9 Habits That Are Destroying Your Confidence

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  • Опубликовано: 27 сен 2024
  • Some people are born with an innate streak of confidence whilst others take time to develop confidence as they develop from children into adults. But there will be times when your confidence takes a knock, right? It is common to feel like you wish your confidence was better. Whilst other things that are out of control may impact your confidence such as other people, it is important to know which things you are in control of and how you can prevent yourself from destroying your own confidence.
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  • @Psych2go
    @Psych2go  3 года назад +1110

    Thanks for voting on this topic from community tab! If you enjoyed this video, check out 7 Signs You Lack Confidence ruclips.net/video/8JiFrGa2f98/видео.html to find out if you are lacking self confidence. A lack of self confidence can be pretty tricky to tame, especially if you’re not paying attention to the ways it affects your everyday behavior.

    • @hyunjinsamericanhoe1078
      @hyunjinsamericanhoe1078 3 года назад +19

      hi! i would just like to thank you so much for helping me with these type of videos!! never stop💖

    • @h.amster1314
      @h.amster1314 3 года назад +5

      Hii!!

    • @thewea3042
      @thewea3042 3 года назад +3

      This topic is so out of topic 😅

    • @Asgretalos
      @Asgretalos 3 года назад +2

      Hello! 🤍

    • @X3na0nPaw2
      @X3na0nPaw2 3 года назад +3

      H e l l o okay- you have been teaching me that I am gonna have a mental breakdown and- that I do in fact have depression:) but I’m a big fan :)

  • @mmarimarimari
    @mmarimarimari 3 года назад +3439

    I literally just voted for this in the community tab...Psych2Go really said "your wish is my command"

    • @GiftedShield
      @GiftedShield 3 года назад +54

      Same lol

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад +443

      LOL exactly. It magically released today - Cindy

    • @Jay-rm7kb
      @Jay-rm7kb 3 года назад +15

      Psych2Go hello 💛👋

    • @cronicas_imemoriais
      @cronicas_imemoriais 3 года назад +11

      They probably have like 20 videos ready to post

    • @jordanbrown6253
      @jordanbrown6253 3 года назад +4

      Me too! Gotta love this channel

  • @Borzah
    @Borzah 3 года назад +6853

    You will face many defeats in life, but never let yourself be defeated

    • @sleep1ngstar
      @sleep1ngstar 3 года назад +61

      bro i see u everywhere

    • @keiron.4612
      @keiron.4612 3 года назад +26

      Never seen you before 🤭

    • @johnbrock4974
      @johnbrock4974 3 года назад +75

      This guy is the embodiment of positiveness

    • @keiron.4612
      @keiron.4612 3 года назад +20

      @@johnbrock4974 if you say so

    • @vixveee
      @vixveee 3 года назад +13

      I didn’t expect to ser you here

  • @kreamtaeng
    @kreamtaeng 3 года назад +2105

    Negative thinking is sooo hard to overcome when you've been at it for almost your whole life. Also we set the bar low for ourselves so that we won't get dissapointed once we didn't meet our expectations

    • @wellbornthrower596
      @wellbornthrower596 2 года назад +25

      God, rumination I tend to do this from time to time nowadays 😓😑😞

    • @sobiaperez4484
      @sobiaperez4484 2 года назад +13

      I know no other way 😞
      I hate being this way

    • @antonyle2789
      @antonyle2789 2 года назад +6

      @@sobiaperez4484 Well, if you keep viewing it like that, It won’t get better. Watch reason 2 in the video and you’ll see why. You become what you think.

    • @maitemoreno5543
      @maitemoreno5543 2 года назад +12

      how do you get rid of it??? it's destroying me

    • @inaaaasal
      @inaaaasal 2 года назад +12

      True, sometimes I find that setting the bar low helps me loosen up a little. I tend to break easily under pressure. Especially when you're a performer, it's a really tense feeling when you're chasing perfection all the time, and the nerves end up melting you. You have no idea how liberating it can be sometimes to hit the stage with an "I dont care" attitude. Haha it brings out the best in you.

  • @ohiesi3666
    @ohiesi3666 2 года назад +98

    its easy to be confident if you're not ugly, racially judged or having un-supportive people around you... since i go through this, i've decided to start to gain confidence slowly, not for anyone, but for me. so to anyone reading this, it doesnt matter if you're ugly or have bad people around you, just know to keep up ur confidence, and you will shine one day.

    • @dinamita2870
      @dinamita2870 Год назад +1

      I'm sorry you have to go through this. By un-suportive you mean your "friends" or family? How are you doing now?

    • @tanyasehrawat890
      @tanyasehrawat890 Год назад +8

      My mother have always demotivated me and have been a negative thinker . This thing effects me lot . seriously a lot . I am practising my ways of thinking positive and gaining the confidence back . She body shames me , never appreciates me. Haah it's so exhausting. All the very best to me and everyone out there. We all shine ⭐

  • @necko7028
    @necko7028 2 года назад +131

    Anxiety is a real thing. Ive been comparing myself to others too much recently and it's had a real tough impact on my mental health. If anything, I would advise people to start meditation because it's certainly helped me

    • @dinamita2870
      @dinamita2870 Год назад +1

      Heeey same heree

    • @anacorn8824
      @anacorn8824 Год назад +2

      I fully agree whenever I get to anxious about something I like to meditate and only be totally present while focusing on where I am and the sounds around me. It usually calms me down almost instantly. If anyone has never given it a try I highly recommend it

    • @EmbraceTheStruggle24
      @EmbraceTheStruggle24 Год назад +1

      💯

  • @nayaland9115
    @nayaland9115 3 года назад +3120

    "Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but it's thinking of yourself less."
    To the 1% that are reading this
    have a nice day or night 💖💖

  • @Qwerzxcv954
    @Qwerzxcv954 3 года назад +656

    "Humility is not thinking less of yourself. But it's thinking of yourself less."
    I really needed a quote like this, since I confuse humility with self-deprecation...

    • @IshaSharma11
      @IshaSharma11 3 года назад +8

      Well said

    • @gracegeronimo6727
      @gracegeronimo6727 2 года назад +7

      I still don't actually get what the quote means. 😅 Can anybody elaborate on this even more? Whoever you'll be , thank you very much in advance. 😁🥰

    • @Qwerzxcv954
      @Qwerzxcv954 2 года назад +12

      @@gracegeronimo6727 "Thinking less of yourself" means that you have impostor syndrome.
      "Thinking of yourself less" means that you don't see yourself as a superior being who has the right to despise others.

    • @gracegeronimo6727
      @gracegeronimo6727 2 года назад +2

      @@Qwerzxcv954 Oh thank you 😊😊

    • @Qwerzxcv954
      @Qwerzxcv954 2 года назад

      @@gracegeronimo6727 You're welcome ;)

  • @allytrevino6
    @allytrevino6 3 года назад +610

    the little cartoon voice saying “mhmm...” and “uh-oh” is honestly such a cute and sweet add on 😊

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад +74

      Aww thank you so much

    • @allytrevino6
      @allytrevino6 3 года назад +15

      @@Psych2go ofc :>

    • @Cube_Box
      @Cube_Box 2 года назад +6

      found the voice annoying tbh

    • @viktorkigyos3839
      @viktorkigyos3839 Год назад +1

      If you thininkg what's other people say you don't see what's They really think... 🥴😕 'Cuz maybe It's even more positive than you think😊

  • @Noname-1695
    @Noname-1695 2 года назад +184

    To be honest, your videos are the answers for my silent inquisitions. I can't get the confidence since I ruminate the bad things in the past, that I'll not be able to change even if I struggle hard.
    And this video helps me to just realize what I should be doing. You guys are just blessings in disguise to me! 🙂

    • @dinamita2870
      @dinamita2870 Год назад +3

      Yes, ruminating can be hard to stop sometimes but one thing that helps me is that we all fail sometimes and we have to accept that and learn from it and move on. Everyone has weaknesses

    • @EmbraceTheStruggle24
      @EmbraceTheStruggle24 Год назад +1

      🙏🙏🙏❤

  • @efranciscolau
    @efranciscolau 3 года назад +159

    TL;DW
    1. You care too much about what other people think
    2. Negative thinking: creates self-fulfilling prophecy
    3. Social Media Living aka comparing yourself to others portrayed “realities”
    4. Self-deprecating thoughts:
    5. Blame Game: finding excuses for your situation instead of being proactive about it. Taking ownership
    6. Setting the bar low for yourself:
    7. Thinking you don’t have anything to say or contribute to the conversation
    8. Dismissing compliments
    9. Ruminating: focusing on poor decisions or the problem
    Edit: thank you for pointing out that I missed the last one! I hope everyone has a great day!

  • @cocoqueen5910
    @cocoqueen5910 3 года назад +61

    I been struggling with depression and anxiety and I lost a really close love one and now I am like struggling even more so I told my mom I need help so now I getting help

    • @rohan5431
      @rohan5431 3 года назад +8

      Best of luck Always remember you are much stronger than your problems and God bless you

    • @nakshatramusic21
      @nakshatramusic21 3 года назад +3

      Best of luck bro 💪

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад +27

      Beauty. Thank you for speaking up for yourself and asking help when you need it! I hope everything will go well for you. It will require a lot of time and effort. We believe you can do it! - Cindy

    • @cocoqueen5910
      @cocoqueen5910 3 года назад +1

      @@rohan5431 thank you so much

    • @cocoqueen5910
      @cocoqueen5910 3 года назад

      @@nakshatramusic21 thank u

  • @kandabatata978
    @kandabatata978 2 года назад +15

    I stuggle with ALL of these. But i really want to feel as awesome as I ACTUALLY am. so I'm gonna work hard towards building my confidence. Thanks, Psych2go

  • @EmanNagi
    @EmanNagi 3 года назад +16

    The most important thing I got out of this video is that the phase I'm going through doesn't necessarily mean that I'm weak because even strong people can face a challenge when having these type of thoughts.

  • @ashleythehooman
    @ashleythehooman 3 года назад +369

    ✨ Summary ✨
    0:46 You care too much for what other people think
    1:16 Negative thinking
    2:02 Social Media living
    2:38 Self deprecating talk
    3:09 'Blame Game' is your favourite sport
    4:13 Thinking you don't have anything to say
    4:52 You dismiss compliments
    5:25 Ruminating
    Hope this helps💙
    Everyone hope you have a good day/night💖

  • @thechuckleshow2470
    @thechuckleshow2470 3 года назад +205

    That cartoon and his voice which was coming again and again has better confidence than me lol

  • @ninaa9061
    @ninaa9061 3 года назад +74

    Natalia’s voice is so soft 🥰

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад +36

      Amanda? xD

    • @Name-nx6ef
      @Name-nx6ef 3 года назад +7

      It's amanda's voice. Lmao😆

    • @emilym7069
      @emilym7069 3 года назад +1

      her name is Amanda

  • @Arti57876
    @Arti57876 6 месяцев назад +3

    I also have lack of confidence . But one week ago in school teacher gave speacking activity to all first tern is mine i feared so much . But i gave well . Teacher said you speak well and next time be loud . When this activity over my friends apperciate me because mostly student forgot their lines but i didnt . I was very happy . It boost my confirnce . My voice is still low . So i came to this video

  • @alaina520
    @alaina520 2 года назад +13

    Thank you for this video, I have a volleyball tournament this Saturday and normally I play on my school’s B team but for the tournament I will be playing on A team. I wasn’t feeling very confident in my skills but this video helped me confront my negative thinking and self-doubt. Thank you, and to whoever is reading this, ily ❤

  • @leah8894
    @leah8894 3 года назад +278

    For me, my low confidence is kind of a coping mechanism. By setting the bar low for myself, I don’t disappoint myself too much.

    • @oo8962
      @oo8962 2 года назад +29

      Me too. Whenever something isn't going my way I'm like "What did I expect? Of course it would turned out like this"

    • @sami_lynn
      @sami_lynn Год назад +8

      Same although I can’t imagine this is very healthy either 😅

    • @leehuff2330
      @leehuff2330 Год назад +5

      And the few times I DO manage to do something right, that's a pleasant surprise.

    • @EmbraceTheStruggle24
      @EmbraceTheStruggle24 Год назад +1

      I know what this feels like... 😶🙄🙃

    • @CyberpunkEdgerunner513
      @CyberpunkEdgerunner513 Год назад +2

      Good always set your goals low and bar low because that’s who you are a low self pitying self you have it correct low set your goals and bar low so you’ll akways be low

  • @6xmaaaa
    @6xmaaaa 3 года назад +188

    I used to be so loud and confident in school but lockdown caused me social anxiety this sucks.

    • @apollo6519
      @apollo6519 3 года назад +23

      I know how you feel same 😥

    • @IshaSharma11
      @IshaSharma11 3 года назад +15

      Same

    • @6xmaaaa
      @6xmaaaa 3 года назад +10

      I over came my anxiety omg I don’t have it anymore.😛

    • @apollo6519
      @apollo6519 3 года назад +6

      @@6xmaaaa love that for you i still have it but it got better too

    • @6xmaaaa
      @6xmaaaa 3 года назад +5

      @@apollo6519 hope ur doing ok at the moment.

  • @_whoknowswho_3705
    @_whoknowswho_3705 2 года назад +5

    Videos of this channel do help me overcome my bad moods, negative thoughts and lack of energy to take control over my mind. I often struggle with lack of confidence, overthinking and anxiety, so when I hear this comforting voice which says me that everything is changeable and can be improved it really warms me up. Thank you a lot💛 You saved me💫💕

  • @nayomigunasekara2405
    @nayomigunasekara2405 5 месяцев назад +2

    1. Care too much about wt other people think
    2. Negative thoughts
    3. Social media living
    4. Self deprecating talk
    5. "Blame game" is your favorite thing
    6. You set the bar low for urself
    7. Thinking you have nothing meaningful to add to a discussion
    8. You dismiss complements
    9. Ruminating (Focussing on the problems/issues, rather than solutions)

  • @heehoo47
    @heehoo47 3 года назад +438

    *Starts to struggle in something*
    Psych2Go: _That's our cue._

  • @13._.1
    @13._.1 3 года назад +23

    My depression and anxiety: Write that down, WRITE THAT DOWN
    *WRITE IT DOWN*

  • @weeba9601
    @weeba9601 2 года назад +5

    I literally relate to all of these points, not lying. This just shows me how and why my confidence is so low at this point. I'll try to better myself for sure.

  • @forgottendoors2442
    @forgottendoors2442 3 года назад +22

    Hi everyone I'm Diana.
    I started writing about myself in comments and alot of people replied with similar stories and great advice🧡
    Now I'm out of my abusive relationship.. I'm finally free. I don't feel attached and I'm not scared anymore. I'm slowly gaining back my confidence and fixing my health. I'm grateful for all the support I got even though it was through strangers. #feelingblessed😇

    • @wholesomezack
      @wholesomezack 2 года назад +1

      Can we talk pls ? I need some help

    • @cookiecrumble7801
      @cookiecrumble7801 2 года назад +1

      @@wholesomezack I’m not her but of course I’d love to help what’s up?
      Ik this comment is really late but if you have anything to say I’m here this is a safe space ❤️

    • @wholesomezack
      @wholesomezack 2 года назад +1

      @@cookiecrumble7801 I'm kinda doin better but i would like to give me ur ig or smthn

  • @Iamdoublegun
    @Iamdoublegun 2 года назад +5

    I relate to the 9 habits, i feel it..my self confidence has dropped drastically and now i see why

  • @coffeemug42
    @coffeemug42 Год назад +9

    i feel especially called out, this vid described me so perfectly. and honestly letting go of these traits is so hard I've been trying but it's really challenging. I hope i can overcome these challenges though, to become a better version of me

  • @easybakeoven15
    @easybakeoven15 3 года назад +189

    i’ve always been told that i seem super confident, and this always surprises me because i always thought i came off as very insecure and unconfident (which is how i feel). so think about this: sometimes, even if you think that you’re not confident and no one looks up to you, remember that someone, or many people, probably think you come off as a confident person. even if this isn’t the case, you’re still perfect just like you are ❤️

  • @kimtombing5000
    @kimtombing5000 3 года назад +48

    omg the cute things with plants have a voice now!!! CuT3!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @crysta1z953
    @crysta1z953 3 года назад +67

    Read this if you have ever felt alone, depressed, suicidal, lost, scared, worthless, abandoned, or anything of that nature, this is for you
    You Are Beautiful.
    You Are Wanted.
    You Are Wonderful.
    Don't quit on yourself. Don't hurt yourself. You are worth the world and nobody wants to see you suffering. This is not the end. The way you feel right now will pass. Peoples minds will change. Things WILL get better.
    We love you and are always here for you. Do NOT do something permanent over something temporary.
    You're better than that.
    All stars need to see darkness before the light.
    And always remember, Don't change so people will like you. Be yourself & the right people will find and love the real you.
    Your
    own
    unique
    Mindset
    always
    trys
    to
    engage in the
    right ways
    Now read the first letter of every word
    You Matter! no matter what other people may say. Always know this is true. It helps. You are worth my time to write this. I do care.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад +9

      What a beautiful message! Thanks for sharing! - Cindy

    • @crysta1z953
      @crysta1z953 3 года назад

      @@Psych2go omg thank you very much!!! trying to make people happy :D

    • @jrush5080
      @jrush5080 3 года назад

      @@0toNaN ❤️

  • @upbestsalt1551
    @upbestsalt1551 2 года назад +2

    The thing is. I used to be very happy and confident(at least I thought I was)until middle school. That's where everything went downhill. Ofc it's getting a little better in highschool but I still can't really find confidence. I don't make fun of anyone. I just automatically trigger people just by standing.

  • @samuricexful
    @samuricexful 3 года назад +3

    I used to suffer all these things. I’ve eliminated a few from my life, still working on some, and a few still control me. I won’t stop until I’ve conquered them all!

  • @archanadash2605
    @archanadash2605 3 года назад +7

    The voice is so cute. Instantly felt , ' Aww. don't worry, you are great'

  • @PikRabbit
    @PikRabbit 3 года назад +59

    i personally find it helped a lot when I told myself that I was decent instead of not good enough
    I slowly had a more neutral mindset and then when I focused on positive aspects, being optimistic was easier and it felt natural instead of going from 0 to 100 lol

  • @Munci_StudiosOFFICIAL
    @Munci_StudiosOFFICIAL Год назад +2

    I 've always had negative-thinking but every time I said to myself '' I can't do this'' ''what if I fail I'm not good enough for this'' I'II always try to make myself happy with watching cat videos and that helps so much

  • @studyholic758
    @studyholic758 2 года назад +2

    This video really helped me in realizing how social media was destroying my confident.

  • @henrywenn
    @henrywenn 3 года назад +35

    1. 0:48 You care too much what other people think
    2. 1:17 Negative thinking
    3. 2:03 Social media living
    4. 2:37 Self-deprecating talk
    5. 3:08 “Blame game” is your favorite sport
    6. 3:44 You set the bar low for yourself
    7. 4:13 Thinking you don’t have anything to say or contribute to a conversation
    8. 4:51 You dismiss compliments
    9. 5:24 Ruminating
    This took a while... but I hope it was worth it😊

  • @Sweet_Pxtatx
    @Sweet_Pxtatx 3 года назад +4

    It's so satisfying to know that everyone else is going through the same stuff , when everyone around is pretending to be ok.

  • @earthquaxe
    @earthquaxe 3 года назад +11

    well the habits are still so difficult to stop

    • @kimberlybogert7031
      @kimberlybogert7031 3 года назад +3

      Yeah..they are😓

    • @yankeedoodle7509
      @yankeedoodle7509 3 года назад +1

      Look at the bright side. You went to this video because you recognized something is up with your confidence. Sometimes the realization is what gets you up the first step. It might be hard, but if you work at each one and improve you might be pleasantly surprised.

  • @YokoshimaOfficial
    @YokoshimaOfficial 2 года назад

    People have to believe the social media comparison is so real... my friend tells me how 'social' I seem because of my posts, then I call her and start to pour out all the misfortunes I happen to be facing this month... how the icecream with the cute rabbit face she saw made her think I was living such a happy life just to tell her that it was my breakfast, lunch and dinner that day... she tells me that I am 'so motivating' for always going for a run in my stories, I tell her that after each run I succumb into depression which is supposed to feel the opposite but that's how much life had been bad on my end (I even have self-affirmation notes all over my bathroom mirror). Just went live yesterday for the first time telling my followers transparently that I was not okay and their surprising support was the reason I'm still here.
    Not everything seems the way it actually is. Thank you, I had to understand it myself, too. I did not know that ruminating 24/7 was the reason of my dread.

  • @halahal-hussien4781
    @halahal-hussien4781 Год назад +1

    Unfortunately I do them all.. and all the time. and my confidence is zero . Thank u for lighting up my mind and path. YOU ARE MY FAVORITE CHANNEL!

  • @magnaajeyam9994
    @magnaajeyam9994 3 года назад +30

    Can we just talk abt tat cartoon who's talking in between.....is toooo cute😭....I cant-....gsjabskajak

  • @footylad6468
    @footylad6468 3 года назад +36

    I used to be so confident but through lockdown i developed social anxiety

    • @salty547
      @salty547 3 года назад +8

      Me too, can’t even speak to my good friends normally anymore

  • @richardoliver8174
    @richardoliver8174 2 года назад

    Ruminating about a bad relationship is taking a toll on my confidence, but I’m getting better everyday.

  • @RS-xo7rd
    @RS-xo7rd 6 месяцев назад

    Blimey, this video sums up 90% of my life. I have put myself down for many years and find it hard to stop. I'm poor at social conversation and lack confidence in party-type situations; I always feel I have nothing to say. Unsurprisingly, I'm single and likely to remain so.

  • @akshayaelango663
    @akshayaelango663 3 года назад +27

    As if the presenter's voice is not sweet enough, that cartoon character's voice is...

  • @lovefancy
    @lovefancy 3 года назад +5

    “Humility is not thinking less about yourself, but thinking about yourself less.”
    I’ll take it..

  • @alyatalitha3717
    @alyatalitha3717 3 года назад +6

    I am guilty of ruminating. Did it a whole lot more than i can count. It's even worse when i'm going to bed to the point where i can't sleep without my phone as a distraction or else i'll cry my eyes out to sleep. It's exhausting.

    • @sagenosnibor9173
      @sagenosnibor9173 3 года назад +1

      Sending you a virtual hug ❤. So sorry you're going thru.

    • @AleXia-wv5iw
      @AleXia-wv5iw 2 года назад

      RUminating the whole shit was the most waste of time i have extreme shyness at school and i have introvert personality at college i hate it i want to end mylife either

  • @aartikannaujiya5115
    @aartikannaujiya5115 Год назад +7

    Honestly, each and every point mentioned in the video is relatable. From now on I'll work on myself to build confidence. Thank you for making wonderful videos on such topics

  • @uneedtherapy5937
    @uneedtherapy5937 2 года назад

    I used to think that I'm confident and charming before pandemic. But, now that I've started my clg, I feel not so confident. I struggle with body positivity. I struggle with making meaningful conversations. All my classmates are laughing and chatting and I pretend to be on my phone cuz I dont know what to say. I feel so pressurised to talk to other teenagers my age. Lately, I've been taking other people's opinions too seriously. Ik they are joking and that's what friends do and that I have to just laugh it off. But I cant do that. I feel so embarrassed and I keep thinking abt it for the whole day. But here rn, i make a promise that I'll be my confident self. I'll be proud of who I am and acknowledge my strengths. I'll also put myself out there more often instead of gluing myself to the phone

  • @offrails
    @offrails 3 года назад +6

    I don't tend to blame other as much as I tend to blame myself - I think I have 20/20 hindsight. Also, I tend to be quiet in conversations because 1 - I don't have much to say, 2 - nobody is listening, and 3 - whenever I try to get a few words out, someone cuts me off.
    Accepting compliments is something I never learned to do, though criticism usually leaves me devastated.

  • @Evanxbdlt
    @Evanxbdlt 3 года назад +146

    When you realize there's no time travellers: *visible confusion*

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад +43

      haha right?

    • @virginiagamez6299
      @virginiagamez6299 3 года назад +1

      @@Psych2go How do you do that?

    • @lucaspeng5063
      @lucaspeng5063 3 года назад +3

      @SpaceCadet StarWoman join their youtube subscribtion thing and u get those

    • @lucaspeng5063
      @lucaspeng5063 3 года назад +2

      @@virginiagamez6299 join their youtube subscription thing and u get access to it

    • @lucaspeng5063
      @lucaspeng5063 3 года назад

      @SpaceCadet StarWoman no problem

  • @bloodblade6775
    @bloodblade6775 3 года назад +11

    1) 0:43 You care too much about what other people think
    2) 1:18 Negative thinking
    3) 2:04 Social media living
    4) 2:40 Self deprecating talk
    5) 3: 10 Blame game is you fav sport
    6) 3:46 You set the bar low for yourself
    7) 4:15 Thinking that you don't have anything to say or to contribute to a discussion
    8) 4:53 You dismiss complements
    9) 5:26 Ruminating

  • @kakyoinmoment9778
    @kakyoinmoment9778 Год назад +1

    I was having a terrible day and I was told by my family to work more on my self confidence and try to find videos on RUclips. This is what came up and it spoke to me perfectly. I do almost all of these things and I chalked it up to just basic anxiety. Thank you for this video it was very helpful

  • @wut6307
    @wut6307 2 года назад +3

    I don’t think of Fail As F.A.I.L I think of it as…First Attempt In Learning😎🦋

  • @RainbowX
    @RainbowX 3 года назад +142

    🙏😔

  • @isaniity
    @isaniity 3 года назад +22

    As an introvert with social anxiety this is all so hard 😭

  • @MrArcadia2009
    @MrArcadia2009 6 месяцев назад

    I came to watch this, as I didn't have a lot of confidence in myself, but it reminded me of a video that I'm gonna watch, and I know it will help. A lot of this, is me to a T. I'm not happy with myself. And I'm trying my best to work on it. If anyone reads this, and you're not confident in your abilities. Read this, and take it to your heart, if u want to. Give yourself some credit for once. Believe me, I have trouble with this, too. I was playing a game earlier, and a person who helps you out on your journey asks "Are you certain I'm the man for the job, sir?" And I always think, "Yes, you're uniquely qualified," and so are you! Positivity IS THE KEY to the lock that is called Mental illness. REMEMBER THAT, above all else! Being in a positive mindset really helps out, sometimes.

  • @hiddenname9809
    @hiddenname9809 2 года назад

    I think this is easier said than done. There's more underlying stuff going on in a person with low self-confidence. It doesn't help that we live in a society where the goodlooking, the rich, the talented, the ones with connections are most valued and prized, which contributes to the problem. You can virtue-signal all you want, but that's the real truth.

  • @trickstergenie8194
    @trickstergenie8194 3 года назад +12

    Its canon now, the Psych2Go characters have _really_ high pitched voices

  • @goldsteins7819
    @goldsteins7819 3 года назад +7

    Jokes on you, My confidence can't be destroyed, cuz i don't have any in the first place.

  • @stvrlight_xP
    @stvrlight_xP 5 месяцев назад

    I remember in grade 5 i was so confident and i had a high self esteem and i never cared what others thought of me. Now in 6th grade i moved to a new country with a new language and i don't understand anything in school, I have completely lost my self confidence and i am scared of getting judged all the time. I am ALWAYS stressed and anxious, but now im trying really hard to regain my confidence

  • @murfiqahaqilah2213
    @murfiqahaqilah2213 Год назад +1

    Out of the points that you have mentioned... I have done at least 8 of them😭 that's why I'm indecisive

  • @forgeddragon4617
    @forgeddragon4617 3 года назад +20

    I absolutely love how informative and calming these videos are. I'm not usually interested in learning stuff mostly, but these are interesting topics that I enjoy learning about. I also really like the animations.

  • @CaptainManaFruit
    @CaptainManaFruit 3 года назад +13

    This might not be seen, but I would love to see a video on the topic of confidence and ADHD. Not beingconfidence when you are neurodivergent (and have spent your childhood undiagnosed) can feel different than this list. For example, people with ADHD tend to talk a lot about what they like, and can't read social cues until someone tells them to stop, which often leads to rejection sensitivity. Also, when you are overthinking what you did or didn't do with ADHD, it can come with hyperfixating on it and when you know you are, you can't stop because this is what the brain is focused on.

  • @funkerbunkermemberr
    @funkerbunkermemberr 3 года назад +3

    I'm confident, until the teachers start shaming me because of my grades.

  • @bobbybarnes6888
    @bobbybarnes6888 2 года назад +1

    On number 9 about ruminating, I had a tough story where aI had a panic attack cause my dad told me that my opportunity on communicating with random female peers is right there! I dressed pretty well during my back-to school shopping, but it sucks that I missed the opportunity and replayed the negative things and saying "I've should've done this, she's not worth my time", "I'm a loser! Wahhh!" etc. It only took me anout a few minutes to understand that it's not a big deal and I should be proud of my missed opportunity because it's never too late to miss your opportunity! And this video helped me a lot on understanding that that the most confident people we know today xan be put down easily. And now I understand that I'm a human being and I'm still growing up and I got a long life ahead of me! So please ya'll if u feel the same way, don't end up to a trap that I set up.

  • @thunderwolf2576
    @thunderwolf2576 Год назад

    I don't want to be that guy but this really hurts. Im 24 now and now that I think about, I have lost my confidence ever since I was little. It hurts on how much hurt I put on myself cause of past traumas that made me lose my confidence. At times I feel enraged, sad and confused on how I became the way I am now and I still struggle with it. This hurts me deep in my body, mind and soul cause I always thought something was wrong with me. It was only what happened to me from all those traumas that make me the way I am. It really hurts and I'm tired yet I'm somehow happy I got to see this video. Thank you.

  • @saradm991
    @saradm991 2 года назад +3

    I can relate to number 8. Sometimes I just feel like I don't deserve it and that they just say it to make me feel better. My biggest fear is getting something I don't deserve.

    • @engineeraccidentally110
      @engineeraccidentally110 2 года назад

      Don't show these signs to look confident
      ruclips.net/video/8-bOrxZfqYY/видео.html

  • @ruby__xx__xx__shadow3434
    @ruby__xx__xx__shadow3434 3 года назад +71

    Hello wherever you are I just want you to know you’re beautiful and good night good morning and good afternoon

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад +15

      Beautiful message! Thanks for sharing positivity! - Cindy

    • @TwilightAngel_89
      @TwilightAngel_89 3 года назад

      Lovely, nice words. 😄I hardly hear the word beautiful unfortunately 😅

    • @ruby__xx__xx__shadow3434
      @ruby__xx__xx__shadow3434 3 года назад

      @@TwilightAngel_89 well I bet you are beautiful

    • @TwilightAngel_89
      @TwilightAngel_89 3 года назад

      @@ruby__xx__xx__shadow3434 thanks 😊

  • @GustavoSilva-ny8jc
    @GustavoSilva-ny8jc Месяц назад +1

    1:26 AAAAWNN THE 2ND VOICE IS SO CUUUUUTE!!!!!!

  • @angelicatrogue4979
    @angelicatrogue4979 2 года назад

    "This is a story that you've told yourself and you've started to believe that it's true. " THIS!!

  • @nevergonnagiveyouup1180
    @nevergonnagiveyouup1180 3 года назад +5

    3:43
    What if no matter how many times someone tells you something isn’t your fault, you still think it’s your fault and that you screwed everything up despite knowing that’s not true.

  • @xFefeMiyax
    @xFefeMiyax 3 года назад +3

    I'm not proud of it, but I have all these habits. It's like a rollercoaster, because I know it makes me feel awful but these thoughts always come back to me. And I know it's hard when you lack confidence, but I hope everyone who has these horrible habits like me, even if it's for a moment or when you feel a little bit proud of yourself for something you did: you did great and we're taking a step forward!

  • @nsp74
    @nsp74 10 дней назад +1

    you are a blessing to so many people around the world

  • @DefinitelyNotSoul77
    @DefinitelyNotSoul77 10 месяцев назад

    One habit that has lowered my confidence A LOT are the thoughts of “what *if* I can’t?” Or “What *If* I fail?”

  • @cheeshay6766
    @cheeshay6766 3 года назад +14

    The cute kid voice ✨

  • @quinnblacklivesmatter
    @quinnblacklivesmatter 3 года назад +34

    Wow I do all these things... dang. Its hard to change, especially when a lot of this is due to trauma. Keep trying, everyone. Keep the hope in your heart, and keep trying. Your life and experiences matter. You matter.
    Thank you for all you do, and all you will do. I'm so proud of you, we got this.

  • @Sesilia678
    @Sesilia678 Год назад

    2 years ago i met Psych2Go and at the same time i went up to the next grade on my Senior Highschool years. I had found that i'm lack of confidence, so instead of thinking about it, i went to youtube to find a solution that can maybe solve my problem. And that's the first time i met this channel. I listened one of those videos that talks about confidence problem. At first i can only relate and understand a few points, but as time goes on, i having various experiences in my life, and finally came back to this video again. I realize that now i can relate and understand almost of the points, especially the first one, where we shouldn't care too much about what other people think about us. Seeing the first point, i realize that me in the present started to not care much about what people think about me, i did the things i want to, and now can accept myself, my own weakness and my strenght. Thank you Psych2Go, i'll be back one day to watch your videos again, to check and also comparing the old self me with the new me.
    Forgive my grammar :'

  • @minniechu9237
    @minniechu9237 Год назад

    I compared myself a lot to others mostly after I moved to a new place and started having social Media. Which completely destroyed my self esteem. I suddenly became more quieter and less out going. First because I wasn’t familiar with the new language. But also cause I couldn’t relate with other students. It felt so different from what I was used to. School felt suffocating and I hated it as I grew up. I was signed as the quiet kid. I distracted myself with those lonely emotions through watching videos. I had no confidence in myself, without realising time quickly flew by. Suddenly in 8th grade I had find a apprenticeship. I had to find a place to work at. I had to think of what I wanted to do in the future. I had no clue what to do. At last moment I chose to go to an Art school, cause I was interested in Art and I loved drawing. After next week I am gonna finish my Art school. I have met so many great and amazing people. Whom I aspire to be. I had fun and self reflected on myself. My mindset changed a little. I became more confident in myself and I also made some amazing friend’s, who had similar goal and mindset as me. I learnt to be more grateful of those around me and care for me. Though still today I do compare myself to others and am hate myself at times. But I am trying to be better. I am trying to take time to know myself and care for myself more. I am very thankful for everyone that spent time and supported me through all the years. So I am going to try hard to reach my goals and pay them back for supporting me. I want to try to get out of my comfort zone and do all the thinks, which I hesitated and didn’t do in the past.

  • @ralunix4612
    @ralunix4612 3 года назад +4

    Aaaaaa it's voice is adorable!

  • @yavikaritu33
    @yavikaritu33 3 года назад +6

    This was really helpful❤️ I would appreciate it if you guys could make a video on how we can be more respectful to ourselves in front of people, through our words. Thanks for all you do☺️

  • @michaelnelson2857
    @michaelnelson2857 2 года назад +1

    Your voice makes this a whole lot easier I genuinely appreciate you 💛

  • @anacorn8824
    @anacorn8824 Год назад

    I have a really hard time thinking I’m not good enough to do certain things or that if I try I won’t succeed. For example I have a drivers test coming up and whenever I think about it my mind immediately goes to an area where I feel too nervous that I’ll fail. But after watching this video I thought to myself that I know that I’m a good driver and that I have the ability to pass this test. Literally thinking to yourself that you can do it and truly believing in your ability actually does help. It may have been one instance but I literally already feel better about this circumstance I’m in. I know I can do this and you should know that you can do and accomplish whatever obstacle it is you’re trying to accomplish. Just repeat it to yourself and truly believe it, because deep down you know that you can do it

  • @juls7582
    @juls7582 3 года назад +4

    I needed to hear this. I have more than a few bad habits I need to break. Thank you ♥️

  • @thebrainy
    @thebrainy 2 года назад +3

    Correction: no one is BORN with it like a pre-installed software that some have and some don't.
    The confidence is built in them since childhood with good parenting & environmental upbringing. That's why some already have them from childhood and some don't.

  • @SharpBalisong
    @SharpBalisong 2 года назад

    I finally know the name of the VO artist. She has such a sweet, comforting, and encouraging voice. I hope she takes this compliment graciously.

  • @megandimaggio726
    @megandimaggio726 Год назад +3

    This is a tip that took lots of practice. Breathe in, and pretend that and is taking in all the negative vibes, negative thoughts, and anxiety. Breath out and focus on your breathe. Do it one more time to clear out all the other stuff, and remind yourself that
    1. You are a human being
    2. You deserve so much
    3. You are worthy of so many things
    4. We all have our good days and bad days
    5. Feeling are always temporary, but they will always come back
    6. I can't do EVERYTHING, but I can do so much
    ❤hope this helps❤

  • @tero007
    @tero007 2 года назад

    the roominating one got me i just got broken up with and im constantly focusing on what i did wrong rather than fixing it

  • @mckenzieeliza
    @mckenzieeliza 2 года назад +1

    I struggle with confidence. I used to love being creative, but I've been finding it harder and harder to create to the point that I'm now not even creating anything good, just like the self-fulfilling prophecies you mentioned in this video. I'm so worried about perfectionism that I actually can't do things anymore. I really want to change this. I hope I can.

  • @sheillahmakau210
    @sheillahmakau210 3 года назад +6

    Confidence. It amazes me

  • @lynidk5463
    @lynidk5463 3 года назад +5

    Idk why, but I´m always get excited when a new video is up, even when I know it means I'm going to find something I'm probably doing wrong qwq

  • @longs-journeys
    @longs-journeys 8 месяцев назад

    1. Care others' judging too much
    2. Negative thinking and self-talk -> Reframe it
    3. Social Media comparisons
    4. Blaming -> take responsibilities
    5. Dismiss compliments -> Accept it but be humble
    6. Ruminating -> focus on the solutions instead of the problems themselves

  • @HilalFCB
    @HilalFCB 2 года назад

    There is one quote that I live by which helped boost my confidence in many situations
    "No amount of guilt can change the past , and no amount of worrying can change the future"
    - Umar Ibn Al Khattab (R)
    I know this isn't the place where I should be saying religious stuff but I thought I'd help some of you with this quote especially the Muslims.

  • @Michael-llII
    @Michael-llII 3 года назад +4

    love this!!

  • @enakshi8729
    @enakshi8729 3 года назад +11

    Me searching for Time Travellers 😅

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад +6

      There isn't any today :)

    • @iminutero2827
      @iminutero2827 3 года назад +1

      @@Psych2go what the he'll I love this emoji

  • @XNorYT
    @XNorYT 2 года назад +6

    2:58 The discord logo is hidden somewhere

  • @DaRocketGuy
    @DaRocketGuy 2 года назад

    quite literally every single one of these points describes me in one way or another currently but WOW I've never watched a RUclips video that struck home so damn hard, I'm really crying right now lol.