5 THINGS A WOMAN WILL FIND IN A GROWN MAN FROM THE BEGINNING OF THE RELATIONSHIP - RC BLAKES,JR.

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  • @KeptbyGod9663
    @KeptbyGod9663 5 лет назад +864

    1) A grown man will protect you.
    2) A grown man will respect you.
    3) A grown man will be generous towards her.
    4) A grown man will support your dreams.
    5) A grown man will prefer her (she will be the priority).

    • @Hudson1910
      @Hudson1910 5 лет назад +42

      A per #5, my boyfriend said his child comes before any woman. I should've listened and acted on it.

    • @ellenleonard2178
      @ellenleonard2178 5 лет назад +6

      very helpful info

    • @NGO_CYNDY
      @NGO_CYNDY 5 лет назад +5

      So helpful thanks for making short

    • @marquita3058
      @marquita3058 5 лет назад +5

      Thank you bcuz that was just to much chatter to get to the points

    • @lovelyblessingfavour9696
      @lovelyblessingfavour9696 5 лет назад +1

      THANK YOU!

  • @cherryboo65b56
    @cherryboo65b56 5 лет назад +909

    My grandfather was like you! My grandmother never had to work. After my grandfather died, she found out that their home had been paid for YEARS before his death! She never had to work after he died because he set aside more than enough for her to live, almost 15 years later. He worked two jobs and I love him till this day for what he did for her.

    • @tgibson003
      @tgibson003 5 лет назад +64

      CherryBoo65 Boone that’s amazing and brought tears to my eyes. I pray I find that...

    • @asiaz248
      @asiaz248 5 лет назад +36

      That's beautiful

    • @Learninghowtorebuild
      @Learninghowtorebuild 5 лет назад +26

      Wow that's beautiful

    • @missybella9046
      @missybella9046 5 лет назад +69

      Damn your grandfather was a true man...these type of men are an endangered species.

    • @barbarablackmon7807
      @barbarablackmon7807 5 лет назад +35

      Beautiful story. You should consider naming one of your sons after him.☺

  • @nunyabidify
    @nunyabidify 5 лет назад +331

    I notice you always say, “ l’m not a psychologist, a counselor...” well I am. A doctoral level psychologist; and I watch your videos daily. You don’t have to have an academic degree to have an impact and a voice. Thank you for your teachings.

    • @phyllisbrookscollins5144
      @phyllisbrookscollins5144 5 лет назад +14

      Soni B totally agree; he better than most!

    • @Giftis2sing
      @Giftis2sing 2 года назад +8

      I totally agree!!! ♥️🙏🏾

    • @g.wisdom8313
      @g.wisdom8313 2 года назад +17

      A man who brings the word of God like this is a Million times better than a counselor💓

    • @lakeshabryant9107
      @lakeshabryant9107 Год назад +3

      God bless your honesty❤

    • @gugumkhwanazi9482
      @gugumkhwanazi9482 Год назад +2

      You're such a blessing to my life, Pastor Blakes . I mean a million dollar blessing. God bless you.

  • @sharigetzfit6042
    @sharigetzfit6042 6 лет назад +602

    I had a man tell me that "things work both ways". I said to him I don't chase nor will I cater to any man. If you're interested in me then show me. I'm not calling your phone daily or chasing you down for time. No sir.. I rather be in love with myself before I do anything that makes me look desperate, or weaken my self worth.

    • @crystalgrose
      @crystalgrose 6 лет назад +9

      AMEN SISTER!!!!! I KNOW THAT'S RIGHT!

    • @misskayeleigh4378
      @misskayeleigh4378 6 лет назад +38

      Shari GetzFit!!! hunni I wish I could hug you for that statement because its THE TRUTHHHHHH!!! I'm so guilty of this, I use to text his ass good morning on a daily basis, we never went on a date, excuses excuses go figure but I blame myself because in my heart, I knew all this man wanted was sex with no relationship boundaries..shame on me but you better believe I've learned from my mistakes and then some!!! I'll patiently wait on my soulmate while continuing to love myself and living life to the fullest!

    • @ketwannawalker4106
      @ketwannawalker4106 6 лет назад +27

      Who raised these men. Ugh!!!

    • @sherryannesimon5325
      @sherryannesimon5325 6 лет назад +18

      @@ketwannawalker4106 Most times it's broken women with the world of burdens who aren't men themselves and so weren't capable with the knowledge to raise honorable strong men.

    • @kevinnivek5022
      @kevinnivek5022 5 лет назад +39

      First off he’s a coward and that was big red flag that shows how less of a man he is because that was a weak move he tried to pull on you, smh, damn shame. The woman has never and should never be a chaser. The man has always been the chasers he has a lot of nerve. This generation is confused their definition of a man is not a man at all. Like dude if you want a real woman it’s going to take some work she’s not just going to come to you and fall in your lap no sir not a real one. The man finds his woman and the woman waits on her man to find her. Not the other way around. If she’s not hard to fight for then she’s not the one. And if it’s difficult to understand where a mans intentions are then he’s not for you. A man shows a woman everything in the beginning and make it known, y’all just have to pay attention. If they show you anything differently from what this man is telling you. Then you need to run. Actions Speaks Louder Than Words.

  • @chantillylace5857
    @chantillylace5857 7 лет назад +563

    You have just described my husband!! Before I met my husband, I had no idea there were men like this!! I am so happy now!! Thank you for the message!!

    • @ThrivewithJesus
      @ThrivewithJesus 6 лет назад +8

      Chantilly Lace ... blessings.

    • @mrs.bernard5415
      @mrs.bernard5415 6 лет назад +9

      Happy for you sis.

    • @luulips
      @luulips 6 лет назад +16

      May you both and your marriage stay blessed.

    • @disiluzhund
      @disiluzhund 6 лет назад +7

      Chantilly Lace Tell us all how and where you met him!!! lol

    • @lmtcargill
      @lmtcargill 6 лет назад +18

      Does he have any brothers? Cousins? Uncles? Great grandfathers? Smh. I'm just sayin, the foolishness is real out here. 🤷‍♀

  • @danadowdell6461
    @danadowdell6461 6 лет назад +130

    My FATHER always told me if a man can't do for you what I've DONE and MORE, YOU DON'T NEED HIM... TRUTH! KNOW YOUR WORTH. ☺ GOD BLESS YOU

  • @gemsrecovery
    @gemsrecovery 6 лет назад +131

    Before I date a man, I need to do these things for myself: 1.protect myself 2.respect myself 3.be generous with my money on myself 4.support my dreams 5. make me the priority ... If I can't do this fully for myself, then I will not attract a man to do that for me.

  • @trulytopaz7122
    @trulytopaz7122 6 лет назад +236

    Ahhh! So tired of disrespect from my husband. I have decided to leave. Tired of praying, hoping he will change. Tired of crying, feeling less than a woman. Tired, tired, tired. I realized God won't force change on people, he has to want change.

    • @ThrivewithJesus
      @ThrivewithJesus 6 лет назад +22

      Tina Linwood ... just remember you are the prize, the Queen... know your worth and stoop for nothing less my sister

    • @whirlwindferocity
      @whirlwindferocity 6 лет назад

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    • @trulytopaz7122
      @trulytopaz7122 6 лет назад +38

      Marcelline Zacca....update. ....Ms. Marcelline. Hello. Thank you for the words of encouragement. I finally left. Moved back to Illinois with my family. The degrading names, comments, and constant shouting became overwhelming.

    • @just_es8369
      @just_es8369 6 лет назад +1

      Thank you sis

    • @maureenspring6098
      @maureenspring6098 6 лет назад +1

      That is so true

  • @kyracoach
    @kyracoach 6 лет назад +440

    It is good to "really listen" to this, but for notes, 9 minutes...in. #1. a grown man protects women, (you feel safe). about 15 mins in .#2. a grown man will respect the women (if his initial approach is sexual...that is starting from a place of disrespect). about 23 -34mins..#3. He be generous towards her, he shares and brings willingly...don't marry a cheap man. about 34 -41mins #4. he will support your dreams, (he will ask about your dreams and is attentive). 42mins.. #5. He will prefer her, make her the "priority".

    • @Butterflyfreem3
      @Butterflyfreem3 6 лет назад +7

      kterbo Thank you!!

    • @sophisticatedmm3632
      @sophisticatedmm3632 6 лет назад +12

      exactly don't marry a cheap guy

    • @SweetUareDesi
      @SweetUareDesi 6 лет назад +4

      kterbo why was this 40+ mins.

    • @blewprent
      @blewprent 6 лет назад +1

      kterbo thanks!

    • @zibiscusj3024
      @zibiscusj3024 6 лет назад +38

      D_Moye because we can’t get enough of RCB! I absolutely spend all day listening to him. He’s a blessing to women like me who did not have a father role model in my life. He’s opening my understanding to what it means to have a father😊

  • @papalotlher
    @papalotlher 6 лет назад +375

    ❤ "A grown man will never leave a woman in an insecure position" (That goes for the games too... "ghosting, "benching" and "zombie-ing")

    • @jamiejackson1780
      @jamiejackson1780 5 лет назад +4

      summerglory8 WOW 🙌🏾

    • @theresakeys1660
      @theresakeys1660 5 лет назад +21

      Say it aint so!! Ghost? Oh no! That's a real problem. He gets 1 shot at that. Then ghost will be me.

    • @sanramoncali
      @sanramoncali 5 лет назад +5

      Theresa Keys nicely said! I love it!

    • @Blsd1
      @Blsd1 5 лет назад +20

      Boys do ghosting. Very immature.

    • @blossomingbutterfly8955
      @blossomingbutterfly8955 5 лет назад +2

      Theresa Keys.. I know that’s right!!

  • @611mellissa
    @611mellissa 7 лет назад +398

    My grandfathers and dad were grown men. I have had solid examples which is why I'm 41 years old and still single. Grown men are hard to come by but I'd rather be single than taking care of a boy. I think it's because many of them are used to seeing their mamas struggle and hold everything down so they think it's normal to put the load on their wives/girlfriend's back. It's rough out here but God is still good. Thank you for the message.

    • @sophisticatedmm3632
      @sophisticatedmm3632 6 лет назад +30

      Mell F
      I'll be 34 & I'm happy to be single, I don't want to be a guy surrogate mother or build a man project. Queens demand expectations

    • @whatname9112
      @whatname9112 6 лет назад +14

      I agree with your comment 100% even as it relates to the disrespect, abuse (mental, spiritual, verbal, emotional, financial, and physical), and lack of support or assistance this also pertains to women! I do not want to carry no dead weight or no little boys any more even if it is a brother, uncle, neighbor, pastor, lover, student, relative...stranger...whatever...the quality of men is very low as well as women!😔

    • @reginapaul5469
      @reginapaul5469 6 лет назад +9

      I just want to say Thank you so much Pastor Blake's for opening up our eyes. It's Truly a Blessing when you're walking with God because our mind and hearts are in the right place so we can receive what God has to give to us so we can be what God Created us to be. Thank you much Blessings To God Be all the Glory....😊❤

    • @tatilowe1497
      @tatilowe1497 6 лет назад +12

      Mell F thats exactly the problem. And the boys need to be transformed by the Word of God into Men!

    • @juliafowler5806
      @juliafowler5806 6 лет назад +1

      Mell F amen

  • @Chillalot
    @Chillalot 6 лет назад +375

    Say that Pastor!!! A woman doesn't have to be a golddigger with the man that's for her. People call me old fashioned in this new dating scene but my parents raised me to have expectations of a man. My father & brother have shown me how men should act toward women: gentle, generous & protective. Waiting on my grown man. Ladies stop acting desperate and lonely settling for these disrespectful where you're half lil boys.

    • @t.rebeccawade286
      @t.rebeccawade286 6 лет назад +16

      qwertyou123456 Amen sista!! We got so many desperate women chasing these boys (physically men tho) that these men choose to stay boys rather than choosing to become a better and mature man bc they wants are met by these desperate/thirsty girls/women out here smh

    • @lesliehill332
      @lesliehill332 6 лет назад +7

      I had to pause in silence on that one...drop the mike...go home and meditate.

    • @teelovingandlivinglife839
      @teelovingandlivinglife839 6 лет назад

      qwertyou123456 Amen young lady!

    • @cuiet16
      @cuiet16 6 лет назад +22

      I always saw how my dad treated my mom like a queen. I held out for someone who supported me the same way. He came this year. It's unbelievable how good he treats me. They are out here ladies. Most of the time we have to do the self work to receive them. You are Soo on point girl! 💟

    • @Hudson1910
      @Hudson1910 5 лет назад +1

      Amen, I've made too many mistakes with boys. Will stay single until the right one comes along.

  • @adelineproverbs3139
    @adelineproverbs3139 6 лет назад +100

    "Adam had to give a part of himself for his wife to exist". Amen.

  • @jensbasement3862
    @jensbasement3862 5 лет назад +89

    A real man will be present with you. In conversation, he will take what you say seriously. You will be his top priority. He won't let people walk over or disrespect you. He won't snicker at you, when you are upset. A real man makes you feel safe and secure. He will lift you up and treat you as an equal, and include you in social situations. He won't abandon you in the middle of a party. A real man is aware of your emotions, and knows what hurts you. He knows when you are upset, depressed, or happy. A weak boy doesn't want to grow up and take accountability. Boys waste your time, and will do very little to keep the relationship sustained. They will let you get drug through the mud, while they sit comfortably on a perch.

    • @gugumkhwanazi9482
      @gugumkhwanazi9482 Год назад

      Hooo. Great stuff. I wish I knew this many, many, many years ago. With these golden talks women can choose men differently. ❤❤❤❤

  • @robinc5226
    @robinc5226 6 лет назад +27

    This needs to go viral! Needs to be shown on every elementary, middle and high school. College too!
    There's not a human being who doesn't need to hear this!
    Excellent!

  • @sunshinesunflowerz1647
    @sunshinesunflowerz1647 5 лет назад +38

    1: Grown men protect women (Ephesians 5:25)
    2: Grown men respects women
    (1 Peter 3:7)
    3: Grown men spend / be generous towards a woman he loves
    (1 Timothy 5:8)
    4: Grown men support the dreams of his woman
    (Ephesians 5)
    5: Grown men will prioritize/prefer his woman
    (Genesis 2:24)
    Thank you for the extension of what my daddy instilled in me when I was 14. Appreciate you 💚💯🥰

  • @queenrocksradio2677
    @queenrocksradio2677 6 лет назад +167

    It's never to late to have a father figure in my life thank you thank u thank u !

    • @encourageinc
      @encourageinc 6 лет назад +3

      Joanne Trini Dougla Amen!!! I agree!!! Thank you Jesus!

    • @jessicacollins8412
      @jessicacollins8412 5 лет назад

      Yes, my dad is exactly why I am having these problems with men now. Hey, but his father was a horrible example for him. *sigh, it's a vicious cycle. :-(

    • @starryeyed777
      @starryeyed777 5 лет назад +1

      Jessica Collins but this cycle stops with you sister! You’re enlightened, empowered and you’re gonna be a wonderful mom to your kids 😄

  • @lauriefisher3467
    @lauriefisher3467 6 лет назад +189

    I wish ALL men EVERYWHERE could really hear your messages!!!

    • @torrihoward9729
      @torrihoward9729 6 лет назад +7

      Laurie Fisher I long to share this with my husband but his pride don't want him to receive this Truth.

    • @tmalone2648
      @tmalone2648 5 лет назад +2

      Laurie Fisher Especially those Red Pill 💊 Guys😒

    • @chemerejohnson668
      @chemerejohnson668 5 лет назад

      Laurie Fisher🙌🏾

    • @ayeshhas5641
      @ayeshhas5641 5 лет назад +2

      They will through the woman's application of his advise.

  • @louisejackson479
    @louisejackson479 6 лет назад +163

    a grown mature woman would never fight or try to hit or hurt her man or call him names.

  • @karenettmcfrazieraskew9805
    @karenettmcfrazieraskew9805 5 лет назад +74

    Grown men meets the needs of the woman before its asked..Wow!

  • @karenmosley02
    @karenmosley02 6 лет назад +85

    Grown men don't call women out their names no matter how mad they get. If they do they don't know the meaning of loving you

  • @Goldgirl1020
    @Goldgirl1020 6 лет назад +63

    Illegitimate parents not illegitimate children! Best line ever! Your sir are very wise.

  • @wandachew9392
    @wandachew9392 6 лет назад +210

    I enjoy your wisdom ..it's helping me grow and stop going backwards ....

  • @amalyah46
    @amalyah46 6 лет назад +32

    Fortunately I was raise with a father. He didn't really sit down and have that talk to me about men. My downfall was that I was too trusting without letting time pass to find out who he really is.

    • @MissShauntae
      @MissShauntae 4 года назад

      AmalYah Yisrael same happened to me

  • @prettysailormoon7290
    @prettysailormoon7290 5 лет назад +67

    This is so hard for me to hear, I have been married close to 10 years and my husband has been so stingy towards me and our daughter. To the point where I am in debt 😭 thank you for posting, my weak self needed this.

    • @stitsybitsysasha8916
      @stitsybitsysasha8916 4 года назад +4

      I hope u are doing better now ♥️

    • @brendabarba741
      @brendabarba741 3 года назад +7

      Been there too for over 12 years. I understand exactly how you feel or felt. I divorced mine going on 2 years ago. The pain was finally released from me today... I balled my eyes out hearing this. I pray you are better my Sis in Christ. 🙏🏻

    • @lydiaprice8758
      @lydiaprice8758 3 года назад +6

      I’ve been there done that, but thanks to God I got out of that, life is so much better.

    • @dorrettp1339
      @dorrettp1339 2 года назад

      Bless you

    • @msm3668
      @msm3668 8 месяцев назад

      'Let the 'weak' say, "I am strong." Amen? Amen!

  • @perfectlyyoubeauty
    @perfectlyyoubeauty 6 лет назад +349

    I’m starting over from scratch. Divorced almost two years and done with the current state of dating after several toxic situationships. So I’m taking notes while taking at least a six months to a year hiatus from any type of romantic relationship.

    • @Zarasha1
      @Zarasha1 6 лет назад +28

      Perfectly You Beauty While you are doing that, pray to God on the kind of man you want in your life. It works.

    • @Anna-ml7rm
      @Anna-ml7rm 6 лет назад +16

      Perfectly You Beauty Enjoy your freedom and peace of mind

    • @ms.claudia4855
      @ms.claudia4855 6 лет назад +22

      Perfectly You Beauty allow God to heal you completely from that divorce. After a 14yr marriage l barely had a boyfriend nearly 10yrs later dnt rush it you will be glad you allowed God to make you over!

    • @natashamartinez1739
      @natashamartinez1739 6 лет назад +5

      Perfectly You Beauty me too!

    • @keeshy86
      @keeshy86 6 лет назад +3

      Perfectly You Beauty same thing I’m doing !

  • @ladyllf48
    @ladyllf48 7 лет назад +260

    Amen, I'm i tears. Why are so many men NOT MEN !!!

    • @ladyllf48
      @ladyllf48 7 лет назад +4

      I'm in Va, I'm listening to all your messages

    • @laraoneal7284
      @laraoneal7284 6 лет назад +29

      Lil Fuller Because their parenting has been horrendous just like many of us have experienced. Sad. Thank God we have RC Blakes to learn from with all his life experiences and wisdom. God bless you and be strong with or without a man.

    • @bonitaweekes4366
      @bonitaweekes4366 6 лет назад +25

      Many are not men because they were not taught how to be men. Many are raised by women who have no clue, we do our best but we can never teach a boy how to be a man. A woman is not a man so she doesn't know how a man feels, or his needs emotionally.

    • @kyracoach
      @kyracoach 6 лет назад +17

      Bonita Weekes,.... Also raised by men that have no clue. I had both parents that had no clue. So I sought other mentors.... then I taught my mother how she is of value and special.... my father is still tough though.

    • @velvetsimmons9513
      @velvetsimmons9513 6 лет назад +6

      Lil Fuller PASTOR, PRETTY MUCH STATED THAT MANY MEN ARE BROKEN. HOWEVER, THE IMPORTANT AND SIGNIFICANCE OF HIS MESSAGE, IS THE GUIDELINES OF WHAT IS EXPECTED OF A MAN, AT ANY POINT OR TIME YOU ARE READY TO ACCEPT THIS FACT. IT MAKES SENSE TO ME

  • @yo_mama_lifts5905
    @yo_mama_lifts5905 7 лет назад +124

    Bishop, im sad to say that after 22 years of marriage, and now being a widow for two years, i have never in my life been with a man such as you describe. I know its because I have settled for men who needed to be taken care of ---please pray for me, i dont even truly believe such men exist.

    • @ThrivewithJesus
      @ThrivewithJesus 6 лет назад +7

      Barbara Duncan ... few and far in between but they are out there my sister- just believe 🤗

    • @sharonjohns1686
      @sharonjohns1686 6 лет назад +5

      I would love for RC Blakes to answer this great question. ThIs is the question my friends are asking do these men exist that are single. Especially our younger generation of men in their late twenties and thirties

    • @BethovanEnhancing
      @BethovanEnhancing 6 лет назад +7

      Your thoughts become reality!! “I don’t even truly believe such men exist” please do know like attracts like.....

    • @nappyscribe1987
      @nappyscribe1987 6 лет назад +2

      Barbara Duncan I got one.

    • @dollfaice3259
      @dollfaice3259 6 лет назад +5

      Yes, they do exist, but they won't show up until we know who we are as Queens and continue to not settle for less no matter how long it takes. Keep the Faith sister~ God will send him your way, He will find you~

  • @bzebee5979
    @bzebee5979 6 лет назад +74

    I’ve got myself a “grown man”.. He has all the qualities you mention.

  • @lisalove4183
    @lisalove4183 6 лет назад +48

    I was raised in a family of hard working men and I can't deal with a man that don't work or provided and I have my own money and will not lower my standards for a man who does not do his part. Amen

    • @lalastaywoke
      @lalastaywoke 6 лет назад +1

      Lady Love Amen me too!💯💯💯💯💯💯💯✔

    • @barabarahowell4157
      @barabarahowell4157 6 лет назад

      Hi pastor first time I am so sorry I hadn't known u before young men has no respect for thee age very disrespectful and says they are a man .god bless

  • @ChaleykiOnline
    @ChaleykiOnline 6 лет назад +48

    I know he's all serious all the time but his delivery cracks me up all the time. Thanks for another one ☺

  • @karenettmcfrazieraskew9805
    @karenettmcfrazieraskew9805 5 лет назад +14

    'A grown man appreciate the value that his woman brings'....I am thankful and grateful 4 the knowledge.

  • @moonlitbalcony2861
    @moonlitbalcony2861 7 лет назад +137

    You can be so humorous Pastor Blake's, but at the same time so truthful 💯!! Thanks

    • @mrspunkin7086
      @mrspunkin7086 6 лет назад

      Moonlit Balcony that’s Rev he gone give it to you 💯% every time

    • @MsSweets0211
      @MsSweets0211 6 лет назад

      Yes. He is hilarious!!! Such a great teacher.

    • @jujubee90275
      @jujubee90275 5 лет назад

      I told him the same thing when I met him two wks ago at his church service. And he said he doesn't think he's funny. He is so charismatic

  • @lauradunn5932
    @lauradunn5932 6 лет назад +26

    Grown men meet needs, before you even have to say it. Amen! As a mother of two sons, im constantly thinking of their needs and my mistake in love has been that I treat men this way, when they should be treating me with this mindset. Thank u pastor!

  • @bck12034
    @bck12034 6 лет назад +53

    "Queens have expectations and they demand those expectations!" Love this!

  • @missjlo9855
    @missjlo9855 7 лет назад +103

    Hi daddy blakes, thank you for your words of wisdom. I grew up without a father and I feel like a sponge absorbing everything you say. I have been through a lot alone and I learned the hard way through my own experiences. We need more men like you in this world!😊 thank you and please keep teaching... bless you

    • @PhyllisMoore7
      @PhyllisMoore7 7 лет назад +3

      Amen, waiting on God for a Godly husband, while workingon myself. In Tx

    • @sheambitious29lachelle17
      @sheambitious29lachelle17 7 лет назад +5

      Miss JLO you sound just like me never had a father so I look to his guidance a lot! Every day I feed my spirit. I am now 33 and I have come a long way mentally a emotionally, I pray that we both grow in the word and continue to grow

    • @missjlo9855
      @missjlo9855 7 лет назад +2

      Tempest Mincey Thank you (big hug) please know that you are not alone. Let's continue to be strong and look to God for guidance. Bless you dear xxx

    • @wandachew9392
      @wandachew9392 6 лет назад +7

      We as women need the truth ....we don't need no one slipping and sliding. ..telling us what they think we. Want to hear.....So think you for being so blunt

    • @laraoneal7284
      @laraoneal7284 6 лет назад +3

      Miss JLO How sweet you calling him daddy Blakes . He certainly is worthy to be called that in all the best and healthy ways . God bless you. Some of us had a father in the home who destroyed us. My father was there physically only and molested me at 5 years old. Too long s story to go into here. I used to pray he would be gone as a child. Just because a father is in the home does not mean he is a Godly father believe that. Best regards to you and remember the Lord is our real father for sure. He loves you greatly 👍🏻🙏🏻❤️.

  • @25marshalyn
    @25marshalyn 6 лет назад +86

    Wish I had a father around like you.

  • @gratitude5740
    @gratitude5740 5 лет назад +7

    Great great great teaching!
    My wife is a direct reflection of man, he carries her flame. A grown men is never stopping his women from actualizing her dreams

  • @amyanderson4123
    @amyanderson4123 5 лет назад +31

    I wish I heard this over 20 years ago before I married a boy

  • @sandrablake5199
    @sandrablake5199 6 лет назад +42

    Yes, I am listening closely. There not any grown men around now days😩 I’m 72, n wonder where r the grown men. Opening doors; walking on the side to the street; n she away from the side of the street. Guiding her gently with touching indicators that gently guide her away; n out of dangers. Step this way, honey; watch your step, come this way, etc!

    • @Reincarnated_QueenZube
      @Reincarnated_QueenZube 4 года назад +3

      Hello Sandra, there are such men but they are few. I feel every mother should go back to start raising good and well-bred men. That will be such a great way to create the change.

  • @paparazzibywin2392
    @paparazzibywin2392 6 лет назад +26

    Protect
    Respect
    Generous
    Interested/Supportive of YOUR dreams
    He prioritizes/prefers you

  • @missqlalah
    @missqlalah 6 лет назад +44

    God bless you Pastor for this. It's amazes me how 40, 50 & 60 yr old grown boys are still disrespecting women & want to follow the Old G lifestyle. Farrakhan said the woman's uterus is God's workshop. Without it life wouldn't exist. It is God's workshop.
    My daughter's father disrespects women & has been for yrs but fakes his contempt towards women to lure others in. He serial cheated our entire relationship & when I became pregnant wished death on myself & our baby girl. Once she was born he called her a baby b!@$# & that's when I left him alone. I believe he's a narcissist because he has all the characteristics. No empathy. It's always someone else's fault. I discovered I'm his 3rd restraining order.
    These boys needs to grow up. It's a sad epidemic.

    • @unamass75
      @unamass75 5 лет назад

      Miss Q but real NPD is not curable

    • @alwaysjolly1096
      @alwaysjolly1096 3 года назад

      Preach. NPD has a brain that does not generate /regulate Empathy they cannot change. That disorder is fixed for life NPD always treat you terrible despite so called charms and nice and loving kindness towards you.... Run run run. It's manipulation for his /her own selfish benefits.

  • @belleheywood5063
    @belleheywood5063 6 лет назад +23

    Thank you so much. I had no father. No brothers. And a mentally ill young mum who is now passed. I really needed to hear this guidance when young. I relate to everything you say about the effects of being fatherless. I really needed you as my father :) glad I found this at 40. Praying for the best now. Best wishes.

  • @yolandablanco5446
    @yolandablanco5446 7 лет назад +119

    I have been watching you for the past month and I'm glad I found you.

  • @creatingdigitalassets
    @creatingdigitalassets 6 лет назад +133

    I never felt “protected” when I was with my ex boyfriend. I mean maybe guys would leave me alone just because I was with what appeared to be a man much bigger than myself physically...but perhaps that “illusion” is what kept me safe. He was ALWAYS on his cell phone, he would never know if I was in danger. Cell phone more important even during dinner. And if were in danger, I honestly I think he would run away and hide before confronting another man. He was all about claiming and controlling but not love and protection. So immature. No thank you!

    • @Richjunior1
      @Richjunior1 6 лет назад +2

      You deserve what you got! Believe me.

    • @sis.vanessashort8921
      @sis.vanessashort8921 5 лет назад +1

      You are telling the truth pastor.💓💓💓

    • @Mrskaseymunzer
      @Mrskaseymunzer 5 лет назад +1

      Christina Haftman I’ve been in the same situation before. Felt the same way about my x. He’d run and hide and leave me to protect myself

    • @LGCM2024
      @LGCM2024 5 лет назад

      Christina Haftman yesssss same here sis!

    • @moonlitbalcony2861
      @moonlitbalcony2861 5 лет назад

      @@Richjunior1 what do you mean?

  • @evawish.2063
    @evawish.2063 6 лет назад +36

    I actualy thought twice when I almost permernently comitted myself to a certain man, but then from what I know I thought I had raised my standards so high for him.
    but am glad I did coz I cant keep teaching him how to treat me or respect me, pheww !! I have give up I cant keep coaching him ....hope he learns for the sake of his future wife.

  • @chelsabailey1018
    @chelsabailey1018 5 лет назад +9

    5 Things A Woman Will Find In A Grown Man...
    1. Protection
    2. Respect
    3. Generosity
    4. Support (of your dreams)
    5. Will Make You His Priority
    GREAT info! Thanks for sharing!!

  • @jessicacollins8412
    @jessicacollins8412 5 лет назад +6

    That really touched me when your spirit moved you to be generous to a daughter in your congregation. God is good!

  • @sagittariansage_2271
    @sagittariansage_2271 6 лет назад +61

    You are a gift from the Most High. Thank you Pastor. You're making me want to go to church lol

  • @bobbietwiggs2385
    @bobbietwiggs2385 5 лет назад +9

    I've been listening for a week and I find to many things I've done wrong. I'm 57 years old been single 7 years due to passing of my significant other. Talk to the mature woman and dating. Keep teaching, I love it. ❣

  • @BASK1120
    @BASK1120 5 лет назад +10

    I love my Dad, who died recently. But this is the kind of stuff I wish he'd spoken to me about. So thank you from my heart.

    • @SpiritualTarotbyYvonne
      @SpiritualTarotbyYvonne 5 лет назад

      Yes I had a loving Dad until he reach midlife and had an affair, and left my Mother who gave him 7 children. I feel if my Mum and Dad stayed together I feel he would have had these talks with me. I have searched for this father who left. After 16 years old I had no role model, as my Dad was not a real man. I feel he regrets not being a Man now he is in older years, as He sees his daughters have suffered because of his fatherly absence and I am distant from him when i visit. He feels this now.

  • @yahismyrefuge1983
    @yahismyrefuge1983 4 года назад +8

    He sounds just like my husband, a great provider, protector, very generous, he basically gives me his checks on pay day ,(he takes a couple hundreds out of it to buy cigars and maybe truck parts)😂but it took some time getting use to it bc I hadn't been with someone like him before ,he's an awesome father to our kids! I thought I was just being spoiled all these years but he is just being a real man !!! And yes I've been self employed for 14 yrs just bc I love getting a check as well even though I don't have to......this video made me appreciate my man even more💕😊🙏

    • @yveherbert7494
      @yveherbert7494 3 года назад

      He sounds amazing. Take care of him.
      Does he have a brother around 38?

    • @JM-yf5rt
      @JM-yf5rt 3 года назад

      Fantastic!!

  • @KM-nq7ez
    @KM-nq7ez 6 лет назад +14

    49 min. In and I’m like “oh Lord, this is so Good.” Thank you Lord for this message.

  • @jeniferthyssen7131
    @jeniferthyssen7131 3 года назад +2

    Mr. RC Blakes, Jr...your statement about no illegitimate children, but there are illegitimate parents - THAT ROCKS and is such a powerful statement - you hit on a truth that needs to be heard far and wide!!!

  • @ladyllf48
    @ladyllf48 7 лет назад +39

    Omg, Lord pls keep teaching and preaching. I'm so grateful to you right now.

  • @karengaynor2548
    @karengaynor2548 6 лет назад +14

    My dear, sweet Dad. This is Karen; your long lost daughter from Queenology 2017. God has taken me through quite an emotional ordeal. I have moved and I am over 100 miles from the church. Thank you for this word of knowledge. You have once again "knocked the ball out of the park" with this message, and have given me much wisdom and insight. God has, through you, and several others, removed the robes of shame, guilt, and disgrace from my life; and he is now clothing me in regal robes of His splendor and beauty. I am truly His masterpiece and life is beginning to look good. The wolf is still trying to beat down the door; financially; but God is sustaining me for now. Glory to God. I hope to see you and Momma in the near future at New Home. My love to both of you, and please keep teaching me! ❤❤❤🤗🤗🤗😊😊😊

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr.  6 лет назад +1

      Karen Gaynor I LOVE YOU AND WE MISS YOU!

  • @esahutske
    @esahutske 6 лет назад +9

    You put a mirror on me every time!
    you are walking me through a terrible confusion.
    God truly blesses those of us who were led to this channel.
    i plan to get 2 of your books to support your ministry:
    i KNOW you are leading me toward a better life.
    Thank You! Thank You!

  • @staceydelbucchia2576
    @staceydelbucchia2576 6 лет назад +109

    God bless you Pastor Blakes...so happy I found your channel...I truly appreciate your wisdom...and heartfelt truth....I am currently happily single and will never settle ...❤with God it is a joy to know him and walk with him ... We need more strong men of God ... Thank you...what a blessing you are...merry Christmas to you y your wife y familia🎄🎁🎅⛄❄

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr.  6 лет назад +2

      stacey del bucchia Just seeing this message. Thank you.😊

  • @gail_7192
    @gail_7192 7 лет назад +45

    Very good video.I found you at the exact right time.Devine timing God is good.God bless you!

    • @MulitSeeker
      @MulitSeeker 6 лет назад

      Gail Sylvester ..Seems I've never been blessed to get that in my lifetime

  • @StandupGirl-ym3ey
    @StandupGirl-ym3ey 6 лет назад +27

    My dad says I'm picky! But if o don't get those things mentioned, I'm out! I know what I bring to the table and is more than able to do for myself but I need a man to be the man!!

  • @browneyenrs76noel34
    @browneyenrs76noel34 6 лет назад +25

    If all men followed this the world would be a much better place!

  • @firstlady1969st
    @firstlady1969st 6 лет назад +9

    I just started following and I've learned a great deal so far.
    I am married to a Pastor who tragically had some inappropriate relationships and though we we're married at a young age I'm 48 now I'm talking in a lot of what I missed including the Father Daughter talk.
    Thank you for the straight word and wisdom you give.
    Blessings to your wife and family.

  • @Betterme4lf
    @Betterme4lf 6 лет назад +6

    You are stepping in for many woman/girls who's father is M.I.A
    That were never taught these critical things.. Blessings to you😊

  • @Deikoka
    @Deikoka 6 лет назад +48

    Watching thru tears. Thanks for caring to share. One question sir, can I clone you 20million times and spread u throughout the globe please?
    Stay blessed and keep leading 🍏✌

    • @KM-nq7ez
      @KM-nq7ez 6 лет назад

      Mimi Robinson Please can I have the first clone Hot off of the Press. Wow, true definition of a MAN.

  • @cmarie9817
    @cmarie9817 6 лет назад +3

    Wow! These are the EXACT qualities I have found in my new friend. Please pray for us as our new relationship blossoms.

  • @anitagray5975
    @anitagray5975 7 лет назад +96

    You speak from the heart and the truth!Thank You for your teachings

  • @lindas8775
    @lindas8775 6 лет назад +30

    THANKKKKK YOUUUUU......I have cried through ALL of this!! Raise the standards, Ladies and know your worth!

  • @MinisterGwendolyn
    @MinisterGwendolyn 7 лет назад +53

    Bishop, I am sooooooo grateful for how you minister to the daughters of Zion. And I want to say Thank You for loving us and being that Father to us! My HUMBLE thanks is Required! Thank You sir! You have been officially adopted lol! 😂 thanks Dad! 💕💕💕

  • @alletsoriginal
    @alletsoriginal 7 лет назад +71

    Pastor Blakes I am astounded at the mind set and wisdom God has given you. If only our men could get this wisdom too. You k ow exactly what a woman needs, wants and should desire. You convey it better than I could myself. If i.met a man with your mindset I would be like "what!! You mean I don't have to school him" wow Lisa is one Blessed woman, to have you as her husband. May God continue to Bless you.

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr.  7 лет назад +5

      alletsoriginal 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Thank you

    • @kiwanishinton9410
      @kiwanishinton9410 6 лет назад +1

      there are plenty of adult men that think like this, i know them, many are married, i guess you are looking in the wrong place

    • @MulitSeeker
      @MulitSeeker 6 лет назад

      Wys

  • @DeepDivingDiva333
    @DeepDivingDiva333 3 года назад +1

    That personal story brought me to tears pastor……”the great price of motherhood” . God bless you & Lisa & all your family & loved ones….as well as the community here who is drawn to your important work! You are such a rock in my like. The father I never had. Thank you for being you and walking in your ordained path so incredibly well. 💖🙏🏼🕊

  • @singerspeak1
    @singerspeak1 6 лет назад +33

    Wow..do single men with all of these characteristics still exist? I've dated men with SOME of these traits but not all.

  • @JMarieTaylor
    @JMarieTaylor 6 лет назад +4

    My Bishop...you were so on point here. The grown man you have described is the man that I am currently dating. I have come to the realization that I have never been in a relationship with a grown man not even when I was married. Thank you for another powerful message.

  • @Sentimentalist0923
    @Sentimentalist0923 5 лет назад +4

    "A grown man will never leave a woman in an insecure position"- this resonates deeply with me. Your example happened to me many times in the past with the man whom I believed was the man of my dreams. When I often expressed my uncomfortableness with him randomly disappearing from me in the club, he acted as if I was being ridiculous! Thank you for validation, Pastor Blakes.

  • @karenettmcfrazieraskew9805
    @karenettmcfrazieraskew9805 5 лет назад +15

    A grown man wants 2 know his woman's dreams because he's a dreamer .....Wow!!!

    • @alwaysjolly1096
      @alwaysjolly1096 3 года назад

      Yes so the song said... Don't fall inlove with a dreamer..... Period. Let them keep on dreaming... 🙏

  • @disiluzhund
    @disiluzhund 6 лет назад +3

    I really hope you're still involved in broadcast ministry. Your message is eye-opening and overflowing with wisdom. Thank you for being the voice of a father to so many daddy-starved women. God bless you, Pastor Blakes!

  • @LisaRenee35
    @LisaRenee35 4 года назад +2

    One of the BEST dating advice videos I have ever watched! PREACH! 👏👏👏

  • @queencanislupusofthewolfpa2247
    @queencanislupusofthewolfpa2247 6 лет назад +6

    A grown man will protect you! Grown men protects women not hurt them emotionally or physically. A grown man will protect the woman in his life he is her covering.
    A grown man will respect the woman in his life. He will give her the highest place in his life. There is no disrespect! I love it pastor when you said: A man tells a woman "WE CAN RULE THE WORLD TOGETHER". Hahahaha. ****But really man and woman become a power couple and then they rule their world together!! Real talk!!!
    But you went hard on your topic when you said:
    ****A real man is never intimidated by a woman's talents and let's her operate in her power!! A very priceless statement you made indeed!!! Pastor I definitely needed to hear this today
    ***Pastor this is an awesome message. Thank you you are a King among men. 💪🏾 👑

  • @lorianne4608
    @lorianne4608 3 года назад

    You are absolutely right! Since listening + taking notes of your realistic videos, I’ve finally found myself free of the narcissist stalker (he simply wouldn’t take no for an answer + there never was a relationship between us). He bullied + intimidated me out of my husband’s home, even though nothing happened. My husband would have believed him because no matter what I did to appease him was never enough. I now know that both these ‘children’ were narcissists. I wouldn’t be surprised if they were working together. But because your videos, I know what I should expect v what I’m willing to accept. If they act the way they do, they don’t deserve a Queen. Thank you so much! God bless you.

  • @nathalieangelo9289
    @nathalieangelo9289 5 лет назад +3

    You discribed my husband who does all these things you said should be done. I feel I deserve this treatment at this time. Im greatful and humbled by it. Thank you God greatly.

    • @nanayeboah2749
      @nanayeboah2749 5 лет назад +1

      OMG!! It’s scary and frightening to learn all these, but it’s real!! Thank you 🙏

  • @michellechristine9306
    @michellechristine9306 4 года назад

    I never had an earthly father... I really appreciate these fatherly talks. You are really helping me to grow. You give us ladies so much food for thought. Thank you. God bless you and yours.

  • @Shwuad
    @Shwuad 6 лет назад +5

    Protect
    Respect
    Prefer her(Always)
    Be Generous
    Be HELLA HELLA SUPPORTIVE!
    Love these tips! Thanks for the video OG.

  • @AgnesHaynesWesseh
    @AgnesHaynesWesseh Год назад +1

    Wow what a powerful teaching, thank you so much Bishop, I was really blessed.

  • @michelepace777
    @michelepace777 6 лет назад +17

    So very true all across the board. Great video! I really enjoyed it

  • @GoogleUser-wy2vv
    @GoogleUser-wy2vv 6 лет назад +11

    Still listening and impressed with your life building message. Seriously, it is all right here...i am going to play this video for my son.

  • @samiam2180
    @samiam2180 5 лет назад +3

    This has to be the best video I've ever seen. Opened my eyes, heart and soul very widely! This will be my guide now for the rest of my life!

  • @willywillo5555
    @willywillo5555 4 года назад +2

    Pastor Your wife is a blessed woman. Amazing teaching as a woman thank God for you. I pray God bless me with a man that as wisdom like yours.

  • @ericaallen5216
    @ericaallen5216 7 лет назад +8

    I just purchased your book Queenology. It is pretty good so far. Thank you so much for your videos.

  • @agezacam
    @agezacam 5 лет назад +1

    I am dating a guy or engaged in more than 2 years now, he is generous, but he never priorities me or protected, respected, and preffered me. I`m glad to listen to your messages, which Wakes me up. Thank you for being there. God Bless You!

  • @glendaking9837
    @glendaking9837 5 лет назад +5

    I am so happy I found this channel. its amazing! Thank you!

  • @rosevalencia7547
    @rosevalencia7547 5 лет назад +1

    Hello .. also from Arizona. Divorced 5 years..recently I had some one reach out to me on Instagram we have been messaging since Thanksgiving two days ago he asked if I would send $500. I blocked him and told him a few things I've always known about being the prize. I have to say that hearing you say it, just made me stronger in that and demand for my self to be respected and valued. I feel a power within me for protecting my self. Thank you

  • @idb6673
    @idb6673 6 лет назад +13

    Women should expect from "grown" men
    [ ] Protection
    his daughters, mother, wife, gf, sister, etc.,
    Covering, safety
    [ ] Respect
    1 Pe 3:7
    [ ] Generosity
    • where a man's treasure is, there his heart is
    • gives of himself
    • meet her needs before the women have to say it (before a need is spoken)
    1 Tim 5:8
    • A provider
    • Shares WHATever he has
    [ ] Supports her Dream(s)
    • Interested in your dreams; asks about your dreams [b/c he's a dreamer himself!!!]
    • Attentive, helpful, pushes you
    • Will not drain her of her PURPOSE; she can maximize her potential
    Eph 5 nourishes her (flesh)
    • Strengthens her in her PURPOSE
    • The quality of his woman is the greatest reflection of his manhood
    • Quality_ Her level- {Spiritually, emotionally, physically, Intellectually}
    • Pushes her into the manifestation of her dreams
    • Never intimidated by her actualizing her power
    [ ] Prefers her
    • Make her his priority
    • Gen 2:24 leave & cleave
    • Look into his mind, his psychology
    • Ivy adds, his psyche
    1 Thess 5:23 his soul (heart, mind, thoughts, intentions), body, spirit [is ☆one] & is a reflection of ☆himSELF...
    • ...of ☆oneself

  • @trainkeenpilates5227
    @trainkeenpilates5227 4 года назад +1

    I am so grateful to find your teachings. It took me 36 years to realize I had serious childhood wounds and then 5 years so far (I’m 41 now) to forgive and heal from my biological Father and to learn my worth. I love how God brings things into my life right when I need them to strengthen what He is putting in my heart. I’m going to be purchasing your Father Daughter book and workbook and then Queenology. Thank you so much and God bless you.

  • @VictoriaNakaraKizer
    @VictoriaNakaraKizer 5 лет назад +4

    These type men are very few, and far between... please continue to teach these much needed realities to our brothers.

  • @aliyarahman85
    @aliyarahman85 5 лет назад

    The discussion about generous men hit home for me. Your chivalry is gold standard and I hold it as my mark. Thank you pastor

  • @KM-nq7ez
    @KM-nq7ez 6 лет назад +6

    Pastor, you truly have a gift of presenting this information in a totally relatable manner. Thank you.

  • @hopeinhumanity.
    @hopeinhumanity. 5 лет назад +2

    This is beautiful ❤️ There’s no greater gift a man can give to a woman than that of safety and security. Give her this and she will give you the world.

  • @user-mr3le4hs4e
    @user-mr3le4hs4e Год назад +3

    Most men want to split the bill, one even made me pay everything although he invited me. These are the kind of men we have nowadays. Men see themselves as the prize

  • @logikgirl12
    @logikgirl12 3 года назад

    Every time I watched this video I got something new out of it. I wish all men and women understand this and evolve into a place of respect, flourishing and prospering in their families, for the future of our communities and societies. Thank you.

  • @classycassykells6909
    @classycassykells6909 7 лет назад +62

    I sat I watch I learned!

  • @batk0427
    @batk0427 5 лет назад +1

    These are the reasons your life has Been so blessed with abundance Mr. Blake's Jr.