Dr. Ramani reveals one thing narcissists cannot do
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Narcissists are everywhere and these days it seems like everyone has at least one in their lives! Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a licensed clinical psychologist, will help you spot red flags and heal from the narcissist in your life. Every Thursday, we will hear first-hand accounts from people who know this territory the best, the survivors.
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They never, and I mean never, take any responsibility for their bad actions.
Exactly not even a sorry
Just like Donald Trump, a malignant narcissist.
Of course not. Because cowards never will apologize for what they know full-well what it is that they do wrong, and they do it only to get a kick out of it. Totally sick, calculating, and selfish, evil morons is exactly what they truly are.bj
@@antoniobabb1938only to get what they want.. never genuine or specific..
What if you do, and you have. And you can admit failure and defeat but still get labeled a narcissist?
What I have learned through almost 50s years is....They simply DO NOT CARE!!!! They dont care about Anything besides their own COMFORT!!!!!😢
Yep,
very well put. I agree. it's hard to grasp what that is like, to not care at that level but I see in in the narcs that I've had to deal with. Weird and awful trait.
I see it exactly as a child mentality in an adult body. I'm not so sure they CAN really care about anything except themselves because they are completely incapable. It's like a permanently stunted maturity, they might change for a short time, but it always regresses as they don't have the capability of true personal growth. It's sad for them, but we still need to manage our expectations of them and protect ourselves from them.
Narcissist are adults who never left childhood
For sure, and the one big reason is because of being neglected or rejected by their parents. For me, I had to raise myself, and it isn't good when you raise yourself. My dad was working and mom ain't around because she cheated and went crazy, even though my brother and I had babysitters we still have to raise ourselves because babysitters don't raise you they just keep an eye on you and that's it. It's hard to leave that if there isn't any nurturing. Narcissist's emotional growth is stunted.
@@joselynnschmidt5795smart analysis of how narcissists are made👍🏻
Or Pampered so much so that they’re entitled but won’t leave others a chance
most "empaths" are really covert narccists, both gnders are as narccistic as the other now according to sam vahknin
@@joselynnschmidt5795🎯🎯
It's so frustrating to see they play the victim.
It’s their - reality not even a game. They ARE CRAZY
They blame everyone but themselves! 😮😮😂❤❤❤
I hope uour not showing your frustration because they are like dogs rolling in dead things.
Your frustration is that dead thing feeding it.
Don the C🎃N TRUMP
Trump
They have unrealistic expectations, and unrealistic expectations are a recipe for disappointment.
They have unrealistic expectations of people..
And of animals, wealth, ownership, achievements, talents, other's assets as being none of their business, limits, other's boundaries, themselves as being Masters of the Universe, their driving and every other ability, anything that goes wrong, time, space, the ordinary being ok, that they're boring not others, reality, that their delusions aren't real but conflated bs, life, death and everything in between ...
@@misslanapaulford
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@@louisegarner8888
They have PINKY & THE BRAIN MENTALITY
@@1stBorn538 😅😂🤣 Yesss!
Cartoon chaos with the genius mouse and his stupid sidekick who try to conquer the world each and every night, day and minute if you put it on loop! Uh oh... does that mean we're the "stupid sidekick?" 😕 Note to self "stop watching videos on narcissism!" You're hilarious thanks for the laughs! 💕☺️😘
Exactly..... They never take accountability!
Never. In their minds it could never be them. They're too good for failure. Has to be the wife's fault. Anyone but them
@@nunyabizzz1135Because they can not
Never is the key word
I agree
Exactly I have seen that .
This is SO true. It is extremely hard as a (recovering) people-pleaser to be on the other end of a disappointed narcissist.
Being a "people pleaser" is a form of narcissism. You try and force your will silently. I have cut off every "people pleaser" it's all about YOU in disguise that it's "helping" "giving" You are always the victim. Glad you're recovering from that. It's a hard one.
@@pennyp7382 it can be about fawning (fight, flight, freeze, fawn response to trauma).
@@pennyp7382That is a good point. Ty
@pennyp7382 what? There's no truth in that. Total opposite of narcissism
@@pennyp7382this is absolutely true…
I'm married to one and the word NO is like gas on a fire
Same here!!!
Yes
Yep!
Same here!!!
Likely because their mommy didnt tell them No when they were children. They didnt learn to properly develop.
My mom has stage 4 cancer and my narcissistic father will complain about everything in front of her, everything that goes wrong in his life like she’s his therapist - meanwhile she can never speak about anything she’s struggling with. It’s heartbreaking
They just can't relate or truly care, so sorry and yes heartbreaking.
It's probably the reason she has cancer. epigenetic tells us that it is the environment that causes the illness NOT the gene as previously thought. check out Bruce Lipton the man who discovered epigenetic.
also read Anita Moorjani a woman that on deaths door with stage 4 cancer doctors told her family she had less than 12 hours to live and she had an NDE near death experience and made a 💯 % full recovery. today she travelled the world in perfect health speaking about her experience Nd her miracle recovery. Never give up 🙏 🤲 ❤️ I wish your mum recoverynhealth and happiness..
oh and a lifetime of peace and love ❤️ God bless 🙌
Good thing she has you.
@@Violet-fj8ydShe will always put my father first, and she continues to deny his abuse that I endured as a child. I recently had a wave of resentment come over me towards her. I felt horrible for feeling that way, but I also have to accept it because she was complicit in the abuse I endured. I pray to God everyday for them both to repent - I had to repent because I started to have narcissistic traits in my teenage years. God's intervention is the only way my soul was saved from following in that evil path. It's so incredibly intense - but yes I am with her, I pray for her, I am aware of what is going on - and I rebuke the Devil in my family line, the ancestral curses, and my father's demonic nature underneath what she believes in a good man. I would not be able to do any of this without God's mighty love and hand on my life which I do not deserve. I will be there for my mother until the end and I will continue to move forward on the path of forgiveness even though it's hard - and I pray my dad repents so his soul does not forever remain in darkness. Aloha! I also have to realize my mom is a victim of narcissistic abuse even though she denies it. She believes it's real love and my heart breaks for her.
@@Violet-fj8yd Anyways I'm obviously going through rn. I didn't mean to bring all that out LOL I'm on the autism spectrum so mind me. You are right :)
Definitely the dog’s fault 😂
Actually, that was one of my ex's claims...
@@jaknkee Yeah it can get pretty goofy
😅😂🤣 that's a good one 😂
I lost a bunch in the divorce but gained so much more!!! I tell my story and people are shocked I’m without a car but they have no idea what a blessing that was!!!
God will give you double
You lost an angry, bitter, abusive person. You gained peace. You gained wisdom. You gained the ability to sleep at night.
My ex has raped me; gave the Chek from my business to his lover's business; left sun and 😢 me
without winter cout and took a car 🚗 l was paying insurance and high monthly payment.
They're worried about you not having a car...little do they know that's the least of it 😂
@@alyssawoodman Narcissists do things to hurt you on purpose. Let them wallow in their misery.
Basically, they rage when they don't get their way, it's as simple as that.
yup. rage and throw a big baby tantrum or seek revenge. their reaction is usually way out of proportion to the reality of the situation
Or stonewall and silent treatment
My sister is a narcissist and man the rage is unbelievable!
She screams and passes until we think her vocal cords are going to strip out!😱
The best way to get away with narcissistic partner is do not let them know u r gonna leave and just leave. Because if they know, they will manipulate you and have fake tears and apologies only to do it again and when their ego gets hurt bcz they begged u to stay, they will come out more narcissistically on you in the future. Based on personal witnesses
Yeah that's what I did many time's, in you know what the narc call that? You always running 🏃, but the real reason is I don't need any police activity, because the man will turn out to have been the aggressiver? So u would disappear before any of that. But now it's in my house in dint wanna leave.
💯this Narcissist community should b recognized separately from other social groups so that normal individuals don’t end up getting trapped into marriages or other relationships with those evils
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If you are in a narc relationship and can leave do so. Narcs can never change.
run
1000%
Get away aa quick as you can
This woman knows her stuff!!! Dr. Romani covers all bases. Highly recommend her youtube channel
They cannot regulate disappointment. I was punished by my narc when I did not get a job. I was also punished when things went wrong with him.
Same
Saaaame!
Same. Even though he caused the curse the curse in his life, according to him, it’s my fault. It’s so far off that I just laugh. 😂
This is my life at the moment. Thank you for validating my experience. Love ❤My therapists never did explain it this way.
I'm right there with you. Colossal mess is an excellent depiction of what it's like to break away from my husband. He wants to blame me and slander me, but simultaneously does not want to let me out of his control. Unfortunately I had to get a protection order. I pray others can get away before it reaches a point of danger.
A lot of therapists are not aware of this issue.
Most of therapist in india re not aware of it.
Check out dr Ross rosenberg
Same with me. I adore the way she puts this, it's helping me so much to understand how my narcissist works
Me too ❤ he is getting sued at work and he wanted me to have a late termination of pregnancy and I wasn’t sure as was attached to my baby, I miscarried while he was away for a trip and when he came back, joined a dating app, met someone new, and asked for a divorce. Lost my baby and husband in two weeks. He never asked about me or came to the hospital or even asked where our baby is buried. He is still telling everyone he is the victim. Thankfully I have so much evidence that third parties I have access too know it’s lies, obviously the new supply thinks I’m crazy. She encouraged him too. Deserve one another. God is bigger than them both
in sending this! To my attorneys. It’s shameful how many family lawyers Fail to see & learn narcissist behavior
That's because solicitors are narcisists in their profile and nature. I work with solicitors and see how sneaky they are in their comments and how they construct situations in the judicial process. They are excellent examples of narcisists. They convince Judges who are already trained to be narcissistic anyway to agree with the best lies they can, even though they are supposed to be impartial which is impossible for narcisists to do.
@@williamc6564Wowww!! Well put!! Yeah, you have to find a divorce attorney who specializes in narcissism, they are out there and they are brutal, they see through all the narcs bull💩 and will be glad to call them out on it!!! Good luck and God bless!!🙏
Doctors struggle to identify them
And Many judges can be narcissistic
Be careful
Lawyers are narcs themselves. If anyone is fine with the circle speak of legalese .. they're one of them 😔
You are so Right!! Wish I had known this years ago. Get out of that relationship fast!! Don't go away mad, just go Away!!
So true. When I told him he couldn't play victim to the circumstances he created that really touched a nerve. I gave him what he wanted and signed the divorce papers. No fight just done.😢😢😢❤❤❤❤❤
You should be proud of yourself ❤ good job.
You should be proud❤
Same! Feels like I should’ve fought for my rights more, but just done sums it up!
They really have a hard time dealing with life's challenges. And that is really what makes the relationship suffer. They can't seem to navigate, nor negotiate the ebbs and flows of life.
Yep, witness in my marriage.
She really understands this disorder to its core. It's amazing
Dr Ramani has helped me so much to heal , I no longer have either Narc in my life.
100% true...i experienced all of them not knowing then that I was dealing with a narcissist.
This is so true, they "Narcissists hate surprises" especially those out there CONTROL😂. These A'holes are NOT RESILIENT!!!
Experience here. Witnessed this ! You right.
So true blamers accusers makes you tired to your bones
Truth.❤
Im exhausted. I can't wait to get a divorce.
This is EXACTLY what happened, when my narcissistic mother began to realize, outside of a court room, that her legal case wasn’t going anywhere. She was between catatonic and quietly enraged. She later told me that she blamed my sister and I, for her losing the case, like either of us had any background in law or could go up against a global company. But, even further, she was telling me the family business was worth dying for. So, I think that, for her, it was “Go up against that company, die if you have to. Doesn’t matter to me.”
They're like little children! Imagine watching a grown adult being so paranoid that they go into a situation that they know will benefit the family immensely and intentionally mistreat and disrespect the people who are actually helping them achieve the goal for their family. I couldn't believe how she really thought she was the victim, often throwing a tantrum and utterly destroying the family. It was the equivalent of telling a child, " No, you can't have any candy," and they fell out on the floor screaming and crying.
This is so on point. This happened to me.
The good news is once it’s over we can begin to heal. 🥰
Very few people in our culture understand narsicism ,though if I look around there are so few people who are not so,they cause so much of suffering and heart ach in people while maintaining a facade of victim
GROWING UP WITH THIS TYPE OF PERSON ... MARRYING A PERSON LIKE THIS ...I DID EVERYTHING PERFECT AND SOMEHOW WAS ALWASY WRONG ABOUT ANY / EVERYTHING. LINVING WITH THESE TYPES DRAIN / SUCK THE LIVING LIFEEEEEEEEE OUT OF YOU. YOUR PURE LIFE ENEGRY THAT THEY STOLE TO FUEL THEIRS. I HAVE RID THESE PEOPLE FROM MY LIFE AND FOR THE 1ST TIME IN MY LIFE. I CAN BREATH / THINK / EXSIT AND JUST BE @ P_E_A_C_E WITH MYSELF / MY PRESENCE / MY AURA AND I AM JUST SO APPRECIATIVE !!!
@@aaliyahdivina3523I hear you 🙌🏼🥰
This is every culture
True statement.❤
When you're in a relationship with a narcissist, GET OUT OF IT AND GET AWAY!
I left 97 days ago after 40 years of abuse! I’m so glad I left that little prick…best decision I’ve made for myself!
@@finallydone391Good on you!!’
My husband almost hit someone walking on the side of the road…I yelled look out! He swerved and the first thing out his mouth was they almost hit my mirror. It will NEVER make sense how him and his son blame EVERYONE for their behavior.
mine are the same. Exactly 💯 but usually it's they blame me.
The first/older child of a narc, generally ends up taking after them.
😂😂😂😂hehehehe mirror was more important than a whole human being...!
They are materialistic too!
Yep.And they are hell for supervisors. Pure hell.
Especially if they are Leo or Virgo
@@novae6583As an empathetic Virgo i take that personally, lol, jk, lol!!! 😂😂😂
@novae6583 I have been a supervisor and proud Virgo. Not true. Good at leading people and helpful.
Omg Doctor R. You PERFECTLY NAILED IT
I’ve seen these ‘victims’ blame everybody else for things that are their fault.They can make huge messes of other people’s lives on purpose and never accept accountability for their own toxic actions!
Meanwhile the partner's soul is killed by non-stop disappointment with all the narcissist's future-faking carrot dangling from a stick.
You could not have said it better!😢
Thank you for giving me new idea for the video in my playlist Psychology: Future - faking.
FUTURE FAKING!!! Ugh, the lies are sooo believable!!!😑
Future Promises are a Redflag
Avoid Narcissists AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE
10000%!!! Absolute nightmare...took me a long time to learn this, awareness & social media nowadays is lifesaving!!❤🙌🏽
Well said it’s totally unbelievable isn’t it!! it’s so important to hear these message because once we know that they will never ever see it or except responsibility it’s a little bit easier to not take on their shit because you see it’s a commin not just you ..,
The best thing I ever did in my life was leave him. I tried to hard to turn a blind eye to his behavior. Thank God!!❤
They never grew up and want love and attention. They need a normal person to show them Hey life is about everyone not just You!
Even when shown in the most respectful way, they disregard anything and anyone who opposes their delusions.
It’s just like dealing with a 10 year old -- exact same mentality, even if they’re in their 50’s 😏
Yep my mother is 57. She might as well be 12 with the way she acts and reasons. No contact has been incredible 8 months and going strong.
💯💯💯
That is a little harsh on ten year olds...I have met many more reasonable ten year olds than any age of narc.
I think you need to lower the age. Three seems much more appropriate than ten.
Omg facts!!! they get worse as they age too!!!it’s insane
Dr Ramani....
You are just a blessing for many..
Absolutely bang on !
I’m sad to say my younger daughter is like this. No matter what it is, if she doesn’t get what she wants, she verbally attacks the person not giving it to her.
This is awkward but "It’s believed by many mental health professionals that narcissism originates from an unhealthy/abusive upbringing with emotionally unavailable, unresponsive, and inconsistent primary caregivers. " 😬
If my daughter did this I wouldn’t stop disciplining her u til that stops , it would stop id make sure of that.
@imsanedontworry not always. In most cases yes but not always. Dr. Romani and Dr. Les Carter concur. Sometimes children are just wired wrong smd it could be a genetic issue or a traumatic brain injury. Sometimes it is karma from past lives.
Please get your child therapy. My sister is a narc and the signs were there since she was a child. She is now in her fifties and has destroyed our family. She was treated well by our parents.
@@shobhnakapoor1399 I love that you included karma from a past life 🙌
It's so frustrating. All I did was try to help this person and all they did was tell me what I did was wrong
They will leave you pennyless! It falls apart colossally like you said. True story.
After years of surgeries, ivf fertility treatments, I’m pregnant w a baby girl. My mom told me she wanted me to have a boy. She is having a hard time regulating her disappointment I’m having a girl that could be like me, because allegedly I was so horrible for her to raise.
Hopefully I can break this cycle and love my little girl like she deserves
Last thing I heard was “I DID EVERYTHING RIGHT” and I politely said “I wish you a great day” and walked away…🤷♂️
"this is the dog's fault" lmao I just can't anymore so accurate
My ex- narc died of GRUDGIDUS..... nothing was EVER his' fault.....😮
I took my narcissist husband to the court for a divorce. He bribed my lawyer n the case got dismissed. Knowing him , we are still in a relation as there are two grown up kids between us . But ...I made it clear to him I WILL NOT ABIDE BY YOUR RULES ! YES, it's tough but I live separate so it's easier . Life is extremely tough but one can manipulate them n stay a step ahead . It puts a lot of stress on oneself but better than being naive n be used . Thank you immensely for all the points you discuss n educate us . Blessings n love ❤
My daughter has always struggled to regulate unexpected disappointment. I don't think she is a narcissist although there is some overlap in symptoms. For her i think it's more derived from anxiety and OCD.
Everything about narcissism boils down to one thing narcissist must always believe themselves to be significant to everyone around them
YESSS 1000000% !!!!!!! I always HATE when something goes wrong, NOT because I can't handle it, I can handle anything with God I have the Holy Spirit. I hate when something goes wrong because of the fact that I know he is going to #1 blame me and #2 be very mean and bullying towards me for no reason #3 take his anger out on me. When we can't pay something or are late on bills he gets angry at me even though I'm a stay at home mom and don't control any money and is rude to me about all of it. I get blamed and hated for no reason every time something is wrong.
You've got to leave babe. It's different on the outside
Run it doesn't get better, it only gets worse as the years pass you by. Don't wait until the Titanic starts sinking to jump off!!!!!!!
Omg, you need to get out!!! I've gone through the same, if something goes wrong it's their excuse to act like an idiot, rage and scream and threaten, like you caused the roof to leak(an example of what I went through)!?!? God bless you and your children!!! And good luck, you really need to consider getting help and getting out, the narc doesn't get better...😑🙏❤
run to the hills
Not much on a "Man" then.
Dr Ramini has been a tremendous blessing to me. Knowledge is POWER! EVERYTHING she says is correct ✅
Once she said , I didn’t ask you a question for you to give me that answer . It was over way before that but , they never disappoint.
Unfortunately the narcissists are many today
I’ve been noticing that. More coming, self absorbed social
media generation.
@@leonab545 agreed that’s why I don’t have any social media. Just RUclips and Pinterest.
Toddlers!
Toddlers are better than them....they need another title.
@@jessaye4809True!!😂😂😂
raging toddlers @@jessaye4809
Dealing with a narc for the second time... totally traumatized and hurt.
She just described my dad and my ex husband.. Dad was it was never his fault. Same with ex husband. 😊
You are so right. My sister had epic meltdowns that alienated everyone. It was colossal. She also had a very strange way of thinking and projecting really gross things into other people. Literally awful. So happy we asserted boundaries. She is not allowed here.
I swear this describes half of my family!!!😢
Dr. Ramanu, the only psychologist I've seen that really understands narcissists and makes zero excuses for them.
Like everyone else in the narcs life...
Mine would keep me on the phone for several hours talking about his mommy issues lol. Thank God I don’t have to deal with that anymore.
Omgosh!!! And what is it with the narcs and they Mommas!?!? 🤔🤔🤔
Yep. Talking for hours without ever listening!
Flexibility around dissapointment. That is key to catch a narcissistic person.
100%. This is what my 2 1/2 year long divorce to my ex-husband was like.
Ongosh
My ex completely changed when his office was moved to another city ...when I walked in he said I am going to make you so miserable you will have to leave me
I barely crawled out of that Marraige and he continued to be a pervert and do things only I saw
Perfectly straightforward lecture!
Yes my ex is a narcissist. Actually filed divorce and completely cut me off financially as a power trip: been a fun ride
Relatable 100%. Had to move cross country to get away from the aftermath and just heal
Marriage counseling empowered my narc. Should have saved the time and money on a vacation. Alone!
I’ve been through that-she is right!!!😢
Soooo true! Hit the nail on the head.
🙌🏾Facts she cheated all the time and I was to blame for everything. My favorite day when she sued me for defamation of character when we were on opposite sides of the country and had to do court via zoom. when she was going to explain twin flames to the judge… 🤗🍿I got my popcorn. The judge looked sooo confused 😵💫
So, so accurate 😢😢
That sounds like everyone on earth
No but a lot of people in the US. More coming in the next generation.
Dr. Ramni, I really liked the you're explaining the narcissist😮😮😮
Hey my ex acted like a victim all the time, when I filed for divorce. And all his friends start telling what a liar he is. And by the way they are all his friends, none of them believe him 😊
SOMETIMES THE Best way to cope with it is Becoming One Ourselves 👌 👍
My husband and i are seperated after police put an AVO in place for mine and my children's protection.
I saw it as an opportunity to get individual counselling and develop ourselves separately: therapeutic separation.
Well!
Not him!!
He put it on social media that its a "break up" & that he "still loves" me "very much, but clearly" i have "no love left for" him.
He cannot see two feet into the fiture to realise he had an opportunity to make changes so that we could reconcile.
Instead, its my fault for "not loving him" rather than his abusive behaviour and unsafe-ness for me and my children.
My gosh!
They are the victim if you don’t go along with their agenda of a one sided relationship where just their needs are #1 priority.
@leonab545 yes. He has created a massive victim identity - it is literally WHO HE IS. He cannot see himself for who and how he truly is 😭 it's so sad and heartbreaking 💔 because I believed him and believed IN him and put me and my kids at risk to be there for him.
He ruined it for himself.
@@elsh332 They always self sabatoge.
You and your children deserve to live a life of peace
And people on the outside seem to forget or not realize that you have been trying to make it work for a loooong time, when they act like, "See? He really loves you, and you won't go back?"
This is exactly, what she says to me! It’s my mother, my grown sons, etc ..
Right now my NPD sibling is drunk as a skunk and looking for reasons to keep our mother's cremation from being interned properly. She literally wants affirmation to do this.
Meanwhile... thinks it's appropriate to dump my mother's brother's ashes anywhere but return them to his widow. Her son died in May and she's milking it for all it's worth.
Abomination. Desecration of the dead to get her supply. Disgusts me.
If not bad enough my dear younger brother's heath went south, while his narc wife did nothing even threatened to leave him in his poor health, he did die, she didn't inform us for a whole week, then attacked us. Then came and expected my sister to pay for a trip acrx country to nephew wedding?! My sister could not do that, esp after being treated badly. Since then my brother's woman of 37 years, part of the family won't speak to us.
I know someone who is a narcissist and she said that she wouldn't get divorced, unless she had somebody to remarry, lined up already😮
You described my ex-wife right up until the point when you said that (the narcissist would complain) the system is stacked against them… WELL, The fact is is that the court system IS against me because I’m the man… no victim, just facts!
How did I get to NOT raise my children daily, see them ONLY 30% of the time, while they live with another man in MY house? All because she was unhappy?
Answer that!
THE LAWS ARE SHAMEFULLY STACKED AGAINST MEN
Men built the system that now works against them
The secret to success is knowing who to blame.
Seiously, if you watch Dr. Ramani and realize you are in a narcissistic relationship, leave. Just leave. You deserve better. Get your pets and leave. No amount of watching this will help you fix it or deal better. Just leave as soon as possible. And get your kids in counseling.
It’s easier said then done. I’m in the process myself 😢
Something I witnessed between two people: “You got sick because you didn’t do what I told you.”
(To me): “She’s always doing this to herself. She’ll never learn.” The poor sick person had to sit there being maligned for her misfortune. I saw it. When I spoke up for her, saying she needed to be cared for with kindness, the narc stomped away like a spoiled child.
TRUTH!
You're absolutely spot on... everything was my fault!
We talk about narcissists as if they cannot be changed, their behavior is conscious and we just need to be able to recognize and stay away from them. Meanwhile, we REQUIRE a victim of these types of people to “heal”. We hold no accountability to them. Just keep talking and talking about them and how to stay away from them, heal from them, etc. When tf are we going to start telling THEM to go heal? To go fix themselves? To stay away from innocent people? To change?
The narcissists are a lost cause. They can't be helped.
This is so true narcissists know what they are doing is wrong they just choose not to change
My ex is blaming me for her cheating, never seeing her daughter, spending all of our money, and being gone all of the time lol.... like what!
I can't help but to laugh at the stupidness. Now she is triangulating me, telling the judge I'm aggressive, she is scared, mentally abusing my daughter...
She is a Dr and is very upset she has to pay me alimony 😊
Lol they are so obsessed with controlling the finances and putting their partners down, calling it all “their” money and then a judge tells them that they have to share (like they should have all along). It’s almost like compensation for them using you without reciprocity, treating you like an object, not like a person with their own needs
@@leonab545
100%
So far the judge awarded me alimony in a emergency hearing before we go to court... She did not like that one bit.
We will see what the judge says when we go to court and I bring out all of her dirty laundry.
Always the victim. My ex used to blame all her emotional stuff on me. If i had done better. She wouldnt be doing that. Even with the cheating. Now she has a misc diagnosis and its still my fault. As a nurse i should have diagnosed her issues. Never mind that she didnt love me when we got married, that the relationship was horrible and she hates me. Per her.
Dr. Ramani looks fabulous !!!
How do we save ourselves
Work on yourself and make a plan
Get out !!
Leave
Run and never look back
Been involved with one of these people for 7 years
Been split for 2 years
I want them to change
Its never gonna happen
Losing hope
I can't believe how perfectly on point you are!!!!
So many times I have asked myself if I'm a narc (as I do have so much unresolved childhood trauma).
However, my foster mom told me that Narcs don't generally ask themselves if they're narcs. They don't care and would never admit to it. 😅
Hope she's right 😂
They cannot regulate disappointment. Yep.
As a codependent who grew up with narcissists, they end up teaching us to blame others and it's difficult getting those toxic narcissistic traits out.
Seeing this in a buddy's divorce right now. Every disappointment rocked the marriage. Nothing could be good enough.