11 Things You Should Say "NO" To

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  • Опубликовано: 19 июн 2024
  • Ever find it hard to say no to things even when it makes you feel unhappy and impacts your physical or mental wellbeing? It is not uncommon that we experience pressures, from peers, family, friends, or society, for us to conform to their wishes even if it goes against what we believe in or what we truly want to do in that situation. But don’t feel guilty for saying no and setting healthy boundaries. Looking for tips on how to set healthy boundaries? To help you learn the art of setting boundaries, here are a few things you should say "no" to!
    Previously, we also made a video on the things you shouldn't be ashamed of: • 9 Things Not to Be Ash...
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  • @Psych2go
    @Psych2go  3 года назад +2378

    What did you say no to today?

    • @InTheMindsEye77
      @InTheMindsEye77 3 года назад +284

      Religion

    • @owens.studios
      @owens.studios 3 года назад +263

      Giving up during workout

    • @susuke1516
      @susuke1516 3 года назад +134

      Umm idk really. Btw ur videos help me a lot with stress thx for uploading a lot of videos

    • @cezyb7328
      @cezyb7328 3 года назад +71

      I love the new animation team!

    • @anoukvissers07
      @anoukvissers07 3 года назад +212

      tbh? from killing myself

  • @kooflvr2522
    @kooflvr2522 3 года назад +6012

    1. Say no to toxic people 1:25
    2. Say no to people who make you feel unsafe 2:08
    3. Say no to people who disregard your emotional wellbeing & feelings 2:42
    4. Say no to situations that make you feel unwanted 3:06
    5. Say no to negative self talk 3:40
    6. Say no to comparing yourself to other people 4:14
    7. Say no to bad partners 4:48
    8. Say no to resisting growth & healing 5:18
    9. Say no to needless waiting 5:52
    10. Say no to letting other people determine your worth 6:24

    • @erinmetcalf4043
      @erinmetcalf4043 3 года назад +76

      need this thanks

    • @niyyinx
      @niyyinx 3 года назад +80

      Well no need to watch the video now

    • @evaandrea8200
      @evaandrea8200 3 года назад +22

      Well detailed , thanks a lot

    • @banggo99
      @banggo99 3 года назад +11

      Thanks

    • @IvoryLoaf
      @IvoryLoaf 3 года назад +43

      @The Genderqueer Cringy Emo YOU aren’t worthless. YOU matter, anyone who makes you feel unwanted aren’t good people. Toxic people aren’t fun, they hurt people mentally and physically. Dangerous situations can be fun, but only when controlled. Anything life completely life threatening and not worth it, well, ISNT worth it. People who scare you, make you feel unsafe, and other things, are AWFUL. People who make others feel they are going to be harmed or other things aren’t good people.
      I feel worthless so much, I’ve had so many mental breakdowns recently, but I keep going. You NEED to be strong. I get opening up can be hard, but you need to talk. If you can’t talk to people in real life, try venting online, anonymously. You can find longtime friends. You deserve SO much in your life. SO MUCH. You are an amazing person and you deserve the world. Putting yourself down won’t help anything. If other people make you feel down and you believe them, they’re winning, and you need to not let them. Make sure to eat healthy, drink enough water, do things YOU enjoy, and let your emotions out. Let yourself cry. If anyone makes you feel worthless, they’re toxic. You need to distance yourself from them and let yourself thrive away from them. If you physically can’t distance yourself, distance yourself by limiting your interactions unless absolutely necessary. You need to ENJOY your life, anyone who stops you from enjoying your life isn’t good for you. I know I’m just a random person on the internet and you may have heard this so many times you feel it has no meaning, but you need to try to help yourself, or you’ll just never be happy. You need to help yourself, no one else can. If you don’t try to start, then you might never start at all. It will get better, I promise. If you feel unloved, just know, that I love you. You deserve to be free to be yourself and be loved, you deserve to be happy. You’re an amazing person, even if everyone else and yourself says you aren’t. Please, keep going. For me. For everyone who cares about you. Because I promise there are people who care. You can do this. I believe in you. So you need to believe in yourself, and take a step in helping yourself up. Remember to take care of yourself, this goes for anyone reading this. I may not know what goes on in your life, but please, try not to let that shape what YOU want to do in life. You are the most important person in your life. I hope you feel better. Just know, it takes time.
      Sincerely,
      A non-binary person 💜

  • @JaminJim2010
    @JaminJim2010 3 года назад +948

    Better to say no and be called a jerk, than saying yes and regretting it.

    • @Jackgritty28
      @Jackgritty28 2 года назад +13

      Video is supposed to guide us, pressure from society, do you fear missing out, say no to distress, remove frustration from your life, don't feel obligated, does it matter, trauma should be avoided, you don't deserve to be disrespected, try to be positive, don't waste time, if your not happy, change your strategy🚩🆘💥⛔✅

    • @Yssa_piano
      @Yssa_piano 2 года назад +4

      @YsuperY Plays i

    • @jess575_
      @jess575_ 2 года назад +8

      I agree I was always the one bribed into stuff and it made my life a living hell. I'm only 12 and because of how much I was bribed, I regret it so much now.

    • @mstwelvedeadlycyns
      @mstwelvedeadlycyns Год назад +4

      Agreed

    • @yoshi555king
      @yoshi555king Год назад

      The first one trying to force me into something will get a brick smacked into their face so they know what forcing someone feels like

  • @christrudell7966
    @christrudell7966 3 года назад +25

    As I get older I've removed toxic people. I'm just not as naive as I used to be. Thanks 👍🇨🇦

  • @marty.l
    @marty.l 2 года назад +15

    I have to remind myself to say "no" to toxic people at work and family especially when they disregard my feelings, unwanted, negative self talk, comparisons. Say "yes" to growth, to healing, to being brave, bold, determined. Say "no" waiting, to other people's opinions, or shrinking yourself to fit in.

  • @mrsrockbison
    @mrsrockbison 3 года назад +1891

    This includes family. Biggest lesson of my life.
    Is better just to walk away from all toxic people even if that means spending holidays alone.

    • @avymationz7024
      @avymationz7024 3 года назад +137

      What if you're just 12 and you have no choice but to live with toxic parents 🙁

    • @LailuRosa_studios
      @LailuRosa_studios 3 года назад +116

      @@avymationz7024 been there before, just don't talk to them and mostly just stay in a quiet place a lot beccause it will drain you mentally

    • @avymationz7024
      @avymationz7024 3 года назад +84

      @@LailuRosa_studios yeah I do that. I try to avoid them as much as I can but at the end of the day they begin scolding me. How I remain shut in my room and disregard them :/

    • @LailuRosa_studios
      @LailuRosa_studios 3 года назад +44

      @@avymationz7024 im sorry, just know that its not your fault that you r family scolds you its mostly rooted from how they treat there selfs :)

    • @queerkyra2684
      @queerkyra2684 3 года назад +76

      @@avymationz7024 I grew up in a very toxic home until I was 22 and even had to move back a few times so I empathize with you greatly. I know you can’t physically be away from them for now but you can choose for their words and actions to not influence you so much. It’s literally a muscle you have to grow yourself but trust me one day the way they act and things they say will not effect you at all until you no longer have to be around them, unless you choose to. Start with something small that they pick at or lash out about and stop yourself in the moment and tell yourself “this has nothing to do with me, I am *insert opposite of what they say here like smart, creative, important etc* and try not to engage back with them. It’s uncomfortable at first and you’ll slip up sometimes but over time it will save you a lot of emotional stress. You are valid and I’m grateful for you for posting this comment. Please take it one day at a time and I promise you will one day sooner then you think know what it’s like to be in a safe and happy home with people in your life who support and understand you. I used to write out my ideal home and life and focus on that whenever someone would try to make me feel small. It too time and courage but now I have that freedom and o appreciate it so much more because of my past. One day this will all be in the past for you too, you are not alone❤️

  • @ArachnaeNonafel
    @ArachnaeNonafel 3 года назад +707

    I left a 26 year marriage because I spent too many years praying to die. I feel so much better now. Much happier. I'm learning and I'm growing.

    • @niharikaagarwal2500
      @niharikaagarwal2500 3 года назад +93

      Not everyone has this amount of courage. More power to you!

    • @cookiegirl891
      @cookiegirl891 2 года назад +57

      Damn . Good on you. Hope u find someone else who’s better

    • @justlake93
      @justlake93 2 года назад +25

      Whoa. You must be so courageous..

    • @CleoPatra-om9uf
      @CleoPatra-om9uf 2 года назад +27

      You should be proud of you 👍

    • @susansmith8624
      @susansmith8624 2 года назад +16

      You are amazing!

  • @gerrimiller3491
    @gerrimiller3491 2 года назад +12

    When i decided i had enough of working for someone else, i set myself free with my own hours and clients. It definitely feels awesome to have Faith in yourself for advancement

  • @fishypetkeeping
    @fishypetkeeping 2 года назад +15

    This is so easy to fall into at work especially. Since they are your coworkers, you can't walk away the same way. I had a coworker who was toxic and narcissistic, and it was hard to say no to that person, since they were manipulative.
    What I did, was to think about what would really be the consequences of saying no? If it's that person's responsibility to do that task at work, what would I benefit from it? The answer was most often nothing.
    I still have a hard time saying no, but when I do say no when a toxic person who wants me to do something for their own benefit, it really boosts your confidence.
    Thank you for this channel! It really makes you aware of your own self worth. ❤

  • @SamElle
    @SamElle 3 года назад +454

    I have learned the importance of saying no in the last year. I have also learned that you dont owe people explanations for saying no. No is a complete sentence in and of itself

    • @tommygunn6901
      @tommygunn6901 3 года назад +23

      As well as protecting your boundaries

    • @JoinDrSuri
      @JoinDrSuri 3 года назад +9

      Agreed - never be shy to draw or reinforce your boundaries - without reservation and without explanations. You expressing your preferences is a strong-enough reason in itself.

    • @hel2727
      @hel2727 3 года назад +6

      no.

    • @lolalina_
      @lolalina_ 3 года назад +3

      This is so strong

    • @metra8604
      @metra8604 3 года назад

      @@hel2727 wait qgratc what do we do now

  • @praneetharavula1349
    @praneetharavula1349 3 года назад +231

    When I heard "how many opportunities you wasted for not believing in yourself"....it got me thinking...it really hit hard

    • @lanlanxiera313
      @lanlanxiera313 3 года назад +3

      😭

    • @andromeda5126
      @andromeda5126 2 года назад

      And what if you do believe yourself but you’re Just too lazy😭

    • @Helpmenowplz
      @Helpmenowplz 11 месяцев назад

      It’s the truth for me. I miss so much as I was scared and trapped

  • @ricoco7891
    @ricoco7891 3 года назад +140

    I just want to take a moment to specifically thank everyone at Psych2Go for bringing awareness to mental health topics. Thank you so much for everything you do guys! We appreciate you!

  • @jacksmedullaoblongata7659
    @jacksmedullaoblongata7659 2 года назад +5

    4 years ago I said "no more" to a family so toxic that I was having migraines and seizures. My neurologist finally figured out the cause when I moved away; the physical symptoms stopped completely.

  • @theoneandonlyMALevolent
    @theoneandonlyMALevolent 3 года назад +618

    “can we get that?”
    My mom:

  • @joegongora2200
    @joegongora2200 3 года назад +892

    If someone doesn't accept no for an answer, that's someone that's seeking to control you. You have a right to speak-out than to suffer in silence. Only controlling individuals will get bent out of shape if you speak out. Those are individuals that don't value you or respect your decision.

    • @milkberry698
      @milkberry698 3 года назад +9

      that's literally my boyfriend >,

    • @TheEmeraldLady
      @TheEmeraldLady 3 года назад +32

      Literally my entire family. I've dropped contact, but I still struggle with telling people no, because I was always met with aggression

    • @joegongora2200
      @joegongora2200 3 года назад +23

      @@TheEmeraldLady I'm sorry to hear about that if they get mad than let them. Because when You've asked them for a favor and they said no. They no doubt wanted you to respect their decision. They have found that by getting bent out of shape. That's how they're going to have their way with you by getting what the want. Don't be intimidated by their anger it's a psychological game. These are people that you need to cut out of your life. They don't have a right to get physical because if they do, than you need to report them to the authorities.

    • @rudra62
      @rudra62 3 года назад +5

      I've had that happen in the doctor's office, when I said "no" to permitting him to penetrate my vagina when I needed treatment for a chronic illness - with the strong implication that without it I would get no treatment. Argh! Can you say "coercion"?

    • @betterapproachtolife.motiv3265
      @betterapproachtolife.motiv3265 3 года назад +2

      Great wisdom Joe

  • @shivanshuraj859
    @shivanshuraj859 2 года назад +18

    Say no to
    1.Negative and toxic people
    2. People you make you scared
    3. Who disregard your feelings
    4. Situations that makes you feel unwanted
    5. Negative self- talk - does no good
    6. Comparing yourself- everyone has flaws and strengths
    7. Bad partners
    8. Resisting growth and healing and development
    9. Needless waiting
    10. Letting other people's opinion determine your worth, ---everything you hear about yourself is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective.
    11. Shrinking yourself to fit-in
    Saying NO is a valuable skill.
    Keep practicing.

  • @dikshaupadhyay8543
    @dikshaupadhyay8543 2 года назад +4

    I had seen many channels and many so called motivational videos that forced some introverts like us to convert into extroverts...... but I believe this is the first channel to let others know the real power of introverts .. and embrace everyone in their own character and personality type only. ... Isn't it?
    I feel like It can't have haters !!

  • @Waytotheland
    @Waytotheland 3 года назад +2761

    The art style is very pleasing to the eye. The character design and colors are very lovely😄

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад +277

      Thank you for the feedback :)

    • @Nithion
      @Nithion 3 года назад +50

      Its definitely helps being the message across

    • @azumii_11
      @azumii_11 3 года назад +7

      Yep.love the vid

    • @_ehh
      @_ehh 3 года назад +26

      Lol no matter how depressing the topics are, making me realise im lonely and stuff, the style just takes it all away and relaxes me

    • @amily2901
      @amily2901 3 года назад +2

      @@Psych2go what program do you use for animation?

  • @SafiiGH
    @SafiiGH 3 года назад +461

    I always had a hard time to say no, so this extremely helpful

    • @JoinDrSuri
      @JoinDrSuri 3 года назад +32

      Saying no can come with a lot of guilt, because we are taught to be more considerate of others than ourselves... but the balance is important, and so is drawing boundaries for what you can accommodate and make room for in your life, and what you should never have to put-up with.

    • @thesadinternetperson.7631
      @thesadinternetperson.7631 3 года назад +6

      Same but it's fine

    • @kimsmith819
      @kimsmith819 3 года назад +11

      It honestly is hard to say no when you usually say yes

    • @_killer_panda_
      @_killer_panda_ 3 года назад +2

      Yeh🙄

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад +21

      Thanks for sharing!! We're glad to hear that this has helped you in some way :)

  • @prenitavlogs
    @prenitavlogs Год назад +16

    Was this video made for me?? I have been surrounded by toxic ppl for years and I did not even realize until I decided to say NO and leave! And it was not just 1 person but many people who came and left. Toxic ppl are not just your romantic companion but friends too like it was in my case. Happy to say that rn I have 0 toxic ppl, I have learned to say NO and have the most positive ppl around me rn and I can say I can truly feel the difference. I m healing, growing.

    • @prenitavlogs
      @prenitavlogs Год назад +2

      Also, you sometimes wonder if it was you who was toxic or couldn't handle friendships until you meet the right people and realize you were and are not the wrong one.

    • @mimako484
      @mimako484 Год назад +1

      same though.

    • @Iam.4aym
      @Iam.4aym Год назад +1

      @@prenitavlogs this is me rn omg

    • @prenitavlogs
      @prenitavlogs Год назад

      @@Iam.4aym Wishing for your growth and healing.❤️

  • @brianarbenz1329
    @brianarbenz1329 2 года назад +3

    We can’t make the right person for us just appear in our lives, something we all fantasize. But we can get the wrong people out. That we have the power to do. And doing so can open the way for better people to be found.

  • @taniaperez497
    @taniaperez497 3 года назад +109

    as a persom who never says no due to rejecting fear, thank you

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад +15

      We hope this video helps you in some way! :) how do you plan to start saying “no” to these things?

    • @nicolegenerale
      @nicolegenerale 3 года назад +2

      hermione! aye

  • @domiz1813
    @domiz1813 3 года назад +312

    I said no to a 14 hour shift yesterday

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад +91

      That’s good to know! How did it go?

    • @domiz1813
      @domiz1813 3 года назад +111

      It became a 9 hour shift so that was great

    • @ladyyvetta6835
      @ladyyvetta6835 3 года назад +4

      @@domiz1813 noice

  • @theOFICIALchubunny
    @theOFICIALchubunny Год назад +1

    “Say no to toxic people” *me who’s had a friend physicals hurt me harsh for TWO YEARS and FINNALY saw this*

  • @nekogumi7614
    @nekogumi7614 3 года назад +1

    For me saying no to people or situations is really complicated, i tend to put other before me and is really hard when i have my mental health on the line because of it. One of the most hard thing i had to say no was a interview for a good job this summer, i felt like i was doing something wrong, my mother was upset with me and i didn´t know if i did right. But for my mental health i kept my decision and hearing someone say is okay to do that for my mental health is all i need it to hear, so thank you for helping and i hope you keep with the good work, love you

  • @matthewjay660
    @matthewjay660 3 года назад +271

    I am going to be saying “No” to a certain person soon. ☝🏻

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад +48

      That’s good to know! Hope it goes well :)

    • @betterapproachtolife.motiv3265
      @betterapproachtolife.motiv3265 3 года назад +15

      Saying no can simply be walking away

    • @thefishdude1116
      @thefishdude1116 3 года назад +6

      How did it go?

    • @matthewjay660
      @matthewjay660 3 года назад +25

      @@thefishdude1116 Thank-you for asking. We broke up after being together for 4 years. I was just thinking about my ex when I read your message. Yours is a reminder to stay strong, not to text, and to keep away.

    • @thefishdude1116
      @thefishdude1116 3 года назад +11

      @@matthewjay660 Hey Matthew, it must have taken a lot of guts to muster that no and deal with the whole cause and effect of that. Glad to hear you're striving to move forward. You got this!

  • @DailyPositiveAffirmatives
    @DailyPositiveAffirmatives 3 года назад +222

    As an introvert, I feel greatly affirmed in my innate decisions to avoid all of the types of people and people related situations the video advises, lol.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад +16

      Thanks for sharing! Hope this video helps!

    • @traceylennon1204
      @traceylennon1204 3 года назад +2

      Same!! 🙌🏾💯

    • @johnjr7070
      @johnjr7070 3 года назад +5

      Introverts are a bad case scenario for dodgy people. What the conversation partner perceives and what's really happening in the introverts mind are two worlds. They profile people with great ease.

    • @wibblywobblytimeywimeygender
      @wibblywobblytimeywimeygender 3 года назад +1

      @@johnjr7070 So true!

  • @saisiri1719
    @saisiri1719 2 года назад +1

    I really thank you for trying to change our way of thinking to make us live better and be confident.

  • @MasamuneNoirFilms
    @MasamuneNoirFilms 2 года назад +2

    Sadly in the past I have said no to several opportunities because I was either too scared or didn't believe I could do it I don't want to make this mistake again; but in the past couple years I've also learned that I shouldn't have to change myself a conform to other people's opinions cuz I could care less what they think, I am who I am and that's all I want to be

  • @LtRee96se
    @LtRee96se 3 года назад +127

    Man, "Say no to negative self-talk". I've been working on this one. It's hard. So, I say to myself, let's go for 1 hour without calling myself names. Then 2 hours. There have been days when I have been positive to myself for a good 6-8 hours. But it takes practice. It took practice for those who taught me to feel worthless. So, now I just reverse the process. I'm 58. If you are younger than me, you'll have an easier time with this if you start right away. It can be done. I am proof. Even though I'm not totally 'fixed' yet. I still can have 'good days'. And it is worth the effort.

    • @trudibarraclough478
      @trudibarraclough478 2 года назад

      I use hypnotism - specifically Paul Mckenna "happy trance". 20 min to a happier day!

    • @satyabhamakrishnan108
      @satyabhamakrishnan108 Год назад

      Read Bhagavad Gita ... brahmacharya....you will be a powerful person

    • @fredzzkid
      @fredzzkid Год назад +2

      Wow, ain't that the truth! This is what I struggle with more than anything. Years of childhood trauma and a mother who did all she could to make sure I felt completely useless, ugly, and unwanted are no easy to overcome. I am 67 and I am still working on it. However, I will say I have made and continue to make progress. My therapist is awesome, and for anyone struggling with this I would strongly recommend finding a trauma-based therapist. And don't give up!

    • @LtRee96se
      @LtRee96se Год назад +3

      @@fredzzkid I'm glad that you are making progress. Keep up the good work-it isn't easy, but you are worth it.

  • @AroaceChicken
    @AroaceChicken 3 года назад +65

    My best friend and I talk regularly and I never feel sad or unwanted around her. We often ask each other how the other person is to make sure they’re doing well.
    She struggles with math and I struggle with staying focused so we help each other get better!
    She makes me so happy and I love spending time with her!

    • @Je11keng
      @Je11keng 2 года назад +3

      Awwww, that's what friends are for!

  • @TheNekoPie
    @TheNekoPie 2 года назад +3

    I think these videos really can help me to become the best version of myself. Sometimes I see the things I do that are bad but also what people do that is bad ... Hope I don't see things that really aren't there

  • @Chrisinpa
    @Chrisinpa 2 года назад +1

    Excellent advice. I often want to tell people they should say no more often but then I don't want to be guilty of criticism.

  • @justanotherisekaiprotagoni7293
    @justanotherisekaiprotagoni7293 3 года назад +723

    Lol the drake pose😂

  • @artgenics9957
    @artgenics9957 3 года назад +40

    I always look at the mirror, and say "girl you looking great today", I used to feel very insecure and say negative things to myself, but after I started doing this, I definitely feel a lot better and happier, you guys need to try this too!

    • @Je11keng
      @Je11keng 2 года назад +4

      Omg same. I literally tell myself I'm so ugly, but now I've been dressing differently and trying new looks, and it makes me feel better and good about myself. Now I look at the mirror and tell myself that "hey I do look pretty good and pretty. My clothes that I have are so cute. " ! :)

  • @navdhasharma1001
    @navdhasharma1001 2 года назад +2

    I think the answer is love yourself... Don't make anyone make u feel bad...u are awesome..😘😘😘

  • @deanasmusic1
    @deanasmusic1 Год назад +1

    It's time for me to make some changes. At the same time, this is helping me to realize some healthy changes I have already made. Thank you.

  • @ThePlace420
    @ThePlace420 3 года назад +29

    I would also say at the end that if you don’t learn to say ‘no’, it will not only hurt your growth, but also your self-esteem and lead to self-loathing.

    • @dorisbrown6912
      @dorisbrown6912 3 года назад +6

      Leads to a lot of trouble too .!!!!!🤕😭😔😤🤐

  • @machicommentsection
    @machicommentsection 3 года назад +63

    Saying "NO" to negative self-talk and Saying "NO" to comparing yourself to others are what I really need right now. As they said, yourself is your worst critic. There is no use in dwelling on self-destructive thoughts and comparing myself to other people. Focus on the things that you can work on to become the better version of yourself.

  • @johnshackelford3909
    @johnshackelford3909 2 года назад +2

    This is absolutely pure gold! Great job all involved with this video... Such positive thinking and learning for younger people.!!!! This has been my favorite... So I say yes to this video!!!!

  • @Noname-jd1vp
    @Noname-jd1vp 2 года назад +2

    Your videos are helping me get out of my depression! Thank you! 🙂
    Hoping to see more of your content! 🙂

  • @powpunkonwhiskey6377
    @powpunkonwhiskey6377 3 года назад +20

    I didn't realise how powerful saying no can really feel until I turned down the last two invites from my disordered family. My first polite refusal was to a family wedding. I said no and then was silent treatmented for a while and then I turned down last Christmas family meal. That was accepted without any passive aggressive comeback (to my face anyway) I had the first peaceful and enjoyable Christmas I've had in years and I felt so proud of myself. I'm turning down the upcoming family BBQ when the invite comes, and every other invite that I normally get anxiety over. Nope, no, nah. I love those words now. No guilt, no shame, just peace.

    • @Sky-vk5yt
      @Sky-vk5yt 2 года назад +2

      Good job taking care of yourself. :)

  • @alexskywalker5478
    @alexskywalker5478 Год назад +1

    Thanks for making a ton of kind, gentle and helpful videos on mental health things. Also, your voice is always soothing, relaxing and makes me feel safe. :)

  • @sharmilagunasekara3159
    @sharmilagunasekara3159 Год назад

    One of THE best videos you posted! Thank you! I’m sharing this with a lot of people I know that need to hear this. ❤️🙏🏽

  • @riveriseverywhere
    @riveriseverywhere 3 года назад +60

    I'm usualy a "yes" person because I don't wanna let anyone down, because I wanna make people happy, not bad, but Sometimes is hard because of people that use others, and I don't wanna be manipulated, brain washed, used, ect... I also wanna be myself

    • @DanielSelk
      @DanielSelk 2 года назад +1

      Well, you are going to "let down" some people, but the world doesn't stop turning because you don't want to do things. When I started to say no people didn't like that I wasn't doing what THEY (not me) wanted me to do. But it was such a relief to not be doing those things and being able to be myself. Very worth it.

  • @justj4cob893
    @justj4cob893 3 года назад +271

    *Drake x Psych2Go, gotta love it*

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад +37

      Glad you like the thumbnail :)

    • @justj4cob893
      @justj4cob893 3 года назад +7

      @@Psych2go *like it? I Love It!*

    • @bastardhyena7882
      @bastardhyena7882 3 года назад +2

      @@Psych2go Hotline Blink!

    • @resonantVoid
      @resonantVoid 3 года назад

      @@bastardhyena7882 psycho mode

  • @leonardocavalieri526
    @leonardocavalieri526 2 года назад +18

    I have an aptitude for saying yes and ending up regretting it. I hope I can learn and put into practice something from this video, since I could see myself in so many of the situations you described. Thanks a lot for this video, it was very encouraging!

    • @earleenaustin174
      @earleenaustin174 2 года назад +1

      I let. My daughter push me into me myoving out of state after my husband died she is so toxic and so heart broken and.can.not to ndo the damage is done and the be list everything this is make my me slck I want to go home

  • @my3NDmess
    @my3NDmess 2 года назад +1

    This last year i learned to value myself and say NO without even explaining myself.
    One of the best decision of my life

  • @ouzomezes.
    @ouzomezes. 3 года назад +191

    Whole Hamilton fandom:
    "Say no to this"
    Overall I just discovered your channel and I'm considering not giving up on me just to watch your videos :) do not feel pressured on my choices your content is incredible

    • @Benni777
      @Benni777 3 года назад +10

      LORRRRDD SHOW ME HOW TO SAY NO TO THIDS!!!! 🎤😂😂

    • @_eveniss_
      @_eveniss_ 3 года назад +8

      I thought of the same thing!!! 😂😍🎼

    • @youcouldnever2126
      @youcouldnever2126 3 года назад +7

      I can't say no to this! 😫🎶🎤🎵

    • @kyrarhoades514
      @kyrarhoades514 3 года назад +5

      HAMILTRASH UNITE

    • @6sillyguy9
      @6sillyguy9 3 года назад +7

      BUT MY GOD SHE LOOKS SO HELPLESS

  • @gustavoespinallugo51
    @gustavoespinallugo51 3 года назад +67

    A small summary for the people that need it:
    Say no to:
    1. Toxic people (01:23)
    2. People that make you feel unsafe (02:05)
    3. People who disregard your emotional wellbeing and feelings (02:40)
    4. Situations that make you feel unwanted (03:04)
    5. Negative self-talk (03:37)
    6. Comparing yourself with other people (04:11)
    7. Bad partners (04:46)
    8. Resisting growth and healing (5:15)
    9. Needless waiting (05:51)
    10. Letting other people opinions determine your worth (06:21)
    11. Shrinking yourself to fit in (06:49)
    Still, you can watch the video later, it clarifies the reasons behind them... Plus, it is a great video!!

  • @jessdakota97
    @jessdakota97 2 года назад +1

    Amanda has the BEST VOICE AND SHE GIVES ME SO MUCH COMFORT. ❤❤

  • @millieandmason48264
    @millieandmason48264 Год назад +1

    The art style is so comforting!
    I am a person that can’t say no a lot so this video helped!

  • @PSYCH-O
    @PSYCH-O 3 года назад +29

    The message behind this video is spot on. It's important to practise setting boundaries for the small things that make you uncomfortable so that it's not a shock to the system when a difficult situation may arise. Boundary setting is the only way to have genuine and comfortable connections!

    • @lilianikolova7685
      @lilianikolova7685 2 года назад +1

      Все правильно
      Even parents are sometimesManipulative
      My parents often directed in another direction; later I was trying to chose school and specialty for my son. Aaahh

  • @aubree7524
    @aubree7524 3 года назад +106

    “Say no to comparing yourself to other people”
    Me- ToOoOoOooOOooO lAtE

    • @user-rp5or1ik5l
      @user-rp5or1ik5l 3 года назад +7

      Already compared myself with literally everyone, no need for that

    • @lanlanxiera313
      @lanlanxiera313 3 года назад +7

      You're never too late. Start today.

    • @sunshinehobi6918
      @sunshinehobi6918 3 года назад +1

      💜💜💜💜

    • @CocoLicious95
      @CocoLicious95 3 года назад

      Army~💜🙋🏽‍♀️

    • @Mr_Valentin.
      @Mr_Valentin. 3 года назад +3

      Just stop it dude, eat some ramen 🍜 instead

  • @godfreymccammon4531
    @godfreymccammon4531 2 года назад

    "Be yourself, everyone else is taken"...how cool is that, the truth will set me free!

  • @saisiri1719
    @saisiri1719 2 года назад +1

    Your voice is soo soft I can sit hearing it for the whole day!

  • @markportch6526
    @markportch6526 3 года назад +19

    Abandonment is my deepest fundamental belief about myself, I stayed in a toxic marriage because of it and now I have such anxiety

    • @susansmith8624
      @susansmith8624 2 года назад +1

      I have a similar story.

    • @mikefox1479
      @mikefox1479 2 года назад

      Explorer paths like yoga meditation and spiritual retreats,
      Do DreamWork,journaling,or use a recorder upon waking ,play it back during the day. Get a therapist you'll get comfortable with yourself if you pursue it as a necessary PROCESS.
      #naturewalker

  • @babycatillac3067
    @babycatillac3067 3 года назад +36

    I love all the different plants on everyones heads!

  • @nyen1817
    @nyen1817 2 года назад +5

    I love this channel 💕 this break down all the researches that I want to search; being entertaining, educational and helps me understand things. I'm afraid to say no because of being left out but I learned from this video that saying no is good in the ways that I can enjoy my time and to be satisfied with the choice that I make. Thank you ☺️

  • @johnmansour7711
    @johnmansour7711 2 года назад

    DOPEEEEE THUMBNAIL!
    You’re a true artist

  • @KiwiinSpace
    @KiwiinSpace 3 года назад +82

    Not gona lie, I thought that one of them would be: 'Say no to drugs.'

    • @piiinkDeluxe
      @piiinkDeluxe 3 года назад +16

      Say no to a bad habit was included. Close enough.

    • @LoveNeverFails1
      @LoveNeverFails1 3 года назад +1

      What? Nah... Say heck yeah! At least the good ones.

    • @jessicajones1891
      @jessicajones1891 3 года назад +1

      well do they make a pill for all this?

    • @josemarialeoncampos4086
      @josemarialeoncampos4086 3 года назад +2

      @@LoveNeverFails1 Especially the ones that make you end up in brazil or pakistan
      NOW can someone send an uber to Mekhtar?

    • @gigilaon2737
      @gigilaon2737 2 года назад

      I Have a 😍 crush on you profile pic😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭What a simpppppp I am with anime characters.

  • @Love-ji1nz
    @Love-ji1nz 3 года назад +337

    brain: lets talk shit about yourself🤡
    after this video, me: no not today 💅🏼🌙🌌

  • @myfavoritecolourisblue3184
    @myfavoritecolourisblue3184 2 года назад +2

    This video helps me a lot from stress, anxiety and depression ❤🎉😊😊

  • @yoshitaadiraju7385
    @yoshitaadiraju7385 2 года назад

    Amanda , your voice is soo soothing ... i couldnt ignore even a single word ... loved your voice ... you are amazing ...
    Kudos to the animator , they were perfect
    Thankyou ❤

  • @V.S.745
    @V.S.745 3 года назад +12

    Psych2Go really telling me to say no to my family, friends & work

  • @betterapproachtolife.motiv3265
    @betterapproachtolife.motiv3265 3 года назад +12

    What a great video. I had real trouble in my younger years saying no. It is so liberating. I grew up in a toxic household which has effectively meant distancing myself from my siblings. Saying no to them has lead me to happiness. Fortunately, I chose my wife well. She is a gem. We have an equal fulfilling marriage.

  • @aahanasenxic382
    @aahanasenxic382 Год назад

    This channel really calmed me down thank you for making such beautiful videos love this channel . Immaculate channel for sure

  • @SwagataDas_sd
    @SwagataDas_sd 2 года назад +1

    Loved your voice, it has burst of positive vibes. Wonderful initiative, great content and amazing animation ! Hope this channel reaches out to more people every day. 🤍

  • @ThePlace420
    @ThePlace420 3 года назад +9

    For future reference, I would add to ‘people that make you feel scared’ to be BOTH physically scared and mentally scared.

  • @samuelb-1406
    @samuelb-1406 3 года назад +5

    2:46, that person is a heartless monster, everyone cries at that one scene in Up.

  • @onyxskytel291
    @onyxskytel291 Год назад +1

    THE CHARACTER DESIGN IS GORGEOUS

  • @charlesrose2577
    @charlesrose2577 2 года назад +3

    My happiness is more important to me than saying yes to someone just to make them happy. If I don't want to or disagree with someone, I will tell anyone no to anything at anytime even if I know it's going to make them mad or hurt their feelings.Im not gonna make myself unhappy to make someone else happy.

  • @kappa_studios
    @kappa_studios 3 года назад +72

    SOMEBODY PLEASE MAKE ALEXANDER HAMILTON WATCH THIS

    • @JoinDrSuri
      @JoinDrSuri 3 года назад +2

      lol

    • @marsp5636
      @marsp5636 3 года назад +2

      YES

    • @3lla_ly
      @3lla_ly 3 года назад +3

      Yes Alex needs to learn how to say "no"

    • @KarmanellaVA
      @KarmanellaVA 3 года назад +3

      there's nothing like summer in the city

    • @nirvanaabdelaal3325
      @nirvanaabdelaal3325 3 года назад +4

      I was literally looking for a Hamilton comment and I found it! We need to teach him how to say no to this.

  • @Buttercup59_
    @Buttercup59_ 3 года назад +16

    Why did my brain jump to Hamilton's "Say No to This" when I read the title lol... This musical is living inside of my head for MONTHS now!

  • @livy10624
    @livy10624 2 года назад

    Thank you for making these. They really help me

  • @chickeen371
    @chickeen371 Год назад

    Thanks! Super relatable, I find it super hard to say no.

  • @randum7407
    @randum7407 3 года назад +71

    I love how you're using memes lmao

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад +13

      Glad you like it :)

    • @IshaSharma11
      @IshaSharma11 3 года назад

      True ❤✔

    • @RickyRollDoesAnimations
      @RickyRollDoesAnimations 3 года назад

      same

    • @thespermsharkthespermwhale1938
      @thespermsharkthespermwhale1938 3 года назад

      @@Psych2go But opinions can be facts, and perspectives can be truths of stuff. Don't you understand?

    • @gigilaon2737
      @gigilaon2737 2 года назад

      @@Psych2go UR SO 😠 SO 😠 SO SO 😠 SO 😠 😠 😠 😠 😠 😠 Nice and a good therpasit I got you with thise emoji's 😆

  • @nightelfkid4421
    @nightelfkid4421 3 года назад +3

    there’s something about your voice explaining the abandonment issues that just got through to my head better than most ppl ever can

  • @ZGMFX10A20
    @ZGMFX10A20 2 года назад

    I love all of these, you have such a soothing voice.

  • @loisrodenromans1097
    @loisrodenromans1097 Год назад +1

    Be Yourself! Everyone else is taken! 🙌🙌 LOVE THIS!!❤️❤️❤️

  • @redladybug9180
    @redladybug9180 3 года назад +13

    Thank you for your videos x I’m too much of a people pleaser so I’m 2021 I’m going to be more selfish. E.g. instead of me continuous starting a conversation via text message or social media. I’m going to wait until they message me first! Instead then I know that the people that message me want to message me and have thought of me wondering how I am. #advice

    • @jennymaalouf9928
      @jennymaalouf9928 3 года назад +1

      You should watch a video about that if you want

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад

      No worries ;) Thanks for sharing! We are glad to help!

  • @makaylac8987
    @makaylac8987 3 года назад +14

    Thank you Psych2go. I love your videos, they always help me and countless others stay positive and informed!! 😊

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад +2

      Aww no problem :) we are glad to help! What other topics would you like to watch next?

  • @saramunoz3887
    @saramunoz3887 2 года назад

    So grateful for yall. My 9 year old has benefitted immensely!!

  • @moo_hat
    @moo_hat Год назад

    Thanks for the talk you really know how to make people calm.

  • @colleenoldham1245
    @colleenoldham1245 3 года назад +9

    No is a word we can use anytime or anyplace with any person. Everyone has their own beliefs ,let them believe what they want and you believe what you want. If you and your partner agree on things who is to tell you otherwise. Live life to the fullest we are only here for a little while.

  • @farkinarkin5099
    @farkinarkin5099 3 года назад +37

    Things I never say no to:
    …1… Cheesecake
    …2… French Fries
    …3… Comfy chairs
    …4… LEGO
    (hey, it NEVER gets old)
    …5… A tailored suit
    …6… Listening to Amanda

    • @RickyRollDoesAnimations
      @RickyRollDoesAnimations 3 года назад +1

      i say no to legos but only when im barefooted

    • @gigilaon2737
      @gigilaon2737 2 года назад +1

      THINGS I SAY NO TO
      Frakin arckin

    • @farkinarkin5099
      @farkinarkin5099 2 года назад

      @@gigilaon2737 Trolls who are irrelevant...... "Gigi Laon"

    • @gigilaon2737
      @gigilaon2737 2 года назад

      @@farkinarkin5099 Omg YOU WERE TROLLING AND THNEN DELTED UR COMMET STOP LYING LIKE TALK TO MY HAND😭😭😭😭😭😭😭LOL
      Things I say no to
      Trolls that DELTE THERE COMMENT AND PRETEND THERE NOT TROLLS
      LOL😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

    • @farkinarkin5099
      @farkinarkin5099 2 года назад

      @@gigilaon2737 You can't even spell. Are you even 8 years old?

  • @susansage7218
    @susansage7218 Год назад

    You have such a soothing voice and worthwhile videos. Thank you so much !

  • @Agnethatheredhairkid
    @Agnethatheredhairkid 2 года назад +2

    'Say no to bad partners'.
    I've always said 'No' to partners! Don't have one, have never had one, never will have one. Don't want one, don't need one.

  • @thesadinternetperson.7631
    @thesadinternetperson.7631 3 года назад +3

    I just wanna say thank you. You've made me realize so many things! I'm planning on telling my parents I'm feeling kinda different lately and stuff so :) thank you so much and I live you and your videos and I definitely plan on watching your videos much much more! ❤

  • @scottyboi___8305
    @scottyboi___8305 3 года назад +34

    "Say no to drugs",
    "Too late" _exaggerated bong rip_

    • @IshaSharma11
      @IshaSharma11 3 года назад +1

      ✔✔

    • @gigilaon2737
      @gigilaon2737 2 года назад +2

      Hows ur lungs doing😌

    • @scottyboi___8305
      @scottyboi___8305 2 года назад +3

      @@gigilaon2737 not to shabby actually

    • @gigilaon2737
      @gigilaon2737 2 года назад +2

      @@scottyboi___8305 Lol hope ur doing okay but rember theres kids on this app that can read but a 100 except your decision even if you do drugs for no reason or if you do it for a reason I respectfully respect that to. Am not a judgey person like most of these adults that assume ur a bad person or you'll not get anything done in life just cuz you smoke or done drugs even tho I never smoked drank achol or got drunk. But I respect your choice 100 stay helthey. #hashtag striked parents.😭lol I dont mind tho.

  • @patrickmchargue7122
    @patrickmchargue7122 Год назад

    The chapters were helpful. Thank you.

  • @softerliving
    @softerliving Месяц назад

    The last video on this channel I watched listed the toxic traits of all the different personalities, indicating everyone has a toxic trait or two. This one opens with saying no to toxic people. Add this to my experience of witnessing people calling other people toxic who were in temporary physical or emotional pain. I’ll say no to toxic behaviors but refrain from viewing people as toxic. Some people who dont understand empathy think anyone less than positively happy is toxic, and this does nothing to clear that up. There are ways to protect your boundaries and still respond with compassion without judgment. Judging people having a hard time is toxic, so I will politely say no.

  • @caidenherndon
    @caidenherndon 3 года назад +4

    My gf and I have a hard time saying no, especially at work. This video has helped alot, thank you so much!!

  • @MoonWarriorAutumn
    @MoonWarriorAutumn 3 года назад +4

    I'm glad you made this, because I was having some mental struggles related to this.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад

      No problem! We hope this video helps! How do you feel after watching this video? :)

    • @MoonWarriorAutumn
      @MoonWarriorAutumn 3 года назад

      @@Psych2go Validated. It made me feel like it was okay for me to feel any emotion and to have my own opinions on things. Growing up, alot of people made me feel like I had to conform to other people's opinion if I didn't want to enrage them.

  • @Lena_Lena888
    @Lena_Lena888 2 года назад +1

    Thank you for this extremely helpful video! Really great advice ❤️

  • @caksg92
    @caksg92 2 года назад

    You have a very calming voice and it reduces my anxiety.. i felt safe listening to this.. ❤️

  • @garnet9788
    @garnet9788 3 года назад +3

    My new year’s resolution is to learn how to say no and so far so good 😊
    It feels really good really good and I have a lot more energy and time for myself.

  • @Echohah
    @Echohah 3 года назад +3

    Love the artwork. And I need to say no to a few things in my life but it's, as you said, much easier said than done. Still this channel and all of its viewers make it feel like I have someone else in my corner and that I'm not going in alone. Even though I still have to do it 😅

  • @DanielSelk
    @DanielSelk 2 года назад +2

    I used to say yes so much to the point of constant burn out...then I finally started to say no and at first people didn't believe me when I would say it and literally go "Yeah, sure. I'll see you there." Then when they found I was being dead serious they got VERY angry with me. But I held my ground and did not cave to their wishes and the more I did it the more I found I'm actually allowed to do what I want no matter what people thought and it was so freeing! =) I'm not a yes man anymore. If I don't want to do something I won't do it and I won't stand for toxic people either. It's so important to say no.

  • @star1mist
    @star1mist 2 года назад +1

    This is great . So true. Thank you