This truly works like clockwork.. *when you stop caring about how they feel about you and invest in your INNER happiness, it creates such a magnetic effect* .. And you're happier that way too! 😂
I agree,I understand,but as an Empath,who "feels" everyones' energies,oftentimes,it's very difficult for me to detach,let go,whichever one we're talking about,and if LOVE with another person is involved,it blows all other reason out the window,to "let go"! I'm still a "work in progress".😉👍💜
My god, just let em go. It’s not worth holding onto people who don’t love or respect you. Who cares if they miss you. They still don’t deeply care for you! Show them the door, life is too short to keep people around who don’t love you.
When I let go, I started changing my life. The relationship buried me under so much stress and negativity. My personality is back, my confidence, my roadtrips, camping, backpacking, traveling is back! I look healthy. Letting go is the key.
I’m putting this here so more people see it. I actually tried to say “I think it’s best if we stay friends” with my partner and they broke down. It made me feel bad so I cried to and said never mind let me think about it. We live together and I needed a little bit to get enough money to leave. A couple weeks go by and they break down and beg me to stay. I don’t wanna make them depressed so I stayed. It’s been about a year and and six months since we were together and I didn’t have much contact during the pandemic when we first met so I was desperate myself. they shared a really horrific event that happened to them as a kid and looking back I think I’m in this relationship out of pity and desperation for some sense of connection. She’s really clingy and says she needs me to be happy a lot and I honestly get uncomfortable with how codependent and coddled I’ve become. I want to leave but without her being obsessed and jealous.
Happy for you, i hope one day i could find my self too update: its been 2 weeks and i feel so much different. I have no more sleepless night, im happy and im slowly getting back my old self
Letting go is easier said than done. You still miss them, you still long for their presence. So much but there is peace knowing that you did the hardest part already and that’s letting go! 🙏🏽
It's a process. Sometimes we need to bump our heads many times, go round the same merry-go-round that yields zero results apart from emptiness and devastation, and be disappointed and hurt for the 100th time before the penny drops. The realisation that that person is never going to make you happy, will never live up to your fantasy, and that basing your joy and worth in someone else is futile. Damn why do we take so long to learn it? I am truly letting go after 6 years of persevering and I feel so strong and free. It certainly took time, repetition, learning and now finally, GROWTH.
To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️. Just allow grace to let it in.
It’s a win-win. Let go and work on yourself and it will either a) make her come back or b) if she doesn’t you won’t care after a few months of working on yourself.
When someone leaves, let GO, Let GOD. Have faith that God subtracts to make room for something better. Level UP, don’t beg and move forward with grace. 💪 🙏🏽 ♥️
The point here really is it doesn't matter whether they miss you or not. What matters most is to take accountability for your needs and to respond accordingly in alignment with your values.
I finally broke down and came to a place where I wrote down everything I was grateful for and the list was abundant. I asked the universe for forgiveness because how could I be so selfish. I let go of ONE person that was treating me like a doormat and consuming me. It allowed me to receive all the people I naturally attracted. The love is real and I am so grateful. How could I be so blind?
This comment made me feel really neglectful and sad for how I have took my life for granted also . Thank you for the enlightment. I gotta stop feeling sorry for myself
I too had to recently let go of a relationship where I was being treated like a dormat. I was so attached to this person and still am. But I realize day by day that I was completely blind, and I'm working hard to let him go. When we are attached, we become blind. The realization is beautiful
@@rarasirius3795 How did you achieve this. I want to let go but hurts like he'll, I am alone in this. He is suffering, beaten and raped as a kid and was never discussed. He is dealing with his own issues, so I have to stand back and allow him to. But it's so difficult.
Practice meditation and if your thoughts become crazy as hell, listen to white noise or detachment music and breath deeply.. walking in nature helps too. Before you have to cut completely off, every message or call you receive, effects your thoughts again and again.. after a period of time you’ll get distance.
I hope everyone here learns to love themselves and be secure in that. Let go of attachment and let things that are meant for you be there. Let things that aren’t go.
Usually my go to mindset is this panicked, 'how can i get them back?!'. My partner just broke up with me and this is probably the first time my mindset is like 'let them go, give them space'. I think this is because this is the first person I've met that I've truly loved and could see a future with. We both have/had our struggles and as much as I was trying to be supportive I think I ended up being too much. I overwhelmed him, applied too much pressure, was too critical and wrapped up in my own feelings. I couldn't take a step back and truly comprehend his. I genuinely don't know if his love for me was real at this point but as this message reads, it doesn't matter. This is an opportunity for me to regain my power and if he's meant to come back then he will.
So true. Whatever you’re trying to keep together, relationships, property, position, power, money is already falling apart. It’s all resistance. So let go and be free. Thanks, Aaron. Great talk.
Exactly! Especially with NPDs (narcissistics), they always try to come back and will treat you bad again. So, the best thing is to not be magnetic with NPDs.
Time my friend! Im currently ill with flu cos of my emotional state so ive been forced into rest! Dont see time bring a bad thing its just more oppuntity to self reflect
@@Jewelsessences it's not but needy attachment and co-dependency are not good for anyone. Even couples need their own interests away from each other or it will eventually become strained.
This is 100% true. If you’re struggling, know that it will pass with time. Invest in yourself, stay focused on taking your power back and most of all, enjoy the process. You can do it!
Never heard it that way, does that mean you have accepted your beautiful inner self?? Not acceptance from hurt. Please correct me if I've misinterpreted your reply. Thank you
i have my satisfaction now by being alone and unattached. I am healing myself. Alone. I was not getting anything from him it was all online. The lies, the fantasies no proof behind the words. Im tired of that bulls***. I had to stop listening to the gaslighting, manipulation and dishonesty. I admit i got scammed and fell for the bullsh**. I have now forgiven myself and him, but in all honesty, i started chatting w/him because i was lonely and akone and i had the unhelthy thought that i would be talking to someone mature that would mean what he said. It took me a year to figure out this online crap was a joke, and it wasnt real and true. Im now done, i blocked and blocked and blocked. I also took it step further and offered my money but i quickly found out that it was all a maniprlation tactic and after i sent the money to him, i never even got a ty for it. I got ghosted for a week or longer. I finally caught on, that i was being played for a friggin fool and he probably spent that money on his wife that he never told me about but lied and told me he was single. I forgave myself now cuz yes i had a big heart but he used me for everything it was worth. Im done now. Its over now. Im not talking online w/him. Im healing now and becoming my best friend. this is what i need to do for my own good mental health.
i have 3 kids of 1 month , 1 year and 3 years old with my wife. my wife and i live currently separeted she lives at her parents home with the kids. we are in the middle of a divorce(since 1 month we are separated). and i do mis her. i want her back and i want to fight for it. i already made a list of my mistakes I made and i want to change it and show her that it is possible to change as a man. I will fight for her untill its 100% certain she will not come back. But i do think it will workout between us , but it needs some time , i need to give her her space. We got 3 small kids together and if she sees that im willing to change , it will be ok after some time.
It's sad I'm in a similar situation with Mt child's mother. We've both been through hell together. And we have a 6 year old. I wanted my little family back, sadly even tho she told me she loves me, qnd regrets leaving. She doesn't want me back. It's kinda sad honestly. Cause all I really wanted was to have, and take care of my little family. Maybe one day
@@lmfaook.7971 if you had more kids with her the chances that she come back is much higher. and if she has another man in her live its over. in my situation there is no other man. we had some fights lately and i also fought with her father. i will leave it to the time. i give her all the space she wants no problem. i know my own mistakes i made a list and im ready to make a change. for the sake of my family.
I let go of a 5 yr relationship, was so broken and sad, but at the same time knew it was the best thing for me. The relationship robbed me of peace, it made me feel like I was losing my mind and that there was something wrong with me. I am working through it and trusting that GOD has a plan meanwhile I now have the time to focus on myself.
It’s only an illusion. Remember how they were with you. Everything seems like glitter and gold in the beginning but if they’re a bad person they can’t hide it for too long.
*It's not just a cliche, you can achieve ANYTHING you put your mind to, if you slowly and consistently put in the effort, the universe will reward you!* *Incredible video!*
Doesn't your comment go against everything this video talks about? To LET go and NOT put your mind into "forcing" ," attracting " , "manifesting" anything? And instead work on yourself
This is SO true. I was over being treated and spoken to poorly. I no longer wanted this person not because they where evil but because I actually knew I deserved more. I set HARD boundaries. I was fine with losing this person because I truly believe the universe has my best interests at heart. I utterly let this person go. They are desperately trying to get back in my life. Now it is his job to prove he really wants back in. No games…. I just want someone who respects me. I’m over being disrespected. His access to me is now limited. He needs to earn me back because he has betrayed my trust. Again, no games. You want ‘in’ you need to treat me with the respect I’ve always treated you with.
I was left because of this as well. I didn’t treat my girl the way she deserves.. I took it for granted. I made such a bad mistake.. I pushed away one of the best things to happen to me so far in life.
Sounds like my twin flame and I, but my head was so twisted true love first time and there was no manual so it was like feeling around in dark and affected my actions I am sure and if I didnt treat her right god I didnt mean too
@@glennrobert4450 yeah it’s a struggle bro. We have to look inside and figure things out before entangling with someone else. It is a hard thing to do but it is worth it. Heroes journey,
@@ArtimasStr I feel exactly the same, I didnt give 100% in my relationship, I didnt go that extra mile, didnt show enough appreciation, the little things. Took things for granted, questioned the relationship myself often. And now, that I dont have it, you start to realize how lucky you were from the beginning. Why is it that you need to loose something first, to realize its true value?
So much changes in a week. Last weekend i was sad staring at my phone hoping he would text me. He wouldnt. I had to double text him. This week he was the last to text me & I decided I was done. Accepted the fact that he would more than likely not reach out. Ive felt an energy shift in myself and realize I simply dont care wtf he does or who he does it with. I just want away from him & was prepared to do the leg work to ensure myself a free 2023. But it doesnt even feel like work! It feels great. Oh and he is already texting me. Its only been 2 days. I haven’t even read his messages yet.
this is me now, well the hoping he texts back. but i had to walk away because i wasn’t getting what i needed. i feel i made a mistake on leaving. it’s only been a day 😭
Took my energy back Haven’t heard from him in 3 weeks Actions speak louder than words Im super sad about it but doing the inner work to finally detach myself emotionally 🥺
I feel some level of magnetism pulling me towards you. I can't explain it other than its the universe telling me it's meant to be.. are you ready for the next chapter completely out of the blue with a stranger hidden amongst the 7 billion ;)
Aaron is right. There is no point in obsessing over anyone in 2023. Focus on yourself and forget about romance. You can't force it. This society is too screwed up
Yes m’am I literally said something to her and it was over in a snap of a finger. Tried to talk it out with her but she won’t communicate. And that was it
"You might just be afraid to let go, because you're afraid that you're not gonna find meaning... in something else." That hit hard... thank you for this video Aaron. I had a thing with this girl, and the thing that made it so hard to let go from is that she was sending me mixed signals, and wanted attention, but not a relationship, and that kept me hanging on to this future fantasy of a relationship finally happening... now i wanna let the universe work things out for me, and stop creating strong fantasies in my mind...
Exactly what I'm going through right now. Letting the universe work things out also takes trust. I recently watched another video where they said something around the lines of to trust and let the universe do the rest. The way I took it was "let go, meet the universe halfway by trusting and the universe will provide". It will all comes as natural and what's meant to be.
This!! “she was sending me mixed signals, and wanted attention, but not a relationship, and that kept me hanging on to this future fantasy of a relationship” That’s it. You perfected the description of the madness that can inhabit our minds. FFR. Future fantasy relationship. Thank you!! 🙂
Isn't it incredible how you can have been through the same line of thinking before and gotten over it, be conscious of that, yet still be going through it in the present moment? Brains are weird
The “being the most authentic version of yourself” is my mantra. It’s the bravest thing you can do. I’ve worked so hard at this and my life is 100% better for it. I love my life. If someone comes along and it happens it happens. I’m living my best life either way ❤
Im letting go to allow the right person In. Have no interest in making someone miss me, or thinning about them. I'm genuinely ready for the right person to move into my life, and I'm content waiting for that person.
After seeing someone for 2 months and then rejecting you for their own reasons, your video was very refreshing to hear today. I really needed this and I was able to figure out that I am fully emotionally available and that's why it hurts more for me when I am rejected. My heart and intentions are pure.
do not change! continue to wear your heart on your sleeve and lead with love. there are other people like you out there who will appreciate it and return it.
The pain of rejection when you loved them....the pain is deep...but you can survive...i did...i went nuts...needy...the pain in my eyes ...JESUS Christ healed me....pray now...he will help you...i promise...Amen
I just recently went into a very deep connection with someone who is clearly avoidant. In the beginning I thought of him as a secure but day by day I noticed how he's just trying to make me fall for him so he can secure a date and have "fun" with me. After 2 months of contact, he started pulling away and said that he thought we are just hanging out and having fun. I felt sad but I just walked away. Ladies, let's us always prioritize ourselves. ❤
“I’m actually a pretty fuckin’ cool person!” 🙌 yes! It was such a good feeling when I let go of my ex and finally realized my self worth and what kind of love I deserved. ❤
Letting them miss you is making them insecure like you used to be. So what's the point? That person should also be secure in his place. Set the boundaries in such a way that you both feel safe and secure ...noone has to let other miss the other. 😊
This is just mumbo jumbo garbage. The 'universe' doesn't love you and isn't there waiting to help you. This is nonsense pushed by people selling books or promoting themselves on RUclips. If the universe loved you, good people wouldn't suffer, while btards have a great life. Life is unfair, it's just the way it is, for no reason.Everyone aways wants to find a reason why things happen. This law of attraction stufff is bs. I know because I used to be into all this crap, and it doesn't work. It's pushed on desperate, gullible people, for others to make money from.
I constantly had to vibrate at low frequencies and I felt so sad and hurt. Had to break up and let go because he didn't want to vibrate higher. Guided by the spirit.
I’m starting to see it this way… There is something you lack or need that you want to receive from the other person. Love, help, support, sex, devotion, respect, whatever… And what you end up doing is chasing it. But the need and want of it creates inner lack and inner poverty… It energetically pushes away the other person. Your too insecure desperate needy and your chasing. So if you can let go of that INNER POVERTY And inner lack Then your outside world will change And the person will feel complex to give you what you used to want You just need to let go of wanting it first. If your feeling lonely desperate insecure Let go of that first Before you start chasing or pursing it or them. Never chase
“You’re afraid to let go because you’re afraid you won’t find meaning in something else.” This resonates so strongly with my current situation. Just got out of toxic 5 year relationship and I really needed to hear this. Thank you.
Congrats for leaving. Once I myself left a toxic ltr it took 2 years to stop talking as friends. He has 2 new gfs n I felt nothing. I was done a year before I left. We actually got along great as friends but stopped talking bc his new gf was insecure. Girl I didn’t want him 3 years before you existed in this reality. I did suggest we stop communicating before she ever made a huge to do of it. I even spoke to her freely n nothing was hidden or illegitimate. I would say he still thinks he’s better than me bc he has a successful relationship n I’ve had one failed situatiknshup. But it’s all a process. Not caring if he thinks he’s so much better than me is the only thing that still messes w my h head
This is soooo who I am. Both my parents were emotionally unavailable. I always looked for approval. And never thought I was good for anyone. Tough childhood. I’m seeing someone right now and I had to step back, take my energy back. I had to because I could see another pattern starting. I didn’t want that to happen again so I’m choosing to let go.
This has been me my whole life too same childhood! … even in my 20 yr marriage! I just last 1 1/2 yrs so crazy in love with a man who at least only cares for me as a friend .. we had 2 of the most passionate nights of life and then I got so needy I totally pushed him away even when he told me to give him space. I do love him and I believe the connection is strong just wrong timing … I finally let go and I feel stronger for it … hate to say it thou I truly believe we are soulmates. 4 months of fighting and pushing him away … will he come back if I change? He would have to come back differently too .. I know that
My biggest dream is to be a wife and mother one day. And meeting my ex, falling in love, and breaking up, has me in pieces because I really thought my dream was within reach. My whole life has been built around this dream. My dream job which I now have is flexible for maternity leave, I cook and learn to cook for a future family… I play instruments and sing because I want to sing to my babies one day… I’m learning to knit so that I can knit them clothes and blankets one day. I’ve been so patient and diligent - working towards this dream without being desperate for just any man. I’m mourning the dream right now… as now it’s back to the drawing board 😢I’m attached to that meaning and I think it will be gone forever if I let go… I’m scared. I’m scared that if I let go of HIM I let go of my DREAM. 😔 God will bring me my husband I just know it…
U are me! I'm 52 single live with my parents and I'm lying in a hospital bed trying to heal emotionally and learn about me. All of uour videos relate to me ❤
Wow!! Wow!! Wow!! This has to be your best video! This is literally everything I am going through and what I needed to hear. I’m starting a new job next week and now he’s gone I can feel all my energy coming back. I became attached to a really unhealthy pattern because of a childhood trauma. I felt not good enough because he told me I wasn’t. Thank you Aaron! I don’t know if you read your comments but this video has made a massive difference. It has come at the right time and what I needed to hear! ps I’ve never commented on a video before but I had to tell you how much you have helped with this!
The toughest part of all of this is seeing the capacity of love they have in their eyes and in their souls but them not seeing it for themselves. So if they cannot accept your love it’s not your fault, they are afraid to accept it within themselves & it is so hard knowing that their life made them go through these challenges, but we all have them. It’s about finding the sacredness in the pain of change. I am so HOPEFUL to chance my ways step aside, and hope that he sees the value of partnering up to continue to heal as individuals and as a partnership. Life wouldn’t be life without challenge, pain & growth! Even during birth! The mother and the child start with PAIN but then extreme LOVE follows. Send some good love vibes this way my good people! Sending them back! ✨✨✨✨✨✨
You want to meet someone with similar values..values of authenticity honesty integrity respect trust and vulnerability…and become those values so you attract the right people!
I don't want to beat up some of the LOA coaches out there but the whole SP manifestation techniques that asks you to invest your energy in living at the end with someone who doesn't even want you can be super taxing. I wish more people ask you to fill your own cup first which is so important. "Take the energy away and put it back into yourself". Letting go of guilt and shame can be liberating. That's something I really needed to hear. Thank you for such honest and encouraging words.
Great post. I’m going through a breakup of a situationship and this really speaks to me allowing my energy to come back to me and be myself again instead of the uncertain insecure girl who sought love from her father and didn’t get it.❤
Agree. From past experience, you can ignore them and they may come back for a bit, but it is never from a place of proper authenticity. You could be any girl and they would feel some sort of ego dent ‘why is this girl not liking me’ and come back to affirm that but for themselves. It’s never about you. You’d only be attracting the ones with avoidant attachment styles too so I don’t follow the whole ‘pull away and he will miss you and stay with you’ story these articles tell. It’s a short term thing. It doesn’t mean he ‘realised what he lost’. People aren’t that stupid. I’d want a man smart enough to notice and want me for the traits I have rather than feel a loss when I leave. Aaron is preaching facts.
Took me almost 6 months after he broke up with me to let go. Some of the hardest months of my life as I was really attached and hoping we could make it work. We still see each other as friends sometimes, but finally I stopped being proactive in sending texts because I deserve better. Be wary of emotionally unavailable men and spot the red flags early!
It feels so good to be in no contact now after I spent two weeks sending multiple texts and calling endlessly to try and have a conversation with a brick wall. First week post break he wouldn’t open my texts. Second week he was. 16 days post breakup, I don’t have time for someone that does not have the emotional maturity or respect to communicate with me. I’ve gone no contact for my mental health and so I can move on. If he wants to reach out , he can but I will not be going back to an emotionally unavailable man. Life is too short.
This is really great, especially because it’s purposefully not manipulative. It’s really hard to let go sometimes, but I love this idea of *letting* them miss you because you are putting your energy into living a full, rich life. And then if they come along for the ride, great. And if not, then you are already happy anyway. Such a different energy than “making” someone miss you, which doesn’t work anyway. Thanks, Aaron! 💕
When you said energetically they feel you thinking about them… that hit me so hard and it’s so true. I was thinking of them so that hopefully they’d think of me too but you’re totally right… stop with the thinking and love your best life & maybeeee they’ll miss you authentically but either way you gotta let go and do you. Thank you for speaking in a way that really resonated with me.
I feel some level of magnetism pulling me towards you. I can't explain it other than its the universe telling me it's meant to be.. are you ready for the next chapter completely out of the blue with a stranger hidden amongst the 7 billion ;)
@@marie8456 shocker I know haha.. I suppose I'll find a way to get through this. Although untill your message I completely forgot so thanks for the reminder of this hard blank lol :)
I think if you're anxious and really like someone, but have nothing else going on in your life OR loving yourself, then it will be extremely hard to fake. So the first step is to find a supportive integrated life.
I got rejected before, because maybe I'm sending her a needy energy. But when I started accepting the fact that it's over and completely let her go, I had noticed that she's start trying to come back and she start feeling comfortable with me. But by that time I had moved on and I realized that I can't give her back my old feeling because I had already move on. Maybe it's too late for her 🤣
This has helped me loads. I’ve just ended quite a weird relationship where I realized only I was putting the effort in. I then wanted it back because of the future story I have made up in my head. I want this future, but the reality is that it doesn’t need to be with him. I seem to only think of him through rose tinted glasses and there is were very few lovely moments. I need to remember that and shift my future story back to me. Thank you 😊
i have 3 kids of 1 month , 1 year and 3 years old with my wife. my wife and i live currently separeted she lives at her parents home with the kids. we are in the middle of a divorce(since 1 month we are separated). and i do mis her. i want her back and i want to fight for it. i already made a list of my mistakes I made and i want to change it and show her that it is possible to change as a man. I will fight for her untill its 100% certain she will not come back. But i do think it will workout between us , but it needs some time , i need to give her her space. We got 3 small kids together and if she sees that im willing to change , it will be ok after some time.
It is said that when the student is ready the teacher will appear. Well, Aaron, you have become my teacher today! Your message was profound. It was exactly what I needed, and exactly when I needed it. Thank you!
I really needed this. Perfect timing. I just let a four year relationship go that taught me sooooo much about myself and what I'm capable of giving and what I want going forward. It was hard to let go, but somehow today with the new moon, feels like this release is freeing. 💞♐
I'm really happy for you! 💜 It also lifts me up to also put another step forward even if it is super, super hard. Thank you for sharing and I feel the change with the moon phases too. Best wishes for you and I'm really happy that you were able to feel this as freeing. 😊😉
Honestly I didn't think it would be that simple.. After watching your vid last night, I said it & boom I felt a heaviness just lift off me... Today I woke up so much lighter & I feel like my happy self again... I was dancing when I woke up, dancing on my way to walk & all through the hallways like I used to before 😄 There's like little flashes in-between when it's like I feel my ex but in the beautiful way I used to before & each time that happens I literally repeat I'm not sending you my energy, it's mine... & I can literally see & feel my cup overflowing like a waterfall again... It feels amazing 🥹
I’m currently going through this and working with a therapist. I’ve been investing in my meditation, Yoga, and art. I feel so much happier, and my partner is pursuing me again. Thanks for sharing your story.
This man was coming in on the Astral plane and watching me. He was in my energy all the time. I thought I was going crazy. That I was obsessed with him. I didn't realize what was going on. Someone showed me how to block him. It wasn't me it was all him. Thinking about him all the time disappeared. I do feel him at times when he gets emotional. But it was huge to know it wasn't me. He didn't want any kind of relationship with anyone, yet wouldn't let me go. Smh. Learning to send his energy back.
If she doesn't want you - why would you want her back? No one wants a one sided relationship. People not involved get it in 1 minute of explanation. Don't chase people who mess you around, even if it started well.
"If you're afraid that if you let that meaning go, it's gone forever." Insughtful! Wisdom. Appreciated. Not refuting it. What if I'm able to actually let go, get into my own frame. and get through this hell, and this time she does not come back at all. Ever. I do love this woman. If everything hadn't been interrupted or stopped from moving forward, we would have had 5 years of history come November.
This video resonated with me so much and clarified so many things for me that i am really shocked, it was exactly what i needed to hear. The amount of energy and attachment I was putting into another person was INSANE. Pulling our energy back and focusing on ourselves is extremely essential. Really an important lesson to learn
No no no no this actually on point. To be in your frame means to be in your own nature. The lion is king because he is grown out of his kingdom. And only there in his home he is strong. He owns his power resting in gently in knowing that his power is not his own.
This literally worked while I was watching your video, he messaged me after breaking up with me today, as soon as I let go to regain my self worth I felt better
When I decided to marry my husband, I knew that we would have a healthy relationship, that it would be a relationship filled with mutual respect, personal space, friendship and love. And we have been working together on this project for more than 10 years. Only working together is the key to a healthy and strong relationship, when we miss each other, when we write sweet SMS during the day, when we care about each other.
Until it’s not . I’ve been married 26 years and filed for a divorce 4 months ago . You don’t know that person until you do . They give you who their capable of until they don’t . I don’t even know the man that i see today he’s not the person that i married & have spent half of my life with . I didn’t know what a narcissist & covert narcissist was ?? I do now and it’s a eye opening experience and i don’t know how I have stayed and as a women we are fixers and i was calling things out as they were happening and he was mind fucking me into thinking it was me just being too much of over thinking it . That’s bull shit , you have absolutely nothing to do with it , it’s them who have the problem not you at all . Well of me . Just talking In terms of my experience and I’m in a place at this moment where I’m letting go and trying to stay focused & strong for me . I don’t have a big support system or group so i have to pick and choose my battles and not to sweat the small things !! And to try learning how to trust again is going to be a process and I’ll be ok in time .
He ripped my heart out after 4 yrs living together...cheated on me I ignored the red flags...i chased him for 3 yrs. Went out of my mind wanting him...i had men interested in me ...but I wasn't interested...they chased me.. I only wanted him...i quit chasing him...he came towards me twice...dont want him or anyone anymore....Me and God now...if he could my energy him and her would be dead....i went from dead too life...i blocked my soul...wall went too heaven...wall came down...Jesus. Is my best friend now...
Something useful for people to understand how powerful and peaceful (in a long term basis) it is to let go (including myself) is valuing the healing as much as you value the hurt.
Again man thank you for the letting go videos, for what I'm going through it helps a great deal. Out of a 4 year toxic relationship and this is helping alot thanks!
I feel that. She just had sex with her first love before me. I knew she loved him as much as me, but I tried to tell myself after it was over, that he won't come into her life because we're destined to be together. Well she fucked him and yeah it hurt pretty bad
Let's do this! It's been three months since the breakup, and I feel great! I am taking care of myself with my diet, exercising daily, writing, and therapy twice weekly. These are things I should have done years ago. Also, they are things I may never have done if he hadn't left.
I started telling myself, that even though some of my childhood was rough, I wouldn't be the person I am today without the rough stuff. I am a strong person. Some things that shake some people, don't and can't make or break my day. It's just another day.
Don’t let go of the desire if you want anything you can have it thinking the universe is taking away that’s limiting yourself as you are the universe. “Let go” yes but not of the desire itself you let go of the neediness, the thoughts that it won’t work out etc…
I’m happier focusing on me. The more time passes that I don’t even get a Hi the more I realize I never meant as much to him as he means to me. With a really long history that is a tough pill to swallow.
I love how vulnerable and vocal you are about your past insecurities in relationships to help others, thank you! This works with friend relationships as well when they take advantage of us or hurt us.....outside the circle they go. When you really start to understand that they don't belong in your circle and they are not worthy of you, they will feel that and know that they lost you and will def miss you.
Out of all the advice on RUclips , your videos on letting go are the ones that are actually helping me cope with a very unexpected situation I allowed myself to get into. Thanks for call your work man , your honesty makes a huge difference .
I think trying to make them miss you is not the right mindset. Step back and create distance for YOURSELF! Your own piece of mind. If all the messages you are receiving from another person are disrespectful, demeaning, unkind or whatever…..let go and don’t try to be more attractive for this person who is probably NOT the right person for you. Taking control of your values and who and what you want in your life will eventually make you more attractive for someone better suited to you.
This was so on point. Thank you. I finally realized after *years* of blaming the men in my life for being emotionally unavailable…that I was that myself. And all the rest, what you have said here! I am most thankful for what you said about not thinking about the person you need to let go of and to do it for the right motive. I tried everything else (cutting cords, praying, anything I could think of) but that has changed everything for me. I am ready to choose me and to be honest and vulnerable. 🙏
This is tremendous. I can’t believe the timing of this-I needed to hear this so badly. This makes so much sense. So powerful. I am now on this path. Thank you so so much Aaron.
My adult son has "cancelled me". I am grieving so deeply about this. I haven't been able to make my peace with it. So this video is good food for thought.
And if they don't miss you, they didn't deserve you and THEY missed out, not you. Good riddance!
Well said this is very true !
Exactly
I say to myself im the one that got away! I dont care uf they miss me
I like this
Exactly
This truly works like clockwork.. *when you stop caring about how they feel about you and invest in your INNER happiness, it creates such a magnetic effect* .. And you're happier that way too! 😂
I agree,I understand,but as an Empath,who "feels" everyones' energies,oftentimes,it's very difficult for me to detach,let go,whichever one we're talking about,and if LOVE with another person is involved,it blows all other reason out the window,to "let go"! I'm still a "work in progress".😉👍💜
@@BitchyQueen69 good luck on your journey!
Yup F-em! Lol 😂
Absolutely!!!!
I totally can agree with this. You become a magnet.
My god, just let em go. It’s not worth holding onto people who don’t love or respect you. Who cares if they miss you. They still don’t deeply care for you! Show them the door, life is too short to keep people around who don’t love you.
Exactly
Ong this is so grue, i just have a hard Time doing that. I have affective dependànce
True
When I let go, I started changing my life. The relationship buried me under so much stress and negativity. My personality is back, my confidence, my roadtrips, camping, backpacking, traveling is back! I look healthy. Letting go is the key.
Happy for you
I want to move on to hang out with you! Haha
Omg me too im hiking n I go all day n realize I havnt thought of them.
I’m putting this here so more people see it. I actually tried to say “I think it’s best if we stay friends” with my partner and they broke down. It made me feel bad so I cried to and said never mind let me think about it. We live together and I needed a little bit to get enough money to leave. A couple weeks go by and they break down and beg me to stay. I don’t wanna make them depressed so I stayed. It’s been about a year and and six months since we were together and I didn’t have much contact during the pandemic when we first met so I was desperate myself. they shared a really horrific event that happened to them as a kid and looking back I think I’m in this relationship out of pity and desperation for some sense of connection. She’s really clingy and says she needs me to be happy a lot and I honestly get uncomfortable with how codependent and coddled I’ve become. I want to leave but without her being obsessed and jealous.
Happy for you, i hope one day i could find my self too
update: its been 2 weeks and i feel so much different. I have no more sleepless night, im happy and im slowly getting back my old self
Getting rejected for being you is just as useful as being accepted for being you because it gives you a clear guide for where you put your time.
Well said
This 🙏🏽
🙏🙏🙏
So true
Thank you I needed your response! 🎉
Letting go is easier said than done. You still miss them, you still long for their presence. So much but there is peace knowing that you did the hardest part already and that’s letting go! 🙏🏽
Agreed. You can let go and still miss them. We are such complex beings.
Everything is easier said than done. But everything worth it, is always earned through work done.
@@91toinfinity I agree with you, but I still don't know how to do it.
I'm really trying but it hurt so bad...😢😢
It's a process. Sometimes we need to bump our heads many times, go round the same merry-go-round that yields zero results apart from emptiness and devastation, and be disappointed and hurt for the 100th time before the penny drops. The realisation that that person is never going to make you happy, will never live up to your fantasy, and that basing your joy and worth in someone else is futile. Damn why do we take so long to learn it? I am truly letting go after 6 years of persevering and I feel so strong and free. It certainly took time, repetition, learning and now finally, GROWTH.
be you and let them miss you, they may not be the right person as the universe has a plan for you for sure!!!
Yessir 🙌🏽
you'll end up being alone. That'll be worse.
@@sonamsherpa9576 that’s your limiting belief lol
The universe has a plan for every human on the planet or just the privileged ones in the developed world? We are just animals. That's all.
@@sonamsherpa9576 bad mindset
To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️. Just allow grace to let it in.
Thankyou ❤️
💕 More than a conqueror. 💕
So sweet. Hope all your loved ones loves you dearly and wish you happiness.☺️✨🥰
Perfect compliments thank you! To you and yours also
Thank you❤️
People don't want you to be yourself. They want you to applaud them
*Many people will panic to find a charger before their phone dies, but won’t panic to find a plan before their dream dies*
Love that!
Deep
Create your own dreams. Step away from fear by being vunerable and being the authentic you.
If only we knew how much battery we have left, urgency creates action.
Great analogy. I will.remeber this one.
It’s a win-win. Let go and work on yourself and it will either a) make her come back or b) if she doesn’t you won’t care after a few months of working on yourself.
Said it perfectly
Few months? Im still at the same point after 5 years.
@tonpe92 then change it - build yourself up
Kill 2 birds with one stone
@@shawnadeyowdm
You can't MAKE anybody miss you. You can only decide that someone who doesn't value you doesn't deserve for you to value them.
💯💯💯
Perfectly said
Agree!
Amen
When someone leaves, let GO, Let GOD. Have faith that God subtracts to make room for something better. Level UP, don’t beg and move forward with grace. 💪 🙏🏽 ♥️
This heal my broken heart 💔
Thank u for the reminder 💞
@@ja_inkwizytor the God that helps🙏
@@ja_inkwizytor I don’t know and neither of us will just know there is we are here for a reason there is a creator
@@ja_inkwizytor well we are here that’s the amazing part there is a creator it’s mystery that’s amazing
The point here really is it doesn't matter whether they miss you or not. What matters most is to take accountability for your needs and to respond accordingly in alignment with your values.
Amen!
Rre❤4
@@zherin2063that's right, arsholes...
LETTING them miss you > MAKING them miss…big difference in energy ✊🏾
❤👌
TRUTH
I finally broke down and came to a place where I wrote down everything I was grateful for and the list was abundant. I asked the universe for forgiveness because how could I be so selfish. I let go of ONE person that was treating me like a doormat and consuming me. It allowed me to receive all the people I naturally attracted. The love is real and I am so grateful. How could I be so blind?
This comment made me feel really neglectful and sad for how I have took my life for granted also . Thank you for the enlightment. I gotta stop feeling sorry for myself
I too had to recently let go of a relationship where I was being treated like a dormat. I was so attached to this person and still am. But I realize day by day that I was completely blind, and I'm working hard to let him go. When we are attached, we become blind. The realization is beautiful
I understand you . Getting there myself
@@rarasirius3795 How did you achieve this. I want to let go but hurts like he'll, I am alone in this. He is suffering, beaten and raped as a kid and was never discussed. He is dealing with his own issues, so I have to stand back and allow him to. But it's so difficult.
Practice meditation and if your thoughts become crazy as hell, listen to white noise or detachment music and breath deeply.. walking in nature helps too. Before you have to cut completely off, every message or call you receive, effects your thoughts again and again.. after a period of time you’ll get distance.
If you’re “letting go” hoping it will work, that they will miss you and come back, you’re not really letting go.
“You don’t need their approval and validation”. 🙏
Ahhhh!!!! The sense of freedom you get when you let someone go and you wish them well it’s absolutely priceless.
Sometimes you walk away because they took you for granted or do not love you as you do.
I hope everyone here learns to love themselves and be secure in that. Let go of attachment and let things that are meant for you be there. Let things that aren’t go.
Usually my go to mindset is this panicked, 'how can i get them back?!'.
My partner just broke up with me and this is probably the first time my mindset is like 'let them go, give them space'. I think this is because this is the first person I've met that I've truly loved and could see a future with.
We both have/had our struggles and as much as I was trying to be supportive I think I ended up being too much.
I overwhelmed him, applied too much pressure, was too critical and wrapped up in my own feelings. I couldn't take a step back and truly comprehend his.
I genuinely don't know if his love for me was real at this point but as this message reads, it doesn't matter. This is an opportunity for me to regain my power and if he's meant to come back then he will.
Did he come back?
Going through the same exact thing. Wishing you the best along your journey.
I did this this week. I finally let him go, he came back, then I sabotaged it in 2 months. Back to no contact
@@LovelyBollocks y so much trouble in love
@@LovelyBollocks you sure you are the one who sabotaged it? How can you be sure it's not him is the problem and he been gaslight you the whole time?
So true. Whatever you’re trying to keep together, relationships, property, position, power, money is already falling apart. It’s all resistance. So let go and be free. Thanks, Aaron. Great talk.
This is very true.
Love this.
Malcolm You always have such insightful comments. I recognize you from aep, so fun to see you here. 👋👊
@@suzanneatwood8855 😊👍
I don’t want it to be magnetic, I want to heal and get over it and move on
Amen.
Time my friend. I promise you. It may feel like forever, but you’ll be okay in the end.
Exactly! Especially with NPDs (narcissistics), they always try to come back and will treat you bad again. So, the best thing is to not be magnetic with NPDs.
Time my friend! Im currently ill with flu cos of my emotional state so ive been forced into rest! Dont see time bring a bad thing its just more oppuntity to self reflect
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"Only good things happen when you let go." Yesssss 💗
Are you sure because am really afraid to let go
Why do you make loving someone like a bad thing
@@Jewelsessences it's not but needy attachment and co-dependency are not good for anyone. Even couples need their own interests away from each other or it will eventually become strained.
This is 100% true. If you’re struggling, know that it will pass with time. Invest in yourself, stay focused on taking your power back and most of all, enjoy the process. You can do it!
The degree to which you let go is the degree to which you can receive your blessings🙏🏿 trust gods timing
Amen
As you let go, you’re accepting all that is you. Harder than it sounds, but no long-term satisfaction without it.
Great description. Never thought of it that way.
I love the way you put this.
Never heard it that way, does that mean you have accepted your beautiful inner self?? Not acceptance from hurt. Please correct me if I've misinterpreted your reply. Thank you
i have my satisfaction now by being alone and unattached. I am healing myself. Alone. I was not getting anything from him it was all online. The lies, the fantasies no proof behind the words. Im tired of that bulls***. I had to stop listening to the gaslighting, manipulation and dishonesty. I admit i got scammed and fell for the bullsh**. I have now forgiven myself and him, but in all honesty, i started chatting w/him because i was lonely and akone and i had the unhelthy thought that i would be talking to someone mature that would mean what he said. It took me a year to figure out this online crap was a joke, and it wasnt real and true. Im now done, i blocked and blocked and blocked. I also took it step further and offered my money but i quickly found out that it was all a maniprlation tactic and after i sent the money to him, i never even got a ty for it. I got ghosted for a week or longer. I finally caught on, that i was being played for a friggin fool and he probably spent that money on his wife that he never told me about but lied and told me he was single. I forgave myself now cuz yes i had a big heart but he used me for everything it was worth. Im done now. Its over now. Im not talking online w/him. Im healing now and becoming my best friend. this is what i need to do for my own good mental health.
After everything he’s put me through I wouldn’t want him back ever.
i have 3 kids of 1 month , 1 year and 3 years old with my wife. my wife and i live currently separeted she lives at her parents home with the kids. we are in the middle of a divorce(since 1 month we are separated). and i do mis her. i want her back and i want to fight for it. i already made a list of my mistakes I made and i want to change it and show her that it is possible to change as a man. I will fight for her untill its 100% certain she will not come back.
But i do think it will workout between us , but it needs some time , i need to give her her space. We got 3 small kids together and if she sees that im willing to change , it will be ok after some time.
It's sad I'm in a similar situation with Mt child's mother. We've both been through hell together. And we have a 6 year old. I wanted my little family back, sadly even tho she told me she loves me, qnd regrets leaving. She doesn't want me back. It's kinda sad honestly. Cause all I really wanted was to have, and take care of my little family. Maybe one day
@@lmfaook.7971 if you had more kids with her the chances that she come back is much higher.
and if she has another man in her live its over. in my situation there is no other man. we had some fights lately and i also fought with her father.
i will leave it to the time. i give her all the space she wants no problem. i know my own mistakes i made a list and im ready to make a change. for the sake of my family.
@@nederlander111wishing you the best
@@lmfaook.7971hope you get back together
I let go of a 5 yr relationship, was so broken and sad, but at the same time knew it was the best thing for me. The relationship robbed me of peace, it made me feel like I was losing my mind and that there was something wrong with me. I am working through it and trusting that GOD has a plan meanwhile I now have the time to focus on myself.
7 months in after ending a 5 year relationship. Life is beautiful sis
Same until they got into another relationship and happy 😢
It’s only an illusion. Remember how they were with you. Everything seems like glitter and gold in the beginning but if they’re a bad person they can’t hide it for too long.
How are you now?
*It's not just a cliche, you can achieve ANYTHING you put your mind to, if you slowly and consistently put in the effort, the universe will reward you!*
*Incredible video!*
How did you make your font bold?
Doesn't your comment go against everything this video talks about? To LET go and NOT put your mind into "forcing" ," attracting " , "manifesting" anything? And instead work on yourself
@@HannahMickunas kinda late but enter the text between two asterisks
How can I apply this to friendships? I'm part of a small group of "friends" that I'm accepting are more fake friends than genuine. It's very painful.
Kame hameha **I got it ** 😅
This is so true. As soon as you let them go and move on they come back. The hard part is actually letting go. You can’t force when that will happen. 😢
This is SO true. I was over being treated and spoken to poorly. I no longer wanted this person not because they where evil but because I actually knew I deserved more. I set HARD boundaries. I was fine with losing this person because I truly believe the universe has my best interests at heart. I utterly let this person go. They are desperately trying to get back in my life. Now it is his job to prove he really wants back in. No games…. I just want someone who respects me. I’m over being disrespected. His access to me is now limited. He needs to earn me back because he has betrayed my trust. Again, no games. You want ‘in’ you need to treat me with the respect I’ve always treated you with.
I was left because of this as well. I didn’t treat my girl the way she deserves.. I took it for granted. I made such a bad mistake.. I pushed away one of the best things to happen to me so far in life.
Sounds like my twin flame and I, but my head was so twisted true love first time and there was no manual so it was like feeling around in dark and affected my actions I am sure and if I didnt treat her right god I didnt mean too
@@glennrobert4450 yeah it’s a struggle bro. We have to look inside and figure things out before entangling with someone else. It is a hard thing to do but it is worth it. Heroes journey,
@@ArtimasStr I feel exactly the same, I didnt give 100% in my relationship, I didnt go that extra mile, didnt show enough appreciation, the little things. Took things for granted, questioned the relationship myself often. And now, that I dont have it, you start to realize how lucky you were from the beginning. Why is it that you need to loose something first, to realize its true value?
WTF are you people even talking about? Did you cheat or do you just feel you weren't buying enough nice things for them?
So much changes in a week. Last weekend i was sad staring at my phone hoping he would text me. He wouldnt. I had to double text him. This week he was the last to text me & I decided I was done. Accepted the fact that he would more than likely not reach out. Ive felt an energy shift in myself and realize I simply dont care wtf he does or who he does it with. I just want away from him & was prepared to do the leg work to ensure myself a free 2023. But it doesnt even feel like work! It feels great.
Oh and he is already texting me. Its only been 2 days. I haven’t even read his messages yet.
I hope you didn't cave in
@@almightybeanchild i dont even remember who this is about so its safe to say I didnt! 😂
this is me now, well the hoping he texts back. but i had to walk away because i wasn’t getting what i needed. i feel i made a mistake on leaving. it’s only been a day 😭
If you’re not letting go, your choosing to stay in the past and limit your future self.
Took my energy back
Haven’t heard from him in 3 weeks
Actions speak louder than words
Im super sad about it but doing the inner work to finally detach myself emotionally 🥺
Hang in there girl. You've got this. One day at a time. 💛
Same. We got this
I feel some level of magnetism pulling me towards you. I can't explain it other than its the universe telling me it's meant to be.. are you ready for the next chapter completely out of the blue with a stranger hidden amongst the 7 billion ;)
Any update? Hope you're doing great!
Aaron is right. There is no point in obsessing over anyone in 2023. Focus on yourself and forget about romance. You can't force it. This society is too screwed up
Same energy in 2024
Yes m’am I literally said something to her and it was over in a snap of a finger. Tried to talk it out with her but she won’t communicate. And that was it
Not in 2023 and 2024. Generally!
@@gogurtz1738 That is the worst.
Society is indeed waaaaay too screwed up
"You might just be afraid to let go, because you're afraid that you're not gonna find meaning... in something else."
That hit hard... thank you for this video Aaron.
I had a thing with this girl, and the thing that made it so hard to let go from is that she was sending me mixed signals, and wanted attention, but not a relationship, and that kept me hanging on to this future fantasy of a relationship finally happening... now i wanna let the universe work things out for me, and stop creating strong fantasies in my mind...
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Exactly what I'm going through right now. Letting the universe work things out also takes trust. I recently watched another video where they said something around the lines of to trust and let the universe do the rest. The way I took it was "let go, meet the universe halfway by trusting and the universe will provide". It will all comes as natural and what's meant to be.
This!! “she was sending me mixed signals, and wanted attention, but not a relationship, and that kept me hanging on to this future fantasy of a relationship”
That’s it. You perfected the description of the madness that can inhabit our minds. FFR. Future fantasy relationship. Thank you!! 🙂
she had avoidant attachment style?
@@ricooyrn Yeah she did, i can tell
You hit the nail on the head with, "If I let them go, then I lost my one chance at love."
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Isn't it incredible how you can have been through the same line of thinking before and gotten over it, be conscious of that, yet still be going through it in the present moment? Brains are weird
The “being the most authentic version of yourself” is my mantra. It’s the bravest thing you can do. I’ve worked so hard at this and my life is 100% better for it. I love my life. If someone comes along and it happens it happens. I’m living my best life either way ❤
Im letting go to allow the right person In. Have no interest in making someone miss me, or thinning about them. I'm genuinely ready for the right person to move into my life, and I'm content waiting for that person.
After seeing someone for 2 months and then rejecting you for their own reasons, your video was very refreshing to hear today. I really needed this and I was able to figure out that I am fully emotionally available and that's why it hurts more for me when I am rejected. My heart and intentions are pure.
❤ sending love your way
do not change! continue to wear your heart on your sleeve and lead with love. there are other people like you out there who will appreciate it and return it.
@@nanofyurbiznes 🩷 bless you]!
The pain of rejection when you loved them....the pain is deep...but you can survive...i did...i went nuts...needy...the pain in my eyes ...JESUS Christ healed me....pray now...he will help you...i promise...Amen
Feeling good about myself allowed me to let go of a very one sided relationship and feel so free and immune to that energy drain!!
I just recently went into a very deep connection with someone who is clearly avoidant. In the beginning I thought of him as a secure but day by day I noticed how he's just trying to make me fall for him so he can secure a date and have "fun" with me. After 2 months of contact, he started pulling away and said that he thought we are just hanging out and having fun. I felt sad but I just walked away. Ladies, let's us always prioritize ourselves. ❤
Great giiiiirl❤
Lucky escape...I learnt after 3 years in that dynamic.
“I’m actually a pretty fuckin’ cool person!”
🙌 yes! It was such a good feeling when I let go of my ex and finally realized my self worth and what kind of love I deserved. ❤
Letting them miss you is making them insecure like you used to be. So what's the point? That person should also be secure in his place. Set the boundaries in such a way that you both feel safe and secure ...noone has to let other miss the other. 😊
No matter what you think of you, the Universe loves you.
Much Love from a Law Of Attraction RUclipsr 💜
Much love to you as well 🧡
Omg I felt a weight off my shoulders reading this simple comment
This is just mumbo jumbo garbage. The 'universe' doesn't love you and isn't there waiting to help you. This is nonsense pushed by people selling books or promoting themselves on RUclips. If the universe loved you, good people wouldn't suffer, while btards have a great life. Life is unfair, it's just the way it is, for no reason.Everyone aways wants to find a reason why things happen. This law of attraction stufff is bs. I know because I used to be into all this crap, and it doesn't work. It's pushed on desperate, gullible people, for others to make money from.
This is what I'm currently learning. Letting go and let the connection develop naturally
You can't be the only one fighting for someone to make it work, period.
Know thyself, accept urself, detach from outcomes. allow the universe to provide ( trusting ) you are the main character of the story.
I constantly had to vibrate at low frequencies and I felt so sad and hurt. Had to break up and let go because he didn't want to vibrate higher. Guided by the spirit.
I’m starting to see it this way…
There is something you lack or need that you want to receive from the other person. Love, help, support, sex, devotion, respect, whatever…
And what you end up doing is chasing it. But the need and want of it creates inner lack and inner poverty…
It energetically pushes away the other person.
Your too insecure desperate needy and your chasing.
So if you can let go of that
INNER POVERTY
And inner lack
Then your outside world will change
And the person will feel complex to give you what you used to want
You just need to let go of wanting it first.
If your feeling lonely desperate insecure
Let go of that first
Before you start chasing or pursing it or them.
Never chase
“You’re afraid to let go because you’re afraid you won’t find meaning in something else.”
This resonates so strongly with my current situation. Just got out of toxic 5 year relationship and I really needed to hear this. Thank you.
Congrats for leaving. Once I myself left a toxic ltr it took 2 years to stop talking as friends. He has 2 new gfs n I felt nothing. I was done a year before I left. We actually got along great as friends but stopped talking bc his new gf was insecure. Girl I didn’t want him 3 years before you existed in this reality. I did suggest we stop communicating before she ever made a huge to do of it. I even spoke to her freely n nothing was hidden or illegitimate. I would say he still thinks he’s better than me bc he has a successful relationship n I’ve had one failed situatiknshup.
But it’s all a process. Not caring if he thinks he’s so much better than me is the only thing that still messes w my h head
This is soooo who I am. Both my parents were emotionally unavailable. I always looked for approval. And never thought I was good for anyone. Tough childhood. I’m seeing someone right now and I had to step back, take my energy back. I had to because I could see another pattern starting. I didn’t want that to happen again so I’m choosing to let go.
This has been me my whole life too same childhood! … even in my 20 yr marriage!
I just last 1 1/2 yrs so crazy in love with a man who at least only cares for me as a friend .. we had 2 of the most passionate nights of life and then I got so needy I totally pushed him away even when he told me to give him space.
I do love him and I believe the connection is strong just wrong timing … I finally let go and I feel stronger for it … hate to say it thou I truly believe we are soulmates.
4 months of fighting and pushing him away … will he come back if I change?
He would have to come back differently too .. I know that
My biggest dream is to be a wife and mother one day. And meeting my ex, falling in love, and breaking up, has me in pieces because I really thought my dream was within reach. My whole life has been built around this dream. My dream job which I now have is flexible for maternity leave, I cook and learn to cook for a future family… I play instruments and sing because I want to sing to my babies one day… I’m learning to knit so that I can knit them clothes and blankets one day. I’ve been so patient and diligent - working towards this dream without being desperate for just any man. I’m mourning the dream right now… as now it’s back to the drawing board 😢I’m attached to that meaning and I think it will be gone forever if I let go… I’m scared. I’m scared that if I let go of HIM I let go of my DREAM. 😔 God will bring me my husband I just know it…
Aww❤ I will pray for you. You are such a beautiful woman. I pray God gives you a deserving husband❤
I’m going through the same thing and more scared because of my age. What age are u?
U are me! I'm 52 single live with my parents and I'm lying in a hospital bed trying to heal emotionally and learn about me. All of uour videos relate to me ❤
Wow!! Wow!! Wow!! This has to be your best video! This is literally everything I am going through and what I needed to hear. I’m starting a new job next week and now he’s gone I can feel all my energy coming back. I became attached to a really unhealthy pattern because of a childhood trauma. I felt not good enough because he told me I wasn’t. Thank you Aaron! I don’t know if you read your comments but this video has made a massive difference. It has come at the right time and what I needed to hear! ps I’ve never commented on a video before but I had to tell you how much you have helped with this!
happy to hear that :)
Aaron, you literally saved me now from months of suffering. Thank you so, so, so much!
The toughest part of all of this is seeing the capacity of love they have in their eyes and in their souls but them not seeing it for themselves. So if they cannot accept your love it’s not your fault, they are afraid to accept it within themselves & it is so hard knowing that their life made them go through these challenges, but we all have them. It’s about finding the sacredness in the pain of change. I am so HOPEFUL to chance my ways step aside, and hope that he sees the value of partnering up to continue to heal as individuals and as a partnership. Life wouldn’t be life without challenge, pain & growth! Even during birth! The mother and the child start with PAIN but then extreme LOVE follows. Send some good love vibes this way my good people! Sending them back! ✨✨✨✨✨✨
This resonates so hard with me 😭 me and my ex broke up only about a month and a half ago because of this kind of stuff. I love the way you put it.
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You want to meet someone with similar values..values of authenticity honesty integrity respect trust and vulnerability…and become those values so you attract the right people!
I don't want to beat up some of the LOA coaches out there but the whole SP manifestation techniques that asks you to invest your energy in living at the end with someone who doesn't even want you can be super taxing. I wish more people ask you to fill your own cup first which is so important. "Take the energy away and put it back into yourself". Letting go of guilt and shame can be liberating. That's something I really needed to hear. Thank you for such honest and encouraging words.
Great post. I’m going through a breakup of a situationship and this really speaks to me allowing my energy to come back to me and be myself again instead of the uncertain insecure girl who sought love from her father and didn’t get it.❤
Agree. From past experience, you can ignore them and they may come back for a bit, but it is never from a place of proper authenticity. You could be any girl and they would feel some sort of ego dent ‘why is this girl not liking me’ and come back to affirm that but for themselves. It’s never about you. You’d only be attracting the ones with avoidant attachment styles too so I don’t follow the whole ‘pull away and he will miss you and stay with you’ story these articles tell. It’s a short term thing. It doesn’t mean he ‘realised what he lost’. People aren’t that stupid. I’d want a man smart enough to notice and want me for the traits I have rather than feel a loss when I leave. Aaron is preaching facts.
Took me almost 6 months after he broke up with me to let go. Some of the hardest months of my life as I was really attached and hoping we could make it work. We still see each other as friends sometimes, but finally I stopped being proactive in sending texts because I deserve better. Be wary of emotionally unavailable men and spot the red flags early!
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It feels so good to be in no contact now after I spent two weeks sending multiple texts and calling endlessly to try and have a conversation with a brick wall. First week post break he wouldn’t open my texts. Second week he was. 16 days post breakup, I don’t have time for someone that does not have the emotional maturity or respect to communicate with me. I’ve gone no contact for my mental health and so I can move on. If he wants to reach out , he can but I will not be going back to an emotionally unavailable man. Life is too short.
This is really great, especially because it’s purposefully not manipulative. It’s really hard to let go sometimes, but I love this idea of *letting* them miss you because you are putting your energy into living a full, rich life. And then if they come along for the ride, great. And if not, then you are already happy anyway. Such a different energy than “making” someone miss you, which doesn’t work anyway. Thanks, Aaron! 💕
Perfect explanation
When you said energetically they feel you thinking about them… that hit me so hard and it’s so true. I was thinking of them so that hopefully they’d think of me too but you’re totally right… stop with the thinking and love your best life & maybeeee they’ll miss you authentically but either way you gotta let go and do you. Thank you for speaking in a way that really resonated with me.
I feel some level of magnetism pulling me towards you. I can't explain it other than its the universe telling me it's meant to be.. are you ready for the next chapter completely out of the blue with a stranger hidden amongst the 7 billion ;)
@@marie8456 shocker I know haha.. I suppose I'll find a way to get through this. Although untill your message I completely forgot so thanks for the reminder of this hard blank lol :)
I think if you're anxious and really like someone, but have nothing else going on in your life OR loving yourself, then it will be extremely hard to fake. So the first step is to find a supportive integrated life.
I got rejected before, because maybe I'm sending her a needy energy. But when I started accepting the fact that it's over and completely let her go, I had noticed that she's start trying to come back and she start feeling comfortable with me.
But by that time I had moved on and I realized that I can't give her back my old feeling because I had already move on. Maybe it's too late for her 🤣
She wasn't emotionally available and would have been just a hot-cold game. You are never too needy for someone who is open to receive love. 😊
yuh
There is no neediness. Needs are needs. Stop gaslighting yourself.
This has helped me loads. I’ve just ended quite a weird relationship where I realized only I was putting the effort in. I then wanted it back because of the future story I have made up in my head. I want this future, but the reality is that it doesn’t need to be with him. I seem to only think of him through rose tinted glasses and there is were very few lovely moments. I need to remember that and shift my future story back to me. Thank you 😊
i have 3 kids of 1 month , 1 year and 3 years old with my wife. my wife and i live currently separeted she lives at her parents home with the kids. we are in the middle of a divorce(since 1 month we are separated). and i do mis her. i want her back and i want to fight for it. i already made a list of my mistakes I made and i want to change it and show her that it is possible to change as a man. I will fight for her untill its 100% certain she will not come back.
But i do think it will workout between us , but it needs some time , i need to give her her space. We got 3 small kids together and if she sees that im willing to change , it will be ok after some time.
It is said that when the student is ready the teacher will appear. Well, Aaron, you have become my teacher today! Your message was profound. It was exactly what I needed, and exactly when I needed it. Thank you!
I really needed this. Perfect timing. I just let a four year relationship go that taught me sooooo much about myself and what I'm capable of giving and what I want going forward. It was hard to let go, but somehow today with the new moon, feels like this release is freeing. 💞♐
I'm really happy for you! 💜 It also lifts me up to also put another step forward even if it is super, super hard. Thank you for sharing and I feel the change with the moon phases too. Best wishes for you and I'm really happy that you were able to feel this as freeing. 😊😉
Me too sister .
I agree! I am in a similar situation. Go girl! ♥️
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Really happy for you! How long did it take you to get over the 4 year relationship?
Honestly I didn't think it would be that simple.. After watching your vid last night, I said it & boom I felt a heaviness just lift off me... Today I woke up so much lighter & I feel like my happy self again... I was dancing when I woke up, dancing on my way to walk & all through the hallways like I used to before 😄
There's like little flashes in-between when it's like I feel my ex but in the beautiful way I used to before & each time that happens I literally repeat I'm not sending you my energy, it's mine... & I can literally see & feel my cup overflowing like a waterfall again... It feels amazing 🥹
True feeling of liberate
I’m currently going through this and working with a therapist. I’ve been investing in my meditation, Yoga, and art. I feel so much happier, and my partner is pursuing me again. Thanks for sharing your story.
This man was coming in on the Astral plane and watching me. He was in my energy all the time. I thought I was going crazy. That I was obsessed with him. I didn't realize what was going on. Someone showed me how to block him. It wasn't me it was all him. Thinking about him all the time disappeared. I do feel him at times when he gets emotional. But it was huge to know it wasn't me. He didn't want any kind of relationship with anyone, yet wouldn't let me go. Smh. Learning to send his energy back.
do you mean you blocked on social media or energetically?
Is he a spiritual husband
@@Tam438 energetically
@@michiejewel5989 I think he is someone that uses the Astral plane to stalk
@@kacisspiritualkorner55 ah, ok, thanks
If she doesn't want you - why would you want her back? No one wants a one sided relationship. People not involved get it in 1 minute of explanation. Don't chase people who mess you around, even if it started well.
"If you're afraid that if you let that meaning go, it's gone forever." Insughtful! Wisdom. Appreciated. Not refuting it. What if I'm able to actually let go, get into my own frame. and get through this hell, and this time she does not come back at all. Ever. I do love this woman. If everything hadn't been interrupted or stopped from moving forward, we would have had 5 years of history come November.
This video resonated with me so much and clarified so many things for me that i am really shocked, it was exactly what i needed to hear. The amount of energy and attachment I was putting into another person was INSANE. Pulling our energy back and focusing on ourselves is extremely essential. Really an important lesson to learn
Iam going through the same thing now. And i am hoping i can implement this idea for good.
No no no no this actually on point. To be in your frame means to be in your own nature. The lion is king because he is grown out of his kingdom. And only there in his home he is strong. He owns his power resting in gently in knowing that his power is not his own.
This literally worked while I was watching your video, he messaged me after breaking up with me today, as soon as I let go to regain my self worth I felt better
When I decided to marry my husband, I knew that we would have a healthy relationship, that it would be a relationship filled with mutual respect, personal space, friendship and love. And we have been working together on this project for more than 10 years. Only working together is the key to a healthy and strong relationship, when we miss each other, when we write sweet SMS during the day, when we care about each other.
Until it’s not . I’ve been married 26 years and filed for a divorce 4 months ago . You don’t know that person until you do . They give you who their capable of until they don’t . I don’t even know the man that i see today he’s not the person that i married & have spent half of my life with . I didn’t know what a narcissist & covert narcissist was ?? I do now and it’s a eye opening experience and i don’t know how I have stayed and as a women we are fixers and i was calling things out as they were happening and he was mind fucking me into thinking it was me just being too much of over thinking it . That’s bull shit , you have absolutely nothing to do with it , it’s them who have the problem not you at all . Well of me . Just talking In terms of my experience and I’m in a place at this moment where I’m letting go and trying to stay focused & strong for me . I don’t have a big support system or group so i have to pick and choose my battles and not to sweat the small things !! And to try learning how to trust again is going to be a process and I’ll be ok in time .
He ripped my heart out after 4 yrs living together...cheated on me I ignored the red flags...i chased him for 3 yrs. Went out of my mind wanting him...i had men interested in me ...but I wasn't interested...they chased me.. I only wanted him...i quit chasing him...he came towards me twice...dont want him or anyone anymore....Me and God now...if he could my energy him and her would be dead....i went from dead too life...i blocked my soul...wall went too heaven...wall came down...Jesus. Is my best friend now...
Something useful for people to understand how powerful and peaceful (in a long term basis) it is to let go (including myself) is valuing the healing as much as you value the hurt.
Sometimes you have to give up to gain.
Again man thank you for the letting go videos, for what I'm going through it helps a great deal. Out of a 4 year toxic relationship and this is helping alot thanks!
I feel that. She just had sex with her first love before me. I knew she loved him as much as me, but I tried to tell myself after it was over, that he won't come into her life because we're destined to be together. Well she fucked him and yeah it hurt pretty bad
Hugs to your both. You’ve got this!
Let's do this! It's been three months since the breakup, and I feel great! I am taking care of myself with my diet, exercising daily, writing, and therapy twice weekly. These are things I should have done years ago. Also, they are things I may never have done if he hadn't left.
I started telling myself, that even though some of my childhood was rough, I wouldn't be the person I am today without the rough stuff. I am a strong person. Some things that shake some people, don't and can't make or break my day. It's just another day.
Gosh this video and others by you have actually helped me move forward through my heart ache.
Wow
That was so good..."You always attract a reflection of who you are."
Don’t let go of the desire if you want anything you can have it thinking the universe is taking away that’s limiting yourself as you are the universe. “Let go” yes but not of the desire itself you let go of the neediness, the thoughts that it won’t work out etc…
I’m happier focusing on me. The more time passes that I don’t even get a Hi the more I realize I never meant as much to him as he means to me. With a really long history that is a tough pill to swallow.
It truly is a slap in the face, however I have no doubt you'll get someone else who will blow your mind! Keep going.
in the same place...
Oh my… this is the missing puzzle to discovering one’s own self-worthiness, isn’t it?! Thank you so much.
I love how vulnerable and vocal you are about your past insecurities in relationships to help others, thank you! This works with friend relationships as well when they take advantage of us or hurt us.....outside the circle they go. When you really start to understand that they don't belong in your circle and they are not worthy of you, they will feel that and know that they lost you and will def miss you.
Out of all the advice on RUclips , your videos on letting go are the ones that are actually helping me cope with a very unexpected situation I allowed myself to get into. Thanks for call your work man , your honesty makes a huge difference .
I think trying to make them miss you is not the right mindset. Step back and create distance for YOURSELF! Your own piece of mind. If all the messages you are receiving from another person are disrespectful, demeaning, unkind or whatever…..let go and don’t try to be more attractive for this person who is probably NOT the right person for you. Taking control of your values and who and what you want in your life will eventually make you more attractive for someone better suited to you.
This was so on point. Thank you. I finally realized after *years* of blaming the men in my life for being emotionally unavailable…that I was that myself. And all the rest, what you have said here! I am most thankful for what you said about not thinking about the person you need to let go of and to do it for the right motive. I tried everything else (cutting cords, praying, anything I could think of) but that has changed everything for me. I am ready to choose me and to be honest and vulnerable. 🙏
This is tremendous. I can’t believe the timing of this-I needed to hear this so badly. This makes so much sense. So powerful. I am now on this path. Thank you so so much Aaron.
My adult son has "cancelled me". I am grieving so deeply about this. I haven't been able to make my peace with it. So this video is good food for thought.