How Should I Pursue Women?
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- Опубликовано: 22 мар 2017
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Hello Richard,
I've been following your channel for a while now. I love your honesty, and your empiricism. I'm 26 going on 27 this year in December, and graduated from engineering school less than a year ago.
I consider myself a late bloomer. I've struggled with self-esteem and confidence issues for as long as I can remember, I've only recently made breakthroughs with the help of a wonderful therapist. I used to think I wasn't a man because I wasn't having sex with lots of beautiful women, it seemed like everyone else was. Sometimes I feel like I've fallen too far behind.
Should it be a priority to start pursuing women? perhaps like a pickup artist? What do you think about porn, prostitution, and strip clubs? Are these healthy environments for men? Thank you.
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Thanks for watching, leave a comment below for this subscriber, what do you think or PUA, porn, prostitution and strippers?
Corey Wayne is also a great life coach to check out, his view on women, the way they act and why they act that way is 100% spot on, definitely worth checking out, helped me out a lot. Love the videos btw, keep up the awesome work :)
For men; money is a means towards sex. For women; sex is a means towards money.
Nothing to say specifically about this video, Richard. Just thanks for all of them.
In his shity glass, he talks shit. He thinks he knows how to give his shit out. Disgusting
jun yang Really? Tell me more.
Who knew Triple H could give such great advice?
Wheres X-Pac?
He’s from Greenwich vro he’s of high pedigree
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The Gaaaaame💪😂
He did pull a billionaire heiress 🤔
here's one thing every man should know: EVERYONE gets rejected.
Not me bro’s. I’m undefeated.
Jk
@@Someguy8822 jaja
Even Leo?
Manology 101. Hollywood fucked us.
You’re her 4th first choice.
"Fuck all this nonsense pua, strip clubs, porn, whatever" immediately grabbed my gym bag and went out the door. Thanks for the motivation.
Gyms are the new night clubs !
All High School Boys should be taken on field trips to Family Court.
So men know just what kind of monster they are pursuing.
Fact.
Great Point!
Given that majority of the teachers are woman, they won't let that happen.
@@Phsoco And judges. I was just screwed by one a couple of months ago. And not in the good way!
@@jnordne2 I get ya
That's a brilliant idea!
How should I pursue women?
Answer: Don't!
Mind your business, work on achieving your goals and act indifferent towards women. By doing that women will pursue you instead.
100% spot on
What about approaching? How is a woman going to pursue if she doesnt know about you?
or they'll just assume your ether married or with someone witch has been my case for many years now when I've been Single after my divorce in 2005 its now 2018 Women are hooked to there phone's like its a drug and more forecast on that then anything else so I don't want anything to do with them at the same time I desperately want a Women in my life??? but there ruined due to the Digital Age Facebook!? so I'm trying to save money for a prostitute? I'm very much an introvert happy being alone
All men say that then once they find girl they lile all those thoughts get thrown out window
@Shake hir maybe they creepy personality wise , sometimes being rich can't compensate for weird personalities
One word: don't
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LOL....pathetic
Be confident, not cocky. Be funny, not crude. Be charming, not a creep or desperate. Know some timeless things, such as a good wine, some Sinatra, something educated and interesting to say.
Get a life lol
This is good advice
Be a badass for yourself first and they will line up.
You say this to distract them, while you dose their wine with some Cosby spice.
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HHH spiting the truth, is this his promo for wrestle mania?
Spitting
He hearted your comment! 😂😂😂
I didn't have sex before 30.. when you get to 60 you look back and realise it didn't matter.
Does anything matter then? 🤔🤔
@@kappakd No, nothing does. Never did. It's all in your mind. Nothing exists outside of it either. It's all a social construct. (even sex is a social construct!) Perhaps the wind isn't a social construct.
@@Bluzian74not everything is a social construct 😂 but yeah there's no objective meaning of life.
@@jurassicthunder uh... go on... zero? What did you want it to be?
Wish you would have been around when I was in my 20's. In my 30's and finishing up a divorce, still very glad to have found you. Thanks for all you do Rich!
I like your honesty. That's what people need truth unsugar coated.
Screw that...get in the gym.....tweak your style....and start slaying women! True story.. back when I was a young man in my teens,,,there were women I knew who were actually insulted that I was interested in them. They held me in such low regard that it made them angry that a guy like me wanted to be with them! Imagine the blow to a mans ego? I was smitten with these gals,,,and they were disgusted that I was interested in them! It was rough....Did i fold? No....I reacted! A year later after hitting the gym,,,changing my style a bit,,,,these same women were jocking me! Until you realize your full potential....don’t give up! Every man looks better jacked and lean. Put in the work and the ladies will come! No pun intended! ;0)
A chicken-muscled dude can pull girls if only he is confident enough. It's all about confidence. So many people are wrong thinking muscles or money will automatically get them lots of women. It is the confidence of having money or fit body that counts. And it is a good idea to improve yourself in other areas, intellectually and so on, just pumping iron for hours on end is not enough.
@@GeorgE-yo5yc you know that gaining muscle can easily increase your confidence
This.
God damn... I'm fed up with life and I'm ready to change.
I'm going to hit the gym, and make 2020 the year that girls panties drop when I take my shirt off..fuck those bitches, they can crawl to me.
Wish me luck brothers.
Gym memberships are expensive though
@@Whitetiger187 Planet Fitness is like $10/mo...
Don't pursue women, get women to pursue YOU!! I've found when the woman contacts ME first on a dating site means a much better success rate of getting my leg over.
Dating site??? Really? REALLY!?!....dude....
getting my leg over? what's that meaning? 'getting my leg over'?
The women that contact me first are mostly not attractive
but Date site's cost money? money I don't have to be spending on Women
That only works if you're tall and white.
I've been divorced once and also ended a relationship with my young girlfriend that lived with me for almost 5yrs... I am terrified of getting involved (trapped) with a woman at this point in my life because it is so easy for me to get "stuck" with a girl that I don't really want to be with but cant bring myself to follow through and get rid of her because I don't want to hurt her. I am satisfied living alone with my 2 big dogs and minding my own business and staying out of trouble. I have no interest in a female right now and I hope that lasts for a long long time. There nothing worse than being in a relationship that you wish you could get out of...I'm finally out of mine and I feel like I have found my self again.
“Double down on improving yourself.” -Entrepeneurs in Cars
Dude, Just letting you know that your advice is being heard here in central america and I see them as pure gold. Thanks!
“How should I pursue women?”
Don’t.
Wow! I'm SO glad I came across your videos. SUBSCRIBED!
This comment Is for the subscriber who left the question. But quickly for you Rich, You might get a laugh, when I was 18 after studying this stuff for two years in my last years of high school a grade nine (14-year-old) was super interested in me, I took her on one date, just out to coffee and drove her home... and even though I was still a virgin and the date went really well, I turned her down because I would've felt like a sleaze. Guess who I saw today at the gym for the first time in 8 years who became a fitness model? I'm now 26 she's 22, and we had a great conversation. (I'll probably ask her out next time I see her and since I just started going to a new gym 3 times a week that will likely be soon) True story... Fucking Karma I guess.
Back to the subscriber. I studied A LOT of PUA stuff, quick back-story I actually had two best friends in high school that were getting laid and I wasn't (and I was sure they were). I knew there was something wrong with me. One of those best friends, I still remember this to this day was asked by one of the hottest girls in the School (who he had virtually no interaction with up to this point), "what are you doing for lunch today?" he swiftly replied "going out with you"... This is when I realized that there was something wrong with my frame of mind, specifically my emotional fixation of my fear of failure, fear of rejection which manifested very obviously through my verbal of communication, the subtlety's of my body, and more importantly how I perceived myself. I perceived that one rejection would be the end of me.
This is when I started to get into PUA stuff. Specifically, David Deangelo's Mastery program which is a different style of PUA entirely. He did bring in speakers such as Mystery, Tyler Durden, Denver Clay and a few others. But his running joke was that all the techniques come at the end. Instead, David preferred to talk about books like 'The Way of The Superior Man' (David Deita) Carl Jung's shadow and projection exercise, The Myers-Brig personality type indicator, how to not be a victim, and more or less all the aspects of internal game, he even took it so far as discussing some of Ken Wilber's philosophy of becoming 'The Void'. All he wanted to talk about is how to become a real man.
What this has all taught me is not to need love. Even though on a biological level we all want it.I believe that myself comes first, and 90% of the problems I have can be solved on my own (that's why as I man try to take to initiative to solve them, I refuse to accept the ideology that external forces define me). Take that personal responsibility to do so. If you want some guidance on how to make yourself a Sun that planets gravitate around. (this is what he teaches, become a Sun, shed light onto others because you are so fulfilled in yourself that you desire to). Look into David DeAngelo mastery.
I hope this helps you man, and Rich (you're a great dude, you may have actually may have been reading my quote that I said to you, "you're like a dad I never had" That's because my father has only been married once, and he does expect the same from me. I appreciate you're telling of the stories that made you, you. I don't expect certainty in my life and I open to the possibility my first marriage will end badly. I'm trying to prevent that the best that I can, but I appreciate ur insight man.
I also believe I want to share this insight to others. To make them better.
Thx brother
This comment has changed my perspective forever
The matrix
Beautifully penned. Well done you. "I refuse to be defined by external influences ", or words to that effect is key to men defining masculinity for themselves. Well done for having the courage to do so. Honestly this is the best comment I have read in weeks. You will find a great woman, and as long as you continue to take responsibility for yourself, if you chose well you will likely be happy as well, of that I am sure 👏👏
Thank you for taking the time to write this. I’m in my 30s and feel like I’m late to the game dealing with these issues, but I’m making progress for sure. Convinced this is the right way to go.
Strip clubs, porn etc has never done anything positive for me. Even a prostitute leaves me cold. Its too transactional. The best sex I've ever had, where I can go all night, is with a woman who I am emotionally connected to and we share similar values, have intelligent conversations, laugh, poke fun at each other and flirt with each other all day. Its the soft gestures, hand holding, acts of caring, kindness and appreciation that turns me on. Sex is just a natural outcome of all the small things throughout the day. I prefer to call it "making love" as opposed to "having sex".
Absolutely 210% brother. Im with you man. You must also be Demi-Sapio sexual like myself. (Although porn is pretty amazing). Strippers and hookers are vacuous holes. Nothing of value. Sex ought to be free (like porn). I still believe kissing and foreplay, is far more exciting that sex can ever be. I find sex to be extremely BORING as hell. I wish I knew what all the fuss was about. It's a shame girls aren't into foreplay and second-base/heavy petting stuff. I think "outer-course" is kinkier! lol Cheers man. Namaste.
Dynamite in kids hands...that is perfect. Ive dated beautiful woman after woman, and each and every time im left devastated when it ends because i made them the center of my world. But now that i am my center, the beautiful women are still there but when things go south i go grocery shopping and grab another date. I love this channel and its teaching me the thimgs i never learned from the pua community about chasing excellence. Thank you sir. Keep making the universe a better place.
Those shades are incredible. . . . Great video. Thank you , great advise.
Great advise, thanks Richard. I give my son all your videos and also bought ourselves your book. Thank you for all you do to the community.
I'm really diggin these red pill videos!
Great video rich!
Good video. Thanks for approaching these things from such a positive perspective
I lost my virginity at 21. It's annoying to deal with the whole virgin thing but it didn't change anything at all except now I'm not so self conscious
I lost mine at 27. Im now 47. After having sex lots of times with lots of women, I still don't know what the fuss is about. It's the biggest mystery I live with. Why would anyone cheat or commit adultery? Why the fuck would Mormons or Muslims want more than one wife!!?? Isn't having one bad enough!?!? Jesus.
I'm 29 and still a virgin... 😭
@@Dragonk116 Do you know why? Are you too shy for a woman to want you?
Glad you did this video. I used to be in this same camp.
Man I dig you channel. Thank you for your advice. I'm in a dead end relationship now, wish I bumped into your channel 3 yrs ago.
Thanks!!! Loving these videos on GAME/relationships/business stuff!
Wishing I had mentorship in my 20s. I'm 53 now and have applied myself to various goals with success but I never fully dealt with underlying issues...only enough to keep moving...So yes I agree with the advice to spend your 20s focussing on sorting yourself out. Nice vid.
Thanks a lot Richard, great job, I'm watching your youtube channel from France (work on my English in the same time haha).
Peace Bro !
A good Dad. It's good to mention that men should step up and be a Dad regardless of where they are. So I'll do similar as you. You are very much the new Dr Phil and beyond!
Hi Rich, I am so glad to hear the "my recommendation, work on yourself...". this is what young guys, and not so young, need to hear, it is all about taking responsibility for oneself... anyway, thanks for your all your work and message mate. JP
Thank you man! Your providing me some of the most helpful advice.
Weirdly enough, RSD has been shifting toward development of positive male behaviors recently. This video was great btw
Because RSD found out that majority of all the men that joins their boot camp and course have internal problems that reflect their external problems. They found out that men don’t struggle as much with game as opposed to what is in the inside, which is confidence, attitude, mindset, etc.
Hi brothers and sisters. Another great video Richard, thanks. Just a general comment. I just finished watching the movie "The Red Pill". Definitely a must watch for fans of this channel particularly, and for everyone in general. I won't do you the injustice of trying to summarize the movie in a few words, however suffice to say they do a deep dive into men's rights and position in our modern society. They touch on MGTOW briefly, and MRA's and feminism in depth. A real eye opener, even for someone cognizant of the need for men's issues to be recognized in our society. I can't recommend it highly enough. Cheers.
I'm going to try to get Paul Elam on a Skype call, saw the movie the other day, its worth buying a copy.
thank you for recommending speaking with clinical specialists. not enough people do this.
Man I just came across your videos and just subscribed! Great Wisdom Brother!!!
I went to a strip club once when I was 19 and all it did was give me blue balls. I don’t understand why men pay a woman to get them turned on and then not finish the job.
Absolutely. It does nothing for me either. The music is terrible. The girls are lazy and not that attractive. They put no effort into it and the drinks and entrance fee is expensive too.
Strip clubs: biggest waste of money ever.
Fantastic upload/advice Richard. Spot on. Never mind "how", I think "WHY" is a much better question. Cheers everyone.
Love the content! Surprised that I never see negative comments on your videos.
Man i really love your vibes man.. you really got that fatherly feel to it since i also lost my dad at a young age and am in need of some male guidance !
I don't agree with the advice in this one tho.. if you want to date and have sex with alot or high quality women learning pickup or game is essential.. also it teaches you how to be the best version of yourself and develop your inner confidence and social skills etc..
Personally i can only take very small steps in doing pua or connecting with people because of inner issues i'm still working on so i'm using hookers to still satisfy my high sexdrive and not go insane which i almost got from almost not getting laid for 2/5 years
I'm 24 still virgin. I got the looks but I am not looking.
Waiting for someone that I feel are deserving, so don't be so impatient.
Without experience you won't be able to keep them, though.
@@thealienelite we don't want to keep them.
@H D true haha. Probably one day
I only take advice from others I would trade places with. You are someone I absolutely would not want to trade places with. I suggest you wake up, zip it, and learn the game.
Joppe I’m 21 smashed about 6 girls so far and I’ll keep going don’t catch feelings
Looking forward to booking a session with this legend
Loving this video man. It speaks to me.
It seems like it's always cold where you live
Rich your a cool dude , wise , smart and Masculine!
i used to watch a lot of rsd stuff and a lot of their teachings and principles definitely made me more comfortable around women at the time, but nothing helped me more then sorting out my own personal issues and educating myself on certain things, it made me at least ten times more confident and secure in myself.
Great advice, good commentary.
I LOVE you so much. Thank you.
I've been watching a few of your videos, and it's sad that I (along with many other men, I assume) don't get this kind of advice from our actual fathers, but rather from guys on the internet or radio like you or Tom Leykis.
Yeah, I discovered this youtube channel just today and it made me think of Tom Leykis.
@@H4I2I2EE Who the fuck is Tom Leykis? I just discovered this channel a week ago. I'm plowing through each video religiously! LOL
@@Bluzian74 When I lived in Anaheim California I used to listen to him on the radio. He had a talk radio show where he gave advice on dating. Look him up you can probably hear clips of him. I wouldn't be surprised if this guy knows about him.
Wow someone who knows tom leykis the professor of poon 😂😂😂
@@Bluzian74 tom leykis is the dad you never had in your life !
Awesome video Rich
I love your material. Thanks a lot!
About the late bloomer, I literally just dropped a 39 year old women that told me she was a virgin until she was 37.😂 She must have watched and taken your videos about focusing a women's past to the max!!!
Here is the thing, I get his point...but...Most men do not get a woman's signal that she is interested because a lot of times it's too subtle for a guy.
saganist I dunno, she could be friendly
Guys look for tips and cues she likes you. This can be hair flicking or eye contact a smile or she wants to dance if you are at a club . But most of all you must show confidence in the situation your in . This takes practice. You need to be able to hold a conversation . You need to show status or fake it
@saganist Yeah dude she could just be polite and try not to come off too strong.
@@vinnievector "if you are at the club" well, there's our first problem.
They shouldn't even have the right to say no. Not that long ago the bitch didn't have a choice, if it was a "no" then she was raped
Great video. I relate to this being an issue for me too.
Great video again!
Could you do a video about how to find our PASSION? I think its one of the most important question we people face with.
Stay the best!
Thanks!
I love this Brother
Your awesome for addressing this for this young man. I ordered The Truth by Neil Straus. Thanks for all you do.
And yes ... You are a dad a mentor tu that I never had.... Its never too late... I found you at my 45 ... Love u man
Always amazing ❤️
When it comes to porn, there are only two types of people. People who have watched porn and liars.
You Rule! Always Dress Nice
Good shit Rich!
Thanks for this video bro
Great vid man. Couldn't agree more with everything you said. I'm a big guy, and never had a shortage of women. Just gotta deal with your shit and put foot to ass.
A true pick up artist does not let himself go and get into a relationship and fall in love.
lol
what you are doing is an amazing altrustic labor towards all the man of the world, thank you my brother from anotha mother.
Your channel is amazing.
PUA is pretty complicated and takes a lot of practice. You won't get laid immediately from it. Personal doubts and insecurities arise as well that have to be dealt with.
The fact is you don’t need it. I’ve read the GAME, bunch of nerds who trick women essentially. Great book no doubt with some good lessons… the fact is nothing replaces confidence, a good physique and being good looking. Not everyone can do it. Life isn’t fair
It is so amazing to listen to conclusions you've reached because they are the same conclusions I came too. Pertaining to porn prostitution, strip joints and becoming your best and highest self.
Yo thx! thx for the book rec. peace
He is right about the type of situation that this PUA "Mystery", experienced. Some of the toughest men I have ever known [one in particular] really can come unglued at a breakup. It is really incredible.
-IMO porn is only healthy if consumed in healthy doses (i.e. once or twice a week) and does not become a detraction from pursuing women.
-I stopped going to strip clubs because it is just paying for a show, literally.
-On prostitution, I wouldn't only because of the risk of contracting something
Tony Oliver Porn isn't healthy one bit bro😂
@@Psalm_23 Like that's all porn has to offer lol. Where is the study that shows this dopamine thing tho, i smell bullshit.
Girls love that shit. You obviously aren't introducing it correctly
@@Psalm_23 actually yes some women do like having their hair pulled.
Why would anyone smart even "pursue" vvomen? Actually pursuing vvomen takes so much time, effort and energy that p0rn comes out to be a much better, cheaper, faster, safer alternative.
I think a lot of guys would have trouble NOT pursuing women in their 20s because the whole club and bar scene is focused on men in that age group. I know that when I was at university, the thing to do was go to the clubs or bars on weekends because you know you're not going to have time or money for that kind of thing once you finish school because you're going to be working and trying to save money. Its almost as if guys need to get partying and pussy out of their system. Also, when a guy is in his 20s, thirty seems reeeeally old. He can't possibly imagine waiting until his 30s to pursue women or date them long term. If he hasn't had a long term relationship in his teens or 20s, then he will feel inadequate in his 30s. Even then, he is probably just getting out of debt, starting to go bald and thats just too long to wait. Some guys can do it, but most men spend their entire 20s trying to get into a relationship. I've seen so many men (including myself) get into the WRONG long term relationship in our 30s because we didn't get enough experience in our teens or 20s. That said, I think young men are screwed either way. If they wait, they are inexperienced, if they don't wait, then they get screwed and end up having kids in their 20s. I guess all they can do is use their best judgement and watch this channel.
Bars and clubs are the biggest scam for men. I actually have a friend who is a bar owner. He constantly invites young hot girls and give them free drinks just to lure men to stick around and buy expensive drinks. I recently learned that this is a job: hot girls are hired to sit at the bar looking pretty just talking to men all night. Girls get to keep half of what the guy spends on drinks. Bartenders know the girls that are working, so they pour very little or no alcohol into their drinks. Girls are pretty much salesmen faking their interest in you. I absolutely hate clubs and bars now, huge waste of time and money.
@@00_UU I had a few good nights at the club in my 20s. Maybe half a dozen hookups. I think I had whiskey dick half the time though. Probably only 1 really good one. Did her in the morning too. Probably a hundred wasted nights though. Probably spent at least 10k over the years. Was never into buying girls drinks though, just myself. Huge waste of money, but what else you gunna do? I actually met a lot of great girls in the triathlon club, but I was always looking for something else. Many regrets about my 20s and even 30s. I'm 43 now. Wow, time flies.
Great advice! Concentrating on yourself is the best and being a better version. That is a lifelong thing and women should not be THE focal point.
Man, I gotta tell you, your beard is just amazing.. hands down, simply awesome
I have to wonder if the 40s+ crowd doesn't have addiction to porn because the internet wasn't a source during their teen years. I see these millennials with serious porn addictions (and all of the physical and mental issues that go with it), where they have to jump on the NOFAP bandwagon to break the addiction. Just a thought.
Be a better version of yourself-be the best version of yourself! That’s the best advice ever. Just do that and everything else falls into place.
I haven’t heard one episode or one sentence that hasn’t been beneficial and so true to me. Adam from Australia 1:40pm
Do not pursue women. Ever. If they want you they will come to you. You just need to know those choosing signals and go for it
You look like the Chicago Bears head coach, Matt Nagy. Look him up! Do you see it?
Thanks Hunter give my regards to steph and the kids 🙏
Good advice!
You and Kevin O Leary -Founding Fathers of Canadian RedPill
Don't even bother.
Wow..this is spot on...
Good stuff!
All PUA does is attract poor quality party girls (for the most part); any beautiful intelligent high quality woman will see right thru it.
Ande A. Wrong. Ive picked up professionals, lawyers, models, good girls etc. When the lights are off, you’re all the same.
Do you even go out? Lol
That's a very broad sweeping comment..
A woman like that knows men so she forgives much and will still cooperate with whoever she is attracted to.
Lol not true
Sex, cooking and cleaning, income. Pick two.
It's now 2020, pick one.
🤣
What I like about you is that you present your perspective as fairly as possible. I have to say, while I do understand your arguments regarding the ways in which women act and think WITHOUT sounding like the type that hates women. I have heard lots of your reasoning before from other men who just come across as the type who truly hate women and who, also, never seem to be having any success. Thanks.
Awesome info keep it up
*goldberg* that you??
Thank you! For the past 4 years I have been working on creating a better version of myself. I was married for 30 years to the same woman and realized that I had fallen off my center and she had become panic/anxiety ridden. All this seemed to happen after the birth of my son. Consequentially, she began taking Prozac to help her. Well yeah it helped her to become sexually numb ie.. no orgasm!! We have since divorced and now at 60 I am curious as to whether women in this age group need a different approach? I may answer my own question here but I believe all women need that wonder/imagination/curiosity/INTEREST!!! So far the older women I have met seem tired, worn out and could take or leave sex!!! They hit the wall, BAM!!! I am working out, changing my psychology so I can rule the world!!! Well my world!! Peace out!!
You and Alpha M. Are two of my favorite RUclipsrs.
"There is nothing more honest than prostitution". Point to note. :)
Yeah, learned from sexual service providers.- they are woman after all without the virtue signalling.
Yet it is the most dishonest function. There's nothing real or remotely legitimate about it. If only prostitutes fucked for free, or "pro bono", THEN it would be an honest profession. Until women stop charging men for sex, we will never be equal, and they will never be respected. Who the hell pays a girl to fuck? And why?
I suppose the nut shell idea is to get ok with being rejected? Or more specifically don't mistake your own worth and identity with the possibility of rejection/failure, ect.. Just because I can't dunk, or close that one deal, or what ever doesn't mean shit with respects to my worth as a human being and all of our infinite potential!
BTW I like hookers too and if I'm in Bangkok the gogo bars are a very efficient means to satisfy any sexual needs. I'm not a big fan of porn nor strip clubs in the West for the same reasons, you can't really relieve yourself as you can in other countries that are less uptight about prostitution. Nothing worse than getting all fired up and then left abandoned :)