1. you will never be younger than you are now 0:45 2. life isn't a safe predictable formula 1:25 3. you can't have it all 2:04 4. despite your expectations nothing is ever as good or bad as you think 2:47 5. the most important relationship is one with yourself 3:28 6. everyone has emotions and is a person just like you 4:05 7. trust pays off 4:49 8. social media affects your mental health 5:18 9. retirement shouldn't be your goal 6:11
Retirement is a societal 4 letter word.... Career vs Passion Choosing fear over love External vs internal wealth Feeling empty on the inside? Or do you believe in yourself? Fear of starvation from indoctrination The matrix designed to control Obey the master and stay in line If not, relinquish your soul Passion feeds off natural talents Giving freedom to your life Feeling love and internally fulfilled Quenching the hunger inside Converting energy for money Caged doing mindless work Getting only a portion in return But still being treated like dirt Rhythm fuels the musician Sets fire to the dancer Creative spirit comes alive Natural hopeful romancers Clock watching to escape the prison Hoping the warden sets you free Dreading another day of imprisonment Being told who you need to be Do what you love or fear what you hate Free will gives you a choice When the love overrides the fear You'll finally find your voice
I am 64. What I would tell my young self: 1. Do not commit to anything you don't want in your life for 50 years, even for a day; everything we do/think/say builds the next day. 2. When you do what you love, it will never seem like work. I am finally doing today what I love, and my only regret is that I didn't start 50 years ago.
Here’s a couple I’ve picked up along the way: 1. Don’t expect, assume or anticipate. 2. Experience is not universal. 3. B student stands for Balance. 4. You’re exactly where you have worked to be. 5. Resentment destroys you and not the other person. 6. Humility is power. 7. Entertain your mind or your mind will entertain you. 8. Someone has been through what you’re going through. 9. The best of us will let you down. 10. Don’t talk about what you’re going to do, talk about what you did.
Well, resentment does destroy the other person if they are too focused on the opinion of others. So It's a handy tool to sever those toxic bonds if you can tolerate resenting people. (It helps me to not expect better, which is an outlet for my negative emotions. It's strangely relieving for a sensitive person like me who usually idealizes people too much.) Also, "you're exactly where you worked to be" is unrealistic because it doesn't account for things you can't control. Meaning, if your life is not as great as it should, relax until you get to a point you can diminish the effects these out of control circumstances have on you. Also sometimes, if your life is too good, you could have just gotten lucky or some outward advantages. The typical trend is that you are working against other forces so they slow your progress down and it's not your fault sometimes. Also, some people are just privileged so they should actually credit other people for where they are. Of course, balance exists in between too.
These are the main lessons I learned this year. 1. You can't dedicate your life to other people. Whether it be family, friends, or associates, you can't put yourself on the back burner in favor of everyone else. It's not beneficial towards your physical, mental, and emotional health. 2. No matter the friendship/relationship, it can't be one-sided. You can't carry it all by yourself while the other party does nothing to maintain it. Again, not beneficial or fulfilling towards you...and sooner or later, you'll grow resentful towards the other party for not treating you the way you deserve to be treated. And you DO deserve to be treated well. 3. You can do everything right in a situation and it still not work out. That's just how life can be sometimes, and it's not a negative reflection on you. It just is what it is. 4. You should never turn your back on your dreams or passions. Not only are they a creative outlet for you but provide a certain level of personal fulfillment, enlightenment, and happiness that you need in your life. Your passions are expression, and being able to express yourself is apart of what makes us who we are. And it makes us more well-rounded and content individuals. And that always matters. 5. Try. No matter what, just keep trying. Even if you fall, falter, lose, or just get lost in it all...just keep trying. Don't be afraid to go through the motions to stumble, express your emotions, take a breather, regroup, pick yourself back up, learn, and keep going. It isn't our failures that destroy us, it's us giving up on ourselves that does.
Fantastic list ,you learn as you go,albeit sometimes it may take a lifetime to figure out, wish I learned of number 2 sooner rather than later. Best wishes for the new year on out 🙏
1 . You are not the main character of everyone's life 2 . It's okay if you don't get everyone's attention 3 . To achieve something you have to go Out of your comfort zone 4 . Don't expect from people even if they are close to you 5 . Stay cool 6 . Be your own inspiration not any others 7 . Stop chasing others and know your worth 8 . Accept yourself as who you are and build yourself and your personality 9 . Work hard to live your own ideal life in future
Here's three quotes I've heard this year that I've been using to help keep me going. 1) 5 by 5 rule - if it's not gonna matter in 5 years, don't spend more than 5 minutes upset by it 2) No amount of guilt can change the past, and no amount of anxiety can change the future 3) Iron can only be destroyed by its own rust, likewise you can only be destroyed by your own mindset
I agree with the first two but the third is not true. You can be destroyed by other people but your mindset can revive you and make you stronger. Being unaffected by others isn't healthy, that is stopping you from being happy with them. But someone definitely can destroy you, abuse even happens to the best of people if they're trapped long enough. Your mindset will just be a savior not protection.
@@peyotecactus9588 true, but that is also circumstantial. For instance school: you think your going to fail and it makes it ten times harder on you. What ur saying is definitely true tho.
The biggest lesson I learned so late in life is that we can be happy from day one, if you can control your mind you can control your emotions and happiness, I reached that point with meditation, when you find the meditation that works for you you unlock the doors to a different life.
I think it's okay to not be happy sometimes, because it's part of being human. Otherwise, you can't truly appreciate being in the moments that you are. Meditation can help with mellowing emotions and feeling a sense of peace, but it's perfectly okay to be sad when something saddening happens, angry, upset...etc. But being content most of the time is a good goal, I think.
Some things i've learned in life is : -Dont listen to what others say. People will always judge you no matter what. You should always do what makes YOU happy. -always be YOU. You shouldn't be someone you aren't. -be grateful for what you have. Btw, this video helped me so much. I'm still in school and theres a lot i still need to learn.
I’m 75 now. There is such a thing as “too late” - for many things I wish I had done or not done when I was young, it really is too late now. So, the question I face now is, what things can I realistically do now that will make a positive difference for me in the time I have left.
I have a couple questions, do you miss having parents or someone who comforts you, around? Does people being bad people bother you anymore? How hard is it to be 75, emotionally and also in a practical sense? Is it ok to have, maybe, limited mobility and still be alive? I can't help but see being old as a terrible thing. You don't have to answer these questions, I'm just throwing it out there in case someone answers.
Other truths: 1. Life isn't fair. 2. Love is not enough. 3. If you lose someone, then that loss stays with you. So, you have to make yourself bigger around the loss. 4. Treat others how you want to be treated.
I think that love is enough, it's only when love is absent that other things seem more important. We just have to keep drilling, and working on letting go of those things which we eventually will lose x
2 quotes that have helped me 1- "Forever is forever, but sometimes to get that you need to say goodbye" 2- "If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present"
I live by the mentality of the second quote but I heard it differently "If the past makes you depressed and thinking about the future makes you sick anxious, so by simple subtraction 'present' is the most comfort time"
1. you will never be younger than you are now 0:45 2. life isn't a safe predictable formula 1:25 3. you can't have it all 2:04 4. despite your expectations nothing is ever as good or bad as you think 2:47 5. the most important relationship is one with yourself 3:28 6. everyone has emotions and is a person just like you 4:05 7. trust pays off 4:49 8. social media affects your mental health 5:18 9. retirement shouldn't be your goal 6:11 I hope I could help!
Here's a very serious and dire life lesson that people people don't learn until it's too late. Hell is a real place. It's not about if you've been good or bad, it's if you've firmly given your life to Jesus without being a hypocrite. I know alot of people in my dysfunctional family that are easy targets for Satan himself.
Some of the lessons I've learned: 1) It's your choice what to do about your situation. 2) Change is from the inside out. 3) Success is leaving the world a better place than you entered it. 4) Armor keeps away swords, but it also keeps away snuggles. 5) People are horrible, people are amazing. might add more later idk :P
Hard lessons I’ve learned: 1- You don’t need to keep anyone in your life that is toxic (even family) 2- Take time to praise yourself (that one was really hard for me) 3- Just because someone has a great job, good education, is really popular, etc… doesn’t mean they are a good person 4- If something feels uncomfortable it means you are growing and it is probably very important to do 5- Reach out for help if you are struggling (whether that means you are having a hard time finishing something on time, or are struggling with mental health issues) 6- be okay with changing your mind when presented with new information - admitting you were wrong is not a sign of weakness 7- don’t be embarrassed to ask questions 8- everyone has struggles that you are unaware of - possibly even the same ones as you. You may think someone you look up to is invincible but they could be struggling with severe depression.
How would I get my toxic enough to be a problem parents out of my life if I'm a minor? It would cause family problems if I asked my other close relatives to take me in
They aren't toxic all the time, there are times where they do care but I am now pretty much 100% sure I have depression, high-functioning anxiety, and have been emotionally neglected for as long as I can remember (I have not been diagnosed with any of this, as I have had no access to therapy or someone who does that) among other things especially self-gaslighting and I have had some minor suicidal thoughts (like what would happen if I just ended it all) although I do still have a will to live bc I have plans for the future and stuff
Lessons I learned: 1. You can’t trust everyone with everything, even if they’re close to you and care about you. Some people just can’t (or don’t want to) handle certain parts of you. 2. You don’t have to grow out of things you love. There’s no age for cutting off things you like, even if other people think they’re childish. 3. Getting enough sleep is essential. (I should be sleeping right now😓) 4. Don’t post personal things on social media, even if it’s with a group you trust. It could get back to people who you didn’t want in your business. 5. Liking yourself is essential. Even if you’re alone if you know and trust yourself you can get alone fine and be happy. 6. Even though it’s hard and you may get burned still ask for help. I don’t like asking for help at all but there have been plenty of times when people surprised me and came through. Asking for help doesn’t mean you’re weak. 7. If you’re in a difficult situation that you can’t change (ex: annoying neighbors/bad job, not abusive home life or something toxic, but just regular bad) change your mindset. You can’t change people but you can change how you react. 8. Holding grudges is pointless. 9. Taking care of yourself before others is not selfish. You have to be ok before you can help anyone else.
Thank you so much for this. I am 74 years old and these are the kinds of things I wish I had known decades ago -- especially about intimate relationships and work. I eventually learned most of them -- the hard way! I hope lots of the younger people watching this will recognize the wisdom being given to them.
After being at rock bottom in life for almost the whole year, I realized that no matter how hopeless things are or how bad you might feel about yourself because of it, just keep going anyway. Even if it feels like it’s pointless. Things might turn around for the better, maybe they won’t. And if they don’t, just keep trying your best to move forward in any way you can, even if you’re taking really tiny steps to get there.
I love this. I was just talking about this yesterday that the most people fail (in personal or professional life), not because they give-up too soon. You can move mountains with persistence if you keep getting up and keep going every time you stumble (and learn from those stumbles). There is no success without failures. 🖤 🖤
The lessons I've learned are 1- love yourself doesn't mean you've the right to hurt people, love yourself is accepting what you are with your dark and light, not escaping for that. 2- be thankful every morning 3- life doesn't mean being busy all the time, lazy days are also great 4- enjoy and accept each stage of your life, being young or old doesn't matter while you keep have that joy in life 5- we never stop learning and that's awesome
Something I learned is to not regret things too much, while regret can teach us things about ourselves, theres no point holding on to it. Make up for it, or do it in the future, or just move on. No matter how hard it is to let go of regret, it is essential. it can also help to talk or not talk about it, stay posotive!
My lessons learnt : 1) Do not believe every word people have said, their action tells the truth. It won't take long to reveal. 2) Nothing is permanent in this world. Things change, tomorrow may not arrive. So live well. 3) Over thinking causes damage to health. People never realise it. 4) Be grateful/thankful but remember to observe at the same time. Sometime you may be disappointed after knowing the truth. 5) Be patient, alot of things take time. It is never easy to be patient, you need to believe first. 6) You will realise the importance of peace after a disaster. Treasure the time when it's still peaceful as you never know when the next wave is coming. Life is never a bed of roses afterall. 7) Take care of yourself. Its very easy to fall sick but takes a long time to heal. I am not talking about flu or fever kind of sickness.
Looking back on the worst experiences of my life, I think what made them so awful wasn’t what happened, but what the people close to me did or didn’t do to make it happen. Social distancing has been a weird blessing for me because it’s shown me which people in my life actually care about me and which ones were just pretending.
Number 6 is so important yet goes unconsidered so often online. I occasionally tell people that I do not want to be idolized and treated like I don't have a chance to form any connections with the people I inspire. It feels wrong to be deemed as "perfect" when I am still capable of making mistakes just like everyone else.
Did you learn your lesson,is it to late,are you getting younger,don't waste time,is life predictable,is anybody perfect,do you get stressed,do you know your limits,did you fail,is it daunting,is it worth it,are you difficult to relate to,don't compare yourself to others,take a break,if you don't enjoy life,make that change❌
Most people want someone to accept and love them unconditionally - for exactly who they are, but they can't do that for themselves. How is someone else going to love you unconditionally when you keep judging and criticizing yourself. *The most important relationship is the one with yourself* (my fav message ever).
I have pondered on answering to your comments for a while now. And I am still not Sure how to put it right. I'll try. :) I have the unusual condition of a healthy self confidence. My heart feels calm and steady, I won't go out of balance easily. I like myself and there's no one I'd rather be. Yet I have always had to bend to fit into society, even if often this concept of "society" functions by unpredictable and illogic rules. So yes: I want someone to accept and love me for who I am. Because I know I am worth it. This someone is just so very difficult to find, for everyone. :)
@@marilunabeilschmidt3536 I absolutely love that, especially the part where you describe your confidence as healthy. Congrats on finding that sort of self acceptance and love - It's definitely not easy to get there. But, there's still a difference between feeling happy with who you are, and feeling that you can be loved for who you are. Sounds like you have mastered the former, but not the latter. I want to challenge the thought that you have to "fit in" to find love, but it won't change how you feel deep within. I wonder if there is a history of emotional isolation/loneliness in your childhood or some history of unhealthy relationships/rejections (no assumption, just curious)? At your level of awareness and acceptance, I think working with a professional (pref. a psychoanalyst) might open new doors for you. Good luck in your journey! ❤🩹
That's why I'm always going to be alone. I'm not worth loving, certainly not unconditionally. I don't know why I moan about things being bad when it's no more than I deserve, in fact I deserve much worse
My lessons: 1. Don't afraid of being lonely. Be friend to yourself! 2. When trying to forgive others, don't forget forgiving yourself. 3. Every success or failure is valuable in life, because they make us who we are now
These are good. I felt lonely for a very long time, but embracing being alone actually has worked out very well for me. Additionally, it has given me time to contemplate all the mistakes I kept making socially, and how I could have been better. I think one of these days I'll keep trying, this time armed with better thinking, experiences, and approaches. Patience is important.
@@Nuclear_Man_D No. Can't agree. I think the other people around me could have been better. Why I am saying this? Because I'm since birth a very positive person, who find's joy even in the smallest things. And yes I'm a sensitiv person. But for me getting depressed or resentful, there must be something very wrong with the other people in my life. Also all the pain I felt could have been avoided, if the people around me had genuinely cared. AND THAT'S A FAKT. So, no. I'm NOT gratefull for these lessons at all. I know you learn and geht stronger through failure and loses. But some things just aren't necessary and not in ANY WAY justifed.
I think that the most important thing in life is to understand that to fail at something from time to time is normal. Also, missed opportunities or just bad luck can sometimes be a door opener. I would like to give an example. I wanted to go to Japan last year with a friend after a long planning, I had already booked the flight and the hotels and was really looking forward to it! At that time I had heartbreak, my studies were going badly and my father passed away that year. To make matters worse, I ended up having to cancel the trip due to Covid as well. I was very down and struggling with it. At that time, I decided to make a fresh start and changed my major. In the meantime, the first semester is over and I really enjoy it, among other things because I met someone there and have now been in a happy relationship for over 3 months =) But all this would not have happened if I had flown to Japan. What I want to say is that even if you win the lottery, it doesn't necessarily mean that you will be happier in life. Sometimes the misfortune in a moment is the biggest luck you can have!
I love how you quoted Uncle Iroh, we can learn a lot of stuff from him. My favorite teaching is "you can't always see the end of the tunnel, but if you keep going forward you will come to a better place"
Why do you think it will be a better place? it totally can be horrible place as well or you can be running in the circle forever never reaching the end.
@@deltaxcd Well other than the fact that uncle Iroh knows what hes talking about, it might be your confidence in your own decisions, your faith in God or by passively controlling your life like a Taoist. ultimately, it is different for everyone Also even if it may lead to a horrible place, some would say there could still be better place further along the that outweighs it
@@banishedguardian701 However the real meaning of this claim is "go back to work and pay your taxes" confidence and god are irrelevant here, society will try to convince you to make even more futile effort rather than saying "screw it i quit" Maybe it is really different for everyone but i think if the suffering and effort that was required to get ton the better place is greater than the benefits of that better place then it was better to stay in the old place.
@@deltaxcd I think you may be thinking about it too narrowly. I completely agree that if you find something isn't working, you should try something different. I take the Iroh quote like this: Life can be difficult sometimes, but that doesn't mean it will always be so ("you can't always see the end of the tunnel"). It will definitely stay that way if you do nothing about it. But, if you change your approach, eventually you will find life is better ("but if you keep going forward, you will come to a better place"). Now, it might not be MUCH better than where you were. Life seems to have its fluctuations, though.
@@Tryforce8000 well in your way it woud be fine somewhat but this light in the end of the tunnel is not so much a light as it is a carrot on the stick which you are trying to get while a huge trailer is attached to you which you are pulling. And people like Uncle Iroh who are sitting on that trailer, cheer for you that yes yes! go for it! pull harder, you are almost done, just a little bit more. The right approach is never do anything you don't like if life sucks you just sit and do nothing. aka "quiet quitting" By trying to escape the situation you will just benefit those who are riding on you. Just let it rot and enjoy the collapse. And even if you can get in a better place what I noticed is that usually when you finally reach that place you wanted you no longer can enjoy it because of various reasons. Mostly because you got older or it tuned out obsolete. So even if you reach the end of tunnel the night will come. :) How many people were trying to build their dream home just to notice that when they finish it it has no use anymore.
1. Loving something way too much could drive you insane and destroy your mental health, especially on social media, if the posts are misleading and you try to figure them out analyzing every single situation. 2. Be kind to everyone even if you don't agree with them, try to communicate with them to see your options. 3. Not everything will be your way. You'll have to compromise.
Loving something shouldn't drive you crazy because love has boundaries. Loving something in a beneficial way includes taking space when the situation is becoming toxic. I think what you meant is obsessing over something. While general passion and strong liking are common of both, only obsession can drive you insane. (This counts for one sided things too because that's obsessing over an ideal and not seeing what's in front of you. Love only exists where there's maturity.)
What I learned Some people will never understand empathy or be able to understand another perspective Talking about your problems is helpful Patience will pay off People are persistent Having standards is a good thing Letting go of things that don’t make you happy anymore is better than sticking to it
Social media does indeed ruin your mental health. Mine in particular got so bad to the point where I don’t even go on Twitter or Instagram NEARLY as often as I used to. I’d say instead of going on Twitter about 3 times a day, I get on about *maybe* once a week if that, and I can tell you that I’ve been feeling so much better!
I just realize that I've been mistreated by own friends. Whenever I felt uncomfortable and out of place, I always thinking that we've been friends for so many years, so I need to treasure them, but after watching, I want to cut them off and face this insecurities that they gave to me
To the *worthwhile person* 🌟 seeing this, I know life is hard. It’s hard living, filled with struggles and challenges. The constant pressure to overcome and become. However you can overcome and make it better, all the seeds and keys of greatness are within you. Get up and press on. I wish you all the best in life ❤️.
1- 0:50 You will never be younger than you are now 2- 1:26 Life isn't a predictable formula 3- 2:04 You can't have everything 4- 2:52 Nothing is ever as good or bad as you think 5- 3:30 Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you're in 6- 4:08 Everyone has emotions and is a person, just like you! 7- 4:49 Trust pays off! 8- 5:19 Social media negatively affects your mental health 9- 6:12 Retirement shouldn't be your goal
@@Psych2go Me personally? I feel like they're true and should definitely be kept in mind, but it's OK to derive sometimes. Thank you for posting this, it's really cool!
My son sent me this on Dec 27th. It was his last communication with me as he died on Jan 7th. He finally realized what I've been trying to tell him his whole life, that happiness comes from within and not from addictions. 😥
So sorry that your son passed; on the behalf of him I would like to say thank you for being a supporting mother. As common as it should be, it isn’t. You did a great job being a mom.
Never trust anyone completely. Avoid depending on others and you will have a more peaceful and happy life. People sucks and that's the number one lesson in life.
that is a very pessimistic look you have there. True, a lot of people suck but a lot of people are very cool and fun too. Show them that you trust them, but never expect something from them. This way you can meet many friends and have a happy life and you are still independent because you dont expect things from them. If you meet anyone who breaks your trust you discard them. You are the one deciding who can be in your life. Dont just shut yourself off. The mistrust will destroy you from the inside.
Agree. My number 1 rule in life. Trust no one. A person has to earn my trust but even after that I would never give 100% of my trust to anyone. The people in my tiny circle are there because they've earned varying degrees of trust or some trust in certain areas. I would never trust anyone 100%. That's just asking for trouble. Under the right circumstances everyone is capable of betrayal. Everyone.
A very important lesson that I've learned : "In a given situation, it is either exactly what it appears to be, or it is either the exact opposite." And I find this very noteworthy, it kinda verify itself everytime I think about it and knowing that really helped me taking good decisions in life. For example, if someone speak to you about let's say what they are doing in life. This is either totally true and they are sharing knowledge and passion with you, or this is either totally false and then they're just trying to impress you, to boost their ego or they are projecting themselves in what they would like to be, but they are not. This is a very common example, but it somehow work for everything you can find and this is where your lucidity and discernment, some would say instinct, take place.
what if somebody is telling part of what he really does and part of the truth he hides? How is it completely truth or completely false? Would this appear to be a truthful type of person if he's giving fr eg. good but not confident person? and I just don't understand how would this work in other situations. How does this work in real life?
While I think social media can be toxic, it can also be very beneficial. It can be a platform to learn, educate, and connect. People can use their platform to be an activist as well. It's all about learning to detach and not be obsessed with having the perfect post or all the likes. I've learned to step away when I get overwhelmed and to start following real people that make me feel good instead of all these influencers and celebrities that make me feel bad about myself and my life. Use social media for good. Be mindful of who you follow and what you consume because that's when it can negatively affect you.
That would've hold true if we lived in n ideal world. The thing is We don't Even if the world is perfect itself, it doesnt mean that some ways in which it works will resonate with how our body and Health works. That hold true especially with social media. The internet was a beautiful place when it first started, now its an ad on ad on ad followed by an ad which brings another 10 distractions and destructive ideas along the way that makes u lose ur way in whatever is happening not only in your life but ur soul as well. We are biologically not designed to handle such massive amounts of data and distraction at once, thus we feel overbeared when we use it for too long. The only exception are females but that's because by nature they are able to derive their energy from other noticing and admiring them so they rarely feel tired cuz of it. Social media would've been great if it wasnt created with money in mind but rather to Connect with people and make it feel as home first and foremost.
This is actually a really great list! The one thing I would add is get physical. Even if it's just stretching for five minutes, moving your body has so many amazing benefits.
100% - people often think having tons of money or many friends will make them happy. If you are sick and have poor health, you can’t enjoy much at all, including money and friends.
I'm 18 and I already knew these truths for a fact and how on point they are. You really did the work on letting everybody know and giving me a little bit more certainty. I just wish of all the few people I trust, less of them would break my trust.
The biggest lesson I learned in life is that you can do anything once you set your mind to do it. When I was younger I always let my insecurities or even my families insecurities bring me down. Being told what you can’t do or who to not trust is very powerful when it comes from from family and even your own mind telling you, I had to grow up and learn to believe in myself and not let others guide my actions. If I want to take a chance then I need to take it and see where life can take me.
I wonder how do I set my mind to perform time travel or to turn lead to gold LOL the idea that you can do anything is the most stupid and damaging propaganda pushed by dictatorships to make their slaves work better We have limits and to live good life you have to understand your limits and never try to surpass them.
Lessons I learnt 1.Having a healthy routine is essential. 2. Social Media affects your mental health. 3. Talk and connect to the people you love. 4. You'll easily get affected by other people's opinion. So don't let anyone dictates your choices about your life. Do what makes you happy at the moment. 5.Don't be afraid to try new things.
Here's some lessons i learned -No matter how much you know, you know nothing. -Keep learning if you want to keep improving -Ego isnt going to make anyone admire you - if you manage to impress yourself with your work, everyone is going to notice you whether you talk about it or not. - you define your own success it doesnt have to be like others. - you don't need people to back you up on every decision you make. -social pressure only exists in your head, if you let it be. -listening ability is quite a blessing if you use it correctly. -self conflict can be positive. I can list a lot but if there's one i'd like people to take seriously i'd say theres nothing more important than being able to learn. If you can enable yourself to learn it's like you are capable of gaining lessons and experiences even from the smallest things in your day to day interactions.
For me, what I’ve learned is don’t let anything or anyone bring you down & stop you from doing what makes you happy. Don’t let the outside negatively change who you are on the inside. Be yourself because you’re perfect & unique as you are. Let’s Keep It Going.
Some things I've learnt this year is to focus on myself and what makes me happy, rather than worrying about what my siblings needed since I've stepped back from having to be in a spot where I played more than a sisterly role because one parent wasn't doing much. Knowing when to step away from an environment or social group that isn't healthy or necessarily good for me. Also, sometimes it's the smaller types of achievements that can make a bigger impact than one large goal achieved.
I think you're very strong and I'm proud of how much you do for others. I'm even more proud that you're able to choose yourself. Keep going, you got this girl!!!
I made it to retirement & it's the best feeling & biggest relief ever. Everyday having " time freedom" is a luxury & there isn't anything better than that. No more stress or alarm clocks. It really feels good.
May evil,unfairness,injustice come back at the American government and those involved in ruining my life ( Targeted Me) to make me look bad to people,buddy,let us not forget Hiroshima,Vietnam, Iraq,Afghanistan,(My Brothers/Sisters) Syria,and so on. I am a fair and good person and they have no right to do this,i promise you I’m not making it up,i wish for my revenge in any way i can get it and not just for me but for all Muslims and non Muslims like those of Hiroshima,Vietnam. Unfairness,evil i will not tolerate. EVER. Sadly i was told I’m ugly and played,lied to,sadly mostly by my own kind, Bosniak girls, and you do know what was done to them during the aggression on Bosnia…….and i dont even hate on Serbian and American women/girls. You can not blame me for my looks and my desperation and urge for to have a gf and love making. This what was done to me is disgusting,unfair and terror…….Let me see the heroic Americans try this on Russia and Putin,it is easy to ruin me as i cant fight back the right way ……….
People seem afraid of getting old, but honestly i just want to live long enough to get old and see my grandkids. Some people don’t have that privilege. There are so many opportunities for one’s life to be cut short that I consider every day I get to be alive a blessing ❤️
Number 9 hits hard. Both my grad school advisor and my former elementary school teacher could tell I was unhappy as my job as a classroom teacher. So they helped me narrow down my options and suggested I look for something more fulfilling. Going to apply for jobs that would allow me to work 1-1 with people as soon as 2022 kicks in.
Y’know I come in and out of phases of watching Psych2go and not for periods of time, and yet every time I come back I think to myself “damn, I should really be putting this advice into practise” Here’s hoping I can swallow those hard truths and improve my life as a whole, same for you all out there who have it worse. We believe in you :)
"Did that one failing grade actually affect where you are now in life?" It did, indeed. While, academically, I was able to compensate for it more than well enough, it severed a bond of trust, which lead to much distress, and led to an ongoing reputation of mine for being lazy. The lesson I learned that day was to never disclose failure again. And no: My parents were not terrible in any way. They just thought I was "gifted", so, logically (to them), all my shortcommings were results of laziness, or stubborness. Calculating acurately based on inacurate information is not a sin. It's crap the universe throws at you.
But even if their math was right, the conclusion that they came to was a bit abusive. Laziness and stubbornness are like anger: a secondary symptom of a deeper complex. I wish parents would understand that when a child doesn't perform as expected, it's not to give the parents a hard time; the kid is having a hard time. Otherwise, congrats! Your child thinks they're shitty now and that their needs are unimportant. If you can't share your failures, there's no real intimacy.
@@KlaskeyProductions Wish all of the parents would've realised it before the child becomes traumatized resulting in him/her to "losing" his/her talents, strenghts or feelings that kept him/her going
The advice about social media is pretty good - I reduced my usage of Facebook (which wasn't very high to begin with) by 90% a few months ago and it feels great. My stress levels dropped quite a bit. I'd definitely recommend doing this.
Number 8 I wish I knew sooner as I felt isolated and sad a lot more than usual, due to feeling pressured to be a certain way, then someone stepped in and said "Social media does more harm than good, the only thing in the world that should matter is your own goals, inspirations and path in life, not ones scattered by strangers online." That's why I'm thankful for taking time away for my mental health 😊
I want to make it my new year resolution to be more action oriented. I have to start off by trusting myself instead of doubting myself. This is something that I recently talked about with my therapist.
i learned many things too late. quick example: that not all friends are trustworthy. I learned this when i was only in kindergarten, when i was bullied the whole school year by the whole class and 90 percent of all my friends were the ones who bullied me. In a matter of minutes, of me reaching out to the awkward kid who didnt have friends, i lost all my friends who instantly turned into enemies/strangers.
I’m relatable to almost all of them. You see I’ve been struggling to have a good relationship with my mother, from the personal stuffs that happened and how critical she is, it had all became like drama. But thank you so much for uploading this video, it sort of help me for my issues but I’ll keep this noted. 😊😊
Sorry that you had to struggle in so many areas and relationships of your life, but remember that you wouldn't be the person you are today, if you didn't have to find your way through those adversities. It doesn't justify the hurt, but I hope that it does help you look at such life experiences not just through the lens of pain, but also through the lens of growth and your personal development.
I too struggle with my relationship with my mom. She has disappointed me so many times, very manipulative narcissistic personality, says things to bring down my confidence. I’ve learned thru my experiences to not expect anything from her and not be bothered by her opinions. I’ve become a stronger person and realized that she has a lot of insecurities that’s why she does that. Forgive but don’t forget, love yourself, do things that makes you happy, treat others with kindness 💕💕💕
I've learnt that having more friends doesn't make u happier, having close friends that u take care of is the most important thing. Remember that popularity doesn't (really) exist.
Especially the last suggestion/truth is very important one to me. There is no garantee that there is a later. If now seems to be the perfect time, go for it.
The stuff I say might seem way too overused but I really wish I learnt these a little sooner 1) Life doesn't always go the way you want....instead of fretting and being down over it just go with the flow. Just remember to do your best wherever you are whatever you do :) 2) Life without passion is like food without salt...I can't believe I've been eating salt-less food all these years of my life 3) People are not always what they seem. A little adjusting and understanding makes a big difference. A little cautiousness and analyzing also makes a big difference 4) Its soo easy to make excuses and blame others for your mistakes but, you have to realise that its your life not others. You can't give excuses for the way your life is. So stop the blaming and start taking responsibility for your actions
I would like to add onto No.4 Taking responsibility for your actions doesn't mean beating yourself up over it, suffering/agonizing it in silence to yourself (or to others!), and taking no actions to try and improve--be it the situation and/or yourself. If you do not take action, you are simply making excuses and hurting yourself with harshness. You deserve kindness, fun, and to enjoy passions, but keep in mind, kindness isn't always the easy/comfortable path and that the fun things and passions can be toxic for you too. If indulging in fun and passions is near constant and/or is causing you to hurt yourself (skipping out on meals, hurting your bowls/bathroom routines, et.) skipping/not searching for work, disregarding responsibilities like pet(s) and/or bill(s), it may not be self-care or something safe/healthy anymore. Small things that help is just simply going for a walk--even if its just down the street and back--just once a week or day can help, go out with friend(s), family, and/or relative(s) every so often so your brain can process that, regardless of the status of online-only friends and family with you, you are NOT alone and can help combat the physical loneliness that can set in. I'm sorry for the long comment, but, as someone who's been there on some of this and currently watching a sibling go through all of this, I felt that I needed to share this for those who may need to hear it. Stay safe out there! There will ALWAYS be at least one person who loves and cherishes you. Don't forget that.
5:18 Using social media more often, though, increases FOMO and feelings of inadequacy, dissatisfaction, and isolation. In turn, these feelings negatively affect your mood and worsen symptoms of depression, anxiety, and stress.🥺🥺🥺🥺
My hard to swallow pills I had to learn in my life: - Just because it glitters doesn’t mean it’s gold - Some cliches really do work (for example, the “Never give up” cliche) - The ones who end up betraying you are the ones you least expect to do so - If you’re sick of toxic people, you also have to do the dirty work with yourself to prevent anymore toxic people from coming in - While the grass can be greener on the other side, the grass could be browner and dryer on the other side too - Start eating healthy and exercising at a younger age, it’s gonna come and bite you in the ass later (I’m so lucky I managed to catch myself early on back when I was getting fat at 18) - There will come a time where you’re gonna have to give in and show some skin. Start getting used to air hitting the weird spots on your body that’s not used to feeling the outside world. - Your dreams are achievable, it’s just gonna take a while to get there. This also includes the easier dreams too. - Unfortunately, people will always oogle over your body no matter how much awareness is out there about this issue. - It’s okay to be trusting, but be weary of everyone, including your parents - Even though it never feels like it, it does get better. - ALWAYS TRUST YOUR GUT!!!!!!!
One big thing I learned is that no matter how angry you get with someone, there are certain bridges that may not be worth burning. Some people just aren’t worth hurting no matter how much they anger you. Even if you feel there’s no hope to better your situation with said person you can at least get them out of your life without being a jerk. There’s always another way out. And nothing lasts forever, good things and bad things alike. I’d wish I’d learned it before I entered adulthood.
Comparing my accomplishments to my best friend is a main one for me. I always try to come off smart but end up looking dumb at the end. This vid just made my afternoon on what mistakes I made in life, and how to fix it even slightly.
2 things ive learned: nothing is final except death and i try to approach uncomfortable situations or any situation really with the attitude that if it doesn't go well i still will go on with the rest of my life and not think about it ever again
Actually, one flunked test can change your life but that does not mean it is changed for the worse. In 1975 I was in Air Force flight training. I flunked a check ride by a point and a half and was removed from training. My dream of flying for the Air Force was lost, but it put me on a whole new path and I had a great, great life. I absolutely love where I am and where life has taken me and none of that would have happened had I earned just another point and a half on that check ride. One defeat is not total defeat.
Here's a brief set of lessons I've learned to live by (for what it's worth): 1-Just because people around the world are acting badly, doesn't mean you should get upset about it, or that you should act badly too. 2-Getting angry and upset about things you can't change isn't going to change anything, it will only harm you. 3-Although there are realistic limits to what we can be, people do ultimately choose their state in life. 4-Be willing to admit you are wrong. This is the best way to become a smarter person, because by admitting you are wrong, you are abandoning a bad position you once had in favor of a smarter one. 5-Be open minded and willing to listen to the viewpoints of others, since you might find out your own positions are wrong. Listening doesn't hurt either, since you can always disregard the junk you hear, anyway. 6-Think logically, not emotionally. The worst decisions in life are made based on emotions. 7-Think "what works", not what "feels good". 8-Believe not so much in "positive thinking", believe in "positive doing". 9-Our time on Earth is temporary. It's also not the end. There's an eternity ahead of us. 10-Stick to the game plan. Avoid snap decisions. 11-The key to happiness is gratitude. 12-Be an honest person. Always.
I would respectfully disagree with point number 6 (depending on what people consider to be logic or emotions). Previously i had a well payed job, nice apartment and good financial situation. But the work place it self was bringing down my mood greatly. It was "logical" to stay there, because it would bring me closer to have the money for building up my home and financial independence. But i quit my job for one that is paying me basically half of that and moved abroad. So "logically" it was kind of a bad decision, but emotionally it was great! I feel much happier, have more freedom and get to experience new cultures. I usually find that if you are able to listen to your "real" emotions and your body they are a truly great guides in life! The hard part about that though is to differentiate them with the sudden impulsive emotions you might get.
@TheManFromAuntie all religions are crazy false harmful fantacies that has nuthign to do with reality , and they have never ever brought any good to any one ever , specialy not islam , the worst and most vicious of them all , religions are crazy fantacies sued torugh history to control people scare ppl and hurt people , and it is pp, like u whoa re ignorant who swallow this ahrmful crazy fantacies that ahs nuthing to do with reality or how u shoudl behave or anything
Nr 7. You will learn the hard way, everyone WILL betray you given the opportunity or circumstances. Even if they are people you know, even family, and have had life-changing and extreme risk situations where you have been in "the crucible" so to speak and you think you know someone and they you. They will sell out and throw a brotherhood in the dirt. Trust NOONE in this life has been my biggest life lesson.
What I have realized is we can be happy just where we are and not after reaching a certain point.Doing what we love is just a way to carry forward the peace and happiness.
Depends on the person and what they value. That certainly holds true to some. But to go-getters like me, I feel the absolute happiest when I am reaching for something achievable or even reaching higher as long as I accept that failure happens. It makes me feel capable which is my biggest dream to unlock other dreams (like helping others). The present is the set up for the future; I enjoy it but I enjoy every next day more than the current one. Happiness grows exponentially for me (in comparison to the set backs). That's living with the luxury of expecting a future. I'm capitalizing off of my privileges so I can share them with others.
Something I learned the hard way is that no life is forever. Someone you know and love for exmaple could get sick with no way of treating them and you only have a certain amount of time left together. It is hard especially if this person played a huge role in your life and you thought they would live longer. In that case make the best out of the time left and say the things to the person you want them to know before their times comes.
I agree, i think 2021 was the worst year for everyone. Such a shitty experience that taught me important lessons, now that the bad has been felt, it will only make the good moments feel better
You have to live to learn I’m 85yrs old now you never know what will befall you you’re not ready for it it just comes you handle it and move on there’s a solution to every problem. Life is never easy.
The one I'm learning is #2. I used to feel really bad about having gone through bad phases that were way off from what I thought was my true self as a kid. But going through life a bit, I realize change is inevitable including ups and downs.
Here's one I've learned this year: take literally everything on the internet as it is, if it upsets you because it doesn't apply to you its probably not targeted for you specifically
The first lesson I learnt this year is that life isn't all happiness and attention and teenage isn't perfect 2. We live for our-selves not others but that doesn't give you the permission to misbehave with them 3. Peace doesn't last long, peace always turns back into chaos 4. be yourself and do what u want because you may not get another chance
My life lessons: 1) You can’t control anything, the only thing you can control is YOURSELF: your emotions, your mindset, your attitude, your actions, your reactions, etc. 2) Nothing in this life is permanent, so if you’re holding onto something really tight, maybe it’s time to let go. 3) If you are not aware of your emotional reactions, you cannot control them. And if you cannot control them, you will be unable to be fully empathic with others and won’t be able to demonstrate it via social abilities. (Emotional Intelligence) 4) Once you let go and realize you can’t control anything but yourself, you start being a more relaxed person and good things start happening. 5) If you let a certain situation affect you for more than 2 hours, it will get logged onto your subconscious and any similar situation in the future will trigger that emotional response. 6) Everyday you are blessed to be alive, so make the most out of it. 7) Let go of limiting beliefs and change your daily phrases, and practice self love. 8) Take the risk and bet on yourself. 9) You are who you think you are and you attract what you think. So think you’re the badass you are and that you attract _________ and you deserve it because you know your worth. Hope this resonates with someone. Take what resonates and leave what doesn’t💫
One lesson I learned was to not take ANYTHING for granted. If I were a little kid and felt a slight pain anywhere, I didn't care. Now, as someone with severe health anxiety, I once got so anxious about a tiny pain in my neck that the beating of me heart literally shook my shirt. I only discovered my heart was beating so hard when my body was literally shaking to the rhythm of my pulse. I'm glad that's not every night, but still.
Why would I take advice from someone with severe health anxiety? So I can have severe health anxiety like you? I’m sure you taking nothing for granted is contributing to you worrying about every little thing.
Best accidental career change was working with seniors in 2020 being a dietary aide instead of a fast food employee. Have a fulfilling job makes so much difference and having an awesome boss doesn't hurt ❤
And I'm thankful for creating this video, it made me feel warm and… it's just… it feels like someone is comforting you-someone who really comforts you, not just someone who says words. Thank you for this 🥺
I agree with the whole “social media can screw up your health” thing. I refuse to have any social media (other than RUclips) on my phone, and I’m really happy with my life. My friends are on their phones all the time and they don’t seem too happy.
While this is the general trend, be careful not to assert superiority by not having social media. Some people with social media (like myself) are using it to become better and build connections which are launching me into my career at exponential rates. That doesn't mean that I'm better than those who are not receiving those benefits; and vice versa. Also, people can have depression or struggle with things you don't know about, and social media can be their only escape. Don't judge. Understand them. And then use that understanding to make the choice to compromise or cut them loose.
@@peyotecactus9588 It depends on one's career. There are occupations out there where having a strong social media presence can actually work against you.
2:19 I was never happier than as a student-athlete in college, and I kept VERY busy. It was after the four years of competition for the university team and the loss of a familiar and regimented context that things went downhill. It was taking a step back from doing things at the top of my game that made everything collapse. So, that advice is not for everyone.
Some lesson's I've learned:- *When you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything. *The truth hurts, but sometimes must be said. *Be good to those you love, then once they're gone, you have no regrets. *You don't need to be a multibillionaire to be happy. Having less means having less to stress about. As long as you have enough to be comfortable. * When you're healthy, everything else in life will take care of itself. If you're unhealthy and diseased, nothing about life is good. *💃🚴💪😃🎵🎶🌞👍
About trusting others, I got your point, but I still can't rely on it, because I trusted a lot of people and they disappointed, I kept believing that someday I will find someone I can trust but no after my long experience I don't think so, I am a high schooler and I'm starting to keep my distance from my classmates because I don't want to go through another friendship and then losing it because of some dumb reason, it hurts me so much
You have so much growth and growing still to do, you will change friendships and relationships more as you age. You are listening to yourself and what you know is right for you! Never forget advice comes and goes but you know you the best
“The most important relationship is the one with yourself”. Totally in my mind those days. And thanks to Adele that help me see that clearly through different perspectives through her new album. Like with the lines “It’s about time that I face myself, All I do is to bleed into someone else” “But oh my, oh my, I’ll never learn if I never leap” from To Be Loved “So I hope I learn to get over myself, Stop trying to be somebody else” from I Drink Wine She stated in an interview lately that she is naturally a sad person, and she doesn’t like herself that way. And I so identify with that. Ongoing scars made me from a happy child to heavy, naturally sad adult, but I don’t have to be like that. As I understood from a therapy and self work, I don’t have to play the victim rule. I can live my life differently, happy. God that’s so positive :) I don’t control the cards I got in life, but I control how to play with them :)
Life is DEFINITELY NOT SAFE AND PREDICTABLE even if it feels that way! WHEN I ALMOST DIED ON VACATION in Costa Rica when my bus 🚌 lost its breaks on a mountain 🏔 road, it completely changed my perspective on life FOREVER!!
I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and spoken word performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my RUclips channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💙❤
Lessons I've learned this year: Don't choose people who are not Choosing you. Don't plan out everything so soon, life could have something else in stored for you. Always fantasizing about your future will lead to unhappiness in the present moment. Building relationships with people is not a bad thing, just make sure they value you just as how you value them. You don't have to agree with everyone just to be liked, we're human and we all have different beliefs, opinions and views on topics and life in general. Hope whoever reads this, may it be beneficial to your life as well🙏🏼💙
Before the year ends, what's an important lesson you learned?
You can’t get ahead of yourself :3
Not to kill my self
@@cammmygaming1601 good one
I learned to enjoy my own company because most friends are temporary
That you can't put unrealistic expecations on yourself.
1. you will never be younger than you are now 0:45
2. life isn't a safe predictable formula 1:25
3. you can't have it all 2:04
4. despite your expectations nothing is ever as good or bad as you think 2:47
5. the most important relationship is one with yourself 3:28
6. everyone has emotions and is a person just like you 4:05
7. trust pays off 4:49
8. social media affects your mental health 5:18
9. retirement shouldn't be your goal 6:11
Retirement is a societal 4 letter word....
Career vs Passion
Choosing fear over love
External vs internal wealth
Feeling empty on the inside?
Or do you believe in yourself?
Fear of starvation from indoctrination
The matrix designed to control
Obey the master and stay in line
If not, relinquish your soul
Passion feeds off natural talents
Giving freedom to your life
Feeling love and internally fulfilled
Quenching the hunger inside
Converting energy for money
Caged doing mindless work
Getting only a portion in return
But still being treated like dirt
Rhythm fuels the musician
Sets fire to the dancer
Creative spirit comes alive
Natural hopeful romancers
Clock watching to escape the prison
Hoping the warden sets you free
Dreading another day of imprisonment
Being told who you need to be
Do what you love or fear what you hate
Free will gives you a choice
When the love overrides the fear
You'll finally find your voice
Thank you
Trust does NOT pay off
@@dParakeet Knowing who to trust does. Know yourself first and hold your boundaries.
Thanks for saving my time.
The biggest lesson I learned is that we need to be the parent we never had.
Hard to do
@@sbbbsb Not having an abusive parent doesn't mean they were perfect parents. A lot of parents and kids never realized how toxic their relationship is
@@sbbbsb it wasn’t funny tbh
exactly. !!!!
I need to be a bad parent?
I am 64. What I would tell my young self: 1. Do not commit to anything you don't want in your life for 50 years, even for a day; everything we do/think/say builds the next day. 2. When you do what you love, it will never seem like work. I am finally doing today what I love, and my only regret is that I didn't start 50 years ago.
What is needed is not always what is wanted
What is the thing you now do that you love? You don't have to tell if you don't want
Dating?
Here’s a couple I’ve picked up along the way:
1. Don’t expect, assume or anticipate.
2. Experience is not universal.
3. B student stands for Balance.
4. You’re exactly where you have worked to be.
5. Resentment destroys you and not the other person.
6. Humility is power.
7. Entertain your mind or your mind will entertain you.
8. Someone has been through what you’re going through.
9. The best of us will let you down.
10. Don’t talk about what you’re going to do, talk about what you did.
No. 10 💯
Can you please explain numbers 7 and 9?
Well, resentment does destroy the other person if they are too focused on the opinion of others. So It's a handy tool to sever those toxic bonds if you can tolerate resenting people. (It helps me to not expect better, which is an outlet for my negative emotions. It's strangely relieving for a sensitive person like me who usually idealizes people too much.)
Also, "you're exactly where you worked to be" is unrealistic because it doesn't account for things you can't control. Meaning, if your life is not as great as it should, relax until you get to a point you can diminish the effects these out of control circumstances have on you. Also sometimes, if your life is too good, you could have just gotten lucky or some outward advantages. The typical trend is that you are working against other forces so they slow your progress down and it's not your fault sometimes. Also, some people are just privileged so they should actually credit other people for where they are. Of course, balance exists in between too.
Number 10 hits different
number 8 is not always going to be true
These are the main lessons I learned this year.
1. You can't dedicate your life to other people. Whether it be family, friends, or associates, you can't put yourself on the back burner in favor of everyone else. It's not beneficial towards your physical, mental, and emotional health.
2. No matter the friendship/relationship, it can't be one-sided. You can't carry it all by yourself while the other party does nothing to maintain it. Again, not beneficial or fulfilling towards you...and sooner or later, you'll grow resentful towards the other party for not treating you the way you deserve to be treated. And you DO deserve to be treated well.
3. You can do everything right in a situation and it still not work out. That's just how life can be sometimes, and it's not a negative reflection on you. It just is what it is.
4. You should never turn your back on your dreams or passions. Not only are they a creative outlet for you but provide a certain level of personal fulfillment, enlightenment, and happiness that you need in your life. Your passions are expression, and being able to express yourself is apart of what makes us who we are. And it makes us more well-rounded and content individuals. And that always matters.
5. Try. No matter what, just keep trying. Even if you fall, falter, lose, or just get lost in it all...just keep trying. Don't be afraid to go through the motions to stumble, express your emotions, take a breather, regroup, pick yourself back up, learn, and keep going. It isn't our failures that destroy us, it's us giving up on ourselves that does.
Thank you 🙂💖🧸💐👏🏼
Sounds like you dealt with a toxic relationship which distanced you from your hobbies and goals
Number 2 hit hard for me this year
Fantastic list ,you learn as you go,albeit sometimes it may take a lifetime to figure out, wish I learned of number 2 sooner rather than later. Best wishes for the new year on out 🙏
Nice. Thank you
1 . You are not the main character of everyone's life
2 . It's okay if you don't get everyone's attention
3 . To achieve something you have to go
Out of your comfort zone
4 . Don't expect from people even if they are close to you
5 . Stay cool
6 . Be your own inspiration not any others
7 . Stop chasing others and know your worth
8 . Accept yourself as who you are and build yourself and your personality
9 . Work hard to live your own ideal life in future
no.1 is the worst advice
You are the main character of your story ✅
@@thepoisonist8360 read that again , it says you are not the main character of everyone else lifes
@@thepoisonist8360 that mindset is the exact type of narcissism I'm tired of.
@@barkoictolugueneofbairtona2273 I think you're overreacting
I will NEVER "accept myself".
Here's three quotes I've heard this year that I've been using to help keep me going.
1) 5 by 5 rule - if it's not gonna matter in 5 years, don't spend more than 5 minutes upset by it
2) No amount of guilt can change the past, and no amount of anxiety can change the future
3) Iron can only be destroyed by its own rust, likewise you can only be destroyed by your own mindset
I agree with the first two but the third is not true. You can be destroyed by other people but your mindset can revive you and make you stronger. Being unaffected by others isn't healthy, that is stopping you from being happy with them. But someone definitely can destroy you, abuse even happens to the best of people if they're trapped long enough. Your mindset will just be a savior not protection.
Well said, ty for sharing.
@@peyotecactus9588 true, but that is also circumstantial. For instance school: you think your going to fail and it makes it ten times harder on you. What ur saying is definitely true tho.
@@ravenstillwaters5195 😁 happy to
You know these are very important. Truly a great list🍦
The biggest lesson I learned so late in life is that we can be happy from day one, if you can control your mind you can control your emotions and happiness, I reached that point with meditation, when you find the meditation that works for you you unlock the doors to a different life.
Ahahaha.
True
I think it's okay to not be happy sometimes, because it's part of being human. Otherwise, you can't truly appreciate being in the moments that you are.
Meditation can help with mellowing emotions and feeling a sense of peace, but it's perfectly okay to be sad when something saddening happens, angry, upset...etc. But being content most of the time is a good goal, I think.
Actually is never so late to do realize some things. That is called EXPERIENCES.
Indeed
Some things i've learned in life is :
-Dont listen to what others say. People will always judge you no matter what. You should always do what makes YOU happy.
-always be YOU. You shouldn't be someone you aren't.
-be grateful for what you have.
Btw, this video helped me so much. I'm still in school and theres a lot i still need to learn.
I’m 75 now. There is such a thing as “too late” - for many things I wish I had done or not done when I was young, it really is too late now. So, the question I face now is, what things can I realistically do now that will make a positive difference for me in the time I have left.
I have a couple questions, do you miss having parents or someone who comforts you, around?
Does people being bad people bother you anymore?
How hard is it to be 75, emotionally and also in a practical sense? Is it ok to have, maybe, limited mobility and still be alive? I can't help but see being old as a terrible thing. You don't have to answer these questions, I'm just throwing it out there in case someone answers.
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Wow, a veteran account!
Legend boomer
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Other truths:
1. Life isn't fair.
2. Love is not enough.
3. If you lose someone, then that loss stays with you. So, you have to make yourself bigger around the loss.
4. Treat others how you want to be treated.
thank u so much for writting this!
I think that love is enough, it's only when love is absent that other things seem more important. We just have to keep drilling, and working on letting go of those things which we eventually will lose x
For number 1, I read somewhere that "Life is fair because it is unfair to everyone."
What do you mean by making yourself bigger around the loss? Sounds intriguing.
It's common sense to some people and an eye opener for many.
2 quotes that have helped me
1- "Forever is forever, but sometimes to get that you need to say goodbye"
2- "If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present"
I really needed that. Thanks!
I live by the mentality of the second quote
but I heard it differently
"If the past makes you depressed and thinking about the future makes you sick anxious, so by simple subtraction 'present' is the most comfort time"
second quote is so real
Depression isn't about living in the past
How can I be living in the past and future at the same time 🫥
1. you will never be younger than you are now 0:45
2. life isn't a safe predictable formula 1:25
3. you can't have it all 2:04
4. despite your expectations nothing is ever as good or bad as you think 2:47
5. the most important relationship is one with yourself 3:28
6. everyone has emotions and is a person just like you 4:05
7. trust pays off 4:49
8. social media affects your mental health 5:18
9. retirement shouldn't be your goal 6:11
I hope I could help!
How is this 2 months ago but the vid says 2 mins ago
Thank you
♥️
This dude time traveled. How is this comment two months ago
4. No that's not true, everything always is as bad as I think.
Being friends with an honest person is better than being with a yes men/woman.
Being *yourself = being alone forever.😥
That's an understatement. I've been betrayed by so many liars.
Here's a very serious and dire life lesson that people people don't learn until it's too late. Hell is a real place. It's not about if you've been good or bad, it's if you've firmly given your life to Jesus without being a hypocrite. I know alot of people in my dysfunctional family that are easy targets for Satan himself.
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@@jakekaufman8302 😐
Some of the lessons I've learned:
1) It's your choice what to do about your situation.
2) Change is from the inside out.
3) Success is leaving the world a better place than you entered it.
4) Armor keeps away swords, but it also keeps away snuggles.
5) People are horrible, people are amazing.
might add more later idk :P
This is amazing! Thanks for this :)
Hard lessons I’ve learned:
1- You don’t need to keep anyone in your life that is toxic (even family)
2- Take time to praise yourself (that one was really hard for me)
3- Just because someone has a great job, good education, is really popular, etc… doesn’t mean they are a good person
4- If something feels uncomfortable it means you are growing and it is probably very important to do
5- Reach out for help if you are struggling (whether that means you are having a hard time finishing something on time, or are struggling with mental health issues)
6- be okay with changing your mind when presented with new information - admitting you were wrong is not a sign of weakness
7- don’t be embarrassed to ask questions
8- everyone has struggles that you are unaware of - possibly even the same ones as you. You may think someone you look up to is invincible but they could be struggling with severe depression.
Ty so much! I have this!
How would I get my toxic enough to be a problem parents out of my life if I'm a minor? It would cause family problems if I asked my other close relatives to take me in
They aren't toxic all the time, there are times where they do care but I am now pretty much 100% sure I have depression, high-functioning anxiety, and have been emotionally neglected for as long as I can remember (I have not been diagnosed with any of this, as I have had no access to therapy or someone who does that) among other things especially self-gaslighting and I have had some minor suicidal thoughts (like what would happen if I just ended it all) although I do still have a will to live bc I have plans for the future and stuff
@@katartkatart4587 that's literally me omg. We're on the same path.
@@Je11keng I'm so sorry for you, bc the current world I'm living I is like hell
Lessons I learned:
1. You can’t trust everyone with everything, even if they’re close to you and care about you. Some people just can’t (or don’t want to) handle certain parts of you.
2. You don’t have to grow out of things you love. There’s no age for cutting off things you like, even if other people think they’re childish.
3. Getting enough sleep is essential. (I should be sleeping right now😓)
4. Don’t post personal things on social media, even if it’s with a group you trust. It could get back to people who you didn’t want in your business.
5. Liking yourself is essential. Even if you’re alone if you know and trust yourself you can get alone fine and be happy.
6. Even though it’s hard and you may get burned still ask for help. I don’t like asking for help at all but there have been plenty of times when people surprised me and came through. Asking for help doesn’t mean you’re weak.
7. If you’re in a difficult situation that you can’t change (ex: annoying neighbors/bad job, not abusive home life or something toxic, but just regular bad) change your mindset. You can’t change people but you can change how you react.
8. Holding grudges is pointless.
9. Taking care of yourself before others is not selfish. You have to be ok before you can help anyone else.
Thank you for sharing
Thank you so much for this. I am 74 years old and these are the kinds of things I wish I had known decades ago -- especially about intimate relationships and work. I eventually learned most of them -- the hard way! I hope lots of the younger people watching this will recognize the wisdom being given to them.
The problem is… That’s why life is the way it is - you have to go through the whole thing pretty much to realize/learn exactly these things.
After being at rock bottom in life for almost the whole year, I realized that no matter how hopeless things are or how bad you might feel about yourself because of it, just keep going anyway. Even if it feels like it’s pointless. Things might turn around for the better, maybe they won’t. And if they don’t, just keep trying your best to move forward in any way you can, even if you’re taking really tiny steps to get there.
Honestly thank you for this
YES exactly!! I had a crap year but I am positive that it will get better and I will get better!
reading this somehow helps me relieving my anxiety. thank you so much.
I have felt like crap the whole day. Thank you for your comment. nice reminder.
I love this. I was just talking about this yesterday that the most people fail (in personal or professional life), not because they give-up too soon. You can move mountains with persistence if you keep getting up and keep going every time you stumble (and learn from those stumbles). There is no success without failures. 🖤 🖤
The lessons I've learned are
1- love yourself doesn't mean you've the right to hurt people, love yourself is accepting what you are with your dark and light, not escaping for that.
2- be thankful every morning
3- life doesn't mean being busy all the time, lazy days are also great
4- enjoy and accept each stage of your life, being young or old doesn't matter while you keep have that joy in life
5- we never stop learning and that's awesome
5 is lie bicause we stop learning in moment of our death
@@czowiekkontraswiat8279 That’s besides the point.
@@Lanie14627 then whats the point ?
thanks for 4 because I’ve been struggling with the thought that one day I’ll grow old and this really helped
Toxic people seem to not understand number one though lol
Something I learned is to not regret things too much, while regret can teach us things about ourselves, theres no point holding on to it. Make up for it, or do it in the future, or just move on. No matter how hard it is to let go of regret, it is essential. it can also help to talk or not talk about it, stay posotive!
Heavenly Father I pray that you keep the person reading this alive, safe, healthy and financially blessed Amen💕💙
Yes
Thank you Flo, I needed your prayer today. God bless you and yours🤗🙏
Thank you!
I’m calling it rn, atheist’s incoming.
All jokes aside thank you for your prayer and have a good day
My lessons learnt :
1) Do not believe every word people have said, their action tells the truth. It won't take long to reveal.
2) Nothing is permanent in this world. Things change, tomorrow may not arrive. So live well.
3) Over thinking causes damage to health. People never realise it.
4) Be grateful/thankful but remember to observe at the same time. Sometime you may be disappointed after knowing the truth.
5) Be patient, alot of things take time. It is never easy to be patient, you need to believe first.
6) You will realise the importance of peace after a disaster. Treasure the time when it's still peaceful as you never know when the next wave is coming. Life is never a bed of roses afterall.
7) Take care of yourself. Its very easy to fall sick but takes a long time to heal. I am not talking about flu or fever kind of sickness.
Looking back on the worst experiences of my life, I think what made them so awful wasn’t what happened, but what the people close to me did or didn’t do to make it happen. Social distancing has been a weird blessing for me because it’s shown me which people in my life actually care about me and which ones were just pretending.
Number 6 is so important yet goes unconsidered so often online. I occasionally tell people that I do not want to be idolized and treated like I don't have a chance to form any connections with the people I inspire. It feels wrong to be deemed as "perfect" when I am still capable of making mistakes just like everyone else.
Did you learn your lesson,is it to late,are you getting younger,don't waste time,is life predictable,is anybody perfect,do you get stressed,do you know your limits,did you fail,is it daunting,is it worth it,are you difficult to relate to,don't compare yourself to others,take a break,if you don't enjoy life,make that change❌
Putting yourself first and slowing down in life is very crucial to one’s health
Most people want someone to accept and love them unconditionally - for exactly who they are, but they can't do that for themselves. How is someone else going to love you unconditionally when you keep judging and criticizing yourself. *The most important relationship is the one with yourself* (my fav message ever).
I have pondered on answering to your comments for a while now. And I am still not Sure how to put it right. I'll try. :)
I have the unusual condition of a healthy self confidence. My heart feels calm and steady, I won't go out of balance easily. I like myself and there's no one I'd rather be. Yet I have always had to bend to fit into society, even if often this concept of "society" functions by unpredictable and illogic rules.
So yes: I want someone to accept and love me for who I am. Because I know I am worth it. This someone is just so very difficult to find, for everyone. :)
@@marilunabeilschmidt3536 I absolutely love that, especially the part where you describe your confidence as healthy. Congrats on finding that sort of self acceptance and love - It's definitely not easy to get there.
But, there's still a difference between feeling happy with who you are, and feeling that you can be loved for who you are. Sounds like you have mastered the former, but not the latter.
I want to challenge the thought that you have to "fit in" to find love, but it won't change how you feel deep within. I wonder if there is a history of emotional isolation/loneliness in your childhood or some history of unhealthy relationships/rejections (no assumption, just curious)?
At your level of awareness and acceptance, I think working with a professional (pref. a psychoanalyst) might open new doors for you. Good luck in your journey! ❤🩹
That's why I'm always going to be alone. I'm not worth loving, certainly not unconditionally. I don't know why I moan about things being bad when it's no more than I deserve, in fact I deserve much worse
This really made me think
Unconditional love usually means they love you because you look good LOL
Love is pretty much always about looks
My lessons:
1. Don't afraid of being lonely. Be friend to yourself!
2. When trying to forgive others, don't forget forgiving yourself.
3. Every success or failure is valuable in life, because they make us who we are now
These are good. I felt lonely for a very long time, but embracing being alone actually has worked out very well for me. Additionally, it has given me time to contemplate all the mistakes I kept making socially, and how I could have been better. I think one of these days I'll keep trying, this time armed with better thinking, experiences, and approaches. Patience is important.
I believe this is the simplest to do. It's the best as it offers others a chance to define their bounds n ins in any rship
@@Nuclear_Man_D No. Can't agree. I think the other people around me could have been better.
Why I am saying this? Because I'm since birth a very positive person, who find's joy even in the smallest things.
And yes I'm a sensitiv person. But for me getting depressed or resentful, there must be something very wrong with the other people in my life.
Also all the pain I felt could have been avoided, if the people around me had genuinely cared. AND THAT'S A FAKT.
So, no. I'm NOT gratefull for these lessons at all.
I know you learn and geht stronger through failure and loses. But some things just aren't necessary and not in ANY WAY justifed.
I think that the most important thing in life is to understand that to fail at something from time to time is normal.
Also, missed opportunities or just bad luck can sometimes be a door opener.
I would like to give an example. I wanted to go to Japan last year with a friend after a long planning, I had already booked the flight and the hotels and was really looking forward to it! At that time I had heartbreak, my studies were going badly and my father passed away that year. To make matters worse, I ended up having to cancel the trip due to Covid as well. I was very down and struggling with it. At that time, I decided to make a fresh start and changed my major. In the meantime, the first semester is over and I really enjoy it, among other things because I met someone there and have now been in a happy relationship for over 3 months =)
But all this would not have happened if I had flown to Japan.
What I want to say is that even if you win the lottery, it doesn't necessarily mean that you will be happier in life. Sometimes the misfortune in a moment is the biggest luck you can have!
You can always still go to Japan you know
I love how you quoted Uncle Iroh, we can learn a lot of stuff from him. My favorite teaching is "you can't always see the end of the tunnel, but if you keep going forward you will come to a better place"
Why do you think it will be a better place? it totally can be horrible place as well or you can be running in the circle forever never reaching the end.
@@deltaxcd Well other than the fact that uncle Iroh knows what hes talking about, it might be your confidence in your own decisions, your faith in God or by passively controlling your life like a Taoist.
ultimately, it is different for everyone
Also even if it may lead to a horrible place, some would say there could still be better place further along the that outweighs it
@@banishedguardian701 However the real meaning of this claim is "go back to work and pay your taxes" confidence and god are irrelevant here, society will try to convince you to make even more futile effort rather than saying "screw it i quit"
Maybe it is really different for everyone but i think if the suffering and effort that was required to get ton the better place is greater than the benefits of that better place then it was better to stay in the old place.
@@deltaxcd I think you may be thinking about it too narrowly. I completely agree that if you find something isn't working, you should try something different.
I take the Iroh quote like this: Life can be difficult sometimes, but that doesn't mean it will always be so ("you can't always see the end of the tunnel"). It will definitely stay that way if you do nothing about it. But, if you change your approach, eventually you will find life is better ("but if you keep going forward, you will come to a better place"). Now, it might not be MUCH better than where you were. Life seems to have its fluctuations, though.
@@Tryforce8000 well in your way it woud be fine somewhat but this light in the end of the tunnel is not so much a light as it is a carrot on the stick which you are trying to get while a huge trailer is attached to you which you are pulling. And people like Uncle Iroh who are sitting on that trailer, cheer for you that yes yes! go for it! pull harder, you are almost done, just a little bit more.
The right approach is never do anything you don't like if life sucks you just sit and do nothing. aka "quiet quitting" By trying to escape the situation you will just benefit those who are riding on you. Just let it rot and enjoy the collapse.
And even if you can get in a better place what I noticed is that usually when you finally reach that place you wanted you no longer can enjoy it because of various reasons. Mostly because you got older or it tuned out obsolete. So even if you reach the end of tunnel the night will come. :)
How many people were trying to build their dream home just to notice that when they finish it it has no use anymore.
1. Loving something way too much could drive you insane and destroy your mental health, especially on social media, if the posts are misleading and you try to figure them out analyzing every single situation.
2. Be kind to everyone even if you don't agree with them, try to communicate with them to see your options.
3. Not everything will be your way. You'll have to compromise.
Loving something shouldn't drive you crazy because love has boundaries. Loving something in a beneficial way includes taking space when the situation is becoming toxic. I think what you meant is obsessing over something. While general passion and strong liking are common of both, only obsession can drive you insane. (This counts for one sided things too because that's obsessing over an ideal and not seeing what's in front of you. Love only exists where there's maturity.)
@@peyotecactus9588 Yeah, that's it. The thought of it just doesn't go away, it's pretty much an obsession, you're right!
Nice
Ty! This can be true.
@@peyotecactus9588 trueeeeee
What I learned
Some people will never understand empathy or be able to understand another perspective
Talking about your problems is helpful
Patience will pay off
People are persistent
Having standards is a good thing
Letting go of things that don’t make you happy anymore is better than sticking to it
A life lesson I learned this year is that Peace of mind is the rarest commodity. And always trust your first gut feeling to protect it.
True that👍👍👍
how do you usually protect it? like, what does your gut tell you?
@@userm180 To put myself first. As basic as it sounds, it's really good advice.
@@bennythebard does it always tell you that?
@@userm180 Yeah I guess
Social media does indeed ruin your mental health. Mine in particular got so bad to the point where I don’t even go on Twitter or Instagram NEARLY as often as I used to. I’d say instead of going on Twitter about 3 times a day, I get on about *maybe* once a week if that, and I can tell you that I’ve been feeling so much better!
I just realize that I've been mistreated by own friends. Whenever I felt uncomfortable and out of place, I always thinking that we've been friends for so many years, so I need to treasure them, but after watching, I want to cut them off and face this insecurities that they gave to me
To the *worthwhile person* 🌟 seeing this, I know life is hard. It’s hard living, filled with struggles and challenges. The constant pressure to overcome and become. However you can overcome and make it better, all the seeds and keys of greatness are within you. Get up and press on. I wish you all the best in life ❤️.
1- 0:50 You will never be younger than you are now
2- 1:26 Life isn't a predictable formula
3- 2:04 You can't have everything
4- 2:52 Nothing is ever as good or bad as you think
5- 3:30 Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you're in
6- 4:08 Everyone has emotions and is a person, just like you!
7- 4:49 Trust pays off!
8- 5:19 Social media negatively affects your mental health
9- 6:12 Retirement shouldn't be your goal
I've reported that spam comment so much smh
How do you feel about these?
@@Psych2go Me personally? I feel like they're true and should definitely be kept in mind, but it's OK to derive sometimes. Thank you for posting this, it's really cool!
@@wiliona1999 wth
@@Psych2go Hiiiii
Retirement WASN'T my goal --- but it's been, BY FAR, the best part of my life!!!
My son sent me this on Dec 27th. It was his last communication with me as he died on Jan 7th. He finally realized what I've been trying to tell him his whole life, that happiness comes from within and not from addictions. 😥
is this real ? well that sucks. Drugs are the "quick fix" to happiness to billions of people in the world. Evil is Live backwards.
So sorry that your son passed; on the behalf of him I would like to say thank you for being a supporting mother. As common as it should be, it isn’t. You did a great job being a mom.
Any form of addiction doesn't define a person's long-term happiness. That person will be happy temporarily, but in the end, it'll destroy that person.
Never trust anyone completely. Avoid depending on others and you will have a more peaceful and happy life. People sucks and that's the number one lesson in life.
that is a very pessimistic look you have there. True, a lot of people suck but a lot of people are very cool and fun too. Show them that you trust them, but never expect something from them. This way you can meet many friends and have a happy life and you are still independent because you dont expect things from them. If you meet anyone who breaks your trust you discard them. You are the one deciding who can be in your life. Dont just shut yourself off. The mistrust will destroy you from the inside.
@@ublazedlp4259 he meant that you shouldnt tell all of your secrets to friends, not be socially distanced
I agree. I learned that the hard way. I put myself though life and death situations fooling with the wrong people.
Agree. My number 1 rule in life. Trust no one. A person has to earn my trust but even after that I would never give 100% of my trust to anyone. The people in my tiny circle are there because they've earned varying degrees of trust or some trust in certain areas. I would never trust anyone 100%. That's just asking for trouble. Under the right circumstances everyone is capable of betrayal. Everyone.
@@MDen69 I do agree. I learning that even more now.
A very important lesson that I've learned : "In a given situation, it is either exactly what it appears to be, or it is either the exact opposite."
And I find this very noteworthy, it kinda verify itself everytime I think about it and knowing that really helped me taking good decisions in life. For example, if someone speak to you about let's say what they are doing in life. This is either totally true and they are sharing knowledge and passion with you, or this is either totally false and then they're just trying to impress you, to boost their ego or they are projecting themselves in what they would like to be, but they are not.
This is a very common example, but it somehow work for everything you can find and this is where your lucidity and discernment, some would say instinct, take place.
what if somebody is telling part of what he really does and part of the truth he hides? How is it completely truth or completely false? Would this appear to be a truthful type of person if he's giving fr eg. good but not confident person? and I just don't understand how would this work in other situations. How does this work in real life?
While I think social media can be toxic, it can also be very beneficial. It can be a platform to learn, educate, and connect. People can use their platform to be an activist as well. It's all about learning to detach and not be obsessed with having the perfect post or all the likes. I've learned to step away when I get overwhelmed and to start following real people that make me feel good instead of all these influencers and celebrities that make me feel bad about myself and my life. Use social media for good. Be mindful of who you follow and what you consume because that's when it can negatively affect you.
That would've hold true if we lived in n ideal world.
The thing is
We don't
Even if the world is perfect itself, it doesnt mean that some ways in which it works will resonate with how our body and Health works. That hold true especially with social media.
The internet was a beautiful place when it first started, now its an ad on ad on ad followed by an ad which brings another 10 distractions and destructive ideas along the way that makes u lose ur way in whatever is happening not only in your life but ur soul as well.
We are biologically not designed to handle such massive amounts of data and distraction at once, thus we feel overbeared when we use it for too long.
The only exception are females but that's because by nature they are able to derive their energy from other noticing and admiring them so they rarely feel tired cuz of it.
Social media would've been great if it wasnt created with money in mind but rather to Connect with people and make it feel as home first and foremost.
dude shut up lol
This is actually a really great list! The one thing I would add is get physical. Even if it's just stretching for five minutes, moving your body has so many amazing benefits.
So true ❤️
100% - people often think having tons of money or many friends will make them happy. If you are sick and have poor health, you can’t enjoy much at all, including money and friends.
You can waste a lot of time and effort on people who couldn't care less about you, but you're strong enough to cope without them.
I'm 18 and I already knew these truths for a fact and how on point they are. You really did the work on letting everybody know and giving me a little bit more certainty. I just wish of all the few people I trust, less of them would break my trust.
The biggest lesson I learned in life is that you can do anything once you set your mind to do it. When I was younger I always let my insecurities or even my families insecurities bring me down. Being told what you can’t do or who to not trust is very powerful when it comes from from family and even your own mind telling you, I had to grow up and learn to believe in myself and not let others guide my actions. If I want to take a chance then I need to take it and see where life can take me.
EXACTLY 💯
im proud of you!! really. do you have any advice on how to not let others guide our actions? i tend to struggle w that
I wonder how do I set my mind to perform time travel or to turn lead to gold LOL
the idea that you can do anything is the most stupid and damaging propaganda pushed by dictatorships to make their slaves work better
We have limits and to live good life you have to understand your limits and never try to surpass them.
These all make sense, it helps a lot to hear someone else say them.
Lessons I learnt
1.Having a healthy routine is essential.
2. Social Media affects your mental health.
3. Talk and connect to the people you love.
4. You'll easily get affected by other people's opinion. So don't let anyone dictates your choices about your life. Do what makes you happy at the moment.
5.Don't be afraid to try new things.
Here's some lessons i learned
-No matter how much you know, you know nothing.
-Keep learning if you want to keep improving
-Ego isnt going to make anyone admire you
- if you manage to impress yourself with your work, everyone is going to notice you whether you talk about it or not.
- you define your own success it doesnt have to be like others.
- you don't need people to back you up on every decision you make.
-social pressure only exists in your head, if you let it be.
-listening ability is quite a blessing if you use it correctly.
-self conflict can be positive.
I can list a lot but if there's one i'd like people to take seriously i'd say theres nothing more important than being able to learn. If you can enable yourself to learn it's like you are capable of gaining lessons and experiences even from the smallest things in your day to day interactions.
I love that one about social pressure.💗
For me, what I’ve learned is don’t let anything or anyone bring you down & stop you from doing what makes you happy. Don’t let the outside negatively change who you are on the inside. Be yourself because you’re perfect & unique as you are. Let’s Keep It Going.
Thank you 🙏
Some things I've learnt this year is to focus on myself and what makes me happy, rather than worrying about what my siblings needed since I've stepped back from having to be in a spot where I played more than a sisterly role because one parent wasn't doing much. Knowing when to step away from an environment or social group that isn't healthy or necessarily good for me. Also, sometimes it's the smaller types of achievements that can make a bigger impact than one large goal achieved.
I think you're very strong and I'm proud of how much you do for others. I'm even more proud that you're able to choose yourself. Keep going, you got this girl!!!
Don't depend on others for your happiness, they will eventually fail you; enjoy the freedom of solitude.
True. Look after yourself first because most people aren't worth bothering about. If you are a friend of everyone, you are an enemy to yourself.
I made it to retirement & it's the best feeling & biggest relief ever. Everyday having " time freedom" is a luxury & there isn't anything better than that. No more stress or alarm clocks. It really feels good.
May evil,unfairness,injustice come back at the American government and those involved in ruining my life ( Targeted Me) to make me look bad to people,buddy,let us not forget Hiroshima,Vietnam, Iraq,Afghanistan,(My Brothers/Sisters) Syria,and so on. I am a fair and good person and they have no right to do this,i promise you I’m not making it up,i wish for my revenge in any way i can get it and not just for me but for all Muslims and non Muslims like those of Hiroshima,Vietnam. Unfairness,evil i will not tolerate. EVER. Sadly i was told I’m ugly and played,lied to,sadly mostly by my own kind, Bosniak girls, and you do know what was done to them during the aggression on Bosnia…….and i dont even hate on Serbian and American women/girls. You can not blame me for my looks and my desperation and urge for to have a gf and love making. This what was done to me is disgusting,unfair and terror…….Let me see the heroic Americans try this on Russia and Putin,it is easy to ruin me as i cant fight back the right way ……….
People seem afraid of getting old, but honestly i just want to live long enough to get old and see my grandkids. Some people don’t have that privilege. There are so many opportunities for one’s life to be cut short that I consider every day I get to be alive a blessing ❤️
Number 9 hits hard. Both my grad school advisor and my former elementary school teacher could tell I was unhappy as my job as a classroom teacher. So they helped me narrow down my options and suggested I look for something more fulfilling. Going to apply for jobs that would allow me to work 1-1 with people as soon as 2022 kicks in.
Classroom teacher is a hard job. Good luck with finding something more suitable. But as I commented elsewhere, keep your expectations realistic.
Well did you go one on one?
Her voice is so comforting that she always makes me feel like I could cry around her and she would help me through that hard time.
Y’know I come in and out of phases of watching Psych2go and not for periods of time, and yet every time I come back I think to myself “damn, I should really be putting this advice into practise”
Here’s hoping I can swallow those hard truths and improve my life as a whole, same for you all out there who have it worse. We believe in you :)
"Did that one failing grade actually affect where you are now in life?"
It did, indeed. While, academically, I was able to compensate for it more than well enough, it severed a bond of trust, which lead to much distress, and led to an ongoing reputation of mine for being lazy. The lesson I learned that day was to never disclose failure again.
And no: My parents were not terrible in any way. They just thought I was "gifted", so, logically (to them), all my shortcommings were results of laziness, or stubborness. Calculating acurately based on inacurate information is not a sin. It's crap the universe throws at you.
thanks for sharing this perspective too
But even if their math was right, the conclusion that they came to was a bit abusive. Laziness and stubbornness are like anger: a secondary symptom of a deeper complex. I wish parents would understand that when a child doesn't perform as expected, it's not to give the parents a hard time; the kid is having a hard time. Otherwise, congrats! Your child thinks they're shitty now and that their needs are unimportant. If you can't share your failures, there's no real intimacy.
I agree. 100%. And sorry that happened to you.
@@KlaskeyProductions Wish all of the parents would've realised it before the child becomes traumatized resulting in him/her to "losing" his/her talents, strenghts or feelings that kept him/her going
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The advice about social media is pretty good - I reduced my usage of Facebook (which wasn't very high to begin with) by 90% a few months ago and it feels great. My stress levels dropped quite a bit. I'd definitely recommend doing this.
Number 8 I wish I knew sooner as I felt isolated and sad a lot more than usual, due to feeling pressured to be a certain way, then someone stepped in and said "Social media does more harm than good, the only thing in the world that should matter is your own goals, inspirations and path in life, not ones scattered by strangers online."
That's why I'm thankful for taking time away for my mental health 😊
I want to make it my new year resolution to be more action oriented. I have to start off by trusting myself instead of doubting myself.
This is something that I recently talked about with my therapist.
i learned many things too late. quick example: that not all friends are trustworthy. I learned this when i was only in kindergarten, when i was bullied the whole school year by the whole class and 90 percent of all my friends were the ones who bullied me. In a matter of minutes, of me reaching out to the awkward kid who didnt have friends, i lost all my friends who instantly turned into enemies/strangers.
I’m relatable to almost all of them. You see I’ve been struggling to have a good relationship with my mother, from the personal stuffs that happened and how critical she is, it had all became like drama. But thank you so much for uploading this video, it sort of help me for my issues but I’ll keep this noted. 😊😊
Sorry that you had to struggle in so many areas and relationships of your life, but remember that you wouldn't be the person you are today, if you didn't have to find your way through those adversities. It doesn't justify the hurt, but I hope that it does help you look at such life experiences not just through the lens of pain, but also through the lens of growth and your personal development.
Here's the best I know to say to your Mom: Mom, I love you...whatever stuff there is between us, what matters is I love you and I will always love you
I too struggle with my relationship with my mom. She has disappointed me so many times, very manipulative narcissistic personality, says things to bring down my confidence. I’ve learned thru my experiences to not expect anything from her and not be bothered by her opinions. I’ve become a stronger person and realized that she has a lot of insecurities that’s why she does that. Forgive but don’t forget, love yourself, do things that makes you happy, treat others with kindness 💕💕💕
I've learnt that having more friends doesn't make u happier, having close friends that u take care of is the most important thing.
Remember that popularity doesn't (really) exist.
Especially the last suggestion/truth is very important one to me. There is no garantee that there is a later. If now seems to be the perfect time, go for it.
The stuff I say might seem way too overused but I really wish I learnt these a little sooner
1) Life doesn't always go the way you want....instead of fretting and being down over it just go with the flow. Just remember to do your best wherever you are whatever you do :)
2) Life without passion is like food without salt...I can't believe I've been eating salt-less food all these years of my life
3) People are not always what they seem. A little adjusting and understanding makes a big difference. A little cautiousness and analyzing also makes a big difference
4) Its soo easy to make excuses and blame others for your mistakes but, you have to realise that its your life not others. You can't give excuses for the way your life is. So stop the blaming and start taking responsibility for your actions
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I would like to add onto No.4
Taking responsibility for your actions doesn't mean beating yourself up over it, suffering/agonizing it in silence to yourself (or to others!), and taking no actions to try and improve--be it the situation and/or yourself.
If you do not take action, you are simply making excuses and hurting yourself with harshness.
You deserve kindness, fun, and to enjoy passions, but keep in mind, kindness isn't always the easy/comfortable path and that the fun things and passions can be toxic for you too. If indulging in fun and passions is near constant and/or is causing you to hurt yourself (skipping out on meals, hurting your bowls/bathroom routines, et.) skipping/not searching for work, disregarding responsibilities like pet(s) and/or bill(s), it may not be self-care or something safe/healthy anymore.
Small things that help is just simply going for a walk--even if its just down the street and back--just once a week or day can help, go out with friend(s), family, and/or relative(s) every so often so your brain can process that, regardless of the status of online-only friends and family with you, you are NOT alone and can help combat the physical loneliness that can set in.
I'm sorry for the long comment, but, as someone who's been there on some of this and currently watching a sibling go through all of this, I felt that I needed to share this for those who may need to hear it.
Stay safe out there!
There will ALWAYS be at least one person who loves and cherishes you.
Don't forget that.
Ty! So true!
5:18 Using social media more often, though, increases FOMO and feelings of inadequacy, dissatisfaction, and isolation. In turn, these feelings negatively affect your mood and worsen symptoms of depression, anxiety, and stress.🥺🥺🥺🥺
My hard to swallow pills I had to learn in my life:
- Just because it glitters doesn’t mean it’s gold
- Some cliches really do work (for example, the “Never give up” cliche)
- The ones who end up betraying you are the ones you least expect to do so
- If you’re sick of toxic people, you also have to do the dirty work with yourself to prevent anymore toxic people from coming in
- While the grass can be greener on the other side, the grass could be browner and dryer on the other side too
- Start eating healthy and exercising at a younger age, it’s gonna come and bite you in the ass later (I’m so lucky I managed to catch myself early on back when I was getting fat at 18)
- There will come a time where you’re gonna have to give in and show some skin. Start getting used to air hitting the weird spots on your body that’s not used to feeling the outside world.
- Your dreams are achievable, it’s just gonna take a while to get there. This also includes the easier dreams too.
- Unfortunately, people will always oogle over your body no matter how much awareness is out there about this issue.
- It’s okay to be trusting, but be weary of everyone, including your parents
- Even though it never feels like it, it does get better.
- ALWAYS TRUST YOUR GUT!!!!!!!
Actually it's a good one..
Good things takes time
It seems like you have a low level of trust in people close to you, and humanity in general. I've gotta disagree with that one.
@@inseptus712 shes not wrong in any way about that🤷♀️
One big thing I learned is that no matter how angry you get with someone, there are certain bridges that may not be worth burning. Some people just aren’t worth hurting no matter how much they anger you. Even if you feel there’s no hope to better your situation with said person you can at least get them out of your life without being a jerk. There’s always another way out. And nothing lasts forever, good things and bad things alike. I’d wish I’d learned it before I entered adulthood.
Comparing my accomplishments to my best friend is a main one for me. I always try to come off smart but end up looking dumb at the end. This vid just made my afternoon on what mistakes I made in life, and how to fix it even slightly.
You don't get a win unless you play in the game.
You get loved for it.
You get hate for it.
You get nothing if you wait for it.
- Hamilton
Yeah. And thats exactly what a certain Joey Bullshit Sakata gets: noting.
Alexander Hamilton?
2 things ive learned: nothing is final except death and i try to approach uncomfortable situations or any situation really with the attitude that if it doesn't go well i still will go on with the rest of my life and not think about it ever again
Actually, one flunked test can change your life but that does not mean it is changed for the worse. In 1975 I was in Air Force flight training. I flunked a check ride by a point and a half and was removed from training. My dream of flying for the Air Force was lost, but it put me on a whole new path and I had a great, great life. I absolutely love where I am and where life has taken me and none of that would have happened had I earned just another point and a half on that check ride. One defeat is not total defeat.
Here's a brief set of lessons I've learned to live by (for what it's worth):
1-Just because people around the world are acting badly, doesn't mean you should get upset about it, or that you should act badly too.
2-Getting angry and upset about things you can't change isn't going to change anything, it will only harm you.
3-Although there are realistic limits to what we can be, people do ultimately choose their state in life.
4-Be willing to admit you are wrong. This is the best way to become a smarter person, because by admitting you are wrong, you are abandoning a bad position you once had in favor of a smarter one.
5-Be open minded and willing to listen to the viewpoints of others, since you might find out your own positions are wrong. Listening doesn't hurt either, since you can always disregard the junk you hear, anyway.
6-Think logically, not emotionally. The worst decisions in life are made based on emotions.
7-Think "what works", not what "feels good".
8-Believe not so much in "positive thinking", believe in "positive doing".
9-Our time on Earth is temporary. It's also not the end. There's an eternity ahead of us.
10-Stick to the game plan. Avoid snap decisions.
11-The key to happiness is gratitude.
12-Be an honest person. Always.
good points
@@sonorousgaming7202 all religions are false stories , but life is ehernal and wont end but its nuthing like all religious fantasies explains it
I would respectfully disagree with point number 6 (depending on what people consider to be logic or emotions). Previously i had a well payed job, nice apartment and good financial situation. But the work place it self was bringing down my mood greatly. It was "logical" to stay there, because it would bring me closer to have the money for building up my home and financial independence. But i quit my job for one that is paying me basically half of that and moved abroad. So "logically" it was kind of a bad decision, but emotionally it was great! I feel much happier, have more freedom and get to experience new cultures.
I usually find that if you are able to listen to your "real" emotions and your body they are a truly great guides in life! The hard part about that though is to differentiate them with the sudden impulsive emotions you might get.
@@xthexskrillex How do you know it's eternal?
@TheManFromAuntie all religions are crazy false harmful fantacies that has nuthign to do with reality , and they have never ever brought any good to any one ever , specialy not islam , the worst and most vicious of them all , religions are crazy fantacies sued torugh history to control people scare ppl and hurt people , and it is pp, like u whoa re ignorant who swallow this ahrmful crazy fantacies that ahs nuthing to do with reality or how u shoudl behave or anything
Nr 7. You will learn the hard way, everyone WILL betray you given the opportunity or circumstances. Even if they are people you know, even family, and have had life-changing and extreme risk situations where you have been in "the crucible" so to speak and you think you know someone and they you. They will sell out and throw a brotherhood in the dirt. Trust NOONE in this life has been my biggest life lesson.
What I have realized is we can be happy just where we are and not after reaching a certain point.Doing what we love is just a way to carry forward the peace and happiness.
Depends on the person and what they value. That certainly holds true to some. But to go-getters like me, I feel the absolute happiest when I am reaching for something achievable or even reaching higher as long as I accept that failure happens. It makes me feel capable which is my biggest dream to unlock other dreams (like helping others). The present is the set up for the future; I enjoy it but I enjoy every next day more than the current one. Happiness grows exponentially for me (in comparison to the set backs). That's living with the luxury of expecting a future. I'm capitalizing off of my privileges so I can share them with others.
Something I learned the hard way is that no life is forever. Someone you know and love for exmaple could get sick with no way of treating them and you only have a certain amount of time left together. It is hard especially if this person played a huge role in your life and you thought they would live longer. In that case make the best out of the time left and say the things to the person you want them to know before their times comes.
Two things define us.our patience when we have nothing and our attitude when we have everything...
I'm 55 years old. 2021 has been the worst year of my life. The most important life lesson I've learned (so far): Timing is everything.
I agree, i think 2021 was the worst year for everyone. Such a shitty experience that taught me important lessons, now that the bad has been felt, it will only make the good moments feel better
Same here, 2021 almost completely ruined me…
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You have to live to learn I’m 85yrs old now you never know what will befall you you’re not ready for it it just comes you handle it and move on there’s a solution to every problem. Life is never easy.
The one I'm learning is #2. I used to feel really bad about having gone through bad phases that were way off from what I thought was my true self as a kid. But going through life a bit, I realize change is inevitable including ups and downs.
Here's one I've learned this year: take literally everything on the internet as it is, if it upsets you because it doesn't apply to you its probably not targeted for you specifically
yup
Thanks for posting this! I especially liked the advice “While it may be to late to change your past, it is not to late to change your future.” Thanks!
I want to say thank you from my heart because your channel has given me comfort and peace and made me feel loved ❤
@@wiliona1999 chill out
The first lesson I learnt this year is that life isn't all happiness and attention and teenage isn't perfect
2. We live for our-selves not others but that doesn't give you the permission to misbehave with them
3. Peace doesn't last long, peace always turns back into chaos
4. be yourself and do what u want because you may not get another chance
God has opened opportunities for me!
One of the hardest things to learn in life is sometimes in certain situations there are No right answers!
My life lessons:
1) You can’t control anything, the only thing you can control is YOURSELF: your emotions, your mindset, your attitude, your actions, your reactions, etc.
2) Nothing in this life is permanent, so if you’re holding onto something really tight, maybe it’s time to let go.
3) If you are not aware of your emotional reactions, you cannot control them. And if you cannot control them, you will be unable to be fully empathic with others and won’t be able to demonstrate it via social abilities. (Emotional Intelligence)
4) Once you let go and realize you can’t control anything but yourself, you start being a more relaxed person and good things start happening.
5) If you let a certain situation affect you for more than 2 hours, it will get logged onto your subconscious and any similar situation in the future will trigger that emotional response.
6) Everyday you are blessed to be alive, so make the most out of it.
7) Let go of limiting beliefs and change your daily phrases, and practice self love.
8) Take the risk and bet on yourself.
9) You are who you think you are and you attract what you think. So think you’re the badass you are and that you attract _________ and you deserve it because you know your worth.
Hope this resonates with someone. Take what resonates and leave what doesn’t💫
alright then i bet i will survive a 596 meters fall
One lesson I learned was to not take ANYTHING for granted. If I were a little kid and felt a slight pain anywhere, I didn't care. Now, as someone with severe health anxiety, I once got so anxious about a tiny pain in my neck that the beating of me heart literally shook my shirt. I only discovered my heart was beating so hard when my body was literally shaking to the rhythm of my pulse. I'm glad that's not every night, but still.
Why would I take advice from someone with severe health anxiety? So I can have severe health anxiety like you? I’m sure you taking nothing for granted is contributing to you worrying about every little thing.
@@abuDA-bt6ei I mean if taking nothing for granted is what caused my anxiety I probably wouldn’t be telling people to do it.
Best accidental career change was working with seniors in 2020 being a dietary aide instead of a fast food employee. Have a fulfilling job makes so much difference and having an awesome boss doesn't hurt ❤
And I'm thankful for creating this video, it made me feel warm and… it's just… it feels like someone is comforting you-someone who really comforts you, not just someone who says words. Thank you for this 🥺
Glad to help :) Which points do you resonate with the most?
I agree with the whole “social media can screw up your health” thing. I refuse to have any social media (other than RUclips) on my phone, and I’m really happy with my life. My friends are on their phones all the time and they don’t seem too happy.
While this is the general trend, be careful not to assert superiority by not having social media. Some people with social media (like myself) are using it to become better and build connections which are launching me into my career at exponential rates. That doesn't mean that I'm better than those who are not receiving those benefits; and vice versa. Also, people can have depression or struggle with things you don't know about, and social media can be their only escape. Don't judge. Understand them. And then use that understanding to make the choice to compromise or cut them loose.
@@peyotecactus9588 Understandable
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@@peyotecactus9588 It depends on one's career. There are occupations out there where having a strong social media presence can actually work against you.
2:19 I was never happier than as a student-athlete in college, and I kept VERY busy. It was after the four years of competition for the university team and the loss of a familiar and regimented context that things went downhill. It was taking a step back from doing things at the top of my game that made everything collapse. So, that advice is not for everyone.
What about learning to appreciating life instead of always complaining? That's also a good one.
Some lesson's I've learned:-
*When you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything.
*The truth hurts, but sometimes must be said.
*Be good to those you love, then once they're gone, you have no regrets.
*You don't need to be a multibillionaire to be happy. Having less means having less to stress about. As long as you have enough to be comfortable.
* When you're healthy, everything else in life will take care of itself. If you're unhealthy and diseased, nothing about life is good.
*💃🚴💪😃🎵🎶🌞👍
About trusting others, I got your point, but I still can't rely on it, because I trusted a lot of people and they disappointed, I kept believing that someday I will find someone I can trust but no after my long experience I don't think so, I am a high schooler and I'm starting to keep my distance from my classmates because I don't want to go through another friendship and then losing it because of some dumb reason, it hurts me so much
You have so much growth and growing still to do, you will change friendships and relationships more as you age. You are listening to yourself and what you know is right for you! Never forget advice comes and goes but you know you the best
“The most important relationship is the one with yourself”.
Totally in my mind those days. And thanks to Adele that help me see that clearly through different perspectives through her new album.
Like with the lines “It’s about time that I face myself, All I do is to bleed into someone else”
“But oh my, oh my, I’ll never learn if I never leap” from To Be Loved
“So I hope I learn to get over myself, Stop trying to be somebody else” from I Drink Wine
She stated in an interview lately that she is naturally a sad person, and she doesn’t like herself that way.
And I so identify with that. Ongoing scars made me from a happy child to heavy, naturally sad adult, but I don’t have to be like that. As I understood from a therapy and self work, I don’t have to play the victim rule. I can live my life differently, happy. God that’s so positive :) I don’t control the cards I got in life, but I control how to play with them :)
@Yaniv Hayoun for some reason when you said scars, it reminded me ot the song "Battle Scar". Do you know that song? It's beautiful.
Life is DEFINITELY NOT SAFE AND PREDICTABLE even if it feels that way! WHEN I ALMOST DIED ON VACATION in Costa Rica when my bus 🚌 lost its breaks on a mountain 🏔 road, it completely changed my perspective on life FOREVER!!
I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and spoken word performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my RUclips channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💙❤
Lessons I've learned this year:
Don't choose people who are not Choosing you.
Don't plan out everything so soon, life could have something else in stored for you.
Always fantasizing about your future will lead to unhappiness in the present moment.
Building relationships with people is not a bad thing, just make sure they value you just as how you value them.
You don't have to agree with everyone just to be liked, we're human and we all have different beliefs, opinions and views on topics and life in general.
Hope whoever reads this, may it be beneficial to your life as well🙏🏼💙