Can You Live With a Woman and Not Get Taken Advantage Of?
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- Опубликовано: 11 окт 2017
- I'm really enjoying your channel, just recently found it and so far best on you tube! This is I think anyhow a tough question or two with a bit of harsh reality. I guess when i was in my twenties I decided I didn't trust women enough and decided I wanted to grow our family farm into a huge business...fine all going good and life happens, i was somewhere in the middle of Alfa or beta...had no problems getting girls i just didn't want to have a mistake wreck my future. So for my 30th birthday I got a brain tumour...had a real "end of life epiphany" ! You won't ever find a person about to die worrying about money and things....honest to god! So...long story, i lived but i did lose vision in one eye. Now I'm no longer "attractive" and at 40 decide to try internet dating, well dam...a happy ending! Well at least i thought for 7 yrs, finally found she was a real "true" narcissist...but by then she was divorcing me and had taken "everything"! I found it all out too late...she was off with new guy, brand new house, debt free while i was left homeless, living in a rat hole motel not 2 cents to my name...lawyers bills etc all while still making a 6 figure income. So...I'm neither a red or blue pill. I do know money and work without someone to enjoy it with doesn't make me happy, yet true love doesn't exist. Honestly I've tried since the divorce but I'm just not really into casual sex that much, or even shallow relationships. I really enjoyed being married but I'm just too old to risk it again....seems like even living together is almost as risking ....what am i missing?? Can you have a serious relationship with a woman and not risk losing your shit? Would you live with a woman again? (I know you won't marry again)
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Protection doesn't just mean condoms. Arm yourselves with knowledge gentlemen.
JJSmith Lago Condoms alone will never protect any man from the claws of women......warfhhhh
"Women cannot love men in the way men want to be loved" - this is the hardest pill to swallow. The ultimate Red Pill.
E R ooh that is deep. I love it.
Is the reverse also true; men cannot love women the way women want to be loved??
I believe this is true more in modern times but once upon a time especially during world wars and after the war a lot of men and women truly loved each other and fought for each other. Also they loved fellow human as well. We have lost empathy and understanding in our societies for the most part.
Mele Nico Mele you must have heard of ‘dear John letters during the war? Don’t be fooled nasty women have existed since the beginning of humanity! Jeez just look at some female characters in Shakespeare. Heard of Lady Macbeth?
They want mommy to love them. Surprise we're not mommy. We expect men to be responsible. And act like the man of the house.
Men look to women as a life long companion. Women look to men as a growing investment with an option to cash out.
Perfect!!!
Spot on
Wow just WOW ....
Its actually a two way thing. Men are great role models for their children. By making wise decisions . And doing his part to help in the relationship. Obviously you never watch a hard working mom. From early in the morning their multi tasking. They ware many hats. From cooking to making sure everyone's ok. Ans anything in between. And shes usually the last person to go to sleep.whilev ever one is sleeping. Both give100% . And everything will go somewhat smooth.
@@victoriabenavidez They're multitasking, they wear many hats. Never too late to learn wise Latina woman.
Got married. Got divorced after 5 years of marriage (she was fooling around). Had one kid (love him dearly), but he lives with his mum, because she wanted the child support money. 15 years later I am still paying child support. He is 20 years old and still going to university. The burden never seems to end even though she has a better job and I struggling with medical issues.
I will never get married again and of that I am certain. I can't even think of women in a romantic ways anymore. They all look ugly and monstrous to me. I now live a quiet single life and I find that I am much more content, grounded and happier. Go figure.
Seems like ur women was a certified monster. Stay strong brother
Few nightmare experiences can make us so bitter, dont lose faith, become stronger everyday and cut out any toxic woman from your life when she starts her shits, always be prepared to take the L, always.
Hey Hollywood! I am so very sorry that you have been treated that badly. You can still develop friendships with women. After being open to the friend level relationship, you might want to take another shot at it. Being old and alone is really dangerous. Still, it you have a good relationship with your son that's good. I hope things look better in the future.
I'm sad for you :(
Kid needs the money and seems that he is successful because of it-college
damn i just broke off with a woman mostly because she was pressuring me into marriage within 6 months of being with her and how insecure she was, i asked her why so soon? she said ' i want security and a home to be my own' my gut was like FUCK NO and you better leave her now, and i did, ive been watching your videos since i broke off with my ex and i have to say thanks for all the awesome advice you are a good man, you made me take the red pill!
oh yea your right on that, she was offering and trying hard, but i saw past that crap and i didnt want to ruin my life and even my family and friends were all saying you better not be stupid and break it off now with a insecure and controlling woman
What she really meant was; you pay for her home.
I choose to present my self as the bad biker boy. That way I have nothing for anyone to take!
dodged an RPG. Phew!
Same here. The longer it went the more I was like nope
Proverbs 5:3-4 "For the lips of an immoral woman are as sweet as honey, and her mouth is smoother than oil. But in the end she is as bitter as poison, as dangerous as a double-edged sword".
Deep! Love it excellent quote
Brilliant 👍🏼 ; it's amazing isn't it ~ Since I started reading the Bible in earnest just how many warnings there are in it about women ..🤔👍🏼.. Go figure ... .
Sure were some Wise old Scribes even in ancient times..
Yeah that's why all religion look women on lesser ways. They know the danger.
@@bjorn7427 Go Full Islam!
Truth
Suddenly I'm glad I'm living alone, dogging bullets....
I got talking to a guy working on my house. He's getting divorced and his ex has got his house. He bought the house before meeting her. He stupidly added her to the deeds in 2002. She pushed for divorce and got his house. He's 52 and will probably never get another mortgage.
I wonder if you can put personal assets into a trust to keep it off the table in a divorce.
In my divorce, my ex tried getting me to sell my rare motorbikes but she couldn't because they were in my Ltd company and she wasn't a director HAHAHAAAAAA!
i second that.. holy fuck. so maybe it's best to just pay for sex then?
Dave G Crazy shit man!
Yes you can but you have to put it in a irrevocable trust before you get married but once the government sees you protecting yourself they will make you pay more in alimony and take what they can from you so basically you'll be fucked anyway
Find a good asset protection attorney that understands 0ffshore entities. A judge cannot take assets where he has no jurisdiction. This is all completely legal. In my opinion if you have assets that someone could steal, they should be owned by an offshore entity, maybe 2, for an LLC in one jurisdiction that is held by a trust in another, these should be kept secret from anyone but you. That being said, it's still a good idea not to marry or live together.
Solution, don’t move in together, and most definitely don’t get married.
No matter how I look at it, it's not fundamentally so much problem with women, as it is problem with the state.
If state does not allow the woman to leave you and take all your money, she will not leave you nearly as quickly...
Right...The state encourages women to screw their MEN.. It Is Not the women ; it is the state
I want to believe you are right
It’s simple Don’t listen to the sate
So...what your saying is that women love very government more than the man they marry and claim to love.....well, isn't that fucking great!
Relationship wise. It’s the women’s fault, the ins and outs that they wanna take and not give anything. It’s sad.
The world has gone full circle.
In Africa, Kenya to be precise... Before colonization and modernization, men did not live with women in the same house.
A man had several wives but his house was his house... The wives built their own houses withing the man's compound but never lived in his house.
The man would invite the woman of his preference to his house whenever he wanted to have sex... On the other hand, women used to have warriors visit them in their houses... when she is visited the warrior would stick a spear outside her door.
The benefit of the married man is that they had access to leadership positions in such a society unlike the warriors who only protected the community but we're allowed to have access to the wives.
The world has gone full circle. Now men are gradually choosing to live alone, and invite different women for sex... Women too get visited by different men.
Nothing is new under the sun.
Kenyan Man 247 also in Africa an unmarried woman has little use to the village and are shunned, expelled , or eaten.
@@curelable where in Africa? don't just say trash because you feel like it.
Biafran Lastborn please read the many first hand accounts of the pre colonial explorers and ivory hunters from the 1800s. There is a ton of information for the curious, unbiased scientific mind.
@sonoftherisingsun6464 he said Kenyan. Please read without emotions. Some East African tribes in rural areas practice this till today like the Massai and Samburus.
Answer is no, happened to me after 20 years, kids meant more to me than her, but she ended up with them. They contact me but I have a restraining order the kids contact me but I cant contact them.
michael 476 i have similar situation. It sucks.
Which system? The whole world is a conspiracy, yeah? muahahaha :-) That is why people cast their vote for Trump, right?
Really sorry to hear that mate. At least they keep in touch.
That is so fd up
I have never been with a woman that didn't use me. They never love you....just love what you can do for them.
Dating these days should be treated like a murder trial. If you have a shadow of a doubt, mistrial your ass out of the relationship.
Thats what I did!
Sounds like Canada has more relationship pitfalls than an Indiana Jones movie...
We gave them the vote.
No america is the worst place. Girls text 1,000,000,000 men a day and never tell them no or to stop. You are better off finding prostetutes than committing.
After everything I have read about Red Pill Mindset I have come to the conclusion modern Women are the modern day Sirens from Greek methology. They lure you in with their beauty and have the potential to totally destory your finance life and may be personal if they choose. That is scary. I am always mindful of this with every woman I meet or date. To use Star Trek line "Shields up!". It's shame it's come to this. I really like women.
Agree
Agree 💯, I might be going through this life solo forever.
Nothing is free. Pay for prostitutes then.
I think as a female who was raised by a single father, I may have a different view on things, but a big issue always seems to be money. Don’t get with the chick if she can’t support herself without you. And always have your own money, your own savings, whatever it may be.
@Amir here here
If she can support herself without you, then you serve no purpose. You will only be monkey-branched. This is bad advice.
So true. I been on the opposite side. But could handle myself. Had my own place.
Once you are married all assets are joint, regardless of the account name.
I appreciate that your videos are to the point and not too long and verbose. Most video producers seem to love to hear themselves talk, so this is refreshing!!!!!
There are plenty of ways around the "common law marriage" situation.
Keeping a separate place of residence such as keeping a mailing address and room at a friends place.
Having a false marriage such as an "on papers" gay marriage to a close friend complete with contracts and pre-nups
Having a roommate at the same time she is living with you.
Having her sign a subleasing contract so that by law she is a roommate, not a live in partner. Even if you are only charging her 20$ a month in rent it DOES legally make her a roommate not a partner. (make sure that you have copies of receipts for every month she is with you)
Other rules to live by
Always have her form her own contracts.
Never let her use your last name
Never co-sign anything with her
Never refer to her as a spouse or girlfriend on any kind of document
You don't know what you're talking about.
no, dude. then what's the point in even being with her?
For the love of god NO!! I was 0-3 living with women, in my blue pill days; and will never do it again.. Keep your own personal space, and don't let her move her shit in.. If she presses you, you need to be confident enough to walk away from the relationship..If you want to be stressed, get fat,have less sex, pay more bills, and have her lose respect for you, have her move in with you...
Dano smith three times?
Thank you!! Finally someone says it!!!!! D Smith! Please write a book 🙏
A dating app ad came up in the middle of this video. Ironic shit.
Was it the new Tinder ad?
i am a muslim male and have none of the problems that are mentioned in various red pill channels. my heart bleed for my western brothers. the worst thing in my opinion in western legal system is taking away children from their fathers .
i also think the MGTOW is a solution in short term but in long term the solution has to been radical is legal system and family court system
Bilal Tariq you're right brother.
This man a monster psikopath he broken heart one with single mother and wanna make bad influences by stereotype bad all divorce woman.only dumb sheep who follow . leaders mind won't follow
Not compatible with current western law unfortunately
Sharia? NO. NO. NO. NO. NO. NO........ Hell no , till jehanam freezes over. No thanks; first step to re establishing the caliphate.. the wolf dressed in sheep's clothing.
I agree with you. This is what I propose after giving it much thought. Western men can have their wives, children and property as well as authority in the home. The only problem is they can not have it in the West. Therefore, I want Western men to move to traditionalist countries and start families and businesses there. If enough of us do this, the West will be forced to make the laws fair again. Why? Because the West will have to choose between survival or becoming a footnote in history. God bless you in whatever you do.
I got out of this situation living together common-law (ontario canada). I was VERY careful, and we split it saved me. When purchasing a vehicle, I bought before we moved in together. When we rented a place together, lease was only in my name (I wrote her receipts). Things like that to cover myself. When our child was born, we lived separately, the gov't put us together instantly. I maintained a different address, so when court time came up. I had different addresses for employment, insurance etc .
Thanks for the video, Rich. The value you provide is incredible, I keep sharing your channel. Men deserve to know.
I just moved in with a woman two months ago and already lost all my shit.
I was not in a live-in relationship for a long time because i knew the risks, but i thought, "stupidly" and moved in with her after her brain seizure. I cared for her, paid the majority of the bills and ended up putting up with a lot of abuse. As a result i ended up on jail, lost my job, and lost virtually everything else. A recent event and still trying to recover from it.
true love exists : IF YOU LOVE YOURSELF!
Your channel is very good. Thanks for all your hard work and sweat.
Awesome Richard, thanks for the video! All are helpful
Thanks for all your advice and brotherly love my friend.
Live in wales, uk and after Five years of living with a woman who basically walked out on me for not much of a reason, she admitted this herself later. Basically it boiled down to her waiting for me to beg her to come back so then she called the shots, as I would never allow this, when she saw this was not happening she later asked if I would consider us getting back together. I very lovingly told her I was still the same person as when she left and that I could not now trust her as she had changed and now wants to change back. So lovingly I said no fucking chance. I did call my solicitor and asked her for advise as I was told that 5 years constitutes as a living partner. My solicitor said it was a myth in the uk regarding common law wife and that it did not exist. I looked it up and 1546 was when this was abolished.
Hope it helps people in the uk that like me follow you.
Keep up the vital work
🏄♂️🌈💫
Thanks for educating those of us that are unaware. Unfortunately we learn the hard way.
Wow the family law is really fucked up smh.
Thanks for doing these videos, I really appreciate it.
If she's Bipolar.
Pump, dump and run !
I've got a little story... might be a little off topic though. Last year, my sister, her young son and I went to some shops in the factory outlet shopping place in town one day. My nephew wanted to go in the little sweet shop there. While in there, two boys and a girl aged about 12 came in and were making a lot of noise, acting erratic and running about. They were talking and I heard one of the boys say "I've already spent £8 on you". This was to the girl, who was hopping about like an over charged battery. First thing I thought was MGTOW and I'm a woman. A girl of 12 already has that mindset of boys spending money on her and she wasn't acting grateful and modest, it was after hoovering up more from him. Good thing that the 12 year old boy said no to her.
This is totally on topic ma’am 🤷🏻
Don't color the beard. Keeping the gray shows you're confident, unashamed and lets people know you've earned your stripes.
Maybe he still doesnt care but wants to color it
What do woman think about a beard like that when you eating them out?
You have to very careful with any lawyer's advice good or bad. They almost always find a way to drum up work from you.
I love this channel!
Regardless, I'm still gonna watch the awesome videos!
Greetings from Saskatoon brother! :)
Good advice and thanks for saying ladies .
Amazing channel so much to learn.
Appreciation from Glasgow, Scotland👍🏻
+1 another Glaswegian subscriber.
Me too!!
Fellow Scot here
The best advice. Thank you
Opinion: Dating in separate spaces would be most ideal if quality time is the common interest to establish levels of relationship status. Living together removes independence and perhaps creates suggestive dependency or neediness..Independence and self sustaining individuals appreciate one another’s company without cutting it away or sticking it in a vase...does possession denote love or is the possibility of a relationship feasible while maintaining separate living arrangements? Why would either benefit by living together without commitment? Everything is not about money in relationships. When the primary focus is financial, what is important seems misplaced.
6 months living together in BC is married. But I never got divorced from my ex 15 years ago, so I have an out.
Yes. There's nothing ugly about a blind eye, it's confidence that makes a person attractive. PS. I like that you call us ladies your rational sisters :)
SAME.. i'm rational mate and i like my own shit
Lovelyday Vegan there it is a rational one!
Emmanuel Kofy Agyapong thanks. I like to think so! :-)
Nice comment but we're onto you :p
Lovelyday. He doesn't mean it, he is just trying to appease you evil bitches. Shekels makes a man attractive. A blind eye is ugly if it is looking somewhere else from the good eye.
Be pro active. Great advice
difficult to hear, but very much needed.
I lost vision in my right eye when I had a car wreck in 1974 (i was 5 weeks old back then and seat belt laws were lax at best).
I have had 42 years to adapt to the disability, seems he recently lost his vision.
As for being attractive. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
I assume he is not horribly disfigured.
Anyway.. love yourself first before trying to love another person (ie: romantic)
There is a book called "Living Together: A Legal Guide to Unmarried Couples" Basically, get an attorney to draw up papers stating you both have no intention in getting married and agree to the terms of how assets will be divided. As well as everything else connected to the relationship. It's like a prenup without getting married. It makes sense if both of you have assets you don't want touched going into a relationship. But good luck finding a woman who has nothing or less than you, agree to signing a contract. So buy the book and save the consultation fees until you are ready to move in with someone. I'd rather spend the $25 for the book than $400 for an attorney. ( I didn't mean your consults Richard. I'm sure a ton of people would benefit greatly from your wisdom.) Good topic brother. Thinking about Red Pills tattooed on my palms. What do you think?
$400 can save you $40,000 or more. Spend the money.
Now this is the shit I was hoping to see in the video but wasn’t. I want to know what to do and how. I already know women don’t care about us and never will.
She can have the contract thrown out under emotional distress. They literally do this ALL THE TIME. She tells the judge she felt pressured and ITS OVER
Another guy who doesn't know what he's talking about.
❤ This video ❤ Richard Cooper, thanks
i am a subscriber now!
the social media trick that woman did with photos. Never heard of that one. Glad i know now. Thanks
Long term relationships and marriage are sure fire ways to be taken advantage of.
Speaking of man-friendly lawyers, especially in Canada, I'd like to point you to Mr. Carey Linde. Although he usually deals with consequences of men not thinking ahead, his recent book - 'Dad - Win Without a Lawyer' can be read in a way as 'what to do differently beforehand in order to get yourself a better position'. Or maybe, 'why you should not do this at all'))
I feel for you man. The courts needs to sued from all the men in Canada.
Well-known Pennsylvania (USA) divorce lawyer here. Rich is 100% spot on when he states it is a good idea to book time with a divorce lawyer in your jurisdiction before cohabitating with someone. You do NOT want to find out the hard way that you may have obligations you never even considered after living with someone. You want red pill awareness. Best of luck.
Moving in with my girlfriend ain't gonna happen. Hell, I'm the king of my own castle and it's going to stay that way for a very long time
700+ Thumbs Up bro!
Have a girlfriend all you want but very weary of living with them..
Eleven 11 I think you mean wary. Weary means tired, wary means cautious
@@BefuddledBumpkin Thank you! I just now saw this comment
The way I've personally looked at the bp/rp difference is as an internalized mindset. At the beginning it's good to look at it abstractly as a set of lenses / framework which helps you to understand what's going on, but in the long run, to "make it stick" so to speak you I'd say you need more than just understanding - you need acceptance.
That's what leads to the Internalisation, acceptance of the core principles and ideas, letting go of your previous beliefs and accepting that the new rp ideas are what you believe now. To go along with the analogy it's the difference between getting your bad eyes lasered vs keeping the glasses but running the risk that you'll lose them, misplace them or forget about them.
Thank you for your channel, sir.
What is your opinion on prenumps?
Get one.
As you said, Red and Blue pill basically want the same thing... Red pill guys just don’t want it at any cost. Took me a long time to get there! But once you get there, what a peaceful place to be!!
My mother left me her house and told me it protect me and not share it with a woman. She was very wise and loved me very much. She saw me get screwed a couple times.
Always have some side action.
Here in Prince Edward Island, there is no splitting of property for common law, no matter how long you've been together.
Man you bossed this topic
The answer is yes....but not in the western world.
7:45-8 is perfect
Hello!
I just discovered your channel. I'm loving it!
Sincerely, A rational Sista' 🙄
I lost most of my vision in my left eye while in the Military. Never stopped me from getting a woman.
In my country, you don't have to be living together to be "taken advantage of". If you shower her with gifts and such, if she can prove that she's a dependant when you break up she'll can take you to court for a micro-divorce. And you'll have to provide for her, for 2-5 years it could be longer than but not forever (must be less than 10years) or you can be ordered to pay her a given sum of money to help her set herself up.
Women can not love men in a way men want to be loved!
True to that. Is like when women do grocery shopping they think groceries are made and harvested behind the double swing doors at the grocery store. That kind of mentality
Thanks rich. I'm currently with a woman whom I want to marry but is on the fence due to how America is these days. Atleast you're giving me advice on what to do should I decide to pull that trigger. I love her, but I'm not ignorant to the ways of women.
There are books about how to protect yourself for couples who wants to live together.
Give me some references please!
Should do some more of your awesome financial videos ..
I like your videos, but you have a misguided view of MGTOWs. Sure there are crazies in every group, but from my experience, a lot of MGTOWs are contributing members of society making six figures that have been through a divorce or two and have just become fed up with female nature in a gynocentric society. Marriage is just too much of a shitty deal. Mind you, we're not MRAs, since MGTOW is not a political movement. Most MGTOWs don't show their face because of the back lash from feminists, MRAs, and trad cons. I guess some people don't like men they can't use.
I see I have offended a few MGTOWs and, it was taken out of context. I'll explain my adoption of RPA & MGTOW in a later video.
Do Cohabitation agreements and prenups help?
I had a great advertiser experience; Richard, did Scott Galloway pick advertising with you because he liked your avatar?
Who? What?
For loops. He's a computer programmer.
I really would like to ask you, if you looked on relationship from MBTI (personality test) standpoint, i found out, that Iam almost quaranteed to have sucessful relationship with person which is typologically close to me... ..just something to think about...
It’s 3 years of cohabitation before a common-law spouse could attempt to claim spousal support. It is fairly rare to be granted though. As for assets, each person (under Ontario law) leaves only with what they came into the relationship with. If joint assets are accumulated during the relationship, those might be split, but the party must provide evidence to the effect that the asset was joint.
anyone know the living arrangement laws in Florida?
I was in a relationship for 37 years...we divorced...and split everything 50/50...i don't understand the initialment. .that these women feel...im glad I'm not like them ...peace
Red pill men don't invest beyond a womans worth , blue pill men invest far beyond what is necessary....
ONE WORD PRE-NUP!
This is a BRILLIANT SEGMENT.
This is the male version of a GENDER STUDIES class at public university.
I never want to move in with a man. I’d rather be together everyday, never moving in...
In mexico i guess is 5 years to validated the living together as a marriage anyway i live by the border san diego ca. And yes i only have one daughter with an ex girlfriend paying my child support then married a beautiful model and got divorce cost me a lot of $$ i did survived and I'm happy to have found Richard as a coach.
I have some experience in these maters up here in Canada . Was married 13 years and 3 kids. If you must cohabit or marry a woman or man do so with some one that has more to lose then you. Don't have children as these well be used agents you and tear your heart out. Never never disclose what $ you have and where. Make sure they love you more then you love them. And always remember, no mater what lawyer you have you can not fight the current feminist government and there laws. In other words they have destroyed what we called the traditional marriage. Men in Canada are royally screwed.
In the U.S. 28 states have abolished common law marriage. There are only a handful that still recognize it. I say it is possible to have a long term live-in relationship with a woman, but you have to set the ground rules at the beginning and not waiver. I had two bad marriages and soul destroying divorces, but for the past 17 years have co-habitated with the same woman. She had a bad marriage and divorce also and had no desire to be married again. We re-affirm this desire every year on our anniversary. We re-affirm every year that either is free to leave at any time without resistance from the other. We keep our finances separate. We keep our personal choices separate. What we share together is companionship, conversation, sex, and respect. Some say I am lucky. I say it wouldn't exist if it wasn't this way because I would not stay in another relationship that tried to prevent me from being true to myself. Thanks brother for helping these other brothers.
and bought ur book!
The moral decline of the West. I've been reading Nitezche for a while now and can see how his ideas are beginning to take hold. Decadence everywhere. I don't think I can bring my children up in the West
yes, it can be done. she has to have her own job, own money, own bank account and respect that you have yours as well in all the above categories I've mentioned. when you want to discuss buying things together, then both of you decide together and then go and do that. when your with her in the same place you decide who pays for what. do it 50/50 . if you marry, then she has to understand that everything you make will be used to pay bills and taxes first and then everything else.
Guys, read about Borderlines and Narcissist. 80% of borderlines are women. You need to educate yourself about them, so you will know to detect them. Many women have traits of these personality disorders (so does men). In most divorces one of the partners have a stronger personality disorder. many people that are considered usual have simply weak personality disorder.
My wife is a borderline. Its insane difficult. But she can heal from this, she is already changing, i forced on us therapy. Its either you fight with them (personality disorders) and lose everything or you heal them. Many guys recover their relationship. If the kids are super important for you, DO IT. therapy is better than divorce.
these videos are awesome, but the same stories you hear about women here. there are many cases of fucked up husbands who are usually Narcissistic.
All these borderlines disorder people which fuck your life, your kids life..are caused by their shitty childhood, so therapy is a solution but difficult. If you are already married, go to therapy. Its too common to have a personality disorder (and hard to detect until the children come)..so yeah, better to stay single..and better polyamorous.
Dude, the chances of her recovering are nearly zero and even more importantly: it's not your job to fix her! Stop trying to do this. Borderlines and narcissists will string you along for years "going to therapy" after which they'll declare themselves "better" or "no longer in need of therapy". Their goal is not therapy but to avoid change and uncertainty.
Short answer: no! Don't trust her
well... why not to sign a prenup agreement?
READ THE RATIONALE MALE ; best thing I can say here
You have an american/canadian point of view because you live there obv.
Does anyone know how it is in european countries? interesting for me germany especially.
The answer is no
What about states that don't recognize common law marriage?
This is why I call myself a red pill guy over a MGTOW. Huge difference. I still have and seek healthy relationships with women (family, friends, lovers), but they do not dictate my life.