This Makes Him See You As The Most Important Woman in The Universe!
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My father always told me , " a man respects a woman who respects herself." My pop is always right.
Exactly
I love & respect myself, I just haven’t found someone who respects me.
Nancy V I love owls
So true
Not all the time... just because you respect yourself doesn’t mean others will also.
A narcissist can never.feel respected. Make sure the man is normal first before.respecting him
Crystal Climenhage true dat
Amen, they are some fucked up individuals. Invasion of the body snatchers!!
Aleliuja!
Hahahaa. ....totally agree
yeah this guy sounds like a douche demanding respect so much, everyone respects everyone on a normal level, and he needs to open doors to feel like a man? i think he needs a few classes himself
thats not a man to me, a man knows what makes him manly, opening doors is not part of that, thats just basic human decency
FOR THE WOMEN:
PUT YOURSELF FIRST,LOVE YOURSELF FIRST AND DONT BEG FOR LOVE.
DONT WAIT FOR SOMEONE TO FIX YOU BUT TRY TO BE INDEPENDENT.
SOMETIMES IT IS HARD,BUT IF YOU CAN DREAM BIG,YOU CAN DO IT TOO.
RESPECT YOURSELF AND KEEP YOUR HEAD UP.TRY TO CONTROL YOUR MIND AND WORK HARD TO BE AN INDEPENDED STRONG WOMAN.
THANK YOU BRIAN.
Thank you for this message i am going to work on myself and improving my life. Few weeks ago i had i wake up call about my relationship with my partner. As a woman having responsibilities of the house and work i was letting myself go no more taking the criticism of the husband time to put myself first.
Thank you 😊
Thank you guys
Yes!!!!
1. He feels respected by her to be significant to her
2. Thank him
3. Set boundaries to value you
Find the one that can be respected first...do not respect just because
Thank you for taking notes within the comments you are appreciated! 😊 be blessed
How to use this in a professional situation cause there were mistakes on my part yet great learning potential here (not romantic) although it vould be, but we're not there.)
For men and women.. vice-versa
We all want respect. But a lot of these men do irritating stupid things, that don’t warrant respect. Know this>> the woman has to have what she desires, before he can truly get what he wants!
Keep him guessing by marrying someone else. You will be the most important woman to him suddenly. Works everytime.
LOL
Facts!
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Its not true ... When I respect a Man he treats me like nothing...when I am a bitch he starts to treat me good...and chase me...they are crazy🤭
You're attracting men who had unstable mothers. That's got tocix written all over it
Jarzębina 77 omg you’re so right, I was a sweetheart I did everything to please him to but he became a bitch toward me so I had to learn not to give a fvk now he chasing me and treating me batter
This is fact
Same with me. I treat them like they don't matter and they submit to me and I like this.
Jarzębina 77 they are terrified by a woman who actually wants them. They love a woman who treats them like crap cause that woman is “safe” cause he figures she won’t try to trap him in a relationship. Seriously, you’re right, they are crazy!
My experience says otherwise, if you are nice and treat them well, they dump you. But they run to chase the mean girl who treats them badly.
Swan Queen. Hundred percent agree with you. They ghost you when you are nice, gentle, respective and sympathetic to them.
Goes both ways. Ladies dont want a "good" man. The bad boy will always win. Oh well that's fine. I gave up on relationships/love years ago.
Swan Queen I do same experience this same
Swan Queen I was a angel to him then he is big devil cheat me morethan I can imagine
Ratna Priya sometime we act bad so they can’t use us respect to man is depend how they treat us
What I have learnt in life is to build very strong self esteem and don’t even think about entering a relationship until your have clear values and strong boundaries about what you want and never compromise those things. There are some very abusive people in this world and abuse can be so subtle. If you don’t have self esteem right now - you can build it. But never enter a relationship without feeling strong.
Interestingly, when I feel super strong, I really don't need a guy anymore, then he comes.
This is so true!! Well said!😊
Amelia Totally agree!! You will learn this the hard way if you don’t.
This is so true... 🖤🖤🖤
So true!
He was my hero for YEARS. It doesn't work if the man isn't in love. You can make him feel important, that he is special, respected, valued, important.... if he doesn't love you it won't matter.
Exactly.. It's a waste of time and effort
You deserve someone who's crazy about you. I hope you've moved on from this 🙏🏻
Women want to be respected too. I cannot give a man respect who does not respect me first.
Respect is earned
A women feels respected through having her feelings cherished. A man feels cherished by having his mind and thoughts respected. Normally even in same sex relationships, someone cares more about one or the other. Masculine energy people use logic and thinking more than feminine energy people who are more feeling oriented.
Jeanie K do you people even listen? Ugh 😫
actually he said it in the video countless times that it should be mutual..so both of you will be happy
Good grief woman, he even took the time to explain why it is important for a man to feel respected in a way women don't. It's a different kind of respect. Just pay attention!.
One of my aunts once told me the key to a successful relationship is to find someone who likes you more than you like them
This reminds me of another piece of “advice” was the best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody else.
My grandfather told me the samething
My friend's Mum (summed up what I have learnt from 35 yrs+ of dating): "if u love them more than they love u, they treat u like dirt. If they love u more than u love them, they treat u like a princess".
My dad said the same to me 🥴
Yes never let them know you care. Find one who likes you the MOST
I'm pretty sure Mae West was the original source.
This guy is completely adorable. I'm so glad I saw this. It's super rare to see a real man who understands how to be in a functional relationship.
Yes girl. We need more men like this but it goes for a women to. Cause I don't side on females cause I am one But . a lot of men need to here this. And females to goes both ways. This is my 1st time hearing and seeing the videos.
Unfortunately most men are egotistical, the stuff you are referring to only works to the very few good men out there. For the most part if you want him to respect you make sure he knows he can be replaced
this doesn't sound like good advice at all. there are more than a few good men out there. and some men just need to grow up. never have a relationship which is build on fear of being replaced.
Wanna be respected? Have principles and morals and treat others with respect and compassion. Wanna be treated like a king/queen? Behave as such. Respect has to be earned unfortunately
Yet..if you treat him like a king, that kind of makes you his commoner. Isn't it?
@black white exactly!
@@marielamuller4657 have you seen black white reply? You may consider yourself as a commoner, not a queen.
Recently, I mentioned an exhibition I wanted to go to. He bought advance tickets for us. Whilst we were waiting to go in at our allotted time-slot he said ''I think this is probably going to be good''. I said ''it's going to be awesome and I have an awesome man who got tickets for us!'' He wrapped his arms around me and nearly hugged me to death! :-D
sadie p Awww, that's super sweet!! I'm happy for U!! Sounds really lovely~ 💞
You got it!
Wow your so lucky to have him 😍
sadie p Aww! How cute, that was so sweet of him💗😊
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A man needs 3 things in relationship - to be needed, to be free and to be respected. As I see it. Thanks for video 👌
So they want dependent women who need them? Sad
Channel Tools what is wrong in needing the one you love? What is it when you tell each other I don't need you?
@@user-xl6jx7pi7k Isn't it great when a woman WANTS you instead of just needing you because she doesn't have job, or needs you to fix her problems?
@Cindy Lou word 🙌
To be free?
This is how my 21 year relationship w/my lovesponge was. 4th of July will be his 4th year in Heaven. It was a bed of roses, thorns & all!! My personal blessing from God...
I tried to show respect and appreciation to a bad guy, and he just wouldn't accept it, because of his deep insecurities. I know better now. Thanks, Brian! You're awesome
@@lonewolf-oc9vr I found a wonderful man now. I wish the other one the best, whatever he chooses for his life.
Too*
@@sarahtara5546 how’s that going now? Update?
@@TheSevonne thank you for asking! We actually got married and moved into a camper to travel the country. We are doing great still :)
How was your experience? I have just met a guy and he is not able to take compliments....so strange. Was it similar in your case?
We made him feel respected, loved for what he is, expressed how much he means, and what not. every time we respect them, they take us for granted and comes to a mindset that she will always be there. in that case why should you take effort is what he thinks. the moment u make them feel like they are losing that's when they take a move
You can give a man everything he asked for as his needs. And it still won't work out. He can't meet your needs when he knows he doesn't deserve you. Because he doesn't really want you. If you try love a man who doesn't love himself and when he knows he doesn't deserve you, it also won't work out. See people for who they are, not what you want them to be. If he is a people pleaser, drinks heavily, has money, entertains, claims to love people so so much. Run. They usually have a handful of women on dial. You usually see the cracks early on. Stringy, they self loathe so you try to build them up. He isn't worthy of the building up because he needs to do that himself
This is probably the best video I've ever seen on this topic. Women want to be adored and men want to be respected . Amen ☺.
Angelica Angel my mom told me. Men want to be admired. Women want to be desired...
Even the Bible says so. Women are to respect their men and men are to love their women.
@@sherryc90 I'm so glad someone caught that! Yup, god commands men to love their wives, like Christ loves the church and women are to respect their husbands.
Sharon Kwenda I was about to say that. YHWH created us, and he knows that for men respect is most important, and for women love is most important.
1. Respect him.
2. Support him.
3. Challenge him.
Same goes for women. If a guy doesn't respect me and starts to neg me, or criticize me, I don't give them the time of day
Thanks. The wrong one will still disrespect u and cheat if u do those things and they are bad.
@@BlueBerryTdot I agree
I lose track and it’s all gibberish lol
Good advice
1) To be respected, to be a hero in her eyes, feel needed & important, let him find a solution for you in your problem, let him feel special/significant, that he is better than other man ALWAYS ONLY IF HE TREATS YOU GOOD.
2) Because he feels she makes him a better version of him.
3) He CAN'T walk all over you !!! Always let him know your boundaries, your values, your power. If you don't like something He does to you you speak up and tell him !!!
I am actually in a beautifully blossoming, healthy relationship and in watching, realizing that we both do all these things for and with each other! I recognize each point and how we have successfully managed to provide a special give and take, loving, and intimate bond already, the way you have suggested. I know God sent me this beautiful man to me and I have actually been waiting to call him MY Hero the very next time he makes me feel as important as only he can! He is my personal hero and forever will be! Of that I have no doubt. Thank you for sharing such accurate advice and confirming our actions towards each other so far. Blessings to you and yours.
First ,make sure this man worthy of your Love.If this men dont respect you first by testing his honesty.There are some good points.Stay away from guys who have addictions ,because their love is not constant.Some addiction is not just drugs and alcohol. Stick to your important boundaries.Take your time to get to know the person first.Honeymoon stage of a relationship can be deceptive. Good luck and Good Bless.
As a trained Behavioral Therapist, I must say, you are positively spot on. Games within any relationship is Toxic and Unhealthy. Thank you for sharing and sprinkling your fun levity into this valuable message.
Hey guys, the only thing that will give you long lasting and a loving relationship is two people meeting that are ready to be in relationships. And you’re ready to be in a relationship once you’re comfortable by yourself and they’re ready when they’re comfortable by themselves and you guys decide to come together because usually people don’t give up their comfort for anything less than what is worthy
..true and all these points that can be worked on can never work if I'm the first place two people are not ready or deliberate to start to work on the relationship for the long haul. You must be on the same page....I agree
Intelligent realisation jennybrown, "people won't give up there comfort for what is not worthy"...
Respect is a two way street..I respect a Man who respects me.. It's one of the most important things.. and I know what it is, because I have experienced it.. 💯💯
Facts 💯
''If you're too independent, his masculinity will be threatened''....... LOL oh well, so be it. I'm not responsible for his fragile toxic masculinity. If I don't need him but instead CHOOSE him, he becomes irreplaceable.
This isssss sooooo me right now, we broke up because I wasn’t needy enough basically and it made him feel like the loser
Ever since I started doing this, with way less nagging and more words of affirmation, my boyfriends confidence seems to be getting better slowly but surely. Thankyou so much
Yeah that's the order of the game. I mean treat me like a Queen & I'll surely treat you like a King.
Exactly
The relationship free from manipulations will always work.
Exactly
it wont always work, but at least the people in the relationship can end it on good terms if they realize it's not right for them. some people simply fall out of love. but yeah. healthy relationships will always prosper.
This is true. A high value woman is someone who respects herself to know that she deserves to be treated well, and vice versa.
Relevant Hint -
Respectful men ask women how they like to be treated instead of insisting that the traditional “gentlemen” rules make him respectable. Gentlemen rules were created by men. Treat a woman like an individual not a gender and she will respect you more.
Wendi J this is pure gold thank you for sharing!
Wendi J I see your point but I think that intent matters. If a man is holding a door in an attempt to show respect, that isn’t a bad thing, if she says hey I don’t need you to hold doors, instead do (whatever) I think most men with the intent of giving true respect would gladly switch to a different means of showing that respect. The assumption that he’s treating her like a gender and not a person is pretty cynical, they aren’t mind readers.
Wendi J that is right but I enjoy the old chivalry and the old traditional roles. But I understand what you are saying. My man believes in traditional roles as well so it works great for us. I guess it depends on what your partner believed.
Im also into genderless roles yet call myself a gentlewoman that will equally open doors for men and women. Equally pay for them. Equally get them gifts inc flowers if they enjoy them. I will spoon into them etc... I'll enjoy them doing gentlemen things as long as i can equally be a gentlewoman and do them for them as well inc romancing them. Im a fan of it goes both ways equal effort. Doesnt have to be exact same things done for each other. Be yourself. But that things are equally done for each other. Equal energy exchange. Equal partners.
Gentleman rules were created by women. The man steps up like that bc it is the girl who expects to be treated like that. No guy will be asking you how to treat you, they will see how you treat yourself and what you expect and they will either meet it or flake. If they flake, they weren’t that interested in the first place.
Respect is a give and take. Many people doesn't understand that. If a man/woman love you then he/she respect you!!!
People like people who make them FEEL good. Different strokes for different folks, so figure out what makes your person feel their best and that will make them happy. Most men like to feel important or significant, stroke his ego when they earn it.
I appreciate it when you... I admire this about you....
I love it when you do .... Authentic sincere conpliments.
Be a high value woman, ppl respect those who are respecting
You are the best one at explaining relationships and psychology of men and women. You have a veyr soft spoken voice and explain things so well I never get bother to listen to your lectures. I usually start your videos whilist cooking every evening
I agree with all of this... I think the problem is that most guys and gals have a different definition of the word Respect. I want a man to love and protect me, open doors, and punch out bad guys!
huh i just wanted him not to lie and cheat..i can open my own doors
I agree, Susan ☺ I want that too! 💖 I do like a man, though, that will treat me like a lady 😍
Carrie Smith girl, me too!!!
@@cccopycat583 this is the truth!!!!!
This is very tru because my boyfriend tells me he’s better because of me even though I didn’t do anything but always Let him know how important he is and what a great guy he is and how proud I’m of him
Thank you for acknowledging that respectful behaviour towards a guy should only be given to good guys that do the same! You are my no.1 male dating coach to watch x
@Simon S nah I have seen dating coaches that feed you a fairytale and I am not here for it. Brian is talking about people giving each other mutal respect. Girls could say the same thing how guys don't like good girls and just take advantage of them. At the end of the day if the person is actually physically and emotionally attracted to you and you are behaving respectfully, but not a pushover that is normally seen as a turn on.
He used to make me feel like a princess and now even if i make him my top priority...even if i show him utmost respect...i am not his first priority and neither i get the love he used to give me before. The more i respect him the more he stops respecting me. He is taking me for granted.
Same as mine
I feel like every guy pursues you and loves and is in lust with you and as soon as you let your guard down a few months down the road he’s lost interest n doesn’t respect u or care about how he talks to you smh
@@mayziecammarata4870 ladies we have a problem
Was in the same situation, found out men treat you like that when he perceives you are no longer a challenge, he will take you for granted.
Then you are dating a boy, not a man
The badder you treat them the more they love you
Only to a toxic person. Attract more respectable men. Look within first.
Yes. This is why I don't have one
I was hear me was too nice
Not any more.
I am married to a man who is almost smitten with me, and I can agree with this. Even when he thinks and complains that I have been "disrespectful" (which is really just me responding to his random inconsiderate behavior) he still can't get enough of me (wanting to kiss, cuddle, know my feelings for him, etc). So, sadly this is true 😏
I've learned that respecting one another is a learning process and makes the love stronger
True and setting boundaries
A lot of men want to have control over their women and they easily feel “disrespected” if they feel they are losing it.
Hello
True
This is sooo true!!
I'm at the beginning of a romantic relationship with a dear friend of many years. He wants to take things slow and I respect that. So he hasn't said, "I love you, Ariel." However, he has said to me and texted, "I appreciate you." So I have made a point to tell him *in writing* that I appreciate him, too. He also truly was my hero two years ago when he realized I was having a mental health crisis and because he is therapist in town, my case was taken seriously and he accompanied me to the ER. So was already going to commerotate his heroism!
In a relationship respect goes both ways. When I'm disrespected I lose all interest i no longer want any emotional or intimate connection with that person. I don't even see them as a friend let alone a partner in a relationship.
By the way I love when a man holds the door open for me on a date. I also reach over and open his. I feel it is respect for each other. Thank you for sharing!
I can't feel loved without feeling respected first and I will always choose to be respected over being loved, because first I need to love and respect myself and I'm not doing that if I allow others to devalue me. I will give respect when I am receiving it, but I've stopped being a doormat who allows rude behavior. If they are not treating me respectfully then it's not and can never be loving. I'm over all these rules and mind fuckery! If it's love, if it's meant to be, then it will be natural and easy and people will just show up in the relationship for each other and will both want to be there. It should not be so hard and when one is acting like they no longer want to be there, then maybe it's time to just let them go. Relationships don't work on the power and desire of just one.
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Absolutely
100% agree
Thank-you Brian for your practical insights into the male mind and how guys think/work. Assuming of course the man is a healthy male and not narcissistic.
Vicious cycles aside... thank you for putting light into this BEAUTIFUL cycle of self-worth and boundaries:personal empowerment : respect from other party : mutual respect and empowerment
What an honest loving person you are!! I really appreciate your honest heart and beautiful energy! So thank you 🙏🏻
This is so sweet , it reminds me of someone I love. I'm bout to cry 😢
I trust my boy before,and I proud him,he is my hero,because he respect me and he faithful to our God
Thank u Brian 4 some clarity.
Don’t allow a man 2 b disrespectful nor dishonoring. We must value ourselves, know each of us is ENOUGH (check out Marisa Peers on this topic being enough), respectfully, calmly letting a man know his misbehavior or foul speech is not acceptable, while standing firm & fearless EVEN if he walks away.
Too many have accepted abuse / crumbs, accepted being treated less than the Crown Jewels we r just 2 have a grown boy vs a grown man.
Remember (not original 2 me)
B - burden
O - on
Y - you
vs
M - meets
A - ample ( I prefer 2 ‘All’)
N - needs!
Perfect! Thank for this!!
Respect is not the main component in a relationship (it's on of the men's needs but not the main one). Many women respect their men but get used and abused by men. Brian, you should look much deeper into this... its all about natural reflexes and hormones. Men have predominantly testosterone. They have needs to fight, chase, and have uncertainty. When woman acts as an open-book, showing constant interest, trying to please a man, it's turns men off. Why do you think men fell in love with women who are hard to get ?
I bet youve been following Greta me too love her teachings
It's because he's not smart enough to realize he's giving in to his caveman instincts instead of using his brain and common sense
Horrible, horrible advice. Grounded, emotionally mature men don't want a woman they have to chase.
He wants to be my hero. But he feels insecure that he won't be able to meet my expectations. All I want from such a loving man is his love ♥️
Hey guys! I don't wanna be disrespectful with the author of the video, but if you are not having successful relationships is because you have self esteem issues, past relationship issues, daddy issues, or whatever thing that is making you attract the wrong people. None of the above things are gonna work if you don't work on yourself first. As soon as you heal yourself you'll attract the right one and you won't longer need to figure it out "how to make a man loves me". Don't look the answers out when the responses are within you, don't confuse more yourself.
Sorry my English, not my native language.
Excellent point of view!
Women do not cause men to be insecure. Sometimes you can give a man all your respect and admiration and he just doesn’t believe you because he doesn’t have confidence in himself. You are assuming that all men or normal and respond to this type of praise with love.
I agree, it doesn't matter what I say, even when it's coming from the heart, his lack of self confidence just diffuses it, a form of self sabotage I guess.
Wow wee truth.
Yeah that happend to me , i start to hate men and i don't believe in love anymore .
This is what it all comes down to.
so what do we do to this type of men then?
His feelings changes faster than the weather....wow you are right this is really true
I recently heard a similar explanation of this concept. Yes the man is supposed to protect and love his wife significant other etc. and the woman is supposed to respect her man! However it is the man’s responsibility to love and protect first if he doesn’t love and protect The woman then she won’t respect him. And to my ladies it’s also believed that we are here to be POWERFUL!!💪💯
Respect is when you first respect yourself.... I love your videos Brian knox.God bless you!
And some men will still treat you like shit even when you do all these things and it’s not your fault.
This is one of the best videos I’ve ever seen in my life online, and I have watched hundreds and hundreds of videos
Yeah!! Indeed this is true! 😍😍😍 Men can "feel" if your self-confidence is fake or real. They respect your self-confidence. #facts
No women can respect a guy who disrespects her ...and then expect her to respect him
It is better to have a pet and concentrate on oneself than to have someone in life romantically. Relationship is so stressful and no matter how much you love someone there is no assurance he/she can love you back.
Brian, I enjoy your videos thoroughly. You help keep my mind in line and on track. Your content, poise, confidence, personality, voice. It’s the whole bundle. Wishing you continued success.
Great video, thanks Brian! Accepting and respecting his masculinity (not “him” per se, or the broken behaviours sometimes exhibited-because all humans are broken in many different ways) brings out the best version of a man. This is the power that a feminine woman embodies; masculine women don’t understand it. A man will adore a truly feminine women; indeed, die for her. Not so with a masculine woman; she sees feminine and masculine as an issue of equality instead of opposites that magnetise. Obviously, she doesn’t need (or want) the protection, provision and nourishment that a good male offers, so she reaps what she’s sown into the world - women who act low value attract low value, then get pissed when the men they attract ACT low value.
Robyn Gibson amen
What if you're naturally a sort of masculine woman? I'm an engineer and a tomboy. To men at work, I'm either not given respect or else I'm the competition. But I mostly attract men who are gentle, and I think that they feel respected because I value their interests and attitudes. Dating a woman who is competent and self-sufficient who prefers their style to the "Alpha" type makes them feel masculine and successful.
@@dbalgp1047 I believe reverse polarities are the same. If you are more comfortable living in your masculine energy and value being respected then that will totally work if you have a man who is strongly in his feminine and is happy to be receiving. It is the "beta" type you attract because you are in your boy energy. True masculine males won't regard you, or be attracted because you present incongruity: look like a girl behave like a boy (in simple terms). We all have testosterone and live in it from time to time. The men at your work, I'm guessing, aren't giving you respect because true masculine males know you are not a man and the bit of testosterone (masculine strength) that you are trying to live in (being equal to a man) ... well, that makes you competition: it is the nature of the hormone of testosterone. You cannot change it anymore than you can change the softness of femininity. As far as being competent and self-sufficient, I am both of those and live almost 90% of my life as a very feminine female. The polarity reversal works great as long as both partners stay in those energies.
Robyn Gibson very true!!! You’re one of the few gals on here that understand this. 🌸💓🌸🌸
Such powerful, simple truths. Thank you for posting!
So true RESPECT is the KEY
Respect. Now that I've heard this, I realize I haven't been respecting my guy. No wonder he's distant. Thank you so much.
Spot on, my boyfriend still open the door for me every time and we’re together for almost 7 years. I just let him and say thank you. He goes with me buying groceries regularly despite of being busy. He plans holidays for us. He doesn’t want me to fly economy and I respect that he wants to give me the best. He supports my goals and ideas. He respects when I say No about things that I believe it’s not for me or us. He loves to buy things for me more than I do to myself. He’s almost perfect. I am so thankful. 🙏
I Love my Guy he's Adorable Brilliant & Kind! He makes me feel so Loved!
thats why i really love to watch your vedios many times,i learn so much about mens behavior.thanks brianknox😊😊
Love your direct explanations because they are direct and to the point. Thank you, Victoria
I am a well respected person in my community. Hold down a good job, have a business as well and have had a very good life not to mention I am abundant. I met a man 5 years ago and loved and respected him. I realized after a while that he was not a respectful person when I saw behavours from him when he took off his mask. I realized he came from a toxic dysfunctional family who knew no boundries when it came to drinking, sex, and social behavour. It was a free for all, anything goes and in the way for sex anyone would do. My life, my career, my love for him, my understanding pertaining to where he came from and anything good I brought to this relationship did not matter. He preferred to skip a movie to go out drinking with toxic friends and sleep with someone he did not know. He preferred to be unemployed and live of assistance even though there was nothing wrong with him. He preferred to fake depression, anxiety, etc. to get more and more money of the govt. to give him his lifestyle of drinking, and the free bad behavour that he showed on a daily basis. He lived with me for free and had all the benefits of whatever he wanted but put nothing into this connection. He did not respect himself or anyone in his life. We are not together any more but I do feel that instead of spending 5 years trying to help someone like I did I should have looked at his background and run for the hills. They are manipulators and squeeze everything out of people that they want without asking. Just talking about it and passing hints knowing fully well that if that person can afford it they will get it. That is what my person did.
I love how you deliver the video, very clear and upfront.
Thanks Brian❤
I appreciate you Brian! Your teachings are valuable and help many lovelies identify truth more clearly in their situations. Thank you 🥰
Great video. You also gave a lot of valuable information that should be natural for us women and men but for some odd reason it isn't. But it's never to late to start. Thank you. 💞
I like the balance message you propose here. Thank you.
I use some of those tricks to make my students do better. Especially the boys. Let me elaborate. For example, if a student fails for a little bit a test, I don't change the grade even if he begs me to death (girls usually don't do that) and I reply "it's up to you, prove me that you can do better" . That motivates them so much that they maintain good grades through out all the year. Of course I recognize when they have done well and give them a smile and a few nice words. It's just enough to get them going!
It’s interesting. You will see the same type of comments by guys in the comment section of videos that are geared toward men. Sorry, ladies. If you act uninterested, you’ll be passed over by guys who know their worth. You get what you put in. If you don’t put in a lot of effort, you won’t get much effort.
Just be you. Be human. Don’t let experiences in life change who you are deep down. Strong people are the ones who are steadfast and won’t let things change them.
Its a good advice, if this advice is easier to implement in life. It will be great.. healing takes time.. but I wonder what is the missing part of it until I truly heal..
When i read your comment, i get again and again confused. After 17 years i got really in love. Love at first sight. Affection at first sight. We both are 48. No more years to waste on idiot behaviors..., you woud think. From day 1, i was smitten. I wanted to know him better. Wel..., to make the story short. From day 2 i payed him drinks, food, brought food to his house, beer. He had only 300$ a month. The rest was keeping his lawer. I am on invalidity with 1 son (22 years) old. For this 2 months, i bought him food, cigarettes, drinks, drinks for home, my own food supply ( wich i saved for hard times), cooking gear for his little sailingboat, more food & drinks/food for his sailingboat, fuel gas for cooking 100$, fuel 90$, water, more boatstuff, shampoo, towels, medicine cabbinet, fire stopper. In total i spent in that month 700$. Then a walki talki for going to work in another boat (birthday present/90$). Gloves, sjawl, hats to work!
A floor carpet for his boat (80$). Valentine present of a ticket online learning platform, so he could easyer learn the course, for having a diplom of boatsman (28$). He has a learn disability. But he is supper with boats and handy-guy with his hands. I bought him natural drugs to learn better (cod liver oil) 80$. Supported him! He can do it..., whatever time and effort it takes. Encouraging! I knew, water and boats are his LOVE! He was unemployed. Then he got a job-offer, to work on a boat. I said, great for you & an oportunity to climb and get out of your financial situation & you love boats! He did not wanted, but i told him the pro's & con's. I said, ' believe in you' and gave him kisses and sex and affection and i felt like a teenager in LOVE. I said..., the captain will hire you today..., i feld, that he has a great chance (because i am not blind😉). He was born for the water and boats and jumping like an ape. So cute and masculine to see. So easy for him. He got the job!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I gave money to buy food and drinks, cigarettes, beer, toiletpaper, for a week. He was a week away from home. This was a year his job. And i gave a lot of times money for what he needed and a little cash (i only have 1200$ invalidity, housing cost 550$, water, gas, electricity, internet, phone (350$). My mother gave me money to spend on me, and gave it away for my boyfriend, to overcome his life and feel better. Wel, i allways did, whenever he needed me, go with him...Even on the boat. Helping him restoring, his own boat. I was enjoying every minute with him and loving him more and more. I have chronic serious healthissues, for more then 35 years, from birth had allways something going on. Could not work. I know have the feeling, that there something else goin on with my body. When i did not see him, i was sleeping and a total mess and i was going downhill. He never wanted to know, what chronic issues i had, nor the reasons, why i go to a therapist for CPTSD, child abuse and abuse...I gave my soul, body, mind, heart and money to help him out. Support and motivating him... But he said nothing to ever show his concerns about what was going on with my life. After 2 months..., he said ' you do nothing for me'.
He said this 2 times.
Something broke in me.
I was like going dead inside.
1,5 year giving, giving my all.
No much effort on his side. Wanted more and more from me. Leave my son of 22 years old, who has aspergers syndrome, luving still home. He was enoyed about my dog too. He said i should put the stuff away of my house. I said, al the stuff in my house i keep, and that is the reason i can help you, if you need anything!
My dog is the love of my life.
My son, is the one i will never put aside for anyone, nor my beloved dog.
When i had a problem or needed a shoulder to cry on, he said 'get over it' or BE A MAN. If he needed one, i was giving affection and a beer and be just near him and listen to him. Then he said one day... 'you son is a stupid moron'.
My son is a sensitive, friendly, warm hearded young man, with asperger/ add/ ocd.
My son was dog sitting for 1,5 years, everytime i went with my boyfriend. And beeing happy for me. He never saw me so happy and in love.
But things changed, with the words of my boyfriend. He said, one day..it is gross to make love, when you bleed. He was horny like hell and did not mind at all. I was more shy!
If i was not with you..., i was still allone.
I want a virgin, because they are pure and i never had a virgin before.
A man said to me i should commit suicide with my son.
My boyfriend did not defended me at all.
His friend said to me in the beginning, if i had had a cock in my ass. My boyfriend, who sat next to him, said nothing.
After a while i realized, i do not matter, my life seems not worth to protect.
I realized, i can adore, love, take care, show affection, lovemaking, money, help, care, support, respecting, needing him,...
Giving, giving, giving, giving, giving, giving, and on and on...
And it will never be enough, for a man to change and respecting you.
He said after a few months, why do you not look at me with you eyes full of love?
I thougt about all the loveless things and words. I thought, about in the past..., he dit not want me to buy a 1$ noodle dish!!! I thought about all i gave allready...
I thought, about the day, that in daylight, some one wanted to abduct me with a van (i was luckilly smarter and lucky). When i opened the door to his house, i trembled and was agitated. He did look at me with a face and i thought..., is a human in the house??? For him everything i needed from him was incomprehensive. I lost hope. And decided, not to tell anything anymore. My eyes died more and more.
How much does a woman need to give and show her love and care and whatever else, so a man feels save to give?
I said, at the end, i am tired of your bullshit (not friendly and respectfull of me now! I know!)
He said..., he bullshitted me all the time and he should of bullshitted me more😳
So, an invalid, sick mother if one. No family. From a different country. Allone since 17 years old. Abused. All her life, vigilant. A hell of a life. Read 1000...if books. Fights wirh doctors, men, women, insurances, hunger, cold, allways protecting herself and her son. No hope, no cure, no nothings, no friends...Could write a book!
And after 17 years ckising my legs..., i open my heart, my legs, my savings, my energy of a dead one, my time, my love, affection, to an idiot.
After u quit...He said, the sex was not good anyway.
And other stupid stuff...
I will never ever give a man, what he does not value. You can givegivegivegive to man, what you want and the respect what you want and your organs...
How much proof, does a man need from a woman until she is giving a chance to receive whatever friendly that is?
By the way...
He made me coffee every time.
I bought food and he cooked.
Sometimes he was so affectionate...
The little wonderfull good times...
He was for me hot.
He was my sexy water ape boat wolve mab.
I wanted to grow old with him.
Be there for him.
Could not bare the idea, to lose him.
Now, i am dead inside.
My son, my dog, me...
I needed HIM!
Now, i know, i will live and die on my own.
Bless you all.
If they do what they say they're going to do and follow through with it... Or accurately estimate logistics and be honest with themselves and you about the both big amd small examples.
You are sooo calm and have nice voice,it is great to listen to you 🤗💪🏼❤️
❤your advice has been so helpful. Thank you. I must add though when you truly love someone you don't you just don't give up. Gods blessings
I wish people fell in love....simply :(
ICELET YEP!!! 🙌🏻✨🙂
@@lilith_soph It's not like we have a choice these days :)
Ikr
Ikr! Just fall in love ! There is truly no love stories!! Everything is strategy😩 I have to strategize at work, who wants to strategize everyday and night to get loved! Just gimme a bullet n some wine! Im aight😃🤣😅😇
@@jorgaconnelly6037 You say the words i thought!
Thank you Brian. I really appreciate your straight forward logic. I look forward to the next video.
I love to hear about this relationship between men and women thank you.
Every once in a while I compliment him for any sweet things he does, I respect his feelings not to make him insecure yet in the end when he does things that breaks my heart and when I share my feelings to him he becomes defensive n don’t own up to his wrong doings instead complaint abt it to his mom to settle the problem we had for he is a momma’s boy n can’t deal with his own problems to play the blame game just so he can escape the problem n left me. I was heart broken and I feel disrespected by him so much that he doesn’t value my decisions or advice nor solutions to any problem.... I feel he’s more reliant on his parents to make decisions for him like a child. We invested so many years into this relationship but now I feel like it was just a game for him.
I will always adore my beloved
Thanks a lot for sharing this video. I learn more about what a woman should do to earn an ever lasting & happy relationship with an opposite sex. God bless
Your explanations with examples are very helpful and realistic.
I am so happy I found this video. I really don’t understand men. This helps a lot.
You changed my life Brian Nox! 💗
First make sure the guy is worthy of you.AND YOU are in a healthy relationship first.You are in a healthy relationship when you both can communicate with each other without fear.
No matter how much rules you follow if a man is not ready for a relationship or ready to settle down and be loyal to one woman no matter how much respect you show him he’s gonna hurt you. Just make sure he’s ready to settle down really ready N you’ll have your man. Then you can follow all the rules to keep him. Or n never chase a man let him chase you Remember nothing Good comes easy! Good luck
I really love how calmly you speak, it’s soothing
This is easy! I've never had to "make sure" I'm stroking my sweetness (ego) because it's an been an AUTOMATIC reaction from my heart to him BECAUSE I love him and HE IS treating me right.
If he doesnt earn the respect or treat you well, then you cannot respect him. Thanks Brian for clarifying that because some men dont comprehend that
Your words are so warm!😃
Really enjoy and appreciate hearing these lessons. Blessings guru Brian 🙏🏼 ✨️