A WOMAN MUST NEVER PURSUE A MAN by RC Blakes

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  • Опубликовано: 27 дек 2024

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  • @RCBlakesJr.
    @RCBlakesJr.  3 года назад +2498

    Thank you for coming in today. Please 👍 share and comment. Thanks family!

    • @angeliagreen5859
      @angeliagreen5859 3 года назад +32

      💙💙💙💙

    • @karenelizabethpalmer4295
      @karenelizabethpalmer4295 3 года назад +55

      Dear Pastor Blake's,The Simplicity with your messages brings such Elasticity to the hearts of QUEENS.

    • @queenkathleensartin-greer439
      @queenkathleensartin-greer439 3 года назад +27

      I Appreciate You' Sharing this moment with Me' and My' Beautiful Daughters and Friends. GOD'S CONTINUEOUS BLESSINGS

    • @angeliagreen5859
      @angeliagreen5859 3 года назад +5

      @@ladysusanharris what are you saying?

    • @ladysusanharris
      @ladysusanharris 3 года назад +2

      @@angeliagreen5859 My apologies. Crazy phone🙂

  • @cathyzhang2769
    @cathyzhang2769 Год назад +1197

    Never let a man tell you twice that he doesn't want you.

  • @BELLASHOPEFORHEALINGPODCAST
    @BELLASHOPEFORHEALINGPODCAST 3 года назад +8011

    My Grandmother, GOD rest her soul AlWAYS told me that when a Man is truly interested in you he will move mountains to get next to you. Sounded good to me...

    • @CathyLTate
      @CathyLTate 3 года назад +68

      AMEN

    • @eddielacrosse2
      @eddielacrosse2 3 года назад +82

      I'm sorry, but for me to move mountains for someone, I have to be passed for part where I am "chasing" her. If i am just getting to know someone, there isnt any reason to do any of that because the Woman has shown me that she deserves that.

    • @chumanyambe7449
      @chumanyambe7449 3 года назад +23

      100%!!!

    • @BeautyByBrigitte
      @BeautyByBrigitte 3 года назад +15

      Amen

    • @innocentlife2346
      @innocentlife2346 3 года назад +261

      @@eddielacrosse2 And if a woman is getting 2 knw of a man she jus met. Ain't no need of her holding convo about sex either until that man becomes her hubby, even deal. Amen Amen Amen🤗Now carry on Sir!👈

  • @louisegarner8888
    @louisegarner8888 3 года назад +8610

    "A woman's heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek Him just to find her." ~ Maya Angelou. 🙏💝

  • @nadinedaoud2538
    @nadinedaoud2538 2 года назад +1055

    Mothers please teach your daughters to NEVER chase a man !!! Absolutely TRUE ‼️‼️ My husband pursued me and we were married 22 years until his death. ❤️‍🩹

    • @Realtalkwithlin
      @Realtalkwithlin 2 года назад +17

      Does it mean don’t call him if he doesn’t call? Does it mean don’t tell him how much you love and miss him if he doesn’t? Thanks

    • @brindageorge701
      @brindageorge701 2 года назад +39

      @@Realtalkwithlin Yes, child. Yes.

    • @hotstreak9805
      @hotstreak9805 2 года назад +4

      I actually disagree with this, women are supposed to chase men.

    • @ms.gracefullybroken8724
      @ms.gracefullybroken8724 2 года назад +2

      @@fonda7760 lol…maybe he just has a genuine interest sis

    • @cassandrafleming7123
      @cassandrafleming7123 2 года назад +2

      I agree 100%, is your okay Nadine is it how you pronounce that yeah that's pretty that's correct and then another thing stop having these unexpectations unrealistic expectations of the man that loves you don't keep testing it why do you want him to be perfect nobody is but the man above that's sitting on the right hand of the father preparing a place for us to go back with him girl I got to make sure my name is in the Lambs Book of Life I can't miss that seat I don't understand these women I think most of the women that want a man to be perfect they like men and women they're bisexual and a majority of the time if a man is heterosexual he's completely straight he's really not going to take up serious interest in a woman that like men and women no once he discovered they like both and he's a real man and he like women only he's going to dissipate out that woman's life that like men and women why do you want men to be perfect hell if I was a man and some woman wanted me to be perfect or I would run run for the Hills why do you want him to be perfect he's human that's unrealistic I'm sure even the best of couples they don't have some kind of disagreement disagree to agree like meet your man halfway y'all can like compromise and meet somewhere in the middle that's a healthy relationship first and foremost know God love you love yourself and then it'll be safe to love somebody else why do you want a man to be perfect he's human those are unrealistic expectations expectations he you want him to be perfect hell you ain't or you wouldn't even be making a statement you wouldn't even post such

  • @avesc4826
    @avesc4826 3 года назад +1338

    "Any man you have to pursue, ain't worth having!" Period.

    • @daghettogandhi7242
      @daghettogandhi7242 3 года назад +37

      LOUDER

    • @brandonayyye3487
      @brandonayyye3487 3 года назад +20

      I think great men are more focused on pursuing their goals rather than a relationship. So if you want a great man you may need to pursue him or put yourself in his life. But if you want an average man he’ll pursue you and when he gets you he has no more goals or ambition because he got his “prize”

    • @jerseysteelfitness6927
      @jerseysteelfitness6927 3 года назад +10

      yet they all pursue the top 20%

    • @daghettogandhi7242
      @daghettogandhi7242 3 года назад +4

      @@jerseysteelfitness6927 go to bed.

    • @jovankrstic250
      @jovankrstic250 3 года назад +42

      @@brandonayyye3487 if he needs to be pursued, he is surely not a great man😂

  • @maleasamauro2818
    @maleasamauro2818 2 года назад +941

    A wise woman once told me, " how a man dates you, is how your marriage to him will be" I learned this truth.

    • @stepheessel6667
      @stepheessel6667 2 года назад +11

      Wow!

    • @hellhawk785
      @hellhawk785 2 года назад +4

      Amen

    • @Diligently2U
      @Diligently2U 2 года назад +22

      I like to look at the treatment of his Mother or the lack there of by the man I'm dating.

    • @mariadesol5821
      @mariadesol5821 2 года назад +14

      WOW!!! 💖💯💯💯SHOULD HAVE LISTENED TO MY GRANDMA. SOUND ADVICE…. YOUNG GENERATION BETTER WISE UP AND LEARN LIKE WE DID. STAY BLESSED & GUIDED ALWAYS

    • @breenoele3532
      @breenoele3532 2 года назад +7

      Wise words never thought of it like that

  • @sondragooden8647
    @sondragooden8647 3 года назад +1675

    Let the man lead in the beginning so he will lead at all times.

    • @geo.na_824
      @geo.na_824 3 года назад +33

      But feminine man are very emotional they are good conversationalist and you can connect with them deeply no?
      Masculine man doesn’t love talking and they have difficulty to open and express their emotions

    • @geo.na_824
      @geo.na_824 3 года назад +31

      @Just Michelle interesting perspective. I agree on that they are doble minded and they can’t make a decision. It is very hard to rely on them. I am married for 13 years to very masculine energy man and sometimes I wish he has that Devine masculine in him but he doesn’t. So I wish he was a little bit more feminine side to better connect. It’s not like a masculine man is an ideal man. I would say the ideal man is a masculine man who has worked with himself to balance both energies masculine and feminine but such a man are very rare I think.

    • @sg5720
      @sg5720 3 года назад +21

      @@geo.na_824 then those masculine men that say they masculine are really not- they just weak men not understanding who they really are. A real man will tell you exactly how they “feel” 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @sg5720
      @sg5720 3 года назад +4

      @Just Michelle those are the “modern men” you speaking on.

    • @geo.na_824
      @geo.na_824 3 года назад +12

      @@sg5720 yes I feel you. Some man has a complex of not being man enough or masculine enough they try to mimic other masculine guys but deep down they are insecure.

  • @honeybeematchmaking
    @honeybeematchmaking Год назад +273

    I used to chase men. One day I was running, with the intention of getting super skinny so a particular guy might be more interested in me (and I was pursuing him in other ways too), when I heard this voice say, "let them chase you". And I believe it was the voice of God. I stopped dead in my tracks and thought, "men would chase me??" I was confused as to why a man would chase me because my self-esteem was so low. Two babies to two different men later, and I am a single Mother who dated bums, clowns, and bullies. I am finally listening to the words I should have listened to long ago, "let them chase you". Instead of focusing on a particular man I am focusing on God and I am holding fast to accepting nothing less than a man of God who truly loves me and my daughter's. I have also realised the man I marry will love me for my heart much more than my appearance.

    • @makedagranger2417
      @makedagranger2417 Год назад +11

      So true. Trust me I know how u feel😌

    • @Kari_Michele
      @Kari_Michele Год назад +2

      Yes ma’am 🥰🥰🥰🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💗💗💗

    • @a_la_drinah
      @a_la_drinah 11 месяцев назад +2

      Use to be me

    • @reneecrotty6910
      @reneecrotty6910 10 месяцев назад +2

      This sounds harsh but you need to put effort into your looks. Men are visual. Just do your best. Some makeup, pretty hair (biologically, men are attracted to clean LONG hair) and get a manicure or do your own in an elegant colour (not crazy blues or greens but pinks or reds)... He will love you for your soul but you must attact him first. ❤
      Please PLEASE read the book that changed my life called "Not your mothers rules" by ellen fein and Sherrie Schneider. LIFE CHANGING.

    • @Trapz4Dayz
      @Trapz4Dayz 10 месяцев назад

      @@tracysnipes2144 women degrade themselves

  • @joanwilliams9928
    @joanwilliams9928 3 года назад +1688

    If you carry yourself as the Queen that you are, you’ll attract Kings. Peace. ✌🏾

    • @yolandazhong845
      @yolandazhong845 3 года назад +15

      period!

    • @AmberSumerall
      @AmberSumerall 3 года назад +38

      Gotta look like one as well. That’s always a plus.

    • @celesteking1997
      @celesteking1997 3 года назад +5

      True!!!!!!!!!!

    • @justamanda8284
      @justamanda8284 3 года назад +12

      Just three years ago, I was out with this happily married could of 30 years, the man told me what you just said, word for word. :)

    • @diariesofria
      @diariesofria 3 года назад +42

      Not always true!! You can carry yourself like a Queen and the tigers will come. But you gotta know what cage to play in.

  • @sondragooden8647
    @sondragooden8647 3 года назад +1920

    The man God has for you will come and find you

    • @thejogayogafiles
      @thejogayogafiles 3 года назад +73

      Yep. Enjoy being single while it lasts.

    • @2thankfulnGrateful
      @2thankfulnGrateful 3 года назад +16

      AMEN!

    • @everydaistyle
      @everydaistyle 3 года назад +16

      You said what you said pastor!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🗣🗣🗣

    • @GLeon-ov9yu
      @GLeon-ov9yu 3 года назад +58

      Amen but Im 52 & never married. Still waiting.

    • @honeybee2193
      @honeybee2193 3 года назад +50

      @@GLeon-ov9yu he will show up when you least expect it! Be blessed!

  • @JulindaLeDee
    @JulindaLeDee 3 года назад +2470

    My grandmother told me a woman is to be found. Never chase a man, he knows who he wants.

    • @eveheart2876
      @eveheart2876 3 года назад +66

      Grandma is right

    • @bln4772
      @bln4772 3 года назад +53

      Give grandma a 👊🏾 for me! 💯

    • @mercybanda4142
      @mercybanda4142 3 года назад +23

      Julinda, please ask our Grandma what kind of drink she loves . Everything on me her Granddaughter 😊😊😊😊😅😅 . Advice happily taken. Thanks Grandma

    • @rickytanner3
      @rickytanner3 3 года назад +64

      This is true. It’s not a woman’s place to chase. It’s a turn off.

    • @Abmarp
      @Abmarp 3 года назад

      Mhm

  • @keam2104
    @keam2104 2 года назад +780

    I'm currently 17 yrs old, and I'm looking for the real definition of "healthy relationship" because my parents never showed/ taught it to me, thank you pastor Blake.

    • @IHavent82Day
      @IHavent82Day 2 года назад +55

      Wow, you’re doing awesome. I wish I had thought about this stuff at your age.

    • @elizabethwitt2621
      @elizabethwitt2621 2 года назад +39

      The love of your life will lift you up and treasure you in good times and bad. You'll never have to wonder how they feel about you because they will make it a priority to show how much you mean to them. Don't settle for anything less than what you deserve.

    • @adnamahad5196
      @adnamahad5196 2 года назад +16

      Dear the world we live in today is wicked be careful out there you seem intelligent cause you are here learning about self esteem which is great I wish you nothing but success love and happiness take care .

    • @daughteroftheking4629
      @daughteroftheking4629 2 года назад +16

      When your relationship with Christ is healthy, then you will know! Seek him with all your heart, mind and soul. He will do the rest! God bless

    • @eve3363
      @eve3363 2 года назад +13

      You should be focusing on school and not relationships.

  • @katkat-fm3wj
    @katkat-fm3wj 3 года назад +867

    If I have to pursue a man, then he's not from God.

    • @kateoloughlin8774
      @kateoloughlin8774 3 года назад +19

      Greetings from Ireland.
      Words of wisdom to live by.
      Never cast your Perils before swine.
      Kind regards Kate. 👱‍♀️💕

    • @jofreeman3611
      @jofreeman3611 3 года назад +4

      I like your answer. Thank you. I needed to hear that. 🙋🏾‍♀️I agree.
      Jo Ann👏🏾💝

    • @susanmccaw6047
      @susanmccaw6047 3 года назад +1

      Amen 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

    • @gabriellefinney4844
      @gabriellefinney4844 3 года назад +1

      Amen! Yes that's true

    • @glamgodess9643
      @glamgodess9643 3 года назад +1

      Amen

  • @tdibetso8853
    @tdibetso8853 3 года назад +1268

    'If you push him into a relationship, you'll have to push him through the relationship!'- Ps Rob (From one of his other videos)

    • @monajora1733
      @monajora1733 3 года назад +16

      Soooooo true 👍

    • @LovelyQueen_76
      @LovelyQueen_76 3 года назад +13

      And vise Versa. If both just was there for fun and Sex. And then want to make a relationship out of it. And move in fast and it doesn’t work.

    • @sunshinealways1350
      @sunshinealways1350 3 года назад +43

      I did that exact thing 35 years ago. We are still together. I am the initiator. I am exhausted and his life has been a breeze.

    • @eveheart2876
      @eveheart2876 3 года назад +2

      Fact

    • @leinafrancois7397
      @leinafrancois7397 3 года назад +8

      Your messages are true masterpieces , and today this one resonates to me. I praise God for giving you the key of discovering women hearts and discerning their minds. These teachings have been shedding lights over my life.I love your character and cannot thank you enough for answering God's call , devoting yourself to the knowledge that brings eternal encouragement to women in the pursuit of happiness. Thank you my pastor cause you are now , my loving pop and my cherish leader. Thanks to your lovely wife who accepts to share you with we women out there.We absolutely need these teachings of discovering ourselves as women.Thank you!

  • @BlairDevonte
    @BlairDevonte 3 года назад +3313

    “If you work on finding yourself, you will be healthy enough to be found by someone else.” - AMEN!!✨🙌🏽👏🏽 So good.

  • @freespirit5904
    @freespirit5904 Год назад +295

    ❤When a man sense that you are desperate or emotionally weak, they manage and manipulate you and take advantage of you ❤

    • @Sweetdreamz313
      @Sweetdreamz313 Год назад +3

      Yes

    • @carleanbender3789
      @carleanbender3789 Год назад +1

      Amen

    • @meli7315
      @meli7315 Год назад +8

      Had this, seen this, survived it and helped other women.

    • @erinjrock
      @erinjrock Год назад +10

      This is sad that men do this. They should be taught better than to do this

    • @SommyOkoye
      @SommyOkoye Год назад +2

      Exactly

  • @eleganttammyh4465
    @eleganttammyh4465 3 года назад +686

    Lord I don’t know what is going on with woman asking men to marry them… I’d rather count every grain of sand on a beach before I do that…😒

    • @marysmith861
      @marysmith861 3 года назад +46

      Your comment made me laugh. It makes me sick seeing a woman asking a man to marry her. Talk about desperation.

    • @tommyvizrima4443
      @tommyvizrima4443 3 года назад +5

      It's easy to understand. If the women us sleeping with the man for any length of time, her power base has gone (or should I rephrase to say both of their virtual bases have been compromised). Personally, at that time, I don't think it really matters who does to the asking, because 'tings garn bad aready' ... Yep my origins are JA!

    • @YulondaDuncan
      @YulondaDuncan 3 года назад +3

      ROTFL

    • @thatgirl1021
      @thatgirl1021 3 года назад +2

      YES

    • @meggykarimi9982
      @meggykarimi9982 3 года назад +1

      Hahahahhaha

  • @tinam953
    @tinam953 3 года назад +557

    My mother used to say the same, “never chase a man” value yourself as a woman!

    • @anniewatts1879
      @anniewatts1879 3 года назад +2

      Amen 🙏🏽

    • @maxk5831
      @maxk5831 3 года назад +2

      How about showing love to a man? Is that precluded too?

    • @nubianqueen4375
      @nubianqueen4375 3 года назад +9

      @@maxk5831 showing love is totally different from chasing

    • @williewalker2753
      @williewalker2753 3 года назад

      Where you are how do you get in this class that you are having

    • @sheliaking4511
      @sheliaking4511 3 года назад +1

      You are speaking the truth!!!

  • @rainsoundstohelpsleep
    @rainsoundstohelpsleep 3 года назад +749

    My husband was my high school sweetheart and he chased me, a year after I graduated from high school, we got married. We were married for 33 years until he passed in February 2021 and we was as one.

    • @VictoriaNakaraKizer
      @VictoriaNakaraKizer 3 года назад +19

      Amen..! That was an accomplishment, and a blessing. Few have this testimony.

    • @shanekamorris693
      @shanekamorris693 3 года назад +30

      Wow , sorry for your loss and God bless you .

    • @rainsoundstohelpsleep
      @rainsoundstohelpsleep 3 года назад +13

      @@shanekamorris693 thank you

    • @rainsoundstohelpsleep
      @rainsoundstohelpsleep 3 года назад +18

      @@VictoriaNakaraKizer yes, I was very lucky and very well loved!!

    • @starslove6341
      @starslove6341 3 года назад +17

      Sorry for your loss. Hope you’re doing fine now. Stay positive and God bless you.

  • @mypassions8880
    @mypassions8880 2 года назад +485

    OMG, THAT LINE RIGHT THERE!!! "... Any man that you have to pursue, AIN'T WORTH HAVING!"

  • @daghettogandhi7242
    @daghettogandhi7242 3 года назад +312

    Any man that wants to be CHASED or for me to come to HIM, is not the man I NEED. Period!

  • @hajahkalobwe9915
    @hajahkalobwe9915 3 года назад +921

    I once dated a man who was snatched away from me by another girl....they quickly got married and years later got divorced. when i asked him what went wrong he said, its never a nice thing when a relationship or marriage is initiated by the woman. So you are right sir. Anyway i had moved on and another wonderful man found me, we have been married for 11 years now

    • @traceycompass8945
      @traceycompass8945 3 года назад +17

      Excellent word!!!!

    • @kstarrify
      @kstarrify 3 года назад +42

      You dodged a bullet - good thing

    • @mbamadapeu7980
      @mbamadapeu7980 3 года назад +18

      Wishing you blessings girl

    • @mirandadavis2730
      @mirandadavis2730 3 года назад +12

      AMEN. I WISH I GOT MARRIED , BUT THIS VIDEO TOLD ME ABOUT MYSELF. THE TRUE. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR MARRIAGE 🙏🙏🙏💖

    • @eerynessential
      @eerynessential 3 года назад +7

      Yes I So Love This! ❤

  • @lindasimyu6414
    @lindasimyu6414 3 года назад +796

    A woman looks beautiful when she is being pursued. I know my worth and most men don't like that. They like it when you settle. I will never lower my standards for anyone.

    • @josee-mariehowman5234
      @josee-mariehowman5234 3 года назад +29

      Good on you girl
      Don’t settle for less !!! 🙏

    • @lindasimyu6414
      @lindasimyu6414 3 года назад +35

      @@josee-mariehowman5234 I won't, I am of great value and God created me for a great purpose. Mishandling and misusing a woman is not part of it.

    • @BeautyByBrigitte
      @BeautyByBrigitte 3 года назад +12

      Amen

    • @jesussaves2822
      @jesussaves2822 3 года назад +7

      Amen Linda. You go girl!

    • @michellesavage8437
      @michellesavage8437 3 года назад +8

      Facts

  • @santbr
    @santbr Год назад +152

    "Any man you have to pursue, ain't worth having"
    Thank you pastor, I needed to hear these words today. God bless you! 🙏

  • @MaishPosh
    @MaishPosh 3 года назад +2232

    The men in my age group will pursue us but the moment we show interest they disappear so I thought I had to act uninterested to keep them, but it wasn’t fair to me because I couldn’t be myself. So I think those type of men are just dating for the sport to get validation from us to make them feel good & continue looking for the next woman to boost their ego. I think it’s emotionally abusive because my feelings are invested because I like the guy and he’s using my emotions to fill this insatiable void that’s causing him to do this to so many women. So now I know if me showing him interest turns him off to the point he’s ghosting me then he isn’t for me to begin with. I need to be with a man who is emotionally mature to receive love & not take advantage of it for selfish reasons.

    • @reginayfavors
      @reginayfavors 3 года назад +284

      These are the men looking for validation in the same way that women want to be affirmed and validated. Basically, these are feminine men because they are positioning themselves as women/feminine to receive what women should receive. I need to be with a man who is also emotionally mature, but this is hard to find. That's why we need to be sure that we are emotionally mature so we do not attract feminine men. God bless. Be safe.

    • @ButterCookie1984
      @ButterCookie1984 3 года назад +44

      Well said!🙏

    • @ButterCookie1984
      @ButterCookie1984 3 года назад +84

      @@reginayfavors That makes sense. Wow!! They are trying to get affirmation like a woman needs.

    • @girlnextdoor2836
      @girlnextdoor2836 3 года назад +167

      Don’t give up the cookie too soon.The moment they get it they don’t value you any longer.Hold out for as long as possible and don’t put your feelings into it ever.Put those feelings in selflove instead

    • @ButterCookie1984
      @ButterCookie1984 3 года назад +132

      @@girlnextdoor2836 The only change I'd make to this comment is about not "catching feelings with sex"
      Sex is spiritual and you should WANT to explore many feelings with it. Bottom line being that you shouldn't be having sex with a person at all if you want to avoid feelings.

  • @beverleynicholls1271
    @beverleynicholls1271 3 года назад +1572

    My Dad told me, A bird never lay her eggs on a tree branch, she always lay them in a nest. He told me to make sure the Man that comes in my life Married me first, put me in a house before l lay down with him. Thanks Dad RIP🙏🙏🙏

  • @victorinedempsey3969
    @victorinedempsey3969 3 года назад +607

    The man who God has for you, has to have enough energy and motivation to pursue you.

    • @missphilanji4769
      @missphilanji4769 3 года назад +16

      I will write this on a note to myself so I'll always get reminded that I don't have to be worried and desperate. Ty

    • @victorinedempsey3969
      @victorinedempsey3969 3 года назад +5

      @@missphilanji4769 Amen. Would be great if you could only copy and paste it. God bless.

    • @DeniseGatewood
      @DeniseGatewood 3 года назад +2

      Amen

    • @gemini8620
      @gemini8620 3 года назад +3

      Whew! Yessss!

    • @brittanyelisejohnson7992
      @brittanyelisejohnson7992 2 года назад +5

      @@sogood5373 Praying for you 🙏🏾, if you’re able to, seek out counseling or a life mentor to talk to. You’re not alone 🙏🏾

  • @supernaturalvictorieswithsunny
    @supernaturalvictorieswithsunny Год назад +170

    Don’t worry, I won’t be pursuing any man at all! When he pursues righteously, I’ll respond righteously ❤

    • @supernaturalvictorieswithsunny
      @supernaturalvictorieswithsunny Год назад

      @MB-iv4mq LMBO😩😩😂😂🤣🤣🤣 Stop it!!!!

    • @natural3362
      @natural3362 Год назад +6

      ​@MB-iv4mqladies. This is the type of man that should be avoided at all cost.
      If a man wants you to pursue him, he wants you harmed.
      Choose a man who loves women not men who are using women.
      When a man wants to be pursued, it means he doesn't want you and he is using you and he will dump you for a woman he finds attractive.
      This type of man is no one's father or husband. They are destined for singleness

  • @ChasingYonci
    @ChasingYonci 3 года назад +449

    “If you work on finding yourself you will be healthy enough to be found by someone else.” 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽

    • @shirleybain9549
      @shirleybain9549 2 года назад +3

      Pastor you making plenty sense. Great words of wisdom!

    • @shirleybain9549
      @shirleybain9549 2 года назад +1

      Amen

    • @Mike-ok9oy
      @Mike-ok9oy 2 года назад +2

      😂😂😂😂😂👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @cpresley45
    @cpresley45 3 года назад +726

    When I met my husband 16 years ago, he told me that's why he was attracted to me because I was not chasing after him..he said I was different because he was use to women chasing him..and believe me those women had his head swollen..I had to bring him down to earth

    • @MorenitaBonita19
      @MorenitaBonita19 3 года назад +12

      What about if you pursued a little in the beginning but you stopped quickly? Do you think that repels the guy completely? Ask your husband please lol 😳

    • @Cupid_
      @Cupid_ 3 года назад +86

      Mine too, my husband pursued me and did all the texts and calls. He said he never had to put any work in before. Now that we married I am training him how to apologize and resolve conflict bcos that too he didnt have to do in past relationships. I will bring him down to earth he is on time out. LOL

    • @QueenLove-hw5os
      @QueenLove-hw5os 3 года назад +5

      @@Cupid_ 😆😅😅🤣🤣🤣

    • @highvaluelife4971
      @highvaluelife4971 3 года назад +6

      Ok now sis, you know the deal!😉

    • @ladennayoung2939
      @ladennayoung2939 3 года назад +27

      @@MorenitaBonita19 Just try to take the advice that you were given and learn from it. Because the thing is if he is not hitting you up, more then likely he went on his way. It is okay to let a man know that you are open to date him, if you comes on to you, and you are interested. But don't pursue then. They know what they want.

  • @KashyGhislaine
    @KashyGhislaine 3 года назад +658

    I appreciate how you give advice WITHOUT degrading women. 🙌🏾🙌🏾 Thank you for the perspective!

    • @LaurenDenise
      @LaurenDenise 3 года назад +45

      yes! The advice always hits differently when it comes from a man of God who actually loves and respects women.

    • @CarlosRodriguez-bh2ey
      @CarlosRodriguez-bh2ey 3 года назад +32

      He's very respectful of everyone. I'm not a christian but he's so wise I love hearing him talk.

    • @sylvannagreene8437
      @sylvannagreene8437 3 года назад +17

      Yeah, what you said….he’s not loud and preachy…and he’s clean.

    • @sunshine9426
      @sunshine9426 3 года назад +7

      @@sylvannagreene8437 and the minister's ALWAYS GIVING CREDITS 2 His wife, LISA! TYVM! 😂😍🌞

    • @key2dasitytripled17
      @key2dasitytripled17 3 года назад +3

      It dont matter which way a man give the message, today's women dont want to hear and apply it to their lives. Nice attemp tho

  • @camille4118
    @camille4118 2 года назад +406

    I’m Jewish woman but I’m going to continue listening to these videos because they are extremely helpful and this is a lot of good spiritual advice regardless if I’m not a Christian. Much respect, this type of voice is heavily needed especially in this generation.

    • @gracewahu8741
      @gracewahu8741 2 года назад +9

      Shalom.

    • @annjones2945
      @annjones2945 2 года назад +1

      😌🔥

    • @TheBthebabe
      @TheBthebabe 2 года назад +12

      Absolutely. The teaching of Jesus are life-changing, in a positive way. Then a relationship with Jesus has been my saving grace.

    • @brindageorge701
      @brindageorge701 2 года назад +9

      No matter ethnicity or religion, these are truths that go back to Genesis, the dawn of time.

    • @Samara077
      @Samara077 2 года назад +2

      @@TheBthebabe definitely I agree , especially when my father doesn’t really talk to me about this

  • @hocklineandsinker
    @hocklineandsinker 3 года назад +562

    Mum always said " Never run down a bus or a man "
    Ran down a bus the other day, twisted my ankle, child I was looking after, almost fell out of the stroller, because it was falling over sideways 😅, and to top it all...when I did get to bus door the driver said no more space on board for me.
    SHAME and EMBARRASSED!!!😳
    The same when you run down a man, you run him down only to find he has no room in his heart for you, and look what you had to suffer trying to get him.

    • @mwendapoleee
      @mwendapoleee 3 года назад +11

      I did that one time ,running after a man i called him he was talking to me but on another line his colleague was asking him about the girls he was with last evening.A few years down the line he wanted to get back to me still playin games this time thru' his Dad ,i thought if ur not man enuf to do the chasin sorry!

    • @TeirraShania
      @TeirraShania 3 года назад +16

      YOU PREACHING!!! THAT WAS A REAL REVELATION

    • @valarieharris2534
      @valarieharris2534 3 года назад +11

      😆 This just tickled me so, that I burst into laughter. Thanks for sharing🤪

    • @michellescott2200
      @michellescott2200 3 года назад +2

      Perfectly said!

    • @deemont886
      @deemont886 3 года назад +4

      Man, I love your analogy!!

  • @bellydanza85
    @bellydanza85 3 года назад +452

    “You were so desperate for a man, that you did his job for him.”

    • @angeliqueesprit8674
      @angeliqueesprit8674 3 года назад +11

      Well said👏🏽

    • @ericbreaux6124
      @ericbreaux6124 3 года назад +6

      There is no reason women should wait for a man to confess his attraction to her first if she wants a partner to eventually be married to. Women shouldn’t need to wait for a man to propose marriage. Women don’t need to risk losing the fulfillment of that desire more than men. Desire for that relationship is equally wanted by both genders. One gender should passionately want to pursue the other mutually or marital intimacy that sexual desire is made for will be difficult. Sexual desire is the most passionate feeling anyone can have for another person.

    • @sunshine9426
      @sunshine9426 3 года назад +6

      you said the correct word, "DESPERATE!" Chilling just hearing it said! 😱😵😌😂🌞

    • @CharloCrossley
      @CharloCrossley 3 года назад

      @@ericbreaux6124 you know that's true what you said but actually men are designed to pursue women. God made him that way I want to go against and pursue other things, like each other as in other men it interferes with the delicate balance I believe. There's a very Victorian kind of a notion that women have to wait to be pursued and and in other cultures where marriages are arranged from the time of birth, and people meet at the altar and having never known each other Med each other become friends those kind of situations where people adjust thrust together to make a go of it used to be the norm. Then time to change Free Will has coming to the Forefront of decision-making for relationships and pursuit and feminism has certainly played into this relationship ideal women will go after a man if they want them!

    • @CharloCrossley
      @CharloCrossley 3 года назад +1

      God put me with

  • @lilianagallegos7621
    @lilianagallegos7621 3 года назад +236

    My dad said to me.... "a princess never chases a prince". I felt that.

    • @orubek355
      @orubek355 3 года назад +3

      A princess has to be found.

    • @trmp9923
      @trmp9923 3 года назад +6

      @@orubek355 I'd be a virgin had I never chased a man. I'm 32.

    • @cedarave3168
      @cedarave3168 2 года назад +3

      Yo daddy was wrong princess

    • @vicepresidentmikepence889
      @vicepresidentmikepence889 2 года назад +1

      I guess your daddy never heard of Boaz and Ruth

  • @latonyapalm8676
    @latonyapalm8676 Год назад +106

    My Grandma taught me a Man Pursues and a woman CHOOSES!!! And this word just reminded me of the virtuous woman I am!!!! He just got blocked immediately!!!🙏🏾

    • @IdameMccormick
      @IdameMccormick 2 месяца назад +1

      Thank you for such truth. I needed this. Thanks for being in my life. God bless you both.

  • @KrystleLaughter
    @KrystleLaughter 3 года назад +717

    Desperation leads to devastation. It leaves you vulnerable and attracts people who will take advantage of you. I’ve learned this from experience, now I’m learning, growing and helping others through my RUclips channel and books. Thank you for another great message.💕

    • @missgoodenergy
      @missgoodenergy 3 года назад +12

      awwwww.... that is so awesome. I’m going to check you out! 🙌🏾💗

    • @naidaugan8087
      @naidaugan8087 3 года назад +28

      "Desperation leads to devastation" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾I just love the statement

    • @silvanapalominotraverso9869
      @silvanapalominotraverso9869 3 года назад +2

      Thank you 🙏🏼 I will check it out

    • @KrystleLaughter
      @KrystleLaughter 3 года назад +1

      @@naidaugan8087 Thank you!

    • @ruweidabawa7188
      @ruweidabawa7188 2 года назад

      Absolutely

  • @onevenus6040
    @onevenus6040 3 года назад +473

    I think this rejection usually begins in a woman's childhood, when her father doesn't acknowledge, provide love, protection, and affection for her. She gets early conditioning for rejection and being masculine.

    • @halaali1721
      @halaali1721 3 года назад +46

      I totally agree, it's some time unconscious behavior because this what they did in the past as a child raised by emotionally unavoidable father

    • @womenofGod52
      @womenofGod52 3 года назад +44

      Or having no father in the home at all.

    • @venus5553
      @venus5553 3 года назад +31

      That’s me..

    • @prhosistentpoodle2716
      @prhosistentpoodle2716 3 года назад +40

      I also believe it could be from watching the actions of the mother and grandmother. If the mother and grandmother is not married or chasing men, there is a possibility the female child may do the same.

    • @annyoung4330
      @annyoung4330 3 года назад +11

      So true! That is where it started for me!

  • @goodgirl1152
    @goodgirl1152 3 года назад +466

    My Dad told me that when a man loves a woman - that woman can do no wrong. He will gently talk to her about her flaws and if she loves him, she will see the error of her ways and be thankful. He will do everything to try and please her.

    • @beneficent2557
      @beneficent2557 3 года назад +11

      "If she loves him" . Most women don't contribute anything to the relationship.

    • @bracketvilletexas
      @bracketvilletexas 3 года назад +8

      yeah while she screws over him.. he will turn against his family that know whats she doing

    • @lucianom.5855
      @lucianom.5855 3 года назад +4

      🤣

    • @josee-mariehowman5234
      @josee-mariehowman5234 3 года назад +1

      So true !!!

    • @taylorfausett177
      @taylorfausett177 3 года назад +39

      @@bracketvilletexas I see you have been played. That hurts. But, my friend, women do not have a monopoly on screwing their partners over. Men do it equally. I have found that the older I get, the more I learn how to be a better partner. But some people never learn. It doesn't matter if they are male or female. Don't let resentments keep you from seeing a diamond who is right in front of you.

  • @michellebrown3632
    @michellebrown3632 Год назад +52

    I really needed to hear this… I found myself falling into the trap of going after men when they truly didn’t want me in the first place. They love the idea that I had all the traits of a wife… I cook, I keep a clean house, I don’t have kids, I can sew… but they don’t find it necessary to commit to me. I have to take it back to God and remember my worth.

  • @Michellemybell739
    @Michellemybell739 3 года назад +894

    My ex-husband chased me when were 19-20 years old in college like somebody crazy lol. We dated, had a daughter and were married a few years later. Although our marriage only lasted 14 years I look back and can appreciate all the letters, crazy stunts and phone calls I received when he was courting me. Now I’m 51 dating a nice guy who pursues me as well with consistent communication, affection, quality time, and kind acts. A very nice feeling indeed!

    • @teeramirez464
      @teeramirez464 3 года назад +12

      Girl bye sex before marriage..

    • @Michellemybell739
      @Michellemybell739 3 года назад +37

      @@teeramirez464 Umm duck wtf are you?!!!! I don’t give not one rat’s azz about you or your opinion!! Go back under your rock!!!

    • @helennewlin6864
      @helennewlin6864 3 года назад +32

      Im 54 sis and yes it is nice feeling I agree

    • @dontworry6968
      @dontworry6968 3 года назад +8

      That man is a simp ass. Pressuring a girl to be with him lol, in the future the relationship failed lol pathetic

    • @kimalonzo3363
      @kimalonzo3363 3 года назад +24

      @@Michellemybell739 she is right that God says fornication is a sin, but she is wrong and rude to judge and treat you like an outcast.

  • @diva555sg
    @diva555sg 3 года назад +212

    Feminine energy makes you attractive to a man

    • @MsVie2012
      @MsVie2012 3 года назад +3

      So true

    • @tammeramiller43
      @tammeramiller43 3 года назад

      Absolutely. I dont understand masculine acting women

  • @sharhughes1086
    @sharhughes1086 3 года назад +325

    Never allow a man to change your chracter just because you were hurt and abused by him! Allow God to heal you inside out before you meet the next guy,, if not you'll run him away because not approachable Do not forget your the prize just relax and the right one will come along!

    • @janellamurphy5665
      @janellamurphy5665 3 года назад +5

      AMEN!!!!!!!👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾✋🏿✋🏿✋🏿🙌🏿👐🏿✊🏾🔥🔥🔥🔥

    • @monicathebeautiful6483
      @monicathebeautiful6483 3 года назад +7

      Omg! This right here!!

    • @irlandaise5631
      @irlandaise5631 3 года назад +5

      I notice they try to change you..for example I dont cook..and I eat mostly protein..and they want you to eat vegs..and I dont want..howver its ok for vegetarian to not eat meat..but the other way round..WOW you have to follow the establishment ...no one questions Donald trump for not eating vegs however and neither his wife...but women yes are questioned..tell you how to save electricity because I steamed my eggs for 30 min while cleaning instead of boiling them for 3 min..it made me think the man would have a mindset of saving electricity all the time..
      anyway I dont want a man like that..but many are like that and want to control..I know what I consume and its ok I can pay the bill..its not that much anyway

    • @chrissoulful7086
      @chrissoulful7086 3 года назад +4

      Facts men and women are the prize

    • @Jazzy1J
      @Jazzy1J 3 года назад

      ♥️

  • @rebeccal.nyange219
    @rebeccal.nyange219 2 года назад +73

    Thank you so much Pastor for this teaching. Don't be a woman who needs a man, be a woman a man needs!

  • @erikacain5707
    @erikacain5707 3 года назад +571

    I'm 29 years old and I'm still a firm believer in a man pursuing me! I know my worth and I am the prize. This was amazing!

    • @septemberblue1694
      @septemberblue1694 3 года назад +8

      I agree with you on that one!

    • @bln4772
      @bln4772 3 года назад +8

      Me too! I will never pursue a man.

    • @Jen-iv7rh
      @Jen-iv7rh 3 года назад +10

      Women are the prize the world wouldn't exist without us

    • @drezshowpodcast
      @drezshowpodcast 3 года назад +3

      speak on that worth you talk about.

    • @erikacain5707
      @erikacain5707 3 года назад +14

      @@norm1815 no sir I won't. What God has for me is for me specifically. 😊

  • @AlwaysASolution-qj9be
    @AlwaysASolution-qj9be 2 года назад +278

    Yes! My father was working in a shoe store when my mom came in to get some heels. He made sure he was going to be her shoe sales person. When he put the heel on her foot and she looked at him, he knew she was going to be his princess forever. They were young. He worked two jobs and she was dating the governor's son. My father said he earned every date and worked just as hard for her as he did his two jobs. He won her. They were married all their lives. Three children later, my mother and father both taught us what gentlemen do and what ladies do. They were amazing role models and lifelong blessings as a family. My boyfriends loved my mother. My father never stopped working for her and my brothers learned to treat their wives like gold. They married well and are still married with children.

    • @magnolia2
      @magnolia2 2 года назад +20

      I love this story so much. Thank you for sharing. You are so blessed to have had such parents. Not everyone can relate.❤

    • @eveheart2876
      @eveheart2876 2 года назад +2

      Yass 😊

    • @AlwaysASolution-qj9be
      @AlwaysASolution-qj9be 2 года назад +7

      @@magnolia2 Thank you for your beautiful comment. Wishing you much love in life! 💕

    • @mogetit5999
      @mogetit5999 Год назад +1

      This story!!!!! Thanks for sharing 🖤🖤🖤

    • @carineramirez9493
      @carineramirez9493 Год назад +1

      But what’s your story?

  • @mustbeheard9834
    @mustbeheard9834 3 года назад +409

    My mother chased her husband, and it took him 10 years to marry her! 10 YEARS! I ignored my husband and I was engaged 4 months later! So allow the man to hunt you, don't be so easy, nothing makes a man happier than to hunt for his woman!

    • @deebojo3382
      @deebojo3382 3 года назад +26

      10 YEARS? WHEW! 😀

    • @devinesent7696
      @devinesent7696 3 года назад +26

      @@deebojo3382 I would have been gone

    • @deebojo3382
      @deebojo3382 3 года назад +17

      @@devinesent7696 Me three! 😀

    • @bilderberg_news4775
      @bilderberg_news4775 3 года назад +8

      Did she get desperate and put roots on him?

    • @mustbeheard9834
      @mustbeheard9834 3 года назад +1

      @@bilderberg_news4775A off the wall comment! Yawn...

  • @michelleelfazzate178
    @michelleelfazzate178 2 года назад +34

    In nature you never find the female chasing the male they have to work hard to impress her, another great video 🙏

  • @Lovetheonewithin
    @Lovetheonewithin 3 года назад +299

    A king will never be pursued by a queen

    • @busydem6161
      @busydem6161 3 года назад +6

      A king doesn’t chase a queen

    • @Lovetheonewithin
      @Lovetheonewithin 3 года назад +8

      @@busydem6161 Being chased and being pursued are not the same.

    • @busydem6161
      @busydem6161 3 года назад +1

      Really and what might those differences be?

    • @Lovetheonewithin
      @Lovetheonewithin 3 года назад +24

      @@busydem6161 If you are pursuing someone, there's a mutual interest, could lead to a relationship.. If you are chasing, that person is running away. You'll never obtain a relationship if you're chasing someone

    • @jerseysteelfitness6927
      @jerseysteelfitness6927 3 года назад +1

      @@Lovetheonewithin Buzzer sound

  • @shade_excel
    @shade_excel 3 года назад +378

    “... manifestation of masculine energy in a woman REPELS masculine men” 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

    • @ms.bornagain57
      @ms.bornagain57 3 года назад +39

      I think when a woman is smart, and wise, this can be mistaken for masculinity, when a man is intimidated by her intelligence.

    • @leodelicious865
      @leodelicious865 3 года назад +13

      Not with all the men acting in their feminine energy all day everyday...🙄🙄

    • @crownedmelaninqueen
      @crownedmelaninqueen 3 года назад +5

      Right ! Giving the silent treatment and acting stupid instead of just calling the woman and saying “ Hey it hurt my feelings when you said blah , blah..,” I mean women do it to but Ijs... I’m reading a lot of posts on IG starting with if he doesn’t text back ...

    • @brandonayyye3487
      @brandonayyye3487 3 года назад +6

      @@crownedmelaninqueen typically telling a woman about your emotions is a turn off for them, and if he isn’t texting back it should be because he’s working on the things that make him attractive to you in the first place; his body, his job, his goals and hobbies. A guy that can text you back all day isn’t accomplishing much

    • @crownedmelaninqueen
      @crownedmelaninqueen 3 года назад +1

      @@brandonayyye3487 I agree, he should be busy with his own life. Hell , I can’t just sit and text all day, I want different kinds of communication phone calls, video chats, voice memos, on top of real visits. We all get busy , but show some effort and care. I should also be apart of his world , but not his whole world. I’m not even expecting to talk everyday. Every other day to two days is fine. It’s the 5 days of silence but even in the military it could be an email sent explaining a lock down .Essentially there are no excuses, I’d love when he can say how he feels or send a kissy face emoji. That’s sweet and vulnerability shows trust in my eyes. So bring it all to me...

  • @sondragooden8647
    @sondragooden8647 3 года назад +385

    Any man you have to pursue ain't worth having.

    • @gabrielamartiniuc6322
      @gabrielamartiniuc6322 3 года назад +14

      But he’s not pursuing you, so he doesn’t desire you. Why pursue him? It’s his job.

    • @kimmya2593
      @kimmya2593 3 года назад +5

      @@gabrielamartiniuc6322 It doesn't necessarily mean he's not worth it maybe the one that's pursuing he feels is not wife material and he's looking for a wife like the bible says.

    • @shukosworld5754
      @shukosworld5754 3 года назад +1

      Amen

    • @feminineallure6763
      @feminineallure6763 3 года назад +8

      Exactly! Either he is not masculine enough OR he is not interested in you. Both situations are not worth a feminine woman's time, energy, or heart.

    • @l.christinejones8164
      @l.christinejones8164 3 года назад +2

      @@feminineallure6763 thank you love

  • @mariah3654
    @mariah3654 2 года назад +30

    "Any man you have to pursue ain't worth having." 💥 BOOM 💥

  • @yvettejohnson9346
    @yvettejohnson9346 3 года назад +376

    Men who purposefully hurts women, usually ends up paying for it.

    • @ladennayoung2939
      @ladennayoung2939 3 года назад +15

      @Don Urban Lol. Not all ladies do it, but yes it is something that need to stop. The enemy will use an unhealed heart to become cynical, bitter, and unforgiving on both sides. That's why we all need to seek healing from the Lord. Seek counseling/therapy of some kind. And build a healthy and loving relationship with Christ and self. And focus on doing His will and His will alone. And know that if it is His will. He will bring the right person in your life at the appointed time. Those that wait on the Lord, shall renew their strength. You have a blessed evening/weekend in Jesus name. God loves you, and so do I. And there is NOTHING that you can do about it.

    • @bonitasmith6064
      @bonitasmith6064 3 года назад +33

      Those men are called NARCISSIST!!!

    • @chastitylampkin6028
      @chastitylampkin6028 3 года назад +3

      I wonder if this is really true, cause I have seen so many guys that don't even cry when a woman cheats on him, call him bad names and so on and so on ❗❗❗

    • @tahsina.c
      @tahsina.c 3 года назад +3

      If only justice was so clean

    • @darlathompson1536
      @darlathompson1536 3 года назад +10

      Amen! Vengeance is the Lords and HE will repay.

  • @believer2010ful
    @believer2010ful 3 года назад +583

    A real man takes pride in pursuing his future wife and finding her

    • @Ducati007
      @Ducati007 3 года назад +3

      Where can I find a wife? A virtuous virgin?

    • @enniswhalen2428
      @enniswhalen2428 3 года назад +8

      @ G B - You are supposed to get out there and pursue and find her . . . .

    • @paulokello5981
      @paulokello5981 3 года назад +17

      A real man seeks first the kingdom of God and his righteousness. God told man to seek Him first and pursue his God given assignment, not a wife. God will bring a wife when a man pursues God and his earth assignment

    • @enniswhalen2428
      @enniswhalen2428 3 года назад

      @ P O - I neither possess your religious upbringing nor your training, but I REALLY have to admire your sense of purpose, if that is indeed where it comes from.

    • @JulindaLeDee
      @JulindaLeDee 3 года назад +1

      Key word is "wife".

  • @glenishhenderson3793
    @glenishhenderson3793 2 года назад +569

    Do not care what century or times we are in, this type of Bible teaching never gets old or out-dated..Thank you Pastor Blakes

    • @nkosiebarnes4869
      @nkosiebarnes4869 2 года назад

      my name is nkosie barnes am from antigua wi i came to know u during the heat of the covid tru my parthner a teacher and talking to her about some of u and miles monroe teachings she stop talking to me

    • @nkosiebarnes4869
      @nkosiebarnes4869 2 года назад +1

      i think u are a blessing and healing for many of us who wernt listening or paying attension over the years

    • @sjackson1739
      @sjackson1739 2 года назад

      @@nkosiebarnes4869 Well said!

    • @barbararoyes23
      @barbararoyes23 2 года назад

      @@nkosiebarnes4869 a

    • @Believerfearless
      @Believerfearless 2 года назад +1

      The Bible is our blueprint for how to live our lives.

  • @gloriamariadc7757
    @gloriamariadc7757 Год назад +21

    1- Be polite.
    2- Be well groomed.
    3- Appear interested, when a person is interested in u.

  • @tommycriscitello6235
    @tommycriscitello6235 3 года назад +111

    Daaaaaannnnnggggg this man said “ you thought it was for a lifetime but it’s just for the nighttime” WOW !! Preach !!!!!

  • @sunnysunshine6271
    @sunnysunshine6271 3 года назад +522

    That's why I'm single. Not chasing a man, but in times of the Internet that's what men expect. I can remain single, no problem at all 👍🏾

    • @brandonayyye3487
      @brandonayyye3487 3 года назад +3

      No we just want effort

    • @realrosesforever3847
      @realrosesforever3847 3 года назад +10

      Most men are visual, so they like cute, pretty, someone who looks good to them and well built. Most like a sweet, funny, intelligent personality as well as supportive. If a woman has this there are men who will pursue. Not all men, but most want the above. Support and respect and look at the man with a true heart but a smart mind, that means a lot. Just my two cents.

    • @Nic2Blk
      @Nic2Blk 3 года назад +24

      @@brandonayyye3487 I would like to know your definition of effort in this context. What the OP is referring to is the energy given by a lot of men these days is that a woman initiate and pursue.
      MY definition of effort in this context means that on the part of a woman; we let you know if we're interested and engage with you accordingly. I take your response to mean a woman should initiate. If a woman pursues a man she's operating in masculine energy.
      You have to decide whether you want a woman that moves in masculine energy or feminine energy? But that starts with knowing yourself as well.

    • @chocolatenikki
      @chocolatenikki 3 года назад

      Hello!!

    • @ReenaBINA
      @ReenaBINA 3 года назад +1

      I swear

  • @sixof01
    @sixof01 2 года назад +298

    No, it’s not working! I pursued one man and that was a disaster of a relationship! My current husband asked me if he could kiss me for the first time. I never showed up at his place uninvited. We did eventually move in together, however a month into he asked me to marry him. It all happened so quickly. I fell in love with him the minute he asked me if he could kiss me now and 11 years later I know that this man will protect me and love me with all his might.

    • @wshelby83
      @wshelby83 2 года назад +10

      Wow, that’s beautiful!!

    • @trishaminnie888
      @trishaminnie888 2 года назад +3

      A true king and queen I love this

    • @duduzilehlongwane9296
      @duduzilehlongwane9296 2 года назад

      Wow that's great definitely God send you to me i was asking myself what's going on it seems i must always text or call is like I'm desperate i decided to distance myself.

  • @natural3362
    @natural3362 Год назад +73

    When a woman is rejected, there is something broken in her heart and it will take years to heal.
    Never pursue a man. The rejection is too much. Stay in your power

    • @ce_1
      @ce_1 4 месяца назад

      Just been rejected by a man I thought was serious with me in my work toilet crying my eyes out it's so painful it hurts so much God help me 😢

    • @natural3362
      @natural3362 4 месяца назад +1

      @@ce_1 just let it out. Don't let the emotions stay in your body.. God will sent you a better match

  • @justRemeberTheDAY
    @justRemeberTheDAY 2 года назад +507

    as a young lady I would always say, "any woman that finds a man...finds trouble." God didn't design us in such mannerism. 💯

    • @jodyblanchard2754
      @jodyblanchard2754 2 года назад +1

      My man is a free mason and Shriner. I'm white , and he is Black. He's also much older than me. I stopped walking to the beat of his , because he's just my boyfriend. This is creating quite a problem for me because I do not choose to get married although I do want to commitment and I'm going to key to the house what should I do?

    • @njkmq3
      @njkmq3 2 года назад +9

      This relationship is not for you. Run. Unless you yourself are into the “dark arts”. He will influence you. Negatively. Just MY OP.

    • @USAtoElsewhere
      @USAtoElsewhere 2 года назад +2

      Not everyone "fits" the traditional gender or gender roles. We are fortunately getting away from gender roles. The LGBTQ community is the group pushing the most against gender roles as now the genders are blending and that means less gender roles. I advocate feminism, which is a misnomer as intelligent, rational, intellectual, transhumanist and futurist males also can be feminist. And btw, bowing down on one knee isn't necessary to propose. My husband didn't propose. Due to my disability I was unable to work so it unfortunately was up to him to decide when and if he would marry me. We simply talked about it and set a date.

    • @LadyDos2008
      @LadyDos2008 2 года назад

      @@jodyblanchard2754 Are you laying with him?

    • @mariagreenidge3063
      @mariagreenidge3063 2 года назад +7

      HE, who finds a wife, FINDS a good thing...

  • @anabautista8071
    @anabautista8071 3 года назад +459

    1. When a woman pursues a man, it's a manifestation in the woman of a pure masculine energy; 2. When a woman pursues a man aggressively, she is misrepresenting her virtue; 3. A woman who pursues a man is misinterpreted as a desperation; 4. The potential for disapproval by a man will shatter a woman's self esteem; 5. When a woman pursues a man, it relieves the man of the basic responsibility of leadership.

    • @anacandace6266
      @anacandace6266 3 года назад +7

      thanks for the recap

    • @noddybrown3074
      @noddybrown3074 2 года назад +22

      A woman chasing a man is seen as easy

    • @msdavis0326
      @msdavis0326 2 года назад +5

      Thank you for this summary 🤗

    • @donutscakes1157
      @donutscakes1157 2 года назад +19

      @@noddybrown3074 No she knows what she wants and is a mature woman

    • @someshkumar3289
      @someshkumar3289 2 года назад +8

      Wtf u talking abt, my gf approched me 3 yrs back & we still together & I lead, she follows

  • @tbunnyshy1
    @tbunnyshy1 3 года назад +201

    I have been alone for many years, but I’m NOT LONELY. I like being alone and not dealing with these issues. I think loneliness is an issue for many people. Don’t be lonely.

    • @Infinite3ntanglements
      @Infinite3ntanglements 3 года назад +3

      Correct ! RC said, “Do you know what a big o’ rusty man saying no can do to a women!” Submit to your virtues and self Love rather then thinking you submitting to a man. But fulfill your inner worth. Lead backing his strengths. Not hold a crown to heavy to bear.

    • @gorgeous814
      @gorgeous814 3 года назад +4

      Yes, and it's a beautiful place to be. 😉

    • @carolynw4814
      @carolynw4814 3 года назад +16

      I think it is better to be alone than with a man who don’t appreciate me. Stress can have a bad affect on our health. Being alone frees us to work on being the best we can be.

    • @Infinite3ntanglements
      @Infinite3ntanglements 3 года назад +1

      @@carolynw4814 agreed😌🌌🙏🏽

    • @Infinite3ntanglements
      @Infinite3ntanglements 3 года назад

      @@carolynw4814 agreed😌🌌🙏🏽

  • @JMK719
    @JMK719 2 года назад +49

    I might not learn from my mom or my dad or in school but I’m thankful that there are people like you that teach us the things that we were not taught for many reasons. I didn’t have a strong father figure growing up to have these kinds of father daughter talks, then at 10 my parents got divorced and my mom was too busy doing 3 jobs to care for her 2 kids. She was a masculine strong mother-father figure to me that I admired for years. My mother wasn’t aware of all the internal struggles I have growing up and how much they influenced me as an adult. I have low self esteem and believed I wasn’t good enough therefore no guys/men pursued me. Then when I hit 30’s I face pressure from the social standards, from the relatives, friends everyone that think I’m about to “expire” and I believed it. I believed I run out of time. I believed in the girl friends that encouraged “girl go put yourself out there, go get what you want, don’t wait for the men to pursue you etc...” so in a year I chased after 4 men and my heart got sicker and sicker. I dated a married man, forgot who I’m and my soul and destroyed my moral, then relentlessly went after a man that told me in my face that he doesn’t want a relationship with me and I cried in front of him, then threw myself at a man that took advantage of me sexually and said he can’t be with me, and another one that didn’t want a relationship with me but let me be with him anyways because he was lonely after separated from his ex and then dumped me for someone else. It was a year of heartbreak and sickness. I was sick to my soul. Everything you said in the video happened to me and I feel it like it was yesterday. Even after that when I met a better man who treated me a little better, he was too damaged to commit for long term relationship and ran away too. And yes I felt to my lowest. I invested in him so much, pour my heart out, got too hopeful and desperate to be finally married to a good man but it turned out I was chasing once again. Whatever the real reasons he left, doesn’t matter anymore. I have work to do with myself. And today I say screw the social standard and the pressure and the age deadline bs, I’m turning my life around. I’m not living in the cloud anymore.

  • @MzDeaux
    @MzDeaux 3 года назад +259

    "You think its for a Lifetime - it's really for the Nighttime" RC.B.

  • @NoMoreTears64
    @NoMoreTears64 3 года назад +116

    There is a very fine line between "flirting" and ""pursuing"

    • @BayouBarbie504
      @BayouBarbie504 3 года назад +25

      Flirting should be in response to initial contact by the man IF, she's interested. Pursuing is taking the initial steps.

    • @loverofbeautifulthings
      @loverofbeautifulthings 3 года назад +1

      So very true!

  • @1real-taylor
    @1real-taylor 3 года назад +364

    When you carry your self in a godly clean manner, best believe, a clown will NOT come near you. They will look but will NEVER come near you. If so, he will be very respectful and Praise you.

    • @cognaceverett8590
      @cognaceverett8590 3 года назад +6

      You said that,😉
      This is so true.

    • @geniusggaming8423
      @geniusggaming8423 3 года назад +3

      @Yapa Yipee I agree!

    • @joannephillips6689
      @joannephillips6689 3 года назад +7

      Very true . Man man will know not to play around

    • @juanitaridge5972
      @juanitaridge5972 3 года назад +5

      You blessed that statement! I'll be a witness

    • @Kaiaintcappin
      @Kaiaintcappin 3 года назад +9

      Amen my mother taught me that. It’s all about how you carry yourself: your dress, your speech, your countenance, your aura. Men know when you giving off naive or loose or insecure or unholiness. Especially men in the church. That’s who the sleazy clergyman will seek out while they revere the godly women.

  • @angela01617
    @angela01617 2 года назад +95

    " a real man does not take pride in the fact: oh my wife ran me down and she caught me, she made me give in .." made my day 😁

    • @patronellazakaapi2387
      @patronellazakaapi2387 Год назад +3

      I wish I had heard this before, it a good teaching indeed .Thank you RC much appreciated will pass it to my offsprings

    • @charliesmith6564
      @charliesmith6564 Год назад +3

      Me too.a man said that and all I can say he is a clown

  • @ThinkingLikeAVIRTUOUSWoman
    @ThinkingLikeAVIRTUOUSWoman 3 года назад +571

    “When a woman is in her masculine energy to the extent that she wants to pursue a man, she misrepresents her VIRTUE” ‼️ The entire video was great, but this right here was a WORD!

    • @MAMAMALOU264
      @MAMAMALOU264 3 года назад +9

      This is what I put into my MIND to be a woman to guard our VIRTUES👍🙏😚

    • @travelchannel304
      @travelchannel304 3 года назад +5

      It could be that it's a red flag for us to ourselves!!

    • @cynthiastenstrom5361
      @cynthiastenstrom5361 3 года назад +6

      So very true. I had that before and we let it get away from us. Don't think I'll ever find it again. It's so sad. I miss my ex husband so bad. Never wanted to get old and be alone. Never thought I would. :(

    • @cynthiastenstrom5361
      @cynthiastenstrom5361 3 года назад +4

      @Renee Honey Ah. I never thought of it that way. I see how black women must feel now. Thank you. I never understood that before. Just prayin for us all to understand each other better and ALL OF US come together. As the one Race that we are... THE. HUMAN RACE.

    • @dianabilic2649
      @dianabilic2649 3 года назад +11

      @Renee Honey ,dear honey this is message for all woman regardless of colour.
      Are you sure that you LOST a GOOD MAN,are you sure ,really?
      There was a little story I heard about two tears flowing down the stream of water.
      One tear asked another,to whom does she belongs?
      She said I belong to a girl that lost her man ?And you?
      The other tear answered -I belong to the girl that got him.
      You see in time you will see if any of those three men were meant for you ,you wouldn’t loose them ,and even if they were and got lost ,good riddance to them and their finders.
      Life is still in the front of you,listen to the Pastor again and again until you get the essence of the message.God bless you!

  • @MsMona-qg9jx
    @MsMona-qg9jx 3 года назад +142

    Run the likes up for this man of God!

  • @mrs.patricewhyte5024
    @mrs.patricewhyte5024 3 года назад +324

    I got married at 54 my love is younger then me....for 5 years I tried to persuade him to find someone his age so he dated woman his age.. and I dated men mine... long story short He turned out to be the love of my life... and he loves me dearly and I love him too... Thank you God... Ladies just let the man want you too ok..peace to all 😘

    • @judahjackson9506
      @judahjackson9506 3 года назад +14

      Five years is not a big difference. I’m encouraged by you testimony, the world promotes the stereotype of youthful love. Thanks for sharing🙂

    • @mrs.patricewhyte5024
      @mrs.patricewhyte5024 3 года назад +29

      You miss read I didn’t say he was 5 years younger ... he’s much younger then myself...but we’re very blessed and very happy.. You keep smiling and don’t worry about what the world promotes worry about what you promote...and I bet you that right person will show up

    • @dacoldest3896
      @dacoldest3896 3 года назад

      @@mrs.patricewhyte5024 that poor man

    • @Jo-jackson
      @Jo-jackson 3 года назад +9

      Thats why he got with her. Some guys just want the woman they want. Man and woman relationship are rare these days

    • @mrs.patricewhyte5024
      @mrs.patricewhyte5024 3 года назад +26

      @@dacoldest3896 look here micro man we been dealing with bums like you from the start so believe me when I say your insults are useless fool…. now carry on an cry yourself to sleep because no one else is there to hold your micro man

  • @Beyondthephysicaltarot
    @Beyondthephysicaltarot Год назад +40

    I’ve been struggling now to recognise my self worth. I’ve been depressed over the last 2 days and asked god to help and this video popped up. It’s exactly what I needed to hear and more. Thank you!!!! 🎉

  • @kitteng139
    @kitteng139 3 года назад +423

    “Any man you have to pursue ain’t worth having”

    • @Jenavee26
      @Jenavee26 3 года назад +5

      This is one of my take aways lol

    • @zakiahart3919
      @zakiahart3919 3 года назад +4

      So true

    • @user-of9bx1uk3u
      @user-of9bx1uk3u 3 года назад +5

      Correct! xx

    • @caoliver99
      @caoliver99 2 года назад +4

      Point blank period

    • @donutscakes1157
      @donutscakes1157 2 года назад +3

      You sound like a lameo... Cause you aint no real woman real woman chase little girls play hard to get

  • @mailainathrone8241
    @mailainathrone8241 3 года назад +441

    I'm starting to think I'm meant to be alone. These men aren't real men nowadays. They want the benefits of a relationship but don't want the commitment. These guys don't know how to be gentleman and ask to take you out. No Netflix and chill bs. It's a mess out here.

    • @beneficent2557
      @beneficent2557 3 года назад +9

      Any man that is dumb enough to check all your boxes that will be treated like a simp and rightly discarded. She will wait until he is at his lowest point, and leave.
      I have a feeling that the qualities you find attractive in a man directly contradict what you want in a relationship.

    • @beneficent2557
      @beneficent2557 3 года назад +6

      You dont expect commitment from the guy on IG culling numbers from his phone.

    • @b.williams9473
      @b.williams9473 3 года назад +27

      No don't be alone. Go where you are appreciated. You are in the wrong pond.

    • @dbbaker411
      @dbbaker411 3 года назад +29

      Its a mess out there because women are giving into it. Once u see that the man has been typing these type of women. Its best to avoid them. Because you can't change a man. Its who he is. AND once he use to those type of women, he's going expect the same from u. Its sad but its true.

    • @mailainathrone8241
      @mailainathrone8241 3 года назад +11

      @@b.williams9473 I really must be in the wrong pond with the wrong ducks. I'll have to move to another pond on the other side of town then apparently.

  • @JD-qm1fj
    @JD-qm1fj 2 года назад +457

    I pursue no ones. My grandma once told me, "only build a relationship with a man who loves you more than you love him"

    • @katielies5669
      @katielies5669 2 года назад

      ONG MY BABY SITTING USE TO TWLK MW THIS ALL THW TINE AND I STILL GO BY IT BUT I AM ALWAYS CONFUAED CAUe I never loved before and I was thinking maybe it is so drilled in me !!!!

    • @7reload777
      @7reload777 2 года назад +4

      🤡

    • @7reload777
      @7reload777 2 года назад +12

      @MB I 💯% agree she doesn’t even realise how toxic and demonic that ignorant advice is.

    • @7reload777
      @7reload777 2 года назад +4

      @T Smith Oh yes indeed! Extremely selfish, defensive / guarded and Jezebelish. Furthermore if this is the mindset of a believing woman then society has little foundation to build a family on at all. Very sad to be honest and they way she was able to just put that statement out there like it was nothing is truly sickening 🤢

    • @oldcash
      @oldcash 2 года назад +12

      that’s toxic af, why wouldn’t you wanna love him just as much???

  • @KSpeaks1024
    @KSpeaks1024 Месяц назад +1

    I love all your teaching. "Lil baseball man" was so funny to me. You got your woman!!

  • @robertajohnson9750
    @robertajohnson9750 3 года назад +148

    "Every woman is some man's type, I promise you"... " the woman is the man's Prize"
    This is my third time watching this video...PREACH, BISHOP RC BLAKES!!

  • @robertajohnson9750
    @robertajohnson9750 3 года назад +253

    “Any man you have to pursue ain’t worth having”...
    “If a man is interested in you he will make eye contact with you. Then all you need to do is Smile” I love your videos! God bless you Pastor RC Blakes ❤️

    • @JulindaLeDee
      @JulindaLeDee 3 года назад +2

      You are so right. ❤

    • @chrissoulful7086
      @chrissoulful7086 3 года назад +1

      I disagree it shows interest

    • @JulindaLeDee
      @JulindaLeDee 3 года назад +1

      @@chrissoulful7086, it may be old school thinking, biblical almost.

    • @overcomerbtboj
      @overcomerbtboj 3 года назад +10

      @@Cece-mq3bh i agree if they want yo bad enough they will get the courage to approach

    • @ceciliadavies2456
      @ceciliadavies2456 3 года назад

      @@overcomerbtboj yep!

  • @damal2627
    @damal2627 2 года назад +503

    I'm muslim but I needed to hear this more than anything. Thank you pastor for the wise words❤

    • @traceydumase
      @traceydumase 2 года назад +13

      May God guide you in your wait for your ordained husband 🙏🏾❤️

    • @susisusanne2876
      @susisusanne2876 2 года назад +31

      The Torah, the Bible and the Quran are holy books of the one and only god. There is only ONE religion since Adam and Eve.

    • @hasinamuhammad3082
      @hasinamuhammad3082 2 года назад +7

      Wisdom is the lost property of the believer. He may pick it up wherever he finds it. ❤

    • @norye4300
      @norye4300 2 года назад

      important massage!

    • @bellevie6523
      @bellevie6523 2 года назад +25

      I too am Muslim but needed to hear this as well 😊

  • @AG-nn8lp
    @AG-nn8lp 2 года назад +115

    I keep telling women the last month that women are so far off from being in touch with themselves. We started acting like men to please men and made ourselves available for whomever. I will not ever beg for attention or affection from a man. I used to and I will never ever do that again. I needed to hear this right now! I just broke it off with my bf because I caught him lying. I remember him saying he would never break up with me and if we split, I would have to pursue him. 🙄😂
    Not happening. I can see clearly now!!!!

    • @yourwhateverhomegirl
      @yourwhateverhomegirl Год назад +1

      😂😂😂😂 girl not I can see clearly now!!!! Ik that’s right..

    • @chikids6671
      @chikids6671 9 месяцев назад +1

      My boyfriend of 3 years and 7 months told me to take leave off work and told me the exact date to take it so that we can spend time together, only for him to forget and say he told me another date the 19th and 20th, I felt so disrespected cos he has never for once taken me on date as I was looking forward to the date but I had to call him to remind him only for him to say he is going to work..In these years we have been together ,we rarely see eachother,I have never met his family or his two kids, he always comes to mine...je has never made me feel special, his dog comes first and then his work and then his kids..and to be honest I think I lowered my standards which I shouldn't and I really pray for someone who will treat me the way I want to be treated...

  • @user-of9bx1uk3u
    @user-of9bx1uk3u 3 года назад +184

    I have never pursued a man 👨 and may I continue in this divine order. 🙌🏽

  • @mstinaangela
    @mstinaangela 3 года назад +268

    “Desperation and lowered value” You told not one lie here cause the relationship I’m currently in, it started out him pursuing me and it showed me that he was interested. Then all of a sudden, I took completely over, always driving to his house on the weekends, making all the plans we did, buying him nice things, and when I didn’t get the vulnerable side m, that intimacy of being desired platonically, and the mushy romantic side I desired and deserved, I felt rejected n broken n my spirit was shattered. I cried for 2 whole months cause I was confused…then one day recently I woke up, and now a new chapter is being written. God is Awesome💕🙏🏾

    • @destiny9082
      @destiny9082 2 года назад +9

      I need to hear this I’m currently broken

    • @andreabaron8752
      @andreabaron8752 2 года назад +1

      Very beautiful and meaningful message and I am delighted to listen to it. Thank you until next time with more blessings!

    • @UN1QUEGXRL
      @UN1QUEGXRL 2 года назад +2

      Proud of you! Your comment has given me strength

    • @UN1QUEGXRL
      @UN1QUEGXRL 2 года назад +2

      @@destiny9082 I hope you okay. Am standing with you. Am currently broken so much too.

    • @quin8463
      @quin8463 2 года назад +1

      Me also but we have two kids I just stop it's his job to pursue his family.

  • @mikaelamccann1724
    @mikaelamccann1724 3 года назад +369

    My Lula use to tell me “ the Sperm goes to the egg, not the other way around“ . Good video. ❤️

    • @randomthoughts2095
      @randomthoughts2095 3 года назад +16

      Haha that’s great and so true

    • @juliedaly2381
      @juliedaly2381 3 года назад +6

      So true

    • @enigmaticladypisces3169
      @enigmaticladypisces3169 3 года назад +2

      ❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️

    • @chabee3666
      @chabee3666 3 года назад +4

      And a seed is planted in the ground. A plug gets plugged into a socket. A socket is stationary. If the connection is right you get what music lights etc. a man plants seeds amd a woman nurtures it. The saying what. Man outs in a woman will
      Multiply it.

    • @ericbreaux6124
      @ericbreaux6124 3 года назад

      There is no reason women should wait for a man to confess his attraction to her first if she wants a partner to eventually be married to. Women shouldn’t need to wait for a man to propose marriage. Women don’t need to risk losing the fulfillment of that desire more than men. Desire for that relationship is equally wanted by both genders. One gender should passionately want to pursue the other mutually or marital intimacy that sexual desire is made for will be difficult. Sexual desire is the most passionate feeling anyone can have for another person.

  • @luciamarzi
    @luciamarzi Год назад +11

    I’m not religious, but these videos are 100x better than all of those self-help ones made by women who have been hurt and now teach you to empower yourself in a woke, masculine manner.

  • @alejandrabonita8355
    @alejandrabonita8355 3 года назад +52

    Your right because any time I have chased a guy he never valued me

  • @_january
    @_january 2 года назад +282

    As a young lady who didn't grow up with a father, this was tasteful and helpful. 😇

    • @yolandaburt2136
      @yolandaburt2136 Год назад

      ❤ Thank you so much Lisa QUEEN for your Husband Teaching I'm truly Blessed praise GOD 👏

    • @trinityp8575
      @trinityp8575 Год назад +2

      Yes, but also your profile picture isn’t the most appropriate to attract high value men. The show of breasts would attract those who would boyfriend you, or cheat. Because those are purely visual men who see sexual only. Try to elevate yourself and how you present yourself as well to get the right attention.

  • @str5295
    @str5295 3 года назад +188

    The one thing that is devastatingly true for me---- 4. When a woman gets rejected by a man it damages her more. SO TRUE. We weren't meant to take all that rejection.

    • @girlnextdoor2836
      @girlnextdoor2836 3 года назад +7

      You are right.I have a guy who has shown me he is into me but l won’t make a first move ever coz the shame if he rejects me would be devastating for me.

    • @ThekingJeshua2023
      @ThekingJeshua2023 3 года назад +15

      @tone loc but you are the “hunter “ you are the pursuer & once you meet the one the lord created for you then you won’t be rejected🙏

    • @SR77736
      @SR77736 3 года назад +10

      @tone loc this isn't about men. The focus is women.

    • @ThekingJeshua2023
      @ThekingJeshua2023 3 года назад +8

      @tone loc unfortunately some woman are not mature enough to keep it real.A virtues woman that has the fear of the lord & walks in the spirit (not the flesh)will not play those mind games .The word of God tells us to keep it to a Yes or No so leading someone with out confirming that’s the one is not correct .For example,I asked the lord for a specific thing that my soulmate ,my purpose has to do or have.Nothing not realistic but didn’t say it outloud or tell anyone .I asked the lord in my heart ❤️ I have faith a true conviction that the lord will confirm my husband but that’s me & our relationship with my Lord.If you seek the lord & stop walking in your own understanding.I have a feeling it be easier to find your wife!Consult the Holy Spirit & he has many ways of showing ,speaking to guide us.

    • @str5295
      @str5295 3 года назад

      @@girlnextdoor2836 seems any time it's more me than him I get my heart wounded.

  • @misscooks601
    @misscooks601 4 месяца назад +3

    “You always attract your opposite energy.“ very deep.

  • @thicknessboss2341
    @thicknessboss2341 3 года назад +277

    AMEN 🙏🏽 Women stop being desperate.

    • @gail_7192
      @gail_7192 3 года назад +3

      Amen 🙌🙌🙌🙌

    • @reynam5427
      @reynam5427 3 года назад +1

      🙌Amen to that 💜

    • @thicknessboss2341
      @thicknessboss2341 3 года назад

      @@gail_7192 yup 👍🏽

    • @jennifermwangi3541
      @jennifermwangi3541 3 года назад +1

      AMEN 🙏

    • @windowdancercymbals8246
      @windowdancercymbals8246 3 года назад +1

      A single woman across the street has this total loser living off of her in her big home. Very Sad!! I am a white woman watching these videos and we all are dealing with the same craps. I am going out staying in shape reading and drinking my one glass of wine a day. And I go out to events thAt interest ME!!

  • @sisofsovereignty
    @sisofsovereignty 2 года назад +709

    5. When a woman pursues a man, it relieves the man of his basic responsibility to lead in the relationship.

    • @VelvetCrowe734
      @VelvetCrowe734 2 года назад +16

      Lol? What a comment full of patriarchy and stereotype. We are human not simple animals.

    • @dianenewman-frye5259
      @dianenewman-frye5259 2 года назад +2

      I totally agree !

    • @IHavent82Day
      @IHavent82Day 2 года назад +16

      @@VelvetCrowe734 patriarchy isn’t always a negative thing. In families, I think it’s often a good thing.

    • @VelvetCrowe734
      @VelvetCrowe734 2 года назад +8

      @@IHavent82Day wrong. Patriarchy destroyed everything because women couldn't enjoy their lives. There isn't a right thing about patriarchy when women were getting a beating from their husbands/boyfriends. Or when men should always treat women dinner and pay every bill. This isn't right either. If we want a great society with true equality feminism is the only way. Feminism is equal rights equal responsibilities. I'm willing to help woman to clean the house and cooking and she should be willing to pay at least half of a bill because we are staying together. Together in good things, together in hard things.

    • @IHavent82Day
      @IHavent82Day 2 года назад +23

      @@VelvetCrowe734 That’s crazy because my dad has always been the leader in my family and he has always been the provider and my parents have been happily married for 25 years. I think feminism has absolutely destroyed the way men and women interact with each other - and no, I’m not saying women should always be beholden to a man or that women shouldn’t be allowed to be independent. I’m simply saying men as leaders is often a good thing.

  • @user-fm7vg4dv1k
    @user-fm7vg4dv1k 3 года назад +263

    It's funny that he said men can take rejection over and over again, that's not true because some of these males get rejected and then attack women

    • @theb2694
      @theb2694 3 года назад +28

      The needy and insecure guys don't take rejection well.

    • @EmpressNimra
      @EmpressNimra 3 года назад +32

      Because they are feminine and emotional.

    • @maxk5831
      @maxk5831 3 года назад +9

      rejection is bad for all

    • @user-fm7vg4dv1k
      @user-fm7vg4dv1k 3 года назад +23

      @@maxk5831 but it's a part of life, so everyone has to deal with it at some point, shake it off and keep moving, do not dwell on it

    • @EmpressNimra
      @EmpressNimra 3 года назад +9

      @@Handleem25 who are you to tell me to correct an opinion?! Those men who cannot accept rejection and are overly emotional are displaying feminine traits. You need to correct yourself.

  • @Apete3509
    @Apete3509 Год назад +26

    When I was 12, my Dad told me "Never tell a boy you like him". I obeyed my father without question. Thanks to him, I've never chased a man.

  • @cynthiamichael9307
    @cynthiamichael9307 3 года назад +224

    I have really cried watching this video. He is speaking to me and i need to change cuz i'm tired.

  • @Kayjames44
    @Kayjames44 3 года назад +114

    “A woman is not made to be in these streets, shooting her SHOT” Amen🙌🏾🙌🏾💯💯‼️

  • @angiedelap6831
    @angiedelap6831 3 года назад +229

    I feel like I'm having a chip-chat wit ma' ol' man.. And I NEVER had an ol' man. Every woman needs to hear this message! Especially women like me, no dad, no father figure, and no proper guidance from mom... These are true gems!!! 💎 💍 👰 🤴🏡 🙏

    • @kerethajackson2435
      @kerethajackson2435 3 года назад

      Amen Angie Delap 🙏❤❤❤

    • @chonciemills1775
      @chonciemills1775 3 года назад +2

      Amen

    • @sondragooden8647
      @sondragooden8647 3 года назад +2

      So true sis

    • @katydaisey4599
      @katydaisey4599 3 года назад +2

      That part. Meeee too. This message hit the heart hard. But in a good way

    • @carolineyelding8239
      @carolineyelding8239 3 года назад +4

      So glad you are more than a preacher, but a teacher. Women need to hear this. A majority of women have lost respect with this, their dress, their actions, and their lives, period. THANKS TEACHER.

  • @MissBluebirddays
    @MissBluebirddays Год назад +10

    I spent my childhood with a father who told me every day how worthless I was. This is so healing (and painful because I cringe at my past low value behaviour) to finally hear from a high value man what I should have been told as a little girl ❤

  • @MCGamerD
    @MCGamerD 3 года назад +95

    I had come to the conclusion that if a guy don't want me, I leave without looking back. What is the point? Gone is gone. No one complains to that. It's called keeping it real.

    • @bln4772
      @bln4772 3 года назад +7

      Keeping it real and keeping it moving.🚶🏾‍♀️

    • @endtime13
      @endtime13 3 года назад +1

      NOT DESPERATE FOR A MAN NOT A COUGAR JUST OLDER SHO NUFF NOT LOOKING! BUT FRIENDLY CAN'T A WOMAN B NICE AT MY AGE STILL BELIEVE THERE IS LIFE BUT BUT N BUT STUCK ON ?????
      DEFINITELY NOT PURSUING JUST SOMETIMES MELLOW FUNNY AT THIS TIME JUST RESPECT RESPECT MYSELF. VERY WELL TAUGHT .I LOVE SMILING GLAD MASK ARE IN! HAD VENEERS AFTER 20 YEARS THEY FEL OUT KEPT GLUEING THEM IN TILL THE 3rd TIME THEY FEL COULDN'T FIND THEM. PLEASE PRAY GOD GIVE ME FAVOR TO HAVE SOMEMORE GLUED IN DON'T WANT TO PUT THEM DOWN AND FORGET WHERE I PUT THEM. STARTED TO DO A GO FUND ME. ALL I WANT IS A SMILE NOT GUMS SHOWING ! BUT GONNA SMILE ANYWAY BECAUSE IT'S ME!
      IT COMES FROM INSIDE OUT! APPRECIATE YOUR TEACHING EVEN THOUGH HAVEN'T SEEN IT FOR A LONG TIME.KEEP SHARING YOUR DEVINE WISDOM IT'S WELL NEEDED.
      SHALOM SHALOM!
      GRANNY G💯❤🙏

    • @jdee4956
      @jdee4956 3 года назад +2

      If a guy says he doesn't want you, take him at his word. Don't walk - run.

  • @momlove4334
    @momlove4334 3 года назад +66

    I've learned to love myself more than any man and not be afraid to leave him. Because at the end of the day if he really wants you he will come 💜💜

  • @youalreadyknowtarot5991
    @youalreadyknowtarot5991 3 года назад +322

    The “feminine man” energy showed up in my life when I was seeing a man that made me do all the work. And I realized I needed to leave him. Then he came running after me. He asked me to marry him. Then I discovered he was still playing games and I left. I haven’t returned. I’m deserving of a man that has true strength and respect and with whom I feel safe enough to be vulnerable and feminine with.

    • @misselle1430
      @misselle1430 3 года назад +27

      Notice how easily he offered marriage knowing he wasn't worthy of it ... most women are desperate for marriage and men know this and play women completely. Glad you didn't say yes.

    • @dahliadivabosslady
      @dahliadivabosslady 3 года назад +4

      This sounds similar to my life.the 🤔😳

    • @shwetasah9040
      @shwetasah9040 3 года назад +4

      This look similar to my story too

    • @valentine544
      @valentine544 3 года назад +4

      This was the mistake I made when I got married and now getting a divorce 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @tamikalockley300
      @tamikalockley300 2 года назад +2

      I'm glad you left