Cameron Vogt That’s why girls are always pining after the guys and not the other way around because she shows emotion and he shows none whatsoever which makes her want him more. If he knows she’s always an option, he’s never gonna want her. But good for you, if you don’t care, awesome. She’ll find someone that does🥰
A good way to have a man emotionally attracted to you is to know how to feel your feelings and just BE, instead of always DOING.... Just being puts you in your femininity... Doing is more masculine. Just be you & things will happen from there. *BTW... most men open up to a woman he feels safe and secure with/around . Speak from the heart, be your true authentic self 👌🏾
This guy is right, getting physical too soon is not going to get a guy to fall in love with you. I just met a guy and he says he wants to take things slow. We even slept in the same bed with no sex. Getting to know him outside of sex allows you to build a bond without lust. I don’t know where it’s going to go but I do know that if anything we will be friends because he actually out of all the guys I was with didn’t try to get in my pants right away!! It’s called respect.
@@NoNakersAllowed nah there isn’t another chick, I know that for a fact. Me and him didn’t work out but I’m ok with it, he had a dick issue not another chick.
Wise woman. This love coach dispenses a lot of great wisdom. I love reading the comments because so many girls, and I call them girls on purpose, are so immature, they learn nothing yet have so much to say.
I had a guy become emotionally attracted to me and i knew he already wanted me physically. The problem is - he wanted to be friends with benefits. When it dawned on me he wanted to use me FOR THAT and didn't want any kind of serious relationship as much as it hurt me I cut him off. So be careful not to be some guys crutch! You will waste your time thinking he will make a move and ask you out- if he doesn't RUN!! Gaurd your heart.
Oh yes... Even mild-mannered nice guys will try this one on. The emotional connection can be sweet. And it’s real. But if he doesn’t intend to reciprocate the affection and support you offer him - it’s a no go. Confront him. And yes, I agree, Skorpia g... Guard your heart.
Just be yourself. I met a great guy in December 2019. From the moment we met, it just clicked. There has not been a day that we have not talked on the phone and we regularly text. We sleep over 4 nights a week. 2 at my house, 2 at his house. It just works. I have been able to tell this man about my hair pulling issue, he regularly sees a part of my body that I am uncomfortable with due to a past surgery and he accepts me. I think it is because I accept me. Before Covid, we regularly went out on dates and even now, we do hiking and home movie dates and either pick up food or cook for each other. There is nothing to do other than set your standards and be yourself. The right person will gravitate towards that and you don't have to play games to make it so.
I'm soo over trying to protect a mans ego. Too many men are very fragile, and one wrong word can feel like you're walking on eggshells when you're around them. I grew up with 3 brothers, grow a pair dudes!
Be unapologetically yourself! Be clear about what you want! Be a lady about it! I agree, except in my current experience I hooked up with him on the first day and stayed over 😄 I was being unapologetically myself because I initiated. We’re both sexual people so there’s no taboo there for us. A year later, we’re still having an amazing relationship, there’s loyalty, trust and respect because of honesty and transparency 💖 show him who you really are, and if he truly wants it, he’ll make himself a part of your life
I'm not sure why I'm here. men get emotionally attached fast, they're really not use to being listened to or getting emotional support. so when it's offered, they automatically assume it is romantic. I hope men can start making Their own support systems soon.
This happens alllll the time, I hope one day these guys will realize that times have changed and they now can talk about emotions with their guy pals too... female friends aren’t free therapists
THIS !!! i just want a guy friend but they all catch feelings or think i'm romantically interested if i so much as try to get to know them as people.. ugh
That's the problem- I just got rid if a guy who wanted to be friends with benefits!! I was a crutch! He wanted to use me for sex and be a therapist. Don't fall for it ladies!!
The man I have recently met told me that he has waited for me for a year and a half. He said it was well with the wait. He is a very caring man. We both have boundaries that we keep to and have respect for. I built walls to protect myself but when we are together I feel so comfortable around him. The walls just melted away. I never thought it would happen because of my age. I'm a young minded 63 year old and he is 53 I've never been so happy.
@@ensabadjie2912 63 isn't that old it's your perspective to age and the mind, it's a little off balance, I wish you joy in your life, love and light to you
Being physically attractive is just as important as being emotionally attractive , although, emotional attractiveness is a necessity for a long lasting relationship to even exist. Being tidy , being clean and having good higeine are crucial . Both work together. Emotional attraction is long lasting and grows more and more. Physical attraction does dissipate , that’s why being emotionally attractive is key alongside to the physical.
Remember this ladies-when a man ignores you and ghosts you, his interest level for was low or nonexistent so it meant nothing to him to lose you. If a man thinks you are so worthless that he will let you go that easily, don’t waste your tears.
But also, be kind to yourself after you come to this realisation! Coming out and getting over experiencing limerance is brutal. Allowing yourself to grieve and fully experience your emotions is allowed, but after that - absolutely your tears are not worth wasting on them anymore!
The title of this video is super misleading. I don't need advice on how to get him emotionally attracted to me. I want to know the signs that he's emotionally attracted...
Emotionally attracted when he wants to know everything about you, what your likes/dislikes are, what drives you, how passionate you are about something(maybe his personal favourite things like football or skating or shoes or so) , what values you have, also when he remembers small details about you what you said what you did and so on. Basically he is serious he is taking notes how you will be as a future wife for his children. Also anotger note men who are looking for serious relationship don't like women who are too sexy or have many suiters. It's more like with toffies. If they are in a good wrapper and it fells on the ground, you'll pick it up and eat it but if it is unwrapped and fells on the ground you might pick it up and throw it away but you wouldn't eat it. You can think of the wrapper as clothes that are not too revealing. Then they can explore the personality first like 50% white chocolate 50% dark or so. I hope you get my point.
Met my last bf online and I was the one who suggested we meet up after two weeks of texting and calls. They tend to refer to this as being in your masculine energy these days, which I don't see anything wrong with, especially if the guy is shy. Well then you shouldn't be chasing someone with no confidence. I will chase who I damn well please. Confidence comes over time for some people. Not everyone is born an extrovert. And because of this, many women miss out on getting to know a great guy.
The only guys who ever really loved me just loved me the way i am without me making any effort to make them like me. I always spoke my mind with them, never teased or flirted, dressed in comfy clothes, looking and being very natural as i always am. You only have to put in the effort when the guy can't and will never love you. And for what?! They're not worth it!
THIS!!!!!!!! Your comment is perfect. Seriously, this video is bullsh*t. I feel bad for all the women who keep trying so hard... The best relationships are the easy and simple ones. If it takes away your energy, it's definitely not worth it. Period.
I opened up to a special guy I’ve known for 4 years & he messaged me & said that he respected me for pouring out my feelings. So yes, vulnerability works. If it pushes people away, let it. But being true to yourSelf only benefits you, as well as anyone involved & people will respect you for it.
So the take away here is, if you’re only concerned about being unapologetically you and literally do not GAF about being “liked”, you’ll end up capturing hearts and minds. But if you go seeking being liked, you’ll fail. 😎👌✨ Thank you for your videos and for caring enough about women to educate them on your gender.
This is so true though. I have this attitude after high-school where I literally DGAF what others think of me anymore cause its way too tiring to please people. Then, as I started losing people, I wasn't even offended in the slightest nor hurt. The best way to know your kind is by being YOU all the time. Who would catch bullets for you will always remaaaaaain💕 28 this year and these people who stayed with me always empower me lol
When you meet a perfect right man for you, everything flows naturally. Us, women, will be as ourselves and true to our selves and the right man just accept you , include your weaknesses and your strengths. The right man will love your weaknesses and make your strengths even stronger. That is a True Man’s Love. Been there, but unfortunately, the nature has Taken Him Away. Blessed His Soul and May He Rest In Peace. I believe there is only one True love experience in this lifetime... I am not being close hearted, Coming from an experience of Being Loved Dearly, it is not Easy To Forget. So, whoever has it experiencing it now, Make the Best of it. Be grateful for the Love and Gifts of Being Love and In return Love Back to the person. Peace ✌️! So, women, We just have to ourselves and enhance to be Better and Be progressive, But Don't Pretend to be someone who you are not!
I’m pretty sure he’s talking to the women who are looking for a man. If you’re taking his advice to look for another man, when you already have one, that’s on you not him.
I met my current bf on tinder and we met in person at 1am at my apartment. I wore my pj pants with a baggy tshirt and semi brushed hair. We talked till 5am in the morning. We've been together for 3 years
Verbatim 6:55 "a huge part of the self esteem comes from accepting ours flaws, ours imperfections and be unapologetic about that" and also "Self esteem creates emotional attraction " wow ! What an awakeness for me ! Thanks 🙏 🌈❤
I’ve been hearing a lot recently that the man has to love the woman more than she does. I thought it should be equal but I’m beginning to think it’s true. Seem to see those relationships working more
If they feel that they love you more than you do them then they will really be trying to show you they love you and in away you are a challenge to them which they like
It is much more realistic to become ourselves, BE YOU. Because I think we all want a person who accepts us, says YES with our true beauty, emotionally loves us, not kind of 'DOING THINGS' to make him emotionally attracted. In all, it is not necessary to create chemistry with our true person as we all have, in a natural way, special emotion with the one we truly love
I agree with you. It is the emotional attraction. Physical looks diminishes but emotional attraction has value and respect. It is a nice feeling when the person loves and cares for you for being who you are
I was emotionally and physically attracted to him and he made me friend and said that I will always be a friend for him ☹ I stopped trying to creating the spark in the relationship
I was looking for the reason my 3 month relationship ended and here it is! There was incredible chemistry with the man I was with, but very little emotional intimacy. I thought since he was so attracted to me that the rest would follow but it never did, now I know why. Wish I knew to slow things down physically and give the emotional a chance to develop. Another lesson learned the hard way!
Funny how I’m in a similar boat with breaking off a 3 month relationship but I did keep a distance on being physically intimate. No sex, just kisses and cuddles. Dude was more interested in my virginity than anything else, which is extremely off putting.
i'm 60 and I chased emotionally unavailable men for years. I finally met a real man and I'm letting him do all the work. It's wonderful and he makes me feel very secure. Let him chase you until you catch him!!! ✨😉✨🤗✨
You are the first channel about relationships that talks about wisdom and beyond all the logic stuff, I also like that you get into the point first and then introduce yourself later.
That might apply with younger man.. but with older man, more mature and aware that we're both adults, maybe less.. When I met, for the first time on our first date, my actual boyfriend (we're 1 year in), we connected through an app and the same evening he asked me out. So we met at a restaurant, had 1 drink, and then we went for a walk. We started kissing, and after a few minutes, I asked him if we could go to his place.. and we had sex. I didn't really care at that point if I would see him again (I'm 40, I'm passed fairytales.. if I want to sleep with someone, I do).. but he continued to text me the following days (and he ended up being super cute, very sweet and considerate so I ended up wanting to see him again.. maybe it was a one night thing after all!) , and later on I asked him what he had thought of me the first night, when I asked him to sleep with me on our first date.. he told me he didn't think much of it, but he appreciated that I didn't play games with him, that I knew what I wanted and wasn't scared of going for it, he appreciated that I like sex and that I believe sex is very important in a relationship.. and he was born and raised by very practicing muslim parents. 1 year later, we're still together, going strong, growing together, and we have an amazing and fulfilling sex life 😉😊 I think that by sleeping with him like I did (I did because I wanted to, and not for any other reason), the next morning, I wasn't expecting to hear from him and I was aware of that and was ok with it at that point.. so when I did, I knew he was talking to me because he was after something else, it wasn't just to bang me, he had already done it! He wanted to see me again because he was legitimately interested in ME. Today, he's my best friend, my partner, my lover, and the person I trust the most on earth ❤️
I think it worked because you both had an emotional connection but you were also fine if you never heard from him again. You had no attachment to the sex. You just wanted To hv a good time
When I'm solo, I'm so confident and I don't really care about looks. As soon as I'm with somebody romantically, I have these huge ups and downs with regards to self esteem. It is usually associated with my menstrual cycle, for example: the time running up to and during ovulation, I'm absolutely confident, glowing and attractive. Two weeks before my period (whereas if I was single, I wouldn't care about what I look like too much) I feel so ugly and my self esteem and confidence plummets. It is so uncomfortable as I shut down and I literally become so weird. Low self esteem is shit! I know that it is confidence that is attractive mostly in a person. I despise having low self esteem. I see it as weak, ugly and a turn off and so maybe that is why I hate myself when it comes along. I had these thoughts, that when the guy that I was previously dating was looking at me, he was looking at how ugly I am etc. This was all fear based and self destruction from low self esteem. I'd like to know how to fix it.
WOOWWWWW YOU DESCRIBED MEEEEE😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢 GIRL I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE I WONDER WHAT THE BIOLOGICAL MEANING IS BEHIND US FEELING THIS WAY JUST BEFORE OUR PERIODS?????
Thank you Brian! It helps to hear a man's perspective about signs of emotional attachment. Since we generally do not think of men as emotional as us, being attached may just get overlooked..
Actually I am an outlier. I prefer stability over novelty in my potential love interest. Newness or "the tingles" as I now like to call them usually last only 3-6 months, after which there continues to be interest or it stops. At which point I am stuck having to restart the relationship process all over again-- not a fun scenario anymore. I find an emotionally and mentally stable person far easier to deal/bargain with and their responses to differing situations much more predictable. This fosters a sense of inner calm and quiet trust within me. And that, I have found, is a far more comforting feeling long term than any amount of tingles or butterflies, nes pas?
He tells me straight up, he’s emotionally attacked to me. He tells me all the time that he wants to marry me. We pray together, attend church, we do it online due to him traveling for work. Your so on point.
My jaw is on the floor...everything you said is exactly what I've wanted to hear, and everything you are saying is correct. Thanks for the friendly reminder about keeping things interesting.
Many times you don’t have to be particularly “sexy,.” You just have to be breathing with lady parts. Some of them will still act like rabid hound dogs. And they don’t really care about your feelings really. Just don’t fall for the fake emotional interest. Many guys pretend this or may have premature infatuation and it’s just to get the sex or once they get it, they are ready to just check out on you-until they miss the sex again.
J. Rafa Lol. Maybe. The key for me right now is to keep on keeping my legs closed at least until there is a sufficient genuine emotional connection, which takes time and bonding. Otherwise it’s pretty much just sex and not that great of value to me (or to a man-as with the above scenario). Just sex isn’t really special at all or hard to come by. A genuine deeper connection is tho. Men generally aren’t as emotionally open or as quick to bond as women are tho, so imo sex too soon becomes something of a distraction to emotional bonding. And sex too soon for a woman opens up all her emotions and fires up all her attachment brain chemicals. So it totally make sense to me as a woman to not be jumping in the sack with anyone so quickly. Besides that, you also have to stay safe and take it slow and weed out all the players and users and toxic abusers bcuz they normally don’t have the patience for all that anyways. And nobody really appreciates or cherishes or puts a high value on anything they got too easily anyways. People very often don’t place a lot of value on what they didn’t have to work too hard or strive for.
After listening to several of your videos today, I get it. Move like water with the other person. If they're pushing you away move away. If you flow well and you like it, go with it. Be yourself and see how it goes and flow with whatever happens
My man is like this. Really on point. And I love him so much. He never stopped texting me and praising me when we are together. :) He respects me as I respect him
Brian I'm very grateful to you for your video lessons for us. You're the best for me. You touch so complicated issues but explain them in so simple understandable way. And with a good sense of humor. I feel support from you and I feel sincerity from you (that you put your soul into this lectures). Thank you ♡
I’ve never forgotten a man hitting on me who admitted to being in a relationship, but said when he’s with her, he’s with her 100% and she wants for nothing. That did a number on me in terms of how I saw men. Never fully trusted them after that, for this and other reasons. Wish I could get my naïveté back.
Get into the state of mind where you celebrate your knowledge. Knowledge is power. Own it. Stay open-hearted. This person is a piece of sh*t human being. Be happy to shed this 💩
Yeah, you give real accessible advice. I'm scared of the coaches who are basically teaching manipulation techniques. I can relate to this, and it feels honest. Thanks!
Yeah, I'm starting to think so, too. The more videos I watch about how men become attracted and how to "get him to commit", the more my head starts buzzing from all this and I start questioning every word I say to a guy I like. It makes things more complicated if you think about it too much. Just be yourself, be warm, polite and friendly, but also know your boundaries and have a life on your own. If it's the right person, your flirting should come off as natural and you two will be naturally attracted to each other, physically and emotionally. If he's not into you even though you've just been true to your authentic self, showing your best side without acting out or being gross or anything, then it's not your fault if you two didn't click. You are most likely just not very compatible. Or it's a "wrong place wrong time" situation. Either way, you can't force this stuff. When I hear stories from couples I know, they always say that they found each other cute and just started talking and then one thing just lead to another. And that's how it should be.
Same ı thought..me too obsessed wıth those vıdeos too much ın these days and my mınd confused so much..all mıxed..ı cant keep all ın my mınd and even apply..ı m used to behave natural and sıncere tıll now..ı mean beıng me..but ı m sufferıng wıth beıng me completely now ..thats why ı watch those..but also ı cant act dıfferent..as u saıd maybe he s not ın to me..😥😥😥
While it's true we don't wear our emotions or personalities on the outside and it's true that you can grow to like or love someone, if physical attraction is missing, it's something that can't be learned or created. Chemistry is either there or it's not.
I definitely like the woman both emotionally and physically. I always miss her and worry about her when she's not in sight, and I wanted to get to know her more.
You make an excellent point. The most important point, imho. That is the attraction that carried us through the last 10 years of a 34 year fabulous marriage, until he passed away. I hope I can find that type of attraction again. Rest in peace, Darling.
So one time I asked the man I liked a question. He talked to me for about 45 minutes answering it, then when we got up to leave said he really had to pee but he just kept talking to me anyway. He didn't seem mad about it, more like surprised. I thought it was sweet, I like him so much I feel like I could listen to him all day. I think we both felt an emotional connection.
The guy i am into was never physically attracted to me idk how but he was always focused on my personalitty and i deffenitly know he was emotionally attracted to me and it makes me feel so special , he is thr sweetest guy i have ever met i feel really lucky
My case the last 3 years 😢, he is emotionally attracted but I am emotionally and physically attracted by him. He says we have a platonic love and he is ok with that . I need more . I thought he is gay or He finds me ugly. Maybe I have to date someone else to be satisfied and let him find a platonic lover 🤔
Ooooh burn when he said “some women will shop for hours finding that perfect …” yup that’s me! I’m at a point with my crush where I really need to cultivate the emotional (and spiritual cuz we’re both Christians) attraction!
My boyfriend doesn't do all of those, like ask me much personally questions and such, but he says he loves me very much, and that he will always be greatful to me for helping him with his problem, and I've made it hard for him to ever let me go. He says I'm perfect, he adores me, and that he will fight with me to the end, and I will make a wonderful wife for him someday. And he wants me to move in with him sometime, to take care of me. I love him so much, he is already my home. 🥰
Ah this is so sweet, when my bf and I first met online even then we started talking to each other frequently, he started texting me during his work breaks, and then he would start talking to me all night until he had to go to bed as well; he later said (when we started dating IRL) he started doing it because I started leaving him good morning messages every day and he said it made him feel like he was important to me and it gave him something to look forward to when he woke up. We've been together a year now (this coming Monday, yeah!!!) and I still do this. Why? Because it's my way of showing affection and knowing he actually appreciates it makes it worthwhile. I believe if you're intrested in someone or love someone, you should put in effort to show it. :)
Aw, you're sweet and wise. That's right, it's all the small things that are important. The grand gestures are few and far between, the real thing happens between those moments.
@Allen paul covero You are sure that you want to be with person who you are in love with when you wanna make and see smile on this person face everyday, you want get up every morning next this person, you want to sleep every night with this person and what is the most important you like very much do all things with this person together because this person makes you happy and this person is the reason of your smile 👍😁
I was automatically turned off by the guy talking about how being friends isn’t as good as friends with benefits. That is toxic masculinity in a nutshell.
I don't think the romantic type of love is special. And I am started to think that the romantic type of love isn't real. I mean about more than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, while most platonic best friends remain friends until death. I think that having a platonic best friend is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse is. Having someone who's like a sibling to you is a lot better than having a romantic partner is. Also, you you would more likely be much closer to a person who's like a brother or sister to you than you would be with a romantic partner or spouse. People tend to fight with their partner or spouse a lot more than they do with a platonic best friend, and you never fight with your best friend the way you fight with your partner or spouse. Partners and spouses are just temporary. If you break up or divorce them, it's hard to go back to them. With your platonic best friend, you're going to make things work, because they are your best friend, they are your go to partner. It's always easier to make amends with them than it is with a romantic partner or spouse. Also, there are a lot of toxic romantic relationships, while there isn't that many toxic platonic relationships. Like an example is that abuse happens a lot in romantic relationships, while abuse is rare in platonic relationships. So there is a lot of abusive romantic relationships, while there is isn't that many abusive platonic relationships. Why do you think abusive romantic relationships have a term for them called "domestic violence", while abusive platonic relationships don't have a term for them? It's because abuse in platonic relationships are very rare, while abuse in romantic relationships happens a lot. And also, a lot of people cheat on their romantic partners with someone else, while most people won't do stuff like that with their platonic best friends. Here are 12 reasons why your best friend is more important than your romantic partner or spouse is: 1. Your best friend has seen you at your worst and they still love you. They have no need to see you looking pretty or together all the time. You could show up in curlers with the biggest pimple ever and they’d still accept you. 2. Your best friend has probably been around longer than your partner. They are reliable, loyal and entrenched in your life. 3. You don’t necessarily have more fun with your best friend but it’s a different kind of fun. It feels more relaxed and honest. 4. You don’t have to impress your best friend. You can be yourself. 5. Your best friend will drop everything and come rescue you and you’d do the same for them. 6. Your best friend will understand you and not judge you. You talk to them and feel totally understood for once in this big, bad world. 7. Your best friend has probably known you when you were a grungy, gross middle schooler or when you puked all over yourself freshman year. They’ve known you through every phase of your life. 8. You’ve always been sure about your best friend, but you sometimes doubt if your partner is really “the one.” 9. You never fight with your best friend the way you fight with your partner. 10. Your best friend is there for you after every break up and through every awful ex. They will put you back together when you’re hurt. 11. You know if things get tough you and your best friend can run off to Mexico and go on the run. 12. Your best friend has probably done more for you in life, in terms of favors and life experience, than your partner has. You should show them more appreciation. And also, it seems that fathers usually hate it whenever their daughter gets a boyfriend (even if the boyfriend is a good guy), and it seems that they often hate the idea of their daughter dating, and many fathers seem against the idea of their daughters dating. There are even shirts made for daughters that say "I'M NOT ALLOWED TO EVER DATE" and shirts made for fathers that say "DADS AGAINST DAUGHTERS DATING". Brothers also tend to act the same way that fathers do whenever their sister gets a boyfriend (even if the boyfriend is a good guy). It seems brothers (like fathers) hate the idea of their sisters dating. So it seems that most fathers don't ever want their daughters to find love and be in a romantic relationship with someone, and it also seems that most brothers don't ever want their sisters to find love and be in a romantic relationship with someone. So those could also be other reasons why the concept of romantic relationships isn't a good thing because of how protective fathers and brothers tend to be whenever their daughter or sister dates someone. Also, I heard that most people can live a life without romance and can still be happy. But most of the time, if someone doesn't have any platonic friends in their life, it can effect them really bad mentally; much worse than living a life without a romantic partner. In today's world, less people are dating and getting married now, and they seem to be more happy being single rather than being in romantic relationship with someone. And also, most people are pretty much comfortable enough to be naked around someone and have sex with someone that they have no romantic feelings towards. So those are other reasons why romantic love isn't real or special, while platonic love is.
Most people don’t want to have sex with their friends. That’s the difference between friends and more than friends. What will make it last is the effort put in to make it last, and a true connection. A spark of desire needs to be there, but so does a lasting bond to want to keep it going. Most people want and need affection. And romantic relationships challenge us in a way that platonic relationships cannot.
Uhmmm, how is that toxic, and whatever FWB has to do with masculinity? That's a pretty skewed viewpoint, maybe come up with some points to clarify your reasoning, instead of just throwing whatever trendy buzzwords there are to just slam men with. I mean, ideally 'friends with benefits' is a mutually beneficial agreement with some casual free sex, intimacy and affection, hanging together, without deeper feelings or the complicated intricacies of traditional relationship dynamics. An alternative to masturbating alone, so to speak? So how is that not better for both parties? Naturally you'd both have to keep your feelings in check, or it wouldn't work. Of course it is not suitable for everyone, some people are looking for more traditional partnerships, romantic relationships or just one night stands. I don't do ONS, but if I did, I would much prefer FWB instead. At least you'd know your fuckbuddy wouldn't most likely be a complete creeper, and could possibly satisfy a woman, or the agreement would soon cease.
I met a man 4 years ago . I liked him, we became friends, best friends I would say. We meet once a month for a coffee and we are emotional attached now. I thought it was platonic love but I feel physical attraction now. Is it romantic love now or is time to let him go ?
Being in love with a man who been abused . Its about what you are saying. We have our freedom space. He likes it when i hear him. I didnt change myself but became myself . We learned to trust. Its long distance . He likes the way i nurture him, apologies if he didnt cuddle me often, touches me often, says i love you, loves the silence we have having a drink. How can i make him feel safe? How can i know if he means all he says? he had loads of online ladies , before he chose me .
It is amazing to naturally recognize someone actually love you; if I ever doubted on myself about my attraction level, I may not want any other person to give me another affirmation like “You are right, he does not want you.” . Even though it is tempted to know if that person has feelings for me or not. It already tough to deal with my own skeptical feelings. Instead of focusing on the Yes/ No answer (which may further destroy our confidence), why there isn’t any message to rise our confidence level and work things like it already belong to us.
Thank you Brian ! Your ideas are so brillant and your humour so nice ! Please, let us have subtitles on RUclips, even if it's automatic. It's easyer to share your video ! 😉 Bisous from Paris 😘
I really appreciate your advice, and I'm happy to say that the man I am courting is doing all of these things. He works late and is currently in another time zone, but will send me a message everyday, no matter how late it is. Yay!, I'm enthralled, and he is a great guy. Thanks Brian, your a great guy too. 🙏🌟💕
I think one of this is true like you said be authentically yourself. Relax and be in your feminine energy one hundred percent of the time. Do less. Talk less but show genuine interest in his life. Like ask him questions. Not too much tho. But enough. tellin askin a man about his life, his family not necessarily his past relationships tht gets him talkin. Ha then u can’t get him to shut up. I think owning your flaws is also sexy as well. Hard to do at first but overall can make a less attractive person seem attractive but pls don’t use tht to down others who are still struggling to accept themselves
Thank you. I constantly feel "I am not ______ enough" for him, for me, for anything. It's self sabotaging and limiting and quite frankly so damn stupid, but it's a hard habit to kick.
The entire world is waiting to think about ,rather than thinking about if any man loving me or not. If I am worth loving, if I am attractive one will love anyway, will feel attracted anyway. These talking are making ladies more confused and keep their thinking in one circle called man . Do what you feel right , love without expectations, keep yourself busy in your duty to others and creativity, be healthy , keep yourself happy and please enjoy every moment of your life as it is very short. Honestly I don’t get any time to think if a person like me or not -I love myself.
This may have been targeted for newer couples but this has given me such clarity in how I might improve my long term relationship and keep our family together
Wow good stand points on finding emotional attraction work. I have been trying these steps 4 years when i was interested in women. I wanted to get to know more about them besides becoming physical attractive toward time - not at the same time but as time goes along when the lady wasn't interested in me.' And some women were also undecidedive about what they want when i will be the kind of guy who wants to treat a lady how she should be treated( some treaching I'd learned from being raised in a single parent home)
The best way to get a man interested in you is to not care if he is interested in you or not. Lol. The less you care, the more they want you to care
Girl. Exactly.
I've just learned this. And it's working right now in my life!
True that
No wrong the less you care the more I don't care. 2 can play that game.
Cameron Vogt That’s why girls are always pining after the guys and not the other way around because she shows emotion and he shows none whatsoever which makes her want him more. If he knows she’s always an option, he’s never gonna want her. But good for you, if you don’t care, awesome. She’ll find someone that does🥰
Ladies you can't attract an emotionally unavailable immature jerk man. Period...
Yes you can for just a good time you can find plenty of them
Yes girls can attack an emotionally man but the problem is immature and has own beliefs because of his religion and tradition.
Just ignore them.
I mean you have to pay attention to signs. You have to pay attention to who a person is, and be willing to walk away if need be.
@@ladennayoung2939 yes, all the signs of an emotionally unavailable man. Run, Run, and Run..
"Why would a great and passionate relationship ever come as a free gift, no effort required?" that's so profound!
A good way to have a man emotionally attracted to you is to know how to feel your feelings and just BE, instead of always DOING.... Just being puts you in your femininity... Doing is more masculine. Just be you & things will happen from there. *BTW... most men open up to a woman he feels safe and secure with/around . Speak from the heart, be your true authentic self 👌🏾
Amen!
I agree.
Definitely! You should make a video too!
yes true
@Phoenix Bird Once you've learned to balance the two, you've mastered it ✨.... ☯️
This guy is right, getting physical too soon is not going to get a guy to fall in love with you. I just met a guy and he says he wants to take things slow. We even slept in the same bed with no sex. Getting to know him outside of sex allows you to build a bond without lust. I don’t know where it’s going to go but I do know that if anything we will be friends because he actually out of all the guys I was with didn’t try to get in my pants right away!! It’s called respect.
Yea he probably has a chick he's having sex with, that's why he can take things slow with you. I was that chick to a guy for years 😢 never again
@@NoNakersAllowed nah there isn’t another chick, I know that for a fact. Me and him didn’t work out but I’m ok with it, he had a dick issue not another chick.
@@NoNakersAllowed ohh sorry to hear that 🥺 How did you know that there's other woman and he's only using you for sex..??..
Wise woman. This love coach dispenses a lot of great wisdom. I love reading the comments because so many girls, and I call them girls on purpose, are so immature, they learn nothing yet have so much to say.
@@fancylyrics. he said he didn't want to be in a relationship but then months later he was in a relationship with someone else.
I had a guy become emotionally attracted to me and i knew he already wanted me physically. The problem is - he wanted to be friends with benefits. When it dawned on me he wanted to use me FOR THAT and didn't want any kind of serious relationship as much as it hurt me I cut him off. So be careful not to be some guys crutch! You will waste your time thinking he will make a move and ask you out- if he doesn't RUN!! Gaurd your heart.
Oh yes... Even mild-mannered nice guys will try this one on. The emotional connection can be sweet. And it’s real. But if he doesn’t intend to reciprocate the affection and support you offer him - it’s a no go. Confront him. And yes, I agree, Skorpia g... Guard your heart.
True
Love yo walk n talk🌸🚶♀️
I agree 💯
Thats bad of him. He was not emotionally attracted . He was sexually attracted.
Just be yourself. I met a great guy in December 2019. From the moment we met, it just clicked. There has not been a day that we have not talked on the phone and we regularly text. We sleep over 4 nights a week. 2 at my house, 2 at his house. It just works. I have been able to tell this man about my hair pulling issue, he regularly sees a part of my body that I am uncomfortable with due to a past surgery and he accepts me. I think it is because I accept me. Before Covid, we regularly went out on dates and even now, we do hiking and home movie dates and either pick up food or cook for each other. There is nothing to do other than set your standards and be yourself. The right person will gravitate towards that and you don't have to play games to make it so.
You are very lucky to find the right man! Happy for you!
Gigi La Moore I agree!
Gagi I agree with you
Congrats! Wish you both the best 🙏🏽
Wish my story can be this simple.
I'm soo over trying to protect a mans ego. Too many men are very fragile, and one wrong word can feel like you're walking on eggshells when you're around them. I grew up with 3 brothers, grow a pair dudes!
So so so true
Totally True
Preach
No real men out there anymore all wimps ......
I grew up with three brothers too 😂, but i don’t care about their ego though
“Do not be too sexy” some of us just can’t help it sheesh 😂😆
Lee oof
😂😁😆😁😁👍🏻👍🏻
Enjoy life. Entertain what entertains you. 😉 For some you are too much, for others may not be enough. What is meant for you will find itself to you. 👑
Lol!
thetruepuresoul 🤣
Be unapologetically yourself! Be clear about what you want! Be a lady about it! I agree, except in my current experience I hooked up with him on the first day and stayed over 😄 I was being unapologetically myself because I initiated. We’re both sexual people so there’s no taboo there for us. A year later, we’re still having an amazing relationship, there’s loyalty, trust and respect because of honesty and transparency 💖 show him who you really are, and if he truly wants it, he’ll make himself a part of your life
I'm not sure why I'm here. men get emotionally attached fast, they're really not use to being listened to or getting emotional support. so when it's offered, they automatically assume it is romantic. I hope men can start making Their own support systems soon.
I’ve also experienced this. I’m one of the guys until they announce we are soulmates. Just no.
This happens alllll the time, I hope one day these guys will realize that times have changed and they now can talk about emotions with their guy pals too... female friends aren’t free therapists
@@jenna_maria Thats what i keep telling those single moms at work, im not their therapist.
THIS !!! i just want a guy friend but they all catch feelings or think i'm romantically interested if i so much as try to get to know them as people.. ugh
That's the problem- I just got rid if a guy who wanted to be friends with benefits!! I was a crutch! He wanted to use me for sex and be a therapist. Don't fall for it ladies!!
Emotional attraction can only achieve by being true to your feelings and if the feelings are reciprocate in the same vibe .
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Yes.
The man I have recently met told me that he has waited for me for a year and a half. He said it was well with the wait. He is a very caring man. We both have boundaries that we keep to and have respect for. I built walls to protect myself but when we are together I feel so comfortable around him. The walls just melted away. I never thought it would happen because of my age. I'm a young minded 63 year old and he is 53 I've never been so happy.
At 63 you're calling yourself young. Only an old man will want an affair with you
@@ensabadjie2912 I call myself young at heart and mind.Thank you for taking the time to make a comment even though it's not a very nice one.
@@ensabadjie2912 63 isn't that old it's your perspective to age and the mind, it's a little off balance, I wish you joy in your life, love and light to you
I can't tell you how happy I am for the both of you!
Happy for you
Being physically attractive is just as important as being emotionally attractive , although, emotional attractiveness is a necessity for a long lasting relationship to even exist. Being tidy , being clean and having good higeine are crucial . Both work together. Emotional attraction is long lasting and grows more and more. Physical attraction does dissipate , that’s why being emotionally attractive is key alongside to the physical.
I like how Brian stressed the importance for us women to just be ourselves for the right person, and not just to attract any men
Remember this ladies-when a man ignores you and ghosts you, his interest level for was low or nonexistent so it meant nothing to him to lose you. If a man thinks you are so worthless that he will let you go that easily, don’t waste your tears.
Yes!! So well put. Thank you!
But also, be kind to yourself after you come to this realisation! Coming out and getting over experiencing limerance is brutal. Allowing yourself to grieve and fully experience your emotions is allowed, but after that - absolutely your tears are not worth wasting on them anymore!
The title of this video is super misleading.
I don't need advice on how to get him emotionally attracted to me.
I want to know the signs that he's emotionally attracted...
Skip to 8:00
Emotionally attracted when he wants to know everything about you, what your likes/dislikes are, what drives you, how passionate you are about something(maybe his personal favourite things like football or skating or shoes or so) , what values you have, also when he remembers small details about you what you said what you did and so on. Basically he is serious he is taking notes how you will be as a future wife for his children. Also anotger note men who are looking for serious relationship don't like women who are too sexy or have many suiters. It's more like with toffies. If they are in a good wrapper and it fells on the ground, you'll pick it up and eat it but if it is unwrapped and fells on the ground you might pick it up and throw it away but you wouldn't eat it. You can think of the wrapper as clothes that are not too revealing. Then they can explore the personality first like 50% white chocolate 50% dark or so. I hope you get my point.
3:14 you're welcome
maybe watch the whole video before commenting. or maybe pay more attention to the video. then your comment doesn't stand
@@giftedvoices533 Thank you!!!
Met my last bf online and I was the one who suggested we meet up after two weeks of texting and calls. They tend to refer to this as being in your masculine energy these days, which I don't see anything wrong with, especially if the guy is shy. Well then you shouldn't be chasing someone with no confidence. I will chase who I damn well please. Confidence comes over time for some people. Not everyone is born an extrovert. And because of this, many women miss out on getting to know a great guy.
The only guys who ever really loved me just loved me the way i am without me making any effort to make them like me. I always spoke my mind with them, never teased or flirted, dressed in comfy clothes, looking and being very natural as i always am. You only have to put in the effort when the guy can't and will never love you. And for what?! They're not worth it!
THIS!!!!!!!! Your comment is perfect. Seriously, this video is bullsh*t. I feel bad for all the women who keep trying so hard... The best relationships are the easy and simple ones. If it takes away your energy, it's definitely not worth it. Period.
I can totally relate
You hit the nail on the head !
@Gabriela Brucea
So true
I am a married woman but I still love to watch these videos. 💕
I'm in a relationship too and I like to still learn this kind of things. Meaning we're open to learn 🤗
I'm a guy and I still love to watch these video 😝
I am also Married still need to learn this videos
Deep down you want to find signs of validation that your significant other is emotionally attracted to you🤷🏽♀️
thats why your still married ☺️
I opened up to a special guy I’ve known for 4 years & he messaged me & said that he respected me for pouring out my feelings. So yes, vulnerability works. If it pushes people away, let it. But being true to yourSelf only benefits you, as well as anyone involved & people will respect you for it.
Like your spirit
Are you a beach person or a mountain person ?
"Vulnerability works. If it pushes people away, let it"
Very wise words! I wish I had known this in my 20s.
@@terrylasin3709 what is this?
So the take away here is, if you’re only concerned about being unapologetically you and literally do not GAF about being “liked”, you’ll end up capturing hearts and minds. But if you go seeking being liked, you’ll fail. 😎👌✨ Thank you for your videos and for caring enough about women to educate them on your gender.
Jessica Cakuls periodt
Pretty much ☺️
Truee
This is so true though. I have this attitude after high-school where I literally DGAF what others think of me anymore cause its way too tiring to please people. Then, as I started losing people, I wasn't even offended in the slightest nor hurt. The best way to know your kind is by being YOU all the time. Who would catch bullets for you will always remaaaaaain💕 28 this year and these people who stayed with me always empower me lol
When you meet a perfect right man for you, everything flows naturally. Us, women, will be as ourselves and true to our selves and the right man just accept you , include your weaknesses and your strengths. The right man will love your weaknesses and make your strengths even stronger. That is a True Man’s Love. Been there, but unfortunately, the nature has Taken Him Away. Blessed His Soul and May He Rest In Peace.
I believe there is only one True love experience in this lifetime... I am not being close hearted, Coming from an experience of Being Loved Dearly, it is not Easy To Forget. So, whoever has it experiencing it now, Make the Best of it. Be grateful for the Love and Gifts of Being Love and In return Love Back to the person. Peace ✌️!
So, women, We just have to ourselves and enhance to be Better and Be progressive, But Don't Pretend to be someone who you are not!
Gen very true x
Out of 8 billion people how do you meet that perfect one for you? I don't believe that can happen but work with what you get
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Thanks much. My new relationship seems to be flowing naturally, less effort. Everything so peaceful and perfect. I'm grateful🙏
Unfortunately, some affairs start from emotional attraction. It’s a real thing. And it leads to physical cheating. This is not to be discounted.
Right on! Emotional cheating is just as bad physical cheating because either way it's violation of trust and respect.
It is...and does. 😒
I’m pretty sure he’s talking to the women who are looking for a man. If you’re taking his advice to look for another man, when you already have one, that’s on you not him.
My problem right now 🙄
You sound like a victim
I met my current bf on tinder and we met in person at 1am at my apartment. I wore my pj pants with a baggy tshirt and semi brushed hair. We talked till 5am in the morning. We've been together for 3 years
Uh what. That sounds like the most unsafe terrifying shit ever lolol congrats ur alive
Is this something you are proud of? Posting on here?
Awww
are u guys still together
Verbatim 6:55 "a huge part of the self esteem comes from accepting ours flaws, ours imperfections and be unapologetic about that" and also "Self esteem creates emotional attraction " wow ! What an awakeness for me ! Thanks 🙏 🌈❤
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I’ve been hearing a lot recently that the man has to love the woman more than she does. I thought it should be equal but I’m beginning to think it’s true. Seem to see those relationships working more
I've been thinking the same thing
How so?
I agree that would help if he loves u more than you do him
@@reginawoess4928 How ?
If they feel that they love you more than you do them then they will really be trying to show you they love you and in away you are a challenge to them which they like
It is much more realistic to become ourselves, BE YOU. Because I think we all want a person who accepts us, says YES with our true beauty, emotionally loves us, not kind of 'DOING THINGS' to make him emotionally attracted. In all, it is not necessary to create chemistry with our true person as we all have, in a natural way, special emotion with the one we truly love
I think am just gonna let you know how I feel .
Are you a beach person or a mountain person ?
I agree with you. It is the emotional attraction. Physical looks diminishes but emotional attraction has value and respect. It is a nice feeling when the person loves and cares for you for being who you are
I love your spirit,
Are you a beach person or a mountain person ?
@@terrylasin3709 beach with greenery and beautiful mountain view☺️
@@Cecilia-zx8ok Same here. I am currently residing close to the beach and the sunset and sunrise view is eccentric
@@Cecilia-zx8ok If given the opportunity, where would be your destination for vacation?
I was emotionally and physically attracted to him and he made me friend and said that I will always be a friend for him ☹ I stopped trying to creating the spark in the relationship
I was looking for the reason my 3 month relationship ended and here it is! There was incredible chemistry with the man I was with, but very little emotional intimacy. I thought since he was so attracted to me that the rest would follow but it never did, now I know why. Wish I knew to slow things down physically and give the emotional a chance to develop. Another lesson learned the hard way!
Funny how I’m in a similar boat with breaking off a 3 month relationship but I did keep a distance on being physically intimate. No sex, just kisses and cuddles. Dude was more interested in my virginity than anything else, which is extremely off putting.
i'm 60 and I chased emotionally unavailable men for years. I finally met a real man and I'm letting him do all the work. It's wonderful and he makes me feel very secure. Let him chase you until you catch him!!! ✨😉✨🤗✨
You are the first channel about relationships that talks about wisdom and beyond all the logic stuff, I also like that you get into the point first and then introduce yourself later.
Man just so complicate. Can i just go supermarket and buy one?
YES!
Or, we could shop for one on Amazon, including Filter & Sort, for personalization/customization.
@@rhsb553 hahahha, send me link 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Yeah it's called tinder
@@mannmoon2465 hahha , Tinder is the "Supermarket"
@@vvivianw correct.
Loved this. Especially the part about self esteem and being who we are. Great, thank you!
That might apply with younger man.. but with older man, more mature and aware that we're both adults, maybe less..
When I met, for the first time on our first date, my actual boyfriend (we're 1 year in), we connected through an app and the same evening he asked me out. So we met at a restaurant, had 1 drink, and then we went for a walk. We started kissing, and after a few minutes, I asked him if we could go to his place.. and we had sex. I didn't really care at that point if I would see him again (I'm 40, I'm passed fairytales.. if I want to sleep with someone, I do).. but he continued to text me the following days (and he ended up being super cute, very sweet and considerate so I ended up wanting to see him again.. maybe it was a one night thing after all!) , and later on I asked him what he had thought of me the first night, when I asked him to sleep with me on our first date.. he told me he didn't think much of it, but he appreciated that I didn't play games with him, that I knew what I wanted and wasn't scared of going for it, he appreciated that I like sex and that I believe sex is very important in a relationship.. and he was born and raised by very practicing muslim parents.
1 year later, we're still together, going strong, growing together, and we have an amazing and fulfilling sex life 😉😊 I think that by sleeping with him like I did (I did because I wanted to, and not for any other reason), the next morning, I wasn't expecting to hear from him and I was aware of that and was ok with it at that point.. so when I did, I knew he was talking to me because he was after something else, it wasn't just to bang me, he had already done it! He wanted to see me again because he was legitimately interested in ME.
Today, he's my best friend, my partner, my lover, and the person I trust the most on earth ❤️
I think it worked because you both had an emotional connection but you were also fine if you never heard from him again. You had no attachment to the sex. You just wanted
To hv a good time
When I'm solo, I'm so confident and I don't really care about looks.
As soon as I'm with somebody romantically, I have these huge ups and downs with regards to self esteem. It is usually associated with my menstrual cycle, for example: the time running up to and during ovulation, I'm absolutely confident, glowing and attractive. Two weeks before my period (whereas if I was single, I wouldn't care about what I look like too much) I feel so ugly and my self esteem and confidence plummets. It is so uncomfortable as I shut down and I literally become so weird. Low self esteem is shit! I know that it is confidence that is attractive mostly in a person. I despise having low self esteem. I see it as weak, ugly and a turn off and so maybe that is why I hate myself when it comes along. I had these thoughts, that when the guy that I was previously dating was looking at me, he was looking at how ugly I am etc. This was all fear based and self destruction from low self esteem. I'd like to know how to fix it.
Read the book ‘Women who love too much’ , might help …
WOOWWWWW YOU DESCRIBED MEEEEE😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢 GIRL I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE I WONDER WHAT THE BIOLOGICAL MEANING IS BEHIND US FEELING THIS WAY JUST BEFORE OUR PERIODS?????
@@YouCantHandleDisz vile isn't it x
Same here!!!
Thank you Brian! It helps to hear a man's perspective about signs of emotional attachment. Since we generally do not think of men as emotional as us, being attached may just get overlooked..
Actually I am an outlier. I prefer stability over novelty in my potential love interest.
Newness or "the tingles" as I now like to call them usually last only 3-6 months, after which there continues to be interest or it stops.
At which point I am stuck having to restart the relationship process all over again-- not a fun scenario anymore.
I find an emotionally and mentally stable person far easier to deal/bargain with and their responses to differing situations much more predictable.
This fosters a sense of inner calm and quiet trust within me.
And that, I have found, is a far more comforting feeling long term than any amount of tingles or butterflies, nes pas?
I think I've just realised my problem, I'm just too sexy for men xD
ha
Twinzz
I have the same curse
🤣🤣 great 👍🏻
He tells me straight up, he’s emotionally attacked to me. He tells me all the time that he wants to marry me. We pray together, attend church, we do it online due to him traveling for work. Your so on point.
This is so true. You don’t realize it until it happens to you and you come across a man who is totally invested in you...not just your body.
FranklyScar Yes please. Lol. Thanks for that. It gives me hope. 😅😂
I am totally fuckedup emotionally 😭😭😭, i can't able to leave her
@@gouthamnanda8930 if you're being abused, please leave.abuse has long term effects.
My jaw is on the floor...everything you said is exactly what I've wanted to hear, and everything you are saying is correct. Thanks for the friendly reminder about keeping things interesting.
Many times you don’t have to be particularly “sexy,.” You just have to be breathing with lady parts. Some of them will still act like rabid hound dogs. And they don’t really care about your feelings really. Just don’t fall for the fake emotional interest. Many guys pretend this or may have premature infatuation and it’s just to get the sex or once they get it, they are ready to just check out on you-until they miss the sex again.
Stephanie Rogers soooooooo true especially the last sentence
This is so sad cause it's so true *sigh *
So the key is not to talk about yourself but makes him (like Madonna said) express himself.
J. Rafa Lol. Maybe. The key for me right now is to keep on keeping my legs closed at least until there is a sufficient genuine emotional connection, which takes time and bonding. Otherwise it’s pretty much just sex and not that great of value to me (or to a man-as with the above scenario). Just sex isn’t really special at all or hard to come by. A genuine deeper connection is tho.
Men generally aren’t as emotionally open or as quick to bond as women are tho, so imo sex too soon becomes something of a distraction to emotional bonding. And sex too soon for a woman opens up all her emotions and fires up all her attachment brain chemicals. So it totally make sense to me as a woman to not be jumping in the sack with anyone so quickly. Besides that, you also have to stay safe and take it slow and weed out all the players and users and toxic abusers bcuz they normally don’t have the patience for all that anyways. And nobody really appreciates or cherishes or puts a high value on anything they got too easily anyways. People very often don’t place a lot of value on what they didn’t have to work too hard or strive for.
Yeah I think this just happened to me.... 😭
After listening to several of your videos today, I get it. Move like water with the other person. If they're pushing you away move away. If you flow well and you like it, go with it. Be yourself and see how it goes and flow with whatever happens
My man is like this. Really on point. And I love him so much. He never stopped texting me and praising me when we are together. :) He respects me as I respect him
Fantastic. Living end-game :)
We celebrated our 1st pandemic year together today, 28th. :) We’re getting married ❤️
@@lifeofrescues9928 V inspiring! Congratulations!!! :-) XX
@@lucyparsonage6907 thank you very much!
Brian I'm very grateful to you for your video lessons for us. You're the best for me. You touch so complicated issues but explain them in so simple understandable way. And with a good sense of humor. I feel support from you and I feel sincerity from you (that you put your soul into this lectures). Thank you ♡
I’ve never forgotten a man hitting on me who admitted to being in a relationship, but said when he’s with her, he’s with her 100% and she wants for nothing. That did a number on me in terms of how I saw men. Never fully trusted them after that, for this and other reasons. Wish I could get my naïveté back.
shit
What a creep he is.
Get into the state of mind where you celebrate your knowledge. Knowledge is power. Own it. Stay open-hearted. This person is a piece of sh*t human being. Be happy to shed this 💩
Jesus I would never do that; that is disgusting. then again I am never in a relationship.
Situational bonding is so very important in any partnership, relationship, friendship etc.
Your voice is so beautiful, shows a calm soul.
Yeah, you give real accessible advice. I'm scared of the coaches who are basically teaching manipulation techniques. I can relate to this, and it feels honest. Thanks!
The only secret to eternal love is that if it has to happen it will find a way. No need to read books and watch these self help videos.
Yeah, I'm starting to think so, too. The more videos I watch about how men become attracted and how to "get him to commit", the more my head starts buzzing from all this and I start questioning every word I say to a guy I like. It makes things more complicated if you think about it too much.
Just be yourself, be warm, polite and friendly, but also know your boundaries and have a life on your own.
If it's the right person, your flirting should come off as natural and you two will be naturally attracted to each other, physically and emotionally.
If he's not into you even though you've just been true to your authentic self, showing your best side without acting out or being gross or anything, then it's not your fault if you two didn't click. You are most likely just not very compatible. Or it's a "wrong place wrong time" situation. Either way, you can't force this stuff.
When I hear stories from couples I know, they always say that they found each other cute and just started talking and then one thing just lead to another. And that's how it should be.
Same ı thought..me too obsessed wıth those vıdeos too much ın these days and my mınd confused so much..all mıxed..ı cant keep all ın my mınd and even apply..ı m used to behave natural and sıncere tıll now..ı mean beıng me..but ı m sufferıng wıth beıng me completely now ..thats why ı watch those..but also ı cant act dıfferent..as u saıd maybe he s not ın to me..😥😥😥
So true,humans are complex!
yes
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While it's true we don't wear our emotions or personalities on the outside and it's true that you can grow to like or love someone, if physical attraction is missing, it's something that can't be learned or created. Chemistry is either there or it's not.
I definitely like the woman both emotionally and physically. I always miss her and worry about her when she's not in sight, and I wanted to get to know her more.
I think the guy who's pursuing me right now is emotionally attracted to me.
This video terrifyingly gives me the urge to confess how I feel to the person I like when he spoke about insecurities and boundaries
You make an excellent point. The most important point, imho. That is the attraction that carried us through the last 10 years of a 34 year fabulous marriage, until he passed away. I hope I can find that type of attraction again. Rest in peace, Darling.
This is so wholesome. Happy to know that emotional attraction is also important. 😊💜
Ok, I’m tired of ppl saying “don’t be too sexy too soon” what does that even mean???? I can’t help the way I look lol
Right lol. I can wear a sweater and dress pants and low heeled boots. He is still attracted.
Rocio De La Fe just be elegant and classy. That kind of sexy is not cheap
you can Iook sexy and still take time to build a strong foundation. it is your choice to respect yourself.
@@astgoddess nothing wrong with being attractive, take time to know the man's character. don't be in a hurry.
To be honest: Just be yourself :D The right person will see you for who you are :)
So one time I asked the man I liked a question. He talked to me for about 45 minutes answering it, then when we got up to leave said he really had to pee but he just kept talking to me anyway. He didn't seem mad about it, more like surprised. I thought it was sweet, I like him so much I feel like I could listen to him all day. I think we both felt an emotional connection.
Just be authentic, that's all
The guy i am into was never physically attracted to me idk how but he was always focused on my personalitty and i deffenitly know he was emotionally attracted to me and it makes me feel so special , he is thr sweetest guy i have ever met i feel really lucky
He must be a gay
@@julietjolie8454 right😂 how is she ok with him not being physically attracted to her at all?
I think physical attraction is as important as emotional traction. I can’t be ok with my man not being physically attracted to me
My case the last 3 years 😢, he is emotionally attracted but I am emotionally and physically attracted by him. He says we have a platonic love and he is ok with that . I need more . I thought he is gay or He finds me ugly. Maybe I have to date someone else to be satisfied and let him find a platonic lover 🤔
@@vickypits3707 Don’t let him define your relationship. If you’re not satisfied with this arrangement - Walk on. Be brave.
No Physical + No Emotional = bffs
Yes Physical + No Emotional = Fwb
Yes Physical + Yes Emotional = Bf
2:49 Physical Attraction
3:17 Emotional Attraction
5:20 "Dont be too sexy, too soon"
8:13 He's emotionally attached when...
What about no physical + yes emotional? 😅
I think that's bffs. no physical + no emotional = acquaintances lol
@@sugandhadogra1781 Asexual relationship ^^
@@sugandhadogra1781 I think it’s just friends, but when no physical and no emotional it’s acquaintances 🙃
thanks😎
Thank you. Please upload more videos. Every video of yours has a key which enlighten situations. Your Amazing!
At night when I can’t sleep and really need to, I just listen to you, does the trick all the time. ❤️
Emotional attachment is much important than the beauty... It will last long believe me👍
Ooooh burn when he said “some women will shop for hours finding that perfect …” yup that’s me! I’m at a point with my crush where I really need to cultivate the emotional (and spiritual cuz we’re both Christians) attraction!
My boyfriend doesn't do all of those, like ask me much personally questions and such, but he says he loves me very much, and that he will always be greatful to me for helping him with his problem, and I've made it hard for him to ever let me go. He says I'm perfect, he adores me, and that he will fight with me to the end, and I will make a wonderful wife for him someday. And he wants me to move in with him sometime, to take care of me. I love him so much, he is already my home. 🥰
Blessings Brian and everyone for 2023🎊🎊🙏🏼🙏🏼
I just want to say that I really appreciate you and your videos . Thank you
Ah this is so sweet, when my bf and I first met online even then we started talking to each other frequently, he started texting me during his work breaks, and then he would start talking to me all night until he had to go to bed as well; he later said (when we started dating IRL) he started doing it because I started leaving him good morning messages every day and he said it made him feel like he was important to me and it gave him something to look forward to when he woke up. We've been together a year now (this coming Monday, yeah!!!) and I still do this. Why? Because it's my way of showing affection and knowing he actually appreciates it makes it worthwhile. I believe if you're intrested in someone or love someone, you should put in effort to show it. :)
Aw, you're sweet and wise. That's right, it's all the small things that are important. The grand gestures are few and far between, the real thing happens between those moments.
Congrats so sweet 😍
BTW if anyone is wondering how well a relationship goes when you continuously put in effort - we're happily married now :3 ❤
I loved this video- my man does many of these emotional connections - I feel special.
I am sooo glad I stumbled a cross your videos, you have no idea how much you have helped me heal... I am addicted to your videos.. Thank you🌞
When someone takes care about you he wants to figure out your soul and get to know what in your heart is. 🙂
@Allen paul covero You are sure that you want to be with person who you are in love with when you wanna make and see smile on this person face everyday, you want get up every morning next this person, you want to sleep every night with this person and what is the most important you like very much do all things with this person together because this person makes you happy and this person is the reason of your smile 👍😁
Your voice is so relaxing. Thank you for all the talks! More power.
I was automatically turned off by the guy talking about how being friends isn’t as good as friends with benefits. That is toxic masculinity in a nutshell.
I don't think the romantic type of love is special. And I am started to think that the romantic type of love isn't real. I mean about more than half of romantic couples either break up with each other or divorce each other, while most platonic best friends remain friends until death.
I think that having a platonic best friend is a lot better than having a romantic partner or spouse is. Having someone who's like a sibling to you is a lot better than having a romantic partner is. Also, you you would more likely be much closer to a person who's like a brother or sister to you than you would be with a romantic partner or spouse.
People tend to fight with their partner or spouse a lot more than they do with a platonic best friend, and you never fight with your best friend the way you fight with your partner or spouse. Partners and spouses are just temporary. If you break up or divorce them, it's hard to go back to them. With your platonic best friend, you're going to make things work, because they are your best friend, they are your go to partner. It's always easier to make amends with them than it is with a romantic partner or spouse.
Also, there are a lot of toxic romantic relationships, while there isn't that many toxic platonic relationships. Like an example is that abuse happens a lot in romantic relationships, while abuse is rare in platonic relationships. So there is a lot of abusive romantic relationships, while there is isn't that many abusive platonic relationships.
Why do you think abusive romantic relationships have a term for them called "domestic violence", while abusive platonic relationships don't have a term for them? It's because abuse in platonic relationships are very rare, while abuse in romantic relationships happens a lot.
And also, a lot of people cheat on their romantic partners with someone else, while most people won't do stuff like that with their platonic best friends.
Here are 12 reasons why your best friend is more important than your romantic partner or spouse is:
1. Your best friend has seen you at your worst and they still love you. They have no need to see you looking pretty or together all the time. You could show up in curlers with the biggest pimple ever and they’d still accept you.
2. Your best friend has probably been around longer than your partner. They are reliable, loyal and entrenched in your life.
3. You don’t necessarily have more fun with your best friend but it’s a different kind of fun. It feels more relaxed and honest.
4. You don’t have to impress your best friend. You can be yourself.
5. Your best friend will drop everything and come rescue you and you’d do the same for them.
6. Your best friend will understand you and not judge you. You talk to them and feel totally understood for once in this big, bad world.
7. Your best friend has probably known you when you were a grungy, gross middle schooler or when you puked all over yourself freshman year. They’ve known you through every phase of your life.
8. You’ve always been sure about your best friend, but you sometimes doubt if your partner is really “the one.”
9. You never fight with your best friend the way you fight with your partner.
10. Your best friend is there for you after every break up and through every awful ex. They will put you back together when you’re hurt.
11. You know if things get tough you and your best friend can run off to Mexico and go on the run.
12. Your best friend has probably done more for you in life, in terms of favors and life experience, than your partner has. You should show them more appreciation.
And also, it seems that fathers usually hate it whenever their daughter gets a boyfriend (even if the boyfriend is a good guy), and it seems that they often hate the idea of their daughter dating, and many fathers seem against the idea of their daughters dating. There are even shirts made for daughters that say "I'M NOT ALLOWED TO EVER DATE" and shirts made for fathers that say "DADS AGAINST DAUGHTERS DATING".
Brothers also tend to act the same way that fathers do whenever their sister gets a boyfriend (even if the boyfriend is a good guy). It seems brothers (like fathers) hate the idea of their sisters dating.
So it seems that most fathers don't ever want their daughters to find love and be in a romantic relationship with someone, and it also seems that most brothers don't ever want their sisters to find love and be in a romantic relationship with someone.
So those could also be other reasons why the concept of romantic relationships isn't a good thing because of how protective fathers and brothers tend to be whenever their daughter or sister dates someone.
Also, I heard that most people can live a life without romance and can still be happy. But most of the time, if someone doesn't have any platonic friends in their life, it can effect them really bad mentally; much worse than living a life without a romantic partner. In today's world, less people are dating and getting married now, and they seem to be more happy being single rather than being in romantic relationship with someone.
And also, most people are pretty much comfortable enough to be naked around someone and have sex with someone that they have no romantic feelings towards.
So those are other reasons why romantic love isn't real or special, while platonic love is.
Most people don’t want to have sex with their friends. That’s the difference between friends and more than friends. What will make it last is the effort put in to make it last, and a true connection. A spark of desire needs to be there, but so does a lasting bond to want to keep it going. Most people want and need affection. And romantic relationships challenge us in a way that platonic relationships cannot.
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Uhmmm, how is that toxic, and whatever FWB has to do with masculinity? That's a pretty skewed viewpoint, maybe come up with some points to clarify your reasoning, instead of just throwing whatever trendy buzzwords there are to just slam men with.
I mean, ideally 'friends with benefits' is a mutually beneficial agreement with some casual free sex, intimacy and affection, hanging together, without deeper feelings or the complicated intricacies of traditional relationship dynamics. An alternative to masturbating alone, so to speak? So how is that not better for both parties?
Naturally you'd both have to keep your feelings in check, or it wouldn't work. Of course it is not suitable for everyone, some people are looking for more traditional partnerships, romantic relationships or just one night stands. I don't do ONS, but if I did, I would much prefer FWB instead. At least you'd know your fuckbuddy wouldn't most likely be a complete creeper, and could possibly satisfy a woman, or the agreement would soon cease.
I met a man 4 years ago . I liked him, we became friends, best friends I would say. We meet once a month for a coffee and we are emotional attached now. I thought it was platonic love but I feel physical attraction now. Is it romantic love now or is time to let him go ?
Being in love with a man who been abused . Its about what you are saying. We have our freedom space. He likes it when i hear him. I didnt change myself but became myself . We learned to trust. Its long distance . He likes the way i nurture him, apologies if he didnt cuddle me often, touches me often, says i love you, loves the silence we have having a drink.
How can i make him feel safe? How can i know if he means all he says? he had loads of online ladies , before he chose me .
When the guy I’m talking to acts interested when I start talking about skin care because he knows I enjoy it....🥰
my fiancé listens to me talk about hair, and it's so nice, since i don't have any female friends to talk to about hair
You, Heath, are amazing. I have just been learning about physical attraction vs emotional attraction, the way men look at this.
I’m not even having somebody in mind. I’m just preparing myself for after quarantine life
Screaming 😂😂
Girl, same 😂
Showing empathy and interest in what they like, plus great sense of humour, and not being "too" available, most men like a challenge!
We miss you Brian! Your advice is all golden
It is amazing to naturally recognize someone actually love you; if I ever doubted on myself about my attraction level, I may not want any other person to give me another affirmation like “You are right, he does not want you.” . Even though it is tempted to know if that person has feelings for me or not. It already tough to deal with my own skeptical feelings. Instead of focusing on the Yes/ No answer (which may further destroy our confidence), why there isn’t any message to rise our confidence level and work things like it already belong to us.
Effort is a key word.
Thank you Brian ! Your ideas are so brillant and your humour so nice !
Please, let us have subtitles on RUclips, even if it's automatic. It's easyer to share your video ! 😉 Bisous from Paris 😘
I really appreciate your advice, and I'm happy to say that the man I am courting is doing all of these things. He works late and is currently in another time zone, but will send me a message everyday, no matter how late it is. Yay!, I'm enthralled, and he is a great guy. Thanks Brian, your a great guy too. 🙏🌟💕
Every time I listen to you you remind me why I think you're a genius in what you do, thank you sincerely
I think one of this is true like you said be authentically yourself. Relax and be in your feminine energy one hundred percent of the time. Do less. Talk less but show genuine interest in his life. Like ask him questions. Not too much tho. But enough. tellin askin a man about his life, his family not necessarily his past relationships tht gets him talkin. Ha then u can’t get him to shut up. I think owning your flaws is also sexy as well. Hard to do at first but overall can make a less attractive person seem attractive but pls don’t use tht to down others who are still struggling to accept themselves
Thank you Brian. Your heart felt wisdom is so refreshing.
I think falling in love with a friend doesn't work , we know from the first moment either this or that !
This is what I have been telling all my married friends, have fun with each other and laugh. We can’t live on bread and water alone!!!
It's all about meeting the right person. The problem with most dating advice is it is too general. It assumes one formula works for everyone.
Thank you. I constantly feel "I am not ______ enough" for him, for me, for anything. It's self sabotaging and limiting and quite frankly so damn stupid, but it's a hard habit to kick.
The entire world is waiting to think about ,rather than thinking about if any man loving me or not. If I am worth loving, if I am attractive one will love anyway, will feel attracted anyway. These talking are making ladies more confused and keep their thinking in one circle called man . Do what you feel right , love without expectations, keep yourself busy in your duty to others and creativity, be healthy , keep yourself happy and please enjoy every moment of your life as it is very short. Honestly I don’t get any time to think if a person like me or not -I love myself.
Try to let go if who you think you should be and be who you are... this set me free tonight 🔥
I’m married too and still watch these videos 😊
just live, do not worry about men.
😂happy to hear that,what l have they need it more❤
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I truly attracted to your mindset, thanks for sharing this video with us.
This may have been targeted for newer couples but this has given me such clarity in how I might improve my long term relationship and keep our family together
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Hope your alright?
Wow good stand points on finding emotional attraction work. I have been trying these steps 4 years when i was interested in women. I wanted to get to know more about them besides becoming physical attractive toward time - not at the same time but as time goes along when the lady wasn't interested in me.' And some women were also undecidedive about what they want when i will be the kind of guy who wants to treat a lady how she should be treated( some treaching I'd learned from being raised in a single parent home)