"They are wired to deceive, they are not wired to provide." This!! Understanding this, is what has helped me realize no matter what, it never would have gotten better and it's not better with the new supply.
Hell no they aren’t happy. Rebound hookups or relationships prove a couple things. They are trying to fill a void, they cannot handle being alone. They have unresolved feelings & issues and bring that onto the new person. Those same bad habits are brought to the new person. Do they feel good when they first meet this new person? Yeah probably but it fades away cuz they rush into things like they did us. They cannot fully love because they aren’t healed from there past. They cannot take accountability
You have to be as cold blooded to them as they are to you. It won't change anything, but it will help you restore your sanity and allow healing to start. Also, give up all hope.
I wasted 22 years feeling sorry for my emotional abuser. I now no longer care about his childhood trauma, especially as he’s caused our children’s childhood trauma. I never knew why his family didn’t want him…I do now 😔
Yes this is how it is exactly 😢 they always test your limits and then blame you for not providing what they want and this is the reason as they say fir which they will cheat or missbehave towards you. Me, thanks Gid, I did not give what he expected, it is not in my nature... so I was disgarded.. feeilng some relief now though
Exactly as you say was my experience. After 5 years of total dedication to her her kids her needs I started to withdraw my services fixing her house fixing her car fixing her kid's car buying her daughter a car I started to retreat from the relationship because she had slowly taken away Piece By Piece from our relationship and I couldn't understand why. At the 7-year point I had had enough of being discarded and devalued and I was the last priority on her list when she was the number one priority on my list. So I left and I said to her all I wanted you to do was be fair to spend time in my life to spend time with my son to share time at my house like I spend time at your house but she wouldn't do it. So while my heart is true and after 18 months apart I still love the illusion she projected but she went straight off with another man within a couple of weeks. It showed me that I truly was worth nothing to her once I stopped doing everything she wanted. It's very hard to heal from being treated like this. I have to keep reminding myself that she was only ever an illusion an act and she's a very good actress. The hardest lesson was I don't know how to ever trust anyone again.
It's a hard pill to swallow when they replace so quickly and act like strangers. Like there wasn't anything between you. I had exact same treatment from the ex, he moved on so quickly I was absolutely shocked. Its better to have these demons out of our lives. It's a blessing
Don't ...Trust this sort. She will just dupe you sooner. Men think great she doesn't want marriage. ... because she's still shopping every chance she gets. Women fool men all the time playing the pretend wife. Thank God you don't have to share retirement, 401k, and destroy, and cs for kids that are not yours. He'll in Fl they pay alimony for a long time. You are blessed.
This can happen in a work setting as well. "Keep up the good work and you'll get full time." I finally realized that was never going to happen. Then I realized I was better off as a PRN anyway. I could actually get more hours and take off more easily.
Please.. this isn't helpful. Magical thinking doesn't make you the sane rational one in the relationship. Keep grounded and do your best to understand how NPD is created in children.. by humans.
They want you to perform well, be loyal, and stay dependent. You’re a pet.
Exactly. I'm living proof,,,but better realizing late rather than not at all
RUN👈🏻 they are wolves in sheep’s clothings, especially covert sociopaths. Those are also known as con artists👈🏻
"They are wired to deceive, they are not wired to provide." This!! Understanding this, is what has helped me realize no matter what, it never would have gotten better and it's not better with the new supply.
Hell no they aren’t happy. Rebound hookups or relationships prove a couple things. They are trying to fill a void, they cannot handle being alone. They have unresolved feelings & issues and bring that onto the new person. Those same bad habits are brought to the new person. Do they feel good when they first meet this new person? Yeah probably but it fades away cuz they rush into things like they did us. They cannot fully love because they aren’t healed from there past. They cannot take accountability
You have to be as cold blooded to them as they are to you. It won't change anything, but it will help you restore your sanity and allow healing to start. Also, give up all hope.
I dealt with this for 5 years it crazy how their minds works
I wasted 22 years feeling sorry for my emotional abuser. I now no longer care about his childhood trauma, especially as he’s caused our children’s childhood trauma.
I never knew why his family didn’t want him…I do now 😔
like pouring water into a bottomless bucket...
cool video.
Empty vessels make the loudest noises 😮
Well said!!!!
Yes this is how it is exactly 😢 they always test your limits and then blame you for not providing what they want and this is the reason as they say fir which they will cheat or missbehave towards you. Me, thanks Gid, I did not give what he expected, it is not in my nature... so I was disgarded.. feeilng some relief now though
Yep, they stopped as soon as I was hooked in.
All about them.
2024 NARC FREEEEE!!!!🎉
🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 me too love from Socorro NM.
Exactly as you say was my experience. After 5 years of total dedication to her her kids her needs I started to withdraw my services fixing her house fixing her car fixing her kid's car buying her daughter a car I started to retreat from the relationship because she had slowly taken away Piece By Piece from our relationship and I couldn't understand why. At the 7-year point I had had enough of being discarded and devalued and I was the last priority on her list when she was the number one priority on my list. So I left and I said to her all I wanted you to do was be fair to spend time in my life to spend time with my son to share time at my house like I spend time at your house but she wouldn't do it. So while my heart is true and after 18 months apart I still love the illusion she projected but she went straight off with another man within a couple of weeks. It showed me that I truly was worth nothing to her once I stopped doing everything she wanted. It's very hard to heal from being treated like this. I have to keep reminding myself that she was only ever an illusion an act and she's a very good actress. The hardest lesson was I don't know how to ever trust anyone again.
It's a hard pill to swallow when they replace so quickly and act like strangers. Like there wasn't anything between you. I had exact same treatment from the ex, he moved on so quickly I was absolutely shocked. Its better to have these demons out of our lives. It's a blessing
@@sanjmalik6282 they aren’t happy when they move on quickly they are desperate
Don't ...Trust this sort. She will just dupe you sooner. Men think great she doesn't want marriage. ... because she's still shopping every chance she gets. Women fool men all the time playing the pretend wife. Thank God you don't have to share retirement, 401k, and destroy, and cs for kids that are not yours. He'll in Fl they pay alimony for a long time. You are blessed.
Thank you for that information 🙏 merry Christmas 🎄
Another excellent video Joe! Merry Christmas !
They are not human anymore. Thank you 🙏 love from Socorro NM 💖.
Amen
This is what my dad did to my mom. I left the narc that i married. My mom is 86 and he has ruined her life.
😢 my dear friend just revealed to me that her mother is a narcissist. Crazyyyyyy 😮. She had to move.😅. It's sad when it's your own parents 😢
In 5 min. so much sense and beauty ! Thank you Joe ! 🤗❤
My x wen I asked tell me three things you love about me. They could only think of one. How committed I am.
I think he could of told you a list of things he loved about you but he chose to mentally devalue you instead smh
This can happen in a work setting as well. "Keep up the good work and you'll get full time." I finally realized that was never going to happen. Then I realized I was better off as a PRN anyway. I could actually get more hours and take off more easily.
Thank you for this insight…wish I would’ve had it long ago.
Thank you for your help I really needed to hire that
Thank You Joe fir Your Explanation !
I’m still in recovery, run as soon as you can.
You hit the nail on the head my friend. Question. Can you be manipulated AND conditioned without you ever knowing ir ??()
It took almost 30 years for me to see the mask drop
@@GimDandy6696WOW. Im so sorry 😢😢❤
@@scottoz7891 I'm happy to know that you have info about NPD that I didn't have all those years. Merry Christmas and good luck 👀
YES 💯
For sure
Truth✅
Wow, is this an important one.
Merry Christmas 🎄🎁
💯
They want a subject
I believe that it's demonic or spiritual attachment
100%
AGREED. She had the 3 scratches on her shoulder the HOLY Trinity. I believe she carried that with her 😮😮
Please.. this isn't helpful. Magical thinking doesn't make you the sane rational one in the relationship. Keep grounded and do your best to understand how NPD is created in children.. by humans.
1000% it’s not just a personality disorder. My ex narc would show me succubus videos and tell me not talk about God
@Flips44 wow! 😬 tells you all you need to know!
I luv her and will not stop!!!
Sounds like you are ready for more abuse. Bad plan.
Stop! Just let it go. Move on. The person you think you love doesn't exist.
Sounds more like an addiction, not love.
Not worth is brother! How many times has she cheated on you?
@@Flips44 I understand what you're saying completely but I'm going to do it anyway