She Ran Away from Her Abusive Parents after 30 Years
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- Опубликовано: 2 июл 2024
- Today on Unfiltered Stories, Jennifer Hichiya shares her harrowing experience of being trapped in a cult and her relationship with narcissistic parents filled with abuse, manipulation, control, and grooming. For years, Jennifer endured this abusive dynamic until she finally escaped at the age of 30 to live a life of freedom and healing. Join us to hear her powerful story of resilience and liberation.
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I remember wanting so badly to be an adult so I could be free. I wanted it more than absolutely anything.
Same and in all the chaos I went through I was always certain of one thing: I would never put anyone through the shit I suffered. I hope you are safe
move out at age 19....girl. i was GONE!
I hope you are safe and doing well…. And also surrounded by good people who love you ❤
Her saying that really unlocked all those memories of when I was locked up and being homeschooled. I hope everyone is doing better in their adult years here
I am dealing with this now. We are the same age. I am trying hard to leave now! Pray for me
I am rooting for you. Stay strong. You can do it ♥
May God give you all his strength to survive, leave, and forgive their wicked ways. Peace be unto you.
@@abou8963 Inshallah! Thank you so much for your kind words. MayPeace be upon you.
@@EgoNextDoor thank you. I hope so….
Stack your money and get gone! #selforphan
They buy you things rather than apologizing, and then hold THAT against you later
Conditional love is not love at all...❤️✌️💪🌹
When you see it, you can’t unsee it.
Your exactly right
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Your doing great girl! Never go back!
Look at that precious little face 😭I love hearing my kids play with their dolls, it’s so sweet. Never go back to those people. They are evil and vile. You deserve so much better. Jesus loves you and he has plans for you to prosper.
Their future is in your hands. I pray you have compassion for those sickly old people who are now judged to go straight to hell and eternal damnation. May you and God have mercy on their souls.
@@abou8963 Their future is NOT in her hands, she has absolutely no obligation to them whatsoever, and if you'd ever suffered narcissistic abuse yourself, you would see just how cruel your comment really is. Those of us who have endured narcissistic abuse grow up with a sense of responsibility to our parents that is totally unwarranted: to regulate their emotions, to be "good" so as not to upset them, to put their needs before our own, etc etc. We are basically brought up to be the parents to our parents, and that's wrong.
One of the most important aspects in healing from this abuse is the realization that you never had an obligation to your parents; that they, as parents, failed in their obligation to YOU to nurture and cultivate your individual life, and put YOUR needs above their own. Certainly as parents age, most children feel a sense of duty to help care for them in their old age, but even then we still need to learn how to put ourselves first and take care of our own needs first in order to be of any help to them or to anyone else. And helping to care for one's elderly parents isn't an obligation per se, but simply an act of compassion. She isn't duty-bound to her parents in any way, and she's certainly not responsible for their "salvation." Shame on you for pushing your religious beliefs on others without having any empathy or understanding for what they may be going through, or even any simple common sense...not very "Christlike" of you.
Such an inspiring interview! 💐 I'm so inspired by Dr. Jennifer Hachiya. Everyone should see her channel and podcast, she's helped me so, so much ♥💕✨
Thank you , some of us just put up with it & deal with it & just hide it all but we need to
Come to realize that we can’t stay where we are not happy & comfortable. Even your own family can be dragging you down the hole .
We often hide our struggles, but we deserve to be happy and comfortable 🫂♥
My husband of 30 years is a covert narcissist and we had 2 children together…. I am 56 and me and my 23 year old and 29 year old have post traumatic stress disorder… he is gone now.. my children have great jobs but behind closed doors we are so thankful we have survived! He still knocks on the windows at night but can’t get in.. we had are doors reinforced! It’s very difficult to understand how a person can traumatize someone… he has no empathy for anyone or anything! He killed our 16 year old cat! Have a wonderful night… I am getting upset and don’t want my 1 son to see me cry.. have a wonderful 4th
So proud of you for being able to escape. That choice alone will affect generations to come.
He’s not a narcissist. He’s a psychopath
Such a pretty little girl , it sucks that the universe didn’t select for me to be her mom , she have had a wonderful childhood
Aww this the cutest thing I’ve seen all day
I need a mom. Wish I had a mom like you.
@@galaxiyamoonI’m sorry you don’t have a supportive connection with your mother:(. Know you are loved ❤
This is called “narcissistic-familial abuse of the scapegoat and/or black sheep.”
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Man those Narcisstic parents sure do pull a number on us kids…my dad was a narcissist and a alcoholic…raging and screaming whenever he was in a bad mood…growing up in my house you always felt like you did something wrong cause he was always in a bad mood and we were just being ourselves…I have an older sister snd brother and we all got it in one way or another…Idk how many times that man would throw his napkin down at xmas suppers my mom worked so damn hard on and he would just be mad…and then hed come back snd act like nothing happened…no apologies no Im sorry nothing…and when you said your parents used to listen to your phone conversations I chuckled thinking that must be somekind of trait…my mom was good but she to would play mind games with us making us think we couldnt do anything that we had an interest in…and she made that evident…I felt snd still feel I have no place in this world..I go to work and go through the motions but thats it…dont date cause I meet men that all had addiction issues and raged on me all the time so now I dont bother with men…I become to needy and insecure so Im happy being alone and being happy
I'm so sorry to hear about your experiences with your parents. It's incredibly difficult when the people who are supposed to love and support you instead create so much pain and confusion. You have a place in this world, and you are not alone in having endured and survived this. I'm glad to hear that you're finding peace in your own company. Be kind to yourself, it is a crucial part of the healing journey. Thank you for sharing your story, and I hope you find comfort and strength moving forward 💜
God bless you and bring you peace forever.
You articulate your experience so well. I can identify.
Wow. Your story knocked my socks off.
You have just described my mother and our relationship to the T.
Lucky for me, my father was not like your father, but he couldn't save me from her covertly narcissism!!!!
I am 59, Eastern European, but I can relate to every single word or emotion to yours.
And I can tell you one thing. After many different and some years lasting psychological therapy+ I have been on antidepressant for years( works very well for me), I still can't shake off feelings of guilt, emptiness, betrayal towards my mother !!!!
Learning about her being emotionally unavailable and manipulative parent didn't bring relief as I expected.
It brought me all the mentioned emotions. Although I intellectually understand that it wasn't (only) my fault, I still feel guilt for letting down my mother for understanding the dynamic of her emotional, psychological, and other forms of abuse( beating us up during childhood to late teens).
On the surface, she was a good mother, good professional, excellent provider....
Sad, sad, sad !!!!
Less than a year and you are doing wonderfully! So happy for you and proud of you too. You are so strong to stand on your own. You were carrying your family for so long and now you get to keep all your resources for yourself! You are amazing and I hope you are as impressed with yourself as I am. You deserve all that you are getting. Thank you for your story. I relate. I'm glad you are learning while you are still young and in your right mind 🙂❤❤❤
I love it that you finally start smiling when you talk about living freely for the first time!
Thank you for sharing, keep going! You can tell how much love you continue to hold for yourself and others by how comfortable and well rested your cat is in your environment ❤️
That cat felt trust as he went to nap. It was joyful!
Yes. I noticed. ❤
@@hiiiimymelody thank you! My cats are everything to me, they definitely feel so much safer and calmer now ♥️
I am glad you know these things at your age. My narcissistic parents died when I was 68 and it opened up a giant can of hidden worms. Now I am in therapy and on meds. Life is sweeter. And much easier.
Good for her we don't like evil parents here #thisisnotacult good luck honey
I’ve already commented, but I’m going to come in again say watching this is giving me so much support and allow me to understand that what I’m going through and what I’m experiencing is wrong and I did nothing wrong and I don’t deserve this and because of my abuse and ostracization and the narcissistic abuse, and the scapegoating my life is completely shattered and I’m not a bad person, so thank you for sharing your story, and being so brave and so accomplished because there were a lot of people were in the same situation that did not make it this far
Stay safe girl, be brave and remember that you're doing the right thing.
My narc father took my cat to the pound and told me she was "eaten by coyotes". We rescued her and got as far away from him as possible. You are so right to be worried for your fur babies!
Sometimes we face trauma. And are t ready to share and relive it. So it can take years and years and never being up or deal with the trauma
Now to heal and to pray.
Prayer for God's grace to you.
💖💕💖💕💖Blessings to you, Lovely Eyes! Sorry you had to go through that as a child.
Amazing testimony, very helpfull ❤
Sorry you had that bad childhood. I grew up with a verbally, emotionally , and physically abusive mother and an absent father
Proud of you. You’re very strong but I know you will be ok and live the rest of your life much happier and peaceful.. the pain will always be there I’m sure but it gets much much easier to live with❤
Never knew the words but damn feel that my mom looks like my twin but we never got along no empathy no connection never figured that out til right now
Stick with it. Find a spiritual practice. Sending you prayers 🙏
Damn, sounds like my parents
She saw that mask dropping because she was seeing it in reference to the cat and it shocked her. But she couldn’t see it clearly in regards to how they looked at her etc
I’ve heard quite a few variations of this happening to abuse victims. Like an abuse victim seeing a child that was the same as as they were when they were abused and suddenly that break. Thinking of how that tiny child as a reminder that that was them once.
Fly free llitle bird!
I relate so much to you sister that i had tears in my eyes , love from ur sister, stay blessed, i want to talk to you in personal❤
Ooo that’s a nasty feeling like why did I apologize to the person abusing me trying to make things better that feeling like ur not physically being abused but something is wrong and ur hated but them telling u they love u it was over when my mom gave me my baby books back last straw
Yesss never heard that but yes a cult that’s perfect describing that
6:19 that’s too real… mine were just like this
♥️ Sister! 💪✌️🌹
17:30 Yes!!! Wow
seems like they were just neglectful and didn't want the kid in the first place
I didn't have evil parents like but my only sibling has been controlling and abusive. He's also a narcissist. I was free from him for quite a while. So im not in a position to live on my own but i do have my parents. But he's moved back and still tries to control anyone who can't give him something. The only one he treats good at all is my dad.
Everyone of her points is like she lived my same life lol I’m sick to my stomach the I’ve done everything for roof over ur head food clothes so u owe me gag that’s not parenting that’s just not abuse lol I want to hug her and tell her shut up none of this is your fault my mom told me when I moved back in like a third time I was ruining her life and ya our family cat she made me put down by myself why they so mean to pets
Definitely CAN'T connect to a narcissist.
I got *thousands* of fauxpologies (with continuing, repeated behaviors), in addition to things. When I told them they're mean, I got reminded of all the things they gave me.
Ya my ex fed my dog trash chocolate let him outside in the street several times then when I was homeless avoiding his abuse he gave him to the pound said I abandoned him bs and my step kid who I was always told I was a shitty stepmom
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This video is giving me that ick feeling so relatable I need her to hold the cat and telling her story has to be giving some anxiety ptsd headache or something pick up the cat lol therapy kitty
I went from a narcissist mom to a narcissistic husband lol husbands worse than my mom and ya my mom was mad I never hugged her like why would I she was hateful and mean
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16:36 😳 😢 the perfect adult 😣
Ugh so mad I get that too anything in my side veiw of vision ill duck like I’m gonna get hit my husband walks in a room behind me and no matter how loud he is I jump sky high 27 years old been like four since I cut her off and my grandmas talking about if my mom would apologies to me now and she goes to church makes it worse
I am so proud of you. You will be okay in Jesus's Name. Now I pray your parents find God and beg your forgiveness. They have no idea how weak they become when they reach advanced age. Will they have their only little girl to tuck them in and kiss at the last good-bye? I am so sorry for their loss at life, and I pray that God strengthen you to accept their weak goodbye. God bless you tremendously. In Jesus' Name.
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Less Asian but her Curley hair looks just like my sisters which makes me sad cuzz my sisters mom is evil as well treated her like crap
#SELFORPHAN
Did you lock your ss number? Because your parents are evil! Protect yourself & your sanity!
Why did u bring ur parents in the house u bought???
Oh ya my mom was narcissist with bipolar my ex husband was narcissistic psychopath he told me and drug abusing so that was so much worse
“Jennifer”, were your parents Arab or of Muslim descent? It’s upsetting that you don’t mention it because it’s time we call this out. My parents were the same and it’s something to be said about the culture. It’s disappointing you didn’t call it out because it’s time to stop being politically correct, because Arab girls are dying.
30 years geez why wait so long strange
This is kind of a shitty comment tbh..
I was wondering the same thing 🤔but then I remembered it’s a totally different time 30 is a new 18
It takes time.. Did you listen to her story? She explains what took her so long. Ya sound like a couple of narcs yourselves!
Millennial
@@bridecolbourne1305 What the hell does that even matter?
Being blunt here...
There is something about this young woman that does not seem genuine to me.
@@ciceromeridius-decimus9641 That’s not being blunt, it’s being an absolute asshole. This woman is sharing her deepest darkest story and this is the toxic comment you decide to share? VERY VERY TONE DEAF. You should be ashamed of yourself.
@@ciceromeridius-decimus9641 you’re not being blunt, you’re being disrespectful. This woman is sharing her deepest darkest story and this is the toxic thing you decide to comment? VERY VERY TONE DEAF. You should be ashamed.
That is a very cruel thing to say about someone who has clearly endured so much. You should think twice before commenting such insensitive things.
Being blunt here….
Rude ass comment. Read the room for Christ sakes
Boring
Narcissist Don't like to be reminded
@@melindanewton6303 gay
Everyone of her points is like she lived my same life lol I’m sick to my stomach the I’ve done everything for roof over ur head food clothes so u owe me gag that’s not parenting that’s just not abuse lol I want to hug her and tell her shut up none of this is your fault my mom told me when I moved back in like a third time I was ruining her life and ya our family cat she made me put down by myself why they so mean to pets
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