting go of him” became intense attraction. Letting of a newer person since then, and it feels good.
You are absolutely right! I was watching a movie and I do not want to mention the Celebrity, I found out they were on Cameo, So I signed on as fan club. This person was kind of rude and was only talking to two people on his fan club. So I got upset and told my friend that I was deleting that because it drained my energy trying to talk to this person. This is an Actor that started in the 80's. I think I was addicted to this person since the 80's and wanted to communicate. I found out all they want is fans, Because that is how their celebrity keeps going. I was even asked why do I not have a FB fan page up for him or Insragram. They want that and I am not into that type energy, So it made me feel so bad that I felt worthless, So I got off that Cameo. Too much negative energy!
I've found desiring produces very happy and expansive experiences. I've also found attachment to my own values and expanding Self is necessary and required to be in my own frame. So desiring a person takes me out of my frame. Appreciating another person and loving them knowing they're their own person as I am my own person is comfortable. It feels just right.
Yeah I’ve found when I get more general and just do what I want to do right now for it’s own sake, that’s when the magic starts to happen and I realise there’s actually way better versions of what I thought my goals were 🎯🏋️♂️💪☯️🌍
Love this separation technique.. I’m teaching it in my yoga classes ❤️.. people are really learning from it! Send them to your videos ✨🙏🏽.. separate From the mat, your clothes, from my voice! - potentially your identity just whilst on the mat and after if wanted! X
Aaron straight forwardness helped me to get rid of attachment and desire for an outcome and letting go being so easy I think back on it and laugh because this new environment in my own frame raised my vibration I'm sleeping better more focus on me smiling dope af information
I like the pace of this video, how you’re taking a moment to stop and think and process your childhood. I feel like this more relaxed than some other videos. Both are good in their own ways
Wow. For the first time I met someone on Yt who's sharing… mine exact story. I mean all this family system of yours, even the grandma's thing. Wow. I wonder if the rest applies, the good things you were able to do to yourself after all. That is inspiring
I am sure I won’t ever suffer on my own as much as I was chasing anyone or wanted to be approved or tuned on the outside constantly. I was hurting for so long and this patterns stop here.
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This video really represents what I am going through lately! This video has been very helpful! Thank you @Aaron Doughty!
@@roberthagen7548 🤗💕 me too...
@@amandahaupt1327 good to know, where are you from?
love your hair
The best way to get around chasing is to find something creative to put your energy into 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Or narrow down what feeling you're believing you're trying to attain from someone and cultivate it in other ways to release resistance
You’re so desperate to even be focused on chasing/not chasing someone or whose chasing you 🙄 not attractive
Great idea 💡 Thank you!
looks like you are seeking validation...manipulating yourself
Big facts
If you find you're constantly being a "chameleon" to everyone around you, that is a sign that you are most likely in a chasing state. When you are okay with being your true self whether or not someone else agrees with it, you go into an attractive state. True confidence is not needing approval, validation or belief from anyone else but you.
Please know this: you are loveable JUST THE WAY YOU ARE. You don't need to do anything in order to receive love. You are love, therefore you can attract love naturally just be being your YOU-nique self.❤️
Thank you. 🙏 Be well.
This is beautiful. Thank you
Lovely words ❤
Amen
Thank you, I needed this
I stopped chasing. Now I see him for what he is and it isn't good.
Yeah I’ve found when I get more general and just do what I want to do right now for it’s own sake, that’s when the magic starts to happen and I realise there’s actually way better versions of what I thought my goals were 🎯🏋️♂️💪☯️🌍
AM the same as you.
What did he do after you stopped chasing?
@@isyoboiGodsson He found someone else.
@@Paigular well you probably better of, did you end end it or did he?
If you're reading this I'm praying something amazing happens for you today.❤️🙏🏻
You too 👍
Thankyou,you too 😊
66 likes God number ...Thank you !🙏For you too !!!
For you as well ❤️🩹
" they aren't choosing me because I'm not choosing myself". Very profound thought there.
Some people want to isolate you and when you fall down they are gone. And then you already lost yourself
Just being myself, doing what I love, and meditating constantly just being in this loving magnetic state because it’s who I am.
Stop chasing and start attracting… become so insanely valuable that you become even more attractive than you already are 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️
Cool suggestion! How would you recommend becoming so valuable?
@@azdoglover7 3 simple things, 1. exercise and get in good shape in a healthy way… not just to get ripped… 2. have something you are working towards 3. Love yourself fully and completely
@@Maxhindle Makes a lot of sense!
Schools should teach this stuff, awakening, shadow work, it’s life skills. I’m in my 60’s and could’ve saved myself from much pain and been a better parent. ❤️🌈😊
College sucks anyways since like you said schools should've teach these things
50's, 60's or beyond. Its never too late to learn, I believe. True, we cannot change the past but we can work towards a better tomorrow. I am learning to let go of my guilt and my regrets, gradually, not easy. But, tomorrow... I can do better for myself and for others. And that's what i want to do. I want to be happy.
It wouldn't be right to teach this stuff at school. It's human nature that doesn't have the right or wrong answers. You have to figure it out yourself.
So true. Also, it’s crucial to mention we do still need to put forth effort, be vulnerable, honest, and consistent. Communicate, don’t play games or test them, don’t do the silent treatment. Basically don’t be, or act like a narcissist.. If you miss someone, talk to them.sometimes we can’t tell so we give space, then they can even perceive it as not putting in effort when really it’s just the vibe they’re putting off that we’re responding to. Acting emotionally unavailable will not signal anyone to open up unless they are being needy.
People lose great potential partners that are into them, just because they aren’t willing to open up or at least communicate properly. Raw vulnerability is so attractive when you’re into that person, and are that person in return. That’s when synergy happens.
absolutely.. on point 👌
agree a lot. When I was emotionally vulnerable with a guy I was dating, I felt so free and not ashamed!
Needed this!
Very well said. ❤
I had to stop in the middle of this video to cry and allow mysel to feel the pain of my inner wounded child for years. Damn, Aaron.. you were super raw and real in this video 1,000 more times compared to many other ones in the past. I too was that people-pleaser and wasted so much time looking on the outside looking for approval and validation...while ignoring myself, my frame and the work I needed to do to become stronger and better.
It's been a few weeks now I've grown by leaps and bounds since I've really started focusing on myself. There really is true, indomable power in vulnerability then building up. Thank you, brother Aaron
Yeah I’ve found when I get more general and just do what I want to do right now for it’s own sake, that’s when the magic starts to happen and I realise there’s actually way better versions of what I thought my goals were 🎯🏋️♂️💪☯️🌍
❤️🤗❤️✌️
Yes!
Me too
I've recently learned to stop chasing the dangling carrot. I finally realized this is a gaslighting tactic and not signs of interest. Humiliating. It took a lot to get me to see how deep this particular red flag avoidance was but I see it now. I didn't realize the energy this was robbing me of, whoa. Thank you, Aaron, this was very helpful 🙏
I chose myself recently and I haven’t felt so complete in my life. It was the VERY first time I was able to lay down boundaries with a girl I realllly liked too.
UGH😭 I am a complete mess. Only when I get into relationship is when my anxious attachment kicks in, then it falls apart. I'm strong when it comes to my friend relationships but definitely lose it once I meet a guy, especially when I really like him😳
Same here tbh, I’m a guy and have the same issue. I have to think about every action to try and control it, otherwise it scares them away. Dunno why TF I care so much for. Drives me insane !, it’s like some kind of self destructive bs.
Man, I really appreciate how open you are with your life, in order to make your points. It really helps me connect to what you're talking about.
i agree
Let go and have patience because by doing so you’re creating the energy of belief. And that is when the universe can give you what you want.
Much Love from a Law Of Attraction RUclipsr 💜
It’s so amazing how whenever I’m going through sometime tough you instantly upload some warming and healing advice! 😊
Put simply, límerence can be defined as using someone as a distraction from your real desires. I’m not looking outside of myself and chasing unavailable people. The ambition, the acceptance, the love, I have and give to myself now and forever.
You are pointing out a trap that so many of us guys fall into. When we see a woman we want we feel the need to impress her; win her over, try to convince her to want us, love us. And the more "high value", i.e. the "hotter" we think she is the more we put her on a pedestal. And as you've pointed out, that ends up working the opposite. That's really true. I know; I learned it the hard way.
I was chasing my ex for 6-7 months after we split. I just couldn’t seem to accept it. I wasn’t used to being alone. Plus my mum and gran died & two dogs whilst I was with her so literally going into a whole new life. I resisted a new life for ages and nothing was working when meeting new girls. Recently I got drunk and called and text her again as she unblocked me and straight back to block. This time it’s very different. There’s a great shift in me that’s ready for a new future. I’m ready to move on now. I can let her go and will let her go because holding on was too just painful. I’m ready to have fun & maybe meet someone new soon.
Sorry to hear that bro.
Go on lad, hope you’re doing better!
I'm tearing up binge watching your videos. They're all SO relateable.
This is me and yes without a doubt it has destroyed my life completely.
I’ve recently learned about a term called limerence! - it’s set things to a deeper understanding..this needs to be talked about xx
i went through that
I did too babe! Thought it was twin flame 🔥 xx
Wow Aaron… I am still healing from my dad abandoning me emotionally when I was little and I so often catch myself having this needy energy towards my man. I often wonder how that comes and why I feel him being distant and not GiVinG mE wHAt I wAnT and then I come back to your videos and I’m like “Huh…well…imma get back into my own energy and my own frame, because I even like my authentic self better and I’m this wonderful light creature who is not letting herself get into that low vibe energy anymore!!” So thank you AGAIN for a very helpful reminder!
Same situation. I am so codependent and needy, when a breakup happens, I literally get destroyed and it is related to my childhood traumas cause by my dad. I always needed to make him satisfied so that I could feel safe and he was kind of emotionally unavailable just like his father. It was projected on me. I hope I can change this!
The reason I listen to your videos is because I can understand what your saying. You give off a genuine vibe
This message is perfect timing.
Me too
You are so exactly on point! I unknowingly married into everything I wanted to escape from my childhood. I even remember a situation when dating him that was a red flag that I completely ignored because I really didn't see it as such, at the time. That familiar "comfortable, yet uncomfortable" feeling of dealing with his insecurity and knowing how to smooth it over like I always had to do with my mom. And yes, it was a chasing tactic to keep him from breaking up with me. Unless we finally realize these patterns, yes, we fall right back into the familiarity trap of what we have always known. Thank you for your insight, personal story and this video, it rings so very true!
I relate to this almost identically. I am still in my marriage, but we are really struggling and I don’t know how to get out of the hold I dug, by not standing up for myself.
@@Good.vibes.only012 me too don't know how to escape the narcissistic marriage for 20 years of torture still going
This was a powerful video Aaron! Choosing someone who does not choose us is devastating.
Legit made the decision to stop this last night and then wake up to this video. Further confirmation to move the hell on. Thank you!
I wish this video had been made a year ago. Ive listened to it 5x now.. and will continue. I am codependent and in therapy and im stunned at how much sense and truth is resonating within and speaking to me.. i think this video may be what i need.. thanks Aaron
same for me!
Left myself a long time ago.This is the key. Feel your feelings and take them serious, take action to take care of yourself.Your body keeps the score (Bessel van Kolk)
I have to admit that I needed to see this video. It made me realise so many things and why I am like this. Chasing somebody is something I am partially doing and yes, whenever I withdraw my energy from them, they just come back. it is so real! This video is a life changer and probably the best video on RUclips! I am so grateful for this! Love you Aaron!
Truly Authentic Aaron. Thank you for speaking from your heart. The notification came over just a moment before I was going to reach out to someone. The title told me to let it be. I decided to watch knowing that there was a message in there for me. It was the reminder that I needed at the moment to just do me and rest will fall into place as it is supposed to. Thank you once again. So happy that you are also doing you :)
Brilliant insight and advice!! When you're putting all your energy into a person who is not that into you, you don't have energy for the right person.
Most great accomplishments were achieved by the people, who at first had no idea what they were doing.
Keep going my friend. I am cheering for you. 🙂
so many years of suffering thinkning and attaching not only to partners i desired, but to friendships that brought me down instead of support me ❤️ thanks for sharing A Dawg!!
8:04 OMG This is so true. I always try to help someone come out of their problem just so they will get closer to me and remember me and won't leave me because I helped them
Aaron, you changed my life in so many ways with your content! Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart 🙏
Whenever I try to do affirmations such as 'I am worthy or enough' I couldn't feel it but now I realized it comes from my own approval.. thank you for enlightening me
don't know how i came across your video but it is setting my soul on fire. Our childhoods sound similar... relatability times 1111. Hey thanks for making these videos. they are triggering AF, therefore.. i know they are meaningful. appreciate you my dude. and being cute makes it even better to watch.
Perfect timing I let the person go and self love and abundance have came my way
Yeah I’ve found when I get more general and just do what I want to do right now for it’s own sake, that’s when the magic starts to happen and I realise there’s actually way better versions of what I thought my goals were 🎯🏋️♂️💪☯️🌍🕺🏻🔥
Aaron this video came to me at the right time. I am living exactly this. I finally realize that I can let go my co dependency tendendy. ( sorry of my english and thank you) I am very happy.
Exactly my story 🙈 but I am out of this shit now, I chose myself 🥳😄
I have shown my vulnerability and if people can’t take that I am out…it is a sign than that they are emotional unavailable and that’s no longer my cup of tea!
This is so true and actually sad😭💔 I’ve gone through this all my life and truly it is something I didn’t receive as a child!! People always end up running away from me and I then feel bad about myself🥺
Same here…my dad left, my mum is a narcisst…me always ending up in relations that light a fire…and than they disappear or tell me that it was just attraction not love…
Watching you work through your own moments of constant discovery is relatable and beautiful. Thank you for sharing your story as well. This information,discussion is potent and powerful. No magic pill for this knowledge.
OMG,SPEECHLESS,SPEECHLESS,SPEECHLESS i am with this particular video of yours. 13 mins into it n i have to pause to write this comment!! You just nailed it! Some really big insight here,ofc for the ones awake enough to hear it.
THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart.
Man, was so pleasant watch this vídeo. Cos I doing everything you said. No need validation anymore. Just left a toxic relationship and I am feeling free. I heard só many bad things, forgave and stood there. Now I dont wanna be that place anymore, and dont wanna heal no one anymore. I just wanna heal myself. And I am só happy! Thanks for sharing your life.
Just ran across this video today. Don’t want to manipulate anyone or control anyone. This has shown me some things I need to fix about myself
Every vídeo is a gift for our conciousness ♥️♥️♥️ blessings 🙏🏻🙏🏻 tnank you so much!
Dude this really made alot of sense to me, I had to stop and take notes. Im really glad I heard this tonight, it's the start of some self work I want to do for myself, the part about chasing the energy and validation we wanted as a child really hit close to home, wow. These things are really helping me make sense of the frame I had been putting myself into for way too long. Thank you for sharing this.
me too
I love this video Aaron, waked me up! Much love to you and your work!❤❤❤❤
I appreciate that 12 step recovery (as well as Tibetan buddhism) suggests a one year hiatus from relationships to heal oneself first. (Easier said than done)
- but the result is we no longer pass along our traumas🙏🏻
Tell me more please
2 years already.. no sex nor situationships.. haven't been in a normal relationship for over a decade and to be honest I never experienced love. The partners I had were addicted to alcohol, sex, substances or work.
I am creating a balanced life and hope to meet a balanced man too if that even exist. Would not know where to look for it and I hope it comes organicly without any online influence.
This is the kind of video that really leaves you with no turning back. You will grow, you will expand, just taking in this video. Thank you
Tapped into my vulnerability.. felt gorgeous.. visited my inner work.. stuff come up I thought I’d dealt with from a previous abusive relationship.. seeing it completely differently. Tough day but grateful for the awareness and change of perspective xx
Yeah I’ve found when I get more general and just do what I want to do right now for it’s own sake, that’s when the magic starts to happen and I realise there’s actually way better versions of what I thought my goals were 🎯🏋️♂️💪☯️🌍
Oh wow. You’ve totally nailed what I seem to be doing right now and what I need to stop doing. And yup, I let go of the shame and am indeed putting my energies elsewhere. This is good stuff. Thank you
Your dad chose your ex stepmother because he didn't have a father in his life and was looking for that masculine frame he lacked in childhood. So he attracted a woman with a strong masculine frame. I can relate to this. This was my pattern. I wasn't taught to create a frame so I looked for a woman to create it and would attract women in their masculine.
My dad is 73 and has always been super nice and passive. Don’t be too hard on your dad, our fathers grew up in a time where propensity for violence was much higher from simply being disrespectful- our generations have the luxury to dissect shortcomings of our parents. I know my dad lost his father young. He’s always just been the silent type but when you grow up with a father they do instill a baseline of respect and that kinda carries over to us walking on an even keel - you can be polite and respectful without being nice. Just avoid words like “ very much, so much “
Dude I came across you totally by accident but now I am a subscriber with notifications on because I wanna see everything that you come out with. You are dead on straight about everything! Honestly, if somebody had told me to listen to you and said, "Oh this guy can help you change your life "I would've laughed because I don't believe in this stuff. But what you're doing here is opening peoples eyes to the things that really drive them. At least that's what you did for me. So, I wish you every success and I am very thankful that we have this means to see you and learn from you.
so true been chasing my ex for 4 months now and i was the one who left him, he ignores me and treats me terrible but i can't stop... it is ruining my life.
Yes! I got so attached to a person in such a short amount of time. I couldn't figure out why. I got so friggin desperate to be with him. Now I know why. He gave me attention that I never gotten in my life by anyone. My parents abandoned me, my husband ignores me, is emotionally unavailable. He left 4 weeks ago. But I'm still longing for him. I'm crushed 😢
I understand this so well. It'll be fine.
@@siddhesh_s2779 Thank you so much 🤗
Very interesting... I'm dealing with healing from codependency and the message you're sharing here is very in alignment with the failure of a relationship I just left. Thanks for this video, Aaron! 🙏😊
So glad I found your channel.
Namaste 💫🦋💫
What a deep talk. It hit home. And it is scary for me. Anxious attachment style has been my way all my life. I really want to change it. Never led me anywhere good.
So much more than a dating video, sat crying in the feeling like I’ve let myself down to make other people happy soo much. Although the treating someone like a celebrity and I’m the fan offf I felt that ha
Thanks for this...being vunerable. Also your energy is very grounded these days. It's very soothing.
To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, Love ❤️ is the greatest. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️.
I so much needed to hear this. Because I am currently going through this situation right now....and it's killing me inside....
You are speaking to my soul! I can’t stop crying watching this video! I needed this, I need to heal! ❤️
Absolutely great video such insight Aaron you are such an amazing soul. love this the narcissists are attracted to the empaths... Its amazing to work out our family patterns etc and to see who we are. Wow you had such a tough childhood with al the chores. Love your authenticity Aaron . Huge respect to you..
This just blew my mind wide open. I am renewed
David Hawkins once reminded us that allowing our children to be abused is not spiritual. We need to stand up for ourselves and what’s right even if it’s ucomfortable.
Your videos are making me feel better 🙌 & I like your cadence & tone! Thank you x
Stop chasing or pursuing because they’ll just run away from you.
Wow my god, my mind is blown by this video. A lot hit home. I see it echoed in all my relationships and family dynamics. Thank you Aaron! I have some work to do!
attention, significance and recognition is what I didnt receive as a child. And I've always wanted these things from every relationship I've been in and didnt get it. But a few of my exs then years after we were broken up would tell me they wished they had given me attention, etc without me even bringing this up. So interesting! Thank you! I needed to see this today.
Hi Aaron! My name is Greg Bradin from Detroit Michigan. I can’t even tell you how much I relate to every single word in your video. I’ve been following your videos for a few weeks now and doing the meditations. I’m in a relationship as you described and I’m about to go have a real talk with her tonight. I have felt a big release today of letting go of the approval seeking. I even called my mom and straightened things out from childhood and we had a great talk. I’m not sure if you can reply but it would be great to hear from you and just get some guidance. I would love to follow anything from you that I can. Thanks and God bless you you are amazing!
I went through the same thing recently two months ago I left an abusive toxic relationship with a girl i was in for 4 years because it was familiar. Still thought she was the one being walked all over on every day . Now after listening to your videos I'm beginning to feel free . Changing my frame to secure attachment style no more codependency.
Thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing about that... i can tell that you don't want to bring disrespect or shame to your dad and that's why your hesitated. Thank God for Grandma
I find myself chasing validation and I'm always trying to make other people happy. But at the same time I feel lonely and sad even tho I have a partner. I'm always feeling like I have to change just to get approval from her. She says she loves me and I do love her! But I wish that we could get on the same level of love. My heart hurts from all the tension. I recently started watching your meditations 🧘♂️. I felt the warmth and love run through my body . I laughed and cried 😭 . But they were tears of joy. I'm trying to get her into meditation so we can raise our consciousness together ❤️ 🙏.
Thank you so much I recently reached out to him a ND he is legit the real deal
This is one of his most valuable, insightful, and impressive videos giving me a huhe ah-ha moment. Ive listened to a lot of these but this one really spoke to me with EVERYTHING he said. Thank you so much Aaron for being there for people like me struggling with these continual patterns of relationship issues time and tome again.
I'm sure this is just pure coincidence, but its like these videos are perfectly shown to me at times where I relate to the topic in my own real life. Kudos
Yeah I’ve found when I get more general and just do what I want to do right now for it’s own sake, that’s when the magic starts to happen and I realise there’s actually way better versions of what I thought my goals were 🎯🏋️♂️💪☯️🌍🕺🏻
I stopped chasing my ex from a couple years ago. Had to (just recently) tell him to move on because my “letting go of him” became intense attraction. Letting of a newer person since then, and it feels good.
You are absolutely right! I was watching a movie and I do not want to mention the Celebrity, I found out they were on Cameo, So I signed on as fan club. This person was kind of rude and was only talking to two people on his fan club. So I got upset and told my friend that I was deleting that because it drained my energy trying to talk to this person. This is an Actor that started in the 80's. I think I was addicted to this person since the 80's and wanted to communicate. I found out all they want is fans, Because that is how their celebrity keeps going. I was even asked why do I not have a FB fan page up for him or Insragram. They want that and I am not into that type energy, So it made me feel so bad that I felt worthless, So I got off that Cameo. Too much negative energy!
This video is incredibly powerful thank you so mych
And if I can make you need me, I can avoid being vulnerable.
I've found desiring produces very happy and expansive experiences. I've also found attachment to my own values and expanding Self is necessary and required to be in my own frame. So desiring a person takes me out of my frame. Appreciating another person and loving them knowing they're their own person as I am my own person is comfortable. It feels just right.
Yeah I’ve found when I get more general and just do what I want to do right now for it’s own sake, that’s when the magic starts to happen and I realise there’s actually way better versions of what I thought my goals were 🎯🏋️♂️💪☯️🌍
Love this separation technique.. I’m teaching it in my yoga classes ❤️.. people are really learning from it! Send them to your videos ✨🙏🏽.. separate From the mat, your clothes, from my voice! - potentially your identity just whilst on the mat and after if wanted! X
Oh Aaron! We can't thank you enough for all the content of your videos, we are grateful to you 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
My friend, that was absolutely beautiful. Thank you.
Aaron straight forwardness helped me to get rid of attachment and desire for an outcome and letting go being so easy I think back on it and laugh because this new environment in my own frame raised my vibration I'm sleeping better more focus on me smiling dope af information
I like the pace of this video, how you’re taking a moment to stop and think and process your childhood. I feel like this more relaxed than some other videos. Both are good in their own ways
Fantastically explained video. The fundamentals of this are so transferable
Love the Buddha Siddartha Gautama. Loved Autobiography Of A Yogi too.
I’m having a self realization as listening to you … and it makes me almost want to hide a bit lol but definitely needed to hear. Whew 😅🙏🏼
Wow. For the first time I met someone on Yt who's sharing… mine exact story. I mean all this family system of yours, even the grandma's thing. Wow. I wonder if the rest applies, the good things you were able to do to yourself after all. That is inspiring
i really need to hear this today. Thank you!
Me too really really need to hear it.
Wow I need to listen to these every day for clarity
Needed!!! Thanks for the wisdom !!!🎉🎉🎉
Thank you for this. Kindness is key. Your videos allow me to feel alive, whole and emotionally healthy.
I am sure I won’t ever suffer on my own as much as I was chasing anyone or wanted to be approved or tuned on the outside constantly. I was hurting for so long and this patterns stop here.
Thanks for posting THIS. ( Great opening - Attachment & Desire is the Root of Suffering )