You nailed it !!! Had to add this to my "Love Myself Notes", words I read over and over to keep in mind...their loss, my gain. Moving on. Next !! Thank you love.
Michael Atorn hello Michael, is this what a holistic thinker would come to the conclusion of? I love this guy, he loves me too, but he’s reserved and has negative expectations. I do feel hurt, but I need to take it. He’s he’s own person, he has every right to pull away, and me leaving him alone is something I have been getting used to doing for a while. It breaks my heart, but he was there for me like no other man in my life .. right when I needed him the most... he made a huge time investment for 2 years, and I am just kind of lovingly frozen at this time. I am scared as shit to talk to him about relationship status, because I know I’ll get macerated.. lol probably inner fears, but our scenario is like this (he’s much much older than me, he’s had a very hard life with the women he loved passing away, he’s got cancer, he lives with a woman he’s settling for because she’s the only one who “really” needs him but she’s a bad alcoholic, he finds me a “mystery”, I am many states apart, we’ve only seen eachother once in person, when I visited his home town, I want to move closer to him but because I am paralyzed from a neck break and need lots of help I can’t easily move in his parts.. and I feel like he’s doing what I talked about a few times .. instead of texting me heavily every day he’s giving me time to figure out how to make it to him again, and he’s got plans.. he offers his help, I’m very shy accepting it because I can’t picture him taking care of my flesh.. I would not sleep well if he had to do that (it gets very personal)... anyway.. it’s hard.. but from my end it’s honest.. at least I know I was honest. I know that things will happen when they’re right. I have loved another guy 15 years ago but he never knew just how much.. he ghosted me.. and taught me hard lessons.. he loved me the most because he had the guts to do what’s hard for anyone to do.. and my understanding of love is that he loves me so much he would want me to have better than him.. he’s sacrificing for what he thinks is my ultimate best.. and that is very precious..understanding love in a nonselfish way opens the doors to amazing hard to see sights. I appreciate your contribution “he needs more investment”... I am agreeing ..
@@otiliaioan5348 all i can say to you is, you have a very good mindset. You,ve learned from the lessons life gave you instead of giving up. Keep in mind that your life is as bad as you think it is, but also as good as you think it is. And our mind is the thing we are able to control. I cant know how you feel about the situation, but you have never given up and no matter how bad something hits you, be happy that you have something in your life that makes you unique instead of all the people who live their day to day life without even having critical situations to show that they can "survive" the worst shit. The first world war as an example was the worst thing for the soldiers ever, but their legacy will continue. Dont think about the result, but think about you. You are really really strong and you dont need me to say that. You know it by yourself.
I do ignore yes..but i do it out of love i don't understand why all women think that when man ignores u he's shet or that..i also ignore because i just love that person knowing the fact that our match won't get us far in the road ahead so i try my best to move back while it hurts
Malini A because god put that person there to teach you something or open your mind to something. We take from every bad decision and it makes us wiser and more aware of ourselves
@@JaquelineWildner depending on the message or what is going on in the relationship it takes time to respond properly. Sometimes women are there own communication killers, especially if they over-react or are simply a narcassist and like to turn any problem/fight into word-salad
That's exactly what we men have to do all the time. Women love to play the "I'm too busy" or "I fell asleep - at 3 pm" or the "I left my phone again" game. So we have no choice but to mirror her reactions otherwise be labeled as needy. If someone truly loves you, he or she can take 5 seconds of their day to either respond or tell you TTYL.
Ladies, when a man ignores you, move on. Before I met my husband, I’ve had plenty of guys ignoring me. As soon as they found out I was living my best life with him, about 3 came back crying. Yeah no, my husband never ghosted me and made sure I knew I was his priority.
Lupita Alvarado tbh, it’s sad how many girls have experienced the same thing I have. Most guys (in my experience) want the power. As soon as they don’t have the upper hand, they turn into babies
Always remember, you don't NEED him, you WANT him.. What hurts isn't losing him, it's losing the things he represents. The tingeling exited feeling, the things you talked about, the future you started envision with him...
Same here. I am so glad i listened to this. I am acting on it as my current state is that my supposed love interest ignored me for days and he called... i cancelled the call .. i was so empowered i did that. If i had not listened to this video i'll pick his and act like its normal. Has his used to ignoring and reappearing. Good bye to absolute rubbish.
It's never a woman's job to win a man in the first place! It's a man's job to win the woman. This is as old as time itself I don't know why people want to be modern rewrite thousands of years out biology.
the fact that you thought about everyone as individuals, as well as simultaneously somehow pulled off a valid contradiction by including the collective when you indicated that the problem is a big one (in the topic of relationships anyway). Seemingly simple statement from you, yet profound.
He loves Ignoring me, I saw this video after I messed up by sending him so many text messages for the past 3 days with no reply till now. He has done this before, he probably thinks I have no self respect for always running after him. He’s right and from now on I’ve gotten my self respect back, i won’t be doing those silly things for someone who doesn’t care
We've all done this once. And this is how we learn. Tell him I said "thank you, next" jk dont tell him ish. Lol f that fool. If he ignroed you, he lacks emotional intelligence to set up a time to have a proper conversation.
We learn everyday. I did what you did. Mine ignored me was texting sparingly then ignored me for days.. he called and i cancelled his call. Thanks to this video... i did bot pick his call. If it were before, I would have picked his c.
Women, when you finally realize he’s intentionally ignoring you, do not reach out. You assume it’s over. And if/when you see him again (run into him), be kind, acknowledge him, smile, appear happy and completely unaffected. There’s over 1 billion men in this world, move on.
I find that pretending it didn’t effect you, draws them in and they start a relentless pursuit of you. It’s draining and id rather just tell it like it is, which is you ignored me, I went away and I do not like you whatsoever so leave me alone.
V Nethra....what really happened two years back is just nothing but an experience for your future so just be cool, grow and move ahead...... It happens to everyone...!!remember the sunshine after a heavy storm.
Or maybe forget about God and learn to choose well. If your picker is broken, fix it. Work on your personal issues and break the patterns that lead to trash partners. Sky-daddy supposedly gave us free will, yet we're supposed to not exercise it and allow "him" to choose for us? What if you think God chose a nice church guy that you're family and pastor approves of and then two years after you're married he drops church and whoops your ass on the daily? Is that "God's" plan? Oops, tough divorce. What about your children? No thanks. I think that I'm self aware because i don't look to a Sky-daddy for help. That's just me though.
@@spero7675 so what if your boyfriend of 2 yrs was out at the mall and he haven’t texted you for 6 hours and ignored your calls and text on purpose what does that mean
A guy ghosted me because am a virgin and he claims to say he is losing feelings yet he stares when he believes am not looking but never talks to me when we cross paths
I'm so fed up of the mind games and childish behaviour in "men". So hard to have a relationship with unevolved and unhealed males. Thing is, we can all play games but why is this even a thing in between adults. Getting ignored only pushes me away, no time for shenanigans. Take yourself home and come back when you are fully grown and ready to deal with a WOMAN! Games are for children. Know your worth and keep it moving until the right man turns up, don't be afraid to walk away ladies, we teach people how to treat us. My mother once told me, "If a man wants you, he would never put himself in a position to lose you". That hit deep!
I remember going on Saturday night dates with women from church....church! We'd have a good time, laugh, have fluid conversation... Then literally the next day at church, my date from last night would ignore me like I didn't even exist. Walk past me in the hall and never look at, acknowledge, make eye contact with me, nothing! This happened time and again. I thought it was just happening to me until I started talking to some of the guys and found out that they were dealing with the same nonsense I was. I got so fed up with it that I dropped out of the dating "game" for several years. Talk about games and immaturity......sheesh.
If he is ignoring you, he has someone else. EVERY single one of my exes had other women they were talking to when they ignored me for days. It's common sense now that I think about it. They have you on rotation. So this is how it goes. Monday, Wednesday, Friday : Cindy, Michelle, Diana Tuesday, Thursdays and Saturdays : Alexa, Marie and Kylie. Sundays might be his day offs. If you're still on the "duty roster", you might be the one he decides to throw some crumbs at. Don't take it personally. Don't chase. Just leave them be. Force them to keep playing these games until you lose respect for them and eventually , they lose you. Let them sabotage themselves. They think "reverse psychology" works. Show them otherwise.
That is exactly what I did. I knew I was the side dish and that certain days of the week were more practical. One day, I just plainly said that I didn't deal with people with no backbones.The person wasn't happy about it, stopped contact for a month, then reached out one day only to ask to lie to the current girlfriend ( who was in fact an on/off GF but to no clear admission from the person I was seeing ) and said that we only would see each other once in a blue moon when it was a bit more often than that...Good riddance I say !👍👍👍
Boy, have you got it all twisted up, sugar-coated and cotton candied. Protect yourself. Know your limits - and make damned sure no one transgresses them. You gotta walk the talk. ☝️
He's telling the truth! If a guy has the habit of ignoring you time to time, ignore him too and don't complain or anything as to why he's not texting or calling. Play it cool. If he told you he missed you so much let him know that you miss him too but don't take it from the heart. Expect less. Be sweet when ur talking with him but after being sweet, back off. It'll fuck his mind and he'll wonder as why are you different and not easy. Don't be the first one to initiate the text. Be happy with ur life don't think about him all the time. He'll realize u have a life. Eh if he doesn't care about you why the hell give him so much attention? Fvck him haha
I want that too. And i dont know why i ended up with a guy that does not give me the attention i need. It makes me feel loke im not worth nothing. I deserve better than this I really do. I hope that he does not realize that he really wants to be with me when im gone.
I know this is two years old, but my god, I felt so related and I just wanna cry. He sometimes ignores me, and then when I do the same, he starts talking to me again, all sweet and drops the "let's meet", but then when we are supposed to meet, he falls asleep, goes out with his friends (nothing wrong here tho, it's just I realize that I'm not a priority in his life as he is in mine), or just avoids talking about hanging out in the first place. I'm tired. I know now that I'm much more into him than he's into me; that he is just not ready to get in a relationship; and probably, that I need to move on, as much as I wanted this to happen. It is not worth my energy. I'm not a teenager, I'm almost reaching my thirties, I'm sick of games and I need someone who desires to see me as much as I want to see him everyday. I'm gonna go cry now, but that's it.
My father was emotionally unavailable so I spent way too much of my life chasing crumbs of affection and attention thinking that’s what I should do because that’s what I was familiar with. Happy to tell you that the moment I stopped doing that is the moment I set myself up to attract the man of my dreams, who I am now married to and have been happily for 5 years. Stop accepting less than you deserve.
You don't even need to move on really. Sometimes it's a simple as he's not ready for it or didn't know enough about you yet. Plenty of occasions i've seen people that weren't interested in each other but together a year later.
1. He lost interest or got bored because he is the avoidant type (check out attachment styles in adults) 2. His goal was only sex, and had no long term plans in the first place which is why you should be bold in the beginning of any relationship to ask the right questions in order to know the real intentions. 3. He was serious about you, but after getting to know you he realized you are incompatible. Sometimes they don't have the proper communication tools to explain to you that point, or they are afraid of your reaction. This one may come back if you improve to become a better version of yourself and they are impressed. 4. He feels he can do better. Green grass on the othet side syndrome. This type might come back if you hold your ground, and just keep improving yourself. Although most likely by the time he is back you might not want him anymore, or found someone better. 5. He has so many mental issues, financial issues, lost his job, lost a family member or pet, went to jail, depressed, etc... so he can't think properly from his mental/emotional instability. In this case, you need to let go. Either he pulls himself together and realizes he wants to fix it with you, or you are gone. It's up to you if you want to waste time waiting rather than meeting people whi have their life together.
@@fateisendemic7862 I'm sorry for your pain, but it's not your issue, it's the other person. You just need to protect yourself, and your feelings. You will mostly benefit by developing yourself and finding things that you have passion in. Most of us here have been there and we feel you. 💔💕
I dated a man who ignored me for days at a time. As soon as I would move on and accept he was gone he would reach out to me texting me “haven’t heard from you in a while”. Always made me feel like I didn’t do the most to reach out. When I’d call him out he would give me the excuse he has bad depression and has to shut his phone off sometimes. Turns out after I did my investigation on him. He was in another relationship and the days he ignored me his girlfriend was in town and staying with him. Now I have a man that even when we fight and are hating each other we still text back and communicate.
Sounds like your man was a narcissist like mine. I just love how they refuse to take accountability for themselves. Instead(Gaslight) you. Blame you! Make you think it's your fault. RUN!!! I stayed in that crazy ass cycle for 10+years until someone told me about Narcissism.
Recently was seeing smone. Ur comment really help n support my thought to get strengthen. This guy showed interest n then turns off his phone most f d tym now a days. I just strtd seeing him few days ago. He once told since one yr he s unable to sleep n is insomniac. So probbaly thought he might b dealing wid his own things n diseases or depression or might b hving a girl olready. N deciding to stop waiting for d tym when he reverts n tlk normally as in initial days. Can't deal wid narcissists. Waste f tym.
Some men “go through the motions” and act like they like you, when in reality they like themselves more: first and foremost. Listen carefully to the sound of my door closing.
YESSSSS! Go no contact, not to attract but to better your self and not be so obsessed with getting that text, or racking your mind trying to figure out what he’s thinking, just drop him! He either wants you or not as this man said before. Unless he shows up for you and wants to start hanging out romantically, next!!!!
Being ignored hurts a lot. I wish guys who do this would have the decency to at least say “hey, I am sorry but I am just not interested anymore, I wish you all the best“
I have been talking with a guy recently. He hasn't been talking with me for days and I've seen him online. I will not reach out to him. I won't crawl to anyone. I didn't do anything wrong. I know my value. He doesn't LOL. Self respect is 100% more important.
Jonathan Mejia :) He contacted me again, but I'm not going to take him seriously. A guy won't even go a day without talking with a woman he is really into.
+Ascending Stargazer it's a slippery slope for men if he calls you every day he might feel needy but you also don't want him to just use you. Soo don't talk over the phone talk live get to really know him.
Ascending Stargazer you prolly dont like him enough. Sometimes pride can be the biggest buffer to making a good thing blossom. Just because he's ignoring u doesn't mean he's trying to attack your ego. He could be going through his own issues and doesn't know how to deal with them. Not everything is about u. When he is ready to explain he will in his own time. That's if he actually cares about u.
Intrinsically Me Thank you for your input. :) It's not a matter of pride. It's a matter of defense mechanism. When I'm on WhatsApp, and I see he's online, but hasn't responded to my message, I'm not going to chase him. If I allow him to only contact me when he feels it's in his best interest, then I'm basically letting him know that I accept that behavior. I don't. I do genuinely like him. The bigger question is, does he? We agreed to be each other's Valentine. That's nice, but again, I'm not going to read into it more than a friendly gesture.
When a man ignores me..i walk away for good..who has time for that kind of manipulation?...life is to short for that kinda crazymaking...they lack communication skills and child like.. I know my worth ..bye bye guy...get out of my way...i need a real man.
@@OviLVR8 ..obviously u missed the point entirely...over ur head and under ur feet..🤦♀️..but maybe if u think hard enough the light bulb will turn on..and u say I'm the loser..clearly u would not be any great loss..bye
ramms mutter69 you seem to have a hard time getting women to the point you have to piss a woman off in order to have a conversation you would never have. I’m guessing you are calling her a loser cause she is the type of woman that ignores you 😑. Stop projecting your insecurities on strangers.
Lol... don’t chase them .. only if u want to unload them from follow u around ... tell them u love them .... that will make them go away ..!!! My trick
Emilie Smith My trick was tried nd tested by myself personally .and i have some options to unload them by means of not appreciating the efforts they made nd ignoring. pretending that i dont know anything nd really very effective
Yep! I actually just encountered this. I withdrew after he did and mcving on. It doesn’t mean he’s a bad guy or I’m a bad date it means we aren’t at a place where we are supposed to be together that’s fine with me! I’d rather know than he keep coming around being fake
I think my own problem was I was too eager, too forward and too blunt. I've always called a spade a spade and say it how it is. I don't think some people can handle it. When I'm ignored or ghosted, I won't beg or plead, I'll remain casual and won't bombard them with calls or messages. I'll just leave it and move on living my life as best as I can. 🍒
Guy who ignored me, later he became my boyfriend, now we are 4 years together, so it depends. But men who have shown me their love and attention all the time, later they have gone, because they have stopped love me (in general they met more easy girls or they started truly love diffrent girl) :). In general if he ignores you, because you make him shy, and he needs time and space to understand his feelings, that's good sign, he propably starts love you deeper than you can dream :). My boyfriend at the beginning ignored me because he was shy, he respected me and he didn't want give me hope and hurt, he tryed understand his feelings and when he was ready to be in relationship, he told me about it and I was suprised :). So don't be angry, don't hurry up, if something is growing up slowlier, sometimes it's better than if something is happening too fast :). Be patient and don't panic ;). If you should be together, the you will be together. If he doesn't love you now it doesn't mean that he will start to love you later and if you love him, it doesn't mean that you will love him later, so check and wait what future will give you :) Bless you all!
Hi, now I am got married last 6 yr but my husband is not that much interested in me.why he is doing like that I will never understood .sometime i am thinking suicide attempt .pls help me . what I do ?
Now i understand...Thank you for sharing your experience with us tho. This is precious. There is a lot to learn from this, whether it is for me or from him. He is indeed a shy guy, a guy that dont simply wanting to hurt others feeling. I think, it is me who think much. 😧😧 I will pray and put my trust in God about this. Thank you again for sharing..Oh my....i hope i didnt ruin things 😥🙏
@@llykeanazo9811 my Dear :) don't give up :) . Just be honest and answer, is he good for you? Does he hurt you? If yes, don't be affraid of leaving him. People need to be lonely to understand a lot and deserve a lot. It's normal. But if he doesn't hurt you, he is just quiet, shy man, don't hurry up and give space and time for this relationship. I know that deeper relationship is growing up slowly. It's sensitive, sweet, delicate. Just you should know, when leave him and when just give him more space and time. Don't be scared to talk with him as well sometimes :). And don't worry, just relax and remember that man couldn't have first place in our life. Give this place for GOD :) . Everything will be OK, you will see ;)
@@centrumlex Hi..Sis. Sandra Lwowska. :) I hope, you are having good day. I want to say thank you for replying my message even though I didnt expect it to be replied tho. But, I want you to know, that I really appreciate it. Thank you so much :) I am agreeing with you that man couldnt have the 1st place in our life but God. Amen! Yesterday was 2 months of us communicating with each other. We havent got the chance to meet yet, as he works very far from city and i am not sure if meeting with him will happen. But..Im trusting God with this, and let things happen the way it should be. No sis..he doesnt hurt me. :) eventhou smtimes he reply my message just short but politely and with simple emoji. :) I admit that, I smtimes feel disappointed a little bit, lol. But, that is only a woman emotion and expectation tho...But, i am glad with him just being himself. About whether he is good for me, hmmm..I think it still too early to find this out. I believe, there is reason why i saw his facebook profile the other day. i think, we do have similar behaviour and interest. which this makes me happy when I know little by little. I am so unexperienced in terms of dating or communicating with opposite gender. that is why, i am confused of certain things but i do keep praying about this. I actually can feel that, he is keeping things slow in our conversation...which i think it is a good thing and bring comfort to me. I agree with what you said sis Sandra, that there is no need to be rush in this but giving time and space. If it meant to happen, it will happen. :) And the most important things is, dont let God out of the picture..Amen. Thank you so much for your encouragement and sharing ya..I sincerely appreciated it.. Much love
If a man is really interested in you, he will do anything to keep his eye on you. Don't live a life chasing a man who isn't capable of loving you because there are so many guys out there who will never be tired of showing his love to you. All you need to do is just believe in yourself and everything else will follow.
Thanks I needed to see this. My friend said "if he ignores you more than 24h, block him because if he wants to hear you he'll move mountains even when he got lost in a forest. They always find a way, don't be a fool and move on."
I met this guy 5 years ago, and until today we have this kind of bad relationship, he used to be very nice with me, then he just started to take a long time to answer me back, and all the times I try to end up everything, he comes mad with an excuse, well, now I dont care anymore, I wont talk to him anymore, and never answer him or meet him again, because I know I deserve better and girls, u all deserve better too :) thank you Brian for that video, helped me to make my final decision!
Lena Moura its happening to me now.. for 4yrs everything is getting worst.. everytime i said that i feel so alone in this relationship.. asking his time an affection.. but the more i ask the more he got ignores me.. i feel so tired and drained.. i love him but i think some relationship needs to be end...
I will stick with GOD, HE NEVER HURTS FEELINGS, I FEEL THE PULL TOWARDS GOD EVERYDAY. MAN WILL LIE, CHEST AND STAEAL. GOD WILL ALWAYS LOVE, NO CONDITIONS, NO FAKE STUFF AND HE'S VERY MUCH TRUTHFUL. YES, I WILL STICK WITH GOD.
Yes I agree my bf is ignored me and not texted me in 24hrs yesterday and I feel like he is doing the same today and I don't want to lose him and I don't know what to do
Nuna Khayal yea I’m srry and his friend said that he’s been busy that is why he hasn’t talked to me in four days I just hope he’s be able to txt back today if not I’d see if his friend can see if he would talk but idk I’m just not giving up on us yet
@@michaelaearnhardt mine is busy too but he used to txt me even when he was busy .. today he talked to me just for minutes and he seem very cold .. he just said i miss u but with no emotion and now he is home but he is not texting me i don't know what to do but i feel pain in my heart it is like a silent treatment kinda
I needed this EXACT message tonight. I'm in that situation now. He won't be hearing from me again. Thank you so much @Brian Nox! I hope the "plenty of men" you talk about find me soon, haha! I've hit nothing but dead ends for years now.
He just confirmed something I already knew watch for their words and actions before they ignore you and you'll see you will be the one doing them the favor of ignoring them first.
I think some women have invested so much into the relationship that it makes it difficult to walk away. Also, people tend to think irrationally when their heart is involved so it’s not so much about self respect, etc.
Razvan Marin Thank you for your input, very kind of you. Personally, I do not have these issues. The result depends on how we react and respond, and how much we want it. If a man ignores me, I ignore him. Clearly, it is a sign that he is just not that into me. I don’t waste my time. Next!
BeautyBeholder Respectfully, I disagree. People treat you the way you allow them to treat you. It is better to exit stage left if you are not his first choice, particularly in the beginning. I do see some women hold out for a lot years to get the one they want, but it is ten years of pain, misery, unfaithfulness and games during the best years of their lives. I am worth more than that. If all women had more self respect, men wouldn’t have a choice when it comes to certain cultural dating trends, and well, just bad behavior..
If you are a high value woman, and he still ignores you mean that he doesn't love you or like you enough, you deserve it better! Move on.... lol Sorry I'm talking to myself now hahahah
Omg! some day u will find that right person.."not a little women or a little boy or a man adult) how ever u want to call people..Being ignored by that adult men or we think he is an adult man.. it's simply what he does for a living and by the way he grew up.Either Lovin family or a broken family..some men are very sensitive and you think it's wise to ignore women. Men likes to manipulate women or" little females", to think that they're not worthy of your presence because of your admirations of life and how to express a female's feelings towards your own feelings is beyond me. I figured that the first female in a man life is there mother's. I expect that when a man is being raised my a single mother would emerge into a loving man but caring friends and loving husband and a wonderful father to their children.. when an man is brought up in a broken home with two parents that are not equal compatible with each other because of their way of dealing with their lives because they don't know how to love each other right to love their own child and to ignore the child. why ignore your true feelings you'll ignore their friends feelings, their family's their children, their wives it's all because of their upbringing I have noticed this throughout my whole life. Because I've been chasing that fantasy for all my life. I was brought up in a broken home. To see my father abused my mother because he was abused when he was a kid and then he's turned on to me and my sister.I just don't understand why my loving father would do that to his own loving females in his life.And if you are an adult man why would you belittle us and call us "little females). And your constantly repeating yourself. can you ever come up with your own type of words to explain how a female is going to accept your way of thinking and your words are so untrustworthy. how can some women get what you're saying? you're not trying to find away to manipulate the real answers besides going around the bush. Justice and find the reason to your point. Just say women are piece of s***they're not worthy in your life because you're hurt either by your mother,your sister your, aunts even your own father explain that..
+John Saf Thank you,Sir. You are a wise man. Females NEED truth...it takes a man to be able to teach the truth. Simple truth such as this made me free from the prison of lies I spent most of my life in bondage to : ) o Theós na se evlogeí
+John Saf If men are so great then why is a generation being raised by single mothers. Yes women are emotional but men are sneaky and feel that's their right, then of course we labeled as crazy haha 😂
I like the part where he said its a good thing when he ignores you bacause it shows you how he really feels. It is so true and it feels good & rewarding to be that strong within to know that you deserve and can get better.
James Curry why do you even come to these kinds of videos if you know people are just gonna say things you KNOW you don’t want to hear?? Like, get some Jesus.
Why can't they just slap on our face by telling directly that they are no longer interested. Because ignoring someone is a torture in our mental health! I hate it
The 1st time an asshole broke my heart, my dad told me to listen to the song, "When A Man Loves A Woman." He said the song explained how men act when they truly love a woman. He was right.
KellieSand04 your dad is a wise man. Percy Sledge said it best in those song lyrics: “when a man LOVES a woman, he’ll spend his very last dime, “etc but the best part of the song I loved was when he said, “LOVING EYES, CAN NEVER SEE.” When a man or woman truly loves one another, you can do no wrong in each other’s eyes.
I don’t think people ignore us; I genuinely believe that they are just teaching us to live without them and be happy regardless of whether they are around or not 🙏🥰
So true! As you get older it's even more important not to waste your time going after men who don't care in the first place. Life is short and you want to spend your time with a guy who adores you!
When I was in my 20s (around 2001, 2002), I dated a guy who would "ignore" me because he wanted to be chased. He wanted to feel as though I needed him. There are guys out here who are that childish.
Somalia Gullette so a guy should be in a relationship and not feel needed ? Maybe he thought he was making all the effort and was getting nothing in return.
Summary: Don't lose your time nor energy on a man who ignores you, you do not deserve such treatment as out there are lots of guys who would die to have a girl just like you. (Thanks, this is really something I needed to hear.)
Damnit. I spent 6 years with someone who constantly ignored me, and would literally tell me I'm not top priority. He just recently did it again, but I've officially withdrawn.
Years of relationship. I always came back when he ignored me for days (until he needed me). Now I didn’t text him, didn’t call him, nothing and guess what? I haven’t heard of him in weeks... Guess that’s it with my relationship. I was nothing to be worth of thinking. Thank you for opening my eyes. I will Move on.
Same happened to me. I gave him an ultimatum, he chooses to change and we go to therapy like he promised, or we are over. He ghosted me. I usually go back but the whole point is, I’m not settling for disrespect.
When a man ignores me, I find something more productive to do. I'm, generally, the first to admit to doing something wrong, so that there is no "build-up" in the background of my relationship. I value myself enough to know what I am deserving of. If you won't pay attention to me, I will pay attention to me. My love for myself is the only love that I can expect to be unconditional. Once I accept that, I can't be disappointed by anyone. Nice videos, btw, Brian Nox. Just found your channel. :-)
Probably not. I am guessing from your last name, you are... Filipino? I could pass for a number of things. I am mixed with, predominantly, Japanese, Korean, and Black. I grew up with the Asian side of my family. The only direct Aunts and Uncles that I have not met are on my father's side, and he is predominantly Black... with dark skin. If my mom has another sister, she didn't tell me about you. LOL. There's probably a lot that I don't know about my family. I only speak English, fluently. That should add some clarity to the dynamic there. It seems like they wanted to keep things "Asian"... but there I was, ruining things. Haha. Oh, well. It is what it is. You can't please them all.
P.S. My family ignored me as hard as they could until I finally just left. That's probably why it doesn't phase me to be ignored by a man. I've had so much worse than that already, so it's no big deal to me. I'm used to people ignoring me until I go away. * shrug *
P.P.S. I suppose, I am just way more interesting to myself than I am to anyone else. I have difficulty finding people that share my interests or viewpoints, or that are open to accept me as I am, even if they don't. I am very humble, generous and forgiving, myself, nearly to a fault, but I seem to attract extreme narcissistic types, because of it. It seems I will only ever be a cheerleader for someone that can't return the favor. I'm aware of it, it totally blows, but I can't change what I most easily attract. Btw, there was no one in my immediate family that had anything in common with me. I was everything that they would not have wanted. I'm not sure what the Universe was smoking on that one. I'm just saying.
I was with someone for 12 years and tolerated his ignoring of me for far too long. When I withdrew, he saw it as 'control' By then I had lost my sense of worth and so would end up blaming myself for our problems. So what I say is the very first time a man does this, run away from him as far and as fast as you can. You should never be treated as an inferior and that is what a man ignoring you is doing and believing
Give those who don't appreciate your presence the gift of your absence.
You nailed it !!! Had to add this to my "Love Myself Notes", words I read over and over to keep in mind...their loss, my gain. Moving on. Next !! Thank you love.
Key Na this was the best thing I read in decades
Very Rightly said..
I love this
I want this comment
Loved it!!! 💙
‘If someone ignores you, do not trouble them again.’
The Buddha
I don't think that's a legit Buddha quote
@@arajo5773 You may well be right, Ara; there seem to be a lot of them about.
Yup
Buddha would have said, 'Ignore you or not, ignore them, all is transient'
Geez 😊 this is a loose translation of Buddha's wisdom ☺.
If he’s ignoring you, move on.
Don’t ever let a man tell you twice that he doesn’t want you ladies. Know your worth
Ok bye bye.
Paeroa68 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
He is ignoring you because he wants you to invest more.
Michael Atorn hello Michael, is this what a holistic thinker would come to the conclusion of? I love this guy, he loves me too, but he’s reserved and has negative expectations. I do feel hurt, but I need to take it. He’s he’s own person, he has every right to pull away, and me leaving him alone is something I have been getting used to doing for a while. It breaks my heart, but he was there for me like no other man in my life .. right when I needed him the most... he made a huge time investment for 2 years, and I am just kind of lovingly frozen at this time. I am scared as shit to talk to him about relationship status, because I know I’ll get macerated.. lol probably inner fears, but our scenario is like this (he’s much much older than me, he’s had a very hard life with the women he loved passing away, he’s got cancer, he lives with a woman he’s settling for because she’s the only one who “really” needs him but she’s a bad alcoholic, he finds me a “mystery”, I am many states apart, we’ve only seen eachother once in person, when I visited his home town, I want to move closer to him but because I am paralyzed from a neck break and need lots of help I can’t easily move in his parts.. and I feel like he’s doing what I talked about a few times .. instead of texting me heavily every day he’s giving me time to figure out how to make it to him again, and he’s got plans.. he offers his help, I’m very shy accepting it because I can’t picture him taking care of my flesh.. I would not sleep well if he had to do that (it gets very personal)... anyway.. it’s hard.. but from my end it’s honest.. at least I know I was honest. I know that things will happen when they’re right. I have loved another guy 15 years ago but he never knew just how much.. he ghosted me.. and taught me hard lessons.. he loved me the most because he had the guts to do what’s hard for anyone to do.. and my understanding of love is that he loves me so much he would want me to have better than him.. he’s sacrificing for what he thinks is my ultimate best.. and that is very precious..understanding love in a nonselfish way opens the doors to amazing hard to see sights. I appreciate your contribution “he needs more investment”... I am agreeing ..
@@otiliaioan5348 all i can say to you is, you have a very good mindset. You,ve learned from the lessons life gave you instead of giving up. Keep in mind that your life is as bad as you think it is, but also as good as you think it is. And our mind is the thing we are able to control. I cant know how you feel about the situation, but you have never given up and no matter how bad something hits you, be happy that you have something in your life that makes you unique instead of all the people who live their day to day life without even having critical situations to show that they can "survive" the worst shit. The first world war as an example was the worst thing for the soldiers ever, but their legacy will continue.
Dont think about the result, but think about you. You are really really strong and you dont need me to say that. You know it by yourself.
In my culture there’s a famous old saying: “If a man ignores you, he’s either dead, in prison, or he’s not thinking about you at all.”
I do ignore yes..but i do it out of love i don't understand why all women think that when man ignores u he's shet or that..i also ignore because i just love that person knowing the fact that our match won't get us far in the road ahead so i try my best to move back while it hurts
A man’s rejection is gods protection👏🏾
Ooh, that's good.
But why do they come into our lives in the first place. God could have prevented them from coming.
Malini A because god put that person there to teach you something or open your mind to something. We take from every bad decision and it makes us wiser and more aware of ourselves
@@annieschmannie8962 Do not put your words about God. Please..
Separate zone then don’t comment 🤷🏾♀️😂
If he ignores you:
- He's a narcissist
- He's not into you
- He's seeing someone else
Get real and get out, you are not his priority!!!!
Those are some snap judgements
Absolutely right!!! Nothing more nothing less but only the mere truth!!!:)))) unfortunately...
The truths hurt
@@Salsa-lr4dc but better be hurt by truth than lies:))
How do you call that the truth~ bc if he did answer then he’d be none of those things GET THE FK OUT OF HERE
If you had to watch this video, you are with the wrong person now. MOVE ON!!!
That hit me..
@@oumaaima1613 .. real hard.
No he's the wrong person df
Thank you
But I can't ..........mind says move on but heart doesn't
A man in love With you can't stay a day without hearing from you. No man is too busy for the love of his life. Don't be fooled.
EXACTLY💯💯💯💯 I really don’t NO why some women can’t except THE TRUTH and move on.....
Exactly.
It's men that are discussed here,not immature boys.
I was in love with somebody and didn’t talk to him everyday, in fact we haven’t kept in touch for years. I am still very much in love with him.
@@JaquelineWildner depending on the message or what is going on in the relationship it takes time to respond properly. Sometimes women are there own communication killers, especially if they over-react or are simply a narcassist and like to turn any problem/fight into word-salad
Give him the same energy he gives you. If he draws near, you draw near. If he pulls back, you pull back.
Facts
That's exactly what we men have to do all the time. Women love to play the "I'm too busy" or "I fell asleep - at 3 pm" or the "I left my phone again" game. So we have no choice but to mirror her reactions otherwise be labeled as needy. If someone truly loves you, he or she can take 5 seconds of their day to either respond or tell you TTYL.
That's a game only fools play.
@@MsPersianality 🤣
@@MsPersianality can you explain when you say set the boundaries? Like give me examples please
'a high value woman will not chase, she will withdraw aswell' I love it!!!!
High value men don’t chase either, they reciprocate.
High value men don’t run, they reciprocate.
Che’ Possible it doesn’t matter if some men run because high quality women don’t chase.
High value men don’t run & high value women don’t chase...period!
Che’ Possible yeah no kidding. That’s what this whole thread is about.
But high value men don’t chase either. Soooo..
"If someone avoids you, never disturb them again"
A saying from an Advaita Vedanta but I can’t remember which teacher.
Exactly
A guy reached out to me they try to ignore me after
😂😂😂😂😂 thanks bruh
@@mariahfrancois9517 same here.
I don’t know why I loved the comments more than the video itself 😂😂😂😂
Me too..🖐️🖐️😁
There all filled with a bunch of idiots😂
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I guess some of us come with experiences.
a lot of idiots nowadays
Ladies, when a man ignores you, move on.
Before I met my husband, I’ve had plenty of guys ignoring me.
As soon as they found out I was living my best life with him, about 3 came back crying.
Yeah no, my husband never ghosted me and made sure I knew I was his priority.
That is so amazing
Lupita Alvarado tbh, it’s sad how many girls have experienced the same thing I have.
Most guys (in my experience) want the power. As soon as they don’t have the upper hand, they turn into babies
@@forgotmyun am really happy for you.
Good for you girl
Robin Doeve ❤️
Child men do this.. grown men will tell you they aren't interested and won't make you suffer with silence.
But true this person did say to me, "Hey sorry I'm bad at answering messages". They let me know asap.
Agree 1,000 percent. Don't know why that isn't said more often.
Yes they are spineless cowards.
Lndin Galle 🤣🤣🤣😂😂
I wish everyone was that mature. No one wins when people get strung along. I just don't understand why lie, just leave
Always remember, you don't NEED him, you WANT him..
What hurts isn't losing him, it's losing the things he represents.
The tingeling exited feeling, the things you talked about, the future you started envision with him...
Anne Nielsen preach. Ouch.
100% agree
It feels so good to see someone else typing this 😭 because i was thinking i was the only one thinking like this and I thought I was going crazy..
@ Anne Nielsen you're 1000% right!
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After knowing this, I don't want to win this person back at all. Thank you.
Same lol. Good for us.
Same here. I am so glad i listened to this. I am acting on it as my current state is that my supposed love interest ignored me for days and he called... i cancelled the call .. i was so empowered i did that. If i had not listened to this video i'll pick his and act like its normal. Has his used to ignoring and reappearing. Good bye to absolute rubbish.
It's never a woman's job to win a man in the first place! It's a man's job to win the woman. This is as old as time itself I don't know why people want to be modern rewrite thousands of years out biology.
@@laurabarber6697 So why men?
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the fact that we’re all here just hurts
the fact that you thought about everyone as individuals, as well as simultaneously somehow pulled off a valid contradiction by including the collective when you indicated that the problem is a big one (in the topic of relationships anyway). Seemingly simple statement from you, yet profound.
Yes it really does! I’m so tired of these games bro 😭😭😭
who else is crying watching this
Me. Im crying so hard 😭
Me girl
I’m with all of you...
Nah im used to it
I with crying 😢 for three years now it's made me so ill
The silent treatment is emotional violence
NICE! 👏👏👏
This is what no one understand....feels like why I am even existing on this earth?????
I agree
thankyou... i will say this
This is what I'm doing right now
He loves Ignoring me, I saw this video after I messed up by sending him so many text messages for the past 3 days with no reply till now. He has done this before, he probably thinks I have no self respect for always running after him. He’s right and from now on I’ve gotten my self respect back, i won’t be doing those silly things for someone who doesn’t care
I feel you Sasorah 😔I'm going through the same thing
We've all done this once. And this is how we learn. Tell him I said "thank you, next" jk dont tell him ish. Lol f that fool. If he ignroed you, he lacks emotional intelligence to set up a time to have a proper conversation.
@@emp9413 1000%
me right know
We learn everyday. I did what you did.
Mine ignored me was texting sparingly then ignored me for days.. he called and i cancelled his call. Thanks to this video... i did bot pick his call. If it were before, I would have picked his c.
Women, when you finally realize he’s intentionally ignoring you, do not reach out. You assume it’s over. And if/when you see him again (run into him), be kind, acknowledge him, smile, appear happy and completely unaffected. There’s over 1 billion men in this world, move on.
I find that pretending it didn’t effect you, draws them in and they start a relentless pursuit of you. It’s draining and id rather just tell it like it is, which is you ignored me, I went away and I do not like you whatsoever so leave me alone.
To say move on is very easy but to do it it's very very hard and I'm trying to...
Over one billion that's technically rt but
To move on is not as easy as said
This is the most positive comment that made sense to me
Find a human being who doesn’t ignore people generally.
Phoebe Xu Yes!!!
Tru
EXACTLY!! ❤️❤️❤️
Yess :((
Keep a dog instead a boyfriend
If he ignores just think that he's not the person God has chosen for you.
V Nethra... Yeah you better be dear😉
V Nethra....what really happened two years back is just nothing but an experience for your future so just be cool, grow and move ahead...... It happens to everyone...!!remember the sunshine after a heavy storm.
Amen
stfu
Or maybe forget about God and learn to choose well. If your picker is broken, fix it. Work on your personal issues and break the patterns that lead to trash partners. Sky-daddy supposedly gave us free will, yet we're supposed to not exercise it and allow "him" to choose for us? What if you think God chose a nice church guy that you're family and pastor approves of and then two years after you're married he drops church and whoops your ass on the daily? Is that "God's" plan? Oops, tough divorce. What about your children? No thanks. I think that I'm self aware because i don't look to a Sky-daddy for help. That's just me though.
If he ignores you he's just not into you. Next.....
@mummy caramel Or he is emotionally unavailable. Painful any which way you slice it.
So basically this guy ignored me all day long yet instantly reply to my message weird huh
If he instantly replies,how can he ignoreyou??!
@@tanyatanya9492 Well umm so he ignored me for almost the whole day then later that same day I send him a text and he instally replied
@@spero7675 so what if your boyfriend of 2 yrs was out at the mall and he haven’t texted you for 6 hours and ignored your calls and text on purpose what does that mean
Don’t chase just replace
PriscillaNilla Absolutely 😁.
Yesssss
Yeah
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Mary Onah 😊💕
If the man really loves you, he will never ignores you no matter what the circumstances 🙂
bullshit! depends upon circumstances.
@@RoninMoviesNation damn right
A guy ghosted me because am a virgin and he claims to say he is losing feelings yet he stares when he believes am not looking but never talks to me when we cross paths
@@echo4407 very serious
He will if you keep him in friendzone ..... He want to get out of that painful zone
I'm so fed up of the mind games and childish behaviour in "men".
So hard to have a relationship with unevolved and unhealed males.
Thing is, we can all play games but why is this even a thing in between adults.
Getting ignored only pushes me away, no time for shenanigans.
Take yourself home and come back when you are fully grown and ready to deal with a WOMAN!
Games are for children.
Know your worth and keep it moving until the right man turns up, don't be afraid to walk away ladies, we teach people how to treat us.
My mother once told me, "If a man wants you, he would never put himself in a position to lose you". That hit deep!
IKR this generation of men all operate like kids. WHO has time for games when we're adults like wtf
I remember going on Saturday night dates with women from church....church!
We'd have a good time, laugh, have fluid conversation...
Then literally the next day at church, my date from last night would ignore me like I didn't even exist. Walk past me in the hall and never look at, acknowledge, make eye contact with me, nothing! This happened time and again. I thought it was just happening to me until I started talking to some of the guys and found out that they were dealing with the same nonsense I was.
I got so fed up with it that I dropped out of the dating "game" for several years.
Talk about games and immaturity......sheesh.
Luís Araújo no.
Dude woman play the biggest games overall, what you are talking about
Nilzaneva yea cause women don’t do that at all hey 🤨
If he is ignoring you, he has someone else.
EVERY single one of my exes had other women they were talking to when they ignored me for days.
It's common sense now that I think about it.
They have you on rotation. So this is how it goes.
Monday, Wednesday, Friday : Cindy, Michelle, Diana
Tuesday, Thursdays and Saturdays : Alexa, Marie and Kylie.
Sundays might be his day offs. If you're still on the "duty roster", you might be the one he decides to throw some crumbs at.
Don't take it personally.
Don't chase.
Just leave them be.
Force them to keep playing these games until you lose respect for them and eventually , they lose you. Let them sabotage themselves.
They think "reverse psychology" works. Show them otherwise.
That last part tho
Thank you for this
That is exactly what I did. I knew I was the side dish and that certain days of the week were more practical. One day, I just plainly said that I didn't deal with people with no backbones.The person wasn't happy about it, stopped contact for a month, then reached out one day only to ask to lie to the current girlfriend ( who was in fact an on/off GF but to no clear admission from the person I was seeing ) and said that we only would see each other once in a blue moon when it was a bit more often than that...Good riddance I say !👍👍👍
😃Cindy Michelle..next
This how its done right guys??
If he ignores you, it's not meant to be. Because real love has no judgement, perfectionist and no boundaries.
I have a bridge to sell you
Morning Star this is the best comment
Hhah okay 👌
Then what do I do..
Boy, have you got it all twisted up, sugar-coated and cotton candied. Protect yourself. Know your limits - and make damned sure no one transgresses them. You gotta walk the talk. ☝️
When they lied and use you. Let the karma does its job. God is never sleep.
Hayashi Ryuuen ❤️that’s what l always think too... but still hurts, TY for bringing that up. Xoxo, bye 👋
Yuar english osam ! Wear do you learning such gud english ?
Yes
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Best
As the saying goes "Actions speak louder than words" .No action move on .
"If someone ghosting you..respect the dead and go away"
-myself
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He's telling the truth! If a guy has the habit of ignoring you time to time, ignore him too and don't complain or anything as to why he's not texting or calling. Play it cool. If he told you he missed you so much let him know that you miss him too but don't take it from the heart. Expect less. Be sweet when ur talking with him but after being sweet, back off. It'll fuck his mind and he'll wonder as why are you different and not easy. Don't be the first one to initiate the text. Be happy with ur life don't think about him all the time. He'll realize u have a life. Eh if he doesn't care about you why the hell give him so much attention? Fvck him haha
True thanks so much
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I have used this method 😁
@@ayishafarhana6397 how did it go?:)
What the fuck
I’ve come to conclusion based on these comments is that we all have dated trash men lol
@James Curry I'm sorry you've dated trash women like we've dated trash men. They both exist. It sucks.
@James Curry both ways the are the media dehumanizes both women and men. It's a two way street.
@claire c Agreed! That's why you level up! The only way to win and keep your self respect!!!
claire c yes!!!!
Hahahaha
I got it too late💔 im sorry for my self, for wasting my time and tears...
Parisa Ba I hope you have forgiven yourself and moved on. Know your value and accept no one who doesn’t know how to treat you.
I'm glad he ignore me yesterday then I search immediately so I didn't waste any. It's just a little painful but. I will be alright.
@@moonchong9979 Thanks..❤
@@jellevlog9048 Good for you..:))
Me now . I don’t know what to do
As Maya Angelou said, “Believe who they show you they are the first time.” Hard sometimes to accept but it will avoid a lot of problems.
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@Pable , FACTS 1,000
Did you hear that ladies? "Don't run after a man." 🏃♀️ If a man ignores you, he's just not that into you (excellent book BTW).
He's just not that into you..period.
Thank you!
Yes
***YOU KNOW THATS RIGHT***
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I want a husband who doesn't make me to see these videos ever 😕😐
soundarya sou why would u marry a man who ghosted u? if u marry then one would assume the man is ready to invest
I want that too. And i dont know why i ended up with a guy that does not give me the attention i need. It makes me feel loke im not worth nothing. I deserve better than this I really do. I hope that he does not realize that he really wants to be with me when im gone.
You deserve one
soundarya sou that’s the dream!!
million of men on this planet
From experience, men who ignore are oftentimes narcissists. Beware...
100%
Raised by an ignoring mother for sure
Great advice! I pray a committed, healthy, love relationship💏 finds every person reading the comments!
Thank you and same to you♡
Amen🙏🏽
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Amen, same to you💕
visadklline thank you and same for you ♥️
BOY= Burden on You
MAN=Meets All Needs
Too much work and games- who cares what they think.
Belle Ame LOVE THAT 💕
Wow this one was good :)
OMG that’s awesome! Love it!
Keeping this!
Belle Ame I agree
This is helping me to do a self-examination. I am realizing that I've been giving my attention to the wrong person.
I feel sorry for u :(
Me too... 🥺
Yeap
I know this is two years old, but my god, I felt so related and I just wanna cry.
He sometimes ignores me, and then when I do the same, he starts talking to me again, all sweet and drops the "let's meet", but then when we are supposed to meet, he falls asleep, goes out with his friends (nothing wrong here tho, it's just I realize that I'm not a priority in his life as he is in mine), or just avoids talking about hanging out in the first place.
I'm tired. I know now that I'm much more into him than he's into me; that he is just not ready to get in a relationship; and probably, that I need to move on, as much as I wanted this to happen.
It is not worth my energy. I'm not a teenager, I'm almost reaching my thirties, I'm sick of games and I need someone who desires to see me as much as I want to see him everyday.
I'm gonna go cry now, but that's it.
My father was emotionally unavailable so I spent way too much of my life chasing crumbs of affection and attention thinking that’s what I should do because that’s what I was familiar with. Happy to tell you that the moment I stopped doing that is the moment I set myself up to attract the man of my dreams, who I am now married to and have been happily for 5 years. Stop accepting less than you deserve.
Dont over think it. If they ignore you for no good reason, just move on
I like your comment thank u
Whether it's "no good reason" or even a "good reason", there's no sense swimming upstream.
You don't even need to move on really. Sometimes it's a simple as he's not ready for it or didn't know enough about you yet. Plenty of occasions i've seen people that weren't interested in each other but together a year later.
feels like reality just slapped me in the face
:( its harsh
Same here
Ditto
Me too... I'm such a dumbass 🤦♀️
:*(
I'm convinced now! that, it is wrong to love a person with all your heart.
Leave that for your children
@@shebacynn1320 ❤ that comment
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I'm crying while watching this...
I realized how being faithful and loyal to a wrong man😢
1. He lost interest or got bored because he is the avoidant type (check out attachment styles in adults)
2. His goal was only sex, and had no long term plans in the first place which is why you should be bold in the beginning of any relationship to ask the right questions in order to know the real intentions.
3. He was serious about you, but after getting to know you he realized you are incompatible. Sometimes they don't have the proper communication tools to explain to you that point, or they are afraid of your reaction. This one may come back if you improve to become a better version of yourself and they are impressed.
4. He feels he can do better. Green grass on the othet side syndrome. This type might come back if you hold your ground, and just keep improving yourself. Although most likely by the time he is back you might not want him anymore, or found someone better.
5. He has so many mental issues, financial issues, lost his job, lost a family member or pet, went to jail, depressed, etc... so he can't think properly from his mental/emotional instability. In this case, you need to let go. Either he pulls himself together and realizes he wants to fix it with you, or you are gone. It's up to you if you want to waste time waiting rather than meeting people whi have their life together.
Now i like your comment.
@@chelle967 thank you
I think I am currently stuck in two of these. It pains me to read but it's like pulling a plug. Thank you.
@@fateisendemic7862 I'm sorry for your pain, but it's not your issue, it's the other person. You just need to protect yourself, and your feelings. You will mostly benefit by developing yourself and finding things that you have passion in.
Most of us here have been there and we feel you. 💔💕
Mine is 3. If he does come back should I accept him? I don’t know if that’s the right thing to do.
I dated a man who ignored me for days at a time. As soon as I would move on and accept he was gone he would reach out to me texting me “haven’t heard from you in a while”. Always made me feel like I didn’t do the most to reach out. When I’d call him out he would give me the excuse he has bad depression and has to shut his phone off sometimes. Turns out after I did my investigation on him. He was in another relationship and the days he ignored me his girlfriend was in town and staying with him. Now I have a man that even when we fight and are hating each other we still text back and communicate.
Anahi XO They make it so obvious that someone else is in the picture. I’m not stupid.
Some people will make you think it's you when it's really them...
Great
Sounds like your man was a narcissist like mine. I just love how they refuse to take accountability for themselves. Instead(Gaslight) you. Blame you! Make you think it's your fault. RUN!!! I stayed in that crazy ass cycle for 10+years until someone told me about Narcissism.
Recently was seeing smone. Ur comment really help n support my thought to get strengthen. This guy showed interest n then turns off his phone most f d tym now a days. I just strtd seeing him few days ago. He once told since one yr he s unable to sleep n is insomniac. So probbaly thought he might b dealing wid his own things n diseases or depression or might b hving a girl olready. N deciding to stop waiting for d tym when he reverts n tlk normally as in initial days. Can't deal wid narcissists. Waste f tym.
Don't forget that someone's inability to see your worth does not mean it's not there.
yup thank you
Best quote ever
True
Yup
Thank you I needed to hear that
Some men “go through the motions” and act like they like you, when in reality they like themselves more: first and foremost. Listen carefully to the sound of my door closing.
"If he's ignored u learn to distance ur self..."
YESSSSS! Go no contact, not to attract but to better your self and not be so obsessed with getting that text, or racking your mind trying to figure out what he’s thinking, just drop him! He either wants you or not as this man said before. Unless he shows up for you and wants to start hanging out romantically, next!!!!
I have stopped running after him that's because I have figured out my worth👍
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Just salute him with ur middle finger.And MOVE ON.
Hahahaha 👏👏😂😂😂😂Jajaja true
That's a good one 😂
😢😭
Yaaass
Hahahahahahahhaha
"They help you when they like you, they do not make it hard."
Crying while watching... it really hurts like hell
Yeah☹️☹️
I cried enough today I’m moving on he better never text me again leave him a read
How are you now?
I swear😭😭😭😭😭
I hope you are doing fine 🥺
He's just not that into you. Accept it and move on
SHUT UP
@@karinnamerino7232 😂😂😂
Being ignored hurts a lot. I wish guys who do this would have the decency to at least say “hey, I am sorry but I am just not interested anymore, I wish you all the best“
He seems like a very kind and straightforward guy ♡ And a great point "If he loves you he will not make it hard on you."
It’s so easy... I never even thought of that! 💜
I have been talking with a guy recently. He hasn't been talking with me for days and I've seen him online. I will not reach out to him. I won't crawl to anyone. I didn't do anything wrong. I know my value. He doesn't LOL. Self respect is 100% more important.
He aint feeling you he should of told you
Jonathan Mejia :) He contacted me again, but I'm not going to take him seriously. A guy won't even go a day without talking with a woman he is really into.
+Ascending Stargazer it's a slippery slope for men if he calls you every day he might feel needy but you also don't want him to just use you. Soo don't talk over the phone talk live get to really know him.
Ascending Stargazer you prolly dont like him enough.
Sometimes pride can be the biggest buffer to making a good thing blossom.
Just because he's ignoring u doesn't mean he's trying to attack your ego.
He could be going through his own issues and doesn't know how to deal with them. Not everything is about u. When he is ready to explain he will in his own time.
That's if he actually cares about u.
Intrinsically Me Thank you for your input. :) It's not a matter of pride. It's a matter of defense mechanism. When I'm on WhatsApp, and I see he's online, but hasn't responded to my message, I'm not going to chase him. If I allow him to only contact me when he feels it's in his best interest, then I'm basically letting him know that I accept that behavior. I don't. I do genuinely like him. The bigger question is, does he? We agreed to be each other's Valentine. That's nice, but again, I'm not going to read into it more than a friendly gesture.
If he is happy without you than make him more happy 😔
Deep
Uuuuh No. Fuck him. Make YOURSELF more happy.
Actually if he's he's happier with someone else.. ladies love yourself more than him dance him out of your thoughts.
Well said , lol :))))
When a man ignores me..i walk away for good..who has time for that kind of manipulation?...life is to short for that kinda crazymaking...they lack communication skills and child like.. I know my worth ..bye bye guy...get out of my way...i need a real man.
You ignore men because they wouldn't date you? Loser.
@@OviLVR8 ..obviously u missed the point entirely...over ur head and under ur feet..🤦♀️..but maybe if u think hard enough the light bulb will turn on..and u say I'm the loser..clearly u would not be any great loss..bye
@@goingaboutmyfathersbusines4359 haha another angry white women. Beautiful.
ramms mutter69 you seem to have a hard time getting women to the point you have to piss a woman off in order to have a conversation you would never have. I’m guessing you are calling her a loser cause she is the type of woman that ignores you 😑. Stop projecting your insecurities on strangers.
@@goingaboutmyfathersbusines4359 hahaha savage reply lol
“You can only spook a guy who was not sufficiently interested in you in the first place. His interest level was too low.” True words!!
Yeah self respect is so important ..no to man chasing if he doesnt like me i wont beg or ask him to gve his attention ...
Lol... don’t chase them .. only if u want to unload them from follow u around ... tell them u love them .... that will make them go away ..!!! My trick
Emilie Smith
My trick was tried nd tested by myself personally .and i have some options to unload them by means of not appreciating the efforts they made nd ignoring. pretending that i dont know anything nd really very effective
Me too.. I hate being a bitch
mercy mallari bravo!
mercy mallari agree
If man ignores me I'm done. If he's not enough of an adult to tell me what the problem is I'm way better off without him anyhow.
exactly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! tell them
1963 Dianne B amen
Yep! I actually just encountered this. I withdrew after he did and mcving on. It doesn’t mean he’s a bad guy or I’m a bad date it means we aren’t at a place where we are supposed to be together that’s fine with me! I’d rather know than he keep coming around being fake
Agreed
I think described every man or what they think they are lol
The reason i am here because im hurted and i wanna cry
Me too 😔
Me too ugh
You'll be ok. 😘😘😘
Me to .don't. Worry but all will be okay
Azwa Xafiqa Have yourself a good cry 😭 you’ll feel better.
I think my own problem was I was too eager, too forward and too blunt. I've always called a spade a spade and say it how it is. I don't think some people can handle it. When I'm ignored or ghosted, I won't beg or plead, I'll remain casual and won't bombard them with calls or messages. I'll just leave it and move on living my life as best as I can. 🍒
Guy who ignored me, later he became my boyfriend, now we are 4 years together, so it depends. But men who have shown me their love and attention all the time, later they have gone, because they have stopped love me (in general they met more easy girls or they started truly love diffrent girl) :). In general if he ignores you, because you make him shy, and he needs time and space to understand his feelings, that's good sign, he propably starts love you deeper than you can dream :).
My boyfriend at the beginning ignored me because he was shy, he respected me and he didn't want give me hope and hurt, he tryed understand his feelings and when he was ready to be in relationship, he told me about it and I was suprised :).
So don't be angry, don't hurry up, if something is growing up slowlier, sometimes it's better than if something is happening too fast :). Be patient and don't panic ;). If you should be together, the you will be together. If he doesn't love you now it doesn't mean that he will start to love you later and if you love him, it doesn't mean that you will love him later, so check and wait what future will give you :)
Bless you all!
Hi, now I am got married last 6 yr but my husband is not that much interested in me.why he is doing like that I will never understood .sometime i am thinking suicide attempt .pls help me . what I do ?
@@namdevshinde8490
Hi Namdev Shinde, have you got facebbok, e-mail ? I will write to you priv. Here are too many people to talk
Now i understand...Thank you for sharing your experience with us tho. This is precious. There is a lot to learn from this, whether it is for me or from him. He is indeed a shy guy, a guy that dont simply wanting to hurt others feeling. I think, it is me who think much. 😧😧 I will pray and put my trust in God about this. Thank you again for sharing..Oh my....i hope i didnt ruin things 😥🙏
@@llykeanazo9811 my Dear :) don't give up :) . Just be honest and answer, is he good for you? Does he hurt you? If yes, don't be affraid of leaving him. People need to be lonely to understand a lot and deserve a lot. It's normal. But if he doesn't hurt you, he is just quiet, shy man, don't hurry up and give space and time for this relationship. I know that deeper relationship is growing up slowly. It's sensitive, sweet, delicate. Just you should know, when leave him and when just give him more space and time. Don't be scared to talk with him as well sometimes :). And don't worry, just relax and remember that man couldn't have first place in our life. Give this place for GOD :) . Everything will be OK, you will see ;)
@@centrumlex Hi..Sis. Sandra Lwowska. :) I hope, you are having good day. I want to say thank you for replying my message even though I didnt expect it to be replied tho. But, I want you to know, that I really appreciate it. Thank you so much :) I am agreeing with you that man couldnt have the 1st place in our life but God. Amen! Yesterday was 2 months of us communicating with each other. We havent got the chance to meet yet, as he works very far from city and i am not sure if meeting with him will happen. But..Im trusting God with this, and let things happen the way it should be. No sis..he doesnt hurt me. :) eventhou smtimes he reply my message just short but politely and with simple emoji. :) I admit that, I smtimes feel disappointed a little bit, lol. But, that is only a woman emotion and expectation tho...But, i am glad with him just being himself. About whether he is good for me, hmmm..I think it still too early to find this out. I believe, there is reason why i saw his facebook profile the other day. i think, we do have similar behaviour and interest. which this makes me happy when I know little by little. I am so unexperienced in terms of dating or communicating with opposite gender. that is why, i am confused of certain things but i do keep praying about this. I actually can feel that, he is keeping things slow in our conversation...which i think it is a good thing and bring comfort to me. I agree with what you said sis Sandra, that there is no need to be rush in this but giving time and space. If it meant to happen, it will happen. :) And the most important things is, dont let God out of the picture..Amen. Thank you so much for your encouragement and sharing ya..I sincerely appreciated it.. Much love
Right why do you want to talk to a person who ignores you anyways!!!
If a man is really interested in you, he will do anything to keep his eye on you. Don't live a life chasing a man who isn't capable of loving you because there are so many guys out there who will never be tired of showing his love to you. All you need to do is just believe in yourself and everything else will follow.
A New Love Official #LOVE#IT
Thanks I needed to see this. My friend said "if he ignores you more than 24h, block him because if he wants to hear you he'll move mountains even when he got lost in a forest. They always find a way, don't be a fool and move on."
I met this guy 5 years ago, and until today we have this kind of bad relationship, he used to be very nice with me, then he just started to take a long time to answer me back, and all the times I try to end up everything, he comes mad with an excuse, well, now I dont care anymore, I wont talk to him anymore, and never answer him or meet him again, because I know I deserve better and girls, u all deserve better too :) thank you Brian for that video, helped me to make my final decision!
Lena Moura its happening to me now.. for 4yrs everything is getting worst.. everytime i said that i feel so alone in this relationship.. asking his time an affection.. but the more i ask the more he got ignores me.. i feel so tired and drained.. i love him but i think some relationship needs to be end...
I feel you. Be strong
Mayra Magno
Go girl🤜💪
I’m currently in this same situation 😔
agreed..I deserve someone.better and gosshhh he is cute.
'To every action, there's equal and opposite reaction'.
Ignore him, too.
:))
Indeed 😊👍👏👏👏👏
If he's ignoring you....better block him😂😂😂
OMG! I never thought I could have so many likes on my comment😅 thanks guys
melai cutipie hahaha so funny what if he didnt mean to ignore you
waz goin you cant accidentally ignore someone lmao
Will they know their blocked
Lol Thats exactly what I did!
Not a good idea. Dont block him.... allow him to see that you are receiving all his shit and you just not fucking with him.
Know ur worth if they have no contact ur not important to them 💯. Work on yourself and love yourself ❤.
I will stick with GOD, HE NEVER HURTS FEELINGS, I FEEL THE PULL TOWARDS GOD EVERYDAY. MAN WILL LIE, CHEST AND STAEAL. GOD WILL ALWAYS LOVE, NO CONDITIONS, NO FAKE STUFF AND HE'S VERY MUCH TRUTHFUL. YES, I WILL STICK WITH GOD.
Amen sista god is the best
Are you Muslim ?
Very true
Amen
Amen praise the lord hallelujah 😂
Most painful, yes when he suddenly ignored me without a word 😰
Yes I agree my bf is ignored me and not texted me in 24hrs yesterday and I feel like he is doing the same today and I don't want to lose him and I don't know what to do
@@michaelaearnhardt the same happened with me just yesterday what will u do ?
Nuna Khayal yea I’m srry and his friend said that he’s been busy that is why he hasn’t talked to me in four days I just hope he’s be able to txt back today if not I’d see if his friend can see if he would talk but idk I’m just not giving up on us yet
@@michaelaearnhardt mine is busy too but he used to txt me even when he was busy .. today he talked to me just for minutes and he seem very cold .. he just said i miss u but with no emotion and now he is home but he is not texting me i don't know what to do but i feel pain in my heart it is like a silent treatment kinda
@@michaelaearnhardt I hope it will really work out for you guys 😍😉. What loved can't be unloved!!!
I have gone through that so i just moved on, I deserve better, every woman deserves better.
If aman ignores u means he doesn't love u,he is playing with other girls yet wasting ur time.
No one can ignore awoman whom he loves,he has to play alot to get her and keep he safe. Thank you for the nice video.
Laney S , I agree with u...We r n the same page...let show to them what they left behind will make them regret someday...
I needed this EXACT message tonight. I'm in that situation now. He won't be hearing from me again. Thank you so much @Brian Nox!
I hope the "plenty of men" you talk about find me soon, haha! I've hit nothing but dead ends for years now.
Me too 🤣🤣
Same 😂
When he messages me next I'll ignore him trust me I'm sick of it mate x
He just confirmed something I already knew watch for their words and actions before they ignore you and you'll see you will be the one doing them the favor of ignoring them first.
💯 It is too bad so many women do not have enough self worth, or self respect to walk away. Next! Great talk! 😊
I think some women have invested so much into the relationship that it makes it difficult to walk away. Also, people tend to think irrationally when their heart is involved so it’s not so much about self respect, etc.
Razvan Marin Thank you for your input, very kind of you. Personally, I do not have these issues. The result depends on how we react and respond, and how much we want it. If a man ignores me, I ignore him. Clearly, it is a sign that he is just not that into me. I don’t waste my time. Next!
BeautyBeholder Respectfully, I disagree. People treat you the way you allow them to treat you. It is better to exit stage left if you are not his first choice, particularly in the beginning. I do see some women hold out for a lot years to get the one they want, but it is ten years of pain, misery, unfaithfulness and games during the best years of their lives. I am worth more than that. If all women had more self respect, men wouldn’t have a choice when it comes to certain cultural dating trends, and well, just bad behavior..
scott sanger Why do you think it is great?
Michelle Zareas I have a hard time walking away from the last guy I was dating idk why
If you have self love...being ignored is not such an issue. Do something for yourself that you love and feel fulfilled by that.
Yep
If you are a high value woman, and he still ignores you mean that he doesn't love you or like you enough, you deserve it better! Move on.... lol Sorry I'm talking to myself now hahahah
Jenny Chan same advice for my self ! So hurt to be ignored and knowing that you meant nothing for someone you love !
Omg! some day u will find that right person.."not a little women or a little boy or a man adult) how ever u want to call people..Being ignored by that adult men or we think he is an adult man.. it's simply what he does for a living and by the way he grew up.Either Lovin family or a broken family..some men are very sensitive and you think it's wise to ignore women. Men likes to manipulate women or" little females", to think that they're not worthy of your presence because of your admirations of life and how to express a female's feelings towards your own feelings is beyond me. I figured that the first female in a man life is there mother's. I expect that when a man is being raised my a single mother would emerge into a loving man but caring friends and loving husband and a wonderful father to their children.. when an man is brought up in a broken home with two parents that are not equal compatible with each other because of their way of dealing with their lives because they don't know how to love each other right to love their own child and to ignore the child. why ignore your true feelings you'll ignore their friends feelings, their family's their children, their wives it's all because of their upbringing I have noticed this throughout my whole life. Because I've been chasing that fantasy for all my life. I was brought up in a broken home. To see my father abused my mother because he was abused when he was a kid and then he's turned on to me and my sister.I just don't understand why my loving father would do that to his own loving females in his life.And if you are an adult man why would you belittle us and call us "little females). And your constantly repeating yourself. can you ever come up with your own type of words to explain how a female is going to accept your way of thinking and your words are so untrustworthy. how can some women get what you're saying? you're not trying to find away to manipulate the real answers besides going around the bush. Justice and find the reason to your point. Just say women are piece of s***they're not worthy in your life because you're hurt either by your mother,your sister your, aunts even your own father explain that..
I feel you!
+John Saf
Thank you,Sir.
You are a wise man.
Females NEED truth...it takes a man to be able to teach the truth.
Simple truth such as this made me free from the prison of lies I spent most of my life in bondage to : )
o Theós na se evlogeí
+John Saf
If men are so great then why is a generation being raised by single mothers. Yes women are emotional but men are sneaky and feel that's their right, then of course we labeled as crazy haha 😂
You ignore me you'll never hear from me. They always come back when you loose feelings.
whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:.: don't waste your time here......🙏🙏❤️...
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That part smh 🙄
So true....its so sad.
Sooooo true
I like the part where he said its a good thing when he ignores you bacause it shows you how he really feels. It is so true and it feels good & rewarding to be that strong within to know that you deserve and can get better.
Totally agree. Dated someone who treats me so bad after 2 years of dating. Now im happy with the new man who shows me the respect and love
A man that ignores me will
Be ignored by me 🙂🙂
For good! Hehehe
James Curry why do you even come to these kinds of videos if you know people are just gonna say things you KNOW you don’t want to hear?? Like, get some Jesus.
Thank God!
Gabriela Martinyuk I guess I have been acting fool all this time trying to text him or call him and he giving me excuses 🤦🏻♀️🙅🏻♀️not anymore
Ok good bye then.
Gabriela Martinyuk 💖👌
Why can't they just slap on our face by telling directly that they are no longer interested. Because ignoring someone is a torture in our mental health! I hate it
Its Bad manners!
The 1st time an asshole broke my heart, my dad told me to listen to the song, "When A Man Loves A Woman." He said the song explained how men act when they truly love a woman. He was right.
KellieSand04 that is LIMERENCE
KellieSand04 yes indeed. Good advice. That has been my fave song since I was a teen.
KellieSand04 your dad is a wise man. Percy Sledge said it best in those song lyrics: “when a man LOVES a woman, he’ll spend his very last dime, “etc but the best part of the song I loved was when he said, “LOVING EYES, CAN NEVER SEE.” When a man or woman truly loves one another, you can do no wrong in each other’s eyes.
KellieSand04 I hate that song
'Take time to know him or her' is a good song as well
Mans was speaking facts & rly opened my eyes. Imma high value woman & so are you.
Haha sure
we usually have someone / something else entertaining our time.. if we WANT you, we'll pursue you!
So very true.
True..
😊😊😊😊
Make sense
Thank you very much for getting straight to the point 😂
I don’t think people ignore us; I genuinely believe that they are just teaching us to live without them and be happy regardless of whether they are around or not 🙏🥰
Shove it!
Really helpful... Nerver chase somebody that he is ignoring you...
So true! As you get older it's even more important not to waste your time going after men who don't care in the first place. Life is short and you want to spend your time with a guy who adores you!
Swakara1 yes i said to my friend of mine today...i don t want to spend a day After someone that don t want me ✌🏻nexttttttt🤣
Swakara1 Amen
When I was in my 20s (around 2001, 2002), I dated a guy who would "ignore" me because he wanted to be chased. He wanted to feel as though I needed him. There are guys out here who are that childish.
Somalia Gullette so a guy should be in a relationship and not feel needed ? Maybe he thought he was making all the effort and was getting nothing in return.
Somalia Gullette omgggg that’s the same thing I’m going through
When I write something he ignores my text he wants me to chase him
We are of the same age at at the same boat ! Nice to know someone accross the ocean / country like you.
Summary: Don't lose your time nor energy on a man who ignores you, you do not deserve such treatment as out there are lots of guys who would die to have a girl just like you.
(Thanks, this is really something I needed to hear.)
Damnit. I spent 6 years with someone who constantly ignored me, and would literally tell me I'm not top priority. He just recently did it again, but I've officially withdrawn.
Siouxsie Q. narcissistic abuse
6 years?? This happens to me in 3months and I give up 😒
11 years
Jay Cee ❤️❤️❤️ I hope your heart has healed
@@oeu3669 not yet but it will in time 🙏🙏🙏 dear
Years of relationship. I always came back when he ignored me for days (until he needed me).
Now I didn’t text him, didn’t call him, nothing and guess what? I haven’t heard of him in weeks... Guess that’s it with my relationship. I was nothing to be worth of thinking.
Thank you for opening my eyes. I will
Move on.
Damn..... that hurts...
Are you okay now?
I can feel your hurt. Flip the focus: HE isn’t worth your attention. He has treated you in a shoddy, thoughtless manner. Shed this little vampire.
Same happened to me. I gave him an ultimatum, he chooses to change and we go to therapy like he promised, or we are over. He ghosted me. I usually go back but the whole point is, I’m not settling for disrespect.
When a man ignores me, I find something more productive to do. I'm, generally, the first to admit to doing something wrong, so that there is no "build-up" in the background of my relationship. I value myself enough to know what I am deserving of. If you won't pay attention to me, I will pay attention to me. My love for myself is the only love that I can expect to be unconditional. Once I accept that, I can't be disappointed by anyone.
Nice videos, btw, Brian Nox. Just found your channel. :-)
TheGirl your word made me cry.
TheGirl are you my niece? 🕊💞🕊💞
Probably not. I am guessing from your last name, you are... Filipino? I could pass for a number of things. I am mixed with, predominantly, Japanese, Korean, and Black. I grew up with the Asian side of my family. The only direct Aunts and Uncles that I have not met are on my father's side, and he is predominantly Black... with dark skin. If my mom has another sister, she didn't tell me about you. LOL.
There's probably a lot that I don't know about my family. I only speak English, fluently. That should add some clarity to the dynamic there. It seems like they wanted to keep things "Asian"... but there I was, ruining things. Haha. Oh, well. It is what it is. You can't please them all.
P.S. My family ignored me as hard as they could until I finally just left. That's probably why it doesn't phase me to be ignored by a man. I've had so much worse than that already, so it's no big deal to me. I'm used to people ignoring me until I go away. * shrug *
P.P.S. I suppose, I am just way more interesting to myself than I am to anyone else. I have difficulty finding people that share my interests or viewpoints, or that are open to accept me as I am, even if they don't. I am very humble, generous and forgiving, myself, nearly to a fault, but I seem to attract extreme narcissistic types, because of it. It seems I will only ever be a cheerleader for someone that can't return the favor. I'm aware of it, it totally blows, but I can't change what I most easily attract.
Btw, there was no one in my immediate family that had anything in common with me. I was everything that they would not have wanted. I'm not sure what the Universe was smoking on that one. I'm just saying.
I was with someone for 12 years and tolerated his ignoring of me for far too long. When I withdrew, he saw it as 'control' By then I had lost my sense of worth and so would end up blaming myself for our problems. So what I say is the very first time a man does this, run away from him as far and as fast as you can. You should never be treated as an inferior and that is what a man ignoring you is doing and believing