EXPOSED: Why You Need a Prenuptual or Cohabitation Agreement
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- Опубликовано: 21 дек 2016
- Guys if you are living or planning on living with a women and you have significantly more money than her, you need to protect yourself, and your wealth with a prenuptial agreement or cohabitation agreement.
Women are Hypergamous, accept and protect yourself.
Below is a copy of the subscribers story.
I dated a single mother of a 10 yr old girl. The childs father was an alcoholic degenerate that left the mother & child floundering in debt and poverty. Her daughter was a good kid, smart and accepting of me as her mothers new man.
I dated this woman for a little over a year. Within 3 months she had convinced me she was falling for me and that we make a good team. She used her child to drive that idea home in my mind. Always saying how much her daughter loved me and wanted me as her dad because "real" dad is a disgusting drunk. She got me to move into home with her and her daughter. Over the months she fooled me into believing our relationship was growing ever stronger and we were bound for the long haul. She didn't make much money and duped me into paying the mortage, buying her a new car e.c.t. And I was foolishly glad to do it.
We were in it together for the long haul right?
She continued to press her financial woes upon me by getting me to pay off old credit card debts, medical debt and student loans. She helped to pay the utilities garbage,water,electricity and internet. A little less than half. She constantly reminded me how great it felt for her to be able to save money again toward her kids future and our eventual marriage. She had me completely fooled.
A bit over a year after we had been together and just after buying her a brand new Subaru Outback in cash, I was able come to her with the great news that by months end she would be debt free. I had cleared all her old debt and the mortage would be paid in full! I did not receive the enthusiastic response i was hoping for. All i got was "Oh....I've gotta work late tonight"
This was a common phase i would hear over the next two weeks. I didn't find it too alarming since she had always worked late at least a couple nights a week since i had met her. I actually felt bad for her because she was working so hard all of a sudden, even repeatedly asking if there was anything i could do to relieve the extra stress she was experiencing. It seemed like it was killing her. We didn't talk, we didn't have sex, she didn't give me her daily good bye kiss as i would head to work in the mornings. It was just "I'm sorry babe I've got to work another double shift".
After a little more than two weeks of this, i came home one afternoon to doors with different locks on them and note stuck to a suitcase by the doorstep. The note read "i'm sorry things didn't workout, don't come back I have a restraining order".
I was floored! I tried for days to call her and she even went as far as to try and get me arrested for texting and calling her. She finally agreed to meet at a coffee shop to talk. I was amazed at the Jekyll and Hyde she had pulled on me. The loving "we're in this forever" woman I knew, became "I used you to pay for my shit while I fucked my ex behind your back"
I was so angry and disgusted! All those late nights at work were her riding Mr. Drunky McFuck faces cock!
I spent the next three years fighting to get something back from all of this and received a little over $3000. The total amount she had pawned my belongings for. Belongings that included thousands in designer suits, several watches worth tens of thousands and too much more to list here. Despite having reciepts that prove I bought and owned all of my belongings I only got a settlement of $3000! Her asshole ex even had the balls to wear one of my designer suits to one of the hearings!
Needless to say all you single men out there, don't be a dumbshit like me. Do not date single mothers! 
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One of the worst stories I have ever heard! Damn, that shit is crazy.
but you have 8 people who disliked the video ,
Key word is *story.
Camden McInnis It’s a typical scenario now a days 😂
@@RLomoterenge nowadays*
Steve Giardini 👈 This guy is smart. Nobody’s gonna do that shit to him!
My "Iron Rules of Relationship" I have printed and posted to the back of my office door: 1. Do not cohabitate, 2. Do not mix finances, 3. Do not rescue them from their bad decision (don't be the white knight rescuer), 4. Establish firm healthy boundaries of behavior 5. Be willing to leave the relationship (this requires 'spinning plates' and getting out of a lifelong mindset that the vagina is a scarce commodity. 6. Stop trying to qualify for her...she needs to qualify for you! (again, get out of the scarcity mindset).
I am in my early 50's. These rules were only established after a long slog of a marriage, and then dating (and living with) a borderline personality disorder woman. Both nearly destroyed me. Now, as a higher income earning professional, who is fit, the pendulum has swung to the other side. I am much happier and healthier now that I have a much better understanding of relationship dynamics and now I am 'grabbing for my oxygen first'. Cheers, and good luck out there. -just subscribed. Thanks.
wisdom...
Priceless...fucking priceless!
I totally agree and had similiar experience. Hope a lot of young men take note of your advice of wisedom and hard learn experience.
James Harlan I fucking love you man.
Cool story bro
Never date a single mother
Golden rule.
I hate single moms. They are all over PoF. "I have the most amazing son in the world and he is my world!" I just want to message them to get the fuck off the site.
Exactly
@@WarriorVinyard holy shit! It's like they just copy and paste that shit from some single mother blog!
Best advice ever
Generally women treat men like a job. They are always looking for a better on. One with higher pay and better benefits. So men need to treat women like cars lease instead of purchase, turn them in for a newer one before they start to break down and if you can afford more than one go ahead and enjoy.
abe frohman honestly this the most underrated comment in this comment section , may god bless you bro
abe frohman felix Dennis quote ‘if it flies floats or fornicates , rent it ‘
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this is gold.....this comment wins the comment section.
I'm 23 I love these kind of videos. You inspire us young guys. Please make more advice videos!
yeah same here.. getting some wisdom from this guy -- im 24
Jo Smith I'm 22 and agree af
You guys are the lucky ones! Imagine how many blue pill white knights are out there!
I agree also, i want to be protected with knowledge
Update??
My father married a Costa Rican lady who stuck with him through thick and thin. She stayed with him when he was making less than $1000 a month in CR and is still with him now that he's more successful and has his own house in Florida. I hope I find a woman like this one day.
placetobelong I'm part Costa Rican and I agree there are good Costa Rican women you just need to search the right one, life in Costa Rica is very laid back and more chill is all about living the moment so people are not as materialistic compared to Western and Slavic societies, I'm a mgtow but for those who still want to consider marriage go search in third tier cities, towns and villages across Latin America.
placetobelong latinos are usually against divorce
We are more loyal
@@kevinchavarria6792 terrible advice, comming from someone from latin america, AWALT applies everywhere dude (obviously there will be exceptions here and there)
I had found one...well above me. Peruvian lady.... I screwed up and cut her free.
Lmao good luck with that
Men love emotionally, Women love opportunistically. They are one or two steps ahead of you.
James H. Johnson not true.
James H. Johnson very true, it's in their DNA, self preservation that is. Men on the other hand have been taking care of not only themselves but their families and in some cases extended families.
Ahmad Niazi Women also take care of their families by cleaning, cooking, and childcare which men seem to never appreciate or value. Women's work is 24/7 on top of working a job if she has one. Men work a job then come home sit on their ass and expect to be treated as a king.
Megan Elizabeth I don't know on what planet you are living. Cleaning and cooking ??? Most of the women hate it and won't do it anymore or they don't know how to do it. Most women I have dated couldn't fry an egg !
lorenzodeblock If that's true that is really sad! I do those things every single day. I don't know how those women get through life not knowing those life skills.
Very similar to what happened to me. EXTREMELY FORTUNATE for a good attorney and stable work history. I got everything including custody. I am one of the 3%.
Joe Jones what's that lawyers contact!!?
Cool story bro
The best asset protection advice I ever received was "Don't own anything, and don't do anything."
Use trusts, debt (to companies that you control) and separate jurisdictions to protect your wealth. Use debt to protect equity. Control everything, but don't own it in your name unless you are OK with losing it to a leech.
VMSystems I don't understand this, fuck :(
Eye opening, would love to know more
Premium Lifestyle damn pro
Premium Lifestyle I will never forget that. If I marry it must be someone more well off than me
Premium Lifestyle wow. Why would a woman wNt ur stuff when she is better off
Seriously this is how people end up buried in the middle of nowhere.
Women have no incentive nowadays to hold a relationship together. Try it at your own risk.
First sign? They run hot and cold.
Second? Lots of drama wanting you to fix it for them.
Third ? Growing demands.
Those are the red lights I start with
I am a tomboy so most of my friends are guys. It blows my mind how many times they let these gold digging, caneiving, pieces of human refuse lead them down the garden path like a bull to slaughter!! They give cash instead checks for child support, make big purchases WAAAAY too soon because they feel sorry for the girl or neglect to pay attention to the fact that the hours she's working don't jive with her paycheck. I can give more examples but it's not necessary because I can tell you something much more constructive. If you have a smart, level headed, independent, self supporting tomboy friend who loves you like a brother and she tells you the girl you're with isn't good enough for you LISTEN TO HER!!!!!!! Lol As always great video btw!
Thank you for that. You sound like one of the good women that we are all looking for in life. :)
Yes women can spot a grifter whore a mile away. Men need a good woman friend. Only thing is sometimes women will put down another woman for stupid reasons. But if a man has a good woman friend or two, ask them. Women are never at a loss for words, lol. If you ask a woman, "So what do you think of my girlfriend" she should be able to get specific. If she can't and it's "oh just something about her" then she's being catty.
It's so much easier when you date within your group of friends. Everyone knows everyone. I met my husband through my brother and we were all friends first.
Jennifer don't feel bad for these loser men. Your man will replace you as soon as you get old and wrinkly. Cash them out at your earliest convenience. How come is okay for a guy to date a pretty lady but cannot afford to pay for us? Society shames women as gold diggers but makes it okay to be men's caretakers. What a shame.
@@cheekymonkeygirl3378 You sound like the exact sort of girl I tell my friends to dump!! Men don't replace their woman because she gets old and wrinkled, they replace their# woman when they realize the only thing she had to offer was her looks!!
@@MustangMalone I try to be a good person and consider myself to be a work in progress. As far as being what men are looking for that's not likely!! Lol The first half of my life was dominated by two completely psychotic parents and the second half by single motherhood. After being spread paper thin for so many years there's not much left for others so I just stay by myself. Thank you for the kind words just the same! God bless. ❤️☺️
Marry up but bang down.
Damn thats strangely deep.
Private Private that's the thing brother. I have always thought that. Shoot high over the head. If u hit the head ur still good
this is what happened to one of my uncles. he bought a house and a car for a woman putting everything in her name and she dumped him days later. he was so embarassed he moved out of state cause everyone told him not to do it
I dated a single mom who was going through a divorce. She would call me every night because she was lonely and we would be intimate I later found out from her that she would start shit with me/ picking fights over stupid little arguments and criticize my life. I already knew that her husband grabbed her by the throat and slammed her up against the car. That's what she claimed and I didn't. think about it that much up until now that when we had one of our last fights I told her that I was finished with her and that I was going home and that I wasn't going to sleep with her anymore. She got mad and called me a bunch of names. A few days later we made up and she was like : "Yeah you were so upset I watched you tear out of the driveway and heard your tires squeal." I was thinking I didn't leave upset. I left to get away from your BULLSHIT. the relationship ended when I fucked up my back in a head on car accident. She was mad that I was too fucked up to have sex. She broke up with me after she learned I borrowed some money to buy her some expensive silverware. Another single mom I knew told me that the reason she married her husband was because she wanted to have her two daughters and his money. I dated a couple of other single mothers one had three kids with three different dads and we knew each other for a long time and I was like, "No, this ain't going to happen. I'll be working my ass off supporting kids that aren't mine." She didn't like that. We fought on the phone and then she met this military guy from off the street and told mete made all this money and they were going to move into a nice home and make a baby. she constantly would bring it up because it's what I wanted. four years latter I found out her husband is working at little Ceasure's Pizza as a manager making $11. I felt bad for him but good for me , "Don't be that guy!" The other girl was a cute Mexican single mom that didn't speak English, yeah figure that one out she waned me to spend money on her daughter and I got sick of that shit. Most of these women are in debt and single moms are looking for someone pay there bills and SERVE them. That's really what it's about a woman is looking for that upgrade guy with the golden cock to buy them everything. We need to stop that shit. Men should stick together and warn men that there so called girlfriend is having an affair . People's lives are important and life is to short to waste it with a woman who is going destroy it.
How could you possibly be so dumb?
Carl Marx yeah I know right?
English teachers around the world are silently weeping...
Sum it up sir. I stopped reading after a few run on sentences
They aren’t looking for love they are looking for help!
This is terrifying. I'm 32 and have been in relationships with single mothers and it didn't even notice some of the red flags. Looking back now I have definitely dodged a few bullets
Marriage is a CONTRACT, pure and simple. I've made the mistake and paid the price. Heed this advice if you're thinking of getting married...spent 3 or 4 mornings in your local family court. Keep in mind that those couples took the vows and now hate each other. You're no different, the divorce rate is above 50%. Not good odds in my book
No contract that one sides would stand up in court.
i feel sorry for that guy. he was very nice and probably would have been a good life partner for her and her daughter, but some women are just shot in the head
Omg, I don't even know how I would handle my self if something like this happened to me.. WOW!
Guys, this is an important topic, but an uncomfortable conversation to have with your woman. Post your comments below, especially from experience.
Entrepreneurs in Cars Tom Leykis set rules. never messed a single mother. not even a pump and dump.
i don't have a woman. I'm 22 and I'm not gonna have a woman for at least next 8 yrs. I'm 100% focused on building my dreamhouse and business. serious relationships suck energy out of me.. i just don't need them.
Even worse is some States will throw out prenuptial agreements if the marriage lasted a certain amount of time. Even a prenup isn't good enough anymore.
+residentzombie
Nope, it isn't. That's why its a good idea not to mess with women in the first place, but if you must then secretly put away a large sum of money in an "untraceable" format, like Bitcoin, and keep adding to it on occasion. At least then if shit hits the fan, it will make recovery a bit easier.
What if she says that you don't love her if you wanna make such kind of agreement ?
Not in my life time. There's been a few divorced/single moms that struck my interest and I never persued. The senarios going through my head leads me to believe this could be a bad idea.
This just confirmed it.
I couldn't agree more. All financial expectations should be painstakingly talked about and agreed upon, signed and legalized. If she, or he (as in my case) refuses to sign, then don't get married or even live together in states that automatically give homestead status to any individual who uses your address as their home address. Believe me when I say there's just as many men looking for their sugar mommas as there are women looking for sugar daddies. And ALWAYS make them show you their current credit reports because talk is cheap, lawyers are not.
Showed up to a hearing in HIS designer suit? I think I might be doing life at that point. A x2 murder would be life, right!
I am a rational woman and I am disgusted and appalled at some of the things women would do to advance themselves these days. I always wonder why most women use their sexuality and beauty to get ahead instead of using their brains and talent. I feel really bad for men of today and I wish you guys well in navigating thru all the bullshit. I know dating is hard and it''s not easy for anyone . Best of luck guys. Richard, love the content you create and upload.
Thank you very much for that. You sound like one of the really good ones. :)
I have always chose to see the world thru rose colored lens, then I come across topics like this and it forces me to take them off and question the state of humanity and the current condition that it's in. A bit too depressing and grim for a kindred soul like mine. So the rose color lens goes back on and I continue to live my life according to the natural laws. As such I usually attract good to myself and the bad that does come my way I can only imagine it was I who attract that as well and I accept that also. Not all bad things that come your is indeed bad. Life is about learning and growing and creating the best version of yourself possible. If you never face any adversity, how can you grow as a person? The world will be a much kinder, gentler and loving place to live in if everyone will just be more accountable for themselves and their actions and hold themselves to a higher standard. :)
@@gizmobum1It is really demoralizing and depressing to hear stories like this one and to also witness the horrible things that men and women do to each other. I just don't understand how some people can treat other people in such a cold and heartless way. These are human beings that are being discarded as if they are a piece of trash that you throw away. After awhile, it does start to slowly chip away at what faith you have in humanity and whatever hope you have left for it. Fortunately, there are people like you that help to restore our faith in humanity and bring back some hope that many of us so desperately need right now. Thank you for that and also for being a kind and compassionate person. Also, you are absolutely right. The good things, the bad things and the mistakes we make in life help us to grow and make us stronger and better people. On a lighter note, tonight I am going to light a candle in honor of the man who is so fortunate enough to have a woman like you in his life. How does that Rod Stewart Song go? Some Guys Have All The Luck? Lol! :)
@@MustangMalone Thank-you for your kind words. I have the same sentiments and agree with you as well. I don't have the answer to the world's problems. I can only do my best not to add to it. Life isn't meant to be easy. But we do have a choice in the matter. I believe the minute we decide that we are the creator of our reality, that includes out thoughts, how we feel as well as how we choose to react to certain things. Once we realize everything is a choice, we can be more empowered to make a change for the better. We attract what we focus on, we attract what we think about. Learn to think and focus on the things you want in life instead of what is lacking and you'll be amazed at what good will come into your life. I hope more people will choose to spread more positivity into the universe. Take care my friend. Keep that light shining in your heart and never allow another person to take that away from you.
@@gizmobum1 Your very welcome! Thank you for the kind words also. That was very well said and I don't think that I could have said it any better. You are a very smart lady and you seem to really get what life is about and also should be about. You have an understanding and an appreciation of life that I wish many more people had. Even with the world the way it is and what I have had to deal with this year, I still try to stay as positive as I possibly can and be thankful for what I do have in life. I realize that things could be a lot worse than they are now and that helps to put things in the proper perspective. I have enjoyed talking to you because you are a pleasant and enlightening person to talk to and if you ever feel like talking with me again or just need someone to talk to, please feel free to do so. Thank you again and best wishes to you. :)
There is no love anymore. No sense at all in going any further than a few dates and moving on before she gets her claws into your financial assets. Society is unravelling :(
ha, it's much cheaper to just keep a good lady of the night on standby, if you get my meaning???
Trust shes also 10 other guys lady of the night lol.
Real shit tho
Personally, the red flag should have gone up when she accepted such large "gifts" or "help" ......small tokens of admiration is fine....but, paying off a home? no Good woman would accept nor request that.
Right, at some point gullible men has to own it for being taken for the ride. Even if he bought the car for her he should've been smart enough to keep the title and registration in his name, etc, etc.
Sad but true,merry Christmas fellas.
Bit early but Merry Christmas brother.
omg that story was soo sad she robbed him clean😭😭😭😭💥🔫🔫🔫
Too trusting & she taught him a lesson in life ...life's a bitch than you marry one !!
Just a heads up for kiwis out there. I have a mate who had a co habitation agreement, but it was thrown out of court due to her "not knowing what she was signing" . I have since heard of some prenups being thrown out as well. As a 21 year old who has worked his ass of since leaving school at 16, i now have 7 project cars on the go, and about to put a deposit down on a house. mgtow is unfortunately the only way forward. I have spoke to a separation lawyer and she laughed when i asked her about protecting my assets. she told me about her younger sister (23) who has a boyfriend (28) who is building himself a new house. she is advising her sister not to sign any cohabitation agreements so that she can take half of it if things don't work out.
RustyNuts thanks!
Dump any woman who refuses to sign cohabitation agreements
That is fucking insane
I really like the way you are taking the time to inform guys of the possible pit falls.
Thank you for posting this video.
Great material.
I was very lucky not to have such bad experiences but truly it was only luck.
So I'm going to try and learn from mistakes of others.
Richard I'm sure you have legal escorts in T.O. We do here in Windsor. Wrap it up double and take advantage of it. Why waste your time and money going to bars, dating and spending money when you can use your precious time elsewhere. And get yourself a good dog for company and protection. Peace!
after being in relationships since 16, i ve been single for about 6 yrs now....getting a dog and just trying to be single is on my mind....
There's nothing wrong with trying to seduce women. Just have boundaries in place that they can't cross to protect yourself. And know the law regarding issues that might arise.
Love your channel. Keep up the good work.
Thx brother
3:44 You held your bearing stronger than I ever could after reading that. I couldn't stop laughing. I really appreciate the book you recommended, I am a few chapters into The Rational Male. Wish I had this sooner but glad I got it before I reached my 30's.
Thanks for sharing your message with us.
Yes is very valuable Channel it certainly help out young guys. Who don't understand female nature even though I'm in my fifties I find this channel very valuable and a reminder how your life can be ruined by being with the wrong woman.
I’m bewildered by the treachery of some of these women.
The more information I hear and read about... the more MGTOW I become.
That graph in your profile is so painful to think about, sir.
@@_Gaby_950 Thanks. Let's hope they don't ruin this country in 4 short years.
Great information and insight for the unexperienced man, thank you brother! Keep up the great work even if you tube doesn't like the info your given guys
Couldn't agree more!!! I've been there, caught it right at the beginning, before the ride went south.
Hearing all of this makes me feel like I really need to tighten up with my woman. She's nothing like any of the women that are describe in the Mgtow community
...excellent video too, thank you.
He should have made her file bankruptcy that would be the only way I would clear that from a woman so many guys with no balls must have been raised without a father great video keep them coming
I lived with a woman once, my career was going great, things were good..This woman kept dropping hints about us getting hitched..I told her several times I wasn't interested in marriage, to which she pouted and even cried sometimes..I explained to her that I felt the laws concerning divorce were heavily stacked against men, and I wasn't going to take that risk of parting with 50% of my shit..and here's the killer, she said "well I'd expect to get my "fair share", I almost fell of my feet...FAIR SHARE!!! God was that an eye opener..Actually I'm glad that happened, because I told her was going out of town on business for a week and she better not be there when I got back..She was stunned, but she knew me well enough to know I wasn't fucking around, and when I got back she was gone..along with a few pieces of MY furniture, which pissed me off, but I figured I got off lite...I swore then and there no more cohabitation..
Men should keep their wallets or their relationship. They can't have it both.
Great stuff to share with my brother. He is single and his picker is busted.
Thanks for the advice I like watching you're videos learning lots... from a 23 year old living a few hours north of Toronto.
There weren't many bright line takeaways from law school, but one of them was: ALWAYS get a prenup. Especially if you live in California.
Well said Rich! You are doing God's work whether you know it or not 🙏
Do you know of a situation where a prenuptial agreement actually helped a guy in a divorce situation?
Thats what iam saying
Yes. Mine did. I signed a prenup, but I did not contest the divorce proceedings started by my now ex. It held up in court. That was the end our marriage. His money and assets were never my priorities, so it was easy for me to walk away.
Captain Save-a-Ho is always the wrong move.
Wow. I'm sure I'll lose my *feminist card* over my comment. But the situation you described breaks my heart. And quite frankly, pisses me off. Women like her give normal women a bad name. Some bitch like her comes along, takes advantage of this fella, making him (and other men who hear this story) immediately back away. For the record, I'm a single mother, divorced, I own my own business, I own real estate. I chose not to even think about dating for a year after my divorce. I'm like the woman who took the "red pill" (would it be a "pink pill" for us? LOL). But now I hear this story, and I'm like, "Damn! If I were a guy, I wouldn't date women either!" Please don't get me wrong, I'm sure there are men who would happily take advantage of someone like me. But, I really think the majority of advantage-takers are women. P.S. All the child support for my two boys goes into their savings accounts, save for sports fees & equipment. All of it. I feed them, clothe them, shelter them. With my own money. My ex is essentially paying for their college. ✌️
i salute u. to be fair a relationship should be symbiotic and nobody is perfect. so select wisely. do well . thank u.
I paid $1,000 one time for my girlfriends rent. She promised to pay me back. Then she wanted me to pay for her parking tickets, past due bills, take her out all the time, etc. Moral of the story she still owes me a $1,000 and I broke up with her.
Fun fact: I learned about their importance when there was some celebrity divorce in the mid 2000s and a news station was interviewing Trump about it. He mentioned that the guy was getting screwed because he didn’t have a pre-nup. Thanks 45!
Prenups dont work, the judge can dismiss it because they deem it as unfair to the woman or the woman can claim that she didnt know what she was signing.
just saw this video in my feed. thank you.
This is a very important video for everyone, no one should be taken advantage of. I was married but my husband wasn't the father of my kids, when we got divorced I didn't ask for child support (like WTF??) or alimony. I'm not into getting something for nothing, some women make finding a good man harder for those who want a good man in their lives. A prenup is a must!!!!!
I once asked my lawyer about those prenup agreements and was told by him "those thinks are my bread and butter" in other words just stay away from them , period.
the worst I've had was blindly not listening to my gut that something was very wrong in my last relationship even though I didn't know what it was. She really sweet me back in life, and I even taking her to court wouldn't have done anything except put her in jail, because I found out later that she has one criminal incident on her record. If I continued to blindly be a chump to this girl, I'd probably experience this same thing.
Wow! Excellent presentation😉
I almost fell off the treadmill at the last part of the story.
Wow, it maybe safer to live with a person of the same, we'll you know!
Well said Rich....sad ..but reality!
Lucky for me in a sense, I don't get to date much women, I can never a date with ones I'm attracted too, blessing disguise I suppose, turning 40 this year, never been married of have kids... ;-)
That story though, GEEZ!! Thanks though
I got divorced 13 years ago, had 50/50 custody of my son the entire time. I'm 41 and my son is 18 and now in college. Obviously I got married too young.
I live in the U.S. let me tell you, I wouldn't change my 50/50 custody arrangement for anything. What I will tell you though, you still have to fight for everything. The courts gave me 50/50 custody so everything was split in every decision was split. But she was designated what they called residential parent which means the school and everything was based on where she lived. So she moved a couple of times and I had to move in order to make the co-parenting arrangement work. I still had to pay support and when it came to things like braces and things of that nature I still had no say on the timing or where we went to essentially I still have to pay half of that which I didn't mind but what I didn't like was having no say.
with 50-50 custody that meant that he stayed with me a couple of nights a week plus every other weekend. I never wanted to be just weekend warrior dad so I would take my son school in the morning pick him up from school after work and he would stay the night at my house and rinse and repeat. 14 years of doing that I have to be the one to do all of the transportation of my days. In other words, at one point I lived 20 miles from her I would have to drive 20 miles to her house or 20 miles to my son school to drop him off she would never meet me halfway she wouldn't never split the drive.
She would not help on my days essentially I had him every Monday and Tuesday she had in every Wednesday and Thursday and we rotated Friday Saturday and Sunday. For a couple of years I worked 50 miles from home. On Monday and Tuesday I wouldn't be home in time to pick up my son from after school care. My excellent just a few miles away from the school she could have picked them up and kept them at her house till I got home from work but she refused to do and said if I can handle my son of my days then I have to give up joint custody. I then had to pay family members to pick him up from after school care at 6 p.m. keep him for an hour then I would pick him up farther away and then get him back to my house. In other words, it was 5 times or 10 times as much work for me to maintain my fatherly relationship with my son as it was for my ex-wife.
I do not regret any of it but my point is that even with joint custody they still pick a residential primary parent. That means that she can move wherever she wants and you are at her mercy. I was smart enough to have a clause put in our initial share custody agreement that neither one of us could move out of the same county without changing the custody arrangement.
Everything was the fight she wanted to raise our son Catholic I wanted to raise him Baptist she wanted him to own a gun at eight years old I didn't feel like he needed again till he was a teenager. We went to mediation a few times to handle parental differences and eight times out of 10 they sided with my ex-wife.
Because I had joint custody of custody I paid a little bit less support then I would have if I had only have my son every other weekend. The problem is the way child support works it defaults to the 80/20 rule which means that they would send me an order every 3 years that my support should go up because I was underpaying. I would have to hire an attorney go to court and prove that I still have joint custody even though the court had the original divorce decree which showed I had joint custody in order to get my support altered to reflect the fact that I have 50/50 custody.
Anyway guys I would not change doing 50/50 custody for my son for anything in the world. I just want to let guys out there know that even with joint custody you will still get f*****.
The courts don't even know how to handle joint custody because it only represents 10 - 15% of the caseload. Even with joint custody providing him his own room his own PlayStation his own clothes his own bed a duplicate of everything that she had I would still get nasty letters in the mail from Child Support Enforcement Agency fighting me tooth and nail on everything.
Anyway I would advise any man that has children and is married or we're still with his girlfriend or has not had children to work out your parental agreement way before you ever split up that is more important than your assets. I was concerned about my assets but I was more concerned about having joint custody of my son and if I could have done one thing different I would have really drill down a joint custody agreement before I ever got married.
You can't mix love and money or resources. Always keep the situation in perspective. Stories like this give women a bad name, but the truth is there aren't that many of them out there like this, but they are out there and this needs to be kept in mind.
Omg!!! Im a woman, and I'm disgusted by this despicable woman with no morale, ethics and real soul. How do such parasite inhuman humans exist?! They should be tortured and shot in the head. Karma will get to her and I'd really like to know how it turned out for this wicked witch. I chose to be alone for the rest of my life with no male contact after my family and I were conned and exploited by my ex-husband and his family 8 years ago. I even left my profession as a medical doctor to completely start afresh with better quality of life. My family and I are so much happier now although it did take ages to recover from the damage. My parents (being Bangladeshi in origin!) no longer discuss about marriage and my brother has vowed like me to never get married after seeing how it damaged all of us. Richard, I do believe that what you are doing for your fellow brothers is absolutely inspiring and motivational for me too. Mum and Dad always raised me to be a strong secure woman and praised me as the man in the house for still bravely surviving and moving on despite breaking down from time to time. My parents and younger brother are my only family. We are a close knit unit. Despite this, I am the first black sheep in our family history to have suffered like this because of our own gullible easily trusting nature. I hope and pray you and many men improve amd strengthen yourselves as part of self development and raise your own daughters to be self sufficient respectable women, not mere prostitutes to damage other lives
WOW Thanks for sharing.
"My assets are going to MY kids...." I liked that so much I am going to use this in my argument in family court
Red pill is good: Thank you for the video, your videos are eye opening and I appreciate it so thanks. XD
This is actually a good story for single guys dating women without kids. Don’t pay debt for anyone until you are married.
what an absolute tragedy. that poor little girl took to loving him as a father, and he cared and provided for her and her mom as an appropriate substitute for one. this little girl was used by her mother to gain advantage from this genuine loving man. what is wrong with the justice system that wouldn't deem retribution to this man, despite having proof for providing all of this for them? also, Rich, do we know where this occurred? thanks for sharing so that us young men don't make these same horrible mistakes.
Wow, wait, alimony or child support for someones child? That's just crazy. Where can I read about such laws? Are they only in Canada, or in the US as well?
Да, в Штатах тоже. И думаю что в некоторых странах ЕС тоже. КЕК
I'm 35 years old and I've been single for two years going on three... I'm tall, good looking, and college educated yet it's been a struggle finding the right woman. What made my predicament odd is that three years ago I decided to completely stop spending money on women period... (funny thing happened the ladies are no where to be found nowadays)... no more going shopping, no more paying rent no more buying a car (guys have you ever been so in love with a woman that you would have done anything she asked you to; well I did)... yes that's right!!! I was one of those chumps that bought the girlfriend a car... had I saved all my money... I would have had a cool 100k in bank; but now I have next to nothing... thanks for posting that story. I'm not going full MGTOW, I'm still holding out hope that a reasonable woman is out there... but damn!!!
Good lesson for all!
I am in Canada . Pre nup here is over through many times . They say she didn't know the extent of what she was signing at the time. Just start a number company and sell all things to it . So you just work for the company . You just get a wage . It is a whole different story than you owning the house . Then yes try as long as you can to keep your own little space . I live in a RV on paper .
great stuff sir
Great video! Can you talk more about the differences between a pre-nup and a cohabitation agreement? Maybe a video talking about the different types of agreements would be a good idea.
scott sanger All I asked was for the difference between the two. Where did I say I'm not getting married.
That guy should have a case of liquor delivered to that house every month
Thank you for these videos. I went through something very similar and was completely in the dark about these things even being possible. I truly cant believe that this is able to happen. My male homies please watch this video and take this into serious consideration i got fucked over pretty hard and we were just dating and living together and i got thrown out of my place on the street (got kicked out of my apt i put the deposit down and paid the rent for every month by the way ) because she pulled the same shit as this guys story its fucking insane. Protect your ass because they can fuck up your life so fast its truly mind blowing. Anyone that has been through this i feel for you and hopefully none of you are in jail and have learned how evil women and the law system can be. Protect your ass i learned the hard way. Luckily i have my freedom and am able to move on but now I'm in the know and man does it make women a scary thing to involve in your life. My ex really opened my eyes to the capabilities and the law system. Never had any problems til i met this nutcase never had a lawyer for anything til i met this nutcase. Be careful out there seriously.
The guy that got taken missed a big red flag: her alcoholic ex. Rescuing someone does not obligate them to return the help. The courts will not recognize any prenups/deals/agreements at all, they are thrown out regularly. The courts are more about making sure she is compensated for the companionship she provided YOU. An agreement to balance that out is going to be a "no compute" for the courts. Just don't wind up in court, make sure it just doesn't occur.
We’ve had a prenup since 1980 and it has served our purpose quite well. Do it now, the worst that can happen is you discover a solvable problem and then saying goodbye. I’m pretty sure our prenup hasn’t been discussed in the 40 years since it was activated. Cost me $100 👏
I'm Ontario, cause they were only common law, he can apply for an unjust enrichment defense. She would be forced to sell the house to pay him.
Didn't take long to see where this was going...OUCH!!!
Captain Save A Ho. Wow!!! I will pray for this brother.
This video helps me realize that there are men out there who have it for much worse and remind me how crucial it is that these things happen all the time. I got involved with a single mother of one and she was a narcissist who constantly played the victim game throwing red flags in my face as much as a Chinese communist party but my beta ass was so conditioned I couldn’t shake from it. As time went on I realized how much progress I made making self improvements on myself and ended the relationship which with anything when it comes to a female narcissist they more than likely will end the relationship putting you through hell and that’s exactly what she did. I developed PTSD from that relationship but I know It could’ve went worse if I stayed. Gentlemen, if you guys have dealt with a serious toxic narcissist female, ways to heal from it is listening to narcissist podcast but be cautious of those who are a little crazy about the subject (A.k.a. gets stuck in the victim mentality) Good audible books to read is “sheep‘s clothing” by George K Simon, “character disturbance” by George K Simon Junior PhD and “out of the fog” by Dana MorningStar.
In sheep’s clothing*
the fact that the women chose to have a child with a drunk is evidence that she has extremely bad judgement and no sympathy for their future children
That law in Canada about child support that was mentioned in this video, doesn't exist here in Australia. That I know of. What a fucked up law.
Fantastic video
I feel for this guy. I used to do stuff like this guy until I had a similar, but less expensive situation. You have to set a dollar limit on how much you can help someone you are dating. I know a guy who bought a girlfriend a house and she left him shortly after when it was in her name. I know another guy who's wife was slowly stealing money from the joint bank accounts. He though she was spending a little much, but never questioned it. This was happening for years. One day he returned home from work with his wife and children not home and a note that she was leaving him with the phone number of her attorney. He later found out that the money she was stealing, she built a brand new home and moved in when it was finished and left the letter on the table. Talk about being blind sided. There is very little upside in marriage for a man and a huge down side. I have never have been married, but have had a few break ups after dating a few years. I know this does not compare. My friend has the best explanation on how it feels. Picture a perfect stranger walking down the street that you give half of what you have and the house and that is how a divorce feels like.
Thank you!
the annoying catch 22 of it, is that suggesting a prenup to a women you wholey trust and love is showing her you dont trust her even if you do
Women lose respect for men when he gives her too much too soon.
I got with a very attractive women who was a young single mother. She pursued me relentlessly. She lied about being pregnant very early on and then later actually did get pregnant! She lied about being on birth control. That child is now 8 years old and I raise the child completely and entirely on my own and she is no where around.
Eye opening !!!!!!
Don't ever let it bother you if a girl calls you "cheap". (Or bats eyelashes, emotionally/sexually coaxes you into generosity). If you put in the hours/sweat and earned it, you earned the right to dictate how you wish to spend it.
My dad made the same mistake with my mom. Before they got married he helped her pay $20,000 in credit card debt. 10 years later the debt was $70,000.
This was fire rich