Book Review: The Tactical Guide To Women (How To Pick a Good Woman)
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The Tactical Guide To Women - How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating & Marriage By Shawn T. Smith PsyD
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Captain James T Kirk bro, did you even watch the vid? 9-18 MONTHS for the crazy to come out...now, you want to go "wife shopping". SMH.
Mariage is a workshop. you work, she shops
I've never seen anyone put it this way. Nice.
Nice!!!!
I smashed that like!
shops till she drops :D
Lol
My father never taught me these things because he was a victim of these problems himself without ever understanding why.
My father never taught me these things or anything at all. He was never there.
He was there but broken, because of these problems. Thank you for sharing brother.
She aint pretty, she just looks that way!
deltaskyhawk this ^^^^^^
"It's hard to be in love and wise at the same time" Bob Dylan
Those are the lyrics. Crap! All I heard him sing was, "Dzzz wooo yajaba da do bad efffffff eba dod toome!"
@@DNHarris
They're not lyrics, they're a quote by him based on his life's experiences
Mic drop
The common denominator idea is very useful in self-analysis. I am a woman, been married once (so much fun!), and had several unsuccessful relationships. So in self-analysis I realized that the common denominator in all the failed relationships has been me, I chose the men I was with, I determined what pace the relationships were going in, and I ultimately made them all feel as if they needed to seek comfort elsewhere. This didn’t surprise me at all, I was raised by a strong/former military/highly intelligent man and so I looked for the same qualities in men that I dated. Whenever they fell short of my expectations I took over the relationships and essentially emasculated them.
When I finally recognized this, I reached out to my female friends and explained how the common denominator has always been me. Women in my life REFUSED to acknowledge that a woman can be the “bad” that ruins relationships. Their justification for MY failed relationships/marriage was that they guy was wrong, the guy was as an asshole, and that the guy I was dating was the problem. There appears to be a total denial in some (not all) females’ minds that a woman could be the problem. I am not sure if that’s the way they reflect their own issues/views upon others or what, but it definitely taught me a lot about people.
Love your videos! Please keep on doing what you do and thank you for bringing education and empowerment to men everywhere!
@@Eric-kn4yn I shall oblige: I SUCK AT RELATIONSHIPS AND IT IS ALL MY FAULT! Is that better?
Thank you for sharing this, it's insightful. I'm sure the denial can go both ways too. But yes, at the risk of sounding cliched, both parties need to do their part to make things work
There is a channel called The Happy Wife School where a woman talks about these very topics. Us women vs the good guy.
"Nightmare dressed like a daydream." That's a Taylor swift lyric, right? Don't ask how I know that
@Ethan G
Have you been ogling Taylor Swift Ethan?
@@michaelwilcox6090 who hasn't
@theskyiz Blue2day
Me for one, I 'm not connected to live TV nor waste my time watching it. I've been undoing the conditioning and brainwashing from it for many years. I don't miss the BS, celebrity freaks, lying deceiving politicians, greedy companies peppering me with adverts either. I only watch DVD boxed sets, or films of my choice on my TV. I've never seen Taylor Swift and don' ogle any woman, or lust after them. I'm not a homosexual either but am often gay. My sex drive is under my control and it only does what I tell it to when I want it to. I don't watch porn or masturbate either. I'm free of all that shit. I obviously watch RUclips and love it. If this Taylor Swift is a musician I wouldn't listen to her crap music either. Music died when punk rock arrived. I've got a 1,000 CDs and I believe it's the best music on the planet.
I can’t believe my ears when I heard parts 16:13-17:20 about personality disorder... I recently got out of the worst relationship of my life. We dated for a short time but it baffled me how quickly our relationship went from amazing and heavenly to hellish so fast. She changed so quick for the worst and I didn’t do anything different at all from the beginning to the end. She seriously messed my mind up having me think that I did something wrong and it was my fault.. this was eye opening and I’m glad I’m not crazy and heard from a certified professional exactly what I went through.
-Thanks Rich for your content and knowledge, this video here seriously helped me out so much. And guys take this advice hardcore: if you gotta be in a relationship take the time to break down and analyze their behavior and mind. I didn’t and it cost me a lot. I’m glad it didn’t cost me everything.
Women love plausible deniability (sliding into relationship phases)... "It just happened!" We're males, in other words we are wired to think linearly. This is why we prefer to know the destination aka the end game aka have a purpose for doing anything. This is why men lead and women follow! Let that sink in.
Salchih...I am a woman and I’ve seen the opposite quite a bit too, however. I’ve had 3 male friends I’ve known since adolescence who admittedly just “fell or slid” into marriages. When I’ve asked them why they got into bad situations, I’ve heard them say things like “oh, I was just along for the ride” or “I was blinded”. So my point is, I think it’s more common then you may think that men don’t think in a “linear” fashion all that much either. All of us, men and women both are susceptible to being seduced on lies. Sad but true.
@@npkrn6764 the difference between them and women is,
The guys truly were aloof or couldn't careless at the time due to consistent sex
While women cunningly appear to be aloof, when they know all along exaftly whay they're doing ex. Girl comes over to make dinner for Me or watch a netflix...and We end up having sex almost immediately but she femininely pretends to be surprised we ended up having sex while at My house alone...when We both know exactly what would happen. Lol.
That's the difference.
@@EriPages I agree with you as well! I've seen female friends/acquaintances be underhanded and conniving. I think men and women both in general and equally seem to be bad at one common attribute - which is honesty. That is to mean being not only honest with each other, but honest with ourselves. And if we can't cut through our own BS, how can we be honest towards another person? Sadly, there seems to be a pandemic of dishonesty (along with hypocrisy and drama) these days.
@@npkrn6764
Love is blind, infatuation is as well, so too is lust. You need nerves of steel, and tons of self control.
One important factor to consider when dating/getting into relationships is whether you are healthy enough to proceed with it. A lot of guys I’ve known, including myself, are ready to fill that hole in their lives right away and they wonder why things don’t go well. They haven’t taken any time to work on themselves. I get that it’s hard but stumbling blindly through dating is harder. I jumped right on those dating apps and realized I needed to take a step back. Meanwhile, some friends are telling me I should find a girlfriend. That’s another thing - a lot of people don’t want to hang out with you if you’re not one half of a couple, but we shouldn’t feel obligated to get into a relationship to make our friends happy.
Please get this guy back for another episode. So much great content with specific examples.
I agree. Excellent content. It's a double helping of street smarts/experience and academia. Great combo. Thank you.
What I noticed was that Women magazines were like a Manual for Finding the Right Man, Getting Married, getting Divorced, How to get Alimony. Men's magazines were about fast cars, sports, fighting, and DIY.
Hence why the last women magazine I bought was a Playgirl back in high school.
@@angelicafowl
You're really funny, but dangerous too, just the sort of woman who creates all the problems the men on this site face.
great video! I will be buying this book for my son's. To quote Darth Vader "it's too late for me"...
@Dokkasan
Beautifully put, love the humour and the realism.
Thank you man. I'm single and just met this girl a week ago so timing couldn't be better. You have done so much to help us guy's out. Will definitely pick this book up.
How things went after that?
Not sure if your girl will agree to you getting this book:))))))))))))
don't end up in court or broke or dead🙌
Or worse, completely broken.
Or worse.
This video is really interesting and I love the subject matter, but if I could just offer a bit of constructive criticism for the next interview. While your guest is speaking, perhaps it would be best to mute your own mic until you want to say something. It seems like every time there is sound on your end (such as moving your water bottle or clearing your throat) it lowers the volume on your guest's end which makes it hard to hear what he's saying at times.
White Rabbit True. True.
I'll tell my audio guy to get his shit together.
Entrepreneurs in Cars 😂😂
White Rabbit agreed!!
I disagree. Muting the guest for sipping noises was high comedy.
This book is phenomenal. Thanks Richard for the book review and interview. Sadly, I learned most of this the hard way. I'm 52. Giving a copy to my stepson to help him avoid many of the mistakes I've made with the wrong women.
Yep, I'm 62 and married a bipolar/manic-depressive woman. Divorce eventually followed. I have a 21 year old son who's doing well. I just ordered the book for him.
Really really good these are VERY clear and present dangers trust me, due to blue pill I've been in deep shit like this twice. Everyone who watches this should send it to as many friends as possible.
This is why my first test with anyone is to go hiking with them for a few days. Nature will literally show what it's got packed into someone when you're in the wilderness.
@Ichigoeki
A pal of mine used to do that in the 80s, he called it throwing them curved balls. It put some on tilt and had them steaming, but it did him no good. He's been married twice and made the same mistakes, and didn't fare well. He's one of my longest lasting friends, but if I was a woman I wouldn't marry him. He's as awkward as can be, full of contentiousness and very controlling.
As a mama of three boys 13 and two 10 years ... I am so interested in these topics. I really hope that I and their dad can help them along and make good choices and be happy in love and life.
did you guys have a divorce yet?
The last relationship I was in lasted 6 years, we bonded through talking about are family life and relationships with parents I failed to notice the significance of the fact that she had very little good to say about her parents... We weren't perfect as a couple but we were in love and I was devoted to her completely, she eventually broke up with me for very petty reasons and her reaction towards me and things she said were on the same level of what she said about her parent's.
Someone who doesn't appreciate people usually has nothing good to say and exasperates and or puts emphasis on the negative parts of the person she is no longer with.
I never hit her, rarely argued, I don't drink and focus on my career and would spend most of my free time with her... I was completely and utterly in love with her, yet according to her I was a bad partner.
Stay away not just from women like that but people like that, they do NOT appreciate a other people and what the friendships they have with them.
John Jones same happend to me bro, she did not blame me tough, she went victim mode...
Corey Wayne his book helped me understand were i went wrong. Wonen dont want a men that wines and dines them altough they might say so.
There is light at the end of the tunnel, just keep pushing forward!
Exactly the same happened. One ex for 4 years were in victim mode and always blame others and hated her own parents raised by a single mother. As much as a dime she was it's just not worth it.
You said the keyword there. Most of girls in this scenario have no appreciation. They just want someone to love them to fulfilled their own empty void. Worse cases may even turn out to be psychopaths.
Meeting the parents is such an overlooked phenomenon. This is so important, more so than I even realised at the time. When i met my wife, I met her parents very early into the relationship (more so than usual). They were such beautiful people and by observing and interacting with them I knew I had a good one!
@@joekool5005
That's the most important guide of all and overlooked by many at their peril. My dad used to say in the 1980s "Son before you pick your wife pick your mother in law" . This works out so well. She will have roughly 33% of her mothers genes and a lot of her mothers role modelling in her. Her dad is also important as the way he treated her and the way she treated him will be the way she will probably treat you. She will have 33% of her fathers genes and subconciously look for a man like him. Then she will have 33% of her own genes made up by their combination and the prevailing culture. You were very fortunate there's not many girls like that with good parents and to meet them early on, well you struck gold.
My ex wife had a bad relationship with her father. At the time it never occurred to me to consider it. I think most people can figure out what kind of wife she turned out to be.
I frequently treat men who have gotten screwed over by women. It's a big problem, especially with lower SES. Many of my clients had good outcomes, but many did not. It can sometimes take YEARS to really recover. Thanks for shedding light on the issue and reviewing the book.
Good comment on fathers not teaching you these skills when you are young. I often say, why did no one every teach me this, when I was younger. The only thing I can honestly say my parents taught me was a work ethic. Everything else I had to learn the hard way. With the internet, your you tube channel other channels, it is much easier to spot and avoid mistakes made by others in the present day. I like your format of interviewing authors on books you recommend. A great source of reading material in this subject area.
On your recommendation, I ordered the book this morning. Your work is valuable, thanks loads.
I glad there's a lot of material out here now for men. I remember a time when there was NOTHING for men. Only women.
My favorite thing is the 3 qualities of clarity: Reliablity, inquisitiveness, assertiveness. I have talked to many women about these things and they are all mind blow. Several of them admitted they didn't have any of them. It's a crazy concept but works so well.
Can explain further... I don't fully understand
Dam this is so GOOD! Highly, highly appreciate this interview and recommendation! This confirms all my suspicion and question's that i thought were necessary. Crazy how so many Men are walking in the dark!
I used to date a model with clinical depression and anxiety. Take it from me, run. Doesn’t matter how hot she is or what she brings to the table. Fucking RUN. That’s all I got to say.
I’ve just finished the “Rational Male” audiobook. This is next on my list. Thanks for the solid recommended reading list Richard.
My story with my X. Great channel. Reading Rich's book now and ordering this one tomorrow.
Thanks for bringing this book to my attention. I will be sure to check it out. Great content!
Awesome stuff, can only 100% confirm on what has been told from own experience. Just ordered the book!
Just brilliant work! Keep it up brother and stay healthy and well!
I was reading the free sample on my Kindle, bought it after 15 pages...I can't stop promoting both The tactical guide to women and The rational male. Once you've been thru rough times, and acknowledge your share of the mess, you can take action and create a better world for you and future partner.
Book is on its way, I can't wait!
Respect from Russia!!! I love the word TACTICAL!! Makes it sound like a battle ground!!!
I have to disagree with living together to test the relationship. I dated a woman for 6 years and I moved in to be sure. Within a month, I saw things she was able to hide from me that turned out to be deal-breakers. I moved out within 4 months and avoided a huge mistake.
Things like? (So I can learn from your spotted red flags)
What kind of things
TELL US! Lol please
This is amazing, thanks big brother!
As a 22 year old man, these types of videos are so beneficial
Thank you Rich.
Great interview! The dude killed it. Just bought the book!!
It’s funny how this is relevant to what happened to me recently.
So there was someone I spoke with and traded bants with on the regular until she found out I was single and the discussion went to relationships and what was important “from the beginning”. I’ve had my own share of bad relationships choices that I knew what I wanted from the get go and demonstrated it to her. Next thing I know she changes her display pic (implicit face reveal) and the discussion came to her. And based on cooper’s videos I instinctively knew WHAT was going on. THAT HAS NEVER HAPPENED to me before. But now I know, and seeing this video today was no accident.
Thank you for the work you do
After watching the video and reading the comments, I’m shocked and saddened that relationships have become less about love and more about psychological warfare.
Sadly enough, we live in an age of comparisons and calculations in which we live through full of fear of disappointment and deception. Nobody is secure.
@L Colak
You have to change your tactics according to the prevailing conditions. However you are right overall, there are a lot of negative, loser men around who have been f****d over. Yet in many cases it will be their own fault as they won't have exactly been saints or angels themselves. Their judgement won't have been good either. Everyone gets just what they deserve, but hardly anybody ever seems to be able to see this. They'll keep getting punished until they do, or die.
9 to 18 months?? Whoa! Thank God that i noticed and got off it in 7!
You know instinctively if she is worth even one ounce of effort. When you try to engage with her and she ignores you or doesn't even try to get it, move on, she's wasting your time.
This, 100% right ✅
Another very interesting video, great channel! Thanks Richard.
Great video Richard. Looking forward to the book.
Great interview.
Definitely looking forward to buying the book..
Interesting information here...for both male and female
Thanks RICH
This book was my second purchase from your site.
Soap was the first.
Thank you for your content it’s helped me immensely BROTHER.
Best vid from your channel ive watched so far. Wish it went longer.
Best video you've done to date
Can relate to every point
What if people saved sex and entangled finances for after they got married? Seemed to work well for the vast majority of human history.
drivesmecrazy1000 lol, as boring as it sounds, this is right imo
Yeah that worked when the life expectancy was 30-35. People got married at 13 so that theory could have worked. Now that we live to 75-85 that is not going to translate
DevilzDance81 Life expectancy in Rome was about 80 as well
@@DevilzDance81 this is the kind of bs that causes so much confusion these days.
@@Bob-fz7pd
Agreed people will always come up with an explanation or excuse for doing the wrong thing.
I’m living thru this exact experience. I broke all of these rules. Lesson learned the hard way. This video has hit home. I’m currently going thru a divorce with a woman’s that I moved in early and mingled her with my business very early on.
I bought this book and haven’t started reading it yet. Nice one for the review.
Second time seeing this video. So important topic since it’s the foundation for a lot of other relationship challenges.
This channel's so good it caused me to switch off my AdBlock.
ONLY IN USA. In Romania there is no common law marriage and if you live with someone together it doesn't mean SHIT. So let's get that straight out. Please say this.
Coach Corey Wayne broke the code already but you guys add a lot of value. Thanks!
ANOTHER HOME RUN VIDEO!!!
Truth!!
Thanks!!
Your advise is full of wisdom. Thank you!
💯👊🏽 real talk.... I had these experiences back to back...
Awesome. 3 points for having healthy relationships
Just bought the book on kindle, Looking forward to read
Interesting interview. Very useful channel. No misogyny ....just good common sense.
Interesting interview. I'm kind of on the verge of taking back my sanity.Dealing with Crazy (as Paul Elam and T. Palmatier calls him/her) isn't easy.
Embrace the facts , thank you f this book recommendation 📚
Phenomenal stuff!
Audio issues on this vid Rich. Still, great video. I’ll be picking up this book for sure!
my step-father saved my mother and she treated him as piece of shit, but I'm thankful to him for providing for my life
Amazing content!
i loved that, the series of small decisions. you just dont want them to start being made without you
Great video!
About to purchase the book tomorrow
"A good woman"... Sounds like a winged unicorn, riding on a rainbow...
they are very very rare..
This is brilliant! 👌
Thank you Sir for your insight.
I loved this! You are right, we have to be intentional in life. I'm 23 and I'm just starting to realise this. Do you have any recommendation for women on choosing the right man ?
This is bloody brilliant!!!!!
Fantastic! Thank you.
Very interesting. Will buy the book.
Good view. Rich your videos are the only ones I dont mind Ytub recommending me from 2-3years back. :D
I really appreciated this interview - getting a rational male view is extremely helpful for a woman. We should all be making an attempt to talk about relationships in a calm, thoughtful way. I have thought of myself as someone with BPD tendencies when under relationship stress. What do you think a guy would want to know about that at the beginning. i.e. how much detail is enough? What kind pf phrasing would be useful to hear, as a kind of red flag, but so that the conversation might continue?
Richard - PLEASE look at the settings for the software that you use for these interviews. It has your mic as a priority mic and your guests mic as a subordinate. Any sound on your mic attenuates the mic of your guest...example at 7:57. If you adjust the settings to take out the priority for your mic, the audio will come across as a normal conversation. Cheap talk show hosts use the settings you currently have to be able to talk over their guests, but it only detracts from your conversation here. I hope this makes sense because it as meant as constructive, not critical. Thank you!
He knew EXACTLY what he was doing...
Yep, keep your minds eye and eye of the heart open!!!
This was a great book, just finished it, highly highly recommend
Thank you for a great video
thank you for this information
If we (men and women) maybe attended some couples counseling or read some books together and discussed them PRIOR to getting more serious, meaning living together or merging assets in any way, then I think we could all save ourselves a lot of heartache and BS. Too many get deeply involved before really knowing the other person - or before really knowing THEMSELVES!
Just ordered this book
Nice
Have yiu looked into using Google hangouts for webchats its native to RUclips and integration is seamless. No audio issues like on Skype
Trent Julien I've used it before, works better... Agreed
I'm proud to be one of your rational sisters from another mister!
Rational Sister, Diet Coke oxymoron.
Yeeeah. He doesn't call women that anymore. There's no such thing. It took me a while to understand that... I'm 26 now and It finally sunk in for me yesterday. I'm done thinking women can ever be rational. No matter how intelligent she is.... Instinct is instinct.
Happy to me you my rational sister.
@ajm dantonio
You seem like you're cool for cats, but your musical tastes aren't.
@She-Ra Princess of Power
Where did you get that from? I've seen you on another channel earlier yesterday for me and today for you. That's if you're American, I'm English and about 5-6 hours ahead of you depending on where you live. So what music do you like I have a 1,000 CDs and they're not all Bob Dylan. You could pop over and see me sometime that's if you can swim 4,200 miles which should be a doddle for someone with a name like yours.
I'll have to look into the book.
Just finished this, and bought my Brother his own copy.
I ordered it, hope it’s as good as bachelor pad economics.
I have to say this to all the men, both young and old, who have watched this video. Please heed the advise of the gentlemen in this video. Had this been available to me eight years ago, I would've avoided the devastating end result of a 'charade' disguised as a relationship.
Damn I have beeen looking for somthing like this for Years. Great tool to have
Hi Richard....could you do a piece on the importance to reject the expression "Man Up!" ?? Its ubiquitous these days even in TV commercials (which I veto any product that uses it). ThanksCheers!
betteryoubetter What's wrong with that expression ?
mrcarepig summed it up perfectly (thanks). Its a condition term to shame us into doing something they need or want; "be a hero" is another one!! (coming from a woman....its more like "be my bitch")....watch EIC's piece on "Briffault's Law"....cheers!
betteryoubetter Just laugh or smirk in the event of shaming.
PD, hit the nail on the head... Most women carries this trait, dormant until the you know what ...
hahaha I went through all of this, wrecked my life, the last 5 years of my 20's were painful. I got cheated on more than 5 times... fortunately I bounced back and worked on myself and I must say I am doing very well now. The lesson was worth the outcome but the experience could have been prevented. Thankyou for this.
That’s the key. Learn from others mistakes!!!!
I got his book on order.