Men have a natural need to pull away. Everyone does. Love is not a natural romance where if the person loves you, done, he gives you the money and the stars and the happy dolphins jump around you. Love is a strategy and psychology.
When I ignore him, he didnt come back, he have new girlfriend, but it open my eyes, that I deserve better. Now I am a happy married woman with a guy who really deserve my love..
@@sharonsanders1658 at least by ignoring him it allowed her to see what he really wanted. Even though she didn't get the reaction she wanted it allowed her to move on and find her own happiness with someone she was more compatible with.
I was dealing with such a guy. Whenever I approached him, he pulled away. Whenever I ignored him, he approached. I ended this. It was immature behaviour. I was kind, open. But maybe too available
Just dont put men in the pedestal. Please dont. If he pulls away, let him be. Dont be clingy. Enjoy your life. Find some other men to date or dont. The bottom line is, just let it be, dont be obsessed with the idea of the two of you. It's okay. Just chill.
Find someone else to date. Good advice. I’m doing just that right now. Mr.Hot&Cold has been noticing I’m more aloof and has called me twice this week already. Went on a first date last night😛
If he pulls away it's because hé is insecure about his own feelings.It 's all about him,his hot and cold behaviour has nothing to do with your personality etc. If he ignores you,he does it on purpose,só there is no reason why you should pull him back in your life.The Best you can do is Let him go .Respect yourself more!You deserve someone who doesn't play games.
Rubbish, sorry. Men don't think that way. We always go for what we want, unless she is unavailable. If we come back its because of our ego or because we really like you. Discernment is key.
A guy ghosted me once and I showed him that I was unbothered - I didn’t even bother to text him or even block him 10 days later he came back begging me to meet up with him and begging for my (as he quoted it) ✨ one last reply ✨ so I replied to him 2 days later out of my kindness with a simple “Hey I was busy I didn’t even notice you weren’t texting” and never replied to him ever again. If he gives you red flags and gives you time when it’s just convenient for him, give him your time and that time is called NEVER AGAIN. You a queen not a damn athlete.
The minute I have start thinking I have to play games or do things to save the relationship, I'm out. Never chase and definitely never invest yourself more than the man. When he loses you that make his loss even greater. Trust me...and don't let him back in. A good man who loves you will never put himself in a position to lose you.
Same here, when I am done, I'm done. I am all or nothing! So if I decide to be done with some one, I cut them off completely. Do not leave your self available, because guess what, they will keep trying to lure you in, to offer you, their nothing!
I love you all!!! Lol!! I though I was going threw this emotions myself!! Ladies I am so glad we refuse to put up with the bull crap!!! Yes it hurts! But it burns even worse the longer we stay there!!!
@Jolly Roger not when he "accidently" touches your chest ! not when he holds your hand while driving . not when he massages your foot ! and when you ask him what on earth is going on.. his reply is: "No, I don't love you. I am physically attracted to you, oh and by the way, I am dating someone else" !!!!!!!! yup. jerk with a capital J !
@Jolly Roger because he is a jerk ! didn't you read my comment where i stated some of the things he did ?! he had some time on his hands and he needed to have a fling . no strings attached. and who is better than your best friend? :) it started as "conditioning" me for a long time. simple gestures that are so subtle. then he worked his way up to things that you can't just ignore anymore ! and when i finally had enough of those mind games and inappropriate touching i asked him.. do you like me? do u have feelings for me? and his simple answer was : No, I don't love you. I love someone else and I am dating her and I might propose to her. I just find you so attractive & you should be flattered " !!!!! I told him that he is ruining our friendship that way. his reply was "our friendship was ruined from the first time he laid his hand on me ! don't tell me this is not a narcissist. he didn't care about our friendship, my emotions, my body , his image in front of me . he just didn't care as long as he got his fix.
maybe he was shy, I certainly have that with slight autism making answering harder than you might think, it is the stress of somehow messing up something amazing that ends up ruining it by failing to answer in a reasonable time, and the longer you wait the harder it gets
It was me and my ex bf.. When i care for him he ignores me .. And when i ignore him he comes back .. I got tired of it .. I was tired of pretending and acting like i didn't care .. But this time i really don't care .
,🤣😁😃😃 it's hurting to pretend you don't care cause deep down you want to burst out asking them so many questions... but you Choo to pretend that you don't even care 🤣😁😃
What it really boils down to is when you're a grown up( that part is important) you should date mature people who don't play all these stupid games! Then you don't need to wonder what the heck is going on! If being yourself and giving someone your love makes them lose interest in you, they were never interested in YOU to begin with- only the reflection of THEMSELVES they see THROUGH you!
Actually at the deepest level, it is due to their suppressed emotions that they would not have healed. It also comes to the surface. Also a test of your feminity within. If you are mature, you will let go. If you can't, you need to do some serious work on yourself :)
I was in a “”thing”” (that’s what I call it now) with a narcissist. It was like trying to cover a whole in a boat while he was causing another wholes and saying it was all great and we were sailing together. It’s been 3 months since I decided to not ever talk to him again. He tried to ask for my forgiveness 2 weeks ago: not happening. I know how much I have suffered, I was attached, 3 years. It had to end. Don’t accept anything less than you deserve 💕
Good analogy... I've been there and that's really true! I once got mad at my ex and told him I built while he tore it all down as I went! That didn't go over well... glad to have gotten out years ago!
Same boat here, girl. 4 years in a "situationship" with a total narc. Time to move on and give myself a chance to find happiness elsewhere. The mind games never end with them.
It's an emotional manipulation mind control tactic...my ex said he thot if he ignored me it would make me want him more..but he forgot to hook my emotions first. All it did was made me realize I enjoyed not being with him. No one talked about this at that time.
And that's a good point. If a guy ignores me, all he's doing is conditioning me into getting used to being without him. After a while it doesn't matter cuz I don't care.
I just get rid of any guys that try and play games like this with me and I have had a lot of guys do it. In fact my husband tried this on me too and I divorced him! It is childish and immature behaviour!
I find this a little wrong. I literally know stories where the husband or boyfriend took his girlfriend for granted and totally pulled away from her but when she changed, when she stopped doing everything for him and took her life in her own hands, he literally wanted her again like before. Men want a challenge. People are predators and our feelings are our responsibility not theirs. These days the advice for everything is to break up. It comes from the belief that love is natural and if someone loves you, he will never be away from you and do everything right- just like a romance movie. Totally wrong!
Healing Light Agree. But this is why a woman should not be doing much for a man in the first place. She should not be doing everything for a man. The less a woman gives to a man the better off she is.
@@georgialee6755 This is not true in committed relationships. My husband does a lot for me, but I also reciprocate in some ways, without going overboard. It works.
Finally!!!! A guy who truly makes sense. All the others tell you to pull away but he tells the truth! He's just not that into you so dont waste time! Thank you!!!❤❤❤👍
Yes! The moment he shows red-flag behavior, or you have to wonder what is going on in the relationship bail out and don't look back (I know from tooooo much experience)
Yes Lena! Lol I agree !! His humor towards certain things had me lol so hard!! Wow I needed this..!! The comments and video truly helps. Putting it towards my daily life!! Shoot I have a 10 yr old son that takes all my energy!! Don't need a second one which is an immature man playing games that still needs mommie breast milk!! Lol
Simple, but refreshingly realistic take that many other relationship coaches do not share. You are rigt, if he pulls back. Let him go. Don't invest more energy in the game playing.
Hey Brian, your video helped me opened my eyes on men pulling away. If he pulls away, it means that the relationship is not meant to be, so move on ladies and don't waste your time! You are the best coach, thank you for helping us, women ❤️
Had 2 years of men messing me about because I’ve been ‘too available’ emotionally and now the latest guy who says after 5 weeks of wooing me he can’t find time to date me I’m completely ignoring him. He hasn’t got time for me I haven’t got time for him after he manipulated me into believing he was mature enough for a relationship and saying all the right things. It’s a game to these types of people .A man who plays games isn’t a man anyway. Time to value myself not their issues. An ex constantly lied and cheated and I chased him thinking his ‘good periods ‘ of wooing and being kind were real. No his cheating and lying playing games was real. I’ve finally woken up. Never chase a man ladies. Real men don’t play games. Thank you Brian great video
Thank you so much, this is exactly what I needed to hear. It's a hard pill to swallow but I needed to hear it from you since you know more about this than I do. And just for the record, the girl you were on vacation with obviously had no taste. You are intelligent, charismatic, seem very kind and sweet and are very handsome.
This is terrific advice, and very well said with illustrations. Too many times people get trapped in this unhealthy cycle thinking it’s because the man is supposed to always want to pursue the woman. I really appreciated this video.
Soo good!! This is the most real and genuine advice online in regards to this! Too many of these other channels get you to keep playing games and wasting time with the wrong people!!!
You are the smartest relationship coach in the world! Always right, always on target, unmistakable. I do feel every situation, every person, is unique. Although the gist of content is accurate, we must always take into account the person(s) involved, where they are in life, what may be having an effect on their reactions. Let your common sense and instinct be your ultimate guide.
Explained so well! I’ve been on a roller coaster with this guy for so many years. I’d always allow my kindness get the best of me & forgive him. Smh! Each time we just never work out. He’s so quick to be done & not want to put in the work that I do. Any who, I can’t do it anymore because I deserve better! I’m somebodies wife ❤️
Thank you for this video. I am newly back on the dating scene and already feeling discouraged from all the mind games and tricks I have to employ to keep a guy interested. That just means they aren't the one for me. I will be patient.
Thank you ❤️ this helped me so much. I was dating a guy for a few months and knew he was pulling away but ignored the signs. We finally ended it a week ago. He still wants to be close friends but it’s not what I want and it’ll only hold me down from finding someone better.
If you find your self having to play games to keep a person, run. However, by having stuff going on in your life, you become naturally “too busy to be needy”, and whoever is with you (or trying to be) will feel that “scarcity” Brian talked about. THAT is a good side/angle of this “ignoring them” thing. Cause you’re not doing that on purpose, to hurt them or test a theory. You genuinely have other things to take care of and think about. So, you won’t reply to their messages in 1 second and you won’t be always available
This is true. My boyfriend treated me cold for a week ghosting me...etc...when I asked why I was told I know and he hates it when I pretend. I should think about it and when am ready to talk get back to him. I ignored him after this. After the fourth day he was by my door. Now he is like he was to me 5yrs ago. Surely am not needy. My love should not be taken for granted.
You're amazing Brian. I like how you establish the difference between drawing and line and bailing out on a bad investment. You posted this exactly when I needed it. Thank you, you are the absolute best.
My now husband did this only once, I told him if he does it again he can forget about me, fast forward we have 9 years of marriage, and almost 13 years together
I’ve spent the last 2 days binge watching you. You are so much better for me than that top guy who dated the pop star. Not that he’s not good, but he isn’t for me. I have learned SO much from you!! Thank you!
Hi Brian...I m an Indian woman. Past 1 month there is no communication between me and my man as past 5 months I hv just left & moving on my own. I paid price for loving him. I m sure ur videos r going to help ke more to build my confidence & stand for my self respect. I went thru a lot ...loved him beyond everything & so he didn't value me perhaps.
Brian you are fantastic and I love your advice! On this topic the one thing I would contend with is, bc men thrive on insecurity & being the protector and provider, and woman desiring security and closeness, however subconsciously, I think men need at times to pull away. Whether it's as simple as golfing with his friend, snowmobiling, going to a concert, whatever. It's the self worth of a woman to respect that, that feeds a man's desire, in my experience.
Omg exactly my thoughts! Evrytime i hear gurus says no contact, not showing your kindness be cold and play with his ego... i am like how can you sustain that in a long relationship? Like ok the beginning stage u can act cool ect but after that? Wearing a mask is tiring and your true color wanted or not will come to light soon or late
You are right he used to ignore me and it wl hurt me so bad and then I started doing the same thing he was doing and all of a sudden he is so different so loving and sweet.i can't believe this
I was here because my bf starts to ignore me for a month and has a lot of excuses to receive my call, and not initiating the communication. I was freak out and starts complaining and it drives him away more. So I was here to find tips. Thanks for this Sir
I love your videos. And this is great advice. The thing is that everyone needs space. Space and disinterest are two different things but so many people don’t realize when they’re being needy or all over someone. Independence is attractive.
Just wanted to say I love you for being so helpful. I’m over my ex but your videos come on my page time to time and I still want to watch your videos. Thank you 😊
Another fabulous video! Your fun and witty but get straight to the heart of the matter and paint a clear picture of the situation. . Always valuable information! 👍Thank you for helping women everywhere :)
Dear Bryan..i really really am lucky to find this video of yours.. 💟 your video so honest and does help a person who's losing her self esteem due to a very bad break up, find her way back to gain her self respect and power..thank you so much.
I think some think it's a game when I walk away but I walked away and don't want to be chased, followed or hovered. When you had me you didn't want me and looked elsewhere so I hope you found what you were looking for. I hope that's clear
I wish I had seen this video 7 years ago. It's an eye opener. My ex always said I should toughen up, he was a bully and always made me cry and make me feel like shit. Now I'm dating a guy who keeps me a secret. Says he misses me like crazy, even cut his vacation short for me. And then after I stay the night, he ignores me for a few days. Time to choose me and stop chasing those damn players.
That was a great video. If we enjoy being together and can be ourselves without having to play mind games, we are on the road towards a real relationship.
It is bc of trauma. She has had many people ignoring her in her life so she wants so recreate that bc it is familiar. It is unconcious. If she becomes awares of and self reflect and change her patterns she will stop doing it
I have watched nearly all of your videos and this one struck a chord with me; on a good note 😁 This really was amazing advice and confirmation that I’ve made some good choices lately. Thank you so much for your advice! I greatly enjoy your help navigating the often murky daring waters.
I'm happy to listen to your video, because I always thought that I have to hide my feelings and play games of push and pull, even other coaches keep saying that. But this is not me, like you said I want to be myself, being accepted for who really I AM.
Thank you brian. I have done this many times and couldn't understand the reasons behind it and now I do. Sadly, I do. I know now what needs to be done. 😔
Great advice a guy has been doing this ; I have built him up to be so my type; but , just as you mentioned my gut was saying he is not acting correctly . I think girlfriend experience type. So glad I did not go on holiday with him
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When he pulls away, HE disqualifies Himself from being with you.
Yes, 100%. That is exactly how I feel about that.
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Absolutely,someone who let you go,never valued you,so why should you care for that person?
Men have a natural need to pull away. Everyone does. Love is not a natural romance where if the person loves you, done, he gives you the money and the stars and the happy dolphins jump around you. Love is a strategy and psychology.
Yes! I had to rewind that and play it louder! Such great advise and wisdom. Just bought one of his books via Amazon.
When I ignore him, he didnt come back, he have new girlfriend, but it open my eyes, that I deserve better.
Now I am a happy married woman with a guy who really deserve my love..
That’s amazing!
Wow That’s awesome !
Ignoring them doesn't work all the time bc that's what they probably wanted you to do
@@sharonsanders1658 at least by ignoring him it allowed her to see what he really wanted. Even though she didn't get the reaction she wanted it allowed her to move on and find her own happiness with someone she was more compatible with.
Sharon Sanders you shouldn’t be using ignoring him as a strategy it’s a boundary for your heart not his.
I was dealing with such a guy. Whenever I approached him, he pulled away. Whenever I ignored him, he approached. I ended this. It was immature behaviour. I was kind, open. But maybe too available
My mom always told me I was too available. I think having a full life apart from your loved one is vitally important.
@@whiterobin01 as long as it still includes the person you're with. Mine never had time for me.
Mine did the same and after some time he told me he isn't over his ex 🙄 he was wasting my time.
The same happen to me smh
Monia Monia you did the right thing
I agreee if I have to play games to keep a guy around then im good luv I’m looking to be a wife not a athlete .
Love your comment.
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Ok?!
Exactly
Just dont put men in the pedestal. Please dont. If he pulls away, let him be. Dont be clingy. Enjoy your life. Find some other men to date or dont. The bottom line is, just let it be, dont be obsessed with the idea of the two of you. It's okay. Just chill.
True
Best comment. I don’t know why we put them on pedestals at all
This is one good comment. ❤️👍🏽🙏🏽
Absolutely!
Find someone else to date. Good advice. I’m doing just that right now. Mr.Hot&Cold has been noticing I’m more aloof and has called me twice this week already. Went on a first date last night😛
My mom taught me this when I was about 14, and it has proved true for 50 years!
If he pulls away it's because hé is insecure about his own feelings.It 's all about him,his hot and cold behaviour has nothing to do with your personality etc. If he ignores you,he does it on purpose,só there is no reason why you should pull him back in your life.The Best you can do is Let him go .Respect yourself more!You deserve someone who doesn't play games.
Like he can’t handle liking u so much ??
Rubbish, sorry. Men don't think that way. We always go for what we want, unless she is unavailable. If we come back its because of our ego or because we really like you. Discernment is key.
What do you call a girl collecting my number messaging me then leaving me unread?
Exactly
A guy ghosted me once and I showed him that I was unbothered - I didn’t even bother to text him or even block him 10 days later he came back begging me to meet up with him and begging for my (as he quoted it) ✨ one last reply ✨ so I replied to him 2 days later out of my kindness with a simple “Hey I was busy I didn’t even notice you weren’t texting” and never replied to him ever again. If he gives you red flags and gives you time when it’s just convenient for him, give him your time and that time is called NEVER AGAIN. You a queen not a damn athlete.
The minute I have start thinking I have to play games or do things to save the relationship, I'm out. Never chase and definitely never invest yourself more than the man. When he loses you that make his loss even greater. Trust me...and don't let him back in. A good man who loves you will never put himself in a position to lose you.
"Let him date an alligator with a bad temper." 😂
oh katniss 😂
Hahahha I know that was funny 😆
Everytime I’ve issues with my bf I start to watch dating tips 😅😅. Who does the same??
Me, me, me. I build up such strong resolve, only to be done in by a "WYD." I NEED TO DO BETTER.
Yup me too here
Me...
Here too 😅
Yup
If you ignore me, I go away. Not a game player.
So easy
Exactly!
Wow that is so true if they lose interest when you give them attention, they’re not right for you
Why do I only date men like these?! I guess I am mentally unstable
@@francedc4247 I'm mentally Ill it's not easy xx
@@francedc4247 Don't think any less about yourself . It is them , not you .
When I ignore someone, I dont want that person in my life. That person is dead for me.
SAMEEEE
Same here, when I am done, I'm done. I am all or nothing! So if I decide to be done with some one, I cut them off completely. Do not leave your self available, because guess what, they will keep trying to lure you in, to offer you, their nothing!
Rest in peace 🎉
Harsh but it's the same with me too.
@@kaursingh8095what
This was so real and direct! You are amazing! ❣ Yes, relationships are not games, when it starts to feel like a game, it's time to end it.
I didnt get what exactly he says ..can anyone please explain me the main subject of this videos ??
Its always a game with narcs
@@ttyflower8424 u
Totally agree 💯💯
@@knowlightknowright7u
eye opener . been involved with a jerk who comes and goes as he pleases. enough is enough . thank you
Same!! It's exhausting.
I love you all!!! Lol!! I though I was going threw this emotions myself!! Ladies I am so glad we refuse to put up with the bull crap!!! Yes it hurts! But it burns even worse the longer we stay there!!!
@Jolly Roger not when he "accidently" touches your chest ! not when he holds your hand while driving . not when he massages your foot !
and when you ask him what on earth is going on.. his reply is: "No, I don't love you. I am physically attracted to you, oh and by the way, I am dating someone else" !!!!!!!!
yup. jerk with a capital J !
@Jolly Roger nah, he was trying to take advantage of me :)
@Jolly Roger because he is a jerk ! didn't you read my comment where i stated some of the things he did ?! he had some time on his hands and he needed to have a fling . no strings attached. and who is better than your best friend? :) it started as "conditioning" me for a long time. simple gestures that are so subtle. then he worked his way up to things that you can't just ignore anymore ! and when i finally had enough of those mind games and inappropriate touching i asked him.. do you like me? do u have feelings for me? and his simple answer was : No, I don't love you. I love someone else and I am dating her and I might propose to her. I just find you so attractive & you should be flattered " !!!!! I told him that he is ruining our friendship that way. his reply was "our friendship was ruined from the first time he laid his hand on me !
don't tell me this is not a narcissist. he didn't care about our friendship, my emotions, my body , his image in front of me . he just didn't care as long as he got his fix.
Narcissist runs back all the time block them for life to stop them from stringing you along.
Thank you for your perspective. I became vulnerable. He is ghosting me. I'm a good person. I'm moving on. I feel no guilt. I deserve better.
Saame !! Made me more aware but more vulnerable, and now I can see red flags from far away .
maybe he was shy, I certainly have that with slight autism making answering harder than you might think, it is the stress of somehow messing up something amazing that ends up ruining it by failing to answer in a reasonable time, and the longer you wait the harder it gets
It was me and my ex bf.. When i care for him he ignores me .. And when i ignore him he comes back .. I got tired of it .. I was tired of pretending and acting like i didn't care .. But this time i really don't care .
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,🤣😁😃😃 it's hurting to pretend you don't care cause deep down you want to burst out asking them so many questions... but you Choo to pretend that you don't even care 🤣😁😃
@@robertmoruri6762 still though, after it gets tiring, it's ova.
What it really boils down to is when you're a grown up( that part is important) you should date mature people who don't play all these stupid games! Then you don't need to wonder what the heck is going on! If being yourself and giving someone your love makes them lose interest in you, they were never interested in YOU to begin with- only the reflection of THEMSELVES they see THROUGH you!
Ikr. You reciprocate a man's feelings and then he pulls away and ignores you. So many men do this all the time. I don't get it.
@@jennifermcmillan1945 Exactly my thought. I just don't get, how does showing love,attention n interest to somebody you love turn to chase him away???
Yes yes yes mature in brain.
Preach it!!
Actually at the deepest level, it is due to their suppressed emotions that they would not have healed. It also comes to the surface. Also a test of your feminity within. If you are mature, you will let go. If you can't, you need to do some serious work on yourself :)
I was in a “”thing”” (that’s what I call it now) with a narcissist. It was like trying to cover a whole in a boat while he was causing another wholes and saying it was all great and we were sailing together. It’s been 3 months since I decided to not ever talk to him again. He tried to ask for my forgiveness 2 weeks ago: not happening. I know how much I have suffered, I was attached, 3 years. It had to end. Don’t accept anything less than you deserve 💕
Good analogy... I've been there and that's really true! I once got mad at my ex and told him I built while he tore it all down as I went! That didn't go over well... glad to have gotten out years ago!
GIOVANNA PANDOLFO I’m in this situation now... 😔
Same boat here, girl. 4 years in a "situationship" with a total narc. Time to move on and give myself a chance to find happiness elsewhere. The mind games never end with them.
Hole not whole
I'm so glad you moved on.Was in the same mess and it was only by God's grace that this whole thing ended.
It's an emotional manipulation mind control tactic...my ex said he thot if he ignored me it would make me want him more..but he forgot to hook my emotions first. All it did was made me realize I enjoyed not being with him. No one talked about this at that time.
👍... Hope I can do same as u.
And that's a good point. If a guy ignores me, all he's doing is conditioning me into getting used to being without him. After a while it doesn't matter cuz I don't care.
Nope. Out of sight, out of mind for me. If you ignore me I ignore you and move on. Easy peasy.
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Woww... Your tough 💪
" is that goose smiling at us?" LOL! I'm stealing that.
😂😂😂"He should go date an alligator with a bad temper" 😂😂😂. I love your videos! Great advice with a great sense of humor. Thank you!
I just get rid of any guys that try and play games like this with me and I have had a lot of guys do it. In fact my husband tried this on me too and I divorced him! It is childish and immature behaviour!
Agree
It better to put them 6feet under
Thank you. I needed to hear this. When done with sincere and love, you cannot do wrong with the right person. ♥️
I find this a little wrong. I literally know stories where the husband or boyfriend took his girlfriend for granted and totally pulled away from her but when she changed, when she stopped doing everything for him and took her life in her own hands, he literally wanted her again like before. Men want a challenge. People are predators and our feelings are our responsibility not theirs. These days the advice for everything is to break up. It comes from the belief that love is natural and if someone loves you, he will never be away from you and do everything right- just like a romance movie. Totally wrong!
I agree. every relationship is different. You cannot apply general rules to specific situations
Healing Light Agree. But this is why a woman should not be doing much for a man in the first place. She should not be doing everything for a man. The less a woman gives to a man the better off she is.
Agree 💯
@@georgialee6755 This is not true in committed relationships. My husband does a lot for me, but I also reciprocate in some ways, without going overboard. It works.
evawebster1518 It is true in a committed relationship as well. My sister can tell you
Thank you for making me understand that he’s not the one for me , I value myself and I want someone who will want me as much .
"If this happened in the first place, if it's easy to turn someome off, ...you are not right for each other". Well said.
Date an alligator with a bad temper🤣🤣🤣LMAO!! Needed to hear that!! Thnx Geert..😉
Finally!!!! A guy who truly makes sense. All the others tell you to pull away but he tells the truth! He's just not that into you so dont waste time! Thank you!!!❤❤❤👍
Great point. I truly like this advice. This is exactly what's been happening to me. So must completley let him go. It's a waste of time
Yes! The moment he shows red-flag behavior, or you have to wonder what is going on in the relationship bail out and don't look back (I know from tooooo much experience)
Hey fellow Virgo! 🙂
I love your humor with the tips, you could moonlight as a comedian lol
Yes Lena! Lol I agree !! His humor towards certain things had me lol so hard!! Wow I needed this..!! The comments and video truly helps. Putting it towards my daily life!! Shoot I have a 10 yr old son that takes all my energy!! Don't need a second one which is an immature man playing games that still needs mommie breast milk!! Lol
Simple, but refreshingly realistic take that many other relationship coaches do not share. You are rigt, if he pulls back. Let him go. Don't invest more energy in the game playing.
Hey Brian, your video helped me opened my eyes on men pulling away. If he pulls away, it means that the relationship is not meant to be, so move on ladies and don't waste your time! You are the best coach, thank you for helping us, women ❤️
Had 2 years of men messing me about because I’ve been ‘too available’ emotionally and now the latest guy who says after 5 weeks of wooing me he can’t find time to date me I’m completely ignoring him. He hasn’t got time for me I haven’t got time for him after he manipulated me into believing he was mature enough for a relationship and saying all the right things. It’s a game to these types of people .A man who plays games isn’t a man anyway. Time to value myself not their issues. An ex constantly lied and cheated and I chased him thinking his ‘good periods ‘ of wooing and being kind were real. No his cheating and lying playing games was real. I’ve finally woken up. Never chase a man ladies. Real men don’t play games. Thank you Brian great video
Thank you so much, this is exactly what I needed to hear. It's a hard pill to swallow but I needed to hear it from you since you know more about this than I do. And just for the record, the girl you were on vacation with obviously had no taste. You are intelligent, charismatic, seem very kind and sweet and are very handsome.
This is terrific advice, and very well said with illustrations. Too many times people get trapped in this unhealthy cycle thinking it’s because the man is supposed to always want to pursue the woman. I really appreciated this video.
Soo good!! This is the most real and genuine advice online in regards to this! Too many of these other channels get you to keep playing games and wasting time with the wrong people!!!
For me it was the most enlightening video of all time.
I agree
Thank you Brian Nox you've shown me that I'm on the right way..
You are the smartest relationship coach in the world! Always right, always on target, unmistakable. I do feel every situation, every person, is unique. Although the gist of content is accurate, we must always take into account the person(s) involved, where they are in life, what may be having an effect on their reactions. Let your common sense and instinct be your ultimate guide.
Thank you, Dear Geert! I love your point on being authentically yourself! Have a beautiful day! Xxx
I adore your voice when you say "here you go" 😍😍
So glad that I found this video! Happy to see that a man who is making this video and have such high awareness about relationships from both sides!
Explained so well! I’ve been on a roller coaster with this guy for so many years. I’d always allow my kindness get the best of me & forgive him. Smh! Each time we just never work out. He’s so quick to be done & not want to put in the work that I do. Any who, I can’t do it anymore because I deserve better! I’m somebodies wife ❤️
Thank you for this video. I am newly back on the dating scene and already feeling discouraged from all the mind games and tricks I have to employ to keep a guy interested. That just means they aren't the one for me. I will be patient.
“An alligator with a bad temper” got me lol
So truth, thank You very much.
Your wife is the lucky one. 😊
Thank you ❤️ this helped me so much. I was dating a guy for a few months and knew he was pulling away but ignored the signs. We finally ended it a week ago. He still wants to be close friends but it’s not what I want and it’ll only hold me down from finding someone better.
Never be friends with an ex. It's a B.S. ploy by players.
@@dianalee603 :(
@@maryave7158 Thank Mary, I'm ok now. I want to move forward not back.
Oof 🥵 time to get off the merry-go-round
Same!
Exactly!
I feel ya
Omg you are a genius. Give him attention and he will reveal his cards. So so true. Thank you!.
When you find yourself in a couple of relationships you get to gather your advices! And you understand your self worth
Yes yes yes 100% agree! So many women have suffered and been through this situation, including me, ahhhhhh! Let's love ourselves first!
If you find your self having to play games to keep a person, run. However, by having stuff going on in your life, you become naturally “too busy to be needy”, and whoever is with you (or trying to be) will feel that “scarcity” Brian talked about. THAT is a good side/angle of this “ignoring them” thing. Cause you’re not doing that on purpose, to hurt them or test a theory. You genuinely have other things to take care of and think about. So, you won’t reply to their messages in 1 second and you won’t be always available
You deserve so much more followers !! Thank you, I love your Books!! 🙏🙏
I feel like listening to you everyday - you are such a sweetheart 💕
Thank you so much for your work. Finding you has had an incredible impact on my life and how I value myself. 💜
This!!! Same here!!
This is true. My boyfriend treated me cold for a week ghosting me...etc...when I asked why I was told I know and he hates it when I pretend. I should think about it and when am ready to talk get back to him. I ignored him after this. After the fourth day he was by my door. Now he is like he was to me 5yrs ago. Surely am not needy. My love should not be taken for granted.
You're amazing Brian. I like how you establish the difference between drawing and line and bailing out on a bad investment. You posted this exactly when I needed it. Thank you, you are the absolute best.
OMG! You are much younger than me and so much wiser! Listening to your words everything makes so much sense! Thanks!
My now husband did this only once, I told him if he does it again he can forget about me, fast forward we have 9 years of marriage, and almost 13 years together
I like this guy, his voice, and always straight to the point. 🇵🇭😍
Thank you Brain! You’re very wise and adorable!🫶
I’ve spent the last 2 days binge watching you. You are so much better for me than that top guy who dated the pop star. Not that he’s not good, but he isn’t for me. I have learned SO much from you!! Thank you!
Hi Brian...I m an Indian woman. Past 1 month there is no communication between me and my man as past 5 months I hv just left & moving on my own. I paid price for loving him. I m sure ur videos r going to help ke more to build my confidence & stand for my self respect. I went thru a lot ...loved him beyond everything & so he didn't value me perhaps.
You really add value to my life. Thank you for sharing what you share with us!
I like it when you tell stories of your own experiences
Brian you are fantastic and I love your advice! On this topic the one thing I would contend with is, bc men thrive on insecurity & being the protector and provider, and woman desiring security and closeness, however subconsciously, I think men need at times to pull away. Whether it's as simple as golfing with his friend, snowmobiling, going to a concert, whatever. It's the self worth of a woman to respect that, that feeds a man's desire, in my experience.
Not only to you give great advice and share great anecdotes but your voice is soo soothing to listen to. Lol
This is amazing. I feel so much lighter now
Thank you, Brian. It is a pleasure to watch until the end. 🙂
Omg exactly my thoughts! Evrytime i hear gurus says no contact, not showing your kindness be cold and play with his ego... i am like how can you sustain that in a long relationship? Like ok the beginning stage u can act cool ect but after that? Wearing a mask is tiring and your true color wanted or not will come to light soon or late
Agree
It's so unnatural
You are right he used to ignore me and it wl hurt me so bad and then I started doing the same thing he was doing and all of a sudden he is so different so loving and sweet.i can't believe this
I was here because my bf starts to ignore me for a month and has a lot of excuses to receive my call, and not initiating the communication. I was freak out and starts complaining and it drives him away more. So I was here to find tips. Thanks for this Sir
Straight to the point .. Couldn’t be more clear!! Thanks
Best video ever. When he's pulling away he's not the right one. Thank you for the video!!
This is great! You inject the perfect amount of humor in your videos. Thanks for sharing!
Lol because deep down every man is afraid of losing his mommy lol
I love your videos. And this is great advice. The thing is that everyone needs space. Space and disinterest are two different things but so many people don’t realize when they’re being needy or all over someone. Independence is attractive.
I just started watching this guy but i love you you made me see things in a completely different way and i needed that truly i needed that thanks
Just wanted to say I love you for being so helpful. I’m over my ex but your videos come on my page time to time and I still want to watch your videos. Thank you 😊
Another fabulous video! Your fun and witty but get straight to the heart of the matter and paint a clear picture of the situation. . Always valuable information! 👍Thank you for helping women everywhere :)
Dear Bryan..i really really am lucky to find this video of yours.. 💟 your video so honest and does help a person who's losing her self esteem due to a very bad break up, find her way back to gain her self respect and power..thank you so much.
I think some think it's a game when I walk away but I walked away and don't want to be chased, followed or hovered. When you had me you didn't want me and looked elsewhere so I hope you found what you were looking for. I hope that's clear
This is literally so on point ❤️
I wish I had seen this video 7 years ago. It's an eye opener. My ex always said I should toughen up, he was a bully and always made me cry and make me feel like shit. Now I'm dating a guy who keeps me a secret. Says he misses me like crazy, even cut his vacation short for me. And then after I stay the night, he ignores me for a few days. Time to choose me and stop chasing those damn players.
That was a great video. If we enjoy being together and can be ourselves without having to play mind games, we are on the road towards a real relationship.
It is bc of trauma. She has had many people ignoring her in her life so she wants so recreate that bc it is familiar. It is unconcious. If she becomes awares of and self reflect and change her patterns she will stop doing it
I have watched nearly all of your videos and this one struck a chord with me; on a good note 😁 This really was amazing advice and confirmation that I’ve made some good choices lately. Thank you so much for your advice! I greatly enjoy your help navigating the often murky daring waters.
Thank you for this. I needed a reality check.
I'm happy to listen to your video, because I always thought that I have to hide my feelings and play games of push and pull, even other coaches keep saying that. But this is not me, like you said I want to be myself, being accepted for who really I AM.
Thank you brian. I have done this many times and couldn't understand the reasons behind it and now I do. Sadly, I do. I know now what needs to be done. 😔
If you’re questioning, you need to walk away.
Wow- this may be your best video yet. Thanks!
This is spot on and his humor is great. 👍👍
This is so real💯
Thanks Sir Brian
Thanks...you said exactly what I needed to hear.
Yeah that is so true of this guy I liked but couldn’t figure out. Thank you, this explains so much.
Great advice a guy has been doing this ; I have built him up to be so my type; but , just as you mentioned my gut was saying he is not acting correctly . I think girlfriend experience type. So glad I did not go on holiday with him