Should I Marry a Divorced Mom?
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- Опубликовано: 12 сен 2024
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About four years after my divorce I (43m) met a woman (40) and after a year of dating we started talking about marriage. She had a son who was 13 years old at the time. While having dinner after ring shopping one evening we started talking about her son's schooling and where we were going to live. I was still renting a house after my divorce but I wanted to purchase a nice new home for us.
The following day she sends me a text saying she wasn't going to compromise on sending her son to a private Catholic high school which is the second most expensive school in our area ($11k a year). This woman made $32k a year before taxes at the time.
I tried to have a conversation with her about how she was going to afford this school. She became irate during the texting conversation. I wasn't completely opposed to the school because I was raised Catholic and also attended a private Catholic high school. My issue was that after we started discussing marriage she was already making financial decisions on her own that were going to affect me. I thought that was completely wrong.
The argument escalated to the point that I told her to come to my house (we lived separate) and get her shit. I was done arguing with her. Now she wants to talk about it. She comes over and I explain my viewpoint, and I tell her. What if for instance, a week before our wedding I show up with a new $125k Porsche? How would that make you feel knowing you were about to marry me and now WE had to pay for this expensive car loan?
The light finally went off in her head.
Guys, I'm sorry to tell you this, but many women won't love you. Not the way you want to be loved anyway. They are incapable of loving you the way you love them. They love the idea of the life they will have with you.
There are good women out there but there are also a glut of vampires. When you are younger and find love you plan to build a life together. Once over 30 too many are looking for a fix for their failed life; an upgrade to the life they feel entitled to and one which they are not willing to work for themselves.
To briefly wrap up this story we got back together. We got engaged and after she had the ring on her finger she thought she “had me”, she had won.
She changed, our sex slowed down, she became argumentative during the house shopping and generally became irrational about where we were going to live and about the small wedding we were going to have.
She had issues about the house purchasing and the wedding which made me realize this woman was in this relationship for what she could get out of it.
I finally broke it off with her two weeks before the wedding because she hadn't seen me for the prior two weeks because she “didn't want to fight about the wedding.”
These women are out there in vast numbers. They have an internal monologue that differs from how they act. They have a mask on and if you don't see through it you will pay an emotional and likely financial toll.
Also in closing, through a twist of fate my ex-wife ended up working in the same building as my ex-fiance shortly after we separated Those two started talking. I need to mention that my ex-fiance lived with her parents. They had a large home and it just made financial sense for her to live with them. Anyway, my ex-wife sends me a photo of a text message where my ex-fiance tells her that I was just a means to an end. She wanted a house and I was getting us one. WTF right?
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plz link the video of the wall chart that you mentioned near the end of this video. Thanks..
The card pops up on the top right as I mention it.
Entrepreneurs in Cars I think what he means is we can't click on it after we've finished watching the video because it goes away. I know a link in the details for me personally would be better. Just my $0.02.
Never date a woman who recently lost her boyfriend/fiancee to death. Don't get a woman pregnant you don't want to marry. Don't date a woman seriously while you are in college or getting a skill if you can't keep up your grades.
Don't marry a Woman who you are enmeshed with and who you think will heal all of your emotional problems. Fix your self and grow as much as you can before even searching for a mate. If you do get involved, give only up to 75-90% of your heart and store the rest somewhere safe. That way, if she starts doing a vivisection on your heart as its still beating and drops your ass, you have the other percentage stored away to build your heart up again instead of having nothing except command suicidal thoughts. NEVER DEFINE YOUR INNER FOUNDATION THROUGH ANOTHER PERSON. Watch out for Limerence too!
A wise man learns from his mistakes. A smart man learns from other mens mistakes.
@ Many women are just smart enough to take full advantage of stupid men. Of drunk men. Of men that are not choosy!
you had that backwards, but true regardless :)
Warren Buffet quotes the same thing.
Lithe Steel I fall in that category
Haha backwards but teue
Cris Rock said it best "A woman is only as faithful as her options"
I think he said that about men. Maybe we should do things fair here and admit that a lot of the BS women pull, men do as well.
Yeah that line was definitely about men.
Yeah but Chris Rock is talking about black people.
I wouldn't even date a single mother
Cha Chi I would then dip, render date is dating but not marriage, in marriage they take half
Yeah if she was hot I would. I got a vasectomy so I wouldn't have to worry about kids or nothing
I'd still use pertection
Cha Chi if she were a hot freak yeah, but never get too close.
Ax I agree.
I live in Canada. I became engaged to a Colombian woman. Long story short.....thank GOD I listened to my intuition.
So what happened?
Good for you:)
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As a Colombian dude I know how you feel. Many are total gold diggers and use their looks to get everything. Hard but true fact
Those canadian women are top quality 🤣
Dating a mom is like continuing someone else's save game
More like buying a corrupted used game from a failing pawn shop
Perfect!
And dating prostitutes is like doing side quests
Like playing zombies on cod at level 85 with no essence and a level 1 stock weapon good luck with that better of starting over on your own game
every guy in their 20's should watch this video
Im about to be 21 in couple of days ahahha so i feel good watching this
It's good to watch even if you're older than that...
oh yeah its all advice brother its good that i found his channel
Absolutely but let's be honest most of us don't figure this stuff out till our 30's & 40's and then it's usually to late
I went through a crazy messed up relationship around my teens and im glad as I learned a lot from it
39 year old widowed father and medical doctor with two little daughters. Wish I knew you 3 years ago. Met a single mom with a 7 year old kid. My daughters were 1 year and 4. My wife passed away 3 months after our youngest was born. Long story short, we dated for 5 months. anyways we broke up and had that make up sex. She was on. Birth control the entire time and no issues. After we broke up she called me up for that last talk. Well she made me dinner and we had sex. Two weeks later. She calls me up and tells me she is pregnant. I stayed broken up. The baby was born and three weeks later and after giving her 4K for help she had me served for child support. My son is only 1.5 years old and I have given her close to 30k cash money. She has moved on and is enjoying life. I'm still a widowed father but now have written women off. Anyways I don't have enough energy to talk about it any more but I will end it by saying I wish I knew of you 3 years ago.
Thx for sharing your story, I know it helps others.
look on the bright side at least you're Manning up and taking care of her like you're supposed to lol.
after my wife died I was lonely brother. I was all fucked up. At the time I was 35 going on 36 and my wife who was previously healthy and 29 had a cardiac arrest. It was a regular and random sunday. To be specific the sunday after Halloween of 2013 which was a Thursday. I was hanging out at home and the last words my wife told me were. " I put the baby down to sleep and she (being our older 3 and a hald year old daughter was playing dress up) she went on a walk and my last words to her were, ok babe Ill see you in a bit. Those were the last words I ever told her. I never had the chance to say I love you etc. It will be four years of me being a widow. I just turned 39 in January . Anyways brother man, I just want to share my story to all you folks out there. My wife died randomly and left me with a 3 1/2 year old little girl and a 3 month old little girl. 8 months after my wife passed, I was so lonely and going mental. I just wanted to have a family again but after tons of therapy I realized that this was pathological and that I was prone to being taken advantage of. Anyways I met a single mother who completely trashed talked her Ex. She told me he was a dead beat, an absent "scumbag father". A raging lunatic/ alcoholic. I admit to a certain guilt. I literally listened to everything she said and in a way started hating that man that I had never met. Little did I know that in less then one year I would become him. To cut the story short I will say that after she trapped me with a baby. She then change her entire story to say that her Ex was a good man and I was the scumbag. That he just suffered from "alcoholism" but that he was a good man. My brothers, I tell you this because I have nothing to gain except to tell you all that, that is complete bullshit. She completely made him out to be the devil when she first met me. she was a nurse at the hospital were I worked and she approached me. Yet once it was to no benefit to her, he then became a troubled soul. she also told me that he was a dead beat however she could never bring a man to court because that was beneath her. Well after she sued me, in court , my attorney informed me and so did her financial affidavit reveal that she actually had taken her Ex to court and that he has always been paying child support. Anyways, Iam already screwed but if I can contribute to this amazing video and If I can save another man from this it will all be worth it. my only bit of advice to any man that is considering dating a single mother is to really really really look at all the facts and at the womans entire dynamic. Why is she a single mother? There are plently of awesome single women out there with no children. All in all, the media is very bias and depicts men as deadbeat scumbags, but in reality that's not the truth. There are many many men that love their children and would provide everything for their children. Unfortunately it is comical, that a decent, hardworking man would have a great struggle to get custudy of his child regardless of the mther being unfit. MEN!!!! society is against us. BE SMART AND PROTECT YOUR SEED.... I love you all. AND GOD BLESS THIS CHANNEL!!!!!!!
thanks lethal weapon. You as well.
I can arrange an "accident" to take place if you desire so.
"many women won't love you. Not the way you want to be loved anyway. They are incapable of loving you the way you love them. They love the idea of the life they will have with you. "
BINGO
I agree that was the deepest shit in the whole video. quite sententious
JOvan Milic Yes many many, but not All.
these women dont even love themselves. Its not love. Its power control convenience and/or money
Yup. The penny finally dropped, huh...
I hate to hear that. I do not want to hear that. But i know it is true.
I heard it once said by a wise man, men have a monopoly on relationships, women have Monopoly on sex. Men if you don't care about sex, you win. Take your time be picky this guy is so right.
Bussed Bitch! 🤣
I would say one of the worst mistakes of my life was getting in a serious relationship with a divorced single mom. The worst!
So glad this guy followed his instincts. Was scared it was about to go south. Reminds me of this girl who in the first date said, she wanted to be married with kids yesterday. As we continued to date she started bringing up her desires and one was a 20k engagement ring. She said she would even help pay for it but it was a must have dream. I asked her since she wanted marriage and kids so bad wouldn't she rather use 20k as a down payment on a house and she pretty much said no. In the end I told her I think she didn't care about finding a husband or love, she was in love with getting married, getting the ring and the IDEA of kids. She was hot but the level of selfishness made her almost disgusting to me.
sad thing is that some sucker beta male will be right in line to take your place weeks later. Let him deal with the future consequences (child support, alimony, etc)
you are one smart and insightful guy........ you ran, smart move
Rash, count yourself lucky.
I had this chickie that grew up across the street from me. Unfriendly, self centered, rude, too tall and anorexic. Fast forward, she grows up, moves out, buys tits, becomes a dental hygienist, gets a BF, gets engaged, gets a ring, HE gets cold feet and backs out. He says, Keep The Ring, ah yes The Ring all $165,000. of it. Can you imagine her heartbreak as she sold the Ring and now drives her new Audi to the bank to count her money.
True story, and really sickening.
+vegas1a 165K ring????? I cringed and had a reverse bonor at the thought of 20K ring, I can't imagine me giving any woman a symbolic 165K anything other than a house for us to share. I'm with Varheim on this one, as much pain as it is to hear about this, he saved money long term. I think what sucks the most about these stories is it's always the unfriendly ones that make out like bandits. It never happens to be the cute chick who was nice to everybody at school.
Rash and Varheim.........What has bothered me about this Feemale is she is a Feminist poster child. How could any guy be so gullible and deluded to not see her shallowness, true toxic personality and anti male traits? Naive me, see I would give greater credit to any guy with that kind of money to throw around, in this case throw away. The smarts of make and have that kind of "frivolous" bucks but to not see a Feemales true gold digging nature, disappointing.
The irony is that her mother has a rich boyfriend, whose pockets she has been picking the last couple years, it was he that told me about the ring.
I think women really need three men in their lives. The horny young guy that gets them pregnant when they are young and then maybe has to marry them. That usually only lasts a couple of years.. Then there's the guy that they hook up with when the kids are 4 or 5 years old, who pays for everything and raises their kids, which is what I was (stupid). That usually lasts until the kids are gone and paid for. And then there's the guy that they want to "grow old with". That may last until he finally drops dead and leaves them his retirement or whatever.
Dave Kraemer Lol....
Dave Kraemer Fantastic summary dude!
this comment is very funny xD
Devil plan
Dave Kroemer
Now that is the brutal truth!
Women tell you that they don't need no man, they never said that they don't need your money.
my x refused me and my decisions, but not my economical ideas she got more than half of her share, and i worked like a pig all my years too leave it with her, i divorced her and gave everything materially, because i new she wasn,t in love with me and she was too demanding for my taste!!
Actually you should avoid marrying an America women altogether . The divorce rate proves this.
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"Nothing that a guy can do that's more damaging than choosing the wrong partner"-the truest statement ever,i know because i experienced it.
No, its easy to get rid of a partner as long as you don't impregnate her.
@@needparalegal many states Ny included, if your married 10 yrs they can have half of your retirement as well as “maintenance “ ESP if she didn’t work ... the laws aren’t alway fair, doesn’t matter if she cheated she still can get it.
@@JohnDiMartino Most of the women I have been with make more money than I did. Women are generally paid more than men so hopefully the shoe will soon be on the other foot.
Hey mogul I hear You mate it happened to me to. I chose the wrong woman in my early years
The typical church singles group has single guys, never married, no kids who are trying to find a wife on one side of the room. On the other side are all divorced mothers who are fighting with their ex, their lawyer, their kids and the state department of children.
martysk8r The modern church has become a haven for single mothers and retired thots. The single men there are hardworking and loyal. The woman being the hottest piece of ass they have ever talked to can take advantage of that.
@@olegunnarsolskjaer337 Sign Jadon Sancho...just do it please!
Iv been meeting a lot of weman going to church just to lock down a good man and not really being In the word. I had one over the other day and I was talking to her about to times we are living in and crickets. She was not into to word nor knew anything about it. The lost gos on.
LOL, I am going to a church group next week. I was instructed not to mention that I am not Christian...
amen brother
"Should I marry a divorced mother?" Would you eat a cheeseburger you find in the trash? There's a reason someone else threw it away...
@Andrew Young Definitely don't fuck the burger! Men need to learn to keep it zipped.
Lol
Oh snap! the harsh truth, ouch
@Andrew Young agreed, no burger fucking, now if it was an apple pie, intact and all, just like in the movie I don't know it could raise to the occasion LOL
OOOooooohhhhh harsh.
Okay, I'm a relatively young guy, but I'm a grizzled veteran of the single mom dating scene, and feel honour-bound to my fellow men out there to share my experience. In fact, if it weren't for this channel and a few other MGTOW sites, I'd still be thinking my experience was solely my own. Thank God for the rise of MGTOW, so men can draw solace and knowledge from the fact that what they're going through is almost universal to men in their position.
A single mother cannot love you. I am sorry. It is the cold, hard truth. 95% of her heart belong to her child, and the rest resides subconsciously with the alpha, her ex-husband. When a man sees his buddy dating a single mother, he's usually overcome with respect for the sacrifice and heroism involved in that commitment. Women do not see the sacrifice in the same way. They see the sacrifice as a sign of beta male inadequacy. Think about it: Here is a man whose sexual market value is so low he would settle for a single mother and raising another alpha's kids. This perceived inadequacy will slowly but surely aggravate her hypergamous instincts and result in inexplicable hostility towards you. This is a brutal truth I would never have believed had I not lived it ... TWICE. A single mother views the men who pursue her as glorified dildos with bank accounts and toolboxes who can help raise her kids. Have you ever read the POF profiles of single mothers? After the obligatory requisite for no one under 6ft tall, you will find the obligatory "my kids always come first!" Great.
Though I hate to speak in absolutes, I can virtually guarantee you that dating a single mother (especially for a childless single man) is a gateway to hell. She will use you for favours, fucks and bucks, and discard you like a used tampon when a better life support system comes along. You will never feel loved. How can a woman be so cruel, you wonder? Well, the answer lies equally in hypergamy and cultural conditioning: women have been raised to believe they are the moral compass of the world and can do no wrong; and are convinced, through the primordial imperatives of hypergamy, that anything she can do to increase the resources for herself, her real and potential children is justified. To many men, money is considered the root of all evil. To most women, it is the root of all morality.
In the history of mankind, there has only been one major philosophy to come out of the mind of a woman: Objectivism. Created by Ayn Rand, the philosophy sacralizes the importance of always acting in the name of "rational self-interest." It is a love letter to SELFISHNESS. No man could have developed such a philosophy. Think about it.
Plenty of truth bombs in there.
Your most accurate comment has been my EXACT experience as well. To all the younger men out there... Make your own babies, don't raise kids other then yours.
"You will never feel loved."
A most damning statement to any young man, and yet so hard to comprehend as she offers up unlimited love and validation that is in fact 100% Bullshit.
Robgoren You should join this channel as part of the team. I couldn't agree more with EVERYTHING you stated. My last 'love' turned out to be the most evil, manipulative BITCH one could possibly imagine. She didn't even like me spending time with my dying mother. (whom was the most sweetest,genuinely loving woman you could have known)
I won't continue with the story...I'm actually considering therapy.(This place appears to be a good start). Over 2 years of mental abuse still spinning in my head. I simply can't comprehend how one human can do such things to another. I'll never have a relationship again.
One of Ayn Rand's books is titled "The Virtue of Selfishness"...what could be more obviously a self-serving philosophy? (And her personal life reflected it!)
"Often the brightest light comes from the burning bridge" - R. Cooper So true...listen up gentlemen.
The truth
My brother married a divorced woman, with 2 kids. She was divorced because 2 previous husbands "abused" her, somehow. So she left him to go back to No. 1. OK, he divorced her. Didn't cost that much. She left no. 1, wanted to come back to him. He got married again. In time, she went back to another guy. No problem, he divorced her. He got off cheap, though, she never showed up to court. 2 years later, she calls him, wants to get back with him. he finally just said NO. And that was that. Her son fathered a grandchild, ran away, and she got custody of the grandkid. Here's the deal, troops. A guy in his 60's, who was at the time playing the personals, told me the widows were the only ones worth spending time with. The divorcees, well, they all had issues, and weren't worth spending time with. They were either with great guys that they torched, or with horrible bad boys- which tells you what she is attracted to, and will continue to sleep with, even after marrying you. Get older guys talking. They'll tell you- happily.
Many of the women cry "abuse by the husband" to take the focus off of themselves.
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I'm 49 and can attest to everything you say. The women ive been with since I was 18 were mostly about personal gain in some way. Most were promiscuous and cheaters. But one of my one-night stands (31 years ago), ended up pregnant but i didn't know this until i ran into her with her 19 year old son (20 years later). He essentially looked like my identical twin...I was shocked and figured it out right away. She begged me to raw dog it so I did and I found out later that she was married and he was shooting blanks. She used me to get pregnant as Alpha seed (I didn't mind it at that time lol). But if i knew her plan then i wouldn't have agreed to it bc she was married and also the potential financial risks associated. It blows my mind at how most women are opportunistic in some way and most are fair weathered at best. The ones that aren't, arent influenced by their peers or the media to "have it all" B.S.
I must be the luckiest man on earth. I met my wife when she was 22...and had just graduated from Dental School! 22? Are you kidding me? I was 23 and had a full time job while working on my MBA in the evenings. So to make a long story short, we have been married for 31 years after a “brief” 12 year courtship. During that time, my Corporate career took me to multiple States. And that entire time, she stuck with me. But not as some sniveling moron looking for a meal ticket...as a woman who loved a man. Finally, I realized it was ridiculous not to marry this absolutely independent successful woman.
How I found your videos on RUclips I do not know. But I can say this. Yes, you dispense sage advice to men about women. But by also relating these horror stories, you reinforce how blessed we men are who marry fantastic, self assured successful women. I told my wife today that based on your videos, I greatly under appreciated her. I just assumed that she was normal. She’s not normal...she’s a dream come true. And your videos woke me up to the fantastic relationship I have with one hell of a woman. Thank you!
You, my friend, are the lucky one in a thousand.
It's good to hear the warnings and it's good to hear stories like yours.
@Lori Padgett You have the thought process of a dude!
That sounds like our story, I met my hubby at 17 and married at 21, now, 34 years later, we still love and care for each other, he often tells me how wonderful I am and how lucky he is.. but I think we are both lucky, hes a wonderful man and I also love his family. I think Im one of the rare women who can say she has two mother in laws and loves them both.
Lori Padgett unicorn!
God bless you!
I'm in my forties, with a great career and I started looking at relationships like a business, I look to see what they have too offer and what their liabilities are. I look for someone whose an equal, whose secure financially and emotionally, because at the end of the day looks are a depreciating asset.
Slav Os Well put, "looks are a depreciating asset"! Lol
so another man? what the fuck do you mean emotionally secure human female? lol
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_security
For a rational decision about a woman, put pussy away from the equation.
Slav Os most of them paint it on or laser it off anyways
Should I marry a divorced mother? FUCK NO !
Marriage is right up there on the list of scams. Just as bad as a Nigerian email scam lol
OKAY GREAT Shit the email scam will only set you out a few hundred bucks. Divorce you give up your house,cars kids and half your take home pay.
Ax .. thanks for the red pills. I forgot about how much they actually take. Plus all the emotional problems and stress from it all. It truly is a scam. I hear that even cohabitation is kind of risky.
You should also buy a black car with a red driver side door, rusted rear fenders, dents in the hood, cracked windshield, no stereo, no AC, and cloth seats that have cigarette burns in them......
And spermy depisits on the back seats.
Past behaviour predicts future trends.
So very well said mate.
your correct she was divorced before. almost hooked up with a hot one lately glad it didnt happen. why r all the really hot ones crazy?
Insurance companies and credit rating companies do this. Seems to work for them.
Not really. It is a narrow sighted statement.
Past behavior plus present behavior can offer some insight of future trends, but not absolute.
Everything changes, ever so slightly, you just have to investigate .
If there are things you don't like now, you test and see if the other person may gradually improve. Who knows what new life may be infused into a person that might seem a wreck.
When I first watched this I got super pissed off when you said women are incapable of loving men the way men love women. But after thinking about it I realized I'm only dating the guy I'm with because of the life I could have with him. This made me rethink a lot of my life chooses so thank you. Thank you for giving me this clarity
Micaela Will, I salute your improved self honesty.
I appricate your honestly but that is exectly what we are talking about. Not all but most women in the same situation you were in would have never came to the conclusion as you did. Thats why I have stopped dating & getting into relationships. The risk is too high & the benifit is too low. Its sad. kudos to you for having the guts to be honest.
Micaela is not a gold digger, so long as she doesn't divorce on a whim. Women and men have interests, this is a good thing. If every woman had children with beggers then there would only be more beggars in the world.
@keith cunningham doesn't mean she will change just aware
@keith cunningham what about a wealthy single woman, shouldnt she be wary of men wanting a free ride?
Sir, I can relate to this!! I'm a Civilian Contractor and work abroad and I have been dating a lady that has a 12 year old son; they live with their Grandma. She mentioned to me that she wants her son in a private school, she sends me photos of houses that she likes, and then she said she will take a pay cut to live closer to home. The thought came to my mind that I will be paying for literally everything...I told her " That we are not compatible and wished her the best of luck in finding that special man". Last but least she always talked about her son as though she were married to him.
You did the right thing brother, good for you.
Ah yes he was her son/husband
I’m a man in my Forties n live in London uk 🇬🇧, once you’re over 40 it gets more difficult to find a childless single/unmarried woman without a child. The package 📦 isn’t for me & im sticking out for a woman without a child.
The younger ones in Europe here don’t like when the age difference is anywhere more than 8-10 years…..they’ll date and mess with you but never wanna get serious, they’d prefer to be a sugar baby. It’s tough but I’ll find a better situation soon as I keep trying
@@Michael.P247Good luck I've found happiness in the Philippines
I've been single an entire without any female interaction and I've accomplished more this year than I have my whole life
I married early with a divorced girl and became a step dad. We had our own kid as well and 8 years later, she is taking me apart in court. To all the men… don’t get stuck, this shot is real!
I married a divorced woman with three kids forty five years ago...We're still together and doing well....Lots of Grand kids and great grand kids. So happy together....
The women of today are not the same as the women of the era when you married sir,
You're not the wallet I fell in love with.😒
GOOD. ANALOGY DAMN. GOOD NEVER. HEARD THAT ONE.
I'm 59, never married, never engaged, no girlfriends, nothing. Also, no debt, no in-laws, no kids, and no divorces.
I've worked all over the US and some in Europe, graduated from Vanderbilt and Georgia Tech, live my own life, take care of the few things I own, and save money. People have told me to "get a life." Brothers, I've had a life, and a pretty good one. I get along well with my parents, the neighbors, my sister. I just left women out of it, except of course, for the occasional stripper, working girls, and so forth (there was plenty of so forth in Europe). A friend of mine, who has the opposite of all of the above, once told his wife that I was the luckiest man he knew. She's not liked me since.
Easy answer to this question is, no No NO! NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! Unless she's a billionaire and you're dirt poor.
Fit freak I would rather die...or live on the streets, than fake love for somebody.
Phil Knight--This is mansplaining.
John Thomson Yes...and I do agree to a certain extent...but I could *never* do what my ex did to me. I mean I would rather die than become that kind of person 👍
Yeah, well, I wouldn't fake it either, be a proud mansplainer!
MuahMan that just makes you a hypocrite though
I was engaged at 19, and married when I was 20 to a guy I met in college. My intuition told me no, I was too young, and I wanted to stay in school, but he was graduating and feared I'd meet someone else. He actually convinced me to drop out of college. My intuition still wasn't giving up, so I attempted to break up 3 times, and each time he showed up at my door, one time he even cried. I couldn't stand to see him in pain, so like an idiot I went through with the wedding. The photo of me walking down the aisle with my grandfather said it all: I looked like I wanted to throw up.
After 3 years I finally had the strength to tell him I no longer wanted to be married. He was a stockbroker, and made five times more money than I did. I asked for nothing. I was smart enough to not bring kids into the picture. We had just put down a good- faith payment on a house: it was the enormity of this action that finally spurred me to stand up for myself. And so I became a divorcee at the ripe old age of 23. The house did not get purchased, and I left with what I had in my bank account when we met. He got the new car and I took the old one, because I didn't want to make payments, not knowing what my future held, financially. I could have asked for spousal support, but I didn't. I just wanted to be free. I was stubborn and prideful, and felt I was young enough to succeed on my own. I wanted a clean break.
This may sound like a load of nonsense, but it's true. This was 35 years ago. My ex was/is a kind and generous man. I liked him a lot, but I wasn't in love with him. Ironically, he ended up marrying the sister of the Best Man at our wedding, and is still happily married with 3 kids.
I write this, because your intuition is your most powerful ally. Because your intuition--your gut instinct--is YOU. It's your inner being, it's your truth, and it will never, ever let you down. Everyone else around you may kick and scream and cry, and give you a hundred reasons to stay. Your intuition will give you one: because it's not right for YOU.
Everytime I read an article about a bride being left at the altar, to me it just means one thing: the guy listened to that small, still voice in his head, and ran like hell. I wish I had done the same thing....
PenelopeDinkledong S. Yes people, act off your feelings and not long thought out patient logic, lol classic
Varheim How did she waste his life when she told him multiple times she wasn't into it and he wouldn't accept it? He wasted his own 3 years because he wasn't mature enough to let go of her.
It's refreshing to hear a woman tell a story and not blame the man for every bad thing in her life. That gut feeling is amazing, although we fight it all the time to please outsiders who don't know what we feel.
Pfffff this original story/comment is made up. For one no woman close to her sixties would have a username of penelopedinkledong. The picture used in said profile isn't even close to looking close to 60 years old.
To Penelopedinkledong donkey kong bullshit sounds like it to me..Ok. So what happened to you in your life now in the present? You went all out to party or get re married to someone else you really love? So did you find your happiness or purpose? What is your status now for doing such a haneous act of not staying with that man???
I wish my son would have heard this he has recently locked himself into for all the wrong reasons. But such is life.
Charles Martin dad?
Charles Martin LOL
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Yup, I almost married a woman that was trying to pull me away from my church and my family, and from what I'm gifted at...and I finally saw how hell-bent she was on having her wedding, her way, even the way the proposal went...she controlled all of it. It was terrible, and Im so glad an older man I met with for counseling showed me truthfully the red flags she was showing. After that conversation I set a boundary with her..that we needed to do pre-marital counseling FIRST, before we got married. What that meant was we would have to postpone the wedding that we had been planning, with a down-payment on the home we would be living in. She refused, and blew up from that point on. Spewed all this vitriol. Then trying to get back with me, several weeks later sounding very rational on the phone. Whew dodged a huge bullet for sure.
Praise God He's been getting me through this period, and showing me that life can be beautiful, without a spouse right now. I can focus on school, and music, and building a career and what I need to :-) thank you for letting me share, and for sharing this video!
Lucky man. It was probably the first time you said NO to her...and when you did you saw her true self, no compromise or rational discussion from her, just vitriol and anger. In her mind she was thinking something like' How dare you, little man'. One thing is for sure, she didn't truly love you. No respect for you from her. You made a wise decision.
You just missed being skinned!
Buy your mentor a litre of Jack Daniels sipping whiskey.
"32But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery" (Matthew 5:32).
Bro you dodged a nuclear bomb
You know I listen to your videos all the time and I find I have grown as a woman. I’m a widow of four years, self-supporting, and not looking for a man!
I admit women are vicious, and it pains me sometimes to hear how women discuss their boyfriends or husbands. I was blessed with a saint. No he wasn’t perfect but he was perfect for me! My point in saying all of this is thank you so much for your videos. I have a lot of respect for men having served with quite a few and I know men often get the short end of the deal. But don’t give up on having that special relationship! As my grandmother used to say you got a kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince, I think that applies to princesses too!! God bless you my friend and keep up the good work!
me and my husband got married young. He just got out of jail and had nothing, I work as a cna I paid for all our first dates, 4 months in he got a job, paid off his warrants, than he ask me to marry him. I got pregnant and we finally got married after living together a year later, he ask me to quit my job and only watch our daughter, I watch her and clean, fix his plates and hers before my own. I lay his laundry out and I leave love notes in his pockets and lunches. not all of us are bad, like not all men are either.
Good for you..start planning ahead for a small house to live in closer to retirement age and both of you will not have to clean as much. Just wipe everything down and go on a trip.
Corpse Bride and.... you’re fat.
They sure try
Well, he must be tall and good looking. You're fat, so it's like you won the lottery, so of course you want to keep him, so you do all that stuff for him. You're shallow and looks are the most important thing in the world to you, like it is for most women. Even fat, old ugly women such as yourself don't want to date or marry their male equal, a old, short, fat, ugly man. Most women are the same when it comes to only being attracted to the tall, fit, muscular, handsome guys.
@@420BLUNTLEY and...fuck you.
Smart men don't get married
Pretty much. 38 here.. never married.. never will. In my opinion.. Women are never truly single even when you're supposedly the boyfriend. Always talking or fucking some dude on the side. Resolving issues with their Ex baby's daddy...or talking/fucking the current guy... talking to some new guy... talking to some ex from their distant past...talking to their best male friend who really wants to hit it.... talking to some backup guy. Talking to some guy that she really liked.. but it didn't work out cuz he didn't want her. Talking to some guy that knows she has a boyfriend.. but doesn't give a shit. The list goes on and on.
William Fields im the dude shes fucking on the side hehe
David Mendoza thats where most of them belong....on the side
OKAY GREAT, I feel like somebody should of told them that the world doesn't revolve around them.
William Fields, I feel ya. Yeah people get emotionally hurt in the end. Messing around with married girls is a mistake. If she's hot then it's easy to get emotionally attached.. especially if the sex is good. Then she just goes back to her husband. It's a bad deal for everybody.
I've never been married, have no kids, have no STD's, and I'm almost 30. Why the hell would I want someone who's already had a marriage, and kids? It's like starting a book where someone left off, and you're not allowed to read the beginning. They failed their marriage already. Why would I want a failure? "Till death do us part" means something to me. That tells me they have weak values for not holding the marriage together, and horrible judgement skills to pick that person in the first place.They made their bed, and they can sleep in it. I'm making my cake, and they wanna help me eat it after I'm done making it? They can go pound sand.
Dam, I’ve been a “beta male,” I’ve only settled for single mothers. What a heart-ache and waste of time. These women, won’t love you. I failed to listen to this man, TWICE! This time I spent more money and time on her and her children. These women are used to abandoning relationships. They most likely left the father of their children, so they will leave you much faster. I made the mistake of buying her a car, paying her school, laptop, makeup, furniture, washer and dryer car registration ect. ect. ect.. In the end when she dropped the bomb on me; she was so ungrateful for everything I did for her and her children. She only fixated on her delusion, that I made her feel inferior because I was financially secure. Her accusations were interesting, since I always tried to uplift her. I encouraged her to go to school, find better jobs ect. I don’t argue or fight with others. So I never disrespected her or belittled her; it was all in her mind. In relationships, I’m the ultimate “beta male,” in life I’m a leader of men and women, which takes an “alpha male” mentality to do so. It’s been difficult for me to bridge both of my personalities and just be an alpha male when it comes to dating. I fear that I will continue this path of self destruction. MEN, DO NOT date for a long term single mothers! Btw, I asked my ex to marry me. I bought her an expensive ring. She refuses to return my ring. At this point, I’m just going to move on..
I just dodged a bullet with a single mom of 2 teenage boys, thanks to this podcast and of course Richard ! I'll always be grateful !
Everything he warned about in his videos about single moms turned out true in my case. I accidentally found his RUclips channel when googling "marrying a single mom" as I was getting worried since she started pushing for marriage with all the women tricks. During the year and half we dated, we never lived together, thankfully. I hesitated a lot before cutting all ties with her. It's just not worth it . I feel lonely , indeed, but oooof ! What a relief from all the drama !! Sex might be great , but it always comes with a high price. And I'm not only talking financially !!
A famous Scotsman once said " Every man dies. Not every man really lives."
Allways remember it's YOUR life you can do with your life as you effing wan't.
....Been married, long time gf's, been there done that... didn't Work out I'm 52 yo. I have years back, figured out what was the most important thing to ME....
FREEDOM!
I Work on my self everyday, stay in shape trying to be the best version I can be and do the Things that I WAN'T !and I don't give a shit about anybodies opinion on how I should live MY life.
P.S Single mothers , naaa doesn't Work been there as said on this channel...the mother will allways choose the child, even the bad behaviour form the child over you....Again been there.
I would not describe my self as MGTOW, I'm well.....ME...I don't hate women, fear them, avoid them, hate sex, I even like their company ect ect...if one comes along shure, well hop on the wagon, but it's MY wagon. I'm not ever again going to live with another woman as in her moving in or me moving in with her....thats the "code" I'm gonna stick by till I'm being called home :-)
Allways remember it's YOUR LIFE, now go live it :-)
Of course the woman will always choose the child. That makes her a good mother. Re bad behaviour, maybe she just didnt agree with the way you were handling it. ? My hubby smacked our daughter once, he lost his temper and I stood between them and wouldnt let him lay another finger on her. I never smacked our kids and never thought smacking was a solution. Had he pushed me aside and smacked her again I would have left. Packed up the kids and gone. As a mother your priority in life is to ensure your children grow up safe. Now the kids have left home, he is once again my #1 priority. Men should accept and love the fact that women can be mumma bears.
And that man is named Randall Wallace.
Preach brotha
Hello, stumbling through RUclips for something humorous to watch and I saw this. I have been single now for 12, 13 years, I sorta lost count. 7 years ago I had the opportunity to take a retirement package after 32 years at the same company. I have no bills except rent and utilities, both my vehicles are paid for. I even have a money in the bank that I don't need to spend. My point is I would not have been able to do this if I had re-married. I will be 60 this year, I hike, bike, go camping and am quite happy. I live alone but I am not lonely, there is a difference. It seems I took the red pill without even realizing. Thanks for the video I really enjoyed it.
I would love to date a virgin woman but there are none, they went the way of the dinosaur. Not possible to find a virgin these days that is over the age of consent. Ha Ha!
You are one lucky dude.
32 years and you still pay rent. Take an economics 101 course, you are throwing your money away.
Unless he's financially able to travel, camp, fish, and doesn't want to mow the lawn. @@HansZarkovPhD
@@bushcraft10708 Not in America, but there are other countries in the world.
I dated a girl for a year, broke up a few months ago. I'm 32 she was 28. her goal in life was a house and kids. she wanted to use me as a sperm bank even though I make 27k and she makes less than that. I broke it off because I don't want kids and was terrified of an "accident"
UnseamlyTangent smart man
This guy is one in 100, listening to his intuition. She was pregnant so I plowed through Ever been dragged by a horse while fighting to stand up again? Stay away from single mothers.
Love the horrifying thumbnail pic! I dated a woman with kids, but she was beautiful. Totally different thing. I also didn't provide her any resources which is probably why she left me for a guy with money.
I married a single mother I met at a restaurant. she was the server, I was being served. she had a 5 year old girl at the time. 9 years later, we've been married for 7 years now. 3 kids and one in the way. she brought the baggage, I called it a blessing. I'm Christian. she is too now. Christianity changes the whole dynamic.
I'm a server now. she works a desk job. we live humbly. she says she married up but that's only as far as my character. not my financial status. though, every time she has my child, I give her a year off and I work 2 jobs. we are happy but happy because of our salvation within Jesus. that's the difference. we are in the world but not OF the world.
I had that gut feeling to call of the wedding a week before it was set. I decided against that feeling and I'm glad I did. intuition does not always serve you well. So I wouldn't say this is ALWAYS the situation. but often, maybe it is. if finances government your life then you are a prisoner. quality of life resides within Jesus and the bible. not paper and social status.
my experience, thus far.
Percy Johnson IV
Beautiful story . Such a contrast from the other comments.
I’m a middle age woman, educated and hard working . Own small business My husband count speak or write English well , maybe at grade 3 level . He wasn’t earning a lot but he was a hard worker. I didn’t mind to work extra time as it was for our better good . He started hating the fact that I earn more that I work more and spend less “time in the kitchen where women belong “
He became controlling jealous to the point I could not take it . We fought a lot . We divorced. I tried to keep the marriage together but it was hurting me . Our son unfortunately had been emotionally scarred by the fights we had . Before the divorce I enrolled into a 4 years degree program. I still was working and did what I could to keep the house running . There was more responsibility on his back he didn’t want to bare responsibility for . He felt emasculated.
Not all women marry up . Character is more important than any material things . I don’t regret my education, at least I do what I love and I’m content in my life.
It was him unable to go to Tahiti, Hawaii, Caribbean , European trip’s yearly at the least. He would never afford a holiday . I wanted him to upgrade his education so he would earn more money and perhaps find a job he liked . He hated school , he said he would rather get a cancer than go to school .
Now I’m on my own . Still attending school. Still working and trying to mange keeping my house .
It is him who walked away with half of everything we had which is 2/3 came from me.
If times comes, if it does, when I meet a man with a kind heart who will treat me with love and respect, I don’t need to marry up, I’m self sustainable.
Couple of things to look for in a woman: (1) Parental dynamics...who wears the pants in her parents relationship? Is the father a power figure or is he a b$tch? (2) Does she understand the value of success and money? Ex: She works hard and has a job, offers to split or pay on dates, has at least a college education (3) Does she turn you on and is the sex you have mutually pleasurable (i.e she wants to have sex just as often as you do) (4) Does she let you be yourself...more importantly - does she accept both your positives and negatives?
Things you need: (1) Love yourself (2) Establish yourself financially (3) Work hard (4) Maintain a healthy physique (don't be fat - you don't need to be male model) (5) Be presentable (wear decent clothes that fit your personality and fit the occasion) have a sense of style.
Dead on.
Yes these women are out there they are gold diggers this is why I'm working on getting my shit together because I don't ever want a man to feel like I'm with him for his money or his social status. It all comes down to the woman to show her self worth and respect. I think our partners should reflect who we are. If I'm broke I shouldn't expect to marry a rich man ... period.
I wish I could explain to you how intoxicating it is to meet a women who doesn't need anything from me except my company. A woman who can plan a date and pay for it because she wants to make sure I feel like she is as invested in the relationship as I am. Women like this get the guys they want, not the ones the end up with. Cheers to you and I wish you well.
Jimscott306 there are a few of us women out there like that. When I'm seeing someone I like to surprise them with gifts or treating to a surprise night out that I plan and pay for, and honestly never expect a man to pay for me, and if they insist I insist on paying next time. I have a good job, have my own house and car. If I'm with someone it is because I want to spend time with them and really get to know them. Even if I'm just coming over for a visit or quiet night in I never show up empty handed.
I recently dated one guy for a little over a month and he kept trying to show off for me, before we even met he was sending me pictures of his car, and telling me to look up his address on google so I could see how big his house was. It was the weirdest thing.... I guess that must work well on most women if that was his strategy lol, was just sad. The whole thing was kind of weird, I don't think he once asked me how my day was, I made sure to ask every day we spoke... was a shame it didn't work out, he was great in bed, but just wasn't much else there.
writing on the wall 86: Good to hear, you sound like an awesome girlfriend. You will find the right guy, keep doing what you are doing. The guy you mentioned, it kind of sounds like insecurities and narcissism. I'm guessing you are emotionally intelligent and that's why you felt it was sad. You could see he was doing that because he lacked something inside that made him feel like he had to act that way. NEXT!!
Jimscott306, yeah I was honestly thinking he was kind of on the narcissistic side, at one point he told me point blank that flattering him would get me far.... I was reading some of the other comments below, what type of engineering are you into? I'm a technologist and do structural work in an engineering company lol.
Another thing I've found weird and it's come up on a bunch of first (and a lot of time last lol) dates is guy's feel the need to tell me their hourly wage or what they make in a year. I never say what I make till at least a few months in, I don't feel that info is necessary right out of the gate.
About the salary thing. Personally I'm like you, let's not discuss income unless this is going somewhere. For guys that do this again that's more insecurity, but it is somewhat societally driven. I think I could forgive this because there is huge pressure on men to be financially successful and to specifically be the bread winner in the relationship. I understand that you are not trying to choose a mate based on income specifically but the men don't know that isn't important to you. They are peacocking. Find a gentle way to let them know you are not so concerned with their income.
I bought a car I wanted that was kind of expensive. I'm a car guy. I had a woman I was seeing one time and after seeing my vehicle for the first time she says something like “I don't really care what kind of cars guys drive, that doesn't impress me.” I never mentioned my vehicle before. I'm thinking “I bought this vehicle years ago, it's paid off now and I certainly didn't buy it years ago to impress you today.” I thought it was strange she felt she needed to say that, we didn't work out. On the flip side one women could see that I took pride in my vehicle. One time walking out to my car after grocery shopping she says something like. “Look at that badass car over there, I bet that's some hot guys car, I'd sex him up.” Thanks for the ego stroke, we are getting naked when we get home. Lol!
It's cool that you work in engineering. I've actually found that woman that work in STEM or medical are a lot easier to get along with. Critical thinking and logic are super attractive. Lol! Anyway on to your question about my work. I work in the gulf south US for the petro/chem industry. I work for consulting engineering firms as a Sr. Electrical & Instrumentation Designer.
He didn't dodge a bullet,.. he dodged an incredibly large planetary destructive scale nuclear missile
WTH did you tube recommend this to me? No idea, but here is my 2 cents, marriage is LEGAL CONTRACT. think carefully before entering any legal contract, esp. marriage. Good luck guys!
@Alpha Strong42 totally agree! Men have surrendered to women. No chance in case of divorce
Divorced women are like generals who've been through WW1, WW2, Vietnam and the entire Middle Eastern campaign. They know all the tactics, know how to fight dirty - and they're ready for combat. They're totally detached from any real relationship and only in it for the spoils, like a child, alimony, or property. Plus the ones I've known are all chainsmokers constantly looking over their shoulders as if their ex is going to walk in the room with a gun at any moment.
very good info will enter the next relationship like i am going to war hahahaha
Yes i noticed they're usually very paranoid too as if x is coming to get them.
oh snap! whoa
Most of them are also loaded to the gills with Xanax and or Opioids. So there is that pleasant bonus of dealing with a chem fueled nightmare in addition to all of the other buffs you listed. Guess what else fellas, In addition, she will have a dry cooz from all those pills she pops and the sex she uses against you, will be less enjoyable than mowing the lawn. YAY! Oh and let's not even mention the kids that will hate you, the disgruntled ex who doesn't want you around his kids, and the family who will treat you like leftovers, because they know she's too fucked up to either: A) Keep someone who has their shit together for long or B) You are another fuck-up like her. Being with a divorced woman is almost exclusively in the category of being downwind from a 4 Alarm relationship shitshow!
i got the gun and one day when my pay is restored i am going to buy bullets and then pow right in the kisser
Male sexuality makes sex valuable. In one way or another men have always paid for sex. If this was not true than global prostitution ( estimated at 40 million people as of 2012 with 80% being female ) would not be possible. Sex is possibly the largest industry on the planet. Marriage is simply an attempt to have exclusive sex with one person. Because sex is almost always tied to money than by extension if you are going to marry you are going to pay for marriage (sex). The attitude a woman has toward a man's money is directly tied to her attitude toward sex "as how she uses her body or allows it to be used" . If she see's sex as an exchange for anything other than sex than you are marrying a prostitute. Anytime a woman uses sex to get ANYTHING WITH IT than she is selling herself and the man is paying. Women mainly use sex for some form of security, including emotional, and reassurance of their value as a woman in relation to other women and they will certainly use their children to emotionally manipulate a man who is compassionate and protective of others. It is the rare woman who will not use sex and children to get things with. Every woman I know understands this and accepts that this is simply how the world works. Men are the true dreamers of the world and this makes them clueless that as a matter of pragmatism and survival, women are the true mercenaries of the world. It is why most of us secretly think men are stupid no matter how much we love you. Male sexuality makes you this way. Sorry guys for the harsh truths even though the truth is all around you if you cared to see it for yourself. The problem is not marriage or even women. It is and always has been how a man lives with his sexuality and what it makes him do. When men accept this fact and take responsibility for it than they will truly become powerful. Until than a woman keeps him jumping through the hoops she controls and no woman will respect a man she can control with sex. It would be laughable if it was not so sad but that is because weak men piss me off. Hate me all you want but that's the truth very few women will tell you and that is why women have so many problems with men. The two sexes get exactly what they deserve by the lies they support in the relations between men and women. Love is a business arrangement first and foremost but everyone tries to hide this fact. Deal with that Elephant in the room before you enter into a committed relationship or that Elephant will end up fucking you instead of you fucking whoever.
I agree with a lot of what you are saying here. “If she sees sex as an exchange for anything other than sex than you are marrying a prostitute.” If a woman gives me any indication she sees sex as a tool I stop her and say “if you think you are going to use sex to manipulate me it's not going to work.” I don't say no to sex with someone I'm seeing, but after sex “no” is still very much in my vocabulary. I had one woman who I became involved with and after we had sex a few times she kept hinting for me to buy her a $3500 dress. She was so annoyed that I wouldn't buy it for her. I just laughed, uhhh NO!
I think more men today are realizing what your comment suggests and are trying to educate them selves in order to either opt out of the game or use the knowledge to select a better partner. Although, your comment sort of suggests that woman lack honor, pride, and morals; and men are stupid for thinking women would have these traits. If what you saying is true, that men's sexuality allows them to be manipulated by women via sex. I find it interesting that the man being taken advantage of is stupid rather than a target and the women perpetrating the action is somehow in a huff because men are so stupid. Is this the crazy world we live in?
“The two sexes get exactly what they deserve by the lies they support in the relations between men and women.” I like this statement.
New first date question. “Do you view love as a business arrangement first and foremost?” Haha!
Thank you for your comments.
I got a tattoo of a hundred dollar bill on my cock, Any of you ladies want to blow a hundred bucks?
@KATHERINE KELLY , DAMN YOU ARE SO ON POINT WITH THIS ONE ALSO . EVEN AFTER GETTING SEX FROM MY GIRL MY ANSWER WOULD BE STILL NO , WHICH MAKES HER MISERABLE BUT YET SHE RESPECTS ME EVEN MORE. A MAN SHOULD ALWAYS BE WILLING TO LET A WOMAN GO , NO MATTER HOW GORGEOUS SHE IS . THATS TRUE POWER IN THE END FELLAS.
Look on the bright side ladies. At least you will not have to worry about him complaining about your teeth nicking his junk if he can take the pain of having a tattoo applied to his cock. So step up and make yourself useful.
Katherine Kelly , the truth always feels right and sits well with your intuition and your post gave me that . Thanks for the view from the other side as this will help many men out who is un-aware of this reality .
Could there be much worse in life than to realize you've been had?
That all your love, time, labor, plans and money went to someone who never actually loved you? That you were merely an extension of their purchasing power when it suited them?
So many men expend their lives building a better life for someone else only to be tossed aside as trash.
Many people can say "I love you" fraudulently. (not just women, btw)
Guys, your life is on the line here. Never get pressured into marriage.
I often tell guys not to wade through sharks while searching for a unicorn. Few listen.
Don't even talk to single mothers.
Tar and feather single mothers!
I have to disagree Pants Up Don't Loot my brother, i have dated ( not seriously ) divorced women & the sex i got from these girls was just wild. As long as you treat them nice & don't ask about the ex husband, you've got it made in the shade. They know that your there for a good time & so they are too. If you stay "friends" with them, you can also have them on the side as well. Believe me brothers. Peace.
I don't even acknowledge their existence. That's how worthless they are to me. Dogshit is more worthy of consideration than single mothers.
@Christiaan Baron visit them in jail rehab or family court
Right
A man in my neighborhood married a woman with a ten-year-old daughter. He helped this girl with her homework and made sure she studied before she went out to play. The little girl didn't like that so she made up a story about him sexually molesting her. The man spent three years in prison before she told the truth. The man was released but the last I heard his life was ruined.
Hence I would not marry a woman with children.
Oh right, I remember the comment. What I find pleasing in this channel is that it's not too big yet, so there's still a sense of a tight community that bigger channels lose at some point.
Love the content, Rich, keep up the good work, watching you daily, your brother from another mother in Moscow, Russia. PEACE!
P.S. Thanks for recommending The Rational Male, I swallowed this book in just a few days and currently listening to it the second time, trying to internalize these concepts better. Once again, very thankful for the recommendation.
Many single women with child(ren) in their 30s and 40s have a grossly inflated sense of their value. They confuse male attention and willingness to have sex (men aren't that picky) with potential willingness to make a long term commitment. Huge difference.
Spot on! Something that is probably at a higher level due to social media platforms
I corresponded with a woman online; she was a widow with a teenage daughter. She was a very attractive and sensual lady; but after several conversations on Skype, I realized that she demonstrated all of the classic narcissistic traits. She began by saying that she wanted an emerald ring encrusted with diamonds as an engagement ring. In a later conversation she said that she wanted me to pay for her daughter's college education. When I later mentioned these two conversations to her, she denied ever making the requests. I quickly ended our budding relationship, never actually having met her in person.
Sir, you didn't just dodge a bullet you dodged a howitzer shell ! Good for you !
Dave S a
I married a Divorced Mom and in the 30 years we've been together I have never regretted it. She had 20 years of a bad marriage to a man mentally and emotionally cruel to her, in fact I was unemployed at the time we got together
Wat were ur age gap?
@@prakashmoharana6968 she is 5 years older than me
What was ur age and her age at the time of marriage
@@prakashmoharana6968 5o
@@8aleph wat 50. Wat was ur age and her age at time of marriage
“What an advantage a man would have if only he realized the cold, clear thoughts running through a woman's head while her eyes are brimming with tears.” --Esther Vilar
I once dated a widow with one daughter. She had just broken off dating a man who had trouble with alcohol. She made it clear in her caresses she was set to bed me the moment the vows were taken. I watched how she handled the discipline of her only child, and knew that she was a pushover when I was not around. I wanted no part of that and moved on. Less than 2 months after I married someone else, she had found a willing dupe to attach herself to. 25 yrs later I have to say there are no women who do not do to some extent, what Esther characterized. It is inherent in the female psyche. They're always looking for an angle.
“The happiness of women is not only primitive, but obtained mostly at other people’s expense.” --Esther Vilar
Soon to be a great grandfather, I have to say I've never found an exception to Esther's advice.
"To ask the question is to answer the question its self"
"Should I marry a single mother or a divorced woman?" SHE IS A SINGLE MOTHER/DIVORCED WOMAN FOR A REASON!!
Excellent video, every man who is thinking about dating a single mother should watch this video.
"never" is a tricky word. I am a white collar worker and married a good, blue collar guy. It's been 35 years. Never divorced.
Every guy that comes out of high school should watch this it's a reality check. I wish I had seen this many years ago not all women are the same but you need to be aware of the ones with bad intentions.
I was a part of a discussion group, at church, where we were discussing unconditional love. A 30 something WOMAN said that "women are only capable of loving themselves and their offspring". My experience confirms this. I would only consider dating a women with children if the father/husband had died.
there are good women. I dated a single mom. she told me to build a table and she would give me a family. she asked me to build a garden and she would give me a feast. there were other problems both on her side and mine. In the end this is a women I should have fought for. she offered more than she asked of me. I do miss her and I have never been with a women like her and I do not think I will find one like her again. she did not want my money but she wanted me and the stuff she could not do that I could. she wanted the partnership that God had designed us to have. look for that kind of woman.
I can totally see where this is coming from. There are so many people out there just looking for thebeasiest way out. I am a single mom and I actually liked this advices but applied to my own life. my post divorce relationship was seemingly great. He was just out of the military and going to school, I was working full time and taking care of my home. 2 years in, he was finishing school and we were talking marriage. I helped him with issues that came up with his school and the VA, I helped find his job resume etc. once the job was secured he became a different person and we broke it off. It was a huge waste of my time but even worse was he had become a someone special to my young child. he still trys to use this "soul mate bs" to come by when he is horny but I am trusting my intuition. I know women tend to be the ones using their partner for their own means but the information kind of applies across the board. thanks for the content.have a great one.
Widows, maybe. Divorced, never.
Women have as much right to say enough is enough and file divorce as well. Especially when it come to our husbands being abusive, unfaithful and endangering the lives of us and our children. This mentality that because a woman is divorced, it must have been her who was divorced by her husband is an incredibly unintelligent way of thinking. Women file too. If your way of thinking was appropriate then divorced men should also be alone and are crap. It goes both ways.
@Planet UC Well I call being choked (because I didn't want his friend who stole my ex's gun to try and kill his gf, and tried to steal his truck and sold drugs from his house... around our kids), the first time was because I didn't want him holding our 4 month old when he was so messed up he couldn't barely walk , put through a closet door, shoved into a bathroom counter so hard it put a bruise across my lower back. Being told I needed to shut the fuck up anytime I said anything. Being called fucking stupid anytime he got mad. Threatening my life or physical safety everytime he got mad. Slapping me very hard on many occasions and twice in front of our kids. Calling me bad names in front of our kids. Cheating on me with women who would do drugs with him. He tried to break my arm one time to get the last of the money we had before running off to spend it on drugs. I wasn't allowed to question his decisions regardless of the consequences they would have on our whole family. One time, we got unto an argument and when he was leaving for work, I went out to give him a kiss goodbye and he grabbed my head yanking me into the truck twisting it around. It was excruciatingly painful. That is just a few instances. So much happened. I kept making excuses, keeping his secrets, protecting him. I bent over backwards, gave and gave. Sure, I disagreed with some of what he did, with good reason. What respectable parents wants drugs around? Or that kind of life around? That is all I ever asked of him, just to be faithful, and to get his life back on track. I would have done anything for him.
Unfortunately, sometimes we can love someone with our whole heart, give them all of us...but if they are not the one for us, it will not work out. It takes two people willing to do what it takes to make marriage work. If one doesn't care then it is useless. And Divorced happy parents is vetter for the health of children then married miserable parents in a toxic marriage.
Any time I had anything to say... it was regarding his drug use or when he was constantly partying.
@Planet UC Actually, the man I married became a different person do to his decision to begin drug use after our marriage. It had to do with who he decided to hang around with at work. And was kept from me for a while. I was never a slut. And I knew my ex very well before our marriage. He was my best friend's brother. I could not anticipate that the man I fell in love with would become addicted to drugs because his 'friend' said it would help his work performance. Nor could I anticipate the hold it would take over him and his life. How it would affect ours as well. I never turned away 'good guys' in fact I never chased guys. Much less bad boys. Maybe it was ignorance to settle down after only 4 relationships. But I was young and all I knew was I loved him with every fiber of my being, wanted to be everything for him. To give him everything. And to spend my life with him. And he was so sweet, loving and doting. He expressed how much he loved me too and wanted to spend his life with me. And through everything I remained the faithful, loving, forgiving, doting wife. Even afterwards. I am still giving. Helping. Doing what I can. I know I will always love him, but I had to make the best decision for myself and our kids. He will never change now and doesn't want to. Maybe someday he might. But I forgave things that shouldn't have been forgiven and let things slide that should have been addressed. You say it is my fault. You are partially correct. However, I am only guilty for loving the wrong man. I am not guilty of any other fault than that.
What about her son's biological father🤔. Discussions about not compromising on Catholic school and cost should be between father and mother and have nothing to do with him😉
It's good to hear that this story has a happy ending.
there's nothing wrong with dating a single mom or divorced mom or just a single woman. The issue is with both people if both people are stupid it's not going to work. this situation that you're talking about will stop happening when men stop wanting to marry the crazy woman and when women start to take care of themselves before hand. You shouldn't be depending on the person you married to be your cash cow man or woman. and you shouldn't be having sex as a means to solve a problem man or woman. and above all else some counseling before people get married would help a great deal.
not a lady basher by any means but the reality is many single women and most divorced mothers are on the prowl for their next meal ticket. They will say all the right things to get married but will unleash the hounds when they have the ring. I have seen so many of my incredible male friends marry gals who seem like sweethearts but eventually evolve into complete c*nts. It is an amazing thing to watch. Don't be pressured to be married when you can have the same terrific aspects of a relationship without handing over control to an erratic female. Really, why do that to yourself?
Fern Whitaker Hahahaha my last one started being the perfect woman I wanted while at the same time talking about how she wants to get married. Needless to say I fell for it and got it for her and just off the engagement ring the sex stopped and the crazy came out. Turns out she just wanted to be the first of her friends and her cousin was waiting to get proposed to. Thank god she gave me the warning signs she did or I would hate to see my life in marriage with her!
I am 60 and intentionally never got married because the future the kids have now is bleak. I knew this long ago. Nevertheless I have had a few girlfriends along the way AND ALL THESE STORIES ABOUT WOMEN ARE TRUE. The last girlfriend I had was horrendously deceptive I figured her out in no time.
Also if a woman has a daughter beware of 14 (and I mean specifically 14) year old daughters. That teen nutcase will ruin any relationship you have with her mom. Do not believe this at your own peril.
We need more lady bashers if anything. Someone needs to tell them to get their shit together.
Yes, that is why there r gays. The disappointment is real for both sexes. Men can become demanding and any woman will get tired of that too. Marriage should b outlawed. And men should be snipped.
Desert Rose yes all me should get the snip they dont care where they leave their sperm..nasty pigs
there is no reason for a man to get married. my ex turned from being fantastic to absolutely crazy just from me putting a ring on her finger. I suppose she thought she had me trapped. a few weeks later she slapped me and I got out. she contacted me several years later and I told her she was one of the biggest mistakes of my life. she finally got it into her head it was over.
Wow 😮
@@t.b2923 I could tell you some stories but i am done talking about the crazy b!tch.
Your videos have been so helpful! I am 52 year old male who made the mistake of marrying a single mother after my divorce. Of course I can validate everything you’ve stated in regards to marrying a single mother with 3 kids. You are speaking the truth. What your videos have done for me is validate what what I already have learned and know! At this point you’ve helped me heal and stayed focused and become the true Red Pill man! I’ve been sharing your info with my sons and ordered books that you recommend for my sons to read. Keep up the great work and spreading the word on how woman really act and what games they play!
Here it is two years after this video was published and it still holds true! I recently had a similar experience. This video is the truth! I dodged a huge bullet because I started watching her actions instead of listening to what she said. Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself and say NO.! And yes, I think I will buy that Porsche.
I retain all book and movie rights. Haha! I have actually considered writing a book called "How not to get married" (or some variation) to really flesh out the whole story and everything that happened after the split with her trying to get back with me. We actually didn't have makeup sex after she came over to discuss me telling her to come get her shit. I opened a bottle of wine and we went out to the deck by the lake and just discussed the situation. We both expressed we didn't want the relationship to end, but she had to have an understanding about finances and how WE were going to decide together on how to spend large sums of money.
It actually worked out a few months later that her ex-husband decided to retire and she was awarded a portion of his pension that could be used to cover her son's schooling. Why does everything have to be so complicated? This being resolved to my satisfaction contributed to me moving forward in our relationship and getting engaged later. But of course the rabbit hole went a lot deeper with her.
I would say to guys, if you get involved with a divorced woman who has children you are probably going to spend money at some point on her or her children. You shouldn't be involved with her if you have no interest in the children. The thing is these decisions to spend money have to be made jointly. How financially involved is the biological father? The issue is women with children will assume that because the child isn't yours you are always against spending money on the child. So they want to decide on their own and take the possibility of your “no” out of the equation. Healthy couples make financial decisions together or one agrees to defer a specific decision to the other.
I see a lot of “never date single moms” comments. It's easy to say that when you are 20-30 years old. Over 40 it's very difficult to find women without children. At that point you either find a childless unicorn, remove the possibility of a long term relationship all together or very carefully choose a partner with children. The later is difficult in itself, you have divorce guilt in the mix here and it's possible the children are not disciplined. You will meet women with older kids who are on drugs or in jail, it's crazy. I had one women actually get mad at me because I told her her drug addict son was a problem and he was financially draining her. She looked at me like I had a horn growing out of my head. Woman, that is not okay, no guy wants to deal with that shit.
Amen brother, I was the stupid guy who kept plowing through even though similar red flags were popping up as in the story. In the end I paid the price for my blindness. I won't tell you my horror story, but the fact that she was in the relationship for what she could steal out of it became a harsh reality later.
No, I would not. The extra package is a money pit. Have your own children with your own woman who is devoted to you. That bill doesn't has to be yours! And the "you're not my father" card will be played on you at any given time! You're also not her priority, you're not first, second, third or even last. And you will hear her past relationships coming and in and out of her head with petty squabbles arguments between while you're thinking "what in the world am I got myself into?".
We have been married almost twenty five years. Every morning, I get the coffee going, make breakfast, make sure the clothes are ironed, and lunch is made and ready to be put in the lunchbox. We make love at least three times a week, laugh at each other’s jokes, and call each other pet names. We are both college educated and our income is adequate for our needs. No McMansion needed and we travel often.
My job is very important and we work as a team to keep our lives and marriage together. Seven years ago our only child died in a car accident when she was seventeen. This could have devastated our marriage but we supported each other when one of us was weak. I believe strong men should be the head of the house. Do not marry bossy, gossipy, princess women. No SJWs! Our society went to hell from the crap of the 1960s and liberalism. Put your wife on a pedestal and stand beside her. Be equally yoked or there will be trouble in the marriage. Take your time and find a good woman. One of us is a Chemical Engineer and the other a Graphic Designer. One more analytical, one more artistic and both grounded in family and conservative values.
By the way, I am not a man, but one lucky wife and my important job...is to continue to ensure my home is taken care of so my husband has a warm and loving environment he always wants to come home to. I genuinely hope all of you men take the time to ferret out the bitches who come your way. If you’re taking the time to watch this video, I know you want more to life than heartache from a demanding woman. We are truly here, I promise you. We’re not perfect but neither are you. There is some give and take but we always step back and look at the big picture now. Since our daughter died, what really matters in life? It’s the simple things. Holding hands. Having his dinner ready when he gets home. Sometimes, couples get so mired in who did what, they forget this was a person they once loved and for the most part, that’s all we really want. Just to be loved. Don’t give up hope, just be discerning. Lead with your brain, gentleman.
Wow, do you want a cookie? Your husband is probably cheating on you. You sound like a boring, submissive old hag. Calling other women "bitches", real mature for a 50 yr old.
@krispy kreme Are you on drugs? _I_ called _her_ out. Put down the donuts, the fat is seeping into your brain.
I wish there were more women out there like you, Suzanne. Gives me hope.
You should never just Marry any Women. But if she is a divorced Woman specially with young kids.
Date for a long time years before you decide to marry. Step out of the box .
Signs to watch for:
1. Rush to marry you.
If she wants to rush to get married or move in specially if she has kids.ALERT!!!
Think about it. You may be a great guy, but she has kids to pretect. So if she wants to rush and not give it at least 3 or 4 years to make sure your safe to be around her kids when shes not there. THATS A PROBLEM.She probably using you.
2. IF She talks about her exhusband and it was all his fault and she wasn't any of the problem.
(How many times I've heard women blaming their exhusband,for abuse and all the problems,when if worked or been around that same women realizing or time Shes has an aggressive side. And if I was married to that I would of knock her ass out too.
(If a woman wants to play fight an hit, or hits or pushes in an argument or playing fightAlert!!!
This is a type of woman that going to put you in a cop car!!! And jail!!!
Just for defending yourself or not even doing anything at all.
3. You need to give yourself time to see how her family and friends are. Who is around this woman before you came along. Is she the black sheep?
3. If she lives with her parents with the kids. Why?Nothing wrong with a woman and kids move in with parents after divorce. But you need to make sure shes can support and control her own money and if she gets child support were does that money get used? I would definitely let her get her own place and see if she can even live without your money first.
4. DON'T GET HER PREGNANT!!!
5. HOW MANY DAD'S TO HER KIDS.More than one definitely NO!!!!!!!!
I been with my wife over 23 years. And I love my wife and Marriage. But Ive had lots of friends over years end up with bad women and jail.becouse they don't listen.
I was living with a girl and her 3 kids from a previous marriage, she broke up with me after 4yrs together because I hadn't got her an engagement ring yet, I was doing school runs, taking them swimming lessons, cooking for them and watching them the weekends she had to work, I wanted to build a relationship with the kids first before we got engaged/married, she wanted me to get her a ring after about 2 years and a few months before the brake up started talking about us having our own baby which in my gut I was unsure about, so just as we hit the 4yr mark she broke up with me saying I promised her every thing and gave her nothing, 2 months after the brake up she got with a 23year old, she is 40 next year with 3 kids, she is an attractive woman so part of me is gutted because I thought we were really good together and part of me feel a like a dodged a bullet.
Hearing stories like this is what makes me stay away from even trying. Granted, I now know how to react and protect myself. But it is rather demoralizing.
No, nope, never!!! Do not stay with a divorced woman, don't waste any time with a single mother and never go into a relationship with a cheater. If she is willing to cheat on another guy with you, no doubt later on you will be the other guy she is cheating on with someone else.
A single mother on welfare is another story.
My experience have proven that marrying a single mom becomes more complicated! Life offers enough challenges with further adding complications. In short, I ended up in jail for false allegations ..I won the court case but cost me $10,000.00 in lawyers!!!! Hard lesson to learn. Hypergamy is real and never sleep with both eyes closed! If you marry a single mom that is attractive be prepared for more pain to enter your life! You will learn hard lessons about how woman think morally! Great video, awesome advice! P.S. Her 16 daughter claimed I glared at her with bad intent! We went to a family psychiatrist and he told my ex her daughter must give me an apology...never happened...next chapter false allegations. Also the police jump at the opportunity to fuck up your life!
I married a divorced mom 34 years ago. It was the best decision I ever made. Our marriage is better now than it ever has been and only getting better.
Generally. Would someone please teach my husband how to be a husband?
Women: expect security before the husband will get the love. If a physically capable husband cannot provide for a wife, why would a wife put themself at risk of non-survival? (Provide means help with bills (get a job or source of income), food, health, home, kids, planning for the future, attending to family.) Having a spouse who does none of these things, there isn't really a marriage going on.
For all you guys who fear a story likely this may happen to you, ensure you do not domicile in a community state or you get w at you deserve. If you fear being taken advantage of, sign nuptial agreements as a contract.
Well said!! The whole reason for my divorce! Ex husband had deep seated alcohol issues from his teens in and left us borderline homeless many times...but yet the woman is always to blame unfortunately
Men make poor decisions as much as women do when it comes to relationships
Not all single mothers are trash
I have to admit I was on a date once with a girl and she busts out " ok just being honest I've been married we've been divorced for two years I was young and stupid and we both rushed into it and I just know it's a big deal and wanted to get it out in the open"
Honestly I was so taken aback not bc she was divorced but bc she owned up to it and admitted her own faults about why it went South.
Not gonna lie it was kind of refreshing to get honesty and accountability for once
J Logan I got married at 20. I know I made mistakes. He was a kid and I was a kid. We just didnt know we were. We gained no assets together so our divorce amounted to 500 dollars which I paid and splitting of a dvd collection. 😝
Several years ago I started dating a single mother, she had a 5 year old son with behavioural issues. She was younger than me, very attractive and great in bed. Not long into the relationship she started talking about “ pooling our resources “ to buy a house together. She was on a low income, I am not. Despite the great sex the alarm bells started sounding, she was desperate to find security and stability for herself and her problematic child. I wasn’t prepared to be used financially by her, or any woman come to that, so I ended the relationship. I’m so happy that I didn’t let my balls rule my brain.
I used to tell my kids something, " life is the best teacher, but the lessons are expensive & you can't afford to pay for all of life's lessons, so you need to learn from other people's mistakes, so you don't have to pay for it yourself."
I'm not sure if that guy knows how lucky he is, he dodged a major bullet...
Great channel, you give solid advice.
Hardest thing any man can do is take on the burden of another man's children. It's bad for the man, bad for the kids.. just walk away.
Thanks for this forum of truth and knowledge empowerment, myself a (burned) divorced dad, please continue the good work.
Ease don't let yourself get warped into believing that all women who are divorced or moms are bad. Just as you were burned, some of us were just as burned... maybe even worse. I don't know your story. But I made a promise to myself that I would never let what my ex husband did to me affect how I view the rest of the men in the world. I know what it feels like to be severely hurt by the person you trusted and wanted to spend your life with. However all women are not cold blooded just as not all men are evil. You can overcome this! You are strong enough. It isn't easy but I pray you find the woman who will show you that not all women are bad. Just as I know one day I will also. But it takes time. I am sorry you were hurt.
I would never even date a divorced mother!
Bro, a divorced woman/ w kids will do any crazy sex stuff when there's a wallet dangling in front of their face, use that incentive.
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@@themusicman2005 Easy, a single mother has an economic incentive to do "crazy sexual things" to gain access to the bank account, of a significant other.
I married one. First I made sure she had a self-supporting job. Found out the whole story of why the divorce, and found out she is an honest to god Sunday school teacher. Ex-husband is in Colorado while we are on other side of country so go-backsies.
There are a few rare gems out there. Doesn't mean she is as crazy as any other woman, but she is not crazier than any other woman. Together 21 years so far.
Your absolutely right👍🏾 I went out with a single mother six months ago and it really sucks. I can sympathize with the story that you said. She broke up with me before Valentine’s Day and honestly I didn’t care less. Three weeks later she tried to call me back but I block her number. So basically I gave her the finger. 🖕🏾and right now I’m enjoying my peace and quiet,calm,solitude,relaxation and my FREEDOM. 😎
I'm 16 and this might help me 10 years from now, all I want to say is Richard cooper is my online father
Not disagreeing that a lot of women are like that. They are. However, there is an alternate perspective. I am a supporter of men's rights. I walked the walk too. I was a single mom for many years. I did not take my childs father to court for child support because he had enough difficulty supporting himself. So I raised two kids on my money alone ( Cashier at Walmart). Not even taking help from the state. I know I did without much (not eating several days a week to make sure my kids had enough , no new clothes for at least 6 years, etc I did this so we could live in an area where my kids could go to a better school.. Rent cost more, so of course I had less money left out of my check. If I had been dating and it got to the point of talking marriage, I know I would let him know up front that my childrens education was a priority. That way, if he didn't want to deal with me having less money, he would have the option not to put himself in that position. Better to tell him before the marriage than after.
To be honest, if it were me, marriage is off the table.
Why would a guy marry into this situation knowingly? Whether he knows or not he’s still screwed if he gets married.
you are brave madame , i myself don't have much reason to be mad , cause my mother was like you , but how many are like you outher ?
scott sanger amen to that.
Yes, there r women out there who are divorced and have kids whose ex is not in the picture not even financially and who r smart not to let any man cross their path after. It is better to be married to your career than to put up with a an abusive man's expectations. Women should b smarter, just demand that bad men snip their testacles so if the relationship does not work, women have a better chance. On top of that, we should have a one child policy where women keep their firstborn girl. And women should not accept bad men who are not virgins either. It would b interesting if the tables were to turn. Obviously not all men are bad, so this does not apply to the good men out there. And I do not agree with all feminsits either. It is just that certain mysoginists are like the male version of the feminsists. Certain comments here for this video are nothing but hate and contempt towards women. Not just single moms.
I finished this video because I know that I have something to learn in it and I really did.
This is a very important issue in a relationship and everyone who is in this kind of unhealthy relationship should definitely watch this.
I’m 56 and very experienced , this gentleman is correct on everything he says!
I would tell my friends to avoid it. Not only will you end up paying for her. (Even if she works.) But you will pay for her kids. The more kids, the more expensive. Especially if she pushes away the father or the father is not around. Those kids are now yours. I don't give two flying crap what women like these say. Because they have tried with me. Try to guilt me. Didn't work. Then if you get a woman with two kids. Guess what. You will have to pay for kids rooms when they are teenagers. No kids want to stay in the same room with their sibling when they get older. She will make it happen using you. If you are a sensible man. Treat it like a car. You don't get a car with issues. You find the one that has no issues. Like Eddie Murphy once said. You lease it with an option to buy.