Exactly how can men complain so much? They have almost all the power. I wonder why their are so many male relationship coaches teaching women how to get and keep a guy but where are the women who are just as popular as them who give advice about women to men? It seems like women value men's opinion more than men value woman's opinion. Look at how many women attend Matthew husseys retreats and seminars when have men ever done that for a female relationship coach?
Men really have almost all the power in relationships. No one shames them for wanting beautiful women no one calls them shallow but if a woman wants a rich guy she's a gold digger. If a woman wants a guy taller than her she's called narrow minded and picky but if a guy rejects a girl because she has a flat chest no one calls him picky. Also when it comes to beauty standards for both genders it's much more achiveable for men than it is for women. They just need to have abs and be well groomed and hygenic and taller than their girl but are still always told women don't care about your looks anyway. But a women is told from a very young age she needs to have a barbie body.
Funny how most of these male relationship coaches for women are not married or in and out of relationships quickly and people still take them seriously but if a woman tried to be a relationship coach for men people would be questioning her all the time about her relationship or martial status.
Nonsense! If a mature man loves, he’s banging down your door. He shows and speaks. There’s no grey area in love, he’s either into you or not! 👍🏼 no games, no mystery.
Alicia B Atherton Agree! I hate the idea that I need to represent a challenge in order to keep a man. You only need a mature and committed man that knows what he wants.
@@anadominguez8523 It's subconscious. It has nothing to do with being mature. We still have instincts. And yes, when a woman is being too easy, that gives a man a signal that the woman is not of a value. Like it or not.
@@allied9380 I disagree with you, I know men that like that women don't play games or pretend be inacesible. Or play with the time of him pretend is a busy person with many relathionships .And it's know that when a couple it's made the one for the other the chemistry, atraction and intererest for the other is evident.
My man is nothing like this, he tells me he loves me multiple times a day, sweeps me off my feet, massages me, takes me beautiful places, talks with me
I think because he's mature and at some point he felt safe enough and listened to and validated by you to open up. You must really love each other a lot. He's not afraid and neither are you. You're both lucky to have found each other.
Both can play games or have issues. There's a video describing love languages and another that talks about type of people in relationships, like avoidant, for example
That is what my boyfriend told me CONSTANTLY…….He was right. Everything changed. He started bringing tools to fix things in my home. He started buying little things that he noticed that I needed. Taking better of my dog. Etc……😳😳👍❤️
I don't have a fragile ego, or much ego. I don't need a women to protect said ego, no woman should. I will verbally tell someone that I love them and also express it through my actions. My brain only shuts down when I am angry because anger is toxic and don't want to hurt my partner. So, I meditate to let go of anger.
@@laurel1865 how did you get that out of what he said . Really. . And you are clearly one of those that like to push people's buttons and make them hurt you and then stand there playing victim.
MEN ARE ABSOLUTELY INCREDIBLE.... STOP LISTENING TO RUclips VIDEOS AND FEMINAZIS PLEASE ALL THE MEN IN MY LIFE... FROM DAD, BROTHER, COUSINS, FRIENDS, BOYFRIEND.. ARE ABSOLUTELY WONDERFUL!!!! AND BTW WE WOMEN ARE FAAARRR FROM PERFECT.... BLESSINGS!
This guy is LEGIT. My guy rarely says, “I love you” except in rare circumstances where I might be getting on a plane without him, having a very difficult time, or when he feels a bit threatened. However, he doesn’t need to - he shows he loves me daily by what he does, and how he handles things. I was bothered at first... but over 10 yrs, I learned that’s just real love, and I wouldn’t trade that for the world!
My guy and I have been together almost one year, with a large chunk of that time now being a long distance relationship. We broke up for a month and a half when he announced he had to move because I felt like we couldn’t handle being so far apart. We didn’t last being apart, we speak every day, FaceTime a lot, visit, and now he purchased a house I approved of (he wanted my input on the listings of homes he sent me to make sure I’d like the house also) and has asked me to move in with him. He STILL has never told me he loves me, but every single action proves he does. The way he looks at me, the way he speaks, the way he holds me, the way he takes care of me physically, emotionally, etc... I’m learning how to be OK without hearing those 3 little words. My ex husband tells me I love you on a constant basis, even still, but has rarely ever treated me like he did/does. And that’s how I compare how much actions speak louder than words!
If you have to put this much struggle into communication: you're probably not right for each other. Be your true self with someone that is their true self and you will both eliminate the need to strategize on how to understand someone.
Exactly. The best relationship I had was with a wonderful loving man who was upfront from the start. Eager to see me. Clear about how much he cared. Regularly in contact daily, no games. Regular meets. Moved in together seamlessly. It can be like having the other half of you slotted into place. He hugged and held me like he hated to let me go. He passed away but I’ve found that same rhythm again so it’s possible to find mature men who are open with their emotions. If they aren’t they just aren’t that into you. Say thank you next.
This is not true. When a men loves you he will say it to you, will make you feel special, want to see you smile and make you happy in any way possible.
A$una25 it depends on the guy really. Either way, you can feel it when a guy or person is really into you. As long as you can perceive a genuine sense of admiration from their part. If I really like them and don't get that feeling from them, I just dump them. I know they will never feel the same way, and that is proof enough that they aren't worth my time.
I won't artificially present myself as a challenge, what the actual hell. If I love somebody I will give them comfort and make them feel secure and safe about the feelings I have for them. I did experience the weird affection and clinginess of a guy who I was not willing to be with until I did agree to be with him and suddenly he treated me completely different. That's a terrible feeling and these are the bs guys. I am not going to be messing with someone just so they feel like I am a trophy because I am oh so hard to get. Once 2 people decide to love they should stand up for each other and not make it more difficult than it has to be. If that's not the case I would sure prefer being alone than getting lost in a toxic circle of "oh he doesn't pay attention - I will ignore him - now he wants me - now I show affection - oh he doesn't pay attention".
I have been with my husband 20 yrs this mid August and I was only 16, i'm NOW 36 and my husband always tells me how much he loves me and cares about me. He messages me 2-4 times a day everyday too or calls me. He shares his feelings with me as well.
Because your husband is a bear riding a unicycle in the circus. He has been trained primarily to avoid pain and conflict by complying with his master. This is no way for a man to live
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Michele Smith THIS! If I constantly have to stroke an ego and prove my „value“, how endlessly tiring?! I‘d rather have none of it if I can‘t be my authentic self at all...
if a woman has to work hard to be loved, the love she earned is worthless to her! real love is unconditional (as much as is humanly possible-only Jesus can give fully unconditional love!). You love because of who someone is in their heart, not because of what they do or look like. A woman needs to be loved the way a child is loved, just because they exist. Our need is to be accepted and appreciated as we are in our most casual moments, when we aren't trying to be anything.
I'd be honest, I didn't hear a single word he you said and was simply reading the comments and after 5mins of the video playing in the background I paused it to read more of the comments.. Brain you really need a coaching from all the people who commented on the video.. Not the other way round
I looove my beautiful strong man I've got. :) When he had trouble sharing his feelings, we had a conversation about it and now he almost tells me every day how he loves me and he is thankful and grateful about our relationship. It is called communication and maturity. Yes, ego love and spiritual love is very different. A woman needs to know the difference and love herself enough to love and understand another human being. Women often have issues with self confidence. If women do not resolve that, she will always keep looking for outside confirnation. That is a very tough task to put on a man. Ive been in a relationship with a very insecure man and I felt suffocated. With spiritual, mature love, there is no need for tricks, games, useless fighting etc. Being compassionate for eachother, not always wanting to be right. Those are two very important factors. My boyfriend and I have grown together trough communication, sometimes a good fight. But every time we come out stronger and that's the most important.
I think guys are not that complicated because if he really loves you, he will never do anything that will hurt you. They may not be as expressive as women but their action speaks louder than words.
A New Love Official I totally agree that actions speak way louder than words. However, people *can* hurt each other even without meaning to--like a careless remark, a misunderstanding, or even hitting a "trigger" they didn't know was there. It's what they do when they realize they'd hurt your feelings that counts.
@@RkristinaTay that person IS right. No one who loves another person would intentionally hurt them. There are amazing men out there. The horrible men in the world don't represent all men. Or the horrible women don't represent all women.
I am often amused at the notion that men are about doing and not talking yet when you listen to a sports program, all the men do is talk talk talk about the fine details of a game, or their career, or their injury etc. Imagine if men did this with their partner?
Mothers are responsible of the way her "little man" sees women and relationships. Mom's should teach men to express feelings and not be jealous on his girl.
Our men, they will talk about non important stuff but when something is high emotion is different. We as woman have been hurt so much by man throughout history that some of us can’t see the gift of honesty that he is offering, we get offended instead of listening and looking for ways to heal the female/male relationships. Even more important for those of us who have sons we need to listen so that we honor our sons high emotions and how they express themselves by being inflexible we might be creating monsters of men repressed and frustrated that will continue the cycle of hurting woman.
Humans are like the earth: the more you come close to their core the higher the danger, so if you don't want to lose someone you will have to approach said core either not or with carefull preparation. In both cases flaking on the surface is the safest option. It's the same reason we don't know much about our friends. We don't want to step on their hearts.
Emotional intelligence is the rarest form of intelligence I’ve noticed. It helps SO much to have ample of it in today’s society. Glad both me and my partner both have it. Makes things much less complicated.
As a 35 years old woman who has met many men, some partners/boyfriends, some friends, brother's in law, etc... this makes no sense... not all men are like that and some women are like that...what I've seen is that these attitudes differ whether a person is romantic and sensitive or not regardless of whether the person is male or female
JoanaT Sorry for replying to a month old comment but I felt like a crazy person going through the threads looking for a comment like yours. People seem very stuck on the "men are cavemen with no comunication skills who just want to fight tigers or some shit" mentality. God, I'm so tired of it. This video seems taylor made for those poor women that are ALWAYS complaining about how their husbands won't help with chores. "Haha men are so dumb, they can't even change diapers and they never remember birthdays!" Neglected women feel better believing boys will be boys and they will never realize they're just being played by a selfish, lazy, emotionally stunned asshole. Side note: am I supposed to believe women feel like chatting up a creature threatening their lives? I know it's just an analogy but it's a STUPID one. I'm fucking sick of being called a f***** just for feeling BASIC HUMAN EMPATHY and not because of all the sleeping with men. "Oh he's gay, of course he's all sensitive and well spoken" but I'm just NORMAL
don't apologise please. It's never too late for communicating and sharing ideas and opinions... I totally agree with what you say and I hate it too. I have a very good male friend who is so so sensitive and sweet and he is straight but he's like the loveliest guy ever. Nothing wrong with being gay but sadly, I do notice that many people act as if being sensitive and emotional is a sign of weakness or "women's stuff" and so if a man is extra sensitive he must be gay 😔... It's so fucking wrong! I, personally, love men who are capable of showing emotion and are sensitive. For me, a real man is not one who likes to fight and show his muscles, but one who gets emotional and shows it if I write him a special love song for example... Yes I agree some women complain too much. For those women all I have to say is: If your man doesn't know how to change diapers, teach him. He doesn't help with the house chores, ask him to (it's something you should've considered and paid attention to before you decided to live with him). You don't have to live with a man who doesn't make you happy. You deserve the man you want so search for him and wait for him. There are many wonderful amazing decent men out there. Don't settle for less just because you are insecure or afraid of being alone ladies.
I think this is so on point!... I mean, I feel that life is like a series of experiences and every person will perceive it slightly differently depending on what they've been through. Also, common sense would dictate alot. Observe the situation for what it is and you will (usually) find your answer. -SV 34 years of life wisdom will get you to think this way!
SuperKathio this is sad but out of all of my relationship I actually never had this though, to me personally it don't make sense but I find it interesting for women it's mostly what they think about.
I've been questioned by the guy I was in love with.. "Why do you always tell me you love me? Why can't you just accept it at face value?" That was the turning point to me being more cold towards him overall as a person. If a man cannot accept my love for him, even if I have to say it 100 times a day, he will lose my respect.
well if my girl friend asked me that when i told her i loved her id let her go. Letting him go would be the best thing, if he doesn't get that you love him than hes just wasting your time.
That moment when a man mansplains an excuse for social immaturity in men...My husband is the manliest man I’ve ever met and he continuously uses his words on a daily basis to tell me how much he loves me.
That moment when anyone uses the word "mansplains" like it doesn't immediately take away any credibility from the speaker to be so obnoxiously and arbitrarily sexist
This (not expressing verbalky our feelings) may be true for some men, but certainly not ALL. As a man, I'm deeply in love with my wife. I personally made a commitment to tell AND show it. My actions mirror my words and I make sure that we communicate about our mutual feelings as much as possible. Trust me, she LOVES it!
I don't blame you. Part of this "challenge" is if he doesn't give me kind words when I need them most, I'll pull back and abstain from talking for a while until he comes out of the damn forest, looking me in the eyes and showing/telling me in some way that I'm important. If he doesn't, then that's not going to be doing him any favors if he's interested in me. That's a one way street to nowhere.
True love must feel unconditional. You give without expecting anything back, you give the other space and liberty to manifest themselves. Only the idea that they're truly allowed to do anything will keep them relaxed. We tend to grip on the loved one trying to make it exclusive and give them many other roles, mother/father figure, friend, lover, financial advisor, etc. The least amount of pressure we put on ourselves and others, the more fruitful those relationships are going to be. Jealousy has no place when unconditional love is present, then you only want the best for the other.
When aman love u he always show his passion towards u,protective,he always say I love u. But he cannot tolorate his emotions and diginity to be shuttered down. In accordance of showing u love,he always expect RESPECT IN RETURN. Thank you. 👏👏👏👏❤💘❤💘💘❤💘❤💘
Sarah Jensen lmfao if your reverse your statement then it's 100% true women think and act solely based of their emotions. Men anyway real men most men in the u.s are pussies now. But those that are men we are logical 100% of the way
Carl Jung said that men are consciously rational en subconsciously emotional. (Women the other way around) If a man is unable to act rationally, he will have strong emotional outbursts (anger) or withdraw en feel sorry for himself all the time. So in a way you are right, because a man wants to feel love desperately, but first he must get a grip on himself. Women on the other hand have very strict subconcious ideas and convictions (witch they mistake voor 'logic') and can become very rigid in their behaviour if they do not allow conscious reasoning to challenge those subconcious ideas.
I hate it when people say you have to be a “challenge”. It did take awhile for me to go out on a date with my now fiancé, but once we finally did we we were inseparable after that. I’m challenging bc I’m hard headed, but not because I play games with him which is what I feel they mean when they say “challenge”. We both like feeling like we’re a team and couldn’t build our empire without the other. So I think it’s stupid to encourage women to make him “chase” you, otherwise he’ll get bored with you and move on. That’s telling us we’re not good enough as who we are. That we’re boring and uninteresting unless we’re acting aloof and nonchalant. So fuck all that.
Be yourself and the right one will come along. Compatibility is everything. Another man’s trash is another man’s treasure. People like different things.
True I actually think that most womin are more egoistic then men these days. We mostly don't want to change for a man but we want him do everything for us including changing some things that we don't like
I don’t believe it. When he loves you there is no possibility to hide emotions but if he doesn’t then he can trick to use you for his occasional amusement
Sadly I would have to say all men. I'm not proud of it but I've strung alone women just on the sole fact I can. I did it for the name of science trying to understand crazy women since all women are crazy and sheer entertainment
I may allow it, but that doesn't mean I'm being strung along. There are no hooks on that string. I just feel like playing with it, that's all. A cat's gotta have entertainment yo.
Yeah that's sexist bullshit. I quit the vid from the start. All these scientific sexists studies have been disproven. Men aren't heartless flesh beasts without emotions. And women aren't the sweet soft talkative fragile bitches. There's all types of people regardless of gender. I have a guy friend who never stop speaking, and he's the girliest thing possible, way girlier than me lmao.
@@artemisk.2334 yes 😧. If you agree with him, go ahead and watch, you'll like him lol. He used different words, but that was the meaning of them yep... 😧
Totally my man! 😂. Never speak up much about his actual feelings about us. (even if i speak up about it, he wont say anything sweeter , but just saying yes, or talking about something else, bcs yeaahh he cant speak about what he is feeling high emotion about. I think he's feeling really happy when i talked about blw much i love him and decided tu be silent). But when we are together, he set all his focus on me, his eyes, body gestures, and everything was so woderful as if "i love you" words wont be needed bcs all of his actions already tells me that he loves me so so much that im holding into tears while typing these 😭😭😭💓
Not sure I agree with any of this. A person, man or woman, can be a very expressive person or an emotionally repressed or stunted or fall somewhere in between. I've been around women with emotional capacity of a rock and others who appear almost crazy because they cannot control their emotions. I am man who, I think, experiences extremely strong emotions but does not show them all the time because the anger can get you in a lot of trouble and if a man is with a woman and he is to expressive it can 1) scare her off, 2) make her panic because they have such low self esteem they cannot believe someone likes them that much, 3) turn her off and/or make her completely disrespect you because "men don't show emotions and if they do they are weak". If men who have no problem showing/expressing their emotions but appear closed off it is because society and women have shown him that he is weak and not confident. So if a woman bitches that her guy is emotionally unavailable it can be argued that it is partially her fault. Women see an emotionally closed off man as a challenge, something to fix = huge attraction.Lastly, how can men not be emotional creatures if they can appreciate the beauty of women (it's not always sex) or produce the huge amount of beautiful works of art, music, poetry and literature that exist.
wendeln92 most women like expressive lovers. There is no love in the start, no matter what you think or feel. It's not what you feel that leads to longevity, but what you do with those feelings and how you work things out. Most women believe a man can like them a lot or love them. That's not shocking at all. She may not consider you to be that amazing, so it obviously won't boost her self esteem, unless she just likes the attention. In the start, she doesn't know you well enough to be on top of the moon cause you like her. Where love is concerned, most women love an expressive man. And I think most guys ARE expressive! It's normal to express your feelings to your lover. It's expected. Society has taught men not to cry over silly things. Men are not shamed for crying at funerals, being upset or professing their love. Nor are such men seen as weak. I've never heard of that.
I definitely agree with you. I would also like to add that it is not always accurate that women in stressful or high emotional situations always want to talk. I would say it depends on the person, but in emergencies, such as when someone they care about gets sick, or is hurt, women act. Now over extended periods of stress, especially when it comes to situations that they cannot do anything (such as a misunderstanding in the bank, or other frustrations of everyday life) then yes, venting about our woes can be calming. Something I will agree though with the speaker is that perhaps things such as anniversaries and gifts are more important to women than men. Not that men don't care about them and they wouldn't be moved by a heartfelt gift on an anniversary, but I feel that for most women it is much more important, to the point that they can start feeling rather depressed and dissapointed. But that can of course vary in people and their values. I am sentimental and it very important to me to create memories and honor occasions.
aru akise No. Not all men are raised that way. Maybe in rural areas or patriarchal societies. But many countries are against saying "boys don't cry" and what not. And most men do know the difference between feeling jealous, love, anger, sadness, etc. Most don't confuse those feelings. And most do what they have to to deal with their feelings and issues. A man who isn't competent enough to deal with his issues, shouldn't be dating in the first place. Don't punish others for what you feel or go through. Most civilised and sane men don't. Expressing yourself isn't the same as confusing your feelings or punishing others for what you go through. Lashing out, isn't a right. Taking out your emotions on a person who hasn't hurt or abused you, isn't your right. Yes, a man should express his love. But no person has the right to punish, abuse and lash out on you cause they're going through something completely unrelated to you! That's what you call baggage, unresolved issues and not dealing with your emotions and issues. Don't categorise this as emotional, when it's downright abusive and requires therapy. Stable people lead stable lives.
In my experience when I feel deep love and affection I usually show it by doing something. If she is with me I'll touch her and cuddle. If she isn't then maybe I'll text her how much I miss her, or think about her and write a poem or send her memes. I watched this video to see if it was accurate and I agree. It is a pretty good explanation and it gives pretty decent advice to women on how not to ruin a relationship.
Julian Martin that's something most people do. It's the bare minimum. It takes 2 mins to text, send a meme, etc I wouldn't personally interpret that as a sign of love or immense interest. I would take that casually or as a guy being childish and inexperienced. But everyone's different. And it's natural for two people in an intimate relationship, to want to hold the other/each other or cuddle, even though some people aren't big on cuddling, or don't cuddle well. The desire to hold the other in one way or another, is natural. I think that love takes a very long time. And I think that pure/real love is different from love coupled with passion, intimacy, chemistry and compatibility. The former doesn't always work cause love alone isn't enough. It's important to be practical. I personally think that the latter is desirable. I think that some people just get along better than others. When two minds, bodies and souls instantly meet, it's wonderful and exciting. I think that most men are very expressive when it comes to love. I think it's in a mans nature to express himself towards his girlfriend or wife. Young guys or teenagers probably don't express themselves if they have a "crush".
Why is that? I used to be like that because my dad always said that girls were not good at math. I decided to try one day since im pretty smart at every other subject including science. Guess what? All of my best math professors were women. I majored in physics which is basically a series of word problems. All of the physical laws of our universe can be simply and beautifully expressed with equations.
My dad is a great communicator. I grew up being taught that if a person isn't able to or inclined to effectively express through words and actions their points of view to ensure minimal miscommunication and maximum information gaining (with people and situations that matter), chaos, stress and pain will eventually follow. If a grown-ass man expects me to magically and accurately interpret what he cant/won't clearly communicate with me, it's "bye". Of course, when I say communication, I am talking words AND actions. I don't expect a man (or another person) to telepathically read my mind. I don't play games. My relationship with my significant other is one of the very few things that ultimately matter in life (along with family, self worth, and human rights), so why won't I protect and nurture it with everything I have? If there are skills I can improve on to increase the chance of the relationship staying healthy and strong, I would actively pursue it. I expect no less from a man. If as an adult he hasn't figured out the benefits of effective and honest communication, he's not mature enough for me.
1. brain scans are not evidence of causation. if youre conditioned to repress emotion youll probably react in different ways than a person who was conditioned to express it through words. my guess is that both responses are natural in different situations but we tend to force one or the other on you from birth. that difference can be seen in a scan but doesnt mean we are born that way. 2. the emotional examples you gave are fear-based emotions and dont explain others on the emotional spectrum. if you are afraid, your fight-or-flight response will always shut your brain down at least a little and you will react possibly with anger. women feel this way too when they lose the remote. 3. everyone has a fight or flight response when attacked by an animal, be they a cave man or modern day woman. 4. the idea of "talking" about your insecurities could potentially be seen as an attempt to override the emotional response and force it through the rational mind. im sure you wouldnt try to "talk it out" in the case of animal attack. just sayin, environment versus biology. these concepts are contested in science
I love it when I read intelligent responses which are phonetically and grammatically correct in all aspects. Not only that you make exceptional arguments on this topic. Just letting you know that someone appreciates your intelligence and wisdom. You damn Brainiac. ;-)
Kitty Purrr no problem i geek out lol i hate misrepresented or popular folk "science" esp when used to put people into predictable boxes. that doesnt help anyone date or have healthy relationships in modern life
Thank you for these points, I am glad some people are thinking critically about these things! I also wonder how much of the way these brain developments are due to the way we are socialized. Different cultures have different notions of gender. And where do trans* people come in within this theory?
I highly doubt that a woman would rather talk when her life is in danger. Intuition is real and I’m not sure your information makes much sense. (during the Stone Age or not.)
Vessy Mink In my case, it's actually true. When I was attacked by some youth who tried to rob me, I literally tried to talk my way out of it. I'm the type of person who doesn't have a violent bone in their body and it's very hard for me to get angry or to react, even in times of danger. I only started screaming for help, minutes into the attack, when my talking didn't work. It was pretty scary.:(
Vessy Mink Thanks, dear.❤️ It's crazy because we think we know how we'd react to something, until it actually happens. You also think that it would never happen in broad daylight, with tons of people around. But that's exactly what happened to me. It was very unexpected but now I often forget that that happened to me, unless I'm triggered or I'm in the area of the attack. The attackers were arrested within a half hour but only one confessed to the crime (because she was a youth, she only got probation and was required to submit her DNA into a police database). The others got off because there was a discrepancy in which one of the two male youth involved grabbed my purse. Luckily the one that I was pretty sure did it, ended up doing time for another crime. I just wish that the female would have done time, as she's the only one out of the bunch who assaulted me. I try not to dwell on it though, because I know that God will deal with her in His own way.
The title is kinda dumb. What is a guy thinking when he loves you? Uhhh I'm thinking "I love you" is what I'm thinking lol. Also, he is dead wrong in simplifying our reaction and saying that our brains "shut off" when we experience high emotions. Our brains do not shut off, they light up! We get a surge of clarity that allows us to think fast. Let me ask all the guys, how many of you notice that you can think really fast and you get superhero like sensory abilities to see and hear all around you when you get exited? It's like taking a shot of caffeine! We become hyper alert and super focused and concentrated. This is NOT our brain "shutting down" that would be stupid. Imagine our ancestors brains shutting down at the crucial moment when a wolf wanders into our cave. lol Thats stupid. Our brains get lit up like in that movie Limitless.
Infatuation is different to love. When a man is infatuated with me, I'm scared because he's completely insensitive to who I am and what I need or want.
You've solved a mystery here and taken off a load of garbage from my mind. He knows that I think he's a hero and it is true. He is a hero. I'll never forget how, a few years ago, I had been offended so badly by a group of folks, to an extent that I couldn't even talk, he came over and started telling funny stories and actively raised my emotions to a point where I was able to smile then laugh. When I think back on stuff like that, I realize that I am really blessed to have him. 💞
What if men aren’t outspoken about their feelings because they are raised that way.. it’s ”not manly” to cry and talk about your feelings.. makes sense huh?
@@xm377Moyocoyatzin extreme opposite ends are unhealthy. you can be stoic but the emotion you suppress has to go somewhere, it doesnt just dissapear. eventually it will spill over into a cesspool of madness and chaos. on the other hand expressing everything in excess, while it may be cathartic, can be problematic for others especially if your emotional state is extremely volatile most of the time. there are methods of release which dont require stoicism 100% of the time, however it is controlled and contained in certain environs. one last thing to consider, there is no one size fits all method to self control.
Thank you Brian! That does make sense. I often ask myself why can't things (relationship) be simple, easy and straightforward and not so complex but then again, I have to remind myself that the human body itself is very complex - we are complex beings. I will keep the points you raised, in mind and make every effort to better understand males and their actions.
My man just told me yesterday he loved me for the first time; we met six months ago in July and started dating in August. I was happy and shocked because although I've been waiting for him to say it, it was totally unexpected at the time. He also reinforced how he feels about me by saying to me he adored me and that he was lucky to have me in his life. He's said I was a blessing to him and he wishes he could do more for me.
I don't think it's something you haveto work to do. I believe the narrator is saying that your man knows that you have limits, boundaries, to what you will put up with, that there are indeed deal breakers. Most men, the ones who love you, don't want to be able to just get away with everything. They want you to have standards because it makes them better people.
Reine D' Ester lol me too. I always say this. I think like a man. I hate being nagged or having a clingy person around. Can't stand empty chit chat. Very much a personality D. Lol
And im also a workaholic i just realised that recently. When im in a serious mode i couldn't stand people talking to me. Or i wouldn't be able to pay attention to what they say. This annoyed alot of my girlfriends off. Sometimes, sort of hurt my man but because hes very important to me i would apologize immediately. Poor thing... 😅
I used to love/adore my husband of 8 years. I felt I couldn’t live without him. Then I got pregnant, had my baby. Then, when my baby was about a month, I woke up one morning. And I didn’t feel anything for my husband anymore. Now I love/adore my daughter. I would do anything for her.
My husband wants me to open up more. I don't complain or talk about my feelings. I try to figure out why I feel an emotion and work it out on my head. Self reflection and emotional control is important to me.
No. Maybe english is not your first language, but action means doing, not talking about it. do it. dont talk about it first, do it first. When it is done then you can talk about it. People who tend to talk a lot do not do a lot, they live in their own mind as a fantasy, which is good enough for some people to trick them into feeling like they are actually doing something. If you did something you would not need to talk about it, as the action has manifested itself in reality for all to see
My husband is Arabian. He is very expressive with his feelings. Actually, because of him, I learned and felt safe to be more open and expressive about mine. I'm so blessed to have a man like this. ❤
Same, mine is east Indian and white mixed. He is very well expressive, writes poems to me, text everyday to me and yes with emoji lol. He is by far nothing what this video says. I feel really blessed having him so I know what you mean. Best wishes to you and yours.
Notice how you've gotten a few minutes of exposure to pixels representing a tiny fractional chunk of this entire human being. Yet you know alllllll about him. M'kay. (You judgy hypocrite lol)
I disagree completely. The brain is pliable and the male brain and female brain are not so drastically different. You can find more differences between two female brains, for example, than between a man and woman. This just encourages duality.
I want to say "Thank You!" I grew up in a house hold with my mother and little sister and my mother had no father as well so I knew what other families looked like with both parents together and that is totally different as well as ever man and woman. You gave me an in site to how my husband is wired because Lord know I have a HUGE mouth 🤗
Aribam Anju I watched this because I was curious. I can say it pretty accurate. Obviously there are difference s but this is a general structure and I could relate to having experienced those types of thoughts and feelings.
Love you Brian. Really enjoy and appreciate your excellent videos. You display the perfect combination of intelligence, humor, kind-heartedess, good-natured (and Divine) masculinity and sexiness. I'm looking forward to reading your books! Blessings and Gratitude xo
Thank you for this podcast, it has really helped me understand my man more. He can't say he loves me but it's all the things he does for me that shows his love.
Indeed, be a challenge. If he gets you too easily, he will lose respect for you. I have been lucky to have a man who is quite verbose, and has shared many of those thoughts and feelings with me, such as: what made him respect me more, feeling amazed that I'm with him, wanting to believe that I have never been with another man before him, that I chose him because he is better than all other men, and that he loves me, in his special coded phrase. Yet still he will do as little as possible to get what he wants. I always have to keep maintaining the challenge, pushing him to take me out or do any fun activities, and it's tiresome. I'm tired. I don't think I should have to try so hard just to earn someone's respect, and to get my needs met. Being on your own is good too. Queen of your own kingdom. :)
When you surrender to God's will He will give you the spouse you need not the spouse you necessarily are crazy madly in love with. Love grows, love is an action that is daily built and develops. I love that crazy butterfly madly in love kind of love but that doesn't mean that's the best thing. The truth is God gives you what you need, what I needed was to be loved in a way that goes beyond emotions and the physical. The only thing I can say is I'm greatful for my husband because his love has changed me. After being married 15 years I see how wrong I was about my past relationships. My husband is the first man ever that made me feel truely safe, the trust is so strong, his love is like nothing I've ever experienced. When he holds me I can't explain I just feel safe, like I'm finally home.
Um no. When a man really loves you he tells you it and tells you how it makes him feel. In my experience. Of course i gave up dating white guys decades ago. Mexican men have no problem expressing how they feel so it could be cultural.
My Puerto Rican man tells me he loves me every day and compliments me all of the time. No white man I’ve dated has really ever shown me the affection that he has shown me.
Sorry to burst bubbles here.. Black, white og yellow dont matter.. I'm white and i tell my girl everyday how much she means to me and how much i love her, and i also dont just say them. I show it to her aswell.. opening doors for her if we walk hand in hand together, split fees or take her part (cant ALLWAYS be like that, i recon you can understand that). I also stand up for her even if its something that i personaly wouldnt agree with her on, but i support her way of thoughts and stand by her side! .. so dont put a race card on this, its just petty and got nothing to do with the matter
Also not to mention, females are not any better on the subject on expressing their feelings, most girls i meet before my girl right now sucked at expressing them selfs!
This is too much hard work. Why can’t men just be real, and we can relax without playing these silly games of having to be a challenge, while at the same time make them our hero. It’s exhausting.
This video is excellent. It reminds me of a wonderful relationship I had. He was always my man of action. Every day his actions showed how much he cared. I realized it's better to be with a man who shows his love in his actions and maybe speaks less words.
this is exactly what I have been dealing with lately 😅 for someone who is highly emotional, sensitive and intuitive, it's brain whacking to decode men's mysterious ways
It is beyond me why people don't just embrace the differences between men and women but instead make it into this divisive struggle that it just doesn't need to be. A couple is so much more fascinating and well rounded with all of those differences! The problem is people's pride getting in the way instead of having loving patience. I agree that men are wired differently on some basic level (and that's awesome! it'd be so boring if we were all wired the same!), but it boils down to the individuals. If someone is kind, they will navigate the differences in a positive way and be better rounded for it, and so will the other person. Also, not all men are like that! My fiance is VERY verbally loving and also in his actions (I am so blessed!). The things he says and does amazes me, and us being his only relationship ever too, he's just a natural with all of this. I also have a lot of male friends and I find them much easier to communicate with than other women. Often a woman is at fault, if she has poor intuition with a guy or poor communication skills, that's not his fault. It's also not a guy's fault if his confidence and masculine gifts have been slowly killed off as a result of our stupid femanazi modern day culture beating him down so hard he's unsure of how to even act or react. Society has just become this man hating entity, making men out to be these knuckle dragging horn dogs that need to be trained a certain way in order to be worthy of women, and it disgusts me. If a woman isn't emotionally mature she will always have trouble with her guy no matter how awesome he is, nor will she have the ability to calmly learn how he ticks without getting butthurt. A surefire way to stunt emotional growth in anyone is PRIDE, which is just what the (current) feminist movement achieves. Don't get me wrong, we need equal rights, what we don't need is "isms", and divisive agendas. Extreme feminism has not done women any real favors with men either, because it teaches them to just expect the men to figure it out, and if they are worthy, they will. That's just not reality, nor is it right. Both men and women need to try their best, with loving patience, and humility, because all people are flawed to varying extents. Maybe I'm being harsh on my own gender here, but to clarify I have seen equal badness in each, and it has nothing to do with being a man or a woman. Some PEOPLE just don't know how to interact, or treat each other, period. Science is also too heavily relied upon when it comes to this stuff, it can teach us a lot but we're so much more than a brain box wired to a meat suit walking around. If people would think outside of that science box more, they'd acknowledge the default tendencies they have, and grow beyond them.
Here is a little tactic women can use to make a guy feel really good: Step one: Get a jar of pickles. Step two: Make sure he sees you struggling to open the lid. Step three: Hand him the jar and thank him when he gets the lid off. He will think he is Hercules. If you don't believe me, I challenge you to try it.
Ugh... this may describe some men but it certainly doesn’t describe all men. I’ve had relationships with men who can discuss their emotions. And really, even if he loves you but you don’t feel loved, none of this matters. This goes for any person, if you don’t feel loved the rest is irrelevant. This video seems to describe men in such a painfully immature way. Men should just grow up and act in ways that help the relationship, as should people. I’m tired of hearing crap about how women should change their expectations to accommodate men.
Alright, I will chime in here. Years ago my wife asked me why I have such a hard time actually "saying" I love her. I looked at her dumbfounded, and finally I said, "I do all the yard work. I repair everything in this house that is broken or needs replacing. I take care of Christopher, much more than the average man takes care of his children. I clean while you are in your evening classes, and on top of it, I work full-time.................... I am screaming 'I love you', and you cannot hear it???? I am just going to say the truth here: Women are stupid. They fall for any A-hole that says 'I love you", and that is why so many men can get away with treating a woman like Shht. Ladies, the only men that will help you (without being paid) are your father, your brother, and the man that truly loves you ! Wake up!!!
Hey, I am a 56 years old woman and really, I do understand what you said, what you mean...don't know your age and your wifes age...but ...probably..when you get older, you also get it...well...I hope for you she will...
So you would not do any of these chores without a wife? This is absurd, and not love. You’d do those same things with or without a wife. No wonder your wife needs to ask you. I suppose her giving birth, and doing her chores means she loves you too. 🤦♀️
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One thing he said right that a man's actions speak louder than his words.
Yes!
Man!! That is SO true
taemoni.... BEST comment ever!!!
Yes!
Absolutely...I have learnt this at a later age...and I am looking forward to the coming action 😁. Thank you ❤
I hate the fact that as a woman, our entire job is to protect a mans fragile ego and make sure we continue to prove we are a prize. How exhausting.
Exactly how can men complain so much? They have almost all the power. I wonder why their are so many male relationship coaches teaching women how to get and keep a guy but where are the women who are just as popular as them who give advice about women to men? It seems like women value men's opinion more than men value woman's opinion. Look at how many women attend Matthew husseys retreats and seminars when have men ever done that for a female relationship coach?
Men really have almost all the power in relationships. No one shames them for wanting beautiful women no one calls them shallow but if a woman wants a rich guy she's a gold digger. If a woman wants a guy taller than her she's called narrow minded and picky but if a guy rejects a girl because she has a flat chest no one calls him picky. Also when it comes to beauty standards for both genders it's much more achiveable for men than it is for women. They just need to have abs and be well groomed and hygenic and taller than their girl but are still always told women don't care about your looks anyway. But a women is told from a very young age she needs to have a barbie body.
Funny how most of these male relationship coaches for women are not married or in and out of relationships quickly and people still take them seriously but if a woman tried to be a relationship coach for men people would be questioning her all the time about her relationship or martial status.
Yes very tiring.
Not it's not. It's too be yourself and the right one will come along.
I feel like it would be healthier to just find a man who is mature & emotionally intelligent enough to communicate about his feelings? 🙋♀️
Prudence K yesss! I cant believe so many people are still arguing with these neanderthaler examples - I mean did you really not evolve from there?!
schnatzl25 Do you know what evolution is?
Prudence K true, I agree that communication is the best way to live
King 445 evolution is wrong
Nazma Nora Ali what
Yes, I learned that in the hard way ... never believe a man when he says he loves you, look at his actions, it means everything.
i believe that too 😊
Exactly
Nonsense! If a mature man loves, he’s banging down your door. He shows and speaks. There’s no grey area in love, he’s either into you or not! 👍🏼 no games, no mystery.
Alicia B Atherton Agree! I hate the idea that I need to represent a challenge in order to keep a man. You only need a mature and committed man that knows what he wants.
I agree it would be ideal having a mature man who would pursue you and verbalize his feelings as he did without being creepy. Good luck finding him.
@@anadominguez8523 It's subconscious. It has nothing to do with being mature. We still have instincts. And yes, when a woman is being too easy, that gives a man a signal that the woman is not of a value. Like it or not.
@@allied9380 I disagree with you, I know men that like that women don't play games or pretend be inacesible. Or play with the time of him pretend is a busy person with many relathionships .And it's know that when a couple it's made the one for the other the chemistry, atraction and intererest for the other is evident.
@@Mariajbh2 every man is different tho
My man is nothing like this, he tells me he loves me multiple times a day, sweeps me off my feet, massages me, takes me beautiful places, talks with me
I think because he's mature and at some point he felt safe enough and listened to and validated by you to open up. You must really love each other a lot. He's not afraid and neither are you. You're both lucky to have found each other.
Sounds like my guy! He will call me up or send a text just to let me know he loves me. He's always there for me...And he offers me footrubs! 😍
Are you married?
How long have you been married??
You're very blessed.
When a man loves you, you will never be confused about whether he does or doesn't. He will show you. There will be no doubt.
Jackie James what’s ap him +2348159158915
Jackie are u a man?
@@md6mohammed460 I'm a girl, but the person that helped me is a man, give him a try
@@md6mohammed460 what's app him
@@md6mohammed460 No lol😁
So who’s complicated now? Women or Men? Answer: Men
they are both (the true answer lol) cause humans have complicated psychology 😂👌😀👍😂
Totally agree
😂
Both can play games or have issues. There's a video describing love languages and another that talks about type of people in relationships, like avoidant, for example
Dakota yep men is complicated
When a man loves you, you will know.
That is what my boyfriend told me CONSTANTLY…….He was right. Everything changed. He started bringing tools to fix things in my home. He started buying little things that he noticed that I needed. Taking better of my dog. Etc……😳😳👍❤️
😢😢😢
I don't have a fragile ego, or much ego. I don't need a women to protect said ego, no woman should. I will verbally tell someone that I love them and also express it through my actions. My brain only shuts down when I am angry because anger is toxic and don't want to hurt my partner. So, I meditate to let go of anger.
The number one fear that men have is ridicule. Women's number one fear is assault. You must be on of the men whose not afraid of name calling.
Laurel woman can and do much worse. Not so innocent
Wow,good man !
That's beautifully said!
@@laurel1865 how did you get that out of what he said . Really. . And you are clearly one of those that like to push people's buttons and make them hurt you and then stand there playing victim.
How can I make her life better, that’s what I think when I am in love👍
Marc that's a great way to think about being in love with a girl
Britanie Williams well I think it’s the only way, or I may just not be in love...😂😂😂
Got a twin brother?
@ Goat...
@@dayondastribling5080 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
What if you put your energy into teaching men to acknowledge their emotions and communicate instead of asking women to play their games?
Huh?
My experience is that then they walk away.
Hahahahahaha! Right? Hahahahaha! Amen!
Exactly
It would be so much better
The more I know about men, the less I want to be with one..
MEN ARE ABSOLUTELY INCREDIBLE.... STOP LISTENING TO RUclips VIDEOS AND FEMINAZIS PLEASE
ALL THE MEN IN MY LIFE... FROM DAD, BROTHER, COUSINS, FRIENDS, BOYFRIEND..
ARE ABSOLUTELY WONDERFUL!!!!
AND BTW
WE WOMEN ARE FAAARRR FROM PERFECT....
BLESSINGS!
PowerOfLoveTarot Medium Reading so true
PowerOfLoveTarot Medium Reading this guy is generalizing men. Not all men are alike. My boyfriend loves texting he loves me
The more I know about womens and theirs hypergamy, the less I want to be with one
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Actions speak louder than words 💯
This guy is LEGIT. My guy rarely says, “I love you” except in rare circumstances where I might be getting on a plane without him, having a very difficult time, or when he feels a bit threatened.
However, he doesn’t need to - he shows he loves me daily by what he does, and how he handles things.
I was bothered at first... but over 10 yrs, I learned that’s just real love, and I wouldn’t trade that for the world!
My guy and I have been together almost one year, with a large chunk of that time now being a long distance relationship. We broke up for a month and a half when he announced he had to move because I felt like we couldn’t handle being so far apart. We didn’t last being apart, we speak every day, FaceTime a lot, visit, and now he purchased a house I approved of (he wanted my input on the listings of homes he sent me to make sure I’d like the house also) and has asked me to move in with him. He STILL has never told me he loves me, but every single action proves he does. The way he looks at me, the way he speaks, the way he holds me, the way he takes care of me physically, emotionally, etc... I’m learning how to be OK without hearing those 3 little words. My ex husband tells me I love you on a constant basis, even still, but has rarely ever treated me like he did/does. And that’s how I compare how much actions speak louder than words!
Seriously, yours and mine are the same then, cause he makes sure I'm okay in every area.... But difficult to say I love always...
Good way of convincing girls that their guy gives them shit but in reality he loves you!! Hahaha well placed words ...
If you have to put this much struggle into communication: you're probably not right for each other. Be your true self with someone that is their true self and you will both eliminate the need to strategize on how to understand someone.
Totally agree.. These youtube vids make relationships seem so complicated when it should really feel comfortable
Exactly. The best relationship I had was with a wonderful loving man who was upfront from the start. Eager to see me. Clear about how much he cared. Regularly in contact daily, no games. Regular meets. Moved in together seamlessly. It can be like having the other half of you slotted into place. He hugged and held me like he hated to let me go. He passed away but I’ve found that same rhythm again so it’s possible to find mature men who are open with their emotions. If they aren’t they just aren’t that into you. Say thank you next.
This is not true. When a men loves you he will say it to you, will make you feel special, want to see you smile and make you happy in any way possible.
In any way possible? No. You can't expect a man to jump through hoops for you. Go ahead and make him. He'll get tired of it, fast.
Not my man but it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love me
This is not general to all men but most men prefer actions.
Depends on indivudual personality actually
A$una25 it depends on the guy really. Either way, you can feel it when a guy or person is really into you. As long as you can perceive a genuine sense of admiration from their part. If I really like them and don't get that feeling from them, I just dump them. I know they will never feel the same way, and that is proof enough that they aren't worth my time.
I won't artificially present myself as a challenge, what the actual hell. If I love somebody I will give them comfort and make them feel secure and safe about the feelings I have for them. I did experience the weird affection and clinginess of a guy who I was not willing to be with until I did agree to be with him and suddenly he treated me completely different. That's a terrible feeling and these are the bs guys. I am not going to be messing with someone just so they feel like I am a trophy because I am oh so hard to get. Once 2 people decide to love they should stand up for each other and not make it more difficult than it has to be. If that's not the case I would sure prefer being alone than getting lost in a toxic circle of "oh he doesn't pay attention - I will ignore him - now he wants me - now I show affection - oh he doesn't pay attention".
@Rehana Aamir well there are many types in the world so don't lose hope yet 😔😜
Lolzzz. Been through exactly same situation. But yes, it taught me loads- in a jist, what you explained here.
@@sriya9788 good luck to you for moving on! 🙏🏻💫✨
@@noogoom thanks. Let's simplify life 💮🍾. Good luck to you as well. I'm done btw :)
I completely agree with you - there is no reason to play games when both partners are emotionally mature!
I have been with my husband 20 yrs this mid August and I was only 16, i'm NOW 36 and my husband always tells me how much he loves me and cares about me. He messages me 2-4 times a day everyday too or calls me.
He shares his feelings with me as well.
Dats so sweet.lucky u😍
Nice!!! You’re super lucky!!!!
I envy you.
Lucky you. And lucky him
Because your husband is a bear riding a unicycle in the circus. He has been trained primarily to avoid pain and conflict by complying with his master. This is no way for a man to live
Always the truth - a man is defined by his actions not his words!
Nayna Shetty agre with yu completely
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My thought exactly. I was going to comment but then saw this lol so, nevermind. ☺️
totally agree
So are women 😉. And there's nothing wrong with an introverted woman either. This guy means well, but his research is poorly done.
"look at his actions, it speaks louder than words" this is the most important thing every woman should understand.
News flash- you are only speaking about yourself brian. Women don’t want to work this hard to be loved.
Michele Smith THIS! If I constantly have to stroke an ego and prove my „value“, how endlessly tiring?! I‘d rather have none of it if I can‘t be my authentic self at all...
if a woman has to work hard to be loved, the love she earned is worthless to her! real love is unconditional (as much as is humanly possible-only Jesus can give fully unconditional love!). You love because of who someone is in their heart, not because of what they do or look like. A woman needs to be loved the way a child is loved, just because they exist. Our need is to be accepted and appreciated as we are in our most casual moments, when we aren't trying to be anything.
Art for Love So true, I totally agree! Everything else isn’t really fulfilling and if love at all, half-hearted love...
News flash: love is work. That’s what make it so valuable
I'd be honest, I didn't hear a single word he you said and was simply reading the comments and after 5mins of the video playing in the background I paused it to read more of the comments..
Brain you really need a coaching from all the people who commented on the video.. Not the other way round
Haha same here
Me too right know
Haha same!!
😄 agreed!!!
Same 🙋
I looove my beautiful strong man I've got. :) When he had trouble sharing his feelings, we had a conversation about it and now he almost tells me every day how he loves me and he is thankful and grateful about our relationship. It is called communication and maturity. Yes, ego love and spiritual love is very different. A woman needs to know the difference and love herself enough to love and understand another human being. Women often have issues with self confidence. If women do not resolve that, she will always keep looking for outside confirnation. That is a very tough task to put on a man. Ive been in a relationship with a very insecure man and I felt suffocated. With spiritual, mature love, there is no need for tricks, games, useless fighting etc. Being compassionate for eachother, not always wanting to be right. Those are two very important factors. My boyfriend and I have grown together trough communication, sometimes a good fight. But every time we come out stronger and that's the most important.
Best comment of ALL here.
The more i watch those videos the more I feel like a man, and i am a woman...
Me too.
Exactly my point... not all women are the same.
T. T. Omg lol😂
😂😂
too funny!
“Most men do think about other things as well occasionally.” 🤣
that killed me lol
And he was so serious!!!😂😂
I laughed at that, too 😅
..and my mind says ..see that's true :-)
+Kaepora Gaebora lolol lmao just in case you stupid.... made me laugh out loud
I think guys are not that complicated because if he really loves you, he will never do anything that will hurt you. They may not be as expressive as women but their action speaks louder than words.
Would be nice if you were right.
True.
A New Love Official I totally agree that actions speak way louder than words.
However, people *can* hurt each other even without meaning to--like a careless remark, a misunderstanding, or even hitting a "trigger" they didn't know was there. It's what they do when they realize they'd hurt your feelings that counts.
@@RkristinaTay that person IS right. No one who loves another person would intentionally hurt them. There are amazing men out there. The horrible men in the world don't represent all men. Or the horrible women don't represent all women.
A man can love and still hurt you.
I am often amused at the notion that men are about doing and not talking yet when you listen to a sports program, all the men do is talk talk talk about the fine details of a game, or their career, or their injury etc. Imagine if men did this with their partner?
Mothers are responsible of the way her "little man" sees women and relationships. Mom's should teach men to express feelings and not be jealous on his girl.
I so happy to have emotionally intelligence guy
Our men, they will talk about non important stuff but when something is high emotion is different. We as woman have been hurt so much by man throughout history that some of us can’t see the gift of honesty that he is offering, we get offended instead of listening and looking for ways to heal the female/male relationships. Even more important for those of us who have sons we need to listen so that we honor our sons high emotions and how they express themselves by being inflexible we might be creating monsters of men repressed and frustrated that will continue the cycle of hurting woman.
@@tessiesantiago2858 Number 1 excellent very insightfull comment.
Humans are like the earth: the more you come close to their core the higher the danger, so if you don't want to lose someone you will have to approach said core either not or with carefull preparation. In both cases flaking on the surface is the safest option.
It's the same reason we don't know much about our friends. We don't want to step on their hearts.
Emotional intelligence is the rarest form of intelligence I’ve noticed. It helps SO much to have ample of it in today’s society. Glad both me and my partner both have it. Makes things much less complicated.
As a 35 years old woman who has met many men, some partners/boyfriends, some friends, brother's in law, etc... this makes no sense... not all men are like that and some women are like that...what I've seen is that these attitudes differ whether a person is romantic and sensitive or not regardless of whether the person is male or female
Exactly all men don't act like this.I have 4 sons 4 brothers they all show love differently.
Exactly!
JoanaT Sorry for replying to a month old comment but I felt like a crazy person going through the threads looking for a comment like yours. People seem very stuck on the "men are cavemen with no comunication skills who just want to fight tigers or some shit" mentality. God, I'm so tired of it. This video seems taylor made for those poor women that are ALWAYS complaining about how their husbands won't help with chores. "Haha men are so dumb, they can't even change diapers and they never remember birthdays!" Neglected women feel better believing boys will be boys and they will never realize they're just being played by a selfish, lazy, emotionally stunned asshole. Side note: am I supposed to believe women feel like chatting up a creature threatening their lives? I know it's just an analogy but it's a STUPID one. I'm fucking sick of being called a f***** just for feeling BASIC HUMAN EMPATHY and not because of all the sleeping with men. "Oh he's gay, of course he's all sensitive and well spoken" but I'm just NORMAL
don't apologise please. It's never too late for communicating and sharing ideas and opinions... I totally agree with what you say and I hate it too. I have a very good male friend who is so so sensitive and sweet and he is straight but he's like the loveliest guy ever. Nothing wrong with being gay but sadly, I do notice that many people act as if being sensitive and emotional is a sign of weakness or "women's stuff" and so if a man is extra sensitive he must be gay 😔... It's so fucking wrong! I, personally, love men who are capable of showing emotion and are sensitive. For me, a real man is not one who likes to fight and show his muscles, but one who gets emotional and shows it if I write him a special love song for example...
Yes I agree some women complain too much.
For those women all I have to say is: If your man doesn't know how to change diapers, teach him. He doesn't help with the house chores, ask him to (it's something you should've considered and paid attention to before you decided to live with him). You don't have to live with a man who doesn't make you happy. You deserve the man you want so search for him and wait for him. There are many wonderful amazing decent men out there. Don't settle for less just because you are insecure or afraid of being alone ladies.
I think this is so on point!... I mean, I feel that life is like a series of experiences and every person will perceive it slightly differently depending on what they've been through. Also, common sense would dictate alot. Observe the situation for what it is and you will (usually) find your answer. -SV
34 years of life wisdom will get you to think this way!
Do men ever wonder if a woman loves them? Why must we be the ones concerned?
SuperKathio this is sad but out of all of my relationship I actually never had this though, to me personally it don't make sense but I find it interesting for women it's mostly what they think about.
I've been questioned by the guy I was in love with.. "Why do you always tell me you love me? Why can't you just accept it at face value?" That was the turning point to me being more cold towards him overall as a person. If a man cannot accept my love for him, even if I have to say it 100 times a day, he will lose my respect.
if he loves the woman than of course he will wonder if she loves him back. he just might not vocalize it as much as the woman might
well if my girl friend asked me that when i told her i loved her id let her go. Letting him go would be the best thing, if he doesn't get that you love him than hes just wasting your time.
Wait, wait, wait. Did you just ask "Do men ever wonder if a woman loves him?"... Seriously?
Did I hear that sentence right?Bad men will always invest the absolute minimum to still get what they want from you!
Yup, they do! And women give it to them 🤷🏽♀️ So men continue getting what they want (the woman) even when they are performing minimally, themselves
When a man loves you. He means every word and in action. He respects you and treats you as a high value woman.
That moment when a man mansplains an excuse for social immaturity in men...My husband is the manliest man I’ve ever met and he continuously uses his words on a daily basis to tell me how much he loves me.
That moment when anyone uses the word "mansplains" like it doesn't immediately take away any credibility from the speaker to be so obnoxiously and arbitrarily sexist
@@ItsAsparageese Amen!!!!!
Is that dog in your picture your husband???
What about dogsplaining??? The dog is her husband
Does he have a brother =) lol
This (not expressing verbalky our feelings) may be true for some men, but certainly not ALL.
As a man, I'm deeply in love with my wife. I personally made a commitment to tell AND show it.
My actions mirror my words and I make sure that we communicate about our mutual feelings as much as possible.
Trust me, she LOVES it!
True
3:43 when a man loves you he wants to matter to you. One thing that made sense in his endless chatter
Thanks for the video but as a women l can say that some time we need to hear a nice words
Amoula Bouaicha Agree
Why? I personally just show whenever i want is this a bad thing?
You managed to make it about you :D. Good job lady!
Amoula Bouaicha or bad grammar and spelling lol
I don't blame you. Part of this "challenge" is if he doesn't give me kind words when I need them most, I'll pull back and abstain from talking for a while until he comes out of the damn forest, looking me in the eyes and showing/telling me in some way that I'm important. If he doesn't, then that's not going to be doing him any favors if he's interested in me. That's a one way street to nowhere.
Sounds like you want us to babysit them. No thanks.
Exactly, thanks for saying it
In a nut shell
True love must feel unconditional. You give without expecting anything back, you give the other space and liberty to manifest themselves. Only the idea that they're truly allowed to do anything will keep them relaxed. We tend to grip on the loved one trying to make it exclusive and give them many other roles, mother/father figure, friend, lover, financial advisor, etc. The least amount of pressure we put on ourselves and others, the more fruitful those relationships are going to be. Jealousy has no place when unconditional love is present, then you only want the best for the other.
Yap
I've been arguing that men are emotional creatures while women are logical, but that really pisses men off. ;)
Sarah Jensen seems true though
When aman love u he always show his passion towards u,protective,he always say I love u. But he cannot tolorate his emotions and diginity to be shuttered down. In accordance of showing u love,he always expect RESPECT IN RETURN. Thank you. 👏👏👏👏❤💘❤💘💘❤💘❤💘
Sarah Jensen lmfao if your reverse your statement then it's 100% true women think and act solely based of their emotions. Men anyway real men most men in the u.s are pussies now. But those that are men we are logical 100% of the way
Carl Jung said that men are consciously rational en subconsciously emotional. (Women the other way around) If a man is unable to act rationally, he will have strong emotional outbursts (anger) or withdraw en feel sorry for himself all the time. So in a way you are right, because a man wants to feel love desperately, but first he must get a grip on himself. Women on the other hand have very strict subconcious ideas and convictions (witch they mistake voor 'logic') and can become very rigid in their behaviour if they do not allow conscious reasoning to challenge those subconcious ideas.
Why not be emotional and logical? Certainly, there are benefits to be acquired from both of these perspectives.
If it’s that hard we are good without a men.
I hate it when people say you have to be a “challenge”. It did take awhile for me to go out on a date with my now fiancé, but once we finally did we we were inseparable after that. I’m challenging bc I’m hard headed, but not because I play games with him which is what I feel they mean when they say “challenge”. We both like feeling like we’re a team and couldn’t build our empire without the other. So I think it’s stupid to encourage women to make him “chase” you, otherwise he’ll get bored with you and move on. That’s telling us we’re not good enough as who we are. That we’re boring and uninteresting unless we’re acting aloof and nonchalant. So fuck all that.
I love a man who is older than me, because it seems his strong and wise enough of his feelings
ambruce love.me too
Be yourself and the right one will come along. Compatibility is everything. Another man’s trash is another man’s treasure. People like different things.
Ego is something men and women have. Women are taught to view their ego from a different set of rules.
sometimes our egos can make us float away XD
That's the bloody truth.
True I actually think that most womin are more egoistic then men these days. We mostly don't want to change for a man but we want him do everything for us including changing some things that we don't like
Nerthus Adler No it's just that women can still be happy and connected without men. Single men suffer mentally, physically and emotionally
Men do think of other things as well *occasionally*
Morgan Lemons occasionally lol
Morgan Lemons
You could lead him around by the nose that way. 😁
@@thisisntallowed9560 my dude this is a quote from the video
@@thisisntallowed9560 I call everyone dude unless if they are older than me...so...are you older than me and if so...sorry man
Lollll
I don’t believe it. When he loves you there is no possibility to hide emotions but if he doesn’t then he can trick to use you for his occasional amusement
Aisha Amir yeah not all men think this way and if they do it's cultural and not healthy
Sadly I would have to say all men. I'm not proud of it but I've strung alone women just on the sole fact I can. I did it for the name of science trying to understand crazy women since all women are crazy and sheer entertainment
Ouch hope you understood them doing that!
I may allow it, but that doesn't mean I'm being strung along. There are no hooks on that string. I just feel like playing with it, that's all. A cat's gotta have entertainment yo.
xm377Moyocoyatzin well, that's depressing
Quite honestly this is bollocks. All men and women are different.
With real love, we just have to feel our way.
Yeah that's sexist bullshit.
I quit the vid from the start.
All these scientific sexists studies have been disproven.
Men aren't heartless flesh beasts without emotions. And women aren't the sweet soft talkative fragile bitches.
There's all types of people regardless of gender.
I have a guy friend who never stop speaking, and he's the girliest thing possible, way girlier than me lmao.
@@jessq6506 emm just asking but did he actually said such things?????Didn't really watched it i have my own beliefs so...
@@artemisk.2334 yes 😧. If you agree with him, go ahead and watch, you'll like him lol.
He used different words, but that was the meaning of them yep... 😧
Totally my man! 😂.
Never speak up much about his actual feelings about us. (even if i speak up about it, he wont say anything sweeter , but just saying yes, or talking about something else, bcs yeaahh he cant speak about what he is feeling high emotion about. I think he's feeling really happy when i talked about blw much i love him and decided tu be silent). But when we are together, he set all his focus on me, his eyes, body gestures, and everything was so woderful as if "i love you" words wont be needed bcs all of his actions already tells me that he loves me so so much that im holding into tears while typing these 😭😭😭💓
Dahlia Khumaira that’s exactly how my man is💕
Not sure I agree with any of this. A person, man or woman, can be a very expressive person or an emotionally repressed or stunted or fall somewhere in between. I've been around women with emotional capacity of a rock and others who appear almost crazy because they cannot control their emotions. I am man who, I think, experiences extremely strong emotions but does not show them all the time because the anger can get you in a lot of trouble and if a man is with a woman and he is to expressive it can 1) scare her off, 2) make her panic because they have such low self esteem they cannot believe someone likes them that much, 3) turn her off and/or make her completely disrespect you because "men don't show emotions and if they do they are weak". If men who have no problem showing/expressing their emotions but appear closed off it is because society and women have shown him that he is weak and not confident. So if a woman bitches that her guy is emotionally unavailable it can be argued that it is partially her fault. Women see an emotionally closed off man as a challenge, something to fix = huge attraction.Lastly, how can men not be emotional creatures if they can appreciate the beauty of women (it's not always sex) or produce the huge amount of beautiful works of art, music, poetry and literature that exist.
wendeln92 most women like expressive lovers. There is no love in the start, no matter what you think or feel. It's not what you feel that leads to longevity, but what you do with those feelings and how you work things out.
Most women believe a man can like them a lot or love them. That's not shocking at all. She may not consider you to be that amazing, so it obviously won't boost her self esteem, unless she just likes the attention. In the start, she doesn't know you well enough to be on top of the moon cause you like her.
Where love is concerned, most women love an expressive man. And I think most guys ARE expressive! It's normal to express your feelings to your lover. It's expected.
Society has taught men not to cry over silly things. Men are not shamed for crying at funerals, being upset or professing their love. Nor are such men seen as weak. I've never heard of that.
I definitely agree with you. I would also like to add that it is not always accurate that women in stressful or high emotional situations always want to talk. I would say it depends on the person, but in emergencies, such as when someone they care about gets sick, or is hurt, women act. Now over extended periods of stress, especially when it comes to situations that they cannot do anything (such as a misunderstanding in the bank, or other frustrations of everyday life) then yes, venting about our woes can be calming. Something I will agree though with the speaker is that perhaps things such as anniversaries and gifts are more important to women than men. Not that men don't care about them and they wouldn't be moved by a heartfelt gift on an anniversary, but I feel that for most women it is much more important, to the point that they can start feeling rather depressed and dissapointed. But that can of course vary in people and their values. I am sentimental and it very important to me to create memories and honor occasions.
aru akise No. Not all men are raised that way. Maybe in rural areas or patriarchal societies. But many countries are against saying "boys don't cry" and what not.
And most men do know the difference between feeling jealous, love, anger, sadness, etc. Most don't confuse those feelings. And most do what they have to to deal with their feelings and issues.
A man who isn't competent enough to deal with his issues, shouldn't be dating in the first place. Don't punish others for what you feel or go through. Most civilised and sane men don't.
Expressing yourself isn't the same as confusing your feelings or punishing others for what you go through. Lashing out, isn't a right. Taking out your emotions on a person who hasn't hurt or abused you, isn't your right.
Yes, a man should express his love. But no person has the right to punish, abuse and lash out on you cause they're going through something completely unrelated to you! That's what you call baggage, unresolved issues and not dealing with your emotions and issues. Don't categorise this as emotional, when it's downright abusive and requires therapy.
Stable people lead stable lives.
In my experience when I feel deep love and affection I usually show it by doing something. If she is with me I'll touch her and cuddle. If she isn't then maybe I'll text her how much I miss her, or think about her and write a poem or send her memes. I watched this video to see if it was accurate and I agree. It is a pretty good explanation and it gives pretty decent advice to women on how not to ruin a relationship.
Julian Martin that's something most people do. It's the bare minimum. It takes 2 mins to text, send a meme, etc I wouldn't personally interpret that as a sign of love or immense interest. I would take that casually or as a guy being childish and inexperienced. But everyone's different.
And it's natural for two people in an intimate relationship, to want to hold the other/each other or cuddle, even though some people aren't big on cuddling, or don't cuddle well. The desire to hold the other in one way or another, is natural.
I think that love takes a very long time. And I think that pure/real love is different from love coupled with passion, intimacy, chemistry and compatibility. The former doesn't always work cause love alone isn't enough. It's important to be practical. I personally think that the latter is desirable. I think that some people just get along better than others. When two minds, bodies and souls instantly meet, it's wonderful and exciting.
I think that most men are very expressive when it comes to love. I think it's in a mans nature to express himself towards his girlfriend or wife.
Young guys or teenagers probably don't express themselves if they have a "crush".
we replace expression "i love u" with other type of expressions, one of em is "are u hungry" 😊 works all the time
Too much pressure being a woman in this generation 🤔
heeheeheehee
You wanted everything to be about you and you got it. You are welcome.
Lmao! Go back to 1955 you wouldn't survive when women had to be ladies. Times are easy for wahmen now. Grow up.
@@androideatsanapple shut up
@@androideatsanapple we had to be Slaves back then.
I guess my man is the exception then? He tells me he loves me and adores me multiple times a day... guess I'm just lucky then lol
Exactly
The truth a man is seen by his actions not words
Farida Aali I think it's true. I could felt my ex was running out of love when he still told me I needed to trust him :) I did trust him.
my brain shuts off when it sees or hears math tasks...
😂👍
XD
I figured it was actually ADD
what is 46x(87y) over the square route of 90?
Why is that? I used to be like that because my dad always said that girls were not good at math. I decided to try one day since im pretty smart at every other subject including science. Guess what? All of my best math professors were women. I majored in physics which is basically a series of word problems. All of the physical laws of our universe can be simply and beautifully expressed with equations.
My dad is a great communicator. I grew up being taught that if a person isn't able to or inclined to effectively express through words and actions their points of view to ensure minimal miscommunication and maximum information gaining (with people and situations that matter), chaos, stress and pain will eventually follow.
If a grown-ass man expects me to magically and accurately interpret what he cant/won't clearly communicate with me, it's "bye". Of course, when I say communication, I am talking words AND actions. I don't expect a man (or another person) to telepathically read my mind. I don't play games. My relationship with my significant other is one of the very few things that ultimately matter in life (along with family, self worth, and human rights), so why won't I protect and nurture it with everything I have? If there are skills I can improve on to increase the chance of the relationship staying healthy and strong, I would actively pursue it. I expect no less from a man. If as an adult he hasn't figured out the benefits of effective and honest communication, he's not mature enough for me.
Remember also that: "I think the world of you", is not the same thing as, "you mean the world to me".
If any human being texted me 20 times a day, I'd buy a gun.
not really, but I might change my number and go fly fishing forever.
:D :P same here
1. brain scans are not evidence of causation. if youre conditioned to repress emotion youll probably react in different ways than a person who was conditioned to express it through words. my guess is that both responses are natural in different situations but we tend to force one or the other on you from birth. that difference can be seen in a scan but doesnt mean we are born that way. 2. the emotional examples you gave are fear-based emotions and dont explain others on the emotional spectrum. if you are afraid, your fight-or-flight response will always shut your brain down at least a little and you will react possibly with anger. women feel this way too when they lose the remote. 3. everyone has a fight or flight response when attacked by an animal, be they a cave man or modern day woman. 4. the idea of "talking" about your insecurities could potentially be seen as an attempt to override the emotional response and force it through the rational mind. im sure you wouldnt try to "talk it out" in the case of animal attack. just sayin, environment versus biology. these concepts are contested in science
I love it when I read intelligent responses which are phonetically and grammatically correct in all aspects. Not only that you make exceptional arguments on this topic. Just letting you know that someone appreciates your intelligence and wisdom. You damn Brainiac. ;-)
Arlene Portsmouth thank you!
I saw you commenting in other video. What are the odds, right?
Kitty Purrr no problem i geek out lol i hate misrepresented or popular folk "science" esp when used to put people into predictable boxes. that doesnt help anyone date or have healthy relationships in modern life
Thank you for these points, I am glad some people are thinking critically about these things! I also wonder how much of the way these brain developments are due to the way we are socialized. Different cultures have different notions of gender. And where do trans* people come in within this theory?
I highly doubt that a woman would rather talk when her life is in danger. Intuition is real and I’m not sure your information makes much sense. (during the Stone Age or not.)
He was joking!
Rachel Caster Thank Goodness!
Vessy Mink In my case, it's actually true. When I was attacked by some youth who tried to rob me, I literally tried to talk my way out of it. I'm the type of person who doesn't have a violent bone in their body and it's very hard for me to get angry or to react, even in times of danger. I only started screaming for help, minutes into the attack, when my talking didn't work. It was pretty scary.:(
Andrea Douglas I’m so sorry this happened to you!! I hope the attacker’s were caught and Justice was served, love and safe keeping to you and yours.
Vessy Mink Thanks, dear.❤️ It's crazy because we think we know how we'd react to something, until it actually happens. You also think that it would never happen in broad daylight, with tons of people around. But that's exactly what happened to me. It was very unexpected but now I often forget that that happened to me, unless I'm triggered or I'm in the area of the attack. The attackers were arrested within a half hour but only one confessed to the crime (because she was a youth, she only got probation and was required to submit her DNA into a police database). The others got off because there was a discrepancy in which one of the two male youth involved grabbed my purse. Luckily the one that I was pretty sure did it, ended up doing time for another crime. I just wish that the female would have done time, as she's the only one out of the bunch who assaulted me. I try not to dwell on it though, because I know that God will deal with her in His own way.
The title is kinda dumb. What is a guy thinking when he loves you? Uhhh I'm thinking "I love you" is what I'm thinking lol. Also, he is dead wrong in simplifying our reaction and saying that our brains "shut off" when we experience high emotions. Our brains do not shut off, they light up! We get a surge of clarity that allows us to think fast. Let me ask all the guys, how many of you notice that you can think really fast and you get superhero like sensory abilities to see and hear all around you when you get exited? It's like taking a shot of caffeine! We become hyper alert and super focused and concentrated. This is NOT our brain "shutting down" that would be stupid. Imagine our ancestors brains shutting down at the crucial moment when a wolf wanders into our cave. lol Thats stupid. Our brains get lit up like in that movie Limitless.
He gave scientific evidence
I agree! My husband is exactly like this! 😊
Those scientist brain shut off, Adam I agree because my fiancée explained how I make him feel exactly like how you did.
@@wulfkoberl1235 lol did you watch that scene in black panther
@@zedazeda9450 sorry hunny I fell asleep on that movie
Infatuation is different to love. When a man is infatuated with me, I'm scared because he's completely insensitive to who I am and what I need or want.
So true
You've solved a mystery here and taken off a load of garbage from my mind. He knows that I think he's a hero and it is true. He is a hero. I'll never forget how, a few years ago, I had been offended so badly by a group of folks, to an extent that I couldn't even talk, he came over and started telling funny stories and actively raised my emotions to a point where I was able to smile then laugh. When I think back on stuff like that, I realize that I am really blessed to have him. 💞
What if men aren’t outspoken about their feelings because they are raised that way.. it’s ”not manly” to cry and talk about your feelings.. makes sense huh?
xm377Moyocoyatzin if two men are having a fist fight they are actually having a conversation XD I never knew untill my fiance told me
@@xm377Moyocoyatzin men don't know control themself! In any sense, in fights, in sex, ........
nature vs nurture
@@xm377Moyocoyatzin extreme opposite ends are unhealthy. you can be stoic but the emotion you suppress has to go somewhere, it doesnt just dissapear. eventually it will spill over into a cesspool of madness and chaos. on the other hand expressing everything in excess, while it may be cathartic, can be problematic for others especially if your emotional state is extremely volatile most of the time. there are methods of release which dont require stoicism 100% of the time, however it is controlled and contained in certain environs. one last thing to consider, there is no one size fits all method to self control.
@@xm377Moyocoyatzin wrong. Lol. You're brainwashed.
Thank you Brian! That does make sense. I often ask myself why can't things (relationship) be simple, easy and straightforward and not so complex but then again, I have to remind myself that the human body itself is very complex - we are complex beings. I will keep the points you raised, in mind and make every effort to better understand males and their actions.
Yea I when it comes to psychology I often look at how it would be required in our neolithic ancestral times
"Want some pizza?"
I mean, bouquets are okay, but food is infinitely glorious. 😆
that's right my heart through my stomach!!!! 👌👌👌😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
My man just told me yesterday he loved me for the first time; we met six months ago in July and started dating in August. I was happy and shocked because although I've been waiting for him to say it, it was totally unexpected at the time. He also reinforced how he feels about me by saying to me he adored me and that he was lucky to have me in his life. He's said I was a blessing to him and he wishes he could do more for me.
Action speaks louder than words... Yup thats true
I don't want to be a challenge, sounds exhausting.
Agree 👍
I don't think it's something you haveto work to do. I believe the narrator is saying that your man knows that you have limits, boundaries, to what you will put up with, that there are indeed deal breakers. Most men, the ones who love you, don't want to be able to just get away with everything. They want you to have standards because it makes them better people.
Then i guessed i'm a man cuz when i get emotional i tend to shut down and expect people to leave me alone. Lol
Reine D' Ester lol me too. I always say this. I think like a man. I hate being nagged or having a clingy person around. Can't stand empty chit chat. Very much a personality D. Lol
Im the same
And im also a workaholic i just realised that recently. When im in a serious mode i couldn't stand people talking to me. Or i wouldn't be able to pay attention to what they say. This annoyed alot of my girlfriends off. Sometimes, sort of hurt my man but because hes very important to me i would apologize immediately. Poor thing... 😅
But I think i want to be left alone, lol I don't really
I used to love/adore my husband of 8 years. I felt I couldn’t live without him. Then I got pregnant, had my baby. Then, when my baby was about a month, I woke up one morning. And I didn’t feel anything for my husband anymore. Now I love/adore my daughter. I would do anything for her.
Steven C what about the husband
Thank you so much
Today i know i am not a dumb man,i just think differently!
Yes you're correct.
His action speaks louder than words.
My husband wants me to open up more. I don't complain or talk about my feelings. I try to figure out why I feel an emotion and work it out on my head. Self reflection and emotional control is important to me.
Talking is an action.
Especially when working through the options on a problem..
No. Maybe english is not your first language, but action means doing, not talking about it. do it. dont talk about it first, do it first. When it is done then you can talk about it. People who tend to talk a lot do not do a lot, they live in their own mind as a fantasy, which is good enough for some people to trick them into feeling like they are actually doing something. If you did something you would not need to talk about it, as the action has manifested itself in reality for all to see
Hi when man says I got nothing but love for you what it's mean
@@marysanders2817 I have some questions and that's make me so confused
My husband is Arabian. He is very expressive with his feelings. Actually, because of him, I learned and felt safe to be more open and expressive about mine. I'm so blessed to have a man like this. ❤
Totally. My new partner is also very open with his feelings. It is such a blessing💎
Same, mine is east Indian and white mixed. He is very well expressive, writes poems to me, text everyday to me and yes with emoji lol. He is by far nothing what this video says. I feel really blessed having him so I know what you mean. Best wishes to you and yours.
You're wrong about the saber-tooth, I know I'm a woman and I wouldn't talk first.... I'd run!
Notice there's not a ring on this guy's finger.
Yet he knows alllllll about women. M'kay.
Maybe that's why he isn't married
Notice how you've gotten a few minutes of exposure to pixels representing a tiny fractional chunk of this entire human being. Yet you know alllllll about him. M'kay. (You judgy hypocrite lol)
@@ItsAsparageese I could say the same to you, for your reaction toward me. 😂
Emerald Actually, she’s correctly using her resources in order to effectively gauge the reliability of the information she’s being presented.
That’s because he has loved, he loves, and he studies women behavior. I can just see it in his eye.
I disagree completely. The brain is pliable and the male brain and female brain are not so drastically different. You can find more differences between two female brains, for example, than between a man and woman. This just encourages duality.
You are absolutely correct !! There is not much difference between the Male brain and the female brain if anything!! This man is really full of it !!
It’s an age-old excuse for people to keep believing that “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”
I don’t have time for that. Never validate a man until he shows you he loves you.
I want to say "Thank You!" I grew up in a house hold with my mother and little sister and my mother had no father as well so I knew what other families looked like with both parents together and that is totally different as well as ever man and woman. You gave me an in site to how my husband is wired because Lord know I have a HUGE mouth 🤗
Totally true. Love is an action. The ones who really love you pretty much never say it.
Men can love you, but you first have to figure out how much you're willing to take from them - and maybe it all stems from loving oneself first.
What if all men r not same!!??? :/
Aribam Anju I watched this because I was curious. I can say it pretty accurate. Obviously there are difference s but this is a general structure and I could relate to having experienced those types of thoughts and feelings.
Crazy thought isn't it?!😂
then you can't make youtube videos full of free advice
Everyone, everyone -- calm down!
No one's *actually* suggesting that men differ from each other.
All men are definitely not same. There are many men who are vocal about their feelings and loves better when not challenged
Love you Brian. Really enjoy and appreciate your excellent videos. You display the perfect combination of intelligence, humor, kind-heartedess, good-natured (and Divine) masculinity and sexiness. I'm looking forward to reading your books! Blessings and Gratitude xo
Thank you for this podcast, it has really helped me understand my man more. He can't say he loves me but it's all the things he does for me that shows his love.
I don't understand people, and guys. So thank you for helping me learn these things.
Indeed, be a challenge. If he gets you too easily, he will lose respect for you. I have been lucky to have a man who is quite verbose, and has shared many of those thoughts and feelings with me, such as: what made him respect me more, feeling amazed that I'm with him, wanting to believe that I have never been with another man before him, that I chose him because he is better than all other men, and that he loves me, in his special coded phrase. Yet still he will do as little as possible to get what he wants. I always have to keep maintaining the challenge, pushing him to take me out or do any fun activities, and it's tiresome. I'm tired. I don't think I should have to try so hard just to earn someone's respect, and to get my needs met. Being on your own is good too. Queen of your own kingdom. :)
@Fortescue Thanks. I finally got away. And blocked him today. 👍
When you surrender to God's will He will give you the spouse you need not the spouse you necessarily are crazy madly in love with. Love grows, love is an action that is daily built and develops. I love that crazy butterfly madly in love kind of love but that doesn't mean that's the best thing. The truth is God gives you what you need, what I needed was to be loved in a way that goes beyond emotions and the physical. The only thing I can say is I'm greatful for my husband because his love has changed me. After being married 15 years I see how wrong I was about my past relationships. My husband is the first man ever that made me feel truely safe, the trust is so strong, his love is like nothing I've ever experienced. When he holds me I can't explain I just feel safe, like I'm finally home.
Um no. When a man really loves you he tells you it and tells you how it makes him feel. In my experience. Of course i gave up dating white guys decades ago. Mexican men have no problem expressing how they feel so it could be cultural.
My Puerto Rican man tells me he loves me every day and compliments me all of the time. No white man I’ve dated has really ever shown me the affection that he has shown me.
sue she lol even many "white" guys are expressive. It's not related to race, religion or gender. Most men express and profess their love.
sue she , I believe that it depends on a man's relationship, attitude, feelings towards a woman as his partner..
Sorry to burst bubbles here.. Black, white og yellow dont matter.. I'm white and i tell my girl everyday how much she means to me and how much i love her, and i also dont just say them. I show it to her aswell.. opening doors for her if we walk hand in hand together, split fees or take her part (cant ALLWAYS be like that, i recon you can understand that). I also stand up for her even if its something that i personaly wouldnt agree with her on, but i support her way of thoughts and stand by her side! .. so dont put a race card on this, its just petty and got nothing to do with the matter
Also not to mention, females are not any better on the subject on expressing their feelings, most girls i meet before my girl right now sucked at expressing them selfs!
This is too much hard work. Why can’t men just be real, and we can relax without playing these silly games of having to be a challenge, while at the same time make them our hero. It’s exhausting.
This video is excellent. It reminds me of a wonderful relationship I had. He was always my man of action. Every day his actions showed how much he cared. I realized it's better to be with a man who shows his love in his actions and maybe speaks less words.
this is exactly what I have been dealing with lately 😅 for someone who is highly emotional, sensitive and intuitive, it's brain whacking to decode men's mysterious ways
For a guy you can't seem to stop talking tho
paleandpoisonous That's what he does for a living 😄
HomeGirl which is a very "unnatural", "feminine" job for a man :D
It is beyond me why people don't just embrace the differences between men and women but instead make it into this divisive struggle that it just doesn't need to be. A couple is so much more fascinating and well rounded with all of those differences! The problem is people's pride getting in the way instead of having loving patience. I agree that men are wired differently on some basic level (and that's awesome! it'd be so boring if we were all wired the same!), but it boils down to the individuals. If someone is kind, they will navigate the differences in a positive way and be better rounded for it, and so will the other person. Also, not all men are like that! My fiance is VERY verbally loving and also in his actions (I am so blessed!). The things he says and does amazes me, and us being his only relationship ever too, he's just a natural with all of this. I also have a lot of male friends and I find them much easier to communicate with than other women. Often a woman is at fault, if she has poor intuition with a guy or poor communication skills, that's not his fault. It's also not a guy's fault if his confidence and masculine gifts have been slowly killed off as a result of our stupid femanazi modern day culture beating him down so hard he's unsure of how to even act or react. Society has just become this man hating entity, making men out to be these knuckle dragging horn dogs that need to be trained a certain way in order to be worthy of women, and it disgusts me. If a woman isn't emotionally mature she will always have trouble with her guy no matter how awesome he is, nor will she have the ability to calmly learn how he ticks without getting butthurt. A surefire way to stunt emotional growth in anyone is PRIDE, which is just what the (current) feminist movement achieves. Don't get me wrong, we need equal rights, what we don't need is "isms", and divisive agendas. Extreme feminism has not done women any real favors with men either, because it teaches them to just expect the men to figure it out, and if they are worthy, they will. That's just not reality, nor is it right. Both men and women need to try their best, with loving patience, and humility, because all people are flawed to varying extents. Maybe I'm being harsh on my own gender here, but to clarify I have seen equal badness in each, and it has nothing to do with being a man or a woman. Some PEOPLE just don't know how to interact, or treat each other, period. Science is also too heavily relied upon when it comes to this stuff, it can teach us a lot but we're so much more than a brain box wired to a meat suit walking around. If people would think outside of that science box more, they'd acknowledge the default tendencies they have, and grow beyond them.
Finally a good relationship couch! So many crap "couches" in RUclips. But you are truthful and intelligent. Thank you.
Here is a little tactic women can use to make a guy feel really good: Step one: Get a jar of pickles. Step two: Make sure he sees you struggling to open the lid. Step three: Hand him the jar and thank him when he gets the lid off. He will think he is Hercules. If you don't believe me, I challenge you to try it.
Ugh... this may describe some men but it certainly doesn’t describe all men. I’ve had relationships with men who can discuss their emotions.
And really, even if he loves you but you don’t feel loved, none of this matters. This goes for any person, if you don’t feel loved the rest is irrelevant.
This video seems to describe men in such a painfully immature way. Men should just grow up and act in ways that help the relationship, as should people. I’m tired of hearing crap about how women should change their expectations to accommodate men.
Alright, I will chime in here. Years ago my wife asked me why I have such a hard time actually "saying" I love her. I looked at her dumbfounded, and finally I said, "I do all the yard work. I repair everything in this house that is broken or needs replacing. I take care of Christopher, much more than the average man takes care of his children. I clean while you are in your evening classes, and on top of it, I work full-time.................... I am screaming 'I love you', and you cannot hear it???? I am just going to say the truth here: Women are stupid. They fall for any A-hole that says 'I love you", and that is why so many men can get away with treating a woman like Shht. Ladies, the only men that will help you (without being paid) are your father, your brother, and the man that truly loves you ! Wake up!!!
Well said man.
Hey, I am a 56 years old woman and really, I do understand what you said, what you mean...don't know your age and your wifes age...but ...probably..when you get older, you also get it...well...I hope for you she will...
So you would not do any of these chores without a wife? This is absurd, and not love. You’d do those same things with or without a wife. No wonder your wife needs to ask you. I suppose her giving birth, and doing her chores means she loves you too. 🤦♀️