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How guys (men) handle breakups
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- Опубликовано: 13 авг 2024
- Hey guys, thanks for watching this video. So today I am gonna be telling you guys how men handle break ups. Specifically what we go through mentally and what our actions consist of and why. Men and Women handle breakups differently and I will be pointing out many of those differences. I hope this gives you guys an insight as to the male mind and perspective. Thanks for watching. PLEASE LIKE AND SUBSCRIBE AND TURN ON POST NOTIFICATIONS.
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05/18/21
Just watching this
We've been broken up for a while but she was done for sure around June or July of 2020
I'm still dying on the inside because of it
We separated because of me but she called it quits in June/July 2020
I wake up with her on my mind and it's like that throughout the day day in and day out all the everyday
I know I'm getting better but in reality I never wanted us to separate and I do feel like such a failure not just with her but in life as a whole and I can't help it
Even more so that she's more then likely moved on to someone else and more then likely has slept with him
@@Tony-vh9oe My friend....I know how you feel....I wish I knew what to say....I want you to know I will have you in my prayers for your situation to change in a way that you want....please be safe and keep faith....and more importantly....grow....
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thank you for your reply
It really means allot
I'm working out physically at least since January and I've managed to lose, burn far and gain muscle as of this year in January
At least I've got that going on
I feel a tad better today and I think what helped was the fact that the moment my alarm went off I got my butt up from bed as oppose to dwelling on here
I know she wasn't as great as my brain wants me to think that she was
If she really was then we would still be together
So I know that she was not the one because God has greater in store for me
I just gotta keep pushing, keep grinding but above all HAVE FAITH! 💯
@@Somewhere-over-the-rainbow I am sorry to hear you are going through a rough time....i know its hard....
Mine was narcissist… I got tired of the lies and the cheating and one day I just woke up and stopped talking to him.. I’m actually pregnant with his child but after seven days his living with someone else..
Almost 10 months later and I’m still a broken man, She will appear in dreams and everything is back to normal almost like its back in time just to wake up alone . Working out has saved me from falling further down the hole but i do feel like the loneliest person alive in a room full of people. One day it will be better take care of yourself brothers 💪🏼
I am sorry to hear that bro....but you are right it will be all taken care of one day!!!
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I can't believe am with my love again
I just broke up with my boyfriend and it hurts like hell. I just couldn't take the baby mama drama.
The hardest part is the them acting ok part, it makes you feel like the whole relationship meant nothing to them and I hate that men feel like they can't express these emotions. They feel the pain too.
Yes I agree, it is hard and it is messed up from a societal standpoint we aren't allowed to express ourselves in that manner. But let me tell you, we act like we are ok and sometimes we are but it often in many ways always resurfaces. And when it does its there and it hurts and we realize the love is still there. I can't tell you how true it really is. As men we are expected not to sulk, be logical, be a man, and move forward. But it doesn't mean we don't feel it.
@James James why would I want to get my ex back? Yeah I still love him but that doesn't mean I should be an idiot about it, it wasn't meant to be meaning that there is someone out there who is right for me who will make me a 100 tomes happier than he could. And there is someone out there who is right for him who will make him a 100 time more happier than I ever could. I do appreciate the recommendation tho and will keep it in mind for the future.
@@therealtalkvlogs I find it ridiculous honestly, society expect men to be tough and not feel anything but when they do their told "you should be more in touch with your feelings." and when they are their called weak. Like what are they supposed to do then? It's so unfair towards them
@@mickeymouse7146 I agree totally....trust me it frustrates me all the time.
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I broke up with my ex few days ago. It hurts like hell but I just can’t no longer stay being with someone who couldn’t care less about our relationship. Never felt that he valued our connection and I’m always the only one putting in the effort to make our relationship work. Always just empty words from him and keeps saying he wants me but his actions says otherwise. I’m exhausted already and so done with excuses. Been grieving halfway throughout our relationship. Now I only feel relieved after calling it quits. But he didn’t reply to my last message to him he’s probably upset but I hope he’ll realize and understand why I left. I may still feel heartbroken but I’m feeling quite better now.
I am really sorry to hear that....I can say that I have been in your shoes and I know exactly how that feels. It really sucks and is totally exhuasting. I think that if what u say is true then u did the right thing. Depending on the type of person he is he may one day realize and learn. Some dont though....either way you are in a better spot.
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Hey, I feel yah. I broke up with my partner, we've been together for 5 years. He became too comfortable with our setup, he wants me but he's not willing to step up, no plans of settling down. He also prioritizes other things. I know it's exhausting and their excuses will be there forever if they truly don't have any goals with you. Like you, he didn't reply to my last message when he left and since then I've been implementing the no contact rule. I'm on my way to healing and I hope it will be soon because it really hurts.
Wishing you all well.
I wish I could share my experience. I am still hurting after calling it off 2m ago and as much as I wish I could be with him I've received too much abuse and inconsistency to realise I won't be loved the way I deserve to be. Id rather cry now than the rest of my life. I know he's hurting and that's sad but he did this not me. I can't sacrifice my happiness anymore
Sometimes we are faced with hard choices like this....I am sorry that was a choice you had to make. Keep faith though....you never how people can change and you may be surprised....
If he broke up with you then there is nothing I would advise you to do except taking care of yourself. If you broke it off with him I would say go back and love each other again and fix your problems because in every relationship there are problems that will make you want to leave it but they all can be fixed if we think with our brains not hearts. If you don’t mind me asking why did you break up?
@@aziztherealone441 she said she was being abused that's NEVER ok she definitely is right for moving on and not looking back, someone else better will show her her worth she doesn't deserve to give an abuser any more chances to abuse her! Maybe you missed that part but she definitely shouldn't go back, she should forgive him for her own sanity but don't give him anymore chances to hurt you🤷🏻♀️ be strong babygirl time heals all wounds and getting out and meeting new people REALLY does help I know as females we usually don't wanna be around anyone but the person we love but push yourself and before you know it you'll be enjoying yourself either alone (because you genuinely can be happy alone) or with someone new, I wish everyone who is hurting from a broken heart New happiness and peace and the pain to finally subside because one day it will💖
Fair enough but research shows you'll likely be OK in < 6months. Whereas men generally - never- fully recover.
It's been almost two months since I broke up with my boyfriend. I was in a similar situation as you, i really loved him and wished we could be together, but I developed mental illnesses during the relationship. I was supporting him in everything, showing him as much affection as I could, gave him all my time that I even cancelled my other plans just to be with him. He on the other hand cancelled our plans to be with someone else, he was degrading me, I never even knew where he lived so we would always hang out at my place. I never met his parents nor friends even though he met mine, even hung out with them. I couldn't trust him after some time, he would never give me any type of reassurance, he would always ask and talk about other women... every single time we were hanging out. He never remembered my birthday, meanwhile i spent days trying to find the things he wanted so much, so I could buy them for him and make him smile. It's still hard for me as I'm trying to get over it because i still have feelings for him, even though he never had them for me. I feel like he might have been ashamed of me or hiding something from me. I feel used, but at least I realised that it was a good decision and that times will get better and so will my mental health. sending love
Hey, you hit it spot on. My girlfriend broke it off with me after 7 years to go after a coworker with a better body, no house or established career. Hurts like heck even though you know it's for the better. Thanks man, sometimes a pep talk is needed. I'm sure I speak for many guys out there. Thanks for paying it foward and helping us out.
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My name is Jonathan, too and my ex and I just broke up after 7 years. Lol. We had our bad and good times but at the end of the day I was good to her. The break up sucked enough but she is already talking to another guy. Fucking sucks, but I need to move on and realize it was for the better. Hang in there, bro.
I believe the reason women move on quicker is because a lot of times they’ve already checked out months ahead of the actual breakup. All the while acting normal and telling you that they love you. But in reality they know they are going to leave and some may even set up a rebound to make it easier on themselves. If this is the case they’ll never ever admit it so beware if they come back.
Interesting, are you a man or a woman??
Dude. You've explained the way I've experienced break ups... The rumination, pondering, etc... Probably one of the toughest emotionally (and physically - some nights I felt like my breathing was out of whack) times in my life. 3 years later and I'm back to normal, but those first few weeks were a very dark place... Friends, getting a new job and moving away saved me.
I am glad I could help....yeah it is, especially for us as men....I am glad u made it through....
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This is perfect. My ex fiancé just ended our relationship 2 months before our wedding. We’ve been together for 5 years. She was my backbone and the one person I could count on. Our wedding was supposed to be last September but we postponed it because of COVID. She told me that she didn’t know if I was the right guy for her and no longer loved me since postponing the wedding last year. For a whole year she lied to me and I didn’t have a single clue. She never communicated with me about how she felt and never gave me the opportunity to try to fix things. I do feel like a failure and feel like it’s my fault because I lost the love of my life and was willing to fight to make the relationship work.
That happened to me too, except we are not engaged. Hurts as hell.
Tyler....first of all I am sorry to hear this. Second, you are WRONG. If you did nothing wrong it is not for you to fix it if she is having second thoughts or is feeling differently. It is up to her to fix that and for you to be there to work with her through it. Third, you did not fail at all. I am a man and I know exactly what you mean when you say failure. But guess what?? We as men need to stop viewing our relationships and involvements with women as soley our responsibility and let them off the hook for shit. This was ALL totally her, not you, it is her problem not yours. And at the end of the day this all just says that the 2 of you just weren't compatible I guess. Staying in love is a choice, she chose not to it seems like. You can be willing to fight to make it work all you want but a relationship is a 2 way street. If she isn't willing at all or as much as you then it won't work.
I'm sorry that happened to you. I'm a woman and it happened to me. Broken up with after 2.5 years. He had told me he was planning to propose soon and I thought everything was great in our relationship bc always told me it was. Then next thing I know he breaks up with me while I'm sick and finding out I need surgery. He said he feels more like a friend to me at this point bc I've sick for 2 months and he's been wanting to break up with me for 10 months but I'm such a nice person and he didn't want to see me cry so he was too cowardly to say anything until now. So now I'm scheduled to go through this surgery alone when he promised he'd always be there for me just the week before. Break ups no matter who you are but esp if you are blindsided. We will get through this. Hope you're doing better
@@robynw8223 I’m so sorry to hear this! I hope you have family and friends that will be there for you while you recover from your surgery! It’s definitely hard. Last Saturday I moved the rest of my stuff out of the apartment we had. She actually had her new boyfriend there and I just ignored him. I’m pretty sure she cheated on me. After this time away from her I can finally see who she truly was as a person. I’m much happier now and finally starting to move on. It takes time but you will definitely get through this!
I can relate. U can cry bro!
He ended up blocking me on everything. I just wish he could’ve understood me more. Loved me as much as I loved him. I broke up with him but it feels he broke up with me. I still miss him. There’s no hope with this one.
I can fully relate. It takes courage to be that honest with yourself.
Never view things as final....but if it was final it was final for a good reason
@@therealtalkvlogs I’ve moved on. I’m actually talking to somebody else with the same mindset as me
@@therealtalkvlogs me and this other guy have a date next Sunday
@@aleahwilson8863 Thats awesome congrats!!!!!
10 years on since she left me, and you couldn't be more correct. This entire past decade, I've put on one big act. All it does is hide an unending and ever mounting suffering.
Man bro you hit the nail on the head… I’m going thru a breakup of a 9 year relationship and shit bro the pain is insurmountable at times and feels like death.. not sure how long it takes to heal it’s been about 5 months for me and shit man still feels terrible
I am so sorry to hear this bro....it will definitely take time....do your best to let it take its course....please let me know if I can help in any way....I have been through things....haha going through it now as we speak actually
@@therealtalkvlogs thank you man for your kind words, by far the most painful thing I’ve ever experienced. And I hope you are well yourself since you are going thru things. Just gotta take it day by day that’s all I can do
They say it takes at least one month for every year before you even start to feel better (another 3-4 months for you). That said, it can take some people years. The important thing is that you let yourself grieve and take care of yourself. The fact that you are so honest with yourself is a good sign :). All the best.
@@skatingcanuck9837 thank you so much for your kind words. It’s been a tough road but I’m
Here chugging along. Doing my best to keep myself busy and occupied.
Hey! I think it was you that had a request as far as a specific video. Why men always come back. I made the video and it has been posted. Here is the link to it, please like, comment, share, and turn on post notifications (: ruclips.net/video/fHU2eZEZ5SY/видео.html
4 years ended two weeks ago. I don’t know why or how but I feel so much better in such a short amount of time. Yes I still have the bad days but the good ones have outweighed them by far. I’m at peace and so is she. I am glad we ended things on a good note. Maybe one day we will get back together but I am not counting on it for my own mental health.
I am happy to hear this bro....I can't blame you for your decision....do what is best for you. You may get back eventually when the both of you have settled your own personal demons....I know exactly what you are saying and where all of it is coming from....I am going through the same thing.....never view things as final but if it is final it was final for a good reason....
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Two weeks into the breakup I felt good too because she said that she needed it. It started getting worse when I saw her with another guy in her story with caption saying 'my happiness'
That's 100% correct What u told on the video and am still suffering from the recent breakup with the girl I loved the most and am telling myself it's OK but the pain doesn't go away 💔
Jintu I am sorry to hear about your loss....the pain will eventually subside. The key for now is to work on yourself. Allow yourself to feel the pain. You have to face it, and you must move forward by doing the things that you find joy in. And at the same time explore new things and find out more about yourself. And whatever u do, figure out what baggage you now have and make sure u dont bring it in your next relationship. If you need help you can hit me up on instagram @Raystangsation_92 I will be more than happy to help you. I am going through a breakup right now as well, it's not easy I know.
Thanks for the valuable time that really helps and I will try my best to become better person from yesterday
If only he would have believed me when I told him there was going to be a day when I walk away. Almost 6 years not valued, always put last, all the times I waited when he said he would call but didn’t, all the times he promised to come for lunch but got busy and just didn’t show up. The many apologies that all sounded the same. I told him one day he will
Realize he had a good girl after I’m gone. Everything was about him I was compassionate, loving, told him I was proud of him and his dreams was there for him when he needed someone. None of that mattered after a few years we stopped going places it all lasted so long because I stayed until I felt unappreciated and undervalued. I stayed until I didn’t care anymore so when I left my kind and my heart came with me. Thinking I would never leave now he will sit for a few days and go through what I went through in 3-4 years. I loved him but I love me more
Im so sorry to see this....
Was the compatibility there and he just lost interest over time? Or was he just really hot and uninterested the whole time?
@@ndnrb_ no compatibility has always been there we were together years ago he is just always busy he has his own businesses and never has time for anything. I always trusted him and him with me. He just works so much but then again I did too. We back good now 😂
@@jennifermartinez-uw2wh you guys are back together?!!! Really
@@aziztherealone441 😂 yes it’s a thing with us I guess
My boyfriend of 4 years (we're both each other's first love) just broke up with me last Saturday. Even though it was a very mature conversation and we have no animosity against each other, it doesn't make it hurt any less. After letting myself cry for the first 2 days, I've started to put things into perspective as to why things ended. It still hurts but this video gives me a better perspective as to what's probably going on my ex's head
I am sorry to hear that....I am glad this video could be of some help to you though.
I told him I was sad, he responded with anger and told me to go away. I go out of my way to do things for him all I wanted was some appreciation and care affection. 5yr a roller coaster ride. I walked away
If that was truly the case I cant blame u
@@therealtalkvlogs What do you mean if it was "truly the case"?
@@kelseydamons4336 If the person really responded with anger and couldnt give respect and so on for 5 years
@@therealtalkvlogs ohhhh kay
I’m watching trying to gain some perspective on if I am ultimately the one who walked away, what are the chances we can mend things. He is avoidant attachment while I’m anxious- opposites attract…
He is so busy, he can go days and not even send a text. I’m left always questioning his love for me. We’ve talked about it so many times and he will put in effort for about a week then, go back to silence. I have to respect myself. I love him and am hoping this will help him feel motivated to change this one thing.
Happy I found this channel.
I am happy this could be of help to you. And tbh I think you are already doing the right thing....a relationship is a 2 way street and he needs to do his part. The best thing to do at this point is let him be and if he realizes what he is going wrong then good but if not then that is truly on him
Could you please do a video explaining why men always come back? I think easily 95% of the guys I've dated have all come back after a breakup.
Yes most definitely!! I will add it to my list and get to it asap! Stay tuned!
Because those men got into a rebound and it didn't work out, so they start missing their previous ex. Also not all men come back, only the ones who thought they could do better.
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I broke up with him ... because I couldn’t handle the fighting, not because I didn’t love him but because it felt like our relationship had not been healthy, we were both often upset and sad ... 2 weeks later he seemed to be completely fine with us being friends. It doesn’t seem like he misses me as his gf at all anymore... he’s talking to new girls. I am still mourning the relationship and I honestly thought he would have been sad for longer ...
I am really sorry to hear that Safia....I know how you feel....what you just said almost mirrors the relationship I just got out of. Stay tuned for my next video I will be dropping soon. It has to do with some of the contents of this video and with what we are talking about now.
@@therealtalkvlogs I love that you respond to individual comments! Thanks so much for the content, I know men and women are really not that different at the end of the day but it really seems different sometimes ! In some cases it really does feel like the man moves on faster even though I know that’s not necessarily true 😅
@@safiamerali5400 My pleasure Safia, I do my best to respond and to help you guys. If you ever want to you can message me on instagram @Raystangsation_92 and I would be happy to help you with whatever you need. And yeahhhh....it all depends on the circumstances but in my experience we do not move on faster lol I just broke up with my ex and within not even a week she moved on fully and is happily with someone else. So we as men feel the same way about women.
@@therealtalkvlogs why did you left your girl if you love her? My boyfriend left me because if just minor fight
For me it was him not taking me seriously. Felt like he had another life without me included. I could not go to his place, I could not meet his friends, disrespected my religious beliefs. I was not happy...I told him I am not but I dont think he planned to make me happy...it felt like I was trying to hard and he was not trying at all. I got tired. We took a little 3 day break. Then he reached out and then disappeared. I called and he did not answer anything. After a week he called to tell me it is not working out. 4 month relationship felt like it never happened. What a waste of time. It hurts but I know it is for the good. I deserve better
My ex and I broke up a month ago. The decision was mutual and we ended it on very good terms. We broke up because he wasn’t treating me as a priority anymore & my failure in the relationship was that I complained too much and made him feel like he wasn’t good enough. Besides that our relationship was amazing and we spent really good times together. I’ve been feeling like shit but he told me that he was doing good & wasn’t too hurt about the break up. I guess it’s easier for some people. I really miss him but decided to go no contact 10 days ago.
I am really sorry to hear this....it seems to me like u 2 could have worked it out....its ashame u didnt even though I dont have all the details....it's probably not as easy for him as u think
My ex came back to me few days ago ❤️ I got help from a Relationship Restorer Dr Steve Who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and beg for a second chance. He can bring your ex back
@@therealtalkvlogs hey thank you for your answer. I think we could have make it work too, but it’s better if we take a break first
@@seppphy Absoloutely, work on yourself and become the best you that you can be.
Told someone “for the first time in my life” that i need him. Just being affectionate. He decides to cut me off entirely within 24 hrs. Pretended to be ok and said even that im sad now but it’s probably for the best and wished him well.
I cried for 10 days. Rarely stopped. Couldnt even go to work. But now I realize, truly it was for the better. Fuck. That. Shit. Im happily miserable and its much better than being in a fake paradise. If he suffered 10% of what ive been through then he suffered enough.
I'm sorry to see this....
6 months and still suffering
Never thought that’s gonna be difficult like this !
I am sorry my friend....I know it is tough and I know how it feels....even when most of it is gone it still creeps up here and there.
I felt like he was talking to me. Everything he said is so true and I'm only on day 5. I'm afraid of what's to come.
fucking day 6 and HOLY SHIT. I was at work and the knots in my throat were all too real. I put my mask down and cry as I'm welding in hopes that the tears would dry up by the time the mask came off. This is hurt like no other.
@@emanuelmarcus4602 I am sorry to hear this bro....all I can say is....take it in stride. Write down how you feel....and most importantly realize and tell yourself you can and will get through this....
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I have been broken up with a few days ago and I make it seem that everything is okay. When I get home, it's where I can just let myself out. Everywhere I go, I have a "mask" to show I'm not hurt. It really hurts just to see her every day and having those memories go through my mind over and over again..
I am really sorry to see this bro....I know how it feels. As men this is what we do even though it destroys us on the inside. Keep your head high, push forward and increase your value as a man! You got this!
@@therealtalkvlogs Right now, I'm just pushing myself forward to do what I like doing.
I just hate when the truth is not admitted. Most time when someone up and leave; they have someone else! That’s the part that gets me, they move on so fast while you’re sitting there sulking over them. It’s like they’re a totally different person.
Remember everyone, their patterns do not change. If they’re cheating on you, they will be cheating on the next.
I def. understand this, and you are right! They will def. do it to the next!
I just got left and i cant sleep or eat all i do is think about her she said she wants to be free and wishes me the best it broke me all i think about is her with other guys its killin me
Bro I am really really sorry to hear this....breakups in general are tough. Especially for us as men as you know..take your time to acknowledge and accept what has happened and to feel what you must feel. Do it in spirts in between doing the things you must do on a daily basis....this is trauma. It hurts, but this is an opportunity to level up as a man and become the best you that you can be right now. If you need to talk further and/or have me explain what I mean feel free to DM me on insta @Raystangsation_92
Long distance bf of over six months and I mutually decided to break up two days ago. We realized that because we are physically distant and young, a long-term future for us wasn't realistically in the cards. It feels like I'm half a person now, that there's this huge empty space, and it's truly tearing me apart. He's so much more ok with ending it than I thought he would be, and that hurts too. My one hope for this is that I know one day the pain will leave. For now I'll be working on myself with the arrival of a new year. :)
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I am so sorry to hear this....I know partially what this is like. And I know how you feel, I have experienced this. You know despite the distance that this was real....how you feel says it all. Just know you will recover and remember you always have the person you stare at in the mirror to fall back on and that's what you are doing. Trust me though, he may seem ok but he may not be as ok as you think. My ex and I broke up and I acted like I was totally ok with it and I was to a degree just because of how terrible things were between us but in many ways I was not ok. She still hits me up here and there and I am ok but im also not really ok.
@@therealtalkvlogs thank you :)
@@sadeframe My pleasure!
He described exactly what I’m goin through.
I know it hurts bro....if it brought you some clarity of thought and feeling I am pleased. But I know its hard.
Really going through some tough times... Thanks for the video 🙃🙃
My pleasure....lmk if I can help
If you must truly honour your love or whatever you want to call that strong, strong feeling, you must not escape the pain of not having it fulfilled. Having invested your emotions and your soul so deeply, you have already shown how strong you are to take that risk on another person. If you were worthy of that kind of love, you can only find out by feeling out the hurt and the pain completely.
When you come out of the darkness, you will come out a new, with much to share with the world, and perhaps, you will start giving again, from a much more immense place within you. Not all of us will reach such places.
Do you need help? To fix. your broken relationship?
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I broke up with my ex about two weeks ago. The breakup wasn't easy, but I felt so happy and relieved from the moment he was out of my house. I have been handling the breakup well, and my ex is making one mistake after another. We still used to chat, but I'm starting to not even want to hear from him anymore. Even after I told him everything that led to my decision, I have the feeling he is still not listening. I think a lot of men never do and they always think the break up came out of the blue. Also the difference between men and women is that men tend to break up impulsively over smaller things and usually come back after some time (not always). But when a woman breaks up with her man, she has already broken up weeks before.
What if he’s the one who broke up with me? All I’ve noticed is him going back to his “player” times. It’s been over a month and I just see him talking to the girls he told me not to worry about when we were together (we work together so that’s how I know). Reason he broke up with me was because he wants to “move on and live life and he doesn’t feel the same way towards me” but we were doing good(yeah we had arguments here and there) how can he just love me one day and then the next say that he doesn’t feel the same way. (It was a 2+ year relationship)
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Wow....thats really shitty of him....I would say that somewhere down the line he will experience what I said in this video most likely....but Candy I am sorry to tell you this but he is out there playing the field trying to see if the grass is greener on the other side. You need to focus on you and move forward with you and create a better relationship with you....
@@therealtalkvlogs yeah that’s what I’ve been trying to do because I even found out that he is in contact with the girl he had cheated on me with and at work sometimes he does smile at me (he even told me “I love your Hair” and that’s because I came back from vacation with a new haircut) but then he goes back to ignoring me and trying to not look at me.
All of this was ligit relatable, thanks for letting me know I ain’t in this alone
Of course....I am glad I can be of help. Remember how you feel is normal and it is completely ok....
I broke up with my boyfriend 5 months ago… and some days it feel as if I just did it yesterday 😞 some days I feel like I’m going to be just fine and then other days I feel like I don’t wanna get out of bed… Im sick of this emotional roller coaster.. I miss him so so much but I’m tired of being taken for granted and not being a priority to him.. can’t wait to finally be over this 😢
I went on a date with a guy and he talks about his ex. I was alright with it & it didn’t bother me so much, i feel he still miss his ex. All I can do is just listen to him
How long has he been doing this??
Leave. You can't help him with that hurt
@@therealtalkvlogs It’s only a one time date
Babe, take to your heels. 👠
Don't be a rebound. Rebounds don't last....
I am going through one of the hardest patches of my life right now. I am pregnant, problems after problems. Endless problems, break up, but this gave me hope. I am trying my hardest to stay strong.
I dont want him back
@@robrinajohn175 yes. I don’t want him
Back. I’m better of without him
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Serene, I am beyond flattered that this has given you hope and I am truly sorry that you are going through a rough time. Keep faith and keep pushing. If I can help in any additional way feel free to reach out to me on IG @Raystangsation_92
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I'm on my 1 month breakup today, still f*ckin hurts and feeling lost. To think that I'm so serious with our 2 months long distance relationship that we are so in loved and attached from everything thinking the world revolved only for us both. Then days past by, she just trade me off from her busyness and career due to our little misunderstanding like WTF? She choose to give up rather than fixing things that meant to be fix (sighs). I keep fighting till the end without realizing that I'm living on one sided relationship, this thing keeps me depressed like hell. I've learned that this type of person should not taken seriously as if they only take the safe road and not willing to fight from dire situations. This is note to myself that don't fall in love directly but instead walk into it. Everything is not a waste, I have experienced and I taught myself to be more tougher on the next relationship. Thanks for this video my man hoping to heal someday.
I am really sorry to hear this bro, and I am happy I could be of help to you. You said it all yourself, you know what you gotta do and you know what should and shouldnt be. Don't settle for any less than that in your next relationship. I know how this feels to a large degree, watch this video though: ruclips.net/video/C57dRbpcp2Q/видео.html it gives good guidance and helps you avoid certain mistakes
@@therealtalkvlogs I need this link now thank you so much. I made a lot of mistakes on my past relationship and I have to stand and take redemption on it.
@@venczchannel My pleasure bro....trust me I have been there.
Woman take longer to fall in love
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Maybe for the ones who have emotions, yet somehow... I am positive, motivated and I never give up... Yet, it has been 8 months and I am still suffering. He broke it off. Theres more to it but I dont want to milk tjose kind of emotions.
These things can take a while....it sucks but in time all of it will eventually pass
Stay strong girl! One day you will snap out if it, trust me!! I've had two breakups that took me a loooong time to get over, but one day I woke up and just felt okay. Just hang in there
He broke up with me. We were together seven years. He told me he didn't love me anymore. I feel like he's okay these days and enjoying his life. I don't think he's grieving while I'm here watching every break-up video and dying inside.
Bruh that happened to me literally this past Sunday, I’m here with ya 🤧
@@jasminexihasmine i hope we will. Sending you hugs
I am sorry to hear this....hmmmmmmm I would like to know the circumstances. I thought of so many things when u said all this
This has to be one of the realest videos you were so spot on I'm currently going through one and I keep thinking about all of our good times and all the years and emotions we invested into each other. It hard to see a life without her and I'm talking to a what you would call a "bounce back" girl but it's not helping. Lately I been thinking that I should really be focusing on making myself a better man excell in my career and achieve physical fitness. If you have any tips bro please comment. This shit is depressing.
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Bro....I hear you. I am sorry you are going through this....I know what it is like....a rebound will only help you so much. Sooner or later you will need to confront what happened in your own way....My tips for you are obviously focusing on yourself, how to be happier, healthier physically and mentally. Working out takes care of your physically, I would also suggest journaling because it forces you to face what happened....ask yourself questions while you journal....write down and ask yourself "why did this happen??" "Why did I do this??" And answer yourself....look up and adopt healthy daily habits
@@therealtalkvlogs I have bro I went into no contact and I started working out I list iver 20 pounds in a couple weeks I been dieting. I even started reading. I never do that I never finished a book before. But I am seriously working in myself now not even worried about her anymore if she comes back good if she doesn't good. I'm to busy to be worried about it now and I need to make myself better before I can even worry about a relationship
I will never be the same tbh, a part of me died.
Oh I know how this feels....I will say that this is normal. The pain and the trauma changes you, but what you have control over is how you emerge from it. You can be better....
The thing is, my ex as of 2 months ago moved on practically the next day, while i was living with her and her parents, and her sister/nephews. She immediately fired up the dating apps, added people on snapchat that she matched with and was spending a shit tonne of time talking to these people. She didn't have irl friends, she's 21 and 4 years younger than me and we were in a relationship for 3 years. I spent a lot of time thinking about our future while being with her, and when she broke it off I was angry at first, but then we spoke face to face and I just broke down in tears. Absolutely destroyed, I felt ashamed because I mostly blamed myself for pushing her to that decision.
But to be honest, I think because of her youth, she was terrified of "missing out" and felt that she need to experience new things to feel better. She has mental health issues, and I always wanted to be there for her, I still do, but I don't think I was enough because of my own flaws.
The thing is though, I blamed myself for what led up to the breakup but I made the mistake of blaming myself for what came after. That made it worse. Everything she did which included meeting up with random people she met online, strange behaviour, clearly flirting with people on these apps. I took that on my own ego. One day, I moved out into a friends house and suddenly the crying stopped, the hurt felt less (although was still present), and I watched videos like this one. I realised that I had to kill my ego, so I did. I stopped being bothered with people seeing her and what they might be doing. I wasn't confident in myself because I thought that she is the only person I could ever be with, but then I met this girl in another area. Coincidentally after meeting this girl, I lost my job because I had too many stress days off (somebody in management hated me). That day, I got a new job in the same area as this other girl.
The issue is, this new girl wants a relationship (not specifically with me but in general)- I practically just got out of one so I had to tell her the truth: that a relationship isn't likely to come from me any time soon. Not for a long time. But we are friends, she wants to bump it off every once and awhile and I'm okay with that but I also told her that sex is not at all what I expect from her, I just want new friends. And she understands. She's introduced me to so many new people and suddenly my confidence in myself as an independent 25yo man bloomed. I was no longer an introvert, I'm having conversations with people I've just met, I'm having a good time and I'm slowly forgetting about the dark times.
Everything this guy said we do when heartbroken, I've done, I still am doing. But I'm aware of it, I'm able to consciously see what I am doing which is why I was able to tell this new girl that I can't be in a relationship until I am fully moved on and have worked my life out.
My story is a bit choppy because I can sit here and do an unabridged version and it'll be its own book, I didn't even mention the fact that I lived with my GF because I was actually evicted from my house and still am currently couch surfing.
Point is, if you're destroyed for the same reason I was, don't threat off from using these apps and seeing someone, just make sure that you understand that what you are doing will not work long term and that you will need to pull yourself back every now and then. But if you do, do it as a man would do. Be kind, be courteous, be respectful. Seeing someone doesn't mean you need to have sex, it may mean that you just found a friend you wouldn't otherwise of had if you were in a relationship. Use that to extend your life further and you will feel good about it. Trust me I enjoy hanging out with these new people and so far I'm doing okay. It might not last forever but it shows your ability to mold with new people and eventually you'll find someone who catches your eye that you didn't have to use an app to find.
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Ty. My bf of 4ys recently broke up with me during a heated argument. I gave him the break up. I didn’t contact him for 2wks. Eventually he called me and we were able to talk it out. I spent those 2wks thinking about my contribution, what could I have done differently, how can I handle myself better next time? I contemplated how can I show up as the best version of me should we ever get back or for my next relationship. I learned a lot about myself during that time. But I will admit, since he broke up with me, had he not of reached out to me, I never would’ve reached out to him. I’m refuse to try and force someone to be with me if they don’t want to be. We, have a new beginning with better communication in place and I wish this for anyone going through a breakup. At the minimum do some hard self reflection regardless if you get back together or not so you’ll be the best version of you for your next relationship. ❤️
He's absolutely right it's a sense of absolute failure it sucks bad The only thing that makes it any better is time just my opinion
True....it really does suck
waking up every morning and looking at her side of the bed and shes not there KILLS ME!
A man can easily hurt a woman physically but a woman can very easily hurt a man emotionally. She will leave you and in a week will be in love with another man that’s how cut throat they are. Work on yourself and move on.
I wish I was cutthroat like you say women are, it’s been 2 years and I wish I can forget him
That's funny cuz I, as a woman, would say the same thing about men. Most of you are a bunch of selfish hypocrites who only care about themselves and would break a woman's heart in a blink of an eye FOR NO REASON.
@@Noah-il6qnI bet you broke 25 hearts for every guy that breaks yours
@@feynou god damn,I wishhhh 😂😂 men are picky and more complicated that they think they are. A 25-1 ratio is something a very attractive girl possessive, average girls get into 1-6 relationships in their life or something. And I fear hurting someone else more than getting hurt, I got broken up with every time and it took forever to get over each. So I’m working on myself and moving on as well, you should too
Women often grieve before the breakup, and they have more support and skills.
I've given up on relationships. People leave even after 26 years. It's pointless
Ooooofffff boy do I know how this feels.
I just got out of my first ever relationship of 2 years. She put me out and everything. I never want to date again I’m 27 and started crying for nothing. The pain is different.
I am so sorry to hear this bro....I know what you are feeling. I have been there plenty of times....it's ok to feel the way you feel....take it one day at a time....
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We broke up 3 weeks ago because our relationship was toxic. At first, he still wanted to fix everything, but he's not putting that much effort into it and he's just hanging out with his friends. Last Sunday, he told me that he's already doing fine and that we don't need to fix our relationship, and then he's already talking to other girls. I'm fine with it because I also just want to focus on my growth and I didn't chase him or anything. But every time I feel like I'm starting to be okay, he will chat or call me. He called me on Monday and texted me on Wednesday. I replied yesterday, but he said that it's just nothing. I'm so confused about whether he's already moved on or not, because he seems to be doing well on social media. Do you think that he's going to experience the things that you've said in the video? But thankfully, I'm slowly getting better. I'll appreciate it if you reply!♡
Uhhhhhh yeah I am pretty sure he will experience what I described. When someone is toxic they often also have a need to be codependent. I am sure he said those things in part to be spiteful, I think deep down he also cares....and is trying to see if you are still available. I can bet you he will come back around for good. I have done all of these same things.
The thing is, women usually checked out long before the break up..
I have said this as well. Men take breakups a lot harder then women. For woman their dm’s are already full with guys who are already trying to get with them while you two were together. Once she leaves you the flood gates open. For men, its a lot harder to get woman to be ‘into’ you regardless of how sincere, kind, loving, successful, and faithful you are. The person I loved for over 20 years broke my heart, and like you said it only gets worse as the days past because all you do is think of them. She was my best friend and to just ‘toss’ that out the window for no reason at all hurts me deeply. It will take me a very long time to get over this pain. I’ve never felt anything like this before and I’m 43! I know one day it will get better but for right now shit really hurts!
oh my lord, i couldnt even begin to process what pain you must have been going thru right now. my rs was 9 years but it already feel like i lost a lifetime with her, 20 years must hurt more. lets do this together!
Bro everything you said is totally correct....I heard something recently and it gave me great clarity. Women can be very loyal and they would never leave you as long as they truly love you. Women are not loyal by principle more so they are loyal to how they feel. When she no longer feels that way about you she will have no problem tossing you out the door. I know it has been sometime since you shared this comment. I hope you are doing well and are elevating yourself as a man.
@@therealtalkvlogs this is true. shes loyal to me for 9 years but a month after she left, she acted like she never even know me.
I am truly sorry for you bro.....@@aiden_zae
I have one suggestion , when i broke up , i tried many things , but nothing worked , then one day , i closed myself in a room , and i started crying , i cried for more than one hour , and this helped me out to overcome .
Bro....I cry in the shower when I can....it helps a lot
Most guys go directly to add many girls and knowing new ones to forget the old relationship
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You are correct....for many of us it is a way of avoiding what happened and getting rid of the pain.
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Broke up with my ex in late April. He hid the fact that his ex was still in his life and they were hooking up. He cried on my way out. He texted me a week later wanting to know if I was okay and then backpedaled when I gave him the floor to say what he needed to say. I told him I didn’t trust him in the end and that he needed to do better. I then told him he’s not going to pop in and out of my life and to take care. Haven’t heard from him since.
Good for you! I am not saying he doesnt have some feelings but what he did was fucked up and he is totally unloyal and you cannot trust him. My advice, dont ever take him back. In my experience when you set the prescedent that really poor behavior such as that is acceptable they will do it again.
It’s been two years. Every night I fall asleep with her on my mind if I can even sleep at all. Im not happy anymore, I try to feel but it’s always just a mix between anger and pain. I tried visiting her the other day to try and talk to her and maybe salvage something, just to see her ex leaving from her front door. It broke me more than I already was. I don’t know how I’m going to move on, I know I will, but I don’t know how. Here’s to hoping.
Same 💔
I enjoy your voice as I work at my desk. Keep up the good work!
Thank you so much!
Going through a break up 2 days in and I’m worse. I cried half way through this video :/ got broken up with cause of my trust issues. Which was my fault….
I’m with you. Mine was less than 24hours ago. I’m here if you ever need to talk
Same. Ur not alone 😢🤗
I am sorry it triggered so much emotion for you....but I hope it helped in some way shape or form....
@@therealtalkvlogs I’m doing way better now!
Same 😔 2 days since the break up, he break up with me and blocked me in social media
everything you said is true except im not the type to search for other girls or active on social media. i really thought my gf/ex of 9 years was THE ONE, and that she knows me really well, my bad and my good, but in the end, my good wasnt good enough for her and my bad pushed her to the limit. ive tried for 4 months to try win her back and she led me on with her breadcrumb while texting other guys. the night i told her to be loyal to me while we "work things out" was the last night we spoke. today she said she was no longer love or attracted to me and wont come back to our house because she is planning to marry and try with this new guy she is dating. i really feel like my whole world is crushed and that i have no good future in front of me. my whole entire family is mad at her while all this time they loved her dearly. idk what to make of this reality tho i know what to do to move on, it seems hard right now. people say only time can heal, but in the back of my mind im still hoping which is dangerous i know. but i cant help it. fml
Bro I am really sorry to hear this....as I have said before to a few people. As a man you must remember that women are very different from us. They are loyal but they are loyal because of different things....we are men we are loyal by principle. Women are loyal because of how they feel....as soon as they do not feel that way about you anymore they will have no trouble tossing you aside and hopping on another mans di** its just the truth....try not to hope my friend. I can tell you from experience that even if she does come back and things appear to be good that it most of the time is not and the relationship will not be what it use to be....it has changed forever. As a man it is best for you to level up as a man, find purpose that originates from you and is soley for you and work towards goals and personal health and wealth. As a man it is dangerous to be stagnant....especially in an emotional state.
Same for me Bro 💔
I broke up with mine bc he bashes me to girls then lies that he isn't talking to them. I was OVER THIS a year of my life drained. He didn't post anything for 3 days. Hasn't posted anything public since may 3rd... Then last night he posts an explicit song (he drinks and listens to music if he's depressed) he made public a post that said "these tinder girls got me like"..... With the song . 4 days after our break-up the posts began... Next. He'll add woman out of his league. He does it bc he's angry and he says "I try to make you jealous so u come back to me" little does he know I was done. His attempts will go ignored. I've had enough. Your video nailed it! ❤️. I added it to my favorites
I am glad I nailed it!!! And good for you!!! Do your thing!!!
Do all men go through this? I think if a guy did not have plans with you he will move on fast. Like mine did...I want him regret what he lost 😢
If you guys had a serious relationship then I would say yes most of the time. If you guys were just casually dating and just seeing where things may have gone then def. way less often
They broke our hearts
They broke our soul
But guys they don't get to break who you are
Dont give them the satisfaction to Destroy how great you are
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My gf left me a few months ago after an 11-year relationship, I'm totally devastated. I'm trying to keep as busy as I can. I go to the gym 6 days a week I've tried to reconnect with old friends that I lost contact with over the years but it's hard. I feel women do a much better job at keeping in touch with other people and have a much bigger support group than men do in general. I spend 90% of my time alone. Alone with my thoughts and lone with my heart ache. I've been trying so hard to put one foot in front of the other but it's so hard and I'm really starting to tire. Just want this pain to go away. So, I have to keep on plugging away at it until it does.
My friend....first of all I am sorry for my really late reply. I want to say that I am really sorry to be reading this. I have dealt with heartbreak before and it truly sucks....going to the gym is def. a good thing to do so please keep going. And you are right....men dont have the same support that women do. Part of it is that women do maintain relationships much better than men. I have a friend that finally got a gf after being single for 3 years and I dont hear or speak with him like I use to. In addition to going to the gym I think you should try to revive old good habits or hobbies you use to do and maybe even try to take up some new ones. I have a whole video where I break some of these things down. Ill put the link below, but if you really need somone to talk to or just to be in touch with during this hard time feel free to reach out to me ok?? I use instagram @Raystangsation_92 and I use snapchat @Jitsu302 or if you want follow me on tik tok as well @raystang (just leave me a comment letting me know its you if you decide to message me on tik tok)
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Man, you've chosen such a matching background Music, where i found it difficult to.. understand between the lines.
Keep up the good work!
-- a fellow traveller 💔⛵✌
Thanks so much! U as well!
Here's the thing, it was a failure, and every time I feel like I've moved on, something will happen, maybe a dream, or a memory, and it'll hurt all over again. I was engaged, and the woman I loved didn't just leave me, she ghosted me. I didn't have a fight, or even a text breakup. She just started growing distant, and I fought like crazy to keep her, and then one day, she was just gone. The lack of closure is what is killing me.
I am really sorry to hear this bro....I will say this though: it wasn't failure....not your failure at least. You shouldn't have to fight to make someone stay....both parties should see what is there and should be fully willing to stay and work on things....you like most men in my opinion have accepted or have treated a relationship/marriage as a 1 way street and you are the one who needs to do all the walking. ITS WRONG DUDE!! It's a 2 way street and it's just as much her job to work on things and to want to stay. If she didn't do it and/or didn't want to thats on her not you. You shouldnt want to be with someone that doesnt want to be with you.
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I was wondering how he felt. now I think i know, thank you.
My pleasure....I hope it brings u some peace.
Thank you for this, my ex literally broke up with me 10 hours ago and she still needs to get some stuff. I really don’t know what i wanna do right now. On the one hand just like you said I wanna go out there and go do something, on the other I just wanna stay in bed for the rest of the day.
I am really sorry to hear this....in time you will heal and everything that happened will come to your mind. What u did wrong but also what u did right.
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It’s been 5 months after I returned to my home country after 6 years abroad, my high school sweetheart that I was planning to marry, we tried to rekindle things , but for the last three months we just kept arguing, on every topic... yesterday, she said she doesn’t wanna move forward with me... here I am searching for videos on RUclips on how to deal with the situation.
I am very sorry to hear this....the ways I have dealt with things such as this is by focusing on myself meaning: doing the things I love both work and hobby wise, spending time with friends and family, and searching within myself internally as to what went wrong and what I did wrong as well as my spouse. I know how it feels....I have been through it. Reach out to me if u need me on IG @Raystangsation_92
Going through a breakup after 14 years of being together every day. It's unbelievably painful. I'm so scared of facing life without her. I had so many plans. We had so many memories ahead of us. But I ruined everything.
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Brief Background: My GF broke up with me about 2-3 weeks ago (8 Months relationship), I do still love her, so much, BUT she thinks we cant be together at the end of the day due to different background, religion, culture etc. That’s one reason out of many other reasons, she mentioned.
I am still contemplating what should I do, I am in the mode of 30 days no contact, as a manifestation of me respecting her decision. My Question are:
1. Should I deliver my feeling to her at this point, that I still want to be together?
2. Do we as guy, should chase her again or just let her continue with her decision?
3. I dont think I could stand on seeing her socmed, BUT i dont feel like a polite wayto unfollow her either, whats your suggestion on this?
OOOffffffff that is a tough one bro....tbh I think just doing you and not reaching out is the best. Girls often dont respond to men that pursue them....they often want the one who isnt. I speak from experience. Sit back and do you and there is a chance she will come around
In my case, I fell apart and never fully recovered. Almost 20 years and a few attenps later that hurt more every time: I can't do it anymore.
I am so sorry to hear this....if there is any way I can help please let me know. You can reach me on IG @Raystangsation_92
I did break up with my bf due to certain reasons.. still I feel soooooo hurt to see him in pain😭... please make a video on how do boys over come from brkup naturally
Will do....i'm sorry to hear about all of that. And I know what it's like to be in pain because you are seeing the other suffer....I will add the video topic to my list
@@therealtalkvlogs thank you
If it's more than 6 months.....Thn he will suffer till his death...He will never move on
Thank you for this video, my ex ended our relationship 11 weeks ago. He was with someone with in 3 weeks 😢. We have a son together that he doesn’t even contact for. He doesn’t seem to care at all, about the break up or our son. I’m absolutely heartbroken.
My girlfriend broke up with me 2 days ago. At night it’s the hardest because I’m alone with my runaway thoughts.
Bro I know how you feel...the best thing to do is to work on yourself as cliche as that sounds....
My girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me 2 days ago..over a variety of things like feeling the relationship die down and me cancelling on her a lot, or future compatibility because she doesn't want kids. It was the hardest day of my life and I really regret a lot. I could have done a lot better to show her my appreciation. I feel like a lot could have been avoided. Porn also affected my sex drive. I love her a lot but I'm not going to wallow in these emotions. Regardless if I feel like I was overall the issue I will work on myself and try to do better and be better
Bro....I love this mentality. Awesome. I know how you feel....I have some regrets about how I handled things in my relationships but u live and learn and do as u just said.
@@therealtalkvlogs thanks man I appreciate it, I'm hitting the gym 6 days a week started a new good job. Taking up some reading. I'm banned from match Inc dating apps so I'll have to start cold approaching again if I want to get ladies hahah. But that' shouldn't be the purpose of my self improvement
@@JF-xm6tu Bro congragulations! I am loving this! And haha dating apps are so ehhh....this is going to sound really out there when I say this but "Jill" has become my best friend. Takes just a bit of time and I dont feel the need to message/talk to any girls and I can go right back to focusing on whats important which is FAMILY and SUCCESS. But yes you are right, self improvement is all about u! I love it!!
I’m broken. I broke up with my boyfriend after 4 years 😭 in June.. i love him so much but we had to work on things and he didn’t seem to want to. He is now in a new relationship, I think it’s a rebound and it’s literally KILLING me!! 😭😭😭😭 I want him! I want him to fight for us and me!! This chick is 20 years younger than him!! Get the F away from my man!! 😢
I am sorry to hear this....I have seen situations like this before. I want to say though that it is good that you did what u did though. You may love someone but if the relationship has issues and the other party isn't willing to put in the work to help fix it then u need to let them be on their way. I made that same decision a while ago and yeah it did hurt for a while but it was ultimately the best choice and I have never regretted it. The rebound is what u said....a rebound. It's ok to feel the way u feel though.
nah. women dont just recover from breakups quickly for no reason. it's because we feel the pain much more deeply which makes us heal quicker. men dont let themselves grieve which is why they tend to feel the pain for much longer.
Currently going through a breakup. This one genuinely was my fault as i couldn't control myself when i drank. ive made lots of stupid decisions whilst under the influence of alcohol and this inevitably caused her to fall out of love for me. She would constantly say to me that i need to control my drinking and get my life on track, but i never listened. I just wanted fun in the here and now and didnt consider the consequences until it was too late.
Jake....I am sorry for my late reply. I have been dealing with my own personal demons regarding love and so on and so forth. It is good you realize your faults and I hope you are working to remedy the issues....what is important now is to get clean and find yourself....and you will....when you do you will attract all of those great things you wish....who knows she may even come back....i'll keep you in my prayers
I broke up with my bf yesterday. Not same but similar. Women forgive what men did wrong. We give men chances and warnings. Men don't want to face the difficult time and get annoyed. We see it through in their eyes and body languages and we feel not understood, not respected and feel guilty for asking things that men don't want to do. But those thing women ask is to improve the relationship. Relationship is two human's work. It's like women carry 100 lbs on our back which we probably still can carry but very heavy. We try to climb up and up until we exhaust ourselves and realize it is time to drop it. The relief we feel at that moment makes us realize this is what we needed it. Our heart needed it and now we can breath freely on our term. The breakup process start early for women. Maybe if men are more focus on how their action makes gfs feel instead of focusing on defending themselves when they fail again, things can much better.
@@SFJL125everything you said is in perspective of my ex, she left and said she couldnt handle my depression and lack of attention to her anymore. after fighting for us to stay alive for 9 years she finally gave up. im not in depression anymore and been working hard for our future and paying our debts for 4 months now but she said its too too late. i would give everything for her to comeback tho
My ex broke up with me because I let myself go in our 4 year relationship. I didn’t focus on working out and looking good. And I wasn’t goal oriented. He wanted to be with someone who’s already beautiful and have their life together. I’m not upset with him for thinking that and for leaving me to be with someone like that. Now that I’m single I’m finally starting to feel happy about myself but I still have a lot of work to do on myself.
She told me she lost feelings for me and wanted to tell me now versus a year later which is respectable but it didn’t hurt any less. It was sudden. She said I was a perfect bf and she still loved me just platonically. It hurts because I really trusted her and I don’t feel comfortable venting to anyone about how much it hurts. I didn’t do anything wrong yet still got broken up with! He’s 100% right. I feel like a failure
I am really sorry to hear this bro....
I wonder if the man would still feel like this when they're at fault. I literally caught my ex having s*x with a woman on New Year's Day. Apparently, he'd been cheating for 7 months with her. I had to end the relationship and he appears to look so nonchalant about it. This is day 9 for me and I've been going through it, man. Why would a man cheat for that long and not just call it quits? Why wait until getting caught to admit anything? I tried to end the relationship several times because he claimed to be working around the clock and never had time... for me. The whole time he was taking her out and she even started sleeping over at his place when I wasn't there. Just why?
Gi, so....don't mistake how a man may feel after a breakup with whether he was at fault therefore it was his own doing so he won't feel a certain way about it. I am not saying that he may not "act" non-chalant about it and he may choose not to show a lot of his emotions....he may not even be totally aware of them. I could be wrong, but this is often the case in these types of situations. One other thing I will say to your point about men is....there are some men not all but some (a pretty fair number) that could cheat and do things with other girls and not necessarily feel any less for the girl they are with. Men biologically are wired to seek whatever may give them the greatest chance of producing offspring. There is nothing biologically that keeps them tied to one woman....I say that from a biological standpoint. Please do not misconstrue what I just said with the notion that "men cannot be faithful" I was merely referring to what is written in a mans DNA from a primal perspective. Humans are much more evolved now in almost every way. Same thing with women, women are naturally wired to seek a strong man with resources....its a survival instinct. That's why by far you see more marriages being ended by women than men. Something usually happens like the guy loses his job or the women finds a more resourceful man with strength and stature so she leaves him.....its her nature to do so. But anyway.....he may not have admitted anything or ended things because he still had feelings and he derived a lot from your relationship with him....you may be surprised as to how and when he comes around one day just to open up about what happened between the 2 of you.
@@therealtalkvlogs You're absolutely right. The deep follow-up conversation took place today and I have more clarity on the situation. To us good women, because we love so hard, it's hard to understand why a man would do such a thing. Basically what I got is that it was not my fault, there's nothing wrong that I did, he thought about ending the affair but got caught before he could, and claims to still want me in his life. The nonchalant behavior he said was because my teenager whom he considers his daughter was present when I found them and that "hurt" him so he acted like that. He has expressed deep regret for his actions. He's on his journey and I'm on mine at this time. Thank you for your reply. This is day 14 and I'm still healing.
@@Gi_Lovely Well I am glad you got good clarity on this. And yes you're absolutely right, it had everything to do with him and not you. It's often the case....I know what you mean. And of course! If I can ever be of help please don't hesitate to reach out. Keep healing! You will get there.
my girlfriend of 3 years and i just broke up today. the first one and a half years were seriously the best time of my life and we were the perfect couple. personalitywise she fits me better than any of my male friends, that's why i didn't only lose my partner, but also my best friend. she got diagnosed with anxiety and depression pretty early on in the relationship and i decided to stay with her. however, it got worse over time and the fact that she is studying right now for the german equivalent of the lawyer bar exam (one year down, one still to go) made things worse and worse. our joke/fun/conversation dynamic stayed top notch, but we started to visit and get physical with each other less and less because of her busy shedule and her depression until the physical part of our relationship pretty much came to a stop. she started noticing that she can't give me what i need anymore which took a toll on my mental health as well and as a result she started feeling super stressed and guilty about it, unable to change it. now with us both feeling like garbage and after giving it enough time to see if it gets better or not, we decided to finally end it. an open relationship is also out of question for both of us.
the thing that makes this breakup so unbelievably hurtful is that on one hand we still love each other to death and we see each other as the person we would 100% marry if the circumstances were a little bit different. on the other hand, it feels like i have let down the one person that i'm supposed to protect and i'm genuinely more worried about her than myself. but like it is right now, the relationship cannot continue without breaking us both mentally. the video kind of scares me because you said it will hit even more a week after the initial shock. i kinda new what was going to happen, so i'm technically three days in instead of one, but i already cried about 5 times today and i'm completely heartbroken, so i have no idea how to handle the incoming pain... i have no motivation to do anything because i just see no sense in it.
Bro, I appreciate this comment and you opening up about what happened and how you feel. I want to tell you my friend that I personally have been through almost exactly what you just described. And I can tell you that you are almost exactly like I was. You have a savior complex which is noble but at the same time is very toxic. You are trying to save her from her problems namely her depression and anxiety. My friend she is toxic, she needs to be saved and you are toxic because you feel the need to save her. While it is good that you feel a sense of grief and it is noble that you feel bad for her you must realize you cannot save her. She is the only one that can save her. You feel love and romance for her and that as I said will remain for a while. Maybe one day when you and her fix yourselves you will get back together when it is truly better for the both of you. But for now any contact or anything of that sort I would avoid....she needs to fix herself and you being there will deter her from that. Same for you....it gets worse before it gets better.
@@therealtalkvlogs thank you so much for your answer man, there is a lot i have to agree with you on. Looking back at my comment, it scares me. I really was at one of my lowest points there, if not the lowest. the good thing is that apparently i was already in the middle of the "it completely hits you"-stage, it didn't even take half a day to kick in. The first two weeks were horrible, but it seems like i approached the break up much more in the way a girl would do, at least as you described in the video. i didn't make any effort to distract myself, instead i took long walks and allowed myself to feel every bit of the pain and to grief. occasionally i met up with friends in order to keep me from thinking too much about it and spiraling which is not healthy either.
you're clearly right about the savior complex and it's a tough pill to swallow. i always thought i would help her by having a partner that is both understanding but also uncomplicated. though, the only thing i did was not prioritizing my own wellbeing for the sake of hers and it didn't even help any of us in the long run. on the contrary, by giving her too much leeway and by not calling out her BS when it needed be, i actually ended up enabling her bad behaviour instead of making it better as there were little to no bad repercussions for her. Like one time she cancelled last minute when we were supposed to go to a very important event of my family because she felt exhausted but i tried to be understanding instead of setting boundaries and telling her that this is not a valid excuse.
that's one of the things we noticed when we met up after a month to talk things through. we accepted that we both made mistakes with our actions and that the breakup was the correct decision in the current state. but we are on good terms and it both fills us both with motivation work on ourselves. we have no contact at the moment, except once a month we meet up for lunch and talk about what we accomplished recently and also reflect about what we learned from our mistakes. these talks feel actually really healthy for me because i know that we still want the best for each other and i also know that she is proud of me in the same way i'm proud of her whenever she accomplishes or improves in someting. We are both doing better at the moment but continuing the relationship is absolutely out of question for both of us. We still think that it's possible to get back together some time in the future, however we stictly agreed that both of us must have killed our personal demons first for that to ever happen.
Sooooo true !!!! After 10 years she had no feelings..i had 2 shift work ye that was one of the many faults, so for everyone who read this dont mess with your relationship because of fucking work its not worth it the stress. Time is so important
True....there is a middle ground but love and relationships take prescedent over a day job
Im in a 5 year relationship. We have a 10 month old son. Im in a foreign country, no family, no support and no possibility to move out since everything is crazy expensive (even if I search everyday for months.) I am so tired of this, I dont want to be with him anymore (after he insulting me everyday, putting me low, even hitting me). He does a lot for me, but I feel he has done more damage in a lot of ocassions. Im exhausted. I hope I can go soon.
I am so sorry to hear this....lmk if I can help @Raystangsation_92
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Well done ! Keep up the good work !
Thank you will do!
Thanks so much for this video bro!!
My pleasure bro! And thank you!
Wait I'm so sad, I thought there would be a solution by the end oh man... Time heals all wounds i guess
Everyone has their own solutions....it is too bad there is not a set solution for something like this that would work for all....
What about when they break up with you while still loving you and wanting to be with you but "needing to do this"...
That is often very proprietary to the person....generally its because they have very strong convictions about why they are doing it. And/or they think it would be best, I did this recently....it was painful but it was for the best.
my boyfriend just broke up with me a minute after getting back together with me. he’s been so on and off and everytime he would wanna break up he would come back and tell me he really didn’t want to and that he wanted a future with me. but yesterday he broke up with me in a heartbeat and his reasoning was he didn’t want this anymore. but it’s off coming from him, i feel like he won’t admit he still cares about me and he’s just going through something (which he is) and took it out on the relationship. so im watching this because i don’t understand what guys really feel especially because my boyfriend/now ex REALLY really loved me and would always come back and tell me he never actually wants to break up, even the day before the actual break up he promised me it would never happen.
so does he still care?? i need answers
He cares to a certain degree....Idk how long you guys have been together or what the circumstances of your relationship were. But pay attention to what he is doing. He is on and off hot and cold....he doesnt know what he wants or he has something else going on and he hasnt figured out what he is doing. But what you do know for sure is that whether its intentional or unintentional he is jerking you around.
My husband gets livid. He bashes me to everyone, gets on dating sites, and tells other woman awful horrible things about me. But he never told anyone WHY I walked away. It's always me. He just makes it a thousand times worse, because I see him act this way and it pushes me away even further. His break-up mentality is like a 13 yr old angry kid throwing a tantrum.
I married him too quickly. He was very pushy about getting married. He lied about his health and finances, and I found out after marriage. Not that he told me, but the truth is always discovered. Said he was afraid I would leave him, had I known the truth. He didn't even trust me with that, nor I had the right to decide to be with him or not. I would have stayed, but the deception was too big to handle. I left him, and, 3 months later he calls me, wanting to work it out. A week after that, I just couldn't handle the same thing over again. His lying to me meant he felt a failure even before he met me. And here I am broken hearted.
I am sorry to hear this....but I ultimately think you made the right choice.
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This is very true, your right the guy I have now using me as a rebound..after from his broke up I thought his fine but still not..
I'm sorry to hear that....
I just feel numb. I play 2k, smoke weed, socialize with other women, drink a lil bit and sleep for long hours. Nothing works. I start my new job tomorrow and I’m still not happy. All I can do is suffer in silence and harbor resentment.
Bro....I am really sorry to hear this. I don't mean to sound all preachy here but those are not things that you should be doing. Your new job is a good start and is very important. I think you should check out this video I have below here on youtube. And when you can check out my other content that I have on rumble. The links are below. It should all be helpful. Its hard bro....its traumatic I know....but you really can use that trauma to level up and become a better and more high value man....its not easy its hard I know. But you really can do it.
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When he broke up with me he said he originally thought he was going to marry me, but in the last few months he realized he didn’t want kids and that he’d make a terrible husband. He said he didn’t want to talk to me for the next two months. I love him and I’m heartbroken.
I am so sorry to be reading this....I am not sure as to why he suddenly took this turn....maybe if I knew more I could help....I know what you are going through....I had a gf whom I love dearly and she told me all the time how she wanted kids and a family with me but she was always on the cusp on breaking up with me....and she finally did....you will be ok I promise you....
@@therealtalkvlogs thank you so much for the kind words :) it helps!
My bf broke up with me because i want to talk 1 calling in 2-3 , i want that atleast he share his prblm with me and listen , whatever he asked me i have done everything i lose all my self respect to be with that one person, i fight with my parent and when i was fight with my parent he from his end started to give me silent treatment when i call after 6 days he abuse me with his word literally when my mom stop talking with me, then also i stay clam because i love him like made he mentally torture me alot , he used to be online but never text me anything not even good morning from last one month, then i asked that do u like someone else, he told me no then after 5 days he suddenly block me from call by saying that i don't need a tension like u, because of that person i lose my friend, i lose my self respect my dignity every thing
Wow I am sorry to hear this....just so I have some context how long were u 2 together??
Thank you for the closure ❤️🙏🏾
I am happy this could be of help.
@@therealtalkvlogs He did exactly that, while I was going through grievance...thought he never cared that felt soo hurt but thank you again 🙏🏾
@@michaelynlyncarthamloya9077 Of course, I am glad I could be of help.
It is not nice to date a guy who is using you to forget his ex though... is really painful when you go all out there and he's clearly on another place
I agree totally
Dear I will introduce you to the same Relationship Restorer from POLAND who restored my broken relationship, he can bring your ex back just fine he's a very good man
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What about girls doing this to guys????
Going to one year now and am feeling so bad feeling so broken
Its been a year??
and for more context, everytime he suggests breaking up, right after he’ll say “no i don’t actually want to break up i’m sorry” but when i ask him how he’d feel if we did split apart, he’d say “i’d be fine with it”