potatotiel Im sorry but most women i know split most stuff or at least pay according with what they earn and they offer men as much presents as they offer them, im not saying that men don't ever pay for dates they do as well as women do if they like them, the red pill is a lot of stuff some do indeed are true some not really.
Rich: If a woman doesn't have sex with you by the first couple dates, get rid of her, she's not worth it. Also Rich, You don't want a woman with a high body count.
Bingo. I'd love to hear from the men on how they expect a low body count while simultaneously expecting sex in the first few dates?? Sounds like they expect women to hold off on every guy out there, but miraculously she gives in to HIM. As if men don't use women for sex in the first few dates then dump them.
Right… wtf. Women who wait are women who respect themselves and need to be emotionally connected guess what that takes? Time!!!!! I don’t like sleeping with ppl I barely know… it’s not good if I’m not fully turned on by them mentally, emotionally and spiritually… s
What women think they want and what they actually want is hilariously warped. Ask any woman what they want in a guy. Then see the guy she's actually dating... Or better yet listen to her list off everything she'd supposedly want, then point out her male friend meets that criteria, then watch her use this same cognitive dissonance for why he didn't make the cut.
BoardWheel i film you: She said i want a guy who work out - but she doesn’t! She said i want a guy with good job - she doesn’t She said i want a guy to be intellectual- she is not... And list continues. In reality they all at least feel who they are - so they hang out with same status and quality people as they are. But they will keep dreaming about Mr. Right guy (who she probably even won’t want to fuck)
Koko Chocolate lol .... If average men wanted 10s only, we wouldn't see so many average to below average women complaining about guys hitting on them all the time.
True ! Even when women are in relationship, they always look for someone who is doing better. They unrealistic standards suits maybe with 0,01 % of men - and these men know that there are a 10/10 ... why they should get in a relationship with a 6 or 7 /10 mother with 2 kids who doesn't bring anything to the table.
I got farther, faster when I learned not to be pushy about sex. The more I acted like I wasn't worried about it, the more she wanted it and it became a fun little game I'd play. Never took more than 30 days to get around the bases and "into home."
One one hand you say its bad sign she is waiting to have sex, but on the other you show a statistic that women with many sex partners problematic for relationships.
There isn't a contradiction here necessarily. His point is that girls that try and hold that up as a totem - when they have a history of hook ups and shit like that - are not really interested in the guy. This isn't about women with low body counts, or virgins, but it's about women who seem to control the relationship with tokens of intimacy...that's the problem.
You guys say that women who sleep with a bunch of men are considered undesirable but if a woman doesn't sleep with you in the start of the relationship then you should leave. I'm so glad i don't have to deal with this crap.
Non of this makes any sense. If women were sleeping with every guy that she dates after the 2nd or 3rd date imagine how long her list would be and then guys will end up using that against her and calling her low quality. I get what you mean but thats horrible advice in my opinion. If a guy is looking for a high quality girl expect her to want to take things slow. You are damned if you do and damned if you dont, you cant have it both ways.
Marthaavlogs that’s why you should make up your OWN MIND and make decisions that are in line with your values. In other words, what this guy is suggesting actually weeds out the guys who are just looking to use you. And there are plenty of them.
@@williamjconde it becomes less confusing when you stop mixing judgements from two different kinds of men, or rather from two groups of men with different motives
I met my present wife in 1995 as I was leaving a bad marriage of 10 years, she was leaving a recent bad relationship as well. On our first date I could see a affection & hunger in her eyes & touch that I hadn't experienced before, I liked her so much I didn't want to blow it by getting into her pants but one thing led to another & it was a fantastic experience on more than one level. The following day I proposed to her as the many women in LA I had gone out with as well as my lackluster marriage was quite a comparison & I knew it was something special, she said yes & we've just celebrated our 21st anniversary, not everything is a checklist or planned.
Maybe it’s not a guy who wrote this here! So it’s can be a lie! Or one of them cheating not a big deal if they don’t share the stories, use condoms and overall happy!
vinniecorleone62 I tip my hat to you, but I hope you do realize how insanely moronic it was to propose after 1 night, no matter "how special" it was and that it turned out well for the two of you.
vinnie - Please, whatever you do, NEVER give relationship or dating advice to anyone. What you did was insanely irresponsible and foolish. You basically pulled the pin on a grenade, shoved it down your pants, and beat one in a trillion odds when it didn't go off. You are soooooooooooooooooooo freaking lucky you have not been utterly wiped out.
Rich i disagree. ...... a woman who respects herself enough to not run around like a dog on heat you're criticising. refusing sex where there's no commitment doesn't mean that the woman is playing a game. male or female, don't be surprised if you get hurt if after investing time money and some emotion in someone you realise all you have in common is a mutual tingling in your pants. ...
Sorry man, the world is full of greys...it's not "she's playing you" or "she's riding the cock carousel". There's in between. A buddy told me about meeting a group of women in a bar one night and one offered to blow him in the men's within 30 minutes......that's a low quality woman. Another got to know him over the course of the night and he's still with her 10 years later, bought a house together etc etc etc. If you invest money in a woman, you're doing it wrong. If all you're into is the tingling, then there's nothing wrong with that either.
It s not like you as a man while dating a woman are not able to have sex with other women. Sex should not be the objective of men, just the cherry on top.
I think dating a guy and having sex after two or three dates is a bit soon for me. I need to feel comfortable with the guy and 3 dates it's not enough. If I was to sleep with every guy I went on a third date with I would have lots of bodies on me. My Vagina is not a supermarket. It's not about numbers but self respect. Waiting to get to know someone in a deeper level is not playing games. I am speaking for me personally not on behalf of other women. Women get attached with sex and sex with guys you recently met can be an emotional roller coaster. He is right guys are wired differently but I will have to respectfully disagree from my personal experiences his method will not work for me. Love this channel!
LILIANA SURIEL Agreed. Sex is more costly to women than it is to men, and women have to take responsibility for their lives and bodies. The third date is too soon for me but generally I know by the first date if I want to have sex with him or not. I told the current guy I'm seeing on the first date that I like to wait and he said he's fine with that. We've been seeing each other for a month and a half and I think the time is near but I have to wait for him to say it.
True it’s nots enough for me it will be a while in the relationship if it gets there, maybe 2 months or more because I want to wait till I know the relationship will last a good while is that ok?????
Depends on the level of attraction, and how you present yourself. IMO, when you do everything right, and you hit it off on the first date; she will want to sleep with you within 2 weeks. If you present masculine behavior, confidence, treat her like she isn't a princess, and have the balls to kiss her on the first date; she will want you very quickly. Never tell her your feelings....LOL! Just my experience!
Completely disagree. I totally get where you are coming from but its the MAN who should be choosing to wait. If you are doing things correctly, she should be WANTING to have sex with you and it is YOU who are choosing to wait. The problem is that so few men TEACH their son's HOW to build attraction and comfort with the girl he is pursuing to the point that she WANTS to have sex because she is so attracted and so comfortable with him that it is the man who is CHOOSING to wait. Anything short of the MAN leading is a failure as a man to be in charge of what is going on in the relationship from the get go.
Rob Schaller i agree in part but in reality I agree you can have enjoyable off the chain sex with someone who means nothing but nothing is stopping a man from saying no. the reality is men approach women primarily for sex because they don't need women for protection or provision. a man compartmentalises his tasks so sex is just sex until he wants more. a man who only wants sex will show his hand. women control sex but men control relationships.
The insecurities are different sexually between men and women. Men may worry about size, skill and performance once they have a willing partner and than afterwards whether she will be loyal or play them. Their anxieties are unique to the male experience. This is true for women as well but the insecurities take on an almost unimaginable complexity. Having sexual power over men because of sexual attractiveness is a two edged sword that cuts both ways. You can use it to get things from men including possible commitment but risk feelings of self loathing that come out of the different biology between men and women. Men fuck and women get fucked. This creates a dilemma because of how sex can impact a woman's self worth. If you notice what women read they are preoccupied with feeling good about themselves as "self esteem and self worth" to a degree that far exceeds men. Sex and their bodies trap them in a paradox that always threatens their self worth depending on their relationship with sex "as their body". Also there are many double messages. Men want a woman who will have sex with them but not one who has had sex with everybody else. When does she become a whore? How she is being perceived by a man never leaves her mind. In general women like sex as much as men and the culture created the word nymphomaniac because at some level men understand women can be far more sexual than them. Male fear of female sexuality adds to the paradoxes a woman must live with. Many of the games women play are about protecting their self worth far more than it is about manipulating men. Many woman are turning to the hook up culture and avoiding relationships altogether to avoid the problems of self esteem now that casual sex is acceptable. They now are in a position to experience great sex without the hits to their self worth. Relationships have become more dangerous than casual sex.
Katherine Kelly I've read your comments on couple videos and I've realized that you write something really deep and logical truth. Just curious about your age after how many years you got this experience and being a woman you say truth about females. Appreciate your honesty.
Dating advice from women is guaranteed to get you friend zoned. Its poison - avoid it. If you're regularly dating one woman and not getting laid you're being played for a chump. Women know immediately which guys they'll fcuk. If she's not banging you she's just not that into you. You'll probably have to give her a few dates so she doesn't have to feel like she's a slut. After that trust your experience.
It was a good advice. Almost everyone here is cynical and bitter because of hurtful experiences with women and yet you guys are still going for the easy ones. *The easy ones have been fucked and dropped so many times that they aren't right in the head, anymore.* They developed all kinds of issues. They aren't falling in love that deep, they get easily bored and they are far more likely to cheat.
@Stefan Urban What are you trying to tell me? That there are no differences between women? Don't be ridiculous. They are as different as men are. They have different values, different goals, and different "issues". You are the naive one if you ignore that.
If you believe she is worth the wait, you will wait. But you have to be a mature man that knows what he's looking for. Quality gets quality and if you men feel a woman needs to sleep with you after the first date or two YOU are not quality. What happened to respect! I am new to this channel and it is so sad to read how turned off and angry the majority of you are towards woman. We all have to date smart and guard our hearts until we get the green light. Please don't give up on women, there are many good ones out there. What is equally as sad is the women feel the same way about the men. I see faults on both sides, its like women have become men and men have become women! Just don't give up...we all deserve a fulfilling loving relationship. And... respect gets respect.
Women in the west are so f*cked up that they don't even know how messed up they are. Feminism has destroyed them Its pervasive everywhere in the western culture. It's in what they read, see and hear. You are on the blue pill pal and yo dont even know it
Female here. I was shocked by hearing even the one month... I say, fine, wait for like 3-4 dates, but by then know that you will stick with the guy. Otherwise you just constantly sleep around. Be honest to yourself and the guy and really get to know each other. Make it an interview, I don`t care. Do not just boost your ego with the meetups.
Wow 3-4 dates before sex? What incredibly high standards she must have. I’ve heard of this 3 dates before sex "rule" and it’s a pretty low bar in my opinion.
Female here as well, I love these videos especially when compared to what the female dating coaches, lol... my question would be if guys want sex so quick how is a woman to keep her notch count low if she gives it up. My boyfriend who is alpha waited about 7 weeks. We had had lots of very hot make out sessions and many conversations. We are both divorced and over 45. This is my first true alpha so I want to be the right kind of woman for him because he deserves that. Just curious because if a woman has sex on the 3rd or 6th date she would end up with lots of guys in just a year or two.
Another great video..no filler. There has to be reciprocal physical attraction immediately. I side on a three or four date intimacy build up before the main event. That gives you both a chance to vet each other, plan for sex, and the short wait time usually makes the outcome ( no pun intended) better. If a woman "uses" sex in any way at any time...you are getting played.
I disagree. The best shittest a woman can give is to make the guy wait. If a guy wants something serious, he will be more into the girl if she doesn't give in after just three dates. I'm not saying he will be happy but he will realise that if she is hard to get for him, she was hard to get for others as well and probably hasn't slept anywhere near as much around as an easy woman did. It is also far less likely that a woman who was difficult to get into bed with will cheat and that's not a small thing. If he wanted nothing but sex from her, he will be gone after the third date and that's good too. *What it comes down to is that most men want to have sex with easy women, but they don't want to commit to them.*
Kyle, I don't mean to offend you, but equating "good guy" with "beta male" is stupid. Most women want a provider. I agree with that but successful people are not beta males. They are Alphas. They are winners and leaders. And that's not all women want from a guy to consider him to be the one to settle down with. They want someone who will not cheat on them or leave them for someone younger when they hit the wall. They want a good father. Things like that. I don't blame them for any of this, because it all makes sense.
I know horrible cases like that as well. But I also know plenty of cases in which married guys with children are cheating on their wives or leaving them for someone younger. Imagine that from the perspective of a woman who invested her best years into a guy who then drops her like garbage, as soon as she gets wrinkles. That's fucked up too. There are plenty of people who aren't marriage material. Maybe it's even the majority. That is why I think it is very important to gather whatever information you can get about a person's past and to judge them unforgivably by it before you commit to them.
+Alexa Konig Your comment is a load of shit.There is nothing wrong with being open about your sexuality and having sex within the first few dates. What IS wrong is when the man OR woman are seeing other people at the time. Peoples don't go on dates to be buddies, they go on dates for a passionate relationship. A woman who thinks holding back sex just to test a guy is an idiot and playing games, and a real man isn't going to play games. He is going to express his sexual interest in a woman, and if she can't express herself, then goodbye. I've never broken up with a woman because she fucked me quickly. I've broken up with them because I started to see her true side when the facade she put up started to fall down since we are now closer, due to fucking.
Don't you want a woman whom is genuinely wanting to know who you are, seeing what you value and your beliefs? That can't be done in three dates. And whom is even counting the dates? When you meet someone and you enjoy their company, you stop counting the dates. You just want to explore what makes them tick and yes that includes physically building a sense of trust. Again time orientated. If I had sex with every guy that asked me to eat a steak with him, I would never see daylight. It just shows that if a guy us counting dinners for sexual reciprocation he would be better suited in finding a prostitute. At least everyone involved knows what will happen at the end of the night.
My experience is that a woman will insist on manipulation and complete control. If I want to be caged I'll consider giving the relationship an extension.
What? Those deep conversations are typically left for later in the relationship and will reveal themselves overtime. If there's chemistry and both parties are feeling it, I see no reason to wait for intimacy.
Really it all depends on what you want. If u just want to hook up then 3 dates max and thats it. If u really like her and want a committed relationship then wait till shes ready. That simple.
As a woman, I'm going to say that it's really strange for a woman to keep a man arbitrarily waiting for sex when there's otherwise good chemistry and they both really want to be intimate
@@DonnaDoveWinters I don't think the point it so keep a man waiting (that's just rude). The point for some people is they want to know the other person before having sex. After three dates, where the both of you are hiding your dirtiest secrets, you don't even know if your partner is crazy or violent. You know nothing about them. You just feel a very superficial, sometimes strong pull to them which says nothing about the compatibility of your values or lifestyles. It's just lust, a chemical reaction happening in your brain. Isn't brain chemicals a very unreliable way to pick your partners?
@BigLBA1 I got the analogy. Thing is, I think the analogy fits this situation perfectly? If you throw people into water some will obviously learn to swim, but most drown, right?
I’m 62 and back on the dating scene. I have a different philosophy now from when I was single in my 20’s and 30’s. Back then, if I didn’t get laid after 3 dates within 2 weeks, I was moving on. Now, I’m interested in a high quality woman and a LTR, possibly marriage. I’ve found such a woman. We have had 5 dates in 4 weeks, great times together, kisses and hugs, and feeling closer each time we meet. I don’t mind advancing this relationship at a slower pace regarding intimacy.
your're acting like you have a choice to just go out and fuck a woman as soon as you meet her.. you're lucky to even have a relationship at all with someone decent looking without throwing away 1000's of dollars
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Fast forward a few years and your daughter is dating a high school kid. He comes to you one day and complains that she's being a "pussy controller." He's seen this video and wants you to have a talk with her. How would you advise him? Would you tell him "it's never worth the wait"?
Good advice! It's all arbitrary. But generally a short time frame. Instincts seem to yell for sex to happen quickly, so it stands to reason that you wouldn't want to wait several dates/weeks in. But personally, I'd even say 2-3 dates in, if you haven't had sex or made out, then you're wasting your time bc that means someone is controlling some aspect of the physical side of the connection or there's just no chemistry. You might even be able to tell between 1-2 dates on that much tbh.
If you havnt smashed by hang out number 2 you have no game. Think about this gentlemen...shes has one night stands so someone was able to get it. If you can't you have no game
Colorful Days, there's nothing difficult about this. This generation of adults has lost the use of common sense. Mating is a negotiation. If you don't like the deal, leave and find a better deal. If one doesn't want to wait and the other doesn't want to put out, go your separate ways and find people that align with your wants and desires. Life is already hard enough, why complicate it more?
I disagree, what sex does is create a connection that otherwise would not be there if not for sex and it and it creates feelings or emotions for that person before you can actually have a real connection for who that person is. Premature sex will give u a false connection. And just cause you to waste your time. Also: Does anyone any more believe in waiting? I guess we know better than God.
This is all wrong, all of it, on so many levels smh 🤦♂️ the world is screwed. Sex is meant for marriage. Most humans will never understand how great it is really meant to be. An we wonder why the entire world is divorced or marry for the wrong reasons. Man kind is blindly dumbed down by the world, it's so sick.
I'm with you there, I don't think we select our partners regardless, but we apply our reasons post hoc. But I think the point is she should demonstrate some self control, whilst showing you how she feels. And like you said it's different for each person.
The 2nd or 3rd date is hardly time to vet someone and find out what they're about. You can like someone when playing mattress mambo, but when the sex is over with, what do you have? In this day and age of psychotic people and incurable sexually transmitted diseases, it's good to get to know a person first--male or female. Granted, if the chemistry is good it's good, but if the condom breaks or the pill fails, you're on your own. You could wind up being tied for life to someone you later can't stand.
Complete rubbish - it also works both ways, so the female victim mentality is hardly relevant. The condom breaks he'll be on the hook for 18 years child support. It's hiughly unlikely that she'll be tied for life as she trots down to the divorce lawyer nearly 70% of the time.
@@thehowlingmisogynist9871 well being pregnant is being tied for life In the sense that no other man at least not one of value that she desires will want her. And her anniciating the divorce doesn't change the fact that she puts herself in a fuck up position as well ( she probably despises her husband so badly that she would rather be lonely and provide for herself for the rest of her life because that's what is more likely to happen). As a man, although I agree it screws you too if you manage to have your finances and physic right you'll have a chance with other women. I know men who divorced and got a new younger hotter chick pregnant and moved on
I'm against having sex outside of a relationship, let alone marriage. I believe people should be in a commited relationship prior to having sex. Why? I have values, that's why.
Also for your consideration however, is that women (generally speaking) bond faster with a sexual partner due to oxytocin levels and other chemical/physiological processes. My view, as a woman, is that again in general it may be better to wait a bit. I don’t necessarily think we should put a hard and fast time limit or number of dates to this idea - I think it should be more about quality. What I mean is, you can have a number of telling conversations during the time between the first, second, and third dates to establish that there is enough trust to sleep together. Think of people in a long distance situation - or even two busy people who’s first 3 dates may be over the span of a month. (In today’s busy work week and various schedules it is entirely possible to not have a third date until a month from the first date). That’s a good amount of time in there for some good phone or Skype conversations to get to know each other AND...guess what guys...that chit chat WILL get you closer to the cookie (assuming it’s good conversation and you’re establishing a rapport and a spark!)😁
Exactly how me and my fiance are. We started as a LDR, 3 hours apart and busy working class people. We go on just 3 dates per month. Every day we talk 1-3 hours on the phone to nkock out the "get to know eachother" better stuff and when we finally see eachother it's all about the physical experiences, dates to nice places, nice hotels, good sex, etc. Get the hard conversations over with on the phone with eachother and survive your first few arguments/disagreements over the phone then your trust and confidence in eachother grows.
What's the difference in a women saying I want to date for 3 months before we have sex and a man saying it should take 3-4 dates? They both sound like time tables. Sex should happen naturally.
It's virtually impossible to pick an exact day or date to have sex with someone before you meet them. It is important to protect yourself from being used or given a disease, I hold off untill I feel relaxed with the person and I have never regretted it. As far as I'm concerned if a man thinks he should get sex on the first date he needs a therapist or a prostitute!! Lol
You're teaching a younger generation of men how to be redpilled. Great, but won't this advise work against your daughter when she's older, trying to look for a good guy?
I love your videos, Rich! Thoughts: I feel a logical inconsistency here. You make nine dates seem like an unnecessary, arbitrary thing, but then put the number at one or two dates, saying that the woman is probably not high-quality if she is willing to have sex that soon. However, that is still doing the same thing, just with a different number. If the connection is real and visceral enough that both parties want each other after date one or two, then a woman intentionally holding off because of arbitrary restrictions immediately puts image before connection in the relationship. If it takes more dates than that, but both parties can tell there is something real underlying the interactions, then isn’t that just groundwork for a genuine sexual connection, as well? Whether it’s one date, 5 dates, or nine dates, I feel like one can tell if/when the connection is right. I can totally see myself saying yes to one woman on a first date, and no to another on a fifth date, for instance. While there is wisdom in what you say, isn’t there more nuance to it? If a woman is willing to fuck me for any reason other than the fact that there is mutual desire and/or connection, that is a red flag, irrespective of the number of dates we’ve been on. Conversely, If she is willing to deny mutual desire and/or connection because of some number in her head, whatever number that may be, that is also a red flag because it puts the woman forever in the driver’s seat of the sexual relationship. Each experience and connection is different. If I’ve gone out on five dates with the woman and she “breaks down” to finally have sex with me, I don’t want it. But that would also be true on the first date. However, if sparks fly and something amazing happens on the first date, I wouldn’t want to be with a woman who is going to deny that level of connection just because of her own presuppositions. That can go down a very bad road over time, as well. Sorry for the long post. Just started watching your videos recently and really enjoy them. Thanks for what you do!
If the chemistry is there it will happen very soon, but the guy that will wait just long enough for her to be comfortable with him and let her take the lead kinda works well. Flirting and hot stuff along the way proves to him that the wait will be well worth it.
I'm sure I'm not the first guy to say this but I wish youtube and Richard were around 40 years ago. You younger guys have a gold mine of information with this channel.
There are so many things wrong with relationships today. I like sex as much as the next guy but why do we view and treat our women as whores? I suppose when we’re taught that we’re just a higher form of animal, we treat each other with less dignity and as animals. You know there’s a problem when you have different standards for your daughter and the woman you’re trying to bang. When people f* around with more than one person and you’re living in a highly sexualized world today, you have every problem imaginable. I’m far from being a saint, just expressing how it ought to be.
I found it to be true that dating advice from a woman is very helpful. It’s a very different story from what they say they want and what they actually Choose. Don’t ask the fish about how to catch fish, ask the fisherman. This is also true. I also found to be true that women who wait beyond a reasonable time , about 3 months, the sex was disappointing to say the least. There I was thinking it was going to be so great and when it finally happened it was just mediocre. What a let down. Onward and upwards.
I would wait until after the first date....If I see it's not going anywhere I'm out. No reason to waste anymore money and time than you already have. That's just my take on it
If you want a relationship and not just sex, you won’t care if the first time the sex was bad, you would work on it in a healthy was a couple . I’m so glad for this information so I can stay away from the men in these comments in real life dating lmao
Yes if they truly want more than sex, they would know that sex will come within the relationship, so they wouldn't pressure us for it nor give up on us completely. I understand your disgust, these men seem really low value, but hopefully good men who want more still exist.
I don't know if this matters but as I guy I would only have sex with a woman if I saw I future with her. I wouldn't want to be involved with someone that intimately and then find out shes a psycho, I think you need more than 3-4 dates to really know a person. For me, a few minutes of bedroom fun is not worth the drama. Guys need to put more value on their seed in my opinion.
I agree with the book. As a single dad my time was at a premium and often sealed the deal on date 1 or 2. Day one almost always if she was a single mom.
I really don't understand the logic of many comments...if she won't have sex with you right away, she is serious about the relationship and wants to show you that she doesn't have sex with every guy she meets and that you're special to her.
No. If she waits to have sex with you, it means she lacks genuine desire for you and won't give you good sex. This idea that women give "extra love" to men they dont sleep with is not true. If a woman has hooked up many times before and want with you, it doesn't mean she loves you more, it means she views you as a beta male and will give you less femininity, worse sex, and your relationship with her will be worse than it would have been had you been the guy she would bang on the first date. I'd only wait for a virgin or a woman with a body count up to 3. No hookups either. If other men didn't wait, i wouldn't. It puts me in a position where I am getting transactional sex rather than validational sex.
putting a "time" on it is absurd. Obviously if you just met someone and you do it right away, that's a red flag. But once you get to know someone well enough and you build good enough trust, then go for it. Let it come naturally, just be careful. I don't understand these "gotta wait x days/weeks/months" thing. If you both feel it and know eachother well enough and the chemistry is there, why not? Just don't be stupid.
Woman here! I totally agree. If you’re plotting sex with a guy that means you are manipulating him into doing what you want and means sex might night be something you enjoy so the sex will most likely be mediocre. I think the 3rd date is the sweeet spot. First date you’re still strangers. Second date you should have kissed by now and decided you want to continue. 3rd date you pretty much need to do it to make sure the sexual chemistry matches. If you’re waiting 9 dates, he’s pretty much playing mission impossible and only continuing just out of curiosity.
I've been waiting thirty years lol. Actually I was wondering if you think there should be any stigma over any person; man, women, trans.....whatever to not be that driven for sexual activity. I've never had sex and although I most definitely suffer from sexual frustration I seem to have made it to a place where I'm not driven to seek relationships and sex. Whenever I see couples together or even a bit of PDA I'm either completely indifferent or kind of disgusted. Don't get me wrong I'm entirely happy for others if they're in healthy relationships but I can't say that it's that important of an endeavor for me. Is there something wrong with me? Thanks
No there ain’t anything wrong because many concepts today’s world seem overrated truthfully that’s why you got to detach from sheep’s in society people that follow this trend or that normalisation one of ‘em being intimacy importance you see Break the cycle
A couple of years... In the mean time you can lavish your girl with your affection and presents so when the time comes for intimacy she knows you are the one! ;)
Y'all may be over-valueing sex apart from relationship. What's maybe most important to determine about a woman is if she's of good character and willing & able to be of benefit to you as a real friend/backer would. Then there's the further question of her being a good life-mate/wife ..good with kids, nurturing, stable etc. Best to not have those assessments skewed by 'sexual thrill & thrall'. Men tend to over-attach/romanticize/glorify women they have sex with ..clouds the judgement...when they should be finding multiple women of good character who'll be useful & benficial to them. 'Masturbation for 2 or more players' just isn't that worthwhile.
So this is for the guy that left the comment. Attraction is not a choice!!!!! If a girl is making you wait it's probably because you're a nice guy ( nothing wrong with that) and she wants to like because you have a lot of redeeming qualities, But!!! she doesn't have the gut-level of attraction for you. @Richard, Wow man, the first time you declined an offer? Now I don't have a boat load of experience with this but in my experience, it's better to just go home and.... before you sleep with women you don't find that attractive. I've done it three times now, where I'll be at a bar or party and I really didn't have any luck and I'm kinda horny so I lower my standards and take home a girl I'm not that attracted to, it always turns out bad because I'm just not into it. Maybe it's because I'm kinda picky but if a girl is like 20 pounds overweight or not that pretty it doesn't do it for me. I'm also not a total asshole. People are people regardless of how the physically look... So if I don't have a good time and she doesn't have a good time I just kinda go to bed feeling like a piece of shit.
Mario Rudinsky ...Totally agree. If there's no physical & mental connection, why even bother? Women know on a subconscious level how you truly feel about them as well, so nobody really wins in those type of situations.
Matthew Maranell really guys or just some women want to wait and make you wait till relationship stage because maybe they want to see if it’s going to last a while, get to know the person better, making you and her wait doesn’t always mean she’s not attracted to you.
litkate what you're saying is true. But think from a man's perspective why would a man take such a risk? Why is it a man's responsibility to risk getting his heart broken. A man has to approach = big risk, then wait = another big risk. All women have to do is wait. Now tell me why a man would make all the moves, take all the risks and then don't expect anything in return?
Yes, men should learn to reject women more often.. lowering your standards just to get laid is the type of mentality that helps to keep validating every fatty outta there
youtube sucks I'm not sure what the "big risk" is. If you're not yet exclusive what's to prevent you from simultaneously dating other women? After just a few dates and no sex it's unlikely that you're going to have your heart irretrievably broken if it fizzles out. Women experience rejection too and it hurts just as much. For the men thinking that women don't have to do anything and dating is just pie for them, try tuning into some of the dating channels aimed at women and read the comments beneath those videos. Many of the men commenting on Richard's channel believe that everything's unfair in favor of women, but most women feel the same about men. Sex is more personal and a bigger risk for women. Nobody should feel obligated to put out for someone they just met a few weeks ago.
litkate or, maybe, just maybe, he’s aware that he can just form a good relationship with someone who will actually want to fuck him instead of sticking with people who will see how much they can drain out of him before paying them with pussy
Not an Expert I get what your saying but some women don’t wanna give it up easily, say till they now it’s going good, they feel it’s gonna progress into a relationship or until it’s in the relationship stage, I am with someone 5 months and we haven’t done it yet he is not pushy at all, i plan to do it soon because I know it’s going good, the relationship is good, I can see my self being with him for a good while, I love him etc he is my first proper relationship also be first time sex for me.
litkate yea i get you. But, personally, it makes it hard to progress into a close relationship if I have to win over someone’s trust. It feels like they think I’m guilty until proven innocent. I love close relationships and I can be monogamous, but if I get the feeling they’re just using their body as a tool to see what they can get out of me, or see if they can manipulate me into fitting what they want, I’m not gonna waste my time. I get taking it slow, I didn’t have sex with my best female friend for over a year. I liked her character and she was fun to be around, so we just hung out to hung out and the most that happened was a playful kiss on the cheek or cuddling here and there. But I wasn’t gonna sit there and wait for her to *decide* she was into me by looking logically at her checklist of traits she’s judging me on. I dated other people. If she told me she wasn’t alright with me sleeping with other people while she was still on the fence, i would’ve cut her off. Pussy isn’t worth the hustle, it’s nothing special worth letting yourself get manipulated over
Not an Expert ok I get your point, your right what’s the point over something that’s no special it’s something great happens naturally. Thx for the advice anyway 😊👍🏻
The union of sex releases bonding chemicals -much more for women. And why its so impt to marry a woman with a Low N partner count-as well as having similar outlook on FAITH and Budgeting Money- agree on them, and divorce is less than 10% according to Dave Ramsey. Outside of that, using a girl just for her money isnt really that cool either unless its agreed upon prior to.
Usually wait to 3rd date, if no mind blowing sex by then, he's not passionate or confident enough for me. If he kisses me on the first date with the passion that makes other ppl demand we take it somewhere private, or they going to call the cops, then, who am I to say no ;) ... I enjoy confident aggressively assertive men & I view monogamy in a guy as pathology, it would stress me if he only wanted me. Maybe those civilizations that allowed or even encouraged men to marry with as many women as they had the abilities to have a good model? I am not a jealous type & quite happy to share. I am not into one night stands but I also don't want to be crowded. I feel most women miss out on enjoying men (& sex) to the fullest by making sex a commodity for trade & demonizing men. Lots of potentially great men have been damaged by this & society has suffered because of the loss of our warrior poets. I never give myself to anyone, I share myself, it's beautiful & empowering for both ...
David Ross its OK, sex is not for everyone, each to their own ... I have needs & kick ass occupation that requires most of my time, I got no time to waste playing like I am not enjoying a guys attention ... a couple that hunt together stays together ;)
David Ross it's OK, you'll find what you looking for ... A girl that will make you provide for her, you'll be happy with each other, I wish you well, blessings :)
I typically follow Tom Leykis for dating standards (3 dates max), but I’ll hold out to up to 5 dates as a cutoff. This is only because I tend to date foreign (non feminist) women who generally don’t follow the American standard.
Sex is an important facet of a relationship for me. 3 dates is the limit. If by the third date we haven't had sex, I lose interest. I don't know if I'm being played or if the squeeze is worth my time. For me, why become invested emotionally while waiting only to find out the sex is not good? We are all different creatures and I understand that. If by the third sex hasn't happened, that means the woman I am dating is too different than me to invest my time.
I could have used this advice after high school. 32 now and I have yet to find that middle ground woman. 100% have either given it up within the first 2 dates or made me wait. Remember fellas, don’t put it on a petestal. Steve Harvey even said it in front of an entire audience of women. It was an epic moment in history.
Obviously not your real, but the exception to this I see is if you want to wait until marriage because that's just what you want to do. This could be from religious reasons or because you just think that's what will make you happiest. I do think this makes sense though and is a good guideline for those not practicing abstinence.
I have not dated since 2006, so I have no idea how long to wait. After a few crap assed relationships I just decided to stay single. Imam not sure what I want to do currently.
That's what I did, I was single for 5-6 or even 7 years because I got cheated on and such, relationships just didn't seem to work. Eventually though (now I'm 29yo) I wanted to find someone again, mostly because I'm kinda emotional guy and need that contact and such with a girl that likes me and I like her. You'll figure out what you want some day, for some people it takes longer time. I'm now myself in a relationship again, I hope it goes well but I'm being careful
If a woman gives it up on the 1st date the Chase is gone and the thrill is gone. I think men are hard wired to move on if a woman gives it up on the 1st date. A woman needs to play a man and at the same time show him that she's interested. On the 1st date the woman should do a little bit of kissing. 2nd date a little bit more kissing but let the man know that hes not coming over to her house or vice versa. 3rd date and 4th date do an activity bike riding skiing something not Including nightlife and alcohol. 5th date go to one of your houses and cook dinner together and stay up all night long. Something like this is a good start.
Hi, I'd like to comment about the previous video I watched about hypergamy. In my own experience, I dated this man who's 11years older than me. He wasn't good looking, but man, I was in love with him. After watching your video, I truly realized to why I felt that way lol. This happened over 2 years ago. I was in love with him because he showed to me that he has money and power. He makes good income and took me to a trip to San Antonio all paid. See, now I'm older and I make good income myself , I get disappointed with men that I make more money than them. Having that good stable income job is definitely a plus for a husband material lol
If a woman will sleep with you first or second date, doesn't mean she's easy. It just means there's attraction that needs satisfaction. You can be a judge of character and can usually tell her qualities. If she's love bombing you, you can tell. There has to be genuine mutual sexual attraction early in a relationship, to get it moving forward. But there is no right way, we are all different, so if you are happy to take your time, then do so.
In my experience, women are not looking for "Mr. Right"...they are looking for "Mr. Right NOW"...and then they try to change you, especially if they have hit that "wall" at 35. I agree with this guy's advice. I have made all of the mistakes he mentions...I have made some of those mistakes more than once. Work on yourself. You are the prize, guys.
If she hasn’t at least kissed you by the 3rd date she’s there for the food
Facts
Tommy Gainer what if she pays for it too?
potatotiel A little more than half the times
potatotiel Im sorry but most women i know split most stuff or at least pay according with what they earn and they offer men as much presents as they offer them, im not saying that men don't ever pay for dates they do as well as women do if they like them, the red pill is a lot of stuff some do indeed are true some not really.
potatotiel Both
Rich: If a woman doesn't have sex with you by the first couple dates, get rid of her, she's not worth it.
Also Rich, You don't want a woman with a high body count.
If the woman is no longer a virgin, no waiting is justifiable. Waiting for girls with high body counts is just a theatre. Only hungry betas do that.
Bingo. I'd love to hear from the men on how they expect a low body count while simultaneously expecting sex in the first few dates?? Sounds like they expect women to hold off on every guy out there, but miraculously she gives in to HIM. As if men don't use women for sex in the first few dates then dump them.
Right… wtf. Women who wait are women who respect themselves and need to be emotionally connected guess what that takes? Time!!!!!
I don’t like sleeping with ppl I barely know… it’s not good if I’m not fully turned on by them mentally, emotionally and spiritually… s
@@christinak703 they are the creey unsafe toxic immature men.
What women think they want and what they actually want is hilariously warped.
Ask any woman what they want in a guy. Then see the guy she's actually dating... Or better yet listen to her list off everything she'd supposedly want, then point out her male friend meets that criteria, then watch her use this same cognitive dissonance for why he didn't make the cut.
Agreed
BoardWheel i film you:
She said i want a guy who work out - but she doesn’t!
She said i want a guy with good job - she doesn’t
She said i want a guy to be intellectual- she is not...
And list continues. In reality they all at least feel who they are - so they hang out with same status and quality people as they are. But they will keep dreaming about Mr. Right guy (who she probably even won’t want to fuck)
Buuzzsaw Touched Me applies to men most average men want 10 women who is 10 at every aspect and hardly get it and marry very different type so?
Koko Chocolate lol .... If average men wanted 10s only, we wouldn't see so many average to below average women complaining about guys hitting on them all the time.
True ! Even when women are in relationship, they always look for someone who is doing better. They unrealistic standards suits maybe with 0,01 % of men - and these men know that there are a 10/10 ... why they should get in a relationship with a 6 or 7 /10 mother with 2 kids who doesn't bring anything to the table.
a woman's dating tips is the best way to get yourself in the friend zone
I got farther, faster when I learned not to be pushy about sex. The more I acted like I wasn't worried about it, the more she wanted it and it became a fun little game I'd play. Never took more than 30 days to get around the bases and "into home."
In a brothel i usually wait 3 to 7 minutes.
One one hand you say its bad sign she is waiting to have sex, but on the other you show a statistic that women with many sex partners problematic for relationships.
This seems bit odd for me to like is it good or not cmon, do I wait with a girl or do I just hit it and go with a flow no feeling involved
@@zvonimirskvorc3006 this is often the contradiction of red pill guys lol
There isn't a contradiction here necessarily. His point is that girls that try and hold that up as a totem - when they have a history of hook ups and shit like that - are not really interested in the guy. This isn't about women with low body counts, or virgins, but it's about women who seem to control the relationship with tokens of intimacy...that's the problem.
False dichotomy. Those are not opposites or mutually exclusive.
You guys say that women who sleep with a bunch of men are considered undesirable but if a woman doesn't sleep with you in the start of the relationship then you should leave. I'm so glad i don't have to deal with this crap.
y u gay?
BonBon Nope, I'm a female who is engaged to my first boyfriend.
Exactly! It makes no sense
The issue is inconsistency. You’ll make certain guys wait, but not other men.
Astrid Sørensen I don't understand it either, personally I think 3 dates isn't that much. Need to make it like 7 at Least.
Non of this makes any sense. If women were sleeping with every guy that she dates after the 2nd or 3rd date imagine how long her list would be and then guys will end up using that against her and calling her low quality. I get what you mean but thats horrible advice in my opinion. If a guy is looking for a high quality girl expect her to want to take things slow. You are damned if you do and damned if you dont, you cant have it both ways.
Marthaavlogs that’s why you should make up your OWN MIND and make decisions that are in line with your values. In other words, what this guy is suggesting actually weeds out the guys who are just looking to use you. And there are plenty of them.
Marthaavlogs...i totally agree..
most woman get around this by not giving their exact numbers, its not like theres some dude out there with a clicker
Yeah, 3 or 4 dates is NOT enough. Why don't people respect the sanctity of sex? It's not a small deal!
@@williamjconde it becomes less confusing when you stop mixing judgements from two different kinds of men, or rather from two groups of men with different motives
I met my present wife in 1995 as I was leaving a bad marriage of 10 years, she was leaving a recent bad relationship as well. On our first date I could see a affection & hunger in her eyes & touch that I hadn't experienced before, I liked her so much I didn't want to blow it by getting into her pants but one thing led to another & it was a fantastic experience on more than one level. The following day I proposed to her as the many women in LA I had gone out with as well as my lackluster marriage was quite a comparison & I knew it was something special, she said yes & we've just celebrated our 21st anniversary, not everything is a checklist or planned.
Red RaiderRider fight it out, thunderdome style. XD
Maybe it’s not a guy who wrote this here! So it’s can be a lie! Or one of them cheating not a big deal if they don’t share the stories, use condoms and overall happy!
Wow congrats man
vinniecorleone62 I tip my hat to you, but I hope you do realize how insanely moronic it was to propose after 1 night, no matter "how special" it was and that it turned out well for the two of you.
vinnie - Please, whatever you do, NEVER give relationship or dating advice to anyone. What you did was insanely irresponsible and foolish. You basically pulled the pin on a grenade, shoved it down your pants, and beat one in a trillion odds when it didn't go off. You are soooooooooooooooooooo freaking lucky you have not been utterly wiped out.
Rich i disagree. ...... a woman who respects herself enough to not run around like a dog on heat you're criticising. refusing sex where there's no commitment doesn't mean that the woman is playing a game. male or female, don't be surprised if you get hurt if after investing time money and some emotion in someone you realise all you have in common is a mutual tingling in your pants. ...
Yes -it does mean she is playing a game. She is comodifying sex as a unit of exchange
Sorry man, the world is full of greys...it's not "she's playing you" or "she's riding the cock carousel". There's in between. A buddy told me about meeting a group of women in a bar one night and one offered to blow him in the men's within 30 minutes......that's a low quality woman. Another got to know him over the course of the night and he's still with her 10 years later, bought a house together etc etc etc.
If you invest money in a woman, you're doing it wrong. If all you're into is the tingling, then there's nothing wrong with that either.
It s not like you as a man while dating a woman are not able to have sex with other women. Sex should not be the objective of men, just the cherry on top.
@@andipajeroking lookee here, we have a beta in our midst......I think you missed the class on biology or did you skip it to attend gender studies?
True dud
I think dating a guy and having sex after two or three dates is a bit soon for me. I need to feel comfortable with the guy and 3 dates it's not enough. If I was to sleep with every guy I went on a third date with I would have lots of bodies on me. My Vagina is not a supermarket. It's not about numbers but self respect. Waiting to get to know someone in a deeper level is not playing games. I am speaking for me personally not on behalf of other women. Women get attached with sex and sex with guys you recently met can be an emotional roller coaster. He is right guys are wired differently but I will have to respectfully disagree from my personal experiences his method will not work for me. Love this channel!
LILIANA SURIEL Agreed. Sex is more costly to women than it is to men, and women have to take responsibility for their lives and bodies. The third date is too soon for me but generally I know by the first date if I want to have sex with him or not. I told the current guy I'm seeing on the first date that I like to wait and he said he's fine with that. We've been seeing each other for a month and a half and I think the time is near but I have to wait for him to say it.
warmcozy what makes you want to fuck a guy
True it’s nots enough for me it will be a while in the relationship if it gets there, maybe 2 months or more because I want to wait till I know the relationship will last a good while is that ok?????
Modern Savage25 exactly, even though my body is telling me it wants it I’m make them wait,
LILIANA SURIEL If you met Brad Pitt would you make him wait until the 4th or 5th date?
Love the way he phrases it "I used to be patience about it but nowadays If nothing's happened within a week I'm gone." x'D
Also, "dating is for women you're already sleeping with." - RMG 😁
I’m just leaving society all together and live in the middle of nowhere!
I'm right with yeah
Now, thats the spirit of a winner!
Depends on the level of attraction, and how you present yourself. IMO, when you do everything right, and you hit it off on the first date; she will want to sleep with you within 2 weeks. If you present masculine behavior, confidence, treat her like she isn't a princess, and have the balls to kiss her on the first date; she will want you very quickly. Never tell her your feelings....LOL! Just my experience!
hhhhmmmmm............ sex is powerful and important. don't throw it around. the best sex is with someone you love.
scott sanger ...... so why only once?
Completely disagree. I totally get where you are coming from but its the MAN who should be choosing to wait. If you are doing things correctly, she should be WANTING to have sex with you and it is YOU who are choosing to wait. The problem is that so few men TEACH their son's HOW to build attraction and comfort with the girl he is pursuing to the point that she WANTS to have sex because she is so attracted and so comfortable with him that it is the man who is CHOOSING to wait. Anything short of the MAN leading is a failure as a man to be in charge of what is going on in the relationship from the get go.
Rob Schaller i agree in part but in reality I agree you can have enjoyable off the chain sex with someone who means nothing but nothing is stopping a man from saying no. the reality is men approach women primarily for sex because they don't need women for protection or provision. a man compartmentalises his tasks so sex is just sex until he wants more. a man who only wants sex will show his hand. women control sex but men control relationships.
Gayyyyy
The insecurities are different sexually between men and women. Men may worry about size, skill and performance once they have a willing partner and than afterwards whether she will be loyal or play them. Their anxieties are unique to the male experience. This is true for women as well but the insecurities take on an almost unimaginable complexity. Having sexual power over men because of sexual attractiveness is a two edged sword that cuts both ways. You can use it to get things from men including possible commitment but risk feelings of self loathing that come out of the different biology between men and women. Men fuck and women get fucked. This creates a dilemma because of how sex can impact a woman's self worth. If you notice what women read they are preoccupied with feeling good about themselves as "self esteem and self worth" to a degree that far exceeds men. Sex and their bodies trap them in a paradox that always threatens their self worth depending on their relationship with sex "as their body". Also there are many double messages. Men want a woman who will have sex with them but not one who has had sex with everybody else. When does she become a whore? How she is being perceived by a man never leaves her mind. In general women like sex as much as men and the culture created the word nymphomaniac because at some level men understand women can be far more sexual than them. Male fear of female sexuality adds to the paradoxes a woman must live with. Many of the games women play are about protecting their self worth far more than it is about manipulating men. Many woman are turning to the hook up culture and avoiding relationships altogether to avoid the problems of self esteem now that casual sex is acceptable. They now are in a position to experience great sex without the hits to their self worth. Relationships have become more dangerous than casual sex.
Some truth bombs in there.
Katherine Kelly Great comment! I love how you laid it out.
Katherine Kelly Interesting comment. Would you care to elaborate on what you perceive as male fear of female sexuality?
Katherine Kelly girls cum...?
Katherine Kelly I've read your comments on couple videos and I've realized that you write something really deep and logical truth. Just curious about your age after how many years you got this experience and being a woman you say truth about females. Appreciate your honesty.
Hahaha the advice she gave is hilarious
Dating advice from women is guaranteed to get you friend zoned. Its poison - avoid it.
If you're regularly dating one woman and not getting laid you're being played for a chump. Women know immediately which guys they'll fcuk. If she's not banging you she's just not that into you. You'll probably have to give her a few dates so she doesn't have to feel like she's a slut. After that trust your experience.
It was a good advice. Almost everyone here is cynical and bitter because of hurtful experiences with women and yet you guys are still going for the easy ones. *The easy ones have been fucked and dropped so many times that they aren't right in the head, anymore.* They developed all kinds of issues. They aren't falling in love that deep, they get easily bored and they are far more likely to cheat.
Svetogor, Please, define "crazy" for me, because I dont think we are talking about the same thing.
Tell a woman how you feel = instant rejection.
@Stefan Urban What are you trying to tell me? That there are no differences between women? Don't be ridiculous. They are as different as men are. They have different values, different goals, and different "issues". You are the naive one if you ignore that.
Such horrible advice. Wait until marriage guys, wait until marriage.
Wish I checked out this video back in April of 2018. Would have saved myself a lot of money and heartache. Your the man Richard
If she makes you wait, she thinks you’re beta.
I came for the advice, I stayed for the beard.
I mean, I'm kidding, the advice is gold but that is also an epic beard.
If you believe she is worth the wait, you will wait. But you have to be a mature man that knows what he's looking for. Quality gets quality and if you men feel a woman needs to sleep with you after the first date or two YOU are not quality. What happened to respect! I am new to this channel and it is so sad to read how turned off and angry the majority of you are towards woman. We all have to date smart and guard our hearts until we get the green light. Please don't give up on women, there are many good ones out there. What is equally as sad is the women feel the same way about the men. I see faults on both sides, its like women have become men and men have become women! Just don't give up...we all deserve a fulfilling loving relationship. And... respect gets respect.
Women in the west are so f*cked up that they don't even know how messed up they are. Feminism has destroyed them Its pervasive everywhere in the western culture. It's in what they read, see and hear. You are on the blue pill pal and yo dont even know it
@@chuck1052 Exactly
Exactly.
If you treat her like a Queen she'll treat you like a subject!
Female here. I was shocked by hearing even the one month... I say, fine, wait for like 3-4 dates, but by then know that you will stick with the guy. Otherwise you just constantly sleep around. Be honest to yourself and the guy and really get to know each other. Make it an interview, I don`t care. Do not just boost your ego with the meetups.
Wow 3-4 dates before sex? What incredibly high standards she must have. I’ve heard of this 3 dates before sex "rule" and it’s a pretty low bar in my opinion.
I sometimes want to wait a couple of dates but somehow I always end up inside my dates on the first one 🥺
Female here as well, I love these videos especially when compared to what the female dating coaches, lol... my question would be if guys want sex so quick how is a woman to keep her notch count low if she gives it up. My boyfriend who is alpha waited about 7 weeks. We had had lots of very hot make out sessions and many conversations. We are both divorced and over 45. This is my first true alpha so I want to be the right kind of woman for him because he deserves that.
Just curious because if a woman has sex on the 3rd or 6th date she would end up with lots of guys in just a year or two.
pump and dump you get used 😂
Another great video..no filler. There has to be reciprocal physical attraction immediately. I side on a three or four date intimacy build up before the main event. That gives you both a chance to vet each other, plan for sex, and the short wait time usually makes the outcome ( no pun intended) better. If a woman "uses"
sex in any way at any time...you are getting played.
i cant respect a woman for a potential relationship if she cant show any restraint
that sums it up very well - its spontaneous, chemical reaction between people........not a negotiation
I disagree. The best shittest a woman can give is to make the guy wait. If a guy wants something serious, he will be more into the girl if she doesn't give in after just three dates. I'm not saying he will be happy but he will realise that if she is hard to get for him, she was hard to get for others as well and probably hasn't slept anywhere near as much around as an easy woman did. It is also far less likely that a woman who was difficult to get into bed with will cheat and that's not a small thing.
If he wanted nothing but sex from her, he will be gone after the third date and that's good too.
*What it comes down to is that most men want to have sex with easy women, but they don't want to commit to them.*
One more thing. "good guy" and "beta" are not the same thing. Nor is "bad guy" and "alpha".
Kyle, I don't mean to offend you, but equating "good guy" with "beta male" is stupid. Most women want a provider. I agree with that but successful people are not beta males. They are Alphas. They are winners and leaders. And that's not all women want from a guy to consider him to be the one to settle down with. They want someone who will not cheat on them or leave them for someone younger when they hit the wall. They want a good father. Things like that. I don't blame them for any of this, because it all makes sense.
I know horrible cases like that as well. But I also know plenty of cases in which married guys with children are cheating on their wives or leaving them for someone younger. Imagine that from the perspective of a woman who invested her best years into a guy who then drops her like garbage, as soon as she gets wrinkles. That's fucked up too.
There are plenty of people who aren't marriage material. Maybe it's even the majority. That is why I think it is very important to gather whatever information you can get about a person's past and to judge them unforgivably by it before you commit to them.
+Alexa Konig Your comment is a load of shit.There is nothing wrong with being open about your sexuality and having sex within the first few dates. What IS wrong is when the man OR woman are seeing other people at the time. Peoples don't go on dates to be buddies, they go on dates for a passionate relationship. A woman who thinks holding back sex just to test a guy is an idiot and playing games, and a real man isn't going to play games. He is going to express his sexual interest in a woman, and if she can't express herself, then goodbye.
I've never broken up with a woman because she fucked me quickly. I've broken up with them because I started to see her true side when the facade she put up started to fall down since we are now closer, due to fucking.
Agreed.
As ever, well delivered blunt advice that gives a big right hook to Political Correctness😎
F PC
that's why I love this guy lol
Don't you want a woman whom is genuinely wanting to know who you are, seeing what you value and your beliefs? That can't be done in three dates. And whom is even counting the dates? When you meet someone and you enjoy their company, you stop counting the dates. You just want to explore what makes them tick and yes that includes physically building a sense of trust. Again time orientated.
If I had sex with every guy that asked me to eat a steak with him, I would never see daylight. It just shows that if a guy us counting dinners for sexual reciprocation he would be better suited in finding a prostitute. At least everyone involved knows what will happen at the end of the night.
scott sanger Lust Amirite :/
My experience is that a woman will insist on manipulation and complete control. If I want to be caged I'll consider giving the relationship an extension.
What? Those deep conversations are typically left for later in the relationship and will reveal themselves overtime. If there's chemistry and both parties are feeling it, I see no reason to wait for intimacy.
Keep taking your red pills
These girls are stripping first date everytime mow. Its all timing and mood
You shouldn't sleep with anyone without getting to know them very well first. Goes for both genders
Bullshit, prude
yeah I would ..did, just fine :D
the sleeping with *is* getting to know them.
use condoms :)
you will know them truly only after a break up sadly. it's all an act people put on. everywhere and always.
@@IvanPolyansky Very true words.
“The sex is never worth the wait”, well said bro
Really it all depends on what you want. If u just want to hook up then 3 dates max and thats it. If u really like her and want a committed relationship then wait till shes ready. That simple.
Thank you!
As a woman, I'm going to say that it's really strange for a woman to keep a man arbitrarily waiting for sex when there's otherwise good chemistry and they both really want to be intimate
@@DonnaDoveWinters I don't think the point it so keep a man waiting (that's just rude). The point for some people is they want to know the other person before having sex. After three dates, where the both of you are hiding your dirtiest secrets, you don't even know if your partner is crazy or violent. You know nothing about them. You just feel a very superficial, sometimes strong pull to them which says nothing about the compatibility of your values or lifestyles. It's just lust, a chemical reaction happening in your brain. Isn't brain chemicals a very unreliable way to pick your partners?
@BigLBA1 I'm very interested, but too scared to ask how they teach children to swim in your country. It sounds rather dangerous.
@BigLBA1 I got the analogy. Thing is, I think the analogy fits this situation perfectly? If you throw people into water some will obviously learn to swim, but most drown, right?
I’m 62 and back on the dating scene. I have a different philosophy now from when I was single in my 20’s and 30’s. Back then, if I didn’t get laid after 3 dates within 2 weeks, I was moving on. Now, I’m interested in a high quality woman and a LTR, possibly marriage. I’ve found such a woman. We have had 5 dates in 4 weeks, great times together, kisses and hugs, and feeling closer each time we meet. I don’t mind advancing this relationship at a slower pace regarding intimacy.
your're acting like you have a choice to just go out and fuck a woman as soon as you meet her.. you're lucky to even have a relationship at all with someone decent looking without throwing away 1000's of dollars
@The Breach It's not like he has tons of time to waste.
This is so accurate. Way to go Richard! The young males are watching and listening.
There's no secret formula here, in my oppinion.
Wait until you see shes is really worth your energy.
I mean it.
i still remember that exact part of the rational male and it's the truth. thanks for the great content!
Okay guys, as always smash the like button, and throw a comment below with your thoughts on this subject. If you are stuck on anything, book me for coaching here: clarity.fm/richardcooper
*Girls don't ever never let any men take that from u until he's married u*
Fast forward a few years and your daughter is dating a high school kid. He comes to you one day and complains that she's being a "pussy controller." He's seen this video and wants you to have a talk with her. How would you advise him? Would you tell him "it's never worth the wait"?
Lol get rekd
Good advice! It's all arbitrary. But generally a short time frame. Instincts seem to yell for sex to happen quickly, so it stands to reason that you wouldn't want to wait several dates/weeks in.
But personally, I'd even say 2-3 dates in, if you haven't had sex or made out, then you're wasting your time bc that means someone is controlling some aspect of the physical side of the connection or there's just no chemistry. You might even be able to tell between 1-2 dates on that much tbh.
If you havnt smashed by hang out number 2 you have no game. Think about this gentlemen...shes has one night stands so someone was able to get it. If you can't you have no game
9 dates??? I couldn’t last that long!! Lmao
What if you're a virgin and just don't want to give it away so quick??
Exactly, you shouldn’t have to give it away so quick, just let them know your a virgin and when the time is right it will happen😊
Seato ejecto cuzzzz
Colorful Days, there's nothing difficult about this. This generation of adults has lost the use of common sense. Mating is a negotiation. If you don't like the deal, leave and find a better deal. If one doesn't want to wait and the other doesn't want to put out, go your separate ways and find people that align with your wants and desires. Life is already hard enough, why complicate it more?
Date more people. A lot more people.
@Colorful Days - Then don't give it away so quick. Really, it can wait.
I disagree, what sex does is create a connection that otherwise would not be there if not for sex and it and it creates feelings or emotions for that person before you can actually have a real connection for who that person is. Premature sex will give u a false connection. And just cause you to waste your time.
Also: Does anyone any more believe in waiting? I guess we know better than God.
Jason B...i totally agree...no wonder men and women have all these problems...thinking they are wiser than the Almighty God.
We represent God in differientated form.😉😎✌🏾
This is all wrong, all of it, on so many levels smh 🤦♂️ the world is screwed. Sex is meant for marriage. Most humans will never understand how great it is really meant to be. An we wonder why the entire world is divorced or marry for the wrong reasons. Man kind is blindly dumbed down by the world, it's so sick.
ArtMan yes the many "religions" of this world. A relationship with your creator will open your eyes to the truth. Be blessed artman
i told my girl im waiting till marraige..
StrengthThroughChrist bruh u need red pill right now!
StrengthThroughChrist
So, if I'm not married, what do I do about the NATURAL urges I get multiple times a day??
What if you marry her and find out the sex is no good? Hell no. You have to take a test drive.
I'm with you there, I don't think we select our partners regardless, but we apply our reasons post hoc. But I think the point is she should demonstrate some self control, whilst showing you how she feels. And like you said it's different for each person.
The 2nd or 3rd date is hardly time to vet someone and find out what they're about. You can like someone when playing mattress mambo, but when the sex is over with, what do you have? In this day and age of psychotic people and incurable sexually transmitted diseases, it's good to get to know a person first--male or female. Granted, if the chemistry is good it's good, but if the condom breaks or the pill fails, you're on your own. You could wind up being tied for life to someone you later can't stand.
Complete rubbish - it also works both ways, so the female victim mentality is hardly relevant. The condom breaks he'll be on the hook for 18 years child support. It's hiughly unlikely that she'll be tied for life as she trots down to the divorce lawyer nearly 70% of the time.
@@thehowlingmisogynist9871 well being pregnant is being tied for life In the sense that no other man at least not one of value that she desires will want her. And her anniciating the divorce doesn't change the fact that she puts herself in a fuck up position as well ( she probably despises her husband so badly that she would rather be lonely and provide for herself for the rest of her life because that's what is more likely to happen).
As a man, although I agree it screws you too if you manage to have your finances and physic right you'll have a chance with other women. I know men who divorced and got a new younger hotter chick pregnant and moved on
I'm against having sex outside of a relationship, let alone marriage. I believe people should be in a commited relationship prior to having sex. Why? I have values, that's why.
Would u give this advice to your daughter?
Shanice Butler prolly
Shanice Butler exactly
@scott sanger absolute bullshit.
@scott sanger most of the time
@scott sanger sometimes it takes longer for us to decide
Also for your consideration however, is that women (generally speaking) bond faster with a sexual partner due to oxytocin levels and other chemical/physiological processes. My view, as a woman, is that again in general it may be better to wait a bit. I don’t necessarily think we should put a hard and fast time limit or number of dates to this idea - I think it should be more about quality.
What I mean is, you can have a number of telling conversations during the time between the first, second, and third dates to establish that there is enough trust to sleep together. Think of people in a long distance situation - or even two busy people who’s first 3 dates may be over the span of a month. (In today’s busy work week and various schedules it is entirely possible to not have a third date until a month from the first date). That’s a good amount of time in there for some good phone or Skype conversations to get to know each other AND...guess what guys...that chit chat WILL get you closer to the cookie (assuming it’s good conversation and you’re establishing a rapport and a spark!)😁
Exactly how me and my fiance are. We started as a LDR, 3 hours apart and busy working class people. We go on just 3 dates per month. Every day we talk 1-3 hours on the phone to nkock out the "get to know eachother" better stuff and when we finally see eachother it's all about the physical experiences, dates to nice places, nice hotels, good sex, etc.
Get the hard conversations over with on the phone with eachother and survive your first few arguments/disagreements over the phone then your trust and confidence in eachother grows.
Rich.. can you make your book Audio version. I enjoy listening while I’m at work.
No this woman is right but not for the reason you may think. I don't know ANY woman that can hold out for 90 days.
Someone waiting for marriage could
What's the difference in a women saying I want to date for 3 months before we have sex and a man saying it should take 3-4 dates? They both sound like time tables. Sex should happen naturally.
what if all i want is head...then what
It's virtually impossible to pick an exact day or date to have sex with someone before you meet them. It is important to protect yourself from being used or given a disease, I hold off untill I feel relaxed with the person and I have never regretted it. As far as I'm concerned if a man thinks he should get sex on the first date he needs a therapist or a prostitute!! Lol
You're teaching a younger generation of men how to be redpilled. Great, but won't this advise work against your daughter when she's older, trying to look for a good guy?
No. He's probably like a lot of men and think "not my daughter." But to be fair women think this of their sons as well.
I love your videos, Rich! Thoughts: I feel a logical inconsistency here. You make nine dates seem like an unnecessary, arbitrary thing, but then put the number at one or two dates, saying that the woman is probably not high-quality if she is willing to have sex that soon. However, that is still doing the same thing, just with a different number. If the connection is real and visceral enough that both parties want each other after date one or two, then a woman intentionally holding off because of arbitrary restrictions immediately puts image before connection in the relationship. If it takes more dates than that, but both parties can tell there is something real underlying the interactions, then isn’t that just groundwork for a genuine sexual connection, as well? Whether it’s one date, 5 dates, or nine dates, I feel like one can tell if/when the connection is right. I can totally see myself saying yes to one woman on a first date, and no to another on a fifth date, for instance. While there is wisdom in what you say, isn’t there more nuance to it? If a woman is willing to fuck me for any reason other than the fact that there is mutual desire and/or connection, that is a red flag, irrespective of the number of dates we’ve been on. Conversely, If she is willing to deny mutual desire and/or connection because of some number in her head, whatever number that may be, that is also a red flag because it puts the woman forever in the driver’s seat of the sexual relationship. Each experience and connection is different. If I’ve gone out on five dates with the woman and she “breaks down” to finally have sex with me, I don’t want it. But that would also be true on the first date. However, if sparks fly and something amazing happens on the first date, I wouldn’t want to be with a woman who is going to deny that level of connection just because of her own presuppositions. That can go down a very bad road over time, as well. Sorry for the long post. Just started watching your videos recently and really enjoy them. Thanks for what you do!
Great video brother! So true, if passion is there why kill it?? Be natural and flow like water.
Y'know, my parents once teach me it's all about having a connection of some sort. Without one it always comes crashing down
If the chemistry is there it will happen very soon, but the guy that will wait just long enough for her to be comfortable with him and let her take the lead kinda works well. Flirting and hot stuff along the way proves to him that the wait will be well worth it.
There's a reason the divorce rate is so high.
I'm sure I'm not the first guy to say this but I wish youtube and Richard were around 40 years ago. You younger guys have a gold mine of information with this channel.
There are so many things wrong with relationships today. I like sex as much as the next guy but why do we view and treat our women as whores? I suppose when we’re taught that we’re just a higher form of animal, we treat each other with less dignity and as animals. You know there’s a problem when you have different standards for your daughter and the woman you’re trying to bang. When people f* around with more than one person and you’re living in a highly sexualized world today, you have every problem imaginable. I’m far from being a saint, just expressing how it ought to be.
I found it to be true that dating advice from a woman is very helpful. It’s a very different story from what they say they want and what they actually Choose.
Don’t ask the fish about how to catch fish, ask the fisherman. This is also true.
I also found to be true that women who wait beyond a reasonable time , about 3 months, the sex was disappointing to say the least. There I was thinking it was going to be so great and when it finally happened it was just mediocre. What a let down.
Onward and upwards.
I would wait until after the first date....If I see it's not going anywhere I'm out. No reason to waste anymore money and time than you already have. That's just my take on it
If you want a relationship and not just sex, you won’t care if the first time the sex was bad, you would work on it in a healthy was a couple .
I’m so glad for this information so I can stay away from the men in these comments in real life dating lmao
Yes if they truly want more than sex, they would know that sex will come within the relationship, so they wouldn't pressure us for it nor give up on us completely.
I understand your disgust, these men seem really low value, but hopefully good men who want more still exist.
I don't know if this matters but as I guy I would only have sex with a woman if I saw I future with her. I wouldn't want to be involved with someone that intimately and then find out shes a psycho, I think you need more than 3-4 dates to really know a person. For me, a few minutes of bedroom fun is not worth the drama. Guys need to put more value on their seed in my opinion.
I just wonder if you would have the same advice for your daughter?
Fantastic comment. I usually agree with everything Richard says, but in matters of virginity, he's dead wrong.
Nice comment mate
Hey little beta how is your day
I agree with the book. As a single dad my time was at a premium and often sealed the deal on date 1 or 2. Day one almost always if she was a single mom.
She said 4 date rule..now we were hot n heavy kissing on 2nd date and 3rd..by 5th date..I had a headache because I'm spontaneous and not programmed
I really don't understand the logic of many comments...if she won't have sex with you right away, she is serious about the relationship and wants to show you that she doesn't have sex with every guy she meets and that you're special to her.
No. If she waits to have sex with you, it means she lacks genuine desire for you and won't give you good sex.
This idea that women give "extra love" to men they dont sleep with is not true. If a woman has hooked up many times before and want with you, it doesn't mean she loves you more, it means she views you as a beta male and will give you less femininity, worse sex, and your relationship with her will be worse than it would have been had you been the guy she would bang on the first date.
I'd only wait for a virgin or a woman with a body count up to 3. No hookups either. If other men didn't wait, i wouldn't. It puts me in a position where I am getting transactional sex rather than validational sex.
putting a "time" on it is absurd. Obviously if you just met someone and you do it right away, that's a red flag. But once you get to know someone well enough and you build good enough trust, then go for it. Let it come naturally, just be careful.
I don't understand these "gotta wait x days/weeks/months" thing. If you both feel it and know eachother well enough and the chemistry is there, why not? Just don't be stupid.
Woman here! I totally agree. If you’re plotting sex with a guy that means you are manipulating him into doing what you want and means sex might night be something you enjoy so the sex will most likely be mediocre. I think the 3rd date is the sweeet spot. First date you’re still strangers. Second date you should have kissed by now and decided you want to continue. 3rd date you pretty much need to do it to make sure the sexual chemistry matches. If you’re waiting 9 dates, he’s pretty much playing mission impossible and only continuing just out of curiosity.
I've been waiting thirty years lol.
Actually I was wondering if you think there should be any stigma over any person; man, women, trans.....whatever to not be that driven for sexual activity.
I've never had sex and although I most definitely suffer from sexual frustration I seem to have made it to a place where I'm not driven to seek relationships and sex.
Whenever I see couples together or even a bit of PDA I'm either completely indifferent or kind of disgusted. Don't get me wrong I'm entirely happy for others if they're in healthy relationships but I can't say that it's that important of an endeavor for me.
Is there something wrong with me? Thanks
No there ain’t anything wrong because many concepts today’s world seem overrated truthfully that’s why you got to detach from sheep’s in society people that follow this trend or that normalisation one of ‘em being intimacy importance you see
Break the cycle
Yes, you need to experience it and you'll feel better and understand.
A couple of years... In the mean time you can lavish your girl with your affection and presents so when the time comes for intimacy she knows you are the one! ;)
Thanks dad.
Stick around son, I'll show you the way.
A quality women in today's society that is available and is into you. You have a better chance getting on the Mars mission program.
Great assessment. I've found the same. I give it a few dates in, after obvious escalation.
Y'all may be over-valueing sex apart from relationship. What's maybe most important to determine about a woman is if she's of good character and willing & able to be of benefit to you as a real friend/backer would. Then there's the further question of her being a good life-mate/wife ..good with kids, nurturing, stable etc.
Best to not have those assessments skewed by 'sexual thrill & thrall'.
Men tend to over-attach/romanticize/glorify women they have sex with ..clouds the judgement...when they should be finding multiple women of good character who'll be useful & benficial to them.
'Masturbation for 2 or more players' just isn't that worthwhile.
So this is for the guy that left the comment. Attraction is not a choice!!!!! If a girl is making you wait it's probably because you're a nice guy ( nothing wrong with that) and she wants to like because you have a lot of redeeming qualities, But!!! she doesn't have the gut-level of attraction for you.
@Richard, Wow man, the first time you declined an offer? Now I don't have a boat load of experience with this but in my experience, it's better to just go home and.... before you sleep with women you don't find that attractive. I've done it three times now, where I'll be at a bar or party and I really didn't have any luck and I'm kinda horny so I lower my standards and take home a girl I'm not that attracted to, it always turns out bad because I'm just not into it. Maybe it's because I'm kinda picky but if a girl is like 20 pounds overweight or not that pretty it doesn't do it for me.
I'm also not a total asshole. People are people regardless of how the physically look... So if I don't have a good time and she doesn't have a good time I just kinda go to bed feeling like a piece of shit.
Mario Rudinsky ...Totally agree. If there's no physical & mental connection, why even bother? Women know on a subconscious level how you truly feel about them as well, so nobody really wins in those type of situations.
Matthew Maranell really guys or just some women want to wait and make you wait till relationship stage because maybe they want to see if it’s going to last a while, get to know the person better, making you and her wait doesn’t always mean she’s not attracted to you.
litkate what you're saying is true. But think from a man's perspective why would a man take such a risk? Why is it a man's responsibility to risk getting his heart broken. A man has to approach = big risk, then wait = another big risk. All women have to do is wait. Now tell me why a man would make all the moves, take all the risks and then don't expect anything in return?
Yes, men should learn to reject women more often..
lowering your standards just to get laid is the type of mentality that helps to keep validating every fatty outta there
youtube sucks I'm not sure what the "big risk" is. If you're not yet exclusive what's to prevent you from simultaneously dating other women? After just a few dates and no sex it's unlikely that you're going to have your heart irretrievably broken if it fizzles out. Women experience rejection too and it hurts just as much. For the men thinking that women don't have to do anything and dating is just pie for them, try tuning into some of the dating channels aimed at women and read the comments beneath those videos. Many of the men commenting on Richard's channel believe that everything's unfair in favor of women, but most women feel the same about men. Sex is more personal and a bigger risk for women. Nobody should feel obligated to put out for someone they just met a few weeks ago.
This is what I was thinking too. It's good to have a sober second set of eyes and ears to confirm it.
If a woman doesn't give it up in 2 weeks, she can keep it as far as I am concerned.
Aliexei so it’s all about sex to you then not a relationship
litkate or, maybe, just maybe, he’s aware that he can just form a good relationship with someone who will actually want to fuck him instead of sticking with people who will see how much they can drain out of him before paying them with pussy
Not an Expert I get what your saying but some women don’t wanna give it up easily, say till they now it’s going good, they feel it’s gonna progress into a relationship or until it’s in the relationship stage, I am with someone 5 months and we haven’t done it yet he is not pushy at all, i plan to do it soon because I know it’s going good, the relationship is good, I can see my self being with him for a good while, I love him etc he is my first proper relationship also be first time sex for me.
litkate yea i get you. But, personally, it makes it hard to progress into a close relationship if I have to win over someone’s trust. It feels like they think I’m guilty until proven innocent. I love close relationships and I can be monogamous, but if I get the feeling they’re just using their body as a tool to see what they can get out of me, or see if they can manipulate me into fitting what they want, I’m not gonna waste my time.
I get taking it slow, I didn’t have sex with my best female friend for over a year. I liked her character and she was fun to be around, so we just hung out to hung out and the most that happened was a playful kiss on the cheek or cuddling here and there. But I wasn’t gonna sit there and wait for her to *decide* she was into me by looking logically at her checklist of traits she’s judging me on. I dated other people. If she told me she wasn’t alright with me sleeping with other people while she was still on the fence, i would’ve cut her off. Pussy isn’t worth the hustle, it’s nothing special worth letting yourself get manipulated over
Not an Expert ok I get your point, your right what’s the point over something that’s no special it’s something great happens naturally. Thx for the advice anyway 😊👍🏻
The union of sex releases bonding chemicals -much more for women. And why its so impt to marry a woman with a Low N partner count-as well as having similar outlook on FAITH and Budgeting Money- agree on them, and divorce is less than 10% according to Dave Ramsey. Outside of that, using a girl just for her money isnt really that cool either unless its agreed upon prior to.
Usually wait to 3rd date, if no mind blowing sex by then, he's not passionate or confident enough for me.
If he kisses me on the first date with the passion that makes other ppl demand we take it somewhere private, or they going to call the cops, then, who am I to say no ;) ...
I enjoy confident aggressively assertive men & I view monogamy in a guy as pathology, it would stress me if he only wanted me. Maybe those civilizations that allowed or even encouraged men to marry with as many women as they had the abilities to have a good model? I am not a jealous type & quite happy to share.
I am not into one night stands but I also don't want to be crowded.
I feel most women miss out on enjoying men (& sex) to the fullest by making sex a commodity for trade & demonizing men. Lots of potentially great men have been damaged by this & society has suffered because of the loss of our warrior poets.
I never give myself to anyone, I share myself, it's beautiful & empowering for both ...
A rational sista from another mista...
I'm right there with you too ;) waiting is just a waste of time for everyone if the passion is there
David Ross its OK, sex is not for everyone, each to their own ... I have needs & kick ass occupation that requires most of my time, I got no time to waste playing like I am not enjoying a guys attention ... a couple that hunt together stays together ;)
David Ross it's OK, you'll find what you looking for ... A girl that will make you provide for her, you'll be happy with each other, I wish you well, blessings :)
I didn't know there are women on earth that actually feel this way. Very impressed. Where can I find more people like this?
This doesn't apply if the woman is a Christian a real Christian not a hypocrite like the majority of them
Richard what do you (or will) teach your daughter on this subject?
I typically follow Tom Leykis for dating standards (3 dates max), but I’ll hold out to up to 5 dates as a cutoff. This is only because I tend to date foreign (non feminist) women who generally don’t follow the American standard.
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Sex is an important facet of a relationship for me. 3 dates is the limit. If by the third date we haven't had sex, I lose interest. I don't know if I'm being played or if the squeeze is worth my time. For me, why become invested emotionally while waiting only to find out the sex is not good? We are all different creatures and I understand that. If by the third sex hasn't happened, that means the woman I am dating is too different than me to invest my time.
I could have used this advice after high school. 32 now and I have yet to find that middle ground woman. 100% have either given it up within the first 2 dates or made me wait. Remember fellas, don’t put it on a petestal. Steve Harvey even said it in front of an entire audience of women. It was an epic moment in history.
Obviously not your real, but the exception to this I see is if you want to wait until marriage because that's just what you want to do. This could be from religious reasons or because you just think that's what will make you happiest. I do think this makes sense though and is a good guideline for those not practicing abstinence.
I have not dated since 2006, so I have no idea how long to wait. After a few crap assed relationships I just decided to stay single. Imam not sure what I want to do currently.
That's what I did, I was single for 5-6 or even 7 years because I got cheated on and such, relationships just didn't seem to work. Eventually though (now I'm 29yo) I wanted to find someone again, mostly because I'm kinda emotional guy and need that contact and such with a girl that likes me and I like her. You'll figure out what you want some day, for some people it takes longer time. I'm now myself in a relationship again, I hope it goes well but I'm being careful
NukeCorruption that is good. It is always good to be careful. I am very careful and very selective now.
Gentugo yeah I learned the lesson the hard way to be careful, my first love ever cheated on me after 3 years
Be your own dog and do what's right for you.
If a woman gives it up on the 1st date the Chase is gone and the thrill is gone. I think men are hard wired to move on if a woman gives it up on the 1st date. A woman needs to play a man and at the same time show him that she's interested.
On the 1st date the woman should do a little bit of kissing. 2nd date a little bit more kissing but let the man know that hes not coming over to her house or vice versa. 3rd date and 4th date do an activity bike riding skiing something not Including nightlife and alcohol. 5th date go to one of your houses and cook dinner together and stay up all night long.
Something like this is a good start.
Hi, I'd like to comment about the previous video I watched about hypergamy. In my own experience, I dated this man who's 11years older than me. He wasn't good looking, but man, I was in love with him. After watching your video, I truly realized to why I felt that way lol. This happened over 2 years ago. I was in love with him because he showed to me that he has money and power. He makes good income and took me to a trip to San Antonio all paid. See, now I'm older and I make good income myself , I get disappointed with men that I make more money than them. Having that good stable income job is definitely a plus for a husband material lol
Richard , a idea for a video for the future . When your straight forward to women like you said in this video what has been your expirence .
Women either love it or hate it, either way it doesn't matter to me. I'm not going to change my direct approach to life.
“3 months max...” yeah right 😂😂
no way you're in aurora ! great video btw, you're absolutely right
Hahahahaha. The rejection story had me in stitches brother. Great material.
If a woman will sleep with you first or second date, doesn't mean she's easy. It just means there's attraction that needs satisfaction. You can be a judge of character and can usually tell her qualities. If she's love bombing you, you can tell. There has to be genuine mutual sexual attraction early in a relationship, to get it moving forward. But there is no right way, we are all different, so if you are happy to take your time, then do so.
Taking dating advice from a woman is like taking stock advice from the person on the other side of the trade.
Interesting
This channel isn't dating advice, it's all about getting your rocks off. These guys don't give a damn about anything beyond that.
In my experience, women are not looking for "Mr. Right"...they are looking for "Mr. Right NOW"...and then they try to change you, especially if they have hit that "wall" at 35. I agree with this guy's advice. I have made all of the mistakes he mentions...I have made some of those mistakes more than once. Work on yourself. You are the prize, guys.