@@LailuRosa_studios yeah I do that. I try to avoid them as much as I can but at the end of the day they begin scolding me. How I remain shut in my room and disregard them :/
@@avymationz7024 I grew up in a very toxic home until I was 22 and even had to move back a few times so I empathize with you greatly. I know you can’t physically be away from them for now but you can choose for their words and actions to not influence you so much. It’s literally a muscle you have to grow yourself but trust me one day the way they act and things they say will not effect you at all until you no longer have to be around them, unless you choose to. Start with something small that they pick at or lash out about and stop yourself in the moment and tell yourself “this has nothing to do with me, I am *insert opposite of what they say here like smart, creative, important etc* and try not to engage back with them. It’s uncomfortable at first and you’ll slip up sometimes but over time it will save you a lot of emotional stress. You are valid and I’m grateful for you for posting this comment. Please take it one day at a time and I promise you will one day sooner then you think know what it’s like to be in a safe and happy home with people in your life who support and understand you. I used to write out my ideal home and life and focus on that whenever someone would try to make me feel small. It too time and courage but now I have that freedom and o appreciate it so much more because of my past. One day this will all be in the past for you too, you are not alone❤️
I have to remind myself to say "no" to toxic people at work and family especially when they disregard my feelings, unwanted, negative self talk, comparisons. Say "yes" to growth, to healing, to being brave, bold, determined. Say "no" waiting, to other people's opinions, or shrinking yourself to fit in.
Me too.. I'm blocking and I'm going no contact...i don't care about being liked loved remembered people impressed by me I don't care! I'm fine being forgotten and hated. I love me and that's all that matters.. I spend my whole energy and time trying to heal and be better and do things that i love
Video is supposed to guide us, pressure from society, do you fear missing out, say no to distress, remove frustration from your life, don't feel obligated, does it matter, trauma should be avoided, you don't deserve to be disrespected, try to be positive, don't waste time, if your not happy, change your strategy🚩🆘💥⛔✅
I agree I was always the one bribed into stuff and it made my life a living hell. I'm only 12 and because of how much I was bribed, I regret it so much now.
Man, "Say no to negative self-talk". I've been working on this one. It's hard. So, I say to myself, let's go for 1 hour without calling myself names. Then 2 hours. There have been days when I have been positive to myself for a good 6-8 hours. But it takes practice. It took practice for those who taught me to feel worthless. So, now I just reverse the process. I'm 58. If you are younger than me, you'll have an easier time with this if you start right away. It can be done. I am proof. Even though I'm not totally 'fixed' yet. I still can have 'good days'. And it is worth the effort.
Wow, ain't that the truth! This is what I struggle with more than anything. Years of childhood trauma and a mother who did all she could to make sure I felt completely useless, ugly, and unwanted are no easy to overcome. I am 67 and I am still working on it. However, I will say I have made and continue to make progress. My therapist is awesome, and for anyone struggling with this I would strongly recommend finding a trauma-based therapist. And don't give up!
This is so easy to fall into at work especially. Since they are your coworkers, you can't walk away the same way. I had a coworker who was toxic and narcissistic, and it was hard to say no to that person, since they were manipulative. What I did, was to think about what would really be the consequences of saying no? If it's that person's responsibility to do that task at work, what would I benefit from it? The answer was most often nothing. I still have a hard time saying no, but when I do say no when a toxic person who wants me to do something for their own benefit, it really boosts your confidence. Thank you for this channel! It really makes you aware of your own self worth. ❤
I just want to take a moment to specifically thank everyone at Psych2Go for bringing awareness to mental health topics. Thank you so much for everything you do guys! We appreciate you!
4 years ago I said "no more" to a family so toxic that I was having migraines and seizures. My neurologist finally figured out the cause when I moved away; the physical symptoms stopped completely.
A small summary for the people that need it: Say no to: 1. Toxic people (01:23) 2. People that make you feel unsafe (02:05) 3. People who disregard your emotional wellbeing and feelings (02:40) 4. Situations that make you feel unwanted (03:04) 5. Negative self-talk (03:37) 6. Comparing yourself with other people (04:11) 7. Bad partners (04:46) 8. Resisting growth and healing (5:15) 9. Needless waiting (05:51) 10. Letting other people opinions determine your worth (06:21) 11. Shrinking yourself to fit in (06:49) Still, you can watch the video later, it clarifies the reasons behind them... Plus, it is a great video!!
I always look at the mirror, and say "girl you looking great today", I used to feel very insecure and say negative things to myself, but after I started doing this, I definitely feel a lot better and happier, you guys need to try this too!
Omg same. I literally tell myself I'm so ugly, but now I've been dressing differently and trying new looks, and it makes me feel better and good about myself. Now I look at the mirror and tell myself that "hey I do look pretty good and pretty. My clothes that I have are so cute. " ! :)
Say no to 1.Negative and toxic people 2. People you make you scared 3. Who disregard your feelings 4. Situations that makes you feel unwanted 5. Negative self- talk - does no good 6. Comparing yourself- everyone has flaws and strengths 7. Bad partners 8. Resisting growth and healing and development 9. Needless waiting 10. Letting other people's opinion determine your worth, ---everything you hear about yourself is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective. 11. Shrinking yourself to fit-in Saying NO is a valuable skill. Keep practicing.
I had seen many channels and many so called motivational videos that forced some introverts like us to convert into extroverts...... but I believe this is the first channel to let others know the real power of introverts .. and embrace everyone in their own character and personality type only. ... Isn't it? I feel like It can't have haters !!
I sent this video to a friend from school, she spoils pretty much everyone and finds it hard to say no. She gives me all kinds of art supplies, even if I ask to borrow it. As an introverted individual, I didn’t know how to tell her that what she was doing was wrong. I tell her everyday to “please learn how to say no, it’s for your own good.” She’s been practicing with me in our free period, while I’m writing this she’s watching this video. Hopefully this would help her get cured from ‘Yes Syndrome’! (Ps. Yes Syndrome means ‘unable to say no’ and it’s an inside joke me and my bestfriend have)
Explorer paths like yoga meditation and spiritual retreats, Do DreamWork,journaling,or use a recorder upon waking ,play it back during the day. Get a therapist you'll get comfortable with yourself if you pursue it as a necessary PROCESS. #naturewalker
The last video on this channel I watched listed the toxic traits of all the different personalities, indicating everyone has a toxic trait or two. This one opens with saying no to toxic people. Add this to my experience of witnessing people calling other people toxic who were in temporary physical or emotional pain. I’ll say no to toxic behaviors but refrain from viewing people as toxic. Some people who dont understand empathy think anyone less than positively happy is toxic, and this does nothing to clear that up. There are ways to protect your boundaries and still respond with compassion without judgment. Judging people having a hard time is toxic, so I will politely say no.
For me saying no to people or situations is really complicated, i tend to put other before me and is really hard when i have my mental health on the line because of it. One of the most hard thing i had to say no was a interview for a good job this summer, i felt like i was doing something wrong, my mother was upset with me and i didn´t know if i did right. But for my mental health i kept my decision and hearing someone say is okay to do that for my mental health is all i need it to hear, so thank you for helping and i hope you keep with the good work, love you
Things I never say no to: …1… Cheesecake …2… French Fries …3… Comfy chairs …4… LEGO (hey, it NEVER gets old) …5… A tailored suit …6… Listening to Amanda
@@farkinarkin5099 Omg YOU WERE TROLLING AND THNEN DELTED UR COMMET STOP LYING LIKE TALK TO MY HAND😭😭😭😭😭😭😭LOL Things I say no to Trolls that DELTE THERE COMMENT AND PRETEND THERE NOT TROLLS LOL😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Was this video made for me?? I have been surrounded by toxic ppl for years and I did not even realize until I decided to say NO and leave! And it was not just 1 person but many people who came and left. Toxic ppl are not just your romantic companion but friends too like it was in my case. Happy to say that rn I have 0 toxic ppl, I have learned to say NO and have the most positive ppl around me rn and I can say I can truly feel the difference. I m healing, growing.
Also, you sometimes wonder if it was you who was toxic or couldn't handle friendships until you meet the right people and realize you were and are not the wrong one.
We can’t make the right person for us just appear in our lives, something we all fantasize. But we can get the wrong people out. That we have the power to do. And doing so can open the way for better people to be found.
No is a word we can use anytime or anyplace with any person. Everyone has their own beliefs ,let them believe what they want and you believe what you want. If you and your partner agree on things who is to tell you otherwise. Live life to the fullest we are only here for a little while.
Sadly in the past I have said no to several opportunities because I was either too scared or didn't believe I could do it I don't want to make this mistake again; but in the past couple years I've also learned that I shouldn't have to change myself a conform to other people's opinions cuz I could care less what they think, I am who I am and that's all I want to be
@@scottyboi___8305 Lol hope ur doing okay but rember theres kids on this app that can read but a 100 except your decision even if you do drugs for no reason or if you do it for a reason I respectfully respect that to. Am not a judgey person like most of these adults that assume ur a bad person or you'll not get anything done in life just cuz you smoke or done drugs even tho I never smoked drank achol or got drunk. But I respect your choice 100 stay helthey. #hashtag striked parents.😭lol I dont mind tho.
My happiness is more important to me than saying yes to someone just to make them happy. If I don't want to or disagree with someone, I will tell anyone no to anything at anytime even if I know it's going to make them mad or hurt their feelings.Im not gonna make myself unhappy to make someone else happy.
Thank you for your videos x I’m too much of a people pleaser so I’m 2021 I’m going to be more selfish. E.g. instead of me continuous starting a conversation via text message or social media. I’m going to wait until they message me first! Instead then I know that the people that message me want to message me and have thought of me wondering how I am. #advice
I have an aptitude for saying yes and ending up regretting it. I hope I can learn and put into practice something from this video, since I could see myself in so many of the situations you described. Thanks a lot for this video, it was very encouraging!
I let. My daughter push me into me myoving out of state after my husband died she is so toxic and so heart broken and.can.not to ndo the damage is done and the be list everything this is make my me slck I want to go home
Having BPD, to me most of those things is extremely hard to distinguish, most of the time I think my relationships fits in some of these criteria and spend a whole day thinking if its BPD talking or if it's truly the way I thought it
All 11 of the factors associates almost everyone I`ve known and know today. This is why these days I don`t become too involved with people and prefer doing my own thing.
My neighbour is a bikie with a Harley and everything. In the beginning I was intimidated but we talked and he's been a great neighbour. Neighbours with their own still are the best, lol. He's also very considerate and has taken me to the shelter twice, once to adopt a cat and the second to adopt a dog. He also brings cuttlefish bones for my budgie from the beach.
I love this channel 💕 this break down all the researches that I want to search; being entertaining, educational and helps me understand things. I'm afraid to say no because of being left out but I learned from this video that saying no is good in the ways that I can enjoy my time and to be satisfied with the choice that I make. Thank you ☺️
sometimes to know yourself, to know your yes and nos, you need movement, you need to explore, not yourself but the outside world, people, places, hobbies, interests, etc.
It is not difficut to identify and avoid 1.Toxic People. 2.People who make me feel unsafe. 3.People who disregard my emotional wellbeing and feelings. 4.situations that make me feel unwanted 5. Negative self-talk 6.Comparing myself to other people 7.Bad partners 8.Resist in Growth and healing 9.Needless waiting 10.Letting other people's opinions determine my worth 11.Shrinking myself to fit in
@@metra8604 Yeah after a while, it gets boring. During online class, I hallucinated from being so sleepy. It didn’t happen ever since online classes ended. My grades got fixed again yay
I think it means say no to people you are already spending time with that make you feel like crap or not good enough to hang around with them. And say no in the future to hang out with people who make you feel that way. And maybe also that it's okay to leave uncomfortable situations? Like a party where you are the only Black person there lol. You don't have to tough it out. You can leave.
It depends. You can say "No" to sharing their presence OR (e.g. at work etc.) you can say "No" to expectations on either side. You can be with others without expecting them to take responsibility for any of your needs (such as that for social interaction). If you are not welcomed then the question is why are still around. And if the reasons are of importance for you (at keast for now) then you can still opt out of exchanges with them other than the absolute necessary.
Some people keep their friends separate. Do you do the good stuff with with a friend, or fill in when the others aren't around, do boring errands, not go to cool places or events that they do with other people.
I can't believe that in 3 months no one else has replied "Have a great day to you too stranger!" I guess it's up to me: Have an amazing, wonderful, productive, relaxed, and happy day and share it with someone else even just by telling them to have a nice day!
The number 4 one stood out to me however it's like "where do I go if I leave? Or what do I do?" Some people have cards that were dealt that is heart aching
How does one overcome physical symptoms to anxiety when in the moment it’s happening. Like trying to talk to my crush while in the middle of heart palpitations and my throat seeming to close.
You may have heard this a hundred times before if you've been dealing with this for a while, but breathing exercises are truly game changing for this exact experience. Try different techniques (google or youtube) and find what calms you down the fastest and most efficiently! And then, practise makes perfect, after the few (dozen) awkward interactions, you'll get better at it :) Hope this helps!
I also have difficulty with physical symptoms of anxiety and anxiety in general. I’ve come around to the idea that relaxation is a skill that can be learned . I’ve started using a guided meditation/relaxation app. I can only manage a few minutes at a time because my thoughts keep intruding. I believe that this practice will give me the skills to call on when I feel overwhelmed with anxiety. I wish you all the best!
I had the courage to say NO to a fake female friend last night that knocked on my door almost at midnight to bug me with a friend of hers or I will 911 which I did and even said it to her "don't say my name please, thank you" as I walked back upstairs to my house. She was really abusive as she suffers with mental health issues as I try to support her but she made things worse for herself to make me a criminal. I have a difficult period saying no as I'm a people pleaser but feel somewhat relieved when I spoken up my voice towards her and her friend I never met. This is a reminder of something I needed and the music did helped with my autistic brain in a way as well.
Imagine being an attention begger .-. (I’m sorry if you really are) but the SERIOUS ONES actually put a lot of depth into it(and if your on this video) you would probably try to make them not sound as bad as they actually are..
@@Tw1nter this is psych2go. Not some random lyric video of some sad song. Everyone here shares their problems. Not because they're an attention seeker, but because it's their safe place. Here, we support each other and comfort each other...
Alright, touchè, I am sorry and thank you @Infire by jinhit for reminding me that 🙂 I was really angry at that time because of things, but I shouldn’t take it out on others
I used to say yes so much to the point of constant burn out...then I finally started to say no and at first people didn't believe me when I would say it and literally go "Yeah, sure. I'll see you there." Then when they found I was being dead serious they got VERY angry with me. But I held my ground and did not cave to their wishes and the more I did it the more I found I'm actually allowed to do what I want no matter what people thought and it was so freeing! =) I'm not a yes man anymore. If I don't want to do something I won't do it and I won't stand for toxic people either. It's so important to say no.
Saying yes is supposed to be saying it to a good thing. Something that you want or something that's ok. Saying no is supposed to be saying it to a bad thing. Something that you don't want or some that makes you uncomfortable. Don't make saying yes be the bad thing. You make your own choices but there is some stuff you HAVE to do as a person.
As soon as I was abandoned by a certain someone on this site, life was a little better. It was the first time I was happy being left behind in the dirt
I actually have a problem scince people's opinions hurt me really bad, and it was just days ago when I found out that my friends weren't actually caring for me. And when I said no to them they just....left me..I have always said YES to them, and tried my best always to be a better friend everyday, but at the same time I am happy even though I don't have friends anymore, at least I am not hurting ME. Thank you for the videos. 💜💜💫💫
Psych2Go: say no to people who disregard your emotional well being and feelings. My mom: *sees me sob when I watch a movie (that I can relate to, but she don’t know that tho-)* I didn’t hit you so suck it up. Me: ..... *slowly walks away to go to the bathroom and cry my eyes out* Ps. I know that she’s my mom and she probably doesn’t wanna see me in a condition like that cus I’m her daughter. So don’t come at me.
This episode feels like a compilation of many other episodes, but is still so good! I've learned a lot watching it. Excellent! Way to go, Psych2Go!! 😊😊
To anyone who is not feeling enough, i know how you feel. It is really hard, but not impossible to overcome! I really hope that you arent harming yourself in any way to fit into the 'standards'. You were meant to have this life, this body, this soul. And the Universe chose you to have this exact life, not anybody else, because the Universe knew that YOU were the only one who could handle this challenge, not anyone else. And theres is this Freddie Mercury quote that i love: ''Someone will always be prettier, Someone will always be smarter, Someone will always be younger, But they will never be you.'' -Freddie Mercury If you dont feel enough, youre wrong, respectfully. Youre just not meant to be in a sertain part of society, but you are however meant to fit in a part of society that you love and cherish, and once you find that, you will realize how perfect you are. Dont let anyone bring you down. Now, pick up your crown, and go rule the world. I love you! - Random stranger
Thanks for making a ton of kind, gentle and helpful videos on mental health things. Also, your voice is always soothing, relaxing and makes me feel safe. :)
I understand you, having a strict mother, although they may be very different. What I used to do was say "yes", or anything that would please her, then slip right through when I could and do/ believe anything I wanted. If she knew something personal she would use it against me. I don.t know if it.s healthy but it.s what I used to do, sometimes no matter how hard you try to comunicate it won.t work. Good luck, I wish you the best
@@acezaaczetaas2759 bro ikr!! My mom does the sem nd which is so frustrating nd as im her child i cant say anything bt cry in a corner.... Good Luck for u too!!!
Kinda oot but I proudly announce that I was brave enough to say something unpleasant but have to. It's a relieve I've told it to someone, now we can understand each other deeper! It take years to be this brave and confident. So guys, I believe you all can do the same, and even better!!~
Saying no to being in comprising positions. Saying no to being treated like someone that doesn't matter! NOW I have to stay strengthened and keep my boundaries enforced! 😮 Keeping boundaries for toxicity 😮
So many people are raised in neglecting and/or emotionally abusive families now, the dysfunction levels are phenomenal (for a host of reasons). It saddens me that all these things even need to be said. But they do. Every child should know these as basic. Let's make an effort to be sure children and teens are told this, listeners.
I have a crush on this guy 3 years older than me. I find him extremely attractive and I feel desperately pulled to him. I just want to keep looking at mim. But there is a problem that he is an older person and may ignore me. I try to get out but I cant. Help me pls
First off, 3 years age difference is extremely little. :'D So it makes sense that that alone won't help you at all. Secondly: I recommend you to become aware that your feelings are yours!! So as long as you enjoy loving them, you can love them to your hearts content without expecting anything back from them or pushing anything onto them. Nothing is wrong about loving another person as such. Now your needs are an entirely different matter. If you have a need for a relationship with him and you are suffering from your current situation, then you'll need to take action and responsibility for your needs. And there's a lot of possibilities to do this depending on you and him. From actually trying to introduce yourself to him to choosing to move on and relocating yourself so that you could assess from a distance if you're still stuck in that feeling. From confessing even at the risk of "resolving" your state of uncertainty by maybe getting a negative reply, to something like "consulting your friend" or "giving it some more time". This is something that nobody but you can decide and do for you. And yet you don't have to be alone with it either. :)
@@gauriandyashthapliyal5277 Ah, so you're very young. In that case a small difference in age ofcourse has more consequences (even legal ones). But you know, it stops mattering the moment you legally become an adult. If you know him well then that's very good. The question is what you're most scared off at the moment? What exactly makes you think there's a problem with liking him? Is he maybe currently in a relationship? Are there hurdles of social/cultural/religious types weighing down on you?
Well not a legal one as we van have a partner 3 to 6 years elder than us. Religion were the same religion. He is a really nice person. There are some psychological tricks that can be effective I think.
What did you say no to today?
Religion
Giving up during workout
Umm idk really. Btw ur videos help me a lot with stress thx for uploading a lot of videos
I love the new animation team!
tbh? from killing myself
I left a 26 year marriage because I spent too many years praying to die. I feel so much better now. Much happier. I'm learning and I'm growing.
Not everyone has this amount of courage. More power to you!
Damn . Good on you. Hope u find someone else who’s better
Whoa. You must be so courageous..
You should be proud of you 👍
You are amazing!
This includes family. Biggest lesson of my life.
Is better just to walk away from all toxic people even if that means spending holidays alone.
What if you're just 12 and you have no choice but to live with toxic parents 🙁
@@avymationz7024 been there before, just don't talk to them and mostly just stay in a quiet place a lot beccause it will drain you mentally
@@LailuRosa_studios yeah I do that. I try to avoid them as much as I can but at the end of the day they begin scolding me. How I remain shut in my room and disregard them :/
@@avymationz7024 im sorry, just know that its not your fault that you r family scolds you its mostly rooted from how they treat there selfs :)
@@avymationz7024 I grew up in a very toxic home until I was 22 and even had to move back a few times so I empathize with you greatly. I know you can’t physically be away from them for now but you can choose for their words and actions to not influence you so much. It’s literally a muscle you have to grow yourself but trust me one day the way they act and things they say will not effect you at all until you no longer have to be around them, unless you choose to. Start with something small that they pick at or lash out about and stop yourself in the moment and tell yourself “this has nothing to do with me, I am *insert opposite of what they say here like smart, creative, important etc* and try not to engage back with them. It’s uncomfortable at first and you’ll slip up sometimes but over time it will save you a lot of emotional stress. You are valid and I’m grateful for you for posting this comment. Please take it one day at a time and I promise you will one day sooner then you think know what it’s like to be in a safe and happy home with people in your life who support and understand you. I used to write out my ideal home and life and focus on that whenever someone would try to make me feel small. It too time and courage but now I have that freedom and o appreciate it so much more because of my past. One day this will all be in the past for you too, you are not alone❤️
I have to remind myself to say "no" to toxic people at work and family especially when they disregard my feelings, unwanted, negative self talk, comparisons. Say "yes" to growth, to healing, to being brave, bold, determined. Say "no" waiting, to other people's opinions, or shrinking yourself to fit in.
When I heard "how many opportunities you wasted for not believing in yourself"....it got me thinking...it really hit hard
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And what if you do believe yourself but you’re Just too lazy😭
It’s the truth for me. I miss so much as I was scared and trapped
Omg.. I missed so much opportunity. I owe this to myself a life of greatness. I love me
“can we get that?”
My mom:
Exactly lol 😆
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moms are professional doing that.
Sure!
@Jeżynka hi
As I get older I've removed toxic people. I'm just not as naive as I used to be. Thanks 👍🇨🇦
Me too.. I'm blocking and I'm going no contact...i don't care about being liked loved remembered people impressed by me
I don't care! I'm fine being forgotten and hated. I love me and that's all that matters.. I spend my whole energy and time trying to heal and be better and do things that i love
@@natural3362 I've realized I'm not here to impress you. I'm here to impress me.
Self evaluation.
Thanks for your comments. I totally agree.
@@christrudell7966 me too
@@christrudell7966 it's kinda amazing how i found you and feel inspired to write the comments..
@@natural3362 I'm glad I could help
Better to say no and be called a jerk, than saying yes and regretting it.
Video is supposed to guide us, pressure from society, do you fear missing out, say no to distress, remove frustration from your life, don't feel obligated, does it matter, trauma should be avoided, you don't deserve to be disrespected, try to be positive, don't waste time, if your not happy, change your strategy🚩🆘💥⛔✅
@YsuperY Plays i
I agree I was always the one bribed into stuff and it made my life a living hell. I'm only 12 and because of how much I was bribed, I regret it so much now.
Agreed
The first one trying to force me into something will get a brick smacked into their face so they know what forcing someone feels like
Man, "Say no to negative self-talk". I've been working on this one. It's hard. So, I say to myself, let's go for 1 hour without calling myself names. Then 2 hours. There have been days when I have been positive to myself for a good 6-8 hours. But it takes practice. It took practice for those who taught me to feel worthless. So, now I just reverse the process. I'm 58. If you are younger than me, you'll have an easier time with this if you start right away. It can be done. I am proof. Even though I'm not totally 'fixed' yet. I still can have 'good days'. And it is worth the effort.
I use hypnotism - specifically Paul Mckenna "happy trance". 20 min to a happier day!
Read Bhagavad Gita ... brahmacharya....you will be a powerful person
Wow, ain't that the truth! This is what I struggle with more than anything. Years of childhood trauma and a mother who did all she could to make sure I felt completely useless, ugly, and unwanted are no easy to overcome. I am 67 and I am still working on it. However, I will say I have made and continue to make progress. My therapist is awesome, and for anyone struggling with this I would strongly recommend finding a trauma-based therapist. And don't give up!
@@fredzzkid I'm glad that you are making progress. Keep up the good work-it isn't easy, but you are worth it.
This is so easy to fall into at work especially. Since they are your coworkers, you can't walk away the same way. I had a coworker who was toxic and narcissistic, and it was hard to say no to that person, since they were manipulative.
What I did, was to think about what would really be the consequences of saying no? If it's that person's responsibility to do that task at work, what would I benefit from it? The answer was most often nothing.
I still have a hard time saying no, but when I do say no when a toxic person who wants me to do something for their own benefit, it really boosts your confidence.
Thank you for this channel! It really makes you aware of your own self worth. ❤
I said no to a 14 hour shift yesterday
That’s good to know! How did it go?
It became a 9 hour shift so that was great
@@domiz1813 noice
as a persom who never says no due to rejecting fear, thank you
We hope this video helps you in some way! :) how do you plan to start saying “no” to these things?
hermione! aye
I just want to take a moment to specifically thank everyone at Psych2Go for bringing awareness to mental health topics. Thank you so much for everything you do guys! We appreciate you!
Lol the drake pose😂
Do you like it? :)
Seriously, I can't with the thumbnail! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@Psych2go absolutely😂it’s creative and cute
@@Psych2go yes :)
Yes! :)
4 years ago I said "no more" to a family so toxic that I was having migraines and seizures. My neurologist finally figured out the cause when I moved away; the physical symptoms stopped completely.
A small summary for the people that need it:
Say no to:
1. Toxic people (01:23)
2. People that make you feel unsafe (02:05)
3. People who disregard your emotional wellbeing and feelings (02:40)
4. Situations that make you feel unwanted (03:04)
5. Negative self-talk (03:37)
6. Comparing yourself with other people (04:11)
7. Bad partners (04:46)
8. Resisting growth and healing (5:15)
9. Needless waiting (05:51)
10. Letting other people opinions determine your worth (06:21)
11. Shrinking yourself to fit in (06:49)
Still, you can watch the video later, it clarifies the reasons behind them... Plus, it is a great video!!
I always look at the mirror, and say "girl you looking great today", I used to feel very insecure and say negative things to myself, but after I started doing this, I definitely feel a lot better and happier, you guys need to try this too!
Omg same. I literally tell myself I'm so ugly, but now I've been dressing differently and trying new looks, and it makes me feel better and good about myself. Now I look at the mirror and tell myself that "hey I do look pretty good and pretty. My clothes that I have are so cute. " ! :)
Say no to
1.Negative and toxic people
2. People you make you scared
3. Who disregard your feelings
4. Situations that makes you feel unwanted
5. Negative self- talk - does no good
6. Comparing yourself- everyone has flaws and strengths
7. Bad partners
8. Resisting growth and healing and development
9. Needless waiting
10. Letting other people's opinion determine your worth, ---everything you hear about yourself is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective.
11. Shrinking yourself to fit-in
Saying NO is a valuable skill.
Keep practicing.
I had seen many channels and many so called motivational videos that forced some introverts like us to convert into extroverts...... but I believe this is the first channel to let others know the real power of introverts .. and embrace everyone in their own character and personality type only. ... Isn't it?
I feel like It can't have haters !!
*Drake x Psych2Go, gotta love it*
Glad you like the thumbnail :)
@@Psych2go *like it? I Love It!*
@@Psych2go Hotline Blink!
@@bastardhyena7882 psycho mode
I said "no" to discouragement, and completed one of my dreams.
Not gona lie, I thought that one of them would be: 'Say no to drugs.'
Say no to a bad habit was included. Close enough.
What? Nah... Say heck yeah! At least the good ones.
well do they make a pill for all this?
@@LoveNeverFails1 Especially the ones that make you end up in brazil or pakistan
NOW can someone send an uber to Mekhtar?
I Have a 😍 crush on you profile pic😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭What a simpppppp I am with anime characters.
I sent this video to a friend from school, she spoils pretty much everyone and finds it hard to say no. She gives me all kinds of art supplies, even if I ask to borrow it. As an introverted individual, I didn’t know how to tell her that what she was doing was wrong. I tell her everyday to “please learn how to say no, it’s for your own good.” She’s been practicing with me in our free period, while I’m writing this she’s watching this video. Hopefully this would help her get cured from ‘Yes Syndrome’! (Ps. Yes Syndrome means ‘unable to say no’ and it’s an inside joke me and my bestfriend have)
Abandonment is my deepest fundamental belief about myself, I stayed in a toxic marriage because of it and now I have such anxiety
I have a similar story.
Explorer paths like yoga meditation and spiritual retreats,
Do DreamWork,journaling,or use a recorder upon waking ,play it back during the day. Get a therapist you'll get comfortable with yourself if you pursue it as a necessary PROCESS.
#naturewalker
The last video on this channel I watched listed the toxic traits of all the different personalities, indicating everyone has a toxic trait or two. This one opens with saying no to toxic people. Add this to my experience of witnessing people calling other people toxic who were in temporary physical or emotional pain. I’ll say no to toxic behaviors but refrain from viewing people as toxic. Some people who dont understand empathy think anyone less than positively happy is toxic, and this does nothing to clear that up. There are ways to protect your boundaries and still respond with compassion without judgment. Judging people having a hard time is toxic, so I will politely say no.
brain: lets talk shit about yourself🤡
after this video, me: no not today 💅🏼🌙🌌
Yaass Queen
Hi
Are you an ARMY?
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@@kynsaiboklangjoneslating9698 yes💜
@@Love-ji1nz high five
@@Love-ji1nz I'm a girl btw
😅
For me saying no to people or situations is really complicated, i tend to put other before me and is really hard when i have my mental health on the line because of it. One of the most hard thing i had to say no was a interview for a good job this summer, i felt like i was doing something wrong, my mother was upset with me and i didn´t know if i did right. But for my mental health i kept my decision and hearing someone say is okay to do that for my mental health is all i need it to hear, so thank you for helping and i hope you keep with the good work, love you
“Say no to comparing yourself to other people”
Me- ToOoOoOooOOooO lAtE
Already compared myself with literally everyone, no need for that
You're never too late. Start today.
💜💜💜💜
Army~💜🙋🏽♀️
Just stop it dude, eat some ramen 🍜 instead
I love all the different plants on everyones heads!
Clicked for the thumbnail, stayed for the personal growth
Psych2Go really telling me to say no to my family, friends & work
Things I never say no to:
…1… Cheesecake
…2… French Fries
…3… Comfy chairs
…4… LEGO
(hey, it NEVER gets old)
…5… A tailored suit
…6… Listening to Amanda
i say no to legos but only when im barefooted
THINGS I SAY NO TO
Frakin arckin
@@gigilaon2737 Trolls who are irrelevant...... "Gigi Laon"
@@farkinarkin5099 Omg YOU WERE TROLLING AND THNEN DELTED UR COMMET STOP LYING LIKE TALK TO MY HAND😭😭😭😭😭😭😭LOL
Things I say no to
Trolls that DELTE THERE COMMENT AND PRETEND THERE NOT TROLLS
LOL😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
@@gigilaon2737 You can't even spell. Are you even 8 years old?
Was this video made for me?? I have been surrounded by toxic ppl for years and I did not even realize until I decided to say NO and leave! And it was not just 1 person but many people who came and left. Toxic ppl are not just your romantic companion but friends too like it was in my case. Happy to say that rn I have 0 toxic ppl, I have learned to say NO and have the most positive ppl around me rn and I can say I can truly feel the difference. I m healing, growing.
Also, you sometimes wonder if it was you who was toxic or couldn't handle friendships until you meet the right people and realize you were and are not the wrong one.
same though.
@@prenitavlogs this is me rn omg
@@Iam.4aym Wishing for your growth and healing.❤️
We can’t make the right person for us just appear in our lives, something we all fantasize. But we can get the wrong people out. That we have the power to do. And doing so can open the way for better people to be found.
"Be yourself, everyone else is taken"...how cool is that, the truth will set me free!
No is a word we can use anytime or anyplace with any person. Everyone has their own beliefs ,let them believe what they want and you believe what you want. If you and your partner agree on things who is to tell you otherwise. Live life to the fullest we are only here for a little while.
Sadly in the past I have said no to several opportunities because I was either too scared or didn't believe I could do it I don't want to make this mistake again; but in the past couple years I've also learned that I shouldn't have to change myself a conform to other people's opinions cuz I could care less what they think, I am who I am and that's all I want to be
I love how you're using memes lmao
Glad you like it :)
True ❤✔
same
@@Psych2go But opinions can be facts, and perspectives can be truths of stuff. Don't you understand?
@@Psych2go UR SO 😠 SO 😠 SO SO 😠 SO 😠 😠 😠 😠 😠 😠 Nice and a good therpasit I got you with thise emoji's 😆
'Say no to bad partners'.
I've always said 'No' to partners! Don't have one, have never had one, never will have one. Don't want one, don't need one.
0:22 “It is not intended to be advice on what you should or shouldn’t do.”
Title: 11 Things You Should Say “No” To.
"Say no to drugs",
"Too late" _exaggerated bong rip_
✔✔
Hows ur lungs doing😌
@@gigilaon2737 not to shabby actually
@@scottyboi___8305 Lol hope ur doing okay but rember theres kids on this app that can read but a 100 except your decision even if you do drugs for no reason or if you do it for a reason I respectfully respect that to. Am not a judgey person like most of these adults that assume ur a bad person or you'll not get anything done in life just cuz you smoke or done drugs even tho I never smoked drank achol or got drunk. But I respect your choice 100 stay helthey. #hashtag striked parents.😭lol I dont mind tho.
The art style is so comforting!
I am a person that can’t say no a lot so this video helped!
My happiness is more important to me than saying yes to someone just to make them happy. If I don't want to or disagree with someone, I will tell anyone no to anything at anytime even if I know it's going to make them mad or hurt their feelings.Im not gonna make myself unhappy to make someone else happy.
I think the answer is love yourself... Don't make anyone make u feel bad...u are awesome..😘😘😘
My gf and I have a hard time saying no, especially at work. This video has helped alot, thank you so much!!
Why did my brain jump to Hamilton's "Say No to This" when I read the title lol... This musical is living inside of my head for MONTHS now!
SAMEEEEE!!!
Same IT ALWAYS IN MY HEAD!!!!!!!
Sameee!
THE CHARACTER DESIGN IS GORGEOUS
Thank you for your videos x I’m too much of a people pleaser so I’m 2021 I’m going to be more selfish. E.g. instead of me continuous starting a conversation via text message or social media. I’m going to wait until they message me first! Instead then I know that the people that message me want to message me and have thought of me wondering how I am. #advice
You should watch a video about that if you want
No worries ;) Thanks for sharing! We are glad to help!
I have an aptitude for saying yes and ending up regretting it. I hope I can learn and put into practice something from this video, since I could see myself in so many of the situations you described. Thanks a lot for this video, it was very encouraging!
I let. My daughter push me into me myoving out of state after my husband died she is so toxic and so heart broken and.can.not to ndo the damage is done and the be list everything this is make my me slck I want to go home
It's time for me to make some changes. At the same time, this is helping me to realize some healthy changes I have already made. Thank you.
Having BPD, to me most of those things is extremely hard to distinguish, most of the time I think my relationships fits in some of these criteria and spend a whole day thinking if its BPD talking or if it's truly the way I thought it
All 11 of the factors associates almost everyone I`ve known and know today.
This is why these days I don`t become too involved with people and prefer doing my own thing.
Your videos are helping me get out of my depression! Thank you! 🙂
Hoping to see more of your content! 🙂
My neighbour is a bikie with a Harley and everything. In the beginning I was intimidated but we talked and he's been a great neighbour. Neighbours with their own still are the best, lol. He's also very considerate and has taken me to the shelter twice, once to adopt a cat and the second to adopt a dog. He also brings cuttlefish bones for my budgie from the beach.
I love this channel 💕 this break down all the researches that I want to search; being entertaining, educational and helps me understand things. I'm afraid to say no because of being left out but I learned from this video that saying no is good in the ways that I can enjoy my time and to be satisfied with the choice that I make. Thank you ☺️
Me too!
I use to have this..."yes personality" I mean I still sometimes say yes even if I don't want to but sometimes I say no too....
sometimes to know yourself, to know your yes and nos, you need movement, you need to explore, not yourself but the outside world, people, places, hobbies, interests, etc.
It is not difficut to identify and avoid
1.Toxic People.
2.People who make me feel unsafe.
3.People who disregard my emotional wellbeing and feelings.
4.situations that make me feel unwanted
5. Negative self-talk
6.Comparing myself to other people
7.Bad partners
8.Resist in Growth and healing
9.Needless waiting
10.Letting other people's opinions determine my worth
11.Shrinking myself to fit in
Saying no is hard for me, but so is saying yes
Thanks for sharing! What do you plan to do to change that?
@@Psych2go Honestly, I have no idea. Maybe just being more confident and try to be less introverted
I have a golden key for anything wrong and its ignore, sometimes is hard to get in the door of peace, but belive me, you gonna get it one time.
I always try to be a nice and positive person, but when I meet toxic people I serve them with their own medicine.
ahh crap I have zoom tomorrow so ima say no to that.
Online school ended for us and lemme tell you, it was really great going back to school. Hope your online learning is well!
Me tooooo
@@potatosalad3097 for me it was boring. i was literally drawing the whole time.
@@metra8604 Yeah after a while, it gets boring. During online class, I hallucinated from being so sleepy. It didn’t happen ever since online classes ended. My grades got fixed again yay
@@potatosalad3097 aw no, i feel bad :(
well, it's nice your grades got fixed.
Amanda Silvera could tell a horrific story filled with pain, death and destruction, with that beautiful voice, and it would still be calming 😌
"Say 'no' to people who make you feel unwelcome."
What would I be saying "no" to if I'm not welcomed to be with that person?
I think it means say no to people you are already spending time with that make you feel like crap or not good enough to hang around with them. And say no in the future to hang out with people who make you feel that way.
And maybe also that it's okay to leave uncomfortable situations? Like a party where you are the only Black person there lol. You don't have to tough it out. You can leave.
It depends. You can say "No" to sharing their presence OR (e.g. at work etc.) you can say "No" to expectations on either side.
You can be with others without expecting them to take responsibility for any of your needs (such as that for social interaction).
If you are not welcomed then the question is why are still around. And if the reasons are of importance for you (at keast for now) then you can still opt out of exchanges with them other than the absolute necessary.
This cracked me up a bit 😅
Some people keep their friends separate. Do you do the good stuff with with a friend, or fill in when the others aren't around, do boring errands, not go to cool places or events that they do with other people.
Hey stranger! Hope you have a great day! 💖💫
Thank you!
I can't believe that in 3 months no one else has replied "Have a great day to you too stranger!" I guess it's up to me: Have an amazing, wonderful, productive, relaxed, and happy day and share it with someone else even just by telling them to have a nice day!
The number 4 one stood out to me however it's like "where do I go if I leave? Or what do I do?" Some people have cards that were dealt that is heart aching
nobody:
My Hamilton induced brain:
*Say no to this intensifies*
Summer in the city
Someone under stress looking for someone looking pretty
Very informative and helpful 😊
As a person who says 'no' to everything , this seems like an absolute victory
How does one overcome physical symptoms to anxiety when in the moment it’s happening. Like trying to talk to my crush while in the middle of heart palpitations and my throat seeming to close.
You may have heard this a hundred times before if you've been dealing with this for a while, but breathing exercises are truly game changing for this exact experience. Try different techniques (google or youtube) and find what calms you down the fastest and most efficiently! And then, practise makes perfect, after the few (dozen) awkward interactions, you'll get better at it :) Hope this helps!
@@PSYCH-O now that I think about it breathing is never on my mind when in the moment. Good advice I’ll try to remember to breathe
I also have difficulty with physical symptoms of anxiety and anxiety in general. I’ve come around to the idea that relaxation is a skill that can be learned . I’ve started using a guided meditation/relaxation app. I can only manage a few minutes at a time because my thoughts keep intruding. I believe that this practice will give me the skills to call on when I feel overwhelmed with anxiety.
I wish you all the best!
To the guy who always puts the list in the comments, you’re a godsend
Why is nobody talking about the one with a venus flytrap on their head?!
Venus? What you mean?
X3 Yeah I liked that one.
I had the courage to say NO to a fake female friend last night that knocked on my door almost at midnight to bug me with a friend of hers or I will 911 which I did and even said it to her "don't say my name please, thank you" as I walked back upstairs to my house. She was really abusive as she suffers with mental health issues as I try to support her but she made things worse for herself to make me a criminal. I have a difficult period saying no as I'm a people pleaser but feel somewhat relieved when I spoken up my voice towards her and her friend I never met.
This is a reminder of something I needed and the music did helped with my autistic brain in a way as well.
Luckily, I’m very good at knowing when to say “No”.
Strong intuition!
I'm not. Because as a child I was never allowed to say no or have a voice.
@@lilyjones4289 we’re ur parents controlling
@@tanadin4883 very. I could never make my own decisions. Now I am unable to stand up for myself or say what I need to say especially when it is "no"
@@lilyjones4289 I’m sorry. But stay strong ❤️❤️
Amanda has the BEST VOICE AND SHE GIVES ME SO MUCH COMFORT. ❤❤
to be honest, I really hate the fact that I can’t say no...
😆 I hate that I can not say to you that YOU ARE TO NICE .LIVE LIFE AND DON'T REGRET Shit.
@@gigilaon2737 ik
@@yasi9655 Lol if you know u know 😊
Never say yes to a friend or a person you know that says no to you or ignor you
This video helps me a lot from stress, anxiety and depression ❤🎉😊😊
But if I say no to my parents, they'll harm me even more 🥺
Imagine being an attention begger .-. (I’m sorry if you really are) but the SERIOUS ONES actually put a lot of depth into it(and if your on this video) you would probably try to make them not sound as bad as they actually are..
@@Tw1nter this is psych2go. Not some random lyric video of some sad song. Everyone here shares their problems. Not because they're an attention seeker, but because it's their safe place. Here, we support each other and comfort each other...
Alright, touchè, I am sorry and thank you @Infire by jinhit for reminding me that 🙂
I was really angry at that time because of things, but I shouldn’t take it out on others
Oh and are you okay??? I mean if it it’s true, is it mentally or physically??(s*xually?)
Yeah you should get help?? I hope you're doing well now, though
Psych2go: say no to negative self-talk
Me: aight come on, u know u I can't do that
I used to say yes so much to the point of constant burn out...then I finally started to say no and at first people didn't believe me when I would say it and literally go "Yeah, sure. I'll see you there." Then when they found I was being dead serious they got VERY angry with me. But I held my ground and did not cave to their wishes and the more I did it the more I found I'm actually allowed to do what I want no matter what people thought and it was so freeing! =) I'm not a yes man anymore. If I don't want to do something I won't do it and I won't stand for toxic people either. It's so important to say no.
"Can we go to McDonald's"
My mom:
Saying yes is supposed to be saying it to a good thing. Something that you want or something that's ok.
Saying no is supposed to be saying it to a bad thing. Something that you don't want or some that makes you uncomfortable.
Don't make saying yes be the bad thing.
You make your own choices but there is some stuff you HAVE to do as a person.
As soon as I was abandoned by a certain someone on this site, life was a little better. It was the first time I was happy being left behind in the dirt
5:21 love the Minecraft reference
Whoever thought of using the Drake meme template: You have a great sense of humor and are awesome! Keep up your work!
But most importantly...
SAY NO TO DRUGS :D
These situations hit empaths especially hard! These rules of saying "no" really help empaths - and everyone who has a conscious that cares.
I actually have a problem scince people's opinions hurt me really bad, and it was just days ago when I found out that my friends weren't actually caring for me. And when I said no to them they just....left me..I have always said YES to them, and tried my best always to be a better friend everyday, but at the same time I am happy even though I don't have friends anymore, at least I am not hurting ME. Thank you for the videos. 💜💜💫💫
Psych2Go: say no to people who disregard your emotional well being and feelings.
My mom: *sees me sob when I watch a movie (that I can relate to, but she don’t know that tho-)* I didn’t hit you so suck it up.
Me: ..... *slowly walks away to go to the bathroom and cry my eyes out*
Ps. I know that she’s my mom and she probably doesn’t wanna see me in a condition like that cus I’m her daughter. So don’t come at me.
This episode feels like a compilation of many other episodes, but is still so good! I've learned a lot watching it. Excellent! Way to go, Psych2Go!! 😊😊
To anyone who is not feeling enough, i know how you feel. It is really hard, but not impossible to overcome! I really hope that you arent harming yourself in any way to fit into the 'standards'. You were meant to have this life, this body, this soul. And the Universe chose you to have this exact life, not anybody else, because the Universe knew that YOU were the only one who could handle this challenge, not anyone else. And theres is this Freddie Mercury quote that i love:
''Someone will always be prettier,
Someone will always be smarter,
Someone will always be younger,
But they will never be you.''
-Freddie Mercury
If you dont feel enough, youre wrong, respectfully.
Youre just not meant to be in a sertain part of society, but you are however meant to fit in a part of society that you love and cherish, and once you find that, you will realize how perfect you are. Dont let anyone bring you down. Now, pick up your crown, and go rule the world.
I love you!
- Random stranger
Thanks for making a ton of kind, gentle and helpful videos on mental health things. Also, your voice is always soothing, relaxing and makes me feel safe. :)
Fact: im scared of my mom the most....
How am i supposed to say no to her...?
I understand you, having a strict mother, although they may be very different. What I used to do was say "yes", or anything that would please her, then slip right through when I could and do/ believe anything I wanted. If she knew something personal she would use it against me. I don.t know if it.s healthy but it.s what I used to do, sometimes no matter how hard you try to comunicate it won.t work. Good luck, I wish you the best
@@acezaaczetaas2759 bro ikr!! My mom does the sem nd which is so frustrating nd as im her child i cant say anything bt cry in a corner.... Good Luck for u too!!!
Kinda oot but I proudly announce that I was brave enough to say something unpleasant but have to. It's a relieve I've told it to someone, now we can understand each other deeper! It take years to be this brave and confident.
So guys, I believe you all can do the same, and even better!!~
When your so early you dont know what to comment
How about......no!
Saying no to being in comprising positions.
Saying no to being treated like someone that doesn't matter!
NOW I have to stay strengthened and keep my boundaries enforced! 😮
Keeping boundaries for toxicity 😮
So many people are raised in neglecting and/or emotionally abusive families now, the dysfunction levels are phenomenal (for a host of reasons). It saddens me that all these things even need to be said. But they do. Every child should know these as basic. Let's make an effort to be sure children and teens are told this, listeners.
I have a crush on this guy 3 years older than me. I find him extremely attractive and I feel desperately pulled to him. I just want to keep looking at mim. But there is a problem that he is an older person and may ignore me. I try to get out but I cant. Help me pls
First off, 3 years age difference is extremely little. :'D So it makes sense that that alone won't help you at all.
Secondly: I recommend you to become aware that your feelings are yours!! So as long as you enjoy loving them, you can love them to your hearts content without expecting anything back from them or pushing anything onto them. Nothing is wrong about loving another person as such.
Now your needs are an entirely different matter. If you have a need for a relationship with him and you are suffering from your current situation, then you'll need to take action and responsibility for your needs. And there's a lot of possibilities to do this depending on you and him.
From actually trying to introduce yourself to him to choosing to move on and relocating yourself so that you could assess from a distance if you're still stuck in that feeling. From confessing even at the risk of "resolving" your state of uncertainty by maybe getting a negative reply, to something like "consulting your friend" or "giving it some more time".
This is something that nobody but you can decide and do for you. And yet you don't have to be alone with it either. :)
He knows me and I know him from like years. The spark is what hit me right now when i am 13 and he is like around 15
@@gauriandyashthapliyal5277 Ah, so you're very young. In that case a small difference in age ofcourse has more consequences (even legal ones). But you know, it stops mattering the moment you legally become an adult.
If you know him well then that's very good. The question is what you're most scared off at the moment? What exactly makes you think there's a problem with liking him? Is he maybe currently in a relationship? Are there hurdles of social/cultural/religious types weighing down on you?
Well not a legal one as we van have a partner 3 to 6 years elder than us. Religion were the same religion. He is a really nice person. There are some psychological tricks that can be effective I think.
Also he is not in a relationship because he himself is considered a bit young to date in India.
1:45
*pepe the frog?*
Yeah