Why Men Suffer From Heartbreak & Breakups
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- In dealing with break ups, men need to understand the dynamics, and how men respond to the end of a relationship, and why.
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Dumped. Voice changed to a cold chill. A tone you’d expect to hear if you committed a horrible crime. Blocked me on media. Threw my number away. Days before she was gazing into my eyes telling me how much she loved me. I was deep in love. Didn’t see it coming. Super painful and won’t ever really get it. Lucky for her she had a guy already in the chute. Heard she met a guy weeks after dumping me then was immediately engaged. Poor guy. My eyes are wide open now. I’ll never be the same. In the end I dodged a horrible bullet and now very thankful of my fate.
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#heartbreak #breakups #oneits
I had a girl once tell me this..
"The reason she appears to be over you the day you broke up is because she broke up with you six months ago. She just didn’t tell you. She is already done with her tears, you are just starting yours."
If a girl does the breaking up then she is already done. Straight from the lips of one of them.
badlandskid I cought my ex-girlfriend sexting a coworker recently during our 3 year LTR. We lived together the majority of that time. She broke up, wanted to remain friends, turned vacant and cold regarding working it out, no apologies for cheating, and banged him a week after.
My older sister said the same thing. She checked out emotionally months before.
I would of died for her. I would of killed for her. It was a hard lesson. The red pill was painful to swallow, but I'm thankful for it. I'm thankful for men coming together to talk about these things that happen to us.
I have developed a couple points about breaking up. First thing I let them know is, I'm not a revolving door. They don't get to turnstile me. Second... I am not interested in being one of their man friends. I am not a spoil of war that she can parade around whenever it is convenient for her. NEVER let an ex do that to you, no matter how much she meant to you.
Hope that advice can help you.
Thank you.
Though difficult when you're in love with a woman (or who you thought she was), that is exactly the right way to handle it.
When she was caught, she dropped the act. She was done. Tried for a week to talk and work things out. Big mistake. After the second week, I started to see who she really is. I made this girl the center of my world, which I now know was a huge mistake. I was an emotional mess. I got rid of 85% of my things, packed my car, and moved in with family hours away.
She said, I love you, you're my best friend, would do anything for you... yet not one apology without me asking for it. Anything, huh?
Yeah that is rough. But time reveals all. You got to see her true face.
Another moto I have to keep in the fore front of my mind is "Never worship a woman or what is between her legs". IE, don't be pussywhipped. It might be good darlin but it ain't that good. :-)
badlandskid kind of true, but the girl has no idea what life is like without you. A way to make them regret their decision is to not contact them at all, and improve yourself to the fullest. If you cry and beg she will push you away further. But if you don’t, and you drop your feelings for her and move on, it’s likely to drive her crazy. And in my opinion, bang her if you want to, but never take her back
If one door closes another one opens. Every end is a new beginning. Never forget. --> Life goes on. Embrace it.
Behind every bad day comes a good one
Yes, Remember...Sometimes, good things have to end, for better things to happen...Unknown.
Most lives go down hill as age goes up hill.
Not for me not for everyone only a few lucky ones.
@@fdoordash4093 People just "looove" stupid "uplifting" quotes, that give them false hopes, because they feel better in the now - but they DON'T HELP THE PERSON IN DEEP SHIT..
Took me 40 years to realize that indeed women cannot truly love a man. They believe they do but clearly they don’t. Feelings moving up and down based on hormones and opportunities. Hopeless.
That sucks, just look at them as a good ride
l still missed my ex😢
As a 23 year old guy, I can't express how much I appreciate this channel. Here's a guy who internalized all the red pill principles about women, relationships, hypergamy, etc and lays it out in a very eloquent, simple and straightforward fashion. There aren't many channels like this who touch on such important topics. You're doing God's work, Richard. Keep it up.
I agree mate
+Bryan Charles
While I'm not going around spreading the word like a Jehova's witness, I am certainly trying to raise awareness among my peers. Sadly, many of them are stuck deep inside the pits of blue pill conditioning and still believe all the cliche crap about relationships this gynocentric society has been telling us all our lives. So, they either recoil and try to rationalize their worldview or just brush it off. But I still hope something I tell them will stick. But in the end, whether in a hard of soft way, they will learn.
Aint nothing godly in multiple relationships having sex before marriage, poor deluded guys, its all devils play since humans dont fear and worship God every second of their lives, rather listen to false teachers.
@@gthrusterg2858 go fuck your God
I'm 48. Listen to this guy and learn
"Women should complement your life, not be the focus of it."
This is what men should be taught at puberty.
"Men are the true romantics". I think that's true for me. I would love nothing more than to let my guard down and be what i've thought guys should be in a relationship. But it never turns out well.
Sad isn't it. Gotta game all the time. Not even worth it.
Men wrote all the works in the past about romantic things. Women just like receiving it. The issue here is they just want a wedding, not a marriage / be a wife. It;s just not worth it
The majority of romantic work in history has been done by men, for women. Women just love to be romanticised. Big difference.
@@SandrisOfficial well said.
@Mark Tse A good woman will give your children the love and dedication she will never give a man. That's how you make peace with this. If you want kids that's what she brings. Even if your marriage ends, you can rest easy knowing she won't screw your kids up. Choose the most stable woman you can and don't forget that unconditional love is just a daydream.
No matter how much you love her, you're an employee to her. If any given day she considers you are not up to her standards, you'll be outta the door in a split second. She is only loyal to what you can deliver right now; if you can't perform it's over for you, plus she'll have a new guy prepped to fill the job opening right away.
It sounds fucked up because we weren't prepared for this
🙌
Oooof, but truth
Is the disgusting truth
I had a woman end things with me and ask me to "not disappear and just be friends". She knew that I was not afraid to lose her and I have to admit it felt good to say that she would never hear from me again.
Same here. They want a safe back ticket . Not happening
The thing why they ask for that is keeping the x around so her ego is pumped up. This kind of creatures feed on that.
Every girl that ever broke up with me said that; "we can still be friends." I think they said that for two reasons. 1.) To assuage themselves of what ever guilt they might feel for the breakup. 2.) To keep you around as a safety net in case her new relationship blows up in her face, she has you as a fall back.
The “just be friends” line is laughable. A “friend” is significant and is not a “just.” But what she really means when she says this is that she will never speak with you again.
If she’s going to leave you, tell her she won’t ever see you again. The best revenge is living a life that’s better without her. Don’t try to rub it in her face, but if she sees you happy (maybe she sees pics of happy you on Insta or a person shares good rumours about you ) she hurts for good reason
When you white knight for a woman, you make her the winner, which ironically makes you the loser in her eyes. Been there. Done that. Great video.
That is a sad on life.. We as American men,most of the world's men don't respect women for this for this reason,to Revere and respect, cherish women.,especially the way a lot of them are today but they really aren't worth it.this is why they are acting out, cause they know they have been found out... Like the did devil if you see his true face, nature and resist they will flee from you
aka if u giv them what they want....they dont want it lol
The majority of romantic work in history has been done by men, for women. Women just love to be romanticised. Big difference.
When she tosses you to the curb, stay focused on your future and leave her in the past!
"women want to be w/ winners, they don't want to be a winner." Very true. Resonates a lot w/ me.
Indeed.
True true brother she will also get a winning kick too the gut
Heard this in the 1950s: "Man who puts woman on pedestal puts himself in position to get kicked in the face". It was in the "Old Chinese Saying" section of the newspaper.
This is sooooo on point. I was dating a woman who one day told me, "I still have feelings for my ex-boyfriend." I later told her, "okay, well, I'm planning to date other women." She then continues with "I thought you were the kind of man who only dates one woman and I won't have sex with you if you are dating other women." Uh excuse me. You told me that there is the very real chance that you might get back with a man you committed yourself to before. I not only told her that I no longer want to date exclusively but I no longer want sex from her either. Wow. What a double-standard. Hypergamy is real and men do walk around brokenhearted because of failed and miscommunicated expectations. Also, I noticed that she began to pull away sexually and when I confronted her she tried to deny it. Sex is very necessary and if your lady is pulling away understand that it is for a reason. Communicate that you still want intimacy but if she continues to push you away, then move on. Corey Wayne states, "you want someone who is excited to have sex with you and to have you in her life." Leave the drama...
I was stunned my ex gf found a new dude so fast. Never again.
3 days, dude. 3 days!!!
Ive been there bro, it destroyed me this happend a year and 6 months ago maybe, but now i just laugth about it, they are poor scared beings that doesnt know how to be alone. But time will pass and the wall will hit them.
@@MidwestMoney try 12 hours...
@@marksherrit5874 they just spread legs, not an achievment
Monkey branching beeyatches
The more I understand the more disheartened I become. It’s like men have to go against their natural inclinations to have a shot at finding happiness in a relationship. It’s weird if a man has a big heart and wanted to express love for his partner, you can’t bc it’ll eventually hurt you in the long run. Lol
Diaz Hugue Mungus yeah this drives me crazy too
Add me to the list fellas
Only two relationships take precedent: the relationship with yourself and the relationship with God
@@tonyh1345 which is the same thing
The irony, however I feel it has a lot to do with the conditioning of society. More specifically feminism, women acting like they have the gonads that men do.
If she dropped him 24 years into a marriage over a fight, she doesn't know what love is. Poor guy....
WOMEN DO NOT LOVE YOU. They love attention and what you can do for them!
A woman can respect you, but only if you act manly.
She was likely looking for a reason to bail. Looking for a reason to HATE him!
Well if he abused her during that fight then not a poor guy... We don't just stop loving people in a second without a reason.
@@superchuck3259 That's unhealthy women you're talking about. Not "women" in general.
@@albertodeulofeu5277 Mоst women don't love?!?! Not in my experience! As a woman, with friends, family, acquaintances.
ANY abuse is never acceptable!
"your emotional outbursts and random tantrums " again generalizing. Not accurate talking like that. Don't blame us, good ones for the sh*t the crazy ones served you. You'll never find a loving woman like that. They'll flee very fast.
Roll your eyes. We do too. When SOME men act like 13 year old japanese hentai characters on speeds. With their tantrums and mood swings and emotional and psychological abuse.
Physical abuse is just the cherry on top of the sh*t pyramid. It doesn't appear alone. Usually abuse is served in multitudes before it escalates to physical.
Cheers!
@@DayaTom see what u focused on? Not on right and wrong. Not on the consequences of serious allegations. Not on Fair and unfair. Just on how YOU felt reading that. That’s scary.
The pain and betrayal you experience from a breakup was the catalyst to view dating and getting into another relationship in a totally different light.
Exactly.
Gf of 4+ years broke up with me yesterday and honestly, it feels like a freight train just hit me. Tells me she met another guy, he's the one and they're going to get married - feels like the subject matter of every red pill video on youtube together at the same time. To hear that coming from someone who used to tell you they loved you - in a relationship where I tried my hardest to make it work. This was the happiest I've ever been in a relationship.
I'm not red pilled or however you say that but I did all I could this time. Honestly it never felt enough. There's always more to do and more and maybe I should have tried harder and then some. Been dumped before, relationships have not worked out in the past, but at 35 to lose someone who I thought was the one this way - just lost for words. The despair is so unbelievably overwhelming this time.
Leaving this comment on here. Maybe it cheers up people who haven't been dumped this bad. I don't know how some of you survived nasty divorces and the complete breakdown of a marriage. I can barely deal with this.
Your NOT ALONE My Friend, I was Married for 40 Years Till Cancer Stole Her from Me in 2015. Was in 2 Short Term BAD Relationships THEN I THOUGHT I Had Found the 1 !!!!!! Well8 Months into the Relationship She BLINDSIDED Me Via Text While living in My House it Was Over and She Left!!! I FEEL You My Friend!!!!
No, you didn't need to try harder. If anything, that would have driven her away sooner. You can do everything absolutely right and they will still dump you. Women have a permanent "Grass is always greener" mindset via hypergamy that they can't ever get rid of.
How are you doing man?
@@dawgpost90 Doing great! Thanks for asking. Had to wake up eventually I suppose ;) Life is considerably better when you can see the matrix.
@@anupv8157 Glad to hear it brother. Keep building yourself up!
"i got her back, and we are a happy couple" just wait a few more months. Lol. HAhahahahhahaha.
or days lmao
Or hours 🤣🤣🤣
Men are the prize, FINALLY someone put out a nugget of truth that is missing from the relationship dynamic. I agree 100%.
Ezekiel 34:31 King James Version (KJV)
31 And ye my flock, the flock of my pasture, are men, and I am your God, saith the Lord God.
MEN are the flock of God's pasture, not women.
They were never the prize that’s why your single
Man are the prize. We only need women for sex. They need us for everything else
@justinr2564 cherry picking scripture and adding your viewpoint instead of a higher viewpoint because you are in your emotions, and the logic flew right out of the nest.
“Once a woman turns against you, forget it.
They can love you, then something turns in them.
They can watch you dying in a gutter, run over by a car,
and they'll spit on you.”
-charles bukowski
they are cold when it comes to moving on. I had one that told me she loved me, i was so great but she just never saw herself getting married again blah blah blah then she dumped me when another guy came along she thought was hotter than me and 6 months later she married him. I'll never forget how cold she suddenly was to me even tho i did nothing wrong
One thing that the red pill helped me with the most is when you say “ listen to what she says and not what she does”. I am one of those guys who never wanted to get into long term relationships ever since I first started dating and when I was young and in high school for example this never immediately clicked, but looking back on it now they were really wanting me because they couldn’t have me. We would go months before I would say I love you because when I say it I want to logically think it out and I mean it. I am 29 and have only told 2 women this in my life. They then start to beg for marriage, after a while I succumb. I always tell them that I will never get married and this makes them want you more, well when you give them what they want they no longer want it. When I tell someone I want to be together for life, I mean it. The girl does not mean it. Remember this men.
I recently got out of a 7 year relationship I felt as if I did everything she wanted and didn’t know who or what I wanted to do or be. Currently lost 25 pounds and I’m pursuing things that I find value in.
Yes. This occurs because every man with self - respect, invests his time, emotions and resources in a relationship, and does not want to see them wasted.
Agreed but sometimes you realize that you are involved with a narcissist lunatic. You have to cut your losses and get out. It is only going to get worse if you stay.
Oh my god... I have just come out of a 10 year relationship with my "one and only", and I was completely that guy. I was the beta. I conformed to her every need. I was miserable. Near the end, I started to do more of my thing and started standing up for myself. That's when things started really going downhill (for the better). Great video!
Beta doesnt exist
@@rokometer8 yes it does. Most men fall into the category
I did this same thing in a 3 year relationship. I never went FULL beta, but when she started getting really angry I started doing my own thing more often and it drove her nuts.
BPD increases the risks to any type of lasting relationship, and "enhances" that light-switch behavior. They love you...until they don't. And that "until they don't" can be nearly instantaneous. I got a very expensive birthday present from her in early September, and divorce papers in early November. That light switch went from "I love you" to "I hate you and am filing for divorce" in less than 45 days. No abuse nor weird stuff; just BPD on top of the stuff Rich's video discusses. This is such excellent stuff and every man...married or single...should watch this video.
JR
BDP meaning?
@@joseluisalvarez8648 borderline personality disorder
BPD and narcissism. A match made in Heaven.
Ohh the cold chill voice.
That is horrifying.
Broke up with a chick after 3 years and it was like any warmth she ever felt told me immediately froz÷ over. that voice will make you shiver
You have missed one option: she came back regrettin and I refused doing things again with her, I rejected her. This option has happened 2/2 the times I've been dumped.
Brother I totally agree with every word!!! My ex wife almost ended my life!!!! I learned and never remarried again... Now I am focused on Me and my career and my Truck, guns, and my Beautiful Harley Davidson!!!! I use to be afraid of being alone but no more..... why???? Because ALONE = FREEDOM!!!!! Thank you Brother I Love all your shows!!!!!! YOU ARE A BLESSING FOR MEN!!!
Lifelong love and loyalty can be found in a dog. Women they come and they go.Opportunist is the word for women.
Really needed to hear this today. I'm a 50 yr old man, been single for a few years now and I'm finally out of my pitty party and doing all the things I should have been doing years ago. I've given myself a year to get into the shape and financial place I need to be in to attract younger higher value women. I'm excited for my future. Thanks again for all you do.
I am so glad you posted this video. My LTR of almost a year ended it with me last week. I’ve been ‘red pill aware’ for almost 4 years but I am the solid definition of a purple pill male. When it comes to take action and be accountable, I fall back into my blue pill ways, even with a full brand new set of red pill lenses. It’s a perpetual cycle of life fuckery that I need to change. Like you said in this video, I always lose sight of myself as soon as comfort sets in in the LTR. You start to rely on the dopamine rush of her validation versus other more dependable sources, such as working towards your life purpose and hobbies that bring you pleasure. Its a trap that is so hard to avoid if your overall life lacks drive and purpose. I am hoping that I can finally learn from my mistakes this time around and take responsibility upon myself as the sole reason for this. We always seem to be at our best when we’re single and lose sight when complacency sets in. Hypergamy doesn’t care.
Ryan Bourque,
Complacency kills
Oneitis is a bitch and often times we need to swallow another red pill in order to contain its' effects.
Damn in the same boat as you man, good luck.
Ryan Bourque Goddammit, that’s been the theme of all of my LTR’S! Not anymore, never again!
I've had 4-5 exes come back and want to either communicate or get back together, again. I either ignore them, or if I'm feeling nice, I'll politely explain that I don't communicate with exes. It usually makes them go away.
TheyRiseBand amen bro
Hi Richard I'm so greatful to stumble upon your channel... it opened my eyes and created a revolution into my soul in the most humble way....today I had the courage to write to my ex husband and ask him to forgive me for all the pain I've created many years ago when I decided to leave him.
I wish I could find a channel like yours when I was younger so I could learn to make better choices and my life would be easier ...keep up the good work and please don't give up on " rational sisters" 🙂
I did date a woman for 8 months to get dumped, she tried to come back but I did not take her back(I need to thank my friends). And let me tell you guys, I wish it ended before..
heyy, I had a girl I dated for a few months left me for another guy, I want to tell her I mis sher etc should I? im going to anyway probs
@@miscool Did you tell her that and what happened in the end, she still ignored you?
Great video. When it’s done, it’s done. Learned the hard way... don’t embarrass yourself. The moment I hear a mention of counselling, she needs time to whatever, etc... I’m outta there and showing her the door... by that time she has already monkey branched. Men get blindsided b/c first to go is their mind... at this time her friends know and she starts to look for your replacement, next to go is her heart and emotions, at this time if you’re lucky you might notice a change, last to go is her physical presence by removing you. They’ve already moved on or back on the carousel... don’t embarrass yourself. Accept what is and move on. Have respect for yourself and don’t be a simp. 🍻
Watching a buddy go thru that now.
Was told point blank by her at social gathering that she was thinking of leaving him.
I warned my friend but he did not listen. He did not get ahead of it.
Months later she told him divorce papers are coming and then called the police to have him thrown out.
So yes, there are individual women that plan out the divorce and if the guy is in love, he will ignore the warning signs.
GUYS WOMEN DO NOT LOVE YOU! They just want attention and resources. Women can respect men acting like men!
Getting wasted drunk is not manly and will have a woman lose all respect for you especially if done at home. Husbands choose to love their wife in spite of short run irritations and issues. Love and respect yourself first above all!
Mark Viola Absolutely true on everything you said..!
"that she was thinking of leaving him...", at that very moment it's game over and no going back... from that point on you buddy must have went through hell. The red pill, learning, and videos like this wakes you up in a hurry. Cheers.
Couldn’t have said it better myself, sad but true.
Been there. 25 now 35
"It's just your turn."
I don’t think this guy knows how much he’s changing lives. Thanks rich
God the "be the prize" part opened my eyes. Awesome stuff
Men suffer heartbreaks because they are falling in love while women never loved the men. Women only love what the men can provide for her.
The fact that women move on quicker doesn't really mean that they are innately less loyal and shallow but might mean they just have more options and require less effort to move on. Most average men know the amount of effort that goes into courtship. For women it's a lot easier. They receive. So a break up will always be more costly for men in a culture of thirsty men
Yes, they are LESS loyal.
They aren’t loyal. Facts and statistics
Your comment contradicts itself. If a woman is in a committed relationship, has more options, and exercises them, she is not loyal.
@@TylerHolmes148 my claim is simple, if a man is in a commited relationship and he has options and he exercises them, he is not loyal. Difference between men and women is, on average, men don't have options. It can be argued if men had as many options as women, all hell would break lose. It just so happens nature has self balancing mechanisms
Sending this to my son. He recently joined the Navy and out on his own now. I hope i taught him some of these type of things along the way but he and I both can learn this. Thanks !!!
I wish I would have found this years ago. After time passed, i realized that most of my hurt stemmed from the fact that I lost my own self respect. She hurt me sure. But i realized that she only hurt me as much as I allowed.
@@jdamommio Spot on. Nice quote
@@jdamommio Hey no problem. It helps me on a personal level to talk about how. It also feels good to know maybe someone might read something you said, and it helps them in their own situation. Peace to you friend
The only break up to ever really impact me was the divorce from my wife, and not so much because of her, it was really the kids that killed me. The break up of the family unit, if we had no kids I would have bounced back quickly, but having a life long connection through 2 kids, resenting her because not feeling like she didn't care enough to try for the kids ate at me. Now I realize it's just female nature, but at times it bothers me because I can tell it bothers my kids.
how often do you see your kids?
I actually had a super weird divorce. No cheating on either parts, seriously if she did cheat she is batman. She has a routine gym, work, home, rinse repeat. Custody is written that it's one week me, one week her, but it turns into 60% her 40% me. I pay no child support, no alimony, and just 50/50 on child related expense. I divorced really well, but we both have a good income.
Nick - Nick, our scenarios are very similar. Divorced for a year next month after a 17-year marriage. I have three kids and the most difficult struggle I have had, was the guilt and grief I felt for the family unit breaking up. No infidelity or bad things happened to make one hate the other... we simply just grew apart and the relationship ran its course.
After some deep thought, reflection and recalibration... I made a concerted effort to save the marriage and family unit.. however, I felt that she didn't try hard enough to save the marriage and family and moved on with the long-term boyfriend she had before we got married 20+ years. ago.
I am now however more at peace with the divorce as my kids are much less adversely affected by it now. This past year, I have leaned so much about female & male nature & see the world (relationship & government) through the redpill lense. Although I'm sometimes sad we are no longer a complete happy family, but my focus, concentration & life mission has never been clearer.
Amen......my divorce was final October 25th, and I still feel like I would work on things if my ex wanted to not for my ex but for family. The only thing I would say is I don't really feel like we grew apart, I feel like she stopped trying, but I refused to be depressed about it. I was having a pity party for myself one day, went to the gym to lift heavy stuff. I saw this young kid mid 20's guessing and he was working out with MS, and I told myself I have no reason to feel bad. If this kid is bad ass enough to come to the gym and lift and he has MS, I have no excuse.
It’s our job now to guide our sons.
You my good sir deserves a purple heart. Saving men's lives while dodging bullets yourself, impressive. Round of an applause!
So many great points in this video. Even related to a current situation I've been pulled into myself. Literally put the nail in the coffin on how I should conduct myself from here on out.
I thank you for all what you do.
“Maintain Frame”, great concept.
This was the best and wisest video on the subject I’ve seen in a very long time. Thank you
If it didn't work the first time, it's not going to work the 2nd, 3rd, 4th or 5th time. Cut your losses and move the fuck on.
Katte what is she’s hot as fuck and ur first love
So much truth in this video. Thank you Rich. I can personally attest to attending to the needs of a woman more than my own in relationship and losing her respect in the end. No more!
Man, your book hurts sharply while reading through the realities of women and life but I'm glad that I'm taking this red pill.
Truth does hurt, but it also sets us free.
Thanks for everything Rich!
It's absolutely astonishing and incomprehensible to a man how a woman can cut ties so easily after a man has taken care of her for so long. We do so much for them, and they care so very little. This is what leads many men to believe women don't have a heart or soul.
So very friggin well true ,
Women are cold as ice
If you guys are wondering if what you have been hearing about women let me tell my story. Approximately 30 years ago my wife of 11 of years told me that she didn’t love me anymore and she wanted a divorce. At that game we had four children under the age of 6. I then found out she that she was cheating on me and her planes were to move him in eventually. I made sure that did not happen. This women was whiling to put her her wants ahead of her children’s well being. I worked hard and washing to school at night to improve our life’s. To make very long story short do not take the risk of getting married. I know people will say you will want children when you get older. I have four grown children and eleven grandchildren. I love them all but the way my life unfolded and my current situation I would not have done it. The main reason would be I am 63 years old and because my family was separated from me and even though have stayed very close to my children and I have a good relationship with all of them I find myself disjointed from them. Once the family unit is gone you are on your own. If I needed my children in an emergency they would be there but again because you are not with their mother you are screwed.
Preach!!!!! Great video. I’m in my 30’s. I stuck to my goals and stayed focus. I am living the dream. The women who didn’t give me the chance back then now want to send flirtatious messages for validation. Even though they are married with kid in tow. I used to treat women as the winner and that got me nowhere. I took your advice and I’m in charge of my life.
At first I didn't like your videos much, but something about them kept me coming back. I must admit, this video has really impressed me and the fact that you did a survey n ran some field studies now cements you as a leader in my eyes. Keep up the good work sir, I can tell you genuinely care about your fellow men.
bros if you feel they are in the verge of dumping you, dump her before hand. go with your gut, also when the relationship is already filled with fights
That is what I call the pro gamer move
this is a killer move, it breaks their game and their mental gymnastics, and breaks their unloving heart just for ego reasons "no ones breaks up with me" hahaha
Perfect morning to come across this advice. Thank you Richard.
So much appreciation for this video Bro.
I have been stuck on my marriage break-up of a French woman who I was with for 2 years. It was ever since that one day in late May 2016 and without telling me she just packed up all her bags and flew back to France.
This vid was whole perspective change for me to the fallacy of my whole thinking about her and our relationship and how I was going to get her back etc.
I do know that from talking with my friends and in my previous relationships that after some time has gone by. Whether it be, days, months, years and or decades.
Women do reflect and have deep regrets about the shit they have done, and how some of the men in their lives have been winners and how they walked away from it all only to walk in to another relationship that was the polar opposite and the guy they are with is a douche.
The lesson for me now and like you say. Don't look back and move forward and upwards
Be independent guys
After my divorce I focused on my life through my passion with cars
My two MALE dogs
Now I’m in a relationship and she has told me your so independent
I told her I have to be
Great video Richard, came in at the perfect moment. I was loosing my north, me! Thank you again
Absolutely fascinating....sometimes I wonder if I’ve been living in a cloud of confusion for the last 30 years....Richard your observations are so spot on!!!!!!
The more I watch and listen I realize I’ve been doing everything ass backwards. I’m 60 , where was this info when I was twenty? I’m still going to apply the wisdom you are sharing in my relationships and life because I feel I’ve just been awakened from a bad dream.
Thank you,
Bear
Barry it is never too late.
We suffer from breakups because sometimes we are too stupid and lazy or coward to see reality as it is.
Always maintain the FRAME,
If you are in her frame, she will destroy you one day or the other.
Do not be nice, say NO, they love it.
ALWAYS DON'T CARE, THE NEXT GOOD ONE IS COMING !
Watched most of you're videos, but this is one of my favorites. It resonated with me and always makes me check myself about considering reaching out to my ex.
Thank you Rich! This is really the best way to approach women! I sincerely appreciate your voice and it is supportive while we deal with women
I really like the way you are matter-of-fact. Many other channels one can just tell that the speaker still has bitterness and major unresolved issues. We all generalize to some degree, but they tend to *really* overgeneralize to the extreme and it's easy to tell (if you are being honest with yourself) that they are not being honest with themselves. With you I sense you have dealt with your stuff, emotionally matured, and have a sincere desire to share your experience and knowledge to help your fellow man. Thank you for that.
Richard, thanks so much for your work. This video especially, and today, because I’ll be breaking up with a girl who has done nothing for me over the course of our six month relationship. This video is fuel for bettering myself and my life by cutting ties with people who don’t work for my life.
Solid gold advice......I wished I had known and did this 9 months ago.....it wrecked me pretty bad...I'm 57 yrs old, never to old to learn....I'll NEVER, EVER put myself in that position again....Always be strong and a MAN.....give them the breakup and walk away......your self respect and dignity are always first....if a woman emasculates you.....youre toast and look weak...and its difficult to regain that and kills your self esteem.....I learned the painful hard way....thanks Rich....my brother from another mother..
My GF recently broke up with me for no good reason, I asked her what she wanted to do and she said " I wont be dating for a while, I need to take a step back". Three weeks later she had already met and banged two guys that I know of on Match. I can honestly say that I really thought that I knew this person well, what a fool I was.
Heart wrenching.
Sorry that happened man. Yeah it's what they all say to save face. Never believe a woman when she says she's not looking for another relationship or need time to herself. They're simply waiting for someone else to come in. And that window closes fast for women. It'll be alright man, I was in the same shoes you were in. Focus on leveling up and remove her from your life.
It’s not your wife /gf it’s just your turn.
BRILLIANT. Thank you so much for sharing! All the best from Dresden/Germany.
So much truth in this video! Wow
This was something I really needed to hear.
Thank you
Great video. I really enjoyed that one. Everything you said was dead on. Keep up the good work Richard!
HATS OFF TO YOU RICH , FOR THE MESSAGE YOU ARE BRINGING. ABSOLUTELY BRILLIANT AND ON POINT . LISTEN UP FELLAS.
Sir , your content helps to clear up the whole confussion and mis-understanding many guys have about women. Thanks for sharing a different perpesctive.
Such very good great advice!!!
Makes me feel better already....
Cuz guys put in so much work in "earning" a date while girls are on easy mode, They could ask anyone they want out and any guy would say yes.
The guy has to start all over again.
You have to do a decathlon within a death obstacle course to simply get a girl to actually show up to the date and not flake. Once she’s seating across from you it becomes a combination POW interrogation meets a job interview that you pay for and she can very easily decline any further dates. Oh and did I mention you’re not competing for gold here that was already won by someone else years ago. Silver you ask? Nope, not even close. In fact, bronze is not even up for grabs. You’re putting in all this effort for a busted up 3
Rich, this video is gold. Thank you.
Gatekeepers of the relationship. That's pure gold right there.
Wow 4 years on after Rich released this video it has just come back around to me.
Still very relevant today.
I had once me ex contacted me after 2 years when she saw me i had moved in another country and had a better job.
I replied to her with : im sorry who are you ? I don't remember 😆😆
I think that moment she doubted herself too lol.
By the way she broke up with me because she was texting other guys. I like this comment section to see how men are awaking up. We are really dump when it comes to relationships. We have to face the truth. Yes there are still good woman out there but 1 in a milion. The majority is exactly like this. They don't give a crap about our feelings, they think we are just tool they can use.
im 31 and dealing with my first heartbreak, and man, it is PAINFUL.
my heart needs to turn cold.
i dont want to go through this EVER again.
You’re watching the right channel then. It’ll go cold quickly watching Rich Cooper.
That last part hit sooooooo hard for me.
Married on an ultimatum...check
Moved to where she wanted...check
Put child in certain private school...check
Runs around the house drunk with drunk mother yelling its over...check
Eyes wide TF open now my dude, on a mission to take care of what I wanted to before I met she who shall not be named.
I found this interesting and very informative. I could have used this around 4 months ago. Puts things into perspective. Thanks for the video.
Just got heartbroken today. Thanks man for the video!
I'm a month over it, dude don't do what I did. Two weeks later I dragged myself back into her (I really missed her), and now I'm on a situation where I don't really see she is changed for the better, and she is kinda rekindling now, but I'm not really feeling it now; she is just the same as before and didn't change at all (despite all what she said).
All that video is TRUTH. The comment you highlight in it, and so many here are the same. I too was blindsided, crushed for the first time in my life (and I'm no spring chicken). We are soooo hurt because we are in love, our intentions are likely as great as they've ever been, the gal can say she loves you the day before, and then, BAM, she's gone, has forgotten all about you and is likely with another one and had been for some time. It hurts so much as we are caught unaware as never did she act like that before with anyone while we were with her, and it just seems so cold, like we never mattered. The truth is we likely did matter to her a lot... at one time, but when they switch, they switch, it's done. Oh, like in your own life examples they might come back later if the replacement(s) are not as good as us, but otherwise they have turned it off. And it's not even ill malicious intent on their part nor a desire to hurt. It's their nature. Now that I know, I can't picture being that hurt again, as I'm so much more aware. These is an issue with our Red Pill Awareness though: we tend to expect the worst out of them, or not value their current "love" much, so it makes for a self-fulfilling prophecy of a quicker breakup or no relationship at all...
Yeah, but people in a happy relationship rarely look on RUclips at these type of videos. That fact might be confounding your poll.
Shareef Taylor very little relationships last forever. All these people have been there already
Does everyone not know of some friend or relative that went thru a bitter breakup or divorce?
It is so common it is getting boring!
Valid point
For how long?...
6:50 "in the hunter gather day, a guy didn't come back from he hunt, so the other guys explained to his woman, that he ain't coming back, and so she has to choose another mate, and that's why contemporary women get over breakups faster than men".....makes sense
Thank u for this video my wife divorced me 11 months ago I still been fighting these feelings especially now that couple days ago she gave birth to his child as we have three 12. 7. 2. Year old I been tearing every other week especially when speaking with my kids I miss our family
Waterloo K hopefully she is letting you spend time freely with your kids.
Waterloo K move on bruh. She has.
Wish I would've found you in my 20's man. I'm 37 now with not a whole hell of a lot of runway left. Trying to lift the chains of the blue pill conditioning. It's like waking up for the very first time. Please keep up the good work brother
One of the 60% mentioned earlier in the video from the one woman I truly loved and which I did anything for.... don't do that, don't put her needs above ur goals! Thank you my brother for this video, wish I found it earlier so it could have helped me get through the emotional pain a little bit easier.
Holidays man... Most of my ltr have ended in the month of December/Jan...It has gotten easier to move on, but those first few weeks can really kick your ass. I find diving into work, gym, a new hobby really helps me get through those hard first weeks. A month later you will see clearly, and wonder why you were even heartbroken... Stay strong fellas!
yep. Been through that.
I had a 9 year long LTR-LDR combo..
I moved twice to be with her.
1st time changed cities, just to get dumped 6 months later (on my fucking birthday.. which I can no longer celebrate) .
Moved to UK, for 5.5 years - but I kept the contact going, really wanted to get back with her. Heavy one-itis case.
She decided she wants to get back.
I moved back to my country to be with her again. A long lived dream came true, as it seemed.
Year and a half passes - I got dumped again (4 days after Christmas, which we actually spent together with her family).
She had plans to dump me, that she's been implementing for a while.
She actually created a little "support community" that was installed to help her get through the break up (as she was attached to me as well.. ).
Well..
After 9 months she found her husband-to-be.
For me.. 4 years passed and I'm battling heavy depression. The friend pool got divided, and I was left with pretty much no one by my side.
They DO move on easily.
I hope you are better, I know how you feel...
1 time at 31. NEVER AGAIN! This happened because I imposed my will and try to force a square piece into a round hole. I was never her first choice. I won her over by default. Nobody else at the time. I did everything right except for the fact that she never FELT attraction for me initially. It lasted 2 years and things seemed too good to be true until she met someone that he had animal lust for. Without warning, she broke up with me. Lost 30 lbs. Felt worse than a burning knife going through my stomach. I will never relinquish that much power to another person every again.
I feel you brother....
Forcing something never works out.
I have watched many of theses kinds of videos. This is absolutely one of the best I have ever saw. Keep up the good work.
This was a great video. Glad I subscribed.
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I really needed to hear this. Add a +1 to another life you saved.
Women does not move fast. It is just that when she told you, she had already decided to break up 3 month ago or more to build up resentment and to wait for another opportunity to grab. She only told you when she got that opportunity. So just move on. Seriously.
Damn this guy is good, wish I found him a year ago!!!! we are living in exciting times to have coaches like this... guys of the passed were SOL.
This Channel is amazing! Great Work!
Man this is some REAL TRUTH. i dont like what im hearing sometimes and thats because it's true and i just cant handle it yet