I walk alone and have done for some years now. I place no expectations on myself. I paint my days away and love my wonderful little dog Finn. I have had a traumatic life, much abuse and difficulty but I am at one with myself now. Wishing all women who live in solitude all of my support and love.
Do you have a job or A car? You still rely on that income? 🤔 I have autism and Have been Severely Abused to the point where I am fearing that I will not be able to financially support myself. How did you get out of it???😢❤ I am so scared...struggling with toxic family who don't really love me, but I like me being a free spirit and creative. I cannot be who they expect me to be. And I don't know how I am going to financially support myself I don't have enough skills.
As a woman, I want to point out to you and others that not a single sentence in this exerpt applies specifically to or only to women. This isn't about women. Nothing in this entire video has anything to do with women, just humans.
This is also Me! Live alone on mt top in Co. I’m 70 and cut wood to burn and shovel feet snow off driveway. Took 3 days but I DID IT! Don’t need any man’s help! I’m stronger than any man at 70! Love being by myself! Eat when and whatever I WANT! Love my life above 9000ft!
After a lifetime of giving my labour, my money, my energy and my love to others whilst neglecting my own needs, I now realise that all my love was taken for granted and not returned. At 58 I am now safe and have a chance to find solace and nurture my body and spirit. I am alone but I am not lonely.
How about when women don’t walk alone, yet still get stalked or approached by men who look like Anglo Saxon waxworks with black eyes? Is this called attracting oneself, with the calibration adjustment from psychospiritual abuse to physical & sexual abuse? If it’s chronological, how does the later follow the former and the reasoning of one wishing to cause harm where the other does not?
I felt the same way, it's sad that women are so rarely addressed this way that it means so much to us. Man seems to be the default in this current reality
It was spending more than half my 65 years married to a man who never loved me, who lied and cheated the whole time. Now I have been alone and I'm finding myself and healing. I am a lone shewolf and not afraid any longer.
You're not a she wolf..... You're the beautiful feminine graceful woman that God created you to be, who loves you with an endless everlasting love. And you're never alone, God is and always will be with you. 💋
@debbysmith5346 I'm sorry this happened to you. We really never know anyone until we leave/they leave us. My ex husband of 16 years led a life behind my back. Didn't realize it until after we were split and all the truths starting coming out. Made my head spin. They're not capable of love, the kind of love we come to expect from a spouse, right. Protect, compromise, unconditional love, compatibility, all those types of qualities that attracted us to these men. I was young. Everyone was getting married. I thought he would change. Silly me. Life experience since then has been incredibly insightful. Yet, in just got out of a relationship in June with a textbook narc. They can really manipulate people beyond anyone's comprehension. Unless you've been through it, no one really understands. Today, I walk it out alone. Zero desire to ever change that.
This is exactly me. I've developed great mental strength and changed my co-dependence for independence. I've chosen to be alone for the last 8 years now. No boyfriend, no husband, no dating, nothing. I'm truly blessed to have found who I truly am. Love and light my friend's.
Divorced in 2018. Because I know it’s that my husband interfered with my freedom. I wanted to be better, I wasn’t happy but he was “ ok” in a confort zone. That decision was the best that I ever done, since then “ I WALK ALONE every morning, to organizes my ideas, my toughs, and clean and clear my mentality. I’m Editing my day by day. It’s so powerful. The best part I don’t feel lonely, I feel free, and now I can be wherever I want. I’m re educating myself, I wanna be a writer. And He is in his comfort zone again gaining weight. And I’m getting very fit, healthy and happy.
The loneliest times of my life have been surrounded by other people. The liberation has come in the silence, and the solitude that I've been able to experience the last 6 months. I'm more clear on who I am than I've ever been and I'm so grateful to be in this place.
I'd rather be alone then be in the presence of fake deceiving people so until I find someone human or animal that's true to another other than Christ who's the ultimate friend loyal loving honest true never ending and with him within me being alone I no longer fear it Its better than being loved falsely And alone I suppose is me Amen
I’m alone, after divorce in 1982, for 42yrs - single & celibate… learned from mistakes and free myself from all kinds of baggages and toxic relationships, which include loved ones…
I am an artist/ painter..walked away from lots of toxic people that were in my life. I enjoy being alone...its a time to heal your heart..makes you truly intuned with who you are. My light bothers some people..
Disowned at 19, and I've been alone ever since, but I've never been lonely. It scares me that i don't get bored nor lonely by myself , and it hurt at first until i saw myself . I wept for being so unaware of such a gift i thought was a curse .
I have been living like this for the last 10 years . I'm absolutely so happy in my body and how I live. I have a beautiful dog that walks with me and he's been the most loyal male i have ever had in my life. I think this is were i will stay till my time to leave this earth. I wake up every day happy and a smile on my face I can sit in my house all day with nothing playing and its perfectly ok with me I welcome the quiet. I talk to GOD alot and that's all I need is could care less what's going on on the outside or what anyone thinks of me. At 54 I'm finly at peace.
I've been in codependent relationships and marriages "for the kids" since I was 18. I've often yearned to be alone just for peace. Now, at 48, 5 adult children, 2 divorces later, I'm at a point in my life where I can truly be alone and thrilled about it!!!!❤
I couldn't agree more! Reading other solitary women't thoughts, voices and experiences here I'm finding myself choking up with feelings of Joy of the purest form! I have found my community at long last! :)) Deeply grateful for all of your courageous shared voices. One of the most interesting details of walking alone as a woman in this world is how uncomfortable most others tend to be ...mostly because of a lack of understanding just how fulfilling it can actually be to Not Feel Like Needing someone else!:). Once I eliminated my need of belonging and clinging is when I found myself! Now, I belong to Myself! And one of the greatest of all gifts I have found is the realization that I have now become my Own Very Best Friend! This was lacking for me before due to the fact that I was alway giving myself away to others - and trying to be what THEY needed (or actually what I perceived they needed) from me! Insecurity of this nature can be relentlessly devastating and even annihilating to a fragile ego! True inner strength requires a great deal of hard work on oneself, and taming our fragile ego being the hardest work of all! I can now truly state: I AM! Love, courage and peace ladies:))
Me too! One of the most difficult but one of the best things I have ever done, it was hard as I new she was quite mad, in the same 6 months I left my husband of 22 years, and had my beautiful mother die, being alone was more than hard, but now looking back it has made me the strong, self aware person that I now am.
My sister is also toxic. A living hell with her, all the time growing up. We tried a relationship as adults, but the old toxic showed up. Don't want her around, and will never talk to her again.
@ After years of guilt b/c we get shamed into believing they’re everything or “should” be. Then, I finally learned “stop shoulding 💩 on me” and, ‘we don’t choose our fams but we can choose our tribe’.
i've lived alone most of my life and i'm 71...yet i have not YET acquired many of the attributes he spoke of....grateful to read comments of those offering love and support...i thank you.
wonderful quote I heard the other day went something like this "much worse than ending your days alone is ending your days surrounded by people who leave you feeling alone" soooo true...
Imagine how wonderful the world CAN be if only women could find the courage to "walk alone" and to take that solitude as a gift rather than panic and run away to men to make them whole. I CAN imagine that world and know that it awaits us. The women with the highest morals and values in live are my women friends who "walk alone".
It’s more, I think, of realizing one’s worth, deserving of one’s own time and attention and love and can say, I matter too. I do not need to give myself up to be worthy, I am worthy.
Being independent is important but please fill your life with a a loving community even if its small. I think it’s important for our health and well being as humans.. life is difficult as it is… ❤️
@@debrawilliams1693 i fully get that, but the point remains that this applies to both. Both masculine and feminine aspects exist in us all. Yin and yang. This lesson is just as important for men to hear as it is women. Solitude allows one to truly know themselves, be it man or woman.
@ I totally get that as well and look at so many subject tic toks it’s all always men so keys just once have grace ….. he’s talking about women for once let’s show women grace
I often go to my bedroom as a 40 year old woman to be alone. This is often disturbed by family. I also like to go on walks alone, not realy to think, but to help clear my mind. When I want to think, I still prefer to be in quiet but will put my thoughts down on paper either in words or drawings. Peace and quiet is like gold dust.
I'm so grateful I walked this journey from a very young age of in my 20's. I'm now 61 and cannot express how valuable walking alone has gifted me along my path ❤
I am so happy finally someone understand the value of walking alone but not lonelyness .Thank you for this video to let those who mistaken woman happy to be walking alone.❤
I lost all my family and walked alone really I never had a friend even when little always walked alone i am not lonely I am independent not dependent free spirt love and light are sent to you all out there. Great video
I love how it's emphasized as "The woman who walks alone". In the discussions of the hero's journey in modern tales, women were rarely mentioned. Women definitely go through our own journeys but it's done in solitude and quietly. Attuned to instincts, imagination and can lead to a level of enchantment in our own lives. There's a distancing from performance and pleasing others. It focuses more on genuine self-love and building a powerful energy which in turn is true love for the Earth and is much needed to balance energy on the planet.
I won't fit their dream. They don't see me as I am, they see what they want me to be. I haven't got time for that. It's not love. It's desire. I'd rather walk alone, than bend backwards to others needs.
I just said this the other day. Men always see me as who they think I am and pursue me relentlessly....then aren't happy with who am and then get pissed off at me for not worshipping them for saving me from God knows what they think I need to be saved from. Been single 17 years now and I have grown more than ever and even deeper into my authentic intentional self. And I'm happy!
I thought I'd click and watch this. Since, I noticed the "captions" I was reading before clicking into the actual video. This resonates completely 100% so far with me. And the more I listen as you go on talking about "This woman who walks alone". I feel this extreme heaviness on my whole body. Like a heavy fantastic energy combining with my heavy positive energy as well. All I have to say is, you have nailed it right on the head. That's all I have left to say besides, how did you know me so completely word for word in this video. I also see that (The Universe) has brought me into seeing this video that relates 100% with my complete self. 🤙💯
When I am alone I can hear my inner voice and who I am. I enjoy others but not at the expense of my own rest and respite. When alone we can learn who we truly are. It is then we connect with Divinity. It never was about the external world. Once the veils drop the truth within is revealed.!
This is outstanding. I feel the point not to forget here is the WOMAN who walks alone. A woman is (mostly) indoctrinated to feel inadequate being alone. This is one of the most important, beautiful and important videos I've come across so far..... Thank you, and yes you got all the liked, subscribed etc .
I am on the journey of walking alone right now and you are absolutely right. There is a lot of different emotions you go through during this journey, but very rewarding.
I love being a woman walking alone. I want to be authentically imperfect, and happy in acceptance of an ever changing life. I love being an artist, I love being kind. I am strong. Inner peace will change the world 💚✨
That is me. Walking life out alone. But not lonely. Failed relationships, I'm an empath. I have no more time for games and deceit. My 2 cats and I live in a drama-free zone. I can easily make a choice to do "peopling" or not. I play my drum to my own beat. Lived a life quite opposite of what it is today. Yes, I had lots of fun, not much I haven't seen or experienced. But I would not change this life today for anything. I value my peace, love my hobbies, being out with nature , and after working all week, I value my downtime and practice self-care. It works for me. ❤
There is no such thing as an empath. Most people who call themselves one are in fact covert narcissists or are very high in trait narcissism. Thinking you feel more than most others is narcissistic and delusional. There are differences among people, but there are no people who feel so much more than others and it is narcissistic and delusional to believe you can read the emotions of others simply by being near them or thinking of them. This is quite literally a delusion of grandeur, and you are entirely wrong in your conclusions most of the time. Every human can intuitively feel and know what other humans are feeling or thinking by looking at their faces and seeing microexpressions. This is what the huge majority of humans can do. Some people are more sensitive than others to the feelings of others. But there is no such thing as an "empath", and often it's the case that the "empath" is just as narcissistic as those they themselves label as "narcissists". They just don't recognize that, and that is a clear sign they aren't half as intuitive as they thought they were.
You are like most others: you enjoy nature and you "reject drama". Depending on the study you look at, somewhere between 65% and 90% of people say nature is their number one hobby and 80%-90% of women claim they "hate/avoid drama".
@SolidSiren I stand to correct you. The misuse of our God-given emotion of empathy may be a ... whatever you call it. However, I am a natural person with natural emotions. And as cold as your response may be, I hope you have yourself a groovy day! I know I am 😊
Do you/did you have kids? I am 35 and am struggling on deciding whether or not to…may be too late…I think of the love I have to give and also my elder years being surrounded by ones I love.
Thank you. You have described me. It took me decades to find me, now I am happy walking alone, holidaying alone, writing alone. After all, I will die alone. For now, I completely accept myself as I am.
I walk alone, bc I miss myself a lot. Have this deep longing to have myself for myself alone I even get jealous when I have to share my time with others
Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have her back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain brother, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thouht it was, but it worked wonders for me.
This is a powerful testament to a life I have chosen after a life of stress as an oldest daughter in a narcissistic family searching for me and peace. This speech is a daily touchstone for me as I engage again in Make a Life…the Universe always provides. Thank you, Alan Watts
This video should be taught to all women in all the world 🌎 the fact about the women ability and power as what she really need is here self respect ,understanding,love ,trust then life can begin
One of the great beauties of solitude is you enter your space with no baggage other than what you allow to come in. Your mood can not be influenced once home unless you invite another to do so -- answering the phone or door, media, mentally rehashing. It's a wonderful control to have and it's shared by no one other than those who walk alone. May all women (and men) who walk alone be blessed with the knowledge that this peace is theirs for the taking every time they re-enter their space.
Meditation is the answer, it’s how you will become like this. Not just meditating for a week, but always. I have meditated for about ten years, and now I see his description starting in me. It isn’t complete though.
I write this as an encouragement! I have found in my journey that it is possible! I have a partner who is my ally and my friend and yet I know in my heart I still walk alone. I walk alone because I am an individual and this relationship has taught me that it’s safe to be me apart from somebody else. This relationship has taught me that I can accept someone else’s differences and still love them. That I can stand for myself, but not against others. This relationship was a surprise. It did not come into my life when I was really ready for it or very emotionally healthy. I put my higher power in charge of the journey and it all is continuing to unfold in love and beauty! This too, I wish for you. ❤
True happiness is having a partner to walk beside, together with, who allows you to sometimes walk alone WITH them. Walk silently alone, beside another walking silently alone.
I still feel the sense of abandonment. But with every year coming to terms with the fact that i will not be invited to family gatherings! I have been alone for several years. I appreciate what i can do by myself. I suffer Rheumatoid arthritis and fibromyalgia and i get up and go to bed in pain. Family doesn't want to acknowledge me. So peace out to them! Sending prayers out to all of you feeling uncomfortable being alone. ❤ I hope you find that it's sometimes better not to stress about the things we cannot control.
I live in solitude, but I am not alone. All of my family and friends are opportunities to get to know myself better. They reflect the waves of energies that are latent within me, my consciousness awakens, and I notice the presence of these energies within me. So no one in my life is poisonous, but like a mirror to reflect what I have inside me and become aware of them. So from the bottom of my heart, I appreciate everyone in my life. ❤❤
I walk alone because I annoy ppl. I’m adhd and communication without hurting ppls feeling is tricky af for me. I value honesty over pretty words. Plain speech over poetry. 😮
Life gets easier as you walk your path and you don't come across as annoying at all. :) Edit: you may be in the autistic spectrum? I am and tend to be straightforward and crave honesty. You'll learn to soften it over time.
LOL! That’s pretty much the conclusion I’m coming to for myself these days. My youngest son is very autistic and adhd, has a ton of anxiety and literally all the “help” people claimed they would offer never came to be. “Not enough resources” and “Someone will call you back” finally made me realize it’s just him and me and no one is ever going to give a 💩 because they’re too busy living “normal” lives and getting validation from a lot of people of how great they are when in reality it’s all just virtue signaling and ego stroking.
Thank you Alan Watts ❤ I am an immigrant minority indigenous woman & I walk alone. From where I came from, "alone" sees as anti-social, deviant & shame; people must be engaged with others all seconds. I walked alone since I came to this earth, worked, educated, emigrated & until today after one of my feet had gone bad. I lost half of my family without being able to be with them in their last moment. I must accept I can't meet the rest of others. I lost people & friends who have been closed before because we no longer share the same experiences. Everywhere I go, I walk alone, and NEVER. I feel alone. Some dislike & hate this, some accept & embrace this. We're all coming from all directions into this universe, and what they/we do are not to be judged. All share some meanings into our existences on this planet.
I used to take myself to parties and concerts alone and would have the best time. I never thought of it as strange or odd but I guess it was . I was just doing what I wanted to do . I was asked once why I was always alone . I don’t even know what to say . I was just good . I mean it would have been nice to have company i guess but I was on a journey of discovery.
Not odd to do things alone at all, I would not have a life if I didn’t do things alone. Concerts, travel, parties, happy hours! Never feel self conscious about doing activities alone!! 😊
I walk my life alone for 10 years now and the space of reflection grows.... My dear friend Kasper (dog) walks by my side for 7 years now. We really learn to go with the flow of life and rely on the innner peace that can be found in being ones own best friend. I love the grace of independence and the endless opportunity to be fully präsentiert to each moment. Thank you for the possibility to share this with you all ❤😊😊😊
I have a partner. One I choose to stay with, love, care for. But he came into my life later, and I came in with an understanding that I am good on my own. Someday, if I outlive him, I will be fine. Just as he will be fine if he outlives me. Or if the relationship fails for any reason. I have children because I wanted them - not because I “should” or wanted to meet expectations. I love them deeply. But if others don’t have that desire, we should celebrate that too. We need to teach our children that they are complete in themselves. Stop asking “have you met someone yet?”, followed by “when are you committing “ followed by when will you have a child, followed by “when will you have more?” Walking alone does not mean not having other people in your life. It means knowing that you are enough as you are. And that choosing different paths is a choice. Walking alone doesn’t mean you don’t like other people - regardless of gender or relationship. It’s the internal journey.
I’m almost 70 and chose to walk alone in 2003. I was ready for it after many attempts to couple. I was done with that by 48 years old. I have friends but rarely do things with them. I catch up with their news but don’t feel the need to fill every weekend with social activities. I’m really free since retirement and love it because my time is my time.
I admire the teaching of Alan Watts. My entire life, I’ve felt that I am separate from others. I am not lonely or alone. I am strong. I value the solitude as a time of peace and completeness. I have no problem with not being an US. I am enough. I face my negative thoughts and embrace that love and acceptance are greater than the lies we tell ourselves. Removing the masks we all wear is frightening at first, but then our inner beauty can be seen. By accepting the reality of our being, we free ourselves from fear and pain. How beautiful is that? 😊❤
I have always walked alone, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I’ve always had great friendships, but do lots of things on my own and refuse company a lot of the time. At 49, recovering from bad injuries, I’m finally learning to let people join me in walking through the literal wilderness.
They start to see themselves as they truly are and as a result, begin to work on the areas that need improvement and accept the areas that have been improved and refined!
I am walking alone for 4 years : hardest ones in my life ! BUT I give thanks to God for all lessons. I invite HIM to work w me & walk w me & teach me & change me to the glory of His name !
I walk alone and have done for some years now. I place no expectations on myself. I paint my days away and love my wonderful little dog Finn. I have had a traumatic life, much abuse and difficulty but I am at one with myself now. Wishing all women who live in solitude all of my support and love.
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I’m sorry you’ve gone through abuse and difficulty, but it sounds like you have a beautiful life now. All the best.
I too have suffered greatly but know true joy lies within. I am getting there with my little dog Chloe. Much love to you. ❤
Do you have a job or A car? You still rely on that income? 🤔 I have autism and Have been Severely Abused to the point where I am fearing that I will not be able to financially support myself. How did you get out of it???😢❤ I am so scared...struggling with toxic family who don't really love me, but I like me being a free spirit and creative. I cannot be who they expect me to be. And I don't know how I am going to financially support myself I don't have enough skills.
Thank you, dear soul.
To all my lone sheWolfs❤
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Aaaawwwwooooo ❤
@@NiorAmbientForest ❤️ here, here ✌️ 😊 ☮️
As a woman, I want to point out to you and others that not a single sentence in this exerpt applies specifically to or only to women. This isn't about women. Nothing in this entire video has anything to do with women, just humans.
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This is also Me! Live alone on mt top in Co. I’m 70 and cut wood to burn and shovel feet snow off driveway. Took 3 days but I DID IT! Don’t need any man’s help! I’m stronger than any man at 70! Love being by myself! Eat when and whatever I WANT! Love my life above 9000ft!
You are an amazing inspiration!
When I grow up. I want to be like you..
You live my dream...❤
This sounds amazing! You have your space in the wild! Continued strength and sending you love and prayers. Bless you! 🙏🏼✨💞🫂
U must have wifi then?
After a lifetime of giving my labour, my money, my energy and my love to others whilst neglecting my own needs, I now realise that all my love was taken for granted and not returned. At 58 I am now safe and have a chance to find solace and nurture my body and spirit. I am alone but I am not lonely.
This just made me cry. I feel this.
Same ❤
@@VikingSpirit942 ❤️ I love this. Can relate. Here's to being happy & content today ✨️ 💕 😊
So with you ❤️
@jeanninebergin2498 Thankyou ❤️
It took me decades to understand and embrace that I am the Love of my Life. Was constantly looking for it in others.
Waaw❤
Wow! I love that! ❤
Plz teach me
Thats amazing!
It took me a little bit more than two decades. Im glad, Im the right place.... Myself 😊
Wow...well Said. I am the love of my life. ❤❤❤❤
Finally someone who sees a woman as a human being.
I agree. So refreshing.
True
How about when women don’t walk alone, yet still get stalked or approached by men who look like Anglo Saxon waxworks with black eyes?
Is this called attracting oneself, with the calibration adjustment from psychospiritual abuse to physical & sexual abuse?
If it’s chronological, how does the later follow the former and the reasoning of one wishing to cause harm where the other does not?
as opposed to what? I'd say "sees" the deeper aspects of being a Woman rather than a human being..
I felt the same way, it's sad that women are so rarely addressed this way that it means so much to us. Man seems to be the default in this current reality
It was spending more than half my 65 years married to a man who never loved me, who lied and cheated the whole time. Now I have been alone and I'm finding myself and healing. I am a lone shewolf and not afraid any longer.
Shewolf, many of us savior our soloness.❣️
I would rather be alone and free than shacked to an abuser
I spent 22 years... 💔
You're not a she wolf..... You're the beautiful feminine graceful woman that God created you to be, who loves you with an endless everlasting love. And you're never alone, God is and always will be with you. 💋
@debbysmith5346 I'm sorry this happened to you. We really never know anyone until we leave/they leave us. My ex husband of 16 years led a life behind my back. Didn't realize it until after we were split and all the truths starting coming out. Made my head spin. They're not capable of love, the kind of love we come to expect from a spouse, right. Protect, compromise, unconditional love, compatibility, all those types of qualities that attracted us to these men. I was young. Everyone was getting married. I thought he would change. Silly me. Life experience since then has been incredibly insightful. Yet, in just got out of a relationship in June with a textbook narc. They can really manipulate people beyond anyone's comprehension. Unless you've been through it, no one really understands.
Today, I walk it out alone. Zero desire to ever change that.
"The happiest of all lives is a busy solitude."-Voltaire
Perfect
Yes!! he gets it😂 I need to cozy up with some Voltaire❤
I like that😊
I LOOOOVE this!!
This is exactly me. I've developed great mental strength and changed my co-dependence for independence. I've chosen to be alone for the last 8 years now. No boyfriend, no husband, no dating, nothing. I'm truly blessed to have found who I truly am. Love and light my friend's.
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Divorced in 2018. Because I know it’s that my husband interfered with my freedom. I wanted to be better, I wasn’t happy but he was “ ok” in a confort zone.
That decision was the best that I ever done, since then “ I WALK ALONE every morning, to organizes my ideas, my toughs, and clean and clear my mentality. I’m Editing my day by day. It’s so powerful.
The best part I don’t feel lonely, I feel free, and now I can be wherever I want.
I’m re educating myself, I wanna be a writer. And He is in his comfort zone again gaining weight.
And I’m getting very fit, healthy and happy.
My hero!!
Same. Dating seems like a waste of time to me. My alone time is party time to me. 🎉😊
Walking alone doesn’t mean being lonely-it’s a sign of strength and independence.
The woman who walks alone is no longer desperate 💯
The loneliest times of my life have been surrounded by other people. The liberation has come in the silence, and the solitude that I've been able to experience the last 6 months. I'm more clear on who I am than I've ever been and I'm so grateful to be in this place.
Beautiful response
I'd rather be alone then be in the presence of fake deceiving people so until I find someone human or animal that's true to another other than Christ who's the ultimate friend loyal loving honest true never ending and with him within me being alone I no longer fear it Its better than being loved falsely And alone I suppose is me Amen
Agreed because though I am with a husband of many years now, I am so alone.
I agree with you thank you for the reminder, I have definitely felt lonelier with some people around me.
I'm there right now...
I walk alone because I enjoy solitude. I love to have deep conversation with myself. Its when I am alone I hear my inner voice.
Same here..
Here too ❤
Amen as do i
Walking alone in certain places is dangerous
I 'hear' speak my inner voices when alone too. 😊
I never walk alone. My loyal, loving protective Dog is always by my side.
Your dogs name is Dog?
With me, it's my beloved kitties 😸
The best companion ever 💞
Dog is a gerbil actually. Understand the confusion though ;) @SolidSiren
Lost my best friend a week ago 😪
Now I must find my way alone 💔
I’m alone, after divorce in 1982, for 42yrs - single & celibate… learned from mistakes and free myself from all kinds of baggages and toxic relationships, which include loved ones…
I am an artist/ painter..walked away from lots of toxic people that were in my life. I enjoy being alone...its a time to heal your heart..makes you truly intuned with who you are. My light bothers some people..
That last sentence blew me away. I can relate to everything you expressed.
Contrary to popular belief, solitude is worth the peace.
Much love ~ Rosa
@StriveNot love to u ..and peace🥰
Keep shining bright!
We walked the same path ❤
To every women who thinks she made alot of dumb mistakes in her life, treat yourself to this video...and heal.
Solitude is my freedom, peace, joy, strength,spirituality and happiness.
Disowned at 19, and I've been alone ever since, but I've never been lonely. It scares me that i don't get bored nor lonely by myself , and it hurt at first until i saw myself . I wept for being so unaware of such a gift i thought was a curse .
I have been living like this for the last 10 years . I'm absolutely so happy in my body and how I live. I have a beautiful dog that walks with me and he's been the most loyal male i have ever had in my life. I think this is were i will stay till my time to leave this earth. I wake up every day happy and a smile on my face I can sit in my house all day with nothing playing and its perfectly ok with me I welcome the quiet. I talk to GOD alot and that's all I need is could care less what's going on on the outside or what anyone thinks of me. At 54 I'm finly at peace.
I've been in codependent relationships and marriages "for the kids" since I was 18. I've often yearned to be alone just for peace. Now, at 48, 5 adult children, 2 divorces later, I'm at a point in my life where I can truly be alone and thrilled about it!!!!❤
“Solitude is not the absence of connection but the purest form of it” 🙌
I couldn't agree more! Reading other solitary women't thoughts, voices and experiences here I'm finding myself choking up with feelings of Joy of the purest form! I have found my community at long last! :))
Deeply grateful for all of your courageous shared voices. One of the most interesting details of walking alone as a woman in this world is how uncomfortable most others tend to be ...mostly because of a lack of understanding just how fulfilling it can actually be to Not Feel Like Needing someone else!:). Once I eliminated my need of belonging and clinging is when I found myself! Now, I belong to Myself!
And one of the greatest of all gifts I have found is the realization that I have now become my Own Very Best Friend! This was lacking for me before due to the fact that I was alway giving myself away to others - and trying to be what THEY needed (or actually what I perceived they needed) from me! Insecurity of this nature can be relentlessly devastating and even annihilating to a fragile ego! True inner strength requires a great deal of hard work on oneself, and taming our fragile ego being the hardest work of all!
I can now truly state: I AM!
Love, courage and peace ladies:))
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Letting go of my toxic sister. Best decision I have ever made!
Me too! One of the most difficult but one of the best things I have ever done, it was hard as I new she was quite mad, in the same 6 months I left my husband of 22 years, and had my beautiful mother die, being alone was more than hard, but now looking back it has made me the strong, self aware person that I now am.
@@leegrow7519I hear you and your knowledge is mine.
Meee tooo ~ 1 1/2 yrs ago, and her machismo husband. I divorced those final vestiges of a toxic family. Sending love and blessings. You take care. ❤😊
My sister is also toxic. A living hell with her, all the time growing up. We tried a relationship as adults, but the old toxic showed up. Don't want her around, and will never talk to her again.
@ After years of guilt b/c we get shamed into believing they’re everything or “should” be. Then, I finally learned “stop shoulding 💩 on me” and, ‘we don’t choose our fams but we can choose our tribe’.
i've lived alone most of my life and i'm 71...yet i have not YET acquired many of the attributes he spoke of....grateful to read comments of those offering love and support...i thank you.
You’re very honest, that’s becoming rarer these days. Good luck to you. ❤
Sending you a hug ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
❤ thank you
I walk alone since 13 years.
And I feel free and sovereign.
The greatest gift for me.😊❤
Me too
@lindahuseyin4210 😊
Do you have sex? Honest question 😢
8 years for me
And have you realized yet that you have the freedom to walk alone like that precisely because men have given that freedom to you?
wonderful quote I heard the other day went something like this "much worse than ending your days alone is ending your days surrounded by people who leave you feeling alone" soooo true...
Amen
I'm really glad I came across this. Women rarely get messages like this. It's encouraging.
There is a vast supply of wisdom discovered in solitude...
Imagine how wonderful the world CAN be if only women could find the courage to "walk alone" and to take that solitude as a gift rather than panic and run away to men to make them whole. I CAN imagine that world and know that it awaits us. The women with the highest morals and values in live are my women friends who "walk alone".
It’s more, I think, of realizing one’s worth, deserving of one’s own time and attention and love and can say, I matter too. I do not need to give myself up to be worthy, I am worthy.
Being independent is important but please fill your life with a a loving community even if its small. I think it’s important for our health and well being as humans.. life is difficult as it is… ❤️
Based 👍🏻
The human that walks alone can understand this.
The woman.
@@debrawilliams1693 the man too. This applies to both.
@@jeffreystewart9809 He wasn't talking about men......he was talking about women....
@@debrawilliams1693 i fully get that, but the point remains that this applies to both. Both masculine and feminine aspects exist in us all. Yin and yang. This lesson is just as important for men to hear as it is women.
Solitude allows one to truly know themselves, be it man or woman.
@ I totally get that as well and look at so many subject tic toks it’s all always men so keys just once have grace ….. he’s talking about women for once let’s show women grace
We are never alone. We have ourself.
It was not by conscious choice, but a hard lesson that I am learning to appreciate. 🚶🏻♀️
I walk alone therefore I am free
I love my solitude, I walk alone and I love myself and I put no demands on myself.
I often go to my bedroom as a 40 year old woman to be alone. This is often disturbed by family. I also like to go on walks alone, not realy to think, but to help clear my mind. When I want to think, I still prefer to be in quiet but will put my thoughts down on paper either in words or drawings. Peace and quiet is like gold dust.
I'm so grateful I walked this journey from a very young age of in my 20's. I'm now 61 and cannot express how valuable walking alone has gifted me along my path ❤
OMG! This guy found out where paradise is!
I am so happy finally someone understand the value of walking alone but not lonelyness .Thank you for this video to let those who mistaken woman happy to be walking alone.❤
Aw thanks for seeing me!
I lost all my family and walked alone really I never had a friend even when little always walked alone i am not lonely I am independent not dependent free spirt love and light are sent to you all out there. Great video
I love how it's emphasized as "The woman who walks alone".
In the discussions of the hero's journey in modern tales, women were rarely mentioned. Women definitely go through our own journeys but it's done in solitude and quietly. Attuned to instincts, imagination and can lead to a level of enchantment in our own lives.
There's a distancing from performance and pleasing others. It focuses more on genuine self-love and building a powerful energy which in turn is true love for the Earth and is much needed to balance energy on the planet.
'Atuned to instincts, imagination...' beautiful beautiful and right on! 👏🙏
@@robynbrouckaert8304nicely said
I won't fit their dream. They don't see me as I am, they see what they want me to be. I haven't got time for that. It's not love. It's desire.
I'd rather walk alone, than bend backwards to others needs.
I just said this the other day. Men always see me as who they think I am and pursue me relentlessly....then aren't happy with who am and then get pissed off at me for not worshipping them for saving me from God knows what they think I need to be saved from. Been single 17 years now and I have grown more than ever and even deeper into my authentic intentional self. And I'm happy!
Yyo can't stand when they want to change me and mold me to their needs but can't compromise either. No thnx
I find journalling immensely more rewarding than socialising.
I've walked alone for years but always have a pet. It cleared my mind and I'm able to see the nonsense and loneliness in people surrounded by people
I thought I'd click and watch this. Since, I noticed the "captions" I was reading before clicking into the actual video. This resonates completely 100% so far with me. And the more I listen as you go on talking about "This woman who walks alone". I feel this extreme heaviness on my whole body. Like a heavy fantastic energy combining with my heavy positive energy as well. All I have to say is, you have nailed it right on the head. That's all I have left to say besides, how did you know me so completely word for word in this video. I also see that (The Universe) has brought me into seeing this video that relates 100% with my complete self. 🤙💯
Solitude = authenticity
Man I wish everyone could just find something that brings them in . The world would be so much better ..
I just realised after listening to this beautiful talk from Alan - I am enough....
When I am alone I can hear my inner voice and who I am. I enjoy others but not at the expense of my own rest and respite. When alone we can learn who we truly are. It is then we connect with Divinity. It never was about the external world. Once the veils drop the truth within is revealed.!
This is all very true….
Beautifully said! Agreed ❤
Amen 🙏🏼🥰
100% true. The beauty of not having to answer to anyone but ourselves. Standing alone with the peace of serenity is definitely a fulfillment 😊❤❤❤
When you're alone, you become stronger because there is no one there to catch you when you fall. It's sink or swim. It builds confidence.
This is outstanding.
I feel the point not to forget here is the WOMAN who walks alone.
A woman is (mostly) indoctrinated to feel inadequate being alone.
This is one of the most important, beautiful and important videos I've come across so far.....
Thank you, and yes you got all the liked, subscribed etc .
I enjoyed it too, then realized it's AI generated after seeing a similar one narrated by Denzel Washington!
@@aarya_ai thank you.
As long as they are Watts words.... in any case really, they make too much sense to me 🙂
I walk alone for 18 years. I just met someone special. What he is saying is so true. I have so much peace inside and i can be myself. Brilliant.
I am on the journey of walking alone right now and you are absolutely right. There is a lot of different emotions you go through during this journey, but very rewarding.
I love being a woman walking alone. I want to be authentically imperfect, and happy in acceptance of an ever changing life. I love being an artist, I love being kind. I am strong. Inner peace will change the world 💚✨
What a lovely way to start my day! Thank you!
That is me. Walking life out alone. But not lonely. Failed relationships, I'm an empath. I have no more time for games and deceit. My 2 cats and I live in a drama-free zone. I can easily make a choice to do "peopling" or not. I play my drum to my own beat.
Lived a life quite opposite of what it is today. Yes, I had lots of fun, not much I haven't seen or experienced. But I would not change this life today for anything. I value my peace, love my hobbies, being out with nature , and after working all week, I value my downtime and practice self-care. It works for me. ❤
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There is no such thing as an empath. Most people who call themselves one are in fact covert narcissists or are very high in trait narcissism. Thinking you feel more than most others is narcissistic and delusional. There are differences among people, but there are no people who feel so much more than others and it is narcissistic and delusional to believe you can read the emotions of others simply by being near them or thinking of them. This is quite literally a delusion of grandeur, and you are entirely wrong in your conclusions most of the time.
Every human can intuitively feel and know what other humans are feeling or thinking by looking at their faces and seeing microexpressions. This is what the huge majority of humans can do.
Some people are more sensitive than others to the feelings of others. But there is no such thing as an "empath", and often it's the case that the "empath" is just as narcissistic as those they themselves label as "narcissists". They just don't recognize that, and that is a clear sign they aren't half as intuitive as they thought they were.
You are like most others: you enjoy nature and you "reject drama". Depending on the study you look at, somewhere between 65% and 90% of people say nature is their number one hobby and 80%-90% of women claim they "hate/avoid drama".
@SolidSiren I stand to correct you. The misuse of our God-given emotion of empathy may be a ... whatever you call it. However, I am a natural person with natural emotions.
And as cold as your response may be, I hope you have yourself a groovy day! I know I am 😊
Solitary life since 2017. Childhood and life after 50 are the BEST times of my life. Being alone is ultimate and absolute FREEDOM.
Do you/did you have kids? I am 35 and am struggling on deciding whether or not to…may be too late…I think of the love I have to give and also my elder years being surrounded by ones I love.
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Yes, I have 3 kids. Now they are adults - have their life.
Thank you. You have described me. It took me decades to find me, now I am happy walking alone, holidaying alone, writing alone. After all, I will die alone. For now, I completely accept myself as I am.
“ I am the cat who walks by herself and all places are alike to me.”
Adapted from Rudyard Kipling
It’s SO NICE to listen to these recordings without blaring background music.
I walk alone, bc I miss myself a lot. Have this deep longing to have myself for myself alone I even get jealous when I have to share my time with others
This is timely. Thank you. Now I understand the value of solitude in nature and with animals.
Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have her back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain brother, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thouht it was, but it worked wonders for me.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
This is a powerful testament to a life I have chosen after a life of stress as an oldest daughter in a narcissistic family searching for me and peace. This speech is a daily touchstone for me as I engage again in Make a Life…the Universe always provides. Thank you, Alan Watts
This video should be taught to all women in all the world 🌎 the fact about the women ability and power as what she really need is here self respect ,understanding,love ,trust then life can begin
One of the great beauties of solitude is you enter your space with no baggage other than what you allow to come in. Your mood can not be influenced once home unless you invite another to do so -- answering the phone or door, media, mentally rehashing. It's a wonderful control to have and it's shared by no one other than those who walk alone. May all women (and men) who walk alone be blessed with the knowledge that this peace is theirs for the taking every time they re-enter their space.
Meditation is the answer, it’s how you will become like this. Not just meditating for a week, but always. I have meditated for about ten years, and now I see his description starting in me. It isn’t complete though.
This talks about me... And I stumbled in it at the right moment.
Excellent. I have walked alone for the last 25 years. As I heard this I felt you have said my story.
I love being alone at times 🧡🍁🍂
I have never been truly alone. Spirit has been with me in my "alone" times. Society never truly understood me.
Alone is good but I am tired of it. There must be someone who I can walk together and I am respected with my freedom at the same time.
I write this as an encouragement! I have found in my journey that it is possible! I have a partner who is my ally and my friend and yet I know in my heart I still walk alone. I walk alone because I am an individual and this relationship has taught me that it’s safe to be me apart from somebody else. This relationship has taught me that I can accept someone else’s differences and still love them. That I can stand for myself, but not against others. This relationship was a surprise. It did not come into my life when I was really ready for it or very emotionally healthy. I put my higher power in charge of the journey and it all is continuing to unfold in love and beauty! This too, I wish for you. ❤
@ thank you for sharing this encouraging experience. I hope I meet my great love asap (at the perfect time:), too. May your love be forever🪷🪷😇😇
True happiness is having a partner to walk beside, together with, who allows you to sometimes walk alone WITH them. Walk silently alone, beside another walking silently alone.
I truly enjoy being alone with my thoughts.
I still feel the sense of abandonment. But with every year coming to terms with the fact that i will not be invited to family gatherings! I have been alone for several years. I appreciate what i can do by myself. I suffer Rheumatoid arthritis and fibromyalgia and i get up and go to bed in pain. Family doesn't want to acknowledge me. So peace out to them! Sending prayers out to all of you feeling uncomfortable being alone. ❤ I hope you find that it's sometimes better not to stress about the things we cannot control.
I feel you, my friend ❤️🩹 All the same here.
Liberating ❤ My relationship to others is a Bonus not to complete me.🙏💞
I live in solitude, but I am not alone.
All of my family and friends are opportunities to get to know myself better.
They reflect the waves of energies that are latent within me, my consciousness awakens, and I notice the presence of these energies within me. So no one in my life is poisonous, but like a mirror to reflect what I have inside me and become aware of them. So from the bottom of my heart, I appreciate everyone in my life. ❤❤
Beautiful. I have walked alone for over 20 years.
I am a woman who walks alone and I love every minute of every day doing it!! ❤❤
I have being through so much from one man I rather walk alone with holy spirit that lives in me and it's feels so good ❤
It's like he is describing my personal Journey ✨✨🙏
I walk alone because I annoy ppl. I’m adhd and communication without hurting ppls feeling is tricky af for me. I value honesty over pretty words. Plain speech over poetry. 😮
Life gets easier as you walk your path and you don't come across as annoying at all. :)
Edit: you may be in the autistic spectrum? I am and tend to be straightforward and crave honesty. You'll learn to soften it over time.
LOL! That’s pretty much the conclusion I’m coming to for myself these days. My youngest son is very autistic and adhd, has a ton of anxiety and literally all the “help” people claimed they would offer never came to be. “Not enough resources” and “Someone will call you back” finally made me realize it’s just him and me and no one is ever going to give a 💩 because they’re too busy living “normal” lives and getting validation from a lot of people of how great they are when in reality it’s all just virtue signaling and ego stroking.
Thank you Alan Watts ❤
I am an immigrant minority indigenous woman & I walk alone. From where I came from, "alone" sees as anti-social, deviant & shame; people must be engaged with others all seconds. I walked alone since I came to this earth, worked, educated, emigrated & until today after one of my feet had gone bad. I lost half of my family without being able to be with them in their last moment. I must accept I can't meet the rest of others. I lost people & friends who have been closed before because we no longer share the same experiences. Everywhere I go, I walk alone, and NEVER. I feel alone. Some dislike & hate this, some accept & embrace this. We're all coming from all directions into this universe, and what they/we do are not to be judged. All share some meanings into our existences on this planet.
These are not Alan watts words. It’s A1 generated
❤❤🎉 respect to women who walk alone like myself 🙏🏼
I used to take myself to parties and concerts alone and would have the best time. I never thought of it as strange or odd but I guess it was . I was just doing what I wanted to do . I was asked once why I was always alone . I don’t even know what to say . I was just good . I mean it would have been nice to have company i guess but I was on a journey of discovery.
You’re not walking alone now?
Not odd to do things alone at all, I would not have a life if I didn’t do things alone. Concerts, travel, parties, happy hours! Never feel self conscious about doing activities alone!! 😊
I walk my life alone for 10 years now and the space of reflection grows....
My dear friend Kasper (dog) walks by my side for 7 years now.
We really learn to go with the flow of life and rely on the innner peace that can be found in being ones own best friend. I love the grace of independence and the endless opportunity to be fully präsentiert to each moment.
Thank you for the possibility to share this with you all ❤😊😊😊
I have a partner. One I choose to stay with, love, care for. But he came into my life later, and I came in with an understanding that I am good on my own. Someday, if I outlive him, I will be fine. Just as he will be fine if he outlives me. Or if the relationship fails for any reason.
I have children because I wanted them - not because I “should” or wanted to meet expectations. I love them deeply. But if others don’t have that desire, we should celebrate that too.
We need to teach our children that they are complete in themselves. Stop asking “have you met someone yet?”, followed by “when are you committing “ followed by when will you have a child, followed by “when will you have more?”
Walking alone does not mean not having other people in your life. It means knowing that you are enough as you are. And that choosing different paths is a choice.
Walking alone doesn’t mean you don’t like other people - regardless of gender or relationship. It’s the internal journey.
I found myself so much in what he said. I feel someone undesrtands me.
I’m almost 70 and chose to walk alone in 2003. I was ready for it after many attempts to couple. I was done with that by 48 years old. I have friends but rarely do things with them. I catch up with their news but don’t feel the need to fill every weekend with social activities. I’m really free since retirement and love it because my time is my time.
I admire the teaching of Alan Watts. My entire life, I’ve felt that I am separate from others. I am not lonely or alone. I am strong. I value the solitude as a time of peace and completeness. I have no problem with not being an US. I am enough. I face my negative thoughts and embrace that love and acceptance are greater than the lies we tell ourselves. Removing the masks we all wear is frightening at first, but then our inner beauty can be seen. By accepting the reality of our being, we free ourselves from fear and pain. How beautiful is that? 😊❤
There is a true beauty of walking alone, I’m happy.❤❤❤❤
Thank you
This is TRUE... I like my solitude.
I’ve been single for 22 years and was never happier. I spent a lot of time alone, in nature and with animals. Very peaceful ☺️
LOVE solitude 💖✨
I walk alone. I got here because of a lot of lies I told myself growing up. Though it can be sad, I realize how much freedom I have.
How nice for a man to explain this to everyone on our behalf.
I think it was an AI voice in the manner of Alan Watts. I may be wrong, of course.
@@consideredwhisperit's fake
Right?😅
@@Maliilse75 lol😅
I have always walked alone, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I’ve always had great friendships, but do lots of things on my own and refuse company a lot of the time. At 49, recovering from bad injuries, I’m finally learning to let people join me in walking through the literal wilderness.
They start to see themselves as they truly are and as a result, begin to work on the areas that need improvement and accept the areas that have been improved and refined!
I am walking alone for 4 years : hardest ones in my life ! BUT I give thanks to God for all lessons. I invite HIM to work w me & walk w me & teach me & change me to the glory of His name !
So resonant! I'm solitary for both peace of mind and to recharge from being of service and social interactions ❤