If He's Not Serious, STOP CHASING & Do This Instead... | RC Blakes

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    On Today's Episode:
    You're worried that if you do it, you’ll lose out, he’ll move on and someone else is going to replace you. This episode is all the reasons why you should walk away anyway. Be willing to stand for yourself and hold yourself to the highest standard because you are worth so much more.
    Put your self-respect first and make sure the partner you’re giving your time to has earned access to you, your heart, and your vulnerabilities.
    Pastor RC Blakes is a voice for female empowerment that doesn’t dance around hard conversations and addresses the realities women are struggling with in society. He’s the bestselling author of Queenology, Father-Daughter Talks, Soul-Ties and more. He and his wife, Lisa, also host women's conferences to bring healing and power to women in search of a better version of themselves free of abuse and manipulation.
    In this short clip with RC Blakes, we get a complete break down on what we lose chasing the wrong men and everything there is to gain when you’re willing to walk away, even when it hurts.
    RC Blakes Wisdom:
    “A wife is a woman that sets a certain standard, holds to it, and demands that I meet her at that level.’
    “If you don’t know who you are you don’t know who fits into your future.”
    “One of the greater tragedies of a woman that gets caught up in a situation where a man keeps circling and drawing her back in. He’s made you unavailable for the right kind of man, the right kind of love that’s ultimately seeking to find you.”
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Комментарии • 2,6 тыс.

  • @LisaBilyeu
    @LisaBilyeu  Год назад +867

    WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

    • @ashajeremiahqw8775
      @ashajeremiahqw8775 Год назад +13

      Mine too !!!

    • @andreaomar3601
      @andreaomar3601 Год назад +9

      @@ashajeremiahqw8775😮😮😮 floppy drives for o by

    • @akayk1928
      @akayk1928 Год назад +10

      Hi I jus wanted to tell u Lisa I used to love and watch your shows dedicatedly but now just have a look at all the thumbnails all show a negative caption like dot be fooled , walk away, stop being nice , I do support women empowerment but why does it have to be negative ? I would suggest pls have a look and lets create a positive mindset. thnx

    • @paigeaplin4530
      @paigeaplin4530 Год назад

      ​@@akayk1928 ..

    • @blackingingerpurrin
      @blackingingerpurrin Год назад +6

      I already sent you $600

  • @estherordu9133
    @estherordu9133 11 месяцев назад +2784

    If someone doesn't value you,walk away without expecting to reach out to you, it's better to be alone than to be with people who take you for granted.

    • @irinaivanovic9792
      @irinaivanovic9792 11 месяцев назад +35

      This is at least 50% of the reason why I'm about to divorce my husband.

    • @poeticlovee
      @poeticlovee 11 месяцев назад +5

      @@irinaivanovic9792umm 👀

    • @LisaLisa-mx3hq
      @LisaLisa-mx3hq 9 месяцев назад

      ​@@irinaivanovic9792 100% why I Divorced mine,and I don't regret it one bit!!

    • @mcpartridgeboy
      @mcpartridgeboy 9 месяцев назад +2

      Butg women reject all the men that value them its in your dna to reject men who value you because your programmed to get the best catch possible, this means in your mind unless someone doesnt value you he must be below me, so you reject all those men and only go for the ones who dont care about you at all, best case scenario is he cheats and uses you for sex, worst case scenario is he is really abusive and ends up hurting you ! its no use saying only go with men that value you, you just wownt do that ! like EVER ! It amazes me that women dont realize this, especially when they look back at who they rejected and all those awful dispicable discusting men they slept with on the very first night !

    • @irinaivanovic9792
      @irinaivanovic9792 9 месяцев назад +1

      OMG stfu. You are SO dead wrong on all that nonsense. Stop listening to Red Pill and mgtow videos! geez..@@mcpartridgeboy

  • @moniqueanderson6618
    @moniqueanderson6618 Год назад +3389

    A man i was dating asked to take a step back. I said ok. A few hours later he tried to text me. I told him he doesn't have access to me during this time, and he should stand on his word. Four days after that he text me asking did I want something I left in his car. I told him to throw it away. A month after that he sent flowers to my house on Mother's Day, we dont have children together. However, during the month I walked away, I realized I wanted more than he has to offer. I loved him and thought about him every day during that time, but that time was valuable for me to reflect.

    • @misguidedpearls7456
      @misguidedpearls7456 Год назад +33

      Awesome❤

    • @moniqueanderson6618
      @moniqueanderson6618 Год назад +186

      @Marlene Gonzalez Thank you. Self love is the first love and last love. You teach people how to treat you by what you accept.

    • @dday3322
      @dday3322 Год назад +14

      👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💜💜

    • @icewater4725
      @icewater4725 Год назад +91

      Chiiile. I feel like there needs to be a part 2! Wha happened next . Guys there is an update check the comments

    • @moniqueanderson6618
      @moniqueanderson6618 Год назад +286

      @ice water He tried to make me jealous by posting something that appears to be him on a date. He showed him buying 2 drinks. I thought it was pathetic. Again, walking away allowed me to view the situation objectively. I require a mature man that doesn't play games. Walking away or no contact should not be a desperate attempt to win an Ex back. It is a time to invest in yourself. Trust me, it was very hard walking away from someone I love. However, I love myself too much to chase after someone that is not sure about me. I'm always going to bet on me!

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 9 месяцев назад +1532

    If the wrong person is occupying your life, he's keeping the right person from you.

    • @jill1403
      @jill1403 7 месяцев назад +18

      This is such a great perspective😭 I feel much better from a heartbreak 🙏🏽🙏🏽thank you!!!!!

    • @lifewithkashmeere
      @lifewithkashmeere 7 месяцев назад +19

      yes ! this is so true, and people will string you along with absolutly no intentions to give you anything.

    • @aissatakebe5212
      @aissatakebe5212 6 месяцев назад +4

      Love this comment ❤️

    • @gueenvictoria64
      @gueenvictoria64 6 месяцев назад +4

      Great Point ❤

    • @crowndiva1112
      @crowndiva1112 6 месяцев назад +3

      Amen

  • @justicevibes1252
    @justicevibes1252 Год назад +1395

    I'm fully convinced most men only care when you're walking away. It's really disappointing that you take a kind hearted person's presence for granted. If someone only appreciates me when I'm absent then I don't want that person! 💯

    • @juliedream1625
      @juliedream1625 Год назад +58

      J, look at what he SAID, HIS mother told him to get her back. They are both haters. Obviously she pulled a star. And him & his mama. Couldn't stand it!! That lady could have been living fabulous..but settlement for a pastor!! Who is fake. God didnt speak to his heart it was his ego. She not only walked away but upgraded

    • @justicevibes1252
      @justicevibes1252 Год назад +12

      @@juliedream1625 Agreed, I was referencing to that section of him taking her for granted how it made me remember my personal experience. I had to walk away as well.

    • @unyverzequestyonable2758
      @unyverzequestyonable2758 11 месяцев назад +2

      Justicevibes1252 Just like most women too

    • @justicevibes1252
      @justicevibes1252 11 месяцев назад +15

      @@unyverzequestyonable2758 it happens to both genders.💯 I'm speaking on my experience when I loved someone and he didn't care until I started to walk away. So I'm focusing on improving my life.

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 11 месяцев назад +17

      @@juliedream1625 Who knows. A professional athlete is likely to be a serial philanderer.

  • @andreawedderburn3059
    @andreawedderburn3059 Год назад +4321

    When you finally get the courage to walk away, also prepare for the possibility that he may never come back and be ok with that. That’s how the healing process starts. No contact work but it comes with discipline. I’m learning to work away from people who don’t see my value.

    • @ChiKitty24
      @ChiKitty24 Год назад +120

      Good riddance. Your future is not with the people who leave.

    • @icewater4725
      @icewater4725 Год назад +95

      Chiiiiile I had to do that two weeks ago. Told him if you see no value in me as a friend then what good am I as a partner.... so it's been 2 weeks and I ain't heard from him since. 5 years of friendship down the drain cuz he was ultimately looking to smash and i was not on that trajectory. I'm good though, and wish him well. 😌

    • @icewater4725
      @icewater4725 Год назад +52

      @Marlene Gonzalez if he comes back don't double back.....you left the first time for a reason. He wasn't your person. He is who he is he's not going to change. Love yourself enough to know you deserve unconditional love....stay blessed Marelene.

    • @PurpleGoddess24
      @PurpleGoddess24 Год назад +2

      same.

    • @TruthPrevails30
      @TruthPrevails30 Год назад +2

      We have children but… I wish

  • @genxx2724
    @genxx2724 Год назад +6246

    I don’t think men gain perspective from distance. They immediately take up with someone else, so they don’t have any distance. The woman should still respect herself by dropping him, though.

    • @siriusakari6729
      @siriusakari6729 Год назад +850

      True. They tend to rebound a lot, they don't want to or can't seem to process their emotions. But whoever dates them during this phase is not getting the best version of the man though especially if he had deep feelings for the woman that walked away.

    • @dorothymorlano1608
      @dorothymorlano1608 Год назад +309

      So true Gotta love yourself first don’t ever settle for less

    • @carolynwebb8726
      @carolynwebb8726 Год назад

      He was never a man to begin with. Boys distract themselves with flings and fun to avoid the work of growth. Some boys are too scared to become real healthy men.
      Now we have a bunch of scared boys looking like men that will harm women and children instead of protecting them. They will neglect,emotionally abuse, physically abuse and more instead of protecting, supporting, loving them. They can't give it to themselves so they can't give it to others.

    • @PeacenPurity
      @PeacenPurity Год назад +612

      This is how you know he's not the one God has for you.

    • @TyMekaDa1
      @TyMekaDa1 Год назад +90

      They definitely do…

  • @valeriecheersbrown4829
    @valeriecheersbrown4829 Месяц назад +107

    "If you love someone, set them free. If they come back, they’re yours; if they don’t, they never were!" True words 🎉❤👍

  • @laletteraturaeilmioyoga
    @laletteraturaeilmioyoga 11 месяцев назад +319

    I don’t care if they come back. Normally they come back only to repeat the same cycle. Believe them when they reveal themselves the first time and go look for someone that respects you and value you.

  • @susannefitzpatrick9955
    @susannefitzpatrick9955 Год назад +3697

    Lisa’s totally nailed it - if a man doesn’t want you (or offers commitment) within a certain time-frame, WALK AWAY. Don’t waste your life ‘waiting’ - get on with your life and he’ll see what he’s missing. And (from experience) if he doesn’t capture you, he’ll be the loser. Guaranteed.

    • @gardenheart-uq1xx
      @gardenheart-uq1xx Год назад +8

      If he give a baby and leave it what should do

    • @sabajahangir1588
      @sabajahangir1588 Год назад +16

      After how much time should we demand committment when dating a guy?

    • @tatina3
      @tatina3 Год назад +99

      ​@sabajahangir1588 don't demand it. Discuss commitment with him and what it means to you both, tell him where you would like for your relationship to go and what you would like for your future in general (marriage, children, etc.), then listen to his side, and if the two don't match and there is no room for compromise, release each other. Demanding won't get you anywhere, it's counterproductive and sets a very bad tone for the relationship as a whole.

    • @sabajahangir1588
      @sabajahangir1588 Год назад +14

      @@tatina3 thank you. That's a really good advice 🙏

    • @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
      @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool Год назад +23

      You have to honour that everyone has a different pace at which they reach commmitment, but a conversation needs to be had and a middle ground established.

  • @sunonymous1
    @sunonymous1 Год назад +2111

    She said OK. We ended the conversation. She never called me back. 🤣 Go Lisa!!! That’s what you have to do.

    • @videofan1010
      @videofan1010 Год назад +37

      I laughed so hard 😂

    • @MattRomPsalms
      @MattRomPsalms Год назад +109

      And he probably kept thinking she’ll come back.
      Lisa a real one 😂

    • @sunonymous1
      @sunonymous1 Год назад +9

      @@MattRomPsalms facts!

    • @JJ_913
      @JJ_913 11 месяцев назад +57

      Lmao! Men only want love if it’s torture 🤣

    • @SheSmilesSlyly
      @SheSmilesSlyly 11 месяцев назад +24

      So hard to be Lisa 😅 maybe I can fake it til I make it 🙏

  • @JennyGaston
    @JennyGaston 11 месяцев назад +585

    Yes, don't give someone too much access too quickly. Protect your peace, soul ties are real.

  • @user-cf2cc9li4q
    @user-cf2cc9li4q 11 месяцев назад +349

    Ladies Ima be honest…take what these dating coaches say with a grain of salt. I’m so confused as to how his love story is “beautiful”…a good woman took a chance on a serial cheater and he told her he didn’t wanna marry her..only to change his mind when he realized that she can pull a “high value” man. Dating men involves so much mental gymnastics….why can’t i love you 100% without you getting weirded out. The more i talk to married women..and single women the more i don’t see men as worth it. When you ask men why they are bitter towards women it’s always something around money or the woman having emotions and asking them to have accountability. Weeding out a gold digger is not rocket science…men are willfully ignorant cuz they want that chase and subconsciously desire women who don’t want him. If Blakes wife remained single…he would have never wanted her back but because he saw the caliber of man she can pull…now she’s a queen. Men care more about the opinion and values of other men than what woman is best for them

    • @moorreina
      @moorreina 3 месяца назад +23

      Thank you🙏🏾

    • @patriciabernardes1707
      @patriciabernardes1707 3 месяца назад +46

      👏👏👏 you nailed it! It's exactly that! I happy someone said

    • @godsnotdonewithyouyet6955
      @godsnotdonewithyouyet6955 3 месяца назад +3

      Hush Chile 🙄

    • @ainiel7602
      @ainiel7602 3 месяца назад +19

      So spot on everything you say! 👏

    • @poppinhannah
      @poppinhannah 2 месяца назад +37

      Heavy on the weirded out because they want us until they get us and then start acting like that wasn’t the plan like WHAT? It’s too much

  • @exploringnext1111
    @exploringnext1111 Год назад +1025

    I walked away three years ago because he asked me to. Three years later, I'm still getting texts with his favorite pictures of me he saved in his phone. I do not respond. I've never loved a man like I loved him. I gave him every part of me faithfully...when he said he didn't love me anymore that's exactly what I said, okay. I've never been with a man again and nor do I want to. I'm good and happy alone.

    • @Red_1976
      @Red_1976 Год назад +102

      His loss.

    • @kymarie504
      @kymarie504 Год назад +57

      I’m so sorry.

    • @patriciamccoy1336
      @patriciamccoy1336 Год назад +75

      Thank you for this discussion 🙏 I was married to a Man who was a habitual liar and womanizer 23 years. I walked away from DRAMA 👣⏰😁

    • @jarkachalmovianska7812
      @jarkachalmovianska7812 Год назад +119

      No. Open your heart. Therecare 4billion men out here. Dont punish urself because hes a moron. He is not the right for you. Never was never will be. When u r happy with new man truthfully hes gonna crawl back. And u kick him to te curb without remorse. He does not deserve u. He will always play u because hes not seeing worth in u at al if he was able to do all those things. If hewoud have loved u hewoud have proposed long time ago to lock u up

    • @The.Ambassador415
      @The.Ambassador415 Год назад +40

      I'm right there with you. There is a freedom and being alone and getting to know yourself. Putting yourself first. The one who is worthy of you and you ❤ will come at the right time.

  • @shekiLane1166
    @shekiLane1166 Год назад +1033

    Yes , I was in the same relationship he didn't want to commit so I just walked away 2 yrs later we reconnected both still single , I gave him time & space to realize a lot of things & he was sorry & he was ready, the catch is I didn't feel the same...I had moved on.

    • @besr321
      @besr321 Год назад +46

      Same.

    • @IvyLeagueQueen100
      @IvyLeagueQueen100 11 месяцев назад +118

      Amen!! I think its kind of crazy to go back to what was willing to let you walk away in the first place. God bless you all who walked away and stayed away.

    • @aneeshaatkins9888
      @aneeshaatkins9888 11 месяцев назад +22

      I would’ve kept on walking, but God bless!

    • @shekiLane1166
      @shekiLane1166 11 месяцев назад +40

      @@aneeshaatkins9888 After 2yrs I guess I was just curious of what was going on in his life...Sometimes curiosity kills the cat & after that I kept it moving

    • @aneeshaatkins9888
      @aneeshaatkins9888 11 месяцев назад +13

      @@shekiLane1166 oh i wasn’t referring to you i was referring to the woman the Pastor was talking about. But kudos to you! Forward movement for the win. 😊

  • @dijauneaiymuan9834
    @dijauneaiymuan9834 7 месяцев назад +178

    Some men do comeback and some don’t. What’s important is that you walked away and didn’t allow that man to mistreat you, disrespect you or whatever he did.

    • @drac464
      @drac464 2 месяца назад +4

      And some come back unchanged

    • @marciawade9101
      @marciawade9101 2 месяца назад +7

      ​@@drac464 MOST of them come back unchanged. That's why you don't let them back.

    • @kay35rc
      @kay35rc День назад

      So true.

    • @kay35rc
      @kay35rc День назад +1

      ​@@marciawade9101 Right. They say things toget back in but their actions are the same.

    • @marciawade9101
      @marciawade9101 День назад +1

      @@kay35rc Yep, total scam!
      The ONLY thing you can give me is the REAL TRUTH about why you acted the way you did, an apology WITH SINCERITY, COUPLED WITH paperwork showing me you'd gone to counseling/therapy and now you're a better man. If you can't or won't do me that courtesy, there's nothing else to talk about. PERIOD!
      We're not getting back together EVER, but you, AT THE VERY LEAST, owe me that.
      However, if you left me for another woman, ALL BETS ARE OFF FOREVER!

  • @kimulitamann1518
    @kimulitamann1518 10 месяцев назад +353

    This happen to me too, when a women can walk away from a man she loves without any issues and move on with life this is a sign of Power of this women. The women knows who she is, what's good for her, and what she needs to do to stay healthy mentally, psychically emotionally, and spiritually

    • @ceceechisolm1079
      @ceceechisolm1079 10 месяцев назад +6

      Here! HERE!....AMEN..!

    • @Mary.895
      @Mary.895 10 месяцев назад +2

      💯💯

    • @fefeanng7
      @fefeanng7 9 месяцев назад +16

      Going through it right now!!!! Soooo hard sometimes I hate my heart is so vulnerable

    • @Iam.4aym
      @Iam.4aym 5 месяцев назад +3

      This is me Lmaoo

    • @Jasmynshawntel
      @Jasmynshawntel Месяц назад +1

      I needed to see this thank you ❤

  • @genxx2724
    @genxx2724 Год назад +835

    My mom described what men do to me as “false advertising”. It’s initial narcissistic love bombing. They establish a relationship and then get distant.

    • @IndigoWisdom1
      @IndigoWisdom1 Год назад +45

      Women do the same. We (humans) all offer our best in the beginning and our shadows eventually come out. Who on the first date or first month of dating shows all of their negative traits? That's not narcissism that's just relationships!'😅

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 Год назад +107

      @@IndigoWisdom1 I mean they get distant and then drift away. That’s if they don’t outright ghost. It’s like they were just after the conquest.

    • @Livelearnapply
      @Livelearnapply Год назад +10

      Facts

    • @Bunnnnbuns
      @Bunnnnbuns Год назад +6

      @@genxx2724absolutely!!

    • @CrystalDatingCoach
      @CrystalDatingCoach Год назад +85

      They get distant because they don't LIKE you anymore. That's when you Walk away!

  • @theodoracarter2515
    @theodoracarter2515 Год назад +587

    1. Happy And Fulfilled In Singleness.
    2. Know your own purpose.
    3. Be aware of areas of brokenness.
    4. Be open and willing to change.
    5. Rest In God For The Fulfillment Of Healing.

  • @tainisha1991
    @tainisha1991 11 месяцев назад +722

    I don’t even know Lisa but I love her
    Her courage
    Her strength
    Her forgiveness
    Her self respect
    Her standards
    Her tolerance
    Her patience
    Omg I love it
    If a man isn’t ready for what you’re ready for & you know it’s only going to bring out the best in you two
    Drop him leave him
    & if he doesn’t come back then it was never meant to be
    Nobody have time to be playing with indecisive people
    Either you want forever with me or get out the next persons way who does want forever with me 🤭

    • @sophiaf.
      @sophiaf. 11 месяцев назад +9

      Amen 🙏🏾

    • @dilanamorres68
      @dilanamorres68 11 месяцев назад +7

      Mam oh man I love the last part of your comment stand up beautiful lady LET HIM GO.. HE IS TOSSING OUT THE PEARL FOR HIS what might only be plastic l...hand him a fork d walk out .. .. what a woman Lisa is

    • @Realness4sho
      @Realness4sho 8 месяцев назад +2

      🔥

    • @cookiecrumb5810
      @cookiecrumb5810 4 месяца назад

      Lisa should have found away to stay with the athlete in my opinion!

    • @mattiegraham3143
      @mattiegraham3143 11 дней назад

      Nay

  • @MonicaWilson-yo4vf
    @MonicaWilson-yo4vf Год назад +723

    I can relate to this conversation. I walked away from a man that did the same thing he did. I gave a lot and received nothing in return. I walked away and yes told him how I felt. Men Don't realize how good of a woman they have until she's gone

    • @irinaivanovic9792
      @irinaivanovic9792 11 месяцев назад +36

      Sometimes I suppose. If he's a Libra or Leo, there's an even bigger chance that he STILL won't give a damn after she's gone. Smh.

    • @liezlmeilink2001
      @liezlmeilink2001 10 месяцев назад +5

      @@irinaivanovic9792oh how spot on!

    • @aswathyreena1963
      @aswathyreena1963 10 месяцев назад +4

      ​@@irinaivanovic9792oh ys he was a libra....

    • @chandrawillis2625
      @chandrawillis2625 10 месяцев назад

      @@aswathyreena1963same

    • @fatihakhaouas690
      @fatihakhaouas690 10 месяцев назад +2

      Yes

  • @genxx2724
    @genxx2724 Год назад +292

    Narcissists are demons. Turn away from the adversary.

    • @CleoraAleise
      @CleoraAleise Год назад +21

      Exactly very demonic beings

    • @Jovalela3
      @Jovalela3 Год назад +11

      It’s true I just walked away from one but it’s breaking me into pieces

    • @armcandi36
      @armcandi36 Год назад +7

      ​@@Jovalela3 It takes time but it will get better🙏

    • @TheMallyjoe
      @TheMallyjoe Год назад +1

      What is narcissist behavior?

    • @Jovalela3
      @Jovalela3 Год назад +15

      @@TheMallyjoe they lack of empathy for others, dehumanizing others, preoccupied with self, unrealistic expectations just to name a few from own experience

  • @judith5305
    @judith5305 Год назад +155

    Stop chasing mankind period. Do this instead:
    Matthew 6:33
    “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.”
    King James Version (KJV)
    Matthew 6:34
    “Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.”
    King James Version (KJV)
    There can be no positive results on this planet without seeking The Most Highest first! Teach that!

    • @shavonshavon1928
      @shavonshavon1928 2 месяца назад +1

      Amen 🙏

    • @shavonshavon1928
      @shavonshavon1928 2 месяца назад

      I don't understand why women or men antagonize themselves this way,, it either is or it isn't. Be ok if it isn't, praise God and be appreciative if it is.

    • @angelsonia6310
      @angelsonia6310 2 месяца назад +1

      Glory be to God! Mtt6:33 is the key! May the Lord give me the grace to keep this scripture first

  • @cella-di5jb
    @cella-di5jb 4 месяца назад +31

    Don't stay where you are not valued or wanted👌. Know your worth

  • @NicoletteRenee111
    @NicoletteRenee111 Год назад +75

    I walked away from my ex after years of wasted time and two children. He's been trying hard to win me back for 2 years now. Unfortunately I'm not Lisa I don't have anymore years to give away, and I don't trust that a man who has never been faithful will suddenly become faithful. I could be wrong but God hasn't told me to go back, he told me to go forward.

  • @ireneh.6356
    @ireneh.6356 Год назад +290

    He is so lucky she took him back and he got another chance. Amazing they worked out. Most men probably would’ve gotten their ego boosted so hard they’d leave her again.

    • @tamaracaughman7800
      @tamaracaughman7800 Год назад +52

      She took him back because and it worked because it was God design for them to be together. Everyone ain't meant to be together that's why it don't work and the other person leave because it's not from God. When God put 2 people together nothing can tear it apart.

    • @the_professional007
      @the_professional007 Год назад +20

      Well, you can "torture" him a bit 😊 just don't allow him to get you back so easily, give him the feeling that he needs to step up and fight in order for you to come back and give him a new chance 😊

    • @the_professional007
      @the_professional007 Год назад +7

      And it also helps if that person ends up to be your soulmate 😉

    • @AkireMaru
      @AkireMaru Год назад +14

      @@the_professional007 and this is where good girls go wrong. They don’t understand the power of negotiations, think they are being “mean” and so don’t do this, so the man comes back easily and thinks he could have done better. A critical ingredient to love is feeling like you did the best you could and nature has a beautiful way of pairing people up with the best they can get. The amount of our crap the other person is willing to take is a sign they are not our equal. Why many men marry the girl that walked away…

    • @the_professional007
      @the_professional007 Год назад +23

      @@AkireMaru if a girl takes him back like nothing has happened....she is being mean towards herself, it is going to affect her self esteem, her value will drop even in her own eyes (in his also).
      With that being said, when a guy wants to leave, let him, ignore him, don't text him, put yourself first, and if he comes back, it is up to him to win you over, and you act distant 😊 know your value and demand respect 😊 that would be my advice 😊

  • @KimFsharpHarp
    @KimFsharpHarp 10 месяцев назад +196

    She summed up the most important rule for all women, forever: “ No matter what though if he doesn’t want me, I will walk away”. Amen

  • @lindat1317
    @lindat1317 6 месяцев назад +68

    It’s true. A lot of the time if there is TOO much space, usually it’s the woman who decides “hold up, I’m worth more than his indecisiveness, I’ll make the decision here.” 😅 Thinking time is awesome and needed. He doesn’t want me? Ok, I’m not chasing or begging. My self-esteem and worth are much more important. A man WILL move mountains to pursue a woman he loves, so there’s no excuse. None. I always remember a quote from long ago, “Silence IS your answer.”

  • @GoddessEnergy333
    @GoddessEnergy333 9 месяцев назад +294

    It’s ok if they walk away, or you gain the strength to walk away… Because the best is yet to come!🧘🏾‍♀️🤍

    • @Realness4sho
      @Realness4sho 8 месяцев назад +2

      🔥🩷

    • @miabellah1639
      @miabellah1639 6 месяцев назад +2

      Saw this @ 3:33

    • @KM-oy5yh
      @KM-oy5yh 4 месяца назад +1

      AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

    • @foofee28
      @foofee28 2 месяца назад +1

      THANK YOU, JESUS!!!!

    • @GoddessEnergy333
      @GoddessEnergy333 2 месяца назад

      @@miabellah1639 💗💗💗👁️

  • @HelgaZargarian
    @HelgaZargarian Год назад +161

    The answer to an idiot is silence. Whoever doesn’t want you is obviously an idiot 🗣️ this was much needed to remind myself who I am

  • @annaa6259
    @annaa6259 Год назад +1094

    This man is a legend. Have been listening to him for 2 years now and raised my self worth, self consciousness, helped me to remind me who I am and what I deserve, heal soul from toxic and narcissistic relations. his amazing teachings and books should be mandatory especially for younger generations.

  • @FaezaEvans-kr7zg
    @FaezaEvans-kr7zg 11 месяцев назад +263

    This is so true I walked away from a marriage that wasn't good for me and I took time to heal like almost 3 years and I met someone unexpectedly and we just so compatible and he treats me with so much respect it was all worth it

    • @joankipz9789
      @joankipz9789 11 месяцев назад +4

      Congratulations dea

    • @irinaivanovic9792
      @irinaivanovic9792 11 месяцев назад +8

      I hope it works out for you in the LONG HAUL and not just for a few years. Like in my experiences. Walking away from a 10 year relationship is NOT easy. I couldn't take the emotional neglect anymore and I finally told him it's over last night.

    • @katrinagarnett3256
      @katrinagarnett3256 8 месяцев назад +2

      Wow

    • @kay35rc
      @kay35rc День назад

      I am so glad you have someone that respects you. That is important.

  • @sofalvarez
    @sofalvarez 10 месяцев назад +47

    Yes, you walk away, they gain perspective and miss you, then they come back. But they will lose perspective again. It’s a never ending cycle.

  • @irinaivanovic9792
    @irinaivanovic9792 Год назад +534

    "You can live a full life if the Right Person never finds you." This is precisely why I no longer believe there is somebody out there for everyone. I am 41, have done "the work" on myself for over 2 decades now and still do not attract the right person or anyone at all. SO MANY people die alone without ever meeting the right person, just a lot of wrong ones.

    • @jessenceq3250
      @jessenceq3250 Год назад +40

      Do you put yourself out there?
      I'm similar. But I don't venture out much.

    • @felicitygrace5113
      @felicitygrace5113 Год назад +97

      I say better to be happy in yourself with God, than miserable and all sorts of negativity with a man

    • @Ada-cm4qu
      @Ada-cm4qu Год назад +32

      Consider dating younger men

    • @colevandais
      @colevandais Год назад +7

      @@felicitygrace5113 Very true

    • @HisaLight2mypath
      @HisaLight2mypath Год назад +68

      A lot of dates disappointing dates being used being deceived attempted narcissism . The dating world is toxic is like these men and possess , cold-hearted and they play games.
      You have a couple of decent conversation you think it's going somewhere them bam they disappear or say something very bad.

  • @Chanelboateng
    @Chanelboateng Год назад +514

    This man is my adopted dad, uncle, brother and Pastor all at the same time!

  • @bromelaina8076
    @bromelaina8076 Месяц назад +6

    "Sometimes we are giving things away that have to be EARNED" ~RC Blakes - Sir, I SALUTE you!!!!!

  • @sugarlove937
    @sugarlove937 9 месяцев назад +74

    Baby! What he is saying is ABSOLUTELY CORRECT! ❤Absence gives them time to adjust their perspective!!!! They have always came running back and marriage is ALWAYS THE OFFER!!!!
    Signed… happily married ❤

  • @teresathreatts4266
    @teresathreatts4266 Год назад +215

    I got rid of a "man" ...& I RAN...I did not WALK! God has opened the door for the man that has come into my life. He treats me like the good woman that I am!! 💃🏾💃🏾 RC Blakes is an amazing man of God. I've been following him for years now! I truly understand what a good man looks like now!!

  • @beautyshines2124
    @beautyshines2124 Год назад +131

    Don't chase a man or a woman who has bad behavior because they are not worthy of your goodness. They don't deserve in your life.They are not a great loss in your existence. There is still an individual who is much much better than them. Just enjoy life in many good ways to the fullest each day without hurting other people.

  • @RawVeganGinger
    @RawVeganGinger 11 месяцев назад +34

    When you take something for granted, you don't realize what you have until it's gone.

  • @KimGsworld
    @KimGsworld 11 месяцев назад +96

    If someone tells you they don’t want you it’s hurts worse to try to stay, walk away, heal, learn grow you deserve better and who wants to give genuine love to you

  • @renitacody8841
    @renitacody8841 Год назад +66

    Do your personal work, wait on the right person, and keep that space open for him earning all of you💍. That's enough said.

  • @EthersMysticalChildTarot8014
    @EthersMysticalChildTarot8014 Год назад +59

    Walking Away On A Road Called Self Respect ✌️💃

  • @Revivingidentities
    @Revivingidentities 9 месяцев назад +54

    If you do your personal work, you will attract what you are. Preach Sir🙌🏽💯

    • @daaliysia
      @daaliysia 8 месяцев назад

      I read this right when he said it in the video gave me chills 🥺

  • @CRISSGRULLON
    @CRISSGRULLON Год назад +331

    Chasing a woman versus Pursuing a woman. When he highlighted the difference, it really resonated with me. It's funny I've focused more energy on toxic situations with a guy that was chasing and it devolved into a game of tom and jerry...And yet there is one guy who has been pursuing me in a very calm and soft manner. And this has me really trying to focus on my own healing and learning what is the right type of attention for me. The right person comes on time, not before nor after.

    • @kristenr8311
      @kristenr8311 Год назад +17

      I hope you find true, unconditional love - sounds like you've done some valuable personal inventory on this topic. For what it's worth, and from personal experience, when it's the right person, you just know... it's like grace, almost.. a feeling of comfort and grounding all the giddy stuff with new love too... Anyway, you'll know! Just be true to yourself. :)

    • @davindampen
      @davindampen Год назад +9

      That's a good way of describing it as a Tom and Jerry cartoon where the relationship is something that's not even serious when it should be.

    • @mariesolal
      @mariesolal Год назад +4

      Chasing x pursuing! Never realized the difference!!

  • @blessedtobealive9305
    @blessedtobealive9305 Год назад +50

    I’ve been like Lisa. He left then came back I refused. I can’t be with a man that can’t give me stability from the get go. I should be nervous not him.

  • @chynamarae
    @chynamarae 11 месяцев назад +49

    Woow. I needed to hear this. I spent time CHASING a man && it ended me up in a HORRIBLE place. I finally walked away. Didn’t block him or anything because I knew that meant nothing. I want to live my life as if he doesn’t even exist && it has been GREAT! I have received so many blessings and my life is flourishing in the way it needs to.

    • @Eroticdesires33
      @Eroticdesires33 4 месяца назад +2

      Doing this now it hurt so much I don’t understand why he is acting this way he tears up saying he loves me but never in his life he loved this way but yet pulling back I’m confuse I’m tired of wondering and chasing

  • @DiverseMountains
    @DiverseMountains 11 месяцев назад +58

    This is what I've been struggling with. Now I see my error. I will be strong and walk away because it's not right and I'm tired of crying EVERYDAY

    • @sifisodube9997
      @sifisodube9997 11 месяцев назад +2

      Its so painful and hard to walk away bt better to be in pain walking away than staying and hurt and cry everyday

    • @aycoyote
      @aycoyote 5 месяцев назад +1

      I understand. I've experienced this for the first time ever, a shock to my otherwise healthy systems; it lasted 4 months and I've finally closed the door to him. I hope you are doing better.

    • @briz4722
      @briz4722 4 месяца назад +1

      @@aycoyote Did you announce your departure explaining why you’re leaving or did you just block him ? I need help 😢

  • @Beautytrends77
    @Beautytrends77 Год назад +590

    This video is what I needed to watch right now. Just went through this and had to walk away from someone I truly loved but my self respect is much more important than someone not meeting my needs. It hurts but the power of walking away is necessary to preserve your self worth!

    • @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
      @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool Год назад +18

      Amazing job on choosing YOU. I hope you're okay ❤

    • @katonyashakir8847
      @katonyashakir8847 Год назад +14

      I'm glad you chose you! Keep pressing forward.

    • @aliciamcorniel
      @aliciamcorniel Год назад +8

      You made I good choose. Keep strong. Better things will come!

    • @Beautytrends77
      @Beautytrends77 Год назад +5

      @@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool yes I’m okay! I definitely know I made the right decision.

    • @Beautytrends77
      @Beautytrends77 Год назад +1

      @@katonyashakir8847 thank you 🙏🏼

  • @rileysmiley9585
    @rileysmiley9585 11 месяцев назад +15

    I walked away too. Some guys loose and are not going to ever know that kind of love again. FORGET THEM.

    • @kay35rc
      @kay35rc День назад

      Say that 5xs. That is so true. I hope that realize that. Men say I want a woman who truly cares. When they have her , their toxic behaviors run her away.

  • @Kurt5Dobson
    @Kurt5Dobson 11 месяцев назад +267

    Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it

    • @DarylSimpson58
      @DarylSimpson58 11 месяцев назад +4

      there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

    • @Kurt5Dobson
      @Kurt5Dobson 11 месяцев назад +1

      @@DarylSimpson58 its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.

    • @DarylSimpson58
      @DarylSimpson58 11 месяцев назад

      @@Kurt5Dobson this is helpful, I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her.

    • @user-hj2lf7vr7o
      @user-hj2lf7vr7o 11 месяцев назад

      I'm going through that right now not divorce yet but constant threats and I'm just trying to make him happy and get the help we need. Any tips

    • @maureenbrown3857
      @maureenbrown3857 11 месяцев назад

      ​@@DarylSimpson58 I 😅

  • @evacrowner5035
    @evacrowner5035 10 месяцев назад +34

    It’s been 7 months since I walked away. I’m every name in the book which idc but the threats that he was gonna kill me was so DEMONIC! He used to beat on me & tried to fight my son & I believe he wanted my daughter as well. I did the right thing & refuse to go back! PERIODT 👏👏

    • @dollyscott-payne7488
      @dollyscott-payne7488 10 месяцев назад +5

      *Stay strong, Niece, and don't go back!!!*
      *Many are proud of you, rooting for you, and praying for you ⚘️!*

  • @danirobi10
    @danirobi10 Месяц назад +5

    “If you do your personal work, you will attract what you are!”

  • @gabriellemetott1887
    @gabriellemetott1887 6 месяцев назад +1591

    ❤❤I'm favoured only God knows how much I praise Him, $130k every 4weeks! I now have a good house and can now afford anything and also support my family

    • @gabriellemetott1887
      @gabriellemetott1887 6 месяцев назад

      I earn from investiing in the digital market with the guidance of Mrs Elizabeth Marie hawley
      Brokerage services

    • @Anna_78953
      @Anna_78953 6 месяцев назад +1

      That's great!! .I don't know anything about investing and I intend to start. What are your strategies?

    • @gabriellemetott1887
      @gabriellemetott1887 6 месяцев назад

      ​@@Anna_78953I started off small trading with Mrs Elizabeth Marie hawley in 2022 and now my life is good. I thank God the most He alone made it possible for the opportunity to come my way.

    • @mccarthylauren6816
      @mccarthylauren6816 6 месяцев назад

      Can I also do it??? My life is facing lots of challenge lately.

    • @DouglasWatkins-jg5zy
      @DouglasWatkins-jg5zy 6 месяцев назад

      Lately I've heard a lot about Mrs. Elizabeth Marie hawley, she must be very good.

  • @dxxldiva
    @dxxldiva 11 месяцев назад +57

    At 57 years old, I'm still learning and hoping that I get it right.❤

    • @1tlb0k
      @1tlb0k 11 месяцев назад +2

      60 yo the same... 🙏🏼

    • @secretpal6039
      @secretpal6039 10 месяцев назад +1

      59 and the same!!

    • @dollyscott-payne7488
      @dollyscott-payne7488 10 месяцев назад +2

      *64 and Fabulous...but still the same 👍!*

    • @kay35rc
      @kay35rc День назад

      I am almost 40 and I am wondering if I will ever be in a healthy relationship.

  • @lisahenry8492
    @lisahenry8492 11 месяцев назад +25

    Loved this! Women are giving men too much sexual access! Preach .

    • @kay35rc
      @kay35rc День назад

      So true. When some guys do not value us. It is sad how some guys treat women.

  • @thejannieb.perspective1830
    @thejannieb.perspective1830 Год назад +39

    The part about contacting her while she was in another relationship…hmmmm. No one would suggest that to a woman- to do to a man. I notice once we move on, they always come back around.

    • @kaylisaferguson2554
      @kaylisaferguson2554 Год назад +4

      They ask at the wedding, if anyone opposes the wedding, speak now. I think it's better to shoot your shot before the person makes it to the altar.

  • @msessenceofreality
    @msessenceofreality Год назад +47

    He really is a legend because he talks about HIMSELF! not just everybody else. How many men expose themselves like this and have a testimony? Find that!

    • @corieb1379
      @corieb1379 6 месяцев назад +1

      He’s the only one I listen to because yes been married for decades. The other “gurus” aren’t married and they don’t seem to be in long term relationships.

  • @Curvy_runway
    @Curvy_runway 3 месяца назад +15

    After 10 months of us knowing each other and dating, I told him I wanted more. He said he wants friendship. I told him I have too much to offer and will not wait for him, chase or beg him. He blocks me after that.Just before that I was vulnerable with him on the phone and he did hear me weep but I did pull myself together and sent him that txt and wished him luck. I see it must have hurt his ego but I dont want anything less either. It's been a day since this happened and I do miss him and cry. WHAT'S MEANT FOR ME WILL BE MINE! I ATTRACT I DO NOT CHASE.

    • @faelisa
      @faelisa 3 месяца назад +5

      It's hard but you can do this. I'm going through it too.

    • @niania0819
      @niania0819 2 месяца назад +2

      I’m going through that as well we going to get through it 💯💯

    • @soniaonyekwere3820
      @soniaonyekwere3820 Месяц назад +2

      Same me here

    • @Glamrocs
      @Glamrocs 22 дня назад +1

      Same 😢

    • @Anieareyouok
      @Anieareyouok 7 дней назад +1

      Same 🤍

  • @mphonengwenda1004
    @mphonengwenda1004 9 месяцев назад +29

    Knowing your worth helps a lot even if another person might not understand it.

  • @necoleyarde4880
    @necoleyarde4880 Год назад +18

    What you all don't realize is that men only want you back when another man has you, most of the Time its their ego.

  • @kimberlymay9497
    @kimberlymay9497 Год назад +384

    So glad I’ve discovered these videos, they’ve kept me strong 💪🏽 I really slipped up and let a inconsistent man get away with too much too long.

    • @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
      @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool Год назад +7

      Good luck! You desverve the best ❤

    • @bellemanning9066
      @bellemanning9066 Год назад +5

      Same

    • @indigoangel7209
      @indigoangel7209 Год назад +10

      Same! But it's never too late to turn it all around

    • @obiettalangley8726
      @obiettalangley8726 11 месяцев назад +19

      Ditto! We've all been there. It takes a tremendous amount of courage to leave someone alone that has literally SHOWN you all the red flags!!

    • @preciouschild5490
      @preciouschild5490 11 месяцев назад +8

      I did that for way too long as well. But thank God I finally let go, feeling free and light.

  • @bye-byeblackbird
    @bye-byeblackbird 11 месяцев назад +22

    I walked away three months ago. He looked me in the eue and said we have to stop doing this. I said okay. Left his house, didn’t call, didn't text and two weeks later he started reaching out. I let him back in and he still didn’t choose me. Tuesday I walked away again telling him I am done. My self worth is more important than our relationship.

    • @ctokyox977
      @ctokyox977 10 месяцев назад +7

      Two weeks ain’t enough give it 5 months

    • @dollyscott-payne7488
      @dollyscott-payne7488 10 месяцев назад

      ​@@ctokyox977*Besides getting a few (answered and unanswered) calls and hoovers, mine popped up on me recently -- 10 MONTHS LATER! Boy bye/F¥ck off!*

    • @shivani815
      @shivani815 10 месяцев назад +7

      after he literally told you that y'all have to stop doing "this", why did you let him back again in to begin with.

    • @kay35rc
      @kay35rc День назад

      So true. I did this too three months ago. They rarely change. We give them so many chances and they do not change.

    • @kay35rc
      @kay35rc День назад

      That is good he realuzed that his wife was who he wanted to marry. It is sad when they do not care even when you leave.
      He has some good points.

  • @joyh.729
    @joyh.729 2 месяца назад +7

    I LOVE how Lisa allows her guests to speak and finish their thoughts without interrupting. This makes for a truly amazing interview. Thank u!❤

  • @nickiehines5319
    @nickiehines5319 Год назад +29

    I walked away .. Freedom and no
    more disrespect!!!!!

    • @kay35rc
      @kay35rc День назад

      Yes! So true!

  • @TheBajanerika
    @TheBajanerika Год назад +37

    Got to walk away prepared that he will not come back. You will have to be really let go.😭

    • @moorreina
      @moorreina 3 месяца назад +1

      Very painful

    • @cecelovesyoumore
      @cecelovesyoumore 2 месяца назад +1

      Sheesh…. Prepare that he won’t come back…. Hard pill to swallow.

    • @jade73718
      @jade73718 6 дней назад

      But it’s ok love yourself first and foremost

  • @scooterpatooter9484
    @scooterpatooter9484 11 месяцев назад +11

    VALUE YOURSELF, EVERYONE.
    No one else does until YOU do.
    Love YOURSELF-- you're worth it, my beautiful friends.

  • @Happyfeelinpeace
    @Happyfeelinpeace 11 месяцев назад +36

    There's a huge difference between a man who can lead and a man who is leading you on!

  • @janellmd
    @janellmd Год назад +69

    I feel like most men do not see what they missed with a good woman. I feel like they move on without realizing what they missed prior.

    • @unyverzequestyonable2758
      @unyverzequestyonable2758 11 месяцев назад +1

      Janellmd Most people

    • @Erica-cf1xb
      @Erica-cf1xb 2 месяца назад +2

      Some need to experience the reality of what's in the streets. All the masks, secret phones, lying, lil side odd jobs that's terrible just to see how life would be with that person.

    • @kay35rc
      @kay35rc День назад

      Most men for real.

  • @BrnSgr1908
    @BrnSgr1908 11 месяцев назад +15

    Lisa walking away, said" if you didn't value my presence... he won't feel my absence"

  • @TheAttractionTriggers
    @TheAttractionTriggers 8 месяцев назад +43

    *It's crucial to recognize our worth and not chase after someone who isn't serious. Let's invest our energy in those who reciprocate our feelings and efforts. Here's to respecting ourselves and attracting the love we deserve.*

  • @cjones2171
    @cjones2171 10 месяцев назад +10

    Moral of the story is that alot of men take women for granted. Gotcha. Smh

    • @kay35rc
      @kay35rc День назад

      Right. That part is clear for real. Drpp the mike. Lol.

  • @rhapsodicchimera9768
    @rhapsodicchimera9768 10 месяцев назад +9

    Not sure why this came to my timeline, but its right on time. Had to walk away from a 2year relationship. Its hard, but things are better now that im away from it. He still reaches out and says he misses me; we were friends for over 10years. I want a man that respects and cherishes me not a man that had to think twice about me.

  • @kellymcmullan5425
    @kellymcmullan5425 22 дня назад +2

    I walked away after 5 yrs of abuse bullying and him bringing up my past all the time calling me names and he could never do wrong im healing living my life now 😊

    • @Kiwi--nk6dq
      @Kiwi--nk6dq 11 дней назад

      Love this for you. Glad you walked away from the abuse. You deserve better. You deserve happiness ❤

    • @kay35rc
      @kay35rc День назад

      I'm so sorry you went through that abuse. That is good you walked zway. I walked sway too from.a toxic relationship 3 months ago. He ghosted me on Valentine's Day and called me the next day. I let go that week.

  • @i.I.j
    @i.I.j 10 месяцев назад +13

    I walked away from my daughters father I loved him but there's was no direction in our relationship. There was no intimacy romance just banging. He didn't fight he got with someone else, I was heartbroken felt worthless but I didn't regret my decision because I know my worth. 5 years on I'm so glad I did the blessing that came into my life has been wonderful

  • @elizabethkirby9463
    @elizabethkirby9463 Год назад +192

    Women everywhere! NEVER give have any kind of sex with a man you're not engaged to with the date set. I don't get used because I don't let it happen. Do background checks. There are people out there who can pretend to be someone else for a LONG ass time. Half of all men are addicted to attention, soooooo, definitely, hold out. Any woman who ended up with a good man, the right man, said a lot of goodbyes before he came along. 💯

    • @annaa6259
      @annaa6259 Год назад +25

      Spot on! 👏 So many crave attention but like RC says queens give attention only to high value man

    • @Magicisreal66
      @Magicisreal66 Год назад +5

      Now I do understand what you mean about being played in that Arena I don't know it firsthand, but I do know just by hearing others. When you're a real woman and you know what you want and sexual desire is a enormous part of us- to simply ignore it, is absolutely ridiculous advice- just be picky on who you choose, and a man should be doing the same damn thing--- but Society has indoctrinated the human male to be absolutely honorless- as far from being a (real man / Divine masculine) and non-Discerning as one can get. and let's not forget- with a depravity that knows NO BOTTOM!! That's what's really going on here , but nobody wants to address the real problem ! Gee, I wonder why that is?????
      And B t w- she can wait as long as SHE WANTS- hes just gona be getting it on the side, make it look like he's waiting and being patient 😏
      And I'll be damned if Im going to pay for that by lessoning this life that i was given by denying my desires!
      My how we forget what this (toxic and cowardice patriarchal regime has done for thousands of years -
      "RULEZ FOR THEE, BUT NOT FOR ME"
      (YEH, THEY CAN KISS MY ASS AND WALK BACKWARDS)! like they usually do anyway--

    • @Magicisreal66
      @Magicisreal66 Год назад +3

      Engagements get boken and dates get changed- and why r u advocating we need to be a (mother Theresa) my god, what bad advice-

    • @samanthachildress1091
      @samanthachildress1091 Год назад +2

      It’s true 🎯

    • @elizabethkirby9463
      @elizabethkirby9463 Год назад +13

      @@Magicisreal66 Not bad advice. You need to understand how a man really thinks. I've seen this instant gratification thing played out too many times. A man who desires you isn't going anywhere.

  • @kitablanchard9170
    @kitablanchard9170 Год назад +64

    We as women have all been hurt in some way. I desire to be married and loved correctly! We must take the time to heal correctly and allow God to remove and fill any void that in within. Also our words are conduits to what we sow into our life. If that’s all you say that you’re not going to find love and there is no love for you. That is exactly what you get.. Let’s use our words and thoughts wisely! They are so expensive!💕

    • @latoyrajones6508
      @latoyrajones6508 Год назад +2

      I love this, you are 💯 percent correct, life and death is in the power, of the tongue. Everything isn't like a microwave oven, so I believe if one look at self, and began to know their value, and their worth, they'll then begin to attract, what God has for you then, because everything that trys to attach itself too you too fast, isn't always good for you. That's when discernment should comes in. It's always signs we just don't pick up on them, or we avoid them. That's when we get hurt. ( Perception) is off. Thanks for sharing.😊

    • @kitablanchard9170
      @kitablanchard9170 11 месяцев назад

      You’re absolutely right as well…All the things be off.. flags be neon pink! 🤣 Perception and discernment is vital!❤

    • @moorreina
      @moorreina 3 месяца назад

      Amen ❤❤

  • @kimberlypreston7971
    @kimberlypreston7971 5 месяцев назад +10

    I learned this the hard way but the day I finally walked away I gain my self-worth and life back!

    • @kay35rc
      @kay35rc День назад +1

      I did too. I am so glad you walked away as well.

  • @tiffc7666
    @tiffc7666 Месяц назад +2

    16:34: “Sometimes we are giving things away that have to be earned.”
    Whew!!! Now that’s a word!!!!

  • @GrowwithmebySarahNicole
    @GrowwithmebySarahNicole Год назад +15

    It’s Cap he just knew she was enough for a better man which means that she was too good for him which made him open his eyes….Boy the Ego is something else

    • @juliedream1625
      @juliedream1625 Год назад +1

      Yes. He is sooo fake. Actually his mama felt how dare the ex upgrade. He spelled her to come back. So she would not have the BEST. Now he brainwashing people like he is a pastor.. He is fake

    • @kay35rc
      @kay35rc День назад

      Right. The guy she was with was famous and had money. Shoot. Lol.

  • @daniellemorse9895
    @daniellemorse9895 Год назад +69

    This has been unbelievably hard but not for the same reasons. After 27 years of marriage with an abusive Narcissist I've found myself alone. He finally broke me (which I unwittingly allowed.) And he secretly moved onto another woman. One day my world was turned upside down after discovering this. I do NOT want him back. But the long connection between us leaves me so vulnerable and desperate on occasion. Not desperate to have him back but desperate to know I'm still valuable. When in truth, I know I was always valuable & he still doesn't deserve me. I've grown more in a few months than the last decade. I just NEED to let go of my desire to feel valid to this man.

    • @wrinthiak3431
      @wrinthiak3431 Год назад +7

      You will, Sis. Prayerfully keep walking in the other direction.

    • @kaycee9363
      @kaycee9363 Год назад +10

      I don’t know if this will matter much from a complete stranger but, I want you to know that you’re valuable. God bless you sis.

    • @mathapelo802
      @mathapelo802 Год назад +5

      Gosh I hurt for you sis! From my understanding a person like that will never give you what u deserve! You know u are valuable and just remember it’s not you. It’s him, I know it sounds crazy but he knows I are valuable , that is why he treated you the way you did to make u think you weren’t! You were his bait he knows he isn’t valuable!! You will be waiting until death to receive that validation from him. I went through something a little similar and still trying to pin point when someone is a narci! I always wanted validation from him and he came to someone that wasn’t broken and knew I was able to validate myself. I wanted it from him and know till this day, I will never get it! They are beneath us’ I hope this helps and hope it makes sense!

    • @t_a_r_r_y_n_
      @t_a_r_r_y_n_ 11 месяцев назад

      I can relate to what you've said here.

    • @LadyAstarionAncunin
      @LadyAstarionAncunin 11 месяцев назад +3

      Your story is an excellent example of why women should abandon ship ASAP when there's a red flag (instead of ignoring said red flag). It sounds like a sunk cost fallacy. You put nearly three decades into a person, so you're trying to get some return on your investment even though he couldn't care less about you. Sounds like he shouldn't have even gotten three months.

  • @karenwhipple9727
    @karenwhipple9727 5 месяцев назад +6

    Miss Monica
    I agree with you, and this is the best thing, I feel that I had feelings for a guy and the problem is communicating. And he doesn't realize that a good woman standing under his nose.
    Like a said someone will snatched her from beneath him..when you walk away from him, He's the loser, I'm the winner. Cause he had a good woman that really loves ❤️ him. Now he's the pitiful one.
    Don't pass up the good ones, for the bad ones.

  • @kutenfun26
    @kutenfun26 11 месяцев назад +12

    I was in a relationship and he was verbally abusive,
    No matter how I begged him to stop.
    It wasn’t my fault, it was him acting on pain from his past relationships. I talked to him about his past, I gave him the offer to leave me if he wasn’t ready.
    He told me he was over his past and acted right for a week.
    I finally blocked him with tears in my eyes. He called my mom, and I wouldn’t talk to him.
    2 months later ( with no communication)
    He called me, apologized, acknowledged his ways, and we are now happy.
    He expressed he understood why I did what I did, but couldn’t stop thinking about me.
    I had listened to RC BLAKES teaching about the power to walk away, it’s for games, it’s not to taunt, it’s for clarity for the both of you.
    I must admit I wasn’t surprised he called, we had a connection, and truth be told, I thought about him daily, but for me and my sanity, I couldn’t take the verbal abuse.
    We are GOOD now, and he’s a lot more mindful of his words.
    THANK YOU RC for all your teachings.
    I don’t have anyone to teach me what you do, so I THANK YOU

    • @dollyscott-payne7488
      @dollyscott-payne7488 10 месяцев назад +1

      *I'm happy for you both ⚘️!*

    • @kay35rc
      @kay35rc День назад

      That is good it worked out for you. Similar situation. However, he has not changed. I will not take him back. I am still trying to get back to myself. He did not care.

  • @lorianne4608
    @lorianne4608 Год назад +67

    RC Blakes has been truly a God send. I had been trying to go no contact + with his encouragement, I left. He started stalking me + I called the police. It’s over now + I’m Grateful

    • @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
      @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool Год назад +3

      I am happy it's over Lori. That stuff is so scary and dysregulating. Hope you are feeling a lot better ❤

  • @tunmise5938
    @tunmise5938 3 месяца назад +40

    Thank you Dr Oluwaseun for helping me solving my love problem. I will never forget your favor for the rest of my life.❤

  • @rebeccalawrencethomascarte7829
    @rebeccalawrencethomascarte7829 Год назад +20

    If changes don’t come and he keeps allowing things that he think is harmless. I will go! Proverbs 1: 8-19

  • @patriciadunatte6294
    @patriciadunatte6294 11 месяцев назад +91

    Lisa , I love that you brought RC Blake on your show. This man’s knowledge and wisdom has empowered me to heal and value myself, after being broken by narcissistic abuse. He also tought me how to spot a narcissist. Seriously all ladies should go check his material out. He is fabulous !!!!

  • @shalaswilks902
    @shalaswilks902 11 месяцев назад +28

    I agree with you completely- I was in a situation where I loved him - he told me he love me as well as he was showing me differently and was not communicating with me, hiding, lying and opening up about certain things. So I decided I deserved to be treated much better than that and I walked away, I prayed that if he wanted me he would reach out to me.

    • @kay35rc
      @kay35rc День назад +1

      I'm sorry you had went through this as well. My exact story. I just left a guy who treated me the same way. He love bombed me. His communication was not the best in the beginning. That was my red flag. I expressed interest in him because he was so called nice guy since college. However, he was not the same guy with ne. Everyone thinks he is so great. I know the real him. He is attention-seeking, Mr. Social media, always on the scene. That was why I did not like him in college. Definitely a lot of kessons learned. I will not tolerate that behavior again. I would rather be by myself.

  • @cynthiagomes2979
    @cynthiagomes2979 9 месяцев назад +14

    I'm the same way. We want you happy. We dont want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with us. I understand Lisa completely. I will walk away.

    • @cynthiagomes2979
      @cynthiagomes2979 8 месяцев назад

      @JoshuaBaris-je6ws I'm not the one he wants or needs. We are not equally yoked in love. He is my soulmate. I will love him until I die. You can't make someone be what you need them to be. I don't want to anyway.

  • @Megs658
    @Megs658 7 месяцев назад +9

    Accept people for who they are while placing them where they need to be.

  • @AnneRodrigo-fz6ks
    @AnneRodrigo-fz6ks Месяц назад +81

    I suffered the borderline disorder for over 23 years.
    With so much anxiety Not until I came across psilocybin mushrooms treatmentPsilocybin treatment actually saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean.
    Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms

    • @ElizabethJenny-xu3ky
      @ElizabethJenny-xu3ky Месяц назад

      Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episodeenough to start working on my mental health

    • @KenDeep-ky8oi
      @KenDeep-ky8oi Месяц назад

      Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need

    • @Vuitton-uj1hz
      @Vuitton-uj1hz Месяц назад

      Yes, dr.porass. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

    • @HealthyPriestessSophie
      @HealthyPriestessSophie Месяц назад

      The shroom experience stands as my most remarkable journey, an awe-inspiring encounter that left an indelible mark of amazement.

    • @Nicoleniccypal
      @Nicoleniccypal Месяц назад

      He’s on insta?

  • @joyjonathanfitnessguru4915
    @joyjonathanfitnessguru4915 Год назад +43

    I’m going through the same situation….it happened yesterday I choose myself, I was bitting myself up but this affirmation that I made the right decision

    • @fatimamajette1782
      @fatimamajette1782 11 месяцев назад +1

      Stick to the plan!! You’ve got this😊

    • @DandyDuh
      @DandyDuh 11 месяцев назад

      Same, just ended it with someone.
      Stay strong 💞

  • @shandradowe4113
    @shandradowe4113 Год назад +36

    My thing was he let me go without telling me.. action spoke louder..I was hurt but I met someone else who was worthy so when then things started to get good dude had nerve to text me😳.. after 6 months.. thinking he could come back cause he didn't have no one to have sex with..told him I moved on ..had the nerve to ask if we was serious..but of course..why would I go back to someone who left me hanging.. nope an nope..

    • @kay35rc
      @kay35rc День назад

      Say that again. When their supply is low, they cone back. Nope.

  • @lifeventures6651
    @lifeventures6651 Год назад +26

    Don’t try this at home folks. He got lucky that Lisa and God have him another chance. Most people (man or woman) wouldn’t go back to someone who rejected commitment with them, especially if they were with a millionaire who MIGHT have given them what they wanted. Funny how things look “shinier” when someone else wants it. It’s a dangerous game to play that many lose.

    • @tomisinwillable
      @tomisinwillable Год назад +14

      I agree. If someone has to lose you to see your value then what’s the point? Lol

    • @kay35rc
      @kay35rc День назад

      Good point. His wife was patient. I would have been like, what in the world. Heck no. I just my ex that. Why would I be stupid enough to get hurt again? I am still trying to move forward.

  • @MS-ns4ki
    @MS-ns4ki Год назад +20

    I learned how to walk away no matter how painful through losing my 5 yr old niece and my sister. .

  • @keshiawilliams2312
    @keshiawilliams2312 11 месяцев назад +91

    I love this video!! In January of this year I walked away from a on and off again relationship of 17 years, not married.... I've never felt more free. I'm NEVER going back, and I can say NEVER because that's how I reached 17 years, not listening to my thoughts, and ignoring the red flags. So glad I found this video. ❤❤❤🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @1tlb0k
      @1tlb0k 11 месяцев назад +11

      Me 19.5 years. Finally done.

    • @keshiawilliams2312
      @keshiawilliams2312 11 месяцев назад +7

      @@1tlb0k Holy 💩... I was dying, couldn't do it anymore. I'd been with him since I was 20 years old, and I'm 37. I gave up enough. I'm glad you left, congratulations. I hope you're happy ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏽

    • @1tlb0k
      @1tlb0k 11 месяцев назад +4

      @@keshiawilliams2312 thank you for your kind support & sharing. I too was dying.

    • @keshiawilliams2312
      @keshiawilliams2312 11 месяцев назад +2

      @@1tlb0k You're welcome, and I'm glad you had the strength to walk away. 💐💐

    • @bekirungu
      @bekirungu 10 месяцев назад +4

      Damn so much wasted time you will never get back, your prime years. May you find peace now.

  • @slouis339
    @slouis339 Год назад +13

    My ex finance got with someone else and said he was going to marry her. I said okay and walked away!!!. It Hurt like HELL I healed/healing !!!! He didn't come back and I'm glad I didn't stay he didn't love me after all. But his mother is reaching out to me now and I know his marriage was a power move and i was expected to beg and make a fool of myself. I didn't respond to the mother. I didn't realize he was narcissistic while I was in it. Spirit made me reject his projected tramua he would play. It took me years to leave. I am like a spiritual warriors now. I decided to not be bitter but it was a lot of mental work, and many tears and sleepless nights but I love who I am without him. I knew he wasn't for me but I gave him too many opportunities and for that I hold myself accountable.

    • @kay35rc
      @kay35rc День назад

      This is encouraging. Thank you for sharing. I am working on myself now too. I pray every day for strength and peace. I left go because if his toxic behaviors. He 90% or more narcissistic behaviors. He thinks he did nothing wrong.

  • @user-en1zc5vd6y
    @user-en1zc5vd6y Год назад +7

    Am glad he pointed out that it’s earning access, I think a solid man should also be uncomfortable with unearned access

  • @edimoannie9723
    @edimoannie9723 17 дней назад +1

    8 years ago I loved one boy so much that I almost believed his words when he said, I will never find anyone like him when we breakup, but today because of his word I turn out to be more stronger than ever in all my relationships, i now prefer my wellbeing, please let no one gives access to anyone to play with your happiness .

  • @sunitafisher4758
    @sunitafisher4758 11 месяцев назад +15

    🌸 Ladies never judge a man by the good times, look at way he makes you feel
    And if he is trying to destroy your confidence & he makes you cry or unsure and that relationship isn’t stable
    Then this is not the person for you
    The right one will inspire you to be the best you can be and more
    I chose to create my best possible life myself with strong self love, with passion for what I love & want
    I know my soulmate will be attracted to me & my light 🌟✨

    • @KaylaCoils
      @KaylaCoils 8 месяцев назад +1

      😩😩 thissss … THISSSSS ………..

    • @kay35rc
      @kay35rc День назад

      Well said. I was blinded by the fun moments and remained in a toxic relationship for over a year. Over time, he treated me differently. Too much access on my part on all levels.