I’m currently going thru a really hard breakup , sometimes I feel like ending my life , sometimes I feel better . It’s almost like I’m stuck in a cycle . I’m leaving this comment here today , so when I’m moved on and I come back here , I know I made movements and moved on . Also everytime i listen to you , I feel lot lighter , I hope it gets better soon . Love you 🩷
You got it girl 🔥 you can do this!! Keep it up. I have been here in Lumma's comment videos like 7 months ago, now im healed. Listen to this girl (Lumma) she knows what she's talking about and its 100% true. Good luck. Sending you love! 💕
Be strong one day at a time, my ex left me on Feb 8, I know how hard it is going through it right now I am still healing but it's going to get better, remember God is with us be strong please you got this! Better days are coming🙏❤
Girl !! You have a attitude and egoistic problem. The way you say, " he wouldn't ever be able to met your needs. " It's disrespectful. You are simply degrading him without knowing the potential. I get that for now, he is not meeting up your needs but who knows that future ? Do you know the future ?
I was going to get married this September. I thought he was the one. He lied, I forgave and then he left me. I was completely blindsided. My heart is so broken that I can’t even explain how much I am suffering. It’s been 2 months. Some days are easy some days are miserable. I hope I will get better. Anyone here who is going through a heartbreak, you’re not alone.
I'm so sorry to hear that. He sounds like an absolute idiot and you deserve so much better. I'm sure so many friends and loved ones have already said that to you, but once your emotions have subsided, you can work on your healing, and you will become so much more equipped on how to be more independent and how to deal with heartbreak. When you're healed, you will look back and realise that your life is so much better without him and how much worse it would've been if it turned out how you originally wanted it to be. Please watch her previous video on how to deal with heartbreak as she explains all the stages. She has helped me deal with my heartbreak. You've got this ❤
My boyfriend also blindsided me and GHOSTED ME he blocked me. I haven’t heard from him in 2 weeks. I loved him so much and we were going so well but something switched in him and he just got mad over something small I did while I was single before we were even a couple and he just left. But I’m coming to terms with the fact that this is his issue and clearly he’s not a good person.
Hey love, I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm also going through a healing phase right now. But I just tell myself that it's for the best. It's better to mourn a garden than a forest. Imagine how much more heartbreaking it would have been if you actually got married and created a life together with someone like him. It's a blessing in disguise even though I know it may not seem like that right now. Lots of love ❤
I’m so sorry 😢. It took me four years to heal from my first heartbreak. I jeopardized myself a lot though. My advice allow yourself to feel feel feel even if it sucks. Go to therapy. Journal. Do the work. Don’t contact them and don’t look up what they do on social media. Remove them from your world. Grieve and mourn and you will get over it. God and time are really key for healing.
The first breakup is hard, but let me tell you... it doesn't get any easier, no matter how many times you've been through it before. Each breakup you experience is the worst breakup of your life (if you are truly truly in love). But you survive every one of them.
I think because each time we do fall in love again, we knew more what we were looking for that time and maybe fell deeper than the previous time... And so the heartbreak is proportionately harder.
It does get easier when you learn and understand proper ways to manage grief . Breakups tend to hurt most if they are a worsening of how you see yourself. It’s typical that the hardest thing to deal with is the fantasy of what you wanted, for example family marriage etc. No one can hurt you unless you allow them. She even says that the vision of her future was the hardest lose and that she wasn’t truly in love. That’s evidence towards my point, that is typically the vision and not the person that you morn and when you allow the other person to make you think badly of yourself it will hurt even more. love for yourself is everything
I think the more you love them the easier it is to let go. Idk how to explain it but you learn that you’re enough and worth a beautiful relationship and letting go gets easier because you learn that no matter what you’re going to be ok. Be sad now but things will be amazing later. The one for you will do everything to keep you in their life. If they’re not meant for you let them go. And trust me I’ve cried so much in my past relationships but this break up has been easier because it was healthy and we’re letting go in a healthy way. We’re both sad but this is why I did all the work to heal and I witnessed a beautiful relationship loved it lived it and it didn’t work out but it’s ok my next one will and it’ll be forever ❤
It’s only been 2 months for me. I still find myself crying and thinking about him all day. Knowing he’s now dating the girl he cheated on me throughout our entire relationship is crushing. She would harass me from fake pages and numbers, tried to say she was pregnant by my ex the same time I was pregnant by him, try to sabotage my vacations, made fun for being abused by my ex and would always brag about how he cheats on me with her. Also found out he told her I was adopted and was only using me for “business”. Now that I am finally out the picture I feel like she won. He told me he never liked her. I can’t help but to feel so humiliated because i brought myself so low and I really was the girlfriend trying to compete with a side chick. Now they’re officially together and following each other on IG . When does the pain end 😢
To you who is going through a recent breakup. Dont ever take your life over a break up. No one is worth a suicide. While your dead your BF or GF will be with someone else while you're gone. You can make it throughthiswith God's help if you pray to God for a healing and to see you through this. Keep your mind busy with church, reading, prayer, movies, family and friends plus work. Best wishes to you. 🙏
9 months since the devastating break up and I couldn’t be more thankful to the universe for it. I’ve watched Lumma’s videos throughout the grieving process. Her videos made me feel not alone and reading the comments definitely helped me to understand what I was feeling during that time. Some advice I can give to help you to let go or move on: - Cry. Cry as much as you can. Don’t keep your emotions unreleased because your physical health will be at risk. - If you feel suicidal, cannot eat or work, seek help from a therapist/ psychiatrist. - Talk to your closest friends and family. Their support will go a long way. It may sound crazy but some of my friends helped me find humor(in a good way haha) despite the depression and that made me feel lighter. - Try out a new activity or go on a solo travel. This is one of my breakthrough. I went to Japan on my own and visited a lot of temples, museums, landscapes and tried out a lot of new food! I felt like myself again after this. - Pray. The best advice I can give. Trust in God’s plan for you. I am still single but I’m enjoying rediscovering who I am and appreciating everything I have right now.
i talked to a best friend and turns out he is not the real friend, so i think this breakup helps me realize which one is real friend and which one is not. maybe i should thanking the universe for that
Thank you for the crying advice. I have been holding back. Friends and praying really do help. Been immersed with God, not even in a Jesus way. I broke up with him 5 days ago.
Hi Lumma, I just want to thank you for putting these breakup videos out. They have helped me tremendously. Three days ago, I had to officially end it with a wonderful woman after dating for five months. I'm a single dad(44) with two awesome kids. The woman I started dating is 34 and ultimately is looking for "her person" someone that is open to starting a family. I'm not in that stage of life anymore nor do I want a child now that I'm 44 years old and on top of that, with a new person. We fell hard for eachother but the child issue was a lingering thing that finally came out. It's so difficult when you and your partner had a loving relationship but the breakup is mutual due to major life decisions. It's a whole new kind of heartbreak. It was also the first real relationship I've been in post-divorce which was in May of '23. For anyone in a similar situation as me, I feel your pain. Just keep moving forward.
I came out of an unhealthy relationship 4 days ago. He was nice in the beginning (could hold accountability for his bad behaviour and apologise) but he couldn’t handle me telling him that I am sad or hurt in some way. He was defensive, dismissive and always telling me that I keep “complaining”. But I was asking for the bare minimum: calls, planning dates, some talk about the near future. His lack of comprehension and my lack of ability to self regulate broke us. I can’t help but blame myself .. as if I brought this onto myself one way or another. I have had a lot of toxic relationships before this and I guess I never managed to completely heal due to my fear of staying alone.
As someone who just broke up with an ex who did the same thing, I'd like to offer some empathy and insight. My ex did the same thing, started hot and then eventually went cold. We tried having conversations about it and she was very understanding but change never happened. She was VERY aware of her avoiding tendencies, but ultimately if she felt pressured in any sort of way, it makes her feel like she's expected to and then she doesn't want to and that's what she ended up deciding, that she felt like she wasn't ready for a relationship. I tried really hard to not take it personally, because it's not - it has everything to do with their self worth (obviously it doesn't excuse the behavior). Yes, there were things I could have done better, but that doesn't mean I did anything wrong, nor was her lack of effort a reflection of my worth. If it's any consolation, know that you did the best you could, you tried to communicate, and you took the step best needed for you, as I did with my ex which was incredibly difficult.
@@KairysaWoW thank you so much for the validating words. It has been over 2 weeks now and I am getting worse going in to spirals and thinking what pushed him into his avoidance tendencies.. maybe I was too much? Asking for calls, consistency, planned dates etc. He said things like I was ruining his mood when I was being vulnerable with him. I couldn’t take it. I broke up in the end but it was him who had checked out of the relationship long ago (no efforts other than texts and sharing reels on instagram and we were semi long distance [2.5hrs apart]). I needed a deeper connection.. especially after one year of dating I hoped he would understand me better and consider my feelings… as I understood his underlying fears.but it never happened.
@@KairysaWoW how do I stop the guilt of pushing him too far that he became distant? Pushing him too far with my needs and requirements in a relationship? When I didn’t point those things out.. everything was fine.. he was close. When I spoke up.. early on he acknowledged, apologised and maybe tried.. later he dismissed and shut down. I feel like its me who caused this change and I find it hard to forgive myself for ruining a nice relationship
@@arunimasikder3949 you learn to forgive yourself for that and you take your space to find out what it is you need and work on yourself (new hobbies, time spent with friends, working on your health) that way you can recognize if someone isn't meeting your needs and it's easier to walk away. furthermore, someone else will appreciate the way that you love and want to return it to you in all the ways that you want and will love to. if he shut down, he likely felt like he wasn't enough, but if HE never spoke up about that that's not on you to figure out. still, it's a two way street and it's lessons learned and it's OKAY to feel the guilt that you do and the way that you do, let yourself feel that, don't try to fight it. sit with it and acknowledge it and move forward. and if you need help, seek friends, or family, or therapy to help you find clarity
I broke up with him tonight, 6 hours after you posted this. He wasnt treating me right, and it was the hardest thing to do, to just keep going and pretending that everything was okay, letting him walk all over me. Its hard to even imagine that ill be over him someday, but maybe thatll happen. And lumma, the day i feel that liberated in my life, the day i dont want him anymore, will be the day i come back to this video and definitely express my love and gratitude once again. Youll see it. I hope i dont break no contact in this lifetime.
I break the no contact yesterday, trying to justify myself because I need “to clarify things” I was lying to myself but help me realize he doesn’t need me but I’m still attach to him. I don’t want to be attached to some guy I know I’m better than that but in this moment I feel hopeless and is so painful, I feel anxious all the time since I wrote him, I don’t want this version of me ever again. I will move on no matter what and I know is not gonna be easy but I promise myself I will over this guy no matter what bc even tho I love him I love myself more
After my last (and worst) heartbreak, I felt so much pressure to have those ”after break up glow-ups“, because I thought I was not enough for him. Then I realized, I don‘t need to force myself having a glow-up, I‘m already my best self and he simply couldn’t handle that. Just live your life and if you want something to change, then do it for yourself and never for others.
Heartbreak is blessing.. Yes read again.. This is time when you will heal even things you didnt know you had.. And God built you up Mold you when your heart is breaking from it comes light
It took me literally 1.5 years to recover so if it’s taking you a long time don’t be hard on yourself - I promise it does get better and you DO move on.
im going through a bad break up. Ive been crying for 2 weeks straight, i barely eat, dont shower, dont leave the house. I live alone so im just a living corpse where i dont feel happy or enjoying life anymore. I dont want to be with anyone besides him, i still love him so much, and sadly, i feel like i love him more that i love my self. I miss him everyday and the thought of not being with him just crushes me everyday. There is nothing i would like more than to be with him again, to turn back time, to everything to go back to normal, but i know thats impossible. I suffer from depression and anxiety and this has been a huge trigger. I am leaving this commet here on the hope that i can come back in the future and see how much ive grown cuz today i only feel pain in my soul and life is not the same with him around, he took the colors and the hope.
Baby im so sorry ur going thru this. 5 months into my break up and i can confidently assure you it always gets better. not all at once and not how you thought it would but it does. a part of me still wishes i could go back too but i know now that if i can survive it you definitely can. the best advice to give you is, dont try to move on, move forward. with all the pain and sadness just keep moving forward. there are still days where all i wanna do is cry but i promise those days will lessen. it doesn’t feel like it now but i promise. if you can survive this you can survive anything. what’s meant for you will never pass you by. believe that. im on this painful journey with you sending you all the love.
Hey it's okay. I also live alone (I have a dog) but alone as a human being.. I understand your thoughts and feelings and everything but I am at the point that it is really not okay to sell someone as he sold me, our life, future and everything we had... it is tough I do not eat as well I do not go anywhere the only happiness I have is when I talk to my dog who he btw also left... this poor little dog is still waiting for him (5 days since we broke our engagements) and I feel really sorry as I am not able to explain that she (Sila the dog) does not need to wait someone who was not able to appreciate and embrace and work on everything we wanted and had...
i feel just exactly like you, like i only enjoyed when i was spending time with him and i feel like i will never like a person and their company more than this, but I also am sure we will be fine, with time and patience and we will enjoy life again, rooting for you
He actually contacted me and I did not wanted to see him.. 2 days later (yesterday), he tried again and I answered the same that day..that night (last night) after breaking and a lot of thinking I contacted him and asketski whether he wanted to go out and he said No. :D and here we are... in the very beginning
I went through this exact same thing and i can confirm that this stage is necessary when grieving someone. But soon you will reach the phase of anger where you remember that it wasn’t all roses and rainbows and that there’s a r reason why you’re not together anymore. Then you will start to reach a level of acceptance and move on as long as you do the work lol. You will realize how precious your life is and that you have your whole life ahead of you. This person is only important to you because you made this person important. You have the power to do that and can definitely place them at a value that is much lower. I hope you’re doing better.
Great video! Sadly, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The person I thought was the love of my life decided to leave, and I’m still deeply in love with him. I can’t stop thinking about him, and despite all my efforts to win him back, nothing has worked. I feel so frustrated and can’t imagine being with anyone else. No matter what I do, he’s always on my mind, and I miss him terribly.
Letting go of someone you love is incredibly hard. I went through a similar experience when my twelve-year relationship ended. I couldn't bear to lose him, so I did everything I could to rekindle our relationship. Eventually, I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, who guided us back together.
Matthew 11:28-30 "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.
He broke up with me two years ago, suddenly, after 3 years of living together. I completely shut down, didn't process my emotions, moved away, got a new job and had terrible "romantic" relationships ever since. I don't really like where I am at in my life. I guess I just don't see my potential anymore and I don't trust love. Please, if you're going through a breakup, feel. Feel your emotions, go through it, talk about it in the first months, take it out of your mind and your body, express it with arts, creativity or sport. Be kind with yourself and don't try to "be strong" for the sake of what other people might think or say.
I’m so sorry to both of you. You will get there I certainly never thought I would and I did! I still think I’ll never have what I had before but I’ve finally made peace with it. Just wish I hadn’t put on so much weight since! No one is worth that! 😂 look after yourselves xx
This is very common. We allow the other person to decide our worth so when they treat us badly or leave us we think less of yourself. It has everything to do with ourselves and nothing to do with our ex . It’s typical that we aren’t even missing our ex but the” vision “ or fantasy of what could’ve been.
youre so right that it is only up from a breakup, i also love what you said about "the same universe that granted me this love, i have to trust that the same universe will grant me that love again" or something like that, that was beautiful.
It’s a year on May 26th that me and my ex broke up. Lumma, my heart cannot express with enough words the gratitude I have for your breakup documentary. You saved me. Like genuinely saved me. My heart will always be so thankful that you were so vulnerable for millions of us going through what you went through. It’s crazy that I sobbed for weeks watching your video (not even kidding like 30+ times a day) and now I look back at it thanking the universe that I’m out of that. You’re a light in this world. I love you gal🤍
Mine was May 19th. As the anniversary of that sad event approaches, I can’t help but to share the same sentiment as you. I was down bad. Almost a year later I feel stronger and more confident than ever. I also know that I had to experience that to be the woman I am today. I never thought I’d say that a year ago. Lumma’s video gave me so much hope for brighter days ahead. She truly is like an angel. She put out there what majority of us felt at one point. I documented mine through writing and it’s been the best choice I’ve ever made because I get to read back on those days where I felt like zombie. I always dreamt of the day I would wake up and just feel human again. And it finally happened. I love loving and being in love and now I know I am ready to embrace that feeling again. Thank you Lumma 🫶🏽
@@punayamunjal7475 omg. That’s actually crazy because the last time I had any contact with mine was also in February. It sucks because we broke up in May of last year but were in contact with eachother atleast once every month since Feb.
It’s been almost 7 months since my heartbreak. He left me after 4 years, and admitted to me that he was comparing me to other girls. He hasn’t reached out, but I honestly don’t want him to. I’m so much happier now
@@MumtazIbrahim-ux7pi He blocked me a month ago and then decided to unblock me, but never reached out. I also hope he doesn’t, and let me have my peace and quiet
I remember watching it then! It was exactly the same timeline. Guys when I tell you it broke me, I literally wanted to die. Now, 2 years later it still hurts BUT in a different way. I’m still healing, but I no longer think everyday about this person, I can live without him and I’m happier. He wanted to come back and he’s trying to make things better but NO. And I’m soooo proud of myself for being able to stay away from him. And you will be able too! Just give yourself time and work on yourself, on your better future self :)
It hurts so bad! I want to go through asap! He was my first! And I wish I watched these videos 19 days ago when he broke up with me. I was so pathetic to beg him to stay even without love. I believed that he still loved me but I was wrong! Now I knew how exactly he thought of me! I was immature to ask for his love and care! I desperately need his attention and love. It hurts so bad! And how I felt shame of myself to disrespect myself to stayed with him, tried to pleased him after he broke up with me. Thank you for the videos! I feel hope in my better self in the near future!
I couldn’t watch any videos except yours when I was going through my breakup because everything kept reminding me of him. Only that video could ease my feelings at that point somehow. I hope you never take down the video. I’m sure it’s still helping many people going through a breakup. I never imagined how painful just heartbreak could be before experiencing it myself. I was devastated and couldn’t handle the feelings because they were too overwhelming. But your video helped me a lot and I really felt like I wasn’t alone, and it’s okay to be sad, to feel devastated, and to grieve the fact that you no longer have the person. I think that’s not just a documented vlog, but also a piece of art. It’s so beautiful, and I really appreciate your work. Thank you so much, and I love you a lot, Luma
Hello I just found your video after break up. It was almost 2 years ago. He hurt me so deeply and I did not imagine he would break up and leave me. But now I am doing so well. He was the trigger that stopped me what I wanted and who I wanted to be. Thank him! After that break up, I have challenged myself by going abroad and studying abroad. Now I am traveling around the world 🌎. I knew there are many people who are better than him. Happy to leave him. 🎉
I know this is going to sound crazy but I am in my 40’s and I lost my husband suddenly. Your video helped me with my grief. I know it’s not exactly the same but just the raw of emotion is so so so important for people to see. Just talking about grief in a clinical way is just not as helpful as someone in the grips of it. I love all of your videos and you are wise beyond your years! Love you Lumma❤️
I really don't understand the concept of "loving someone but not being in love with them". Why start a relationship with that person then? Love is a choice, the feeling of "being in love" is limerance. Love goes beyond limerance. I might be obsessed with the person initially, but that feeling of being "in love" goes away after 5-6 fights/arguments, maybe time passes, but I don't just decide that I'm no longer "in love" with them. It really takes a certain amount of awareness to realize this. Love is "I know there's other people out there, but I want you", not "I know there's someone out there that is better than you/for me, so I'm going to find my person". I agree with most parts of what you said in this video, it's great that you're spreading awareness that a break up isn't the end of the world, but I disagree with whatever the heck "loving someone but not being in love with them" means, it sounds nonsensical.
Nah, you can be in love with someone and then that goes away and you still have love for them, but you aren’t truly IN love anymore. It’s okay if you haven’t experienced that as a concept, but it’s a very real thing.
"Love is not enough" i needed this. This is why i had to break up with my ex. It hurts me so bad but it wasn't enough. Love isn't enough. We just weren't compatible .
I broke up with my ex just 2 month ago and I feel so in peace and in grace 🙏🏽I started sailing boat something that he didn’t want, and I’m leaving a great summer 🙏🏽, plus the gentleman in my sailing boat club are great people🤓🌟I’m so happy I chose myself 🙏🏽. If you are during a breakup. Go to the gym, go hiking, even if you don’t want, dress your best outfit, do your hair, your makeup, your nails, organize your closet, clean your place, light candles, play nice music. If that person doesn’t choose you, accept it and let it go.
It’s been a little more than a year since a REALLY hard breakup and I just wanted to say that even though sometimes, it still hurts, the heartbreak truly changed me for the best. And Lumma helped me so much with her videos when I didn’t think that it was possible to keep on living. It does get better (even if you don’t think it will), you are strong, you got this ❤
Hey lumma! ❤i just wanna tell you. While I was going through a heartbreak, I came across your heartbreak documentary and I've been watching you ever since then. 😊the guy who abandoned me did came back. But I didn't wanted him anymore and felt better off WITHOUT HIM❤ Lot's of love to y'all. 🌷
When I was going thru it 2 years ago I played your vid on repeat. It helped me so much seeing how u are now bcuz everything u said now that Im more healed I see how true it is. ❤
Writing this with happy tears, Lumma I want to thank you for sharing this video. I watched your initial video years ago, but had never experienced such devastating heartbreak at the time. Coming to this one years later after my ex boyfriend broke up with me 7 months ago at one of the lowest points in my life. I was moving out on my own, and was looking forward to starting our journey together.. Even began to be more vulnerable with him because I finally felt comfortable. Then suddenly he sent me the longest text, breaking up with me one morning. It was on the first day of a new job I was excited about. It nearly floored me. I can't believe I'm saying this but it took me this long to finally start getting over him. I've been secretly hoping we'd work things out, and get back together all this time. It's hilarious now saying this. After watching this video, I grew the courage to delete every text, picture, and his name out of my phone. A small step, but truly monumental for me. Again, thank you for posting love 💗 I am immensely grateful this video helped shift my perspective today. I am finally ready to let go, and wish him the absolute best
I believe we had our breakup/ heartbreak around the same time and your videos really helped me get through it at the time. It really was the best thing for my life trajectory! ♥️ Anyone currently going through it, hang in there!
I was one of those girls seeking for any little light at the end of the tunnel. I remember looking through comments for hope that a girl was okay after some time and feeling like it just couldn’t be me from all the pain. But girls please please just trust me you are going to be more than okay. You will realize what you truly want and it’s not that guy who broke your heart. You will just naturally meet someone who will make you feel so amazing you will be so thankful it didn’t work out with the man that doesn’t even put effort into the relationship
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex husband left me, i still love him and most times I cant stop thinking about him, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of him, but i just cant, i love him so much, i don't know why i am bringing this here for, i cant stop thinking about him.
its always difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation my husband for 12 years left me, i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring him back
I’ve had two hard breakups in the last few years and your videos helped me go through every stage. Your videos are so comforting and encouraging. Now I’m in the happiest relationship. I couldn’t thank you enough 🫶 I love you, Lumma!
I just love how when you posted that breakup video I was going through it BAD and I felt exactly how you felt, just begging the universe to bring me relief. And now I watch this and it has also been 2 years and a couple of months since the breakup, I am also in another amazing relationship and just can’t wrap my head around the fact that I suffered so much over someone I KNEW that I wasn’t happy with. It’s so amazing how you put everything into words, and how you make me realize things I didn’t think about. Being scared of your own potential and of the unknown, I hadn’t seen it that way. I love this ❤️.
I feel like it's God's sign that you showed up on my page just a day after I was left by someone who was in my life for almost 2 years. That video documenting your heartbreak was something I had stumbled upon by chance 4 days ago and it had immediately made me feel like I was not alone in my struggle. And the fact that after 2 years, something made you upload this empowering video right around the same time just tells me that the universe must have bigger plans for me. Thank you Lumma. :')
i went through a really bad break up last year and i don’t think i would’ve moved past it if it wasn’t for your videos. i was at the lowest i had ever been in my life and you gave me reassurance that it was all going to be okay one day. you were right, i’ve moved on and im so grateful that relationship ended. thank you so much 💗 your videos really helped me when i needed it the most.
"You had to feel love and lose it so that you could find yourself". BOOM! This is 💯 true and is definitely goals! I've been feeling this but hearing someone else say it is next level. Turning pain into purpose is a vibe.
I’m so happy to see you thriving! I remember watching your video and going through it at the same time with you. It felt like I wasn’t alone and your talking kept me company. Now years later so much has changed! There is that light at the end of the tunnel.
This was so comforting. I'm still healing and a part of me is so angry at myself for feeling this way. It was a short relationship but I felt SO MUCH and it just makes no sense. Thank you for this video Lumma
Lumma , u have no idea how many times i watch your videos on repeat. You make me feel so much better after listening to your wise words. For a year its been an emotional roller coaster for me battling depression with regards to my recent ex. I feel like i will never have the courage to move on from this , im emotionally stuck even though i know this person keeps on hurting me over and over. I love her with all my might . But she shattered and destroyed my heart over and over again. You are a true godsent lumma . Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤ sending love to all
3 months post breakup this is a great video to randomly come across. This being my first relationship makes you feel like a failure. The highs and lows of a breakup are insane but it’s refreshing to know I’m not losing my mind and my feelings are relevant but also reassuring to know it gets better and I’ll find better. God is good, I just subscribed lol ❤❤
Going thru a breakup just 10 days ago. I leave him after i caught him flirt and supporting another girl on linkedin!! They support eachother and my ex keep mention her and support her, the thing that make me very upset is that my ex wasnt even give me compliment and support in something that i do wich is similar with the other girl do. Like i am an arist, i make sketches, drawing and her too. The difference is im not making it as a job, and she do it for living. Its really hurt everytime i remember it. I’ll give myself 3 months to mourning this 4 years relationship and move on. I’ll be back to se how is it going. Thanks Lumma your video literally helps me so much to strenghten me and keep me feel sane.
Hope you're doing well 💗 I split with my partner due to his sketchy friendship with another woman. He basically chose her over me. It's hard to let go & face that rejection
I feel for a lot of y’all going thru it like me. It’s been a little over a week for me after 4 years and 3 months together and years of living together. I’m getting better each day. Just hit the gym and stay there and always think ab the endless possibilities of where your life could go if you choose to love and trust yourself!! Think ab how much you could win at life on your own because all you have to worry about now is yourself 💪🏽
I am at my lowest now. The pain I couldn’t express out. I hope it’s get better. It’s day 3 of breakup. Been through lot of ups and downs lately. Yet missing being with him. Even knowing leave him is best decision. I just can’t take it. It’s hard to go through a day in life. Feeling empty, lonely, silent, angry, pain. My heart been broke so many times, I always picked up by self without his help… put it all tgt bec whatever happened my feelings for him doesn’t fade. This time it’s completely broken. It’s hard to live with him and it’s even more harder to be without him.
I do believe that in this moment there are thousands of people who are experiencing breakups and I am one of them. Watching your video since the first of my breakup helps me to start working on myself. I started getting back to the gym and spoil myself. Keep the days productive and enjoy life. Surely, I am still sad and miss him as I have sooo much memories together and I couldn’t understand why it happened. Now that I know sometimes we do not need to find the answer for it as having no answer is already an answer. You have inspired me so much. I am really happy for you that you have found yourself and the right person. Love you ❤
Thank you Lumma! I'm not going through a breakup but this reminds me to date someone who matches my standards and is aligned with my goals. This is such comforting advice!
i just found your video. im going through the worst breakup right now, sometimes i feel like i don't want anymore because i can't live without him, but im trying to stay strong, move on and heal. im writing here so i can come back when i have hopefully moved on. Thanks for this!💕
I remember going through utube looking for how to heal over a breakup over 1.5 yrs..I never thought I would be where Iam today .Your video helped me so much ,Glad I am now in a healthy relationship and thankful that relationship didn't work out!
This is déjà vu! I found your video 2 years ago when I went through the worst breakup. It really helped me get through the days! 2 years later I can say with certainty that I’m really glad that happened and my life has got so much better! I’m fully at peace. It’s a real full circle moment finding this new video 😌
I cried along with you in 2021 when you posted that video. I laugh about it now cuz it feels so long ago. You will grow from it, you will make new friends, meet new people. Take care guysx
So grateful for this video. So grateful for You. I went through it all at the same time You did and it helped me so much at the time. Now I am sitting here, watching this new upload and smiling with You as I have healed and moved on as well. At the time I never thought I'd ever feel good again, not in a million years. Now look at me, rediscovering myself an having the best time I've had in last 5 years. Incredible feeling. Thank You, Lumma! :)
Currently going through a really hard breakup, sometimes I feel a bit better, sometimes I feel miserable. I am leaving this comment here so I can leave a trace and come back again once I've moved on and heal completely. I hope it gets better soon. ❤
your journey has helped me so much. Thank you so much. Nothing has made the possible of healing so real than seeing you get better and now I will be okay one day too.
lumma my case is exactly the same as urs ....... it was one sided break up and i didn't wanted to also i loved him so much and saw my future with him ........And he broke up with me 2 weeks ago ..... I'm sad and heart broken .... ur videos helped me a lot , And once I'm completely healed and move on from him ..... I WILL COME BACK AND COMMENT ON THIS VIDEO AND THANK YOU AGAIN ❤❤❤
Lumma and I have had our devastating break ups not too far apart from one another. It has been very difficult for me to move on. However, watching Lumma recover from and becoming much stronger after it inspires me a lot. Whenever I feel weak, I watch her videos and it gives me strenght. So thank you for that.
I was there heartbroken at the same time 2years ago and your video helped me through that not that it was a source of healing because it took time and your ownself to heal but it showed that we are all getting hurt, it was dark and devastating but we aren’t alone we will definitely get better, and now look at me i just happily got married with my best husband ❤ this might sounds cliche as it sounds but you will get better in “time” and the only best thing comes at the best of yourself 😊
I watched your 3 month heartbreak documentary almost 2 years ago. When i rewatched it today i had to cry. I remembered how helpless i felt and watching you struggeling and speaking about the exact pain i felt. life is so crazy and i am so great i got to experience all of that eventhough i couldnt bare it back then. Life is so good. Loving myself is so good. I stopped smoking, i changed my carriere path and i love it now, i do sports and have a lot of great friends and quality time with my sister. Life is so good.
i broke up with him yesterday, i gave up on him bc we're on different religions. he was my first boyfriend, my first everything, so yeah it hurts like crazy right now, i didnt know a heartbreak would feel this heavily painful. i feel so alone but your videos keep me company, thanks so much..
It's been a little over a month now since my breakup. It was a constant cycle of feelings misunderstood, unappreciated, unseen, and terrible anxiety/panic attacks. I believed him. I trusted in his words that "we will figure it out" the breakup was hard. he didn't have it in him to look me in the eyes and tell me he didn't want me. He broke my heart, over and over and I stayed. Hopeful. I know I did wrong too. I tried to break up so many times when the pain got so bad, in the end, his leaving was a blessing. I felt so much anger towards him. I was going to go on a trip with his friends, I spent so much money on the ticket, on the airbnb, on everything to not go in the end. I really wanted to, but he told me it'd be hard on him. I hope I can let go of the anger. Everyday is so painful. So much anger and it's this terrible cycle I find myself stuck in. He pushed therapy onto me for so long, I'm finally in therapy now. I felt so crazy, I felt like I lost my mind. And yet my heart still clings on to him I absolutely hate it. I hope to one day not think about him anymore, but I know the importance of letting yourself feel your feelings, it just feels like a dark void. but I'm not using anything or anyone to try to make this process easier. I'm just hurting, hoping one day, I'll be healed and moved on from this situation. By then I hope he doesn't live rent free in my mind. thank you for this video 🩷
He broke up with me 1.5 months ago 3 days after my birthday. He was my first relationship and we dated for 8 months. While it doesn't compare to year-long relationships ending, he was my first everything, so it greatly impacted me. I'm still so young, I'm only 18, and perhaps I'll experience greater heartbreak in the future, yet the existence of your channel and your breakup videos give me hope that no matter what happens, I will get over it. Although it's been only a month, I can positively say I'm doing so much better than before. I don't want him back, just hope for closure. But I know him breaking up with me was closure enough. I sometimes remember him and feel melonchely, but I've learned that being kind to yourself and letting yourself cry is the best medicine. Two steps forward, one step backward. Thank you Lumma for being there for us with these videos.
I really need this rn, thank you Luma. I relate to your situation a lot as mine was quite similar. I’m still going through the tough stages of no contact. I just deleted his number. I’m finding it difficult to stay positive and feel happy at all but seeing how well you’ve done definitely gives me some hope for myself❤️
Listen to them! They tell you exactly what they can or cannot do. Mine left and was saying things like "I love you but I can't make you happy" and made that choice for me. I gave him another chance and he left again. He was right, he can't make me happy and won't make me happy. Be "The one that got away" choose yourself and please please please don't center men in your life!! Choose you!
mine literally said that he can not afford to my standards even though during the relationship, he said nothing about it. hurts like hell but i believe God has better plans for me
My last breakup was the best thing that ever happened to me. I was so happy and healthy once I got through it. And I found the best guy when I wasn’t even looking
I listened to your video about your breakup, and it really helped me a lot. I remember downloading it and listening to it every time I needed motivation or when I was driving. I went through a breakup too, and it was very, very hard. But I took my time to cry and be angry. Then, I started to focus on myself more. I got back to work, dated new people just for fun, started new activities, and listened to a lot of videos about relationships and breakups. It was a difficult time. After about 50 days, he came back, asking for a second chance in our relationship. I accepted and decided to really do better this time with him. My advice to you is this: Don't take breakups personally or let your ego get in the way. Don't be too relaxed in your relationship-be aware of your responsibilities and your partner's needs. If you can't fulfill them, find someone else who meets your standards. Breakups can be the best experience if you use them the right way. Wishing you all love and peace, beautiful people.
thank you for this vid lumma! I watched that breakup vid of yours last year when i was going through it and somehow i felt like i was comforted knowing that i’m not crazy for feeling all that heartbreak. more than a year after that breakup, i learned and realized a lot of things and i now live a better life on my own. i’m still trying to navigate my way in this life but so far so good! hope you read this because you inspire me a lot and i’m amazed that we have the same thoughts with what happened on that last relationship. universe really does a lot of things that are so unexpected but always trust the process and know that you’ll do just fine :)
The videos and the comments such vulnerability and relatability! I am so happy I came across this video. Feel everything now so you can heal properly for yourself. Choose you, love you, you are enough.
Fresh off a breakup, so I won’t go too much into detail, but my ex cheated on me. Letting go has been one of the hardest things I’ve faced, but everything said at 14:40 hit home. I was debating whether to keep it going with her, but I realized that as a man, I haven’t been putting my energy into the goals I want to accomplish. Being with someone can be comfortable, but this video gave me the perspective and hope I needed to know that it’ll be okay, and not to hold grudges toward my ex. Thanks for sharing your experience, saludos from Mexico!
There when you give yourself advice… there you “broke”… do not make the mistake to mislead yourself… you still felt something, lost, and maybe yourself, do not break away from that…heal it…#just thinking
I am broken right now, I was discarded by a dismissive avoidant and it crushed me, I’m really trying to fight the pain and feel it everyday but I don’t cry enough I am a guy who feels like the world doesn’t want to see my tears so I don’t but need to learn that it’s the only way I can feel my emotions, I want to thank you your video have lifted the pain for me today.
I saw this video at the right time.. I experienced a breakup during covid as well and felt terrible because all my friends around me were settling down and I felt behind but now here I am travelling alone, being open to moving cities, meeting men who set the standard, graduating school and starting a business..and just when I thought I lost everything at that moment I’m actually the one winning.
I am going through very bad emotional breakdown, i feel like despite loving my man with all my heart he suddenly says that he wants to live alone, that he is enjoying and getting peace while living alone. I am emotionally traumatised . I have no idea what to do. My sleep is gone, every single second i am bursting in tears. I wish to end my life and sometimes i want to become a isolated person from this world and become saint because he is the only man i ever loved. I dont want to love anyone else. I am so breakdown that i dont know what to do. If situation someday gets better, i will let it be known though no one cares but your words are comforting me today when i am crying in the corner and having pain in my heart.
I wish I had found you sooner. I am on week 11 after leaving a emotionally abusive relationship. I was trauma bonded for 4 yrs until April. My past childhood trauma created my future and who I attracted into my life. So I think it is a lot different to a normal breakup if you have been traumatised. However the conclusion is still the same, after the heartbreak you will heal and eventually be able to function again. You reminded me with your follow up video that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and that being in a relationship doesn't determine who you are as a person, and that not being in a relationship makes you a failure. If I don't end up in a relationship ever again I will still be OK.
Your videos are such a blessing, it was my first relationship. I loved him with all honesty and was doing everything that i could to save the relationship. My goal was to love him and make it work. His, i don't know, he said multiple times he wanted to break up. Your videos give me pkwer and courage.
I’m so sorry you’re in pain. I was also in a relationship that long and it’s so hard to create a new life without that person to make plans with. I’m three and a half years single now and the first two years were the hardest. I’d actually like to meet someone new this year but I’m under no illusions it will be hard as my ex was my dream partner! Still maybe it’s time for a new dream
listening to you makes me feel so proud of you trust me you are a queen your fans want watch you conquer the world and we wish you insane amount of success and happiness in whatever field you step in ❤
I have seen all your break up videos and surprisingly the ones that gave more hope is the one with your new relationship and this one now after 2 and a half years. My marriage ended and honestly im someone that when i open my eyes, i cannot go back, it is hard and painful but i look forward to my progress, to fall back again and to find myself again. Thanks again and i hope you feel proud that you have given so many people so much comfort and good advice.
Thank you very very much for this video, you really help a lot of people by posting this in including me. Thank you also for mentioning that the process is also painful for the ones that decide to break up with their ex partners. I was the one that broke up with my ex girlfriend almost two months ago. And it breaks me down still, it is extremely painful and to take that decision was also very painful. It was heartbreaking for me to slowly relaize how this person that I loved with all my being was not what I trully wanted for the future and that relationship was hurting me so much. I constantly question myself what she's up to, who is she talking to now, if she is ok, if maybe I took the wrong decision, If I will ever love again, if the kind of love that I want truly exists, if I deserve love... Hope it gets better soon, or eventually. But I decide to learn from this experience, and I will heal, and become better. I will never let someone change me that much, I will never let someone hurt me that much. And I will never hurt someone in such a way, I will have the emotional responsibility I wish I would've received. And I will stay true to myself as well. I cry, I am constantly anxious, I can't sleep well, my head feels like a jail many times. But I wont give up, I'm stronger than this. To anyone that is experiencing the same thing, I hope you get better soon. In my own experience and what has gotten me through this last few weeks is to feel, and that is the best advice I can give you. Feel everything, learn from every feeling, do not keep it, if you can talk to somebody, do it, if you can express it somewhere like this comment section I encourage you to do it, maybe though sports or art or writing your thoughts down, do it, but don't let yourself down. Another thing I can tell you is that contact 0 power is true, it can be very very hard but in order to slowly detach from the person you need contact 0. Including social media, even if you dont talk to them anymore. Dont spend your time scrolling and looking in social media what are they posting, what are they doing , who are they following now. Stop, it will only slow down your healing process, trust me. Instead, use this time to discover yourself, to gain yourself back, to feel and to do things that you like. We will get trough this.
i just went through a break up back in oct 2023. we were together for 5 yrs. i actually found your breakup video and watched it embaressingly a lot. i could literally feel how you felt. and i just wanted to leave a comment to thank you for being vulnerable and open. it really did help me!
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I’m currently going thru a really hard breakup , sometimes I feel like ending my life , sometimes I feel better . It’s almost like I’m stuck in a cycle . I’m leaving this comment here today , so when I’m moved on and I come back here , I know I made movements and moved on . Also everytime i listen to you , I feel lot lighter , I hope it gets better soon . Love you 🩷
You got it girl 🔥 you can do this!! Keep it up. I have been here in Lumma's comment videos like 7 months ago, now im healed. Listen to this girl (Lumma) she knows what she's talking about and its 100% true. Good luck. Sending you love! 💕
@@yennimarya reading you , the support , brought me tears. Thankyou so much girlie ❤️❤️ I can’t wait for this misery to come to an end !!
I promise it gets better even though at first it honestly does not feel that way. You will get through it!
@@XwinXMusaXthis makes me feel so much better . Thank you for taking your time out to make me feel better . ❤️🩹
Be strong one day at a time, my ex left me on Feb 8, I know how hard it is going through it right now I am still healing but it's going to get better, remember God is with us be strong please you got this! Better days are coming🙏❤
He wasn't able to meet my needs and probably wouldn't ever be able to. In retrospect, that break-up was a blessing.
You wouldn't be able to meet his needs either with a demanding attitude like yours 😂
Girl !! You have a attitude and egoistic problem. The way you say, " he wouldn't ever be able to met your needs. "
It's disrespectful. You are simply degrading him without knowing the potential. I get that for now, he is not meeting up your needs but who knows that future ? Do you know the future ?
Hi Paulina, can you explain why he didn’t meet your needs? What needs did you have?
@@poetictriangle1037nothing is wrong with wanted to have needs met in a relationship.
@@dr1flush but its wrong to only care about one's own needs , care about your partner's too.
I was going to get married this September. I thought he was the one. He lied, I forgave and then he left me. I was completely blindsided. My heart is so broken that I can’t even explain how much I am suffering. It’s been 2 months. Some days are easy some days are miserable. I hope I will get better. Anyone here who is going through a heartbreak, you’re not alone.
I'm so sorry to hear that. He sounds like an absolute idiot and you deserve so much better. I'm sure so many friends and loved ones have already said that to you, but once your emotions have subsided, you can work on your healing, and you will become so much more equipped on how to be more independent and how to deal with heartbreak. When you're healed, you will look back and realise that your life is so much better without him and how much worse it would've been if it turned out how you originally wanted it to be. Please watch her previous video on how to deal with heartbreak as she explains all the stages. She has helped me deal with my heartbreak. You've got this ❤
Thanks for sharing. I know your pain. It's scary
My boyfriend also blindsided me and GHOSTED ME he blocked me. I haven’t heard from him in 2 weeks. I loved him so much and we were going so well but something switched in him and he just got mad over something small I did while I was single before we were even a couple and he just left. But I’m coming to terms with the fact that this is his issue and clearly he’s not a good person.
Hey love, I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm also going through a healing phase right now. But I just tell myself that it's for the best. It's better to mourn a garden than a forest. Imagine how much more heartbreaking it would have been if you actually got married and created a life together with someone like him. It's a blessing in disguise even though I know it may not seem like that right now. Lots of love ❤
I’m so sorry 😢. It took me four years to heal from my first heartbreak. I jeopardized myself a lot though. My advice allow yourself to feel feel feel even if it sucks. Go to therapy. Journal. Do the work. Don’t contact them and don’t look up what they do on social media. Remove them from your world. Grieve and mourn and you will get over it. God and time are really key for healing.
The first breakup is hard, but let me tell you... it doesn't get any easier, no matter how many times you've been through it before. Each breakup you experience is the worst breakup of your life (if you are truly truly in love). But you survive every one of them.
I think because each time we do fall in love again, we knew more what we were looking for that time and maybe fell deeper than the previous time... And so the heartbreak is proportionately harder.
It does get easier when you learn and understand proper ways to manage grief . Breakups tend to hurt most if they are a worsening of how you see yourself. It’s typical that the hardest thing to deal with is the fantasy of what you wanted, for example family marriage etc. No one can hurt you unless you allow them. She even says that the vision of her future was the hardest lose and that she wasn’t truly in love. That’s evidence towards my point, that is typically the vision and not the person that you morn and when you allow the other person to make you think badly of yourself it will hurt even more. love for yourself is everything
I wish i could like this comment a thousand times over...VERY TRUE! You love more..you hurt more...its a different kind of pain!
I think the more you love them the easier it is to let go. Idk how to explain it but you learn that you’re enough and worth a beautiful relationship and letting go gets easier because you learn that no matter what you’re going to be ok. Be sad now but things will be amazing later. The one for you will do everything to keep you in their life. If they’re not meant for you let them go. And trust me I’ve cried so much in my past relationships but this break up has been easier because it was healthy and we’re letting go in a healthy way. We’re both sad but this is why I did all the work to heal and I witnessed a beautiful relationship loved it lived it and it didn’t work out but it’s ok my next one will and it’ll be forever ❤
@@jennyuinevibes I love your response , I’m currently going through my first break up myself and this whole response thread helped alot
I’m 10 months post break up and all of this is so true. It gets better and he wasn’t your person ♥️
3 months here ✊
It’s only been 2 months for me. I still find myself crying and thinking about him all day. Knowing he’s now dating the girl he cheated on me throughout our entire relationship is crushing. She would harass me from fake pages and numbers, tried to say she was pregnant by my ex the same time I was pregnant by him, try to sabotage my vacations, made fun for being abused by my ex and would always brag about how he cheats on me with her. Also found out he told her I was adopted and was only using me for “business”. Now that I am finally out the picture I feel like she won. He told me he never liked her. I can’t help but to feel so humiliated because i brought myself so low and I really was the girlfriend trying to compete with a side chick. Now they’re officially together and following each other on IG . When does the pain end 😢
Did they ever come back ?
@@ilhamaneflous6467don’t know and don’t care 🤣 him and his whole family are blocked
Honestly, if you focus on yourself, you won't care at all @@ilhamaneflous6467
To you who is going through a recent breakup. Dont ever take your life over a break up. No one is worth a suicide. While your dead your BF or GF will be with someone else while you're gone. You can make it throughthiswith God's help if you pray to God for a healing and to see you through this. Keep your mind busy with church, reading, prayer, movies, family and friends plus work. Best wishes to you. 🙏
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Thank you for this message
9 months since the devastating break up and I couldn’t be more thankful to the universe for it. I’ve watched Lumma’s videos throughout the grieving process. Her videos made me feel not alone and reading the comments definitely helped me to understand what I was feeling during that time. Some advice I can give to help you to let go or move on:
- Cry. Cry as much as you can. Don’t keep your emotions unreleased because your physical health will be at risk.
- If you feel suicidal, cannot eat or work, seek help from a therapist/ psychiatrist.
- Talk to your closest friends and family. Their support will go a long way. It may sound crazy but some of my friends helped me find humor(in a good way haha) despite the depression and that made me feel lighter.
- Try out a new activity or go on a solo travel. This is one of my breakthrough. I went to Japan on my own and visited a lot of temples, museums, landscapes and tried out a lot of new food! I felt like myself again after this.
- Pray. The best advice I can give. Trust in God’s plan for you.
I am still single but I’m enjoying rediscovering who I am and appreciating everything I have right now.
This is wholesome
i talked to a best friend and turns out he is not the real friend, so i think this breakup helps me realize which one is real friend and which one is not. maybe i should thanking the universe for that
Thank you Ana this really helped🙏
Thank you for the crying advice. I have been holding back. Friends and praying really do help. Been immersed with God, not even in a Jesus way. I broke up with him 5 days ago.
@@JayThe0it's been 18 days since we broke up. I still feel the pain as in it happened yesterday. I know one day I will feel better
Hi Lumma,
I just want to thank you for putting these breakup videos out. They have helped me tremendously. Three days ago, I had to officially end it with a wonderful woman after dating for five months. I'm a single dad(44) with two awesome kids. The woman I started dating is 34 and ultimately is looking for "her person" someone that is open to starting a family. I'm not in that stage of life anymore nor do I want a child now that I'm 44 years old and on top of that, with a new person. We fell hard for eachother but the child issue was a lingering thing that finally came out.
It's so difficult when you and your partner had a loving relationship but the breakup is mutual due to major life decisions. It's a whole new kind of heartbreak. It was also the first real relationship I've been in post-divorce which was in May of '23. For anyone in a similar situation as me, I feel your pain. Just keep moving forward.
I came out of an unhealthy relationship 4 days ago. He was nice in the beginning (could hold accountability for his bad behaviour and apologise) but he couldn’t handle me telling him that I am sad or hurt in some way. He was defensive, dismissive and always telling me that I keep “complaining”. But I was asking for the bare minimum: calls, planning dates, some talk about the near future. His lack of comprehension and my lack of ability to self regulate broke us. I can’t help but blame myself .. as if I brought this onto myself one way or another. I have had a lot of toxic relationships before this and I guess I never managed to completely heal due to my fear of staying alone.
you're not alone that sounds exactly like my ex
As someone who just broke up with an ex who did the same thing, I'd like to offer some empathy and insight. My ex did the same thing, started hot and then eventually went cold. We tried having conversations about it and she was very understanding but change never happened. She was VERY aware of her avoiding tendencies, but ultimately if she felt pressured in any sort of way, it makes her feel like she's expected to and then she doesn't want to and that's what she ended up deciding, that she felt like she wasn't ready for a relationship. I tried really hard to not take it personally, because it's not - it has everything to do with their self worth (obviously it doesn't excuse the behavior). Yes, there were things I could have done better, but that doesn't mean I did anything wrong, nor was her lack of effort a reflection of my worth. If it's any consolation, know that you did the best you could, you tried to communicate, and you took the step best needed for you, as I did with my ex which was incredibly difficult.
@@KairysaWoW thank you so much for the validating words. It has been over 2 weeks now and I am getting worse going in to spirals and thinking what pushed him into his avoidance tendencies.. maybe I was too much? Asking for calls, consistency, planned dates etc.
He said things like I was ruining his mood when I was being vulnerable with him. I couldn’t take it.
I broke up in the end but it was him who had checked out of the relationship long ago (no efforts other than texts and sharing reels on instagram and we were semi long distance [2.5hrs apart]).
I needed a deeper connection.. especially after one year of dating I hoped he would understand me better and consider my feelings… as I understood his underlying fears.but it never happened.
@@KairysaWoW how do I stop the guilt of pushing him too far that he became distant?
Pushing him too far with my needs and requirements in a relationship?
When I didn’t point those things out.. everything was fine.. he was close.
When I spoke up.. early on he acknowledged, apologised and maybe tried.. later he dismissed and shut down.
I feel like its me who caused this change and I find it hard to forgive myself for ruining a nice relationship
@@arunimasikder3949 you learn to forgive yourself for that and you take your space to find out what it is you need and work on yourself (new hobbies, time spent with friends, working on your health) that way you can recognize if someone isn't meeting your needs and it's easier to walk away.
furthermore, someone else will appreciate the way that you love and want to return it to you in all the ways that you want and will love to.
if he shut down, he likely felt like he wasn't enough, but if HE never spoke up about that that's not on you to figure out. still, it's a two way street and it's lessons learned and it's OKAY to feel the guilt that you do and the way that you do, let yourself feel that, don't try to fight it. sit with it and acknowledge it and move forward. and if you need help, seek friends, or family, or therapy to help you find clarity
I broke up with him tonight, 6 hours after you posted this. He wasnt treating me right, and it was the hardest thing to do, to just keep going and pretending that everything was okay, letting him walk all over me. Its hard to even imagine that ill be over him someday, but maybe thatll happen. And lumma, the day i feel that liberated in my life, the day i dont want him anymore, will be the day i come back to this video and definitely express my love and gratitude once again. Youll see it. I hope i dont break no contact in this lifetime.
You've got this!
More power to you girl. We are all here for you. U got this !!
My girlfriend left me
You can do it honey
I break the no contact yesterday, trying to justify myself because I need “to clarify things” I was lying to myself but help me realize he doesn’t need me but I’m still attach to him. I don’t want to be attached to some guy I know I’m better than that but in this moment I feel hopeless and is so painful, I feel anxious all the time since I wrote him, I don’t want this version of me ever again. I will move on no matter what and I know is not gonna be easy but I promise myself I will over this guy no matter what bc even tho I love him I love myself more
After my last (and worst) heartbreak, I felt so much pressure to have those ”after break up glow-ups“, because I thought I was not enough for him. Then I realized, I don‘t need to force myself having a glow-up, I‘m already my best self and he simply couldn’t handle that.
Just live your life and if you want something to change, then do it for yourself and never for others.
Heavy on this!! I remind myself everyday that I'm not missing out on her, she's missing out on me.
Heartbreak is blessing.. Yes read again.. This is time when you will heal even things you didnt know you had.. And God built you up Mold you when your heart is breaking from it comes light
It took me literally 1.5 years to recover so if it’s taking you a long time don’t be hard on yourself - I promise it does get better and you DO move on.
thank you for leaving this comment, i needed this.
im going through a bad break up. Ive been crying for 2 weeks straight, i barely eat, dont shower, dont leave the house. I live alone so im just a living corpse where i dont feel happy or enjoying life anymore. I dont want to be with anyone besides him, i still love him so much, and sadly, i feel like i love him more that i love my self. I miss him everyday and the thought of not being with him just crushes me everyday. There is nothing i would like more than to be with him again, to turn back time, to everything to go back to normal, but i know thats impossible. I suffer from depression and anxiety and this has been a huge trigger. I am leaving this commet here on the hope that i can come back in the future and see how much ive grown cuz today i only feel pain in my soul and life is not the same with him around, he took the colors and the hope.
Baby im so sorry ur going thru this. 5 months into my break up and i can confidently assure you it always gets better. not all at once and not how you thought it would but it does. a part of me still wishes i could go back too but i know now that if i can survive it you definitely can. the best advice to give you is, dont try to move on, move forward. with all the pain and sadness just keep moving forward.
there are still days where all i wanna do is cry but i promise those days will lessen. it doesn’t feel like it now but i promise. if you can survive this you can survive anything.
what’s meant for you will never pass you by. believe that. im on this painful journey with you
sending you all the love.
Hey it's okay. I also live alone (I have a dog) but alone as a human being.. I understand your thoughts and feelings and everything but I am at the point that it is really not okay to sell someone as he sold me, our life, future and everything we had... it is tough I do not eat as well I do not go anywhere the only happiness I have is when I talk to my dog who he btw also left... this poor little dog is still waiting for him (5 days since we broke our engagements) and I feel really sorry as I am not able to explain that she (Sila the dog) does not need to wait someone who was not able to appreciate and embrace and work on everything we wanted and had...
i feel just exactly like you, like i only enjoyed when i was spending time with him and i feel like i will never like a person and their company more than this,
but I also am sure we will be fine, with time and patience and we will enjoy life again, rooting for you
He actually contacted me and I did not wanted to see him.. 2 days later (yesterday), he tried again and I answered the same that day..that night (last night) after breaking and a lot of thinking I contacted him and asketski whether he wanted to go out and he said No. :D and here we are... in the very beginning
I went through this exact same thing and i can confirm that this stage is necessary when grieving someone. But soon you will reach the phase of anger where you remember that it wasn’t all roses and rainbows and that there’s a r reason why you’re not together anymore. Then you will start to reach a level of acceptance and move on as long as you do the work lol. You will realize how precious your life is and that you have your whole life ahead of you. This person is only important to you because you made this person important. You have the power to do that and can definitely place them at a value that is much lower. I hope you’re doing better.
Great video! Sadly, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The person I thought was the love of my life decided to leave, and I’m still deeply in love with him. I can’t stop thinking about him, and despite all my efforts to win him back, nothing has worked. I feel so frustrated and can’t imagine being with anyone else. No matter what I do, he’s always on my mind, and I miss him terribly.
Letting go of someone you love is incredibly hard. I went through a similar experience when my twelve-year relationship ended. I couldn't bear to lose him, so I did everything I could to rekindle our relationship. Eventually, I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, who guided us back together.
Wow, that’s incredible! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him?
His name is Fatherabulu, and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in helping people reconnect with their ex.
Thank you for sharing this valuable info! I just looked him up, and he seems impressive.
@@JeanElmore-z7ihow are you doing
Matthew 11:28-30 "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.
I love this one, it‘s in Life Is Strange aswell
just no
Amen 🙏🏽🔥
Amen.
He broke up with me two years ago, suddenly, after 3 years of living together. I completely shut down, didn't process my emotions, moved away, got a new job and had terrible "romantic" relationships ever since. I don't really like where I am at in my life. I guess I just don't see my potential anymore and I don't trust love.
Please, if you're going through a breakup, feel. Feel your emotions, go through it, talk about it in the first months, take it out of your mind and your body, express it with arts, creativity or sport. Be kind with yourself and don't try to "be strong" for the sake of what other people might think or say.
Stay strong sweetie, you got this, put your faith in God , and turn to him and all will be alright . ❤
The exact Same Thing happened to me a week ago. I lost my best friend, my home, my beautiful vegetable Garden and basically all my Future Plans.
I’m so sorry to both of you. You will get there I certainly never thought I would and I did! I still think I’ll never have what I had before but I’ve finally made peace with it. Just wish I hadn’t put on so much weight since! No one is worth that! 😂 look after yourselves xx
Thank you for this comment it was much needed 💘 we will all get through this thing called life 🩷
This is very common. We allow the other person to decide our worth so when they treat us badly or leave us we think less of yourself. It has everything to do with ourselves and nothing to do with our ex . It’s typical that we aren’t even missing our ex but the” vision “ or fantasy of what could’ve been.
youre so right that it is only up from a breakup, i also love what you said about "the same universe that granted me this love, i have to trust that the same universe will grant me that love again" or something like that, that was beautiful.
It’s a year on May 26th that me and my ex broke up. Lumma, my heart cannot express with enough words the gratitude I have for your breakup documentary. You saved me. Like genuinely saved me. My heart will always be so thankful that you were so vulnerable for millions of us going through what you went through. It’s crazy that I sobbed for weeks watching your video (not even kidding like 30+ times a day) and now I look back at it thanking the universe that I’m out of that. You’re a light in this world. I love you gal🤍
Mine was May 19th. As the anniversary of that sad event approaches, I can’t help but to share the same sentiment as you. I was down bad. Almost a year later I feel stronger and more confident than ever. I also know that I had to experience that to be the woman I am today. I never thought I’d say that a year ago. Lumma’s video gave me so much hope for brighter days ahead. She truly is like an angel. She put out there what majority of us felt at one point. I documented mine through writing and it’s been the best choice I’ve ever made because I get to read back on those days where I felt like zombie. I always dreamt of the day I would wake up and just feel human again. And it finally happened. I love loving and being in love and now I know I am ready to embrace that feeling again. Thank you Lumma 🫶🏽
Mines coming up on May 23rd/24th. Was still in contact w him on and off till February. It’s hard still but especially hard this month.
@@punayamunjal7475 omg. That’s actually crazy because the last time I had any contact with mine was also in February. It sucks because we broke up in May of last year but were in contact with eachother atleast once every month since Feb.
It’s been almost 7 months since my heartbreak. He left me after 4 years, and admitted to me that he was comparing me to other girls. He hasn’t reached out, but I honestly don’t want him to. I’m so much happier now
Did he ever reach out to you?
@@MumtazIbrahim-ux7pi He blocked me a month ago and then decided to unblock me, but never reached out. I also hope he doesn’t, and let me have my peace and quiet
I remember watching it then! It was exactly the same timeline. Guys when I tell you it broke me, I literally wanted to die. Now, 2 years later it still hurts BUT in a different way. I’m still healing, but I no longer think everyday about this person, I can live without him and I’m happier. He wanted to come back and he’s trying to make things better but NO. And I’m soooo proud of myself for being able to stay away from him. And you will be able too! Just give yourself time and work on yourself, on your better future self :)
It hurts so bad! I want to go through asap! He was my first! And I wish I watched these videos 19 days ago when he broke up with me. I was so pathetic to beg him to stay even without love. I believed that he still loved me but I was wrong! Now I knew how exactly he thought of me! I was immature to ask for his love and care! I desperately need his attention and love. It hurts so bad! And how I felt shame of myself to disrespect myself to stayed with him, tried to pleased him after he broke up with me. Thank you for the videos! I feel hope in my better self in the near future!
Lumma your breakup vids really saved me from a hurtful heartbreak. I'm doing so well now single and enjoying every second of it :)
I couldn’t watch any videos except yours when I was going through my breakup because everything kept reminding me of him. Only that video could ease my feelings at that point somehow. I hope you never take down the video. I’m sure it’s still helping many people going through a breakup. I never imagined how painful just heartbreak could be before experiencing it myself. I was devastated and couldn’t handle the feelings because they were too overwhelming. But your video helped me a lot and I really felt like I wasn’t alone, and it’s okay to be sad, to feel devastated, and to grieve the fact that you no longer have the person. I think that’s not just a documented vlog, but also a piece of art. It’s so beautiful, and I really appreciate your work. Thank you so much, and I love you a lot, Luma
Sameee❤
Same
Which video?
Hello I just found your video after break up. It was almost 2 years ago. He hurt me so deeply and I did not imagine he would break up and leave me. But now I am doing so well. He was the trigger that stopped me what I wanted and who I wanted to be. Thank him! After that break up, I have challenged myself by going abroad and studying abroad. Now I am traveling around the world 🌎. I knew there are many people who are better than him. Happy to leave him. 🎉
I know this is going to sound crazy but I am in my 40’s and I lost my husband suddenly. Your video helped me with my grief. I know it’s not exactly the same but just the raw of emotion is so so so important for people to see. Just talking about grief in a clinical way is just not as helpful as someone in the grips of it. I love all of your videos and you are wise beyond your years! Love you Lumma❤️
Happy to have you here
I really don't understand the concept of "loving someone but not being in love with them". Why start a relationship with that person then? Love is a choice, the feeling of "being in love" is limerance. Love goes beyond limerance. I might be obsessed with the person initially, but that feeling of being "in love" goes away after 5-6 fights/arguments, maybe time passes, but I don't just decide that I'm no longer "in love" with them. It really takes a certain amount of awareness to realize this. Love is "I know there's other people out there, but I want you", not "I know there's someone out there that is better than you/for me, so I'm going to find my person".
I agree with most parts of what you said in this video, it's great that you're spreading awareness that a break up isn't the end of the world, but I disagree with whatever the heck "loving someone but not being in love with them" means, it sounds nonsensical.
Nah, you can be in love with someone and then that goes away and you still have love for them, but you aren’t truly IN love anymore. It’s okay if you haven’t experienced that as a concept, but it’s a very real thing.
"Love is not enough" i needed this. This is why i had to break up with my ex. It hurts me so bad but it wasn't enough. Love isn't enough. We just weren't compatible .
I broke up with my ex just 2 month ago and I feel so in peace and in grace 🙏🏽I started sailing boat something that he didn’t want, and I’m leaving a great summer 🙏🏽, plus the gentleman in my sailing boat club are great people🤓🌟I’m so happy I chose myself 🙏🏽. If you are during a breakup. Go to the gym, go hiking, even if you don’t want, dress your best outfit, do your hair, your makeup, your nails, organize your closet, clean your place, light candles, play nice music. If that person doesn’t choose you, accept it and let it go.
It’s been a little more than a year since a REALLY hard breakup and I just wanted to say that even though sometimes, it still hurts, the heartbreak truly changed me for the best. And Lumma helped me so much with her videos when I didn’t think that it was possible to keep on living. It does get better (even if you don’t think it will), you are strong, you got this ❤
Hey lumma! ❤i just wanna tell you. While I was going through a heartbreak, I came across your heartbreak documentary and I've been watching you ever since then. 😊the guy who abandoned me did came back. But I didn't wanted him anymore and felt better off WITHOUT HIM❤ Lot's of love to y'all. 🌷
Same
@@littlejunior8883 🎀❤️
When I was going thru it 2 years ago I played your vid on repeat. It helped me so much seeing how u are now bcuz everything u said now that Im more healed I see how true it is. ❤
Writing this with happy tears, Lumma I want to thank you for sharing this video. I watched your initial video years ago, but had never experienced such devastating heartbreak at the time. Coming to this one years later after my ex boyfriend broke up with me 7 months ago at one of the lowest points in my life. I was moving out on my own, and was looking forward to starting our journey together.. Even began to be more vulnerable with him because I finally felt comfortable. Then suddenly he sent me the longest text, breaking up with me one morning. It was on the first day of a new job I was excited about. It nearly floored me. I can't believe I'm saying this but it took me this long to finally start getting over him. I've been secretly hoping we'd work things out, and get back together all this time. It's hilarious now saying this. After watching this video, I grew the courage to delete every text, picture, and his name out of my phone. A small step, but truly monumental for me. Again, thank you for posting love 💗 I am immensely grateful this video helped shift my perspective today. I am finally ready to let go, and wish him the absolute best
I believe we had our breakup/ heartbreak around the same time and your videos really helped me get through it at the time. It really was the best thing for my life trajectory! ♥️ Anyone currently going through it, hang in there!
I was one of those girls seeking for any little light at the end of the tunnel. I remember looking through comments for hope that a girl was okay after some time and feeling like it just couldn’t be me from all the pain. But girls please please just trust me you are going to be more than okay. You will realize what you truly want and it’s not that guy who broke your heart. You will just naturally meet someone who will make you feel so amazing you will be so thankful it didn’t work out with the man that doesn’t even put effort into the relationship
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex husband left me, i still love him and most times I cant stop thinking about him, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of him, but i just cant, i love him so much, i don't know why i am bringing this here for, i cant stop thinking about him.
its always difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation my husband for 12 years left me, i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring him back
wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach him?
His name is Owen Abiola,and He's a great spiritual adviser who can bring back your ex.
Dr owen abiola is a very powerful man
Thank you for this valuable information,i just looked her up now online. impressive
the way i have all her videos playing 24/7 bc these heartbreak videos CARRYING ME
I’ve had two hard breakups in the last few years and your videos helped me go through every stage. Your videos are so comforting and encouraging. Now I’m in the happiest relationship.
I couldn’t thank you enough 🫶
I love you, Lumma!
I just love how when you posted that breakup video I was going through it BAD and I felt exactly how you felt, just begging the universe to bring me relief. And now I watch this and it has also been 2 years and a couple of months since the breakup, I am also in another amazing relationship and just can’t wrap my head around the fact that I suffered so much over someone I KNEW that I wasn’t happy with. It’s so amazing how you put everything into words, and how you make me realize things I didn’t think about. Being scared of your own potential and of the unknown, I hadn’t seen it that way. I love this ❤️.
I feel like it's God's sign that you showed up on my page just a day after I was left by someone who was in my life for almost 2 years. That video documenting your heartbreak was something I had stumbled upon by chance 4 days ago and it had immediately made me feel like I was not alone in my struggle.
And the fact that after 2 years, something made you upload this empowering video right around the same time just tells me that the universe must have bigger plans for me. Thank you Lumma. :')
I followed your journey and I am so happy to see you HAPPY. Bless your soul 🙌
i went through a really bad break up last year and i don’t think i would’ve moved past it if it wasn’t for your videos. i was at the lowest i had ever been in my life and you gave me reassurance that it was all going to be okay one day. you were right, i’ve moved on and im so grateful that relationship ended. thank you so much 💗 your videos really helped me when i needed it the most.
thank you lumma…watched this two years ago and i am going through it even worse again now. keep helping people all around
"You had to feel love and lose it so that you could find yourself". BOOM! This is 💯 true and is definitely goals! I've been feeling this but hearing someone else say it is next level. Turning pain into purpose is a vibe.
I’m so happy to see you thriving! I remember watching your video and going through it at the same time with you. It felt like I wasn’t alone and your talking kept me company. Now years later so much has changed! There is that light at the end of the tunnel.
This was so comforting. I'm still healing and a part of me is so angry at myself for feeling this way. It was a short relationship but I felt SO MUCH and it just makes no sense. Thank you for this video Lumma
Lumma , u have no idea how many times i watch your videos on repeat. You make me feel so much better after listening to your wise words. For a year its been an emotional roller coaster for me battling depression with regards to my recent ex. I feel like i will never have the courage to move on from this , im emotionally stuck even though i know this person keeps on hurting me over and over. I love her with all my might . But she shattered and destroyed my heart over and over again. You are a true godsent lumma . Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤ sending love to all
How are you doing today? Take care
The timing is impeccable
3 months post breakup this is a great video to randomly come across. This being my first relationship makes you feel like a failure. The highs and lows of a breakup are insane but it’s refreshing to know I’m not losing my mind and my feelings are relevant but also reassuring to know it gets better and I’ll find better. God is good, I just subscribed lol ❤❤
you are amazing. thank you for sharing your wisdom and light with us x
She say just the right words. It’s crazy. It give me temporary relief
Going thru a breakup just 10 days ago. I leave him after i caught him flirt and supporting another girl on linkedin!! They support eachother and my ex keep mention her and support her, the thing that make me very upset is that my ex wasnt even give me compliment and support in something that i do wich is similar with the other girl do. Like i am an arist, i make sketches, drawing and her too. The difference is im not making it as a job, and she do it for living. Its really hurt everytime i remember it. I’ll give myself 3 months to mourning this 4 years relationship and move on. I’ll be back to se how is it going. Thanks Lumma your video literally helps me so much to strenghten me and keep me feel sane.
Seriously, why do guys do this... 😤😠
Hope you're doing well 💗 I split with my partner due to his sketchy friendship with another woman. He basically chose her over me. It's hard to let go & face that rejection
I feel for a lot of y’all going thru it like me. It’s been a little over a week for me after 4 years and 3 months together and years of living together. I’m getting better each day. Just hit the gym and stay there and always think ab the endless possibilities of where your life could go if you choose to love and trust yourself!! Think ab how much you could win at life on your own because all you have to worry about now is yourself 💪🏽
ur the only calm thing i have rn fr no shi ur the most comforting
I am at my lowest now. The pain I couldn’t express out. I hope it’s get better. It’s day 3 of breakup. Been through lot of ups and downs lately. Yet missing being with him. Even knowing leave him is best decision. I just can’t take it. It’s hard to go through a day in life. Feeling empty, lonely, silent, angry, pain. My heart been broke so many times, I always picked up by self without his help… put it all tgt bec whatever happened my feelings for him doesn’t fade. This time it’s completely broken. It’s hard to live with him and it’s even more harder to be without him.
I do believe that in this moment there are thousands of people who are experiencing breakups and I am one of them. Watching your video since the first of my breakup helps me to start working on myself. I started getting back to the gym and spoil myself. Keep the days productive and enjoy life. Surely, I am still sad and miss him as I have sooo much memories together and I couldn’t understand why it happened. Now that I know sometimes we do not need to find the answer for it as having no answer is already an answer.
You have inspired me so much. I am really happy for you that you have found yourself and the right person. Love you ❤
Thank you Lumma! I'm not going through a breakup but this reminds me to date someone who matches my standards and is aligned with my goals. This is such comforting advice!
i just found your video. im going through the worst breakup right now, sometimes i feel like i don't want anymore because i can't live without him, but im trying to stay strong, move on and heal. im writing here so i can come back when i have hopefully moved on. Thanks for this!💕
I remember going through utube looking for how to heal over a breakup over 1.5 yrs..I never thought I would be where Iam today .Your video helped me so much ,Glad I am now in a healthy relationship and thankful that relationship didn't work out!
This is déjà vu! I found your video 2 years ago when I went through the worst breakup. It really helped me get through the days! 2 years later I can say with certainty that I’m really glad that happened and my life has got so much better! I’m fully at peace. It’s a real full circle moment finding this new video 😌
Congratulations! Glad to hear this
I cried along with you in 2021 when you posted that video. I laugh about it now cuz it feels so long ago. You will grow from it, you will make new friends, meet new people. Take care guysx
So grateful for this video. So grateful for You. I went through it all at the same time You did and it helped me so much at the time. Now I am sitting here, watching this new upload and smiling with You as I have healed and moved on as well. At the time I never thought I'd ever feel good again, not in a million years. Now look at me, rediscovering myself an having the best time I've had in last 5 years. Incredible feeling.
Thank You, Lumma! :)
Currently going through a really hard breakup, sometimes I feel a bit better, sometimes I feel miserable. I am leaving this comment here so I can leave a trace and come back again once I've moved on and heal completely. I hope it gets better soon. ❤
How are you
your journey has helped me so much. Thank you so much. Nothing has made the possible of healing so real than seeing you get better and now I will be okay one day too.
Because of Lumma's heartbreak video, I am doing so well and great till today! Your video change my life!
You’re my inspiration! All of you, is goals. We’re all so proud of you!
lumma my case is exactly the same as urs ....... it was one sided break up and i didn't wanted to also i loved him so much and saw my future with him ........And he broke up with me 2 weeks ago ..... I'm sad and heart broken .... ur videos helped me a lot , And once I'm completely healed and move on from him ..... I WILL COME BACK AND COMMENT ON THIS VIDEO AND THANK YOU AGAIN ❤❤❤
Lumma and I have had our devastating break ups not too far apart from one another. It has been very difficult for me to move on. However, watching Lumma recover from and becoming much stronger after it inspires me a lot. Whenever I feel weak, I watch her videos and it gives me strenght. So thank you for that.
I was there heartbroken at the same time 2years ago and your video helped me through that not that it was a source of healing because it took time and your ownself to heal but it showed that we are all getting hurt, it was dark and devastating but we aren’t alone we will definitely get better, and now look at me i just happily got married with my best husband ❤ this might sounds cliche as it sounds but you will get better in “time” and the only best thing comes at the best of yourself 😊
I'm so happy for you!!
@@lilmunch3894 thank youuu
I watched your 3 month heartbreak documentary almost 2 years ago. When i rewatched it today i had to cry. I remembered how helpless i felt and watching you struggeling and speaking about the exact pain i felt.
life is so crazy and i am so great i got to experience all of that eventhough i couldnt bare it back then.
Life is so good. Loving myself is so good.
I stopped smoking, i changed my carriere path and i love it now, i do sports and have a lot of great friends and quality time with my sister.
Life is so good.
i broke up with him yesterday, i gave up on him bc we're on different religions. he was my first boyfriend, my first everything, so yeah it hurts like crazy right now, i didnt know a heartbreak would feel this heavily painful. i feel so alone but your videos keep me company, thanks so much..
It's been a little over a month now since my breakup. It was a constant cycle of feelings misunderstood, unappreciated, unseen, and terrible anxiety/panic attacks. I believed him. I trusted in his words that "we will figure it out" the breakup was hard. he didn't have it in him to look me in the eyes and tell me he didn't want me. He broke my heart, over and over and I stayed. Hopeful. I know I did wrong too. I tried to break up so many times when the pain got so bad, in the end, his leaving was a blessing. I felt so much anger towards him. I was going to go on a trip with his friends, I spent so much money on the ticket, on the airbnb, on everything to not go in the end. I really wanted to, but he told me it'd be hard on him. I hope I can let go of the anger. Everyday is so painful. So much anger and it's this terrible cycle I find myself stuck in. He pushed therapy onto me for so long, I'm finally in therapy now. I felt so crazy, I felt like I lost my mind. And yet my heart still clings on to him I absolutely hate it. I hope to one day not think about him anymore, but I know the importance of letting yourself feel your feelings, it just feels like a dark void. but I'm not using anything or anyone to try to make this process easier. I'm just hurting, hoping one day, I'll be healed and moved on from this situation. By then I hope he doesn't live rent free in my mind. thank you for this video 🩷
He broke up with me 1.5 months ago 3 days after my birthday. He was my first relationship and we dated for 8 months. While it doesn't compare to year-long relationships ending, he was my first everything, so it greatly impacted me. I'm still so young, I'm only 18, and perhaps I'll experience greater heartbreak in the future, yet the existence of your channel and your breakup videos give me hope that no matter what happens, I will get over it. Although it's been only a month, I can positively say I'm doing so much better than before. I don't want him back, just hope for closure. But I know him breaking up with me was closure enough.
I sometimes remember him and feel melonchely, but I've learned that being kind to yourself and letting yourself cry is the best medicine. Two steps forward, one step backward. Thank you Lumma for being there for us with these videos.
I really need this rn, thank you Luma. I relate to your situation a lot as mine was quite similar. I’m still going through the tough stages of no contact. I just deleted his number. I’m finding it difficult to stay positive and feel happy at all but seeing how well you’ve done definitely gives me some hope for myself❤️
Listen to them! They tell you exactly what they can or cannot do. Mine left and was saying things like "I love you but I can't make you happy" and made that choice for me. I gave him another chance and he left again. He was right, he can't make me happy and won't make me happy. Be "The one that got away" choose yourself and please please please don't center men in your life!! Choose you!
mine literally said that he can not afford to my standards even though during the relationship, he said nothing about it. hurts like hell but i believe God has better plans for me
My last breakup was the best thing that ever happened to me. I was so happy and healthy once I got through it. And I found the best guy when I wasn’t even looking
I listened to your video about your breakup, and it really helped me a lot. I remember downloading it and listening to it every time I needed motivation or when I was driving. I went through a breakup too, and it was very, very hard. But I took my time to cry and be angry. Then, I started to focus on myself more. I got back to work, dated new people just for fun, started new activities, and listened to a lot of videos about relationships and breakups. It was a difficult time.
After about 50 days, he came back, asking for a second chance in our relationship. I accepted and decided to really do better this time with him. My advice to you is this: Don't take breakups personally or let your ego get in the way. Don't be too relaxed in your relationship-be aware of your responsibilities and your partner's needs. If you can't fulfill them, find someone else who meets your standards. Breakups can be the best experience if you use them the right way. Wishing you all love and peace, beautiful people.
It is impossible to break the heart of a healthy and stable person.
You are so much better than your ex cause he is a cheater. So much above him, dear. Great advices :*
Me right now validating my feelings and this video really validated me rn. I keep telling myself this too shall pass ❤
thank you for this vid lumma! I watched that breakup vid of yours last year when i was going through it and somehow i felt like i was comforted knowing that i’m not crazy for feeling all that heartbreak. more than a year after that breakup, i learned and realized a lot of things and i now live a better life on my own. i’m still trying to navigate my way in this life but so far so good! hope you read this because you inspire me a lot and i’m amazed that we have the same thoughts with what happened on that last relationship. universe really does a lot of things that are so unexpected but always trust the process and know that you’ll do just fine :)
Dude the timing on this … thank you
BC IM STRUGGLING
The videos and the comments such vulnerability and relatability! I am so happy I came across this video. Feel everything now so you can heal properly for yourself. Choose you, love you, you are enough.
Fresh off a breakup, so I won’t go too much into detail, but my ex cheated on me. Letting go has been one of the hardest things I’ve faced, but everything said at 14:40 hit home. I was debating whether to keep it going with her, but I realized that as a man, I haven’t been putting my energy into the goals I want to accomplish. Being with someone can be comfortable, but this video gave me the perspective and hope I needed to know that it’ll be okay, and not to hold grudges toward my ex. Thanks for sharing your experience, saludos from Mexico!
There when you give yourself advice… there you “broke”… do not make the mistake to mislead yourself… you still felt something, lost, and maybe yourself, do not break away from that…heal it…#just thinking
Yes, thank you for this! it Helped me a lot. I am going threw it as well now.
You got this 💪
I am broken right now, I was discarded by a dismissive avoidant and it crushed me, I’m really trying to fight the pain and feel it everyday but I don’t cry enough I am a guy who feels like the world doesn’t want to see my tears so I don’t but need to learn that it’s the only way I can feel my emotions, I want to thank you your video have lifted the pain for me today.
I saw this video at the right time.. I experienced a breakup during covid as well and felt terrible because all my friends around me were settling down and I felt behind but now here I am travelling alone, being open to moving cities, meeting men who set the standard, graduating school and starting a business..and just when I thought I lost everything at that moment I’m actually the one winning.
I am going through very bad emotional breakdown, i feel like despite loving my man with all my heart he suddenly says that he wants to live alone, that he is enjoying and getting peace while living alone. I am emotionally traumatised . I have no idea what to do. My sleep is gone, every single second i am bursting in tears. I wish to end my life and sometimes i want to become a isolated person from this world and become saint because he is the only man i ever loved. I dont want to love anyone else. I am so breakdown that i dont know what to do.
If situation someday gets better, i will let it be known though no one cares but your words are comforting me today when i am crying in the corner and having pain in my heart.
Are you okay? ❤
@@paulabudak7892 yes, my partner is okay now so i am finally at peace
I wish I had found you sooner. I am on week 11 after leaving a emotionally abusive relationship. I was trauma bonded for 4 yrs until April. My past childhood trauma created my future and who I attracted into my life. So I think it is a lot different to a normal breakup if you have been traumatised. However the conclusion is still the same, after the heartbreak you will heal and eventually be able to function again. You reminded me with your follow up video that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and that being in a relationship doesn't determine who you are as a person, and that not being in a relationship makes you a failure. If I don't end up in a relationship ever again I will still be OK.
It’s so funny because I found your first video two years ago when I was going through a break up, and now here I am again and you have a new video!
Same 😂, but it’s the same guy again for me
@@dom9298 omg girlll why
It was a year ago for Me and now it's the same guy
Your videos are such a blessing, it was my first relationship. I loved him with all honesty and was doing everything that i could to save the relationship. My goal was to love him and make it work. His, i don't know, he said multiple times he wanted to break up.
Your videos give me pkwer and courage.
Seeing you so happy now literally made me tear up, I am so so incredibly proud of you. You are such a good role model
I feel I was brainwashed through tarot as it was the only thing giving me hope until now. Thank you. ❤❤❤❤
Omg please don’t believe them. They ruined me for a few months by giving me false hope!
It's been a year since I watched your video, and I am still hurt by the breakup. I'm still waiting to be free from the pain. 11 years is a long time
I’m so sorry you’re in pain. I was also in a relationship that long and it’s so hard to create a new life without that person to make plans with. I’m three and a half years single now and the first two years were the hardest. I’d actually like to meet someone new this year but I’m under no illusions it will be hard as my ex was my dream partner! Still maybe it’s time for a new dream
@hummingbird4934 same here, my dream guy. I can't see myself with anyone else but him. It makes life hard and dating impossible for me it sucks tbh
listening to you makes me feel so proud of you trust me you are a queen your fans want watch you conquer the world and we wish you insane amount of success and happiness in whatever field you step in ❤
I have seen all your break up videos and surprisingly the ones that gave more hope is the one with your new relationship and this one now after 2 and a half years. My marriage ended and honestly im someone that when i open my eyes, i cannot go back, it is hard and painful but i look forward to my progress, to fall back again and to find myself again. Thanks again and i hope you feel proud that you have given so many people so much comfort and good advice.
THANK YOU. your videos are what have been helping me SO damn much.
Thank you very very much for this video, you really help a lot of people by posting this in including me. Thank you also for mentioning that the process is also painful for the ones that decide to break up with their ex partners. I was the one that broke up with my ex girlfriend almost two months ago. And it breaks me down still, it is extremely painful and to take that decision was also very painful. It was heartbreaking for me to slowly relaize how this person that I loved with all my being was not what I trully wanted for the future and that relationship was hurting me so much. I constantly question myself what she's up to, who is she talking to now, if she is ok, if maybe I took the wrong decision, If I will ever love again, if the kind of love that I want truly exists, if I deserve love... Hope it gets better soon, or eventually.
But I decide to learn from this experience, and I will heal, and become better. I will never let someone change me that much, I will never let someone hurt me that much. And I will never hurt someone in such a way, I will have the emotional responsibility I wish I would've received. And I will stay true to myself as well. I cry, I am constantly anxious, I can't sleep well, my head feels like a jail many times. But I wont give up, I'm stronger than this.
To anyone that is experiencing the same thing, I hope you get better soon. In my own experience and what has gotten me through this last few weeks is to feel, and that is the best advice I can give you. Feel everything, learn from every feeling, do not keep it, if you can talk to somebody, do it, if you can express it somewhere like this comment section I encourage you to do it, maybe though sports or art or writing your thoughts down, do it, but don't let yourself down.
Another thing I can tell you is that contact 0 power is true, it can be very very hard but in order to slowly detach from the person you need contact 0. Including social media, even if you dont talk to them anymore. Dont spend your time scrolling and looking in social media what are they posting, what are they doing , who are they following now. Stop, it will only slow down your healing process, trust me. Instead, use this time to discover yourself, to gain yourself back, to feel and to do things that you like. We will get trough this.
i just went through a break up back in oct 2023. we were together for 5 yrs. i actually found your breakup video and watched it embaressingly a lot. i could literally feel how you felt. and i just wanted to leave a comment to thank you for being vulnerable and open. it really did help me!