I have done this 3 times in my life and have not ever regretted it! I am now in my 70's. When people treat you badly, why would you even be attracted to that? Once you close the door, you will realize you are no longer attracted to them. That's the best part! Be brave and take that step. It's the best gift you will give yourself.
Absolutely. Best advice you could ever give somebody, sir. Thank you very much and I am fully wholeheartedly agree with you. I've done that a couple of times in my life. And I do not regret it at all. It's given me more peace in of mind and a little smirk.😂
@nohandle4u2see Ty for your response. I have learnt that it is alright to love and care for some from a distance. You don't need to be enmeshed in their life or what ever they are up to. Fact is, it is their choice to live their life in accordance to themselves. Sadly, no one can interfere even if their choices are poor. With every decision comes a consequence. Just hoping better decisions are made so that there is no harsh consequences. Goodluck and stay strong.
True. While this video does make some valid points, it is really not about self-preservation, but instead, punishing those who have hurt us, or, as is more often the case, someone who we feel has hurt us. If we must end a relationship for our own health, that is one thing; to end a relationship and then gloat over the hurt you think (hope) the other person is feeling is toxic.This video is not about healthy ways to improve our lives, it is about extracting perceived revenge.
This is a wise move, however, walking away/ghosting will have zero impact on someone who doesn't appreciate or value you. You're doing it for yourself. They likely don't care anyway. They may miss the benefits your presence brought. (REITERATING)
True, but this effect goes deeper to why . Try cord cutting on a metaphysical level since alot of invisible energy may be still flowing to them that you may as well consider as energy they have stolen from you. People fail to respectfully value presence cause it's hard to put a price tag on it. That's also why it's harder to keep track of your own energetic balance. At the end of the day it should be you who determines if they get to be high or low on your energies. And usually narcissist... guilt trip you without any care for your side of the story
@@ChiDante Also They will gaslight you further to steal a connection. It's like they're stuck in this infancy stage of their own mental maturity. There are no exceptions and no malice. Forgive people and move on with your life simple.
@@valeriezaitzieff1462 this. I’ve been ghosted before by people when I didn’t deserve it or really even know the specific reason why. But I have ghosted two people who absolutely did deserve it.
OMG! What perfecting timing for me to find and listen to what you've said. I walked away, I walked away from disrespect, being too available, bresdcrumbing, giving them the comfort of never having to think twice, etc. I loved him, I fed his ego, bolstered a broken, wounded soul, and forgot about me....I walked away, and I'm never looking back. Thank you so very much ❤😢
I hope he wasn’t me. I regret having blocked someone almost right after doing it and now I regret it deeply I didn’t understand how much damage it caused her either. The worst thing I’ve ever done. I know I killed all attraction, I had never been in a relationship before and I hate having to learn what not to do the hard way, I just hope she’ll accept my new friend request so we at the very least can have some closure
I finally walked away after trying to break up from him for several years. It has been 12 months now. It has been so hard at times, so painful, however it has also been amazing. I have learnt so much about myself and completely valuing and appreciating who I am. A beautiful, kind and compassionate woman. I gave my love to the wrong man. I won’t do that again. That’s a promise. I totally love and honour myself and deserve the best.
I know someone who chose to cut ties with their family about 40 years ago and never looked back. I was one of the ones that this person cut ties with. Now I don't know why this person did what they did, I've heard a couple of different stories, but I can say this: after this person left it was as if they never existed. No one said that they missed that person, no one went looking for them, if the subject came up it was "this person being themselves, this is what they wanted" and the subject promptly changed. A few years ago, someone from the family finally decided to find this person. By this time they had passed away. Now, this may sound strange, but I do not blame this person for leaving. I may not understand the particular reasons why, but seeing how they were erased from the family was very instructive and told me what I could expect should I drop out of sight willingly or unwillingly. My advice is if you feel you must leave, leave, but don't expect that those you've left behind are grieving. They may not even notice that you are gone, and if they do, they probably don't care enough to find out what happened.
Anyone who walks away from a family that doesn't know they're toxic, does not care if they are grieved by that family for their leaving. They have set themselves free.
That is sad, but it seems true. The number of people we would genuinely miss seems few. And who would miss us. I keep wondering what type of person would be missed the most. I think children for sure and usually a parent. But aside from those obvious connections, would it be a person’s usefulness (eg money they bring in or helpful tasks they perform), emotional connection, physical attractiveness, charm & charisma, attitude (eg cheerful & positive vs negative and pessimistic), authenticity, empathy, calmness, energetic, fun, sense of humour? Would would a person have to be for others to truly miss them?
@@universaltruth2025 If they weren't missed while they are still here then they won't be missed when they are gone. I'm talking about people who others ignore, who are seldom included in conversations, the person who is always on the outside. They may be present but they are invisible, they are ghosts and when they are no longer present nobody notices that they are no longer present. The person who doesn't quite fit in. The person who is different, the person who is socially awkward. I think you know what kind of people I'm talking about, look around. Who do you talk to and who talks to you? Is it one-sided where only one person initiates contact. Who do you see by themselves even at a family gathering--especially at a family gathering? "I was a cold one for leaving that way," Meryl Streep sings in "Rikki and the Flash": "But nobody stopped me or asked me to stay." The roots are there long before the person decides to leave, maybe is the real reason why they are leaving.
Based on what you described, I totally understand why that person cut ties with their family/you. My only question is why it took them 40 years to do so? Seems they'd have been better off cutting ties decades earlier
Yes it’s the cruelest thing you can do and usually it’s the abuser who has no empathy that does this to the one who truly cares , so when it happens just believe who they showed you who they are , it doesn’t look like it now but they are giving you a gift !
Yes, I think you are right. Someone walked away from me, with no clue at all, and this person was abusive. The narcissist leaves when you have nothing to give them but your love and kindness. ❤🙏🏽
Thats’s true! Once you get over the pain and confusion,and I don’t use the word lightly,you will SEE THEM. And you will see the gift the gift they gave you.
It's not cruel at all. It's self-preservation and self-respect to flee from a toxic friend/lover etc. Most people don't have the guts to do it but they should learn how to do it and free themselves from the negativity.
sometimes a person walks away not because they’ve been mistreated but because they have been using the other person and they’ve gotten what they wanted
I am the one who has been walked away from. Everything you say is correct about the one who is left alone. I am a mom who did her best in the years that I raised my kids. In those years I lived in an abusive situation that nobody knew about. I struggled with severe depression in that time, but having my kids around was the joy of my life. Today they have nothing to do with me. They give no explanation. I tell them I am sorry for whatever I did to hurt them….I can’t tell you how very many times I have asked for forgivenessI have cried and cried. This time the separation is complete. All you say is how I feel, how I see myself. They don’t know that I, too, have walked away. Today I find comfort in Christ, His Word, His promise never to leave me or fore sake me. I pray for my kids…Certainly I still love them!
God bless you sister. Maybe you should also consider the type of people your children became, and I do not mean that in any nasty way. Souls incarnate here in this school of life for a purpose and to learn lessons through particular life experiences. Parents and early family are a fundamental part of that lesson, as they are like the bow that shoots the arrow in a particular direction. I was divorced in my late twenties and tried so hard to keep in contact with my young son, while his mother created a new family with a new man and pushed me out in order to do that. Unfortunately, my son grew up to be arrogant and self-centered and showed very little, if any, desire to maintain contact with me, his natural father. For a long time I blamed the divorce and its effect on him, but eventually realised that it was his fundamental basic character and that I was deluding myself. It took the impartial observations of others to make me realize that. He is now into all kinds of perversions and a few years ago I disinherited him. What are the impartial observations of others that knew both you and your situation, as maybe they would give you clues? Peace be with you.
I feel all your words and read the following reply from markcrocks, you Saud no one knew of the yra of the abuse, you did your bes5 to raise your kids, yet there's some truth in marks words that your kids' characters were formed from what they witnessed from your ex husband's behavior and they inherited some if that lack of empathy towards you that can't be humanily changed by you.. only God's grace can convert hardened hearts. I'll pray with you for this to happen. In the meantime, find confort in your newfound freedom from abuse and in Christ's love. (from someone who's been there too)
Interesting video content. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
@@lpsglitterpaws8536its a sick lil game people play to make themselves feel more powerful. would also incorporate 0 contact into your just walking away scenario; it helps hammer home just how lil you care. not caring, properly applied, can be a beautiful thing.
@@malone4735 ik I'm tough only a coward walks away from danger a real man stands on his own feet and fight for what he believes in 🤫. It's okay to walk away from certain situations that might jepardize your job or freedom but you should enforce respect among your enemies, there's no place for disrespect in my world.
For this philosophy to be applied correctly, the person should firstly be wary of their own dilutions and unrealistic expectations from the person/people they're planning to walk away from, otherwise, you'll end up unintentionally hurting the people who genuely cares for you.
When one has difficulty walking away from a relationship they know they should leave, they’re most likely suffering from a trauma bond. These bonds happen when a person literally becomes drug addicted to the feel good hormones swirling in their brain. The abuser uses intermittent reinforcement, and breaking these bonds as difficult as quitting any drug addiction. Only once a person realizes that there is a problem is the road to healing opened.
You should never have to beg or bend over backwards for someone else's time or attention. If they don't value you and appreciate you on a genuine level, that person deserves to be left behind
I knew I was living with a narcissistic abuser. I kept encouraging her to find a new boyfriend and get the hell out of my house. The initial shock when I found out she left, quickly turned into relief that she was gone. And then began my recovery. 7 years out, and I don't care. May God bless and keep her as far away from me as possible. What I'm trying to say to you is sometimes when they walk away it's good.
not everyone behaves that way , most people in this day and age simply move on immediately after you have moved on without even a backward glance . We are unforetunately in a emotionally throw away society ie it is as easy as discarding a chip packet.
Had to finally do this to a friend of 15+ years recently. I like being kind and helpful where I can but I was frankly sick and tired of his inability to keep his word or even just return what was mine. The way he brushed off my warnings and concerns which ended up with me holding the bag for a debt I otherwise never would have gotten. No, I just blocked his number, socials...all of it. Maybe, just maybe this experience will teach him the value of keeping his word and paying his debts, monetary or otherwise. It's not about the money honestly, it was about the blatant disrespect.
Walking away from an abusive person is fine. But ghosting a good friend without any warning is BEING the abusive person. Know the difference! Communication is a function of love. It can never be wrong to talk it out before you leave.
This 100%. I don’t think people complaining about this video understands where it’s coming from. It’s talking about when someone has been cruel and disrespectful (abusive) to you.
@@Trasea Hi trasea , good evening ! 🥰 I hope my comment didn’t come across as intrusive. Your words reflect the kindness and beauty of your heart, which moved me to respond. I don’t usually comment, but I believe you truly deserve this compliment. If you’re open to it, I’d love to be friends. Thanks, and God bless you! 🌺🌺🌺
What happens when you are a seven year old child and your father walks away forever. Abandonnent issues and all the rest of the utterly destroying emotions that come with it. So although in life there are many times it is the right thing to walk away there are times this cannot be validated.
At 17 in 1979, I walked away from a person with whom I had an excellent friendship and I can tell everyone that I have regretted and thought about him for many years if I had to do it over I would not have walked away.
Uh oh....the plot thickens... your comment adds counterpoint to most of the others. Everybody is strapping on their hiking boots to take this advice but your comment at least advises others to THINK first: Was the person really abusive? What was our own role in allowing the abuse or disregarding it? I am intrigued by your comment because I am in a situation where the other person just wants me for sex but I want more. The song that keeps coming to mind is "I Can't Make You Love Me". I accept responsibility for rationalizing the behavior for over a year now, but I admit I enjoy the sex. I am NOT seeing myself as a victim in this situation, I believe in really looking at my own role in this. This person has been honest from the start as to the potential for romance. I want roses (yes, some men do!), not a perpetuation of booty calls, lol! But alas, I feel there is a difference between overt abuse and someone who is just scared of emotional intimacy and thus "emotionally unavailable". I have indeed walked away from two people in the past, but those people were genuinely abusive and tested my boundaries. I told both before moving in that ANY physical violence will lead to my leaving and I did ! I keep going back to current one because the sex is sizzling. I am thus not ready to walk away, but to instead "compartmentalize" so this person is now relegated to "the sex box" and I am privately resuming my search for a quality person who is not afraid of non-sexual touch and offers the affection I seek. A therapist was not helpful in sorting this out.
@@FriendofDorothy please try a different therapist - they are only human, some good, some not so good. Your situation is more common than you think and CAN be resolved. Have faith in you!
I explained why I was leaving and told the person I appreciated their friendship and wished them the best. I meant it and I wanted to end things on a positive note for me.
Problem is, in a social group of friends, you can get 1 wrong un in a group of say 5 friends. It can mean walking way from all 5...& As the others dont realise that 1 person is pretty toxic, as hes not fully toxic to them & treats them differently
I just walked away in silence from a man that I've been dating for several months. He still dates other women, doesn't include me in his future plans, shuts me down when I bring up my feelings around us and he lied to me. I walked, blocked and deleted all pictures, messages and phone calls. I'm done with the confusion and breadcrumbs.
You have essentially narrated my *EXACT* reasons WHY I DOORSLAM... by that point, I have made a completely UNREVERSABLE DECISION based on a detailed assessment of actual behavioral history, and concluded that those behavioral tracks ARE NOT what I want in my life... It boils down to me having more respect for myself, MY PEACE... & when I see VIVID DISRESPECT, THAT becomes the ultimate deal breaker, turning the door handle... my disgust at the cumulative pattern the force that permanently SLAMS the door so hard it fuses the hinges & seals off the threshold... *NEVER TO OPEN AGAIN.* 🖤
I walked away from my siblings of origin after taking care of all my parents HUGE after life stuff. Siblings would not lift a finger to help. I died mentally and internally at least 50x. Seriously! I literally would rather be physically tortured to the EXTREME and killed after a week rather than go through that again. I have not returned a call in 3 years. Unfortunately my adult son was contacted and he gave his version of my version which was not my version really, so the effect was kinda skewed. My son knew he goofed up afterwards. I Love my son more than anything in this life, so at the end of the day, I don't really care what these siblings or their families think or do. I don't think I will ever contact them.
I've been ghosted for no apparent reason, I'm a caring kind compassionate person who didn't deserve this horrible action, not all people are as this video says to the person whom walked away is this manner. It's very disturbing to see this be backed or cheered on to people as a way out of any type of relationship....
You can walk away from anyone no matter where you are. It doesn't mean that you have to move somewhere else, unless you lived with them. There will always be people who won't like you for whatever reasons, that's life. Just don't let them into your circle
I know. Happened to me. I didn’t expect it….and absolutely no word from him since for 9 months. He totally knew I would be heartbroken and that I loved him and was so happy. Yes, it was cruel…
@@Melinda8162 never knew this could happen to me let alone it was a thing but it is getting worse and worse. Society is accepting this along with some therapists encouraging it for their clients best interest, not thinking what it dies to the person on the receiv8ng end. I’m sorry you had to go through it🤗
Instead of speaking up and saying it directly and out or love we live in a world driven by power we forgot that we can transmute how people treat us with love Instead of giving them the same hate they gave us I’m not justifying staying in a disrespectful environment but this is not how we make the world a better place You can walk away with love
True. I dont think ghosting people is very mature or respectful. If everybody just walks away from a person without saying why we do so they will never know what causes it in case they wanna work on it.
@@zion367most times people walk away after having tolerated disrespect so many times, addressed the situation several time, observed possible changes and your last tired is tired. Most times the aggressor knows very well what they are doing. So ghosting is normally not ghosting because you will have followed the above to remedy the situation.
We probably had red flags before having to to walk away 🤷♂️ if you walked away the right way this isn’t a nice thing folks just saying removing someone u really cared about completely out of your life isn’t normal but it shows how far we’re willing to go when pushed to the limits 🥶 y’all stay blessed
I 'walked away'. Announcing I did not want to pursue the way we were. We needed to discuss, explore, and understand our relationship better. She deflected. She avoided. She freaked out. Sent me one of the cruelest emails I have ever read. I ignored it. I never responded nor attempted to recommunicate with her. I have not heard from her for several months now. It is sad, however we are better off without each other. My peace of mind and long term well being are too important to me.
Hearing somebody vocalize what I went through was such a pleasure! Difficult to do, BUT SMTH YOU MUST DO FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR PEACE! Once you so, every your perpective of relationships CHANGES FOR GOOD!
Here’s the But. What if you Ghost someone who has done nothing to you. And it happens more than I care to think about. There are only 2 perhaps 3 reasons to Ghost or Walk Away. If there is abuse,physical,verbal,or mind games. Yes get the hell out of the relationship. Its more like self preservation. But to just Walk Away or Ghost anyone who’s done nothing to you,either a friend a partner or someone your involved with romantically,thats just plain wrong. And there must be some defect in any person who does that to another person. Where’s the Honor,Integrity,or Character In that type of behavior. NONE.
@@billmiller1868 but this video is about them doing something wrong to you. My comment is parallel with the message of this video. "Nothing wrong" can be subjective. I also agree with you. If you did nothing wrong and can fully guarantee you did nothing then that person is chicken shit. Usually that's a sign of borderline personality. I got ghosted within a 30 minute window. I was training at a calisthenics park in Florida and met this beautiful Colombian lady. I would even buy her workout equipment as this was during the pandemic when workout equipment was in scarcity. She was my gym companion for about 6 weeks. We would work out together about a couple days a week for CrossFit but I saw her almost every day when I specifically did calisthenics. I saw her in the morning, said hello, kissed her, and handed her a 12 pound workout ball. It was a normal routine as I would always kiss her GM and goodby and she would lean in so I could kiss her. Within 30 minutes my workout was over I went to kiss her goodbye and tell her I was leaving Florida because the roads are opening back up and I won't be required to be quarantined going into Texas. She dodged my kiss. WTF. It definitely messed me up. She got real standoffish. I went to my vehicle with my feelings hurt and confused. There was no sexual chemistry and nothing in any text that showed sexual interest. I could even say I was friendzoned. But during the pandemic I had no one to talk to so being friendzoned was okay because I was lacking human interaction. I even called a friend and explained what happened and even he was baffled. I texted her explaining I was leaving for Texas and thank you for having conversation and training together. It was important to me that she at least knew I wouldn't be training at this specific park because just in case the situation made her uncomfortable she at least could go back to working out knowing I wouldn't be there anymore. But she left me on read. To this day it doesn't bother me but I will never forget the weird disgusted awkward feeling. Can you imagine kissing someone good morning, handing them an exercise ball that you bought, she accepts it just like the jump rope, and the perfect pushups she asked if I could get her, you go back to do your own workout, and then bam she ghosted you 30 minutes later to the point she looks repulsed by you. There would have been no point in asking why she ghosted or reacted like that. It was one of the weirdest confusing situations I have ever encountered.
I’m walking away from a friendship. She has deep seeded triggers that come out of her like a demon possessed her. It has happened 5 times or so in the 10 years I’ve known her. I intend to tell her why I’m leaving the friendship and it’s up to her to do something about it. There is no interest in what she does after I go, therefore no manipulation on my part. Thank you for this video mr F, I am intending to listen daily until it’s stuck in my head. You are a jewel, precious and so appreciated.
This is what I needed to hear!!! Three months ago I walked out the door and never looked back when he was out of town. We were together 5 years. I am finding peace and getting used to the new normal. I have had good days and bad days…but the hood out weigh the bad. If you are going through this, take life one day at a time. You will be ok and you are strong. Protect your peace and put yourself first…walk out that door, head held high, and DON’T look back!!!
You are such a 🤡 clown bro. Don't take every bullshit that sounds legit on the internet. People change.. we've all done stupid things that we ended up regretting about. Yes walk away, but if that person you walking way realizes her mistake, it is worth to give her a chance to prove she has changed. Moral of the story, how many people are you going to walk away if they make a mistake?
"Walking away", "Ghosting", "No contacting" is basically trauma bond triggering. It is good strategy to employ if someone treated you badly as people will only want to change bad behaviour when there are consequences, that's nature. The more drastic the disappearance the greater the impression, the deeper the lesson. If you want anyone to love and respect you, then boundaries are important. If you don't know what you went, then notice that it is the opposite of what you don't want. Love and respect yourself so you may protect others in your presence.
I dropped a narcissist , 2 actually ....boy they got MAD , insanely ANGRY....i had to ghost them...talking don't work...therefore ghosting is the logical choice .
This is exactly what I have done waking away, from my entire family including my mother sisters Frenemies lovers, everyone who did not appreciate me🤫 is their karma for what they have done to other people, before I got there🤷♀️ seeing people for who they really are no contact🎯 God is in control🙏🏽⚔🦁
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
People walk away after the other one allows a drop in their standards, they slowly ask for more and give less, they almost believe that you’ll never leave and the disrespect seeps in until they think so little of you that attempts to mess you about become obvious which they fail to get the better which creates an aggressive response from them, you just decide to leave and they act like they have no idea why you would change so suddenly. It’s their insecurity and entitlement over you that wants to put you in your place but they never predicted failure so most of their confusion is based on the fact they had control and did whatever they wanted and so the mystery remains that you changed because they will never admit they became toxic because in their head they always treated you this bad and it wasn’t a problem so they just blame you… and if that isn’t confirmation you did the right thing I don’t know what is.
I walked away from my narcissistic mother and even though I did it for my mental health I still hate to cause her pain and make her feel Abandoned because I know how that feel. But I have to realize she probably could care less since she had my golden child sister still there
Clear, concise, brilliant explanation. After close to 6 grueling months of rage, pain and anger over being played, I up and disappeared via blocking all avenues of contact. Poof …. Gone… Done! Brilliant video. Thank you.
I think a lot of people in the comments don’t understand this! Obviously walking away from anyone in this manner over willy nilly issues is cruel and immature. They must not know what this video is talking about- when someone takes advantage of you in a disrespectful manner, this is the only way to handle it. To send a strong message and to retrieve your integrity again. To do anything but is actually wrong. Those that do wrong (and you know they know they did wrong) do not deserve the respect and kindness. It would be placating them in their sickness not to send a strong message.
Officially walked away from a man who had a habit of walking out and dismissed me whenever we had difficult conversations and conflict. He was a person who always needed extra reaching out from me when we fought. I eventually got sick of his BS and ended it. I feel like a huge weight was lifted from me when i did it ❤ this video is very encouraging thank you 😊
From the 48 Laws of Power: #9 Win Through Your Actions, Never Through Argument. Walking away is exactly that once a viable solution is not possible. It's probably in the book somewhere as well, but never allow yourself to be put in a position of weakness. That today is marriage sanctioned by the State. An extremely disempowering action for men who want commitment yet it robs men of their personal authority.
@@poppytaylor765 If women lost so much they wouldn't be divorcing their husbands 2/3rds of the time. There is just no way "all" those men are the problem (many are). Add in the divorce industry fleecing the couple for as much as they can get and you can see why marriage has been going down for a couple of generations now. Your remark that women lose in divorce is the indication of their reliance on husbands to sustain their standards of living. But who am I kidding poppytaylor765, accountability to women is like Kryptonite to Superman.
@@Snarge22 I take accountability don’t worry and I’m self aware so personally think I’d make a good wife. I don’t speak for other women I speak for myself
Man can't trust your virtue@@poppytaylor765 as most all marriages are thought to be lifelong when the vows are given. ...until they're not. You need to ask yourself the question from a man's point of view, "What does marriage provide that I can't already get without it?" I'll help you with that answer in regards to men. The answer is; absolutely nothing! In fact it's much worse than that. Men still are held to their obligations, being accountable and responsible. Yet today in marriage they have no authority as that's been usurped by the state, its laws, and the divorce industry. Men can get sex outside of marriage (not guaranteed in marriage) and they can have children. Being able to get these makes a State marriage license utterly pointless to men who are aware of the legal dynamic. When men are in a long term relationship and not a State legal marriage, well that exit is never fully shut, and the women know this! It alters their behavior knowing their man isn't fully locked down. Good luck to you Poppy Taylor, but if you run across men reluctant to marry, you'll know why.
Ghosting is also done by narcissists when they find new supply, therefore being ghosted is not always a sign that the person who was left is the toxic one.
I just walked away but did explain quickly. I don’t care if it took power away cause it isn’t my goal to hurt them but just for myself. Haven’t looked back once.
i was looking for this. thank you. after crap on crap, i told someone i was going leave early in the morning. when they get up expecting coffee to be made and there is silence. now the person told me not to but the way you presented this is right on. thank you. doug
People never think about the ones left behind. It’s a tightrope…. Trust too much and you get killed inside… Trust too little and you kill others inside… It’s a tightrope… Over the abyss one must walk for everyone…. “I know it’s hard to keep an open heart when even friends seem out to harm you.” (November Rain, Guns N’ Roses) 🌹☸️🔫
I walked away today.. i have done it some times.. never gets easier but every time you do it you are more convinced and certain you are doing the right thing. stay strong and NEVER look back!
I have never in my life ever thought of turning my back on anyone. My whole family has a estranged me overnight during my divorce, when I needed them the most. They gave me no explanation. For 10 years now. I no longer have holidays birthdays etc nothing and they will not tell me what I have done, I have done nothing to any of them. I have isolated myself and the pain is is like this video says. I think the estrangement is evil, selfish and most of all hatred and the worst drama ever! God is Love!
Even worse for me bc I can’t walk away from someone who doesn’t love me back but he doesn’t necessarily hurt me in those aspects. But, some things he does do hurt me emotionally.
Yes, it's easy to walk away when they treat you like dirt but it's sooo hurtful to walk away when they're nice to you but it just hurts to be in touch with them but can't be involved with them
I wish i did this with my ex, i had been going through a lot of shit all at once and found out she was hiding things from me on top of it, i wanted a person that wasnt really their anymore, she had broken up with me and gotten with someone else right after, fucked me up alot but now I at least know the real her.
It's better to tell them you're walking away. Otherwise the chapter is still open and there's no closure. You must let them know you're done with their bullshit. Ghosting is, in most cases, immature, and doesn't have the powerful effect than saying it so.
Actually you are talking about Ghosting. That is immature. Give reasons because of YOU, not them! We are all here to teach and learn from one another. Take the high road.
I settled for crumbs for over 11 YEARS from my "boyfriend" Tim and gave him a million chances. I worked on loving myself, accepting the good and bad and easily walked away in Jan when again he gave me crumbs of his time and attention. I am filled with so much joy that when I met Ed I think that's what attracted him to me and vice verse. when we're together, we are so comfortable with each other and we laugh so much. He is wonderful and has no insecurities about letting me know that he thinks I am too. I am 60 years old and hoping it continues like this but if not, I'm fine alone. Wishing everyone joy and happiness in themselves first. That's the key 🔑
Walking away from someone too quickly, without giving a person a chance to understand, change or redeem themselves, can be extremely damaging. Think twice before you do it!
Thank you for your encouragement to walk away from bad behavior that has been going on for Far to many years by 2 daughter's.,,,,the bridge has been burned forever. Thank you very grateful!
I have stept away from my ex-partner and 3 years ago, not saying anything or what not. And not looking back either, cut all communications as well It did its purpose, the only that bugs me is the fact I left my adopted son who I took care of since he was a month old. But I know its for the best, Now I'm back with my parents and don't have any plans of getting back into any emotional relationship after what I have gone through but seeing my parents who are in their 80's, got myself a new job, and seeing them being happy with me around is what completes me. Thank you Mr. Forged, you've been of great help making me stand on my own feet again. I've watched your uploads consistently, I cant thank you enough
@markuzzz266I don't think I'm capable of being an emotional tampon for any woman ever again it's been 15 months and I did the same thing as far as leaving complete no contact.Right before XMAS she tried to contact me. Some people are to emotionally damaged and entitled to have a healthy relationship and they don't have or refuse to acknowledge self-awareness to heal there baggage. My mental, emotional, physical, spiritual health is healing and my confidence is coming back. Fulfillment in life comes from within !
Poor behavior on your part. You tell someone why you are leaving. You act in respectful manner to them and to yourself. Had you done it the proper way, you may still be in your son's life.
I think if you walk away without saying anything is doing the same thing that they can do. I walked away but I told him I didn't want to be contacted again. I have moved on with my life and want to be left alone. I felt better saying that. Just not answering texts or else would have made me feel disrespectful and I am walking away for this very reason, because I am not respected by him. So I don't want to have the same behaviour.
Partner one patiently offers some valuable advice about a sub optimal relationship. The other partner misinterprets this is criticism and abuse and walks away imagining how difficult it will be for partner one. Partner one throws a party and declares "good-riddance". The one who walked away is surprised that partner one doesn't try to re-connect. The is a huge blow to the ego of the one who walked, but without returning, the ego cannot recover. The joke is on the one that walked.
Gave the advice to make things go well multiple times . Said sorry even when i was not wrong. Old baggages traumas were coming out i realised i needed healing as triggers were there and admitted im a work in progress reminded them and understood what triggers them instead of criticising kindly mentioned what exactly they need to work on the silent treatment was unbearable as it was happening in regard to context of an argument ( not relationship but something outside relationship ya so silly) was hindering my healing journey and focus so had to take a hard decision to bid farewell with all the courage i could bare even before leaving left a note regarding why exactly i left said thanks for everything asked for forgiveness and said sorry as well, did possibly everything a human can but in the end i had to mention we won't be talking anymore. Have had enough but i do take 100percnt responsibility for what happened from my part making myself jst an option Never ever put someone else before you the hardest lesson as an empath its not how life and love works its different. I feel sad that my nervous system is kind of dysregulated now but yea everything will workout in my favour the we are born alone we die alone everything is just an add on. And forgiveness is a must to heal no more attachments
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This entire monologue All of it On point Self respect and dignity You nailed it man You have no idea how important this is to me man Changed my life Running into this and some of your other vids, you saved ONE LIFE bro Real talk Thank you
A great point of view..I personally can't follow your great act or strategy right cus it aims to hurt certain individual..the reason I can't is due to the fact that by exercising your move it will benefit not me..cus the person will likely be at peace no more lies ,no more games,so how is that ,well u see if anyone that knows the party's involve most likely know who benefits right ,"past relationships " it's all ther to question ..and I'm the one with numerous ,break ups ... numerous woman who I was a regret ..so u c I can't move like that .people ain't dummy .they choose not look into facts .
As always , Great insigts Mr Forge. My previous attempts with this one girl were meet with a low reciprocation of energy , felt under appreciated and my instincts just tell me that I should watch out co sth major might happened if I continue to tolatare her. Your videos are timeless and priceless . Thank you and hope to see more videos from you
Although this has it's place, it's also a tool of the narcissist. It's also not that easy to just walk away when you share things like a mortgage, kids, and other financial obligations. You don't even have to be married for these things to happen. Walk away if it's the right thing to do, but not to cut your nose off to spite your face. Ergo...don't be stupid.
They already know why you are walking away. No explanations needed - you’ll eventually find yourself in a long conversation or gas lit - they will surely change the narrative on what happened to cause you to leave . The truth don’t need no defense!! Just go❤
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I have done this 3 times in my life and have not ever regretted it! I am now in my 70's. When people treat you badly, why would you even be attracted to that? Once you close the door, you will realize you are no longer attracted to them. That's the best part! Be brave and take that step. It's the best gift you will give yourself.
i have no issue with extracting anyone from my life.
Absolutely. Best advice you could ever give somebody, sir. Thank you very much and I am fully wholeheartedly agree with you. I've done that a couple of times in my life. And I do not regret it at all. It's given me more peace in of mind and a little smirk.😂
I was “forced” to do this ONCE in my life. I hate to have to do it but that individual was TOXIC AS FK!!!
ive done it many, many, times. 0 regret. @@alicehong7809
Sage advice.
Hold your head up high and walk away from their toxicity. You owe it to yourself.
The only way to escape and depart "their" control is the Irish Goodbye.
Always love yourself enough to walk away from empty, sour and jealous individuals from the start, they are not worth your precious energies.
Doing this to someone you actually care for and they care back, is like suicide without your physical death. I've considered both
@nohandle4u2see Ty for your response. I have learnt that it is alright to love and care for some from a distance. You don't need to be enmeshed in their life or what ever they are up to. Fact is, it is their choice to live their life in accordance to themselves. Sadly, no one can interfere even if their choices are poor. With every decision comes a consequence. Just hoping better decisions are made so that there is no harsh consequences. Goodluck and stay strong.
Walking away is self protecting, not punishment for the other person.
2 birds in 1 stone sometimes. 😏
Yes, self protection! Sometimes your body can no longer take the stress.
Walking away meet I respect myself, indeed, a self protecting act toward myself, toxic humans are NOT WORTH my loving self.
exactly. it has nothing to do with punishment.
True. While this video does make some valid points, it is really not about self-preservation, but instead, punishing those who have hurt us, or, as is more often the case, someone who we feel has hurt us. If we must end a relationship for our own health, that is one thing; to end a relationship and then gloat over the hurt you think (hope) the other person is feeling is toxic.This video is not about healthy ways to improve our lives, it is about extracting perceived revenge.
This is a wise move, however, walking away/ghosting will have zero impact on someone who doesn't appreciate or value you. You're doing it for yourself. They likely don't care anyway. They may miss the benefits your presence brought. (REITERATING)
True, but this effect goes deeper to why . Try cord cutting on a metaphysical level since alot of invisible energy may be still flowing to them that you may as well consider as energy they have stolen from you.
People fail to respectfully value presence cause it's hard to put a price tag on it. That's also why it's harder to keep track of your own energetic balance.
At the end of the day it should be you who determines if they get to be high or low on your energies. And usually narcissist... guilt trip you without any care for your side of the story
So so true🎉
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Fuxk them who cares what they think. Their miserable anyways hence why the harrass you and try interfer In your life and happiness 💯
@@ChiDante Also They will gaslight you further to steal a connection. It's like they're stuck in this infancy stage of their own mental maturity. There are no exceptions and no malice. Forgive people and move on with your life simple.
This is a powerful mindset but is not to be taken lightly. Only walk away from those who truly deserve it.
That's exactly what I did and I met the most beautiful soul ❤ after doing do
Some people walk away too quickly, without trying to understand the real issues.
@@valeriezaitzieff1462if someone cheat on you 3 months after having a baby with you what would you do
@@valeriezaitzieff1462 this. I’ve been ghosted before by people when I didn’t deserve it or really even know the specific reason why.
But I have ghosted two people who absolutely did deserve it.
Always do your best to not abuse your power, even if they abused you - after all... the best revenge is to not become like them. Be Better
Very much this, stay authentic and kind instead of calculating but walk if it's deserved.
OMG! What perfecting timing for me to find and listen to what you've said. I walked away, I walked away from disrespect, being too available, bresdcrumbing, giving them the comfort of never having to think twice, etc. I loved him, I fed his ego, bolstered a broken, wounded soul, and forgot about me....I walked away, and I'm never looking back. Thank you so very much ❤😢
I hope he wasn’t me. I regret having blocked someone almost right after doing it and now I regret it deeply I didn’t understand how much damage it caused her either. The worst thing I’ve ever done. I know I killed all attraction, I had never been in a relationship before and I hate having to learn what not to do the hard way, I just hope she’ll accept my new friend request so we at the very least can have some closure
@martinpegeeson4350 Just move on. You started a chain of events that will never stop. Practice self control next time and so not be so impulsive
@@SabrinaDacosta yeah you’re right
Broke it yesterday but I can't even sleep, I liked him but all I was getting was self doubt, breadcrumbs and disrespect. 😢
I finally walked away after trying to break up from him for several years. It has been 12 months now. It has been so hard at times, so painful, however it has also been amazing. I have learnt so much about myself and completely valuing and appreciating who I am. A beautiful, kind and compassionate woman. I gave my love to the wrong man. I won’t do that again. That’s a promise. I totally love and honour myself and deserve the best.
I know someone who chose to cut ties with their family about 40 years ago and never looked back. I was one of the ones that this person cut ties with. Now I don't know why this person did what they did, I've heard a couple of different stories, but I can say this: after this person left it was as if they never existed. No one said that they missed that person, no one went looking for them, if the subject came up it was "this person being themselves, this is what they wanted" and the subject promptly changed. A few years ago, someone from the family finally decided to find this person. By this time they had passed away. Now, this may sound strange, but I do not blame this person for leaving. I may not understand the particular reasons why, but seeing how they were erased from the family was very instructive and told me what I could expect should I drop out of sight willingly or unwillingly. My advice is if you feel you must leave, leave, but don't expect that those you've left behind are grieving. They may not even notice that you are gone, and if they do, they probably don't care enough to find out what happened.
💯 my experience with walking away. It's the most difficult truth I have had to accept.
Anyone who walks away from a family that doesn't know they're toxic, does not care if they are grieved by that family for their leaving. They have set themselves free.
That is sad, but it seems true. The number of people we would genuinely miss seems few. And who would miss us. I keep wondering what type of person would be missed the most. I think children for sure and usually a parent. But aside from those obvious connections, would it be a person’s usefulness (eg money they bring in or helpful tasks they perform), emotional connection, physical attractiveness, charm & charisma, attitude (eg cheerful & positive vs negative and pessimistic), authenticity, empathy, calmness, energetic, fun, sense of humour? Would would a person have to be for others to truly miss them?
@@universaltruth2025 If they weren't missed while they are still here then they won't be missed when they are gone. I'm talking about people who others ignore, who are seldom included in conversations, the person who is always on the outside. They may be present but they are invisible, they are ghosts and when they are no longer present nobody notices that they are no longer present. The person who doesn't quite fit in. The person who is different, the person who is socially awkward. I think you know what kind of people I'm talking about, look around. Who do you talk to and who talks to you? Is it one-sided where only one person initiates contact. Who do you see by themselves even at a family gathering--especially at a family gathering? "I was a cold one for leaving that way," Meryl Streep sings in "Rikki and the Flash": "But nobody stopped me or asked me to stay." The roots are there long before the person decides to leave, maybe is the real reason why they are leaving.
Based on what you described, I totally understand why that person cut ties with their family/you. My only question is why it took them 40 years to do so? Seems they'd have been better off cutting ties decades earlier
Yes it’s the cruelest thing you can do and usually it’s the abuser who has no empathy that does this to the one who truly cares , so when it happens just believe who they showed you who they are , it doesn’t look like it now but they are giving you a gift !
Yes, I think you are right. Someone walked away from me, with no clue at all, and this person was abusive. The narcissist leaves when you have nothing to give them but your love and kindness. ❤🙏🏽
Thats’s true! Once you get over the pain and confusion,and I don’t use the word lightly,you will SEE THEM. And you will see the gift the gift they gave you.
I walked away from an abusive BPD wife in 2016, best thing Ive ever done. No regrets.
It's not cruel at all. It's self-preservation and self-respect to flee from a toxic friend/lover etc. Most people don't have the guts to do it but they should learn how to do it and free themselves from the negativity.
@@lanebashford3982I believe there’s 2 sides of this. Not everybody are abusers that get abandoned.
sometimes a person walks away not because they’ve been mistreated but because they have been using the other person and they’ve gotten what they wanted
Yeah most of the times this is the case
Not the context of this video.
This is the actual reason.
Facts, thats why I had to walk away silently yesterday I had too.
That's not what we're talking about here
I am the one who has been walked away from. Everything you say is correct about the one who is left alone. I am a mom who did her best in the years that I raised my kids. In those years I lived in an abusive situation that nobody knew about. I struggled with severe depression in that time, but having my kids around was the joy of my life. Today they have nothing to do with me. They give no explanation. I tell them I am sorry for whatever I did to hurt them….I can’t tell you how very many times I have asked for forgivenessI have cried and cried. This time the separation is complete. All you say is how I feel, how I see myself. They don’t know that I, too, have walked away. Today I find comfort in Christ, His Word, His promise never to leave me or fore sake me. I pray for my kids…Certainly I still love them!
God bless you sister. Maybe you should also consider the type of people your children became, and I do not mean that in any nasty way. Souls incarnate here in this school of life for a purpose and to learn lessons through particular life experiences. Parents and early family are a fundamental part of that lesson, as they are like the bow that shoots the arrow in a particular direction.
I was divorced in my late twenties and tried so hard to keep in contact with my young son, while his mother created a new family with a new man and pushed me out in order to do that. Unfortunately, my son grew up to be arrogant and self-centered and showed very little, if any, desire to maintain contact with me, his natural father. For a long time I blamed the divorce and its effect on him, but eventually realised that it was his fundamental basic character and that I was deluding myself. It took the impartial observations of others to make me realize that. He is now into all kinds of perversions and a few years ago I disinherited him. What are the impartial observations of others that knew both you and your situation, as maybe they would give you clues?
Peace be with you.
So very sad...
Stay strong sister. You are doing the right thing. May god bless you😇
I feel all your words and read the following reply from markcrocks, you Saud no one knew of the yra of the abuse, you did your bes5 to raise your kids, yet there's some truth in marks words that your kids' characters were formed from what they witnessed from your ex husband's behavior and they inherited some if that lack of empathy towards you that can't be humanily changed by you.. only God's grace can convert hardened hearts. I'll pray with you for this to happen. In the meantime, find confort in your newfound freedom from abuse and in Christ's love.
(from someone who's been there too)
Hurt people hurt people. Everyone needs help. Everyone deserves a second chance if they do.
I walked away from a woman that was both narcistic and pshycotic and then this video came im glad for that great advice from you keep the good work up
Omg...I'm in the same boat
Me too!! Said bye bye psycho bish!
Pushycotic? Lol.
Interesting video content. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
My boyfriend left me after 20 years, I became disabled and he had found someone not disabled.
My husband blindsided me with divorce papers after 20 years of marriage. I didn’t cry or beg. I am walking away now.
good for you. your always the last to know.
@@lilfairycupcake it’s so true. His entire family knew before me
@@lpsglitterpaws8536its a sick lil game people play to make themselves feel more powerful. would also incorporate 0 contact into your just walking away scenario; it helps hammer home just how lil you care. not caring, properly applied, can be a beautiful thing.
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😮wow. Thats crazy.
bow to you
Walking Away Is a Man’s Greatest Strength 🚶🏻♂️💪
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Or woman
Cowardness
@@blacklyfe5543 Ok Tough Guy
@@malone4735 ik I'm tough only a coward walks away from danger a real man stands on his own feet and fight for what he believes in 🤫. It's okay to walk away from certain situations that might jepardize your job or freedom but you should enforce respect among your enemies, there's no place for disrespect in my world.
For this philosophy to be applied correctly, the person should firstly be wary of their own dilutions and unrealistic expectations from the person/people they're planning to walk away from, otherwise, you'll end up unintentionally hurting the people who genuely cares for you.
When one has difficulty walking away from a relationship they know they should leave, they’re most likely suffering from a trauma bond. These bonds happen when a person literally becomes drug addicted to the feel good hormones swirling in their brain. The abuser uses intermittent reinforcement, and breaking these bonds as difficult as quitting any drug addiction. Only once a person realizes that there is a problem is the road to healing opened.
You should never have to beg or bend over backwards for someone else's time or attention. If they don't value you and appreciate you on a genuine level, that person deserves to be left behind
I just ghosted this chick after 12 years for all the reasons the content creator mentioned. Best thing i could've done. I haven't looked back.
I knew I was living with a narcissistic abuser. I kept encouraging her to find a new boyfriend and get the hell out of my house. The initial shock when I found out she left, quickly turned into relief that she was gone. And then began my recovery. 7 years out, and I don't care. May God bless and keep her as far away from me as possible. What I'm trying to say to you is sometimes when they walk away it's good.
I wish I was taught this when I was 5 years old. This is the best advice I’ve ever heard.
Well this is a message for me. I've been around folks who only bring me more harm than good. Thank you.
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Don’t walk away, fly away Eagle 🦅
not everyone behaves that way , most people in this day and age simply move on immediately after you have moved on without even a backward glance . We are unforetunately in a emotionally throw away society ie it is as easy as discarding a chip packet.
Yes it's created a lonely epidemic
You don’t do it for/against them but for yourself. Self love, self respect.
Had to finally do this to a friend of 15+ years recently. I like being kind and helpful where I can but I was frankly sick and tired of his inability to keep his word or even just return what was mine.
The way he brushed off my warnings and concerns which ended up with me holding the bag for a debt I otherwise never would have gotten. No, I just blocked his number, socials...all of it.
Maybe, just maybe this experience will teach him the value of keeping his word and paying his debts, monetary or otherwise. It's not about the money honestly, it was about the blatant disrespect.
Unfortunately my guy you can kiss your money good bye. Didn't seem like a good friend to start with. Good luck hopefully you'll be out of debt soon.
generally they dont. a holes, generally stay a holes.
Walking away from an abusive person is fine. But ghosting a good friend without any warning is BEING the abusive person. Know the difference! Communication is a function of love. It can never be wrong to talk it out before you leave.
This 100%.
I don’t think people complaining about this video understands where it’s coming from. It’s talking about when someone has been cruel and disrespectful (abusive) to you.
@@Trasea Hi trasea , good evening ! 🥰 I hope my comment didn’t come across as intrusive. Your words reflect the kindness and beauty of your heart, which moved me to respond. I don’t usually comment, but I believe you truly deserve this compliment. If you’re open to it, I’d love to be friends. Thanks, and God bless you! 🌺🌺🌺
What happens when you are a seven year old child and your father walks away forever. Abandonnent issues and all the rest of the utterly destroying emotions that come with it. So although in life there are many times it is the right thing to walk away there are times this cannot be validated.
At 17 in 1979, I walked away from a person with whom I had an excellent friendship and I can tell everyone that I have regretted and thought about him for many years if I had to do it over I would not have walked away.
Uh oh....the plot thickens... your comment adds counterpoint to most of the others. Everybody is strapping on their hiking boots to take this advice but your comment at least advises others to THINK first: Was the person really abusive? What was our own role in allowing the abuse or disregarding it? I am intrigued by your comment because I am in a situation where the other person just wants me for sex but I want more. The song that keeps coming to mind is "I Can't Make You Love Me". I accept responsibility for rationalizing the behavior for over a year now, but I admit I enjoy the sex. I am NOT seeing myself as a victim in this situation, I believe in really looking at my own role in this. This person has been honest from the start as to the potential for romance. I want roses (yes, some men do!), not a perpetuation of booty calls, lol! But alas, I feel there is a difference between overt abuse and someone who is just scared of emotional intimacy and thus "emotionally unavailable". I have indeed walked away from two people in the past, but those people were genuinely abusive and tested my boundaries. I told both before moving in that ANY physical violence will lead to my leaving and I did ! I keep going back to current one because the sex is sizzling. I am thus not ready to walk away, but to instead "compartmentalize" so this person is now relegated to "the sex box" and I am privately resuming my search for a quality person who is not afraid of non-sexual touch and offers the affection I seek. A therapist was not helpful in sorting this out.
Oh wow. 1979…
The fact that they didn't try to get you back tells you that you did the right thing.
@@FriendofDorothy please try a different therapist - they are only human, some good, some not so good. Your situation is more common than you think and CAN be resolved. Have faith in you!
I explained why I was leaving and told the person I appreciated their friendship and wished them the best. I meant it and I wanted to end things on a positive note for me.
The video says you aren't supposed to explain.
Problem is, in a social group of friends, you can get 1 wrong un in a group of say 5 friends. It can mean walking way from all 5...& As the others dont realise that 1 person is pretty toxic, as hes not fully toxic to them & treats them differently
This is my experience recently thank you
No fs given. Loving n caring for others more than self will only give u repeated experiences until u do. Live on the present moment 🎉
I just walked away in silence from a man that I've been dating for several months. He still dates other women, doesn't include me in his future plans, shuts me down when I bring up my feelings around us and he lied to me. I walked, blocked and deleted all pictures, messages and phone calls. I'm done with the confusion and breadcrumbs.
You have essentially narrated my *EXACT* reasons WHY I DOORSLAM... by that point, I have made a completely UNREVERSABLE DECISION based on a detailed assessment of actual behavioral history, and concluded that those behavioral tracks ARE NOT what I want in my life... It boils down to me having more respect for myself, MY PEACE... & when I see VIVID DISRESPECT, THAT becomes the ultimate deal breaker, turning the door handle... my disgust at the cumulative pattern the force that permanently SLAMS the door so hard it fuses the hinges & seals off the threshold... *NEVER TO OPEN AGAIN.* 🖤
I walked away from my siblings of origin after taking care of all my parents HUGE after life stuff. Siblings would not lift a finger to help. I died mentally and internally at least 50x. Seriously! I literally would rather be physically tortured to the EXTREME and killed after a week rather than go through that again. I have not returned a call in 3 years. Unfortunately my adult son was contacted and he gave his version of my version which was not my version really, so the effect was kinda skewed. My son knew he goofed up afterwards. I Love my son more than anything in this life, so at the end of the day, I don't really care what these siblings or their families think or do. I don't think I will ever contact them.
I've been ghosted for no apparent reason, I'm a caring kind compassionate person who didn't deserve this horrible action, not all people are as this video says to the person whom walked away is this manner. It's very disturbing to see this be backed or cheered on to people as a way out of any type of relationship....
Exactly. Not everyone deserves to be ghosted. Especially if you are a caring person. I am speaking from experience.
Their rejection is your protection.
@@yeswing10 amen 🙏🏽
In your case, that TRASH took itself out.
If your for real. Consider it as an act of God. And run, change your phone number and address. And don't look back. For your OWN well being.
You can walk away from anyone no matter where you are. It doesn't mean that you have to move somewhere else, unless you lived with them. There will always be people who won't like you for whatever reasons, that's life. Just don't let them into your circle
It’s horrible to do this to anyone….absolutely disgusting unless of course they were abusive
I know. Happened to me. I didn’t expect it….and absolutely no word from him since for 9 months. He totally knew I would be heartbroken and that I loved him and was so happy. Yes, it was cruel…
@@Melinda8162 never knew this could happen to me let alone it was a thing but it is getting worse and worse. Society is accepting this along with some therapists encouraging it for their clients best interest, not thinking what it dies to the person on the receiv8ng end. I’m sorry you had to go through it🤗
Instead of speaking up and saying it directly and out or love we live in a world driven by power we forgot that we can transmute how people treat us with love
Instead of giving them the same hate they gave us
I’m not justifying staying in a disrespectful environment but this is not how we make the world a better place
You can walk away with love
Nah fuck that
True. I dont think ghosting people is very mature or respectful.
If everybody just walks away from a person without saying why we do so they will never know what causes it in case they wanna work on it.
Go back to your korean drama bullcrap my guy
@@zion367most times people walk away after having tolerated disrespect so many times, addressed the situation several time, observed possible changes and your last tired is tired. Most times the aggressor knows very well what they are doing. So ghosting is normally not ghosting because you will have followed the above to remedy the situation.
@@WNdaba I still think we can let them know we are done with their crap.
We probably had red flags before having to to walk away 🤷♂️ if you walked away the right way this isn’t a nice thing folks just saying removing someone u really cared about completely out of your life isn’t normal but it shows how far we’re willing to go when pushed to the limits 🥶 y’all stay blessed
I 'walked away'. Announcing I did not want to pursue the way we were. We needed to discuss, explore, and understand our relationship better. She deflected. She avoided. She freaked out. Sent me one of the cruelest emails I have ever read. I ignored it. I never responded nor attempted to recommunicate with her. I have not heard from her for several months now. It is sad, however we are better off without each other. My peace of mind and long term well being are too important to me.
Get away & stay away my friend 👍
Hearing somebody vocalize what I went through was such a pleasure! Difficult to do, BUT SMTH YOU MUST DO FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR PEACE! Once you so, every your perpective of relationships CHANGES FOR GOOD!
This is why I dislike when people say it's wrong to ghost someone. I'm all for ghosting a person.
It’s weak and manipulative
Here’s the But. What if you Ghost someone who has done nothing to you. And it happens more than I care to think about. There are only 2 perhaps 3 reasons to Ghost or Walk Away. If there is abuse,physical,verbal,or mind games. Yes get the hell out of the relationship. Its more like self preservation. But to just Walk Away or Ghost anyone who’s done nothing to you,either a friend a partner or someone your involved with romantically,thats just plain wrong. And there must be some defect in any person who does that to another person. Where’s the Honor,Integrity,or Character In that type of behavior. NONE.
@@billmiller1868 agreed
@@billmiller1868 but this video is about them doing something wrong to you. My comment is parallel with the message of this video. "Nothing wrong" can be subjective. I also agree with you. If you did nothing wrong and can fully guarantee you did nothing then that person is chicken shit. Usually that's a sign of borderline personality. I got ghosted within a 30 minute window. I was training at a calisthenics park in Florida and met this beautiful Colombian lady. I would even buy her workout equipment as this was during the pandemic when workout equipment was in scarcity. She was my gym companion for about 6 weeks. We would work out together about a couple days a week for CrossFit but I saw her almost every day when I specifically did calisthenics. I saw her in the morning, said hello, kissed her, and handed her a 12 pound workout ball. It was a normal routine as I would always kiss her GM and goodby and she would lean in so I could kiss her. Within 30 minutes my workout was over I went to kiss her goodbye and tell her I was leaving Florida because the roads are opening back up and I won't be required to be quarantined going into Texas. She dodged my kiss. WTF. It definitely messed me up. She got real standoffish. I went to my vehicle with my feelings hurt and confused. There was no sexual chemistry and nothing in any text that showed sexual interest. I could even say I was friendzoned. But during the pandemic I had no one to talk to so being friendzoned was okay because I was lacking human interaction. I even called a friend and explained what happened and even he was baffled. I texted her explaining I was leaving for Texas and thank you for having conversation and training together. It was important to me that she at least knew I wouldn't be training at this specific park because just in case the situation made her uncomfortable she at least could go back to working out knowing I wouldn't be there anymore. But she left me on read. To this day it doesn't bother me but I will never forget the weird disgusted awkward feeling. Can you imagine kissing someone good morning, handing them an exercise ball that you bought, she accepts it just like the jump rope, and the perfect pushups she asked if I could get her, you go back to do your own workout, and then bam she ghosted you 30 minutes later to the point she looks repulsed by you. There would have been no point in asking why she ghosted or reacted like that. It was one of the weirdest confusing situations I have ever encountered.
@billmiller 👏👏👏
I’m walking away from a friendship. She has deep seeded triggers that come out of her like a demon possessed her. It has happened 5 times or so in the 10 years I’ve known her. I intend to tell her why I’m leaving the friendship and it’s up to her to do something about it. There is no interest in what she does after I go, therefore no manipulation on my part.
Thank you for this video mr F, I am intending to listen daily until it’s stuck in my head. You are a jewel, precious and so appreciated.
🎶"You got ta know when to hold em, know when ta fold em.' Know when ta walk away, know when ta run"🎶
You never count your money
When you're sittin' at the table
There'll be time enough for countin'
When the dealing's done
Kenny Rogers
This is what I needed to hear!!! Three months ago I walked out the door and never looked back when he was out of town. We were together 5 years. I am finding peace and getting used to the new normal. I have had good days and bad days…but the hood out weigh the bad. If you are going through this, take life one day at a time. You will be ok and you are strong. Protect your peace and put yourself first…walk out that door, head held high, and DON’T look back!!!
Exactly. This is what I did. She came back and I did not accept her.
You are such a 🤡 clown bro. Don't take every bullshit that sounds legit on the internet.
People change.. we've all done stupid things that we ended up regretting about. Yes walk away, but if that person you walking way realizes her mistake, it is worth to give her a chance to prove she has changed.
Moral of the story, how many people are you going to walk away if they make a mistake?
"Walking away", "Ghosting", "No contacting" is basically trauma bond triggering. It is good strategy to employ if someone treated you badly as people will only want to change bad behaviour when there are consequences, that's nature. The more drastic the disappearance the greater the impression, the deeper the lesson.
If you want anyone to love and respect you, then boundaries are important. If you don't know what you went, then notice that it is the opposite of what you don't want.
Love and respect yourself so you may protect others in your presence.
I dropped a narcissist , 2 actually ....boy they got MAD , insanely ANGRY....i had to ghost them...talking don't work...therefore ghosting is the logical choice .
I lost something I never had, yet it hurts so bad. Here, I summed it up for you!
This is exactly what I have done waking away, from my entire family including my mother sisters Frenemies lovers, everyone who did not appreciate me🤫 is their karma for what they have done to other people, before I got there🤷♀️ seeing people for who they really are no contact🎯 God is in control🙏🏽⚔🦁
Wonderful speech l love it .lt inspired me .A Nigerian watching from lvory coast
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
Really? How do i find one?
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
People walk away after the other one allows a drop in their standards, they slowly ask for more and give less, they almost believe that you’ll never leave and the disrespect seeps in until they think so little of you that attempts to mess you about become obvious which they fail to get the better which creates an aggressive response from them, you just decide to leave and they act like they have no idea why you would change so suddenly.
It’s their insecurity and entitlement over you that wants to put you in your place but they never predicted failure so most of their confusion is based on the fact they had control and did whatever they wanted and so the mystery remains that you changed because they will never admit they became toxic because in their head they always treated you this bad and it wasn’t a problem so they just blame you… and if that isn’t confirmation you did the right thing I don’t know what is.
This is a powerful Action taken to protect yourself from Stepping backwards 🤔
I walked away from my narcissistic mother and even though I did it for my mental health I still hate to cause her pain and make her feel Abandoned because I know how that feel. But I have to realize she probably could care less since she had my golden child sister still there
Clear, concise, brilliant explanation. After close to 6 grueling months of rage, pain and anger over being played, I up and disappeared via blocking all avenues of contact. Poof …. Gone… Done! Brilliant video. Thank you.
you have little option but to walk away from narcs..trying to reason with them only keeps you pulled into the hell vortex..they know what they did
Yes
I think a lot of people in the comments don’t understand this!
Obviously walking away from anyone in this manner over willy nilly issues is cruel and immature.
They must not know what this video is talking about- when someone takes advantage of you in a disrespectful manner, this is the only way to handle it. To send a strong message and to retrieve your integrity again. To do anything but is actually wrong. Those that do wrong (and you know they know they did wrong) do not deserve the respect and kindness. It would be placating them in their sickness not to send a strong message.
Of course you have to walk away from narcs they'll rat you out to the po for your drugs lol
Officially walked away from a man who had a habit of walking out and dismissed me whenever we had difficult conversations and conflict. He was a person who always needed extra reaching out from me when we fought. I eventually got sick of his BS and ended it. I feel like a huge weight was lifted from me when i did it ❤ this video is very encouraging thank you 😊
silence is golden and sends a deafening message...
Retribution and justice are both dishes best served cold 👌
I just did this. Handled it with class, she tried to make it all crazy but I didn't feed into it. I know it is for the best
Stay strong
From the 48 Laws of Power: #9 Win Through Your Actions, Never Through Argument.
Walking away is exactly that once a viable solution is not possible.
It's probably in the book somewhere as well, but never allow yourself to be put in a position of weakness. That today is marriage sanctioned by the State. An extremely disempowering action for men who want commitment yet it robs men of their personal authority.
And women because both lose when it comes to divorce
@@poppytaylor765 If women lost so much they wouldn't be divorcing their husbands 2/3rds of the time. There is just no way "all" those men are the problem (many are). Add in the divorce industry fleecing the couple for as much as they can get and you can see why marriage has been going down for a couple of generations now. Your remark that women lose in divorce is the indication of their reliance on husbands to sustain their standards of living. But who am I kidding poppytaylor765, accountability to women is like Kryptonite to Superman.
@@Snarge22 I take accountability don’t worry and I’m self aware so personally think I’d make a good wife. I don’t speak for other women I speak for myself
Man can't trust your virtue@@poppytaylor765 as most all marriages are thought to be lifelong when the vows are given. ...until they're not. You need to ask yourself the question from a man's point of view, "What does marriage provide that I can't already get without it?" I'll help you with that answer in regards to men. The answer is; absolutely nothing! In fact it's much worse than that. Men still are held to their obligations, being accountable and responsible. Yet today in marriage they have no authority as that's been usurped by the state, its laws, and the divorce industry. Men can get sex outside of marriage (not guaranteed in marriage) and they can have children. Being able to get these makes a State marriage license utterly pointless to men who are aware of the legal dynamic. When men are in a long term relationship and not a State legal marriage, well that exit is never fully shut, and the women know this! It alters their behavior knowing their man isn't fully locked down.
Good luck to you Poppy Taylor, but if you run across men reluctant to marry, you'll know why.
@@Snarge22can we not turn everything into a battle of the sexes? bad men AND women exist-no one’s got the monopoly.
Ghosting is also done by narcissists when they find new supply, therefore being ghosted is not always a sign that the person who was left is the toxic one.
there is nothing to explain; they know exactly why you walked away.
I just walked away but did explain quickly. I don’t care if it took power away cause it isn’t my goal to hurt them but just for myself. Haven’t looked back once.
i was looking for this. thank you. after crap on crap, i told someone i was going leave early in the morning. when they get up expecting coffee to be made and there is silence. now the person told me not to but the way you presented this is right on. thank you. doug
People never think about the ones left behind.
It’s a tightrope….
Trust too much and you get killed inside…
Trust too little and you kill others inside…
It’s a tightrope…
Over the abyss one must walk for everyone….
“I know it’s hard to keep an open heart when even friends seem out to harm you.”
(November Rain, Guns N’ Roses)
🌹☸️🔫
I walked away today.. i have done it some times.. never gets easier but every time you do it you are more convinced and certain you are doing the right thing. stay strong and NEVER look back!
I have never in my life ever thought of turning my back on anyone. My whole family has a estranged me overnight during my divorce, when I needed them the most. They gave me no explanation. For 10 years now. I no longer have holidays birthdays etc nothing and they will not tell me what I have done, I have done nothing to any of them. I have isolated myself and the pain is is like this video says. I think the estrangement is evil, selfish and most of all hatred and the worst drama ever! God is Love!
It’s very empowering to stand on business when someone switches up on you. Let them go be less. 😊❤🎉
Even worse for me bc I can’t walk away from someone who doesn’t love me back but he doesn’t necessarily hurt me in those aspects. But, some things he does do hurt me emotionally.
I lied, yes you can walk away. But, it doesn’t mean you have to let them know.
Yes, it's easy to walk away when they treat you like dirt but it's sooo hurtful to walk away when they're nice to you but it just hurts to be in touch with them but can't be involved with them
Best eye opener I have ever heard. Thanks man !
Absolutely! I totally agree with you! Thank you!👍❤️🌹
That’s right. After they did it the first time the other times become easy even as nothing. Walk away for good. Agreed
I wish i did this with my ex, i had been going through a lot of shit all at once and found out she was hiding things from me on top of it, i wanted a person that wasnt really their anymore, she had broken up with me and gotten with someone else right after, fucked me up alot but now I at least know the real her.
It's better to tell them you're walking away. Otherwise the chapter is still open and there's no closure. You must let them know you're done with their bullshit. Ghosting is, in most cases, immature, and doesn't have the powerful effect than saying it so.
Actually you are talking about Ghosting. That is immature. Give reasons because of YOU, not them! We are all here to teach and learn from one another. Take the high road.
I settled for crumbs for over 11 YEARS from my "boyfriend" Tim and gave him a million chances. I worked on loving myself, accepting the good and bad and easily walked away in Jan when again he gave me crumbs of his time and attention. I am filled with so much joy that when I met Ed I think that's what attracted him to me and vice verse. when we're together, we are so comfortable with each other and we laugh so much. He is wonderful and has no insecurities about letting me know that he thinks I am too. I am 60 years old and hoping it continues like this but if not, I'm fine alone. Wishing everyone joy and happiness in themselves first. That's the key 🔑
Walking away from someone too quickly, without giving a person a chance to understand, change or redeem themselves, can be extremely damaging. Think twice before you do it!
done once, and get away with it, they will do it again. even the dumbest of the dumb know right from wrong.
Thank you for your encouragement to walk away from bad behavior that has been going on for
Far to many years by 2 daughter's.,,,,the bridge has been burned forever. Thank you very grateful!
I have stept away from my ex-partner and 3 years ago, not saying anything or what not. And not looking back either, cut all communications as well
It did its purpose, the only that bugs me is the fact I left my adopted son who I took care of since he was a month old.
But I know its for the best, Now I'm back with my parents and don't have any plans of getting back into any emotional relationship after what I have gone through but seeing my parents who are in their 80's, got myself a new job, and seeing them being happy with me around is what completes me.
Thank you Mr. Forged, you've been of great help making me stand on my own feet again. I've watched your uploads consistently, I cant thank you enough
@markuzzz266I don't think I'm capable of being an emotional tampon for any woman ever again it's been 15 months and I did the same thing as far as leaving complete no contact.Right before XMAS she tried to contact me.
Some people are to emotionally damaged and entitled to have a healthy relationship and they don't have or refuse to acknowledge self-awareness to heal there baggage.
My mental, emotional, physical, spiritual health is healing and my confidence is coming back.
Fulfillment in life comes from within !
Poor behavior on your part. You tell someone why you are leaving. You act in respectful manner to them and to yourself. Had you done it the proper way, you may still be in your son's life.
This is good. Definitely resonates, needed this advice 10 years ago
I think if you walk away without saying anything is doing the same thing that they can do. I walked away but I told him I didn't want to be contacted again. I have moved on with my life and want to be left alone. I felt better saying that. Just not answering texts or else would have made me feel disrespectful and I am walking away for this very reason, because I am not respected by him. So I don't want to have the same behaviour.
Partner one patiently offers some valuable advice about a sub optimal relationship. The other partner misinterprets this is criticism and abuse and walks away imagining how difficult it will be for partner one. Partner one throws a party and declares "good-riddance". The one who walked away is surprised that partner one doesn't try to re-connect. The is a huge blow to the ego of the one who walked, but without returning, the ego cannot recover. The joke is on the one that walked.
Gave the advice to make things go well multiple times . Said sorry even when i was not wrong. Old baggages traumas were coming out i realised i needed healing as triggers were there and admitted im a work in progress reminded them and understood what triggers them instead of criticising kindly mentioned what exactly they need to work on the silent treatment was unbearable as it was happening in regard to context of an argument ( not relationship but something outside relationship ya so silly) was hindering my healing journey and focus so had to take a hard decision to bid farewell with all the courage i could bare even before leaving left a note regarding why exactly i left said thanks for everything asked for forgiveness and said sorry as well, did possibly everything a human can but in the end i had to mention we won't be talking anymore.
Have had enough but i do take 100percnt responsibility for what happened from my part making myself jst an option
Never ever put someone else before you the hardest lesson as an empath its not how life and love works its different. I feel sad that my nervous system is kind of dysregulated now but yea everything will workout in my favour the we are born alone we die alone everything is just an add on.
And forgiveness is a must to heal no more attachments
I've had to do this many times recently and it really works.
This is so timely. So liberating. So deserving (or undeserving)
Mark Twain told us. "Treat no one like a priority who treats you like an option." Good old Samuel and What a wise Langhorne , huh? Have a Clement life. Respectfully submitted for your consideration Gregg Oreo Long Beach CA Etats Unis
This entire monologue
All of it
On point
Self respect and dignity
You nailed it man
You have no idea how important this is to me man
Changed my life
Running into this and some of your other vids, you saved ONE LIFE bro
Real talk
Thank you
I wish I could just Walk away to somewhere where no one know s me. I would just want perce and kindness, which is hard to find.
Frankly..Some people are just too toxic to deserve you, And most of all, you don't deserve...Them, So Move on for your own sake 🙏
A Good message to Start my Morning
A great point of view..I personally can't follow your great act or strategy right cus it aims to hurt certain individual..the reason I can't is due to the fact that by exercising your move it will benefit not me..cus the person will likely be at peace no more lies ,no more games,so how is that ,well u see if anyone that knows the party's involve most likely know who benefits right ,"past relationships " it's all ther to question ..and I'm the one with numerous ,break ups ... numerous woman who I was a regret ..so u c I can't move like that .people ain't dummy .they choose not look into facts .
Accordingly, western psychology says
Walking away is "the best coping skill
As always , Great insigts Mr Forge. My previous attempts with this one girl were meet with a low reciprocation of energy , felt under appreciated and my instincts just tell me that I should watch out co sth major might happened if I continue to tolatare her. Your videos are timeless and priceless . Thank you and hope to see more videos from you
I can not support ghosting at all.
At least say goodbye if you can’t say why.
Although this has it's place, it's also a tool of the narcissist. It's also not that easy to just walk away when you share things like a mortgage, kids, and other financial obligations.
You don't even have to be married for these things to happen. Walk away if it's the right thing to do, but not to cut your nose off to spite your face. Ergo...don't be stupid.
Everything is a tool of the narcissist
I have tried so many times w my toxoc ex thank you for this video i needed to hear this today!!! Im so done!!!!!!!
I think walking away or Ghosting someone is mean and very hurtful. Unless you talk to the person or let them know why a few days later.
It is also disrespectful to them and to yourself.
Fuck that
They already know why you are walking away. No explanations needed - you’ll eventually find yourself in a long conversation or gas lit - they will surely change the narrative on what happened to cause you to leave .
The truth don’t need no defense!! Just go❤
@@eugenemichael2362 lol
@@browneyes9507 yup
Thank you I love watching people’s material and your words resonate wyth many.
Wow what a powerful message. Thank you so much.